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It happened with my mother... She was anxious and attached to a life where her son was present and making her feel safe and loved.. I told her one day, while she was in tears, "You have lived your life and created and nurtured a beautiful family, allow me to live my life and create my family". At first she was scared, that her life would be worse without her son... It's been a year and now she's even more excited when i visit and tells me all about the life she now lives (she went back to reading more, wants to start writing). She has recovered her hobbies and passions and that's what you all need to understand, and so do I. Once we let go of what fills our heart, the hole can be filled with new opportunities, new people, new activities, new philosophies of life that can inspire us to become something much different and much greater. We start living the life we want to live, not the life that others want for us. There is nothing more inspiring than knowing that a heartbreak or a loss can be a blessing for allowing us the opportunity to grow and become what our soul wishes we become.

​@PadmaFekar same thing here....5 years ago I once caught my girlfriend flirting with a guy who was supposedly a long tym friend...I caught her 3 times....today she told me she has as much guy friends as she has male friends and says they all just friends and she cares about them....there are 2 of those friends hv tried hitting on her she rejected but she still keeps then around

I like that message at the end. I'm going to start using it to help me move forward from a woman who hurt me badly. Broke me inside, and continues to crap on me. Time to leave. I have to go now....

Funny how tables can turn. My old coworker--let's call her Sarah--apparently found me annoying. She's a bartender at my old catering job, and whenever I approached her or a fellow bartender, I would tell the same joke, "I'll have one large beer to help me get over my ex-girlfriend." One time, she said to me as I approached, "John, I don't want to hear it." A week or so later, I was approaching her coworker, and from the distance, Sarah said "John" in a stern voice. So yes, I was annoyed and since then, I didn't really interact with her. Went from outgoing to quiet. Sometimes she'd say hi to me when we saw each other, and I would emotionlessly say hey. I think a few times she would ask me to do this favor/task and I would just nod my head. Once or twice she thanked me and I didn't respond. I left the job, went to work in this cafe in the same building, but came back for this one particular service. The catering crew were REALLY desperate and reached out to me. In the ballroom, I made eye contact with Sara, who was only a few feet or so from me. What's funny is she _approached_ me; she could've just acknowledged me and went on with whatever. I know I would've. She asked me how I was (to my slight surprise), said she heard I switched to the cafe downstairs, asked me if I liked the job. Curious to see how she'd react (considering her past signs of not liking me), I told her I didn't plan on coming back to catering, and yeah, she did seem a bit surprised: "You're not coming back?" I remember saying "I don't think so" in a slightly disgusted tone of voice. But that wasn't it. That month, at a bar, Sara put her hand on my arm to get my attention and gave a slight wave. I just gave a slight smile and brief, still wave and went forward to catch up with friends (it was crowded). So it's funny...she approached me when I temporarily came back and reached out to me at the bar.

Great video..

Thank you! 👏

Sounds like an authentic read worth checking out

I noticed i have a lot of internal resistance. When i go within to feel a feeling resistance is so overwhelming, what can i do?

Thanks so much. I really needed to hear this 🎉

Thank you king I needed (that’s ironic considering the topic) this

That's True, but youre talking about the first step. The why. Not the how. Which is the most difficult.

i realize how toxic and gross i was being with a girl i was dating, i knew i was being too clingy but your outside verbalization makes me realize i was wrong

Wow thank you! 🔥

Thank you 😪I didn’t know this was a thing !

Literally one of the best message in dating especially helped me since I feel like I am chasing her a little more

My gf left to LDR, I gave her a lot of space and she finally broke up with me. We matched very well btw. She just lost "the point" of relationship.

Great great video and explanation!!

Love your page, way better than the “therapists i have seen in the 3d”

Dating over the past few months taught me that I should be alone and try to make myself happy. I was lonely and miserable coping with friends, sports, and video games before the 5 year relationship and I am doing the same shit after it ended. New activities are just that, another thing to fill the day with but coming home to an empty bed and a phone devoid of any interaction beyond friends or family is fucking depressing. Maybe instead of being generous and insecure I will come out self absorbed and secure after I am "Healed."

I love this advice. Unfortunately some people won’t get there in a matter of a few weeks, but if people give themselves grace, and time to reflect, eventually they can get to this point. People are dealing with so many different insecurities, traumas and dysfunctional relationship dynamics that makes it difficult for them to arrive at this point. Great video! Thanks for putting out this perspective out there. More authenticity and less manipulation.

I feel called out but it’s all good. 😂❤

This video just started playing out of nowhere but I’m glad I’m here. It’s what I needed.

Attachment is the root of all suffering.

I like your voice

too much facial expressions bro, otherwise very good

Being American you've got really good English accent

"Let go of competence become president" Joe Biden

I think a lot of what you're talking about is trouble with the nervous system. You have to regulate that before you can be relaxed and happy generally, which will translate into a relationship.

Binge watching your videos :)

Agree with some part but others i dont. You break up sometime as there interferance or some one else is putting their foot in like elder or best friends. The person then needs to review things and so do you. Seen plenty of people come bacm stronger and better

Thank you for this video! I need this😊

Thank you

I so much needed this beautiful message. Thank you! ❤❤❤❤❤

Great content 👍🏻❤

This is exactly what I needed. Whatever you just said, it's how I have been acting and I'm glad I came across your channel. No more manipulation. It's funny how we believe that the other person was bad during the break up, whereas we ourselves had a major part that we played in it. I am going to own up to my own mistakes and work on them for better future. God bless you man. You are a friend that everyone needs.

Damn this is a good ass video

11:15

You’re good!

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Andrew, YOU ARE THE GUY

My friend. You are one of the best on UA-cam at this time. Keep it up! Thanks

I totally disagree. I think good and open communication is better than stonewalling or any strategic-manipulatic silence game...And we often forget that we are dealing with a human being. #behuman

Letting go is the ultimate freedom ✨️

I just found your videos today and I’ve been binge watching them, thank you so much for your insight it has been so helpful!

The cold truth is that as much as we can “stay true to ourselves” if you know anything about female nature after giving her space you mentioned she was happy. See the problem is we think the world revolves around our selves. And you can use this to your advantage because a women’s world IS her emotions. Relationships are containers of servant hood and service. Gathering data and practice for a marriage and a marriage is a business decision . In business as a sole proprietor you have to make decisions that best serves the vision of your company. Often we as men have no standard or intention on the energy we let into our lives from the opposite sex and quite frankly they don’t give a shit about our feelings, and having anxiety is a red flag. This isn’t the 90s or early 2000s people are hypersensitive & “I can give myself everything thing I need” as a narrative seriously couldn’t be further from the truth. If we could meet all of our own needs we wouldn’t be here. There would be no need for humans. We fundamentally need eachother and need community. We all just want to play victim and isolate into our Internet world. So the real challenge is having the discernment and accountability to educate yourself on female nature and how to get the respect you’re looking for. Essentially how to integrate through mind body and soul - new behavior - that actually works and gives you a life and the options in the sexual market place that you desire. We are in a broken world and we need to humble ourselves to the truth around us. Get out of our victim mindsets and integrate the hate we have for ourselves and people with a reservoir of grace that is honest about our needs and then articulates them to our potential mates. “Hey, I really need your assurance on this. I’m hoping with more time and more re assurance- I’m going to build confidence in that area. “ “ hey I had a long day. Can you hold me?” Lol yes it sounds nuts but I feel like sometimes it’s that simple. We have these layers of shame on top of layers of anger and self oppression. We must integrate those things with a love like the one god gives us in full grace and allow ourselves to see ourselves as we are. Self condemnation only creates oppression. Good luck to all. Thanks for this channel and to allow me to vent. Blessings

Yeah, I understand your point. You represent it so well in many videos about letting go and be self-sufficient but you also need to put a line between that idea and needing love and to share your life with people. We need companionships, we need some sense of security and stability. I am not saying this in a way to oppose your idea but to frame it in a way that do not condamn the fact that people have needs, psychological needs, not just physical. There is a growing tendency of people choosing to be alone and focusing only on themselves because relationships no longer fulfill their needs like ever. Even some animals species choose one partner and mate for life and when a tragedy happens, they sometimes cannot go on. Again, this is just an example but we do need other people, love to give and love to receive, but yeah, getting rid of those false images we create for the other person need to go away.

If this video resonated with you I recommend the book “Attached” it’s such a great read on different attachment styles.

Haha, today I was getting a haircut after 10 years of long hair. The haircut is not what I wanted, it does not suit me, but it's just hair, I can regrow it with time