This video hit the nail on the head. As long as we've convinced ourselves that happiness lies in something out of our direct control, we can never truly be happy, which is a very dangerous place to be. This video needs to be seen by way more people!
I've been lost & drowning in my own thoughts for these past couple months, & This is what I need to hear right now! Thank You Mr.Vanhoff for the best insight! 🌻
Yeah, I understand your point. You represent it so well in many videos about letting go and be self-sufficient but you also need to put a line between that idea and needing love and to share your life with people. We need companionships, we need some sense of security and stability. I am not saying this in a way to oppose your idea but to frame it in a way that do not condamn the fact that people have needs, psychological needs, not just physical. There is a growing tendency of people choosing to be alone and focusing only on themselves because relationships no longer fulfill their needs like ever. Even some animals species choose one partner and mate for life and when a tragedy happens, they sometimes cannot go on. Again, this is just an example but we do need other people, love to give and love to receive, but yeah, getting rid of those false images we create for the other person need to go away.
Absolutely! It's not to say that you should completely detach from life, but more to say that you should be more aware and present in life. It's not that you have to avoid people and be perfect in order to finally find happiness, but rather you have to embrace the inherent imperfection and love yourself and other people anyway. And I think only by understanding that we're okay alone are we able to fully bring our whole selves into a relationship and build a partnership. Many of my videos follow my own arc of understanding, which was about moving away from people pleasing and chasing others as a source of validation. But you can definitely take it too far, and I've even noticed in myself from time to time situations where I've been more avoidant, perhaps as the other side of that same coin. There is a balance in these things. It's not that you have to be alone, or you're always using other people to compensate, but rather that you have to be your own person. You have to love yourself, not only your partner. Above all, it's an ongoing journey. I've heard it said that we're all masterpieces and also works in progress. So it's not to say you "have to live this specific way in order to be happy" but more to bring the awareness of these subtle underlying belief systems that many of us are slaves to. And to find our own inner worth so that we can more thoroughly embrace life, not withdraw from it.
@@andrewvanhoff 've never owned a cell phone thank god. Dating is dead smartphones, stupid dating apps all hookups no more LTR has destroyed dating globally no looks or smiles anymore all on their cell phones 24/7 plus now they all stupid tattoos 80% are all low value women. Today women have replaced men with big dogs and to have sex with it, so gross. I'm 55, introverted, never married, no kids, got all my shit together 5.10 170lbs, don't smoke, drink or do drugs. We have turned into robots no one talks face to face anymore. I've given up nothing but trash out there. Our parents had it better.
*You chang my life 😂😅 (LOL)......... This line becomes the Common habit of Everyone 😂😂😂😂😅😅* *Anyways, Yes ! That's( u said in vid) the greatest cause of the stucking....*
Thank you. You are actually not speaking about psychology. You are talking about the law of attraction, multiversum and chosen realities. We can get anything what we want, if we just believe in it and therefore allow it. So you have to choose the positive feeling first and after that attract people and other circumstancies, which we want. That is the law of metaphysics. All the religions are also basically basend on this law, there just is no "god". We are all creators.
Also remember, that we CAN attract money by finding a rich partner, as well. Law of attraction is not a moralist. We can attract money in thousands of different ways any moment. If you appreciate wealth you are happy when you are rich. If you do not appreciate money - and yourself - you can ot be happy, even if you are a billionare.
I've been lost & drowning in my own thoughts for these past couple months, & This is what I need to hear right now! Thank You Mr.Vanhoff for the best insight! 🌻
This video hit the nail on the head. As long as we've convinced ourselves that happiness lies in something out of our direct control, we can never truly be happy, which is a very dangerous place to be. This video needs to be seen by way more people!
I love the neutral way this guy explains these topics. It is actually difficult to do so with this general points.. Very nice rythm and nice to listen
I've been lost & drowning in my own thoughts for these past couple months, & This is what I need to hear right now!
Thank You Mr.Vanhoff for the best insight! 🌻
Yeah, I understand your point. You represent it so well in many videos about letting go and be self-sufficient but you also need to put a line between that idea and needing love and to share your life with people. We need companionships, we need some sense of security and stability. I am not saying this in a way to oppose your idea but to frame it in a way that do not condamn the fact that people have needs, psychological needs, not just physical. There is a growing tendency of people choosing to be alone and focusing only on themselves because relationships no longer fulfill their needs like ever. Even some animals species choose one partner and mate for life and when a tragedy happens, they sometimes cannot go on. Again, this is just an example but we do need other people, love to give and love to receive, but yeah, getting rid of those false images we create for the other person need to go away.
Absolutely! It's not to say that you should completely detach from life, but more to say that you should be more aware and present in life.
It's not that you have to avoid people and be perfect in order to finally find happiness, but rather you have to embrace the inherent imperfection and love yourself and other people anyway.
And I think only by understanding that we're okay alone are we able to fully bring our whole selves into a relationship and build a partnership.
Many of my videos follow my own arc of understanding, which was about moving away from people pleasing and chasing others as a source of validation. But you can definitely take it too far, and I've even noticed in myself from time to time situations where I've been more avoidant, perhaps as the other side of that same coin.
There is a balance in these things. It's not that you have to be alone, or you're always using other people to compensate, but rather that you have to be your own person. You have to love yourself, not only your partner.
Above all, it's an ongoing journey. I've heard it said that we're all masterpieces and also works in progress. So it's not to say you "have to live this specific way in order to be happy" but more to bring the awareness of these subtle underlying belief systems that many of us are slaves to. And to find our own inner worth so that we can more thoroughly embrace life, not withdraw from it.
You’re uplifting !! I been binge listening to your videos . Feels freedom like !
Thank you! Glad you're getting something good out of them!
@@andrewvanhoff 've never owned a cell phone thank god. Dating is dead smartphones, stupid dating apps all hookups no more LTR has destroyed dating globally no looks or smiles anymore all on their cell phones 24/7 plus now they all stupid tattoos 80% are all low value women. Today women have replaced men with big dogs and to have sex with it, so gross. I'm 55, introverted, never married, no kids, got all my shit together 5.10 170lbs, don't smoke, drink or do drugs. We have turned into robots no one talks face to face anymore. I've given up nothing but trash out there. Our parents had it better.
wow man I hope everybody will listen your words one day
❤❤ i will forever clap for others until its my turn 🎉🎉
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Well said brother watching and listening from kenya
*You chang my life 😂😅 (LOL)......... This line becomes the Common habit of Everyone 😂😂😂😂😅😅*
*Anyways, Yes ! That's( u said in vid) the greatest cause of the stucking....*
The only hole there is, is a hole between our self and our TRUE self. We are all allmighty - also to suffer.
Thank you. You are actually not speaking about psychology. You are talking about the law of attraction, multiversum and chosen realities. We can get anything what we want, if we just believe in it and therefore allow it. So you have to choose the positive feeling first and after that attract people and other circumstancies, which we want. That is the law of metaphysics. All the religions are also basically basend on this law, there just is no "god". We are all creators.
Binge watching your videos :)
Yesss
Jave a nice day
Hey would you be willing to do an interview? I’d like to talk more about this subject!
Ohhh man... 😐
Also remember, that we CAN attract money by finding a rich partner, as well. Law of attraction is not a moralist. We can attract money in thousands of different ways any moment. If you appreciate wealth you are happy when you are rich. If you do not appreciate money - and yourself - you can ot be happy, even if you are a billionare.
I've been lost & drowning in my own thoughts for these past couple months, & This is what I need to hear right now!
Thank You Mr.Vanhoff for the best insight! 🌻