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About feeling like you will never find love: I had that for some many years before I found my now husband. And I made many of those years miserable for myself until I decided one day "I won't say no to any reasonable request or opportunity that comes my way for the next year" and that gave me so many great experiences and confidence and opened me up to so many things that I completely disregarded the "oh I want to do this with my future partner and I won't do it until then" mentality. And guess what? Next to having a lot of great things to talk about on dates, you also build up expertise to share with your partner. You're entering into th relationship with something more to give. Look, i can host a party, let's do it together and let me show you my tricks and how I've grown and mastered this. Look, I know exactly how to plan a trip abroad, let's go to Mali, I'll do the bookings. You're making yourself more valuable and more interesting for a larger group of people

“Tell me or you don’t love me” 😬

DISAGREE best sour candy is Haribo twin snakes

$70-100 in yarn for a sweater you'd actually want to wear. Would take a month or two to make.

Chocolate hazelnut wafers are great in the fridge.

GUYS! This is (to me) an important follow up to a question that happened a few weeks ago: Remember the FMK question about the guy who farted and the guy who defended him? And then how Caroline said Kill the farter because he could have used to bathroom and nobody knows where their mouth has been??! Well A family member of mine who will go unnamed finally unlocked a new ability yesterday. The ability to fart without actively planning and forcing it downwards. Apparently she just thought everybody had to force it, and those who were farting in public were making the active choice to be rude. NOT TRUE. Gastrointestinal issues and enzyme deficiencies run in my family. Some of us are NOT just forcing a fart out into public. Some of us definitely don't know it's coming in time to run to the bathroom - squeaking our way down the hallway to reach the restroom in time! Caroline... do you think people are making active choices to solicit and direct a fart right into your mouth? Most of us can't do that. (I hope this discovery helps. p.s. I'm a scientist.)

Resolution for me is not looking at my phone when I’m socially uncomfortable. I want you to remember how to cope socially without a smart phone.

About goal setting: last year I got some pictures back from a photo shoot and I was shocked at my weight. I needed to see it like that to be able to absorb that. It made me feel so shocked, that I weighed myself. Which was the second shock. Then I thought to myself "this is unacceptable, I need to loose weight". So I started changing things in my eating habits and trying to move more. I lost 9 kg and then it stagnated. So at the end of last year I tried to look at myself and ascertain if this new weight would be acceptable to me. I had wanted to loose 5 more kg actually but when I really thought about it, I felt fine with this weight. What I didn't like was my body composition. I wanted to have more muscles, stamina and strength. So that's my goal for this year. Get regular exercise, so that i gain more muscles. This is unconnected to me to weight loss. I just want to be stronger and healthier. I want to be able to walk longer without getting too tired. I want to have less health problems that are connected to sitting all day and being a couch potato. I want to feel fit and good in my body

I’m a laggard and a slugabed.

I'm thinking of doing this one next.ua-cam.com/video/ZUzZs7HlvuY/v-deo.htmlsi=jkd7dat90CRpTTe-

❤❤❤❤ happy 2025 girlies thanks for always being genuine

When you practice acknowledging "it's not you, its me," what's eventually downstream for your mind is, "it's not me, it's you." and that other side your mind just realizes on it's own is true healing.

I love that the guy who panicked recognized that he didn't learn anything from that experience, that is a beginning to the recognition that he is disassociated from the real cause of the panic. He is half way to full awareness, acknowledging that there is something to learn that he missed is already a step forward. Connecting to that deeply buried issue is like mining, one day he will dig it out.

Sweater cost 100% will depend on what fiber yarn you use: cashmere vs acrylic can mean $300 vs $40. Your first knit sweater almost certainly won't turn out perfectly, but i highly recommend! Love you guys!

Random but Jess seems like such a good genuine friend to have in life!! And I love your friendship

You must get some South African sweets (candy). We have some good stuff here. Our chocolate is better than American chocolate. And we have Peppermint Crisp chocolate bars that Caroline would probably love. We use them to make the most amazing caramel and mint fridge tart that is a favourite dessert at Christmas time.

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LOLing at the penis envy/curiosity!!

I have a friend Carolyn that is known as ‘Caz’.

I really enjoyed the discussion of grief and awkwardness. I'm very there for those feelings now and enjoyed hearing you discuss them. A great time as always! (Can I give a tiny piece of editing criticism to make this podcast better? Frequently (though not on this one) Caroline is softer than Jess, which makes this difficult to listen to on earphones. Can you try to balance the loudness of the two voices? Ok, that's it. Love.)

Knitting is SO IN for 2025! I think we are all desperate for a screen-free hobby, or at least that's how my partner and I decided to give it a try. I got us learn to knit kits for Christmas and we've been really enjoying the process. 🧡

OMG. I just opened the video and want your cozy cozy sweater, Caroline. Will comment again about content after actually watching. <3 from Canada.

Is this on apple podcasts yet or just not showing for me?

scalability is huge in mass production for sweaters!! if a brand is selling a wool or cotton yarn sweater, the bulk price they get is doing a lot of work. for a small designer or an individual, wool or cotton yarn can easily be $150 or more for a sweater. merino wool skeins are like $15-30 and you need at least 8 skeins for most sweaters

"Dances had their moment. Lip syncs remain."

with regards to not just quieting anxiety but instead acknowledging it and moving on: my therapist gave me the metaphor of showing a child what's in the closet or under their bed instead of just telling them monsters don't exist

I totally relate to your story in terms of grief, Caroline. My boyfriend had lost his grandfather who was a significant father-figure to him. I stayed at his family's home and tried to cook for everyone or take the dog for a walk because I felt so out of place and bothersome there...

Haha Caroline, the way you describe your new years with the uber driver, is how i used to be alone in the subway when the European equivalent of the super bowl was on. Like, who cares 😂

Ever since childhood, me harvesting ice cubes has always been exciting.

When looking for love, remind yourself that love is an outwards feeling not an inwards feeling.

"The President has to be involved." OnlyDon's?

I just wanna say I love you guys you’ve helped me more than you know ❤

U guys are my new favorite form of escapism! Truly my #1 podcasters

My husband & I actually had the best New Years ever this year. We made last minute plans with our elderly neighbors, and we had the most lovely evening over conversation, wine, and indulging in what makes life beautiful. I highly recommend everyone try this with their older & wiser friends, family, or whomever it is in their life that they look up to and admire! 😃

CAROLINEEEEE- please share your dumb phoneee, I didnt know one with GPS existed!

LOL--Girls are cray cray, Judgemental and catty..

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It’s so nice to have a match in this area. #1 love language for both me and my husband.

I know this is an older video and they're probably not going to read this, but I always thought Jess looked like Gabrielle Caunesil (UA-cam and Instagram influencer) and Glennon Doyle (author), and that Caroline looked like (young) Jamie Lee Curtis and (brunette) Saoirse Ronan. I didn't see the Jenn resemblance until it was mentioned but it's definitely in the eyes, smile, voice and skin color. I do see the Alison Hammond and Tom Hiddleston resemblances though, they're not 100% but they're definitely there. I HOPE CAROLINE REALIZES THAT THE TOM COMPARISON DOES NOT MEAN THAT SHE LOOKS LIKE A MAN any more than the Alison comparison implies that Jess looks like a race that she's not. A lot of men and women look alike, I'm sure Tom's mother looks like him too. I've actually seen a lot of beautiful women who look like him. Just because you have features in common doesn't mean that they're defining masculine or feminine features for crying out loud.

Caroline what is the dumb phone you mentioned? I have one that just texts i miss music and podcasts

I lost over 100lbs about 10 years ago, and food as an emotional crutch is relatable. A few months ago, I had what I'd consider a break break moment where I was thrown into a whirlwind of anxiety/isolation cycles. It never happened to me before in my life and I thought I was going clinically insane. I'd think everyone in my life secretly hates me. And from that I'd negatively load every tiny nuance in interactions with people that weren't abjectly positive. I'd stand in that storm for a while, desperately trying to maintain my connections with people. But when it got too much, I'd isolate myself from them for a couple of weeks, not talking to anybody. During the isolation, all the food thoughts flooded back in after a decade's long hibernation. That ties into the other portion of this podcast talking about trying to meet people for friends or dating. That feels impossible for me right now. The only thing I have that maybe will put a dent in things is starting therapy and being prescribed a mood stabilizer (now I really feel insane). The other thing is even if you cut yourself off from your go-to coping strategy, if you don't learn the regulation skills or address any underlying hurts, your coping strategy will just chameleon into something different, like self-isolation. This entire episode has been like a mini-tour over the last 4 months of my life.

I agree with Caroline: you look lovely in this video, Jess!

My therapist told me to wear a hairtie around my wrist and to snap it everytime i have a negative thought about myself sooo...i guess it's going to keep cramping my style 😂

Caroline, sorry you had an abusive childhood. I did as well and it's been so hard to navigate life as an adult as a result. I'm learning about nervous system regulation as we get stuck in emotional patterns of our childhood. I'm curious if you'd feel comfortable sharing your story about how you moved through it or it may be too personal to go public with it, but just curious how others navigate the emotional pain and challenges that come with an abusive childhood as an adult. I tend to isolate and just want to be a hermit because relationships and life is so overwhelming.

Frank Sinatra said that NYE is amateur hour. The movie 200 Cigarettes covers this.

So thrilled to discover this episode! I assumed that there wouldn't be one today so I'm so happily surprised!!

The fact that you have to wait until April is crazy!

I'm realizing I have no idea how to emotionally regulate. Most of my attempts to do so seem to be written down in a beautiful book though. The DSM-5.

what the heeec is going on with the filters or something?? you must have noticed it?? why didn't anyone mention it but mee? you both look different and the colors going all weird on your clothes flipping from light to dark like glitchy and just your faces being sorta in focus but also blurred smoothed over so much it looks like you're 1D and the rest all smoggy or blurred or something and makes the perspective off etc?

Wonderful episode, the emotional regulation bit blew my freaking mind. Love you ladies, this is the best way to kickoff the year 🎉