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when I saw this comment , it says a week ago, but the video says , few minutes ago.
I thought I was tripping , but realised you that can private videos.
@HoIocaust is Fake no, earth is thicc, like a high quality woman should be
WOW YOu'RE SPONSORED BY TIEGE NOW? YOU'VE COME A LONG WAY!
Why does it have to be a secret? Why can't they just say it?
I think you got this kinda wrong, Alexander. It's not so much about proof. Yes, my girl demands all the typical romantic gestures & gifts. But after many years the two of us have discovered that those gestures & gifts are only a small part (in fact, the gifts are "useless" if I send them by UPS) of what is supposed to be a seduction process. She wants me to be the strong, determined seducer, and she wants to feel seductive. And if everything builds up right all the way to the bedroom (or wherever we happen to be), she can have a mind-bending, body-arching orgasm. Nature seems to have wired the female body to seek out those intense orgasms.
This is simple and summed up in one word:
More.
@@zalamael more like "The Grass is always green on the other side"
@@zalamael you can't satisfy a Solipsist.
They have no idea what they want but they want more and they want it now!
I saw an interview on Conan. The woman is young, but old enough to play a former pornstar in a hollywood movie. Can't remember her name or the movie. The open flirting struck me as somewhat of an anachronism, out of place. This was in 2004, having looked it up now, with Elisha Cuthbert. We've been publicly stroking the female ego for a looooong time now. It is not surprising to me in THE LEAST that there's this empty void in some of them that wants constant reminders of their worth. The open secret of male attraction ran its course. We are in the age of female protagonists, focused on their needs and wants, and men are more of an afterthought to them in a lot of ways.
I used to joke with my buddies and tell them I finally figured out what women want and it's just one word: more.
It's quite simple really, women want a good "a deal" as possible, with as little effort as possible and the biggest return possible, while bringing as little to the table as possible.
@@FkknJerry14 Ohhhh I know. Trust me, I know.
Exactly. The key to get a woman into a relationship is to convince her that she is lucky to be able to have you.
That would be called "evolutionary efficiency" hahaha
@@Amike Good luck with that... you can never stop trying.
So.....woman are basically like insurance companies.
Women absolutely don’t care about you, they only care about how you make them feel and what you can provide. I have met hundreds, if not thousands of women in my life and I’ve never ever encountered one who genuinely cared about me, aside from my mom (and even that’s debatable).
EDIT: turns out my mom didn't care about me either. She is a manipulating, gaslighting narcissist who cheated on my dad 3 times and repeatedly creates friction around the household to benefit herself
I think I'm gonna stay alone lol
I have a severely post-wall female friend. Works in IT, lives a bit like a slob, is fluffy and very masculine energy. We used to exchange food.
She “cares” I thought.
Turns out she’s expecting that I run out of options and settle with her to start a family and whatnot.
She can’t even get a “rise” out of me. Meanwhile she says that with time I will realize she is my best choice.
However, her absolutely failed grooming attempt is poisoning the friendship and my last data point that women can be befriended.
I feel sick to my stomach.
@@DamazViccar Dude. Men and women can't be friends. Not really.
My mum does not care for me at all, I'm cool with that, got other things to do.
@@raimondsstokmanis1892 In my heart of hearts I always knew.
Life is scary , we all should be practical. Especially considering how court laws are .
How family court works*
@@setaripantheon8801 no, ALL institutions.
@@setaripantheon8801 I meant family court but my comment is still correct for other areas too
you need vaccine passport in Australia to go to work
also look at California compliant firearms.
also look at the copyright laws.
Life is very unfair especially now when men are judged but women arent , or even if they did they get away with a lot of stuffs, not just family court.
Life is difficult enough without inviting the crazy cat lady into your life...
As a side note, has anyone ever considered how many people have been in trouble with the law (over or mainly because getting involved with a female or their general nature), they can generally lie, cheat and steal as a matter of course and maybe get their hand slapped where a guy would have the book (of law) thrown at him. ...So then just imagine inviting them into your life and opening the door for the chaos. Some of the best and richest have already tried, gambled and lost (at least half of what they earned or owned). LOL.
@@fredminpin yeah I hate the fact that crazy women can get away with a lot of stuff.
Double standards . The old saying goes "Never stick your d*** in a crazy".
I just watch Alexander Grace's video to get more familiar with the red flags, improve my skills of spotting red flags. And nope the way out if I spot one .
Only a man can truly love a woman who have no money, car or a house. Women's love is always conditional. They require lot of check list ticked.
Nah to be fair woman are required to be pretty and there's nothing they can do to compensate for lack of looks
@@juangraciaofficial to be precise her career and degrees will not compensate for beauty and youth. But it certainly compensate for men.
I wanted to say what Mister Garcia wrote then i come to the conclusion that this isnt correct.
I knew a lot of guys that have wives and girlfriend that havent the points in the look department when the relationship starts and now it gets worse or same/better. The guys themfself got also bigger or like most of them get in shape again or stay at this point.
So not so sure if a guy is really all in looks at the end. For me yeah looks help to get attraction to a woman for me. A whale is not attrative a gezlle on the other hand is much more of eye catcher. But in the end looks disappear either because of getting older or like in most cases it was never there to begin with.
Seen it on an older video of a german coach Peter Frahm. Where he posted women with and without makeup (celebreties). Damn, nope.
Or look on TikTok there they do it themself. You have a girl that look like the cashier in your local store or the bank clerk and then when she is done she looks like she is a super model. Problem, when you get her and you dont knew it you wake up with he hound of baskerville.
@@juangraciaofficial 100% truth..
@@rajakghosh6602 a woman's job is being a wife and a mother.
Society today don't consider those jobs as work, hence the free fall the Western world is in today....
But she can compensate her looks with Caregiving, affection, cooking, keeping a house in order, being a good hostes, singing, being a good mother.
A women's "Carrere"(they don't work 60+ hours a week so it is a job, they have a job, not a career.. And there is no promotion in the HR department.. ), is just as appealing to me as my Pokémon collection from 2005 is to her.
this background is the best
It is a bit of a step up from the fortune teller tent.
Upgrade from blanket fort to treehouse.....
Soon Alexander will move to a sauna like Derek from mpmd
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Agreed.
"If he is not constantly showering her with gifts and attention and gestures, she feels like she is getting used".
Yeah, but if you do all that, she quickly loses respect for you, gets bored, and then chases after some jerk who doesn't care about her. Then she asks: "Where have all the good men gone?".
It's a vicious cycle that repeats itself. It's a meme at this point in time.
That's why you have to give her emotional Highs and lows.. treat her good then all of the sudden be the jerk/ asshole ...
Walking-MY-Path Guess what - evolution itself is a vicious cycle 😂...
Having just gone through a divorce I can definitely say that this was true of my wife, even if it wasn't true of any other woman on the planet.
I had a job and she didn't. We divided up the house work, both of us agreed that it was fair.
I came home from work every day and asked her about her day...nearly every day she told me the same thing:
"I slept until 10am to noon, I got up, I watched some TV and I called my sister."
Whenever talk of the housework came up she did the laundry, but I had to put my own laundry away...yet she never did any other work around the house.
If I didn't do it, then it didn't get done. She always tried to get me to do her work for her.
As soon as I got home and sat down she would ask me to get up and get something or other for her.
One day I overheard her tell my sister that she had tried to clean the bathroom once, and then hadn't noticed a difference, so she just gave up and hadn't cleaned the bathroom since...and that this had been 5 years ago.
One day I came home and asked her about her day, as always, and she told me that I didn't appreciate her enough.
I wanted to laugh my head off...every day for months she had basically told me that she didn't do anything except watch tv.
But I put on a serious face.
"You could be right. What have you done recently that I can appreciate?"
"Uh..."
"Did you do the laundry today?"
"No."
"Did you do the laundry yesterday?"
"No."
"Have you done the laundry in the past week?"
"Not yet."
"What about the dishes, that's one of your jobs."
"No."
"Have you washed the dishes at all in the past week?"
"No."
...I went through every piece of housework I could think of. I listed every possible task except sex. She hadn't done any of them in the last month, except the laundry about 2 weeks ago.
"Alright, so I ask again, what have you done that I can appreciate?"
She had no answer to that.
Then I wanted to start listing all the things I did around the house. But I didn't. I work at my job, I pay the rent and electricity, I take out the trash, I do dishes sometimes, I cook whenever she isn't in the mood...about 13 times every two weeks.
Any money I bring in is "our money", yet if somehow she gets money then it is her fun money.
Once for three months I kept track of everytime she said "I love you"
The words may have been "I love you", but her voice said "come here slave."
She said "I love you."
I said "I love you more."
Then she told me some task that she wanted me to do...not once in three months did she ever tell me that she loved me Where it wasn't immediately followed by some task for me to preform.
Sometimes she would surprise me with romantic little gifts, and it warmed my heart that she had thought of me and bought this for me...
...then she would tell me that she had bought it for herself, and it wasn't what she had expected.
...this wasn't a romantic gift she had bought because she had been thinking about me, this was the table scraps that she was tossing to the dog.
@@matthewwriter9539 the audacity
Women will literally shame you if you shoot your shot,if you're not tall enough rich enough chad and Tyrone enough,it's like you bring their value down and they will punish you severely for not knowing your place,even when they hit the wall yeah they still have other worldly standards.
They take out their frustration from being rejected by chad onto non-chads
Teoti huacan Really because Jeff Bezos got divorced by his wife even if she wasn’t s cheating on him so the whole Tyrone and Chad is excuse
@@scorpionenergy6256 Yeah but Jeff Bezos is a billionaire and an exception. How many billionaires do you see walking around in your area on a day to day basis? Exactly what I thought!!
@@Walking-MY-Path well I live in Texas not so many billionaires mostly multimillionaire except for Elon musk coming here soon but i’ve been to the rich side of the neighborhood on the weekends and I don’t see old rich guys having thousands of women lining up and here’s some advice you have no ground when it comes to me You have two option learn pick up and get better job or become super rich make time machine and go back in time when women know how to be women and the law favor men instead of women
So you have a problem with women sleeping with black men?
A woman will cheat on a man just to see him suffer in his longing for her while watching her with another man. In a way she might think this is a challenge to his faith to her. In truth it is a reason to leave her.
I don't blame any man who kills his cheating partner.
Wtf?
@Amer Ham Having a wife, daughter, mother and sisters, I think I can safely say that women are not a monolith. They vary. Kind of like you not being similar to every other guy.
@Amer Ham Bro, you're going to drive yourself fuckin' crazy with all these rules, regulations, traditions... I've been married for 23 years and have never contemplated "slapping the fire" out of my wife. I love and respect my wife. I don't own her. She had a life before me and, if I pass on first, she'll have a life after me. Lighten up and go with the flow my brother. Your relationship with your significant other/wife needn't be an adversarial one. Best of luck.
Stop watching or reading cvck porn. It is written mostly by cvck men or nihilistic men.
I’ve experienced this. The gestures need to be demonstrated regularly. Every week the wallet needs to come out and what you did a month ago no longer matters.
Sounds like you had a Gold Digger...
You should have laid her over the counter top and made those hams red as strawberries when she came at you with attitude!
@@setaripantheon8801 lol nice👌.
I think it's time for you to consider dropping what's weighing you down.
“What have you done for me lately”
~ Miss Jackson
A month ago ?.. More like a day or 2 ago!
It’s funny I initially started watching this channel as I longed to improve my chances with women and to understand them more. However the more I come to understand the more my longing has waned…. which is not at all what I was expecting. I am genuinely perplexed on how I should feel. I mean my evolutionary desire for a woman’s love and affection is still as strong as ever but my brain is now in defence mode.
FML.
That’s the first step.
The next step is acceptance.
Welcome to the shitshow
110%
I don’t think that’s such a bad thing. You can still date and meet decent women, your just doing it with the blinders off. Be certain about what your willing to accept into your life and keep moving forward man.
im so sorry that you feel this way but let me tell you that Im a girl and ive just ran across this channel and this dude is full of crap. All he does is paint women as narcissistic, manipulative and insecure gold diggers, and men as innocent and too good for the world. Ive been in a healthy relationship for over 3 years and let me tell you that love is possible and its about trust, communication, understanding each other, and reciprocating the energy. This dude has no idea what he is talking about and if you just look quicky at his channel you´ll see all he does is bash women
i dont agree with the idea that just because something is biological we shouldnt shame women
Shame is a very powerful tool for social cohesion. And we are not our genes- theres more to human beings than just our biological potential
Hipergamy for example , has its benefits for society but when it runs out of control we should definitely shame women for it.
Its not good for either sex to have a bunch of crazy women with totaly unrealistic expectations and a bunch of lonely man with no prospects of getting any partner
Cognitive dissonance
100%
Ya, that's a consistent problem in Alexander's videos, he always let women off the hook for their more unsavory aspects of their nature
@@icenesINC Because UA-cam is woke! He has to say it, so as not to get de $$ tized!
@@icenesINC He is trying to tell the true psychological nature of women.
I have told women I've dated, "What you get for the pleasure of your company is the pleasure of mine. If you don't think that's a fair deal, you can get lost!"
Men are pressured into buying more and more expensive gifts for their wives/gf's. Just look at those "I bought my gf her dream car"-Videos. That's so absurd and crazy!
I assume that the chain of reactions is: video -> increased gf/wife expectations -> pressure towards men, rather than "oh, if this guy is buying her a car, maybe I should buy one mine gf as well" - the result is the same, but the difference is that actually women have some power to change it.
@@Sanguen666 ⬅️🤡
About 15-18 years ago there was a video making the rounds via email mail (before you tube had traction) a whamen came back from a family reunion and husband surprised her with a remodeled kitchen. She LOOSES it. Screaming. Throwing dishes smashing things. It's not what SHE wanted. It would be embarrassing for HER friends to see it. He spent HER money without consulting HER. On and on. It was ALL about HER. It was awful. She had anger issues. She destroyed that kitchen screaming all the time about HER .
Word. Several times I told a woman something, later she saw proof, and seemed very surprised as if she thought I was lying. However, women do do romantic gestures, but only for very handsome men. The girlfriend of a very handsome co-worker of mine caught him cheating. A big emotional fight ensued. The next day she bought him flowers to apologize. He laughed about it to me.
Because he made her P sleeve tingle. He was handsome and she knew he could of chose other whamen and he chose HER. Whamen would have fifty percent of a Chad 10 then 100% of a 6 or 7. It's about showing off for other whamen. Ring. House. Car. Splashy wedding. Wardrobe. Instagram locations. It's about a whamen saying look see what I caught? I did better than you. Like whamen accusing men in the 70s and 80s of getting a trophy wife. It's just reversed now.
I would argue that women just do romantic gestures in general for the partners they love. I do romantic gestures for my partner. Even though he is of course very handsome to me, I would say that we both are around average looking.
They don't know what they want
You give them commitment and next day she is bored and tired of you
They actually don't know what they want as it changes with each minute passing.
@Azul Amigo the Nihilism is stronk in you...
@Azul Amigo who needs to be raised by 2 parents right? Thats some spoiled Entiteld BS!
Its not like 2 biological parent household children do about 80% better in everything in life! Haha!
@@Redhotlugnut they want s good man family husband lol stop complaining
That's your problem. You think they want commitment so you give it to them, and then they leave you because you are acting like a woman and trying to appraise her. It's not about what they want. It's about what you want, and if she really likes you she will want the same thing.
Now I understand why, when women call themselves “hopeless romantics” , I cringe. My subconscious knew the red flag.
No just hopeless
She wants: The moon, the stars and the rest of the universe..
Solipsism at its finest!
Solipsism.
Women wanted to entre with the duality with men, they are getting what they want.
if you give them the moon they'll dump you because you didn't give them mars, etc.
@@Johnny_Savage false. You didn't give them the universe. You'll also get dumped because you gave them everything they wanted.
Women: I demand you make romantic gestures, preferably costly, to help me feel validated... (because I'm not really that into you)
Also women: I want to chase bad boys and do everything for them in the vain hope of securing them and their elusive validation.
Yup. Be the bad boy and don't engage.
@@JeffCaplan313 a bad boy is someone who is good looking, tall with good physique and doesn't want to keep a relationship with her. You can't simply grow taller and have a better looking face.
@@mokaerloka2433 women want a good man who will love and Chris them and not break their heart don't complain bud
@@darnellwilliams8783 Yea I agree but the first filter is looks (height, face, body...) not the opposite
@@mokaerloka2433 Her feelings are physical, but you can make a woman feel things in any number of ways. They don't exclusively respond to your physicality.
Sounds like the loving a women is a wasted subscription services that I don't need in my life
The problem is Romance, Sex works like drugs literally. I saw a video in which they compared the chemical reactions which take place while consuming cocaine and the same while having sex. It was almost the same. Hard drugs can be avoided consciously, but biological ones can't. That's why so many become monks in the eastern world
That sentence made no sense whatsoever.
@@sushilsharma4202 Jai netaji
I think the term of love what many people get told is not what actually happens.
What many people think of as love is the feeling in their trousers or belly. Which is nothing more then a biologically drug cocktail, after that when every drug is gone and you actually can see the person again without the clouds your body produces you can actually see if you have any feelings for someone that goes beyond the animalistic part.
And when you see how society works today in most cases it is nope, no feelings at all just the butterflies that these people want to chase.
It is not just s3x. I think the term love was coined because they wanted to associate someone who fulfils all their requirements for a complete life. Even after the body is satisfied, from a level headed perspective one person can see that the other person has characteristics that are required to build something with (provided this person also has a few characteristics suitable for the same in order to understand that). The idea that one person commits to another person is what they conveniently called as them being ‘in love’. Ofcourse both parties have to manage their expectations at different times, but the modern day world has made it more difficult.
Once again Alexander knows his stuff! We live in Texas where we had the power grid failure last winter. My wife started demanding we buy a standby generator - the big ones to power the whole house at normal use levels. The next time there is a hurricane or some other natural disaster we will be the only people on the block with electricity. Hypergamy. "Do you have the resources to keep me safe and secure?" You can't fight evolution. If they want a provider, be a provider.
My fellow Texan ... of course she wants full "Cat Powered" juice ... no "Honda Generator and Marine Batteries" running on 12V ... and a smart Woman actually ... she knows what she wants and that Men are "Fixers" (we're generally suckers for buying anything "Tool/Engine" related). HA Now ... be just as smart and sic her on ENCORE ... they'd probably give you a Cat/Cummins rig just to get her out of their hair !!! Godspeed !!!
That’s not what hypergamy is Richard. Hypergamy is there is a guy that is interested in your wife that makes generators that’s bigger than what you have and you just recently lost your source of income . She then says .... Richard this is not working out between us ... we have to call this marriage off .
@@joshua7508 That dude wouldn't want my wife.. LOL! That guy has better options. I know there are guys with more money than me. And she knows there are women younger than her. It works both ways. Hot women marry rich guys and get dumped in their 40's when rich guys still go for looks. Both parties are on their best behavior when they each know the other one has options. Prenup. Job security. No kids. I'm not worried. I could get a promotion and say to her.... I met this woman at the tennis club, she's 25.... The fact is this. If we could have found someone better, we would have. I never had any problems attracting women. All you need is the right attitude and to know your own strengths and weaknesses.
You should get solar panels and a Tesla Powerwall and an EV
One girl I recall asking me if I am romantic. My response was that, essentially, that translates to me catering to her.
Her response: Yea... *slight giggle
You should have asked how her BJ game is instead of awnsering the question
I always answer expected "yes" in a way she doesn't know if I'm genuine or this just a joke to me.
Romance is only for virgins. Because your not going to be the 10 th guy to give romance- what happened to other dudes before you. Hence the common phrase, she is never yours- it’s just your turn. Just research Briffault’s law. Being romantic will make you replaceable. It will trigger Hypergamy and she will think she can do better
@@chilipepper9938 exactly romance is ment for young virgins to get married. Not chicks with 15 ex boyfriends.
'The expectations of men have gone way up and the expectations for women have gone way down.' Spot on Alexander. Great content as usual!
"...the way evolution made them."
There is a difference between understanding and acceptance.
You can understand women in terms of evolution.
You do not have to accept the behavior of the typical modern woman.
It always comes down to a choice: what is one willing to accept.
Even though I agree you must have standards of what you accept and don't
You can't neglect that "the behavior of the typical modern woman" is how they truly are, it's just that society actually approves and supports their nature and hypergamy with the laws and the social conditioning we experience since children.
So that way they can show their true nature without risk of being seen badly, because society ENCOURAGE them to be how they are without any kind of consequence (not like things were in the past when we used to hold them accountable in order to create an order in society which creates strong family nucleolus and a stable society, as we removed that accountability and gave them the right to be free and do whatever they feel like, we also removed the standard we had which made them behave right and quote unquote "oppressed" their natural instincts and nature)
IE: back in the days as they had to prove they were virgins (or at least they couldn't be promiscuous sleeping around) in order to get a boyfriend or a husband, otherwise men wouldn't want to be with them, they felt the obligation of not following their natural instincts for short term sexual relationships, instead thinking long term about being with a man who provides for them and their potential family (as they couldn't work back in the days)
As we gave them the permission of being free and don't follow any standards but just being themselves (under the excuse of: as we've oppressed you for so long is time to free you).
When in reality all we did was oppressed the parts of their nature who weren't useful for moving the world forward and develop a strong society
It was necessary, as we don't do it anymore they're starting to be how they've been since the dawn of time (probably our ancestors new all these things and that's why they developed those rules and boundaries, they knew that if we let them without instructions they'd led to self destruction and the destruction of us too), but now without any boundary.
Their evolution and our general psychology as humans DID make them the way they're, the same way it made us the way we are.
The difference is that a man being a man is always bad, but women being women while at the same time wanting the positive things of being a man is phenomenal (and even encourage by the law nowadays) and whenever they commit a mistake we can't say anything and just accept it.
At the end of the day women have only as much power as we as men give to them, but they've manipulated us to the point of giving up our boundaries for their "liberation", give them all our advantages to them while keeping their privileges of being women while at the same time creating the view in our minds of being "oppressed", so not only we've been willingly giving up to them all our power and boundaries but also they created the "oppressed" view which make us feel bad for being men and desiring to compensate for it, giving them even more power and trying to always make their lives even easier
And that giant amount of power without any accountability for using it properly has made all the chaos we have today
Women also have a choice on their outlook and conduct. Sadly, most people tend to become slaves to their own instincts.
Facts. Its briffaults law and hypergamy.
@@Trump-A-Bad-MFvery well said sir
Finally a guy that doesn't make videos with books in the background to look smart.
Books in the background ?
@@gauravtributes5023 A lot of so called " intellectuals " have book shelves in the back to signal that they read a lot, they are " intellectual " like rich chavs flex their rolexes and such.
Yea this guy is a library himself
My favorite is when he had like a tent thing with cat prints on it lol
You hit the nail on the head Alex. Certainly my experiences have led me to the conclusion that women demand a great deal but most don't offer much in return. Moreover, that's now accepted and even expected in today's society. I definitely agree that due to things like Tinder etc*, women have a overblown sense of their own value to men - not self worth, because everyone should rate themselves. But women's expectations IMO are sky high to the point of being unreasonable. I should *not* have to "compensate" women for them letting me spend time with them. I am *not* a resource to be exploited. And therefore (for me) any sort of relationship, other than a friendship, with a woman, seems not worth pursuing.
*I like the comment... Online dating for women is like going shopping, online dating for men is like going for a job interview. Well, I'm far better off staying gainfully self employed.
Job interviews are way more enjoyable 😂
@@Maxime7101 Yeah dude😂
Gainfully self employed is an offhand comment :)
They practical in love but always choose the guys who will put them in vulnerable situations like single motherhood etc
It is the anxiety that Alexander told us about.
If you know hwo to manipulate that anxiety against women, use their own necessity of valitadion and compensation against them, you can use that as a vehicle for the "carrot and stick" approach against them.
That is what bad boys do, either naturally or learnt.
This makes perfect sense. So, when a woman plans an elaborate series of events to seduce you including wearing seductive clothing and planning romantic surprises, this is not because of a need or desire for romance, it is only a practical behavior to get a superior mate, what she feels is necessary to get a high value provider and protector to fall in love with her?
Yup. And as for men... I believe guys can stay mostly happy with being self sufficient. But it gnaws at the edge of the mind, as self validation isn't quite enough for most people.
It is like an electric circuit. It is a balance between with no load and taking on enough load to feel validated and taking on too much load. This is why a man's commitment is his greatest asset, and shouldn't be given away cheaply.
Alexander G, you bring so much logic and sense yet the algorithms can’t seem to pick this up. Thank you for ever!
Good to see you fixed your light/background. It looks so much better now, the vignette works.
Gents, it's good to remember this epigram: "Men love women, women love children, children love candy." Selfishness drives the world, and how could it be otherwise? As a romantic, the world has taught me this lesson over and over...society hates romantic men.
Yep ... "Old Dogs and Children and Watermelon Wine" ... Tom T. Hall was "Male" ;) HA
I asked my current girlfriend why are you with me... she said I make her happy.. women are driven by emotions ... the moment she's no longer happy best believe she's moving on to the next high emotion
At least your aware.
r u still with her?
She will leave you for asking that
Women should ultimately aspire to become a grandmother that their offspring actually want to spend time with. I don't think many women think and plan that far ahead tho'. God knew this, so he created cats as a workaround.
So true. I stopped talking to my grandmother years ago. Sure she spoiled me and my bro sometimes on christmas or whatever but for the most part she was selfish and didnt give af about us my mom or dad
That's a very intelligent analysis of their psyche
I couldn't have phrased it better
Yes the men are the more romantic ones usually. In addition to all the reasons you mentioned, I also feel that when a woman asks for romantic gestures, she is also trying to establish some ascendant over you. You comply, so next time she will raise the demands to a new level. I normally respond that "gifts" will come from my own initiative or not at all. A good "quality" woman normally won't take offense.
What all women secretly want.
Me: Who cares?
I have never heard anyone say divorce is disconnection but I believe you have given the most accurate answer why people leave each other. Manny Thanks
I like this new light setup
Every young lad should study this.. wish I'd known this when I was younger. Absolutely spot on Alexander! Well done
I love how you don't try to milk the algorithm and try to trick people into watching the whole video.
You get to the meat of the video on the literal first second of the video.
Women want romantic gestures and gifts etc as proof of our commitment.. but what do they offer a man as proof of her commitment?
We should be glad to have a man like you spitting great insights on this comprehensive topic. Thank you.
Turn your relationship with women from a potential sexual partner. To a good friend. And see how all dynamics change.
another dope video. Really don't get how you get to these intuitive insights and how you articulate them. Are you thinking about writing a book on this. There's so much truth and treasure in your insights. I bet you read a lot about these things. But how you are articulating them is mighty brilliant.
This brings up a question I have always had and never seen an answer for - 'how do women show passion?'
By giving you the P
@@atheistcrusader1160 Nearly all women I have been with were awful in bed. No passion there either.
@@MisterFuturtastic I hate to break it to you, men are usually the leaders in bed.
@@manifest2203 Leaders yes... but that doesn't mean women should be passionless dead fish in bed. And it gets back to the main point - how do women show passion?
@@MisterFuturtastic they don't.
That is the awnser in 2021.
They are so spoiled, single mom broken raised and entitled that the thought have never crossed their mind.
Just look at Melange, instead of awnsering, she defects the question back and try to provoke a shame response from you for not taking the lead in the bedroom.
This video was really spot on. The last point doesn't relate to me at all though, if I ever felt my partner was due me compensation then the relationship would never work because I would have too much power and therefore I would struggle to feel desire for him.
The other points are spot on, I figured these out myself when I was trying to look at my "shadow" and it is, unfortunately, true, I have done a lot of work on myself to overcome these things and the work does help a lot. I think it is brilliant you bring these issues to light in such a mature way without being aggressive, I hope other women will understand these things and work on them too, it is a much more solid feeling to not put all your esteem in your appearance.
Aww another wise woman that only exits on UA-cam.
@@mehulchoudhary5136 lol are you implying I am a dude? 🤔
Probably because women like you only exist on UA-cam.
@@kuroshinko427 awwww okay 😅
@@Alisha0413 i hate men pretending to be a women in youtube most women have no logic its all about me me me
I'm near 40 after a divorce and the only way I will get married again is if I meet a woman who is definitely thoughtful and romantic. Someone who would say in a marriage, "Oh, I know we have had a busy week, but we can't let this week end without us having sex at least once." Again, I'm almost 40. In a marriage it can go months without sex. But, I would want an affectionate woman, which I know I'm dreaming.
I hear this so often..
How could you go to bed with your wife everyday for a month and not have sex with her? Why did you not send her to the couch after 10days of headaches???
I am seriously interested in knowing mha man.
And I agree with you, next long term Relationship, the woman has to be so good at dirty-sweet-talking that the Emmies would throw awards at her from across the room!
They are out there, non westernised.
@@setaripantheon8801 Seriously? What Country/Culture are you from man ??? I've lived/worked in 38 thus far and can tell you aren't a "Native USA Male" ...
Sorry Bro ... going thru the same thing ... and until the Laws change to protect Men in Family Court ... NFW on any future "Marriages" ... like in Vegas, the House always wins. IMHO
In her eyes she sees a price tag on every romantic gesture.
Nah, not true, Time spending Is More precious for most, but the surprise factor!! That Is important, 1 flower for no reason, that you remember something she said like , I love cupcakes for example AND one day you bring her one, that shows, you Pay attention and listen.
and that is if she actually keep track of what you bring. Some will be thankful for the amount you bring to her. Others will take it for granted.
in a way, while gold digging ones are..... hard to satisfy. But if you stagger your resources right, they can be more reliable than most of the others, until they have you figured out.
I guess what I am trying to say is, there is a price to be paid either way, pick your sacrifices carefully.
Nice way of summing it up. There's an interesting corollary to this which is that the more alluring you are as a prospect, the more excited a woman is. But with that excitement also comes anxiety. Is he really the real deal? Will he really stick around? Hence the tests. Also, a lot of your examples were about "proof" from the comfort side. But there's also the proof needed on the value side too.
The reward for being a "high-value man" sounds more like a punishment than a reward. But I don't envy those women either. Everything is so effed up nowadays.
I have a high respect for the acute mind and sincere heart that is eminently evident in your analyses, but they often verge on being too simplistically/exclusively deterministic in the paradigms of evolutionary biology, transactional commodified identity, and statistical analysis. Males, females and social / relational cultural norms are also equally if not even more reflective of and driven by philosophy, theology, and the arts. Please consider broadening and deepening your analyses to include these lenses as well good sir! I believe it would further differentiate you from others, expand your audience, and enrich the positive effect you have on our lives.
0:58 “Who writes all the best love songs?”
It’s Paul McCartney
No.... It's Insomnium
Nope. It’s Paul McCartney
Didn't his wife leave him anyway? It's over for men.
Soothing anxienty through externalities (rings, Valentines, anniversary, birthday, christmas, surprise parties, mother's day, woman's month, silver/gold/platinum anniversaries, romantic holidays, ...) is an exercise in psychological futility. "This whole rollercoaster sounds absolutely exhausting." Because it is. Tossing more and more resources into someone else's bottomless pit of self-emptiness is a sign you need to walk away and let the other person find a more effective way to sooth their insecurities.
4:47 is what you are probably looking for
No I've opened this video only for the skin care
This video is straight on! The big mistake guys make they forget about what relationships and sex are all about - to make the next generation. Women know that.
I'm female and there's a lot of truth here. I was an avoidant and I had plenty of dates and opportunity but I didn't feel anything. When I met my husband all the feelings and attraction came out of me exponentially. I became absolutely obsessed with him. Now what did I find attractive that he had and so few men had prior? He had masculine energy, he seemed in control, had value and convictions. Sure he was/is attractive but not incredibly so, not a model. He seemed poised for greatness. All that is very practical and not very romantic.
When we finally coupled up I set about to prove my love for him. I believe that was me acting in a way that I thought he would like. I learned later that he wanted love and fidelity and partnership. He was romantic but also a bit aloof at the same time. That drove me crazy, I wanted to ascend to his level. The small romantic gestures were nice but it was the large familial gestures that ignited me. See? I knew he was devoted to me if he "proved" it where it counts.
He's done enough now. I know he loves me so I pour myself out to him. I'm sorry if this offends people but it's the truth. I am completely and utterly his without any question now. I am obsessed with him and I enjoy it.
So there's an example from an extreme case. Even obsessive wives have a pragmatic bent.
Out of the various videos I’ve seen you in, I think this is the most informative. Well done sir. Thank you
Lover: (pours out all his heart writing a poem dedicating to his crush)
Crush: (after receiving) Eww... 🤮
From my point of view, there is no problem with women desiring a provider SO LONG AS they understand and fulfill thier role as a girlfriend/wife. The reason this is all of a sudden such a problem for men is because a large majority of women these days do not hold up thier end of the bargain, and worse still, most men these days don't know what it looks like for a woman to hold up her end of the bargain. I would be fine being a provider... For the right woman.
My ex suffered under the delusion that my love for her could be proven by rushing to forgive her if she cheated. Her girlfriends told her it was a bad idea, but she could not be persuaded from her plan and thereby destroyed a family.
Thank you, Alexander. You really understand women, and I love your point of view on these topics.
11:52 oh but we do know exactly when it happened: when social apps started popping up. all 4s, 5s and 6s went from being basically ignored (real life, realistic, 'natural' state) to being flooded by millions of likes, comments and DMs from thirsty simps.
A woman feels like she's just being used if she doesn't get a gift when she gives a man time around her, but women also crave to be used and taken advantage of. It shows the man is much greater than her.
Dont mention that to women or they would change new tactic including shaming on us
I guess getting professional is much better option for me, especially monetarily in the long run(a plus point of being from SEA). Also I have realized my standards for women are way too high(more like wanting something reasonable but women today have such inflated egos, its almost impossible for an bottom 90% guy like me)
Welcome to the Club brother!
@@FkknJerry14 That's all a funny cope in the manosphere. Also I am into the defence-research sector instead of corporate(it suited me more, and there's hardly any private corporate that's significant in the RnD department for defence, especially in aerospace sector, in my country). I totally agree with doing all the things you mentioned above, as it's improves one's life quality, but I can bet you, it doesn't get you girls, especially girls "in their prime/20s". Do you really think they would be physically attracted to some dude in his mid 30s, instead of the hot looking Chads, just because he has wealth? Even if you get a girl with this approach, she would only be in the relationship for your resources(the exact type of woman Alexander warned about in this very video), and not because she's attracted to you. Also it's quite ironic of you saying "have hobbies, but only for your own self-fulfillment and not for anything else" just to then go ahead and say how I would "attract" women 🤡. Also, all of it brings it back to square one(that as an average dude, you are most likely going to end up in some sort of transactional relationship with women, anyhow and it's better to see professional, especially in the long run, if you live in an area where it's cheap and quite easily accessible)
Why we so much care about women? Cmon, why? Not all world spins about women
EXACTLY
The answer on the "why" question is just one word, it starts with a "p" and ends with "enis"
It spins around the 1 thing they have and we don't, let's stay on topic here
Great video as always. About the last part, I think we should distinguish between expensive romantic gestures (dinners, travels...) and "free" ones (songs, poems).
Of course if she likes a lot that I am taking her out to fancy restaurants, that's a red flag, I agree.
But if she falls in love with the way I sing songs to her, is it a red flag?
Good job with background. The pillow fort background was cool too, but this is more professional. Much love and respect- love your channel.
Men want basically three things from a woman: Reproduction (and everything within), companionship, domestic comfort. Women want: everything.... And then some.
Another very good video. You really make the points clearly. I like how you explain in such a positive way. It's like "James Blunt + your cool uncle who knows about the world". This is really good for young guys to know about, all of your videos. It is quite constructive. I like it.
Men should not be expected to provide in 2021. This made sense before woman entered the workforce…
Who would have ever imagined Alexander promoting skincare products lol
Continuously dropping wisdom....thank you! Sometimes I really wonder how you become so wise In your age, just impressive!
Welp , this is why I just wanna build my life up as best I can . Im already going to gym 4 a week . I am planning to start take driving license lessions and finish school to get into university .
Like my dad said :" U should think about marriage/serious relationship when u have a stable job , house and a car on your name only . And even then think if you really want it."
I'm a very simple and practical man. I won't shower her with expensive gifts and vacations to demonstrate my love and commitment. I'll give her my heart in terms of I'll provide for her well being on the same level that I do for myself and I'll never cheat on her. This is all I will give her. Take it or leave it. A smart woman would take it. A dumb woman will chase after material and superficial things.
I don't know. I had a woman serenade me once. We'd started dating a month earlier, and one day I heard someone singing and playing a guitar outside my window. I put my head out my apartment window to find my girlfriend singing me a love song from the lawn.
Geoffrey Chaucer wrote the answer in The Canterbury Tales, the wife of Bath's story tells you that they want control.
When you talk about expectations you are making the same mistake that people who talking about this topic always make. In the 50s a salaryman could provide for a whole family and do so comfortably with a single paycheck, so women never had to worry about anything but the home. These days in most homes women also work, not because they want to but because they have to. The modern salary man can barely afford the rent. This is probably why he is forced to help with the chores when he gets home. I'm pretty sure that a woman would still choose a guy who earns 5 times more than the average salaryman and doesn't do any chores over an average salaryman who does the dishes.
I really appreciate that you are paired with Alpha and Anna and Tiege. You three have really helped me greatly
Thank you Alex! I have never thought about my own behaviours in romance, like you said - it doesn't even register to think about it from this perspective! We think we are romantic because we appreciate romance, but I think you are correct - we just require the reassurance that a man is adoring us and only us. I will try to be more self aware about this now.
I honestly don't mean this in an insulting way, but I just find it hilarious that you've never thought about your behavior until someone else brings it up to you.
Thinking you are a romantic b/c you appreciate romance (directed towards you) is like saying you're an astronaut b/c you like space movies. No....you actually have to go to space to be an astronaut just like you have to commit romantic gestures and not just appreciate receiving them to be a romantic person.
Like you said, it didn't even register to you to think from a different perspective, which in my opinion is a problem inherent to the female brain. "Solipsistic" would be the word I believe that adequately describes this mentality.
Another thing I want to bring to your attention is that the way you feel about romantic gestures being a way to feel reassured that your man adores only you is exactly the same way men feel about sex and intimacy. A man craves sex and intimacy b/c its the only real thing we have that tells us you are still attracted to us. When a relationship goes weeks and months without sex we know something is up b/c women don't have sex with men they aren't into. You require romantic gestures and displays for reassurance, we require sex. I hope that makes sense.
@@oldscratch3535 No offence taken neither should I take it personally. As Alex said, it doesn't even register to think about it. We do nice things to partners and we ejoy romance - we like reading romantic books and watch sickly movies. I guess we assume we are romantic as a result of that, but in reality, a lot of us don't do many of the romantic things for a partner the same way men do to measure up. Not that we don't do anything romantic at all! That is not true but we don't run around validating our feelings towards the partner as much. Perhaps some woman would disagree with me here but that is how I feel about it now.
@@oldscratch3535 I agree about the sex bit but taking on a different perspective and avoiding the problem of getting "stuck" in your own thought patters is not a female exclusive problem.
Alex, for your last part, I think you're missing on two other elements inherent to our current culture (at least for Western, in particular English-oriented and American cultures):
1 - Princess programming. Too many fathers instill in their daughters that they're princesses who are above reproach, are precious beyond measure, and must be cared for. Rather than instill and generate a balance between fortitude, inner strength, love, creativity, and maintaining a healthy respect...an innate respect for femininity. I think this, more than even biological needs, tends to be the bigger factor. Social training is mental control and direction, which for a human, is an overriding element (thus convictions/beliefs drive action more than instinct with us, versus animals...or the more basic of us, the least intelligent, thus are more prone to reactive and animalistic behaviour and reactions, or in this case in many respects, women not taught to think for themselves or to develop a larger range of interests at the very least would likely drive more basic animalistic needs, fears, and thus drivers based on those lower thought patterns).
2 - Instant gratification culture. This also stems from our schooling system, which favours first up results. Women are more detail oriented and more willing to enforce absolute rigidity at the fore. As in they're more willing to study to the point of assuring a higher grade. They don't like to fail (ever see a woman vs a man fail a test in Western culture?...in the East, especially Japan/SK, but also to some degree, China it's equally as damning in lieu of social anxiety for getting a good job or access to potential wealth to help the family). So there's more effort put into those who do seek the top of the class through brains, to get a high grade. While the others aim for looks to carry them along, and assuring they date a guy they feel is power first, status second, safety and protection third...then after college, wealth is a key factor for most of those same women.
That instant gratification generates that need not to care about fixing the flaws or pitfalls until it's often too late. The system never addresses these issues in school, in psychology as a general rules unless one gets to the heart of it, or the patient leads into that territory (Freud still has a LOT of influence...no I'm not a psychologist like yourself, but I spent most of my life studying psychology and sociology for fun...well to understand things about myself and my past at first, then for fun...and for writing).
Not all beauty fades so readily or so rapidly, and some women do age gracefully, though generally not as well as most men do naturally (this probably has more to do with men eating more meat and thus animal fat, while women are more likely to consume cake and processed products at some point...building up a lot of heavy metals and processed compounds that deteriorate the skin/etc as they take a LONG time to filter out, or just a lot more vegetables...I've noticed pure vegans tend to age much faster, especially women who are 20ish looking 40~50ish). This can technically be a 3rd inherent issue. Standards of beauty in older age as suggested by Hollywood, which I think, though I haven't watched it, your video covering beauty and presentation over raw looks deals with.
I'm never suprised the irony of the universe dictates things being the opposite of how they actually are. The seemingly innocent is evil and vice versa.
This is gold!!!! Needs to be interviewed on others podcast with this GOLD knowledge.
Good Job Mr. Alexander Grace ! Well put…
As a man the romance aspect feels good until she asks "how much did it cost?"
It has to be appreciated and reciprocated or we wount want to do it.
Women are funny creatures. Just dont take them serious, then you will be okay.
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For a young woman to feel she is sacrificing her best years to a man whose commitment she is not sure of, she has first to think of those years as her best. That is not how most women think these days. The 20s is their playground, they waste them on the CC.
The only thing that matters for them is looks. There's nothing more
I feel less bad about my toxic expectations of women. I find that expecting a woman to live up to my expectations and dangling a commitment as a reward has been overall beneficial especially with hooking up. I think men need to be practical aswel. It's actually practical for a man regardless of age to desire the youngest most fertile woman he can get.
You do realize by doing what you're doing, you are further contributing to the epidemic of damaged women. Especially when your only intention is to bang them and move on. You're literally demonstrating the reason why a lot of women need constant validation, reassurance, and have anxiety about their relationship irrespective of its actual health, which leads them to display toxic behavior in said relationship.
Only dangle commitment WHEN YOU'RE SERIOUS ABOUT COMMITMENT. You're basically using it as a promise of reward for displaying the behavior you want and then when you get what you want, you renege on the deal. That's very manipulative. Just b/c it works doesn't mean its right or moral.
@@oldscratch3535 you're right and I agree with you completely. I'm going to work on it and thanks for highlighting the incongruity. I think it's coming from a bitter side which means it's something I should address within myself.
So explain why as soon as they get "proof" they hop on the cc where u must only be this tall to ride.
As Florence Nightingale stated in her poem, she succinctly put it better than ever most red pilled men would. Look up Women Are Not Capable of Love.
It's a transaction. Love is a comfort word to mask the transaction.
Damn you really sound like that green captain space dude from the cartoon series 'Final Space' on this one, especially around the middle.
They see you as a resource to exploit... And so when you grow up seeing and experiencing how their mechanisms work, and that they're bringing nothing to the table except maybe the looks that they were born with or the cover up with some fake up, and that nothing you ever do is ever good enough (especially when many have no accountability, respect or reciprocation), eventually they will judge and be looking for the bigger, better deal, but similarly the high value guys will get tired of their games, and their looks will be played out too where they will be looking for someone to take care the other guy's trophy or they hit the wall and everyone ends up alone anyway.
Apparently I am a man, bc I am just as romantic as my partner is. I do romantic gestures for him as he does for me.
I LOVE THE WAY YOU BEGAN THIS VIDEO.
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I wonder how long it will take for men to realize there is no such thing as a high quality woman.
true
That notion died a long time ago.
Women are natural opportunists. Their needs, wants and desires are paramount to them. Men are just simply means to those ends. This is not sexist or misogynist. It is biological and psychological reality.
the norwood reaper came to you my man, you could take measures to fight it. also it would be a great experiment to check your advances towards women being half bald and with good hair.
like what? trading it for erectile dysfunction?
What are you talking about? :S
@@DarkKnight-mc5uo thank you. Permanently Killing your erection over a good head of hair is stupid. Go bald and go gym is what i tell em.
@@Kumari_44 gg
@@DarkKnight-mc5uo dont be mald at me, there are a lot of options