"Don't get so lost in fantasy that you project the image of a high-quality woman onto her, just because you're desperate". Well I'm definitely guilty of this.
That's what we was learned once wasn't it, when we get a mature life of our own we start to learn the reality a bit by bit, nobody should have to worry about were they been in this case it's way more worrysome if someone decide to defend their wrongdoing or attacking thoose who are able to speak about what they learned, science is to learn whats not the right thing to do first so you can do the right thing later, it's not a failure to do a thing wrong once but to keep on doing it is, be brave and draw your map of life itself were there once was white spots you now " the land".
#5 is super important. Some women will literally treat you like you’ve never done anything for them if you happen to hit a low point in your life. My ex became a different person when my dad lost his battle with cancer and I needed her support (both emotionally and economically). She suddenly got mat at me because I couldn’t afford to treat her the same way I did for years.
@@ifeelhalfnaked484 Nnno. Every hot girl I've dated and had great moments with were empathetic. The rest were not. It doesn't depend on her looks, but her life and personaility
How to Test a Women's Quality ? 1.How does she resolve conflict ? 2.How is She around Children ? 3.What does she spend her Money on ? 4.What's She like around other People ? 5.How does She treats you when you Loose ? 6.You've talked about her Past Relationships ? 7.Discussing Future plans ? 8.Find out what she Thinks of you ? 9.How She responds to your Emotions ? 10.Physical Intamacy between you two ?
Hi Alexander. I have been with a woman for 4 years and we never or rarely argue. I take lead of the relationship and we respect each others gender differences. She takes leads where I lack in quality like nurturing, take care of the family where as I take lead in providing, protecting and fixing things at home, renovating etc. The reason there are harmony and almost no argue and no signs of red flags as you pointed out is that my girlfriend has not been brainwashed or toxicated by western society of political correctness. We respect each other and love each other and build our lives together, we simply fulfill each other and it's beautiful. We are a couple from Thailand.
Harmony is a byproduct of a healthy relationship, though it shouldn't be the primary goal. Holding hands and singing Kumbaya all day long isn't everyone's cup of tea. The tension of opposites, the polarities of masculine and feminine, bring sparks to a relationship, which often turn sour not from lack of harmony but from lack of passion.
My relationship with my late husband was very similar, especially regarding division of labour, though we were both raised in the USA, & we were essentially equals with no obvious leader overall. My parents weren’t American & I wasn’t exposed to much modern Western culture. I’m sure that helped but think we were also just highly compatible.
HUGE RED FLAG DUDE. My Asian x wife never argued right up to the day she got permanent residence, and walked out the door on our family, cheating as she left.
My golden rule is to look at her friends, because if she hangs out with them is because they have a lot in common The girl you're dating have incentives to not show her true self but her friends don't and are very likely to show their true personality, which is very likely to be the same personality your girl has.
Man you're right... my ex fiancee had loose and trashy friends. I always thought whats she doing with these people? She turned out to be the same after I saw her true colors after we got engaged. That's great advice that may not apply every single time but it's something to keep in mind.
1. How does she resolve conflict? 2. How is she around children? 3. What does she spend her money on? 4. What is she like around other people? 5. How does she treat you when you lose? 6. You have talked abaout her past relationships 7. Discussing future plans 8. Find out what she thins of you 9. How she responds to your emotions 10. Physical intimacy
My girlfriend passed 9 out of 10 of these points. That's better than what I expected. Btw, a year ago I was depressed and lonely but then I started to watch your videos, and after a few months of "intensive learning" I got together with my current girlfriend and I truly believe she's the one. Thanks, Alex for literally changing my life in a good way.
@@valdasdr8432 Thanks for asking. Everything is great. We're still together. We are both trying to put effort into our relationship, so it's working out well.
Congratulations! I am happy for you both. I hope you two will do all it takes to your relationship to stay that way for the rest of your respective lives.
number 9 is an important one, I see so many times when in a relationship a woman says to her man, be a man, don't be a cry baby and so on... Make more videos about this topic please
Sadly most women would fail on this. Women as Alexander Grace has said on another video are hard wired to find male emotions distrubing as they rely on a mate to be a strong provider from the caveman days for her and her offspring. I am a fifty year old man and I would say only one of my female partners in my life was emotionally supportive in my most difficult situations in my life.
@@matthewcoombs3282 Women that want a caveman provider emotionless man should return to the wild or caveman days and get that man. Modern society caveman thinking. Nice, it's all backwards.
I think the biggest thing to be careful of is losing a job. I'm a very highly paid software engineer leading a team, and it was my ex-gf goal to also get a really high paying job. I helped her every step of the way and she stepped into a position that was probably way above where she should be. I was very happy for her. Then, the firings came at my top-5 tech company and my whole team was cut. She left me 5 days later because "I couldn't take care of myself." If she's never seen you fail and you don't see it happening anytime soon, to test her, it might be a good idea to "stage" losing in front of her in an embarrassing way - after the honeymoon phase - and see how she handles it.
The absurd sense of entitlement that some women display really is a sight to behold. I ended my last relationship because the woman I was with expected me to pay for pretty much everything. I called her out on it and she said 'I'm not asking for anything'. No, you aren't. But you do need to eat and drink and when you're with me that it's just assumed I'll cover that. When I discovered she went 50/50 with her ex, a man who isn't fit to lace my gloves, I dumped her. It's a shame you never got the chance to dump your ex. Next time, be more ruthless. It protects you and elevates your standing in your partner's mind.
My x-wife has almost every red flag mentioned 🤦🏻♂️. Tip: if the woman is being fake, the talk about life goals my be mostly lies. She will say what she thinks you want to hear.
Mother and Father relationships are key. We play out our childhood relationship dynamics in our adult relationships. Be careful or marrying a woman with poor parental relationships.
@@sylwiazientek5182 No. Alex actually did a video with another list which includes that. I don't remember the name of the video, but I do remember the item that pertains to what you're talking about, he called it: "Check that she has the CORRECT relationship with her parents" What the correct relationship with her parents is then depends on the kind of people those parents, themselves, are. If they're upstanding, high quality people and your girl doesn't get along with them, something's wrong. Similarly, if they're dishonest, lazy or manipulative people, and your girl has a wonderful relationship with them, something's wrong. Get it?
As a woman, I can confirm: test a potential partner carefully, because you can loose a lot, if you let yourself be fooled easily. And: all of what you said, applies the other way around too
Solid list. Nice Guy never puts her to the test. His Relationship Gate is wide open and he immediately starts doting upon, appeasing, and soothing her. Same happens in a poorly run business where a soft employer promotes an undeserving person without rigorously testing them. Start your new gal off in the mailroom, not the CEO's office.
My longest relationship I have had (about 2 years), I never really got sick to where I couldn’t do anything. But that time came and I was feeling absolutely terrible and she was getting mad because I didn’t want to go out nor socialize, cuddle, sex... that opened my eyes that everything that I ever did was appreciated only when I always gave my 100%. It drained me and it sucked... she made me feel bad about being sick... it took 2 months after that for me to end the relationship; it didn’t was an eye opener. 5:30
Tested myself I gave myself 7 out of 10 positive traits. Asked hubby to rate me, he gave me the same 7 out 10. Better than I thought! But the ones I failed, I failed big time. We also realized that at the beginning of our relationship I was 8 out of 10. So I'm getting worse as I get older!
I think these would be good red flags for men too, so I tested my husband. I scored him 6 out of 10 positively. So about the same as me, except the ones he failed were different from the ones I failed. Opposites attract, I guess?
I wish I saw this earlier in my life. I was staying over at my girlfriend's apartment when I got sick. After the 3rd day, she wanted me to leave the apartment, even though I was practically about to collapse. I told her I will take a 40 dollar uber ride home, and she didn't even say she'll drive me home. My self esteem was shot at the time, so I didn't realize that was such a huge red flag.
Gosh, I'm really sorry that you had to go through that. Unironically. But on the bright side, you know you dodged a bullet and what to avoid in the future!
Spot on. Every time I got sick, my ex would get annoyed and talk about my needing to be healthier, and acted like I was just being lazy. In her mind I was at-fault for getting a cold. Ya that's not exactly the caregiver quality a man is looking for. Next lol
I had the luxury of having a great mom who I have a great relationship with so, I knew about a lot of these already. But I got to tell you, videos like this are important to so many guys out there. It seems like a lot of them stay with ones because, “she’s pretty and she likes me.” As you stated in your video, you have to vet for quality by noticing how she treats others. I hope you do more videos like this because a lot of guys need this right now.
No one will probably see this, but I have to point out that the very first line in the song “Wannabe” by the Spice Girls is: “If you want my future, forget my past.” Many girls of marriageable age now grew up listening to that...
Superb video. I think to really understand this video you must have experienced a low quality woman first. I also think in order to use this top 10 list you must be a high quality man. A low quality man is desperate as you just said and won't have standards. This video is like going to a fortune-teller! You are doing an amazing service for men and women.
I had the last one with my ex, we had some amazing conversations, thankfully we remained good friends. Also as a woman, this is very applicable to men too
I just want to see how she felt about me , so one day I told her I miss her , she start of by saying I have boyfriend ,there's nothing I can do for you and told me it look like I'm going to cry and ran off . I knew right than I was not going to dating her come to find she lied to me about dating guys she work with and she was going to date other dude that worked and now she's crying to her family and friends that I move on .
I gotta disagree with the is she good around kids one. I'm almost 34 and have no kids and plan to keep it that way. If she's awkward around babies and small kids that'd be a huge plus in my book because I am already like that. The rest is pretty good advice though.
This is important advice and is just as important for a woman to consider when looking for a long term relationship/potential marriage with a high quality man.
I ruined a potentially good friendship because we went down the romantic road and I was not aroused by her. We were really compatible and she was a worthwhile person 😔
Alexander I want to say that I have suffered through the pain of break-up for over an year before I found your channel. I wish I had known about you in my teens but here we are. But better late than never. Your videos alone can rival some of the top "Therapists" so to say.
Another way I like to test women is by living my minimalistic life, and having her submerge herself in it, even if it's uncomfortable (small bed, cold house) or not flaunting material possession but designating focus on progress. She will drop hints to what needs to be upgraded, but I make sure I make it my idea, and do it in a manor that I present as a satisfaction of my own. otherwise she will start demanding. If she can handle this, then she is willing to commit to a slow growing bond, over a platform to cater to her demands.
She can show you all these good qualities.......then have one change of heart, and she has the entire system at her disposal to destroy you. Not worth it, fellas.
Thanks a lot for this Alex. I really needed this video today. I keep catching my mind racing into fantasies about my future with her, and we've only been on our first date!
Hi, i really liked your video it’s very genuine and useful information. When I first read it was triggering bc it says Test a Woman’s Quality. But looking at the content it was good and think it can be applied to men too! Thanks for content!
If a girl is nice, kind and warm towards good looking guys but is indifferent and rude towards ugly guys, then is she a high quality girl from the handsome guy's perspective?
I'm not sure how this video popped up in my queue. But it does amaze me how little today's men / boys know about women. And this guy is hustling money off of it... today's world...
I'd like to piggy back on your number 7 and say that, yes, it's very important to have shared goals in life. I'd like to add, see if they're actively pursuing these goals. Like, I met a woman that said she wanted to do nails for a living, yet, had nothing in her search history on UA-cam about doing nails. Nor possessed any of the tools to do nails. A lot of people will say things just to impress you.
I did all this and realised out too late that I had been played. My advice now is simply; if the word "perfect" comes into the discussion when talking about the new love interest (even on your own), then run for the hills. You're being told exactly what you want to hear, and you're playing right into their game.
How she resolves conflict really depends on the type of conflict. If it's about her worth, for example her sexual past, I think most women will respond with anger and if you push further most women will start to get manipulative and spiteful.
When it comes to women, I need a balance to my personality type. Where I tend to be kinda of wild and have a insane sense of humor, I need a woman who can be calm and be my "rational check and balance". And she must be highly educated.
Never ever combine finances. What is hers is hers, what is yours is yours. If you combine, you will regret it, period. No matter how long the relationship is, do NOT combine.
My wife didn't have a great relationship with her father. Not that she didn't love him; but he was an alcoholic, serial cheater and didn't really treat his family well. She thanks God every day that I am not like him. I never met him as he passed away just a few weeks before we met.
This is a fantastic video Alexander. I agree on all your 10 points, I would even add 1 or 2 more. This video should be watched by most of guys 14-50, before dating anyone. Very educative, thoughtfull and clear.
I really like this video, and I find it just as applicable for a woman , to reverse it and apply all these things to a man. Especially when considering a long-term relationship with that man
Best way to see what kind of person anyone is, not just women. Is to look at their external hobbies, materialistic gains and likes/dislikes. A person always projects what's on the inside, out. As above so below, as within so with out.
point 9 is very very important. I would like to hear more about this. men have been told for so long that they should not show emotion that it is now almost seen as "odd" when a man becomes emotional. need more of this information out there
i texted a woman I know two days ago to go out to a restaurant the next weekend (Saturday night). She left me on read and now im ghosted. That was 5 days ago. And I gotta see her tomorrow.... like what am I supposed to say to her when I see her? Im serious, what am i supposed to tell her? act, etc, since we have to interact when we see each other.
Did she agree before on meeting up? Or she left you on read on the message in which you asked to meetup? If the second case, run find someone more interested in you.
@@akhileshb_ the second. and i mean like, we are gonna run into each other and spend time next to one another due to work stuff,etc. I dont want things to be awkward, etc
@@hmhm856 Just be courteous, don't give her much attention and go about your own work. She left you on read without a response to you asking for a date. You both knew it was supposed to be a date. Just hang out with other female colleagues and watch her shower attention, asking for a reschedule. DON'T RESCHEDULE unless she has a very good reason to why she didn't respond.
This video is really useful! When you find a new girl, take a step back and try to rationalize this video so you can know if you judging her correctly. Thanks
I can’t stress #5 hard enough. For a woman, it’s always a thrill to be with a high quality man. But, only a high quality woman empathizes and understands that success doesn’t come without struggles and setbacks. A high quality woman is able to lift her partner and cheer him on, giving him the self confidence boost he needs. It’s pretty easy to do this for a woman, and it’s incredible how many get this wrong. A low quality woman freaks out and abandons his man at the first sign of trouble. Good riddance, I say.
The first minute is pure genius. Be patient and observe her AND everyone. Initially, almost all people show high quality. Most are LYING and are low quality. We all know the whole world is in a mess. So MOST PEOPLE ARE SUPER LOW QUALITY. In time,everyone shows who they truly are... So then we can see if they are the rare high quality OR if they are part of the low quality normal.
"Don't get so lost in fantasy that you project the image of a high-quality woman onto her, just because you're desperate".
Well I'm definitely guilty of this.
That was me as a teen. Lost years of my life with that.
That's what we was learned once wasn't it, when we get a mature life of our own we start to learn the reality a bit by bit, nobody should have to worry about were they been in this case it's way more worrysome if someone decide to defend their wrongdoing or attacking thoose who are able to speak about what they learned, science is to learn whats not the right thing to do first so you can do the right thing later, it's not a failure to do a thing wrong once but to keep on doing it is, be brave and draw your map of life itself were there once was white spots you now " the land".
We are all guilty of this, until we learn why we should not do it. Halo effect is strong on the first times.
Can’t blame you for that…. We can’t really fight that even if we know what’s happening. I mean we can but it takes some relationships to handle.
aren't we all?
#5 is super important. Some women will literally treat you like you’ve never done anything for them if you happen to hit a low point in your life. My ex became a different person when my dad lost his battle with cancer and I needed her support (both emotionally and economically). She suddenly got mat at me because I couldn’t afford to treat her the same way I did for years.
She sounds like a sociopath
Usually hot girls sre not empathetic. Try to date nore6 average body girl
@@ifeelhalfnaked484 Nnno. Every hot girl I've dated and had great moments with were empathetic. The rest were not. It doesn't depend on her looks, but her life and personaility
I’m so sorry man, God rest your fathers soul! Prayers for him!
@@samgutierrez5155 thanks fam. I appreciate that you took the time to write that.
How to Test a Women's Quality ?
1.How does she resolve conflict ?
2.How is She around Children ?
3.What does she spend her Money on ?
4.What's She like around other People ?
5.How does She treats you when you Loose ?
6.You've talked about her Past Relationships ?
7.Discussing Future plans ?
8.Find out what she Thinks of you ?
9.How She responds to your Emotions ?
10.Physical Intamacy between you two ?
Great job 👍👍👍
Thank you man. UP
Thanks you man! You are savior to us all!
Thanks!
Thank you 🙏🏻
Hi Alexander. I have been with a woman for 4 years and we never or rarely argue. I take lead of the relationship and we respect each others gender differences. She takes leads where I lack in quality like nurturing, take care of the family where as I take lead in providing, protecting and fixing things at home, renovating etc. The reason there are harmony and almost no argue and no signs of red flags as you pointed out is that my girlfriend has not been brainwashed or toxicated by western society of political correctness. We respect each other and love each other and build our lives together, we simply fulfill each other and it's beautiful. We are a couple from Thailand.
Harmony is a byproduct of a healthy relationship, though it shouldn't be the primary goal. Holding hands and singing Kumbaya all day long isn't everyone's cup of tea. The tension of opposites, the polarities of masculine and feminine, bring sparks to a relationship, which often turn sour not from lack of harmony but from lack of passion.
My relationship with my late husband was very similar, especially regarding division of labour, though we were both raised in the USA, & we were essentially equals with no obvious leader overall. My parents weren’t American & I wasn’t exposed to much modern Western culture. I’m sure that helped but think we were also just highly compatible.
So why haven't you married her and aren't procreating?
@@KatyaVasilivna We are now, this comment was made over a year ago
HUGE RED FLAG DUDE. My Asian x wife never argued right up to the day she got permanent residence, and walked out the door on our family, cheating as she left.
My golden rule is to look at her friends, because if she hangs out with them is because they have a lot in common
The girl you're dating have incentives to not show her true self but her friends don't and are very likely to show their true personality, which is very likely to be the same personality your girl has.
This should be top comment! 100% true..if all her friends are low quality ..you have your answer.
Absolutely!! *Top Comment Spotted*
Man you're right... my ex fiancee had loose and trashy friends. I always thought whats she doing with these people? She turned out to be the same after I saw her true colors after we got engaged. That's great advice that may not apply every single time but it's something to keep in mind.
Absolutely goat
@@ITyraxI whats she doing with these people , stay away stay away ..... my bag first
1. How does she resolve conflict?
2. How is she around children?
3. What does she spend her money on?
4. What is she like around other people?
5. How does she treat you when you lose?
6. You have talked abaout her past relationships
7. Discussing future plans
8. Find out what she thins of you
9. How she responds to your emotions
10. Physical intimacy
This guy is like the golden goose, he just keeps turning out gold gems
His patreon page 🙌🏼
cloaeca* my bad
My girlfriend passed 9 out of 10 of these points. That's better than what I expected.
Btw, a year ago I was depressed and lonely but then I started to watch your videos, and after a few months of "intensive learning" I got together with my current girlfriend and I truly believe she's the one.
Thanks, Alex for literally changing my life in a good way.
How's "the one" working out a year later?
@@valdasdr8432 Thanks for asking. Everything is great. We're still together. We are both trying to put effort into our relationship, so it's working out well.
No answer , so i guess it didnt go well heh
@@JonathanVachon777 No, we are still together up to this day. We are happy and satisfied. I wish you a good day, sir.
which one did she not pass if i may ask?@@luckypyjamastv1473
thank u sir .. ur vids are gold for us men
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He is a goat
Hmm... Racism is manifesting ... And the true nature of these ugly commentators is showing.
@Bożydar Grabowski talkin bout u ;D pls stop being racist
@@notsomuchhere1387 how?
My wife passed all of these tests before I married her, thus the reason I married her.
How are you now?
@@reyjanriosa8492 We are good!
Congratulations! I am happy for you both. I hope you two will do all it takes to your relationship to stay that way for the rest of your respective lives.
You must be the greatest examiner ever.
Prag- Do men test women often? I didn't know this happened.
number 9 is an important one, I see so many times when in a relationship a woman says to her man, be a man, don't be a cry baby and so on... Make more videos about this topic please
Sadly most women would fail on this. Women as Alexander Grace has said on another video are hard wired to find male emotions distrubing as they rely on a mate to be a strong provider from the caveman days for her and her offspring. I am a fifty year old man and I would say only one of my female partners in my life was emotionally supportive in my most difficult situations in my life.
@@matthewcoombs3282 Women that want a caveman provider emotionless man should return to the wild or caveman days and get that man. Modern society caveman thinking. Nice, it's all backwards.
Women complain about "toxic masculinity" while being one of the primary causes of it
Biggest issue here isn’t the woman it’s the involvement of the government in relationships, marriage and baby making
@@matthewcoombs3282 its rare to see a hot girl on instagram to be supportive, they all meant to be discarded and passed around.
I think the biggest thing to be careful of is losing a job. I'm a very highly paid software engineer leading a team, and it was my ex-gf goal to also get a really high paying job. I helped her every step of the way and she stepped into a position that was probably way above where she should be. I was very happy for her. Then, the firings came at my top-5 tech company and my whole team was cut. She left me 5 days later because "I couldn't take care of myself." If she's never seen you fail and you don't see it happening anytime soon, to test her, it might be a good idea to "stage" losing in front of her in an embarrassing way - after the honeymoon phase - and see how she handles it.
The absurd sense of entitlement that some women display really is a sight to behold. I ended my last relationship because the woman I was with expected me to pay for pretty much everything. I called her out on it and she said 'I'm not asking for anything'. No, you aren't. But you do need to eat and drink and when you're with me that it's just assumed I'll cover that. When I discovered she went 50/50 with her ex, a man who isn't fit to lace my gloves, I dumped her. It's a shame you never got the chance to dump your ex. Next time, be more ruthless. It protects you and elevates your standing in your partner's mind.
My x-wife has almost every red flag mentioned 🤦🏻♂️. Tip: if the woman is being fake, the talk about life goals my be mostly lies. She will say what she thinks you want to hear.
Yup - one of the tell tale signs of a narcissist or borderline is future faking.
@@duderanch18237 borderlines also do this thing called "mirroring" where they change their personalities to match yours
This is spot on. The conflict resolution is essential. Also I would add to observe how she interacts with her mom/dad
Mother and Father relationships are key. We play out our childhood relationship dynamics in our adult relationships. Be careful or marrying a woman with poor parental relationships.
What if somebody's mother is toxic and you need to stay away from her to keep sane? you fail the test?
@@sylwiazientek5182 No. Alex actually did a video with another list which includes that. I don't remember the name of the video, but I do remember the item that pertains to what you're talking about, he called it:
"Check that she has the CORRECT relationship with her parents"
What the correct relationship with her parents is then depends on the kind of people those parents, themselves, are.
If they're upstanding, high quality people and your girl doesn't get along with them, something's wrong. Similarly, if they're dishonest, lazy or manipulative people, and your girl has a wonderful relationship with them, something's wrong.
Get it?
As a woman, I can confirm: test a potential partner carefully, because you can loose a lot, if you let yourself be fooled easily. And: all of what you said, applies the other way around too
Solid list. Nice Guy never puts her to the test. His Relationship Gate is wide open and he immediately starts doting upon, appeasing, and soothing her. Same happens in a poorly run business where a soft employer promotes an undeserving person without rigorously testing them. Start your new gal off in the mailroom, not the CEO's office.
Wow. You just made me realize I've been being a "nice guy".
My longest relationship I have had (about 2 years), I never really got sick to where I couldn’t do anything. But that time came and I was feeling absolutely terrible and she was getting mad because I didn’t want to go out nor socialize, cuddle, sex... that opened my eyes that everything that I ever did was appreciated only when I always gave my 100%. It drained me and it sucked... she made me feel bad about being sick... it took 2 months after that for me to end the relationship; it didn’t was an eye opener. 5:30
Tested myself I gave myself 7 out of 10 positive traits. Asked hubby to rate me, he gave me the same 7 out 10. Better than I thought! But the ones I failed, I failed big time.
We also realized that at the beginning of our relationship I was 8 out of 10. So I'm getting worse as I get older!
I think these would be good red flags for men too, so I tested my husband. I scored him 6 out of 10 positively. So about the same as me, except the ones he failed were different from the ones I failed. Opposites attract, I guess?
You are self aware, and it feels like you are prepared to do some change, thats good enough
Hmm, I can not tell how I act with different people, but I think all the other tests I will past.
Greetings from Winter Springs, FL 🇺🇸 🌴 Just found out about your channel I think it’s awesome the way you break down female psychology and behavior.
“Theres nothin worse than one sided affection.” Thats literally all Ive ever known...
Yeah sadly our culture cultivates this dynamic. Man being subservient to women in relationships is The New normal right now
Please do more videos like this.
How's it like being Elons kid???
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I wish I saw this earlier in my life. I was staying over at my girlfriend's apartment when I got sick. After the 3rd day, she wanted me to leave the apartment, even though I was practically about to collapse. I told her I will take a 40 dollar uber ride home, and she didn't even say she'll drive me home. My self esteem was shot at the time, so I didn't realize that was such a huge red flag.
Gosh, I'm really sorry that you had to go through that. Unironically. But on the bright side, you know you dodged a bullet and what to avoid in the future!
Spot on. Every time I got sick, my ex would get annoyed and talk about my needing to be healthier, and acted like I was just being lazy. In her mind I was at-fault for getting a cold. Ya that's not exactly the caregiver quality a man is looking for. Next lol
Bait and switch. A disingenuine woman in my experience can only keep the mask on for 3 months at most before she reveals her true self.
Not sure if I have met any covert Narcissist’s before, but then how would I know right? Are Narcissists able to connect with say dogs or cats?
I think there are some women who cannot be revealed until six months of relationship
@@aissa2067 I can’t argue with that. Many times I called time after 9-10 months.
@@danjsilve yeah sameh here, many arguments a long the way but yeah after 9-11 months I became aware that this is not what im looking for.
This manipulative & rotten ones, Such beings didn't deserve any attention.
"Don't judge her by what she says judge her by her actions"
-Matt cross
"The most highest value" ~ Matt Cross
I had the luxury of having a great mom who I have a great relationship with so, I knew about a lot of these already. But I got to tell you, videos like this are important to so many guys out there. It seems like a lot of them stay with ones because, “she’s pretty and she likes me.” As you stated in your video, you have to vet for quality by noticing how she treats others. I hope you do more videos like this because a lot of guys need this right now.
No one will probably see this, but I have to point out that the very first line in the song “Wannabe” by the Spice Girls is: “If you want my future, forget my past.” Many girls of marriageable age now grew up listening to that...
Honestly, I'm a girl and I think this is great advice for anyone.....
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Superb video. I think to really understand this video you must have experienced a low quality woman first. I also think in order to use this top 10 list you must be a high quality man. A low quality man is desperate as you just said and won't have standards. This video is like going to a fortune-teller! You are doing an amazing service for men and women.
I asked my wife before we got married what her relationship was like with her father and if she had any past abusive relationships
What did she say
@@th3atomu555 Her father raised her and she has never been in an abusive relationship. I could already tell in how she treated me.
I had the last one with my ex, we had some amazing conversations, thankfully we remained good friends. Also as a woman, this is very applicable to men too
I just want to see how she felt about me , so one day I told her I miss her , she start of by saying I have boyfriend ,there's nothing I can do for you and told me it look like I'm going to cry and ran off . I knew right than I was not going to dating her come to find she lied to me about dating guys she work with and she was going to date other dude that worked and now she's crying to her family and friends that I move on .
I gotta disagree with the is she good around kids one. I'm almost 34 and have no kids and plan to keep it that way. If she's awkward around babies and small kids that'd be a huge plus in my book because I am already like that.
The rest is pretty good advice though.
Maybe he meant it to most guys, which most guys wanna have children. If you dont want any, that's okay. It's personal choice.
Totally agree. It s irellevant. There are many high quality persons which do not want offsprings.
same here
What do you do when it's the opposite, when your so jaded from life that you have a hard time gauging if it's even worth it?
Valid question.
This is important advice and is just as important for a woman to consider when looking for a long term relationship/potential marriage with a high quality man.
I ruined a potentially good friendship because we went down the romantic road and I was not aroused by her. We were really compatible and she was a worthwhile person 😔
Alexander I want to say that I have suffered through the pain of break-up for over an year before I found your channel.
I wish I had known about you in my teens but here we are. But better late than never.
Your videos alone can rival some of the top "Therapists" so to say.
Another way I like to test women is by living my minimalistic life, and having her submerge herself in it, even if it's uncomfortable (small bed, cold house) or not flaunting material possession but designating focus on progress. She will drop hints to what needs to be upgraded, but I make sure I make it my idea, and do it in a manor that I present as a satisfaction of my own. otherwise she will start demanding. If she can handle this, then she is willing to commit to a slow growing bond, over a platform to cater to her demands.
I wish you made these when I was first discovering romantic relationships. thanks.
Man you are letterly translates what ever comes to my mind into words
#5 was a big red flag with my ex, sadly only after we were married!
I think I always lose my self in fantasy. I put too much expectations on a person. Which pretty much ruins any chance. 😔
She can show you all these good qualities.......then have one change of heart, and she has the entire system at her disposal to destroy you. Not worth it, fellas.
In that case she was probably just pretending to have all those qualities. A guy has to be smart and look past the outer layer.
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Well Alexander you did it again you gave me a great answer to issues I already lived the wrong way. I wish I had this info 20 yrs ago, Thanks
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The best way to test a women that she is honest or not set her free and see whether she comes to you or just lives you away....
You are on a list of creators I will donate to when I make it
Ily Alexander you are one of the few male channels with respect for women. you truly SEE and value women at our best
Thanks Alexander. Even in cases when it's too late to apply this topic, it still gives a lot of ideas to discuss within an existing relationship
Thanks a lot for this Alex. I really needed this video today. I keep catching my mind racing into fantasies about my future with her, and we've only been on our first date!
Hi, i really liked your video it’s very genuine and useful information. When I first read it was triggering bc it says Test a Woman’s Quality. But looking at the content it was good and think it can be applied to men too! Thanks for content!
how a woman treats service employees. Wait staff, Taxi drivers, cashiers, etc... Run from any woman that is mean to these people.
If a girl is nice, kind and warm towards good looking guys but is indifferent and rude towards ugly guys, then is she a high quality girl from the handsome guy's perspective?
If she's genuinely rude towards other people for no reason, then she's low quality
No, she's just obsequious
Just watched now half of this video and I tell you, this is one of your best videos Alex.
Awesome! Always wait for your videos
I'm not sure how this video popped up in my queue. But it does amaze me how little today's men / boys know about women. And this guy is hustling money off of it... today's world...
This is one of your most helpful video.
Thanks 🙌🏻
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I feel like most of these apply for people in general... You might as well apply this to most people/friends.
I'd like to piggy back on your number 7 and say that, yes, it's very important to have shared goals in life. I'd like to add, see if they're actively pursuing these goals.
Like, I met a woman that said she wanted to do nails for a living, yet, had nothing in her search history on UA-cam about doing nails. Nor possessed any of the tools to do nails.
A lot of people will say things just to impress you.
I did all this and realised out too late that I had been played. My advice now is simply; if the word "perfect" comes into the discussion when talking about the new love interest (even on your own), then run for the hills. You're being told exactly what you want to hear, and you're playing right into their game.
It would be very helpful if someone could come up with a questionnaire for all the above tests to sound as polite as possible.
How she resolves conflict really depends on the type of conflict. If it's about her worth, for example her sexual past, I think most women will respond with anger and if you push further most women will start to get manipulative and spiteful.
When it comes to women, I need a balance to my personality type. Where I tend to be kinda of wild and have a insane sense of humor, I need a woman who can be calm and be my "rational check and balance". And she must be highly educated.
Well good luck. But even a well educated woman is no guarantee that she will be loyal. The hypergamy is a software that can not be changed.
Never ever combine finances. What is hers is hers, what is yours is yours. If you combine, you will regret it, period. No matter how long the relationship is, do NOT combine.
This is a really nice list brother, I really appreciate it.
This was extremely useful, thank you Alexander
Honesty is key for me
You got a lot of wisdom ,thank you for sharing wise advice👍🏽🙏🏾
My wife didn't have a great relationship with her father. Not that she didn't love him; but he was an alcoholic, serial cheater and didn't really treat his family well.
She thanks God every day that I am not like him.
I never met him as he passed away just a few weeks before we met.
An awesome advice, yet again! Thank you!
As usual, very concise, accurate and very well conveyed.
great advice!
This is a fantastic video Alexander. I agree on all your 10 points, I would even add 1 or 2 more. This video should be watched by most of guys 14-50, before dating anyone. Very educative, thoughtfull and clear.
I really like this video, and I find it just as applicable for a woman , to reverse it and apply all these things to a man. Especially when considering a long-term relationship with that man
Again do these women exist cause if so I dont see them also I love your videos Alexander you basically helped me understand myself as man more
Best way to see what kind of person anyone is, not just women. Is to look at their external hobbies, materialistic gains and likes/dislikes. A person always projects what's on the inside, out. As above so below, as within so with out.
Women physiology at its finest 💯.
Amazing content as always.
wow, very brightness bringing questions! :)
I can't tell. You how much I understand about women psychology, by binge watch your video
Should be required viewing for young men.
It feels good to hear that as a woman...
Best way to administer test number 5 is over a long period of time, maybe even for 5 years.
Exactly. You might not encounter any struggles in life for many years.
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point 9 is very very important. I would like to hear more about this. men have been told for so long that they should not show emotion that it is now almost seen as "odd" when a man becomes emotional. need more of this information out there
Women are the masters at playing the good girl game ! I feel the best way to find out how she handles conflicts .
thanks alot Alexander
i texted a woman I know two days ago to go out to a restaurant the next weekend (Saturday night). She left me on read and now im ghosted. That was 5 days ago. And I gotta see her tomorrow.... like what am I supposed to say to her when I see her? Im serious, what am i supposed to tell her? act, etc, since we have to interact when we see each other.
Did she agree before on meeting up? Or she left you on read on the message in which you asked to meetup? If the second case, run find someone more interested in you.
@@akhileshb_ the second. and i mean like, we are gonna run into each other and spend time next to one another due to work stuff,etc. I dont want things to be awkward, etc
@@hmhm856 Just be courteous, don't give her much attention and go about your own work. She left you on read without a response to you asking for a date. You both knew it was supposed to be a date. Just hang out with other female colleagues and watch her shower attention, asking for a reschedule. DON'T RESCHEDULE unless she has a very good reason to why she didn't respond.
Some helpful advice here mate, keep it up!
This video is really useful! When you find a new girl, take a step back and try to rationalize this video so you can know if you judging her correctly. Thanks
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Thanks, Alex. This helps a lot.
I'm fairly confident I can give any woman in a relationship the cold shoulder
I can’t stress #5 hard enough. For a woman, it’s always a thrill to be with a high quality man. But, only a high quality woman empathizes and understands that success doesn’t come without struggles and setbacks. A high quality woman is able to lift her partner and cheer him on, giving him the self confidence boost he needs. It’s pretty easy to do this for a woman, and it’s incredible how many get this wrong. A low quality woman freaks out and abandons his man at the first sign of trouble. Good riddance, I say.
I cant see how anyone can form relationships with so much in life that has to be aligned between men and women
Through love
Thanke you bro
That was a great video❤️
Another top-tier video Alex!
Very good video Alexander.
The first minute is pure genius.
Be patient and observe her AND everyone. Initially, almost all people show high quality. Most are LYING and are low quality.
We all know the whole world is in a mess. So MOST PEOPLE ARE SUPER LOW QUALITY.
In time,everyone shows who they truly are...
So then we can see if they are the rare high quality OR if they are part of the low quality normal.