Well marriage is the thing of the past. There is absolutely no reason why a man should get married nowadays. Even if all these women change, and they become feminine, well it's to late for them, they still aren't virgins.
Being im 51 most of what you talk about i already know. Im here for my daughters. To help them find and keep a man for when im gone. One thing i think you should cover( i have not seen you address it) is that women make their selections mostly subconsciously. Same for men. We aren't really aware of alot of our selections. Being intentional is the key that's finding someone. Intentional in who you are and intentional in who and how you choose. I think this would be a great series for young men who are becoming bitter and women who are lost as to what men want.
@HUMAN PERSON. Are what exactly? Virgins? If that's the case then good for you. I hope you stay that way until marriage and find a good man that will take care of you. But you must admit that women like that are rare nowadays.
I ran a business that employed mostly women, so I interviewed hundreds of them over the years. Two essential qualities I looked for were COMPASSION (ambitious driven types couldn't even define the word) and COACHABILITY (defiant, power-oriented types quickly revealed a strong resistance to being coached). One of the things that surprised me was how often a young women would carry an attitude of "I am the prize" into the interview, as if we were vibing at the club and she had the power of choice. The job was the prize and she needed to earn it.
I think the same holds in the dating market. If it is just sex, women are the prize and they can afford the hard to get attitude, doesn’t work for relationships though. If a woman wants to get a relationship, she needs to be the humble one.
@@jimjohnson394 once a woman sees herself as the prize, she can't let that go. She'll expect a man to work for her commitment just like he worked to bed her. She doesn't see that feeding her queen-sized ego was only a ploy to open her legs. Once his sexual conquest is complete, time to move on.
Women handles dates and relationship like job interview. Just look at those traits: Independent, Confident, Responsible, Ambitious, strong-minded. These are perfect traits for a job interview and not so much for a date.
I think it's more of a childish "If I like then everyone will like it". In other words Alexander mentioned it as "women think men will like them for the same qualities they like men". It also coincides with better acceptance of women's flaws, which allows them to carry more childish mentality in adulthood. The correlation with the interview is also applies, but more as correlation not the reason, because such requirements are appearing later in life and working as reinforcing stimulus. Of course, it's personal opinion and I want to hear your theory
The funny thing is, these women tend to think that men value the same traits THEY value in men. No, we don't. Most of us want to be with a woman who's in her feminine energy, who's kind, charming, sociable, loving, attractive - even if she works as the Starbucks barista. Independence and success is a GREAT bonus, but it isn't going to make a masculine man swoon over you.
I am a real man who is kind, curvy, soft spoken, submissive and likes to get dominated in bed. Women don't date me because they cannot handle a real man like me.
Get out of the West, for so many reasons, but once out of the West, the world's most abundant resource is young women in need of a good man. Conflating the USA and Western Europe with "The world" is just plain silly and ignorant. He needs to get out more. Conflating the situation in the West with "A planet full of men" is a provincial view. In the East, for example, good capable men have their choice. It is a complete role reversal from the West.
@@gailan8393 hmm...middle east and Islamic places not included in my observation. I live in the east. In the middle east, access to women is controlled by a repressive power structure. Not so in the rest of asia. In East Asia, a good man has his pick of women. I know this based on what I experience every day.
@@defonein6157 No, high standards don't HAVE to be about looks and status... but when it's a WOMAN with "high standards", they seem to always INCLUDE looks and status... starting with 2 of the three 6's. Six feet tall, plus... six-figure income.
Independent? Don't care Confident? Sure, but let's not confuse that with obnoxious Responsible? Yep, that's a plus Ambitious? Can't care less Strong-minded? Define that. Are you gonna be a nice challenge to contend with or u r just stubborn? Adventurous? Translation: I've been ran through. That's a big minus.
Yeah I agree with you, the only thing I care about on that list is responsible, the rest are pretty meh to me. I'd rather have: leaves me alone, kind , and feminine than the other 4 you listed.
The older a man gets, the more he begins to understand women, the less he cares for women or forming relationships. There's no malice behind it. Men operate from a cost benefit mentality.
Their bodies are great, but almost all of them have brains that are straight up hypergamous, malignant malware... Most are "easily bored" and can never be happy or satisfied.
Prince Revolver: Exactly where I am in life. 42 now. Been married, divorced, in multiple lesser relationships. So there's no "cope" like Shogakukan seems to believe. I'm sure there are some guys who can't get w0m3n, but many of us just choose to not be bothered with it all. It's really about realizing how ultimately unimportant a relationship is to me. And also, when I look back on my life...relationships have been the source of so much drama and headaches in my life. Being solo, I have peace. No drama. No nagging. No arguing. I'm having less s3x now sure, but I've had enough over the years. Plus, the drive isn't nearly as strong as it was when I was in my teens-thirties.
I actually had conversation with a female friend the other day in regards to men shooting their shot. She complained about how guys mistook her kindness for wanting to be with them. Which is fair. I also explained that the average guy will take a chance if he sees an opportunity given the lack of attention men get compared to the opposite sex. Which also suggests women understand how far being kind to a man can go but can't process why men lose interest when they display the exact opposite of being kind.
Most men rarely receive active interest from women. So if your perceived options are 0, you have to make your own opportunities. Women may hate it, but until the dynamic shifts, that's the way it has to be.
I had single female friends complain about how men start conversations on dating apps. They complain about: "Hi" or "You're beautiful" "How are you?". Saying that it lacks substances. YEA - it's a conversation starter - it's supposed to lack substance. If we spent time making a custom message for each girl we'd be wasting our time because most of them don't reply. Their entitlement is absurd. It's that whole "Yassss queen" mentality.
I went on a date last night. We started talking about feminism. She spent five minutes railing about the destruction of proper relationships and how we’re killing femininity and masculinity….I just sat the whole time smiling….We have a second date tomorrow.
Marrying a woman these days (especially in Australia) is like finding a semi-hibernating Tiger Snake and taking it home with the intention of trying to tame it.... and then later wondering why you got bitten.
Don’t marry them just be in a relationship with them till y’all are old. Aussie chicks seem pretty superficial tbh that’s a shame, cuz they’re real beautiful over there.
Guys are simple. We want fit, friendly, cooperative women. Our belly full, good sex and most importantly peace of mind (the concept seems to elude today's women).
Interesting concept, I was talking to a lady friend the other day and looking back, as a man I never nag or ask anything from my partner or bring up an argument ever, if I need anything I’ll just figure it out myself and really I don’t find arguing of any value, but for some reason it’s always the wife or girlfriends that either complains about something and requires us to fix it, it’s as if they can’t just be happy for even 24 hours... and even when you fix or solve whatever issue they have, they will just come up with some new 💩...
Yeah, that is because you are trying to teach them to go against their biology/instinctive sexual attraction. Sexual attraction requires a specific set of traits for both men and women, and long term stability requires a different set of traits. Most 'nice guys' would make good long term partners, but they tend to fail because they lack sexual attractiveness due to being too wimpy and submissive. On the other hand, the 'jerks' are sexually attractive to women due to possessing the sexually attractive traits (assertive, bold, confidence, dominant etc), but they make poor long term partners due to being selfish, irresponsible, unreliable etc, and generally just lacking the good traits that nice guys have. So if you, as a man, want to be the ultimate prize for women, you need to posses both the sexually attractive traits, as well as the nice guy traits. So self development is a must. If you are a nice guy, go to the gym, lift weights, eat healthy food, get more hobbies that get you outside doing exercise (cycling, rock climbing, kayaking etc), learn boxing/MMA, and above all, focus on developing your confidence and self esteem by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. If you do that, while maintaining the nice guy traits, you wont have any problems attracting high value women. Being a nice guy is worthless to women if they perceive you as a loser. You need to raise your value and change their perception.
Had a discussion with my roommate (female) the other day about this. Overall, men don't care about successful, business oriented women. Some men think it's whatever. Others are against it (for a partner). The same goes for independence, strong willed and other male traits. This is because, by and large, most dudes don't want to constantly fight, negotiate and deal with aggression in a female partner. Personally, I want to have kids, so I want a wife that can stay at home to raise them. At least for their formative years. Because of this, I don't want a high powered business women with huge work ambitions. I feel like I'm not allowed to say this out loud anymore
So I guess my main question then would be, why do you feel that it has to be her who stays home? Why can't it be you? Is it because your religious beliefs teach you that men are supposed the be the breadwinners, or do you have secular motivations?
@@technoloverish Well, most women don't want to "date down" like men. Fundamentally, men and women value different things in partners. It's cliché but women like men that make more money than them and fiscally stable. Men prefer younger(prettier) women that are kind and agreeable. There's been many relationships that end if the husband stops being the provider. Lastly, being able to stay home and take care of the kids is a gift. I've known many dads and potential fathers that love their kids and wish they could be the ones to stay with them instead of the 9am-5pm bs. Women typically have more compassion for their children than men. There's things women give to children that men struggle to provide to them. Women more so than men take pleasure from their familial connections in their overall happiness. I know this has been... less than succinct and tangential to boot, but there's nothing wrong with embracing femininity. If a woman wants to be a career woman that's fine to, but there will be trade offs to that choice.
@@W0lfMan26 Thanks for your reply! So to follow up, I guess my first question to you is, with regards to the general differences between who men and women prefer as romantic partners, do you see those differences as inherently true for all men and women, or do you see them more as things that are generally true with a few exceptions? For instance, a minority of men and women are gay and lesbian, and an even smaller minority are asexual. Also, how common do you think those stereotypes are in Western culture? In my own personal experience, for example, most men and women are with people their own age or slightly older or slightly younger, and most men and women who are in relationships these days in the West are both breadwinners for the family. I personally feel like the stereotype that you're talking about is less common in the more secular parts of society and more common in the parts of society that are more religious. I also feel that it might seem more common than it really if most of one's dating experience is on Tinder or other dating apps. So in terms of women typically having more compassion for their children than men, yes, generally-speaking, women tend to be more compassionate with children than men. However, I feel that that may be mostly because women in general are encouraged by society to be more compassionate, especially towards those who are more vulnerable. For instance, as you may have noticed, men often aren't encouraged by society to have jobs involving working with children, so statistically, men are less likely to be trained/socialize to be compassionate with children at the same level as women. I think men's compassion with children and such might be more like that of women if they weren't discouraged as much from taking daycare jobs, teaching jobs, etc. Anyway, hope that all makes sense, and thanks again for your response:)
@@technoloverish Okay, on my computer so I can quote things now. "do you see those differences as inherently true for all men and women, or do you see them more as things that are generally true with a few exceptions?" 1st off, I'm co-opping out. I think there are biological drives that makes it inherently true. Through most cultures, men are the ones that are breadwinners. There are places where there have been long term matriarchy like native Americans, but even then, the men were in roles of hunting and protecting. However, in most things biological, it is advantageous to keep certain traits on the back burner in case situations change. This way we've an evolutionary back-up strategy. In terms of age pairings, I figure it's probably better if the man is a tad older but I have no strong opinion. Men's brain take longer to fully develop, so men are kinda playing on the backfoot until I think ~25 years old. I wouldn't want to date someone older than me, but I also feel I am pretty older (late 20's) for someone that would want to get married. Part of the reason you might be seeing big differences between secular and religious in regards to marriage and dating might also have to do with number of kids the couple desire. In more religious areas, they seem to want more kids. I guess to make it personal, I don't really care how much money my spouse brings to the table. Most women don't like to date men that make less than them but I guess it can happen. If it happened for me, I would consider it a net neutral. But for simple math, lets say I make 15$ a year. By myself, I have 15$ a year. If I get a spouse that also makes 15$ a year (we are both equal breadwinners), we have 30$ together. But divided by the number of people that the 30$ provides for, I am back to 15$ per person. Adding a child drops us to 10$ per person. For a lot of men, they don't see the benefit to giving up so much autonomy to have the same amount of money in the end, especially if the man doesn't want kids. "For instance, as you may have noticed, men often aren't encouraged by society to have jobs involving working with children, so statistically, men are less likely to be trained/socialize to be compassionate with children at the same level as women." I hate saying this, but men are often seen as weird or creepy even if they say something benign as that they like kids. There's stories that may or may not be true on reddit of men going out to the park with their daughters/sons and being stopped by random people. There's a hellva stereotype against men in this regard that I think most women are unaware of. "However, I feel that that may be mostly because women in general are encouraged by society to be more compassionate, especially towards those who are more vulnerable." I think in regards to their own children, women are typically better because the amount of bonding that the mother goes through while the baby is yet to be born. Men can't experience pregnancy like women. ._. I think that was everything. I'll try to answer any question.
The hook-up culture is reducing the marriage rate. Once people waited for a stable relationship before they became intimate. Desire was a motivator to get into a stable relationship.
But like one kid said in a magzine I read one time: "All the kids going out with each other... they're practicing for divorce rather than for marriage."
@@shattered115 Of course majority of men prefer casual sex with pretty woman but remember at the end woman is always the one who choosing if the sex will happen or not. Also majority of men has goal to create a family
I was married for 20y to a world conquering barbarian that made these characteristics sound dainty. She wanted to be married but not a wife; have kids but not be a mother. All ambition. But were she to have been a man, would’ve been a pretty defective one: no honor, no care umbrella for others etc. The bilateral attraction faded *very* quickly. Older now but finally with a feminine woman and it’s really nice. Only took me 60 years
@@igolark what is real feminism? It’s like saying real men or real women never do that. And where is that extinct quality people ? We know it exists but never see it.
@@atlantishorizon no harm from feminism which makes vvomen equal in terms of rights and responsibilities. The latter lacks in the modified version of it where vvomen are looking for superiority in rights but not responsibilities...
@@yodamida169 mmm you talk about the feminism not looking for equality in the modern times. Is it equality having the privilege to vote without any duties ? (men had to do some military service and they didn't pushed for women to be able to do the same) Is it equality shaming mens for not wanting to go to war? I'm not talking about if that these things are good or bad, I just want to remark that it has been always a grey matter which we tend to oversimplify
How do you move from being a short term thing to being a long term prospect? learn some basic feminine skills, learn how to cook food, understand nutrition, learn to clean the house, lean how to be a caregiver. As a hard working man I certainly do not want my children to be fed processed food and Coca-Cola while wearing dirty clothes and neglected in front of the tv by a woman who is scrolling Instagram or Facebook. This is the fate of many children the way women are so uneducated nowadays. Not mine.
Also respect your man and NOT provoke other men with their appearance. On social media /in public. You shouldnt be walking around with a for sale sign.
@@angiie008 That's a tough one in today's climate. I personally do not meet women in person anymore. I can see a nice chick in the supermarket and still ignore her. The reason for this in because I am not trying to be in relationship I'm just trying to get laid and a dating app makes that way more easier. I cant say that if a man approaches in a supermarket he has good intentions but I can guarantee you that 95% of the time dudes on dating apps are just trying to get laid. All in all, stay clear of dating apps, maybe join a club, go to church etc...
I’ve recently been dating women around my age, 36, and they’re the same NPC: liberal atheist with a bogus degree and conceal that they have kids. They all bring up politics on the first date. This video is accurate.
I'm engaged btw but what's wrong with a woman talking about politics? Obviously you don't want her to go on for hours on a political rant but a brief 5 minute conversation on politics isn't a big deal..I don't think. As long as she is feminine and asks about you and your likes and dislikes in life you shouldn't dismiss her if she talks about politics for a few minutes!
@@neilorourke71 They will have children and not be barren. As Alex stated, men don't really have standards 😃 and sleep with average women just for a once off. They won't be angry hun. Would you be furious just because you are single in your later lives ? 😨 Exactly. Women won't be angry or lonely as long as they have friends and children around them. 👍🌸
@@Georgia.J Because it's such a controversial subject, they should really have better social awareness than that. Unless she is aware of how talk of politics are perceived, and she just doesn't care. If that's the case that's not a good sign, because she isn't concerned with how her actions and words will come off or how they affect other people. It's just one of those things that you talk about after getting to know the person. Just like very personal things. You don't get really personal on the first date, right? If a guy dated you and the first things he talked about were his personal problems, you'd be turned off immediately, right? It's because they're such a huge beehive of problems and you don't know if this guy is decent or not, so it's uncomfortable and possibly confrontational. It's the same thing with politics.
@@theunknown-uv5ck For largely historical reasons. All of those traits are, in some way, competitive. If you graph things from competitive to cooperative, they are all on the more competitive and LESS COOPERATIVE side. It SHOULD be obvious to anyone why a competitive person needs their partner (whoever it might be) to be more on the COOPERATIVE end of things... or they'll always be fighting/arguing. Add children/kids to the mix, and it should be obvious why PEACE in the home is ESSENTIAL... not merely "desirable". Just as women evolved for some things, men evolved to be COMPETITIVE... and thus competitive traits are considered to be masculine. Look at very recent things... like an early 1900's era farmer... competing against hard ground, to plow it... weeds... pests... drought... Being a farmer was always a struggle, and likewise for being a hunter or herdsman (ie, cowboy). Also, not all workplaces require those traits... in fact, many of the ones which DON'T require it... have tended to be those which have been more predominantly female... like nursing, teaching, customer service, etc.
@@Nyet-Zdyes funny how when people explaining masculine always goes way back to cavemen era. My sir says girls are incompetent; they gossip a lot. But when l gave him examples of successful women, he is like they are acting like men... U see in cavemen era men protected their families against beasts and took part in war. Basic biology. If we look at the workplace today, workers requires skill that has nothing to do with physical strengths, in tertiary sector. Women have always been competitive over securing the best mate ie hypergamy. But when they were given the opportunity to work, they are being competitive in work. At present. Another thing is that in marriage,men expect women to be cheerleaders and all that but in return he doesn't support her passion, dream, career. Its not like the couple works in the same office for the same post, but still men want women to sacrifice everything. Women having CA or medical degrees quit practising because of her husband's wish. Its the case in developing countries. Tbh here housewives teach their daughters to earn money. Some fathers also have high expectations when they educate their daughters. Lets just say: if women are to be housewife-her life is like a lottery. Good husband will give her a good life, bad husband will turn it into hell. He will keep hurting her, but with nothing to bounce back on, the women are caged. Her family will never take her back. For her children and financial support, she continues to live in abusive relationship. Resulting in a viscous cycle of domestic violence where son learns from his father. Some working women are able to break free, but then men like you shame them by saying they act like men.
@@theunknown-uv5ck Calling those traits 'masculine' traits isn't something new. Those have been considered masculine traits going back to about the beginning of psychology... Freud, anyway... 70 years of SOCIAL development... education... does NOTHING to change biological EVOLUTION. For the question you asked, "why are those traits considered masculine", it's necessary to go back more then 70 years, and to understand WHY it happened, you need to go back much further. It's that simple. I don't shame women for being competitive in the work place... Some of my best bosses have been women. Tough women, too. My all-time favorite was a woman... while my LEAST favorite (the worst) was a man. But AFTER I get off work for the day... I do NOT want to come home to more competition. I want peace, harmony, cooperation... not a nag, much less a harpy... and NOT another boss, either. If she can't or won't be feminine at home, she's useless to me AT HOME... which means useless as a wife... no matter how good of a coworker she might be at work. If a woman is chasing a career, eventually, that career is going to come between us. More, her career will also decrease MY value TO HER. Her career will always be MY competition... competing for time, energy, etc... while adding STRESS to her life and thus mine. More, she'll probably want me to listen to her complain about her work, or the people... or what happened at work... "support her career"... just adding more stress, and putting me in a situation where I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't... a lose-lose situation.
I don't care how entitled a woman can think she is, what really matters to me, is that a person should have boundaries in a relationship based on respecting their partner too and most women are zero self-conscious about their mistakes and don't have self-control of their impulses.
One of the reasons why women like decisive men with a backbone is that in their hindbrain they know they need a man to reign in their craziness. Most women love the idea of being disciplined by a guy, the reverse is rarely true. Remember, the feminine is chaos.
@@fiveleavesleft6521 Problem is that lack of impulse control almost always causes them to already be damaged goods before they find that man who would discipline them, which is why there are almost no virgins on their side these days. And a man like that isn't going to settle for ran through women. In the old days it was their father who disciplined them until they found & married that guy. Now since that's out the door, it's a free for all. Even crazier is that even though most of them know that in their hindbrain, like you said, they still want freedom to mess around even if they find that guy. They want to have their cake & eat it too.
@@fiveleavesleft6521 _"Most women love the idea of being disciplined by a guy,"_ This is ABSOLUTELY untrue! I mean we know what wimmin want by their fantasies. _Fifty Shades of Grey_ for instance.. oh .. no wait..
I paused 5 seconds into this video to comment that this is probably the fastest I've seen someone get to the point, especially to the thumbnail which many click specifically for. Kudos
Yes, I agree. Well done. Some channels I watch take about 3:00 to get to the point - on every video. I just start drag right til the commercial & subscribe plea is over. It is refreshing to fire up a video and boom...you're into it.
Those are all manly traits they would look for in a guy. They’ve been socially conditioned to believe men and women are exactly the same and attractive traits are symmetrical
only men should be responsible?(is your ideal partner going to have access to an unlimited bank account?) independent? (a relationship means, both will depend on each other, but if women are to be subjec5 to being dependents,, are all men going to volunteer to pay extra taxes to give all women Universal income until they are married confident? else how would she even live before marriage?) confident? (yeah because it's good for humans to be insecure?) ambitious?(although ambition in itself can border on problematic), strong minded?(you think a weak minded person can go through this life? is your's a fairy tale? even Cinderella had to be strong willed to keep living and dare to go to the ball), adventurous? (women can't be adventurous?). Yeah I don't think these are male traits, when I think of men, what comes to mind include among these basic things, are strength, fortitude, stoic, brave, rational, dominant and so on. These characteristics listed in the video are a basic necessity for survival for any mammal. of course you find humans that possess opposite of these characteristics and they are the reason the world is messed up today.
@@STak-ju7gx On the whole, yes these are masculine traits, especially so if you read between the lines. Women are more social, solipsistic, and less independent than men. Why do you think money and muscles are attractive to women? Because they require protection and provisions from their man. Sounds like dependence to me. Confidence. Another masculine trait that women look for in men but men don’t look for in women. That shy socially awkward girl will have guys line up for her but not vice versa. Men need confidence in order to make something of themselves in the world else they will perish. Women just don’t need to do that because they can be taken care of. Responsibility. This means being in control and accountable for your actions, a masculine leader ideal. See female solipsism if you’re interested in the feminine duality. Ambitious. “A strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work.” Real close to the definition of masculinity. Strong minded. aka disagreeable. Another masculine trait. Men on average are less agreeable than women. It is feminine to be agreeable. Adventurous. Can you name a single great explorer who was a woman? Probably not. An adventurous person is brave and willing to tackle the unknowns and risks an adventure throws at them. Men are risk takers not women. Men are brave not women. Men are adventurous not women. In limited degree these traits might be “nice to haves” but they are not the primary criteria men seek in women. Those happen to be beauty, purity, kindness, youth, openness, and agreeableness.
A.G., so scary how accurate you are! As a mature man that has experienced relationships throughout the decades, you are spot on at what men in general seek at various stages from the opposite sex. The validations men give to women, starting with social media for example, only provides the false positives women in their 20's and 30's gain. It leads females down an unhealthy perception about themselves.
What she thinks it is vs. reality: - Independent -> Dependent on the State - Confident -> As long as she believes exactly what society demands to be the official doctrine, but at the same time believes she is a revolutionary. - Responsible -> Obedient to the system. - Ambitious -> Materialistic - Strong minded -> Drama queen, irrational. - Adventurous -> Promiscuous
"Independent", "Confident", "Strong Minded" means 1. Loud 2. Pushy 3. Talks about things she doesn't understand to make herself feel superior at your expense a) Continuation of the "guy as a buffoon" theme Then when the guy steps away from the unnecessarily annoying creature, he is "intimidated"
@Ronald Mcdonald yet no matter how "Strong, Independent, Confident, Etc." these Women are they will still expect Men to "Court" them. (their Money Is their Money, the Man's Money Is OUR Money) It's about Weaponizing/Monetizing Sex. did you see that Tik tok from that Female Divorce Lawyer Saying the Majority of her Clients who Initiated Divorce were Stay at Home Wives?
@@stopyourbullshit6231 I wouldn't even hire them for a job. Especially not for a job. Not unless the job is teacher, librarian, hospital staff or daycare and the applicant was nurturing. I wouldn't want their BS drama or complaints at a company if/when I start one. Environments where men & women work together are usually bad (accusations of harassment) and have all sorts of inefficiencies & distractions. Plus I've worked with many of them and see how they perform their job (lots of BS'ing, gossip, etc) and how a man in the same role does it. There are good ones sure, but from my experience those are few & far between. Not to mention the sense of entitlement they have and how they think they're bulletproof once they're hired. Screw all that.
I put females into three categories. First is the little girl category. This group unfortunately typically suffered some form of trauma and are unable to move past it and thus are stuck at that emotional level. Second comes those with a teenage mindset. Women in this group have a Disney princess mindset with a naive outlook about relationships. They have watched far too many romcoms and think men should know how to read their mind. Finally the third group is women. This is the smallest group of all. They are self aware, view men as a partner, are mature, are fun to be with and worthy of a relationship as they don’t play games. This also works for categorizing males: boys, teenagers and men..
Yeah, that's a good way of looking at it. I don't think that female nature is inherently as toxic as some men think, it's just that most "women" are girls or teenagers in adult bodies.
😂 Well, actually I end up o. This channel exactly because of that. I am looking for answers of why on earth a man, or many men as I see, have relationships with a masculine women.
@@ouiamelie there's feminine men out there too, my friend is a stay at home dad and his wife is a provider, they're both in a happy relationship. all the planning and difficult decisions she is making, because he don't want it and she's fine with it. It sounds funny, but yo, it works
It all started with the Western countries let's be honest. And now it's influencing the globe. Even in third world countries women are starting to have this mindset. More divorces and ruined relationships down the line.
Rest assured they instinctively know about their situation and their spoilement and entitlement but their behaviore is still on the sweet deniablity phase
They instinctively know but they have never had to care about what men actually need because they lived in abundance while in peak fertility. With hormonal contraception they can (ab)use their sexual dominance and also destroy their longterm prospects for a relationship.
Another reason than men's standards are low, and women's are high, is that there is generally less genetic/biological/behavioral variation (comparatively) in the female species. Pick any characteristic to test and the bell curve is very wide for men and very narrow for women. So this means that women need to be more discerning of the choices they make in partner to ensure they select the qualities they desire, whilst men can anticipate similar qualities in their choice of woman regardless of who they have chosen.
Let's compare it with the labour market: Can you hire the best chef in the city for your restaurant for 500USD/month? It would look like a ridiculously low wage, but you actually can... for a couple of hours a week. He's obiously not goint to work full-time for you if you offer so little in return. Same thing with dating market: if you're average, maybe you can be with a top 5% guy, but while sharing it with others. He's not going to commit full-time to you.
That's where you get all the catchy, fun sayings like: "Alpha seed, beta need." "Alpha fux, beta bux." "Alpha bangs, beta hangs." -- as in left hanging around, holding the bag when the deed is done... though I understand that some poor fellows are driven to the end of their proverbial ropes upon realizing the child isn't theirs and they're trapped for 18 years. "Alpha sex, beta next." If you want to go full gangsta: "Alpha bangs, beta thangs." And, of course, my own little gem: "Alpha screws, beta screwed." Don't be beta. Be better.
I find it hilarious how there's always something wrong with the other person. If you had a restaurant and there was nobody wanting to eat there you wouldn't criticise the potential customers you'd look at improving your dishes, the ambience of the restaurant etc. You wouldn't bang on that everyone can't handle your amazing restaurant
You've hit the nail on the head. I've met many 'women' who were more manly, aggressive, and opinionated then all of my male friends. We want the counter balance to our manliness.. not the concentrated, distorted version of the same. It's not that we are intimidated... we are repelled... we are not looking for someone to dominate, compete, and outdo us... it's the opposite to attraction... In terms of the low standards of men, again, spot on. It's embarrasing... i won't sleep with anyone who i'm not interested in long term. It's just not worth it.
Uhhhhg god that "men are intimidated by me" bullshit is so tiring. They seriously never learn, except more feel-good bullshit from their internet and news media echo-chamber. You nailed it. Men are REPULSED by this bitchy and masculine behavior.
Once again, here's more evidence of the disconnect. These women don't seem to get it: for decades now, you've been telling men the traits we should want in a woman. Not once did you think to ask us.
Although I don’t have the time and funding to research this topic my hypothesis is that ugly short men who use their wealth to bribe women into relationships are at increased odds of paternity fraud. The good looking men will options have increased likelihood of having tricked many husbands into raising his kids. The reason male model my do this is so they can reproduce and pass down their genes without having to provide or risk paying child support.
The word “single” means different things for men and women: Most men: lack of options, desperate. Women: holding out for Chad to commit, inundated with options that are not good enough for her.
Mr. Alexander Grace my friend you are doing a tremendous job for us men who are realizing the true importance of interpersonal relationships. Thank you ! & absolutely great content..
I've been feeling this way for sooooo long! Like, how can women not see that they usually (these days) are trying to be men to feel like they are "correct"? And of course, masculine men are not attracted to masculine women, and it seems obvious, but most women don't know that anymore.
@Nebula Nebula I'm assuming you were referring to me when you said "Go live alone then you delusional B". For what? Not being 'feminine"? Why is it that being myself offends you? Does it effect you? Do you know me? How do you know if I'm alone or not? Not all men want a 1950's housewife, and that's ok. You sound like you know what I want in a man because I'm female, you do not.
@Kai Riggs So how do you define feminine and masculine? Is it either makeup and high heels or pixie cuts with an aggressive attitude? It's there no middle ground? Must it be one extreme or the other? Is it not a spectrum?
It is unfortunate that in general, people tend to get wrapped up in their ego investments coupled with a wanting to be compensated for what they've endured as well as sunk cost fallacy. The woman has invested up to this point in certain actions, and so they are reluctant to take any advice regarding change, and will even attempt to get younger women to follow in her footsteps. She has lived this way to this point, and she wants to perceive that it was worth it.
Desirable traits: Empathy, compassion, willingness to listen and engage in conversation, a desire to learn and grow, a partnership mentality, being supportive, loving, and fostering a peaceful, low-stress environment.
To all you female lurkers here. (and there are lots). You don't look better at 35 than you did at 25. You're entitled to your own opinion, but you aren't entitled to your own facts
I love when women tell me they have a degree or a career thats my favorite, like I care at all about that. Ladies those things are actually huge red flags about how pleasant of a person you are.
Well I am just reacting to the thumbnail real quick. The funny and also the very sad reality is that 'weak-minded people' just needs to constantly prove themselves and lie to themselves to compensate their own insecurities instead of dealing with them. So what that chart actually says is what are they the most insecure about .. because they are lacking it. So you can put NOT in front of each of those and you get how they actually view themselves deep inside.
The thing is women look for alternatives to average men in terms of relationship.Toys,dogs,LGBT and other things.Man would never consider an alternative to average woman! Also,women look for disqualifiers in a man,while men look for the qualities in women first.People that don't operate like that exist,nevertheless they are very tiny minority and they are not neurotypical.
4:12 that is so disgusting, i hope if the "nice" guy discovers this he throws her out of his life without anything, she should go live on the street with her kid to regret her actions, using someone like this is beyond evil.
I hope that deterrence mechanism you are describing, increased the disatvantage of not having the father being the dude to raise the kid. That would have caused evolution to make this disgusting strategy less prominent.
They're so strong and independant and yet they thrive off of male attention and ressources. Whoemen screw around thei 20s with partying, wild fun, bad boys, then all of a sudden expect a good traditional responsible man to come get with them in their 30-40s to recover the pieces.
Absolutely loved this video. This reminded me of Aba&Preach's take on this exact topic, and you completed it with class! As Kevin Samuels somewhat coined the definition of "high value man" in an ideal man with a very high societal and economic status able to provide and protect a woman who biologically fully projects her hypergamy, I'd dare coining the definition of a "high value woman", ideal for what men biologically crave for. That is: motherly, fertile, kind, beautiful, intelligent, submissive, home-caring, peaceful, honest and innocent. Of course, not everyone can achieve getting a high value partner, but the majority of us still look for those qualities, even if the catch is by compromising on a few things. The duality of masculinity and femininity is what is essential for humans to not only survive, but to also pass on for healthy offspring. The more that decreases on a mass level, the worse the outcomes. Alexander, definitely collab with Aba&Preach one day, loved this video!
Im glad you added honesty to that list, character does matter looking at a woman for partnership. Character will also predict her behavior, her previous body count etc etc
"duality" carefull of this word when you use it for masculinity and femininity. we can use duality for somethings and some other thinks better we use non-duality.
KS did not coin the term, women have been using it for years beforehand. That's why KS uses the term, because a lot of his show involves talking to women.
Face it guys, millions of women don't want any man who isn't up to their expectations. Why keep making videos about it. Yes they will be single but thats their choice. They will live with whatever consequences there are. No point in trying to fix them. You guys just go on and live your life.
They're describing the traits they want in a man, and assuming that men want the same thing. No, we want loyal, respectful, caring. Independent = Self-absorbed Confident = Obnoxious Responsible = Responsible to her actions or her feelings? Ambitious = Wants to wear the trousers Strong-minded = Argumentative Adventurous = Exhausting money pit
What about the huge number of women I meet that fit into neither group? As for the 6 characteristics I have never seen a woman not fold when SHTF and all of those evaporate.
A lot of women, I've learned, think they understand men from talking about them with their female friends, female relatives and complete strangers also female. Few actually want to talk to men about men. Result: complete failure when dating.
I’ve met so many women who claim to be adventurous and independent who are anything but. Their idea of adventure is being pampered in a comfy hotel in Paris, and independent as simply being anti children. I do my adventures alone or with my little one, 99% of women don’t like real adventure.
When my father's girlfriend fell in love with my father, she was fantasizing about going on sailing adventures with him. Then when they actually sailed together, she was miserable and hated it. Agree, although "independent" can also mean "I don't care about my partner's needs, I do what I want."
A big thing that was missing from this otherwise good presentation is that not only are marriage-material and fun-girl categories distinct, the behaviors that make you more valuable in one category make you less valuable in the other. So you can't get your in by being a fun girl and then expect to somehow evolve that into marriage. If you start doing nice girl things, you'll cease to be fun, and the more wild and crazy you are, the more you demonstrate that you're not an appropriate woman to marry. And if you do somehow manipulate him into marriage (perhaps with a baby trap), it's not going to last. Women used to understand this, and developed rigidly enforced social conventions to protect themselves as a group from falling for the easy road which ultimately led nowhere. And they also understood that a ready supply of reasonably respectable fun girls broke the "sex cartel," and made those high-quality men much less willing to give up the candy and commit to one of the good girls. Before the feminists broke the sex cartel, it really wasn't very easy for men to be philanderers, as there just weren't that many available women that were socially acceptable to be seen with. Women really don't understand how much power they collectively gave away by doing this.
The “Fun Guy” vs The “Fund Guy”…….. get a DNA test before signing any birth certificate fellas……you need to determine paternity no matter what she is to you. Married men ask your lawyer if paternity testing can be use as for grounds for divorce. And! Tell young boys early so they don’t get duped in the prime of their lives.🤯🤯🤯🤨🇯🇲
@@DennisNeijmeijer that’s wonderful. However, there is a whole bunch of brothers, sisters, cousins, uncles and aunts having relations but DNA testing would bring all the secrets families running around behind the scenes to the forefront. Icelandic 🇮🇸 people developed this ancestry App to see how far removed they’re from the person their about to have relations with. It’s evident today, men and women don’t trust each other so paternity testing is to protect the child and actual donor.
They always make the mistake of thinking we want from them, what they want from us. Independent? Strong-minded? Overly confident. Really just sounds like a lot of headaches and arguments to me. I’d much rather see submissive and cooperative…
@@camembert147 They go hand-in-hand. If she's not submissive and she doesn't accept your leadership in the relationship, you're going to have problems down the line. Constantly bumping heads with a "strong and independent" woman, is not fun.
@@tizodd6 A marriage is a team, not a dominant-dominated relationship. The goal is to cooperate and compromise, not for one to overpower the other. In every era women have always rebelled against men who want to subjugate them. Besides, the traditional role that we associate with the submissive woman who stays at home is very recent and came with the modernization and it is developed in the 50s. Otherwise before, during the Middle Ages and the Renaissance, women had much more important roles. The woman dominated the home because she took care of it and the man the work. The woman decided on the education of the children and their marriage. In fact, each of them dominate different role
@@camembert147 Ah...you think you're going to have a "partnership". Consider this: you say marriage is a team, right? Does a team not have a coach? A team leader? When I say she follows your lead, I'm not suggesting you be a tyrant and she has no say in anything. I'm saying, as a man, you're expected to lead your household. You're the quarterback of your "team". You're the coach. Etc. In the end though...it's your life. Run it how you want. But I can tell you from experience that a woman will slowly (or quickly) lose respect for a male who isn't strong enough to lead.
@@tizodd6 A team of two does not need a coach but needs to help each other. An adult, male or female, who does not know how to be independent or make decisions is a failure as an adult. And as I said before, the idea that the man should run the house is very recent. Before women dominated the home and men the outside. (I'm talking mostly about the nobles, the peasants, both men and women, all worked). Each one dominated the domain that suited him and it was very good, changing this way of life was a bad idea.
"What you are seeing are the top six lies that single women age 30 to 45 associate with themselves". What Alexander should of said. In a way they are kind of independent though in a messed up way.
It's okay to be independent but not okay to be aloof, self-indulgent, autocratic or undisciplined. It's okay to be confident but not okay to be arrogant, narcissistic, pushy or puffed up. It's okay to be responsible but not okay to be controlling, compulsive or guilt-driven. It's okay to be ambitious but not okay to be aggressive, critical or self-aggrandizing. It's okay to be strong-minded but not okay to be adamant, rigid, pig-headed or recalcitrant. It's okay to be adventurous but not okay to be reckless, foolhardy or rash.
Almost all of them view it as our duty to surpass them. While on the other hand asking legs up and handicap men. And then get mad we eventually can't manage so easily. So they loose interest in the clipped birds and go for someone else
I had a girlfriend, a jowel. She was aware of our difference and as long as I behaved like a man, she behaved like a woman. She told me that she felt so great with me because I acted like a man so she could be a full woman. That's just logical but today it's so hard to find them.
Sadly in most cases. Independent = karen confident = karen responsible = certainly more so than me ambitious = karen strong- minded = karen adventurous = never met one.
To women struggling with men, you just need to lower you physical standards a bit, and be less superficial. Maybe try giving that dude who's 5'8 a chance, or try going out with that Asian/Indian dude, or maybe try not dismissing off dudes who don't look like super-models from the get go. I understand going against your biology could be really tough, but give it a try if you are that sad being single/being ghosted after a ONS with the hot dude
They would rather be pumped and dumped by the supermodels then be with someone in their league. If they want a provider then they have the British government and onlyfans. To further prove my point woman renamed polygamy to polyamory because the word polygamy sounds to patriarchal. They changed the English language just so top tear male models can practice polygamy without getting the negative patriarchal reputation. See they love male models so much they are willing to change the language just for them.
@@grizzlybear2702 I know this very well, especially with the current trends. This was catered to those who still think they are entitled to a monogamous relationship
@@justanobody1503 Only the males unfortunately. How many couples with an asian father and a white mother do you see? How many vice-versa? There you have your answer
"associate with themselves" there you go, this explains that this isnt the qualities they have, these are their delusions. most women are not independent in any shape or form, and the tons of insecurities doesnt give much room for confidence.
A girl I know from yrs ago, we used to flirt etc..she started flirting again with me recently. She has two children by different dads, points the finger at them for the decline in the relationship, wants me to chase her, yet all I see is her going out drinking all the time. With no redeeming features. It’s a common trait of women in their 40s, they have no faults, still think they are quality, drink heavily, can’t converse, have no femininity, no sexual desire, no nurturing qualities, no compassion etc. I’ve no doubt plenty of men out there are no prize, but it’s no surprise when the thirsty guy is just after a hump.
Kind, endearing, strong, responsible, funny, hard working, loyal, intelligent, down to earth, and has great morals. You're right, that's my husband to a 'T'. o.O
Not only are women confusing their short term vs. long term value. They are damaging their long-term value by getting suckered into sleeping around to get validation
Your videos are the best out there on the various topics of gender dynamics and dating. Keep them coming man. All women need to to watch your videos. You're fighting the good fight man. If more people start to understand the concepts you are explaining, perhaps there's hope for humanity. We need a rest button...
I think thats the key here, "Compensation". I dont know how many times I've heard a woman say something like, "Men cant handle a strong, independent woman". Thats the line they tell themselves to soften the harsh reality and Its called Cognitive dissonance. The truth is men are just as attracted to a genuinely strong independent woman as they are to all the other women(who be default fall into the not strong and independent category). Women like this are lying to themselves because the truth is brutal and the truth is, men dont want anything to do with them because they're simply obnoxious. They have so much baggage and anger towards men that any man who has any sense at all will give them a wide berth. Thats why men will go for younger women because they're fun and dont have that baggage, its not simply because they're young and attractive, its because of their attitude to life. But those so called strong, independent women will never turn and face themsleves, as those hard questions. They wont do this because it would require a complete shift in how they see the world and men and its easier and more comfortable to believe the problem is in men and not themselves.
When you bump into a girl that you are not interested, just portray yourself as the stuffs that girls won't want or hate in a man. Eg. Pretend to be poor. Saves a lot of trouble for yourself.
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Well marriage is the thing of the past. There is absolutely no reason why a man should get married nowadays. Even if all these women change, and they become feminine, well it's to late for them, they still aren't virgins.
@Meddlecat I've heard multiple men say they've had bad experiences with girls with that name, I hope this isn't a pattern😳😳
Being im 51 most of what you talk about i already know. Im here for my daughters. To help them find and keep a man for when im gone. One thing i think you should cover( i have not seen you address it) is that women make their selections mostly subconsciously. Same for men. We aren't really aware of alot of our selections. Being intentional is the key that's finding someone. Intentional in who you are and intentional in who and how you choose. I think this would be a great series for young men who are becoming bitter and women who are lost as to what men want.
@HUMAN PERSON. Are what exactly? Virgins?
If that's the case then good for you. I hope you stay that way until marriage and find a good man that will take care of you. But you must admit that women like that are rare nowadays.
@@AradijePresveti Maybe you're from a different culture than Ocidental, but marriage is still important in a religious sense
I ran a business that employed mostly women, so I interviewed hundreds of them over the years. Two essential qualities I looked for were COMPASSION (ambitious driven types couldn't even define the word) and COACHABILITY (defiant, power-oriented types quickly revealed a strong resistance to being coached). One of the things that surprised me was how often a young women would carry an attitude of "I am the prize" into the interview, as if we were vibing at the club and she had the power of choice. The job was the prize and she needed to earn it.
Yeah, it seems like they live on their own universe, most women lack self awareness on a dangerous magnitude, and is men's and feminism's fault.
I think the same holds in the dating market. If it is just sex, women are the prize and they can afford the hard to get attitude, doesn’t work for relationships though. If a woman wants to get a relationship, she needs to be the humble one.
@@jimjohnson394 once a woman sees herself as the prize, she can't let that go. She'll expect a man to work for her commitment just like he worked to bed her. She doesn't see that feeding her queen-sized ego was only a ploy to open her legs. Once his sexual conquest is complete, time to move on.
Yup, crazy they don’t see it. I guess that’s what happens when you look at something with emotional eyes rather than with logic
interesting take on it …. and so true too…
Women handles dates and relationship like job interview. Just look at those traits: Independent, Confident, Responsible, Ambitious, strong-minded. These are perfect traits for a job interview and not so much for a date.
Agreed
And treat their partner as a job. When they get a better job they leave the old one
@@mintubania6006 you couldn't have said it any better
I think it's more of a childish "If I like then everyone will like it". In other words Alexander mentioned it as "women think men will like them for the same qualities they like men". It also coincides with better acceptance of women's flaws, which allows them to carry more childish mentality in adulthood. The correlation with the interview is also applies, but more as correlation not the reason, because such requirements are appearing later in life and working as reinforcing stimulus. Of course, it's personal opinion and I want to hear your theory
I'd want my partner to be independent and responsible. The rest is a bonus at best.
Being an insufferable woman with masculine energy is not an asset.
You made that too complicated:
1) Being an insufferable woman is not an asset.
2) Being a woman with masculine energy is not an asset.
@@normanrogers6092 you literally made it more complicated
Over-complicating everything is not an asset.
@@Rock_N_R8ll But identifying a true asset is overly complicated.
The funny thing is, these women tend to think that men value the same traits THEY value in men. No, we don't. Most of us want to be with a woman who's in her feminine energy, who's kind, charming, sociable, loving, attractive - even if she works as the Starbucks barista. Independence and success is a GREAT bonus, but it isn't going to make a masculine man swoon over you.
She thinks she is a real woman that men can't handle....in reality she is a mere by product of modern society
Women were never told that taking on masculine traits makes them disgusting to most men
They are incapable of viewing reality outside of their own myopic lense
Meanwhile horses and the mentally handicapped get handlers
I am a real man who is kind, curvy, soft spoken, submissive and likes to get dominated in bed. Women don't date me because they cannot handle a real man like me.
@@normalohio8421 💀 LMFAOOO.
"Worlds most abundant resource is thirsty men."
LOL! That was great!
Get out of the West, for so many reasons, but once out of the West, the world's most abundant resource is young women in need of a good man. Conflating the USA and Western Europe with "The world" is just plain silly and ignorant. He needs to get out more. Conflating the situation in the West with "A planet full of men" is a provincial view. In the East, for example, good capable men have their choice. It is a complete role reversal from the West.
@@aphilippinesadventure9184 not true, men are even more thirtsty in the places such as the middle east
@@gailan8393 hmm...middle east and Islamic places not included in my observation. I live in the east. In the middle east, access to women is controlled by a repressive power structure. Not so in the rest of asia. In East Asia, a good man has his pick of women. I know this based on what I experience every day.
Thirsty men are worthless because of their abundance.
Thirsty men = Simps.
men say: "I cant find any woman" --> nada, not even ugly Betty wants him
woman: "I cant find any men" --> Leonardo DiCaprio is taken again.
High IQ.
“I can’t find a man” = chad doesn’t want anything long term.
That bastard Leonardo, and he only goes for the young ones!
@@defonein6157 No, high standards don't HAVE to be about looks and status... but when it's a WOMAN with "high standards", they seem to always INCLUDE looks and status... starting with 2 of the three 6's.
Six feet tall, plus...
six-figure income.
😂
Lmao
Independent? Don't care
Confident? Sure, but let's not confuse that with obnoxious
Responsible? Yep, that's a plus
Ambitious? Can't care less
Strong-minded? Define that. Are you gonna be a nice challenge to contend with or u r just stubborn?
Adventurous? Translation: I've been ran through. That's a big minus.
Ambitious- Money-minded sellout
@@thefreethinker6176 exactly, more likely to seek out a richer man, or exploit the system to gain your assets.
Sounds like masculine traits. Like a guy wearing a pink dress and talking with a high pitched voice. Imagine him approaching women like that :lol:
Yeah I agree with you, the only thing I care about on that list is responsible, the rest are pretty meh to me. I'd rather have: leaves me alone, kind , and feminine than the other 4 you listed.
Hey, I am single mother and i think it is trait of responsibility
The older a man gets, the more he begins to understand women, the less he cares for women or forming relationships. There's no malice behind it. Men operate from a cost benefit mentality.
Return on investment can be low and the peace some bring with the entitled mindset is just hard work..
cope
Their bodies are great, but almost all of them have brains that are straight up hypergamous, malignant malware... Most are "easily bored" and can never be happy or satisfied.
Facts
Prince Revolver: Exactly where I am in life. 42 now. Been married, divorced, in multiple lesser relationships. So there's no "cope" like Shogakukan seems to believe. I'm sure there are some guys who can't get w0m3n, but many of us just choose to not be bothered with it all. It's really about realizing how ultimately unimportant a relationship is to me. And also, when I look back on my life...relationships have been the source of so much drama and headaches in my life.
Being solo, I have peace. No drama. No nagging. No arguing. I'm having less s3x now sure, but I've had enough over the years. Plus, the drive isn't nearly as strong as it was when I was in my teens-thirties.
I actually had conversation with a female friend the other day in regards to men shooting their shot. She complained about how guys mistook her kindness for wanting to be with them. Which is fair. I also explained that the average guy will take a chance if he sees an opportunity given the lack of attention men get compared to the opposite sex. Which also suggests women understand how far being kind to a man can go but can't process why men lose interest when they display the exact opposite of being kind.
Most men rarely receive active interest from women. So if your perceived options are 0, you have to make your own opportunities.
Women may hate it, but until the dynamic shifts, that's the way it has to be.
There's a lot of bullcrap out there. That's for sure.
That's what I experience, as well. I'll talk to a girl and she thinks I'm interested in her.
Funny men abuse kind people they like women that can fight
I had single female friends complain about how men start conversations on dating apps. They complain about: "Hi" or "You're beautiful" "How are you?". Saying that it lacks substances. YEA - it's a conversation starter - it's supposed to lack substance. If we spent time making a custom message for each girl we'd be wasting our time because most of them don't reply. Their entitlement is absurd. It's that whole "Yassss queen" mentality.
As a seventeen year-old girl, this is actually super helpful.
Awesome!
Stay safe out there
embrace your inner femininity and you will find the man you desire.
Good luck. I hope life treats you well.
Don't take dating advice from other women.
I went on a date last night. We started talking about feminism. She spent five minutes railing about the destruction of proper relationships and how we’re killing femininity and masculinity….I just sat the whole time smiling….We have a second date tomorrow.
how'd it turn out?
We’re still together and I’ve never been happier. Things are going really well….What a great lass 🙂
@@Rogue_Trooper970 Good news in the UA-cam comment section!?!?!? What is this strange reality.
@@letztersohndesabendlandes7471 I know right? Patience finally pays off lol
Needle in a haystack, I'm happy for you, my friend.
Marrying a woman these days (especially in Australia) is like finding a semi-hibernating Tiger Snake and taking it home with the intention of trying to tame it.... and then later wondering why you got bitten.
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@@unknownchannel3141 Thanks
Don’t marry them just be in a relationship with them till y’all are old. Aussie chicks seem pretty superficial tbh that’s a shame, cuz they’re real beautiful over there.
@@moonknight4053 The beautiful ones are actually in the minority. We have LOTS of fatties here.
@@JJ-wi2uw I don’t mind me a thick girl tbh, just not too big. But that’s a shame bro, I prefer a shyer type of girl.. Aussie sounds cactus as bro
Guys are simple. We want fit, friendly, cooperative women. Our belly full, good sex and most importantly peace of mind (the concept seems to elude today's women).
Peace of mind doesn't even look like a thing anymore, people are crazyy
Feminine women also...
It's over for you. Give up
elude.
Interesting concept, I was talking to a lady friend the other day and looking back, as a man I never nag or ask anything from my partner or bring up an argument ever, if I need anything I’ll just figure it out myself and really I don’t find arguing of any value, but for some reason it’s always the wife or girlfriends that either complains about something and requires us to fix it, it’s as if they can’t just be happy for even 24 hours... and even when you fix or solve whatever issue they have, they will just come up with some new 💩...
Solipsism, Cognitive Dissonance, Selfishness, and Delusion.
Tick. tick, tick and tick. You forgot Entitlement.
Sounds like a really clueless narcissist.
...and all men want is peace.
Hypergamy, drama, nagging... they are great at this.
Trying to teach women to be attracted to good men who treat them well and going to be a good father is like teaching lions to eat grass...
nice guy bs
but isn't that what most women want stop chasing that 2% into hook ups or tying down a rich men
Teaching a woman to be attracted to a good man takes a good man as a father in the home.
Yeah, that is because you are trying to teach them to go against their biology/instinctive sexual attraction. Sexual attraction requires a specific set of traits for both men and women, and long term stability requires a different set of traits. Most 'nice guys' would make good long term partners, but they tend to fail because they lack sexual attractiveness due to being too wimpy and submissive.
On the other hand, the 'jerks' are sexually attractive to women due to possessing the sexually attractive traits (assertive, bold, confidence, dominant etc), but they make poor long term partners due to being selfish, irresponsible, unreliable etc, and generally just lacking the good traits that nice guys have.
So if you, as a man, want to be the ultimate prize for women, you need to posses both the sexually attractive traits, as well as the nice guy traits. So self development is a must. If you are a nice guy, go to the gym, lift weights, eat healthy food, get more hobbies that get you outside doing exercise (cycling, rock climbing, kayaking etc), learn boxing/MMA, and above all, focus on developing your confidence and self esteem by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. If you do that, while maintaining the nice guy traits, you wont have any problems attracting high value women.
Being a nice guy is worthless to women if they perceive you as a loser. You need to raise your value and change their perception.
Had a discussion with my roommate (female) the other day about this. Overall, men don't care about successful, business oriented women. Some men think it's whatever. Others are against it (for a partner). The same goes for independence, strong willed and other male traits. This is because, by and large, most dudes don't want to constantly fight, negotiate and deal with aggression in a female partner.
Personally, I want to have kids, so I want a wife that can stay at home to raise them. At least for their formative years. Because of this, I don't want a high powered business women with huge work ambitions. I feel like I'm not allowed to say this out loud anymore
You're fine to say it. It's not your fault that women that you want are in low supply.
So I guess my main question then would be, why do you feel that it has to be her who stays home? Why can't it be you? Is it because your religious beliefs teach you that men are supposed the be the breadwinners, or do you have secular motivations?
@@technoloverish Well, most women don't want to "date down" like men. Fundamentally, men and women value different things in partners. It's cliché but women like men that make more money than them and fiscally stable. Men prefer younger(prettier) women that are kind and agreeable.
There's been many relationships that end if the husband stops being the provider.
Lastly, being able to stay home and take care of the kids is a gift. I've known many dads and potential fathers that love their kids and wish they could be the ones to stay with them instead of the 9am-5pm bs. Women typically have more compassion for their children than men. There's things women give to children that men struggle to provide to them. Women more so than men take pleasure from their familial connections in their overall happiness.
I know this has been... less than succinct and tangential to boot, but there's nothing wrong with embracing femininity. If a woman wants to be a career woman that's fine to, but there will be trade offs to that choice.
@@W0lfMan26
Thanks for your reply!
So to follow up, I guess my first question to you is, with regards to the general differences between who men and women prefer as romantic partners, do you see those differences as inherently true for all men and women, or do you see them more as things that are generally true with a few exceptions? For instance, a minority of men and women are gay and lesbian, and an even smaller minority are asexual. Also, how common do you think those stereotypes are in Western culture? In my own personal experience, for example, most men and women are with people their own age or slightly older or slightly younger, and most men and women who are in relationships these days in the West are both breadwinners for the family. I personally feel like the stereotype that you're talking about is less common in the more secular parts of society and more common in the parts of society that are more religious. I also feel that it might seem more common than it really if most of one's dating experience is on Tinder or other dating apps.
So in terms of women typically having more compassion for their children than men, yes, generally-speaking, women tend to be more compassionate with children than men. However, I feel that that may be mostly because women in general are encouraged by society to be more compassionate, especially towards those who are more vulnerable. For instance, as you may have noticed, men often aren't encouraged by society to have jobs involving working with children, so statistically, men are less likely to be trained/socialize to be compassionate with children at the same level as women. I think men's compassion with children and such might be more like that of women if they weren't discouraged as much from taking daycare jobs, teaching jobs, etc.
Anyway, hope that all makes sense, and thanks again for your response:)
@@technoloverish Okay, on my computer so I can quote things now. "do you see those differences as inherently true for all men and women, or do you see them more as things that are generally true with a few exceptions?" 1st off, I'm co-opping out. I think there are biological drives that makes it inherently true. Through most cultures, men are the ones that are breadwinners. There are places where there have been long term matriarchy like native Americans, but even then, the men were in roles of hunting and protecting. However, in most things biological, it is advantageous to keep certain traits on the back burner in case situations change. This way we've an evolutionary back-up strategy.
In terms of age pairings, I figure it's probably better if the man is a tad older but I have no strong opinion. Men's brain take longer to fully develop, so men are kinda playing on the backfoot until I think ~25 years old. I wouldn't want to date someone older than me, but I also feel I am pretty older (late 20's) for someone that would want to get married.
Part of the reason you might be seeing big differences between secular and religious in regards to marriage and dating might also have to do with number of kids the couple desire. In more religious areas, they seem to want more kids.
I guess to make it personal, I don't really care how much money my spouse brings to the table. Most women don't like to date men that make less than them but I guess it can happen. If it happened for me, I would consider it a net neutral. But for simple math, lets say I make 15$ a year. By myself, I have 15$ a year. If I get a spouse that also makes 15$ a year (we are both equal breadwinners), we have 30$ together. But divided by the number of people that the 30$ provides for, I am back to 15$ per person. Adding a child drops us to 10$ per person. For a lot of men, they don't see the benefit to giving up so much autonomy to have the same amount of money in the end, especially if the man doesn't want kids.
"For instance, as you may have noticed, men often aren't encouraged by society to have jobs involving working with children, so statistically, men are less likely to be trained/socialize to be compassionate with children at the same level as women." I hate saying this, but men are often seen as weird or creepy even if they say something benign as that they like kids. There's stories that may or may not be true on reddit of men going out to the park with their daughters/sons and being stopped by random people. There's a hellva stereotype against men in this regard that I think most women are unaware of.
"However, I feel that that may be mostly because women in general are encouraged by society to be more compassionate, especially towards those who are more vulnerable." I think in regards to their own children, women are typically better because the amount of bonding that the mother goes through while the baby is yet to be born. Men can't experience pregnancy like women.
._. I think that was everything. I'll try to answer any question.
The hook-up culture is reducing the marriage rate. Once people waited for a stable relationship before they became intimate. Desire was a motivator to get into a stable relationship.
But like one kid said in a magzine I read one time: "All the kids going out with each other... they're practicing for divorce rather than for marriage."
Hook-up culture is for women only.
Coz large majority of men are sex less nowadays.
@jay monty I have met very few men who wouldn't take a hook-up with a pretty woman if it were offered.
@@shattered115 Of course majority of men prefer casual sex with pretty woman but remember at the end woman is always the one who choosing if the sex will happen or not. Also majority of men has goal to create a family
I was married for 20y to a world conquering barbarian that made these characteristics sound dainty. She wanted to be married but not a wife; have kids but not be a mother. All ambition. But were she to have been a man, would’ve been a pretty defective one: no honor, no care umbrella for others etc. The bilateral attraction faded *very* quickly. Older now but finally with a feminine woman and it’s really nice. Only took me 60 years
Things that r really unattractive in women:
1.feminist
2.independent
3.mean
4.fat
5.super active on social media
Agree
nah, real feminism is not as bad as you think
@@igolark what is real feminism? It’s like saying real men or real women never do that. And where is that extinct quality people ? We know it exists but never see it.
@@atlantishorizon no harm from feminism which makes vvomen equal in terms of rights and responsibilities. The latter lacks in the modified version of it where vvomen are looking for superiority in rights but not responsibilities...
@@yodamida169 mmm you talk about the feminism not looking for equality in the modern times. Is it equality having the privilege to vote without any duties ? (men had to do some military service and they didn't pushed for women to be able to do the same)
Is it equality shaming mens for not wanting to go to war?
I'm not talking about if that these things are good or bad, I just want to remark that it has been always a grey matter which we tend to oversimplify
How do you move from being a short term thing to being a long term prospect? learn some basic feminine skills, learn how to cook food, understand nutrition, learn to clean the house, lean how to be a caregiver. As a hard working man I certainly do not want my children to be fed processed food and Coca-Cola while wearing dirty clothes and neglected in front of the tv by a woman who is scrolling Instagram or Facebook. This is the fate of many children the way women are so uneducated nowadays. Not mine.
Also respect your man and NOT provoke other men with their appearance. On social media /in public. You shouldnt be walking around with a for sale sign.
How introvert women can meet men without dating app?
@@angiie008 That's a tough one in today's climate. I personally do not meet women in person anymore. I can see a nice chick in the supermarket and still ignore her. The reason for this in because I am not trying to be in relationship I'm just trying to get laid and a dating app makes that way more easier. I cant say that if a man approaches in a supermarket he has good intentions but I can guarantee you that 95% of the time dudes on dating apps are just trying to get laid. All in all, stay clear of dating apps, maybe join a club, go to church etc...
@@W93h3753mwesley
So are you Muslim?
@@technoloverish She shouldn't walk around with a for-sale sign especially in this era. Muslim or not.
I’ve recently been dating women around my age, 36, and they’re the same NPC: liberal atheist with a bogus degree and conceal that they have kids. They all bring up politics on the first date. This video is accurate.
I pray for cats not yet born that will have to endure the incoming tsunami of angry, barren middle aged women
Women talk of politics? In Italy it's litterally impossible
I'm engaged btw but what's wrong with a woman talking about politics? Obviously you don't want her to go on for hours on a political rant but a brief 5 minute conversation on politics isn't a big deal..I don't think.
As long as she is feminine and asks about you and your likes and dislikes in life you shouldn't dismiss her if she talks about politics for a few minutes!
@@neilorourke71 They will have children and not be barren. As Alex stated, men don't really have standards 😃 and sleep with average women just for a once off.
They won't be angry hun. Would you be furious just because you are single in your later lives ? 😨 Exactly.
Women won't be angry or lonely as long as they have friends and children around them. 👍🌸
@@Georgia.J Because it's such a controversial subject, they should really have better social awareness than that. Unless she is aware of how talk of politics are perceived, and she just doesn't care. If that's the case that's not a good sign, because she isn't concerned with how her actions and words will come off or how they affect other people. It's just one of those things that you talk about after getting to know the person. Just like very personal things.
You don't get really personal on the first date, right? If a guy dated you and the first things he talked about were his personal problems, you'd be turned off immediately, right? It's because they're such a huge beehive of problems and you don't know if this guy is decent or not, so it's uncomfortable and possibly confrontational. It's the same thing with politics.
When I first saw the graph, I thought to myself: “Ok…so these are the top 6 attributes single women ages 30-45 associate with MEN”
Why are the traits required to excel at workplace labelled as masculine? Is aiming for successful career is for the male population only?
@@theunknown-uv5ck For largely historical reasons.
All of those traits are, in some way, competitive.
If you graph things from competitive to cooperative, they are all on the more competitive and LESS COOPERATIVE side.
It SHOULD be obvious to anyone why a competitive person needs their partner (whoever it might be) to be more on the COOPERATIVE end of things... or they'll always be fighting/arguing.
Add children/kids to the mix, and it should be obvious why PEACE in the home is ESSENTIAL... not merely "desirable".
Just as women evolved for some things, men evolved to be COMPETITIVE... and thus competitive traits are considered to be masculine.
Look at very recent things... like an early 1900's era farmer... competing against hard ground, to plow it... weeds... pests... drought...
Being a farmer was always a struggle, and likewise for being a hunter or herdsman (ie, cowboy).
Also, not all workplaces require those traits... in fact, many of the ones which DON'T require it... have tended to be those which have been more predominantly female... like nursing, teaching, customer service, etc.
@@Nyet-Zdyes funny how when people explaining masculine always goes way back to cavemen era.
My sir says girls are incompetent; they gossip a lot.
But when l gave him examples of successful women, he is like they are acting like men... U see in cavemen era men protected their families against beasts and took part in war.
Basic biology.
If we look at the workplace today, workers requires skill that has nothing to do with physical strengths, in tertiary sector.
Women have always been competitive over securing the best mate ie hypergamy. But when they were given the opportunity to work, they are being competitive in work. At present.
Another thing is that in marriage,men expect women to be cheerleaders and all that but in return he doesn't support her passion, dream, career. Its not like the couple works in the same office for the same post, but still men want women to sacrifice everything. Women having CA or medical degrees quit practising because of her husband's wish. Its the case in developing countries. Tbh here housewives teach their daughters to earn money. Some fathers also have high expectations when they educate their daughters. Lets just say: if women are to be housewife-her life is like a lottery. Good husband will give her a good life, bad husband will turn it into hell. He will keep hurting her, but with nothing to bounce back on, the women are caged. Her family will never take her back. For her children and financial support, she continues to live in abusive relationship. Resulting in a viscous cycle of domestic violence where son learns from his father.
Some working women are able to break free, but then men like you shame them by saying they act like men.
@@theunknown-uv5ck Calling those traits 'masculine' traits isn't something new. Those have been considered masculine traits going back to about the beginning of psychology... Freud, anyway...
70 years of SOCIAL development... education... does NOTHING to change biological EVOLUTION.
For the question you asked, "why are those traits considered masculine", it's necessary to go back more then 70 years, and to understand WHY it happened, you need to go back much further.
It's that simple.
I don't shame women for being competitive in the work place...
Some of my best bosses have been women. Tough women, too. My all-time favorite was a woman... while my LEAST favorite (the worst) was a man.
But AFTER I get off work for the day... I do NOT want to come home to more competition. I want peace, harmony, cooperation... not a nag, much less a harpy... and NOT another boss, either.
If she can't or won't be feminine at home, she's useless to me AT HOME... which means useless as a wife... no matter how good of a coworker she might be at work.
If a woman is chasing a career, eventually, that career is going to come between us. More, her career will also decrease MY value TO HER. Her career will always be MY competition... competing for time, energy, etc... while adding STRESS to her life and thus mine.
More, she'll probably want me to listen to her complain about her work, or the people... or what happened at work... "support her career"... just adding more stress, and putting me in a situation where I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't... a lose-lose situation.
I don't care how entitled a woman can think she is, what really matters to me, is that a person should have boundaries in a relationship based on respecting their partner too and most women are zero self-conscious about their mistakes and don't have self-control of their impulses.
One of the reasons why women like decisive men with a backbone is that in their hindbrain they know they need a man to reign in their craziness. Most women love the idea of being disciplined by a guy, the reverse is rarely true. Remember, the feminine is chaos.
well said my dude
@@fiveleavesleft6521 Problem is that lack of impulse control almost always causes them to already be damaged goods before they find that man who would discipline them, which is why there are almost no virgins on their side these days. And a man like that isn't going to settle for ran through women. In the old days it was their father who disciplined them until they found & married that guy. Now since that's out the door, it's a free for all. Even crazier is that even though most of them know that in their hindbrain, like you said, they still want freedom to mess around even if they find that guy. They want to have their cake & eat it too.
You've just described the mentality of a child, which is what they are.
@@fiveleavesleft6521 _"Most women love the idea of being disciplined by a guy,"_
This is ABSOLUTELY untrue!
I mean we know what wimmin want by their fantasies.
_Fifty Shades of Grey_ for instance.. oh .. no wait..
I paused 5 seconds into this video to comment that this is probably the fastest I've seen someone get to the point, especially to the thumbnail which many click specifically for. Kudos
Yes, I agree. Well done. Some channels I watch take about 3:00 to get to the point - on every video. I just start drag right til the commercial & subscribe plea is over. It is refreshing to fire up a video and boom...you're into it.
yeah he does this every video. extremely rare and it goddamn pisses me off with other youtube videos. it's a ploy to keep watch times high.
That's his thing, I love it. Click bait tile, yes. That's how the tube works. Dragging it out for a view? Nah, quality content does that for him
@@DennisNeijmeijer yep i'm cool with clickbait that immediately delivers.
I paused 5 seconds into this video to read this comment 😂
Keeping your legs closed will filter out low interest guys. Casual sex destroys a lot of people's mental health.
Those are all manly traits they would look for in a guy. They’ve been socially conditioned to believe men and women are exactly the same and attractive traits are symmetrical
read the rational male
They've been indoctrinated by post modernist mumbo jumbo.
only men should be responsible?(is your ideal partner going to have access to an unlimited bank account?) independent? (a relationship means, both will depend on each other, but if women are to be subjec5 to being dependents,, are all men going to volunteer to pay extra taxes to give all women Universal income until they are married confident? else how would she even live before marriage?) confident? (yeah because it's good for humans to be insecure?) ambitious?(although ambition in itself can border on problematic), strong minded?(you think a weak minded person can go through this life? is your's a fairy tale? even Cinderella had to be strong willed to keep living and dare to go to the ball), adventurous? (women can't be adventurous?). Yeah I don't think these are male traits, when I think of men, what comes to mind include among these basic things, are strength, fortitude, stoic, brave, rational, dominant and so on. These characteristics listed in the video are a basic necessity for survival for any mammal. of course you find humans that possess opposite of these characteristics and they are the reason the world is messed up today.
*TOP 6 ATTRIBUTES I ASSOCIATE TO WOMEN: 1- HERPES, 2- NARCISSIM, 3- MATERALISM, 4- IRRESPONSIBLE, 5- SOCIALISM, 6- COURT DATES*
@@STak-ju7gx On the whole, yes these are masculine traits, especially so if you read between the lines.
Women are more social, solipsistic, and less independent than men. Why do you think money and muscles are attractive to women? Because they require protection and provisions from their man. Sounds like dependence to me.
Confidence. Another masculine trait that women look for in men but men don’t look for in women. That shy socially awkward girl will have guys line up for her but not vice versa. Men need confidence in order to make something of themselves in the world else they will perish. Women just don’t need to do that because they can be taken care of.
Responsibility. This means being in control and accountable for your actions, a masculine leader ideal. See female solipsism if you’re interested in the feminine duality.
Ambitious. “A strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work.” Real close to the definition of masculinity.
Strong minded. aka disagreeable. Another masculine trait. Men on average are less agreeable than women. It is feminine to be agreeable.
Adventurous. Can you name a single great explorer who was a woman? Probably not. An adventurous person is brave and willing to tackle the unknowns and risks an adventure throws at them. Men are risk takers not women. Men are brave not women. Men are adventurous not women.
In limited degree these traits might be “nice to haves” but they are not the primary criteria men seek in women. Those happen to be beauty, purity, kindness, youth, openness, and agreeableness.
A.G., so scary how accurate you are! As a mature man that has experienced relationships throughout the decades, you are spot on at what men in general seek at various stages from the opposite sex. The validations men give to women, starting with social media for example, only provides the false positives women in their 20's and 30's gain. It leads females down an unhealthy perception about themselves.
What she thinks it is vs. reality:
- Independent -> Dependent on the State
- Confident -> As long as she believes exactly what society demands to be the official doctrine, but at the same time believes she is a revolutionary.
- Responsible -> Obedient to the system.
- Ambitious -> Materialistic
- Strong minded -> Drama queen, irrational.
- Adventurous -> Promiscuous
this is spot on just like other people doing the womenese translation.. l o l
best translation here haha, nailed it
"Independent", "Confident", "Strong Minded" means
1. Loud
2. Pushy
3. Talks about things she doesn't understand to make herself feel superior at your expense
a) Continuation of the "guy as a buffoon" theme
Then when the guy steps away from the unnecessarily annoying creature, he is "intimidated"
@Ronald Mcdonald yet no matter how "Strong, Independent, Confident, Etc." these Women are they will still expect Men to "Court" them. (their Money Is their Money, the Man's Money Is OUR Money) It's about Weaponizing/Monetizing Sex. did you see that Tik tok from that Female Divorce Lawyer Saying the Majority of her Clients who Initiated Divorce were Stay at Home Wives?
these women seem to all have great attributes for a corporate america hire
Exactly, resume qualities. Good for finding job not a spouse.
@@stopyourbullshit6231 I wouldn't even hire them for a job. Especially not for a job. Not unless the job is teacher, librarian, hospital staff or daycare and the applicant was nurturing. I wouldn't want their BS drama or complaints at a company if/when I start one. Environments where men & women work together are usually bad (accusations of harassment) and have all sorts of inefficiencies & distractions. Plus I've worked with many of them and see how they perform their job (lots of BS'ing, gossip, etc) and how a man in the same role does it. There are good ones sure, but from my experience those are few & far between. Not to mention the sense of entitlement they have and how they think they're bulletproof once they're hired. Screw all that.
corporate = naughty??!!
I put females into three categories. First is the little girl category. This group unfortunately typically suffered some form of trauma and are unable to move past it and thus are stuck at that emotional level. Second comes those with a teenage mindset. Women in this group have a Disney princess mindset with a naive outlook about relationships. They have watched far too many romcoms and think men should know how to read their mind. Finally the third group is women. This is the smallest group of all. They are self aware, view men as a partner, are mature, are fun to be with and worthy of a relationship as they don’t play games. This also works for categorizing males: boys, teenagers and men..
Yeah, that's a good way of looking at it. I don't think that female nature is inherently as toxic as some men think, it's just that most "women" are girls or teenagers in adult bodies.
To summarize:
Around age 33:
VVomen hit the wall
Men's big head overpowers the little head.
And the tables turn 180.
massive cope
Yep. Happened to me. But this also coincided with seeing some behavior that black pilled me.
30 is often a trigger yes. Other ages: 25, 35, 39.
Women may hit the wall at 30 but they refuse to acknowledge it. They just carry on like they're the hottest 22 year old in the room until late 40s.
33 is a code for Freemasons....
If a woman described herself to me with those words I would say "You'd make a great boyfriend."
I say, great, you'll find a wife to support in no time. That's exactly what they look for.
😂 Well, actually I end up o. This channel exactly because of that. I am looking for answers of why on earth a man, or many men as I see, have relationships with a masculine women.
Slow clap.
@@ouiamelie there's feminine men out there too, my friend is a stay at home dad and his wife is a provider, they're both in a happy relationship.
all the planning and difficult decisions she is making, because he don't want it and she's fine with it.
It sounds funny, but yo, it works
the fact that all this time is being spent explaining something so simple is a good indicator of a failing society
Dating and finding a feminine woman is much easier abroad unfortunately
@@kabysummit5801 For now...
@@kabysummit5801 Then you bring them over to your country and they become corrupted
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It all started with the Western countries let's be honest. And now it's influencing the globe. Even in third world countries women are starting to have this mindset. More divorces and ruined relationships down the line.
Rest assured they instinctively know about their situation and their spoilement and entitlement but their behaviore is still on the sweet deniablity phase
Totally agree
And the behaviour stays there till its wayyyyyyy too late.
And it's definitely not plausible
@@LordParticle ofcourse
They instinctively know but they have never had to care about what men actually need because they lived in abundance while in peak fertility. With hormonal contraception they can (ab)use their sexual dominance and also destroy their longterm prospects for a relationship.
Another reason than men's standards are low, and women's are high, is that there is generally less genetic/biological/behavioral variation (comparatively) in the female species.
Pick any characteristic to test and the bell curve is very wide for men and very narrow for women. So this means that women need to be more discerning of the choices they make in partner to ensure they select the qualities they desire, whilst men can anticipate similar qualities in their choice of woman regardless of who they have chosen.
Let's compare it with the labour market: Can you hire the best chef in the city for your restaurant for 500USD/month? It would look like a ridiculously low wage, but you actually can... for a couple of hours a week. He's obiously not goint to work full-time for you if you offer so little in return. Same thing with dating market: if you're average, maybe you can be with a top 5% guy, but while sharing it with others. He's not going to commit full-time to you.
That's actually a pretty good comparison.
Let them trying to marry the 5% guy. Good luck to them. We will try and find a good woman and if that doesn't happen we'll be ok.
nice analogy
One of the best analogies mate, did you came up with it or you heard it somewhere else?
and they still prefer it over avergae man so don't talk to them like ur making a point they dont know.
That's where you get all the catchy, fun sayings like:
"Alpha seed, beta need."
"Alpha fux, beta bux."
"Alpha bangs, beta hangs." -- as in left hanging around, holding the bag when the deed is done... though I understand that some poor fellows are driven to the end of their proverbial ropes upon realizing the child isn't theirs and they're trapped for 18 years.
"Alpha sex, beta next."
If you want to go full gangsta:
"Alpha bangs, beta thangs."
And, of course, my own little gem:
"Alpha screws, beta screwed."
Don't be beta. Be better.
All females over 16 should watch this.
Great video. The points made between 10:00 and 14:00 were excellent
Love you wheat
Do you still rate your subscribers for 5$?
@@rodplays3726 Yes
I find it hilarious how there's always something wrong with the other person. If you had a restaurant and there was nobody wanting to eat there you wouldn't criticise the potential customers you'd look at improving your dishes, the ambience of the restaurant etc. You wouldn't bang on that everyone can't handle your amazing restaurant
Trying to advise women on what they should do is like trying to teach a cat to speak French.
It isn’t that easy bro
@@_Aurelian_ agreed, the cat will talk French befor the Women is taking self accountablity..
Meaooow trés bien le petit beacoup de la mustarde d'ancienne. Meowwww ill est mon petit amie
LOL. Who loves ya' baby?
@@setaripantheon8801 🤣🤣🤣
You've hit the nail on the head. I've met many 'women' who were more manly, aggressive, and opinionated then all of my male friends. We want the counter balance to our manliness.. not the concentrated, distorted version of the same. It's not that we are intimidated... we are repelled... we are not looking for someone to dominate, compete, and outdo us... it's the opposite to attraction...
In terms of the low standards of men, again, spot on. It's embarrasing... i won't sleep with anyone who i'm not interested in long term. It's just not worth it.
Uhhhhg god that "men are intimidated by me" bullshit is so tiring. They seriously never learn, except more feel-good bullshit from their internet and news media echo-chamber. You nailed it. Men are REPULSED by this bitchy and masculine behavior.
Yep. Men who act like modern women would instantly be labeled as toxicly masculine.
Once again, here's more evidence of the disconnect.
These women don't seem to get it: for decades now, you've been telling men the traits we should want in a woman.
Not once did you think to ask us.
Because women want Chad and Chad doesn't want them
Chad will happily have sex with them but not commit. Thats why women choose a guy who will commit and use chad as a paternity fraud partner.
Although I don’t have the time and funding to research this topic my hypothesis is that ugly short men who use their wealth to bribe women into relationships are at increased odds of paternity fraud. The good looking men will options have increased likelihood of having tricked many husbands into raising his kids. The reason male model my do this is so they can reproduce and pass down their genes without having to provide or risk paying child support.
@@grizzlybear2702 facts
The word “single” means different things for men and women:
Most men: lack of options, desperate.
Women: holding out for Chad to commit, inundated with options that are not good enough for her.
This mad me laugh so hard
it gets harder for older women to find a partner
Don't forget hookups lots and lots of hookups
...and on the carousel "dating", if she's even a little cute. Basically what KA wrote but maybe not so prolific.
Popped cherry?
Don't marry!
How to get a man 1) don't sleep around
2) just be nice we don't ask for much
3) If you want something done or be kept a certain way, do it yourself. Don't nag.
@@ytusersumone But I thought you don't like independent women? You'll have to do everything for me sir. Yes even cook.
Yeah too bad there's insane competition for women like that and they are already taken.
Being an ol' bugger, I was out to get women long before Tinder. You have no idea, how good it was.
Mr. Alexander Grace my friend you are doing a tremendous job for us men who are realizing the true importance of interpersonal relationships. Thank you ! & absolutely great content..
I've been feeling this way for sooooo long! Like, how can women not see that they usually (these days) are trying to be men to feel like they are "correct"? And of course, masculine men are not attracted to masculine women, and it seems obvious, but most women don't know that anymore.
Some of us are just not feminine, it has nothing to do with men.
@Nebula Nebula lol That was an interesting read, thanks for the laughs.
@Nebula Nebula I'm assuming you were referring to me when you said "Go live alone then you delusional B". For what? Not being 'feminine"? Why is it that being myself offends you? Does it effect you? Do you know me? How do you know if I'm alone or not? Not all men want a 1950's housewife, and that's ok. You sound like you know what I want in a man because I'm female, you do not.
@Kai Riggs what contradiction?
@Kai Riggs So how do you define feminine and masculine? Is it either makeup and high heels or pixie cuts with an aggressive attitude? It's there no middle ground? Must it be one extreme or the other? Is it not a spectrum?
It is unfortunate that in general, people tend to get wrapped up in their ego investments coupled with a wanting to be compensated for what they've endured as well as sunk cost fallacy.
The woman has invested up to this point in certain actions, and so they are reluctant to take any advice regarding change, and will even attempt to get younger women to follow in her footsteps. She has lived this way to this point, and she wants to perceive that it was worth it.
Desirable traits:
Empathy, compassion, willingness to listen and engage in conversation, a desire to learn and grow, a partnership mentality, being supportive, loving, and fostering a peaceful, low-stress environment.
We have been pointing it out, guys are usually not attracted to dudes... and women behave like dudes these days.
Yeah I don't mind some dude qualities, but maybe like 2, not 6!
I'll bet you $100 there is a woman who will come to this comment section and tell us about how she looks more beautiful at 45 than she ever did at 25.
To all you female lurkers here. (and there are lots). You don't look better at 35 than you did at 25. You're entitled to your own opinion, but you aren't entitled to your own facts
I look better at 69 than I did at 35.
@@arturo165 Whoooosh.
@@arturo165 Thank you. Nothing is more frustrating than having one’s trolling skills under appreciated.
When you start understand them, you won't ever again be able to love them.
I love when women tell me they have a degree or a career thats my favorite, like I care at all about that. Ladies those things are actually huge red flags about how pleasant of a person you are.
Well I am just reacting to the thumbnail real quick. The funny and also the very sad reality is that 'weak-minded people' just needs to constantly prove themselves and lie to themselves to compensate their own insecurities instead of dealing with them. So what that chart actually says is what are they the most insecure about .. because they are lacking it. So you can put NOT in front of each of those and you get how they actually view themselves deep inside.
Hey Alex you'd be surprised how many men have standards and aren't out to screw everything in sight. Basic gender bashing men here.
The thing is women look for alternatives to average men in terms of relationship.Toys,dogs,LGBT and other things.Man would never consider an alternative to average woman! Also,women look for disqualifiers in a man,while men look for the qualities in women first.People that don't operate like that exist,nevertheless they are very tiny minority and they are not neurotypical.
4:12 that is so disgusting, i hope if the "nice" guy discovers this he throws her out of his life without anything, she should go live on the street with her kid to regret her actions, using someone like this is beyond evil.
I hope that deterrence mechanism you are describing, increased the disatvantage of not having the father being the dude to raise the kid. That would have caused evolution to make this disgusting strategy less prominent.
'Women are not as desirable as they think they are'- a gem 💎
Neither are men.
They're so strong and independant and yet they thrive off of male attention and ressources. Whoemen screw around thei 20s with partying, wild fun, bad boys, then all of a sudden expect a good traditional responsible man to come get with them in their 30-40s to recover the pieces.
This is such an important topic, and finally a professional speak about it.
Absolutely loved this video.
This reminded me of Aba&Preach's take on this exact topic, and you completed it with class!
As Kevin Samuels somewhat coined the definition of "high value man" in an ideal man with a very high societal and economic status able to provide and protect a woman who biologically fully projects her hypergamy, I'd dare coining the definition of a "high value woman", ideal for what men biologically crave for.
That is: motherly, fertile, kind, beautiful, intelligent, submissive, home-caring, peaceful, honest and innocent.
Of course, not everyone can achieve getting a high value partner, but the majority of us still look for those qualities, even if the catch is by compromising on a few things.
The duality of masculinity and femininity is what is essential for humans to not only survive, but to also pass on for healthy offspring.
The more that decreases on a mass level, the worse the outcomes.
Alexander, definitely collab with Aba&Preach one day, loved this video!
Very well said.
Are you also an independent woman?
Im glad you added honesty to that list, character does matter looking at a woman for partnership. Character will also predict her behavior, her previous body count etc etc
"duality" carefull of this word when you use it for masculinity and femininity.
we can use duality for somethings and some other thinks better we use non-duality.
KS did not coin the term, women have been using it for years beforehand. That's why KS uses the term, because a lot of his show involves talking to women.
Am I the only one who sees this graphic and thinks: Literally ALL of these are qualities of a MAN
Face it guys, millions of women don't want any man who isn't up to their expectations. Why keep making videos about it. Yes they will be single but thats their choice. They will live with whatever consequences there are. No point in trying to fix them. You guys just go on and live your life.
Nope, being single is not their choice.
One of the main reasons we live is to pass our genes and keep existing as species we can't all go singles and except no harsh consequences to society
Why keep making videos about it?
Why are you even here ??
Simps will always be there to inflate their egos
Check out looksmaximus on UA-cam by the way.
They're describing the traits they want in a man, and assuming that men want the same thing. No, we want loyal, respectful, caring.
Independent = Self-absorbed
Confident = Obnoxious
Responsible = Responsible to her actions or her feelings?
Ambitious = Wants to wear the trousers
Strong-minded = Argumentative
Adventurous = Exhausting money pit
not one of those 6 traits indicates their suitability to be a parent.
thats a pretty good point :D
What about the huge number of women I meet that fit into neither group? As for the 6 characteristics I have never seen a woman not fold when SHTF and all of those evaporate.
A lot of women, I've learned, think they understand men from talking about them with their female friends, female relatives and complete strangers also female. Few actually want to talk to men about men. Result: complete failure when dating.
I’ve met so many women who claim to be adventurous and independent who are anything but. Their idea of adventure is being pampered in a comfy hotel in Paris, and independent as simply being anti children. I do my adventures alone or with my little one, 99% of women don’t like real adventure.
When my father's girlfriend fell in love with my father, she was fantasizing about going on sailing adventures with him. Then when they actually sailed together, she was miserable and hated it.
Agree, although "independent" can also mean "I don't care about my partner's needs, I do what I want."
A big thing that was missing from this otherwise good presentation is that not only are marriage-material and fun-girl categories distinct, the behaviors that make you more valuable in one category make you less valuable in the other. So you can't get your in by being a fun girl and then expect to somehow evolve that into marriage. If you start doing nice girl things, you'll cease to be fun, and the more wild and crazy you are, the more you demonstrate that you're not an appropriate woman to marry. And if you do somehow manipulate him into marriage (perhaps with a baby trap), it's not going to last. Women used to understand this, and developed rigidly enforced social conventions to protect themselves as a group from falling for the easy road which ultimately led nowhere. And they also understood that a ready supply of reasonably respectable fun girls broke the "sex cartel," and made those high-quality men much less willing to give up the candy and commit to one of the good girls. Before the feminists broke the sex cartel, it really wasn't very easy for men to be philanderers, as there just weren't that many available women that were socially acceptable to be seen with. Women really don't understand how much power they collectively gave away by doing this.
The “Fun Guy” vs The “Fund Guy”…….. get a DNA test before signing any birth certificate fellas……you need to determine paternity no matter what she is to you. Married men ask your lawyer if paternity testing can be use as for grounds for divorce. And! Tell young boys early so they don’t get duped in the prime of their lives.🤯🤯🤯🤨🇯🇲
My daughter is my absolute clone. I don't need a test from a lab, nature showed me the DNA results for everyone to see.
@@DennisNeijmeijer that’s wonderful. However, there is a whole bunch of brothers, sisters, cousins, uncles and aunts having relations but DNA testing would bring all the secrets families running around behind the scenes to the forefront. Icelandic 🇮🇸 people developed this ancestry App to see how far removed they’re from the person their about to have relations with. It’s evident today, men and women don’t trust each other so paternity testing is to protect the child and actual donor.
They always make the mistake of thinking we want from them, what they want from us. Independent? Strong-minded? Overly confident. Really just sounds like a lot of headaches and arguments to me.
I’d much rather see submissive and cooperative…
Submissive no but cooperative yes it is necessary.
@@camembert147 They go hand-in-hand. If she's not submissive and she doesn't accept your leadership in the relationship, you're going to have problems down the line. Constantly bumping heads with a "strong and independent" woman, is not fun.
@@tizodd6 A marriage is a team, not a dominant-dominated relationship. The goal is to cooperate and compromise, not for one to overpower the other. In every era women have always rebelled against men who want to subjugate them. Besides, the traditional role that we associate with the submissive woman who stays at home is very recent and came with the modernization and it is developed in the 50s.
Otherwise before, during the Middle Ages and the Renaissance, women had much more important roles. The woman dominated the home because she took care of it and the man the work. The woman decided on the education of the children and their marriage. In fact, each of them dominate different role
@@camembert147 Ah...you think you're going to have a "partnership".
Consider this: you say marriage is a team, right? Does a team not have a coach? A team leader?
When I say she follows your lead, I'm not suggesting you be a tyrant and she has no say in anything. I'm saying, as a man, you're expected to lead your household. You're the quarterback of your "team". You're the coach. Etc.
In the end though...it's your life. Run it how you want. But I can tell you from experience that a woman will slowly (or quickly) lose respect for a male who isn't strong enough to lead.
@@tizodd6 A team of two does not need a coach but needs to help each other. An adult, male or female, who does not know how to be independent or make decisions is a failure as an adult.
And as I said before, the idea that the man should run the house is very recent. Before women dominated the home and men the outside. (I'm talking mostly about the nobles, the peasants, both men and women, all worked). Each one dominated the domain that suited him and it was very good, changing this way of life was a bad idea.
Women listen to this video and think “NO! I dont want it to be this way so therefore it isnt! Phew, problem solved.”
i feel like adventurous is just sugar-coated being of a promiscuous nature, and being damaged goods..
"What you are seeing are the top six lies that single women age 30 to 45 associate with themselves".
What Alexander should of said. In a way they are kind of independent though in a messed up way.
If you're not her first option, there's no point
It's okay to be independent but not okay to be aloof, self-indulgent, autocratic or undisciplined. It's okay to be confident but not okay to be arrogant, narcissistic, pushy or puffed up. It's okay to be responsible but not okay to be controlling, compulsive or guilt-driven. It's okay to be ambitious but not okay to be aggressive, critical or self-aggrandizing. It's okay to be strong-minded but not okay to be adamant, rigid, pig-headed or recalcitrant. It's okay to be adventurous but not okay to be reckless, foolhardy or rash.
From experience I found that some women would fail their own standards/criteria they set for men they seek.
Almost all of them view it as our duty to surpass them. While on the other hand asking legs up and handicap men. And then get mad we eventually can't manage so easily. So they loose interest in the clipped birds and go for someone else
So true
I had a girlfriend, a jowel. She was aware of our difference and as long as I behaved like a man, she behaved like a woman. She told me that she felt so great with me because I acted like a man so she could be a full woman. That's just logical but today it's so hard to find them.
We guys win in the end....hahaha
Sadly in most cases.
Independent = karen
confident = karen
responsible = certainly more so than me
ambitious = karen
strong- minded = karen
adventurous = never met one.
To women struggling with men, you just need to lower you physical standards a bit, and be less superficial. Maybe try giving that dude who's 5'8 a chance, or try going out with that Asian/Indian dude, or maybe try not dismissing off dudes who don't look like super-models from the get go. I understand going against your biology could be really tough, but give it a try if you are that sad being single/being ghosted after a ONS with the hot dude
And then they dont appreciate the completely normal guy they 'settle' for whilst still not acknowledging their exceptionally damaged state.
They would rather be pumped and dumped by the supermodels then be with someone in their league. If they want a provider then they have the British government and onlyfans. To further prove my point woman renamed polygamy to polyamory because the word polygamy sounds to patriarchal. They changed the English language just so top tear male models can practice polygamy without getting the negative patriarchal reputation. See they love male models so much they are willing to change the language just for them.
Are Indians and Asians generally considered unattractive?
@@grizzlybear2702 I know this very well, especially with the current trends. This was catered to those who still think they are entitled to a monogamous relationship
@@justanobody1503 Only the males unfortunately. How many couples with an asian father and a white mother do you see? How many vice-versa? There you have your answer
"associate with themselves" there you go, this explains that this isnt the qualities they have, these are their delusions. most women are not independent in any shape or form, and the tons of insecurities doesnt give much room for confidence.
Every time I hear Alex say "it's a wonderful way to support the creator" I like to think that he is in a cult and they call their god the Creator.
A girl I know from yrs ago, we used to flirt etc..she started flirting again with me recently.
She has two children by different dads, points the finger at them for the decline in the relationship, wants me to chase her, yet all I see is her going out drinking all the time. With no redeeming features.
It’s a common trait of women in their 40s, they have no faults, still think they are quality, drink heavily, can’t converse, have no femininity, no sexual desire, no nurturing qualities, no compassion etc.
I’ve no doubt plenty of men out there are no prize, but it’s no surprise when the thirsty guy is just after a hump.
Why do women think that these traits should be enough for men when they expect so much more from us
Most of them don't even truly have those attributes. They just like to believe they do.
I heard somewhere that if you ask a woman what type of woman she is, she'll unconsciously describe the type of man she wants.
Kind, endearing, strong, responsible, funny, hard working, loyal, intelligent, down to earth, and has great morals. You're right, that's my husband to a 'T'. o.O
Not only are women confusing their short term vs. long term value. They are damaging their long-term value by getting suckered into sleeping around to get validation
The problem with this graph is that more than likely the vvoman poled for it were lying
True. And and Alex did say that. They were trying to place themselves in a positive light.
Your videos are the best out there on the various topics of gender dynamics and dating. Keep them coming man. All women need to to watch your videos. You're fighting the good fight man. If more people start to understand the concepts you are explaining, perhaps there's hope for humanity. We need a rest button...
How do you turn an elephant into a fox? .... About eight beers; mate.
Seeing the six most common traits: "She's going to be a headache, right?"
😂 FACTS
I think thats the key here, "Compensation". I dont know how many times I've heard a woman say something like, "Men cant handle a strong, independent woman". Thats the line they tell themselves to soften the harsh reality and Its called Cognitive dissonance. The truth is men are just as attracted to a genuinely strong independent woman as they are to all the other women(who be default fall into the not strong and independent category). Women like this are lying to themselves because the truth is brutal and the truth is, men dont want anything to do with them because they're simply obnoxious. They have so much baggage and anger towards men that any man who has any sense at all will give them a wide berth. Thats why men will go for younger women because they're fun and dont have that baggage, its not simply because they're young and attractive, its because of their attitude to life. But those so called strong, independent women will never turn and face themsleves, as those hard questions. They wont do this because it would require a complete shift in how they see the world and men and its easier and more comfortable to believe the problem is in men and not themselves.
They (women like that) know they’re incorrigible and try to excuse their terrible behaviors away.
As a woman I date younger because older men are bitter and full of baggage. Goes both ways
Dating apps should come with a disclosure: "lots of men trying to have sex with you does not mean you are a high value woman"
When you bump into a girl that you are not interested, just portray yourself as the stuffs that girls won't want or hate in a man. Eg. Pretend to be poor. Saves a lot of trouble for yourself.
Everybody tells me discrimination is wrong... SO I DONT