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I'm sharing this with my boyfriend and with my male friends.
I know this video will really help them reflect on their past behaviors and/or guard them for future challenging situations.
You're incredible, Alexander!
And so are you. There aren't that many women who have a golden heart.
Orbiters*
If only we had more women like you
Infidelity however can never be forgiven. For this there is zero tolerance. You can forgive being late for dinner.
@Anthony Simmons Speak for yourself lol
'Women don't respect men of words, they respect men of action. Masculinity is action based.'
wow
Well regarding action that is the same. So I guess femininity is also action based.
@@HaIsKuL I agree on all. But not regarding the use of the word action.
Women are actionable. It’s just that they action on different things.
Ironically we men (and women also for that matter) focus on the polarization and differences which is true. But often also tries to fit the good and bad values of say a woman based on the value traits of a man.
Hope it makes More sense now why I claim women are people of action?
Women certainly do love cunning bullshitters, and get wit ha guy who ha a way with words.
And teir respect in not worth it.
@citizencrimson201 your grammar is awful.
Young dudes, I envy you for having this sort of material early on
sooooo true. 41 now, in relationships since age 17 and always did it wrong. i learned so much from yt in the last 5 x years. at least now.
So true. I found TRP during the most difficult part of my marriage in 2013, so I'm grateful, but there were many difficult years. Too late for my dad, who grew up in the old times, but hit middle age after all the old rules were gone. He never understood he wasn't alone
I'm 19 😉
thank you bro, i wont make the mistakes again
@@Alan01 Your dad didn't need TRP because most of TRP would not apply to his time
Me: you cheated on my for a year with my best friend?
Her: it’s your fault! You were at work all the time and I was lonely
Me: I’ve been supporting the family, cleaning the house, paying for the house, the cars, the college funds... everything! You don’t even have a job!
Her: F•ck you! Why do you have to throw that in my face!
Sorry fellas.. most women is what I married.. be careful out there
That is some shady best friend there too bro.
Well dont leave us hanging, what was your response to that?
Another one bites the dust
Right. It's your fault she cheated. Female logic right there 😄. Make sure you have ample evidence for the divorce lawyer
@@TheMjohann divorced her of course. It only cost me 1.2 million over 10 years. She had me tossed in jail and everything.
I did forgive her and let her go.
Now i feel better and she is giving someone else depression 😉 .
Good for you brother. You made the right decision.
Well done....correct action
If she cheats on you she will cheat on other men because they dont accept their mistakes she is hard to be change other wise she will change by herself voluntarly.
Amen
I just stopped acknowledging her existence... I heard no man wants her now and now she bothers other women.
I always made this mistake with my girlfriends to over explain, to talk for hours, trying to make them understand. Sometimes it worked. But not for long. Whereas silence, even only for a day, had much more impact (but was hard for me too).
That's how you lose your sanity.
@@CosminPerisan Not if you're very strong mentally...
If it didn't work for long it didn't work at all. I used to win all of my arguments with women, always handling facts better and not letting them confuse me. It made some of them shut up and admit fault, some of them got hysterical. But they all eventually lost respect for me and kept doing bad stuff even though I proved I was right. So silence it is then, I knew before I should have acted this way but my urge to argue and be "right" was simply stronger.
@@GatsuKS Personnaly I had also the urge to be right but, most of all, the urge to solve the problems, to make the relation work.
@@GatsuKS It's that feminist virus, man.
True, forgiveness must be earned. Don't trust the words but always observe her action.
@Anthony Simmons u are following me from MTR.
@@rajakghosh6602 this dude reminds me of ted bundy
A woman taking responsibility for her actions 😂😂😂😂😂😂 please don't make me laugh. Never happens. You'll be waiting for that apology forever
Nope true Forgiveness isnt earned its freely given to the undeserved
mercy should be earned, not should be given freely
The more u understand a women, the less u forgive.
Sahi kaha bhai
Damn...
@Just an Average Google Account Google Account nearly 20% population of the world bro
Indians unite✌😂
True. Yet with a lot less emotional involvement. I just move on.
Treat her like a star, she'll treat you like a fan
so true
Like only fans?
@@niionne6661 yes. but she has more fans as you know
Ima fan😁👍
Fact
I have the high ground.
- Obi-wan kenobi 2005
R.i.p legend
Yeah! For Obi kenobi.
"I hate you"
@@llMavenll "You were the chosen one"
"You underestimate my power!"
- the poon
Action speaks louder than words and silence is deafening.
Great advise. Nothing drives a woman crazier than a man ignoring her. Be patient. it's very difficult. But it's worth it.
I end up loosing interested and move on.
Been telling a friend this for a long time. He just doesn't have the self control. Sad
@@Aday837 can't do that if you are in a long term relationship or married.
@@sandyx7381 Sure you can. I can see it being harder in a marriage but you can still say I am done.
@@Aday837 very difficult unless the man has lost his attractiveness, or simply both have grown past 50. A committed woman has far lower dating value. Its practically non existent. And if u believe in the contrary u live in fantasyland.
Asking for space. Absolutely brilliant!!!
They think they can rewrite reality with their words.
Not even asking
Don't ask. Tell. What's a day or a few?
"I'm sorry..."
"I forgive you. Just don't come back" *smiling*
"Wait... but"
*door shuts*
Thats how I give forgiveness. I've found that it often works to end a relationship, friendship or romantic because it allows you to decisively end it and it gives her what she says she wanted, which is forgiveness.
I've decided to do this after 2 promises not to do certain things. The things were done again. By that time, I was about over it. I absolutely hate being lied to, and I will cut anyone out who lies to me, even over some thing small.
respect
Self-respect
That's the spirit 👆👌
It definitely depends on the lie.
if it's a lie to hide shame (like an addiction or victim of abuse etc) I can pass on that.
Right on!
Good point. Men are usually too quick to forgive a womans transgressions.
Broke trust? If she cheated: just forgive her.
Then kick her ou... ermm I mean: let her go. Indefinitely.
After crossing that line there's no "earning back trust". Just out.
that fact shouldnt even discusst. also the pictured of her should published with the story in the internet where every man can see that she is a cheater and they dont stap intp this mine again with her.
@@haterzgonnahate8195
Regarding the posting into social media may cause daunting defamation. I would keep it in my and her social circle when necessary or on demand in due to her rumor to deteriorate my name or so. Maybe she might change so lest we not say things or exacerbate things too quickly.
@@terragaia7092 nah. she wont change. we need an example for other women. if they see what they get and every man does this, they will stopp doing it.
just the hard evidence saved to a blockchain searchable against her 🆔
Out, to the streets! 🤣
I was raised by a narcisstic women, every man in my family defended her. The only thing that helped was that I treated her like she treated me.
Bravo. Do not ever let narcissistic woman break you, especially if she is your own mother. Those harpies are the absolute worst.
Similar situation !! Can I ask do you see a little similarities between normal women and your mother!!
@@samihaboubi6366 yep, a lot of women are narcissistic, make a therapy to get out of your mommy complex, or otherwise you will attract women with the same problems.
Wait, you mean you abused her to gain narcistic supply? Or did you abuse her in a human punching back kind of a way?
Okay enough of jokes, how du you mean this honestly i dont get it
@@f.schmid468 I gave her a tste of her own medicine
This reminds me of a conversation I had with a buddy of mine thirty years ago. He told me some long, convoluted story about having a fight with his girlfriend. It ended with her making an apology and my friend making a big show of saying, "Okay, I accept your apology." When he ended his story there, I simply retorted, "That's not what I would have said. I would've said, 'I don't accept your apology because I don't think it's genuine.'" He looked at me blankly for a minute and then said, "Why don't I always have you around with me to tell me what to say?"
I would say love is weird. When you're head over heels over someone even when they fart you would thought they sprayed some gucci au du toilet parfum 🤦♂️
What a wack experience, anyways your friend is lucky to have you cause wolfpack stronk, bros over hoes
@@terragaia7092 He needed to take his own advice. He later proposed to her, without telling me beforehand that he was going to do it. When he told me, I was just like, "You did WHAT?!?!" I then told him he was making the biggest mistake of his life. He got all mad at me for saying that, and that was the end of the friendship. Would you care to guess how long it took before they got divorced?
@@bigscarysteve I've seen it last 10 months. My guess is not more than that.
@@agaviokarwinskii6544 Wow! You're really close!
@@bigscarysteve what was the apology about?
Don't react on emotions, act on solutions. The definition of masculinity
IF a woman is indeed a "High Quality Woman" then she will actually FEEL BADLY about her actions and will likely OFFER A RESOLUTION to the issue without YOU having to ask for or suggest it. She will likely say something like, "I can see where I was wrong AND I think this is what I SHOULD have done and will do in the future..." If she DOES OTHERWISE you know her apologies are insincere.
Well said mate!!
@@kostasvag2268 Yea, I don't know why other people aren't getting this. It seems so "commonsensical". If you blow it, you WANT to make things right - if you rally CARE about the consequences of your behaviour.
@@BarbaraA.MertzRN-CCRN Yeah, even though that way of thinking, is not that common outside as you think. That "sense" is not catholic.
Beware of holding unrealistic expectations. Not every infraction is "obvious". It's like a contract that failed to spell out some niche corner case in the small print (no contract can specify everything) - you discover only in real time that it's missing, and the other person thought it was a deliberate omission, or something. You can't reasonably expect people to mindread all inferences that you draw from the pre-existing, explicit terms of the relationship.
@@bpj1805 Though there is no true and existing thing called "common sense" (Heinlein preferred to call it 'Horse Sense' because horses do have an innate sense of direction and safety which humans fail at possessing) Still... there are commonalities of behaviour and social norms. No one (including the 'protected gender') should be treated with impunity for their actions. Individuals across genders, nationalities and education levels should be expected to act according to accepted social standards and behavioural norms. It hasn't always been that females have been given a "get out of jail free" card and in many non-westernized societies - they are still held accountable for their actions and behaviours. This is as it should be.
I learned this 5 years or so into my marriage. When I have screwed up in the past (forgetting stuff usually) my wife put me through the ringer for it. Sadly when she mistreated me I would forgive her quickly, I figured that is what you do. It was a mistake. Once I started standing my ground and demanding she change her behavior, just like she does with me, our marriage shot to the next level. If your SO loses respect for you its over.
I've never heard the words "I'm sorry" from a woman and have hardly ever heard it from men. People today have no honor.
People nowadays barely know what respecting one another is its a shame
Everyone is trying to reach this “I don’t care how anyone feels/think” attitude, and social media is pushing that very hard, only leading it to our destruction
people nowadays have no loyalty either!
@@flycrack7686 Preach.
@@flycrack7686 In a job sense? I wouldn't imagine there is any less loyalty to family and friends among people than back in any of those 'good old days'
as far as workplace loyalty goes, I can't go apply for a job at a hardware store as an 18 y/o and work there till retirement knowing i can provide for a family and purchase a house.
"The moment you forgive her she loses her respect for you". I learned this in a hard way. My mistake was exactly this - she told "I'm sorry, I will not do it again" and I said "OK, let's move on". Big mistake. They. Do. Not. Apologize. They see your desire to know the truth and to see how she takes responsibility as an issue with you: it's not her, it's you who feel it in a wrong way.
It applies to everyone not only women, let those people earn their forgiveness.
True, men can act this way too. Your family, your friends need to also be put on check. Some people miss this point. They go out and confront the world about climate change, meant consumption, police brutality and yet they go home and let their parents abuse and gaslight them.
It does but guys are extremely susceptible to forgiving women too easily
Yes. But not every mistake can be made good, thus not everything is forgiveable.
I think he actually said this around the end of the video @15:24
And it's true, words are cheap actions on the other hand...
Betas will forgive everything, operating from a scarcity mindset, they fear to lose the p-sleeve
P-sleeve? Yikes. Refer to it like that always, and women will avoid you like a broke, short man.
@@blackgirlblue1795 UA-cam has a filter that doesn't let comment certain words. How'd you know I'm 4'2''
My gf would ghost me for 3-4 days at a time. Told her I needed space. She contacted me every night that week...
They can dish it out but they can't take it 😂😂
@@fitzroygeorge9157 True, they fall back on the "silent treatment" to try to punish a guy. But when they get ignored they call the guy out for being so mean to them while they are slowly losing it.
That's not ghosting, that's called breadcrumbing and it is insidious and way more distressful than ghosting.
That's because she was with someone else and was then concerned that you were doing the same as she had been. How's it working out for yas?
If she is acting in this way in the first place, ask her if she had a good relationship with daddy. if she says no, then you know you are in a toxic relationship because she is disrespecting you, and blaming you because her father abandoned her, and she does not know what a loving relationship looks like. In this situation, you have to end it, else you will suffer until you do, until then you are just a doormat. It's the first question I always ask if I like her.
@@cv6176 If she doesn't respect her father, she won't respect you. If she hates her father, she will hate you, period. Trust me, I can tell.
Oh man ,you are on point! I've just learned this the hard way as I typically seem to do. 😔
From experience I absolutely concur what Alexander said in this video.
I trusted my ex something closely related to family affair that I shared with 2 of my closest friends. One day during some argument can't remember what stated it, she just brought it up and started blaming me for it , how it was justified and i deserved it. It took everything in mu body to not knock her lights out. I screamed very loud she just stooped in her tracks and i stormed out of the house. For 3 weeks i maintained absolute silence i need to calmly think this through. She repeatedly tried to contact me but I was firm said i need my space. When things had calmed down and cooler heads prevailed i thought about talking to her. She immediately wanted to get back together but at the same time was superficial in her apology. At that moment i decided its better to end the relationship today than be bitter and acrimonious tomorrow.
Gg
Did she accuse you of 'sulking'? thats a good sly trick
Thanks for sharing
@@jackdeniston59 I maintained zero contact. Any immaturish backhand talk wouldn't have resulted in positive results for sure.
Damn it! If it was some sensitive family matter she "revealed" i would probably be so disappointed on her that I would go.
"You must take the high ground"
Me: Kenobi...
Hello there
Ha!
She: what's a kenobi?
@@Teglamengeneral kenobi
@@iLikeTrains0372as opposed to a _specific_ Kenobi, hmmm... yes...
I've let two birds off in past I was in relationships with. They both cheated on me. Not young birds either, to put it down to immaturity or just an age thing. No, one as 34 the other 47. Both begged me for us to 'get through this. Don't waste what we have'. One of them cheated again running off with another bloke. The other just dropped me the month later.
I'm nearly 50 now. Still unmarried, still child free. I wouldnt have married any of them I've been involved with over the decades. Not one of them was worth it.
Your UA-cam content is so important. Few people are willing to view reality as it is, without politically correct bullshit or immature grudges. Thank you for that.
How long until youtube / google decides this politically incorrect content is “anti-women” and “racist?”
Late May 2020, my ex, after a 7 month breakup, came to me and said " I'll do anything in order to be with you". I did have my reservations, but I gave her another chance. 2 months later, she became cold again. I knew what was going to happen, so I created space, and let her think of it.@0 days later " I don't want anymore", " Am I imprisoned? Can't I leave?"
I said "fine....you are the one who came back, and trust me....you will cry". She hung up the phone, 30 mins later she texted "I didn't want to hang up on you, but you were aggressive", I never replied.
10 days later she started calling and texting. Finally I got a text " I want to meet and talk, we have pending matters to discuss", my reply was " I have no time these days, I'll inform you" and NEVER called her again.
It's been 7 months of no contact, I've seen her less then 10 times since then ( same workplace).A few days ago I saw her- the gloomiest I ever remember . No regrets from me- she behaved terrible, she was arrogant, she needed a LESSON TO REMEMBER.
Women love the battle. The drama. The attention.
Silence is a great weapon.
The only thing better than that is replacing her. Doesn’t matter what she looks like. She’ll be pissed off either way.
Only scarcity mindset, weaked, low value / self-esteem men forgive women who betrayed them regardless
sadly most men have a scarcity mindset which leads to women having an abundance mindset. It's zero sum both genders cant live in an abundance in terms of options. It's one or the other sadly. ideally it would be at equilibrium
@Anthony Simmons They were and still are fed with a bunch of lies which they're still believing today. you cannot put any woman on a pedestal. because as soon as you do that she will start taking control of your life including your emotions as well, which will enhance her ego even further while putting you down and understimating your potential as a man but this is applicable to everyone men included (no homo). people will just take advantage of you don't bother setting any boundry that they're not allowed to cross under any circuntance!
and those raised by single mothers
Thank you, I really needed this right now. She really messed up last time we met and didn't even want to talk about what happened and dismissed the conversation, said she needed time. So I took the time I needed to think too but a few days later she started talking to me as if it never happened. I haven't let her believe that things are alright, like you said she needs show that things will be different. I need to know if she is truly someone who can recognise the gravity of her actions and confront them
Update: So we actually met again since what happened last time. After settling down and checking in on each other had, without judgement I calmly asked her what happened last time we met. She was nervous to talk about showed on her face for a moment but she did. She explained that she realised how unreasonable and disrespectful she had been and apologised. I could already tell she was sincere but I didn't say anything like "I forgive you" like you said Alexander, that doesn't mater, what matters is what the person apologising does from now on.
I asked her what caused it and she went a step further, she explained why she had acted so erratically. She had taken the time to do some introspection she didn't blame anyone or her harsh situation, she understood that regardless of all that it was coming from her keeping a lot of emotions hidden in her every day life.
I won't give all the details but felt I should share at least this much. After our conversation she was more relaxed than she had ever been, like a huge weight had been lifted from her shoulders. We were way more in sync, like all doubts we still had about each other were gone
I learned by JHS and HS at the latest that a girl can cheat or just blindside you by breaking up when you think everything is going great, leaving you shattered, without a hint of remorse. Once I learned the first time wasn't a fluke, I didn't just make a bad choice, but that most women are just sociopaths, I never again felt so much as an ounce of sympathy for a girls I broke-up with or for whatever reason, broke her heart and left he hysterical crying. Their tears mean NOTHING to me, and I've never had a problem meeting women, or ending it, so this has happened to be quite often, but it never bothered me, not in the least. In fact this one girl was crying and called me a "womanizer", and I actually took it as a compliment. LOL Hey, they wouldn't feel bad for you either.
i dont know anyone else but me feeling this but he is like a big brother to me i'm a 20 years old male and his content really help me with understanding sexual things and womans.Thank you for doing this alex i appreciate it (sorry for my english btw i'm not native and i'm trying to be better at it)
Same
@VeganCarnivore what a paradoxical name
spanking, just gonna throw this in here.
Would be the one time you dont want her to like her punishment
Lol
Hand or paddle.
That’s a paddlin’
or.......no more spanking.....
*"The rewards of tolerance are betrayal and treachery."* - Imperial thought for the day
If she betrayed you once, she'll betray you again. Show no pity nor remorse...
*"PUNISH HER"*
The Emperor Protects.
Love it. Words of wisdom!!
I used to win all of my arguments with women, always handling facts better and not letting them confuse me. It made some of them shut up and admit fault, some of them got hysterical. But they all eventually lost respect for me and kept doing bad stuff even though I proved I was right. So silence it is then, I knew before I should have acted this way but my urge to argue and be "right" was simply stronger.
They don't like men behaving like her mother. Keep fighting bro😎🙏
same
Who cares if they lose respect for you, you don’t need them, the fact that they think like this makes me lose respect for them, that makes them the issue not you, so then your going to let their perception change how you act, yet they never change how they act based on how guys perceive it
Forgiveness is seen as a weakness from the whalemens perspective.
Sound advice. Be careful to be moral, don’t veer into “silent treatment”...but only talk on your terms when you are ready. Like he says this has to be ONLY when you are the aggrieved party.
Advice from my uncle.
"Forgive her for your peace
And forget her and leave"
Nah. I'm definitely not forgiving anybody who hasn't earned it. Even before watching this video.
If there are no consequences, she will continue her bad behavior.
its really child like thinking females do
if she flirts with other guys infront of me then its over between her and me
yes! it happened to me. i knew a woman who would often do bad things to me but always asked for forgiveness. one time i got really tired of her bad behavior so i refused the apology and stopped talking to her. what she did next was the total opposite of someone really sorry for their behavior. she talked to people i knew and tried to destroy my reputation. she would be even more nasty to me. i knew right then that i made the right choice by not forgiving her and cutting her off my life.
from my experience, this is so accurate. taking your space is so terrifying to a woman.
Have a wonderful week everyone.
Thx
You too m8
thanks, mate. You too!
You have literally solved one of my biggest serious problems, just like... 30 seconds into the video. I really can't appreciate this enough. Thanks a lot. "Forgiveness must be earned." i will never forget this. Thumbs up man. Subscribing now.
Probably the best and most useful video from this channel I have seen in a while. Extremely useful and extremely relatable
Aaah Alexander..never stop making videos. I learn so much about past mistakes and how to move forward.
Wise words Alexander, wise words.
It’s like taking care of small children.
Bratty children.
its really so sad thing, this is nature biggest blunder for us
this goes beyond romantic partners, this applies to female friends too
Hey man your content and videos are awesome , You are an inspiration to many new youtubers. , I am watching u since you had 10k subs🔥🔥
Hi Alexander, how are you doing today?
You Want Forgiveness? Get Religion -- Peter Parker
You should have thought of that earlier -- Peter parker
Maybe Bully Maguire ,not peter parker
Best answer
I love that you brought up a man's conflict between staying silent and wanting to resolve things quickly. This is very useful in a lot of situations, not just in relationships. Great vid!
So much truth
1 low-quality woman dislikes this video message. (wo)man up.
Lack of communication is why 90% of relationships fail.
👌👌
Holy crap! Every word of this video is so true, it's like he was reading my actual life! Damn!
"Use Absence to Create Respect and Honor"
Correct!
Do forgive women and be on your way.
A woman makes rules for Betas and breaks rules for Alphas.
A woman can not respect a man who respects her.
A woman wants that which she can not have.
When you forgive her it’s good for you. When you see clearly that you and the woman in question are finished don’t keep it a secret. Don’t fight over it just be done with her and move on. Fear not as there are plenty of fish in the sea !
The good news: I never forgave her apologies...The bad news: She never apologized.
Damn bro. I felt that
She belongs to the streets.
Thank you for confirming a question I could not find on the internet or through anyone I knew. My past girlfriend had told me she needed a man to be like the father figure in her life. I told her I didn't know how to be that. So there I was, still being a kid and things ended. I still questioned and looked for information on what it meant to be a father figure and went on with my life. Things happened, over half a year went by, and just about a month ago, I had some stuff really push me to a point I only had a choice to go up from. So I took a leap and things have felt better since. I've started to really think about responsibility and claiming my actions. As well as looking to others acfions and take account for theirs. People complaining but not doing anything has made itself clear to me that they are responsible for the hault in their life. I've been a bit harder with those I talk to and they aren't comfortable when I say "You need to do something about it." They don't seem happy when I explain what I've noticed and they reflect on the things I point out. They just start to jump to whatever excuses they have until I shut it down and they are left with their eyes looking down, being silent. As if I had just scolded them for something they acknowledge was wrong. That's when I know they had heard me and as much as they don't want to accept reality, it is something they are aware of. As for me, I'm jumping into things head first and pushing my thoughts onto and overburdening myself. Past our comfort zone is a feeling of uneasiness and possibly pain. Pain is a fuel for growth and a friend to those who use it, not are used by it. You sir, only confirmed more or less how I've been feeling and come to through my own, short experience. But to even have discovered this fatherly presence on my own, means I've step in a direction I didn't see coming. The world neads leaders and fathers. People to set the world straight and keep people in line, not by force, but by example. If you lead, others will follow. If you wander, others will wander lost with you, until they find themselves or find someone to follow.
Thank you.
If they cheat just say: I forgive you.........but Im gonna have to let you go.
It’s gonna suck it’s going to hurt but in the end you’ll be happier with yourself you’re going to respect yourself and give yourself another chance of happiness.
Agree, I started doing this a couple months ago and our relationship with my gf started growing again and we are more happy aswell.
Time to start planning your escape plan.
With a low quality woman your anger-not her actions-are the problem. So her goal is to manage your feelings rather than take responsibility for her actions.
So her apology means nothing outside of the current moment and her current Ned for you to no longer be angry.
Which is why it is important to have boundaries, and a clear sense of what you will and will not accept. If she wrongs you? She has to admit error and CHANGE the behavior. If not? You’re gone.
If she crosses a dealbreaker line ( cheats on, hits you, humiliates you in public)? You’re gone. No second chances.
Learnt that the hard way.
1) Problem arises
2) Try to have civil talk
3) Problem not resolved or getting worst.
4) Drop her off and cut the relationship.
5) Block her out if it helps.
When you're a busy guy, achieved great milestones and have goals and plans lay out years ahead. You won't want to waste time energy and money on such problematic person.
And guess what? When you have become high value, the opposite gender will naturally notice you even you're just minding your own business without even trying.
Be the top 1% or at least be the top 10% of man.
The view here is very different. 😏
My ex-girlfriend, once rang my phone 300+ times to get a hold of me to "talk". Women cannot handle silence and they cannot handle what you think of them. They can't control their thoughts and their imagination goes into very wild places. Which is why they demand you "talk" to them immediately because they are using that moment to gauge where they are in your mind.
Be mentally un-readable. It drives them completely nuts and for some strange reason, they bond more with you that way. That's my observation, not factual research.
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Reasonable and good advise.
This is one of the most rational and useful videos. Concise with a laid out course of action to deal with behaviors that come up in just about any relationship that involve intimacy. It might be a one of a kind because it can help one gauge the cost/benefit ratio of the coupling.
Ok Alexander this is getting uncanny now, every other video you put up I’ve either just dealt with the experience personally or it’s coming in my near future! This is very good advice, women in my experience and from friends stories know they can drop a weak apology and it pretty much makes the problem go away instantly. When you think about it I think that shows how potentially morally bankrupt women can be knowing they just have to bat their eyelashes and cry a bit and they win the argument 90% of the time. Standing your ground is the way to go. We’ve got to show them that actions have consequences and if they care about us the way they say they supposedly do then actually making positive change is only fair. I dealt with this recently as I have been seeing a constant stream of red flags so I brought it to attention. The girl in question pulled the I’m sad you’re ‘accusing’ me card and I could see it for what it was a mile away. Still making her wait until she comes to me or I feel the time is right to go back if I even do so.
Once upon a time I had a girlfriend who had an affair on me
I dumped her. She wanted me back, she was sincerely for the affair and there were extenuating circumstances
I did a lot of mental gymnastics, forgather and took her back
Astonishly, the relationship lasted another year
During this time she seemed to disrespect me and looked upon me as weak for forgiving her
Forgiveness isn't for the person who is forgiven. It is for the one giving the Forgiveness. To let whatever they did off your mind and to let you live your life. Because if you don't forgive the actions of the one who wronged you, you hold those negative thoughts forever.
Exactly, which is why I think the message should be that forgiveness should always be given, but second chances and a place in your life are what a woman who wronged you (or anyone who wronged you for that matter) should earn, and depending on the offense, certain offenses, such as cheating, should not get a second chance. Not forgiving is the best way to let someone live rent-free in your head.
Exactly, forgiveness is an act of self-love and has nothing to do with the other person.
Now, forgiveness does not mean giving a second chance.
Women, no woman is capable to being genuinely sorry. She may apologise to avoid punitive measures but it's not because she's really sorry. Ultimately, a man has to discipline and control the woman.
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I watched this and was able navigate through a discussion with my girlfriend about how she cheated on me. Making sure she knew I would not forgive her unless she put in the work and effort completely changed the dynamic of our relationship. Thanks for the great advice. For a person like me who loves too much and is too forgiving, it was invaluable.
I love your videos Alex, but this is probably my new favorite video of yours. Keep up the great work!
I had this toxic girl that constantly insulted me, mistreated me, etc.
I stopped talking to her. She tried to constantly enter in contact with alot of messages saying sorry and asking why I can't forgive. I haven't said a thing.
If she does something wrong by accident, you may accept an apology. But the moment that she does something bad and can't accept responsibility and when she sees that things are going south for her, she apologizes to avoid abandonment. Leave her.
You really honor your name, Mr. Grace.
I’m glad I found this channel, thanks Alexander!
This is testament. When I was younger and once when I was older I made this mistake. Women don't let you blindly apologize and walk away, why should you let them.
I actually know the answer to why guys blindly apologize, because she is one phone call away from some other guy (ex, co-worker, college "friend") coming over to her house in the next hour to replace you. You do not have that power. That being said, you need to be detached and show some respect for yourself. If it happens it happens and you can now find a higher quality women.
If she leaves that quick, then she wasnt worth it
REAL TALK!
This is one of the best videos I have ever watched, I am glad I came across this video.
I will say a woman who NEVER apologizes is suspect AF
This channel deserves wayyyyy more subs. Elite level knowledge here. Thank you!
"To resolve something is a cognitive process because you can rationally recognize that a person has done everything that they can in that moment to make something right, but trust is deeper than that. Trust it's not cognitive, it's emotional and trust takes time to rebuild" 10/10
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Many thanks, these videos are pure gems, honestly
Men don't say "I need some space", that's a feminine line. Men just take the space and time they need.
yes. I agree with this. Have you known about blackdragon work?
i think his approach is similar to this,. its called ''soft next'' or ''hard next''
@@ifeelhalfnaked484 I have not, but will check it out.
@@vinterskog I don't think you totally got the video to why a man says "I need space".
@@UnitedPacci I got it perfectly, thanks. It is just feminine, that's all. And that is not how you should put it.
@@vinterskog how is a man needing space feminine?
Why would you need time to gather your thoughts?, if she was flirting with other men then she is not a high quality female
If she is of age she knew what she was doing and obviously hasn't learnt from previous experiences so why would she change now
Love your videos, can confirm everything based on my own life experience.
I was in a relation with a women which matches your high quality criteria. However, she had many very bad habits after a number of failed relationships.
I did not tolerate any bad behaviors and did exactly what you explain in this video. After some time she completely changed from a manipulative child into a real woman, a true partner all man desire. I didn't blame her, it was apparent to me, that she spend her past with low quality man. Our relationship deepened and she confessed me, that for the first in her life she got a crush on a man, never experienced this kind of love before. Sadly, she suffered from alcohol addiction and any attempts to help her didn't work. She was at a stage, where her doctor told her, that her liver my fail within the next 5 years. I tried to support her, than to pressure her, nothing worked. I had to do, what a man has to do. It felt like chopping of my hand.
There is another good reason, why you should not immediately talk to her. Usually any kind of transgression creates strong negative emotions. It's not wise to try resolve conflicts or made any life changing decisions, if you are emotionally loaded. Take you time to cool down and clear your mind before engaging again. Sleep at least one night over it.
I concur, indubitably.
Good thing I bought that steel cold knife last week!
Great video mate
Forgiveness can have several meanings. Forgiving does not mean accepting or forgetting, at least in my eyes. By forgiving you let go of the anger and resentment and move on with your life, with you purpose, but that does not mean you accept the woman back into your life as your partner. I am talking here about serious things like betrayal here.
Maybe I’ve just got more options than other men, but it seems beyond foolish to try and navigate the emotional manipulations of immature women. Why not pick an emotionally mature woman instead?
Some solid advice(as usual) Alexander.
Thank you for the free content!
When I finally learnt to stick up for myself, stand my ground and not take anymore insults from her and not having to apologise to make things right when I wasn't even in the wrong she disappeared. Been almost 3 years not heard from her. Women will never apologise. It's not in their nature to. Her philosophy was always: "lose the argument not the person" when it came to arguments and apologising. According to her this phrase was directed to men only.
This actually explains a lot of the past. Top content. Yet again!