@@SL2797 they wont leave him, they want to keep him tamed, they know it's in his nature to be a badboy, soon as she leaves him, she knows he will go back to his ways, i mean he's attractive and that attitude is natural to him, he's oinly tamed under her control, once she gives up that by leaving him, he will be back to his self again and sheknows he will, and she knows he'll have another girl in a week, she will be jealous, all that work she done to control him and make him hers, and she leaves for just a few days and some other girl snaps him up easy, thats the fear that will always make her stick around, she can tame him, but she knows he's a great catch and knows if she releases him, all the other girls will be fishing for him, she wants him with her as long as possible as a trophy
Take it from a man who was gaslighted for 15 years by a nasty wife - This is all absolutely true. I made the mistake of thinking my wife would see my kindness as love and loyalty. She saw my kindness as weakness. She had no respect for me and treated me like crap. Well, now she knows she's one fuckup from getting her a$$ tossed onto the street. She screwed with the wrong person.
@mickeypopa I hate to tell you, they ALL see kindness as weakness--even if they don't show it. Alexander is right: A woman must, in some way, view you as dangerous. It's the flip-side of respect.
@@MariamMatube I spent a long time trying to figure that out. I think it's because I was raised by a mom I love and respected, and I thought that a husband should treat his wife with equal respect. Big mistake. Life isn't a f-cking Disney movie. Plus, my dad could be terrifying, and most of the stress in the house came through him, so between my mom and dad I was trained to think all the problems in a marriage came through the husband. Thus, when my wife acted like a spoiled teenager (and then afterwards she'd blame her outburst on how "her dad treated her when she was younger," which was a huge red flag that I knew about, but for some reason I never applied it to her), I thought I had done something wrong.
I am like that 😂 patient, calm, nice....women are not interested. Yet push my buttons, step on my toes and I become the Hulk and destroy everything on my path! 😂
I'm the most laid back guy and a great listener but women have a habit of underestimating me. I draw from a deep well of patience but there is a limit and when that is reached, there is shock and awe. That is rare but I've run across people who push the limit for their own whims and lived to regret it.
Happily married for almost 14 years... this is spot on. We women do actually value clear boundaries. And protection from our own chaos. So non-PC, but so true.
I've been in both a healthy (currently in a 1 and a half year relationship) and toxic relationship with women and this is what you need to know: - You need to VALUE YOURSELF more than you value your partner - You need to be okay with walking away (It's so difficult once you build an attachment but if you can get to a place where you can do this, then you will be okay) - Although equal, someone has to carry the relationship and that's your duty as the man if you want to earn and keep that respect from her but most importantly from YOURSELF. - If you are a really masculine man, you need to find a woman that fully embraces her feminine qualities. Being a man or a woman does not automatically mean that you are able to show these qualities so it takes work and really getting to know yourself. - Do NOT try to please her ALL the time - it won't work. - Say NO - Be gentle but firm - Allow her space to miss you, even if you live in the same house - Focus on yourself, your journey, and your purpose - Don't stop her from doing the things she wants to do that you are not happy with. What you need to do is always be ready to have a conversation with her as to what is bothering you but not in an emotional way. It's in a very gentle but yet firm way. It's not an argument but rather a discussion. - Stop bothering her all of the time - have a life - SPACE, SPACE, SPACE - trust is not 'I need to know what or where you are going all the time' but rather 'I trust this person enough for me not to worry about that' - If she makes a mistake, let it be known and help her correct it - If she is disloyal or talks negatively about you or to you, walk away and never look back.
@@kyleruiz6196 tell her what she did and.explain it to her. Girls are goofy and they might not see what she did as disrespectful. They look at life through a different lense.
THISSS!!! This is what I as a womam say that men do wrong nowadays, they give themselves too much too soon. Same for many women too honestly. Love is a dance not a pulling competition. A man should lead the dance yes but not drag his partner to the point of making her/both trip. Gentle but firm and ultimately enjoyable for both.
good point. its a LOT of work, especially because societal norms no longer exist, hedonism is rampant, the sex-positive movement’s in effect, their egos are overblown, and there’s temptation everywhere.
I completely agree. Jordan Peterson talks about this is as well. Women want dangerous men, you should be capable of inflicting punishment on her and others. There is no virtue in being harmless
Also if a man is not able of being dangerous and causing harm. Of being agressive when he needs to be and making others fear him when he needs to then how will he be able to protect a partner or his offspring. Much less himself, a man being dangerous is what ensures that man's survival. As well as the survival of his family and the safety of his house and his food supply. As well as his ability to obtain vital resources for his survival.
Need to define the word woman, it must have two meanings, because all of the women I've met in our western society want to distroy masculinity not revel in dangerous men.
@@bw2442 sadly there are a lot of Western woman like this. As for the wman in my family we are from a eastern culture. And in our culture both genders are celebrated. Men and women support and nurture each other. The men are the ones that lead and protect the family, they run the business and their word is law. Men in my culture are respected but in return they create a safe, place and the woman are equal. Now the woman are submissive to the men however we fight and work beside them as equals and neither gender is disrespectful to the other. The woman are the nurturers and we run to home. I think that the big problem with Western cultures is that both genders do not respect each other
Fear = respect. It is not about being agressive towards others, but letting peoole, men and women, that you will act to defend yourself. And expect nothing leas.
Fear and respect are two different things. Fear is negative, respect is positive. It's like the difference between being aggressive (negative) and being assertive (positive)
Yeah it goes something like this you shouldnt always use violence in an argumant but the threat needs to always be there its that energy your giving to people.
You don't get any respect by inspiring fear to others. Instead of acting fearsome, it would be wiser to do good around you, inspire others with your good deeds or with how you built a career.
I see your point alexander. The way of protecting youself with an already well-established reputation is the way of protecting one self against an passive aggressive Psychpath, so also good against psychopathic man as it is against woman in general. The problem is this is easier said than done. And since society puts woman on an pedestal, having a reputation strong enough to protect youself against the word of a woman is pretty hard to achieve. It would be cool if you made a video in how to establishe this kind of reputation. Without lying and manipulating, since those tactics a very energy draining.
@@ashuranero5721 He is talking about the #metoo movement. Hard to build a reputation in an environment where it can be completely ruined by one false accusation.
@@ashuranero5721 Cultural marxism is the ideology of Western radical left. You may have noticed terms like "cultural appropriation", "systemic racism", "patriarchy" and "white supremacy" thrown around; it's basically a new coat of paint over the old marxist idea of class struggle between the proletariat and the bourgeoisie that should result in an inevitable global revolution. This is why the lefties support the ongoing riots in the US for example, as they think only in terms of the "oppressed" and the "oppressors". Labeling someone as part of the "oppressors", by using terms like "fascist", "racist", "sexist", "rapist", "white supremacist" etc. is one of their favorite tactics, as these labels don't have to be proven in order to damage someone's reputation, especially when coming from a member of the "oppressed" such as women and black people (or basically everyone who isn't a straight white man).
This is so damn true. When I was going through my first breakup, I really put on this armored mode on myself - I was this walking, serious, emotionless guy and somehow I was attracting a hell of lot of attention from a lot of women; there were a few women who were giving me bedroom eyes too; but I was too broken that time from the inside. One girl even hooked up with me just because she like my mean look. But the moment I open up and start sharing my feelings - boy oh boy - they vanished so fast and didnt give damn except for a few "ohh its okay baby" moments.
Yup. I learned almost too late. I’m 6’1”, blonde, blue eyes with a great smile. I went to clubs. Nothing. I couldn’t understand it. Then, one night, instead of looking at the girls and smiling, I looked at the men. I noticed _NONE_ of them smiled. *_EVER_* They all had black cowboy hats too. So, me and my boys went to WalMart, stole a couple of cowboy hats, and went back in. I didn’t CRACK a GRIN. I looked at the horizon or ANYTHING ELSE but NOT ONE WOMAN. LITERALLY TWO HOURS LATER I’m blzzz deep in an adorable cosmetics sales lady. I called it “Marlboro Man”. And it works. Oh. And when they talk? Answer in one word answers and STILL don’t look at them. I had a BEAUTUFUL 18 year old full on KISS ATTACK me and I couldn’t push her OFF of me. She spent the night. George Costanza is right: whatever you think works, *DO THE OPPOSITE*
hahahahaha yep. women complain all the time about bad guys. but refuse to date a nice one. worse is that everyone can act both ways... so women always encourage the worst out of guys... then blame them for the same thing they demanded.
wow yeh if you smile and look towards girls on dance floors they move away, so the opposite must work. I got a girlfriend once because i had depression and i was working with her and other people, and so being depressed I had a bad look on my face and didnt talk to her when she was trying to get my attention, i just wanted to be left alone, this literally caused her to fall in love with me, she had an ex boyfriend who was needy and wanted her bad and she rejected him for me the grumpy dude at work. I decided to ask her out after it was clear she was into me and of course she said yes and she was surprised that suddenly I was giving her attention, I didnt tell her i wanted to experience a girlfriend and sex and actually didnt like her, she must have thought i suddenly like her, moral of the story? maybe we can only get girls we dont like because the ones we like we are too needy too and they get put off, catch 22, maybe subtly go for a girl you like and work damn hard hiding that you like her
She will quickly move on as soon as she doesn’t fear you anymore. Share the love you have but never let anyone walk all over you. Enlightening video, Mr Grace!
I mean it's pretty contradictory then to claim that long term relationships are a viable thing, if you need to make her fear you forever, I find it pretty useless then
@@holypavonis382 correct. LTR to function will require you to keep this exhaustive game going on forever, and even then the simple fact that you married her already gives her a huge leverage over you, so actually you need to double down on your dominance strategy. But it will still be hard to keep her respect and admiration and specially, sexual attraction on the same level in the long run; hypergamy will always have her wondering "is there better out there", even if not on purpose, even if she loves you, and it means her attraction will inevitably erode. That's the price you pay to have kids and a family. If that's not your goal your better off not committing
@@BWater-yq3jxattributes are interpreted differently by each individual person and they are ALWAYS influenced by your appearance whether they know it or not. A good looking guy that doesn’t have a stutter just has to talk to a girl and he’s “smooth” a fat ugly guy doing the same is a fing weirdo revolting freak, it’s just how people work we always say “never judge a book by its cover” but as humans that’s literally all we do, you me and the 7 billions others begin judging people the same moment we meet them for the very first time every interaction we have all the time, it’s absurd to think how hot or ugly a guy is doesn’t make an enormous difference in what a women thinks of his “personality”
@Help I'm A Rock I kinda agree, but to be fair, I can give some practical advice to some women on how to be better mothers while never qualifying as such myself.
Lmao I was thinking the same thing. I was mind blown the first 12mins then he "eeked!" his way out of the rain while tip toeing for cover under a tree. Omg that was so vulnerable! Haha
Children also fear their parents in the same manner; the moment a child realizes that their parent cannot or will not harm them (non-violently, of course), is the moment they go off the reservation. Crudely put, treat women like children: give them adoration and love, instill the fear of consequence for action, and curtail their excess desires and impulses to stave off disaster. It's like I can hear Donovan Sharpe in my head using your words.
I agree with you and what Alex states but it requires a lot of effort to maintain that frame over time. I question whether or not a woman needing constant barriers is worth the time and effort that could be spent on yourself or more worthwhile endeavors
@@andycook433 This is why in the ancient world, most simply waited until women were a thing they could afford to have. You are seeing this coming back in force today, but using Rome as an example, men would not take a wife until after their required campaigns for being Roman citizens and establishing themselves financially. Legionary campaign requirements for the Republican phase was 10 years or 10 campaigns, whichever was longer, and then they would return to operate either their family enterprise or engage in politics (I speak of the upper classes here, the patricians and equites -- plebeians were usually too poor to set anything up, so they simply married when they wished. Funny how poverty then, as now, mirror one another perfectly.) So throw in another decade for good measure, assume most military careers began around 15-16, and you have your magical age of most male consent: 36. The average woman in this time period, as in most ages, was to be wed as early as possible (the idea of children is a 19th century Piaget idea; up to then they were simply seen as 'little adults'), hence the tradition of a 14 year old woman marrying someone nearly 40. Why so young? Childbirth was the #1 killer of women, and most kids did not live to see two years of age. If your society was based on lineage and inheritance for property rights (as most in the world were), you *had* to have the most chances for viable offspring to live to old age as possible. Thus, women were more often than not used as a means to an end, and in many societies, as property. They literally had only one purpose.
Shalefist great points. In our time of no fault divorce, alimony, child support, prenups that are not honored, divorces mostly initiated by women, and a biased court system that can severely hamper the life of men even when you do right. You have to be more mindful of any long term relationship and even then it’s a vulnerable gamble/risk
This immediately reminded me of that Steve Carell quote from the office. “Would I rather be feared or loved? I want people to fear... how much they love me.” Lol, not exactly the correct message in line with this video, but it was definitely on to something.
@@heraldarnold437 Bad luck man. All the women in my life have been nothing short of being role models. I don't deserve my girlfriend at all and my mom is the kindest human that I know. The "true nature" thingy, It's all crap. Get out of the victim mentality and you'll be surprised how similar they are to us.
@@aydenpotts7019 You look like you're barely 18. Just wait another decade. Once women get out of highschool and in the real world where men throw money at women, that's when their hypergamy goes out the roof.
Haha that one caught me off guard as well, I was doing something else while listening to the video and then I was like, "what the hell" when that line came out and stopped what I was doing just to check out what on earth the man was doing lol
It all boils down to if that girl/woman didn't have a figure of authority growing up she's not going to respect you bruh. Ya need to stop comparing woman to girls that never matured an grew up. She could be 50 stuck in a 15 year olds mentality.
I have always called my wife out for bad behaviour and she has really improved over time. Now after 20 years, she is all over me and treats me like a king.
If you knew anything about psychology you would know every one is a individual and different in their behaviours, views, morals, beliefs, reactions etc but keep thinking you understand what all woman are like lol
@@peacefulrelaxation1377 There not much of that here its looking like a real echo chamber! but that's what you get when people want to feel superior based off sex rather then merit
This is it, guys. This is it. All the women in my life who pursued me and never gave up, were the ones who feared me in some way - not that I would hurt them physically, but that I would ignore them or leave them if they didn't respect and value me. Every time a woman has left me, it's because she has felt absolutely no threat from me whatsoever. She knew I would tolerate anything because I had no other options and made her the focus of my life, and so she knew she had all the power.
Fear the man who has power in will and thought. Power in social constructs, the ability to command armies, and the confidence and bravery of a lion. Fear the man whose voice spreads wise words and can be a threat to your existence by merely looking at you. Fear the man whose eyes are sharp like a serpent. His every footstep is elegant and powerful. To Quote Gabriel Angelos: "Walk softly and carry a big gun." Maybe this sounds a little extreme but I want you to philosophically think about how you approach life. Then think how you can convey the same kinds of powers I mentioned. The powers of someone worthy of being like a hero. Fantasy and reality aren't always too different.
@@johnnycray4427 is president Clinton weak? How about Trump? How many powerful men have we heard of that have been thrown under the bus, lied on, and/or falsely accused by women who were peasants compared to them? Would you say it's more likely that your girl is not as evil as they were or do you figure you're just stronger than all of those men?
"Word need bad men. We keep the other bad men from the door" Rust Cohle, _True Detective._ There is a saying in my country: "at night men prey on a house with a weak man". I guess it's equivalent to "a man's biggest duty is to save women and children from other men" in the West. I am a woman and I want a man who other men (and women) are fearful of, not because he is aggressive or short tempered, but because he is brave, confident, assertive and "man" enough so no one tries to harm or bully him and his family. I want to feel safe and more importantly I want _our_ family (kids) to be safe.
I think the word "fear" is not perfect for this, but I do understand the concept. It's similar to how the bible says for christians for fear God. It's a respect type of thing, rather than a fear that creates aversion. I hate starting sentences like this but _As a black man_ (😬lol😅) I know what it's like for people to see you and have one of their first reactions be fear. Fear without a certain sense of familiarity and/or desire doesn't breed attraction. Someone else said it already but Professor Dr. JBP does a good job using the idea of being dangerous. A homeless man whole looks jumped up on stimulants is scary and not at all attractive, as they're unpredictable and undesirable. The big, country boy who kinda sounds like "yerda/yerpa/your-father" and drives his truck over the speed limit every time he sees straight way or is on the highway- that can be very attractive yet dangerous. That's perhaps a type of fear but there ought to be a new word to differentiate...
Agreed.... Fear alone isn't enough to explain it. Fear is one factor in the equation. And the different factors can be in different amounts and still work. E.g. hot level 9 plus fear level 6 plus funny level 4 = attractive. But also hot 8 fear 7 funny 2 can work, etc
So now women are supposed to look upon us as gods? Are they supposed to worship us and pray to us as well? I have a hard time comprehending that one. Sounds ridiculous.
After dating women for years, thinking it was my purpose as a man, i m led to constantly think about one thing, i wish i was gay, i wish i wasn’t attracted to women, the passive aggressive way of talking, the puzzles u have to solve, and them in their period, its just too much. But here i am still straight, i envy gay ppl
I hear your pain. You may want to consider that both genders conflicted emotions surrounding the areas of relationships, intimacy, loving communications are no one's fault. Secondly, male/female relationships are the most complicated puzzles to navigate well so I suggest that you be extremely serious in your desire for the relationship the next time you decide you want to engage in one bc guaranteed the woman you chose will be.
The best way to help yourself vis-a-vis a relationship with a woman is to be sure you've dealt with or confronted your own conflicted thoughts and feelings regarding marriage, relationships, intimacy, fair fighting or loving communications.
I really relate to the bit about social Capitol. Towards the very end of my marriage my ex wife started saying all kinds of lies about me to the people in our lives (in order to make herself look better, repeatedly caught cheating etc) thankfully I had enough social Capitol, and she'd been caught in enough small lies by most people that almost no one who knew us both believed her. Being trusted and respected by those around you is vitally important
this reminds me of my p.e. teacher who was this huge guy who'd been in the army and all the kids feared him cos we saw the punishment he would dish out to the naught kids, even tho the 'gd kids' feared him we also respected him as he was one the kindest and understanding teachers in the entire school. even the naughty kids ended up not just respecting him but actually loving him and they changed their behaviours for his classes. i remember feeling safe in his classes cos the bullies feared and respected him
When he has the power to resist you, you know you're safe with him. I love it when my boyfriend reprimands me, because I know that as much as I enthral him, ultimately, he has the control and has the capability to lead me and not the other way around.
You still have the power of accusing him of "grape": Everyone will believe you, and he will eventually be taken to jail. You can ruin his entire life with a single phone call. It doesn't matter how alpha he acts - in reality, the government makes it so YOU have all the power over him. He either obeys to your every whim... or to jail he goes.
The kind of fear is the same kind of fear outlined in the bible. Its not a fear of being hurt, or a fear of punishment. Its a fear of disappointing someone that you care about. That's the kind of fear that a woman need fro her partner.
Already an idiot disliked the video without even watching it. You can already see that a feminist most likely is subscribed just to”punish” this awesome youtuber that helps boys to become a man and for girls to have better relationships.
I think fear in this context is more of a respect than physical fear. When a woman says she fears a man, it's because he's physically abusive or she fears he will be. That is never good for a relationship. Only messed up women stay in relationships like that. But what you are explaining is very accurate. Women want to look up to a man. They want a man with backbone. Not a loose cannon with a bad temper. But a calm, cool, collected, Don Draper type of man.
I find this very interesting and confirming. My ex wife use to tell me while we were dating she was scared of me and I asked her why and she said didn't know why. I just thought she was messing with me.
Can you do a video on what some of those "low value female" behaviours (That require you to not negatively re-enforce) might look like. In my experience, sometimes a man can take a stand on something, but if its not actually a low value behaviour, he can just end up looking insecure and underconfident. a list of actual behaviours that shouldn't be put up with... with examples would be amazing.
Last friday I broke up with my now ex-girlfriend. (1.5 years) I'm doing everything you say in this video. It fits my character naturally. However all my life I hear from women that i'm to dominant in the relationship. Some broke up with me over this fact. Sometimes I broke up with them because they gave me this feeling I'm like a tirant or something. Last friday I gave up on a very lovely good hearted women. She always treated me with respect and kindness. However during our last fallout she started saying things like: I can't be myself around you. You are the reason I'm angry all the time to other people. I don't feel happy. This was the first time she did so. I told her I was going to keep my dignity and I left. She's not going to disrespect me like that. Now she has alot of regrets and told me a few days later that it did not make any sense for her to say that. As a well self-respecting individual with a good amount of self esteem I'm just tired of hearing this stuff. I always mean well in a relationship. The women im with are always left behind better than they were before they met me in many aspects. They definatley have always feared me. That's why they normally never disrespect me. I never touched them or hit them or played mental games to play them. So its sort off in conflict with your message. I do however totally agree to not be a push over in a relationship or in life in general but It seems for me this is where my relationships always fail.
@@kevinvandenoetelaar5880 that's okay I was just hoping that being a woman wouldn't devalue what I said in my comment. Cause a woman can't really know what to expect from this side of youtube lol
She should fear losing you, fear losing your presence/all the good things you bring in her life She must also respect you, in a way that you assert your position in the relationship by being assertive when she tests you Otherwise just have fun and enjoy your time together
@@surajsharma1992 bro you got it ryt.what i mean is make her confuse make her fell bad abt her and alway tell her lies, its a trick nd its work very very well
Then you'll be having no women at all. To explain briefly I'll use an example someone already used here in the comments: it's the same kind of fear children have for their parents. When a child stops fearing their parents they will openly misbehave. That bit of fear a child has for the parent is necessary. And if you know enough, you are aware that women are basically children. They behave quite similarly.
@@NeoZeta But then the child can becomes mature, and eventually stops misbehaving and making trouble. Woman can do that too. There is something in them that makes them create trouble to their man. I doubt that evolution made them that way, to misbehave like brats.
@@Vadrigar1 That's what I'm telling you: you'll be disappointed. Of course, the extent of which they act like that is different from one another. In the same way not all children are little devils. But the core premise is ever present, as it is in women. The advice is: find the one who gives LESS headache, because you won't find one that doesn't give you any.
@@Vadrigar1 It's actually the inverse. Evolution made kids not to cause trouble (you can thank sadistic parenting for that), but made women to always cause trouble.
@@NeoZeta My comment keeps getting deleted, but you're completely wrong about kids. Fear is not good for them, and only causes worse behavior. When all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail. Stop giving parenting advice to Caucasians. You have no place.
Makes sense since "fear" is on the arousal (excitement) spectrum. Why do "dates" like scary movies? Why do "dates" like roller coaster rides? Why do "dates" like motorcycle rides? Why do girlfriends like bad boys? A guy with some danger to him? Because it arousal sensations in her body.
12:00 I was only listening not watching, like a podcast. When I heard the rain I freaked out, whipped off the headphones and ran outside to grab the laundry. took me a good 1-2 seconds to realize there was no rain.
You call it fear, I call it respect. Two sides to the same coin. This is also an explanation to why women like bad boys. It’s a misplaced devotion that has roots in exactly what Alexander is talking about here. Women biologically desire the dominant male figure. Bad boy comes along and it’s this drive (and Beauty and the Beast programming) that propels her to him. For myself, I know I am drawn to feisty men, and the intrigue persists if he’s also principled. Someone who has the ability to exert the savage, but knows when and where to use it.
One Truth agreed! Back before the feminist movement that gained momentum in the 60’s changed everything. Birth control pill was also introduced, and women started agreeing to sex outside marriage. Everything changed after the 50’s. I think the 50’s man is a good goal for a man to emulate.
D Bradley very well said. I was also thinking about fearing God in relation to this topic, so I’m glad you included this. We’re so prideful as a culture to think that God is only love and that we deserve that love just because. The reality is that we could all be crushed in an instant, and it’s only God’s love for us that keeps us safe and we should not take that for granted. It doesn’t mean we walk around being fearful, just that the reality is understood.
@@kimmywimmy7305 ... Fear, or respect ... The definitions are not identical. On what way does a thug command respect? Can you analyse it well enough to articulate it? How does the thug act, that makes you respect him. And this needs to be specific. I have some ideas, but I don't want to pollute your analysis. The things *behavior*, either towards you or towards others ... What exactly is he doing. Thanks
This is essential and pivotal. It's the elephant standing in the middle of the room that to few see ! You've distilled instinct into clarity and a plan of action. You're brilliant.
Good timing on this video. I am currently under attack by my daughter's headmistress. So far I have reigned in my fury, but if she pushes again (and she likely will) she'll find that her position does not protect her from blowback. I have ammo (documents) already and can make her day go south fast if she tries! Thankfully the source of her attack can be turned against her with ease. I don't want to destroy livelihoods, but I can if pushed to it. I know mine is not a "partner problem", but it is a "relationship" problem of a sort. This woman thinks "MEN. BAD". 🤨😡
If you look at woman, and she looks down after, then you have enough "fear" / confidence ⇒ it's a natural sign for say you are the dominant. If she looks at the side, then she is no interest or you are too weak. Probably not 100% rule, but be more careful next time on the street …
I keep thinking there is a better word than 'fear', but I can't think of one sufficiently nuanced to capture all Alexander's points. He's right on the mark. Women must fear you on some level to respect you. They must fear you to feel safer with you than they do alone. This instinctive, subconscious fear drives respect, attraction and commitment.
@@dithaingampanmei ...but how to detect a mere "capability" for violence? With a thug, a woman feels his violence... So she knows it exists... But she also feels his tenderness. But without expressing that violence... How can she ever actually know the capability truly exists?.
The very insightful Alexander Grace! A sad truth on the "competitive plane": If you can beat other men in the group, then the women in that group won't mess with you. I still assert men should cooperate more than compete.
I am 56, I have followed other dating advice coaches, but you are the first to talk about this concept, this has just caused me to rethink my whole life. :-)
Ok, so this is my first time watching one of your videos. Great job on conveying some superbly accurate information. How is it someone so young as you is able to understand such wisdom?
100% agree. I "feared" my boyfriend when I first met him. He's strong and muscular, is physically capable of throwing a punch on another man and causing great harm but he's under voluntary control. This fact makes me respect him.
So what? There's plenty of pro boxers and bouncers that you could eat him for breakfast ...........then you'd no longer feel safe with him, but fear a stronger man even more and go with him instead! Such is female nature!
From my experience women these days don't fear men displaying any of these behaviors; they feel challenged by it and won't tolerate it. The saddest thing is that she is socially and legally validated for ruining an otherwise good man.
The workplace can be tricky though, bc nowadays. Women dont respect men at ALL. They dont care. Especially when they are great friends with the Boss lady. Story: my ex. I remember I was respected and had the women under control and they viewed me as a threat. But then our male Boss got a new job, then they replaced him.with a woman boss. Suddenly their was 2 girls in particular that started sucking up to her and became really good friends with her. All of a sudden I saw a drastic change in their behaviors towards me.. They were being more exerting and talking crap more often.. I was actually getting frustrated. So I fought fire with fire and to cut the story short. Didnt end up so well with me.. Men depends on the situation. But every other female still respected me, except those 2.
@@kristianjensen5877 Creepy I'm not but boring I am. Which is okay. I don't go out of my way to impress anyone anyway. Especially the opposite sex. Which is probably why I won't have a long line of women waiting to date me. Or a horde of them chasing after me. Also don't have enough money to attract them either.
Well said. My last girlfriend tried to intimidate/humiliate me by calling me "dangerous". It had just the opposite effect. My response: "Yes I am dangerous". (thinking: to your ego).
Instilling fear into a woman is about being meek in the truest sense of the word, maintaining a delicate balance of two things women don't have: power and responsibility. The idea isn't to rule over women with an iron fist, but to hold their hand with an iron fist.
Imagine taking a walk and suddenly you see a wild Alexander in the woods sitting in a tree and giving dating advice.
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Very fear inducing indeed
That little bit of fear is also called Respect.
I would listen to the wise counsel of this sage
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"A man who cannot obey himself will be commanded" - Friedrich Nietzche
Good people stuck in a shitty place
Ouch...
Great quote
in case of mental illness also those who can obey themselves. Most autistic men, for example, get commanded too.
@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 expand on this, example s?
All the romance novels are about a bad guy being domesticated by a woman.
They would lose interest once they “tame” the man
Just like Peterson said: vampires, werewolves and pirates
And then she leaves him after successfully taming him.
That's a female fantasy. Those books target women, and women love the idea of taming a dangerous man
@@SL2797 they wont leave him, they want to keep him tamed, they know it's in his nature to be a badboy, soon as she leaves him, she knows he will go back to his ways, i mean he's attractive and that attitude is natural to him, he's oinly tamed under her control, once she gives up that by leaving him, he will be back to his self again and sheknows he will, and she knows he'll have another girl in a week, she will be jealous, all that work she done to control him and make him hers, and she leaves for just a few days and some other girl snaps him up easy, thats the fear that will always make her stick around, she can tame him, but she knows he's a great catch and knows if she releases him, all the other girls will be fishing for him, she wants him with her as long as possible as a trophy
Take it from a man who was gaslighted for 15 years by a nasty wife - This is all absolutely true. I made the mistake of thinking my wife would see my kindness as love and loyalty. She saw my kindness as weakness. She had no respect for me and treated me like crap. Well, now she knows she's one fuckup from getting her a$$ tossed onto the street. She screwed with the wrong person.
Keep watching Alexander's videos. I hope you stood up to her and put her in her place since leaving this comment. I'd like to hear how it's going
Any woman who sees her man's kindness as weakness is a low quality woman.
Unfortunately, that low quality woman happened to be your wife. 😢
@mickeypopa I hate to tell you, they ALL see kindness as weakness--even if they don't show it. Alexander is right: A woman must, in some way, view you as dangerous. It's the flip-side of respect.
Took you 15 years to make this decision? WHY?
@@MariamMatube I spent a long time trying to figure that out. I think it's because I was raised by a mom I love and respected, and I thought that a husband should treat his wife with equal respect. Big mistake. Life isn't a f-cking Disney movie. Plus, my dad could be terrifying, and most of the stress in the house came through him, so between my mom and dad I was trained to think all the problems in a marriage came through the husband. Thus, when my wife acted like a spoiled teenager (and then afterwards she'd blame her outburst on how "her dad treated her when she was younger," which was a huge red flag that I knew about, but for some reason I never applied it to her), I thought I had done something wrong.
The problem is people always confuse being nice and patient with weakness. Beware of the fury of the patient man.
I am like that 😂 patient, calm, nice....women are not interested. Yet push my buttons, step on my toes and I become the Hulk and destroy everything on my path! 😂
Do you mean that " Demon flees when a good man go to war " ?
Mario Van den Eede I say the same thing lol I literally become like a tyrant. Destroying everything on my path
I'm the most laid back guy and a great listener but women have a habit of underestimating me. I draw from a deep well of patience but there is a limit and when that is reached, there is shock and awe. That is rare but I've run across people who push the limit for their own whims and lived to regret it.
So fear Canadians. FEAR US!
Happily married for almost 14 years... this is spot on. We women do actually value clear boundaries. And protection from our own chaos. So non-PC, but so true.
I've been in both a healthy (currently in a 1 and a half year relationship) and toxic relationship with women and this is what you need to know:
- You need to VALUE YOURSELF more than you value your partner
- You need to be okay with walking away (It's so difficult once you build an attachment but if you can get to a place where you can do this, then you will be okay)
- Although equal, someone has to carry the relationship and that's your duty as the man if you want to earn and keep that respect from her but most importantly from YOURSELF.
- If you are a really masculine man, you need to find a woman that fully embraces her feminine qualities. Being a man or a woman does not automatically mean that you are able to show these qualities so it takes work and really getting to know yourself.
- Do NOT try to please her ALL the time - it won't work.
- Say NO
- Be gentle but firm
- Allow her space to miss you, even if you live in the same house
- Focus on yourself, your journey, and your purpose
- Don't stop her from doing the things she wants to do that you are not happy with. What you need to do is always be ready to have a conversation with her as to what is bothering you but not in an emotional way. It's in a very gentle but yet firm way. It's not an argument but rather a discussion.
- Stop bothering her all of the time - have a life
- SPACE, SPACE, SPACE - trust is not 'I need to know what or where you are going all the time' but rather 'I trust this person enough for me not to worry about that'
- If she makes a mistake, let it be known and help her correct it
- If she is disloyal or talks negatively about you or to you, walk away and never look back.
Screenshotted. Thank you brother.
How do you advise calling out the mistake? Curious question ik people got different opinions on this
Great advice 👍
@@kyleruiz6196 tell her what she did and.explain it to her. Girls are goofy and they might not see what she did as disrespectful. They look at life through a different lense.
THISSS!!! This is what I as a womam say that men do wrong nowadays, they give themselves too much too soon. Same for many women too honestly.
Love is a dance not a pulling competition. A man should lead the dance yes but not drag his partner to the point of making her/both trip.
Gentle but firm and ultimately enjoyable for both.
When I realized that as a man you have to protect women from themselves is when I emotionally checked out of dating
Yeah, the question of whether it's worth it is a very serious one.
This is hell! We are logical and strong and they are weak and deranged. No wonder Ricky Martin went gay!
only is she is worth protecting.
Exactly buddy
good point. its a LOT of work, especially because societal norms no longer exist, hedonism is rampant, the sex-positive movement’s in effect, their egos are overblown, and there’s temptation everywhere.
I completely agree. Jordan Peterson talks about this is as well. Women want dangerous men, you should be capable of inflicting punishment on her and others. There is no virtue in being harmless
Also if a man is not able of being dangerous and causing harm. Of being agressive when he needs to be and making others fear him when he needs to then how will he be able to protect a partner or his offspring. Much less himself, a man being dangerous is what ensures that man's survival. As well as the survival of his family and the safety of his house and his food supply. As well as his ability to obtain vital resources for his survival.
Need to define the word woman, it must have two meanings, because all of the women I've met in our western society want to distroy masculinity not revel in dangerous men.
@@bw2442 sadly there are a lot of Western woman like this. As for the wman in my family we are from a eastern culture. And in our culture both genders are celebrated. Men and women support and nurture each other. The men are the ones that lead and protect the family, they run the business and their word is law. Men in my culture are respected but in return they create a safe, place and the woman are equal. Now the woman are submissive to the men however we fight and work beside them as equals and neither gender is disrespectful to the other. The woman are the nurturers and we run to home. I think that the big problem with Western cultures is that both genders do not respect each other
Um, no. We don't want a partner we FEAR. But, of course, I'm a woman. What do I know about women??
@@MsAggie78 But deep down you know the man you're with has the capability of causing you fear, even though he chooses not to. That's what he means.
My Ex-GF left me for my abusive friend when I treaded her well. Now I know why
Fear = respect. It is not about being agressive towards others, but letting peoole, men and women, that you will act to defend yourself. And expect nothing leas.
Fear and respect are two different things. Fear is negative, respect is positive. It's like the difference between being aggressive (negative) and being assertive (positive)
Fear =/= respect. I don’t see how you can possibly equate the two
Yeah it goes something like this you shouldnt always use violence in an argumant but the threat needs to always be there its that energy your giving to people.
I disagree. I can respect people without fearing them and I can fear people without respecting them. Its totally a different feeling to that person
You don't get any respect by inspiring fear to others. Instead of acting fearsome, it would be wiser to do good around you, inspire others with your good deeds or with how you built a career.
I see your point alexander. The way of protecting youself with an already well-established reputation is the way of protecting one self against an passive aggressive Psychpath, so also good against psychopathic man as it is against woman in general. The problem is this is easier said than done. And since society puts woman on an pedestal, having a reputation strong enough to protect youself against the word of a woman is pretty hard to achieve.
It would be cool if you made a video in how to establishe this kind of reputation. Without lying and manipulating, since those tactics a very energy draining.
@Keith Erickson HU? WHAT? Wtf you talking about?
Explain please
@@ashuranero5721 He is talking about the #metoo movement. Hard to build a reputation in an environment where it can be completely ruined by one false accusation.
@@p_serdiuk I was actually confused about the part with marxism.... and still am
@@ashuranero5721 Cultural marxism is the ideology of Western radical left. You may have noticed terms like "cultural appropriation", "systemic racism", "patriarchy" and "white supremacy" thrown around; it's basically a new coat of paint over the old marxist idea of class struggle between the proletariat and the bourgeoisie that should result in an inevitable global revolution. This is why the lefties support the ongoing riots in the US for example, as they think only in terms of the "oppressed" and the "oppressors". Labeling someone as part of the "oppressors", by using terms like "fascist", "racist", "sexist", "rapist", "white supremacist" etc. is one of their favorite tactics, as these labels don't have to be proven in order to damage someone's reputation, especially when coming from a member of the "oppressed" such as women and black people (or basically everyone who isn't a straight white man).
This is so damn true. When I was going through my first breakup, I really put on this armored mode on myself - I was this walking, serious, emotionless guy and somehow I was attracting a hell of lot of attention from a lot of women; there were a few women who were giving me bedroom eyes too; but I was too broken that time from the inside. One girl even hooked up with me just because she like my mean look. But the moment I open up and start sharing my feelings - boy oh boy - they vanished so fast and didnt give damn except for a few "ohh its okay baby" moments.
Yup. I learned almost too late.
I’m 6’1”, blonde, blue eyes with a great smile.
I went to clubs.
Nothing.
I couldn’t understand it.
Then, one night, instead of looking at the girls and smiling, I looked at the men. I noticed _NONE_ of them smiled. *_EVER_*
They all had black cowboy hats too.
So, me and my boys went to WalMart, stole a couple of cowboy hats, and went back in.
I didn’t CRACK a GRIN. I looked at the horizon or ANYTHING ELSE but NOT ONE WOMAN.
LITERALLY TWO HOURS LATER I’m blzzz deep in an adorable cosmetics sales lady.
I called it “Marlboro Man”.
And it works.
Oh.
And when they talk?
Answer in one word answers and STILL don’t look at them.
I had a BEAUTUFUL 18 year old full on KISS ATTACK me and I couldn’t push her OFF of me.
She spent the night.
George Costanza is right: whatever you think works, *DO THE OPPOSITE*
hahahahaha yep. women complain all the time about bad guys. but refuse to date a nice one. worse is that everyone can act both ways... so women always encourage the worst out of guys... then blame them for the same thing they demanded.
wow yeh if you smile and look towards girls on dance floors they move away, so the opposite must work. I got a girlfriend once because i had depression and i was working with her and other people, and so being depressed I had a bad look on my face and didnt talk to her when she was trying to get my attention, i just wanted to be left alone, this literally caused her to fall in love with me, she had an ex boyfriend who was needy and wanted her bad and she rejected him for me the grumpy dude at work. I decided to ask her out after it was clear she was into me and of course she said yes and she was surprised that suddenly I was giving her attention, I didnt tell her i wanted to experience a girlfriend and sex and actually didnt like her, she must have thought i suddenly like her, moral of the story? maybe we can only get girls we dont like because the ones we like we are too needy too and they get put off, catch 22, maybe subtly go for a girl you like and work damn hard hiding that you like her
She will quickly move on as soon as she doesn’t fear you anymore. Share the love you have but never let anyone walk all over you. Enlightening video, Mr Grace!
I mean it's pretty contradictory then to claim that long term relationships are a viable thing, if you need to make her fear you forever, I find it pretty useless then
Lord - Pavonis not our fault. Women’s biology’s fault.
Can this link in with Stockholm’s syndrome
@@holypavonis382 correct. LTR to function will require you to keep this exhaustive game going on forever, and even then the simple fact that you married her already gives her a huge leverage over you, so actually you need to double down on your dominance strategy. But it will still be hard to keep her respect and admiration and specially, sexual attraction on the same level in the long run; hypergamy will always have her wondering "is there better out there", even if not on purpose, even if she loves you, and it means her attraction will inevitably erode. That's the price you pay to have kids and a family. If that's not your goal your better off not committing
"It is better to be feared than loved, if you cannot be both" - Niccolo Machiavelli.
You realise you’re quoting a crazy psychopath
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@Pouty MacPotatohead
Psychopaths deserve to be shamed
Good job quoting a man only tyrants and dictators find relevant...
@@bananewane1402 psychopaths are human too
Chad is mysterious, ugly man is creepy (scary)
That's what I was thinking.
Good observation.
I think folks need to be careful about trying to bolt on attributes
that may work for other people as part of a whole.
@@BWater-yq3jxattributes are interpreted differently by each individual person and they are ALWAYS influenced by your appearance whether they know it or not. A good looking guy that doesn’t have a stutter just has to talk to a girl and he’s “smooth” a fat ugly guy doing the same is a fing weirdo revolting freak, it’s just how people work we always say “never judge a book by its cover” but as humans that’s literally all we do, you me and the 7 billions others begin judging people the same moment we meet them for the very first time every interaction we have all the time, it’s absurd to think how hot or ugly a guy is doesn’t make an enormous difference in what a women thinks of his “personality”
This is great, dude you literally solved the puzzle called women
Hes Just explaining what men taugt each other. I would love Alex and jordan peterson to meet. Maybe with bret weinstein.
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True but its only a part its a GAINT almost endless puzzle that takes years and years
It takes some doing to figure women out. Once you do, life with them is much more doable.
@@Randomguydrm and you think women know what they want.
12 minutes of hardcore masculinity and then 12:22
Yeah buddy, he should've finished the video in the rain... Like a true Spartan 💪🏽😂
@Help I'm A Rock I kinda agree, but to be fair, I can give some practical advice to some women on how to be better mothers while never qualifying as such myself.
Lmao I was thinking the same thing. I was mind blown the first 12mins then he "eeked!" his way out of the rain while tip toeing for cover under a tree. Omg that was so vulnerable! Haha
To be fair, he may have been concerned about his technology getting wet.
that's the perfect example to see that we have to fake masculinity even if we are not masculine, because it seems like that's what women want...
Children also fear their parents in the same manner; the moment a child realizes that their parent cannot or will not harm them (non-violently, of course), is the moment they go off the reservation. Crudely put, treat women like children: give them adoration and love, instill the fear of consequence for action, and curtail their excess desires and impulses to stave off disaster. It's like I can hear Donovan Sharpe in my head using your words.
I agree with you and what Alex states but it requires a lot of effort to maintain that frame over time. I question whether or not a woman needing constant barriers is worth the time and effort that could be spent on yourself or more worthwhile endeavors
"Girls are more mature than boys."
"Girls are socially more mature than boys."
Words from a female coworker.
@@andycook433 This is why in the ancient world, most simply waited until women were a thing they could afford to have. You are seeing this coming back in force today, but using Rome as an example, men would not take a wife until after their required campaigns for being Roman citizens and establishing themselves financially. Legionary campaign requirements for the Republican phase was 10 years or 10 campaigns, whichever was longer, and then they would return to operate either their family enterprise or engage in politics (I speak of the upper classes here, the patricians and equites -- plebeians were usually too poor to set anything up, so they simply married when they wished. Funny how poverty then, as now, mirror one another perfectly.) So throw in another decade for good measure, assume most military careers began around 15-16, and you have your magical age of most male consent: 36. The average woman in this time period, as in most ages, was to be wed as early as possible (the idea of children is a 19th century Piaget idea; up to then they were simply seen as 'little adults'), hence the tradition of a 14 year old woman marrying someone nearly 40. Why so young? Childbirth was the #1 killer of women, and most kids did not live to see two years of age. If your society was based on lineage and inheritance for property rights (as most in the world were), you *had* to have the most chances for viable offspring to live to old age as possible. Thus, women were more often than not used as a means to an end, and in many societies, as property. They literally had only one purpose.
Shalefist great points. In our time of no fault divorce, alimony, child support, prenups that are not honored, divorces mostly initiated by women, and a biased court system that can severely hamper the life of men even when you do right. You have to be more mindful of any long term relationship and even then it’s a vulnerable gamble/risk
@@Shalefist ... Well said.
This immediately reminded me of that Steve Carell quote from the office.
“Would I rather be feared or loved? I want people to fear... how much they love me.”
Lol, not exactly the correct message in line with this video, but it was definitely on to something.
Haha! I love that quote!
I'm genuinely thinking about being single for the rest of my life. This seems like exteme mental gymnastics
You don't need to watch all this, trust me lmao. This man is nuts
@@aydenpotts7019 he seems to be right from the experience I’ve had. That’s why I subbed to him
@@aydenpotts7019 You're a young sap, just wait till you're in your late 20s and mid 30s and you'll come to realize Women's true nature.
@@heraldarnold437 Bad luck man. All the women in my life have been nothing short of being role models. I don't deserve my girlfriend at all and my mom is the kindest human that I know. The "true nature" thingy, It's all crap. Get out of the victim mentality and you'll be surprised how similar they are to us.
@@aydenpotts7019 You look like you're barely 18. Just wait another decade. Once women get out of highschool and in the real world where men throw money at women, that's when their hypergamy goes out the roof.
"Lets try and get inside this tree" what an odd thing to say 😂
Another amazing video Alex!
Haha that one caught me off guard as well, I was doing something else while listening to the video and then I was like, "what the hell" when that line came out and stopped what I was doing just to check out what on earth the man was doing lol
It all boils down to if that girl/woman didn't have a figure of authority growing up she's not going to respect you bruh. Ya need to stop comparing woman to girls that never matured an grew up. She could be 50 stuck in a 15 year olds mentality.
so true. in other words, some women are so broken theyre unfixable
I have always called my wife out for bad behaviour and she has really improved over time. Now after 20 years, she is all over me and treats me like a king.
If men really understood women's core psychology they would never expose themselves to marriage on the current system.
Yup
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If you knew anything about psychology you would know every one is a individual and different in their behaviours, views, morals, beliefs, reactions etc but keep thinking you understand what all woman are like lol
@@peacefulrelaxation1377 There not much of that here its looking like a real echo chamber! but that's what you get when people want to feel superior based off sex rather then merit
Watching this while it's 11 minutes fresh before it gets deleted
still here
why would it get deleted??
Look at how many likes I have.
Then try to answer your own question.
dude is living in an RPG how convenient is it that there's some hollowed-out tree there as soon as it starts raining. Literally magical.
Talks about manpower and how you should try to get women by making them fear you... *yells in high pitch when the rain starts* xd
Laughs
Lucky for him that tree was there lol
Did Alex just jump into a hollowed out tree like a magic forest gnome LoL
This is it, guys. This is it. All the women in my life who pursued me and never gave up, were the ones who feared me in some way - not that I would hurt them physically, but that I would ignore them or leave them if they didn't respect and value me.
Every time a woman has left me, it's because she has felt absolutely no threat from me whatsoever. She knew I would tolerate anything because I had no other options and made her the focus of my life, and so she knew she had all the power.
Question: What "fear" can a woman feel towards a man, if she has the power of ruining his entire life by accusing him of "grape" without any evidence?
Only weak men get reported. My g/f fears me, she's told me that she's afraid of me, & yet. There she is, still with me after 4 years
@@johnnycray4427 W
Fear the man who has power in will and thought. Power in social constructs, the ability to command armies, and the confidence and bravery of a lion. Fear the man whose voice spreads wise words and can be a threat to your existence by merely looking at you.
Fear the man whose eyes are sharp like a serpent. His every footstep is elegant and powerful.
To Quote Gabriel Angelos: "Walk softly and carry a big gun."
Maybe this sounds a little extreme but I want you to philosophically think about how you approach life.
Then think how you can convey the same kinds of powers I mentioned. The powers of someone worthy of being like a hero.
Fantasy and reality aren't always too different.
many innocent men are serving long prison sentences because of this.
@@johnnycray4427 is president Clinton weak?
How about Trump? How many powerful men have we heard of that have been thrown under the bus, lied on, and/or falsely accused by women who were peasants compared to them?
Would you say it's more likely that your girl is not as evil as they were or do you figure you're just stronger than all of those men?
In Holland you would be afraid of the huge women!
Are women really tall/big over there?
@@KabzieMusic on average, they are 5'8 which isnt fat away from the average height of men in usa
In the United States, you would be terrified of the wide women!
@@friedrichzizek6700 I studied there. I saw so many women taller than me, I am exactly 6 ft. I'm sure the avg height is taller than 5'8.
In Spain you would be terrified of entitled, short and fat women.
Lesson 16: Don't let a women think you're scared of a little rain getting you wet.
"Word need bad men. We keep the other bad men from the door" Rust Cohle, _True Detective._
There is a saying in my country: "at night men prey on a house with a weak man". I guess it's equivalent to "a man's biggest duty is to save women and children from other men" in the West.
I am a woman and I want a man who other men (and women) are fearful of, not because he is aggressive or short tempered, but because he is brave, confident, assertive and "man" enough so no one tries to harm or bully him and his family. I want to feel safe and more importantly I want _our_ family (kids) to be safe.
I think the word "fear" is not perfect for this, but I do understand the concept. It's similar to how the bible says for christians for fear God. It's a respect type of thing, rather than a fear that creates aversion.
I hate starting sentences like this but
_As a black man_ (😬lol😅) I know what it's like for people to see you and have one of their first reactions be fear. Fear without a certain sense of familiarity and/or desire doesn't breed attraction.
Someone else said it already but Professor Dr. JBP does a good job using the idea of being dangerous. A homeless man whole looks jumped up on stimulants is scary and not at all attractive, as they're unpredictable and undesirable. The big, country boy who kinda sounds like "yerda/yerpa/your-father" and drives his truck over the speed limit every time he sees straight way or is on the highway- that can be very attractive yet dangerous.
That's perhaps a type of fear but there ought to be a new word to differentiate...
Agreed.... Fear alone isn't enough to explain it. Fear is one factor in the equation.
And the different factors can be in different amounts and still work.
E.g. hot level 9 plus fear level 6 plus funny level 4 = attractive.
But also hot 8 fear 7 funny 2 can work, etc
fear is a key ingredient and a good heuristic to rely on
Formidable
It's interesting that the way you describe how women fear men is similar to how many religious people describe a fear of God.
The same actually
So now women are supposed to look upon us as gods? Are they supposed to worship us and pray to us as well? I have a hard time comprehending that one. Sounds ridiculous.
@@jasonlee8156 It was just an observation of similarity. Hypotheses non fingo.
Jason Lee men represent the father, to which there is definitely a correlation to The Father of the Trinity... ie, God.
Just a matter of similarity between the terms and nothing more, aye. Funny one
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After dating women for years, thinking it was my purpose as a man, i m led to constantly think about one thing, i wish i was gay, i wish i wasn’t attracted to women, the passive aggressive way of talking, the puzzles u have to solve, and them in their period, its just too much. But here i am still straight, i envy gay ppl
Pathetic. Disappointment.
I feel your pain brother
There is nothing to envy gay men for either.
I hear your pain. You may want to consider that both genders conflicted emotions surrounding the areas of relationships, intimacy, loving communications are no one's fault. Secondly, male/female relationships are the most complicated puzzles to navigate well so I suggest that you be extremely serious in your desire for the relationship the next time you decide you want to engage in one bc guaranteed the woman you chose will be.
The best way to help yourself vis-a-vis a relationship with a woman is to be sure you've dealt with or confronted your own conflicted thoughts and feelings regarding marriage, relationships, intimacy, fair fighting or loving communications.
Of all the relationship ‘gurus’ on UA-cam. This guy’s in a league of his own.
I always assumed that women search in a man for the same that men search in women. How could I be so wrong...
I really relate to the bit about social Capitol. Towards the very end of my marriage my ex wife started saying all kinds of lies about me to the people in our lives (in order to make herself look better, repeatedly caught cheating etc) thankfully I had enough social Capitol, and she'd been caught in enough small lies by most people that almost no one who knew us both believed her. Being trusted and respected by those around you is vitally important
She left you for saying capitol instead of capital :)
Simple version
No fear, no sexual desire
Without her genuine sexual desire, there is no relationship
this reminds me of my p.e. teacher who was this huge guy who'd been in the army and all the kids feared him cos we saw the punishment he would dish out to the naught kids, even tho the 'gd kids' feared him we also respected him as he was one the kindest and understanding teachers in the entire school. even the naughty kids ended up not just respecting him but actually loving him and they changed their behaviours for his classes. i remember feeling safe in his classes cos the bullies feared and respected him
Can't relate to this. All my life people especially girls keep saying I'm a kind and intimidating man. Still single
When he has the power to resist you, you know you're safe with him. I love it when my boyfriend reprimands me, because I know that as much as I enthral him, ultimately, he has the control and has the capability to lead me and not the other way around.
This is how it should be.
You still have the power of accusing him of "grape": Everyone will believe you, and he will eventually be taken to jail. You can ruin his entire life with a single phone call.
It doesn't matter how alpha he acts - in reality, the government makes it so YOU have all the power over him. He either obeys to your every whim... or to jail he goes.
So do you do things wrong to get reprimanded alot?
@@mayorofthenonsense This works for her not most woman deal with it, most people just work together and respect each over
Then you are just submissive to your boyfriend. A healthy relationship should never be one of dominance and control over the partner.
damn it's so much work to put on for finding and dating a high quality woman, no wonder MGTOWs just give up.
I hear you, Mr. Edu. Plenty of women giving up as well..
theresa78201 why? there are far more eligible, decent men available than women. just need to weed through the chads and snowflakes.
@@vincezetti7216 Most people with felony convictions are men, so there are not more decent men available than women.
The kind of fear is the same kind of fear outlined in the bible. Its not a fear of being hurt, or a fear of punishment.
Its a fear of disappointing someone that you care about. That's the kind of fear that a woman need fro her partner.
Its so crazy how these videos get posted at the right time in my life
If I can't scare a women how am I supposed to scare away any threat to me my girl and my kids
A man who is scary is a man who is powerful
I am Powerful
Already an idiot disliked the video without even watching it. You can already see that a feminist most likely is subscribed just to”punish” this awesome youtuber that helps boys to become a man and for girls to have better relationships.
Yes. Basically anybody that talks real Female Psychology & Biology will naturally have a bunch of salty feminists & White Knights trolling
Let 'em hate. Any interaction with viewers make his channel more visible!
yeh fuk feminists and feminism and equality bullshit.........its why the sexes are so fukt up and confused these days!
I think fear in this context is more of a respect than physical fear. When a woman says she fears a man, it's because he's physically abusive or she fears he will be. That is never good for a relationship. Only messed up women stay in relationships like that.
But what you are explaining is very accurate. Women want to look up to a man. They want a man with backbone. Not a loose cannon with a bad temper. But a calm, cool, collected, Don Draper type of man.
I find this very interesting and confirming. My ex wife use to tell me while we were dating she was scared of me and I asked her why and she said didn't know why. I just thought she was messing with me.
Right when he's talking about being tough, he starts giggling and running from the rain...🤦♂️🙄
Wow this vid Alexander is one of if not your best so far, really insightful!
Can you do a video on what some of those "low value female" behaviours (That require you to not negatively re-enforce) might look like. In my experience, sometimes a man can take a stand on something, but if its not actually a low value behaviour, he can just end up looking insecure and underconfident. a list of actual behaviours that shouldn't be put up with... with examples would be amazing.
Last friday I broke up with my now ex-girlfriend. (1.5 years) I'm doing everything you say in this video. It fits my character naturally. However all my life I hear from women that i'm to dominant in the relationship. Some broke up with me over this fact. Sometimes I broke up with them because they gave me this feeling I'm like a tirant or something. Last friday I gave up on a very lovely good hearted women. She always treated me with respect and kindness. However during our last fallout she started saying things like: I can't be myself around you. You are the reason I'm angry all the time to other people. I don't feel happy. This was the first time she did so. I told her I was going to keep my dignity and I left. She's not going to disrespect me like that. Now she has alot of regrets and told me a few days later that it did not make any sense for her to say that. As a well self-respecting individual with a good amount of self esteem I'm just tired of hearing this stuff. I always mean well in a relationship. The women im with are always left behind better than they were before they met me in many aspects. They definatley have always feared me. That's why they normally never disrespect me. I never touched them or hit them or played mental games to play them. So its sort off in conflict with your message. I do however totally agree to not be a push over in a relationship or in life in general but It seems for me this is where my relationships always fail.
You'll be okay. You'll find a good woman that respects your good masculinity one day 👍👍💪💪
@@rebelrali2758 Thanks brother. Feeling quite better already
I'm a woman 😁
@@rebelrali2758 Whoops 😁
@@kevinvandenoetelaar5880 that's okay I was just hoping that being a woman wouldn't devalue what I said in my comment. Cause a woman can't really know what to expect from this side of youtube lol
She should fear losing you, fear losing your presence/all the good things you bring in her life
She must also respect you, in a way that you assert your position in the relationship by being assertive when she tests you
Otherwise just have fun and enjoy your time together
Pro tip:Never utter a high pitched laugh, especially in front of women.😁
That’s just taking it too far. Everyone will notice when you try to fake a “deep laugh” 😂
12:22 🤭🤭🤭
@@cristopheridlc That would be a great comedy sketch where in situations where, even the most alpha men squeel, they would force out the opposite😂
@@YellowPaint100 lol..had a good laugh..thank u
Lol i do that and women love it. So it depends.
Man that rain coming on, the timing, your reaction and your solution all was so absolutely beautiful! 🤣💪🏻😎
You should keep up with these video formats, really been great and crystal clear! Well done pal
If you want women love you u should be person whom she complaine about it.
What, I can't understand what you wrote man.
That actually doesn’t mean she loves you either. That usually means she loves how you make her feel rather than the man that you are.
@@surajsharma1992 bro you got it ryt.what i mean is make her confuse make her fell bad abt her and alway tell her lies, its a trick nd its work very very well
@@versatilelord8893 how she fell i dnt give dam abt it,dats y i am redpill.
... as a guy, all of this ticks me so wrong from one perspective, yet resonates so much from the other... it's amazing.
Naaah, dump that woman that needs fear to function kind and humane.
Then you'll be having no women at all. To explain briefly I'll use an example someone already used here in the comments: it's the same kind of fear children have for their parents. When a child stops fearing their parents they will openly misbehave. That bit of fear a child has for the parent is necessary. And if you know enough, you are aware that women are basically children. They behave quite similarly.
@@NeoZeta But then the child can becomes mature, and eventually stops misbehaving and making trouble. Woman can do that too. There is something in them that makes them create trouble to their man. I doubt that evolution made them that way, to misbehave like brats.
@@Vadrigar1
That's what I'm telling you: you'll be disappointed. Of course, the extent of which they act like that is different from one another. In the same way not all children are little devils. But the core premise is ever present, as it is in women. The advice is: find the one who gives LESS headache, because you won't find one that doesn't give you any.
@@Vadrigar1 It's actually the inverse. Evolution made kids not to cause trouble (you can thank sadistic parenting for that), but made women to always cause trouble.
@@NeoZeta My comment keeps getting deleted, but you're completely wrong about kids. Fear is not good for them, and only causes worse behavior.
When all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.
Stop giving parenting advice to Caucasians. You have no place.
One time randomly at work, this girl told me that she was scared of me because of my deep voice, maybe that some how plays into it as well.
Makes sense since "fear" is on the arousal (excitement) spectrum.
Why do "dates" like scary movies?
Why do "dates" like roller coaster rides?
Why do "dates" like motorcycle rides?
Why do girlfriends like bad boys? A guy with some danger to him?
Because it arousal sensations in her body.
true
Lesson 11 is my fave: A Fear that helps with self improvement, hopefully healthy.
12:00 I was only listening not watching, like a podcast. When I heard the rain I freaked out, whipped off the headphones and ran outside to grab the laundry. took me a good 1-2 seconds to realize there was no rain.
You call it fear, I call it respect. Two sides to the same coin.
This is also an explanation to why women like bad boys. It’s a misplaced devotion that has roots in exactly what Alexander is talking about here. Women biologically desire the dominant male figure. Bad boy comes along and it’s this drive (and Beauty and the Beast programming) that propels her to him.
For myself, I know I am drawn to feisty men, and the intrigue persists if he’s also principled. Someone who has the ability to exert the savage, but knows when and where to use it.
Bad boys these days are cringe..i like how guys were in the 1950s calm cool and collected which where im trying to get.
One Truth agreed! Back before the feminist movement that gained momentum in the 60’s changed everything. Birth control pill was also introduced, and women started agreeing to sex outside marriage. Everything changed after the 50’s. I think the 50’s man is a good goal for a man to emulate.
D Bradley very well said. I was also thinking about fearing God in relation to this topic, so I’m glad you included this. We’re so prideful as a culture to think that God is only love and that we deserve that love just because. The reality is that we could all be crushed in an instant, and it’s only God’s love for us that keeps us safe and we should not take that for granted. It doesn’t mean we walk around being fearful, just that the reality is understood.
@@kimmywimmy7305 ... Fear, or respect ... The definitions are not identical.
On what way does a thug command respect? Can you analyse it well enough to articulate it?
How does the thug act, that makes you respect him. And this needs to be specific.
I have some ideas, but I don't want to pollute your analysis.
The things *behavior*, either towards you or towards others ... What exactly is he doing.
Thanks
@@kimmywimmy7305 religion is not the best analogy to use. because Only God is to be feared, men are not.
Wow bro. This was gold!
Also that tree shelter at the end makes me wanna go camping
you can also be treated this way by a man who doesnt respect you, hence bullies
This is essential and pivotal. It's the elephant standing in the middle of the room that to few see ! You've distilled instinct into clarity and a plan of action. You're brilliant.
Thank you Alexander, I did some of these things recently through a breakup and this just confirmed my instincts were correct.
You had me for a second when you went into the tree ....i thought you were going to Narnia
Good timing on this video.
I am currently under attack by my daughter's headmistress.
So far I have reigned in my fury, but if she pushes again (and she likely will) she'll find that her position does not protect her from blowback.
I have ammo (documents) already and can make her day go south fast if she tries!
Thankfully the source of her attack can be turned against her with ease.
I don't want to destroy livelihoods, but I can if pushed to it.
I know mine is not a "partner problem", but it is a "relationship" problem of a sort.
This woman thinks "MEN. BAD".
🤨😡
Intimidation is alpha attraction.
If you look at woman, and she looks down after, then you have enough "fear" / confidence ⇒ it's a natural sign for say you are the dominant.
If she looks at the side, then she is no interest or you are too weak. Probably not 100% rule, but be more careful next time on the street …
I like this... Solid idea.
Look for submissive body language.
I keep thinking there is a better word than 'fear', but I can't think of one sufficiently nuanced to capture all Alexander's points. He's right on the mark. Women must fear you on some level to respect you. They must fear you to feel safer with you than they do alone. This instinctive, subconscious fear drives respect, attraction and commitment.
@@dithaingampanmei ...but how to detect a mere "capability" for violence?
With a thug, a woman feels his violence... So she knows it exists... But she also feels his tenderness.
But without expressing that violence... How can she ever actually know the capability truly exists?.
@@breakingthemasks You telling me you can't look at someone and tell if they are powerful or not?
Lesson 12: Fear will make women value your kindness more
The very insightful Alexander Grace! A sad truth on the "competitive plane": If you can beat other men in the group, then the women in that group won't mess with you. I still assert men should cooperate more than compete.
a woman fears the idea that you can be happier without her
I think this is true for normal (male) friends too. Showing people consquences can open their eyes and make them see theyvare being jerks.
she sould have a mix of fear and admiration
I am 56, I have followed other dating advice coaches, but you are the first to talk about this concept, this has just caused me to rethink my whole life. :-)
Choose respect first before love. Without respect, there is no love.
Love yourself first 👌🎯
Brasileira é?
The ending of the video is funny 😂. Blessings in form of rain suddenly falls to bless you because of the good advice you are unfolding.
Ok, so this is my first time watching one of your videos. Great job on conveying some superbly accurate information. How is it someone so young as you is able to understand such wisdom?
The rainstorm hits and he doesn't skip a beat.
Now that's good frame.
100% agree. I "feared" my boyfriend when I first met him. He's strong and muscular, is physically capable of throwing a punch on another man and causing great harm but he's under voluntary control. This fact makes me respect him.
So what? There's plenty of pro boxers and bouncers that you could eat him for breakfast ...........then you'd no longer feel safe with him, but fear a stronger man even more and go with him instead! Such is female nature!
I love hiking in the hammering down rain, its ridiculously relaxing for my brain.
From my experience women these days don't fear men displaying any of these behaviors; they feel challenged by it and won't tolerate it. The saddest thing is that she is socially and legally validated for ruining an otherwise good man.
Man, this video is gold.
Hope your channel grows a lot.
He talking about woman like their irrational beings like dogs rather then people lol its absurd
The workplace can be tricky though, bc nowadays.
Women dont respect men at ALL.
They dont care.
Especially when they are great friends with the Boss lady.
Story: my ex.
I remember I was respected and had the women under control and they viewed me as a threat.
But then our male Boss got a new job, then they replaced him.with a woman boss.
Suddenly their was 2 girls in particular that started sucking up to her and became really good friends with her.
All of a sudden I saw a drastic change in their behaviors towards me..
They were being more exerting and talking crap more often..
I was actually getting frustrated.
So I fought fire with fire and to cut the story short.
Didnt end up so well with me..
Men depends on the situation.
But every other female still respected me, except those 2.
If they are scared to meet me and start flaking, is that women FEARing me? 😂😂
They probably fear that you'll be boring and / or creepy.
I guess that counts as a kind of fear, but it's not really the kind of fear you want.
@@kristianjensen5877 Creepy I'm not but boring I am. Which is okay. I don't go out of my way to impress anyone anyway. Especially the opposite sex.
Which is probably why I won't have a long line of women waiting to date me. Or a horde of them chasing after me. Also don't have enough money to attract them
either.
She wants a Tiger...not a teddy bear as her partner.
She already has plenty of teddy bears.
Well said. My last girlfriend tried to intimidate/humiliate me by calling me "dangerous". It had just the opposite effect. My response: "Yes I am dangerous". (thinking: to your ego).
Instilling fear into a woman is about being meek in the truest sense of the word, maintaining a delicate balance of two things women don't have: power and responsibility. The idea isn't to rule over women with an iron fist, but to hold their hand with an iron fist.
Thats tough to do when they think they should rule you.
@@davidbloxham5062 ... That sentence is perfect. And it's straight out of Genesis.
Omg- “I’m just going to get into this tree”. Lol, no idea that was going to happen...
there are only 2 states people should be in when they meet you: 1. in fear or 2. respect you
What about close friends??