The Four Tendencies Personality Test -- Which Are You? (Rebel, Questioner, Obliger, Upholder)
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- Опубліковано 11 лют 2019
- The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin aims to pinpoint our response to expectations, both from the outside world and to ourselves. I found it to be a very helpful test!
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Take the Quiz here and let me know what you got! goo.gl/xgpu5g
I am the Obliger..so damn true..I should find another Obliger so that he helps me to get my own things done and vice versa.
Now this test seems fun. I'm only doing this because I feel like it...lol!!! I also took the test before watching your vid....big surprise....I'm a rebel! 😂 I know it's true as every person (including my family) I meet tells me I'm contrary. It baffles me as I don't do it consciously. 😂😂😂😂
“I do what I think is best, according to my judgment. If it doesn’t make sense, I won’t do it.” Questioner, makes total sense. Lol.
Questioner 🤔. Hmmm... I wonder why that is? 🧐
I got Obliger. Though I'm definitely a rebel. And questioner.
Obliger. Not surprised. ... Unless someone wanted me to be.
LMAO That's my kind of humour👏.. Your comment deserves to go on franks cool wall... take care.
When you are a questioner and you question if you are a questioner. 🧐
Raegan yeah give us some more detail dammit.
Thats deep! hahaha #Philosoraptor
hahaha yes. same. I was looking around for some kind of grading scale to see how I rated in each category, because ...
Lmao relate. A questioner to boot 😉
I’m a questioner, and I’m going to question each of the 4 tendencies, including mine.
Upholder : They’re much more willing to get things done than most of us. They know how to work as a team. They do. The problem is that they can be too rigid, and end up with a lot of groupthink or blind obedience involved. They know their own inner decisions, and so they know how to lead, but you know, the irony is that people can’t work as a team well if you don’t encourage independence. Some upholders lead not to make others grow, but so they can be dependent on them.
Obliger : They can be rather nice people who are willing to be flexible to adapt to the changes in others’ needs, whether in relationships or sales in business. Though when they’re immature, they can be the stereotype of the “nice guy” or “nice girl” where they always expect that you owe them something, possibly your virginity, because they did something good for you. Martyr complexes can be developed. There is also an emphasis on insisting humblebragging rather than just admitting your strengths so we know what you’re good at to assign you a useful role.
Rebel : They’re willing to put down old traditions, and make people think in new ways for the better. They value difference and encourage others to rebel. The thing is that a lot of rebels are rebels to majority, but when they join a smaller subculture, they’re blind followers of that. I rather have a rebel with a cause than a rebel without in just wanting to rebel to piss other people off. Rebels are often a little too flexible, changing viewpoints like they change clothes. Sometimes you need to rebel against being a rebel, because some of the rules do actually make things fair for everyone.
Questioner : Questioners question things and open up new lines of thought, but believe me, sometimes it’s not the best option to question things. Sometimes there’s an emergency, and questioning too much is going to slow all the group decisions down with your overthinking, so we’d all be in trouble for not putting ourselves out there. You can’t always trust the experts, but chances are, it’d take years to be an expert yourself in something to think for yourself in a field, and you can’t be an expert in everything. Sometimes questioning well is not being an expert yourself, but being able to figure out which experts are more worthy of trust over the other.
I got Rebel.
It's true. I'm always getting told by others that I hate being told what to do, which is funny, because while I sometimes feel obligated to help others, I'm often inclined to procrastinate if they get too demanding.
Makes me sound more like a cat than a rebel, though haha.
As a questioner, if someone gets too demanding I ignore them unless they've helped me before or will probably help me in the future.
Rebel of the "without a cause" variety right here
my dominant tendency is also obliger. “what must i do today?” - the first question that comes to my mind every single day. this is probably why life feels like a job to me.
PT Lol. I feel ya. The part about struggling to do things like service your car hit home for me.
"why life feels like a job to me", yes that's exactly how I feel. I almost feel like getting out my room is like the job has started. Maybe that's why I struggle with becoming self employed
Rebel.
Took the test first then came back to your video...didn't want to be biased😝...(since FJ can have that effect on someone 🙄)
Psh. A real Rebel wouldn't be affected by anyone! -- or, wait, no... a Rebel would choose the exact _opposite_ of someone's expectations. And the opposite of the Obliger is... the Rebel. o.o
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I did the same, but I'm an obliger.
A K I did the exact same thing. Rebel here, too.
I got questioner. I don’t understand rebels need to rebel for no logical reason. If those in authority actually work to create a decision that is logical for the greater good, what is the point of rebelling against it? If the authority is illogical or being cruel, then I’d question it. But if someone tells me to do something, would I be more likely to do it or want to go against it? Well, I answer it neutrally. It depends on how reasonable their commands are.
Really, I don’t get it. So many rebels work to take down a system, but when they become leaders themselves, often they can’t think of a better practical system to replace it. I may look like a rebel from the outside, but I don’t really mind authority as long as they’re competent. If someone else takes charge, I get to have less responsibility and time to do whatever the hell I want.
Im an INFJ and I got Questioner, and it describes me pefectly. Thanks for sharing
I've been subscribed to your channel for a while and i noticed your videos are getting better and better. It's interesting to see how more comfortable you're getting around the camera and how you're experimenting with new effects and material. Keep it up!
hey thanks!
Same observation! I get more experimental the more I feel comfortable, as well
I’m a questioner, but I need more information......🤣😂... Thanks Frank!
I'm a Questioner, definitely makes sense to me.
My favorite Obliger story from the book is the one about the two Obliger guys who were running buddies. Ever time they ran, they would each go home with one of the other guy's shoes. They never missed running because they knew if they didn't show up, the other guy wouldn't be able to run either. 😊
I got Upholder. I actually bought the book around half a year ago and it was really eyeopening! You don't only learn from yourself but others around you. I get so frustrated when other people tell me to "relax a little" or "you need more free time" (especially you, mom). What they don't understand is that I'm way more stressed out if I can't follow my plans and schedules and I simply can't enjoy taking time off if I do it when I know I'm supposed be doing something else. Haha this makes me sound so uptight. I promise I take time off too (when I've scheduled it in my calendar (: )
ha ha hey if scheduling time off is the only way to get it, you gotta do what you gotta do. I should check out the book, just the test was very eye opening!
My mom is an upholder and I completely understand her crazy ways now...she is the best but wow... she cannot be matched in her perfectionist ways. ha
My dad is an Upholder and I'm a Rebel. That made for some pretty big clashes between us. (Who am I kidding? We still have clashes, just not as intense.) He thinks "Why won't she just do it?" and I think "Get off my back!" My poor Obliger mom was stuck in the middle, trying to make peace on both sides.
INFP, got Questioner. This basically describes someone who mostly uses Fi and Ne. (Or maybe also Ti and Ne? But I don't know how Ti works).
But my parents think I'm a Rebel, while my coworkers might get the impression that I'm an Obliger.
Me too!
Same
Exact same
The Questioner. Yup. 100%. Which is why I’m single lol. Questions scare many.
I’m a rebel but feel like my environment forced me to be an obliger. This is cool to see what’s at the core. And explains some of my inner conflict.
Rebel. Took the quiz then started watching video. I was thinking I'd either get that or questioner, but it's true because i can never make myself do things and don't respond to peer pressure
I’m a mother foxtrotting rebel.
YOU’RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME 😎
welcome to the club
It is nothing special bro. I am one too and I literally can not work on myself just because I am expecting myself to do it.
Ok, I don't want to be your boss anyways.
@@post-humangod2575 ahahahaha you just read my soul :D :D :D
I got Questioner and after careful consideration I have deem it a accurate statement of myself.
I’m a rebel, but I’ve learned to act like an obliger in order to stay out of trouble with bosses/leaders. Bosses hate rebels lol.
Watching you grow through time has been such a joy brother!
Thanks for always making such wonderful and entertaining videos! 💛
thanks for coming along for the ride, Brandon!
Got Obliger. Not so surprised since I related to most of what you have chosen, plus we share the same mbti type... It's a nice test even being short though. It feels rewarding to discover more about yourself!~
Ty for your daily content, I always have fun watching you ♪
I'm a full-on questioner, and it's very accurate!
I'm a REBEL so I QUESTION why I had to give my email address.(sneaky marketing). Yet I was OBLIGATED (forced) to comply. BLACKMAILED!. So why ONLY 4 mutually exclusive categories. Nice try Gretchen.
I started doing the quiz and changed my mind. I don't want another label to obsess over.
I read the book and really like it. I am an Obliger first then rebel. unfortunately, it didn't help me create external ways of motivating myself... it seems like I need the active presence of someone else to motivate me to do the things that I should do for myself.
I got Questioner. This is so ironic, because I just kicked a guy to the curb because he couldn't handle the questions. Nothing intrusive, just interest. I realized that I gather info on people I care about so I can connect with them more meaningfully - this guy didn't want to connect, he was bunkered down behind a wall. It was adios and I'm glad. This quiz helped me recognize a trait about myself that I never caught onto before. Nicely done.
"Obliger" all day long! Although this year has been different, moving towards what I want instead of pleasing everyone else...it gets exhausting!
I am loving your new style these days. I'm stopping this video and saving it for when I can give it my full attention.
Every answer you had was what I would put so now I don't have to take the quiz myself. perfect
Upholder. Describes me pretty well.
I only watched this video somewhat on time because I woke up at 3 AM to catch a flight... but totally worth it!!! I too am the obliger, and it actually helps put a name and a pathway to why I DO feel so obligated to make sure I’m doing “what I’m supposed to” in order to be fulfilled, happy, worth something? Very helpful! Thanks FJ!
Upholder, and INFJ.
This shows in my disciplined daily routine , and paradoxical loner / giver status. If I can't find someone to take a trip with me I'll go by myself anyway. But if you need a hand building your fence I'm the first one to jump on board.
fun fact: Gretchen's an ENTJ. i found this out after reading her other book, the Happiness Project, and guessing her type. she's clearly never struggled that much with getting stuff done, 'cause ENTJs get stuff done in their sleep. i'll take the quiz anyway... because i'm an Obliger.
Frank! I got the Obliger as well! This is kind of ironic though seeing how much in my life I resist accountability. However, recently I have found that my closest friends try to keep me accountable in my inner expectations a lot more than I want sometimes. It's a pretty cool test dude. Thanks for introducing it! Also, I really appreciate you posting videos. I feel like the way you talk on UA-cam is the way I interact with the world in my head and when I am alone. You're super relatable. Good job! 😊👍
thanks, Kyra, I appreciate it!
I'm on a FJ marathon, love your content!
I took the test before watching and got the Obliger. As I watched this video after taking the test I knew you would get the same result :D.
Questioner. Makes sense.
I've had such a hard week at work and home. This one made me cry (again, today!). I really do feel obligated to those I love/service. I've always wondered way I have told people not to feel obligated to me. Maybe this is why; I feel obligated to them!
Brilliant and helpful. Thanks!
A mix of rebel and obliger seems right to me
Thanks for taking it!!! I’m an Obliger too!
I got the Questioner and I'm an INFP. People absolutely get frustrated with how many questions I ask, despite me believing my questions are reasonable and important. I see so many possibilities I need to narrow things down for accuracy!
Obliger, yep that sounds like me all right. Though I'm trying to work towards becoming an upholder. So working on developing that Se, I guess. Plus depression has taught me very effectively to say "no" to others. Cause I literally couldn't do what they wanted even if I tried.
I was just telling one of my groups the other night that I won't follow through with something unless I have accountability and a social group to do it with. There's no sense in denying reality! The more I accept what is, the more I can move forward with the right tools.
Upholder...
I'm excited to read the book- thanks!
Also, Conjoined Dichotomy- 😍😍😍
Enfp here, I got obliger I feel like my life is a lie!!😭 I thought I was a true rebel deep down! Apparently I just rebel against myself and I'm really just Alice from TBB! Thanks Gretchen😑
What’s TBB?
@@sophiaredwood5825 I have no idea now lol this was two years ago I barely remember last week.... Sorry🥴
@@lil_olelola8281 Hahaha no problem!! Have a wonderful day 😂💞
Puppies on the swings :D
Obliger here
I loved the way you edited the vid today man!
I got "Questioner". Reading the report, it makes perfect sense to me because I am always looking for more informations and justifications. If something is suggested to be done and it doesn't fit correctly according to my judgement, I need to know why this "something" needs to be done
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I got obliger too...makes sense. In the description it talks about obligers being pushed to the point of becoming obliger-rebellers where they suddenly quit a job or end a relationship with a "you're dead to me" attitude. Yep, I've done both of those things before
Questioner!! I think we had one answer in common (“doing a lot of research and customisation, etc.”), but otherwise…
Also it CHANGED my life (literally) to have everyone in my life take this test (my mom, my husband, my sister, etc)... Now I know how to motivate other people to action (my husband is a questioner I now know) which makes our relationship so much easier to understand.
I’m also an obliger, and the results ring pretty true. I definitely say “yes” to other people and “no” to myself-even to things I know I should be doing-like getting my car serviced, as the results so nicely pointed out.
I also thought the bit about obliger-rebellion sounded a lot like the INFJ doorslam: “Obliger-rebellion may be dramatic and far reaching, like abruptly quitting a job, getting a divorce, or ending a long friendship, with the feeling ‘I’ve had it. This is over. You’re dead to me.’”
Obliger!
This is super interesting, going to have to look in to it more.
Lovin’ the silliness! 🙃😊
:D
rebel. at first i thought "meh, this is definitely wrong", but it actually makes sense!
Your mannerisms make the video interesting to watch! Thank you for your energy lmao!
I’m an INFJ and got the “Questioner.” I wonder if there’s one that’s more common in INFJ’s...
Monica Frances Same here
Same
I got Questioner!! Not surprised at all since I'm always doing research and asking a ton of questions! I figured that's what I would get looking at the four options!!
Me, an ENTP: *sees the description for Questioner* don’t even need to do the quiz, this one’s a no-brainer
“Upholders feel a real obligation to meet their expectations for themselves, they have a strong instinct for self-preservation, and this helps protect them from burn-out.” Yup. Not sure if I’ve completely mastered how to avoid burn-out yet though.
I LOVE Gretchen! I’m an obliger.
I need to take this
I love your channel 🙌
I don't even need to take the test to know I'm an Obliger. Trying to work on fulfilling those internal needs.
rewatching the oldies and this one is making me 🤣🤣🤣!
I like your alarm clock, I have the same one.
I feel like your style the last few weeks has given off a modern/cool yet Beatles-esque vibe. Can't put my finger on why. I need to analyze some more. This quiz is really cool, will have to check it out. I also like Society6, I need to get more decorations soon, this is a great reminder.
I paused this video to take the test and compare what I got to you. I got obliger too and had very similar reactions😂
I'll only take it because you told me to.
Took the test first then listened to your video. Result: Obliger. Yep that is me alright. What Should I Do Today...Staying Cool and Attractive.
I got the Questioner and it was spot on...
🎬I liked that you ripped a hole into the commercial for the Friskiest Ponies. Good green screening action in this! 🎥
Kudos on turning down your phone volume too!! 📞🔕
I paused your video then took the test, and got Obliger. Not really sure what to expect from the test. You answered 80% similar to me. But I still feel a little rebellious at heart.
The more you edit your videos, the more it feels like being inside my own head. 😂 But I mean that in a good way, because I like being inside my own head (after all, it’s where I spend most of my time!).
I took the test before watching the video, and my result was “the Questioner.” It rings true for me, because even though I have a lot of drive and am a conscientious person, I tend to ask questions and ignore rules that I think are pedantic or unfair. 🤷🏻♀️ I remember purposely breaking the dress code all the time in high school because I thought it was dumb, and refusing to pay fines for skipping out on sorority parties in college (I’m truly the Thoreau of my time). And now, even as a grown-up/teacher...yeah, still this way. 😂 Yesterday, one of my students told me I was like an English teacher version of Ms. Frizzle from The Magic Schoolbus, and I find that fitting, lol.
I had the same answers as you, except 2 or 3. That's fun
Identify... I enjoyed this part of you 💞 Makes me curious 🧐✔️❓
So I'm INFJ and also got Obliger. I wasn't at all surprised tho. I constantly feel like I do things out of obligation. "I'm not nice to you because I want to be. I'm obligated to be. "
I got Rebel not surprising but what was funny is the way it was described and the quotes people say to me which were written in it.🤣😂 RELATABLE.
Double-commenting just to say a) I’m laughing at you flexing with that shiny new iPhone and b) that I did not fall for your clickbait thumbnail. I saw it and immediately thought, “Frank? A rebel? Not possible, that man is entirely too wholesome.” 😇
If James Dean was the rebel without a cause, Frank James is, like...the obliger with too many causes (all of which he wishes he hadn’t committed himself to). Working title, obviously. 😉😂
LOL
flexing on you kids
@Forever True I always tell Frank that he's like the good twin to my bad twin...but we are both trash people when it comes to loving Coke Zero. He and I did both quit drinking alcohol, though, so I'm gonna cut us a teeny bit of slack for now. One vice at a time. 😂
INTP Rebel. The report is correct: I’ll avoid making commitments in general, and weasel out of those I made and don’t feel like upholding. Which is why I avoid making plans far off into the future, because I tend to get the feel and the final say at the last minute. What gets me upholding my commitments, or trying to foster good habits, is if they make sense for living a good, easier life, and how much i value the relationships involved in my commitments -including my identity, or relationship to myself. But it’s all driven by “want” and “making sense”.
I took the quiz and then came back and watched your video. I have to say I am surprised, I thought you would be a Rebel. I got Rebel, and I can't say I was surprised I knew it would be that or questioner.
I got Questioner and it fits for me.
Oh, FJ, sometimes you make me cry* but more often you make me laugh. 🤔🤗☺️
*=Okay, no one can "make" someone else cry. So I guess better stated: sometimes, after learning the things I learn about myself and others and the world on this channel, I cry. 😭☹️😲
Hi Frank funny video and interesting too!!! At time i am a Rebel WITH A CAUSE!! other times an Obliger and a Questionner.WITH A CAUSE TOO!!!! I like the dog on the swing!!! i would like to find a poster like that SO funny and cool
Typed in college as an INFJ, now 61 and find out I am a Rebel. As a life long self help aficionado, have I finally changed my tendencies?
I expect you to keep up with good work
James Dean ♡ or less than three :D
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Rebel
Cool quiz Frank
This content tho! Haha anything for the Ni dom
I'm an Obliger as well. My reaction was oh crap too! 😂 I agree it's pretty accurate at least for me.
I got Questioner. Sounds very accurate for me. What was my motivation for taking this quiz??
Never would have guessed my result. Guess I’m a Rebel... without a clue.
I'm an obliger, too. and it fits.
Rebel. It says rebels often fustrate themselves. Haha. Well i thought id be the questioner since every little thing makes my mind explode into questions. But rebel is actually kinda obvious for me. Was not as interested in the book til the quiz was telling me how to overcome my own rebellion buy i think it will be a necessary read.
Love your vids! I got Obliger too, and it's bang on with me. I want everyone else to be happy! :) I sent my bf this link. He is struggling with things and found the only way he's succeeding is that he is posting a public diary on forums for accountability. Curious what he gets!
I knew I was an Obliger before I even took the test. I listen to Gretchen's podcast, so I'm really familiar with this framework now. It's really helpful when trying to create new habits.
oh neat, I didn't know she had a podcast, I will have to check it out!
Took the test and got Questioner. Not surprised with the result at all. My questions have questions.
questioner, i question everything!
Lava lamp at 6:55
PS: Upholder. Interesting, 'cause usally the worst thing I do to people, when I'm mad, is to stop to do, what they want me to.
I suspected I would get Obliger or Upholder. I received Upholder, and I'm surprised to see it is quite accurate. I feel better when I set schedules and to-do lists for myself, even though I struggle with doing so. The Strategy of Scheduling and Monitoring is very helpful. It's quite interesting to note that Obligers and Upholders aren't that different, the only thing separating is our expectations on self and how we respond to that.