The truth about being an Empath.
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- Опубліковано 1 кві 2019
- If you can absorb other people's emotions then you might be an empath. But that is not all there is to it.
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The truth about being an empath. Are you an empath? Am I an empath? What is an empath?
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I felt the same more thn others.
I M improving
I am an empath I was raised with guradians almost 50 yrs older than me when they got me molestation and beatings were normal life. Even after turning 15 and revealing this trauma I was still pushed aside by family and their status of the perpetrators shouldn't be revealed. This happened in the early 1960's...I am now almost 66 and it seems being alone is my best option. No one truly understands us. And yes I do believe I have a gift like no other.
So incredibly helpful 🙏🏼❤️
Wish you were offering group public gatherings....just so I could experience being around someone like me
I don't know what the point of being an empath would be, if you weren't willing to go out and help people? That would in itself be kinda "sociopathic". Empaths are stronger than just being a witness to suffering, or a bystander.
At least, PoC empaths should help their people when it comes to imperial wars and White Supremacy. Can't really talk for White people here...
I believe they do tend to be passive enablers who watch the drone war of their society from afar and not feel responsible at all.
I went through years of depression, not knowing 80% of it wasn't mine.
OH MY GOD. Your comment just blew my mind. Because same... 👀 so much is makin sense
Lolll fvck me 2 decades shite you hit the nail in the head! Cheers to us moving on!
Thank you! Spent forever absorbing other people's emotions.
You may have opened my eyes...
Thank you...
This hit me SO HARD I'm shook 😮
The worst was watching someone who was an empath become so overwhelmed by what others were going through that they went from feeling everything to feeling nothing at all. They just shut down. Take care of yourself frisky ponies.
Totally true.
Evie Raines frisky ponies lmao.
Oh damn...I feel like this is like what's happened to me. I used to have a ton of empathy, now I just shut down around emotion because I don't know what I feel or want because I feel like everyone is in my face and down my throat. I've just completely shut down. My whole life has shut down. :( I don't know how to come out of shutdown. :( I had a nervous breakdown and gave up.
@@WhimsicalPorpoise Me too!!! Started having major panic attacks. I have shut down. It doesn't feel normal to me. Really stressing about it.
yup
Empathy is your greatest strength and your greatest weakness. Narcissists are your natural predator, until you see through them. Once you see them maskless, and your empathy works correctly, you feel nothing coming from them. It's unsettling.
I'm getting to that point of not caring for my nex. But having no emotion for him is it normal because I go through my ups and downs. Trauma bonds. Any advice?
I am
I feel pure evil from them (ex of 13 years)- I can’t be in a room with him, or be in his energy at all. I shake - I feel the ooze of evil seeping through his skin. How can he look at me in the eye and other people? It just creeps me out.
We are delicacies for these monsters
past 18 months have painfully proven that for an empath there are more narcissists running around that you could have ever imagined
@@timohaikarainen3957 aka the left 🤣
"Everyone else seems to be insensitive. They're not bothered by all the pain and suffering that is clearly around us... Crap. It appears that I was not made for this world. What is wrong with me? Somebody please help." Thank you for putting words on this pain. I couldn't express it but actually hearing it from someone else feels like a balm is put on it and makes me feel that I'm not alone, that I'm not the only one to feel this way. So thank you ^ ^
You’re NOT alone! There are plenty of us empaths around! 🙏 💝
Yes, that part of his talk also struck a nerve. I am at a time of my life where I have accepted this trait that I have, but I feel very lonely in this place. The lack of empathy in this world is still something that I cannot accept.
Struck a nerve to me too, I absolutely stopped watching movies and watching the daily news. It bothers me too much. I thought I was just weird.
I couldn’t watch Americas Funniest Home Videos when I was a kid because so many of them were about being injured and all I could think was “ why are they laughing at the person who got hurt? This isn’t funny at all.” I was called a crybaby for that and that I wasn’t any fun or wasn’t tough enough because I never wanted to watch it or play pranks or rough house. I can’t say I was grateful for being an empath though, it’s draining and I sometimes and find myself jealous of other people who got to be normal kids.
"I feel like if I could just be an asshole and only think about myself like everyone else, I'd be a lot happier" is definitely a thing I have said to friends before. I have regularly felt like I wasn't built for this current world. Narcissists constantly seem to find me and I *definitely* struggle with thinking about their needs before my own way too much before I realize it's too late to set healthy boundaries.
I'm an empath and it is so draining that I lock myself in my house some days to regenerate.
It is rough.
Me too! Today I had a build up of errands and am happy to be back home. My friend thinks I'm depressed but I'm not, in the least. It's just hard to explain that I thrive in my own little space 😊 and don't want or need outside interference...
It does not have to be.
I feel you. I don’t go out.
Someone Somewhere OMG I feel the same way!
same here and lately its been stronger then ever...
The worst part about being Empath is when you try to help someone who’s struggling, but they refuse to accept your help. So you continue feeling their dark emotions and you feel like crap because you can’t help them even though you’re trying your best.
I hope by now, a year after you wrote this post, that you’ve quit hitting your head against the wall of their refusal to receive your help. Cut your losses and take care of yourself, and accept that that’s where that person is/was. Let it go!
ive tried to tell my friends about how im an empath without directly using the word so they dont call me crazy and they keep telling me that "youre imagining things you need to take better care of yourself" EVEN AFTER IVE DIRECTLY SAID ITS BEEN GOING ON EVEN WHEN I TAKE CARE OF MYSELF
That's my life
So so so true .. but at the end of the day as we grow , we do realize how that is toxic for us emphaths .. and we learn more how we can and need to focus on nurturing ourselves , and we find ourselves distancing ourselves slowly from who are toxic to us and share our power to those who truly need it .. you find yourself still supporting that person and being there for them especially a loved person , but from a distance .. and it’s okay , we need to remind ourselves that it’s okay , it’s okay to take care of ourselves , it’s okay to nurture ourselves, it’s okay to distance ourselves for a while , it’s just okay to breathe for a sec ..
Some people just dont want to get out of that rut. So, you stay in the rut alongside them, just to make sure they survive the rut. And as the video says about the family dichotomy affecting the boundaries of an empathethic person, it is quite obvious that we have come from a rut ourselves. And it wouldn’t be too wrong to say that as time passes we start to empathize with the concept of a rut signifying with the concept of home or a family.
Oh, my God, Frank; you described my childhood. My mother was also violently abusive, and unpredictable, so I had to use my empath skills to “read” her and stay away from her when she was out of control. I’ve told people this for years about myself, and this is the first time I’ve heard another person describe it. I’m 62 years old. Thank you! For you other empaths out there with childhoods that forced you to be empaths to survive, your empath skills are a hard-won gift! Learn to manage them and use them for good! You have them on purpose, and they are a great gift! There are UA-cam channels in addition to this fine one that have good tips for empaths to keep ourselves psychologically/spiritually/emotionally healthy. Grounding oneself, journaling, meditating, and having a personal energy maintenance routine can help a lot! 👍
So relatable! Best wishes to you, ma'am!
Well said !💝💝💝
63 & survived a narcissistic mother. I, was the scapegoat and she, worked hard as she could to break me…my spirit. But I survived and as I learn about the dynamics in my family I’ve grown. Taking control now and using my super power to be my authentic self, without shame. Being me, with extreme joy!!!! My mother too, was unpredictable & my father was her enabler. It was hell growing up in that household. As I’m learning about narcissistic mothers, I’m shedding both parents, learning boundaries are absolutely necessary (to ensure my mental health), growing & beginning to thrive. Take care of you…..you, are the only you, you have 🥰😉❤️. Love all you empaths.
I just can't. I always feel the need to scape from people when they tell me all their drama. That's why I don't have friends. But I'm ok with it. I just feel like people is really exhausting.
Same
SAME
I’m 65 and looking for a way to be around people. I have to sleep and rest way too much for it to be worth it. I wish I knew how empathic counselors do it!
Same
Same
i heard “u will inherit other people’s trauma and show signs of trauma even though u haven’t been through it” and literally started crying because i’ve never been understood before like this. Wow.
that realllly hit home for me as well. It connected dots for me that I didn't understand before and made me feel less like a crazy person knowing there are other people who have this too. ❤️
@@meredithellen620 its more deeper than that. When you become older it makes life harder to want to live. You feel like an outsider to the world and sit in your home. I use music and cannabis to make things enjoyable.
Same I thought I was crazy bc I thought I’ve felt like I’ve been through so much
Yikes
the power of scares and battles between good and evil (yes, evil) is real too. For me God is Love. Does Love win in the end? YES! Amen. If you want to be a super super empath have faith in Jesus who paid the penalty for all our sins and frees us from the guilt and shame we carry. And the through His resurrection, He defeated death and the grave. Even death loses its power but LOVE last forever.
Being an empath is one of the most hardest things that I have had to deal with my whole life.
@Npc some traits
Patrizia Meja me too...
Hey go on Amazon and get this book, "The EMPATHS SURVIVAL GUIDE," by Judith Orloff. Its easy and inderstandable read. It will help a lot. I promise.
Being an empath combined with the Ni-Ti loop is what makes my life hell. I have to work out (extravert myself) like a maniac to get myself out of that hell hole.
Lmao being a narcissistic asshole is hard now? Fake ass “empaths” 😂
All y'all empaths, we are strong alright? Even if the world tears you to pieces, you yourself can glue them back cuz you are so strong. Don't give up yo
INFJ empath. I had toxic parents and did the tiptoe thing. It took all my college years to get to the point where I didn't have to be closed off towards others bc I learned how to set boundaries. Now I feel like I can engage in the world and help people.
It’s hard being an empath when you watch a sad movie and you literally have a breakdown for days, and anxiety because you feel you have gone trough what the person did. The same with reading the news:(
I accidentally watched a youtube video of a real prison stabbing. It was horrific. I felt it for days and days... fake acting doesnt always disturb me, but real videos scare the crap out of me
i don’t feel this much with movies, i feel this especially when listening to sad music because it’s typically authentic and based on real emotions
LOL
I have always thought I was weak for not being able to watch intense movies. the physical and emotional distress of people on screen made be really sick to my stomach and very upset. I’ve always thought I was kind of a freak 😅😓 it’s comforting to know that other people experience this
E bee I’ve also always thought I was alone, it’s so hard going trough that when people don’t understand! I am happy that I’ve found other people feeling the same way! I hope it gets better for both of us
Dear empaths, you are appreciated. Sometimes insensitive people can be very emotionally damaging and insensitivity can trigger anxiety. Highly sensitive people and empaths are a safe place from that. Keep being you and know that there is a place for you in this world.
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Thank you for that
I loved reading that
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Thank you
Thank you
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Dude, you are a genius. You are the real thing.
Everything you said is so accurate.
Empath is an over used term. It's hip to say. But you are completely legitimate.. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
You ABSOLUTELY belong here.
This is the best explanation of empaths I've seen. Thank you, Sensei FJ.
On a personal note, I've come to realize that people can also take advantage of my empathy (usually narcissists) to get them through a tough situation and then subsequently discard me. I'm trying to navigate how to be a wise steward of my empathy now. I guess that's where boundaries come in. I recommend that empaths research narcissism and narcissistic abuse to armor themselves.
As a fellow empath, I have found narcsite.com/ to be invaluable. It is a blog written by a psychopathic narcissist but the wealth of education narrated articulately, clearly and concisely despite the nature of the author, and camaraderie clearly illustrated in the blog commentary is worth it's weight in gold in assisting with the trauma of having dealt with toxic relationships.
Yes, I know about narcissism and narcissistic abuse off top of my head, I had a narcissist in my life and he thought me alot also being raised with a malignant narcissist mother Ive done sooooooo much research, I can see all the red flags in people to weed out if they are a narcissist or not
I remember when I was seven I cried for a week cause I realized that innocent ppl could go to jail. My parents sent me to a therapist cause they couldn’t understand.
Maybe being an empath is the reason I’m also an idealist-and I refuse to let go of those ideals.
@@ginalibrizzi5204 It is. It's a higher capacity to love. If you are into astrology it correlates to the Neptune/Piscean archetype.
i have a therapist and im planning on talking to her about all of my feelings and stuff about other peoples feelings that i feel
I did that too! when I found out more about slavery at 12, I cried for a week, hiding in my room. it was so painful.
The first thing I related to in this is I don't feel like I belong in this world.
Me too. I've never felt at home. I feel like home is somewhere, but not it's definately not here.
Me too, very much so. We need our own planet.
This is how I feel as a baseline. It’s exhausting. Having a good female friend I could hang out with/laugh with would really help me I think but I just stay in my room all day soooo that’s not gonna happen lol
@@Alex-rh8mr I'm the same way, I prefer to stay in my house all day. It sounds sad, but the world is just so mentally exhausting. Since I've gotten older, I'd just love to have one friend to spend time with on a consistent basis who doesn't drain my energy. Being an INFJ often feels very isolating and lonely, I really hope you find your person.
manda nicole same to you boo💕
Full disclosure here- being a highly sensitive empath as the oldest born child made life hard. Not only did I have to juggle my parents' emotions, but also that of my siblings, and classmates. Attending a school that held all age groups Pre-K through 12th was the cherry on top for me to develop depression at the age of 10, and anxiety at age 12. I didnt even fully understand that I was an empath until a couple of years ago, and I'm sure all my fellow empaths can agree that emotions HURT. The emotions of others hurt, yours hurt, and not being able to vocalize either is excruciating, to say the very least. My advice for it? Do what this video says- utilize your power and talk to people, listen to and share your stories. I work at a shop now where I get to talk to people all day, and though the emotions can become overwhelming, especially on our more hectic days, the feeling of relief that I sense from others when they know they're just being LISTENED to is like a balm to my bleeding soul. And afterwards? Take a walk, decompress. Focus on YOURSELF for a little while so that the emotions of others don't drown you in their current. You are beautiful, you are strong, and you are so much more than what the emotions and actions of others ever said you'd be. Stay healthy, stay safe, and God bless.
Using your power to help people: that is the reason we have this gift to begin with.
"You might show signs of going through trauma and you haven't even actually gone through trauma..."
There we go. That's it right there. That explains everything.
✋Warning: Dear Fellow Empaths,
Do not 🚫go into any dark hole to help someone out.
Try Hanging a rope. Call the fire department maybe. Throw some food and water down there. But do not, I repeat, do not, under any circumstances take your ass into the darkness. 😂😂😂😂
I just ruined the game for about 799 narcissist.
Great description. I've learned that after several fails...
I did that once more and I stayed in the darkness for weeks and now it’s harder for me to use it 😕
From my personal experiences! !
If you really need to rescue someone from the place they're in , my free advice will be Try to Do it from a far first as straightforward contact with others can double weakness you as most probably you are not use to their energies . 🛇
This is not said often enough tbh
Wow, my brother and I just spoke on this!
Wow, Frank! You made me recall a childhood memory I guess I blocked...between the ages of 5 and 7 I used to constantly run out of the room my family was in, crying while saying "Nobody loves me". I'll say this...I am so thankful because our Creator is bringing me out of confusion about who I am and why I am the way that I am. I think we are set apart for a reason, though it's been a painful journey but it's a cultivating and a refining...we are warriors ❤
Perfectly said!!!
Loved the tree analogy 👍😃 It's also about finding the right balance between helping other people and remembering to look after yourself. 🥰
I started crying when you were talking about the childhood that empaths typically have, because I experienced ALL of that. :( My feelings were never okay and I had to put others emotions before mine and my parents made me feel bad for crying or if I was sad, instead of trying to comfort me or make me feel better, they would constantly tell me I was exaggerating and I had no reason to feel sad. :( As an adult, I appreciate the qualities that make me an empath, and I've been getting a lot better in taking time to myself to recharge and setting boundaries, which has helped me a lot. Thank you for making this video!
I did too, my mother was bi-polar or a different cluster b personality disorder, I had to get intune so I could avoid the mood shifts
i hope both of you are healthy and well in these crazy times xx
Me too girl
Same. I'm quite sure that my childhood is what made me an ENFJ. I grew up between my INFP mother and my ENTJ father. Without going into too many details (it could be a book, lol), my life as a child was about mediating other people's emotions and stabilizing conflicts. I'm sure that molded my Fe.
same
Empaths are strong, not weak. We are emotionally literate, we are resilient, we all have different gifts. And we are privileged to be Us, to see through the bullshit, to really "feel" someone, to bring light where there is darkness. There is a difference between being skilled and unskilled, healed and unhealed. Strong boundaries and strong balance are essential to self-care, as is realizing that you are not here to help everyone who you cross paths with, nor is it your responsibility - lacking this understanding is why some empaths become overwhelmed, drained, and why they lock themselves away from humanity.
Your gift is so very beautiful - and with self-care, you will know perfectly when and how to use it.
Vanessa Kershaw well said.
Perfectly said
Beautifully written.
Can this mean that empaths can become their ‘opposite’ when they sense the emotions, or lack of, of sociopaths?
Isobel Necessary
Interesting question:)
I’m an empath, and experienced repetitive childhood trauma. I now struggle with ptsd and fibromyalgia. It was interesting hearing your take on empaths. The only thing that didn’t really apply to me was feeling traumatized while watching a scary movie. But that may be because my dad has put my family though some real shit, so movies are a nice way for me to get out of my own head and focus on some fake drama.
I'm with you there. I like scary movies, I do not like people screaming and fighting. That one pawn show out of Chicago or somewhere up there,( Not pawn stars) that one guy screaming at his people all the time. OMGosh . I'd have to leave the house, while everyone watched it...
The hardest is when your close ones don't get you so you have to act and suffer in silence.
As an Empath, I do not feel superior to anyone or anything. It is impossible for an Empath (true) to feel like they are superior in any way shape or form!
Rhonda Jervis thank you for that!!!
Oh wow.. thank you. Yes! You are absolutely right
it's just not possible..
Yes, ambition is never something you will never be consumed by as an empath
Right?.. With myself, I "mom" everyone.. should have become a shrink..lol
Emapath here ..freaked me out when I first started noticing I could literally feel other peoples emotions. Even when they were far away . Sometimes it feels like curse.
Only because we are both not validated for having it and not taught how to develop, control and utilize this gift as our profession. 💝
I already knew that I was an empath but when you explained the part about being emotionally responsible for my folks feelings and everything about family it left me shook. I felt so seen.
I’ve been following your channel for a while, so I was surprised to find this serious video. I am an empath, INFJ, and it’s definitely not easy to be in this world. Your insights were really helpful. Thank you!
I can't believe how mean and cutt throat some people can be. It stuns me
Bahahaha
I'm an empath. It's hard to go some places, and it's extremely hard to be around some people. I can actually feel my life meter going down. Much like watching a battery drain.
Exactly. Especially negative ppl. They drain me
Me too. I am EXACTLY the same and i hate being in large crowds. That's overwhelming and i feel everything. Nature is very healing for me, animals are amazing, and other empaths (friends) are a great support. We don't have an easy time of it, but we learn such wisdom through the meter you've mentioned.
@@queenofthebutterflies5212 I'm an extroverted empath, I learn spaces and remember where physical barriers are in that space, that way you can find safer spaces in public where a whole room doesn't have direct access to you.
I feel that.
I feel that way too. I try to avoid those people or limit my time with them. They are like leeches. After being around them I have to charge my battery. With peaceful alone time, a nice walk in nature, or some beautiful music.
INFJ/empath here. Thank you so much for this brilliantly apt description of everything I go through daily. I'm going to attempt to see it as a superpower instead of a detriment or disability.
Thank you , tons , for this. I am an extremely introverted empath. I am bombarded, daily , by my environment and the humans within it. I feel like something that was left behind because it was unwanted or unnecessary. I constantly feel out of place.... and lost. I thoroughly enjoyed this video.
I'm quite a different breed of an empath it seems. Lol. I'm an analytical empath. I feel what others feel, but process it in a way so as to both understand the emotions and understand the root of where they emanate from. I go so far as to dig beneath the subconscious to reveal emotions that even the people don't realize they feel until I verbalize it for them. I love being an empath. ;)
Agreed. I suffered as an empath for most of my life until I made a conscious choice to empower myself through understanding the human mind + emotions. With practice, I don't view my empathic nature as something to survive' but as an amazing superpower.
An analytical empath? Amazing, isn't it? All of these years I felt like something was wrong with me. Much, much love! 💙
Wow your doing a lot of good in the world I feel like Empaths are all true of heart❤️🙏🏽stay strong we have a purpose here eventually the universe will reveal it to us..
I do the same thing ! And I love dark movies and such . ☮️
Amazing
I am a Christian, with the gift of discernment, but I was born with ability to feel others emotions, can be overwhelming at times. Taking time to be alone is truly necessary.
Yes and yes I with you 100% as a Christian with both gifts I need to be alone alot. Being in the Mountains is the best for me.
I'm with you lol that's what I ment;)
@@GrandmaBones666 you do know that Christian's were treated the same way and still is around the world right?
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Sure. Insanity and stupidity aren't exclusive to Christians.
It's so great to know other Christians that understand this gift of discernment and is also known as empathic. When I was younger I was always tempted to go towards darker things till my walk with the Lord became stronger. I use it to glorify Him! God bless.
I learned to handle my empathy and HSP when I learned, not to validate things as good or bad. Just recognize the emotion, but not to dive in. It has nothing to do with me. It took me more than 50 years to learn that. And as you said I finally found my own power to help other people.
You are reading my whole life. My whole life I’ve felt like a misfit
You are not a misfit. You are so strong to feel so much and still get on. And I want to compliment you on being so sensitive: that means you have a big heart and that you are a very good and caring person ❤️ you can be a vessel to channel positive energy and light 💙
Im an empath and omg I feel like such a crazy person being able to literally feel other peoples emotions. I haven't watched the news in years. It's comforting to know I'm not alone.... Great video
That's crazy you mentioned not watching the news anymore. Im only 17 but i haven't watched the news in 11 years and its really helped with control my emotions but its still hard
Same here! I thought I was crazy 😭
Stopped in 2001! 😘👍👏👏👏
I stopped watching the news 'cause the news piss me off and give me anxiety...
Wow I always felt overwhelmed with the news.
I remember in high school feeling like there was a wall between me and the world yet drowning in overwhelming emotion. It sucked.
I am not sure if being in a social vacuum or being a long term bully target is worse. Both are toxic - no question. I do understand now, many years later, why it is important that you do not deny your feelings and bury your thoughts into quicksand. The truth will always out. Expel the toxicity with appropriate means that are of a healthy source. Otherwise they manifest in later life that spells an unhappy outcome.
I know exactly what you're describing. My parents called it "overly sensitive and you're being ridiculous". 😒
💓 A message for the Empaths watching this video 💓:
I appreciate that Frank is offering a grounded & rational take on a spiritual matter because I believe it's important in order to have a well rounded perseptive. I love what he said about being with people in their joy! Definitely a super power.
In my personal experience, my empathic nature is a highly spiritual matter. No doubt I have neurons firing like everyone else, but to me it's more than just basic psychology & physiology.
The energy absorbtion exists within a liminal space. I am able to see as well as feel other layers of reality. This does not make me a "better" person. In fact, many Empaths who have trouble managing thier energy can be volatile. Making many of us end up wanting to isolate or attach to others in unhealthy ways.
This is why I teach other Empaths what I've learned. We have specific needs and many are unaware of how to handle living like everyone else, making us seem "exclusive" or stand offish when really we tend to be friendly and loving.
If anyone on this thread is interested, I made a recent video giving my explanation of being empathic. It's intended to be a helpful guide for Empaths about why they are absorbing energy and what to do about it:
ua-cam.com/video/yQC-pOyU3dc/v-deo.html
Best to everyone. Bless ✨
thank you
I'm an empath ENFJ, and I was so overwhelmed by the outside world that I convinced myself I was an introvert for 29 years. Now I just use my true Extrovert energy to light up to room, even at the grocery store, to bring everyone up just a little bit and lead by example.
I’m an empath and a therapist. I can’t do full time clinical work. It’s too draining. But with the patients I do see, it really really helps me help them.
I think being an empath enables me to help my students. However just like you, I can only teach 2/3rds time. I'd get burnt out otherwise!
Same here w the teaching. It has to be limited.
Me?? I have a PhD in Clinical Psychology. Who are you?
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I can teach you energy hygiene and psychic protection to prevent getting drained. Life savers for us empaths!
When I was younger, I thought everyone felt other's thoughts and emotions the way I did. So, it was not an option to protect myself. I am learning it now.
So true. You have no other point of reference at that time. I still find things that surprise me--like when there was a lengthy feed on the internet where people did not know that some people have internal dialogue. I thought, doesn't everyone? It turns out some don't. Hmmm. 🤔
I literally believed for most of my life that everyone could feel what I feel. I can’t even conceptualize being in a room with people and not feel their emotions! What is that even LIKE?!! So frustrating… I can feel YOUR emotions but you can’t feel MINE? It can be very isolating and lonely.
I often feel like I don't belong in this world and I used to spend a lot of time trying to figure out what was wrong with me, it's a comfort to know I'm not alone in having had those thoughts. Thank you Frank James I love your videos!
As an empath myself, you sound as if you are one yourself. Now that I'm approaching my senior years, I know you CAN learn to set your boundaries. I think of it, too, as a gift to share because we have the ability to simply stand alongside someone in pain and (hopefully) take on even a few molecules of their pain. Something so simple can be so impactful for the suffering. The trick is to not absorb it so much that you can't step away from the "hangover". For me, it is a call to action where I know I am needed and it's my moral obligation to do so. Once you recognize those who would cause you harm - like a narcissist - you have the power to stay away from them. But please don't be afraid to be a healing presence to fellow human. Just be wise about how you use your power.
How do you learn that. I'm really struggling with it.
I finally understand why I am so bad with confrontations. All my life I’ve been the one regulating the mood of the people around me that’s why I unconsciously keep myself on check when I’m the one being confronted 😮
imeserena totally agree!
OMG yes! When I'm in an argument, I find it so hard because I can totally understand why the other person feels that way and it almost invalidates why I'm upset with them. It's really hard to win an argument because you're standing in the middle of it
“When you grow up as an adult and have 0 boundaries”. “You also feel completely lost in the world that you don’t belong, and that we’re bought up in a completely insensitive world”. This part made me cry, cause I feel like this on a daily basis. And it can be a big struggle. Thank you for making this video. It shows that who I am is at least understood by somebody in the world, because it’s not understood by many people. I’m 27 and only this year I understood what it means to have boundaries and it’s changing my life. Something that is so simple to many people, yet cause of my childhood I had no idea until recently that boundaries is a necessity. Especially for Empaths lol
Good for you for figuring this out as a young adult! 👍 Please, take care of and respect your empath abilities, with your boundaries and other tools! I’m 62, and I know this struggle too well. I can’t/don’t watch much news (just individual stories on a local TV station’s website), and I CAN’T watch violent movies. I vomited in reaction to one several years ago (much to my husband’s disappointment; he wanted to stay to see the rest of the movie in the theater), and said, “No more!” It’s not worth the stress. Please look into creating a personal energy tune-up/maintenance routine for yourself, that involves strengthening your personal energy/vibration/frequency. It will help you, too.
Empath here. It’s not fun. It’s not easy. Sometimes it can be brutal. Narc bait until recently. I woke up and became aware. Grounding and boundaries are so very important.
I almost fainted at a basketball game🤦🏽♀️ it was so much negativity in the air I had to go.
This is the kind of empathy that causes (me) anxiety.
Holy cow you just told my life story. I had to walk on eggshells as a child and now I'm an empathetic infj.
Weird question, but I’m curious. I’m not super empathetic but I have my moments. I’m an INFx-T, my judgement and prospecting seems to switch every few times I take a test.
Have you ever empathized with someone who literally felt nothing - they were just empty. How did it feel? Did it horrify you?
Same
@@alexd.8554 As an highly empathic person I'd like to answer your question.
Yes, I have. In different circumstances. I've met people who like, felt no empathy, no connection. That just feels... cold. It can depend on the person, but usually it reminds me of feeling cold, like a chill. I can't say per se they feel empty, but more as if their emotions are further down, and not clicking with anyone else.
What I found the most horrifying thing myself, are people I've met who were on drugs, in an emotion of rage, nothing else. It's like there is nothing there, just rage, no person, no click, nothing. It has shook me for days, and will be in my mind for a long time, if not never really disappearing. I'll always remember those instances.
The worst is people I've thankfully never met, but seen interviews off, who people usually call psychopaths or sociopaths (it's not a real diagnosis anymore, and I don't know the medical term for it). That's just horrifying. It's like looking into a dark pit, nothing where you can find a human connection. It's like there is a lack of a certain humanness about them. I also think almost all people can sense this, even if they don't understand it, because it's so... scary.
On the brighter sight, it's also that being an empath means that I believe that like 95% of people, if not more, are actually good by nature, and I can usually understand where their behavior comes from. As I said, I've been really scared of people who were on drugs. That doesn't mean I don't understand that their circumstances can be cruel, and hard, and it's the only way they cope, and it's extremely difficult to get out of their situation, so I can sympathetic to their circumstances, however, that doesn't mean I can't be really scared of people who are on certain drugs because they lose a certain connection to the world.
Hope that this answer can help you a bit further :)
Me too! I've known I'm a highly empathic person since I knew what empathy meant, but this is the first time I hear the connection between being empathic and walking on eggshells around my parents, and I always felt responsible for their anger outbursts, or their fights. I felt proud as a kid that I was the only one who could handle my mom when she got angry. Now as an adult I'm horrified I thought that was a good thing.
I’m an INFJ too !
This is so true for me! I get this! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Sometimes I feel when I open my door to go out into my daily life, it is like opening my emotional sensors to a busy, noisey downtown NYC, full of traffic, horns honking. I am working on bringing peace to all the experiences throughout my day.
Frank, wow, I can’t believe I found this video! I LOVE YOUR PERSONALITY TRAIT VIDEOS!!! WE WATCH THEM ALL THE TIME. Your facial expressions and your personality are such a blessing, and to find this? I’m learning about being an Empath in my 50’s! Thank you for this video. You are truly a gift to the world!
INFP and Empath.. Feels like a curse.
me too honey 😌 it’s ok
Me too girl
ugh yess - me too!
So am i
Same. I'm thinking of going into therapy. Meanwhile I saw this therapy called ACT that you can do yourself- working on it.
One of the most difficult things being an empath, is avoiding narcissists. They come in different ages and status, they have different unexpected traumas and they are everywhere. The saddest thing is that we get attracted by them and they get attracted by us.
I use to be those empaths getting "destroyed" by the energies outside. I would have panick attacks, so much so I would throw up...daily...many times..I would feel so much I literally hid In my closet, until my momma came and grabbed me a 22 year old women and she told me to stop. It took me ten years to get out of my house. And when I finally did, I embraced everyone else's energy. Sad, angry, happy, crazy whatever. I was tired of being isolated and feeling my own feelings. I had become so numb, life became pointless, I had to say enough is enough. Now am an art therapist and I am going into hospitals helping people who are in need. I have God on my side, and I don't make "sacrifices" like I use to. There is balance, now. I learned to become a feather like James said. And I know you guys can be too! Wish you guys the very best in life. And remember, Things do get better
I feel responsible for everybody’s emotions. Zero boundaries here. So grateful for this video. I can’t watch certain series or movies bc I get anxious. I’m a doctor. So of course I feel all of my patient’s pain and emotions
The real empathy is something we live, not something we speak about. I'm resonnate with you 100%.
Ahura z, a telepath that does tell people and teaches others how to use their powers to the a level you probably think isn’t even possible
yup, im the peacemaker in my family. even when i talk to other people, somehow i become their therapist. now, im almost 30 and trying to just observe others and focus on my emotions.
PT I’m trying to do the same and yet somehow one ends up being “selfish” or “the bad guy”. Enough is enough though, cause one gets tired of being the peace maker. We have to take care of ourselves too.
Same here, all of it.
@@anpanvero7236 If we don't take care of ourselves, what's left to give? Nothing! And if we don't learn Discernment, Perception and Protection, an Empath can quite quickly be put into the position of becoming the codependent fixer.
this is so me..now i learn to listen to myself more & knowing my own boundary..cause i tend to drain myself busy mediating, listening and give my all to people around me. self awareness/self care should be priority in an empath's life.
Yup. I'm an INFJ at the same stage as you. I've come up with recommendations:
Get into the practice of "Morning Pages" as articulated by Julia Cameron.
Monitor the Morning Pages periodically to connect awareness of recurring themes and follow up with boundary identification; firming up on the self protection aspect.
Re-introduce my consciousness with the inner child that I've become disconnected from; extend compassion to my inner child as much as I do for others.
This shed so much light on me. I broke down and cried. I can't thank you enough for this video! Thank you! ❤ 🙏
Thank you for facing your fears and creating this channel!! I appreciate hearing your perspective because it makes me feel less lonely. Glad I’m not the only one who feels these things and thinks this way. ❤️
No boundaries: *check*
Overreacting to violent shows and movies: *check*
Being absorbed by other people's state of mind: *check*
Now I must learn HOW TO get them out of their darkness, also for me.
Give your life to Jesus Christ, He will do the rest 😉
@@evapatrikova4134 I'm actually Christian but I think he was talking about more of a psychological thing, rather than a spiritual one.
@@FAQIvan91 Jesus created your mind and is known as the Great Counselor for a reason, he can help you more than simply spiritually. He knows how your brain works, why not ask the designer of it for assistance? As an empath, I do and he helps me.
@@lighthouse_23_ believe me. I do.
@@FAQIvan91 yeah I do believe you. I think sometimes people think solely through prayer Jesus helps, but God has helped me through giving me knowledge like this video by Frank James to define what I have, get a psychologist, books about being an empath and other tools to help. It's an ongoing learning process and I'm just starting it. It is really hard though. You are not alone. For me writing helps a lot.
I've honestly always hated the fact that "I'm sensitive". I literally cry when I watch anything! Happy tears, sad tears, angry tears..........I feel SO FREAKIN MUCH. I wish I could watch things without looking like the "emotional" one(I've never heard someone get called emotional as a compliment). I could also totally relate with the whole childhood part. This video really helped bring my thoughts together. I totally get why I love being alone. I have a handful of really good friends and that's about it. We are all similar in the way that we love each others company, but also love our space. A lot of new people I meet get upset with me for not wanting to hang out all the time. I have to know you well enough to where hanging out feels like I'm alone anyways. If not, it's draining and exhausting. Don't get me wrong, I like to hang out with new people, just not multiple days a week.
you are not alone. I still remember being at a funeral one time for a person whom I had never met and being around all of the sad family and friends had me sitting there crying like a baby through the whole thing... I was even amazed at myself ;)
@@juliewittig5553 I literally avoid funerals as much as possible. People see it as selfish. I have learned it is self preservation.
And no your not alone. I dont have friends anymore because they all move on with their non emotional lives lol. But my ex husband is opposite. He HAS to be around people. And to me, I literally have the worst anxiety now about going out in social settings. I stay home 98% of the time
I cry when someone scores the game winning touchdown lol I'm a heyoka so it's a constant struggle lol
Never apologize for having deep human emotion! That's why we are humans not robots! We are the gifted ones, not the only other way around.
I truly enjoyed this video. It brought a lot of insight up regarding being an empathy. The only thing that I find the hardest about being an Empath is knowning the boundaries of others that you want to help and realizing that they don't always want your help or they aren't ready for your help, regardless of them reaching out for you to help them. I would love to see something that helps empaths be able to recognize those things in others because it can cause burn out so quickly.
You’ve articulated what I’ve thought and felt about myself and the world/people around me, but couldn’t really describe to others in a way that made sense. Thank you.
Try predicting that something will happen before it actually does and also getting bad vibes from people and places
Every time I watch videos like this from FJ I feel like ..
STRAIGHT OUTTA COUNCELING.
Belle Fiori yuuup! And I’m going to therapy soon and I think I got a feel for what I’m talking about for my session today xD
Same :) FJ is showing the way, using his empathetic power to help others.
@@marilyne9383 omg this is so spot on
Sometimes I don't know if it's a gift or curse. I don't even know if what I'm feeling is me, or someone else... Where do they end and I begin?
LOL
This video really really hit home for me. I felt a feeling I didn't realize I've never felt in my life... acceptance. Everything you said was so validating. I just can't put into words how much you helped me. Thank you.
Only realizing a few months ago that boundaries are okay... and you should have boundaries...
It's exhausting at times but it is a superpower. The world is full of darkness. To be aware of it all while continuing to search for the light (Not only for yourself but for others as well), that's powerful stuff man.
Really appreciate this video, Have a great day Frank!
Thank you for taking the time to say that. Nobody asks to be born so sensitive that they can sense pain from other people. It's more than just feeling empathy. And the world is very dark right now. And I'm doing so many different things to keep my eyes on the light. Thank you for sharing. Sincerely, Carly
I... dont think is a super power, we feel and see the world different from others and sometimes you are not able to connected with people as normal as you could want to, its not a bad thing but is no superpower either
Well said
NOT ONLY look for the light: for some of us empaths, to BE the light for humanity, as Frank explains at the end of this video! It’s why I’m here. That is MY purpose. My empathy is part of my superpower. I’m also like a fiber optic cable for Source, God, All-That-Is’s light and love to radiate to as many people as can see it, to raise the vibration of the people on earth right now. It may be the purpose for some of you reading this, too. 🙏 Namaste, fellow empaths! 💝
My best friend is an empath. Your description shocked me how accurately it describes her. She probably saved my life.
being an empath, infj, and having savior complex.. yeah
Same
@@midnightrose7477 hope you're okay mate
@@lenatheworld Oh no, I'm okay now, I just relate to all of those things lol. Hope you're doing okay as well!
@@midnightrose7477 well i am so glad to hear that! not easy but trying is the key, thank you very much, have a nice day!
@@lenatheworld Have a nice day as well!
This hit so deep for me. The childhood part is SO true because I have mastered how to do and say the right thing around my parents to help them and tiptoe around them. Also, I’ve always felt like I didn’t belong because everything I felt was relatable wasn’t and people thought I was really weird when I was younger, which tripped me up for a while. I always wondered how people could be so calm watching bad news when I can’t even bear to watch it or hear people talk about it. And the trauma thing makes so much sense now because I wondered why I am traumatized from things that haven’t happened to me such as extreme physical abuse and such, but I guess I picked it up. And now I’m kind of stuck at this point where I can’t feel much of anything after feeling too much and it’s sucks. I hope all you fellow empaths out there find your people who can support you properly! Stay safe out there! ❤️
Whoa.... This hit home so hard! I seriously didn’t know other people felt empathy the same way. Not that I ever thought I had a superpower, more that I was weirdly different. I can’t thank you enough!
We really need more empaths in the world. It seems to be a very rare thing. Boundaries are extremely important to learn and enforce.
And No Parent should EVER force their child to go kiss or hug some old person. They smell funny. Please don't do that to small children. When a child feels naturally safe and happy around someone, they may go hug on their own.
I wish there were more too, or at least that more of them were open and comfortable with it. I know too many that have hardened with pride or numbed with addiction but I understand because it's the hard knock life for us.😔🙏❤️
@@recoveringsoul755 Amen!!
@@recoveringsoul755 My mother did this with the one uncle that frightened me so it was torture and it wasn't for me, but so they wouldn't have to tell my incle I was uncomfortable with it. Mom did a lot of good things, but she didn't really know me at all. She was the martyring narcissist. Lot of protection onto me for having my only own thoughts, choices, and my.own feelings. I'm so o er it now. I'm trying to resist the draining power of others thT seeks out my energy at every possibility.
Do any empaths here experience people just wanting to get closer to you and sense that's it's simply because of your healing abilities and their issues? Sometimes people are genuinely interested but I can tell an unconscious part of them needs healing. I've had people just leave because the healing was done and sometimes i wish i attracted other empaths lol. side note: i love horror movies
Yes
Yeah. It's also really hard when you're friends with someone (and they're friends with you back), but they're depressed so it's really hard to hang out with them just cause you feel that lingering pain and sadness, and you can't get rid of it, and you realize THIS IS WHAT THEY'RE FEELING, and you just want to help and make them happy but it's SO hard because you hate the feeling, of this lingering depression. And it's just so hard to be with them, but of course you don't want to hurt their feelings...does anybody get what I'm saying?
Yes.
Saffron Martel Totally. But two months later in learning and integrating that you always have control, regardless of your surroundings or who you're around. If you tap into your true spirit's essence and add more power to that, nothing outside of you can phase you. Crystals help a lot specifically black obsidian!!
Yes. People who do not cross my boundaries and can still be (close) friends with me are rare but beautiful souls. :D I can smell those other people from a far distance, but I haven't really learned how to stop them off the bat. And it is very difficult for me to cut (or slam? ^^) if there is no larger reason to. Sometimes it can be helpful to actively seek out people who really don't need your compassion or energy, but who lift YOU up with their wit (not necessarily empaths, but definetely energetically healthy people).
Thank you for making this video. Everything you said hit home, I needed this in my life. I have been struggling with questions and fears for years.
You have helped me find a new path. I am very grateful for your existence. I belong after all!
Holy sweet cosmic bass drop...
You just preached my life, literally like cleft noted my Soul
I'm an empath. Blessing and a curse
lunar butterfly I say that a lot of time. :(
I grew up in an addicted home. As a side-effect, I developed a tendency toward being hypervigilant: constantly scanning the environment, right down to the position of facial muscles, in an effort to know how best to engage (or, more frequently, disengage). The core feeling in these moments was powerlessness. And it was terrifying to feel that way. Now as an adult, I attempt to avoid feeling powerless by, well, avoiding emotionally intense situations or things that make me feel so damn permeable (yet at the same time, I'm drawn to them - because that's the system I'm familiar with).
But here's the rub: the most meaningful experiences of my life have been those in which I've allowed myself to be affected - moments of surrender. It can be hard to distinguish between powerlessness and surrender, but I think that's a crucial part of living a fulfilled life.
I like how you mentioned the importance of properly integrating this empathetic tendency. I've poked into the Enneagram a bit - I am a 4 - and somewhere I read that one of the four's greatest weaknesses is to crown emotion as king, in a sense - to make a god out of it. It's like a miserable kind of pleasure, a slavish devotion, to wallow in emotion without any course of action.
For me one of the most helpful tools I've picked up after being in a 12 step program for adult children of alcoholics is the very simple question, "How important is it?" It's like a stop-gap between stimulus and response. As a kid I never knew I had volition in any given situation - I just let the emotions dictate for me. But the simple step of asking myself that question - that step of giving myself enough respect to allow the option of CHOOSING - has made a big difference.
Your comment was truly so familiar to me that I felt everything you wrote at my core. It was the truth I lived too. INFJs with 4 enneagrams.... Is this phenomenon the product of trauma and addicted parents? Sometimes I think a lot of INFJs have C-PTSD, but of course, this is just a theory and probably only applies to a few of us. I think for people like us, our Fi is just so hurt that to open the floodgates can be addicting but also debilitating, so in order to live in the world, we depend on the FeTi, instead to manage. I've been saying a big part of the healing, I think, is to extend the same level of empathy and compassion to that 6 year old inside you who still needs you. And when you do that, I feel you're able to integrate proper boundaries and melt some of the hyper-vigilance.
@@authorerynblaire-craftingc9379 compassion for your child self is so important. there's a video by JP Sears (the one about shame maybe?) in which he describes how to imagine seeing yourself as a child when that child is upset, and then you as your adult self goes over to them and tells them that it's ok to feel what they're feeling and reassuring them that they're ok, etc. this was the most powerful concept i've ever come across and i think it's the one thing that really helped changed my perspective about all the unprocessed pain of my childhood.
@@authorerynblaire-craftingc9379 Exactly... I think that's where that action of posing the question to oneself - the "how important is it [to protect yourself, to fight, to flee, to bring out a coping/defense mechanism in this given situation]" - becomes an expression of the love and respect we didn't experience as children. It both acknowledges the legitimacy of feelings & emotion, whilst simultaneously affirming the right to not live out of a place of fear/powerlessness. I literally sometimes check in with my inner kid, hold her, and say - "This situation, this person - it isn't the same as what you grew up with, even though it might feel the same because it's a little scary right now. You're safe, you're respected, and you have options. Oh, and - I love you. What's more, I even really like you."
@@retrogradepink YES! It's not what comes natural to us. The pain is in the past, that's why we don't know how to accept ourselves in the present. But acknowledging that past self truly starts to heal our present.
@@AlannaBoudreau The way you worded this is so, so profound and true! Do you also identify as INFJ?
Frank, this video was so eye opening! I cried through most of it because the first section of the video really resinated with me. And the second section of your video I didn't even know was an option or that I was capable of helping others through their emotions! I'm so grateful for your insight and encouragement!
Thank you, Frank, A lot of the things you said made sense and I will look into them further as I improve my mental health.
Wolf Medicine: “To have emotions but not be governed by them”. That is a sign of true mastery of the empath.
The middle path, equanimity. The tree that bends is the bamboo.
Your face was made for a beard. And that hair is fabulous!
He is staggeringly pulchritudinous.
All true. I was raised by a borderline mother and now I feel like I can't enjoy my own life without thinking about it people who have suffered. I even feel sorry for villains or people killed in film. I can't shoot people in video games! It's ridiculous. Then I become super overwhelmed and get angry! I yell "omg if people weren't so stupid, I wouldn't have to feel sorry for them! They chose to build a house in a hurricane zone and now they died and I'm supposed to cry for them? I'm tired of crying for you!" then I feel awful. Ugh I need a balance. Especially when I social media and news is constant. Someone somewhere is suffering and in need of something always and I can't ride the roller coaster of emotions every time. Every school shooting, every covid death, every fire victim. It's too much. I honestly don't think humans are designed to handle the kind of news we have today.
Thank you so much my empathy got me in this cave, I was resisting so much and it caused a lot of suffering. Thank you for all these lightbulb thingies you said!
I learned what an empath was a few days ago when someone mentioned it to me. I cry easily when I see someone in pain or their feelings are hurt. Instinctively, I run away from trouble and angry people.
My father constantly reminds me “don’t get angry, be polite, don’t embarrass the family, don’t cry, ect” this video made me cry because that’s exactly how I feel... I do feel sometimes, I don’t belong in this world.
Meka. You belong in this world. Many people lack self-awareness and rely too much on others for self-worth. I am of the X generation bought up by a generation that was super focused on putting up the pretense of the perfect step-ford family. Politeness, courteousness, respect and obedience was an expectation, no excuses. Disobeying meant disappointing your parents at best. Exceptional sport/academic abilities of children were bragged about. These were the days where only the optimal performing in their field were recognised. There was not the award giving to everyone as there is today. Generation X parents in response, tend to be extreme in either direction - either too disciplinary or too laissez-faire. I wish that people were more balanced and insightful. They are not. You belong just as much as anyone else, if not more.
@Emm Bee Welcome to the club! Your father does this because he can’t handle his own emotions, because he wasn’t taught that they’re okay. He’s wrong; it’s a GOOD THING to be an empath, but he’s not the one to help you deal with your abilities. There are good youtube channels that can teach you to use them well and to maintain your emotional/psychic health, which is awesome! These didn’t exist 20 years ago when I figured out that what I am is empathic. I’m 62 years old. Maybe someday when you’re older you’ll be able to explain to him what you’re really about. Maybe.
The worst part about being an empath is when someone is mentally harming you but you can't leave them because you know they're just insecure and need your help
Learn to get rid of sympathy and then you will have no issues like that. Remember that Empathy is good and Sympathy is bad.
So what if they need your help?? You have to take care of yourself, too. Cut out the martyr crap! You don’t owe them the opportunity to hurt you!!!
You will learn to leave when someone is hurting you. It’s critical.
@@ravenel2 Amen! 👍
You need to put yourself first at all times!
You hit the nail on the head my friend. Thank you for being you!
Wow, you are really nailing it: emotions + responsibility for emotions - boundaries is definitely how it plays out.
Most of the time feeling the same emotion when others are happy is a good thing, but i cant stay too long around happy people either.
All the joy gets overwhelming at times and i feel so tired
or after they leave im left with this feeling of emptiness since they took the happiness away.
Agree. Its a superpower but hard to control. It takes lots of practice to get through everyone elses feelings to take care of our own. And be ok with it.
Patricia you didn’t mean supercurse?
Holy crap I'm 1/4 of the way through this & FREAKING out at how MANY things you have hit on EXACTLY already....scary! It was all 100% Right, THANK you for posting.
Thank you for sharing this. Everything you said about childhoods and the way we were raised hit home so much, I really appreciate you making this video to make us all feel less alone
I’ve always been like this... so much that having my kids was difficult. When they were little, I felt their pain so intensely and couldn’t handle it. I believe I am this way with my animals too and I can feel if they are getting sick and it gives me incredible anxiety. I used to work at the shelter and it was a very intense experience for me... I could feel their sadness. One of the reasons I just want to stay home most of the time. I feel others emotions and then feel I have to “fix” everyone’s problems. I put intense energy into helping them, but then get extremely upset when they won’t help themselves and then I just disappear. I have repeated this pattern so many times. People have always told me I’m WAY too sensitive... they have no idea HOW sensitive I really am and how much I absorb of everything around me. I’ve never understood the insensitivity of this world and it really angers me at times!!!! In addition, I have had way too much real trauma in life, and I have recently just become a hermit. Thanks so much discussing this! I do see I need to stop resisting life and create more balance. Balance is the key to so many things in life.
I'm locking myself away and keeping away from most humans as they drain me so much that I feel ill. I am also starting to watch less tv. I only feel good around animals and when I'm doing my art.
I been keeping myself away from people they drained me because of all there vibes and now days people are so brain washed with not knowing what is really going on in this world
I am 63 years old. I am an empath. I want to explain version of being an empath. I have been yelled at, screamed at, curst at, raved at
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wow you explained things so well I can relate to so much. I often feel like such an Outkast everywhere I go and I cant watch horror movies, crime, listen to the radio or watch the news - anything like that as it pulls me right under. I also had trauma when I was younger as my mum had a car crash and so couldn't look after me properly anymore so I learnt to tune into her emotions and care for her. I don't really want to label myself as an empath because I dont like the idea of the hierarchy that sometimes comes across with it, and when people think they are superior. but this really helped me! it is a blessing as well as a curse. Boundaries was the most important thing I ever learnt. protect your energy people. No one else will protect it for you, you have to have rules and standards in order to not take on too much.