Breakups are breakthroughs if you USE them! In this video, we're talking about how to let go of someone you once loved. This video's for anyone who can't let go of an ex, heartbreak, their past, relationships, etc. Hope it helps, but more importantly, I hope you take action with it! Ready to change your life? It all starts with asking yourself the right questions. Get the 11 questions to change your life now (free gift for yt subs): www.clarkkegley.com/free-questions [0:00] where you're at [0:42] why you can't let go [2:15] your secret to letting go [3:15] your first step [6:00] your second step [8:45] your third step
I have a BIG problem with the word "addiction". People throw it around constantly. And here is why: The word addiction holds so many negative connotations. Shame, guilt, etc. Anything one does to excess is actually self soothing, or employing a coping mechanism. We begin using these coping mechanisms VERY young. My oldest son sucked his thumb until he was about 7 years old. He didn't do it in front of anyone else, he hid under his covers, I'm sure feeling ashamed and embarrassed about it. Would you say, "He is an addict. He is addicted to it."? Of course not! You would never label a child engaging in self soothing behaviors an addict! These coping mechanisms continue on in life. In ALL manner of ways! Referring to them as addictions is only adding yet another layer of shame on top of it. This label helps no one, as a matter of fact, I would go so far as saying that labels are one of our biggest problems. We're labeling everything all of the time and a lot of the labels are LOADED with negative implications. (SO many times I've thought, "I wish I would wake up tomorrow and completely forget the English language!" EVERYTHING!" It would make things SO much easier! p.s. My 4 year old French bulldog also self sooths by sucking on his toys, is he an addict too? *maybe I should find a support group for him.???* LMAO! Just a thought, not actually MY thought, one that I'm observing...lol
Took me years to get over my ex i was stressed every day to the point i got ulcerative colitis, no one should feel ashamed to get the help they need to feel better.
@chelsea2711 it seems like we are only now getting the information on how much damage chronic stress can do on the body as well as the mind, hope you came through alright too 🙂
Have you come out of that difficult situation dear? OR still on that phase of moving on in ur life?? Let me know I'm gonna 😌 make videos on it to help you gyes 😊
"Break Through the Breakup: A Modern Woman's Guide to Mending A Broken Heart and Bouncing Back Stronger" "Breakup to Breakthrough: The Healing Power of Heartache" And hundreds of others.... That phrase is old af, and this dude is just milking losers, by regurgitating nonsense. 5 second google search for books... STOP LISENING TO PPL ONLINE. Deuces
I’ve been listening to you for a few years now, for practical slightly spiritual guidance, lol. Today I lost my relationship and here this video was. I didn’t expect it. Thank you…
Sorry to hear about your loss, I too last met me 2weeks back and am healing myself. I’ve accepted it, still grieving but looking at this as an opportunity to be the version of myself that didn’t exist before. You’ll be good on the other side of this
@@sitiimanina steady on the journey of self improvement. I feel like I’ve been able to find more of myself in this solitude. I let her go. And she found her way back.. yet that doesn’t stop me from continuing to move through. Lots more work to do.. thanks for asking
Did she cheat? Mine cheated and it has been a roller coaster of crying from both sides. It has been hard these past two weeks. We are not like hanging and i dont know it is just a matter of time i guess till the third party comes back or so although my partner is telling me that the third party has ghosted her now.. i dont know.. it is just really hard.
Thank you so much for this advice and for acknowledging that yes logically we can do it but at this very current moment it hurts. Currently journaling those positives and negatives. Thanks again!
I don’t see any good in that person who lies, cheated disrespect and left me. I should be okay with him gone no point to want someone like that in my life.
The trauma from a breakup is at the some level of the death of a loved one. What makes it worse in a strange and painful way is they are still present in this world much like a ghost that is impossible to have them in your life anymore. This is why it is so hard to move on knowing they are still living their life.
I am forcing myself to play the hard game, telling my mind: "They are dead. Deceased. Cremated. Gone." Nothing can revive them. They chose to be dead in my world and the only choice I have is to let it go. Let go of this dream that never was and will never be. I can't change it. I've accepted: I can't stop the rain, or change the wind. Hold on Friend. You still have yourself.
@@johannpfouche There's always a chance they come back, but it's bad to bet everything on it, and make your happiness depend on it.. The best you can do is no contact and then let them contact you if they want to try again.. Otherwise just live your life and deal with the loss
If your watching this right now. You’re not alone. I just had a breakup a week ago and what hurts more is we are in good terms. And im still healing and trying to move on. Hope you’ll too ❤
It doesn’t matter my dear … a person who leave will leave all the time … my ex boyfriend did that so many time I took him back .. I loved him … I will ask questions to him he will say I don’t want questions… I will start talking seriously with him .. he will say you have 30 min to talk no more than that .. your time is up …. Think about it my friend if they left yog is better now and not late ..
@@CarterMakesFunnies I’m sorry to hear that I’m going though the pain too .. I can’t sleep how much stressed I’m .. sometimes I feel like love does this to you ? I better stay without no one and not like this
@@priyanka3580I’m sorry to her that .. I’m in so much pain .. he just left in my worse time .. and put the whole fault on me for everything .. I dont know to communicate .. and I’m driving him crazy … after he said let’s be friends … that’s so sad ..
All of us make mistakes when we're in relationship ,but if u know in your heart that u've done your best to resolve that, then just forgive yourself and also if u know that you've done everything you can and you've loved her with all your heart, be proud of that fact and take it one day at a time! Hopefully time does heal you!
She love me And I miss her every day sucks that we have a kid too I feel like I deserve it I let my emotions get The Best of Me and lost my temper. I'm sorry, but something in my gut and hin my heart are telling me she's not coming back. I wanna show her but I'm not the same but it's too late she tells me.
Going through the same thing here, we couldn’t have become what they wanted us to be unless things ended. Be better for yourself because it makes you feel good.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my husband for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let him go, so i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back
Awesome advice. Deleting everything though is too extreme. I know I'll regret it after the feelings go away. I see all the pictures as part of my life that I can reflect back on when the time is right.
61 years old; 21 years of deleting everything? Sounds so hard but may be a good idea as daily my fan y samsung phone posts 'memories ' ugh difficult very much still and?after a long and painful divorce. Steps forward are however necessary. Thanks for this video, you young one!
I feel you. What I've done is save everything in a memory stick or similar and give it to someone you trust to keep it safe. Until the time is right and you can go back without feeling bad. Take care.
I agree. It was such a happy time in my life, i don’t want to erase it. I know i will be happy again, but this feels too special to delete entirely. I have removed all photos off my phone. Still following on social media for now which I know i have to cut asap 😢
@CaseyFrazAnimations I always got tears. But never for the same person. I cry it out and move on. Doesn't mean I can't cry again if I'm broken hearted again. But it takes a while before I can fall hard again. My guard is up now.
@barron5970 I assume you never dated? I need context to this. If you never asked her out then damn... felt... I did it and was rejected but hey at least now I know there wasnt a chance so I can move on with my life. Its better to be rejected than to go your whole life wondering if it could or couldn't have been.
@@gilbertorodriguez6203I dated this girl in middle school and broke up with her before we could even do anything so throughout the years I always tried to get back with her because we were really good friends and she always was petty after 7 years she finally gave me a shot after being ran through by many guys and it just hurts
never knew how painful breakups were until til this first one. Always thought everyone was being over-dramatic and now im the dramatic one. She just broke up with me today, but im trying to use this as an opportunity for growth instead of decline. Good luck everyone, we’re all gonna be okay one day.
We officially broke things today. I feel abandoned. She was more than my girlfriend, she was my best friend. I feel wronged my her, and still I love her so much and would take her back. I know I have to move on though, but fk it hurts
Not true, some people let themselves appear better than they really are to get into your life. Only then when you find out who they are eventually it will be to late and you will be heartbroken.
It took me about 7 years to get over a 7-year-relationship. I went into depression, had bad acne, lost a lot of weight. It felt like being in a black hole filled with a dark mud I can't get myself out of. Ten years later, I still think of the guy but no more emotion. Exactly what I prayed for.
@@sitiimanina4.8 years of relationship my girl just broke up with me after texting a guy which she only told basically she was monkey branching . I was heartbroken and ready to move on but suddenly out of nowhere my gf apologised saying she was wrong and ready to make amends … On one hand I feel betrayal loss of trust and on other side my gf wants to continue on our relationship don’t know what to do😢??
@@sitiimaninasame thing here exactly. caught her behind the house with a coworker and now she’s filing a restraining order against me for stalking (I just saw the car lights).
Hmm, even when my ex and I were happy she'd cry, past traumas and things... then yeah, I made her cry later with some unchecked, anxious behaviour. Which i'll always regret.
I recently spent over an hour looking up a girl that I dated 20 years ago and finally found her. And for days I couldn’t help but think about her. And it hurt every time because I would drive myself into a pit of immense guilt because of how our relationship and friendship ended so many years ago. Knowing that she is successful and married, as much as that hurts, was the rope I desperately needed to pull myself out of that pit. I can finally move on. Seeing her life now brings me relief knowing she moved on to greater things after me. And so did I 😊 thank you Alison for the time we had
I know how that feels. When someone who used to be affectionate to you suddenly gone cold. Then you kinda knew it gonna end bad. So I learned never be to invested because I am not the fortune type to find true love.
Hi, I’m on this side of the relationship and believe me it hurts just as much as the person getting broken up with. I loved him for 8 years, I still do. He is a part of me but ultimately I couldn’t go on in our perfect little life. I felt trapped for no apparent reason, I felt sad, I felt guilty. He loves me so much and he would do anything if it meant that I would stick around. Eventually I outgrew the relationship and we hit a dead end. He would’ve kept trying to fix it, but there was nothing that could fix my heart screaming for more. It couldn’t possibly have been a forever. I really thought it would be, so did he. Falling out of love sucks so hard. It’s terrifying how the strong love I had romantically started fading into a intimate yet more platonic bond. I hate myself for letting him go. He resents me too although he would never admit it.
For me, writing down my thoughts and feelings on paper is something that has helped. Putting it down on paper helps me get it out of my head. When you're finished or begin healing, dispose of it.
I have the toughest time getting over breakups. I can't eat, my smiles are fake, I don't want to go on. I listen to inspirational messeges in hopes that some words will help. I go for walks and cry. I talk to the universe in hopes to ease my suffering. I've made the lists, I've made lists of the things I'm grateful for. I think of my family. I'm shattered. It slowly gets better, a little bit every day. Then one day I notice that I didn't think about it all day. Then the roller coaster of think/don't think happens. Finally, finally there is some relief. I can see the flowers and peoples smiles again. I carry the weight of my pain, and start to become someone different having learned from it all. It's the toughest journey. The only time I start to really feel better is when I can turn my attention away.
Trust me, it is a spiritual awakening. It's not easy. I often cry, my heart screams. But finally I can forgive. When I can love her, I can also forgive her. And that will calm my heart. Don't hold back your tears. Because it is part of the journey of life, and it is a healing process. Don't give up. I'm experiencing it. Especially for me, thank you for being strong.
I went through a divorce with my wife and it’s been a year and I haven’t let myself be able to let go and forget about her. Watching this, I’d say I’m finally ready. It’s tough everyone, I wish you the best.
I’m so sorry for both of you. I’m in the process of trying to decide to separate from my husband of 26 years. He came clean after 25+ years of marriage about his pornography addiction. He has been in therapy and a support group for a year now but relapsed and lied to me. I set boundaries when I found out: no more porn and no lies or gaslighting. He back tracked a few months ago and lied to his therapist and me. I’ve been nothing but supportive of him in his journey, never raised my voice but I can’t change nor fix him. This is his journey and it’s his choice to want to get better. There is no marriage without trust and respect. Love doesn’t hold a marriage together alone.
@@Sorchia56 I completely agree. This is why I tell people to fix their own issues like that before getting married, because of how unfair it is to put someone else through that type of pain. I am so, so sorry for what you had to deal with. I’m hoping the best for you, never let anyone cross your boundaries!
Hi… I’m newly single after 20 years. Im heartbroken. Of course cheating was the reason. The woman sleeping with my husband was somewhat of a friend at least I thought… This video was and is everything I needed. I’m far from getting over this breakup but this video made my day a little brighter. Thank you so much. I needed to hear this.
This was an excellent video for a normal/healthy relationship, but would you consider doing one for toxic/abusive relationships? I've been through many breakups that shook me and threw me off, but coming out of a toxic relationship was a different beast and had me struggling for air for like half a year. I totally forgot who I was, lost all sense of self worth, and had to fight to get myself back. Just a request, no biggie if you don't want to/aren't comfortable! Take care, Clark, and thanks for your great work.
Right now i feel like running mad ,,, my husband left me with kids with no goodbye since monday and no one knows where he is he rather sent a message that he is fine and hapoy where he is
I'm 16 and going through my first break up. I knew it was going to end sooner or later but it still sucks, especially because it's the first time. Thank you for making this
It hurts so bad. I'm trying to balance focusing on myself and healing emotionally. I need to deal with these feeling and not do anything numb them. My heart is cold. Im dead inside.
Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
I am thinking of doing the same. I am too emotional and sensitive and letting go takes all my energy and life juice to the point where I don’t want to live. So, better not get involved.
The hardest part is that some people/souls get attached to my energy fields and stay there for a while. Not only lovers but also people I seem to grapple with. How to remove or resolve those attachments...
Currently going through a breakup today. Listening to YT videos like yours for hours searching for help. Crying for hours. Regretting staying and so much more. Hoping this pain passes at a reasonable time. 💔
This was me 6 mos ago. I still am doing stuff but i cried lesser , im better than the time we broke up. Im finally ready to move on, he is right i deleted all photos and our nessage thread. I tried to block unblock so many times in ig. Just yesterday i just unblocked just so i can send the last message without expecting a reply. After he saw it i deleted it right away. I didnt go back to block him, i jist deleted my ig app so i can heal. i just browse all asmr reiki and anything podcasts that can validate i am right to feel this way. Remember its ok to do things for yourself so you can heal. Its not selfish its self care, self love
That helped me a lot, writing down the negative aspects of them I'd never have to put up with again. Also studying ambiguous grief helped equip me with how my brain was seeing what happened. It's not easy though.
You have my humble gratitude. You made this video in the very right time for me. I got the news yesterday that the girl I liked just got married. And it quite hurts. And I was feeling down after knowing the news. But I'm trying to move on. So your words are of great value to me. Much Love.
Battling this for over a year now, it’s been very hard to let go of someone who decided to let go which seems crazy. Hell I feel crazy most of the time. But these videos help and I appreciate you.
It is difficult but is such a waste of a life, living in the past. Having been through this pain, I can totally recommend the advice here. It takes a little while but I decided I was worth far more than just being an ex of somebody who not only dumped me for another person but also left me financially destitute. I now have more self respect and have used it as my breakthrough to develop as a person and gain more skills.
This is something that you don't overcome thoroughly. This is a process to come across. It's hard to admit over my exhusband. My love to all of you who are going through a hard time
It's been almost 27 yrs 😢still miss him; even if he wasn't the best for me nor I for him. He is my twin flame though; I can feel him in my soul. 😢 💔 Longest slowest heartbreak ever. We never broke up, just drifted apart. We are friends, it's better than nothing. 😢❤
Have you ever had a friendship like a candle? You forget about them and they burn your house down? Don't forget to blow the flame out once your done with them.
The Memory stick method is a good one. Not only because you don't want to erase your past, but it's a great way to tell yourself you have control over your pain. Erased from your computer and phone so you don't need to see it and imprisoned in a small fragile stick you can crush in the palm of your hand and erase everything for good.
Clark, I found you first time when I was going through a reaalllyyyyyyy tough breakup last year. I remember watching and having this intense pain in my chest that I didn’t know what to do because I never felt that way ever. But after your video I gained clarity, comfort. You were my gateway into self-improvement and healing. So this video took me back 😅
Hard agree on the cutting them out step. Ive found its much better to just cut your losses and let your wounds heal. Maintaining some level of relationship/friendship with the person seems to rarely work. Obv if youre divorced with kids for ex thats probably not an option
Thank you, I was actually of doing the pros and cons. But I have been procrastinating, partially because I'm too mentally and emotionally tired. But I know I have to do it if i want to overcome it. Another thing is that I still have pictures and texts because it somehow helps me not to go back to them. I get sad, angry, and confused but never nostalgic. It's true what he said, if you want better, then you need to become the version of yourself that you want to meet. It's hard work, but I think there's is no time limit to work on yourself. You do get tired of feeling depressed, it's smothering. I at least want to be at peace with myself and move on.
I've just watched like a dozen videos on how to get over a breakup. They all helped some, but I think this one has been the most helpful to me. Thank you, Clark.
man I‘ve ended my relationship yesterday because we are just completely different even though I love her, and I have been crying quite a few times since then, but I immediately deleted everything, reminded me of all the headache and pain I’ve had, and wrote it all down. glad that someone basically confirms everything I did!
My issue is that I'm a very sensetive and emotinal man, and when I was with my ex I had somewhere to channel all those wonderful thoughts and feelings that I have inside me, I had someone to love and take care off. But now without her, I have nobody all I have have left are the negative emotions, I feel as if she took a part of me and left
@@njrom2975 I know, I know. Thank you, it's getting better and will only get better with more time. My logical mind realized it is over a long time ago but my feelings just have to catch up.
Leaving this comment here to see if anyone has any thoughts or insight. It’s been a few months now, and I thought I was in a better place about things. I felt okay, maybe even happy. Hung out with friends, traveled, grieved appropriately. And a few weeks ago, it all kinda just hit me again. I’m not as distraught as I was at all. But they’re on my mind more lately. Has this happened to anyone?
Great video Clark, thank you so much! I would like to add, there is an element that is not talked in this video: the love bombing stage of narcissist/sociopath/psychopaths. The first stage of love with them is so potent and it stays deep in our vein, if we don't understand that type of psychology to truly understand what they are, it so potent yet it's all an illusion they make for us to fall in their traps. Much blessings to all xo
I had her trying to come back and make it right and that she loves me. But after her cheating, I couldn't take her back. I feel like I'm in a nightmare. That the person who claimed to want to spend the rest of our lives together did this out of no where.
Damn b4o I been there n unfortunately its true,dont take them back unless ypu just want benefits but no future with her,because just like us,they will cheat again ,honestly I been thru it smh
I've accepted the fact that we are not together and he is happy with someone else, and at this point I want to be alone so I can build myself stronger and happier but I can't stop thinking about what will I do when he'll return to me fantasizing things a lot, so what should I do to stop fantasizing things?
I really needed to hear this. It's been six years and I haven't gotten over it. I sent her a message today. She didn't answer me. It made me look very weak, but I think it's time to move on.
Your ideas are great, thank you. I thought it was because we were soul mates. I have struggled for a year now. He left me for a third party scammer. Betrayed me and hurt me bad… I had been single for 10 years and decided I wanted to have my last love. This is what happened. Damn Why me I asked God. I’m a good person and love life. I treated him like golden. As what I have learned, he is a narcissist. OMG. I have learned so much. But it really really hurt. I have re invented myself and I’m super popular in the video world. Love what I do. And I do it free to help bands get known ❤❤❤
I hadn't thought about him in a while, I came across this video, I shouldn't have clicked but I did. You asked to delete all the pictures, I went through it, I couldn't delete it and now I'm crying thinking about how it didn't work, I so fking wish it had...everybody just leaves me :( Anyway I'mma get over it, I've joined gym lol
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
this was phenomenal. not sure if I can delete his number....hearing about the fantasy that he will come back...well, that's where Im at...thats the really hard part..gonna go back and listen to that part again....
Remove the "stimuli of them"... Easier said than done. My wife of 4 years just told me on Sunday she was leaving... Literally see her morning, day and night but she hasn't said a single word to me since telling me she's leaving. I feel like a ghost in my own home. We still sleep in the same bed together. However, last night she got out of bed when I got into it and went and slept on the couch. It's gut wrenching.
@7:04 After my break up, I read where a person suggested to right a list of the “Pros and Cons” of the relationship! Whenever I ruminated about the relationship I read that list! It instantly put everything in perspective!
I’ve tried to kill myself when my ex left me because I could not live without her, she was and still is my angel I met her by accident when I was in a dark place full of hate, anger and rage in my heart everything was pure darkness until she came into my life and everything was changed to light and love. I have nothing but pure love for her
I accidentally managed to scare off a woman who I think actually liked me because I came on too strong, I've learned from it and won't make the same mistake again.
For me, it’s really incredible the perspective these videos give me almost immediately(sometimes only temporarily), but are still helpful either way. The pain is still there, but my actions going forward change. If you need a slap in the face, just come back to these videos
That felt good . Thank you so much . A heartfelt comment, really needed this in this time of pain. THANK YOU MAN AND YOUR TEAM who made this video possible. ❤
Thanks clark this popped up at the right time for me , I have not been in a realtionship and broken up with someone but they were on my mind a lot As I learned we share the same birthday and year and have many similarities but we don't see each other often enough and thinking about her was distracting me from my true path.
Thank you so much but I’m in a situation with it my ex’s mom forced us to brake up because I said some stuff as a joke on text but her mom took it literally so I regret what I said and I just feel awful all the time, but we are still friends but I cry whenever I see her and I just feel like I’m in hell. If you have any advice please reply, thank you!!!
What do u do when you get divorced and still have to see the face of this person for the sake of your child coz he has visitation rights .. it hurts so bad . I once loved , the one who hurt me d most is living such a good life with another partner , she’s sleeping on my bed that I purchased with so much love .. he moved in with her a month after we left , did not even wait 6 months for the divorce to come through . I know my daughter needs her dad , I need him financially .. but I wish I can just run away and never see him again 😢
I have blocked him, deleted all his things and we don't talk but my world seems to have turned upside down. I don't remember the good times, i mostly hurt , i mostly hurt because of how he treated me, how things were the worst but still I can't go without thinking about him even for a moment. Even though i deleted the chats and everything but i still stare at his contact details for hours and i sit and wait for his text every moment everyday and it hurts every moment that he doesn't text and i get disappointed too but I can't seem to get over it. I can't seem to move on. I have tried to distract myself in every way possible and i have tried to accept the fact that he's gone but nothing seems to work and i am in a constant cycle of agony, pain and despair. I don't know what to do and whatever i do seems to fail miserably.
I appreciated this video. Coming from a single father with no family but my son. My baby mama left me after 10 years and I don’t hold it against her. I just want what’s best for our son. So I figured if she’s moving ahead and not looking back. I need to do the same. It’s rough and it’s been a rough few weeks but it’s not impossible. But it sure is tough. Very.
@@letlifemoveyou I’m sorry to hear that. It’s been 7 months now. I’m doing better. All I can say is that I learned a lot from this relationship and that , despite everything. As a man , father. We just have to keep going. For me , it was about staying busy and focused. Looking for a new outlet too. Change. Change is good. Tough , but good.
He broke up with me yesterday and I realised he wanted to see me miserable and he thinks I have a lot of people to me I don't need him and gave me an excuse saying about career but I realised this thing nd when I told him I'm broke he said...from when and till when like it was nth serious ... Hah I need to get over him
This was great advice and true in my experience. When I think about people from my past, I really had to be tough with myself and just cut off the good and the bad memories and force myself to replace them with other activities that would occupy my mind. God was it hard, but it really does work over time. I stopped reading anything that had to do with them (past text messages, notes I kept on my phone about things they liked) and forced myself to have a months long period where I absolutely was not allowed to look at pictures or any obvious reminders of them until I really felt strong enough. It works if you let it, but the problem is forcing yourself to stick with it.
Breakups are breakthroughs if you USE them! In this video, we're talking about how to let go of someone you once loved. This video's for anyone who can't let go of an ex, heartbreak, their past, relationships, etc. Hope it helps, but more importantly, I hope you take action with it! Ready to change your life? It all starts with asking yourself the right questions. Get the 11 questions to change your life now (free gift for yt subs): www.clarkkegley.com/free-questions
[0:00] where you're at
[0:42] why you can't let go
[2:15] your secret to letting go
[3:15] your first step
[6:00] your second step
[8:45] your third step
do silent subliminals work? i mean high frequency that humans can not hear.
I have a BIG problem with the word "addiction". People throw it around constantly. And here is why: The word addiction holds so many negative connotations. Shame, guilt, etc. Anything one does to excess is actually self soothing, or employing a coping mechanism. We begin using these coping mechanisms VERY young. My oldest son sucked his thumb until he was about 7 years old. He didn't do it in front of anyone else, he hid under his covers, I'm sure feeling ashamed and embarrassed about it. Would you say, "He is an addict. He is addicted to it."? Of course not! You would never label a child engaging in self soothing behaviors an addict! These coping mechanisms continue on in life. In ALL manner of ways! Referring to them as addictions is only adding yet another layer of shame on top of it. This label helps no one, as a matter of fact, I would go so far as saying that labels are one of our biggest problems. We're labeling everything all of the time and a lot of the labels are LOADED with negative implications. (SO many times I've thought, "I wish I would wake up tomorrow and completely forget the English language!" EVERYTHING!" It would make things SO much easier! p.s. My 4 year old French bulldog also self sooths by sucking on his toys, is he an addict too? *maybe I should find a support group for him.???* LMAO! Just a thought, not actually MY thought, one that I'm observing...lol
Thank you for appearing in my life!❤ i recently broke up😊 because he cheated on me ! You helped me very much
Qq x
Took me years to get over my ex i was stressed every day to the point i got ulcerative colitis, no one should feel ashamed to get the help they need to feel better.
I had something VERY similar happen to me! I had no idea stress/trauma could cause health problems. I found out in a wild way 😅 Hope you're well ❤
@chelsea2711 it seems like we are only now getting the information on how much damage chronic stress can do on the body as well as the mind, hope you came through alright too 🙂
Damn bro, as someone with chrons disease I feel your pain brother
Have you come out of that difficult situation dear? OR still on that phase of moving on in ur life?? Let me know I'm gonna 😌 make videos on it to help you gyes 😊
Can you tell me what exactly are the things which will make you move on ? Less time taking
Use your break-up as a breakthrough 🔥
be mature,life is too short
@@durexuncensored u on the WRONG place for that comment, lol. All this is duh af. I just got YT auto-play baited.
"Break Through the Breakup: A Modern Woman's Guide to Mending A Broken Heart and Bouncing Back Stronger"
"Breakup to Breakthrough: The Healing Power of Heartache"
And hundreds of others....
That phrase is old af, and this dude is just milking losers, by regurgitating nonsense. 5 second google search for books... STOP LISENING TO PPL ONLINE. Deuces
Consider your break up as a wake up call.
Yes, use a breakup as a breakthrough, dear God, guide me through this pain am undergoing, show me the right path, let me chose wise decision, Amen 🙏
I’ve been listening to you for a few years now, for practical slightly spiritual guidance, lol. Today I lost my relationship and here this video was. I didn’t expect it. Thank you…
Don't worry dear right people are always meant to stay in your life ✨️ One must not be ur match
Sorry to hear about your loss, I too last met me 2weeks back and am healing myself. I’ve accepted it, still grieving but looking at this as an opportunity to be the version of myself that didn’t exist before. You’ll be good on the other side of this
@@ByTheWilliamshow are you feeling now
@@sitiimanina steady on the journey of self improvement. I feel like I’ve been able to find more of myself in this solitude.
I let her go. And she found her way back..
yet that doesn’t stop me from continuing to move through. Lots more work to do..
thanks for asking
Did she cheat? Mine cheated and it has been a roller coaster of crying from both sides. It has been hard these past two weeks. We are not like hanging and i dont know it is just a matter of time i guess till the third party comes back or so although my partner is telling me that the third party has ghosted her now.. i dont know.. it is just really hard.
Oh my goodness gracious!!! This is exactly what I needed with such a great delivery. Thank you
don’t ever think your wrong there’s always other problems 😢
Thank you so much for this advice and for acknowledging that yes logically we can do it but at this very current moment it hurts. Currently journaling those positives and negatives. Thanks again!
I don’t see any good in that person who lies, cheated disrespect and left me. I should be okay with him gone no point to want someone like that in my life.
Dropping 💎. Appreciate it and God Bless
i’m scared to delete everything because what if she comes back 😖
This video came in the right place in the right time
thank u so much
does this work for a girl you never dated but rejcted you?
Amazing
The trauma from a breakup is at the some level of the death of a loved one. What makes it worse in a strange and painful way is they are still present in this world much like a ghost that is impossible to have them in your life anymore. This is why it is so hard to move on knowing they are still living their life.
I am forcing myself to play the hard game, telling my mind: "They are dead. Deceased. Cremated. Gone." Nothing can revive them. They chose to be dead in my world and the only choice I have is to let it go. Let go of this dream that never was and will never be. I can't change it. I've accepted: I can't stop the rain, or change the wind. Hold on Friend. You still have yourself.
This is something I thought of as well!! Nice to hear someone else get it..
Sounds all great but what if you have a son or daughter together?
@@johannpfouche There's always a chance they come back, but it's bad to bet everything on it, and make your happiness depend on it.. The best you can do is no contact and then let them contact you if they want to try again.. Otherwise just live your life and deal with the loss
You've written that perfectly. That person, in that time, will never be again... they will just be a memory that haunts you
If your watching this right now. You’re not alone. I just had a breakup a week ago and what hurts more is we are in good terms. And im still healing and trying to move on. Hope you’ll too ❤
Thanks it's hart break ups I just can't forget olsbout her 😭
@@DADDJ-i3ssame man, same
How you feeling now?
same bro, same
I did not even get closure lol
What hurts the most after breakup is the thought that she would be loved, touched, seen and felt by some other dude.
and he'll pleasure her better.
It doesn’t matter my dear … a person who leave will leave all the time … my ex boyfriend did that so many time I took him back .. I loved him … I will ask questions to him he will say I don’t want questions… I will start talking seriously with him .. he will say you have 30 min to talk no more than that .. your time is up …. Think about it my friend if they left yog is better now and not late ..
dealing with this right now.
I'm literally feeling that right now
@@CarterMakesFunnies I’m sorry to hear that I’m going though the pain too .. I can’t sleep how much stressed I’m .. sometimes I feel like love does this to you ? I better stay without no one and not like this
He wasn't The One since y'all broke up. The One will NEVER let you go. Remember that
Thanks for this comment...needed to validate it from someone....he didn't fight for me...treated him like my world...still trying to recover...
@@priyanka3580same and we had a baby together
@@priyanka3580on the other hand if he really loved you. Hed let you go and be happy.
@@priyanka3580I am sending you healing wishes and support from afar. You are worthy and you deserve someone who loves truly loves you ❤ A big hug 🙌🏻✨
@@priyanka3580I’m sorry to her that .. I’m in so much pain .. he just left in my worse time .. and put the whole fault on me for everything .. I dont know to communicate .. and I’m driving him crazy … after he said let’s be friends … that’s so sad ..
All of us make mistakes when we're in relationship ,but if u know in your heart that u've done your best to resolve that, then just forgive yourself and also if u know that you've done everything you can and you've loved her with all your heart, be proud of that fact and take it one day at a time! Hopefully time does heal you!
I needed thisssssssss
I needed this 💯
She love me And I miss her every day sucks that we have a kid too I feel like I deserve it I let my emotions get The Best of Me and lost my temper. I'm sorry, but something in my gut and hin my heart are telling me she's not coming back.
I wanna show her but I'm not the same but it's too late she tells me.
Going through the same thing here, we couldn’t have become what they wanted us to be unless things ended. Be better for yourself because it makes you feel good.
Yes this! Knowing the other person did not choose to give their all the way you did hurts. But we know we were authentic and we are capable of love.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my husband for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let him go, so i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Funny enough when I read your comment I immediately knew it was building up to this nonsense about someone who can bring back an ex!
Awesome advice. Deleting everything though is too extreme. I know I'll regret it after the feelings go away. I see all the pictures as part of my life that I can reflect back on when the time is right.
61 years old; 21 years of deleting everything? Sounds so hard but may be a good idea as daily my fan y samsung phone posts 'memories ' ugh difficult very much still and?after a long and painful divorce. Steps forward are however necessary. Thanks for this video, you young one!
I feel you. What I've done is save everything in a memory stick or similar and give it to someone you trust to keep it safe. Until the time is right and you can go back without feeling bad. Take care.
I agree. It was such a happy time in my life, i don’t want to erase it. I know i will be happy again, but this feels too special to delete entirely. I have removed all photos off my phone. Still following on social media for now which I know i have to cut asap 😢
Deleting everything is needed. You're still hanging on. I wouldn't date someone who held onto pictures of their ex.
I just cry it all out in the shower until there's no more tears. Waste of energy to hold on to the past. Cry it out. And move on. ❤
I don’t really cry even though I know I need to, it’s hard
Men has overall a much harder time going thru a lost love.
Yeah, you’re obviously just a kid, probably never really been in love.
Yes but you do that so many times in life crying stops working all you're left with is a hole.
@CaseyFrazAnimations I always got tears.
But never for the same person. I cry it out and move on. Doesn't mean I can't cry again if I'm broken hearted again. But it takes a while before I can fall hard again. My guard is up now.
Perfect for me, heartbroken from a person who I never dated
What's even worst she is my neighbor
@barron5970 I assume you never dated? I need context to this. If you never asked her out then damn... felt... I did it and was rejected but hey at least now I know there wasnt a chance so I can move on with my life. Its better to be rejected than to go your whole life wondering if it could or couldn't have been.
Hahahaha ,
@@gilbertorodriguez6203I dated this girl in middle school and broke up with her before we could even do anything so throughout the years I always tried to get back with her because we were really good friends and she always was petty after 7 years she finally gave me a shot after being ran through by many guys and it just hurts
I was so in love with her and she wanted nothing to do with me
never knew how painful breakups were until til this first one. Always thought everyone was being over-dramatic and now im the dramatic one. She just broke up with me today, but im trying to use this as an opportunity for growth instead of decline. Good luck everyone, we’re all gonna be okay one day.
same here bro she broke up with me today and I'm just going to focus on myself still miss her tho.
@@sukmn1136 Can't believe its been a month already. I've just been working out and getting by. How you been doin?
Same here
@@sukmn1136how are you doing now
We officially broke things today. I feel abandoned. She was more than my girlfriend, she was my best friend. I feel wronged my her, and still I love her so much and would take her back. I know I have to move on though, but fk it hurts
Addicted to the fantasy linked to the pain. Wow. You are profound.
I just really enjoyed the phrase, “You only attract what you are, not necessarily what you want.”
That’s soul food right there.
That’s not true, though, for everyone
Not true, some people let themselves appear better than they really are to get into your life. Only then when you find out who they are eventually it will be to late and you will be heartbroken.
@@nlrenzo9432 That's prolyl a narc..
It took me about 7 years to get over a 7-year-relationship. I went into depression, had bad acne, lost a lot of weight. It felt like being in a black hole filled with a dark mud I can't get myself out of. Ten years later, I still think of the guy but no more emotion. Exactly what I prayed for.
4 years relationship just went away due to betrayal last week... idk how long it is going to take me
@@sitiimanina4.8 years of relationship my girl just broke up with me after texting a guy which she only told basically she was monkey branching .
I was heartbroken and ready to move on but suddenly out of nowhere my gf apologised saying she was wrong and ready to make amends …
On one hand I feel betrayal loss of trust and on other side my gf wants to continue on our relationship
don’t know what to do😢??
@@sitiimaninasame thing here exactly. caught her behind the house with a coworker and now she’s filing a restraining order against me for stalking (I just saw the car lights).
7 years 😮
7 years here, too. Everything we built ended up disappearing in a month. It's... So tough. To lose what you valued most.
It really hurts when we lose a person with whom we decide our future.
Yes I'm going thru the same
Yes 😢
It cuts deep
Same here
I always think of the quote... "NO MAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY "!!! 💯
I love this, its so true~
Hmm, even when my ex and I were happy she'd cry, past traumas and things... then yeah, I made her cry later with some unchecked, anxious behaviour. Which i'll always regret.
While this is true, reality is different :(
Yea thats wishful thinking. All relationships experience hurt and struggle at some point
What if... A woman broke me
Break ups can make or break a person. Literally up to you.
I recently spent over an hour looking up a girl that I dated 20 years ago and finally found her. And for days I couldn’t help but think about her. And it hurt every time because I would drive myself into a pit of immense guilt because of how our relationship and friendship ended so many years ago. Knowing that she is successful and married, as much as that hurts, was the rope I desperately needed to pull myself out of that pit. I can finally move on. Seeing her life now brings me relief knowing she moved on to greater things after me. And so did I 😊 thank you Alison for the time we had
How are you feeling now
Cutn
How can someone one day suddenly just loose all feelings and attachments when you were in a perfect relationship..is that even possible 😭😭
I know how that feels. When someone who used to be affectionate to you suddenly gone cold. Then you kinda knew it gonna end bad.
So I learned never be to invested because I am not the fortune type to find true love.
Me too asking the same question
Same.First treat you like they like you all of sudden hates come.I am very sad heart broken because of his action.
Fck knows.
Hi, I’m on this side of the relationship and believe me it hurts just as much as the person getting broken up with. I loved him for 8 years, I still do. He is a part of me but ultimately I couldn’t go on in our perfect little life. I felt trapped for no apparent reason, I felt sad, I felt guilty. He loves me so much and he would do anything if it meant that I would stick around. Eventually I outgrew the relationship and we hit a dead end. He would’ve kept trying to fix it, but there was nothing that could fix my heart screaming for more. It couldn’t possibly have been a forever. I really thought it would be, so did he. Falling out of love sucks so hard. It’s terrifying how the strong love I had romantically started fading into a intimate yet more platonic bond. I hate myself for letting him go. He resents me too although he would never admit it.
For me, writing down my thoughts and feelings on paper is something that has helped. Putting it down on paper helps me get it out of my head. When you're finished or begin healing, dispose of it.
I have the toughest time getting over breakups. I can't eat, my smiles are fake, I don't want to go on. I listen to inspirational messeges in hopes that some words will help. I go for walks and cry. I talk to the universe in hopes to ease my suffering. I've made the lists, I've made lists of the things I'm grateful for. I think of my family. I'm shattered. It slowly gets better, a little bit every day. Then one day I notice that I didn't think about it all day. Then the roller coaster of think/don't think happens. Finally, finally there is some relief. I can see the flowers and peoples smiles again. I carry the weight of my pain, and start to become someone different having learned from it all. It's the toughest journey. The only time I start to really feel better is when I can turn my attention away.
Thanks for sharing that bro!
Trust me, it is a spiritual awakening. It's not easy. I often cry, my heart screams. But finally I can forgive. When I can love her, I can also forgive her. And that will calm my heart. Don't hold back your tears. Because it is part of the journey of life, and it is a healing process. Don't give up. I'm experiencing it. Especially for me, thank you for being strong.
I went through a divorce with my wife and it’s been a year and I haven’t let myself be able to let go and forget about her. Watching this, I’d say I’m finally ready. It’s tough everyone, I wish you the best.
My husband left me. Ghosted me once again said he had a weak moment and he still wants a divorce. I'm dying 😭😭😭🥀
I’m so sorry for both of you. I’m in the process of trying to decide to separate from my husband of 26 years. He came clean after 25+ years of marriage about his pornography addiction. He has been in therapy and a support group for a year now but relapsed and lied to me. I set boundaries when I found out: no more porn and no lies or gaslighting. He back tracked a few months ago and lied to his therapist and me. I’ve been nothing but supportive of him in his journey, never raised my voice but I can’t change nor fix him. This is his journey and it’s his choice to want to get better. There is no marriage without trust and respect. Love doesn’t hold a marriage together alone.
@@cristianmoore9267 I’m so sorry for that, I’m wishing you nothing but the best. You got this!
@@Sorchia56 I completely agree. This is why I tell people to fix their own issues like that before getting married, because of how unfair it is to put someone else through that type of pain. I am so, so sorry for what you had to deal with. I’m hoping the best for you, never let anyone cross your boundaries!
Hi… I’m newly single after 20 years. Im heartbroken. Of course cheating was the reason. The woman sleeping with my husband was somewhat of a friend at least I thought… This video was and is everything I needed. I’m far from getting over this breakup but this video made my day a little brighter. Thank you so much. I needed to hear this.
Woman always cheat men 😢😢
I soo feel for you and wish you Fresh Energy to help heal you ❤
What I've learnt from my past.. it to just let it go.. and move onwards. You may not be perfect.. but You're the best You can be at Present.
This was an excellent video for a normal/healthy relationship, but would you consider doing one for toxic/abusive relationships? I've been through many breakups that shook me and threw me off, but coming out of a toxic relationship was a different beast and had me struggling for air for like half a year. I totally forgot who I was, lost all sense of self worth, and had to fight to get myself back. Just a request, no biggie if you don't want to/aren't comfortable! Take care, Clark, and thanks for your great work.
CRAPPY CHILDHOOD Fairy Channel!!!
Thank you @@Humgin1234
Right now i feel like running mad ,,, my husband left me with kids with no goodbye since monday and no one knows where he is he rather sent a message that he is fine and hapoy where he is
Are you any better?
stop settling. start living. that's deep
I'm 16 and going through my first break up. I knew it was going to end sooner or later but it still sucks, especially because it's the first time. Thank you for making this
Personal
I want ur help
It hurts so bad. I'm trying to balance focusing on myself and healing emotionally. I need to deal with these feeling and not do anything numb them. My heart is cold. Im dead inside.
Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
@@juanderuano8969 hey, can you share with me the spiritual counselor too?
Why did she leave you? She is no good if she left you after 5 years for no good reason
I’ve cut off all connections to guys. No more friendships, no more situations nothing.
I am thinking of doing the same. I am too emotional and sensitive and letting go takes all my energy and life juice to the point where I don’t want to live. So, better not get involved.
The hardest part is that some people/souls get attached to my energy fields and stay there for a while. Not only lovers but also people I seem to grapple with. How to remove or resolve those attachments...
Currently going through a breakup today. Listening to YT videos like yours for hours searching for help. Crying for hours. Regretting staying and so much more. Hoping this pain passes at a reasonable time. 💔
Hi dear… sending you love and prayers. Trust me, it’ll get better!
🥺 It's very painful but we can do it!
This was me 6 mos ago. I still am doing stuff but i cried lesser , im better than the time we broke up. Im finally ready to move on, he is right i deleted all photos and our nessage thread. I tried to block unblock so many times in ig. Just yesterday i just unblocked just so i can send the last message without expecting a reply. After he saw it i deleted it right away. I didnt go back to block him, i jist deleted my ig app so i can heal. i just browse all asmr reiki and anything podcasts that can validate i am right to feel this way. Remember its ok to do things for yourself so you can heal. Its not selfish its self care, self love
how r u now?
@@caperlacleannhazel2034hey how are you
That helped me a lot, writing down the negative aspects of them I'd never have to put up with again. Also studying ambiguous grief helped equip me with how my brain was seeing what happened. It's not easy though.
You have my humble gratitude. You made this video in the very right time for me. I got the news yesterday that the girl I liked just got married. And it quite hurts. And I was feeling down after knowing the news. But I'm trying to move on. So your words are of great value to me. Much Love.
Battling this for over a year now, it’s been very hard to let go of someone who decided to let go which seems crazy. Hell I feel crazy most of the time. But these videos help and I appreciate you.
It feels SOOOO good seeing someone feeling the same way. Keep going and be glad u experienced them 🥲 we got this bro
@@biancawalker4776 ❤️❤️
it’s sad i’m here on Christmas.
Hang in there buddy! I also can't believe I'm here at Christmas 😢
oh dear:( we both are
I got dumped on Dec 2nd 2023. She started dating before New year
I'm here for Valentine's 😢
It is difficult but is such a waste of a life, living in the past. Having been through this pain, I can totally recommend the advice here. It takes a little while but I decided I was worth far more than just being an ex of somebody who not only dumped me for another person but also left me financially destitute. I now have more self respect and have used it as my breakthrough to develop as a person and gain more skills.
This is something that you don't overcome thoroughly. This is a process to come across. It's hard to admit over my exhusband. My love to all of you who are going through a hard time
It's been almost 27 yrs 😢still miss him; even if he wasn't the best for me nor I for him. He is my twin flame though; I can feel him in my soul. 😢 💔 Longest slowest heartbreak ever. We never broke up, just drifted apart. We are friends, it's better than nothing. 😢❤
.... saddening
Drifting apart is sad :(
Why did u keep the friendship . It stops u from moving on
Have you ever had a friendship like a candle? You forget about them and they burn your house down?
Don't forget to blow the flame out once your done with them.
This was such a great video. Really helping me to refocus my energy back on myself!
The Memory stick method is a good one. Not only because you don't want to erase your past, but it's a great way to tell yourself you have control over your pain. Erased from your computer and phone so you don't need to see it and imprisoned in a small fragile stick you can crush in the palm of your hand and erase everything for good.
Clark, I found you first time when I was going through a reaalllyyyyyyy tough breakup last year. I remember watching and having this intense pain in my chest that I didn’t know what to do because I never felt that way ever. But after your video I gained clarity, comfort. You were my gateway into self-improvement and healing. So this video took me back 😅
Are you currently facing the same situation?
@@Selflovexpedition no, I’m in a better state now, better than ever actually. This break up was my breakthrough 🩵
Hard agree on the cutting them out step. Ive found its much better to just cut your losses and let your wounds heal. Maintaining some level of relationship/friendship with the person seems to rarely work. Obv if youre divorced with kids for ex thats probably not an option
This is one of the most helpful videos you have ever created. Thank you!
Thank you, I was actually of doing the pros and cons. But I have been procrastinating, partially because I'm too mentally and emotionally tired. But I know I have to do it if i want to overcome it. Another thing is that I still have pictures and texts because it somehow helps me not to go back to them. I get sad, angry, and confused but never nostalgic. It's true what he said, if you want better, then you need to become the version of yourself that you want to meet. It's hard work, but I think there's is no time limit to work on yourself. You do get tired of feeling depressed, it's smothering. I at least want to be at peace with myself and move on.
This is the most important 👏 step
Taking that decision
I've just watched like a dozen videos on how to get over a breakup. They all helped some, but I think this one has been the most helpful to me. Thank you, Clark.
man I‘ve ended my relationship yesterday because we are just completely different
even though I love her, and I have been crying quite a few times since then, but I immediately deleted everything, reminded me of all the headache and pain I’ve had, and wrote it all down. glad that someone basically confirms everything I did!
Feeling better?
I just ended things yesterday and I’m in pain
I want him back even though I know he doesn’t value me
My issue is that I'm a very sensetive and emotinal man, and when I was with my ex I had somewhere to channel all those wonderful thoughts and feelings that I have inside me, I had someone to love and take care off. But now without her, I have nobody all I have have left are the negative emotions, I feel as if she took a part of me and left
I understand completely.
Move on ! This is not the end of the world! Go I believe in u
@@njrom2975 I know, I know. Thank you, it's getting better and will only get better with more time. My logical mind realized it is over a long time ago but my feelings just have to catch up.
Leaving this comment here to see if anyone has any thoughts or insight. It’s been a few months now, and I thought I was in a better place about things. I felt okay, maybe even happy. Hung out with friends, traveled, grieved appropriately. And a few weeks ago, it all kinda just hit me again. I’m not as distraught as I was at all. But they’re on my mind more lately. Has this happened to anyone?
Hello
Great video Clark, thank you so much! I would like to add, there is an element that is not talked in this video: the love bombing stage of narcissist/sociopath/psychopaths. The first stage of love with them is so potent and it stays deep in our vein, if we don't understand that type of psychology to truly understand what they are, it so potent yet it's all an illusion they make for us to fall in their traps. Much blessings to all xo
You are so Right!! I want to go back in time and call him out on his games!
*I’ve been looking for YEARS for a video just like this one. THANK YOU.❤*
They are literally all over youtube. This is not unique.
Are you still struggling to cope with a situation let me know
@@Selflovexpedition I am.
@@ayayron7776OK tell me your problem! it would be great if I can help as I've overcome such situations in my life too
I had her trying to come back and make it right and that she loves me. But after her cheating, I couldn't take her back. I feel like I'm in a nightmare. That the person who claimed to want to spend the rest of our lives together did this out of no where.
Damn b4o I been there n unfortunately its true,dont take them back unless ypu just want benefits but no future with her,because just like us,they will cheat again ,honestly I been thru it smh
same here, My ex left me weeks ago, claiming that he isn't happy anymore. 🥲,How is your recovery so far?
Same situation..
Same thing happened
After what span of time they returned
I've accepted the fact that we are not together and he is happy with someone else, and at this point I want to be alone so I can build myself stronger and happier but I can't stop thinking about what will I do when he'll return to me fantasizing things a lot, so what should I do to stop fantasizing things?
“Sometimes things fall apart so better things can fall together” - Marilyn Monroe
After a breakup I always feel like I'm dying and then not dying is the worst
Talk loving ly to yourself. Start it now!! Learn self compassion.
I really needed to hear this. It's been six years and I haven't gotten over it. I sent her a message today. She didn't answer me. It made me look very weak, but I think it's time to move on.
You have an anxious attachment. Learn about it and ways you can learn to live with it
bro, i know that feel, pls move on for the sake of yourself. don't stay in the past with regret. U could be the happiest man in the world. Fighting.
I always say that I can get over these memories, and I'm still trying to deal with them. I don't know what to do. I'm in a mess
What if you still love them, very, very much?
Yes made it to the end. Loved the ideas and how you provided practical things to do except list out things already in my head. ❤
Your ideas are great, thank you. I thought it was because we were soul mates. I have struggled for a year now. He left me for a third party scammer. Betrayed me and hurt me bad… I had been single for 10 years and decided I wanted to have my last love. This is what happened. Damn Why me I asked God. I’m a good person and love life. I treated him like golden. As what I have learned, he is a narcissist. OMG. I have learned so much. But it really really hurt. I have re invented myself and I’m super popular in the video world. Love what I do. And I do it free to help bands get known ❤❤❤
Yes, A Narcissist!! I told him he hurt me but never cared and never said he was sorry because it's all about him!!
I hadn't thought about him in a while, I came across this video, I shouldn't have clicked but I did. You asked to delete all the pictures, I went through it, I couldn't delete it and now I'm crying thinking about how it didn't work, I so fking wish it had...everybody just leaves me :(
Anyway I'mma get over it, I've joined gym lol
Refocus those thoughts back to . Thats why u joined the gym, that's the first step to have more self love
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
“You can be all you can be” love this!
We have to betray our own love for the person in order to heal and move on. It's kinda a sick joke.
this was phenomenal. not sure if I can delete his number....hearing about the fantasy that he will come back...well, that's where Im at...thats the really hard part..gonna go back and listen to that part again....
Remove the "stimuli of them"... Easier said than done.
My wife of 4 years just told me on Sunday she was leaving...
Literally see her morning, day and night but she hasn't said a single word to me since telling me she's leaving. I feel like a ghost in my own home. We still sleep in the same bed together. However, last night she got out of bed when I got into it and went and slept on the couch.
It's gut wrenching.
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After my break up, I read where a person suggested to right a list of the “Pros and Cons” of the relationship! Whenever I ruminated about the relationship I read that list!
It instantly put everything in perspective!
A breakup is a death without a funeral.
I have no friends to talk to so UA-cam is all I have
I’ve tried to kill myself when my ex left me because I could not live without her, she was and still is my angel
I met her by accident when I was in a dark place full of hate, anger and rage in my heart everything was pure darkness until she came into my life and everything was changed to light and love. I have nothing but pure love for her
Best break-up video I've seen all year. Thank you. Really really needed this. Saving it.
I accidentally managed to scare off a woman who I think actually liked me because I came on too strong, I've learned from it and won't make the same mistake again.
For me, it’s really incredible the perspective these videos give me almost immediately(sometimes only temporarily), but are still helpful either way. The pain is still there, but my actions going forward change. If you need a slap in the face, just come back to these videos
9 months later and I can’t get over her. Found out today she has a boyfriend.
Aw man. I’m so sorry. I had a similar situation but he is now married after 8 months… 😢 one door closed but room for another open door~
That felt good . Thank you so much . A heartfelt comment, really needed this in this time of pain. THANK YOU MAN AND YOUR TEAM who made this video possible. ❤
And they come back give you hope just for them to say they want nothing with you and hurt you again
Right!!!! Jerk!!!
Thanks clark this popped up at the right time for me , I have not been in a realtionship and broken up with someone but they were on my mind a lot As I learned we share the same birthday and year and have many similarities but we don't see each other often enough and thinking about her was distracting me from my true path.
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Thank you so much but I’m in a situation with it my ex’s mom forced us to brake up because I said some stuff as a joke on text but her mom took it literally so I regret what I said and I just feel awful all the time, but we are still friends but I cry whenever I see her and I just feel like I’m in hell. If you have any advice please reply, thank you!!!
What do u do when you get divorced and still have to see the face of this person for the sake of your child coz he has visitation rights .. it hurts so bad . I once loved , the one who hurt me d most is living such a good life with another partner , she’s sleeping on my bed that I purchased with so much love .. he moved in with her a month after we left , did not even wait 6 months for the divorce to come through . I know my daughter needs her dad , I need him financially .. but I wish I can just run away and never see him again 😢
I'm so sorry some people are evil
I have blocked him, deleted all his things and we don't talk but my world seems to have turned upside down. I don't remember the good times, i mostly hurt , i mostly hurt because of how he treated me, how things were the worst but still I can't go without thinking about him even for a moment. Even though i deleted the chats and everything but i still stare at his contact details for hours and i sit and wait for his text every moment everyday and it hurts every moment that he doesn't text and i get disappointed too but I can't seem to get over it. I can't seem to move on. I have tried to distract myself in every way possible and i have tried to accept the fact that he's gone but nothing seems to work and i am in a constant cycle of agony, pain and despair. I don't know what to do and whatever i do seems to fail miserably.
I appreciated this video. Coming from a single father with no family but my son. My baby mama left me after 10 years and I don’t hold it against her. I just want what’s best for our son. So I figured if she’s moving ahead and not looking back. I need to do the same. It’s rough and it’s been a rough few weeks but it’s not impossible. But it sure is tough. Very.
how are you feeling these days ?
Going through something very similar man
@@letlifemoveyou I’m sorry to hear that. It’s been 7 months now. I’m doing better. All I can say is that I learned a lot from this relationship and that , despite everything. As a man , father. We just have to keep going. For me , it was about staying busy and focused. Looking for a new outlet too. Change. Change is good. Tough , but good.
He broke up with me yesterday and I realised he wanted to see me miserable and he thinks I have a lot of people to me I don't need him and gave me an excuse saying about career but I realised this thing nd when I told him I'm broke he said...from when and till when like it was nth serious ... Hah I need to get over him
This was great advice and true in my experience. When I think about people from my past, I really had to be tough with myself and just cut off the good and the bad memories and force myself to replace them with other activities that would occupy my mind. God was it hard, but it really does work over time. I stopped reading anything that had to do with them (past text messages, notes I kept on my phone about things they liked) and forced myself to have a months long period where I absolutely was not allowed to look at pictures or any obvious reminders of them until I really felt strong enough. It works if you let it, but the problem is forcing yourself to stick with it.
What if the ex is your colleague🥲 whaattttttt should i dooooo, aaaaahhhhh...
Going through the same as you. It's hard. For me I just resign from my post. Move to another department.
The problem some of love the hardest and when someone switches on us... It's either that moment makes us or breaks us.