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It took me 3 years to beat overthinking. I'll tell you how to in 5 steps
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In this video, we're talking about overthinking! Or as I like to call it, 'the art of creating problems that were never there' 🤣. But perhaps more important than why you overthink is how to fix it! I'll share 5 personal methods that really work. Hope this video helps YOU!
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In this video, we're talking about overthinking! Or as I like to call it, 'the art of creating problems that were never there' 🤣. But perhaps more important than why you overthink is how to fix it! I'll share 5 personal methods that really work. Hope this video helps YOU! Ready to change your life? Check out metamorphic: www.clarkkegley.com/free-case-study?sl=yt-overthinking
You look like superman
Overthinking is the art of creating problems that weren't even there.
Well tim problems will always arise in life. If you are self aware enough to know what type of person you are someone who avoids or likes to solve problems it could work out better to you
Thinking of problems that not even there yet
That's just not true. It's thinking about something that has happened in your life continuously. It's not about some imaginary problem.
I too watched the first 15 seconds of this video. Great contribution
Shouldn’t say art. You’re putting a good emotion on overthinking doing this.
"No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future" - Umar Ibn Al Khattab
Wonderful quote 🙏🏻
Do you know the Arabic version of this quote? Can you provide it?
@@none377 "Halala halala, yalla yalla habibi."
You're welcome.
Action is the antidote for despair.
🏆💯🌟
so true
Exactly
100
Great saying.
"Done is better than perfect, because perfect never gets done." I LOVE that! And I'm extremely bad at remembering it. I need this tattooed on my hand, or at least on a t-shirt!
I mean that also depends on what’s considered perfect. lol
Write it down in your head, you don't need to write it on your body😂
Suggestion:
Listen to this video many many times..
I’ve heard that to listen countless times will really help you remember it 🙏🏼
My mantra is "Let it go." I let go of my overbearing thoughts on something. It's hard to do, but the more I say it to myself, the easier it's become to move on. I find that consistency with any healing method is the key to success. This, of course, is just my opinion.
I agree
I know a disney movie you might like
@@jumpkutPayton Parrish covered it if you prefer rock/metal
"Strive not to be a success, but rather, to be of value" - Einstein
The quote that has helped me the most in my creative proces. Helping me create what i myself like.
Wow, I love this!
And if you feel like you have no value? Or at least no value to most folks...
Stay away from Alcohol. Stay away from people that influence you to go back to your own you, work out and visualize, if you had everything you want, what would you do? who would you be? What fulfill you. I’m am in this self rediscovering journey right now, this video gave me a lot of clarity. Fear of failure is for sure my biggest enemy
Great comment…I’m exactly the same..I have everything I want..retired 9 months ago and it’s left my with no destination and no journey…empty vessel with no rudder…horrible feeling…I need to carve out a new path
Stay away from people that constantly want to change you by telling you what to do and not what to do, especially people on the internet who know nothing about you...
@@mrdaggydoochikevscou473didn’t you have a list of things you said you’d have time for once you retire?
Most retired people start a new hobby or go travelling
@@TayWoode Thanks for taking the time to comment….well I’ve always had free time as I was a landlord of various properties (HMO)…so I had plenty of free time in between looking after my Tennants..I’ve pretty much being doing my hobbies for the past 17 years from 30 years old…so when I sold up last year it’s left me not having my properties to keep me busy and to give me a sense of achievement…yes of course I keep busy as much as I can ..I run 25 miles a week cycle everywhere..gardening,cleaning,,I’m also a boxing coach but that doesn’t pay nothing…I need a greater destination and a journey that fills me with worth …not being prompted to do things can be tough because one constantly has to invent things to do rather than having to do it..this alone can drive you nuts…it’s probably hard to understand unless you’ve been there …again thank you for your comment👍👍
I've had my days where I would think too long and hard on the "what if" aspects. I've learned that by not worrying about the "what if" and just let things happen, you'll have much more valuable experiences.
Instead of worrying about "What if I fail? What if I fall?" in the words of Mel Robbins... "Oh, my darling, but what if you *fly*?" That possibility works two ways, and you can choose what you focus on.
It’s not overthinking. It’s underdoing.
True, overthinking leads to underdoing
Greatest thing I’ve read today
Danggg
Not for me. I keep myself extremely occupied with work, tasks, reading, working out, cleaning etcetera but my mind keeps going on and on and on.
It’s not underdoing it’s categorizing 😏
With my overthinking I feel what helps is me telling myself to just live more in the moment. I agree with you on walking , meditating and breathing exercises.
Rejection is experience. Thanks man. This is something I need to hear.
"Remember to smile once a day, because a day without sunshine is like night." Steve Martin
The irony that he said go for a walk and don’t listen to a podcast, but I heard this on a 3km run while I was listening to this video
Listening to podcast while jogging is overthinking. Play Prodigy instead.
They are on my playlist lol
" Staying focus on one thing at a time, and being in the flow state." ✨️
It takes a huge ego to think you know the outcome of everything you are going to do, the actions you are going to take and the universe is so much more creative than we will ever be - we just need to give the universe a chance to show us that and if we are trying to control every outcome well that makes magic a lot harder to appear...
I call it “stinking thinking” Thank you for this. 💙🙏🏻 Blessings & gratitude 🙌🏻🌟
Took me 7-8 years. Now I'm successful, happy and free. Just do my friend. Stay Uncommon!
What does it mean to be successful?
@@BOGEGO_success would be obtaining freedom and freedom equals happiness.
@@BOGEGO_achieving the goals that you’ve set for yourself
@@ForestWW so its money?
@@Yeet321 so its discipline?
Clark, the value of your videos is not just the wisdom or practical information, it's also very much your personality! There are other creators out there with similar content, but I enjoy YOUR sense of humour and how YOU communicate ideas and your thoughts on things. No need to overthink the content, just trust that you're liked by so many viewers for who you are! 😊👍
This man truly knows how to send the good vibes out. When you get a sense of that you know it’s genuine and truly is for good intentions 🙏🏻
Box breathing is the most effective method of regulating overthinking for me 💗🙏🏽👊🏽
How you do it ?
@@KingStackingRackshe sits in a box and breaths. The refrigerator sized box.
Hyper vigilance over thinking is the brain on high alert protecting oneself. Ruminating is self destructive.
Imperfections are where humanity is. Imperfect is real. The flaws of things give those things character. When I started painting, I learned to look at an object over and over. There is beauty in every flower, not just the flower that most closely approaches symmetrical perfection. I say approach because perfection, if possible, could only be momentary because all things are in perpetual motion. This is also not taking into consideration the subjective nature of perfection since beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
I really appreciate your statement, "Don't let perfect be the enemy of good."
Thank you for this video.
It is "perfect" for inaction breaking.
Been overthinking all morning thanks for posting
When I'm overthinking.... I lean on my value system. Tapping those specific resources....spirituality (prayer) health and well-being (workout, bike ride, walk, sweat), call a friend or family member, pick up my guitar, create, or gratitude journal.
The hardest part is "trusting" your value system will be the fix as you push to take action towards it.
Great content!
What helped for me is learning that what we think becomes our reality, all the self doubt etc. comes to be true
Great advice. I’m notorious for overthinking. What helps me I’ve noticed is when I start to get that overwhelming/doubting I can do it feeling I have to just take a step back and chill out.
Walk in the woods usually does it for me :). Connecting with nature helps.
The person who steps out the door for a morning walk is not the same person who comes back.
I'm overthinking because I don't know what I want, or I don't know what my life's purpose is.
I'm the same. I either need to try lots of different things to see what I enjoy, or I need to meditate on it, but likely both! What's the longest you've sat on your own with no distractions at all? Where does your brain go? (Not talking minutes or hours, but days or weeks.)
Any job that makes money, go to the gym, have a hobby(mines mma), use the money to look good, get things you want and improve your relationships with friends and family
Spend 75 put 15 into investments and 10 into cushion fund every month then just enjoy ur life man
I wish there was a support group for this. I'm 30 and still feel this.
Did I write this comment?? 😅
Stopping caring about what others think have made me progress in public speaking, sales, fitness and socializing. Definitely a life changer 😊
This video is the best I’ve watched in this category. I’m so tired of being paralyzed, just frozen. I need to break things down and just do it! Thanks ☺️
Ive been creating my own content on TikTok daily (some of it gets uploaded to UA-cam but I'm still honing my craft). One thing that helped me a lot to get out of my head about my content and jumping into action that so much more authentic is a simple phrase I put next to my computer so I can see it every day.
"Don't compare yourself to other people."
Hello, Clark.
I just wanted to thank you for this video.
I'm in Málaga, Spain at the moment and will start a teaching job in Sevilla in September.
I'm worrying about silly things: the fact I'm not working at the moment, even though I have enough money to last me for a few months.
But the biggest thing has been my creative front: I haven't written a song in YEARS barely written a story or worked on my writing projects in almost a year and feel creatively drained.
I realized it's my mind.
I'm 39 and going through a huge life change and your video made me realize that I need to be more present, work on myself and take action.
Your videos really do impact and help people.
Thank you! ❤
“Progress not perfection”
This is a great video, I found the way you described the problems of perfectionism really helpful. I need to remind myself of some of those hard truths when I feel myself sliding into old bad habits! I think the way you embody what you’re teaching comes across and it adds much more power to your content. I definitely noticed the ❤❤ energy - thanks Clarke!
Dude ... All I can think about now is how much u need to be the next Superman! U look like Clark more than he does
He's more like Clark than Clark
I watched a video of Cristiano Ronaldo talking about his workout routine and he was saying how he just does what's on the paper and that's how I do my workouts, I just get up and do it, I dont let myself think about anything else, I don't give myself enough time to talk myself out of it.
“We relax, we let go, we do not struggle, we often find that the right answers come when we have tried this for awhile”. I’m pretty sure it’s from AA… but mannn it rocks my world when I can surrender like that
I love this! Seriously never thought of my “chronic anxiety” as overthinking. Definitely taking your tips and taking some action. ❤
i feel like just trying to live in the moment helps and understanding that when ur overthinking something ur not living in the present and u just assume it will go bad when u haven’t even tried. i do lash extentions and for the longest time i would cancel or reschedule ppl because of my anxiety of thinking about the day coming and feeling like everything will go wrong when i truly won’t know unless i do it. there was one client i had that i was having super bad anxiety about but i pushed myself anyways to do it cuz i know it’s the only way i’ll get over my anxiety and overthinking and it ended up being the most gorgeous lash set ever and it gave me such a good feeling once i was done and motivated me more. i feel like u just have to do things without letting ur overthinking / anxiety control u as much as it’s easy to let it control u ❤
basically action is the best way to overcome these things. don’t listen to ur anxiety and bad thoughts because they can keep u out of good situations that can help u grow. i truly believe action is the way to go even if it’s taking small steps each day
Feel excited for what is to come instead of feeling scared of the endless unknown possibilities that is out of your control.
Thank you for helping me out today, as I am a single mom I always thought I wanted to do a lot of things in one day. Start right now by not being perfect in everything just slow down step by step. understood what I stand for.
Did you make this video for me? Feels like I just got a $500 counseling session for free. Thank you!
Pride is the burden of foolish person.
Thank you for addressing the often-overlooked issue of overthinking with humor and insight. Your practical methods offer a lifeline to those caught in the cycle of unnecessary worry.
It's crazy that in all of your examples, you're describing my mind and EXACTLY why haven't been able to start.
I've watched your channel grow and I'd love the recent content you've been making more than ever. Thank you
Me and my grandpa started going to the driving range every week to shoot golf balls. The first time, I used a right handed club and then I practiced with a left handed club the next week. A key takeaway from this is I would do a lot of practice swings. And every time I would try to make sure I made a good shot, I would do these practice swings and funny enough they got worse every time before I made the actual shot, then I would either miss or it would be a weak swing. Then I sort of let my body go and I would just take the shot. And every time I did this, my ball would fly further and further. And this ties into a lot of aspects of my life such as school. I would start crushing tests and doing extremely well when I learned how to live in the present moment and letting go of all connections to the past, future, and what I would do by overcomplicating it.
It may not be a great reason why I am here to watch your video, but besides helping me out on my overthinking righr now, your tips just had me realising, what held me back at doing all the cool stuff I used to do. The quote "Done is better than perfect, because perfect will never be done" ist very important and it might be my mantra for the future, because it was always my excuse to say "I'm a perfectionist and that's why I don't even try"
Thank's for the helpful advices and as much as you value my time, I value your work, you put into the video, because I absolutely got something out of it, that made my day and I was glad, that I spend the time to listen to you.
By the way, your voice is very beautiful and soothing!
I like the 'be where your feet are' tip, whereby, if you start to overthink/get overwhelmed, take a moment and focus on where your feet are, I get myself to say what I see right in front of me like 'my feet are on the pavement, there are green trees around me, I'm walking the dog, the birds are singing' and it helps bring me back to the present moment.
Best most helpful video. Never thought about momentum but i often say if i can just get to my desk. Then i realize I’ve worked 4 hours.
This is the video I needed, and it's when I needed it.
Great advice, Clark. I burn sage, and incense. Listen to spa music, and guided mediations. All these help. But, if I don’t stay consciously aware of my thoughts I catch myself overthinking again.
Dude thank you so much for this video! I was literally sitting here over thinking and this video played at the right moment! THANK YOU
You made so many good points. I overthink often and I have found that several of the strategies that you’ve listed work very well for me.
Overthinking can grow to become a problem but it can help you understand things about yourself and others around you that you wouldn't have caught unless you stop and think about them. Its about finding a balance.
You can do those things without overthinking.
Thanks Clark for your inspirational words!! You tell us to balance the fire and water, sometimes being fast and sometimes allow to be slow. 💖✨
That was really helpful. I'm guilty of all those things. Knowing that more information is not the answer to overthinking something is a revelation thank you 🙏🏻
Great video mate, very true.
For me, sometimes, just telling my brain to Shush out loud works. Sometimes your thoughts are not your own, they are just thoughts passing. Shush.
Pray to God .... three words .... a life lesson for me ❤
Amen! Sending 💛
That's the same thing as saying snort a line of cocaine or drink another beer. 😢
Awesome video. Spot on. Thanks. Im going to watch it again.
Sometimes I just like watch this weird feeling inside of me of anxiety and it’s there for no reason at all, just sitting there, like nails on a chalkboard in my mind
Action speaks louder than words is a true statement
Momentum = “just get started”, or “a thousand mile journey starts with the first step… just do one step”. Also, “don’t be afraid to fail” is another one, because if you don’t try things or to get better, you’ll never go anywhere.
I find ‘dont be afraid’ to be a nonstarter, personally. Its very hard to reason yourself out of fear and easy to blame yourself for failing to not be afraid. ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’ may be a better angle, for some.
Dude I needed this in the worst way thank you!!!
Needed this so much!!! Thank you! I loved what you said at the end, and it makes sense because I find myself trying to watch other people’s videos and even though they’ve provided a ton of “information” I don’t always feel that I’ve gained as much value as when I watch your videos. Your content definitely comes from the heart. Thx for creating!❤ much love
This is really great advice. I will definitely put these in action. Thanks for posting these videos.
I’m not really religious, but when I’m feeling anxious I have to stop and tell myself to “Give it to God”. This really helps me slow down and gives me a feeling of I’m not alone. I also look at the root word of Worry, which means to strangle. I worry a lot, translates to, I’m strangling my thoughts.
I've been up all night planning and brainstorming about how to change my life, and I'm about to binge watch your videos because they ARE so VALUABLE. Your videos are so helpful and you are a godsend. I appreciate how much time and energy you put into them because I believe this channel is one of the best self help channels on UA-cam. Thank you! 😊❤
When taking action you and try something new there is a chance you get burnt out quick. The important part is you keep trying new things and its ok the revist the ones that burnt you out. Lifestyle changes and becoming more consistent over time are good signs
Man, just thank you! Thank you so much for your dedication to this video. Will help me a lot.
When I see you i feel confident
Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.
W. Clement Stone
i'm always overthinking if i'm an overthinker (oh I am!); the overthinking is definitely impeding my letting go of someone - ugh. thanks as always for your tips/advice! action here i come!
Actions are far more valuable than plans
On over-preparing, takes the human-ness out of performance or product. "People do not care about how much time and thought youve put into something, they care about the results, and the product."
Needed this video struggle so much with overthinking when it comes to certain categories in my life ❤
Life gets better 🙏🏻 and we all go through or ruts. You’ve accomplished so much more than others because you’re self-aware of overthinking. Watching this video 🤙🏻 means you understand your problem and want to be better, which is amazing!
Hey! Thanks for the extremely valuable content. I've been watching some of your videos and it got me working on my goals. The question - What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? - made me think about my dreams, and the things that are relevant for MY life, instead of what seems reasonable for other people. I'm a great planner, but I'm constantly struck by doubt and skeptcism. I've done many things in my journey, and I believe surely that anything is possible, as long as we're willing to put on the work.
Your content is absolutely phenomenal Clark, thank you so much for your contribution!!!
Gonna be honest, I don't watch you often, and you don't come up on my main page often either.
This was my first video today. I take that as a sign. Overthinking has been my major block lately.
Thank you for this video I needed it.
You are right, Clark,I have been following these UA-camr's for too long trying to forehand a solution and the result has been just" anticipating anxiety when we just must start from the beginning of things and thus get to progress, which must be the aim. Thank you. Well done.
Let it go and flow man. I like that one the most
If I find I'm over thinking about something I think about something else, or just distract myself with something else.
The other thing is related to momentum. Break something big into small pieces that don't require much thought.
One thing I find helps my nervous system when I'm worked up about what other people will think of my work is to remember that the reason we care about what other people think is that we're a social species and that for our ancient ancestors being rejected from the tribe could literally mean death. So it's understandable that we are programmed to worry about rejection BUT we don't live in that world and rejection DOESN'T (generally) mean death anymore. We can reassure ourselves that rejection is a lot safer than it used to be, even if our nervous systems haven't fully caught up to that fact, and we can do that without getting mad at our nervous system for trying to protect us from what it sees as a genuine threat to our existence.
Sometimes we just have to - lovingly - parent our own nervous system.
Just stumbled on this video and was pleasantly surprised! Thank you for being “real” and putting out content that’s from the heart. It really helped me today!! ☺️
I forgot who said this, and I am not sure if it applies but I’ll share it anyways.
“Comfort is the enemy of success”
Living in the moment and accepting yourself for who you are is what really helps as well I find ❤️ thank you for this video!!
This...THIS...video has helped me so much! Thank you. It's actually helping with my anxiety.
I’ve been waiting for this words for years
Keep improving everyday!
This video is so on point for me right now. I struggle with perfectionism and am also quite critical.
Really good video ! I definitely agree with the last part when you talk about emotion in creating videos instead of putting too much logical informations.
I recognize myself so much in this .... Emotion is the key !
Greetings from France
Your life grows to the extent that you do!
I have never really prepared much for any type of interview (even jobs) and when it works, it works. It just flows and works out. If it doesn’t, it just isn’t a great fit. 😊
Thank you, Clark. This was very helpful.
Doubt is the root of communication disruption.
One of my favorite quotes is, “What if it all goes RIGHT?” I don’t know if she originated it, but I heard it from Peggy Dean of The Pigeon Letters.
Interesting synchronicity. I read basically this exact same message in Atomic Habits just yesterday. In an actual book… the algorithm is getting scary 😂.
Thanks for the video Clark! Amazing content :)
One of the things I've learned from overthinking is that you need to focus on the things you can realistically do.
We stress ourselves out on things we don't even have control of.
Focus on what you have in hands, take a realistic approach, and, as Clark said, keep it slow and go one step at a time.
Call someone, ask them how they're doing, & (really) listen. Repeat until you (and many others) feel better! It works every time.
It helped when I made me believe that I am good enough even if im not doing "perfect".
I find myself taking more action, less afraid of disapointment.
Life got aaaaa lot lighter 😊
Acknowledge that I am overthinking and massive action (just moving my body is enough at start). Thank you ❤
I think just reconnecting to your own energy is helpful. You have to constantly realign yourself to your best version. Also recognizing you’re always safe is a good way to bring you back to calm.