For me it's not about hurting anyone by disappearing or being gone. It's not about revenge or trying to get them to feel some certain way. It's about self-respect and self-preservation.. it's about being treated as an equal. And it's also about self love.
I feel the same. I just want to move on from all the games and pain. In actuality, I'd rather that he'd just be in the stage of relief and move on himself. But..I'm getting the strong feeling that this is about much more than my feelings of needing peace. I'm feeling like God is actually orchestrating this whole thing for more than just my benefit. I'm feeling like the reason I'm at this point, finally letting go and moving on, is actually also for my person's benefit. That God is using this situation to..get something through to this person. To heal..this thing that makes him treat people this way. Like, it's ultimately to make us both better versions of ourselves. More wise, loving, balanced. I'm so tempted to open the door a crack, as I don't like to see people suffer. Let alone be the source of their suffering. But geez, I'm really thinking it's kind of God's prescription here. Which is a whole new way of thinking for me!
After 4 months of not talking to me he called the other day and wanted to get together. I actually said no and at the end of the call I blocked his number. I am so proud of myself to not go back into the same cycle.
@@user-lu2ms4dm2s congratulations!!! You'll be blessed with someone else who will be more attentive! Even if you have to be alone for a while, it will give you time to maybe change your hair style, buy new clothes, and redo your make up ----- complete the change and wow them all!
It's amazing! Even if the person you vanished on doesn't want a relationship, they STILL want to break the silence! It's confusing and amusing all at the same time😂
don't call them, especially don't call them everyday....they WILL call you and if they don't then let them go, gracefully, but completely. He's not the only man alive.
If they treat you poorly they already don't care, and, they won't care when you leave. *YOU* have to care about *YOU.* If you allow yourself to be treated badly then you are getting the relationship you plainly believe you deserve. *YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIVE THIS WAY. CHOOSE YOU.*
@@Candyliz2003 it’s like a bad business deal. All the tears we put in and the money and tears ALL OF IT. To only in the be treated like this by the children you birthed and raised. Even helped raise their children. Just to be eradicated from their life. It’s traumatizing !! like you know they’re alive and out here in society living their lives but you don’t get to interact and see them. It’s shameful and sad to say the least.
@@KatarinaLebenhartIng.-md2vp there you go, cause I'm done bring an option, we good people with good hearts whom we definitely gave to the wrong people 😉
I was the one getting ghosted after i took a wonderful person for granted. It was a horrible feeling but it helped me grow as a person. Im almost grateful that it happened because it helped me become a better person and not take people who care about me for granted. So in a way she did me a favor in the end. I have now moved on and are happily married with two wonderful sons and my life could not have been better. Thank you for ghosting me. It made me a better man.
@@Fredrik7le Congratulations, so you were an A$$ and used someone and took advantage of them. Then you went on and treated someone else at least a little better. You're still an A$$.
I've come to enjoy my own company. I'm the only person I completely trust and I've been my own best friend for decades. Get to know yourself better and you'll understand.
It's a double-edged sword. When you disappear you'll think about the person you left also. I have found that when that happens, I simply say to myself I forgive you and I wish you well no hard feelings I'm moving on
That is the problem. By the time most people can do this they don’t care. The feelings for the other person are simply the ashes of love. Disappearing is just the last nail in the coffin.
God been showing me who is really my friends in the last 2 weeks even down to my family an kids I think God for showing me cause I got a great heart an it blinded me an I almost questioned God why until I seen my problems are over an there's just begun think you God you are the best 🙏🙏🙏
I am currently in that situation. Everything said is exactly what i did to the relationship i am currently closing! I will come back and play it everytime someone will touch my comment! i am done being an 'Option'
there was a time i let my selfishness push someone who really mattered to me away. i thought they would always be there, but, without warning, they were gone. i felt so much regret. it was a wake up call i desperately needed. in those moments of reflection, i realized how much i had taken for granted. painfully, losing them taught me to appreciate the people who actually care. it was a profound lesson i learned. thank you to the person who ignored me so i could appreciate what i have
wow, love to see this. A person who learns from their mistakes and tries to do better and be better as a person. That’s real maturity & growth. And self-reflection. We need more ppl like this in our world.
When u disappear from someone’s life they move on. Most people are not gonna sit around and wonder about you. People by nature are self centered and pretty much care about their wants and needs. No one is sitting around waiting for you to come back. No one cares.
I agree… this person was willing to take you for granted and Put themselves in a position to lose you, they are certainly not going to start caring about you in your absence
One day I made the decision to never allow a relationship to brake me again. I learned to be in a place of neutrality and acceptance. This video is so amazing I have to heard it more than once Thank you to the creator
I am done being an option. I won my emotional independence. I won my self control. I am thankful to Stoic leasons. That teached me I can only control my actions. I stopped making fantasies of what other people are thinking and acting. I am the only interest of me now. Thank you for the content it is very powerful and true🙏
this is why narcissts with power routinely try to force and coerce people into characters so they do NOT feel this when someone leaves. if you were a chracter in their story all they have to do is find someone playing your same role and they're okay. But stay authentic and theyve actually lost. Which is why some people are woefully afriad of authenticity and authentic people. with them comes a real possibility of loss.
Alhamdulliah I’m ready not to be a option for people anymore this is all thanks to my Almighty Allah☝🏼 ❤️ and thank you to the owner of this channel for posting this video may my almighty Allah bless you🤲🏼
Good. I hope it haunts him forever. He ghosted first but i took that as my time to go no contact. He came back around in short time but poof no me. Two years later and he still tries to hunt me down. I've gotten exceptionally good at disappearing even though i live at the same address. Caught him driving by my house on my surveillance cameras just today! But all he can do is look at a house. Two years later. It must sting. Good.
I have recently walked away from someone who i felt treated me like an option and did not respect me, i am usually known to be hot tempered, known to use violence, aggression and intimidation to make my point but i didnt do not that this time, i confronted them using a fair tone and with my calmness....i was in control of the whole conversation which ended in them having a meltdown and crying to mutual friends but i didnt tell them i was done with them, but i blocked their number and social media and haven't said anything in 8 days and im going to treat them like they dont exist. A few people seem to be korey frightened at my calmness than my aggression. This video made me smile, thank you, i have subscribed and look forward to hearing more
Thank you for sharing. You touched me greatly. My children are grown and we live apart...but you touched a nerve for me to wake up to the disrespect I've endured off an on for years. Guilt of raising them alone and more. Thank you for reminding me that i am worth being....✍🙏🙏🙏♥️
I disappeared for 6 years after being hurt all my life by family after losing my mom. I came back and I never got an apology, but have endlessly been guilt tripped and lashed out at. It's highly upsetting
@thabi_d I'm right there with you, I'm in the process of separation all over again. It's not easy but it's necessary. This has been the fuel to all of my music. Nothing but love to you, your not alone
I once gave my all to someone who saw me as just an option, not a priority. I was always there, ready to support them, yet when I needed them, they were nowhere to be found. Walking away felt like losing a piece of myself, but staying was even more painful. Even now, I feel the weight of that choice-wondering if I made the right decision. How do you fully move on from someone who once meant so much? Any advice would mean a lot.
... There are millions of VALUABLE détails in Life... that you don t see or feel at all when you are 'stuck' into heavenly Love and feelings towards someone nearby. ... it's very hard, but lose it means you then are 'disponible' for those other millions of truely fabulous 'part of life' enjoy the ride into deep feelings and compassion towards other fellow- humans/ animals/ plants/ surroundings ;-) in fact it will make your life rich if you open up for it all. I send a huge emotional virtual plaster relief your way ... to heal all rest of any wounds in your soul
It's not easy but with time you get over it put your energy into something else. You deserve better you can't be the only one giving without receiving.
Trust the Process and Make a Way Out of No Way through the Lonely Tunnel of Darkness. I promise if you stay the course you will eventually come out on the other side intact and victorious with an overwhelming sense of peace and strength 💪 Godspeed 🛫
Please, just listen to your own words. You were with someone who treated you like garbage - why on earth would you wonder if leaving them was the right decision? YOU count - YOU matter - YOU deserve! And I have a sneaking suspicion that when you fully come into the knowledge of your own self worth, you won't have any problem moving on.
They have to find a distraction it’s a pain killer- Trust they will circle back to you- you’ll get a call ( heat check). Of course this all depends on how long you were in the relationship. The best thing is remain silent! Power in silence!! Let them drive the new distraction crazy ..
@@MrBogeyman00 yes, but they can last quite awhile. AND she’s 18 years younger than I am. Sadly, I hope he gets rejected by her so he can feel this same pain, but that’s not healthy for me to feel that way. I’m working on that. Thanks for the reminder tho about the rebound. Idk if it counts as a rebound if they’ve been in them same friends circle for a few years. 🤷♀️
This sounds good in theory but the problem is you got yourself into this relationship because of obsession. It is easy to ghost or walk away from someone you just met or upon further review, decided you are probably better off with out. That’s easy. But what about when you have been love bombed, and it really took you in. Mentally and physically. And then they started taking you for granted cause the hook is in your nose. You know he/she is using you but it’s alright as long they feed the obsession a little bit. Walk away? It’s possible, but you may have to get hurt first, bad. It’s all a matter of how much you are willing to take before your self esteem has had enough. Love yourself more.
This is so true. Being Love bombed & swept off your feet by someone who once they know they have you start treating you like shit is the worst. That’s the situation I found myself in, currently trying to get out of. He’s super manipulative. You never know what’s truth or lies. I’m kind of thinking now it’s just to feed his ego and there’s probably 5 other girls just like me in his rotation. Humans can be the worst, and take people love for granted like energy vampires
I would never treat people as an option. On the flip side, as a highly introverted person it doesn't phase me when people leave. I subscribe to the notion that when people find it easy to walk away from you, let them walk. My personal motto is when people choose to leave, I choose to let them.
My entitled adult daughters ALL stopped talking to me in the same month. Coincidence I doubt. I’ve blocked them all. I’m not going to live in the stress they cause me. I get blamed for everything and all their problems. Not anymore
My daughter and my son have literally told me how much I have been a problem and I have not been a mother I have not done anything for them… I put there needs before mine. I realize it was not ever appreciated but I was supposed to do whatever I was needed to do because I was there mother. I am grateful for my children I know where I have gone wrong being there for them and pleasing them to make their lives better but they have used me my children have shown me that their happiness is more important than mine and they have no love for me I am hurt to be honest I am not deserving of my children hate they have for me. I over looked the signs that they have shown me but I don’t regret my actions I am not going to be a part of it anymore
Thank goodness for this day of life and awareness of the importance of being alive and powerful greatness in the universe I am blessed with the ability of knowing that I am a powerful woman who has been through so many different obstacles and challenges that I have overcome and now I am ready to live my life as I am able and deserve
@@SherryHeyward-fc4yf it’s UNFATHOMABLE how we gave up our lives raising them and loved them and they turn out like this in adulthood. It comes out of nowhere. I went from having a loving family and couple grandkids I would give my life for to LITERALLY NOTHING. It’s like they vanished off the earth. It’s almost too much to bear. I struggle getting through the day. I try to move on but how the fell are you supposed to forget you had children and your grandchildren?!?! It’s traumatic to say the least. I wish you well and hope you get through it 🥹
Unless you're walking away from a narcissist, they'll already have someone else ready to take over, they were already in another relationship but will just lie to your face even tho she's laying in his place on the couch, even tho she's already pretty much moved in, they will still look you in the eye and say they love you. Your relationship with them is like a play, when it's over it's over and they move on to the next one. I walked away and never went back, never called, nothing. Turns out he didn't get everything he thought he was gonna get, oh well, it was what he wanted.
i finished being an option a while ago. i don't particularly care if 'they' miss me or not, i don't care what they're doing or thinking. i only care about what i'm doing and the earned & deserved reciprocation. those people i left behind, they really don't care that i've gone as they've moved on to other people that they'll take for granted, take advantage of and/or manipulate. i'm nothing to them and i never was. i feel better about myself for having figured that out. i admitted my own mistakes, something they are incapable of, and i've moved on toward 'fixing' myself. they've moved on without any self-realization and will continue manipulating whoever will give them a minute. too bad for them that they lack introspection for positive growth. not my problem. i can only control myself and my abilities to promote my own growth. i don't have time for the things that ail them. i can't help them because they won't bother to help themselves. i have a life. that is my only priority.
Being ghosted or put in no contact is extremely painful. Especially if there are unresolved issues where it would be more healthy to talk again with deeper understanding. Lessons, but 4 years than just gone? It doesn’t seem or feel right at all.
I know how I have felt when someone just disappeared.. so I am interested to see if it is similar to how I felt. I am done being an option.. I am in control.. been a year and it feels good to just focus on me.. it’s good to be on my own! 🎉😁
I disappeared from my mother. It wasn't about revenge, it was self preservation, it was too painful not to. She chose her friends over me, she has her friends, so she's okay. I just don't care any more.
For me it's not about hurting anyone by disappearing or being gone. It's not about revenge or trying to get them to feel some certain way. It's about self-respect and self-preservation.. it's about being treated as an equal. And it's also about self love.
I feel the same. I just want to move on from all the games and pain. In actuality, I'd rather that he'd just be in the stage of relief and move on himself. But..I'm getting the strong feeling that this is about much more than my feelings of needing peace. I'm feeling like God is actually orchestrating this whole thing for more than just my benefit. I'm feeling like the reason I'm at this point, finally letting go and moving on, is actually also for my person's benefit. That God is using this situation to..get something through to this person. To heal..this thing that makes him treat people this way. Like, it's ultimately to make us both better versions of ourselves. More wise, loving, balanced.
I'm so tempted to open the door a crack, as I don't like to see people suffer. Let alone be the source of their suffering. But geez, I'm really thinking it's kind of God's prescription here. Which is a whole new way of thinking for me!
After 4 months of not talking to me he called the other day and wanted to get together. I actually said no and at the end of the call I blocked his number. I am so proud of myself to not go back into the same cycle.
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100% possible to love someone indefinitely wishing them well while not wanting to be in any sort of contact.
@@user-lu2ms4dm2s congratulations!!! You'll be blessed with someone else who will be more attentive! Even if you have to be alone for a while, it will give you time to maybe change your hair style, buy new clothes, and redo your make up ----- complete the change and wow them all!
Make your silence louder than your pain!!! It works!
I know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MGTOW4LIFE🛫🇵🇷
It's amazing! Even if the person you vanished on doesn't want a relationship, they STILL want to break the silence! It's confusing and amusing all at the same time😂
don't call them, especially don't call them everyday....they WILL call you and if they don't then let them go, gracefully, but completely. He's not the only man alive.
@@georgiafrancis9059 FACTS
I used to just disappear from people's lives, now I don't let anyone get close enough to miss me.
I m there with you
Being ghosted hurts more than any words could. Silence is the knife that cuts deepest.
If they treat you poorly they already don't care, and, they won't care when you leave.
*YOU* have to care about *YOU.* If you allow yourself to be treated badly then you are getting the relationship you plainly believe you deserve.
*YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIVE THIS WAY. CHOOSE YOU.*
@@Candyliz2003 it’s like a bad business deal. All the tears we put in and the money and tears ALL OF IT. To only in the be treated like this by the children you birthed and raised. Even helped raise their children. Just to be eradicated from their life. It’s traumatizing !! like you know they’re alive and out here in society living their lives but you don’t get to interact and see them. It’s shameful and sad to say the least.
They will feel the void if they loved you
Can they love? Do they have a sense of humor.
By the end of this , I will never be an option again
Amen
A person deserves what they accept.
Never, ever accept less than you deserve.
Amen
"I'm done being an 'option''😄✨✨
@@KatarinaLebenhartIng.-md2vp there you go, cause I'm done bring an option, we good people with good hearts whom we definitely gave to the wrong people 😉
Unfortunately to most, being nice can be taken as naive or easily manipulated.
I was the one getting ghosted after i took a wonderful person for granted. It was a horrible feeling but it helped me grow as a person. Im almost grateful that it happened because it helped me become a better person and not take people who care about me for granted. So in a way she did me a favor in the end. I have now moved on and are happily married with two wonderful sons and my life could not have been better. Thank you for ghosting me. It made me a better man.
Thank you!!
So you became a better man for someone else. Still selfish as ever.
@@christineribone9351Exactly. They always do it when it’s too late. Or for their own benefit.
I'm going through the same experience. I was the asshole, but I am growing too and will not allow it to happen to anyone else I meet.
@@Fredrik7le Congratulations, so you were an A$$ and used someone and took advantage of them. Then you went on and treated someone else at least a little better. You're still an A$$.
I know my worth and no longer allow people to take me for granted. I've learned to set boundaries!
I've come to enjoy my own company. I'm the only person I completely trust and I've been my own best friend for decades. Get to know yourself better and you'll understand.
It's a double-edged sword. When you disappear you'll think about the person you left also. I have found that when that happens, I simply say to myself I forgive you and I wish you well no hard feelings I'm moving on
Nah. People that I vanish from my existence are ones that don’t deserve a thought
This is so true. My ex is really going through it. Funny thing is I really don't feel anything anymore.
Same ❤
That is the problem. By the time most people can do this they don’t care. The feelings for the other person are simply the ashes of love. Disappearing is just the last nail in the coffin.
God been showing me who is really my friends in the last 2 weeks even down to my family an kids I think God for showing me cause I got a great heart an it blinded me an I almost questioned God why until I seen my problems are over an there's just begun think you God you are the best 🙏🙏🙏
I am currently in that situation. Everything said is exactly what i did to the relationship i am currently closing!
I will come back and play it everytime someone will touch my comment!
i am done being an 'Option'
Thankyou❤ your video saved my emotional and mental health im dealing with a narcissist 😢 its time to move on
I'm done being an option !!! This is just what I needed to hear. Thank you so much 🙏
❤
I'm done being an Option 😊
REAL TALK🧐🦾💯
Same
Wow! A step by step clarity toward power, healing, and liberation.👍
there was a time i let my selfishness push someone who really mattered to me away. i thought they would always be there, but, without warning, they were gone. i felt so much regret. it was a wake up call i desperately needed. in those moments of reflection, i realized how much i had taken for granted. painfully, losing them taught me to appreciate the people who actually care. it was a profound lesson i learned. thank you to the person who ignored me so i could appreciate what i have
You and me both 😔
Same here😕
wow, love to see this. A person who learns from their mistakes and tries to do better and be better as a person. That’s real maturity & growth. And self-reflection. We need more ppl like this in our world.
it works both ways .. what comes around goes around
Sometimes, disappearing is a powerful way to reclaim peace and respect. Stoic wisdom truly makes silence speak volumes.
💯...No 200%#thatsIt❤
I was definitely meant to find this today ..!!! Thank you ❤🙏❤
It took turning away from the void for me to become fulfilled.
I completely vanished. Doesn't matter what they think anymore. It was about me reclaiming my peace. I wish him well.
When u disappear from someone’s life they move on. Most people are not gonna sit around and wonder about you. People by nature are self centered and pretty much care about their wants and needs. No one is sitting around waiting for you to come back. No one cares.
So you don't care either !
@tillysquire-hj6kk but he's correct.
Maybe in your world.
Many yes and others not. It depends on many things
I agree… this person was willing to take you for granted and
Put themselves in a position to lose you, they are certainly not going to start caring about you in your absence
One day I made the decision to never allow a relationship to brake me again.
I learned to be in a place of neutrality and acceptance.
This video is so amazing I have to heard it more than once
Thank you to the creator
I am done being an option. I won my emotional independence. I won my self control. I am thankful to Stoic leasons. That teached me I can only control my actions. I stopped making fantasies of what other people are thinking and acting. I am the only interest of me now. Thank you for the content it is very powerful and true🙏
I'm working on me and the change is unspeakable. Thanks for this video
God doesn’t do things TO you…. He does things FOR you!!!!
Now that they have shown you WHO the are-
BELIEVE them-
and LEAVE them!!! 🎉
From your mouth into the Universe. ✨✨
I have a feeling as soon as I am successful they will be back.
If you do what this says, they won’t even know.
What if you r failed ?
this is why narcissts with power routinely try to force and coerce people into characters so they do NOT feel this when someone leaves. if you were a chracter in their story all they have to do is find someone playing your same role and they're okay. But stay authentic and theyve actually lost. Which is why some people are woefully afriad of authenticity and authentic people. with them comes a real possibility of loss.
There is no greater power than the power of forgiveness .
There are things can not be forgiven neither forgotten. The most important thing is to love yourself. If you forgive something evil they'll repeat it
you don't have to forgive,
you just have to heal.
Forgiveness is for the repentant. And just because we forgive doesn’t mean we go back for more.
It’s not forgivable
@@gasmith7486 Precisely 100% correct.
I'm a priority for me and those who love and value me. Im not an option.
❤,i always thank you Lord
This always works cuz ur worth is larger when ur not around for the bs 💯
I am, and will always be, their priority and only one. I have never, and will never be, an option, as I deserve the best in life! 💖
I just watched this video and shared it with my friends. Totally worth it!
im done being the person that everyone uses then just throws under the bus
The truth shall set you free. 😊❤😊❤😊❤😊❤😊
People who ghost others are cowards and rude.
Yeah Casper the friendly ghost.😅😅😅
We’re not talking about ghosting decent people. Just the jerks.
@RoyalMetal9 being a jerrk is a matter of opinion.
@@Harri3954 if Casper was friendly, there would be no need to ghost him 👻
@@she-ra0622
Being a coward and rude is a matter of opinion as well.
Alhamdulliah I’m ready not to be a option for people anymore this is all thanks to my Almighty Allah☝🏼 ❤️ and thank you to the owner of this channel for posting this video may my almighty Allah bless you🤲🏼
I am done being an option. I'm done hurting. I'm done wirh abuse. I'm Done!!
Good. I hope it haunts him forever. He ghosted first but i took that as my time to go no contact. He came back around in short time but poof no me. Two years later and he still tries to hunt me down. I've gotten exceptionally good at disappearing even though i live at the same address. Caught him driving by my house on my surveillance cameras just today! But all he can do is look at a house. Two years later. It must sting. Good.
Good for you😊
Good job 👏
I relate this to disappearing from my friend group to be sober and evolve into the greatest me. Needed to do it. 1 day I just ghosted. ..
Excellent choice!!
Fair weather friends are the worst , I left all friends behind they weren't good for me
Oh, l have seen it with family and friends.
I’m done being an option!!
I'm done being an option! Thank you 💝
I have recently walked away from someone who i felt treated me like an option and did not respect me, i am usually known to be hot tempered, known to use violence, aggression and intimidation to make my point but i didnt do not that this time, i confronted them using a fair tone and with my calmness....i was in control of the whole conversation which ended in them having a meltdown and crying to mutual friends but i didnt tell them i was done with them, but i blocked their number and social media and haven't said anything in 8 days and im going to treat them like they dont exist. A few people seem to be korey frightened at my calmness than my aggression. This video made me smile, thank you, i have subscribed and look forward to hearing more
And this is not a romantic relationship but rather a friendship.
Violence and aggression ?
and intimidation ?
Never let anyone love you less than you love yourself. Always pick you over them.
Thank you for sharing.
You touched me greatly. My children are grown and we live apart...but you touched a nerve for me to wake up to the disrespect I've endured off an on for years. Guilt of raising them alone and more.
Thank you for reminding me that i am worth being....✍🙏🙏🙏♥️
Cherokee Prayer
O Great Spirit, help me always…to remember the peace that may be found in silence.
I disappeared for 6 years after being hurt all my life by family after losing my mom. I came back and I never got an apology, but have endlessly been guilt tripped and lashed out at. It's highly upsetting
They wont ever stop You take care of yourself
@lindasapiecha2515 thank you for the encouragement 🤜🤛
7 years no contact with 'family'. My dream is to never see them ever again, after years of disrespect and hatred.
@thabi_d I'm right there with you, I'm in the process of separation all over again. It's not easy but it's necessary. This has been the fuel to all of my music. Nothing but love to you, your not alone
I once gave my all to someone who saw me as just an option, not a priority. I was always there, ready to support them, yet when I needed them, they were nowhere to be found. Walking away felt like losing a piece of myself, but staying was even more painful. Even now, I feel the weight of that choice-wondering if I made the right decision. How do you fully move on from someone who once meant so much? Any advice would mean a lot.
...
There are millions of VALUABLE détails in Life... that you don t see or feel at all when you are 'stuck' into heavenly Love and feelings towards someone nearby. ... it's very hard, but lose it means you then are 'disponible' for those other millions of truely fabulous 'part of life' enjoy the ride into deep feelings and compassion towards other fellow- humans/ animals/ plants/ surroundings ;-) in fact it will make your life rich if you open up for it all. I send a huge emotional virtual plaster relief your way
... to heal all rest of any wounds in your soul
It's not easy but with time you get over it put your energy into something else. You deserve better you can't be the only one giving without receiving.
In the same boat literally
Trust the Process and Make a Way Out of No Way through the Lonely Tunnel of Darkness. I promise if you stay the course you will eventually come out on the other side intact and victorious with an overwhelming sense of peace and strength 💪 Godspeed 🛫
Please, just listen to your own words. You were with someone who treated you like garbage - why on earth would you wonder if leaving them was the right decision? YOU count - YOU matter - YOU deserve! And I have a sneaking suspicion that when you fully come into the knowledge of your own self worth, you won't have any problem moving on.
I’m done being disrespected and being an option
Habit10x taught me the power of quiet strength-this video nails what happens when peace takes priority!
AMEN!🙏
I am finished being under appreciated and seen as an option.
I'm ready
And thanks to these videos
I'm Better .. brilliant videos
_im done with others controlling me.
I'm done being an option. That is so true.
I’m completely silent now for 4 months but he’s with someone already. I don’t think he misses me when he has a distraction. But I’m good with that
They have to find a distraction it’s a pain killer-
Trust they will circle back to you- you’ll get a call ( heat check). Of course this all depends on how long you were in the relationship.
The best thing is remain silent! Power in silence!! Let them drive the new distraction crazy ..
Have you ever heard of a Rebound?
@@MrBogeyman00 yes, but they can last quite awhile. AND she’s 18 years younger than I am. Sadly, I hope he gets rejected by her so he can feel this same pain, but that’s not healthy for me to feel that way. I’m working on that. Thanks for the reminder tho about the rebound. Idk if it counts as a rebound if they’ve been in them same friends circle for a few years. 🤷♀️
@ of course they are painkillers to get over the last relationship. They almost always never last long
He might. My ex wrote me after years that he was with other girls but I was the best.
Thanks for the nice Reading ,yes I am very independent now. Thanks the Lord.
My kids father disappeared from their life. It hurt them but thank GOD they DIDNT FALL APART.
Probably because you were the problem
I am done!,,❤
This sounds good in theory but the problem is you got yourself into this relationship because of obsession. It is easy to ghost or walk away from someone you just met or upon further review, decided you are probably better off with out. That’s easy. But what about when you have been love bombed, and it really took you in. Mentally and physically. And then they started taking you for granted cause the hook is in your nose. You know he/she is using you but it’s alright as long they feed the obsession a little bit. Walk away? It’s possible, but you may have to get hurt first, bad. It’s all a matter of how much you are willing to take before your self esteem has had enough. Love yourself more.
This is so true. Being Love bombed & swept off your feet by someone who once they know they have you start treating you like shit is the worst.
That’s the situation I found myself in, currently trying to get out of.
He’s super manipulative. You never know what’s truth or lies.
I’m kind of thinking now it’s just to feed his ego and there’s probably 5 other girls just like me in his rotation.
Humans can be the worst, and take people love for granted like energy vampires
Had to cut off someone I care about too. I feel grief but I do believe people in their life deserve better
Thank you - exactly where I'm at - self respect -
And making them realize what they’ve lost.
i m done - i cant understand why so much hatred from people. I am disillusioned
never give up . not everyone is mean ❤ from Canterbury U.K. and kind regards
@@royferguson3909Everyone is jealous, that's my experience.
I would never treat people as an option. On the flip side, as a highly introverted person it doesn't phase me when people leave. I subscribe to the notion that when people find it easy to walk away from you, let them walk. My personal motto is when people choose to leave, I choose to let them.
Excellent analysis !
Wonderful Video
I Really Have Stopped being an Option.
Thank You
My entitled adult daughters ALL stopped talking to me in the same month. Coincidence I doubt. I’ve blocked them all. I’m not going to live in the stress they cause me. I get blamed for everything and all their problems. Not anymore
Same only my mom she's had me as her puppet since birth.
My daughter and my son have literally told me how much I have been a problem and I have not been a mother I have not done anything for them… I put there needs before mine. I realize it was not ever appreciated but I was supposed to do whatever I was needed to do because I was there mother. I am grateful for my children I know where I have gone wrong being there for them and pleasing them to make their lives better but they have used me my children have shown me that their happiness is more important than mine and they have no love for me I am hurt to be honest I am not deserving of my children hate they have for me. I over looked the signs that they have shown me but I don’t regret my actions I am not going to be a part of it anymore
I’m learning to be a better person and love myself
Thank goodness for this day of life and awareness of the importance of being alive and powerful greatness in the universe I am blessed with the ability of knowing that I am a powerful woman who has been through so many different obstacles and challenges that I have overcome and now I am ready to live my life as I am able and deserve
@@SherryHeyward-fc4yf it’s UNFATHOMABLE how we gave up our lives raising them and loved them and they turn out like this in adulthood. It comes out of nowhere. I went from having a loving family and couple grandkids I would give my life for to LITERALLY NOTHING. It’s like they vanished off the earth. It’s almost too much to bear. I struggle getting through the day. I try to move on but how the fell are you supposed to forget you had children and your grandchildren?!?! It’s traumatic to say the least. I wish you well and hope you get through it 🥹
IM DONE BEING AN OPTION!❤. He will never hurt me again.
Unless you're walking away from a narcissist, they'll already have someone else ready to take over, they were already in another relationship but will just lie to your face even tho she's laying in his place on the couch, even tho she's already pretty much moved in, they will still look you in the eye and say they love you. Your relationship with them is like a play, when it's over it's over and they move on to the next one. I walked away and never went back, never called, nothing. Turns out he didn't get everything he thought he was gonna get, oh well, it was what he wanted.
i finished being an option a while ago. i don't particularly care if 'they' miss me or not, i don't care what they're doing or thinking. i only care about what i'm doing and the earned & deserved reciprocation.
those people i left behind, they really don't care that i've gone as they've moved on to other people that they'll take for granted, take advantage of and/or manipulate. i'm nothing to them and i never was. i feel better about myself for having figured that out. i admitted my own mistakes, something they are incapable of, and i've moved on toward 'fixing' myself. they've moved on without any self-realization and will continue manipulating whoever will give them a minute. too bad for them that they lack introspection for positive growth. not my problem. i can only control myself and my abilities to promote my own growth.
i don't have time for the things that ail them. i can't help them because they won't bother to help themselves. i have a life. that is my only priority.
Wise words. Wise lessons. You did great 👏
I am done being an option, being taken for granted being manipulated.
I agree with this 100%!!
I have lived this too many times until I got healthy.
Today, I have a 1 strike rule.
1 strike and I’m OUT!!
I'm so done with this toxic person😊
Thank you 💘
I'm done being Cresha's option. I'm the catch. I'm in control now. Point blank period
I'm done. Being An option😂😂
I hope I can stop myself from being an option and taken for granted
It's very uncomfortable for them because you see them for who they really are.
Thank you
I have made it to the summit.
I am enjoying a new view on life and breathing pure peace.
Being ghosted or put in no contact is extremely painful. Especially if there are unresolved issues where it would be more healthy to talk again with deeper understanding.
Lessons, but 4 years than just gone? It doesn’t seem or feel right at all.
I’m done being an option🔥💔
Excellent! I'm good at disappearing. Thanks!
They call it disappearing, but it's actually putting your energy into more important things in your life.
❤I’m done being an option for my sister 50 years is long enough ❤
I'm done being an option❤
I know how I have felt when someone just disappeared.. so I am interested to see if it is similar to how I felt.
I am done being an option.. I am in control.. been a year and it feels good to just focus on me.. it’s good to be on my own! 🎉😁
Been numero uno for a while and it is beyond happy. xo..Grateful
Dealing with siblings is the most difficult
I got ghosted. I got that. Good on him. 🎉🤸🤸♂️🤸♀️💥💯♌️
I am. Done 😮
I disappeared from my mother. It wasn't about revenge, it was self preservation, it was too painful not to. She chose her friends over me, she has her friends, so she's okay. I just don't care any more.
Sometimes, you get to a point when you just can't take any more, and if you don't walk away, you fall away.
Treat others the way you want to be treated🌱
Excellent. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
I was never an option and I will never be, Am done .