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@@Ghhh-on3nl 2 years is nothing. I had 8 years and I still survived. Focus in on what you need in life. Focus on what makes you happy and fullfill your life ... I am doing the same thing since I am in the Position as you are. Last time thats what helped me.
i had a Vietnamese GF , we had what the World is Looking for and she died from Breast Cancer,, and i have not been avoiding the issue , but this line does sort of get it because, she died but my love her did not die when died , so yes, Grief is just love with no place to go
Once you come out of it i'm telling you you'll feel gratitude for going through it to build you into the person you're meant to become. The people who haven't been heartbroken are behind us on the bingo card of life experience.
@@carla6121 How to get out of it? Anxiety, depression, I had bargained myself respect like a sane man wouldn't, but to get that crushed and thrown to a waste bin... I can't seem to get out of it...
Same😢, it's like wanting to have something you already had before, something you thought will be there all your life, and suddenly it's not there anymore🍂
Last dated back in 2015. Got my heartbroken in 2016. She dragged me out till 2017. After that I cut off the connection because I needed to heal and move on. I did so but truthfully I never recovered fully because I was afraid of getting heartbroken again. Still I was working on myself getting better. Until recently when someone else came into my life like a storm, gave me beautiful memories, and when things got serious she got scared and broke my heart. She wants to stay friends and I wanted to cut off the connection again because I didn't want to drag it out again. She couldn't handle that so I had to agree. Now she acts as my girlfriend when she's around me but she basically ghosts me otherwise and only contacts me when she needs something. And then I hear her wedding is being arranged and I don't know how to deal with this situation anymore. Cutting off and moving on is the best thing to do but we work together and everyday has been awful recently.
At age 59, experiencing my first ghosting…it is the most cruel and painful thing….to be so important one day, and nothing the next. It’s hard to wrap your head around, when you would NEVER treat someone like that.
Apologies are meaningless when they're saying they're sorry while still making the decision to completely destroy you just so they can get what they want.
No apology is going to undo the pain. The harm done xan not be undone. No apology is going to actually heal your wound. Only you can. Apologies, can help you with the hate, with the anger, with the resentment but not with the actual wound, not with the sadness. Only you can. Apologies are for them, not for you. They don't mean anything.
"No one abandoned me as badly as i abandoned myself. One of the ways we abandon ourselves is by not recognizing our own pain, not sitting with it...and exploring it....and having compassion for ourselves."
This is an amazing video, I really needed to watch this. I’ve been stuck in the pain of losing my husband. I used to think breakups were easy, but now that my husband has left me, I feel completely broken. I can’t even eat or take care of our kids! I need him back so much. I’ve tried everything to get him back, but he doesn’t want our marriage anymore.
I feel your pain, dear. I don’t think anyone can truly understand the pain I went through when my partner left me. I couldn’t have children, and I thought I would never get through it. But then, a friend of mine introduced me to a spiritual counselor, and he helped me reconnect with my partner. Now, I’m happy with my husband, and we have two beautiful kids.
6 months of grieving the man who came along midlife, who gave me all the validation and cherishing I had craved but thought impossible. He lost feelings. I cry most days.
This is what I’m going through now, though it’s still fresh (I’m talking only days since my heart got broken)… the best relationship of my life, they lost feelings and couldn’t explain why or when or how. I’m so lost, numb and paralyzed.. I hope I can process this in a healthy way and ditch the idea that this was my forever partner, I thought what we had was so beautiful 😭
I'm going through exactly the same thing. After being in an abusive relationship for 5 years the other guy helped me over the trauma. And we spend 1 year together. And it was the most amazing thing and suddenly he just didn't want to be together without any explanation. I cry most days. Every waking moment i spend thinking about what could have been. I've been in absolute no contact for more than 2 weeks now. It just doesn't get easier. Help me
My fiance dumped me with no explanation after a wonderful 4 years 2 weeks ago also. 7 weeks out from our wedding. I still don't know why. I am with you, and I share your pain.@@rumakalita8278
Sometimes the Lord uses someone for a short moment in time to prove to us that the way the last people made us feel about ourselves, were invalid. I have a prodigal narcissist spouse that i was with 10 years. He left me with my 4 children last year and it was the hardest. But last month the Lord used a man that I would never have ended up with to show me, that what my ex had me believing about myself was a LIE FROM HELL. He made me realize not everyone sees me the way my ex did. Soak up the love and affection but be leery not to get into a trauma bond instead of love.
I'm about a year into grieving my ex, even tried to move on but realized it wasn't fair to my new partner because my ex was still always on my mind. I feel it's impossible to move on at times, we've tried to be friends and are, but the feelings over the past year just bubble up and my anxious side was pleading again. On day 9 of no contact right now and....yeah....nothing. Its still early, but I battle myself. On one hand I feel used because we lived together for 3 years and suddenly after 2 it's like she hated me. I know she's dismissive avoidant NOW after studying attraction types, but damn if I could go back with the knowledge I have today or at least get a second chance, but no, she's firm we're just friends so....im giving her space, but its HARD! I want to message her so bad, but if it's meant to be she'll reach out eventually, if not? Then it shows I didn't mean to her what I thought I did and I deserve better. I get angry thinking about how she treated me, I wasn't perfect either, but ugh....its in God's hands now
My life is one grief after another, and i never avoid it. I sit with it. In silence. I pack up, and i walk in silence with my dog......i listen to my heart and mind, i cry, i sit, i curl up on grass and just wail..... I do this daily until i can walk and enjoy the scenery without wanting to die. Eventually you start to notice the colors, smells. Sounds of nature and you realize after your 4th,5th 12th long walk....youre healing. Let go of the person who you THOUGHT was for you. We all play house in our mind.... But it takes two people who want to stay to make it a home..
😢😞😭🏃♂️🧎♀️➡️🧎♀️🙏 anger yes Wailing My child & still trying to just get her to homestate for funeral no got to go thru court & process I am standing on truth but I believed lies and deception own family Learning about trust & to pray for all involved & put myself in their shoes Looking at people like they are a baby so innocent & I don't know what they have been thru in their lives Im no better than anyone else Im trying & I just pray cursed God I was awakened to this is part of my Life & there are doors shut so new doors could open 👐 showing myself compassion & love to myself too. Forgive those who come against me now I need to forgive myself. Its like everything is distorted & I don't want to believe my child, God’s child, with Jesus resting & I know as I want all of you to know you will hold your loved ones again❤ I have. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ God is our comforter. This is rough truly I want to say sux buti knowthat I haveto keep going & living in the moment memories so dear. 🫶👶! God is with you in the storm Jesus come Jesus come
😢😞😭🏃♂️🧎♀️➡️🧎♀️🙏 anger yes Wailing My child & still trying to just get her to homestate for funeral no got to go thru court & process I am standing on truth but I believed lies and deception own family Learning about trust & to pray for all involved & put myself in their shoes Looking at people like they are a baby so innocent & I don't know what they have been thru in their lives Im no better than anyone else Im trying & I just pray cursed God I was awakened to this is part of my Life & there are doors shut so new doors could open 👐 showing myself compassion & love to myself too. Forgive those who come against me now I need to forgive myself. Its like everything is distorted & I don't want to believe my child, God’s child, with Jesus resting & I know as I want all of you to know you will hold your loved ones again❤ I have. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ God is our comforter. This is rough truly I want to say sux buti knowthat I haveto keep going & living in the moment memories so dear. 🫶👶! God is with you in the storm Jesus come Jesus come❤🙏
😢😞😭🏃♂️🧎♀️➡️🧎♀️🙏 anger yes Wailing My child & still trying to just get her to homestate for funeral no got to go thru court & process I am standing on truth but I believed lies and deception own family Learning about trust & to pray for all involved & put myself in their shoes Looking at people like they are a baby so innocent & I don't know what they have been thru in their lives Im no better than anyone else Im trying & I just pray cursed God I was awakened to this is part of my Life & there are doors shut so new doors could open 👐 showing myself compassion & love to myself too. Forgive those who come against me now I need to forgive myself. Its like everything is distorted & I don't want to believe my child, God’s child, with Jesus resting & I know as I want all of you to know you will hold your loved ones again❤ I have. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ God is our comforter. This is rough truly I want to say sux buti knowthat I haveto keep going & living in the moment memories so dear. 🫶👶! God is with you in the storm Jesus come Jesus come❤🙏
I am in a position where I am 7 months removed from my break up, and despite being kind to myself, working out, meditating going out with friends and trying to learn a new language, I still find myself thinking about her every hour of the day. I remind myself all the time how lucky I am to have experienced that love, and I have taken ownership of my mistakes and have grown so much since the day I lost a part of my soul. I am young (33), fit and healthy and I don't really struggle to meet women or go on dates etc, I live in a country without war and I have a supportive and loving group of friends and family that have shown me how loved I am since this happened. I'm so proud of myself and the man I have become. the past year I have completely flipped the way I think, and have learned how to guide my negative self pitty thoughts into positive and kind ones, but despite all this, I still think about her every hour of every day. I am often able to catch myself and just say to myself that "I hope she is happy and healthy, and lives a long and full life and that I am thanksful for all the lessons I learnt through her and am now a better man because of my experience", but still 7 months later I will just randomly break into tears from something unrelated to her or a break up and just feel so sad for a good 5-10 minutes. I work out, I meditate and I love myself, but I feel like there will always be part of my sould missing. I don't know if I have gotten to the point where I have let go, as I still think about her all the time, but I never am mad or angry at her. Maybe letting go doesn't mean not thinking about them, maybe it means being able to be okay with the feelings you have and moving forward despite those feelings.
My best friend of 10 years and I were in a serious relationship for 3 years until last year when she just dumped me over a text and got engaged to someone else within a week. It took all of last year to steady myself. To anyone out there struggling with heartbreak and grief, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Be patient and compassionate with yourself. Sending lots of love❤️
I can only imagine the pain you went through when it did happen to you. My best friend of 6 years broke up with me while we were officially together 4 years. Although there wasn’t a third person. The pain and realization of them being gone is so hard to fathom, but I hope things do get better. Thank you for your comment
I have been through some break ups in my life. The longest was a 16 year relationship that ended last Aug. I then met a woman, who was everything I dreamed. We were together just 5 months. I had some underlying anxiety that bubbled through and pushed her over the point of not worth it and she called it quits last week. This has been the hardest most painful breakup ever. We got along SO great when we were together. But when we were apart I tended to overthink or misinterpret texts. When I was physically with her I never felt more safe in my life. I really dont sense any light after this one. She was the one woman who I actually was happy about a future with and not just going with the motions. I miss her in every moment.
This is the most painful thing I have ever felt. He is so nonchalant and acting like we never existed. I met this man when I was 19 and thought I would be with him forever. On my 34th birthday month, he decided would be the best time for him to leave me for someone he met a month ago. I cant imagine how easy it can be for someone to walk away after 14 years. I thought we were happy. I feel like dying.
I wish everyone would stop telling me to pick myself up and move on, like I can just press a button and the emotions and mental turmoil will disappear.
@@royaledenoir5694 you're welcome to message me if you want a "breakup" buddy. going through the same thing right now. It is slowly getting better with the support of family and friends.
@@royaledenoir5694im sorry to see what you going through❤ and yes I feel you when you say how u hate when people say to just move on. I am going through a massive heartbreak as well right now and moving on is the last thing on world that seems achievable right now, and tbh I need to let my pain out, all of it, and just learn how to live with it. Wish you all the best ❤️🩹
Hello.... I'm watching this video also so clearly I'm not well, but I just want to encourage you and extend my understanding. I also battle the same feelings of how can he could walk away so easily..... how???. I empathize with you sweetheart 💯💜
The thing is that I was the same way, Afraid of loving again. I was sure I am incapable of doing it again. And yet, after many years of not experiencing that feeling, it hit me like a brick, out of nowhere, when I expected it the least. And then the person, who told me they love me, played me over and left me again. And here I am again, believing I will never love again.
i havent felt the feeling being in love for over ten years. I forgot how it feels, as well as the feel of butterflies. I can no longer relate to it, and you bet im terrorfied of being hurt ever again. So i wing it by cruising my singlelife on autopilot for the remaining approximate 52 years i still have to serve on this earth, before i can leave.
Last few days have been the worst days of my life and I felt like the ground should open and swallow me. With alot of pain in heart and no one to talk to, Seeing these comments made me realize am not a alone . thanks
Im 37 years old and this is the first time I go through this heartbreak. It hurts so much to finally see my ex with someone else. We broke up about 10 years ago but neither of us hooked up with anyone else in that time. However, recently my ex has started seeing someone and it looks like their connecting. My Ex was my first love, my first everything. My gosh, I've never experienced this kind of pain, it hurts so much. It feels like a loved one died and I'm mourning them. Its all I think about everyday now and it absorbs all my energy. I'm crying every day. I want my ex to be happy, I wish them the best. does anyone know of any resources or chat rooms for this? Thanks for reading my comment.
i know i will survive this, someone will like this post or comment years later and I will come back to reply healed and well I wish us all quick and healthy healing
I recently experienced my first ever heartbreak at 33 years old and I am in such grief and hurt right now. Pain is personal and what I am in now is not easy. Never have I ever felt these real emotions that I am experiencing. Praying and hoping I will be fully healed one day.
Hey bro. I'm 34 and in the same situation. 2 weeks in and it starts to get better but (as you know) we need to be patient over a period of months. Just keep speaking to your close network and do things that help you grow as a person.
Happened to me at 31. We were dating for 3 months but they were intense. It’s been over 7 months and I think of her every day, but the pain is not nearly as intense anymore. It has helped me immensly to pray to God, to trust that He has a plan for me and that if it’s meant to be he will unite us again OR he has an even more amazing women in store for me. Trust God/The universe/Higher power that you will experience even better things in the future. Trust this with ALL your heart. When you feel loss, anxiety, depression, turn to that higher power and with CONVICTION believe that Better things are coming. Hope this helps, it really has helped me. Take care guys
@@jamesprentice2894 Thank you! Over a month since I was devastated from my heartbreak but I believe I am progressing well. Baby steps and I know I will achieve my healing from this but still not gonna lie there are days where I feel awful.
@@BasedBrothers Because God is love. He knows he has better plans for all of us and what happened to us, what we experienced were all charge to our personal learning. I also think about the person who broke my heart everyday but not as much as the early days of my heartbreak. Prayer is a powerful tool to aid us full healing.
I am going through my worst (second) heartbreak ever. I thought I was gonna be the mother of his children one day. It happened one week ago and he acts like we never happened and I never existed. He is out having fun while I feel like I can never recover from this. How do people act like they really care about you - for years - to just prove you so wrong. I don't even know who this person is. Sending love and hugs to everyone going through something similar
In the same boat as u it’s almost unreal. My husband worshipped the ground I walk on. Tattd my name on his chest I mean totally went all out for me to crush me like a bug right now. As if he doesn’t even know me.
i feel this, 2nd time for me, the first after a 29 year marriage, just yesterday when the gf of 17 months gave me the same "i don't love you anymore" line after we've lived and traveled together all over the world. They both feel like strangers. Neither one mentioned anything before the breakup. It was so hard mentally after my divorce, and this new heartbreak yesterday is just starting to sink in - this video just made me cry harder than before, it is so true. And yes, it is just so hard to deal with the fact the person you thought loved you and was there for you could not care less about you anymore....
It's been 8 months since my relationship ended. I do still get their thoughts once in a while but it's so much easier now, I don't wake up and sleep with his thoughts on my mind like I used to before. My mind plays tricks and brings in happy memories of us as well, I appreciate those days for a moment and let it go. I always pray to God everytime I feel sad and time and time again I forgive my ex for hurting me. It helps me to move forward.
Just came on the year we parted ways, with no reason or closure, but excuses spanning the entire spectrum. I process a little longer than most, hard to brush under the rug as I gave and went all in and still feel the sting...one day at a time, some better than most. Thanks for your post.
Only you can decide when you are ready to heal and move on. It doesn’t take time, it takes you and you being ready! Your heart deserves all the attention you are giving it. Usually an initial heartache opens the chambers to past heartaches so it becomes an entire life healing process. Dig deep! You are worth it! Don’t let anyone rush you or pressure you to go back to “normal” or how things were before you got hurt, either. There is no such thing as normal anyway; trust that the new “healed” you will thrive!! Trust yourself and who you are❤ You are the greatest miracle in the world and someone’s most precious blessing. 🙏🏽
Thank you for this. The man that I loved died of suicide- no note, no nothing- at only 58, after two years together. All of our plans to retire together and to grow old together- all gone. Now, I'm finding out about all kinds of things (some other woman's perfume-filled bandana and other things that were found out afterward). Suicide leaves so many questions, with no answers. It is a horrible thing to go through. I have watched some of David's videos and they are very helpful- as are yours. Thank you for your video! Please pray for me, I am in such extreme pain. I am praying for all of you for healing, also. Thanks, everyone.
I’m so sorry I know how it feels to lose the person we love, I lost my wife and mom June 4th 2021 on a car wrecked, sometimes the pain is unbearable but we have to move on as life goes on, it’d be nice to hear from you , where are you from.?
As soon as I watched the video, I started crying. Then, as the video progressed, I started feeling calm and hopeful. Thank you so much for giving out the message, Matt.
Me too, dear. Me 2. Can't stop crying about everything. Especially about something happened 3 months ago. Even for Mathew though .. seeing his sadness.
My son died a month and half after my husband died. A double grief. It was in 2016. I would like to have had help emotionally and other people also could have help with these emotions. 😢 😅 Thank you
My partner was killed in 2014 and my best friend died while I was at my partner's funeral. I never got to say goodbye to either of them. I didn't find any help at the time either and I know I have brought a lot of that pain with me to the present. I cannot imagine losing a child, I'm so sorry. I truly hope you've been able to find peace.
I’m so sorry. My father died and then my brother died 6 weeks later. I kept it all in check until a month ago when we scattered my brother’s ashes at sea. My heart broke open for the loss.
Loosing a child is the most devastating heartbreak i felt,been a year now and feels like yesterday,still painful until now,and maybe forever,but i still trying to accept til now
God Bless you..I too lost my boy in Afghanistan in 2014...10 years in grief time is like 10 days ago. A psychologist told me I you will never be the same again. You lost part of your heart when he passed, you can never get it back. But through grieving, you'll bring back the love and life lessons your child gave you while he or she was here with you...there is never a time limit to grief...One day you'll be back in the arms of your child so will I...God Bless you...I know your hurt...❤❤
Having lost my grandma a few weeks ago, this resonates with me so much. She's the first person I've ever lost in my life and I am still so shocked by how hard it is to let her go. She called me every single day and just knowing someone cared that much to do that made me smile everyday. I've come to realize that the hardest part of life is when the person who gave you so many amazing memories becomes a memory.
Think back in life on a time when u didn’t think u could possibly get past whatever u were facing. This too shall pass. Only time heals. Nurture your soul in every way u can.
I am 28 with my first true heartbreak of almost 6 years. It is unbelievable how much I hurt. I have lost what felt like home wherever life went. I’m sure like most I can’t wait to be happy again.
@@xenramirez8142 I’m very happy to hear that. I’m currently in a break up and it hurts a lot. It is encouraging to hear from others that they a lot better cause right now It hurts like hell.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
@@how_you_talk I’m married. I wholeheartedly expect my marriage to not last forever because death will eventually take one of us. Or divorce, which statistically is the more reasonable thing to expect in our lovely modern age. You’re busy with feelings, strip those out of the equation and start thinking.Love is evil, I’ve lived long enough to know it.
@@user0m170 Because you haven't figured out what it is. Love is the most destructive power on the planet. It can be wielded and make you into a shadow of who you should be. I would know. I live it every single day. If you are a guy, my suggestion is to never get married. If you want children make the kind of money you can get a surrogate. It means you can probably pull women with the kind of money, but make sure your children never know their mother.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
I've been dealing with having my heart broken for 6 months now. I had to quit my job due to breaking down all throughout the day but in the end I feel as if I needed to feel this pain to heal from everything thats been inside me for such long time. Every time I feel my emotions coming I just let them go unrestricted and I feel as if I am healing from years of holding my emotions inside.
Hope you can get back to work, maybe not at the same place but back at work nevertheless. My healing started when I got a full time job to help me not have enough time to allow myself to sulk. Retraumatizing myself reviewing and revisiting the heartbreaks everyday was hindering my recovery. Hope you are as lucky as I was to land a job you love, adore and makes you happy on a daily basis. I teach ESL to small children. Of course I can never love them more than my own child, my son, my Sun and everything for me, but it is incredibly uplifting and amazing to make so many chidren's lives better and spark their minds with thirst for knowledge. Quite challenging as well, so it gives me purpose beyond next morning. Having not much time left to linger on too much heartbreak has done wonders to my peace.
Bro there's billions of women. God did u a favor. Look at the positives. Work on the things u enjoy and qhdn you're ready start dating. You'll be surprised what u find.
I've had to suppress my grief to keep going through a difficult situation and I know how damaging that can be. I've just been through months of worry and anxiety after years of waiting for an end to a particular situation that's been hanging over me. I'm glad you've been able to take the time. When my situation was over I kind of collapsed on the floor in floods of tears while trying to clear out some old paperwork. It was such a relief to finally feel the tears come. Better out than in is what I say. But find time for 'functioning' too so that you can have some distractions. Just to take some time out from the grief here and there and let some 'light' in. At my darkest times I challenged myself to leave the house for at least five mins a day and to find one thing to make me smile. Acknowledge and heal the sadness but also see the good things. Hope things get better for you.
@warriorqueen9792 Trust me I felt the same pain. Dead inside. Absolutely broken and shattered. Reality torn away from me. But I'd rather know the truth and eat that fucking pain then dump a big giant dose of motivation in my life that will elevate me to a level I otherwise couldn't. Yes I might suppress. I just ignore anything related to her. Help the people who were loyal to me and snapped me out of that hypnotic bullshit relationship I was in and put me back on the path to rebuilding myself. I had no business being in a relationship which is why I got the result I got. Same with you guys. GOD DID NOT WANT THIS TO BE YOUR TIME. There was a lesson to learn and growth to be had. Once that is accomplished you will love yourself and who you've become. Then you'll attract the right one. Be happy it happened now than when you meet the love of your life.
I can't bear the pain, I'm grieving a lost relationship with someone who's been very dear to me. I never knew it would hurt so much. It literally feels as if my heart has been wrenched out of my chest with no anesthesia. And so many things remind of this person. And there are no hard feelings, we still care for each other but the grief I feel is almost too much to bear. I don't know how to go on.
@@conandog3514 actually better, thank you! But only this week have I come to the place of acceptance. I went through a whole range of emotions from deep grief, feelings of loss, missing them terribly, endless rumination , deep sadness, anger, some resentment, internal conflict, shock and disbelief as well as false hope. It's tough, and I still can't comprehend going from such a deep connection to being total strangers in a matter of just weeks. Well, it's just life in this broken world. The healing takes time but it's real and there's always real hope for the future (unrelated to that relationship). My heart goes out to everyone in the early, most painful stages of a heartbreak. I pray you find an anchor and peace for your heart ❤️🌿
@@conandog3514 Thanks. Tbh I thought I was doing better these past two weeks but it still hurts and I miss him terribly still. But at least I'm not crying anymore and it helps me when I am really engaged with something meaningful. But the void is still there, along with the questions. I must have been really attached, and I still care about him greatly.
How many times we hear "Move on", "Get over it" after a heartbreak. Nobody knows that is truly a pain, not just emotionally, but often physically. Noone will tell you after you loose somebody, who died, that it is time to move on... So strong and deep ideas. Thank you!
After loss, there becomes the 'New Normal' for you. A new way to exist that you weren't planning on. A new normal awaits... but what is it? Finding a new happiness, a new way of living the life you have left. Heartbreaking stuff.
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
My grief is Parkinson's. At 64 years old, after a great life of very active, playful, loving, come with joy, happiness, excitement. Excitement, I was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. That was 3 years ago. I'm still grieving. I'm giving the loss of my body. My mind tells my body to do something and my body says f you. We're not going to do it today. I grief my future. I don't know what to expect. All Parkinson's patients are different. It may get worse. It may stay the same. I just don't know. Nobody knows. Grief is pretty powerful.
I divorced out of a toxic, damaging marriage of 21 years over a year ago. A recent breakup from who I thought was the last love I would ever need has hurt more than my divorce ever could. Pain of losing what you have always truly wanted is devastating 💔
I just wanted to say THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart that is now healed because of you. It was exactly one year ago when I broke up with my girlfriend, I was so heartbroken that I tried absolutely everything to change my life from the roots. I was so depressed, I didn't want to get out of bed. But I never gave up on myself, I started watching your videos and every day I worked on my mental health. Now I feel better than ever and I know this is just the beginning I just wanted to say thank you and I know how much comments like this can help others, believe me, I know this from experience. Keep your head up, take care of yourself, never give up, put your life in God's hands and everything will be alright in time.
Hiii. It's been 6 months for me and I still have days when I feel really sad. I do hope that one day soon, I can also get over them completely. Sometimes I feel like I am disappointed in myself that even after half a year it still affects me
@@shakhzosh Hi bro, don't worry, it's normal I was the same. Even after almost a year since brake up i wasn't fully over it, but there is no roles Someone will deal whit it faster, someone slower. A year is average time for your heart to heal. Just focus on yourself and u will see after some time how good you will feel Keep your head up 💪
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
Grief from a loved one dying and/or from a loved one leaving/rejecting you leaves a constant scream in your head. A scream only you can hear. A scream that NEVER stops!
I wonder how this works when after 25 years I still miss the love of my life and the only one to blame is myself as I left him for another man. I live with regret to this day!
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
It's been a couple of days and I finally understand the quote "Nothing takes more patience than trying to heal yourself". I have dated an affluent and very powerful man. We broke up and it just feels like life has no meaning anymore. The worst part is that I know no man is going to compare to him and I can't talk to anyone about it because I have signed an NDA. Maybe no one will see my comment, but I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading.
Im so sorry for your pain. It’s incredibly hard, but you will get through this to the other side. The process can be ugly, & long but it is so worth it. My thoughts are with you ❤
I’m in the same position as u somehow.. been 10 months since he broke it off with me. I was too immature and had relationship anxiety which stemmed from unhealed trauma from my ex, letting me to be always anxious and insecure around him. I self sabotaged the whole thing, of course he had some parts to play which cause them as well. 😔 he moved on a month after we broke off and is now engaged to another well established lady 💔 I feel nobody understands my situation and how it feels to have lost “the one”. Slowly coming to terms and convincing myself that he isn’t “the one” for me hoping that I’ll someday find somebody who would be patient, understanding and assures me
My boyfriend of over 5 years just broke up with me. I loved him more than anything and he was the most stable thing in my life. I lived with him and have no one else. I am only 20 so i grew up with him in a way, but it feels like this pain will never pass.
Plz use this situation as a warning to gaurd your heart! Never allow anyone to have all of you ! The pain your experiencing is the result of your heart all in on this relationship! I know this ! I’m sixty years young! Been there ! Understand people change and should! But as you see being all in leaves you absolutely vulnerable to a broken heart that can take years to heal ! And that’s if you let yourself heal ! There are real good guys people who are good for you! Maybe god has a better boyfriend for you ! Everyone you meet isn’t meant to be always in your life ! God puts people in your life and removes them ! Allow yourself to grieve and don’t hesitate to move forward! There is a good young man out there for you! ❤️🙏🏻 praying for you !
I started when I was 15 as well mine lasted for 13 years I’m only 28 and divorced and lost the the absolute love of my life at least that’s what she was to me. I still don’t know if I meant that much to her. She cheated and left me pretty much all at once it was soul crushing but as they explained I went right into the storm of pain and explored it and after months of doing so I’m finally getting better keep your head high we will get through it
I went into the relationship and marriage clear that I didnt want children, and biologically cant have them. My wife agreed to that future. 2 weeks ago, on my birthday, she told me we're getting a divorce because she wants a family. I'm crushed. Thank you for this video.
Mate, I’m literally in an extremely similar position. Feels like so much time has been wasted and navigating the pain and grief is consuming. But… we’ve got this. We can keep turning up for ourselves and get out the other side. Here with you brother 👊🏼
@@Adambrown_auThe pain has been crippling and I dont know how to process it. Time and a whole lotta miles on the ole motorcycle i suppose. Much love bro, the pain is proof of the love. Stay strong
@charliebrown8829 I'm sorry your position is similar. I'm sure words will never capture the depth of the pain you feel. Please be kind to yourself, and know you are worthy of love and a peaceful heart.
@mariedockery1126 I'm so sorry to hear that. It is my prayer you heal and move on best you are able. I know how hard it can be, and trust me I'm not there yet.
7 years of my life, the woman I love and 3 young children, just gone. We struggled a lot because she missed her family back in Italy. I the end she just decided she had to go back. It’s been 2 months and it’s only really starting to feel real now. It’s a heavy weight and so lonely, the future I had, seeing my kids grow up is gone. Having to take apart their bedroom furniture, their toys going in the bin and destroying what we’d built just breaks my heart, I can only do a bit at a time. I’m now going into the storm to come out the other side sooner. Listening to our songs, Looking at pictures and feeling the loss as fully as I can, crying it out. It feels better after but it’s an ongoing process. Brighter days are ahead, I know but we’ll all get there. 1 hour and 1 day at a time. ❤
I cried for how true this video is… I just had my heartbreak; my boyfriend betrayed me. I’ve been angry for quite some time for what he did. But right when you said “anger is a bodyguard for pain”, I cried instantly. I realized that I avoided the sadness of losing our future together…
Sorry, I understand the feeling. My parents are alive but I know the fact that once they are gone, I will be an orphan. There are times that I wake up in the night and check if they are still alive (worst I know). I know no matter how much I prepare for it, it’s going to be traumatic. Big hugs to you, I wish you peace xx
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
hope youre ok same just happened to me literally was my best friend cheated on me left me with everthing we built together been a month since she left for a guy she was ready to be with lmao
Saying goodbye to someone dear is hard. When my 12-year relationship ended, I couldn't move on. But with help from a spiritual counselor, we reunited. Now, I'm happy and grateful
I'm glad you're interested! To connect with Suzanne Ann Walters, the spiritual counselor I mentioned, just look her up online. Her guidance is worth seeking
The facts that we can feel this much. That we have the capacity to feel all these emotions and still keep breathing is a beautiful thing. To everyone watching this video, you're strong and brave and beautiful inside. And you deserve love. Feel this pain, let it remind you of your strength and resilience. Let it remind you that when happiness and healing does arrive, it'll be sweeter and more blissful. This too shall pass. Love and power to all of you loving fighters. ❤
I was dating this girl for 6 months. Never felt any love like this. It was magic, she broke up with me. 16 days ago, came around but after a huge argument she said stop texting me. I never experience a pain like this. Everything reminds me of her.
I have been going through a heartbreak for a very long time now. I´ve been trying different things to get through it but I always come back to the pain it feels mainly because I´ve been alone for a very long time. My ex girlfriend moved on very fast from our relationship and is now soon to have a baby. Eventhough I am very happy for her, she really deserves a lot of happoiness, I don´t feel I am able to overcome my heartbreak. I once felt it was a something i could control but i still find myself having the same issue, which affects my self confidance and my own self love... for which i have none. It is very tough. But i thank you for your words Matthew. You are very kind.
Just last night I finally mustered up the courage to break free from a toxic and abusive 2-year relationship with a partner who’s been lying to me since forever. Really difficult what I’m going through right now but it is what it is. Thank goodness I bumped into this video as I start w/ my healing process. It’s gonna be a long bloody one, I know, but I’m confident I will emerge triumphant. So help me God.
My anger is why dint I protect myself better....I had a toxic childhood,it wasn't my fault, I have to forgive myself ,it wasn't my fault, love myself,have compassion for myself and move on and never give permission to let anyone hurt me again if I recognize toxicity.❤
Today I told a girl I was seeing for about a month that we should stop dating and that I don't see myself in a relationship with her, this broke her heart, and it broke mine too, she's so sweet she didn't deserve to be rejected, but It's just not what I'm looking for and I don't want to waste anymore of her time, It feels horrible to break someone's heart, to scar them. I pray for her to heal and get over this And I pray I never have to do this ever again.
I cried. Actually, I have been crying from time to time, especially when I think of him. There are so many memories, and everything I see triggers me intensely. I don't know if time can heal me in the end. All of life is a process of recovery that never ends.
Maybe he just someone that come to you life to teach you smth, and if it meant to be it will workout. I move to another city by myself had a gf there and we raised a cat together know im alone with all the memories and an always hungry pig but it will get better or you will get better at handling it, wish you the best
@@propro693 I just thought about the happy times I had with him and started crying again. I'm feeling so sad and wanted to find someone to talk to online, and then I saw your message. I think it's the synchronicity.
Video came at a perfect time. Almost made it to 4 years-I grieve the girl I was before we met but it’s ok to grieve and then look forward to better things.
As of a few days ago. I was blindsided with a betrayal and now a divorce after 9 years. I needed this video. I’m also crying because I can’t handle the grief of the future that no longer will be.
My babymama went to rehab and left me for a heroine addict because they could relate to their addictions. I wrote her an empowering message every day to tell her our daughter and l were proud of her for going to rehab, that way she could see all the support when she got her phone back. We even originally had plans for me to pick her up when she was done to celebrate. Didn't matter though, rehab daddy had her locked on some mistakes l've made in the relationship and that the grass is greener with a new person. Sometimes you can do everything you feel is right, and to the other person it may be too late or not enough. I don't know who needs to read this but I want everyone to remember that you won't be enough for everyone and that's okay. Be enough for yourself. Even if you can't see it, your effort will pay off eventually, even if it's with someone else.
I've been crying for five months after the man I fell in love with who has bipolar disorder completely ghosted me. And I still see him because we work on the same street. And because of his unmanaged bipolar disorder he is compelled to break up with me! It's killing me.
I have been dealing with a heart break I was feeling anxious I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't concentrate in work it took over me. Everybody in work noticed a change in me but I was too ashamed to tell them it was over an x boyfriend. We think we should be strong enough to deal with a heartbreak but it's too painful. Thank you so much for this video very powerful it really made me think of myself and how I accepted someone who wasn't worthy of having me in their life. I feel empowered now thank you❤
I am going through this same heart break as well...I can't eat..I can't sleep, I cry all the time...I just want to be numb...I don't want to feel anything 😢
Hope you get over your heart soon remember you are worth more than that and he is not the only man in the world. There will be someone better for you and you will look back and think what was I doing.❤
@@ediedonohoe7512 I just miss him so much :( and he wants us to remain friends and quite desperately, too but I told him I need to break off the attachment or I'll continue to suffer. Now I'm having second thoughts, I almost can't bear this pain of not talking to him
You said, “If I start to cry, I might not ever stop!” I used to say those words so many times! Grew up with 4 younger brothers with me being the only girl! I sort of learned to be more like them, emotionally! Have subsequently lost both parents and my brothers to death. Grief has been the hardest experience in life. I appreciate your openness to be vulnerable “for us!” It’s a gift that any grieving person can appreciate immensely! It feels like someone got close enough to help my heart! Thank you!!
Wow, Matthew. I love your amazing storytelling ability as you explain how we feel and why, all the deeper levels we must connect to. I know for me, as a 25 yr old woman, I rarely feel anger. I never was allowed to be angry growing up, so I've always felt very disconnected to it as an emotion. Even when I feel annoyed, I worry more about what a burden that will place on others who perceive me that way. I wonder in what ways I can explore anger in a healthy way, that allows me to understand myself better. Thank you for this realisation ❤
I think it works both ways to what Matthew said about anger covering sadness. For those who were encouraged not to express anger as children, as though it is an unhealthy and unwelcome emotion, sadness could be the cover for the anger underneath. As humans we have a full range of emotions that simply cannot be expressed without another. That's the beauty to know joy when we have known pain. In the end it's all about what emotions are more 'comfortable' to express. For some people anger is uncomfortable. In my household, for example, there was lots of anger and it was very normal, however, when sad it was always 'don't cry'. Therefore, for me personally, expressing sadness underneath anger has been a journey because I didn't know what that looks like. For 2 years I couldn't cry in my late 20s. I called it cry constipation.. it was awful. Now, after much meditation and self inquiry, I cry regularly. It feels amazing to let that energy flow. I feel so blessed to have the ability to feel what I am feeling. It is truly God's gift 💝 I hope you can connect with your anger. Sacred rage is a wonderful motivating tool to work with 💖
I’ve been through so much and couldn’t afford to have my heart shattered impossibly further. For my own sanity, I’m not trying anymore. No one will get a chance to date me let alone ghost me, again. I’ll pretend romance and relationships don’t exist.
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2 years on and the pain won't go. Think about my ex wife every single day..
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@@Ghhh-on3nl 2 years is nothing. I had 8 years and I still survived. Focus in on what you need in life. Focus on what makes you happy and fullfill your life ... I am doing the same thing since I am in the Position as you are. Last time thats what helped me.
@@Dreamgirl224 thank you I needed that
“Grief is just love with no place to go “
Jamie Anderson.
That hit hard....
speechless
Great quote, love it!
Ouch
i had a Vietnamese GF , we had what the World is Looking for and she died from Breast Cancer,, and i have not been avoiding the issue , but this line does sort of get it because, she died but my love her did not die when died , so yes, Grief is just love with no place to go
@@razorggI am sorry for your loss 😢. This quote hit me too really hard, but it brought peace to my heart because what I feel is Love ❤️
I envy people who have never had to experience heartbreak.
It literally feels like I can’t breathe, can’t stop crying. Can’t sleep. I feel numb
Once you come out of it i'm telling you you'll feel gratitude for going through it to build you into the person you're meant to become. The people who haven't been heartbroken are behind us on the bingo card of life experience.
This is exactly how I feel, can't breathe, can't stop crying, not sleeping properly, so numb but in so much pain.
Could be anxiety
@@carla6121 How to get out of it? Anxiety, depression, I had bargained myself respect like a sane man wouldn't, but to get that crushed and thrown to a waste bin... I can't seem to get out of it...
@@a_lone_wondereryou need to better yourself and prove to yourself that your not the problem and you can do better and you deserve better
Im stuck in between “wanting to feel that kind of love again” and “don’t want to feel that kind of heartbreak again
That’s exactly where I’ve been for months now.
Yip. I hate the experience of being rejected.
Same😢, it's like wanting to have something you already had before, something you thought will be there all your life, and suddenly it's not there anymore🍂
same 💔
Last dated back in 2015. Got my heartbroken in 2016. She dragged me out till 2017. After that I cut off the connection because I needed to heal and move on. I did so but truthfully I never recovered fully because I was afraid of getting heartbroken again. Still I was working on myself getting better. Until recently when someone else came into my life like a storm, gave me beautiful memories, and when things got serious she got scared and broke my heart. She wants to stay friends and I wanted to cut off the connection again because I didn't want to drag it out again. She couldn't handle that so I had to agree. Now she acts as my girlfriend when she's around me but she basically ghosts me otherwise and only contacts me when she needs something. And then I hear her wedding is being arranged and I don't know how to deal with this situation anymore. Cutting off and moving on is the best thing to do but we work together and everyday has been awful recently.
Worst feeling is that, you seem to annoy the only person, you want to talk to. Man, the pain is unbearable. The ghosting, it's like an endless pit.
It's soooo painful to be ghosted. Nothing just another guy
😢 the ghosting to me is the most painful but I guess it’s for the best. I’m so heartbroken
At age 59, experiencing my first ghosting…it is the most cruel and painful thing….to be so important one day, and nothing the next. It’s hard to wrap your head around, when you would NEVER treat someone like that.
Yes this is the one
It's killing ever sec
My heart goes out to everyone here watching this video and helping yourself ❤️ I don’t know you or your story but I am so sorry for your loss.
...thx 🦩
Thank you ❤
Thank you ❤️ your heart is good and kind...
Thank you
❤
Sometimes we also won’t get the apology we deserve, and I think that’s what hurts the most
Apologies are meaningless when they're saying they're sorry while still making the decision to completely destroy you just so they can get what they want.
Yes, I need a real apology. However, I know hes never going to be empathetic enough to even realize how he destroyed me
No apology is going to undo the pain. The harm done xan not be undone. No apology is going to actually heal your wound. Only you can. Apologies, can help you with the hate, with the anger, with the resentment but not with the actual wound, not with the sadness. Only you can.
Apologies are for them, not for you. They don't mean anything.
yeah the explanation we deserved but we forgive them for our peace and i still want he be happy
"Grief is a change you didn't want." - David Kessler
Brilliant 🔥
I dont wish this pain on anyone not even my worst enemy
No one
May you heal..
And you don’t deserve it either friend
Im living this pain on both ends... I'm trying to right my wrongs guys... Wish me luck
@@ddll23can we be friends. Currently going through the darkest heartbreak I hope we heal quickly
"No one abandoned me as badly as i abandoned myself. One of the ways we abandon ourselves is by not recognizing our own pain, not sitting with it...and exploring it....and having compassion for ourselves."
🎯 ALL roads leads back home (to ourselves)
So true
I pray I will never be the reason someone needs to cling to such videos for dear life for the sake of their mental health
What a beautiful comment! ❤
Powerful
Awwwwww❤
I said the exact same thing, May I never be the reason of this kind of pain I'm going through.
so true. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy, let alone someone who I've dated before and had good times with.
A hug to everyone commenting. As you can see, you are not alone. Be kind to one another, always. ❤
I realized there's many of us..
Judging from this many comments.
May I not become the person who hurts others..
Oh wow helped so much. Get out with balant comments like this
Thank you ❤️
likewise ! Amen
Most importantly,
be kind to yourself!
This is an amazing video, I really needed to watch this. I’ve been stuck in the pain of losing my husband. I used to think breakups were easy, but now that my husband has left me, I feel completely broken. I can’t even eat or take care of our kids! I need him back so much. I’ve tried everything to get him back, but he doesn’t want our marriage anymore.
I feel your pain, dear. I don’t think anyone can truly understand the pain I went through when my partner left me. I couldn’t have children, and I thought I would never get through it. But then, a friend of mine introduced me to a spiritual counselor, and he helped me reconnect with my partner. Now, I’m happy with my husband, and we have two beautiful kids.
Wow, that’s incredible! Please, who is this counselor, and how can I reach him? I don’t think I can bear this pain any longer.
His name is Father Akabu. You can look him up-I’m certain he can help you. No one should have to go through this kind of pain.
Thank you so much, you are an angel sent by God. I’m definitely reaching out to him.
The one who revived our heart just to leave it broken into a million pieces... It hurts...
Exactly 💯 ❤
YES.
This!!
I can relate 💔
I felt this
6 months of grieving the man who came along midlife, who gave me all the validation and cherishing I had craved but thought impossible. He lost feelings. I cry most days.
This is what I’m going through now, though it’s still fresh (I’m talking only days since my heart got broken)… the best relationship of my life, they lost feelings and couldn’t explain why or when or how. I’m so lost, numb and paralyzed.. I hope I can process this in a healthy way and ditch the idea that this was my forever partner, I thought what we had was so beautiful 😭
I'm going through exactly the same thing. After being in an abusive relationship for 5 years the other guy helped me over the trauma. And we spend 1 year together. And it was the most amazing thing and suddenly he just didn't want to be together without any explanation. I cry most days. Every waking moment i spend thinking about what could have been. I've been in absolute no contact for more than 2 weeks now. It just doesn't get easier. Help me
My fiance dumped me with no explanation after a wonderful 4 years 2 weeks ago also. 7 weeks out from our wedding. I still don't know why. I am with you, and I share your pain.@@rumakalita8278
Sometimes the Lord uses someone for a short moment in time to prove to us that the way the last people made us feel about ourselves, were invalid. I have a prodigal narcissist spouse that i was with 10 years. He left me with my 4 children last year and it was the hardest. But last month the Lord used a man that I would never have ended up with to show me, that what my ex had me believing about myself was a LIE FROM HELL. He made me realize not everyone sees me the way my ex did. Soak up the love and affection but be leery not to get into a trauma bond instead of love.
I'm about a year into grieving my ex, even tried to move on but realized it wasn't fair to my new partner because my ex was still always on my mind. I feel it's impossible to move on at times, we've tried to be friends and are, but the feelings over the past year just bubble up and my anxious side was pleading again. On day 9 of no contact right now and....yeah....nothing. Its still early, but I battle myself. On one hand I feel used because we lived together for 3 years and suddenly after 2 it's like she hated me. I know she's dismissive avoidant NOW after studying attraction types, but damn if I could go back with the knowledge I have today or at least get a second chance, but no, she's firm we're just friends so....im giving her space, but its HARD! I want to message her so bad, but if it's meant to be she'll reach out eventually, if not? Then it shows I didn't mean to her what I thought I did and I deserve better. I get angry thinking about how she treated me, I wasn't perfect either, but ugh....its in God's hands now
Grief is love that has nowhere to go.
I have to much love then and it hurts
“Anger is a bodyguard for pain” *instant tears down my face*
😢bro ..
reminds me of another good quote...
"Hate is a place, where a man who can't stand sadness goes"
My anger is consuming me, I literally feel like if anyone touched me they would also combust. What do I do? The gym isn't enough.
My life is one grief after another, and i never avoid it. I sit with it. In silence. I pack up, and i walk in silence with my dog......i listen to my heart and mind, i cry, i sit, i curl up on grass and just wail.....
I do this daily until i can walk and enjoy the scenery without wanting to die. Eventually you start to notice the colors, smells. Sounds of nature and you realize after your 4th,5th 12th long walk....youre healing.
Let go of the person who you THOUGHT was for you. We all play house in our mind.... But it takes two people who want to stay to make it a home..
😢😞😭🏃♂️🧎♀️➡️🧎♀️🙏 anger yes Wailing My child & still trying to just get her to homestate for funeral no got to go thru court & process I am standing on truth but I believed lies and deception own family Learning about trust & to pray for all involved & put myself in their shoes Looking at people like they are a baby so innocent & I don't know what they have been thru in their lives Im no better than anyone else Im trying & I just pray cursed God I was awakened to this is part of my Life & there are doors shut so new doors could open 👐 showing myself compassion & love to myself too. Forgive those who come against me now I need to forgive myself. Its like everything is distorted & I don't want to believe my child, God’s child, with Jesus resting & I know as I want all of you to know you will hold your loved ones again❤ I have. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ God is our comforter. This is rough truly I want to say sux buti knowthat I haveto keep going & living in the moment memories so dear. 🫶👶! God is with you in the storm Jesus come Jesus come
😢😞😭🏃♂️🧎♀️➡️🧎♀️🙏 anger yes Wailing My child & still trying to just get her to homestate for funeral no got to go thru court & process I am standing on truth but I believed lies and deception own family Learning about trust & to pray for all involved & put myself in their shoes Looking at people like they are a baby so innocent & I don't know what they have been thru in their lives Im no better than anyone else Im trying & I just pray cursed God I was awakened to this is part of my Life & there are doors shut so new doors could open 👐 showing myself compassion & love to myself too. Forgive those who come against me now I need to forgive myself. Its like everything is distorted & I don't want to believe my child, God’s child, with Jesus resting & I know as I want all of you to know you will hold your loved ones again❤ I have. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ God is our comforter. This is rough truly I want to say sux buti knowthat I haveto keep going & living in the moment memories so dear. 🫶👶! God is with you in the storm Jesus come Jesus come❤🙏
😢😞😭🏃♂️🧎♀️➡️🧎♀️🙏 anger yes Wailing My child & still trying to just get her to homestate for funeral no got to go thru court & process I am standing on truth but I believed lies and deception own family Learning about trust & to pray for all involved & put myself in their shoes Looking at people like they are a baby so innocent & I don't know what they have been thru in their lives Im no better than anyone else Im trying & I just pray cursed God I was awakened to this is part of my Life & there are doors shut so new doors could open 👐 showing myself compassion & love to myself too. Forgive those who come against me now I need to forgive myself. Its like everything is distorted & I don't want to believe my child, God’s child, with Jesus resting & I know as I want all of you to know you will hold your loved ones again❤ I have. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ God is our comforter. This is rough truly I want to say sux buti knowthat I haveto keep going & living in the moment memories so dear. 🫶👶! God is with you in the storm Jesus come Jesus come❤🙏
True. It's, very true.
I am in a position where I am 7 months removed from my break up, and despite being kind to myself, working out, meditating going out with friends and trying to learn a new language, I still find myself thinking about her every hour of the day.
I remind myself all the time how lucky I am to have experienced that love, and I have taken ownership of my mistakes and have grown so much since the day I lost a part of my soul.
I am young (33), fit and healthy and I don't really struggle to meet women or go on dates etc, I live in a country without war and I have a supportive and loving group of friends and family that have shown me how loved I am since this happened.
I'm so proud of myself and the man I have become.
the past year I have completely flipped the way I think, and have learned how to guide my negative self pitty thoughts into positive and kind ones, but despite all this, I still think about her every hour of every day.
I am often able to catch myself and just say to myself that "I hope she is happy and healthy, and lives a long and full life and that I am thanksful for all the lessons I learnt through her and am now a better man because of my experience", but still 7 months later I will just randomly break into tears from something unrelated to her or a break up and just feel so sad for a good 5-10 minutes.
I work out, I meditate and I love myself, but I feel like there will always be part of my sould missing.
I don't know if I have gotten to the point where I have let go, as I still think about her all the time, but I never am mad or angry at her.
Maybe letting go doesn't mean not thinking about them, maybe it means being able to be okay with the feelings you have and moving forward despite those feelings.
So proud of you 🫂
I feel you. The pain is so intense
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So touching
You sound like a wonderful man. Some lucky woman will deserve your love again some day ❤️🔥💞
My best friend of 10 years and I were in a serious relationship for 3 years until last year when she just dumped me over a text and got engaged to someone else within a week. It took all of last year to steady myself. To anyone out there struggling with heartbreak and grief, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Be patient and compassionate with yourself. Sending lots of love❤️
I can only imagine the pain you went through when it did happen to you. My best friend of 6 years broke up with me while we were officially together 4 years. Although there wasn’t a third person. The pain and realization of them being gone is so hard to fathom, but I hope things do get better. Thank you for your comment
I hope you heal soon. Going through this monster right now and it effin' sucks.
Glad you’re steady man. Stay strong ❤
I have been through some break ups in my life. The longest was a 16 year relationship that ended last Aug. I then met a woman, who was everything I dreamed. We were together just 5 months. I had some underlying anxiety that bubbled through and pushed her over the point of not worth it and she called it quits last week. This has been the hardest most painful breakup ever. We got along SO great when we were together. But when we were apart I tended to overthink or misinterpret texts. When I was physically with her I never felt more safe in my life. I really dont sense any light after this one. She was the one woman who I actually was happy about a future with and not just going with the motions. I miss her in every moment.
Same as me
This is the most painful thing I have ever felt. He is so nonchalant and acting like we never existed. I met this man when I was 19 and thought I would be with him forever. On my 34th birthday month, he decided would be the best time for him to leave me for someone he met a month ago. I cant imagine how easy it can be for someone to walk away after 14 years. I thought we were happy. I feel like dying.
I wish everyone would stop telling me to pick myself up and move on, like I can just press a button and the emotions and mental turmoil will disappear.
@@royaledenoir5694God can heal you! I promise, seek him! Your heart belongs to him!❤
@@royaledenoir5694 you're welcome to message me if you want a "breakup" buddy. going through the same thing right now. It is slowly getting better with the support of family and friends.
@@royaledenoir5694im sorry to see what you going through❤ and yes I feel you when you say how u hate when people say to just move on. I am going through a massive heartbreak as well right now and moving on is the last thing on world that seems achievable right now, and tbh I need to let my pain out, all of it, and just learn how to live with it. Wish you all the best ❤️🩹
Hello.... I'm watching this video also so clearly I'm not well, but I just want to encourage you and extend my understanding. I also battle the same feelings of how can he could walk away so easily..... how???. I empathize with you sweetheart 💯💜
I can never get used to heartbreak. I'm certain now that i am afraid to even just imagine falling in love again.
I feel the same way- even after 25 years the pain does not go away
25 years dealing with the same pain? I am 3 yrs in and I am praying to get through it. I can’t continue living with this much pain.
The thing is that I was the same way, Afraid of loving again. I was sure I am incapable of doing it again. And yet, after many years of not experiencing that feeling, it hit me like a brick, out of nowhere, when I expected it the least. And then the person, who told me they love me, played me over and left me again. And here I am again, believing I will never love again.
i havent felt the feeling being in love for over ten years. I forgot how it feels, as well as the feel of butterflies. I can no longer relate to it, and you bet im terrorfied of being hurt ever again. So i wing it by cruising my singlelife on autopilot for the remaining approximate 52 years i still have to serve on this earth, before i can leave.
@@anderstermansen130 i have never related to anything this much.
Last few days have been the worst days of my life and I felt like the ground should open and swallow me. With alot of pain in heart and no one to talk to, Seeing these comments made me realize am not a alone . thanks
Same it just happened to me. I'm not sure how I exist without the person.
@@srianna0416 we gonna be fine and look back and be grateful to God for saving you
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We broke up last week I can't breath
You are not alone
I wish I'd never felt heartbreak. Everyday it's a painful reminder of what could have been.
Yes, I believe it's one of the hardest and worst pains to overcome. 😢
I totally understand what you are going through. It is the most painful emotion one can walk through.
Im 37 years old and this is the first time I go through this heartbreak. It hurts so much to finally see my ex with someone else. We broke up about 10 years ago but neither of us hooked up with anyone else in that time. However, recently my ex has started seeing someone and it looks like their connecting. My Ex was my first love, my first everything. My gosh, I've never experienced this kind of pain, it hurts so much. It feels like a loved one died and I'm mourning them. Its all I think about everyday now and it absorbs all my energy. I'm crying every day. I want my ex to be happy, I wish them the best. does anyone know of any resources or chat rooms for this? Thanks for reading my comment.
My heartbroken brothers and sisters. I love you. We will get through this 😢 x
"sometimes God will change your plans to save your life"
I really like this, thank you 🙏
That’s the truth ❤🕊
amen
Man, thats so hard to accept, but very true.
That hit home.. thankyou!
i know i will survive this, someone will like this post or comment years later and I will come back to reply healed and well
I wish us all quick and healthy healing
We are here for you, mt fellow friend 🫂
I recently experienced my first ever heartbreak at 33 years old and I am in such grief and hurt right now. Pain is personal and what I am in now is not easy. Never have I ever felt these real emotions that I am experiencing. Praying and hoping I will be fully healed one day.
Hey bro. I'm 34 and in the same situation. 2 weeks in and it starts to get better but (as you know) we need to be patient over a period of months. Just keep speaking to your close network and do things that help you grow as a person.
Happened to me at 31. We were dating for 3 months but they were intense. It’s been over 7 months and I think of her every day, but the pain is not nearly as intense anymore. It has helped me immensly to pray to God, to trust that He has a plan for me and that if it’s meant to be he will unite us again OR he has an even more amazing women in store for me. Trust God/The universe/Higher power that you will experience even better things in the future. Trust this with ALL your heart. When you feel loss, anxiety, depression, turn to that higher power and with CONVICTION believe that Better things are coming. Hope this helps, it really has helped me. Take care guys
@@jamesprentice2894 Thank you! Over a month since I was devastated from my heartbreak but I believe I am progressing well. Baby steps and I know I will achieve my healing from this but still not gonna lie there are days where I feel awful.
@@BasedBrothers Because God is love. He knows he has better plans for all of us and what happened to us, what we experienced were all charge to our personal learning. I also think about the person who broke my heart everyday but not as much as the early days of my heartbreak. Prayer is a powerful tool to aid us full healing.
Same at 30 boyfriend of 13 yrs said he saw no future with me .
Anger is a bodyguard for pain. Too True.
Wow. My wife says she can see my anger as no one else. But never knew why I was so angry. ❤
I am going through my worst (second) heartbreak ever. I thought I was gonna be the mother of his children one day. It happened one week ago and he acts like we never happened and I never existed. He is out having fun while I feel like I can never recover from this. How do people act like they really care about you - for years - to just prove you so wrong. I don't even know who this person is.
Sending love and hugs to everyone going through something similar
In the same boat as u it’s almost unreal. My husband worshipped the ground I walk on. Tattd my name on his chest I mean totally went all out for me to crush me like a bug right now. As if he doesn’t even know me.
@@mrs.conscioussending love ❤️
U deserve the best ❤❤
i feel this, 2nd time for me, the first after a 29 year marriage, just yesterday when the gf of 17 months gave me the same "i don't love you anymore" line after we've lived and traveled together all over the world. They both feel like strangers. Neither one mentioned anything before the breakup. It was so hard mentally after my divorce, and this new heartbreak yesterday is just starting to sink in - this video just made me cry harder than before, it is so true. And yes, it is just so hard to deal with the fact the person you thought loved you and was there for you could not care less about you anymore....
It's been 8 months since my relationship ended. I do still get their thoughts once in a while but it's so much easier now, I don't wake up and sleep with his thoughts on my mind like I used to before. My mind plays tricks and brings in happy memories of us as well, I appreciate those days for a moment and let it go. I always pray to God everytime I feel sad and time and time again I forgive my ex for hurting me. It helps me to move forward.
This is me. 😢I thought I wrote this! Can we be friend?
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Same here🥲 It’s not even a month, since my soon to be ex left me.
Just came on the year we parted ways, with no reason or closure, but excuses spanning the entire spectrum. I process a little longer than most, hard to brush under the rug as I gave and went all in and still feel the sting...one day at a time, some better than most. Thanks for your post.
Only you can decide when you are ready to heal and move on. It doesn’t take time, it takes you and you being ready! Your heart deserves all the attention you are giving it. Usually an initial heartache opens the chambers to past heartaches so it becomes an entire life healing process. Dig deep! You are worth it!
Don’t let anyone rush you or pressure you to go back to “normal” or how things were before you got hurt, either. There is no such thing as normal anyway; trust that the new “healed” you will thrive!! Trust yourself and who you are❤
You are the greatest miracle in the world and someone’s most precious blessing. 🙏🏽
Thank you for this. The man that I loved died of suicide- no note, no nothing- at only 58, after two years together. All of our plans to retire together and to grow old together- all gone. Now, I'm finding out about all kinds of things (some other woman's perfume-filled bandana and other things that were found out afterward). Suicide leaves so many questions, with no answers. It is a horrible thing to go through. I have watched some of David's videos and they are very helpful- as are yours. Thank you for your video! Please pray for me, I am in such extreme pain. I am praying for all of you for healing, also. Thanks, everyone.
I cant imagine the pain… so sorry
I rarely comment on UA-cam but this broke my heart. Know that you are in my prayers tonight ❤️🩹
I’m so sorry I know how it feels to lose the person we love, I lost my wife and mom June 4th 2021 on a car wrecked, sometimes the pain is unbearable but we have to move on as life goes on, it’d be nice to hear from you , where are you from.?
I'm so sorry for your loss. That sounds so horrible.
As soon as I watched the video, I started crying. Then, as the video progressed, I started feeling calm and hopeful. Thank you so much for giving out the message, Matt.
That makes me really happy. Just wait til you see the whole thing!
Me too, dear. Me 2. Can't stop crying about everything. Especially about something happened 3 months ago.
Even for Mathew though .. seeing his sadness.
Good luck in your healing ❤
Great message, thank you so much 🙏
Me As Well...
My son died a month and half after my husband died. A double grief. It was in 2016. I would like to have had help emotionally and other people also could have help with these emotions. 😢 😅 Thank you
Thinking of you. Sigh my friend.
My partner was killed in 2014 and my best friend died while I was at my partner's funeral. I never got to say goodbye to either of them. I didn't find any help at the time either and I know I have brought a lot of that pain with me to the present. I cannot imagine losing a child, I'm so sorry. I truly hope you've been able to find peace.
God be with you always.
I’m so sorry. My father died and then my brother died 6 weeks later. I kept it all in check until a month ago when we scattered my brother’s ashes at sea. My heart broke open for the loss.
No one ever abandoned me as badly as I abandoned myself - so true
Loosing a child is the most devastating heartbreak i felt,been a year now and feels like yesterday,still painful until now,and maybe forever,but i still trying to accept til now
Blessings❤
Pouring love into you ❤
Praying for you
God Bless you..I too lost my boy in Afghanistan in 2014...10 years in grief time is like 10 days ago. A psychologist told me I you will never be the same again. You lost part of your heart when he passed, you can never get it back. But through grieving, you'll bring back the love and life lessons your child gave you while he or she was here with you...there is never a time limit to grief...One day you'll be back in the arms of your child so will I...God Bless you...I know your hurt...❤❤
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Having lost my grandma a few weeks ago, this resonates with me so much. She's the first person I've ever lost in my life and I am still so shocked by how hard it is to let her go. She called me every single day and just knowing someone cared that much to do that made me smile everyday. I've come to realize that the hardest part of life is when the person who gave you so many amazing memories becomes a memory.
Think back in life on a time when u didn’t think u could possibly get past whatever u were facing. This too shall pass. Only time heals. Nurture your soul in every way u can.
I am 28 with my first true heartbreak of almost 6 years. It is unbelievable how much I hurt. I have lost what felt like home wherever life went. I’m sure like most I can’t wait to be happy again.
Im Sorry to hear this.. how are you today? I hope you’re feeling better❤️
I must say A LOT better than when I typed this lol. Time is definitely the answer along with patience, accountability & forgiveness. Ty for asking!
@@xenramirez8142 I’m very happy to hear that. I’m currently in a break up and it hurts a lot. It is encouraging to hear from others that they a lot better cause right now It hurts like hell.
8 years on, and I still feel the pain... the world is just not as colourful as it used to be
Same here since my husband died then I lost my mom and son. All I can do is try. So damn hard..I'm so sorry for your loss. You are Not Alone ..
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss.
You have to approach every relationship knowing it will end. It’s the natural order of everything.
Not really... don't fall for this trick else u ll never feel the beauty of the relationship.
@@how_you_talk I’m married. I wholeheartedly expect my marriage to not last forever because death will eventually take one of us. Or divorce, which statistically is the more reasonable thing to expect in our lovely modern age. You’re busy with feelings, strip those out of the equation and start thinking.Love is evil, I’ve lived long enough to know it.
@@user0m170 Because you haven't figured out what it is. Love is the most destructive power on the planet. It can be wielded and make you into a shadow of who you should be. I would know. I live it every single day. If you are a guy, my suggestion is to never get married. If you want children make the kind of money you can get a surrogate. It means you can probably pull women with the kind of money, but make sure your children never know their mother.
Definitely
never betray anyone.
Will not hurt others the way others hurt me.
Sending hugs to all suffering heartbreak. We can get through this.
After my break up I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years.
With so much anxiety 😢I can’t let the pain go
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Is he on instagram?
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
I am in the exact same situation
This is some voodoo stuff
Broken people do broken things, a broken heart creates broken people
Wooooow...so true!!!
Aka broken relationships
This is so true. My ex left me on same way how his ex left him...
True. Hurt people hurt people.😭
I've been dealing with having my heart broken for 6 months now. I had to quit my job due to breaking down all throughout the day but in the end I feel as if I needed to feel this pain to heal from everything thats been inside me for such long time. Every time I feel my emotions coming I just let them go unrestricted and I feel as if I am healing from years of holding my emotions inside.
Hope you can get back to work, maybe not at the same place but back at work nevertheless. My healing started when I got a full time job to help me not have enough time to allow myself to sulk. Retraumatizing myself reviewing and revisiting the heartbreaks everyday was hindering my recovery. Hope you are as lucky as I was to land a job you love, adore and makes you happy on a daily basis. I teach ESL to small children. Of course I can never love them more than my own child, my son, my Sun and everything for me, but it is incredibly uplifting and amazing to make so many chidren's lives better and spark their minds with thirst for knowledge. Quite challenging as well, so it gives me purpose beyond next morning. Having not much time left to linger on too much heartbreak has done wonders to my peace.
Bro there's billions of women. God did u a favor. Look at the positives. Work on the things u enjoy and qhdn you're ready start dating. You'll be surprised what u find.
I've had to suppress my grief to keep going through a difficult situation and I know how damaging that can be. I've just been through months of worry and anxiety after years of waiting for an end to a particular situation that's been hanging over me. I'm glad you've been able to take the time. When my situation was over I kind of collapsed on the floor in floods of tears while trying to clear out some old paperwork. It was such a relief to finally feel the tears come. Better out than in is what I say. But find time for 'functioning' too so that you can have some distractions. Just to take some time out from the grief here and there and let some 'light' in. At my darkest times I challenged myself to leave the house for at least five mins a day and to find one thing to make me smile. Acknowledge and heal the sadness but also see the good things. Hope things get better for you.
@warriorqueen9792 Trust me I felt the same pain. Dead inside. Absolutely broken and shattered. Reality torn away from me. But I'd rather know the truth and eat that fucking pain then dump a big giant dose of motivation in my life that will elevate me to a level I otherwise couldn't. Yes I might suppress. I just ignore anything related to her. Help the people who were loyal to me and snapped me out of that hypnotic bullshit relationship I was in and put me back on the path to rebuilding myself. I had no business being in a relationship which is why I got the result I got. Same with you guys. GOD DID NOT WANT THIS TO BE YOUR TIME. There was a lesson to learn and growth to be had. Once that is accomplished you will love yourself and who you've become. Then you'll attract the right one. Be happy it happened now than when you meet the love of your life.
Thanks for the kind words.@@snowbirdspirit
Good luck to everyone watching this. You’re not alone. Searching this paints a picture of how you feel. This is so hard.
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I can't bear the pain, I'm grieving a lost relationship with someone who's been very dear to me. I never knew it would hurt so much. It literally feels as if my heart has been wrenched out of my chest with no anesthesia. And so many things remind of this person. And there are no hard feelings, we still care for each other but the grief I feel is almost too much to bear. I don't know how to go on.
How are you doing?
@@conandog3514 actually better, thank you! But only this week have I come to the place of acceptance. I went through a whole range of emotions from deep grief, feelings of loss, missing them terribly, endless rumination , deep sadness, anger, some resentment, internal conflict, shock and disbelief as well as false hope. It's tough, and I still can't comprehend going from such a deep connection to being total strangers in a matter of just weeks. Well, it's just life in this broken world. The healing takes time but it's real and there's always real hope for the future (unrelated to that relationship). My heart goes out to everyone in the early, most painful stages of a heartbreak. I pray you find an anchor and peace for your heart ❤️🌿
😪💔🙏 It does get easier ... coming from experience. Someday u will look back and it wont hurt anymore. Hang in there.
Give yourself time. I understand how you feel.
When I lost my brother to suicide, I too went through the same feelings.
@@conandog3514 Thanks. Tbh I thought I was doing better these past two weeks but it still hurts and I miss him terribly still. But at least I'm not crying anymore and it helps me when I am really engaged with something meaningful. But the void is still there, along with the questions. I must have been really attached, and I still care about him greatly.
How many times we hear "Move on", "Get over it" after a heartbreak. Nobody knows that is truly a pain, not just emotionally, but often physically. Noone will tell you after you loose somebody, who died, that it is time to move on... So strong and deep ideas. Thank you!
After loss, there becomes the 'New Normal' for you.
A new way to exist that you weren't planning on.
A new normal awaits... but what is it?
Finding a new happiness, a new way of living the life you have left.
Heartbreaking stuff.
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.
My grief is Parkinson's. At 64 years old, after a great life of very active, playful, loving, come with joy, happiness, excitement. Excitement, I was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. That was 3 years ago. I'm still grieving. I'm giving the loss of my body. My mind tells my body to do something and my body says f you. We're not going to do it today. I grief my future. I don't know what to expect. All Parkinson's patients are different. It may get worse. It may stay the same. I just don't know. Nobody knows. Grief is pretty powerful.
I divorced out of a toxic, damaging marriage of 21 years over a year ago. A recent breakup from who I thought was the last love I would ever need has hurt more than my divorce ever could. Pain of losing what you have always truly wanted is devastating 💔
🙏🏼 I get it. I’m sorry
I get it too. I’m so sorry. 😞
going through the same lets pray for each other
My experience too
This. Exactly this. 💔
every day is a battle...doesn't matter how hard you try your heart and brain are just not willing to act together. It hurts, it hurts a lot..
I just wanted to say THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart that is now healed because of you.
It was exactly one year ago when I broke up with my girlfriend, I was so heartbroken that I tried absolutely everything to change my life from the roots. I was so depressed, I didn't want to get out of bed. But I never gave up on myself, I started watching your videos and every day I worked on my mental health.
Now I feel better than ever and I know this is just the beginning
I just wanted to say thank you and I know how much comments like this can help others, believe me, I know this from experience. Keep your head up, take care of yourself, never give up, put your life in God's hands and everything will be alright in time.
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Well done ! Never gave up
Hiii. It's been 6 months for me and I still have days when I feel really sad. I do hope that one day soon, I can also get over them completely. Sometimes I feel like I am disappointed in myself that even after half a year it still affects me
@@shakhzosh Hi bro, don't worry, it's normal
I was the same.
Even after almost a year since brake up i wasn't fully over it, but there is no roles
Someone will deal whit it faster, someone slower.
A year is average time for your heart to heal.
Just focus on yourself and u will see after some time how good you will feel
Keep your head up 💪
Anger is a bodyguard of pain. Wow - this hits me.
If you read this and your grieving I’m so very sorry pls stay strong I’m in the same situation unfortunately Again. I’m praying for you.
To you whom is Reading this, breath❤️🤲
I’m trying but it hurts
@@Jazzthetruth418 in utter silence,give it to God in Jesus'name
We do so, bcs in spirit [they] can hear us
I’m crying
Thank you! 💕
😢 im trying
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you.
I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.
I promise you will not regret it.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
Grief from a loved one dying and/or from a loved one leaving/rejecting you leaves a constant scream in your head. A scream only you can hear. A scream that NEVER stops!
right
One of the best videos on internet
and believe me I am working as a psychologist/ psychotherapist, I have seen tons of videos.
Thank you!
me too sister
I feel lIke I'm going to struggle with this for the rest of my life.
Me 2.. its been years since the break up.. still painful.. very much
Me too
Me too 😭
same
how r u doing ?
I broke down the moment he started talking. I’ve been going through the grief of losing my dad and the grief of losing a person I love! So painful!
I wonder how this works when after 25 years I still miss the love of my life and the only one to blame is myself as I left him for another man. I live with regret to this day!
I had my mini Australian shepherd put to sleep she was 16.5 years old and I've had her since she was 6 weeks old.
Oh my 😢 I’m so sorry. My cousin just did the same for his 15 yr old pittie.
Rest in peace to your four legged friend and my condolences to you, hope you have love and support system around you in this hard time
So very sorry!, they are such a huge part of our lives
Losing a pet is one of the hardest grief I've ever had. Just know you gave your baby a good life.
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Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
It's been a couple of days and I finally understand the quote "Nothing takes more patience than trying to heal yourself". I have dated an affluent and very powerful man. We broke up and it just feels like life has no meaning anymore. The worst part is that I know no man is going to compare to him and I can't talk to anyone about it because I have signed an NDA. Maybe no one will see my comment, but I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading.
Im so sorry for your pain. It’s incredibly hard, but you will get through this to the other side. The process can be ugly, & long but it is so worth it. My thoughts are with you ❤
Hope you feel much better today than 1 month ago when you posted this comment.
You said "we broke up".
Well now ya know, grass ain't no greener over here.
I’m in the same position as u somehow.. been 10 months since he broke it off with me. I was too immature and had relationship anxiety which stemmed from unhealed trauma from my ex, letting me to be always anxious and insecure around him. I self sabotaged the whole thing, of course he had some parts to play which cause them as well. 😔 he moved on a month after we broke off and is now engaged to another well established lady 💔 I feel nobody understands my situation and how it feels to have lost “the one”. Slowly coming to terms and convincing myself that he isn’t “the one” for me hoping that I’ll someday find somebody who would be patient, understanding and assures me
A woman was once that voice for me. I hope she stays happy forever and nothing touches her.
We will find happiness again. It starts within.
"You know how staying the same feels like" -David. Thank you
I started crying a few minutes in, and kept crying. This video was very cathartic for me, thank you.
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I’ve been grieving my whole life 😢
I’ve lived through all manner of heartbreak. Betrayal is a whole different level and the pain never dies.
My heart goes out to all of you feeling such deep pain. May you find peace soon..🎉
My boyfriend of over 5 years just broke up with me. I loved him more than anything and he was the most stable thing in my life. I lived with him and have no one else. I am only 20 so i grew up with him in a way, but it feels like this pain will never pass.
It will
It will, i can assure you that, it gets better day by day.
Plz use this situation as a warning to gaurd your heart! Never allow anyone to have all of you ! The pain your experiencing is the result of your heart all in on this relationship! I know this ! I’m sixty years young! Been there ! Understand people change and should! But as you see being all in leaves you absolutely vulnerable to a broken heart that can take years to heal ! And that’s if you let yourself heal ! There are real good guys people who are good for you! Maybe god has a better boyfriend for you ! Everyone you meet isn’t meant to be always in your life ! God puts people in your life and removes them !
Allow yourself to grieve and don’t hesitate to move forward! There is a good young man out there for you! ❤️🙏🏻 praying for you !
My girlfriend over 7 years just broke up with me over a stupid reason. It's hard to realize, but live goes on.
I started when I was 15 as well mine lasted for 13 years I’m only 28 and divorced and lost the the absolute love of my life at least that’s what she was to me. I still don’t know if I meant that much to her. She cheated and left me pretty much all at once it was soul crushing but as they explained I went right into the storm of pain and explored it and after months of doing so I’m finally getting better keep your head high we will get through it
I went into the relationship and marriage clear that I didnt want children, and biologically cant have them. My wife agreed to that future. 2 weeks ago, on my birthday, she told me we're getting a divorce because she wants a family. I'm crushed. Thank you for this video.
Mate, I’m literally in an extremely similar position. Feels like so much time has been wasted and navigating the pain and grief is consuming.
But… we’ve got this.
We can keep turning up for ourselves and get out the other side.
Here with you brother 👊🏼
@@Adambrown_auThe pain has been crippling and I dont know how to process it. Time and a whole lotta miles on the ole motorcycle i suppose. Much love bro, the pain is proof of the love. Stay strong
my husband divorced me for the same reason
@charliebrown8829 I'm sorry your position is similar. I'm sure words will never capture the depth of the pain you feel. Please be kind to yourself, and know you are worthy of love and a peaceful heart.
@mariedockery1126 I'm so sorry to hear that. It is my prayer you heal and move on best you are able. I know how hard it can be, and trust me I'm not there yet.
7 years of my life, the woman I love and 3 young children, just gone.
We struggled a lot because she missed her family back in Italy.
I the end she just decided she had to go back.
It’s been 2 months and it’s only really starting to feel real now.
It’s a heavy weight and so lonely, the future I had, seeing my kids grow up is gone.
Having to take apart their bedroom furniture, their toys going in the bin and destroying what we’d built just breaks my heart, I can only do a bit at a time.
I’m now going into the storm to come out the other side sooner.
Listening to our songs, Looking at pictures and feeling the loss as fully as I can, crying it out.
It feels better after but it’s an ongoing process.
Brighter days are ahead, I know but we’ll all get there.
1 hour and 1 day at a time.
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I cried for how true this video is… I just had my heartbreak; my boyfriend betrayed me. I’ve been angry for quite some time for what he did. But right when you said “anger is a bodyguard for pain”, I cried instantly. I realized that I avoided the sadness of losing our future together…
Losing my parents, feels like I'm an orphan. Violently assaulted by an ex, all relationships are affected and highly triggered. Therapy did not help.
Hugs. It's ok to not be ok. You are a survivor to be here. Salute
I’m so sorry to hear this. Please don’t feel alone, please give therapy another chance it takes some chances to find the right one ❤️
Sometimes you‘ve to survive long enough to make it out of the dark. Then your healing will start ❤ Trust in the process
So sorry. Hope you feel better soon.
Sorry, I understand the feeling. My parents are alive but I know the fact that once they are gone, I will be an orphan. There are times that I wake up in the night and check if they are still alive (worst I know). I know no matter how much I prepare for it, it’s going to be traumatic.
Big hugs to you, I wish you peace xx
Yes, my grief is the worst, as is yours. Hugs to anyone reading this who is hurting. Xxxxx
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@@andrewvasilyev3540do you think the spiritual counselor really worked? I’m scared I’ll never get her back. 4 years gone just like that.
hope youre ok same just happened to me literally was my best friend cheated on me left me with everthing we built together been a month since she left for a guy she was ready to be with lmao
Watching this video stirred up old emotions, leaving me longing for my ex and struggling to move forward.
Saying goodbye to someone dear is hard. When my 12-year relationship ended, I couldn't move on. But with help from a spiritual counselor, we reunited. Now, I'm happy and grateful
Could you advise me on how I can meet the counselor you've mentioned?
I'm glad you're interested! To connect with Suzanne Ann Walters, the spiritual counselor I mentioned, just look her up online. Her guidance is worth seeking
thanks a lot. I will do just that
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The facts that we can feel this much. That we have the capacity to feel all these emotions and still keep breathing is a beautiful thing. To everyone watching this video, you're strong and brave and beautiful inside. And you deserve love. Feel this pain, let it remind you of your strength and resilience. Let it remind you that when happiness and healing does arrive, it'll be sweeter and more blissful. This too shall pass. Love and power to all of you loving fighters. ❤
I was dating this girl for 6 months. Never felt any love like this. It was magic, she broke up with me. 16 days ago, came around but after a huge argument she said stop texting me. I never experience a pain like this. Everything reminds me of her.
I'm sorry send you a Big Hug, all the best.
Prayers
I cried. This video is a whole blessing. Yes, David’s analogy, his voice, everything. Thank you ❤
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I never imagined that the person i thought my mental peace will bring me here to see this video to heal my mental peace😔
I have been going through a heartbreak for a very long time now. I´ve been trying different things to get through it but I always come back to the pain it feels mainly because I´ve been alone for a very long time. My ex girlfriend moved on very fast from our relationship and is now soon to have a baby. Eventhough I am very happy for her, she really deserves a lot of happoiness, I don´t feel I am able to overcome my heartbreak. I once felt it was a something i could control but i still find myself having the same issue, which affects my self confidance and my own self love... for which i have none. It is very tough. But i thank you for your words Matthew. You are very kind.
Just last night I finally mustered up the courage to break free from a toxic and abusive 2-year relationship with a partner who’s been lying to me since forever. Really difficult what I’m going through right now but it is what it is. Thank goodness I bumped into this video as I start w/ my healing process. It’s gonna be a long bloody one, I know, but I’m confident I will emerge triumphant. So help me God.
We are here with you ❤
Thank you, Matthew. Means a lot to me. Love your contents. Stay awesome!🫡
My anger is why dint I protect myself better....I had a toxic childhood,it wasn't my fault, I have to forgive myself ,it wasn't my fault, love myself,have compassion for myself and move on and never give permission to let anyone hurt me again if I recognize toxicity.❤
Love the buffalo story! I’ve learning that the only way to get through the grief and heartbreak is to let myself go through it with love and care!
Today I told a girl I was seeing for about a month that we should stop dating and that I don't see myself in a relationship with her, this broke her heart, and it broke mine too, she's so sweet she didn't deserve to be rejected, but It's just not what I'm looking for and I don't want to waste anymore of her time,
It feels horrible to break someone's heart, to scar them.
I pray for her to heal and get over this
And I pray I never have to do this ever again.
I cried. Actually, I have been crying from time to time, especially when I think of him. There are so many memories, and everything I see triggers me intensely. I don't know if time can heal me in the end. All of life is a process of recovery that never ends.
Maybe he just someone that come to you life to teach you smth, and if it meant to be it will workout. I move to another city by myself had a gf there and we raised a cat together know im alone with all the memories and an always hungry pig but it will get better or you will get better at handling it, wish you the best
There is a reason behind your grief. You will get stronger Trust me. What is situation now can you tell me?
@@propro693 I just thought about the happy times I had with him and started crying again. I'm feeling so sad and wanted to find someone to talk to online, and then I saw your message. I think it's the synchronicity.
@@moveyourday Maybe. You can talk to me any time you want
@@propro693 Thank you, you are a very kind person. How can I rerach you?
Video came at a perfect time. Almost made it to 4 years-I grieve the girl I was before we met but it’s ok to grieve and then look forward to better things.
As of a few days ago. I was blindsided with a betrayal and now a divorce after 9 years. I needed this video. I’m also crying because I can’t handle the grief of the future that no longer will be.
My babymama went to rehab and left me for a heroine addict because they could relate to their addictions. I wrote her an empowering message every day to tell her our daughter and l were proud of her for going to rehab, that way she could see all the support when she got her phone back. We even originally had plans for me to pick her up when she was done to celebrate. Didn't matter though, rehab daddy had her locked on some mistakes l've made in the relationship and that the grass is greener with a new person. Sometimes you can do everything you feel is right, and to the other person it may be too late or not enough. I don't know who needs to read this but I want everyone to remember that you won't be enough for everyone and that's okay. Be enough for yourself. Even if you can't see it, your effort will pay off eventually, even if it's with someone else.
Thanks for the reminder.. kind stranger
What a beautiful message sir. Thank you for sharing.
I've been crying for five months after the man I fell in love with who has bipolar disorder completely ghosted me. And I still see him because we work on the same street. And because of his unmanaged bipolar disorder he is compelled to break up with me! It's killing me.
I have been dealing with a heart break I was feeling anxious I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't concentrate in work it took over me. Everybody in work noticed a change in me but I was too ashamed to tell them it was over an x boyfriend. We think we should be strong enough to deal with a heartbreak but it's too painful. Thank you so much for this video very powerful it really made me think of myself and how I accepted someone who wasn't worthy of having me in their life. I feel empowered now thank you❤
I am going through this same heart break as well...I can't eat..I can't sleep, I cry all the time...I just want to be numb...I don't want to feel anything 😢
I feel the same.
Hope you get over your heart soon remember you are worth more than that and he is not the only man in the world. There will be someone better for you and you will look back and think what was I doing.❤
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@@ediedonohoe7512 I just miss him so much :( and he wants us to remain friends and quite desperately, too but I told him I need to break off the attachment or I'll continue to suffer. Now I'm having second thoughts, I almost can't bear this pain of not talking to him
You said, “If I start to cry, I might not ever stop!” I used to say those words so many times! Grew up with 4 younger brothers with me being the only girl! I sort of learned to be more like them, emotionally! Have subsequently lost both parents and my brothers to death. Grief has been the hardest experience in life. I appreciate your openness to be vulnerable “for us!” It’s a gift that any grieving person can appreciate immensely! It feels like someone got close enough to help my heart! Thank you!!
Wow, Matthew. I love your amazing storytelling ability as you explain how we feel and why, all the deeper levels we must connect to. I know for me, as a 25 yr old woman, I rarely feel anger. I never was allowed to be angry growing up, so I've always felt very disconnected to it as an emotion. Even when I feel annoyed, I worry more about what a burden that will place on others who perceive me that way. I wonder in what ways I can explore anger in a healthy way, that allows me to understand myself better. Thank you for this realisation ❤
I think it works both ways to what Matthew said about anger covering sadness. For those who were encouraged not to express anger as children, as though it is an unhealthy and unwelcome emotion, sadness could be the cover for the anger underneath. As humans we have a full range of emotions that simply cannot be expressed without another. That's the beauty to know joy when we have known pain.
In the end it's all about what emotions are more 'comfortable' to express. For some people anger is uncomfortable. In my household, for example, there was lots of anger and it was very normal, however, when sad it was always 'don't cry'. Therefore, for me personally, expressing sadness underneath anger has been a journey because I didn't know what that looks like. For 2 years I couldn't cry in my late 20s. I called it cry constipation.. it was awful. Now, after much meditation and self inquiry, I cry regularly. It feels amazing to let that energy flow. I feel so blessed to have the ability to feel what I am feeling. It is truly God's gift 💝
I hope you can connect with your anger. Sacred rage is a wonderful motivating tool to work with 💖
I’ve been through so much and couldn’t afford to have my heart shattered impossibly further. For my own sanity, I’m not trying anymore. No one will get a chance to date me let alone ghost me, again. I’ll pretend romance and relationships don’t exist.
I see you love fries and soda now. It's just as dangerous, I think.