Re-Parenting - Part 85 - 8 A's Of Emotional Needs - Part 2

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  • Опубліковано 16 лис 2023
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    Tim looks at the final 5 of the 8 A's that make up our emotional needs. These are the needs that must be met if we are to feel loved, safe, respected and not experience Complex Trauma: Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, Allowance
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  • @mercurialmom-qk9me
    @mercurialmom-qk9me 8 місяців тому +26

    I discovered you about a year ago and your videos have truly blessed me. Thank you for your work and for making these videos accessible online. You’re a great teacher!

    • @LisaValentine1
      @LisaValentine1 8 місяців тому +5

      I’ve been binge watching Tim for the past few months and he is exactly what I need when feeling emotionally disregulated. I’m so grateful for his healing videos.

  • @DeeDeeOrr
    @DeeDeeOrr 8 місяців тому +25

    You are heaven sent. Thank you for your exquisite wisdom.

  • @1HorseOpenSlay
    @1HorseOpenSlay 8 місяців тому +31

    Anyone else never had someone treat them like that? Where are the caring people. I sure can't find any. I know that they must be out there, somewhere

    • @Schquirl
      @Schquirl 8 місяців тому +7

      I totally relate and empathize with your comment. Where!? Scattered, few and far between

    • @LisaValentine1
      @LisaValentine1 8 місяців тому +9

      I agree. I’ve decided God keeps putting challenging people in my path so that I learn to recognize people that are trying to take advantage of me/stop people pleasing,and learn how to establish boundaries. It’s a long exhausting road, but apparently I signed up for it in this lifetime.

    • @edithlee3831
      @edithlee3831 7 місяців тому +8

      I don’t know of any family like this. People carry down the dysfunction from generation to generation. I suppose awareness can help break the cycle. Listening to Tim Fletcher makes me realize how invalidated I was.

    • @1HorseOpenSlay
      @1HorseOpenSlay 7 місяців тому +3

      Thnx for your replies guys 🌞💛

    • @annvisser7939
      @annvisser7939 7 місяців тому +10

      My husband is so kind and respectful. We both had a lot of work to do to get to where we are now but it has been worth the work. 43 years married. There is hope!

  • @kukey25
    @kukey25 2 місяці тому +4

    I think parents who are disappointed or even embarrassed by their kids are really only thinking about their own needs: gaining approval of their friends, family, and peers, being validated as a good parent, etc

  • @kukey25
    @kukey25 2 місяці тому +8

    I like how Tim uses "loving" behavior as a synonym for "healthy" behavior because that really is how we know what love and health mean. If it's not healthy, it's not love. If it's love, it will lead to healthiness.

  • @themidnightmenu990
    @themidnightmenu990 7 місяців тому +9

    Amazing work! Your wisdom is invaluable. I've learnt so much! Thank you!!

  • @polodhtip6061
    @polodhtip6061 2 місяці тому +3

    Amazing video, so deep and on the spot, thanks a lot

  • @joseph8468
    @joseph8468 8 місяців тому +8

    Thank you, thank you, thank you, TM.

  • @tarothijadevenus4017
    @tarothijadevenus4017 4 місяці тому +2

    Thank you Tim ☺️🙏🏻❤️🇨🇱

  • @Lioness_of_Gaia
    @Lioness_of_Gaia 8 місяців тому +4

    Thanks so much! ❤😊

  • @cherrrryyyycherrybaby
    @cherrrryyyycherrybaby 4 місяці тому +2

    this content is amazing! so grateful for this

  • @ingridwright5927
    @ingridwright5927 8 місяців тому +3

    Thank you

  • @justinheer9098
    @justinheer9098 8 місяців тому +3

    Present = attuned

  • @CuddleClaw.
    @CuddleClaw. 3 місяці тому +1

    I love this

  • @claireh.7605
    @claireh.7605 3 місяці тому +1

    My grandma mom and aunt would get worried and agitated if I did something to meet my own needs - they had to get involved and disrupt me if I sat on a chair, laid down to rest, ate or exercised. Like they have to feel dominant over me meeting my needs and if I kill myself inside and act like a dead passive animal focused on pleasing them, then they feel happy and at peace.

    • @cubanadiense
      @cubanadiense 3 місяці тому

      ❤️‍🩹I hope the rest of your life you be surrounded by people who value and appreciate you just as you are , just for being you with the goods and imperfections , ppl who appreciate you as you so much deserve

  • @lindsay5305
    @lindsay5305 7 місяців тому +2

    Agree with all the eight so far, but not the appreciation one. That comes from an unmet need 32:35.
    Validation is not praise. Thats the type of thing people seek via social media for instance. Validation is listening, accepting and understanding your child. You have the wrong definition of validation 33:14.
    33:14 they feel love when they believe they are loved.

  • @kelseystout8360
    @kelseystout8360 3 місяці тому +2

    Is it even possible to find someone in the world who will give you all 8 of these things at once? Because I never have, and I don't think I ever will.

    • @milliewoo337
      @milliewoo337 3 місяці тому +3

      Yes, I believe there are those out there in recovery from the same soul wounds that know how important this is, and even if they can’t do it perfectly, they will continue to get up and try everyday because they know it makes their life fuller to give the gift to someone else.

  • @christinehex1238
    @christinehex1238 3 місяці тому

    Can anyone provide the link to part 1 of this? ❤🙏

    • @Cutest1TheGame
      @Cutest1TheGame Місяць тому

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  • @patriciamuller72
    @patriciamuller72 4 місяці тому

    💙🙏🏼

  • @19hotlipz81
    @19hotlipz81 8 місяців тому

    How do I find the last video? Can't find it in newest vids, or this one in fact. Last one I see was one month ago! Thanks

    • @19hotlipz81
      @19hotlipz81 8 місяців тому +1

      Nm, found it in search. Not sure why these 2 new vids aren't showing up on the channel page though in 'Latest'.

    • @19hotlipz81
      @19hotlipz81 8 місяців тому +1

      Omg, found them in 'Live' didn't even know there were other videos in there. Will have missed so many XD

    • @lorihilliard9956
      @lorihilliard9956 8 місяців тому

      @@19hotlipz81what do you mean by, you found them in the live? I’m unable to find the first one that goes with this one. Would really appreciate your help! Thank you!

  • @katebueno191
    @katebueno191 4 місяці тому +1

    Does anyone know why this people who claim to have evidence sees the need to go around !! Getting false evidence that they create to prove a point ??

  • @Me-fs5mi
    @Me-fs5mi 3 місяці тому +1

    Born to be used.