It took over a year of dedicated searching for an answer to low functioning depression and trauma to finally land on Tim's videos. I think UA-cam tends not to recommend religious ones because there's almost always a Christian component at the end.
Another reason for people with complex trauma being unable to be concise (I'm speculating here) is they lack the practice others have. It takes practice and feedback to be concise.
These videos are incredible. I am an ACOA and suffer from complex trauma and you have answered the questions I have had all my life. Why am I nervous all the time and there isn't anything to be nervous about but yet it's still there. I also grew up in a dogmatic, damning God church so that has really affected me. I am in recovery and making progress, but changing all of this is extremely hard especially when it's subconscious. I am currently studying to become a Complex PTSD coach hoping to help others someday. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for producing these videos.
Your videos have been a big blessing recently, working out how to have healthier relationships with others. I particularly appreciate the way you talk about a healthy approach to faith. This is such a tricky area having been in environments where faith based concepts are used in unhealthy ways. Thank you for the work you do!
Don't worry i was at the same place and it helps identify what happened to you and when it happened then you get clarity then you use the tools to get through it and live daily life.
Part of talking on and on, even if I can't remember what I am talking about, is because I have to insert my thoughts or the other person will keep talking and move past the topic. I have to start talking on the thought immediately, which means I have no chance to summarize in my head before verbalizing, so it ends up being my stream of consciousness. I want to participate, but often get cutoff when I take too long to breathe between sentences. Thus, I have to fill the void even if my brain has not caught up yet. Also, defense. Because when I am concise, my statement gets picked apart, so I try to close the gaps first, before the criticism hits. I wasn't like this before. I think it was journaling during trauma that unlocked it.
I lost the desire to connect with others a long time ago. I haven’t had a friend since I was 13 years old. I am now 36 years old. I have tried to connect, in years past, but that deep and natural longing is dead. It feels more like hard labor with no return and extreme exhaustion. No pleasure derived.
I very much enjoyed this talk. I noticed a lot of information about language and I'd very much like to further read on the theory of language and communication from your sources. Is there a way I can access your sources (books and-or articles)? Thank you!
Can you speak on standing up to a friend for shaming me and losing the friendship. I'm ok with it cause I'm practicing principles before personality I learned in coda I also learned to speak up for myself ..the scenario was me going to work sick and that person shamed me and I stood up for myself.
Sometimes we go into that inner child that has powerful dependency needs. So when we stick up for ourselves, we can feel like we’re losing that dependent (survival threat for a child). It’s just really conditioning. So we can have a lot of anxiety when we actually hold boundaries. It just takes practice. You’re doing great!
Hello, Rachel! I realize I’m replying to an older message but did you see his video explaining why yet? He said that Jesus meant to align our desires with His and that alignment is how we would approach God with our desires, not needing to ask in Jesus’ name. He explained it better than I just did but it was definitely a specific response to why he doesn’t close, “in Jesus’s name.” ***Anger and Complex Trauma-Part 9/11 Characteristics of Abusers (4 years ago)***
How do these Videos not have Millions of likes and views?
I agree….Tim is fabulous. 👌
Exactly what I was thinking and then I saw your comment ❤
It took over a year of dedicated searching for an answer to low functioning depression and trauma to finally land on Tim's videos. I think UA-cam tends not to recommend religious ones because there's almost always a Christian component at the end.
Another reason for people with complex trauma being unable to be concise (I'm speculating here) is they lack the practice others have. It takes practice and feedback to be concise.
I struggle with this and I believe it could also be related to whether you feel safe, respected, and valued in the conversation
Nonviolent Communication developed by Marshall Rosenberg changed my life
HI !!! It's always great when you come across my feed. 😊
These videos are incredible. I am an ACOA and suffer from complex trauma and you have answered the questions I have had all my life. Why am I nervous all the time and there isn't anything to be nervous about but yet it's still there. I also grew up in a dogmatic, damning God church so that has really affected me. I am in recovery and making progress, but changing all of this is extremely hard especially when it's subconscious. I am currently studying to become a Complex PTSD coach hoping to help others someday. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for producing these videos.
Yes and Amen.
TMS treatment is a hopeful option. It reduced my startling response.
God bless you, you are offering so much to people who so much need it. God bless you a thousand times ❤
Your videos have been a big blessing recently, working out how to have healthier relationships with others. I particularly appreciate the way you talk about a healthy approach to faith. This is such a tricky area having been in environments where faith based concepts are used in unhealthy ways. Thank you for the work you do!
Thank- you for sharing this information for free.
I have had to learn many of these things the hard way.
Don't worry i was at the same place and it helps identify what happened to you and when it happened then you get clarity then you use the tools to get through it and live daily life.
Part of talking on and on, even if I can't remember what I am talking about, is because I have to insert my thoughts or the other person will keep talking and move past the topic. I have to start talking on the thought immediately, which means I have no chance to summarize in my head before verbalizing, so it ends up being my stream of consciousness. I want to participate, but often get cutoff when I take too long to breathe between sentences. Thus, I have to fill the void even if my brain has not caught up yet.
Also, defense. Because when I am concise, my statement gets picked apart, so I try to close the gaps first, before the criticism hits.
I wasn't like this before. I think it was journaling during trauma that unlocked it.
I lost the desire to connect with others a long time ago. I haven’t had a friend since I was 13 years old. I am now 36 years old.
I have tried to connect, in years past, but that deep and natural longing is dead. It feels more like hard labor with no return and extreme exhaustion. No pleasure derived.
I agree
Don’t give up looking for your people. They are out there looking for you too. Be open to miracles ❤
Excellent. Thank you.
As of now he s my hero
Thank you 🙏🏽
thank you！
I very much enjoyed this talk. I noticed a lot of information about language and I'd very much like to further read on the theory of language and communication from your sources. Is there a way I can access your sources (books and-or articles)? Thank you!
Thankyou very,very much.😊
Can you speak on standing up to a friend for shaming me and losing the friendship. I'm ok with it cause I'm practicing principles before personality I learned in coda I also learned to speak up for myself ..the scenario was me going to work sick and that person shamed me and I stood up for myself.
It doesn’t sound like they were a genuine friend.
Sometimes we go into that inner child that has powerful dependency needs. So when we stick up for ourselves, we can feel like we’re losing that dependent (survival threat for a child). It’s just really conditioning. So we can have a lot of anxiety when we actually hold boundaries. It just takes practice. You’re doing great!
9.g and h) hit home
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When you close with prayer, why do you not ask in JESUS name?
Hello, Rachel! I realize I’m replying to an older message but did you see his video explaining why yet? He said that Jesus meant to align our desires with His and that alignment is how we would approach God with our desires, not needing to ask in Jesus’ name. He explained it better than I just did but it was definitely a specific response to why he doesn’t close, “in Jesus’s name.”
***Anger and Complex Trauma-Part 9/11 Characteristics of Abusers (4 years ago)***