I realized that I struggled with food addiction, conditioned from a childhood of poor food choice, ignorance of healthy eating, emotions, and healthy coping skills. After I contracted Covid, bed ridden due to being morbidly obese (384lbs) my entire adult life, I woke up to the detriment of my health. I researched low carb, limited carbs, ate healthy, and ended up losing 184lbs in 15 months with little to no exercise. Losing the weight was difficult, but it paled in comparison to switching back to allowing carbs into my life. Learning how to balance a healthy plate, preventing binge eating, and facing emotions instead of eating them is a struggle I still face 2 years later. Every day is a battle of healthy choices, but it's worth it. Being healthy is hard, yet having weight issues is hard. I find myself deciding between these two difficulties constantly.
@gember1382 thank you kindly! That's one of my hardest lessons is talking to myself like a friend would and not a domineering parent when a mistake is made Thanks for the reminder
The same :D I've got CPTSD, I'm in Somatic Expirencing based therapy right now, meditate on the scriptures every day as a cathlic reconvert, and this channel comes right on time. Praised be Jesus Christ! :D
I would like to add that workaholism is another “socially acceptable” addiction as well. I was even recommended a video that was titled The Workaholic Mindset and there were thousands of positive comments.
😂😂😂Thousands of positive comments made me chuckle bc you are so right. It is so sociable acceptable and right at the top of the list. I wonder if he addresses this or he struggles
I was in a daycare since I was 1 y.o. I didn't make emotional connection with my mother in healthy way. She was always busy with household and my sisters and I was always pushed aside. Only time I felt she loves me was when she gave me food or better yet sweets. When I was a teenager I tried to navigate all that chaotic changes. She became very angry and cruel woman and I felt zero support, love or connection. So I turned to food to make me feel somewhat good but it came with weight gain so it only worsened my overall situation. Anytime I think about changing my eating habits my brain start to panic that I will lose my only source of safety, love, happiness, connection. The more I try to push through the worse my mental state is. I really don't know how to cope with life in other way.
I really need more teaching on this subject and how to overcome my struggle with food. It's my only vice and as a stay at home mom it's impossible to get away from. I know I'm using food for comfort and anxiety relief but I can only go a few weeks without using food inappropriately. My mom was always on a new diet and my dad was always celebrating with a bucket of ice cream or two. I'm a mess. Lots of shame.
Talk about mixed messages from your parents 😮 I have the same issues around food. I try to see food as an ally rather than a foe. So I love to cook and see where I can nurture myself with it, and be sociable with it, as I would for a child in my care. I notice I binge on rubbish if I'm tired or hungry when no good food is available nearby or emotionally upset. Don't beat yourself if you slip, it's not a diet but a way of life, and a way to love and nurture and respect yourself ❤❤
Spot on man. When your 10 the one thing you can control is what you put in your face. I think for me that little bit of control was a faux safety in my life.
Yes!! I remember sitting in my closet and stuffing my face with chocolate chips (the only sweet thing we had in the house.) I was a binge eater before it was cool.
God absolutely led me to this video.. I have struggled with eating disorders, body shame, and food addicition majority of my life.. I am 26 and God is finally addressing the root of this problem and healing my soul. God bless you for your teaching and exposing the truth!
Thank you so much, Tim, for all of the information/facts/research on CPTSD that you put out there for us out here, trying to heal. Combined with your wisdom and perception, I’ve learned so much after discovering your channel a month ago. Lots more to go. A lifetime, maybe, but I find your videos to be so accurate. I never thought I’d end up listening to “sermons” from the Bible (as much faith as I do have)ever again for having so many religions shoved down my throat growing up. But I absolutely love your Bible stories and Biblical interpretations, as well! Please keep sharing your incredible insights, they’ve already helped my life. I’m very grateful to have stumbled across your channel. It wasn’t an accident. God bless you.
I looked for this video as soon as woke up. It didnt work last night. Glad it's up today. Appreciate these videos so much. I watch the 600 lb life and those people seem just like us addicts of substances.
I do feel dead inside and outside. I have to use exercise and food to make my life livable. I grew up in a family that only could make me feel hated, ignored and left behind. Then they made phone calls, ruined career opportunities for me taught me to think I was not worth knowing.
Ok, here again and this is my addiction and I am single. Even when I go with friends I still have an urge to eat more. Also, I suffer from depression and anxiety so it's a two edge sword. We shall see if this can help. I want to heal but struggling. In everything we try to fix the symptoms. Is anyone whole out here? Guess just levels of dysfunction
Very sorry that these toxic people tried to break your spirit! My toxic fam did their best with me too! But I was clinging to my Creator, and read in the bible:"I called you by name, you are Mine"inJesaya 43. Then I started seeing them all for who they were...hippocrates, with no real love in them. ..the whole family. And I distanced myself from all, as much as I could till leaving age 18 years old.
Please do not judge how you feel. Feeling dead inside and outside might be the discovery that there is no boundaries beinside and outside. And that peace is here. It is the way it it. The fullness of life and the emptiness of life. You perceive them both. So it could not be you.
This is so valuable video! It should be seen by most people in our culture today. I experienced food addiction myself in the past. So I really understand what this is all about. I pray that this teaching will reach much more attention 🙌🏻
I know I have annissue with food. Going carnivore is helping me see where those issues are. After sustaining and then eating that cheesecake and feeling dreadful helps me see that feeding my emotions isn't helpful. I get to sit with myself and think through that negative emotion
I’ve noticed that I use food in attempt to replenish my energy from emotional exhaustion. My mother has always used me as her emotional dumpster. It leaves me feeling physically, mentally, and emotionally drained. It took me many years to catch onto what was happening. I’ve been working setting boundaries and making better choices but it’s not easy.
Please talk about food and roles given for men and women, and their children regardless of gender. How and who cooks, prepares, teaches, cooking together or individually. Working outside of the home or working inside of home.
Anorexia & binge / purge were the only ‘eating disorders’ that would get recognition and awareness about their trauma connection. As long as the person was skinny, it was accepted and deserving of therapy. Ones that lead to obesity on the other hand, the person is equated to irresponsibility and character faults. Hopefully things are changing for everyone affected by trauma induced eating disorders.
I have had bulimia since my early 20s. Now i am 50 and still purging occasionally. I have mostly control over it through Keto. I look down on over weight women. I cant change my disgust for it. I know in my head that its wrong. I believe and man will leave his wife if she turns fat. By Gods grace i have gotten better over the last 10 years. I been listening to your lectures and its been such a blessing to work through it properly. I dont want to be this person. I want to be free from this. I dont believe anyone will love me if im chubby... 😢 I self isolate and dont even know how to be with people...
Sadly the health information is corrupt …the Food Pyramid guidance was corrupt…we didn’t have these eating disorders when people ate traditional diets …Trauma is so real affecting this but our diet template was wrecked …Jason Fung KenDBerry and my channel try to address some of this -this is so spot on with using food as a way to deal with pain versus way to nourish ourselves …processed food is addictive whereas traditional unprocessed diets are not nearly as addictive …Mindy Pelz channel is also really helpful
Contrave/Mysimba helps with CPTSD issued food problems. It helps to maintain dopamine levels and shuts down overactive opioidsystem, which makes people addicted to alcohol and sugar. Opioidsystem overactivates due abandonments.
@@katrinat.3032 Well, in my native language I google "overactive opioidsystem" and get hits. Also you can google naltrexone, it is the medicine which helps to dissociation and food and alcohol gravings.
I appreciate all of your lessons but this bible part was superb very amusing, ilustrative and very helpful on trying to get closer to God and His perspective. Thank you and God bless!!
Faith has a lot to do with facing fear which takes time and conscious effort if God didn't allow us that time how could we ever learn to trust in him our knowledge of Good and Evil makes us prone to doubt then we choose to overcome that fear, doubt, anxiety because we remember the times that God reveals himself to us both personally and as a people historically
One big thing that i do not agree with you is, that God gives us sickness, emotional problems and fiscical problems. That is not true at all. Its our own thoughts , desires, and will that is causing that!!!!! You need to fix that and stop teaching that. !!!!
I understand the trust being taught in therapy lesson 1 and 2 but 3 sounds like God is teaching dependence. So I sort of don’t understand that part and how it’s healthy.
This lecture is very damaging. There is no food addiction. Tim as one of human in our society lecture big BS. It is not cultural. It is complication of SPTSD, but we does not want treat it.
I am so unbelievably bored with life that food is the only thing that keeps me entertained
Living alone I find that food is an event. A friend to hangout with.
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I feel this.
Same here, I don't like eating with others anymore. It's like an event I cherish. Like the highlight of my day.
Same
I realized that I struggled with food addiction, conditioned from a childhood of poor food choice, ignorance of healthy eating, emotions, and healthy coping skills.
After I contracted Covid, bed ridden due to being morbidly obese (384lbs) my entire adult life, I woke up to the detriment of my health. I researched low carb, limited carbs, ate healthy, and ended up losing 184lbs in 15 months with little to no exercise.
Losing the weight was difficult, but it paled in comparison to switching back to allowing carbs into my life. Learning how to balance a healthy plate, preventing binge eating, and facing emotions instead of eating them is a struggle I still face 2 years later.
Every day is a battle of healthy choices, but it's worth it. Being healthy is hard, yet having weight issues is hard. I find myself deciding between these two difficulties constantly.
That's really fantastic. I hope you admire that accomplishment every day.
@@jenni4claire I really needed that compliment today. Thank you kindly!
@@labradonretriever2043We're all on the same team here.
Have a good weekend!
Very relatable. Keep being gentle with yourself, even if it's hard. You're doing great ❤
@gember1382 thank you kindly! That's one of my hardest lessons is talking to myself like a friend would and not a domineering parent when a mistake is made
Thanks for the reminder
This is crazy God has definetly led me to your channel and teachings. Praise God and thank you so much!🤗
The same :D I've got CPTSD, I'm in Somatic Expirencing based therapy right now, meditate on the scriptures every day as a cathlic reconvert, and this channel comes right on time. Praised be Jesus Christ! :D
I was thinking the same thing!!!❤️
I would like to add that workaholism is another “socially acceptable” addiction as well. I was even recommended a video that was titled The Workaholic Mindset and there were thousands of positive comments.
😂😂😂Thousands of positive comments made me chuckle bc you are so right. It is so sociable acceptable and right at the top of the list. I wonder if he addresses this or he struggles
Gambling too, just saw that
I'd rather be looked at like a 'loser' than be a workaholic
Very true. Although a lot of people who brag about how hard they work actually resent their job.
The point about emotional, spiritual, relational, intellectual hunger is a revelation. Thank you
I was in a daycare since I was 1 y.o. I didn't make emotional connection with my mother in healthy way. She was always busy with household and my sisters and I was always pushed aside. Only time I felt she loves me was when she gave me food or better yet sweets. When I was a teenager I tried to navigate all that chaotic changes. She became very angry and cruel woman and I felt zero support, love or connection. So I turned to food to make me feel somewhat good but it came with weight gain so it only worsened my overall situation. Anytime I think about changing my eating habits my brain start to panic that I will lose my only source of safety, love, happiness, connection. The more I try to push through the worse my mental state is. I really don't know how to cope with life in other way.
I really need more teaching on this subject and how to overcome my struggle with food. It's my only vice and as a stay at home mom it's impossible to get away from. I know I'm using food for comfort and anxiety relief but I can only go a few weeks without using food inappropriately. My mom was always on a new diet and my dad was always celebrating with a bucket of ice cream or two. I'm a mess. Lots of shame.
Talk about mixed messages from your parents 😮 I have the same issues around food. I try to see food as an ally rather than a foe. So I love to cook and see where I can nurture myself with it, and be sociable with it, as I would for a child in my care. I notice I binge on rubbish if I'm tired or hungry when no good food is available nearby or emotionally upset. Don't beat yourself if you slip, it's not a diet but a way of life, and a way to love and nurture and respect yourself ❤❤
I am working on my shame with breathing techniques and meditation.
Spot on man. When your 10 the one thing you can control is what you put in your face. I think for me that little bit of control was a faux safety in my life.
Yes!! I remember sitting in my closet and stuffing my face with chocolate chips (the only sweet thing we had in the house.) I was a binge eater before it was cool.
God absolutely led me to this video.. I have struggled with eating disorders, body shame, and food addicition majority of my life.. I am 26 and God is finally addressing the root of this problem and healing my soul. God bless you for your teaching and exposing the truth!
God has done a lot for me. On his schedule. Amazing to be told by someone, “I’ve never seen all three processes be completed this fast.” Thank God.
Thank you so much, Tim, for all of the information/facts/research on CPTSD that you put out there for us out here, trying to heal. Combined with your wisdom and perception, I’ve learned so much after discovering your channel a month ago. Lots more to go. A lifetime, maybe, but I find your videos to be so accurate. I never thought I’d end up listening to “sermons” from the Bible (as much faith as I do have)ever again for having so many religions shoved down my throat growing up. But I absolutely love your Bible stories and Biblical interpretations, as well! Please keep sharing your incredible insights, they’ve already helped my life. I’m very grateful to have stumbled across your channel. It wasn’t an accident. God bless you.
I looked for this video as soon as woke up. It didnt work last night. Glad it's up today. Appreciate these videos so much. I watch the 600 lb life and those people seem just like us addicts of substances.
I do feel dead inside and outside. I have to use exercise and food to make my life livable. I grew up in a family that only could make me feel hated, ignored and left behind. Then they made phone calls, ruined career opportunities for me taught me to think I was not worth knowing.
Ok, here again and this is my addiction and I am single. Even when I go with friends I still have an urge to eat more. Also, I suffer from depression and anxiety so it's a two edge sword. We shall see if this can help. I want to heal but struggling. In everything we try to fix the symptoms. Is anyone whole out here? Guess just levels of dysfunction
Very sorry that these toxic people tried to break your spirit! My toxic fam did their best with me too!
But I was clinging to my Creator, and read in the bible:"I called you by name, you are Mine"inJesaya 43. Then I started seeing them all for who they were...hippocrates, with no real love in them. ..the whole family. And I distanced myself from all, as much as I could till leaving age 18 years old.
How are you doing now?
😢Very sorry for what you went through. I send you love and hugs and know that you matter and you are needed in this world. Keep Healing ❤️🩹
Please do not judge how you feel. Feeling dead inside and outside might be the discovery that there is no boundaries beinside and outside.
And that peace is here.
It is the way it it.
The fullness of life and the emptiness of life.
You perceive them both.
So it could not be you.
This is so valuable video! It should be seen by most people in our culture today. I experienced food addiction myself in the past. So I really understand what this is all about. I pray that this teaching will reach much more attention 🙌🏻
The Christian part was especially helpful to understand the content in a spiritual context. Thank you so much!!
What a powerful teaching. I have never understood the patience in trial more than from this video. ❤
I know I have annissue with food. Going carnivore is helping me see where those issues are. After sustaining and then eating that cheesecake and feeling dreadful helps me see that feeding my emotions isn't helpful. I get to sit with myself and think through that negative emotion
I’ve noticed that I use food in attempt to replenish my energy from emotional exhaustion. My mother has always used me as her emotional dumpster. It leaves me feeling physically, mentally, and emotionally drained. It took me many years to catch onto what was happening. I’ve been working setting boundaries and making better choices but it’s not easy.
Please talk about food and roles given for men and women, and their children regardless of gender. How and who cooks, prepares, teaches, cooking together or individually. Working outside of the home or working inside of home.
Emotional anorexia, those words have been quite startling for a few years... thinking that somehow that fit me.
Mr Fletcher, thank you, these videos are invaluable to me.
Anorexia & binge / purge were the only ‘eating disorders’ that would get recognition and awareness about their trauma connection. As long as the person was skinny, it was accepted and deserving of therapy. Ones that lead to obesity on the other hand, the person is equated to irresponsibility and character faults. Hopefully things are changing for everyone affected by trauma induced eating disorders.
Insightful stuff. Thanks for sharing. You kept the religion till the end and I appreciate that.
I have had bulimia since my early 20s. Now i am 50 and still purging occasionally. I have mostly control over it through Keto. I look down on over weight women. I cant change my disgust for it. I know in my head that its wrong. I believe and man will leave his wife if she turns fat. By Gods grace i have gotten better over the last 10 years. I been listening to your lectures and its been such a blessing to work through it properly. I dont want to be this person. I want to be free from this. I dont believe anyone will love me if im chubby... 😢 I self isolate and dont even know how to be with people...
great work and information, god bless you.
Thank you very much for this helpful video presentation. And I really loved the lessons about trusting God as well.
THANK YOU ❤ MUCH BLESSINGS FROM GERMANY
How you explain food to emotional needs is very insightful. I am benefiting greatly through your teachings.
This man knows
Sadly the health information is corrupt …the Food Pyramid guidance was corrupt…we didn’t have these eating disorders when people ate traditional diets …Trauma is so real affecting this but our diet template was wrecked …Jason Fung KenDBerry and my channel try to address some of this -this is so spot on with using food as a way to deal with pain versus way to nourish ourselves …processed food is addictive whereas traditional unprocessed diets are not nearly as addictive …Mindy Pelz channel is also really helpful
Contrave/Mysimba helps with CPTSD issued food problems. It helps to maintain dopamine levels and shuts down overactive opioidsystem, which makes people addicted to alcohol and sugar. Opioidsystem overactivates due abandonments.
Really? Where did you get this information? The reason I’m asking is because I’m completely addicted to sugar and feel like I was abandoned.
@@katrinat.3032 Well, in my native language I google "overactive opioidsystem" and get hits. Also you can google naltrexone, it is the medicine which helps to dissociation and food and alcohol gravings.
..what is that?
A medicine for depression, exhaustion, addictions, dissociation and it is used for loosing weight.
Is there a place where these are organized? I can’t find part 1 for this portion.
Under his channel is playlists, it’s under the healthy tools playlist i think
Verbal abuse at the kitchen table
Same. And everywhere else, too, but especially there. We were trapped there, like in the car.
Danke!
I appreciate all of your lessons but this bible part was superb very amusing, ilustrative and very helpful on trying to get closer to God and His perspective. Thank you and God bless!!
I wish focused on solutions and what we can do.
People would treat me bad, so I would go home and make nice dinner .
I'd like to know what ed isn't connected to complex trauma
Some people push themselves because of shame thinking patterns imo
Faith has a lot to do with facing fear which takes time and conscious effort if God didn't allow us that time how could we ever learn to trust in him our knowledge of Good and Evil makes us prone to doubt then we choose to overcome that fear, doubt, anxiety because we remember the times that God reveals himself to us both personally and as a people historically
The piller of fier is a volcano , Santorini.
Am sorry our culture is doing that to make money not to serve poeple
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Food is my drug. Very unhealthy habits
One big thing that i do not agree with you is, that God gives us sickness, emotional problems and fiscical problems. That is not true at all.
Its our own thoughts , desires, and will that is causing that!!!!!
You need to fix that and stop teaching that. !!!!
14:18
I understand the trust being taught in therapy lesson 1 and 2 but 3 sounds like God is teaching dependence. So I sort of don’t understand that part and how it’s healthy.
Yeah blame it on the women you blame it on the mom you blamed it on the grandma
It was only an example
This lecture is very damaging. There is no food addiction. Tim as one of human in our society lecture big BS. It is not cultural. It is complication of SPTSD, but we does not want treat it.