8 A++ Awesome authentic articulation and explanation of Attachment. Your insights are Invaluable/priceless masterpiece, card/ key. Thank you for all you do to help people like me. 19:22
So excellent! My father was fear of engulfment, my mother fear of abandonment! Always conflicts! I wish I had all of this knowledge growing up! It was all just awkward and unsettling
And now i’ve become that mother. To realize this is so ambivalent. One side is deliberation the otherside is grief that I didn’t understand this before my kids were born… I take both feelings in and work to accept and forgive so I can cultivate more heartfelt energy and my growth can help me, my parents and my chilldren ❤
Thank you for sharing this--the conflict between enmeshment and abandonment is probably the biggest thing at the moment driving my difficult relationship with my parents.
This helped me understand more about where my parents were coming from, I think I may have had one with a fear of enmeshing and another with a fear of abandoning. Bc I see it play in their dynamic and I often have conflicting thoughts on both sides. So insightful, thanks.
Thank you so much Tim. I feel so much validated. Its like I have an enabler in me that for me to recognize toxic behaviours from my family I have to pass trugh a fog
Thank you very much, Dear Tim. All you say is helpful, valuable, and deeply healing. May God bless and greatly reward you. I am just wondering where is the Christian spiritual part! I really missed it so much. Please consider adding it again if possible.
I definitely feel seen and heard on this one. So many things on this list has crossed my mind and i have thought about these things in all my relationships.
"Not good." Yes, definitely. One of my parents feared abandonment and the other feared engulfment. Awful. Then I repeated it. Horrible. Trying to move forward in a healthy way. It feels wrong, but I'm not giving up on getting there.
It cannot be stressed enough that a baby and child is so dependent (until they leave the nest) and this makes them vulnerable to all this trauma if they are not nurtured in a healthy way. On engulfment I have noticed that later in life people who have that style of attachment go over and above doing things to please but create a home of learned helplessness as they learnt to be accepted was parentification with chores but no emotional needs and think that this means they deserve your devotion and their kids, learn that they cannot care for themselves and it is passed on to the next generation sadly.
Sometimes I include them, sometimes I don't - it comes down to how long I ramble about the Complex Trauma part (because sometimes there is a lot to say!) but I keep each video under an hour. Thank you for the valuable feedback - I really appreciate it and will keep this in mind!
Thank you, Tim
I listen to your videos a lot. You are a calm voice. I discover a lot about myself and my life. I am thankful for you.
You are welcome.
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I have fear of being overwhelmed by this content! I'm pretty tired!
8 A++ Awesome authentic articulation and explanation of Attachment. Your insights are Invaluable/priceless masterpiece, card/ key. Thank you for all you do to help people like me. 19:22
I had no idea that attachment was missing from my life. It feels so good to know that that was something that I needed.
So excellent! My father was fear of engulfment, my mother fear of abandonment! Always conflicts! I wish I had all of this knowledge growing up! It was all just awkward and unsettling
Same here
And now i’ve become that mother. To realize this is so ambivalent. One side is deliberation the otherside is grief that I didn’t understand this before my kids were born… I take both feelings in and work to accept and forgive so I can cultivate more heartfelt energy and my growth can help me, my parents and my chilldren ❤
Tim, Serious. You` re a Genius!
Thank you, Tim. Have a great weekend. 💜
Thank you for sharing this--the conflict between enmeshment and abandonment is probably the biggest thing at the moment driving my difficult relationship with my parents.
I have someone I think needs to hear this. It makes so much sense for someone who fears attachment but also is afraid of commitment.
This helped me understand more about where my parents were coming from, I think I may have had one with a fear of enmeshing and another with a fear of abandoning. Bc I see it play in their dynamic and I often have conflicting thoughts on both sides. So insightful, thanks.
Thank you so much Tim. I feel so much validated. Its like I have an enabler in me that for me to recognize toxic behaviours from my family I have to pass trugh a fog
Thank you Tim ❤
Have a great weekend doctor Tim
You can't imagine how much I wait your videoklips every week 😊
Another wonderful articulation of how dysfunctional my inner self is.🤦🏼♀️
Thank you very much, Dear Tim. All you say is helpful, valuable, and deeply healing. May God bless and greatly reward you. I am just wondering where is the Christian spiritual part! I really missed it so much. Please consider adding it again if possible.
Agree!
Disagree
I definitely feel seen and heard on this one. So many things on this list has crossed my mind and i have thought about these things in all my relationships.
THIS is an ANSWER TO PRAYERS ❣️🙏🏼
05:40 1Attachment
13:15 2Authenticity
17:50 3Autonomy
Tkank you! Dziękuję!
"Not good." Yes, definitely. One of my parents feared abandonment and the other feared engulfment. Awful. Then I repeated it. Horrible. Trying to move forward in a healthy way. It feels wrong, but I'm not giving up on getting there.
I have been both at different times 😢 healing now
Thank you, Tim ❤❤💕💕🙏🙏
Good talk. It makes me think of the differences between gender.
So good. Really appreciate your talks.
Thank you 🙏🏽
AMAZING!
these is so impotent for me ,,thank you Tim .where can i get the slides of these lectures ? thank you !
It cannot be stressed enough that a baby and child is so dependent (until they leave the nest) and this makes them vulnerable to all this trauma if they are not nurtured in a healthy way. On engulfment I have noticed that later in life people who have that style of attachment go over and above doing things to please but create a home of learned helplessness as they learnt to be accepted was parentification with chores but no emotional needs and think that this means they deserve your devotion and their kids, learn that they cannot care for themselves and it is passed on to the next generation sadly.
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What the rest of the 8?
Edit: Found them
• Attachment
• Authenticity
• Autonomy
• Attention
• Acceptance
• Appreciation
• Affection
• Allowing
Thanks
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Am I schizophrenic? I’m seeing both of these characteristics in pieces and parts…
I miss the Christian portion at the ends of the videos
Me too.
Same here what happened ?
Sometimes I include them, sometimes I don't - it comes down to how long I ramble about the Complex Trauma part (because sometimes there is a lot to say!) but I keep each video under an hour. Thank you for the valuable feedback - I really appreciate it and will keep this in mind!
@TimFletcher thanks tim , either way I love all of you're stuff thanks for doing what you do
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