Do Stubborn Exes Think About You?
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- Опубліковано 13 лип 2019
- You probably wonder if your stubborn ex even thinks about you since the breakup. The truth of the matter is that they do, even if they won't admit it!
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My ex broke up with me a year and a half ago and after a year and a couple of months of no contact he reached out to apologise for his behaviour during the breakup. Of course I had moved on already, and I have been in a wonderful new relationship for almost a year now. Don't lose hope guys, I thought my ex was one of the most stubborn person alive (and he probably is) but he still managed to forget his pride and reach out.
Gsi it’s almost a year i broke up with my ex, still no sign from him to contact me first and the worst part is we are working in the same office and he kinda attention seeker in the office. But I will not lower my standards to pay attention to him first unless it’s work related
This is what I'm hoping for.
My ex is kind of person once decide never look back... He broke up with me 31 days ago, and said I made him not peaceful from the past one year long distance relationship. My heart broke. Soul splited.
Gsip thank you!!
One of my friend brokeup with his only gf and never look back for 6 years:(((
Yeah, my ex gf came back after months.. 4-6 I think, wasn’t counting. they wanted to experience life without me, turns out the grass wasn’t greener, so I let them experience it forever:)
Right on!
Smart!
Artificial turf is fake. But some exes have to fall on it to know that it is not real.
in a ldr 3 years relationship + 1 year of friendship. broke up with me 6 months ago. zero signs. no usage of Instagram he no longer sees my stories. no action no signs nothing. I've been in no contact for that long. this is an extreme avoidant isn't it.... it still hurts a lot. is it possible..... for him to reach out....
it was when cover broke out in march, he got more depressed and couldn't keep up with connecting with me... I have left him alone since and work on myself daily.
Great result!
Of course even the most stubborn ex will think of you if they had real feelings for you, but thoughts are not ACTIONS. Unless the ex is ready, willing and able to pursue a healthy relationship w you than all the thoughts in the world won’t make a difference!!
Id like to share my success story. After nearly 5 months I am back with my ex after he left me for another woman which crumbled after 1 month. We still lived together but were living seperate lives. He finally confessed to me that he never stopped loving me and cried everynight in a hotel room over a picture of me. He said he was too scared to admit it and didn't think he deserved me. I did the work and focussed on bettering myself and he told me that it killed him to see me thriving while he was falling apart. Stay strong.
I am happy for you. It does give us hope.
Beautiful story
Ugh, how awful that must have been living together with your ex after you broke up and he has a new girlfriend or maybe not...
My loser ex left me for another woman too. He dumped me hard. The next week, my sister saw him with that woman. I couldn't eat or sleep for weeks. Going to work at my job is impossible. I had to take a week off to recover.
Sometimes it’s just best to move on. The exes do think of you but it may not involve getting back together and you are just wasting time hoping for reconciliation.
Well said almost 2years broke up 1 year no contact sick of hoping and wasting the time that I should be spending on my self
Pink Cashmere Amen well said👍🏽
Robert Barton I hear you. You deserve to give yourself all that love energy. Not everyone is worthy of your gifts hun.
These videos are good as a coping mechanism but shouldn't be taken as solid evidence. It's relatable so that is what that makes it comforting but our end goal should be to work on ourselves.
I agree. As much as I would love a specific ex to reach out to me. Obsessing over someone reaching out and thinking about them doesn’t help the personal development side of things.
Most of the time they are not stubborn. They just don't love you anymore. They don't need you anymore. They are not attracted to you anymore. They just moved on.
Maybe they will come back, but don't wait. Be the best version of yourself. If they come back and you are a better person and you still want your ex it's a win-win. If not, its still a win. A win for you. For your life. For your future.
I'm in the same situation. I wish you all the best.
True,their feelings have changed.
Any woman who asks you for space, give them the galaxy. Don't play that game.
Haha. The guy in the story is not that stubborn if he already contacts her after a couple of weeks. Both of my exes contacted me after 6 months. Now that is stubbornness.
Tomorrow, our break-up is gonna last exactly the same amount as the relationship it self. We dated for 5 months. I’ve been in no contact for 4 months. Not a single peep.
@@JazzaLv99 did they come back?
@@heather-df6nc no they found another partner and they seemed miserable. I think they broke up and now he went to live in Japan and I assume they found another partner. Stopped stalking them afterwards. Either ways wishing them all the best.. I myself changed countries too and live in the UK now and I’m dating a much much better person now
The problem is that we look for validation in that, we want that they reach so we can convince ourselves that we matter and they care about us. My ex broke up with me multiple times, i worked a lot on me to make things work out but now i know he is the problem, I’m one month of NC and miss him a lot, but first, I don’t think he will reach, second i have to keep working on me because he is not the best option to be with me. Thanks for sharing.
Alex Ruiz Exes circle back often but are they worthy of you? Did they do any work?
@@shanenadie591 Dear Shane
Could you say anything about what were you asked to do , please ? Just an idea..
All the best to you both and God bless xxx
Miss you too honey, lets work things out
update please did they reach out?
@@eathanp2044 yes he came back, he always reached out but after so much time and so many tries, coming back and he finishing everything, I have no longer have romantic feelings for him, I still care and I honestly just have a profound feeling of family for him. It was very hard, I suffer a lot but I realized that part of my suffering was because I didn’t wanted to see the reality of the situation. Now I can say, that we are both good with our platonic friendship. But I repeat, it was very hard, I was depressed and anxious at the beginning and I thought it was never ending, but dear friends, let me tell you, the suffering ends. Sending you virtual hugs
I don’t know how I ever stopped watching your videos. I thought I was okay on my own but I realize You both are so important to my healing process. Thank you so much coaches for all the guidance ♥️ love and appreciate you both.
I was praying to hear from her, I couldn’t go a day without thinking about it and it killed me. Months later, I couldn’t give a shit hahaha time heals the broken hearted, those who dump you will find that out for themselves. don’t let them back easily. tables will turn my friends.
Thanks for motivating 🤧
I am an older lady and watch all your videos cause I got ghosted. Amazing at my age I am having woes like younger folks.
Pain knows no age.
Games don't change. People just get older.
I'm in my 30's. The first time I ever experienced ghosting in my entire life was by a guy who is 48 years old. Immaturity has no age
It has nothing to do with immaturity.
neotenylv09 Ghosting is an immature and cowardly way of handling a breakup.
After 3 months my ex has a new bf, but it didn’t hurt as much as I thought it really helped in the moving on process and I feel like I can finally let go. Stay strong ppl 🧡
Best of everything to you Chase stay strong bro.
Oh man this happening to me right now, three months on and she's with someone else. We had a three year relationship and I struggle to understand how she can right everything off we had together! Heartbroken
Ya Mat we had a 5 year relationship. It just shows it wasn’t “love” or they would be with you. Hang in there she thinks she can do better use it as motivation.
Chase L seems so brutal man! Like one day your evrything the next, nothing at all. I'm done with relationships for now. Focusing on me and my life
PanchoPlant so bad man. You would think after being together they would have some kind of regret or even think abiut you but with my ex it's literally like I was an object that as soon as things started to struggle she was gone
It's no fun when both parties have avoidant attachment styles. Neither will reach out first. So even though there was extreme attraction followed by deep pain over the loss of connection, the relationship is pretty much a write-off.
Yup. Sad but true.
It ain’t a game anymore after I’ve pleaded and begged, apologised... good luck, when I do better myself it ain’t for her.
My ex is the crowned king of stubbornness and pride, his stubbornness has helped me focus on myself as I know earth will freeze over before he calls, thanks for your videos, they are as refreshing as mints in the mouth💝
Craig and Margaret have great chemistry working together. I love how they "riff" off each other. It's wisdom with adorable sweetness! Thank you to both of you!
I love this email. The lady handled herself like a true woman!
I'm going through this right now....this video was very uplifting. I certainly hope that my relationship turns the corner like this did.
stubborness is that attitude that some women have too, in regard to "I am the woman, so as you are the man, YOU have to take the initiative, EVEN I dumped you". There are women like that. Mine for instance.
This has been incredible to listen to and I've listened to loads and loads of podcasts!
Here's hoping my long distance stubborn ex does the same!
So happy for that couple too!
Great podcast guys
Craig, after that email about the stubborn ex - point made!! you are the Relationship Yoda!!I am listening to you from dusk to dawn!
Not in a relationship, but trying to work things out with this person. I completely feel this. “Stubborn” is how I described her, but yup! Like Margaret said “you’re not doing what I want”. I like the definition!
Margaret is very good explaining the psychological aspects
I teared up when I heard her story. My ex hurt me so bad and I too am truly disappointed how our relationship ended. This is something I truly wish to hear from my ex. I'm trying to have hope that he will see where we both went wrong and be willing to fix it in the end. But, of course, my ex has to be willing. So happy to hear that how her ex apologized for how he treated her. Everyone should take responsibility for their wrongs and work on improving. I know I am! I'm ready for a change and continue to grow! ;)
Update?🤧
Great video guys, I love Margaret so much, she is always so supportive!! Your videos keep me sane lol Big hugs to you both!
You guys are great and work very well together, thank you for another wonderful video
Best email update! Thank you for sharing this with us all. Very insightful. ♥️
Hello Craig my name is Rudy i found your videos in UTube i cant afford ur sessions cause im fighting cancer but i want to say u bring alot of hope to people i lost my fiancee 9 months ago and it still hurts but i put my faith and hope for a miracke from God Thank You for what you to do to help people its a blessing
Obsessed with Coach Margaret!!!
Very good discussion from 17:00 to highlight where your strategies played a role.
Great Testimonial. Hopefully we can get another one with the shoe on the other foot
Great encouraging video!
Yes, your videos are All Very Helpful
Almost 4k views and only 222 likes? Come on people hit that thumbs up, it'll only takes a split second and Coach Craig's videos are gold!
People r lazy Maan hahaha
People are stupid thinking that everyone else is a stupid ass too
I have wondered this about my ex of three years. Then I think about people I broke up with.. I think both Craig and Margarets advice is top notch. 15 years ago I dated someone for just one month, and she engulfed me so bad I ran. She even called me at 3 in the morning because she was triggered. I told her she was freaking me out and she stopped, and haven't heard from her since... My point is.. That was an unhealthy relationship and I even think about her from time to time after all this time.. And wonder if I caused her triggers in some way.. Maybe I'm just odd to think of that situation, but I can't help but think, if anyone had a reasonable connection with an ex, the memories will bubble up from time to time.
I don't think anyone can really forget a person that's played a role in their life, especially in a romantic way. Good or bad lol
Amazing video coaches!!
Does it even matter if he thinks about me?, he left and I dont want any false hope that he is coming back
My Ex always bragged about how stubborn she was. After almost two years of no contact I believe she is the most stubborn human being on the planet. Totally unbelievable and she is 58 years old (not some kid) I trump everyone with this Ex!!!!! She is someone else's problem now (or in the future).
Maybe that stubbornness are only healthy boundaries? If someone goes as far as begging and promises to have changed, which is also the typical response of a needy narcissist by the way, they should first heal themselves to get rid of their neediness or co-dependency and thinking that the other person will and can complete them.
I feel like these good stories are just making me bitter now... I want this to happen to me so badly and it isn't that I just get angry that all these people get what I want.
Been in no contact with my depressed ex for 8 months, she blocked me on facebook like 5 months ago for no reason, i dont think she will ever return, its really sad but I have to carry on.
I feel for you. Thank you for sharing your story.
My ex also had mental illness and self harmed. Let them heal on their own x
COACH MARGARET IS GREAT! It will be about a year since my ex broke up with me. She is the world's most stubborn ex. She is so ashamed that she ended the relationship and is still standing her ground for dismissing me. Her life has been miserable since she dumped me. With rebounds who have used her. And taking bad advice from friends and family that made things much worse. Meanwhile I have done so much self improvement my value has skyrocketed. While she has probably stayed where she was a year ago. I keep watching this video to stay on track.
Thanks for the highlight Coach Craig and Margaret. Your expert instruction has kept me from flipping out.
@@jinxlee8556 did ur ex ever come back??
@@Wifeyytalks No. She got pregnant by her rebound ex. And is waiting for him to leave her again. I am so glad I found a better woman with no drama. And a secure attachment style. I learned a lot with Craig and Margaret's coaching. Especially when it is time to realize your own value. And to forget a psychotic confused ex. And leave her to her own devices.
@@jinxlee8556 I'm glad. My ex is 21 I'm 24. He left me saying he can't commit anymore after 2.5 yrs. Said he still loves me. Contacted me two weeks after brkup just for a casual chat sees my story everyday hasn't deleted our pics too but so far didn't come back.
Thank you very much for your encouragement dear Sir/ Madam 💓💓💓
And when they've left for another person.
I really love this episode because it has said all about my ex boyfriend. He is very stoborn. But I know he will soon look for me for good
Update?
I think of my ex quite a lot and still have feelings for him but not enough to go back, hes hurt me far too much
Hi coach Craig. Your videos are great and have helped me so much. Could you do a video on "Peter pan syndrome"? Do guys like this ever get past it? My ex literally calls himself Peter pan and always says he dosen't want to grow up and every so often would say "I never thought I would be in a relationship let alone one for this long. I feel like this is becoming more of a thing amongst men these days. Honestly it is one of the things that attracted me to my ex in the beginning. Neither of us wants kids and don't want the traditional life. We wanted adventures and to travel the world. Things had mostly been good for 10 years. I had only lived in the area we do for about 6 months when we met. We had a great time exploring and him introducing me to new experiences. Over time I feel like he got tired of that and needed me to find my own friends and have separate experieces. But every time I would make a friend he wouldn't like them and I would stop seeing them. A couple of years ago I had a series of injuries and him starting a new business we weren't able to do the things we used to.He broke up with me 4 months ago saying we were growing apart, arguing too much, his business was stressing him out and giving him a lot of anxiety and half of the other excuses I have heard in your videos. He even tried to convince me that it was a mutual split because I wasn't happy either. I just thought we were in another of our cycles and encouraged him to go on a trip or to do something because I felt like he was pulling away from me. But I was also telling him that I needed more from him, like a date night or a trip with just the two of us. We hadn't been on a trip alone together in 2 years and couldn't remember the last time we had a dinner alone that wasn't in front of the tv. We would go through this cycle it seems like every time there was a big life event, a wedding, someone passing away, or a career change but we always worked through it before. He has had a few extended family members passaway in the last few years and we had a few conversations about grieving properly. He told me he was fine and that not showing his feelings is how his whole family deals with their emotions. In fact the only time I have seen him cry (I mean shead a few tears) is at his aunt's funeral(she passes away a year ago) and when he broke up with me. Which has been twice, this time and 5 years ago. The first time we were broken up it was for less than 24 hours. I went no contact after the first month or so and reached out after a month. We have had a couple of dinners since and the chemistry is still very strong and we've had a great time. He said he had a hard time when I wasn't reaching out and had obviously lost a lot of weight. We kissed at the end of the last dinner, then he pulled away again. He reached out recently to talk and have some drinks, I was excited but tried to not get my hopes up..but it turned out to be to see if we would be okay going to a mutual friends party. We talked about relationship stuff a little and I eventually asked him that now that it's been a few months if he could tell me why the breakup when we obviously have so much attraction and chemistry? He said he is confused and is trying to figure out what kind of relationship he wants. He also said that he has been feeling much better about the breakup since we have been seeing each other again. (My guess is seeing me eased the pain for him) I was his first real relationship at 27 and we are both now 38. I assume this is the real reason, the lack of experience and getting older. One other factor of the breakup I feel was hanging out with a younger crowd for the last two years that have a variety of relationship styles (open, swinger) and more partying go on. We lived on a boat which fosters a party lifestyle and he would have people over till way too late and I have a job where that doesn't work for me and he seemed to not have much respect for me at that point, which is what was one of causes the arguments. I don't mind a certain level of partying but I needed him to be respectful of my schedule. As for the different types of relationships, I feel like he maybe has interest in exploring other things but he is unable to talk about it. I told him he needs to reflect on our relationship and to take the time and space he needs to figure out what he wants from a relationship, however I might not be around when he does. He wants us to be friends and I said there was no way. I'll be civil and friendly if we are at the same event. We were fine at the party and even caught him staring at me a few times. As for now I'm back to no contact and think I'm going to take your advice on a 9 month probation and start seeing a local therapist. I also wouldn't mind getting your opinion on what my chances are. Thank you and coach Margaret for all your hard work and great advice! And please feel free to us my story for a video. :)
I love you guys so much!!
If they started a rebound relationship, would this still be applicable? I work with the ex so there is never a way to get away from it.
I am sure my stubborn ex is thinking of me. It's been about 13 days. No idea if they will reach out or not. Pretty sure it's over because he refuses to communicate and make progress. We shall see. Maybe feelings will change as you say. Staying strong day by day and getting happier and happier. Weird lol. Love your videos ♥️♥️♥️
Mieka Fasting Weight Loss Feelings are not actions. You need the actions
I'm in exactly the same situation, he refuses to communicate also. I hope he gets in touch with you and even if he does not just carry on working to be a better you. You will come out on top!
Mizrabelle I know right
Update.?
Update?
Im worried about my ex having the same fear of feeling too guilty about the breakup and not reaching out for that reason. I told her I was seriously hurt when I found out she was sleeping with other people within 2 weeks of our split.
My very stubborn ex who broke up with me called me randomly last week after just near 2 months of no contact (broke up in June contact was in august), to tell me he saw me and that I looked beautiful and that he wanted to say hi. I said that wasn’t me as I was in a different place at the time. We spoke a little he asked about my family and I asked about his, we cracked a few jokes, it was light and then he had to go as he was meeting his friends. It’s been a week now and nothing after this. I don’t know what to make of it!
It is my personal opinion that Stubbornnesses comes from Ego and Ego derives from fear….fear to be seen by others as weak or lacking good qualities and capacities that makes these people desirable.
The majority of times in this type of situation it when you have a relationship of this nature …it is better TO WALK AWAY…and let this other person to reflect alone and to self evaluate her/his feelings and decide if they are willing to comunícate to continue the relationship.
I can say most definitely stubborn exes think about You. I have been that ex who has been "stubborn" and thought about my ex everyday. And reached out to him.
after how long?
@@caglor all depends. There is no set "time". You or they will understand life is too short.
@@NotYourTypicalMermaid94 You're right, thanks for your reply by the way!
Aries ppl r v stubborn ik 😅
Btw u reached out after how many months or days ?
@@NotYourTypicalMermaid94 but u wrote u reached out to him 😕
Amazing I love you both..thank you so much..😍
Hi Craig and Margret, love your videos.
But besides stubborn meaninig your explenation there are people that are extremely proud. So proud that other men refer to them having so much pride. Would you agree this person is less likely to reach out then one who is less proud.
Craig and Margaret are really competent and great!,I am so happy for this guys!! so u think also men are gonna chance their feelings for a girl even if not so soon as a girl?,mine seems really not, especially after he found someone else can he in this case change his mind?
i can't get over him... it's been a year and i'm still thinking and crying about him. This never happened before and i don't know what to do
AutomneBell I know how you feel! Keep your head up!!
Check your current doings and not-doings. Are you actively working on yourself, trying to improve your life, setting goals for yourself, pushing yourself to live new experiences, learning about your attachments styles? If you are doing this, then you should not worry about how long it takes to 'forget'. Sometimes deep connections take really long to take the back bench in our minds. It has been year and a half for me, and I made peace with the idea of not ever hearing back from her, though feelings are still there. Unfinished business type. I know people that still think of certain ex of years ago. It is common. There is no secret, nothing wrong with longing for a lost love, as long as you KEEP LEARNING AND LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE NOW. Because, longing or not, nobody will bring us back this very moment. It goes quick, please, go out and take advantage of it. Trust in life, there is a reason why you have to live this right now. Be positive, be the best version of yourself you can possibly be, and the rest will sort out itself. You can do this!
Why does every coach beat the “stubborn” thing to death. It’s not even stubborn, some people just have such a fear of rejection, social anxiety, or some other issue within themselves that would prevent them from being vulnerable, even if that means not getting what they want deep down.
We‘ve been broken up for almost 5 months now, I handled the breakup perfectly. I told her to call me if she changes her mind and I‘ve not contacted her since. She‘s still following me on Instagram and Whatsapp and she recently created a fake Instagram profile to stalk me and the girls that I follow. I‘m 99% sure it‘s her. I can tell that she‘s curious about me but she won‘t reach out. What can I do besides nothing?
God I would love to receive that last email from my ex... She behaves in that same way all the time but can never see her own faults (dismissive Avoidant)
Well my ex does definitely think about me. But she is unhealthy, her attachment style is probably anxious and I am sure there is no way of her coming back. Our relationship was super intense, but I dont think she will even reflect and remember that I was a good and caring boyfriend and yea...that hurts. Well time to upgrade the no contact, give her some of the good radio silence.
Update?
Mine did. Every single day apparently. I'd gone no contact ... He didn't sleep and thought about me all the time. Incredibly stubborn. And yet here we are....
And how long did it take, and what was the reason for the breakup if I could ask?
After 8 years tried to convince him! I finally had enough! All the verbal and emotional abuse I told him to go to Hell! He never loved me! He loved his mother more! We had been over issues of his long time ex and he told me they were friends! She has been in and out of our lives for 8 years! I have had enough and told him so not so nice and told him why! I didn’t end it very nice. Lots of nasty exchanges! I tried to hold on to the long distance relationship! I guess I still hang on to guilt that I didn’t handle it in a adult way!
To be honest Mary, I think any guy that's had a good relationship with their mom would pick her over a girl. And for you to mention her, I think you said something about her that he didn't like, that would put anyone off lol
Is it just about a reach out? Has no contact worked if you've heard from your ex once or twice with no mention of getting back together? I thought no contact was supposed to make them miss u. I've heard from my ex since no contact but to no avail. They haven't said things that were very meaningful... so I stay in no contact. I won't ignore them, but I don't reach out
hello! any updates?
Same here wit my situation
Me and my ex never fought. Although I have 3 kids she has 2 it was to much for her to deal with so she broke it off with me ..she said she still wanted to be friends I told her no I thought it was a bad idiea I don't go back. It was her decision so she can stick with it ..I do miss her and want her back but I beleave it he problem would only grow ..we were only together a few months if she couldn't handle it then ...the problem would only get bigger with time ..bummer
That video pop up in the moment when i needed most. Dont know why but it happened for a reason.
1 month and a half since we broke up.
She had 3 pictures of us in her Instagram. And today she deleted them and posted a a picture saying "I feel alone but i im starting to get use to it."
Does she have a new guy or she just moved on? I did some things like showing that i dont see her on the street but i saw her.
What does that mean why she deleted them. Can somebody give me an advice?
Hey coach. My wife an i are going through divorce . We have a son together and one of my own . We are going through separation agreements now we have a house together and were together for 5 years . How do you work no contact when we have to see each other every week at list once .
She is 23 and i am 31 . And i am from Mexico she is Canadian not that it matters . I have been helping her with house chores and house stuff . I been working on my personal growth. Also i got my own place now . Last time we talk she said she wanted me to learn a lesson but it backfire since i posted stuff on social media and ahe said she has now to stick to the plan of plitting off since is embarrassing for her to go back to me . What do i do ? Please help i allow to share my srory .
I'm not sure all this 'reaching out' stuff applies to women. I think once they've gone through the breakup they find another man and move on. Shortly after the breakup my ex said 'you can never go back to a relationship' They move on, and there's no point over analysing things.
That’s not really true. An ex from a few years ago reached out 4 months after but I walked away from that one. This latest one broke it off five times in fourteen months but came back less than a month, sometimes 12 hours, each time. It’s only been three weeks this time and I think she will be back.
Some of us wish our exes loved us as much
We've been together for a solid 1 year, i met her on a caffee, we both working on the same place, me as a vr and shes working as a barista, she always happy to see me back then, she make me coffee everytime we meet, after a few months, we dediced to step further, i love her so much, she does not have parent, only lives with her sister and step father, i always manege to be there for her always, even when im bussy i will reply her msg instantly, i was there when she left her job and i help her to find new one, i was there when shes sick, i was there when she had to visit hospital, i help her financially, and tried to make her better person
But after a few months passed, she began to change, she does not really exited to see me, took her a vew hours to reply my simple msg while, even she come up with new rule, she only want to see me once a week, i cant come to her new work place, and she dont want me to blend with her friend, i love her so i agree with her rule, but one day, i visit her house, i feel a sudden urge wanting to see her phone, she took a shower and i take the chance to see her phone, and then i caught her cheated and planing to sleep with random guy, i was shoocked and sad, i didnt get mad to her, instead i tell her why are you doing this? Am i do something bad ? Shes crying and asking me to forgive her, i forgive her and give her another chance, then a few month passed, she did the same thing again, and when i check on her phone again, she did the same thing but this time with some dudes not only one, short after i smile to her and say "im sorry if after all this time im not good enough for you, im sorry if i ever did bad things that i dont realize to you" then i left her, i tried to forget what she did to me by unfollowing her instagram for a while, then she proceed to blocked me instead, i only hope someday she realize that i trully love her and i want her to be a success woman
Sorry for my bad english
Hi Craig and others who might want to give me their opinion 🙈 My boyfriend left me 7 months ago after a 5 years long relationship. He said that he wants to focus on himself and his life. I lived there about a month before I could move to another city.
We didnt talk for awhile but then he reached out, said that he is lonely and would like to see me. We have been seeing each other for couple of months now. Sometimes he has been very distant and sometimes he has even driven all the way here to my place. He has not wanted to commit though.
Two days ago he said that he has to end this. He doesnt want to give me false hope and said that he doesnt see us being together in the future. He also said that he still loves me. I said that I respect his choice and that I love him too. I havent texted him after that.
Ive made personal growth my number one priority and realise that if I would be given a new chance, I would not be ready. Im too anxious, depressed and insecure. I need to find a way to love myself first and its going to be a long and hard journey.
But do you guys think I could get that new chance in the future? :(
I like this vid a lot
what a wonderful, helpful email.
I'm so glad the girl gave such detailed information . I'm sure she helped so many people. good for her/ them.
people could be able to see themselves in either genders actions.
😼👏🥳
What if I hear from my friend about my Ex that someone saw him with a child and a women..?i said to her “listen I don’t wanna hear about him anymore cause I want to move on”but again she told me that someone else saw him and apparently he’s got a baby with this new women..I don’t even know also she can’t say for 100% if it’s true..and now I’m here thinking about him and crying😡🙈
My Ex broke up with me...for the 16th time (or more...happened on a monthly basis) 2 months ago and blocked me on social media and chat apps... just this past weekend she opened the door a few times to throw verbal rocks at me...just to close the door and block me again...😔 This type of treatment had gone on for about a year. So... after she messaged me... Asking if I was okay. If I needed help. And if I wanted to talk. I cried because the apparent supposed "care" overwhelmed me... I wouldn't have been able to talk to her if I wanted to at the time. I figured sleeping for a while would help calm me down...after I woke up I found that after her "care" she threw a few more rocks... closed the door and blocked me again...😔 Ever since January last year...I never stood my ground to stop this treatment... so this time I have. She can't open the door throw rocks at me and just shut the door again...I counter blocked her on everything... I pray that she heals from this and lets go of the hurt. When she messaged me I didn't reply because my current situation is in no way suitable for us to come back together again...once things are better on my end I will undo the blocks on my end...and what she does after that is up to her...😌🙏 I had been maintaining No Contact since end of January... but did not reply recently because I could tell by her casual insults towards me that she was trying to provoke a response out of me...I counter blocked her to maintain and reinforce No Contact... My prayer is that she becomes more civil and unblocks me everywhere...while at the same time my situation improves... I was not interested in talking to her...just to have her block me again...😔 oh and by the way... this was a long distance relationship... I am in Kansas... she lives 90 minutes away from Rio De Janeiro Brazil... Emotionally speaking... I greatly miss her...and I pray that it changes one day...😌🙏
I aboustley love this one . So happy for hee especially..
Hope it all works out for them both.
I want hace hope I'm scared like once before it let me down big time ..
Im realky hoping my husband will do the same ..
I do love listening to your videos n watching them .doing the knowledge books on first one still ..
Doing things you been saying. I have restarted the no contact again.his blocked me off everything...I hope it get better
Craig, My ex girlfriend just sent me a text after 8 weeks after the breakup. I haven’t responded yet but I will. I “never” thought she would! I have listened to both of you everyday during this time and have learned so much from you both. I know now her reaching out does not indicate we will get back together but it is interesting. By the way we were in a long distant relationship (US/Brazil) for a little of a year but had planned marriage and children etc. I will update soon.
I'm 4 months into no contact and my ex disrespected my mom so I'm basically done with caring! She'll have to do a lot to get me back and if she doesn't reach out then so be it hahaha even tho she probably just started to realize what she's missing because it has only been 4 months
I was wondering what if your Ex reaches out while he is drunk? I don’t think it’s a good idea to talk to them in that state. My Ex spamed my phone with 100 messages and missed calls. I know you shouldn’t ignore them but what’s the point in having a conversation with a drunk person? :/
I guess a better question is do AVOIDANT EXES think about you. Yesterday was her birthday and her mom flew in and i stayed string. Together 2 years she randomly ended it and moved out. Been broken up 2.5 months and NC for a month. She seems to want nothing to do with me at all
Let some time pass. Be patient and work on yourself. It may take 6 months. It may take a year. But it will happen at some point
in a ldr 3 years relationship + 1 year of friendship. broke up with me 6 months ago. zero signs. no usage of Instagram he no longer sees my stories. no action no signs nothing. I've been in no contact for that long. this is an extreme avoidant isn't it.... it still hurts a lot. is it possible..... for him to reach out....
But what if my ex started to work in a new job, where is so many of high value men? I think that she can have many options, why would she bother of reaching out to the person when she think that is weak and beta?
What if they are in a rebound, I guess non of this applies then.
Ugh..............my ex is so stubborn. I can't stand her, But love her so much. I'm lame.
agentcodydanks you’re not lame to love someone. Work on yourself! If you are willing to love someone, you are worth it. Be strong and become a better person in this world.
Same here
Ben P
How can I bounce from this last text If I decided I wanted to reestablish communication?
She cheated and wouldn’t admit it.
“After everything we’ve been through. After all the love and tears and heartache and makeups my love for you grew so deep. There were so many red flags that I ignored because I wanted to believe in your potential instead of what I saw.
From your history to how you interacted with other men while we were together, I saw this coming. We fought so much BECAUSE of you.
Sure, we shared sweet times and I want to believe those were real, but I never felt as close as I should have to you. You always kept me at arms length and kept me guessing. I should have walked away before it started but I desperately wanted to figure you out.
After 7 months (and the day of our 7 month anniversary) you went out, partied without me, and slept at another guy’s apartment. That is cheating. Whether you had sex or not doesn’t matter, you were secretive and disloyal to me. And you STILL want to lie to my face.
I’m not coming at you to call you names or fight with you, I’m being honest one last time.
I would have given you the world, Jaci.
I would have grown through my issues and been the best man to you a woman could ask for.
We could have been nurses together.
We could have traveled the world together.
But you opted out too soon.
Or just at the right time depending on how you look at it.
Maybe God knew you don’t deserve me.
Either way, I wish you the best and forgive you.
But you’re dead to me.“
That's my ex boyfriend, he is stubborn. I try using logic and he doesn't want to repair the relationship at all. So its not just women's, men's too. My head hurts.
My wife blocked text and calls after she got a new phone because I shut off her phone. Do you think having no contact now will do any good?
My Mom always said the word STUBURN means not doing what YOU WANT them to do..
What if she is an avoidant ex
Honestly no o dont think they do at all, especially if they gone forward in there new relationship , and broke up someone elses marraige, the one he cheated me on, her divorce came through this month, and honestly I dont think so . Even if he will for some or other reason wanted to make contact, I wouldnt want, because if he can make a married women leave her husband, wish was like I see a much beter version than my ex. But that mans whole live was ruined by my ex, and his little boys life, I dont think I want such a man in my life, he wouldve done the same to me . So I just wish the innocent man and his son a beautiful future.
Hello coaches! What if my ex is living with a girl now and that ex, his friend told me is his ex before and im the reason why the broke up im so shock i dont know that he has gf before.. before the break up i notice him a lot of changes he always angry to me so i asked him if we still can continue our relationship then he replied no..im hurt but i took all my things in his apartment even its hurt..but after the break up i did begged him but its not help. we are in 2 and half yrs in a relationship and its 3 months now that we are in no contact ..then after 3 months i received this calls of his one friend that he is living with a girl yeah and girl what as i have sàid is his ex.. its hurt me again because im still hoping that we can still be together again! I sent him message that i knew it already but he just read it..i dont think he think of me why he replace me easily😢 now I blocked him on whatsapp and imo but one of his friend called me that my ex telling them i did blocked him. What should i do coach? By the way he keep talking to his friends some bad words for me..i dont understand why? Thank u coach if u can send me some advice..
The girl with the story of being ghosted is JUST like mine, except that my ex hasn't come back yet. She also ghosted me but I haven't entirely lost hope.
If they didn't value your presence, why bother having them around? Let them go. There are other fishes and trash in the sea. They ghosted you. That's very disrespectful behavior. For me, I can't accept that.
@@OS253 Back then I hung on to hope because it was still in the early stages of the 'breakup,' but now I'm doing a lot better and have more of the mindset that you just said. Lately though some anonymous person has been watching all my stories on social media and I suspect it's her with a fake account, but I haven't cared anymore nor have I reached out. I'm doing a lot better because of Craig and my friends and family.
Hooray fr ur stubborn ex....as mine has not reached out...as yet...over a month!!!
Does a rebound relationship lasted till 2 years?
Does an ex with bipolar reach like a stubborn ex or avoidant?
Craig do you have a video on emotionally unavaible ex’s? Or can this video relate to them
Just search "craig kenneth im not ready for a relationship" and quite a few video options will come up.. I hope they help, and I hope you're doing better..
Adam Hattia thank you i will! And yes im just trying to hold it together its been 2 weeks no contact now😫
@@michellel245 don't count the time, just go with the time. This period is not about your ex, it's about you and finding yourself. Whoever else is out there that's meant to find you on your journey, they will, whether it's your ex, or someone else completely unexpected. Invest in yourself and trust the process and if you wana talk, coz talking helps alot, you're more than welcome to lean on me, or anybody else willing to listen and to give you good advice. There are more than enough people on these platforms who can empathise and understand, coz somehow, we're all here coz we have that same pain in common..
I don't see the end result of this story going well.
Wait, So giving it another chance and trying to work it out again was her idea and not his.....? Pretty sure she should have waited to see if he brought it up