I'm Becoming Resentful During No Contact
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2021
- After a breakup, you may feel a wide range of emotions from sadness to anger. In this video, we talk about resentment that builds towards your ex while you are in no contact. It can not only be confusing to not hear from an ex, but it could also be aggravating. We discuss these emotions in greater depth and how anger can build towards your ex when they don't reach out.
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Have u felt angry or resentful during no contact? We want to know!
@Coach Craig Kenneth - You definitely go through feelings of resentment, no question. One thing I have learned to help me go through no contact is; I am worth a phone call. I am worth communication.
Yes for sure, she kicked me out after nearly 10 yrs together, last weekend and texted me drive safe..no contact since..
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Hello 🥰
I was the dumper but I left my DA ex after a year of severe neglect. It's been 1 year and he never spoke to me again. I hate him for that.
Yes I do feel angry and spiteful off and on. Its keeping me in limbo
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” -Seneca
My favorite stoic!!
Had to translate that dude's stuff for a year. What a nightmare.
I’ve been resentful since the breakup, not only because they blindsided me, but also how they sabotaged us prior. I’m so angry at them and I fully believe it’s warranted, but the pride I have in my growth is beginning to eclipse that.
I have a lot of resentment and anger. I wasted 3 years with that loser. I feel like my ex never appreciated me. Anyway I'm happy single now.
Chin up, it's not wasted. It's always a lesson. Multiple ones. Into relationships, but most of all into building yourself and your independence (which you need in order to make a relationship really work in a healthy way)
@@YouNolf i also thought i wasted 3 years but no contact and working on myself made me realise unfortunaely i needed to learn that painful lesson for the future. I can't imagine getting married one day without knowing what I know now about myself and love
@Paula Jones of course it does. It has to. And it's OK for now. It's supposed to feel like that. Next time that you know somebody you should have a healthy detachment and know them deeply before falling in love and risking another thing like this.
My ex ghosted me a few years ago and my resentment to her got pretty bad.
Then I finally moved on after almost a year. Worked on myself and met my now wife a year and half later.
After TWO years that she ghosted me, she reached out. Guess she heard I was dating at the time. Happily married to a strong confident woman. Wouldn't change a thing. Become the best version of yourself is what I learned. Don't be a doormat for anyone!
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Thank you for sharing I’m no doormat to anyone judge mental always assuming I’m like other people what an idiot
So proud for you 🤩
Why are you here then? If you were happily married, what are you doing on the Channel for getting an ex back ?
We got this everyone! Stay strong no contact until they reach out!
im trying. its so hard. its been 6 days. his son finally deleted me from IG . i waiting for him to do the same.
@@jessicaorozco3848 You don't wait for them to reach out. You work on yourself and start the process of moving on from day one. It's a long process dear but you hang in there. Everyone here has been there at some point. It will likely take you a few months to fully heal and recover. But if he reaches out (guys tend to reach out more than girls so the odds are in your favor), you should be completely healed by then and then you decide if you want them back.
My ex never really reached out. She texted me after 4 months saying that she got engaged and that I should move on. Luckily for me, I was already healed and saw her for who she really was. A cheater and a monkey-brancher. I had started dating a much better girl with higher values and standards.I wished her well and moved on with my life.
The key is don't wait for him to reach out!!! No contact is for you to heal.
@@tarroooq thank you so much.im glad you are doing so much better. ill be honest, it took me 3 yrs to get over my sons father. it was about 7 yrs since a relationship with my current ex. im just confused by part of my situation bc he said im an amazing woman and i deserve better than him. im hesitant to unfollow him and change my ig profile and delete pictures bc im not ready to be bombarded with questions from ppl . im working on myself and im glad i came across craigs videos this past week and its whats helping me be strong with no contact and learning.
@@jessicaorozco3848 I feel your pain. I was broken-hearted and I was suicidal at one point. He only said this because he had nothing else to say. He wants you to move on at that moment but his feelings might change later. You have to be strong dear. Cry on your own but never show it to ANYONE. Your friends and family can damage any chance of you getting what you want. The best thing is to speak to a therapist, but you can chat with random strangers online and express all your feelings if you have to (of course be careful not to give out your personal information). Never post anything about your break up on IG. No sad quotes or anything. He should see that you are happy or at least indifferent. You don't have to delete him. You should start acting like he never existed. But if it hurts to look at his profile, then by all means delete him. You can also suspend your account. This is the time for you to heal. He will look you up eventually and he will find a way to reach out if he wants to, even if it is just to check up on you. By that time, you should have healed. Read a lot on relationships and attachment styles. See where you both went wrong. You will get through this but you have to work on yourself and NEVER show your weakness to anybody.
I taught myself a trick by changing my ex's name on my phone to "Don't text" so every time I feel like breaking NC, I would take it back. You should assume that he will never come back and start working on improving your next relationship and how to pick up on red flags and choosing your next partner. The odds are during no contact, you will realize that your ex wasn't a good person or wasn't the right person for you. The more you increase your knowledge, the more you will realize it. I went from idolizing my ex and telling everybody that I lost a good woman because I was a complacent and too busy with my work, to realizing that she cheated on me and that I missed all the red flags when I first met her. But it takes time dear. Hang in there. I feel your heart break and I'm praying for you.
@@tarroooq thanks again. im okay looking at his profile and seeing pictures. i am sure he will not be in kind of relationship due to circumstances i know. we both said i love you in our last video chat the day we broke up. its just weird going from everyday talking and texting for over 2.5 yrs to nothing. but i am staying strong i know my worth and i was blinded by love . i dont wanna think of the day he may contact me at all so in my head right now it wont happen and i have even gone to church 3 times this week amd prayed for myself, my son, my ex and his kids. kill em with kindness and have integrity. i wont let anything kr anyone take away the masssive heart i have . at one point he needed my love and he will never experience it the same with anyone else. its all the little things people will miss . like when he would drive and i reach over to touch his beard , or make his coffee when he was in a rush to leave for work when i went to visit him ( long distance relationship) all those become majors in a relationship. but i will take your advice and i am going to continue to reading about relationships and better myself. i have been seeing a therapist for 6 years and its what has helped he through many obstacles in my life. My son is the only person who sees me at my worst and im so sad that he has to. and i have apologized to him. but hes resilient and he cheers me up and hugs me and i have many many talks with him about life a d things i wish my mother could have taught me. so we have a good bond. teaching him to be a good person and treat women with respect and to never let anyone break his spirit.
This is what I am feeling right now, I thought that it was all of my fault but after weeks of NC, I saw all his negatives. On how he frame me as a bad woman to his friends and plan the break up with his friend in order to be with this girl that belongs to their circle. I feel so resentful.
41 days of no contact. Birthday passed, anniversary passed, nothing. 99% chance she’s not coming back. Blocked me and my entire family on social media. There’s too much damage she would have to repair and she doesn’t have the spine to do it.
You’re not alone buddy. You’ll make it through this
@@Idontknowhoiamanymore thanks Patrick. Hope the best for all of us🙏🏼
@@Rizzy_K my ex bday and our anniversary coming up 😬
@@kungfukenny1540 I would not wish them a happy anything unless you guys have been in communication. If you’re in NC, and your ex is the one who broke it off, then do NOT say anything. They knew what they were doing when they broke up with you.
@@Rizzy_K you right and I won’t. It’s gonna be something to see How this unfolds. I was her first, first love and first relationship. 5 years 1 hour and 30 min apart. Been to a lot of her family gatherings. It’s like damn can I really be kicked out of someone’s life after that. Going monk mode. It is what it is
This video came in very timely. I've been in no contact for 4 months. Some days, I feel great but lately some of the anger has been returning and I find myself wrestling against it. I've focused on personal growth, been working out, graduated with a masters degree and got a part time job since we broke up. I'm growing, but somehow my mind keeps bringing her up (especially at night when I'm not busy). I was angry at the distasteful way she went about the breakup. Now I'm mad at myself for having her thoughts come back, cuz I feel I should have been over this by now. I don't wanna reach out. I just wanna get to a point where I don't think about her anymore.
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@@mafecatherine611 I'm not interested
She broke up with you or you did?
Two months of no contact and I'm moving on and starting to date new people. I've taken my power back.
Did your ex ever reach out to you???
Our relationship wasn’t perfect but I can see 3 months after breakup that I was part of a cycle that my ex repeats and is repeating as we speak.
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I’ve been with my ex for 3 years and I’ve always been the protector, the provider and « the one I always think of when I have problems and the one who reassure me » according to her words. The only time during these 3 years that I’ve hit the ground and been really down, I lost my job and struggling … this is the time she left me and decided to let go of the relationship. You can imagine how hurt and « angry » sometimes I am thinking of that. And I’m thinking not taking her back if she ever comes back bc I’m not satisfied in this relationship. So for all of you going through hardship, know that you’re not alone. You got this ❤
Went through the same, if she can’t go through it with you there’s no point of keeping her when you up
Going through the same thing man. I was always there at her lowest and happiest moments but the one time when I was at my lowest & needed reassurance, she decided that I was too much and ended it. Never going back to her even if she came back.
About 18 months out, starting to see the ways that she was not compassionate & cutting myself some slack & giving self love.
Im also on about 18 months now. Know what happened last months? Accidentally contacted her and she acted annoyed and assured that i was trying to get her back. Maan that hurt me. She is still somehow resentful and negative about me. And she stsrted dating someone new after that and changed her number. Man, i feel dead inside now and all hope is starting to vanish. There is only anger and resentment that remain in me after that.
I’m really angry. But when I dig deeper I feel disgust… disgust that someone could just give up on you so easily, and never message again. Like they were never attached to you and were a robot…
Feelings of being alone, from being seemingly the only one who cared
Having anxiety attacks bc of tense emotions pushed down due to being at work or trying to maintain your cool around your friends months afterwards
Overwhelmed by questions and doubts… the only thing I could think of doing was coming on too strong. I am working on that, but sucks that someone could see your heart for them and take it for granted
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@Paula Jones thank you! How are things going on your end?
@Paula Jones Omg congratulations! Hopefully things turn around for you.
I haven’t heard back. I’m coming up on 7 months no contact now, and so I am just working on my healing before going out in the dating scene again
It's almost 3 months since he dumped me & I've gone through every stage of grieving. It literally felt like I was grieving a death. I'm in a much better place now, than I was in July, but now I'm just angry at the lies, deception, unanswered questions, and the hurtful things he said to me the last time we talked. I'm proud of myself for not reaching out to him & how I dignified myself in this time.
Same here. Now it’s anger and resentment
At first no contact was really slow but it's been 4-5 months and its felt like it's gone by so fast after all this time and everyday feels like it just goes by faster
Yes exactly!
It’s been 4 months wish it was faster and completely healed and forgotten
Yes! it does seem to go by fast it's already been almost 4 months since he ended things with me
This is me 100%! He finally reached out recently after many months of no contact over some petty excuse about an item left at my place, but I declined his friendship offer. He shows no signs of wanting to reunite, but threw the "I still love you" line in the mix. He asked for hugs I wouldn't give because it feels futile to even venture down a friendship path. This video spoke directly to me because I have been struggling with this resentment for months while he was silent during no contact. 😔 I am now pursuing other options again. It was nice to hear Victoria's own breakup story. Helps us connect with her. Shows how real you guys are! You have been there too. I wish I could afford coaching but I'm grateful for these videos.
Sometimes no contact doesn't work. But never give up on the person you really love, instead fight, strive for his return and make a good return..
I pray the universe grant you your heart desire abundance of love through the power of the restorer ❤️❤️🙏🙏
This is a great topic. I’m 5 weeks into breakup and NC (I started right away) and I’m definitely starting to resent her for not reaching out once. Freaking killing me!
It is getting close to 10 months of no contact. I have not heard a single thing from my ex. The only thing I can think of is that when she broke up with me, she created a Nexus event and the TVA pruned her.
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She will be back
I been waiting for a video in resentment, thank you! Great video, but it still doesn’t change the fact I hate my ex now
Same here, I've experienced the same story as Victoria's!! Unbelievable. But I believe that time will heal the wounds and make us a better version of us ,stronger and increasingly prosperous .. thank you thank you coach Craig 💖
Have faith! We are 12 years in, both 52 years old, have 3 adult daughters between the 2 of us and not married….yet). We have been living apart for the last 2 years. I’m an avoidant and he’s anxious. He had 2 sessions with Margaret and I had one. We also attended weekly local counseling. It hasn’t been easy, but we’re still together. It happens people…..give it time!!!!!! I felt like dying inside. This channel has helped me understand myself and my guy better. Margaret was right in saying that I need to work on my issues with my late mom. I can easily walk away from people which is something that unless you’re an avoidant, you don’t understand. It’s not about you, it’s about us. We are deeply wounded people; sometimes we don’t even realize how our pain from our caregivers affects others. Having resentment over your ex not reaching out, is exactly how avoidants feel about our caregivers not caring for us the way we should have been. It’s so hard, but working on yourself as Craig, Margaret and Victoria say is something that is key. The stronger of an understanding of who you are and why people act as they do, will make you a better partner and will make you set your own bar higher. Working on yourself is so important. I’ve been doing this for the last 2 years. I continue to listen to these videos and learn more about myself every day. Thank you for this channel! If we can do it, it can happen! Have faith, work on yourself. Understand that others have deeper pain that they need to sort out, so it’s unless to be mad at someone for needing to grow. They just either don’t realize it or don’t want to work on it. In the meantime work on yourself and keep watching the videos!!!!!!
Yeah, I guess resentment can become a thing. Occasionally I'll get upset when I think about what we could be doing this summer, what we had planned. And my thought is "why the hell did she ruin these plans?" Really, a number of times when I think about what could have been or how she chose to hurt me so, I just get resentful and angry. It passes, but it happens.
I’m in this exact scenario. It sucks. How are you doing now?
@@WhizBizzle Pretty good, for the most part. That breakup kicked off a ton of growth that I'm grateful for. It's been nearly 3 years and she's engaged to the guy she left me for (they do run off into the sunset sometimes). These days, I'm less concerned about her and more about the close friends that wound up being cool with the cheating. So that's where the resentment was eventually directed. It was helpful to distance myself from that whole situation in the long run.
@@ChrisLT Wise. My whole peer group of 4 years seemed to have supported and even encouraged her behavior. Crazy pill to swallow but they are not the friends I want in my circle. Good luck my man!
Excellent advice. Thank you. Love your voice Victoria ...soooo soothing to listen too.
Coach Victoria: Thank you. You came into your own in this video and shared your shirt. It was wild the see a flower bloom but dude, you gave up lot for this. Powerful, inspiring a d so instructive. But look who you are learning from. Craig and Margaret thank you! Amazing!
You all are awesome!
Wonderful content and really needed to hear personally. Thank you 🙏🏾
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10:15 This is a great takeaway. The healthier they are they more likely they'll want to repair things with you.
Exactly, and if they are not contacting you - they are not healthy. Meaning, they are obviously not able to communicate in a mature way so why would you want someone like that anyway.
I felt resentful after 12 months of NC but now I just feel peace and indifference. I'm ready to commit to another relationship without a doubt
I haven't watched the video and I'm already thinking that is exactly what I've been feeling!!
Oh absolutely! I have not stopped feeling bitter about the breakup.. but the bitterness is because of what he did to me not because of no contact. I know it will take time to heal so trying to stay patient with the process
My ex was in a toxic relationship where she was cheated on and verbally abused by her ex. Then she gets in a relationship with me where I encourage her, show affection, and care towards her but decides to end it. And now I'm here trying to figure out what I did wrong and going to Coach Craig. I treated her so well, and I get a trip to a psychotherapist as a reward....
Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up
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That’s what she tells you she’s projecting her bs onto her ex lol
She's fcuked up nothing you can do
I’m glad to know that I’m not the only one that moved to another country for someone only to have things end after you gave everything,there is a few of us out there but is good to be we are not alone.
Great video, have def had these feelings
Perfect video! Thank you
6 months NC and doing my best to keep moving forward.
But can’t stop that little voice in my head that keeps reminding me of the break up, thinking about where it all went wrong so quickly, why she’s walked away so easily and wondering why I haven’t heard from her..
I know I gave 100%. But I will stay strong and won’t break NC.
Sometimes no contact doesn't work. But never give up on the person you really love, instead fight, strive for his return and make a good return..
I pray the universe grant you your heart desire abundance of love through the power of the restorer ❤️❤️🙏🙏
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The physical symptoms described here are classic withdrawal symptoms. Look it up. It’s real and physically taxing on the body & mind.
For all of you that have been ghosted or had an ex go no contact. Know that this is a gift. The right person for you with the character & moral fiber to be a partner wouldn’t behave in this way.
Welcome the anger because it means you are starting to move on! Just don’t let it consume you. Let it power you to become a better version of you; the one that will attract the right partner! 💖
Coach Victoria thanks for sharing your story
Great video bro
Im sorry after one month of NC i crack and rip her thru text. So much anger after her blaming me for everything. After processing the break up i saw everything so clear and no its was her!! She was the problem not me!! I did everything i could and more. We talked for one hour where she started crying and just had no answers. At the end i said now i got my power bck. Stomachache wen away and i felt like a new man. Now i can say she lost a good man.
Did she ever reach out?
Just started and yes! She’s already dating someone after 10 days, she told me she had a “new friend” and they went salsa dancing last night. WTF!!!
@James Bond I asked her to get together so we could talk and she told me she had plans with this new friend. I’m devastated!
@@tonyrossi3814 She monkey-branched on you man. She already moved on before she broke up with you. She basically lined him up and cheated on you. If she ever reaches out, I wouldn't take her back, but it is totally up to you.
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It started long before 10 days ago.
Coach Craig, if I may, here's an idea for a video: resentment, how it differs from anger, how it can lead to explosive/impulsive and self-sabotaging behaviour.
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Everyday. Since nov 2018 I have felt Resentment I still feel it. During your workbook I found out she was avoidant And kept reaching out but never told me why she kept reaching out I got so frustrated I flat out said she was confused I didn’t want a relationship. It got so confusing and I have been resentful ever since
Victoria! I can't believe that happened to you in Norway. My heart hurts for you. ❤️
Feelings went from lets give this a shot to i hope you're able to keep yourself warm cuz those streets are cold
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Coach Victoria, I have been in a similar situation and it's hard not to become very anxious when you've put in such a big investment relocating and uprooting your life, and the other one simply checks out from a very comfortable place. I'm alone here during the whole of this pandemic - 9 months so far without any human touch at all. It's crazy-making, for sure.
Sometimes no contact doesn't work. But never give up on the person you really love, instead fight, strive for his return and make a good return..
I pray the universe grant you your heart desire abundance of love through the power of the restorer ❤️❤️🙏🙏
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I don’t think I’ll ever feel resentful towards my ex for the breakup. Sure I’m still a little upset about it, (who isn’t) but because she’s my first, and I know what to work on myself and from watching and listening to these videos, I know what I have and if she ever comes back, I could tell her about the things I’ve learned and discovered about myself, I could help her or work with her problems.
Just about to watch the video and I'm already feeling resentment after breaking no contact a few times, longest I've gone is about 3 weeks. I can tell the ex has either met someone or is dating going by her dismissive text responses and the fact she doesn't want to speak to me on phone. I haven't asked her if she has been seeing anyone because I know it would be showing to her that I'm needy & weak, which she probably thinks already. She said she'd like to hear from me occasionally but has never initiated contact, its always been me. I definitely need to let her go this time and work on myself and move on. We broke up twice this year already, long distance relationships are hard. Craig is definitely right, he knows!
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Screw my ex… I think I’m falling in love with Coach Victoria 🌸💕. Great insight from the both of you. I adore you guys
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She's great. That guy from Norway was stupid!
You’re in love with someone you don’t know.
Work on your attachment issues
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@@kita0918 it was a joke. 🙄
How could anyone break up with Coach Victoria?! She is a beautiful, intelligent, wonderful woman!
Yeah I felt resentment prob because my ex is avoidant. Watching your channel has made me understand her but it’s still hard. I told her about how she is avoidant and why she is the way she is. Bad move. Lol. Now I’m in no contact.
lmao I did the same thing. then he told my mom (they're still in touch - it's weird) his therapist said the same thing.
@@pooscifer I actually still talk to one of my exes moms from ten years ago. That ex was avoidant too. Lol. This one still reads emails that I put a tracker on. She’s mad now but I’m sure she will reach out eventually. If not it’s ok.
Funny this video comes out now. I’ve been starting to feel pissed all of a sudden just recently.
Whenever i think of my relationship with my ex it reminds me of Game of Thrones: an absolute gold that turned into complete garbage by the end that i can't tell if it's the same person anymore. And both of these things make me sad and angry how they ended whenever i consciously revisit them.
I feel resentful that for the longest time we had an agreement about her moving with me. After she graduated, she reneged and then broke up with me. 2+ years together feels like a lie. I should have seen it coming. Its like I put my full trust into someone that could just change their mind like that. I made mistakes for sure in the relationship. We both did. But I never gave up. And it hurts that someone you thought was 100% committed could just give up on you like that
It's good though I think because that's when your frame of mind turns and you come to really question if YOU really want them back. It helps you move on, just don't let it eat you up
I am angry and have resentment because she blamed me and gave me all the guilt for the failure of the relationship.
And now, 5 months later, I see things clearly. The lies that she met her rebound only 2 weeks after the breakup, but now i remember the little details. Her disgusted faces at my little faults. She distanced herself a few months before the breakup. Left me when i was at my weakest, took her stuff, and our dog went to her mum. She left like a thief in the night. And stupid as i am, i even tried to reconcile, to apologize...
I was just discarded after 7 years.
I took her to me when she had problems with her mum, the death of her father, the debts, her studies, our dog, always there by her side.
I had one year where i was struggling with the loss of my job, became depressiv and isolated myself, and i know i neglected her, unfortunately. I will take my responsibility.
Yes, i am angry and have resentments, but i will rise again... and find a person who doesn't leave when I need her the most. Someone with values and character.
Damn I couldn't eat for a couple weeks but coach Craig has gone through the dephs 🤣😅 Thanks for your vulnerability!
I started no contact right away. I’m back and fourth with feeling a bit resentful. I feel like I did a lot to fulfill her needs throughout our relationship but didn’t at the tail end and she left me. Resentment comes when I think how could she not contact me yet after a month.
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Well just found out a few hours ago she’s in an official relationship with another guy and that they were talking while we were together. Kinda hard to not be resentful lol
How are you doing now?
I hope you’re doing good in life 🙏🏽
anger? yes a little bit but i felt more sadness and loneliness than anger. Imagine going through a break up during lockdown? Most of the time, ancient philosophies give me strength in this dire times.
"We must embrace the law of the universe which is constant change and the impermanence of things."
Taoism/Stoicism
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The more time that has passed the more resentful I feel towards them.
Feel resentment at times but I’m aware of all the negative things and it’s okay I’d rather be alone than be a doormat or used with no love
To anyone that says "First", you're not...
We argue she told me she needs time, so i start no contact, after 2 weeks told me she wants to break up, shes feels calmer without me, then she blocked ME.When relief stage really started? Any chance to miss me with time if i go into no contact?
Whatever you do, do not reach out! Unfortunately even after reconnecting with the other party , it no longer feels the same again. I’ve become resentful and indifferent to him. I’ve moved on.
It's starting to happen to me. 3 months since the breakup. I didn't start feeling like this until now. I think "how did she leave me so easily?" "After everything, she was my best friend & lover"
Hey coach so I reached saying how are you after 30 days of NC. She texted saying “can you do me a favor and delete my number “ 30 minutes later she texted again saying “i dont know why you think theres anything to conversate about. i told u alrdy if u dont add value to my life u gotta go and thats what went down.” Is there still a chance?
She sounds extremely unempathetic and arrogant.
Very similar situation as Victoria. It is very painful but it is part of the life...
Thanks for sharing
I wish they’d talk more about marriage. That would be helpful for so many I’m sure.
My heart is breaking but i feel so betrayed. Clearly i felt much more than him and im looking back at how i was treated. His silence is my confirmation that he just used me for the last few years
Beyond angry at this point. I’ve been her rock for 8 yrs. To be treated like dirt after just a month ago she was talking to me and grieving the loss of my beautiful dog & now unfollows me …. Pure evil to add that onto my grief. She is Satan, I swear she is. I don’t even want her so much as I want to get rid of my anger. She truly doesn’t deserve happiness.
My girlfriend just told me 4 weeks ago she needed some "Me time for awhile" & stopped all contact with me but still has my house key...her bday is this Wednesday smh
Been in no contact for a month n three weeks now.....my resentment of them grows each day,I feel like I wasn't appreciate in the relationship... after all the efforts I made.It really hasn't been easy 😔😔😔 I actually don't wanna see him again..ever!..
I am so angry today. 3 year relationship. We went through so much together. I'm in no contact. Technically we are " taking a break" but I haven't exactly had 💯 confirmation he wants to be together after some time apart. He says he loves me. He's going through some serious mental health issues and I respect he needs space but I'm angry how communication hasn't been clear. Yesterday he sent me a pic of his cat ( not unusual). I replied... And now radio silence again!! What the hell. How can people just switch off after talking every single day. I'll never understand humans. Really feeling the separation anxiety today 😞 am I overreacting? 😞 God I miss him. He's my best friend.
Same here. All we have to do is let go and time heals. Know your worth love yourself and never wait for someone
Peace ❤
Been in no contact with her since the break up. Going into week 18 I was an anxious attachment and I became abusive in lashing out and accusations of cheating. We were together for 4 years. I’m scared still and trying to let go of the fear. I’m getting help and have already changed so much and working on my core wounds. But does no contact work when you’ve hit the abusive mark? (I was emotionally abusive for about 3 years)
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No contact only works to get your ex back if the relationship was good and there was no abuse.
i only get angry when my ex contacts me. she ended it and now wants me back. its been 2 years maybe and i dont contact her at all i rarely think of her but she won't stop messaging me every few months. every time she does i get really angry at how dirty she did me and she has the nerve to want me back. why so she can stab me in the back and front again I can't trust her. She messaged today and it has ruined my mood on and off today. i want to be rid of my anger for her. im tired of being angry. why wont she leave me alone.
I was with àn avoident for four years, he was so selfish, I am currently in the seventh month of no contact...
its called grief,the grieving process,and yes people can die of a broken heart 💔,a physical breakdown,my grandmother died two days after my grandfather passed.Not sick at all either
I'm doing a text to talk so I hope that this works out but I wanted to add something regarding this video I am an avoidant who has done two years of Deep dive work and have moved to a more secure attachment style my partner is an anxious attachment style and we have your typical anxious-avoidant trap my anxious partner broke up with me which shocked me and the reason for The Break-Up was mainly because he didn't feel heard or seen and I also have autism so I struggle with closeness stemming from my autism with all that being said we are in no contact and I can tell you as an avoidant granted an avoidant who has done a tremendous amount of work on themselves but still in avoidant is resentful for the no contact and every day that goes by that I don't hear from my ex I get more frustrated and angry so all of you wondering what an avoidant feels during a breakup we can do no contact and make it appear like it is not affecting us but I can tell you it is
Yup felt like I did everytbing the best way I could . Was not enough . “Something was missing”
Got the same reasoning from my ex despite all I put in 🙄
I moved from Kentucky gave up everything to move a be with this guy I was with him 10 years then in October I cought him texting another female and sending pictures so I confronted him about then he blames me and he left and went to his dad's to stay I did all the wrong things just about then I started no contact then with in a week he would call then he would go cold then he would text me once in a while then he goes cold again now the only time he contacts me if he needs something I know he is using me I'm not stupid but I guess I am because I still help him when he needs it ik I need to stop that I do love him it's hard for me to tell him no the last 3 Times I did see him he would kiss me I am so confused 🤔
In week 3 of no contact, the days are starting to blur together. As crazy at it might seem though, I want to move on and am taking steps towards letting go. I'll meet new people and try again.
I’m feeling resentful tonight on day 6 but maybe we should say day two because wife broke my no contact yesterday almost all day with the final message at five in the morning telling me that I cheated on her when I never cheated on her. It started off kind of nice although weird with her saying on day four that I gave her closure which and see how you would have closure on day four really the whole situation is just so confusing and I feel like my honor has been disgraced.
I'm gonna write a comment before watching the video so that I don't get influenced by the information on this video.
I started feeling more and more resentful towards my ex the moment I stopped blaming myself and realising that this divorce is actually a blessing for me, I started realising how bad I was treated and for how long as was neglected.
The more I thought about my marriage the more I started to remember all the good things that I was doing and all the qualities I have and more importantly I stopped thinking that my ex was perfect, I started to remember why me too at some point I wanted to leave the marriage.
I felt a little guilty about a small amount of resentment that formed for my ex. We work together. I catch her watching me alot but she straight up won't talk to me and avoids me at work. Most of the time I don't let it get to me. I'm above it. But damn am I confused alot of the time.
What to do if you have kids with them please any tips
Isn't the no contact rule some kind of a game between the dumper and the dumpee to see who has more patience?
No, it’s to get yourself back
@@MrJose9783 what the FUCK are you saying trying to sound smart. No one loses themselves they are always who they are. Its just that the breakup at least should be done face to face and effort done to keep the relationship before breaking up
The no contact rule is for you to think about the relationship and what you really want in a relationship. To work on yourself and come out as a better and stronger person. After going through that, you then ask yourself honestly whether you should try to get back with your ex or move on and meet other people.
My ex wanted to stay friends after the breakup. He got in a rebound 1 month after our breakup but we still remained close friends. Now a year later, he and the rebound broke up and he wants no contact with me (for at least 3 months so i could get over the breakup and he can focuss on other women without me getting in the way according to him). This hurted me a bit but im focussing on myself and want people to be with me for who I am.
Sometimes no contact doesn't work. But never give up on the person you really love, instead fight, strive for his return and make a good return..
I pray the universe grant you your heart desire abundance of love through the power of the restorer ❤️❤️🙏🙏
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@@Quellebel have you message him?
You know what? I think coming out of a breakup stronger, better and happier is a lie people tell themseves to cope with the breakup and what wonderful thing they lost. I don't think any heartbreak ever left me better and took me to a happier place. Every breakup just leaves you numbed and scarred and hurt. There is no upside to being dumped.
Seems like u hold on to hurt too long & dont heal
@@wyeishajones9068 yes i don't. But what i said is still true: breakups are never easy and don't make you happier. It's like lying that your arm was cut off and you now are a better off. Please don't. Breakups suck and for a reason.
@@NomadUrpagi break ups are hard but I dont agree on the other otherside when the pain leaves & u stop missing that person you're able to live happier life & get a chance to fall in love again but I guess for some people like yourself it's just a bit harder I urge u to try therapy & hang around people who make u feel good
@@wyeishajones9068 you don't get happier than when you were before the breakup or than during the relationship do you? You just slowly return to normal after the breakup. So i wouldn't call it getting happier. It's just getting happy enough again. And paying for therapy is such a western idea that people pay tons of money just to let their problems out. We have friends, family and youtube to do that.
Im in no contact now with my husband of 10 years. Every day Im becoming for resentful towards him.
Oh Coach V. I went through something very similar. I emphasize.
I'm about 30 minutes away from meeting my ex since our breakup. She's "excited" to see me, I don't share her sentiment, I have a pit in my stomach, part of me doesn't want to see her, but I know how to seduce her, romance her with my grin, my mouth, the way I look at her, I just need to remember stuff I've learned, not hash things out, be playful, confident, try and get her bonding hormones stirred up. But this pit in my stomach.
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Well, didn't go so good. She did ask if we could try again, but she shared 3 things with me that have occurred since our breakup 3 weeks ago.
One was a guy, she hooked up with a couple of times, texted face time for a month before they hooked up 8 months ago, and it fell apart after a few weeks. She told me during my relationship, if he'd played his cards right, she'd given him another chance. Apparently this discussion between the 2 of them happened our 1st week. She never stopped talking about him. Months went by. Friends on Facebook.
We went to the beach together in April, she checked into restaurants and bars, but didn't tag me. Our relationship started downhill from there. On/off/on/off for 2 months. Finally, 3 weeks ago, she breaks up with me. She tells me last night she's consulting for that guy. In space of 3 weeks, 1 of which she was on vacation, he contacted her and asked her to work on a project because right before the trip in April, he sent her a promotional shirt.. kind of an end around direct contact. At the time I had red flags. She said. Oh I helped him work on this project.. when? You mean the one 6 months ago? But you only hooked up 2 times ! Or. Was it the night you left your cell phone in your motel room 1 hour south of his place in April, 2 weeks before he sent you that shirt. On business, over night, she went MIA and told me she left her cell phone in her room. She has to drive within 20 minutes of his place when she went away on business.
Oh.
Anf why she broke up with me.
3 weeks ago, on business. Same city. Texted me she'd be home at 1130.
We always text to let one another know we're home safe.
She never texted. I texted her at 1120, 1145, no reply.
I got in my car and drive 30 minutes to her home. Not home. Never made it home. Again, had to drive 20 minutes of this guy. 6 months after hooking up two times, he was relevant in her day to day dialog with me..
She said her company car broke down ok way home. She felt terrible for hurting me so broke up with me.
Last night, she's now "consulting " for him.
She was surprised I was upset. I think I handled it well, didn't create a scene but my BS METER was off the scale.
I asked her if we could go back to my place. She said no. She tried to hug me when I saw her. I kissed her, but it lacked.
She wants to try again? With what.. 😥😔
I think I might have to be the one that says. No.
I'm so sad because I love her. And had good times. I want her, but something is wrong
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LOL craig had a video and title just waiting for me 😡🤣
Is it possible to find someone if I am not working and have no proper income?
@@GreatGuy1935 correct? Without money there is no ambition possible. Thanks
@@GreatGuy1935 I don’t know how to move forward in my life since I got separated from my husband since 18 months and I have no source of income and living with my mom on her Government pension.
@@GreatGuy1935 really? It’s not easy as it sounds. But I am trying against All odds., my life has come to a standstill because my mom requires my time and attention each and every time of her life and I am the only one taking care of het in Canada for 21 years now. She is now very old and sick too. Thanks
Yes I did and sometimes I still do.
It's 40 days NC, I hate him. Couldn't sleep tonight because I kept thinking of how disrespectful he was (even though we had fun times together and there was a strong connection unlike any other I've had before) but tonight I hate him.
If they stop contacting you and calling you after contacting you everyday , and ignoring your calls and texts , but they don't tell you they're breaking up with you , do you think it's a break up ?
Yes. Don’t give a shit zu such people. That was my situation too I asked him even „is it over“ and he didn’t answer and now I’m in 6 weeks nc… you know if they would want they wouldn’t do all this. They know where we live where you are so… try to be in no contact you can do it. good luck
yes sounds like ghosting. cowards
It's really affecting my mental health , I wake up every morning with anxiety ,but I'm trying to stay strong , Day 8 of No contact ,won't contact him till he does...
@@lydiafernandez1059 I know exactly how you feel I wake up and my heartbeat goes crazy out of the blue but all this is normal… I’m praying for us we will get trough it but… be strong if I can do it, you can do it too and I never thought I can do this. They will regret it believe me
@@daryapersia yes I hope we will get through this ❤
Is it possible to make friends or have intimate relationship with someone who never tells you what he is doing during week ends or in his personal life?
@James Bond thanks.
@James Bond ok but what about having the same as a friend only. Thanks
nope
@@lisaariottiart thanks.
How could anyone dump coach Victoria ?
How about when they leave u because they don’t live u anymore?
Don’t love u anymore
It's been 19months and I'm still really angry at them. They did do and said alot of horrible things that I really shouldnt have put up with
I'm at 15 months and nothing, and I feel the same way as you. Success stories gave me hope, now I get angry hearing them, especially when people come back to a relationship what is way more toxic than our relationship.
I think my resentment comes from how selfish she is being. I did show unconditional love and gave to the relationship and to think she can't even meet up to figure out what happened??? She asks so many about being non transactional yet it seems she can't be giving when it's time. I get she is going through a lot but i wasn't nasty to her, in fact i encouraged her and tried with her. I remember how sad she looked when she got excited preparing for a "tea day", getting plates and snacks, etc and her friend texted about a they would just sit on the couch, watch movies and vent as if the event meant nothing. I could see her friend was more selfish than the ex would see or admit to. I went downstairs prepped sandwiches in little triangles, made a cheese platter, got the tea stand out, some other snacks and she came down and joined in having fun. I remember that making her day or at least helping it.
So resentment comes from why throw me away like i meant nothing to you? Yet keep others? Was i really the problem in your life or maybe you have others and i was the easy black sheep to point out. I hope she wants to take some time to rekindle but also it was pretty mean what happened especially with the lack of communication.