I just realized that No-Contact is practically a reset button for everyone. For yourself, for your ex, and for the relationship. Watching all these videos and reading all the articles made me realize that you have to let the previous relationship die. No contact allows both parties to either revive it or start a new one, with or without each other.
it's scary knowing how hard it is for some of us to bring feelings back once they're gone. Personally I've only gotten back together with one ex, and regretted it. Never done it again since. I don't imagine other people are too different, but ultimately it's their loss. They had you wrapped around their finger and took it for granted, even if they didn't realize it at the time
As a matter of fact, if an ex never comes back and you focus on yourself, it will make you the price for either your ex or someone else. Remember, I’ve learned that the pain of a breakup is a fuel to focus on yourself and trust me, I’ve been through this and seen this from other people that were being dumped and focused on themselves and the exes came back. When you become your version 2.0, exes soon or later will notice the difference and the tables will turn. Trust in the progress. Time and space are your best friends, and it creates attraction. If your ex never comes back, especially if you did everything to them and you did the right thing, that’s their loss. Don’t forget that Karma exist and let Karma deal with your ex and you will see how things will blow your mind. That’s why I love watching these break up coaches because they know how to speak facts and it does work.
They come back sooner or later...mine reached out after two months saying he missed me..too bad .I was over him...just be patient and meanwhile DO NOT BREAK no contact!
@Petros K no I havent just followed coach lees advice started focusing on myself..working out and reading a lot....Im still alone but I feel in control of my emotions now. Love is just an ilusion....especially when it hurts. Thats why its important NOT to break no contact..
@@galadrielwoods2332 sorry if Ia offended you.I wanted him back....but once you gain control of your emotions you know how and when to take them back and it is not necesarrily as soon as they reach out...trust me.
She never came back, as much as it kinda stings from time to time, it's not as painful as it once was! Good luck out there folks, if the person is right for you then they will stay in your life!
Don't give up guys! It was 6-7 months of no contact before me and my ex talked again. However, I initiated the contact after seeing her at a friends party. She said that she couldn't reach out first because she was embarrased about breaking up with me,felt like a coward, had too much pride and thought i wouldn't forgive her. She said she wanted to get back with me a couple of days after the break up, but she listened to other peoples advice to not reach out too soon etc. But yeah, we've been talking and flirting for 2 months now and just taking it moderately slow. And ive just been so happy (hides). Update: She broke up with me again last year July. Been in no contact since then. I think its definately done for good. It's been a rollercoater of emotions, but I finally feel like myself again after a long time. Find happiness in yourself, not others.
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. We were together a year. The day after he broke up with me I started working out. I have abs now and it looks like I have a nice job lined up. I am taking a break to work on myself and grow to get my life together. I haven't talked to him or tried to text him. The only time I talked to him was to pick up my stuff. We didn't end on bad terms or anything. I still think about him and I still love him. I don't know if I'm dumb or not but I'm just working on me. It's really hard some days though but I'm still pushing on. Wish me luck..
you are doing the absolute best thing you can do right now. Working on yourself will help the most! Stick to no contact. My ex and I dated for a year, broke up and didnt talk for 8 months. I did the exact same thing - worked on myself and didnt contact him. Then, after 8 long months he came back. I didnt run back to him, I let him pursue me for 3 months. I finally decided to be exclusive with him again last night. Stick to your guns and do not contact :-)
@@AG-vp1ok I guess I'm still scared. He broke up with me because he said with school, getting his own place and working he wouldn't have time for a girlfriend. He has autism so he handles stress differently. He's still goin to school and I'm sure he's still pretty busy so I'm not sure he would want to get back together yet. And I wanted to make sure I have some things in my life sorted out first. But I'm mostly just scared lol
@@alreannaebersole8151 Absolutely! Along studying the methods Coach Lee shared, I also studied Feminine Energy and what it means to create space for a man to pursue me. Check out Helena Hart's videos!!! I studied Attachment Styles as well which is life changing information. My ex is a Dismissive Avoidant. Overall, I did not contact because I decided that I deserved better. In my particular situation, my ex ended things very poorly and immaturely. I needed to find enough self respect not to contact, even though I wanted to. Trust me.. I thought about it constantly. But at the end of the day, if someone wants to be with me they will. I loved him very well, so I didn't see a reason to chase him. Once he realized what he lost, he came back. Also, my ex before this one also dumped me and didnt talk to me for a year. He is STILL chasing me. It has been 3 years and I do not lead him on. But once men realize what they've lost, nothing stands in their way of wanting you back. Always hold tight to your integrity, ALWAYS love people well, ALWAYS treat people well even when they hurt you, and they will eventually figure out that they messed up.
Remember when you started dating your partner had motivation and pursued you. NC re-creates the attraction and motivation like before. If it happens it happens if not move on remember your the Prize....don’t forget that friends.
If it's meant to be and that person really loved you, they will come back in a way or another. If not, you didn't lose nothing and that person didn't loved you at all. If she cares she will reach out, even with an excuse or simply saying "hi". I broke up with my gf 2 weeks ago and this is day 14 of radio silence. I cried a lot, but the best advice I can give you is to move on. I don't mean to lose hope that she will come back. I mean that your life WHILE you wait, can't be blocked. Go on, do other things, find new hobbies and focus on work. Sometimes it will happen when you really don't think about it anymore. An ex will always come back in your life, can be months or years but that's a fact. Think about it with negativity that she won't come back. If she will, trust me, you will be even more happy. Don't check her on social media, don't watch the new friends she added or new posts/ig stories where she is happy. It would only hurt yourself. The only thing that count is when you see the notification from her. The rest? It's just pointless. Stay strong. Things will get better.
Even if it’s short term and the r’ship was good they will come back right? My ex didn’t say “goodbye it was nice knowing you.” What does this sentence mean?
My ex tried to come back to me many times but I don't discern any changes in him. He's still a manipulative person and I always wondered why I gave him several chances to prove himself as a better man. You just have to stick to becoming a better version of yourself and let go of those who don't care about you. Thanks, coach. Your words always enlighten us.
What do you suggest is the best way to get unblocked? Ngl I was too nice to her but we always had little issues that resulted in trust. Ngl alcohol had a big factor in my relationship
You reflect so much more in no contact. You get over them so much faster. I’ve been approached by at least 5 new men who are so much better. Only when you close the door is when you allow new opportunities to come
Coach Lee thank you for everything. My break up was very hard for me but you were the best friend that I needed during those difficult 4 months. You gave me the strength and the courage. I applied your advice to my break up and it worked! Me and my boyfriend are now back together and closer than before and it’s all thanks to you. Please let me know how I can share my success story with your followers. I would like to give you a testimony so that your subscribers can know that this really works. Please get back to me and let me know how I can do that for you.
@@Macmumoz if your 25 year relationship is so glorious why are you here?! What person in a 25 year relationship that “so amazing” why are you on a Dating Coach’s page watching videos about how to get your ex back 🧐🤨?!
2.5 years together 7 weeks apart She reached out after 4 and 6 weeks NC to drop things off. I played it as perfectly as possible after during before meet ups and I could feel the tables turning. I feel that I’m mostly over her but it bothers me that she went from being my best friend to not even viewing my Instagram stories/posts. I miss my “best friend” more than my girlfriend.
I made every mistake when she told me she wanted to separate. Begging, pleading, lashing out which I now realize was not only wrong but me being quite emotional. Been a month and have watched countless videos here and by others. No signs of her wanting me back but damn I'm feeling so much better about me. I'm working out three times a week at the gym. Walking everyday sometimes twice a day. Reading, learning online, working hard. Focus on YOU!!! Trust me it makes a difference. Oh ya and out of the blue, I'm 55, went out on two dates with women 15 years younger than me even through this crazy lockdown. And let me tell you they were ego boosters. Talk about helping self worth. Listen, he knows what he's talking about. Truky listen. Everything works out in the end. YOU are worth it 👌 ❤
Everybody is somebody’s ex. So there is no “better person” per say, and people can evolve and make better choices. Especially when they are motivated by the established bond they have with a person.
@Belltown Daisy I reported the scammers and took down there comments , it’s horrible that people try to take advantage of people’s raw emotions, I would say if you want help , you must help yourself read some books go see coaches in person
It’s been 36 days no contact for me nor him and I just blocked him on social media I started therapy and I’m getting back to my normal self slowly but surely
It has been 171 days now and I still feel I need more time of NC. It is for myself and even now listening to coach lee makes me calm every time. Coach word really help me through this healing journey. At least, I wanna live my life to the fullest 1st. For now.
I know it hurts right now,. But listen to me. You will look back on this and realize he/she wasn’t a great partner. Heal and let the emotions die. Work on yourself.
You got me through some horrible times Coach Lee. Thank you very much. You where my favorite coach during those shitty days cause you sincerely care, and is noticable among the other coaches on here. Ex contacted me after five months telling me how hurt she was that I found someone new lol. Stay strong y'all! No contact works, but after you learn and make yourself better, you might not want them back, or find someone else like I did. Started working out, college, and a new better job! Stay strong!
I feel like you should do some success stories of no contact. I know you did a video of it already but maybe make it a weekly series would be pretty cool.
It's been 6 years I was in a 8 year relationship it broke my heart so bad . Last I heard he moved on in a week with someone else at his job posing pics and even wedding rings were involves too. It took me 4 years to heal myself I would never go back to him I grew so much I dodged a bullet. I wont ever forget what he did to me but I do forgive him and I have peace in me more than I did before. I am in a better place in my life and in a relationship with someone who loves me back
Not certain about the points made but ,if anyone else wants to learn about infidelity in the bible try Mahorrla Melt Feelings Method (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )? It is a smashing exclusive product for learning how to win your ex back without the headache. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my colleague got excellent success with it.
Come back to these type videos it is from the beginning of were i was. Watching these daily and all I been were you guys are, the anxiety anxiousness panic sad all waiting and all... NC will help you, and heal. It gets better and makes your mind clearer. It also puts your ‘crown back up. Off the floor. You got this guys. Yes i know. You dont want to move on you dont want to wait or anything. You want them back, well. I read comments as, it gets better youll move on type comments and i dreaded it thinking nooo i want them to come back noow, i dont want them be gone forever. I now read them smiling. Things change.. It does get better even if they dont come back. Theres someone better. Now, i write the very comment i dreaded. Although im accepting now, and i see now. It is true💪
It would be so much easier to enforce this NC deal if we weren't married and dealing with taxes. I stated the way I felt and so on after he left, but after taking my power back, I only discuss necessary marital issues such as taxes.
I agree. When you are dumped it’s like your brain goes into overdrive and it seems like more time has passed than it actually has. The hardest thing is it give it time but in the end it’s the only thing that will work. Stay strong and back off. The hardest thing to do is do nothing.
I’m actually that person that fights themselves so hard I actually get over the person and move on Everytime never realized I had been doing that since childhood due to repeated losses.... that’s just how I learned to cope/ heal my pain I give myself pep talks and examples of where I was hurt worse and still survived I do that day by day next thing I know I look up and it been a year or more later.
So i will share my personal breakup experience..So i am in no contact with my ex for 2 years now and she hasn’t come back and she won’t come back and to be real i don’t even care no more if she comes back..No contact healed my hurting soul it gave me time to forget about this person and move on.. The time i was in nc i focused on my self improvement i became selfish and i started to love my self.. I gained muscle mass now currently 180lb from 130 that i was back then i did tattoos i bought nice cloths my bank account is better i have high confidence and the funny part is that i attract much much hotter girls now that i don’t even care if they motherfucker ever comes back... Stick to no contact improve your self be on your grind and way better days will come and you hearing this from me believing my ex was my entire life...
It’s been three weeks for me. I’m hanging in there. From what I hear my ex has never had a woman go “silent” on him. He doesn’t know what hit him. He won’t even tell his family and friends exactly what went down to cause the sudden break up. He’s embarrassed. He’s even too embarrassed to reach out to me. I’m just here paying attention to my daughters (they deserve the attention), working, doing the things I neglected to do for myself. Occasionally I post on Instagram about things I’m doing with my life and my daughters. Not necessarily for him to see the posts. However I know it still affects him. I’m hoping he’s ok as he’s a recovering addict. So this is a bit tricky. I refuse to reach out as he has a sponsor and family support. I’m here listening snd abiding to Coach Lee’s advice. It’s giving me peace. Thank you Coach Lee. I’ll give updates
He's not coming back, we had passion and love but, i was stubborn it was never enough.. but i didn't realise it was that intense I didn't realise how draining I was. What has worked is that, i have woken up and i have realised all these things about me and i can fix them, but i feel like he is totally done. He is someone incredibly mature he doesn't have any social media, he does what he says, and means what he says, so when he said "I still love you, but we don't work", i truely believe that. But I'm 99.9% he's compleatly gone.
It's been 10 months since the breakup, and 6 since I started no contact. She found a new BF right after I started no contact and moved back home due to covid. Not too sure no contact is going to work in my case, but it has helped me learn more about myself and focus on my own issues instead of spending every day worrying about her. Sometimes she pops up into my mind but not nearly as often as before.
I feel so hopeless. I realized all the mistakes I made now and honestly I don't blame her for leaving me. She was very sweet and was insanely in love with me but I was an alcoholic asshole that had legal problems. At this point I just feel like I'm in denial and these videos are the only thing that keep me from having a panic attack.
I know how you feel dude. My problem was that I was a mental wreck at times (not her words) was struggling to deal with some decisions and I guess it pushed her away. We tried to make effort with friendship, but 2 months after break up she wanted to close that chapter of her life completely...mainly because she was in another relationship a month after break up. It tore me apart and all I could really do is focus on myself. It's been like 75 days since no contact started, but in that time you'll not only find yourself, but also discover new interests and re-invent yourself. It's hard dude. But you WILL get there! Stay strong and don't let anyone get in the way of your dreams
Tomorrow is supposed to be the date of our monthsary at the same time the date we split for a month already. But i break the rules of no contact. I reach out to him today..but im no longer expecting any response from him. From now on I'll stand firm to do the no contact rule. I'll just watch more videos of u coach lee. To help me get more motivated and probably forget and move on..
No contact really really works! He came back after 2 weeks. I had gone into no contact immediately. We had just had a bad argument prior. I know no contact can be really hard. But it gets easier with time. :)
He blocked me in everywhere after 11 years.. NO IDEA WHAT HAPPENED, I JUST TRY ONES TO FOLLOWED HIM IN INSTAGRAM, I WAS BLOCKED TOO.. SO, I'M FORCED TO STAY NO CONTACT ANYWAY.. NOW IS BEEN 4 MONTHS.. AND YES I'M DEVASTATED.. THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO ANYWAY MY FRIEND..
Its been 2 months, and i actually moved on like 90% i found a new guy ☺️ we are dating slowly i think is time to move on. He is trying to keep in touch w my cousin ( she hates him and was confused aswell i was ). But he did not contact me. I really liked to have a closure like why he cheated on the first place so i could actually move on. But my current boyfriend makes me feel so loved and so special the confidence i gain from his behavior towards me makes me feel i dont need a closure from my ex. So to my ex i was mad and hated him but we spent 3 years together from up and downs and i really wish him to be happy he deserves it. Probably i needed that relationship to find someone better. To all who are waiting for cheating exes to come back dont. 😌
I 'm madly in love with my ex. We were legit best friends, we did everything together and I have never had anybody love and care for me the way she has. The only downside is she has severe trust issues from past relationships. Long story short, we have a young son together and she has children from her past relationship and I have a son from mine. Apparently my ex who has stirred trouble in the past was texting her messages saying we were hooking up when I'd go to pick up my son. It ended on a bad now to say the least, and I acted angrily which in retrospect should have tried harder to put her at ease. We are still friendly with each other for the sake of our son. It's now been 7 months and I'm really confused as to what my next move should be. All I know is I'm lost without her and it's eating at my soul. Help!!
@christianlopez1 we got back together not long after this post believe it or not. I thought things had finally fallen into place. Then the jealousy began to play out again. My other ex who I feel nothing for is a trouble maker, knows her insecurities and long story short began to instigate again. When Mandy saw a missed call that I was unaware of she broke it off after almost a year of being back together again. Now we simply co parent. I've come to the realization if we were ever to work out again she would need to get a handle on her trust issues because they have poinsoned an otherwise healthy relationship. What are the details of your situation? I'm sorry to hear you're going through what I am because it can be depressing and frustrating all at once.
My ex fiance made it very clear no way we will get married. Things aren't meant to be or not. December 12th 2020 was the date came and went. Nothing will solve it or anyone. Ive moved forward with my life upsetting yes but its OKAY now I've let go of her and her two girls. But after 4 years together it wasn't meant to be.
My ex is super stubborn, once she makes a decision she never goes back on it, she has never gotten back together with any of her exes. So my chances are very slim.
My advice to you is simple. Fine someone who will appreciate you and love you unconditionally. usually when you truly move on is when they normally come back. By then you will not care.
@@USMCGUY2020 that usually a relationship destroyer to be jealous. My advice is to give some time and then try to initiate contact and apologize for your behaviour. Your job is not to convince her to come back to you but to plant the seed by apologizing.
@@B1GK1NG I apologized the day after we broke up and i told her i needed to work on myself and change a few things and i wished her the best she also wished me the best and ive been in no contact for 3 weeks now. Her parents are good friends with mine and they invited us over for christmas do you think its a good idea for me to go and see her there in person and just act casual like everything is fine and im happy and over the break up? Or should i try reaching out via text first?
@@USMCGUY2020 don’t reach out over text. When you see her in person just act casual. Put up your poker face. Don’t let your emotions take overs. You need to maintain your frame and show that you are the better person. Don’t be surprise if she will want to converse with you.
Big thankyou to coach lee. My ex broke up as he felt trauma from.past.we were v happy.. Since I felt unable to cope and kept textin. Feeling better taking tips on no contact but have sent a happy xmas. I ferl more settled but love him so much
Female nature my guy, if you lose your masculine state in a relationship your ex will see you as ‘beta’ which is the horrible truth about hypergamy, depending on how you handled the break up your ex will look for someone that can maintain frame.
You have to invest in loving yourself. Pursuing other women! Rewiring your brain. Women push away if you are too beta. Do the opposite. Heal your wounded masculine
I think this advice is great but I do believe you are hurting yourself if you are waiting for them to come back. There is always a chance that they may never come back. That’s the painful truth but it is true that they may never come back. They might. But if there is that chance they could not come back then you have no choice but to try little by little to move forward. And that’s easier said than done for sure like it’s not easy to move on but the goal should be to move on more than getting them back. Because they may never come back and what if 8 months down the line they’re still not here but you’re waiting for them while they’ve moved on? That’s going to crush you. So if they never come back then you have no choice anyway but to move forward so that should be the goal. Don’t think about them coming back. Your goal should be to move forward to the next chapter of your life because like I said you can’t predict the future you don’t know if they’re coming back
Coach Lee, thanks a lot. Cause of u ,I'm strong now. I never begged him, I just let him go. I'm don't think I'll b with him anymore. Cause he let me go after 12 years later. So I don't think need that person anymore . Actually I feel good being myself. Thank u so much.
Shadow, it just goes to show you that NO Contact is for YOU also. It gives YOU time to think and realize what you really want. I'm happy for you. Best wishes ❤️ ♥️ ⚘️
@Caine Tajada I can feel your pain. I can imagine what you're going through. Mine is a 10 year relationship, so imagine what I'm going through? But don't give up on God. Have faith and trust. Plus we have 2 kids. So just have patience and work on yourself like I'm trying to do 😁
He ghosted me in feb. pandemic hit. Didn’t hear a word from him. No, how are you or your family. So never heard from him again. I’m finally in a better place now after months of depression. But I know he won’t come back. Too much pride and never loved me. Which I guess is best
Dated for 5 yrs pregnant within first month of being with new guy did no contact she reached out to me on day 35 we were talking she was questioning being with him then drops the bomb she’s pregnant
Almost 3 weeks into no-contact and I was scrolling through snap chat and somehow clicked on my ex's snap chat and started typing gibberish and immediately exited out. However, I noticed after this she unfriended me on snap chat. So she saw me typing. Did I just screw everything up??!!
We needed no contact. Things got too emotional and it was draining us both to the point it was affecting our mental health. All because we couldn't resolve an issue and the longer it went unresolved the more distressing everything became. It's been 4 months and I still miss her but feel loads better. We probably were not right for each other
I think what couch Lee said about the last reason is true . I broke up with my bf, after a month i beg him and said it was just a mistake out of anger. But he also said he dont want me anymore. Now, i scare to contact him because i feel he dont want me anymore.
This came at the time I needed it the most. I missed him so much today and almost texted him. 6 weeks into no contact. His friend invited me to Vegas and said my ex was going to be there but I declined. Turns out his rebound was there and they broke up on that trip. So hopefully he is getting to miss me 😄
I’ve had it with my three years of a bunch of bullshit. Breaking up going back breaking up going back she has her bunco her church her kids and I come second to everything I’m tired of it. She’s like most women she wants a guy to look like Adonis wants them to be rich wants them to be perfectbut they sure don’t match up in those qualities of what they’re offering.
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Ive been married for 16yrs, but separated for the last 4 1/2 yrs, always w the thought we’d reconcile. But, within the last few months apparently my wife started a new relationship and recently told me she now wants a divorce. It feels as though I will never find love again, and that saddens me.
Thank you, Coach Lee. I get excited when I see that notification from your page! Always great advice. I hope everyone here can heal and see the happiness life offers with or without your ex 🥰
Hmmmm-After three years of no eyes on each other & that includes two years this month of no verbal communication. Yeah, man’s got a lot of “baggage” in his orbit. One day we’re planning his moving back in, twelve hours later, lighten struck-nightmare began. I’d say, it t appears he’s not returning. Would be great to see videos on come backs after a year or so….. thank you Coach Lee, your videos definitely great course correcting and next time.
4 months no contact she's been in a rebound for 3 months we dated for a year I dont know if I will hear from her again I've been focusing on me but I miss her vibes alot
Think that might be the first issue "you dated for a year"....it doesn't take that long to decide if you want to make a commitment to someone and make them your girlfriend/boyfriend...I left someone I was "dating" after 3.5 months that couldn't bring himself to call me his girlfriend so I left him and became someone else's girlfriend instead who knew what they wanted...xo
my ex is doing the cat and mouse thing right now. he text me like everything is back to normal for a few days. even kept sending me reminiscent pics and jokes, and now he has gone cold. so I am letting him be cold, I am not going to chase. starting no contact all over again lol.
While I appreciate and watch these videos also for the comments, I can't agree about finding someone else. I've been divorced 11 yrs and last relationship was 2018. I got knocked up and have been alone since. I've been told I'd meet someone at the right time with God's help...blah blah blah amd when i finally do things differently snd date someone i wouldn't typically, I fell in love and he too claimed to also. After an incredible whirlwind, he told me the day I was going to meet his mom i was disgusting, I disgusted him how he didn't like Me much less love me and he considered killing himself as a better option than marrying me. I cried and pleaded with him for an answer as to why. I was starting to move had gotten s job interview after he pleaded with me to move to his city...to be Insulted bashed humiliated and beaten down in front of my 12 yr old. This person was someone I waited to meet and didn't rush into anything and after being singled. Years...I thought it was my time and that better person had come along after my sons donor left me at 5 weeks pregnant. I despise my life and am Alive because I have to be not because I want to. Nothing gets better and time hasn't healed all. I've been out of relationships so long that I really thought this was my time to have a partner after being alone so long....
@@RealCoachLee I know you do. You're very specific that while your methods are effective, it doesn't work with every single person on the planet. I watch your clips because they're informative and have given me some help to my situation. My person isn't something I believe this will work with not because your strategies aren't good but because of the kind of person he is
I am sorry to hear what you have been going through. I am coming from a relationship of 7 years that seemed to be okay for being together for these years at least when I compare to others. At least we still had sex on the regular and weren't fighting very often. But the relationship was loveless in that sense that there was no spiritual connection at all. He wasn't interested at all about what was going on in MY mind, I actually morphed to please him and give him attention and validation which he did not return. So yeah I was not "alone" because I could tell the world, look I have a long term relationship going but I was actually VERY lonely in this relationship and so are many others who feel like they have invested so much into a certain person that they stay with them although deep inside they know it's all make believe. Id rather stay alone than ever maintaining such a fake relationship ever again. I don't want to diminish what coach Lee is providing here but close after my break up of being dumped I binge watched StephanSpeaks videos which from the title sounded appropriate and oh my, what a cold shower of truth and facts. I am so mad at myself for not watching these videos earlier because I knew they were there. They could have spared me from wasting precious years in a cold an lonely relationship although for the outside world we were constantly out and about, on vacation, visiting nice cities, going on concerts and what not. Don't dispair I want to tell you. The people in relationships - it's not what it seems in 80% of the cases. But learn how to detect red flags and what are the signs to look out for in a man that has the potential to make you happy. Stephan will teach you. P. S.: I too don't think my, ex will come back, because he is a rigid black and white kind of person who told me in the beginning of our relationship that break up is break up and you don't break up if you don't mean it and that's also why you don't need to stay in contact with exes. And he also said having another lover is another no go that puts things to an end. As it was very obvious to me that he came to my house in a sudden rush to probably have me out of the way because he met someone else and he broke up so I guess he will hold himself to his own standards. I'd love to live and see him regret it but I will never take him back, it's over, he is dead for me because if he doesn't ME MYSELF will hold him to his own standards.
I want to be No Contact but unfortunately I'm tied to her via our credit card and various other shared financials, which she watches like a hawk and emails me about constantly. My responses are short and direct. I'd really rather not speak with her at all. Not sure what to do.
@@SamanthaSprinkles69 that’s a good start. I can honestly say I’ve never cried over an ex.....it won’t ever happen either. I figure she’s not coming back and that’s fine because I hold much more value than she does.
Thank you, Coach Lee... Watching your videos always help me control myself in not breaking NC... It also keeps my sanity intact. May God bless you. ❤️☝️
1 month NC, i block him and pretend his dead...he choose to leave me with another girl, so choose my self to improve and love more. Dont want waste my time thinking about him and care what his been up to. 😏
I wish I had known about NC 10 months ago when he walked away from me with no explanation. It’s been almost 2 weeks now of NC and it gets better by the day. I am just waiting for the day when I am completely healed.
They won’t come back and never will.. They don’t love you and probably already move on with someone else and NC is just a way for you to move up head high with dignity.. If someone really love you nothing can stop them from being with you.. see the reality the way it is.. NC best thing ever keep stick to it to save your self respect.
shalineemvala. I don't know where you're getting your information from, but that is NOT TRUE! You may have been deeply hurt, as many people have been, but ex's DO MAKE UP. To make you feel better, and begin to believe, let me recommend Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you immensely and make you feel better. It's a POWERFUL program. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
My ex contacted me over the weekend. She told me how good I was to her (I know). Then she called me the next day and asked me to receive a code on my phone. I did it but didn't think much of it except wondering why me? It has been 3 months since we broke up. Thank You Coach!
Great channel ,i used the no contact rule on every relation till present , i learned that i should not wish her merry christmas or happy birthday and i had doubts about that .... But most of all i really DONT understand how can after she came to me ,i have to be polite rather then shuv in her face everything she promised me in anger .... I cant get over this ... Oh i should just be " you wanna get back together ,ok sure ".... That.s just weak from me....
Ok, I'm going to see if this NO CONTACT works. I truly am. We've had a terribly volatile relationship for almost 3 years. Up, down, up, down.... Family and friends got involved... Dramas.... Me chasing him over and over... So i wrote him a closure letter and decided to just - disappear. It has been only 7 days now. Of course, he's not contacted me. Let's see what happens after another 7 days... I will actually report back!! 😅
30 days today, and yesterday almost broke down but managed not to call. It’s really, really hard... I don’t know how others do it. Not a whisper from him though. Absolutely nothing. Zero. I don’t think he really cares, TBH. Maybe that will help me finally move on from him.
Because shes a heartless person that replaced me a month later after 7 years together and acted like I never meant anything to her never contacted me or anything.... So yeah she's never coming back I miss her everyday but she never deserved me to throw me away the way she did
My ex went so cold after the break that she wasn't well. She came back for a night, and then a week later told me she had moved on, I'll admit I sent one too many begging messages, 4 years went down the drain!
What if I was the one to break up and want him to come back? I didn’t want to leave, but I needed to walk away with self respect. I would love for him to come back a changed man, I wouldn’t take him as he is. We have a history of 4.5 years.
I stayed in NO CONTACT! I moved on and let my guard down and met someone who treats me so much better than the ex. Someone who loves me back. Way better. Better everything. Im actually happily in love with someone else finally just when I thought love would never come again. So as far as I’m concerned my ex can stay where he is. Should’ve kept me when he had the chance. His lost. Bye.
I just realized that No-Contact is practically a reset button for everyone. For yourself, for your ex, and for the relationship. Watching all these videos and reading all the articles made me realize that you have to let the previous relationship die. No contact allows both parties to either revive it or start a new one, with or without each other.
So well said❤️..It touched.
This comment is genius
Absolutely
Daaaaaaamn that hit
Exactly!!!
I'm actually worried I might move on lol
Yea, well
i have no choice. She's gonna do hard time, 7 years minimum!
In the same boat lol...untill now you just feel like cheating when contacting someone else isn't it.
it's scary knowing how hard it is for some of us to bring feelings back once they're gone. Personally I've only gotten back together with one ex, and regretted it. Never done it again since. I don't imagine other people are too different, but ultimately it's their loss. They had you wrapped around their finger and took it for granted, even if they didn't realize it at the time
Same here.
I'm starting to
All of us on no contact should form a singles group.
Down
Yeah...
Facebook perhaps?
I’m going on 4 months no contact
Yes.
One month no contact but ex has been dating already
As a matter of fact, if an ex never comes back and you focus on yourself, it will make you the price for either your ex or someone else. Remember, I’ve learned that the pain of a breakup is a fuel to focus on yourself and trust me, I’ve been through this and seen this from other people that were being dumped and focused on themselves and the exes came back. When you become your version 2.0, exes soon or later will notice the difference and the tables will turn. Trust in the progress. Time and space are your best friends, and it creates attraction. If your ex never comes back, especially if you did everything to them and you did the right thing, that’s their loss. Don’t forget that Karma exist and let Karma deal with your ex and you will see how things will blow your mind. That’s why I love watching these break up coaches because they know how to speak facts and it does work.
Thanks for this 😢too month now no contact, an he has still not reach out to me 💔😭😭
It's all true about no contact. We split in May; he returned to me in November. We both had some growing to do.
Congrats
Who broke up?
@@martadapula If the query is for me, my fella walked away from me.
Hi Di Fernandez, at first did u do the No contact already or you pushed communicating?
I did a 30-day no contact period.
They come back sooner or later...mine reached out after two months saying he missed me..too bad .I was over him...just be patient and meanwhile DO NOT BREAK no contact!
@@christopherendurance2877 and please dont believe in those crazy spellcasters lol
@Petros K no I havent just followed coach lees advice started focusing on myself..working out and reading a lot....Im still alone but I feel in control of my emotions now. Love is just an ilusion....especially when it hurts. Thats why its important NOT to break no contact..
I did as xmas
@@Itspaolatina ego talking
@@galadrielwoods2332 sorry if Ia offended you.I wanted him back....but once you gain control of your emotions you know how and when to take them back and it is not necesarrily as soon as they reach out...trust me.
Change your name from coach Lee to the anxiety tamer.
😂
I SWEAR! I remember early in my break up this is legit all I did 24/7.
Word
True
😂😂😂😂
She never came back, as much as it kinda stings from time to time, it's not as painful as it once was! Good luck out there folks, if the person is right for you then they will stay in your life!
They only come back after a significant amount of time has passed and they have no other options
@@adamoart211 Big facts
I know how you feel it stings for me too that it’s been a year now. But it is what it is🤷🏽♀️
Don't give up guys! It was 6-7 months of no contact before me and my ex talked again. However, I initiated the contact after seeing her at a friends party. She said that she couldn't reach out first because she was embarrased about breaking up with me,felt like a coward, had too much pride and thought i wouldn't forgive her. She said she wanted to get back with me a couple of days after the break up, but she listened to other peoples advice to not reach out too soon etc. But yeah, we've been talking and flirting for 2 months now and just taking it moderately slow. And ive just been so happy (hides).
Update:
She broke up with me again last year July. Been in no contact since then. I think its definately done for good. It's been a rollercoater of emotions, but I finally feel like myself again after a long time. Find happiness in yourself, not others.
Did it work out
Update
update?
Damn liar
Why’d did she decide to break up?
It’s been 5 weeks… & I miss him so much, but everytime I think about contacting him I watch one of your videos. Thanks Coach!
It will absolutely get better. Just focus on improving yourself and not focus on your ex. You will eventually be in a better place in your life.
Just work on your self when ure better he will comeback
How is it going now
@@RTG_Fakie I broke no contact after 14 weeks & he didn’t reply
@@ReginaBNLuv sorry to hear that
Three months into no contact, I don’t cry myself to sleep anymore but I do have that feeling of longing
did your ex come back? please update
@@pvz0484 no.
I'm sorry man :/
did y'all atleast talk to eachother as friends?
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. We were together a year. The day after he broke up with me I started working out. I have abs now and it looks like I have a nice job lined up. I am taking a break to work on myself and grow to get my life together. I haven't talked to him or tried to text him. The only time I talked to him was to pick up my stuff. We didn't end on bad terms or anything. I still think about him and I still love him. I don't know if I'm dumb or not but I'm just working on me. It's really hard some days though but I'm still pushing on. Wish me luck..
you are doing the absolute best thing you can do right now. Working on yourself will help the most! Stick to no contact. My ex and I dated for a year, broke up and didnt talk for 8 months. I did the exact same thing - worked on myself and didnt contact him. Then, after 8 long months he came back. I didnt run back to him, I let him pursue me for 3 months. I finally decided to be exclusive with him again last night. Stick to your guns and do not contact :-)
@@AG-vp1ok I guess I'm still scared. He broke up with me because he said with school, getting his own place and working he wouldn't have time for a girlfriend. He has autism so he handles stress differently. He's still goin to school and I'm sure he's still pretty busy so I'm not sure he would want to get back together yet. And I wanted to make sure I have some things in my life sorted out first. But I'm mostly just scared lol
@@stephanielang4111 thank you so much that's really encouraging!
@@zytxhdx1398 it's good to know I'm not alone. I wish the best for you! Thank you for being nice
@@alreannaebersole8151 Absolutely! Along studying the methods Coach Lee shared, I also studied Feminine Energy and what it means to create space for a man to pursue me. Check out Helena Hart's videos!!! I studied Attachment Styles as well which is life changing information. My ex is a Dismissive Avoidant. Overall, I did not contact because I decided that I deserved better. In my particular situation, my ex ended things very poorly and immaturely. I needed to find enough self respect not to contact, even though I wanted to. Trust me.. I thought about it constantly. But at the end of the day, if someone wants to be with me they will. I loved him very well, so I didn't see a reason to chase him. Once he realized what he lost, he came back.
Also, my ex before this one also dumped me and didnt talk to me for a year. He is STILL chasing me. It has been 3 years and I do not lead him on. But once men realize what they've lost, nothing stands in their way of wanting you back. Always hold tight to your integrity, ALWAYS love people well, ALWAYS treat people well even when they hurt you, and they will eventually figure out that they messed up.
Remember when you started dating your partner had motivation and pursued you. NC re-creates the attraction and motivation like before. If it happens it happens if not move on remember your the Prize....don’t forget that friends.
If it's meant to be and that person really loved you, they will come back in a way or another. If not, you didn't lose nothing and that person didn't loved you at all.
If she cares she will reach out, even with an excuse or simply saying "hi".
I broke up with my gf 2 weeks ago and this is day 14 of radio silence. I cried a lot, but the best advice I can give you is to move on.
I don't mean to lose hope that she will come back.
I mean that your life WHILE you wait, can't be blocked. Go on, do other things, find new hobbies and focus on work. Sometimes it will happen when you really don't think about it anymore.
An ex will always come back in your life, can be months or years but that's a fact.
Think about it with negativity that she won't come back. If she will, trust me, you will be even more happy.
Don't check her on social media, don't watch the new friends she added or new posts/ig stories where she is happy. It would only hurt yourself. The only thing that count is when you see the notification from her. The rest? It's just pointless.
Stay strong. Things will get better.
Thank You, for your words of Wisdom I really need encouragement right now it has been pretty Tough, lately. Thank You
Even if it’s short term and the r’ship was good they will come back right? My ex didn’t say “goodbye it was nice knowing you.” What does this sentence mean?
I don’t understand. You speak from a dumpers perspective but you dumped your ex?
Thanks 🙏
Very well said. Thanks you. I have cried a lot... Day 30 of no contact not after begging her for a month 🤣.
My ex tried to come back to me many times but I don't discern any changes in him. He's still a manipulative person and I always wondered why I gave him several chances to prove himself as a better man. You just have to stick to becoming a better version of yourself and let go of those who don't care about you. Thanks, coach. Your words always enlighten us.
What do you suggest is the best way to get unblocked? Ngl I was too nice to her but we always had little issues that resulted in trust. Ngl alcohol had a big factor in my relationship
You reflect so much more in no contact. You get over them so much faster. I’ve been approached by at least 5 new men who are so much better. Only when you close the door is when you allow new opportunities to come
Best way is to focus on yourself
@@johnportman3202 stop your shaman bullshit. Automatic ban and flagged
Coach Lee thank you for everything. My break up was very hard for me but you were the best friend that I needed during those difficult 4 months. You gave me the strength and the courage. I applied your advice to my break up and it worked! Me and my boyfriend are now back together and closer than before and it’s all thanks to you. Please let me know how I can share my success story with your followers. I would like to give you a testimony so that your subscribers can know that this really works. Please get back to me and let me know how I can do that for you.
You just shared your testimony. Now we need more details
Hello Piggy, are you gius together .
It's great to hear, so happy for you! Good luck!
How's it going?
Are yall still tgt? Hitting 4 months NC in a few days and I don't feel like he will be back :(
Why do ppl come on here with negativity?! If you don’t believe, don’t watch! Perhaps adjust your attitude & you’ll have better results, in general...
Facts
I think people try to reassure themselves .. thats why they write comments like "an ex is an ex for good reason.."
Yup!!
They are so annoying!
@@Macmumoz if your 25 year relationship is so glorious why are you here?! What person in a 25 year relationship that “so amazing” why are you on a Dating Coach’s page watching videos about how to get your ex back 🧐🤨?!
2.5 years together
7 weeks apart
She reached out after 4 and 6 weeks NC to drop things off. I played it as perfectly as possible after during before meet ups and I could feel the tables turning. I feel that I’m mostly over her but it bothers me that she went from being my best friend to not even viewing my Instagram stories/posts. I miss my “best friend” more than my girlfriend.
Kinda in a similar situation rn, how did things play out for you? I hope ur doing well
Kinda in a similar situation rn, how did things play out for you? I hope ur doing well
Stop acting like a friend or you will be put in the friend zone
Yessss! I always miss the best friend part of the relationship than the boyfriend aspect. That’s what kills me
I feel this comment
I made every mistake when she told me she wanted to separate. Begging, pleading, lashing out which I now realize was not only wrong but me being quite emotional. Been a month and have watched countless videos here and by others. No signs of her wanting me back but damn I'm feeling so much better about me. I'm working out three times a week at the gym. Walking everyday sometimes twice a day. Reading, learning online, working hard. Focus on YOU!!! Trust me it makes a difference. Oh ya and out of the blue, I'm 55, went out on two dates with women 15 years younger than me even through this crazy lockdown. And let me tell you they were ego boosters. Talk about helping self worth. Listen, he knows what he's talking about. Truky listen. Everything works out in the end. YOU are worth it 👌 ❤
You are inspiring!
@@eliascrooker7773 thank you. I take no credit. None of this is easy on anyone. It's just important we take care of ourselves, and support each other
@@timothyalexander566 absolutely
15 years younger? Can I do that? Feels weird haha. I'm 37.
@@Malumbrus anything can be done. Totally to you to decide. Everything else falls into place 👍
Trust me you don’t want them back work on yourself and find a better person, learn from your mistakes and be a better person for the next relationship
Everybody is somebody’s ex. So there is no “better person” per say, and people can evolve and make better choices. Especially when they are motivated by the established bond they have with a person.
My wife av a fair with a formwork
@Belltown Daisy I reported the scammers and took down there comments , it’s horrible that people try to take advantage of people’s raw emotions, I would say if you want help , you must help yourself read some books go see coaches in person
Listen to Reno. He's spot-on!
@@campingforayearrenoheart5908 I feel like I'm in a pool of Piranha with a knife wound.
It’s been 36 days no contact for me nor him and I just blocked him on social media I started therapy and I’m getting back to my normal self slowly but surely
Any updates?
Any updates?
Update?
You're in "contact with reality" I love that!
It has been 171 days now and I still feel I need more time of NC. It is for myself and even now listening to coach lee makes me calm every time. Coach word really help me through this healing journey. At least, I wanna live my life to the fullest 1st. For now.
I know it hurts right now,. But listen to me. You will look back on this and realize he/she wasn’t a great partner. Heal and let the emotions die. Work on yourself.
You got me through some horrible times Coach Lee. Thank you very much. You where my favorite coach during those shitty days cause you sincerely care, and is noticable among the other coaches on here. Ex contacted me after five months telling me how hurt she was that I found someone new lol. Stay strong y'all! No contact works, but after you learn and make yourself better, you might not want them back, or find someone else like I did. Started working out, college, and a new better job! Stay strong!
I'm 4 months plus NC now and definitely feeling that after she dumped me. How's things now
When you surrender to the fact they won't back and starts to move on then most of them pop up. I experienced this twice 😂
lol 😂
I don't want to pop up them i will smash it😂
How long after u broke up?
@@surrealfeline not less than a year
Exactly
I feel like you should do some success stories of no contact. I know you did a video of it already but maybe make it a weekly series would be pretty cool.
Agree
Agree!
It's been 6 years I was in a 8 year relationship it broke my heart so bad . Last I heard he moved on in a week with someone else at his job posing pics and even wedding rings were involves too. It took me 4 years to heal myself I would never go back to him I grew so much I dodged a bullet. I wont ever forget what he did to me but I do forgive him and I have peace in me more than I did before. I am in a better place in my life and in a relationship with someone who loves me back
Izzy forever. I would recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It has EVERYTHING in it.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
was waiting for that kinda content ..i am on 108 days of no contact ..she seems to be busy and happy
Sir your voice calms me down... whenever I panic
Same here maam😊
yes
Very calming
I agree. I love his style and calming voice. He’s a great presenter and conveys confidence in his words based on his many years of experience.
Not certain about the points made but ,if anyone else wants to learn about infidelity in the bible try Mahorrla Melt Feelings Method (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )?
It is a smashing exclusive product for learning how to win your ex back without the headache. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my colleague got excellent success with it.
Come back to these type videos it is from the beginning of were i was. Watching these daily and all I been were you guys are, the anxiety anxiousness panic sad all waiting and all... NC will help you, and heal. It gets better and makes your mind clearer. It also puts your ‘crown back up. Off the floor. You got this guys. Yes i know. You dont want to move on you dont want to wait or anything. You want them back, well. I read comments as, it gets better youll move on type comments and i dreaded it thinking nooo i want them to come back noow, i dont want them be gone forever. I now read them smiling. Things change.. It does get better even if they dont come back. Theres someone better. Now, i write the very comment i dreaded. Although im accepting now, and i see now. It is true💪
Apologising without changing is just manipulation.
222k views. Taking that as a positive sign this is the video im meant to be watching. 🙏
It would be so much easier to enforce this NC deal if we weren't married and dealing with taxes. I stated the way I felt and so on after he left, but after taking my power back, I only discuss necessary marital issues such as taxes.
I agree. When you are dumped it’s like your brain goes into overdrive and it seems like more time has passed than it actually has. The hardest thing is it give it time but in the end it’s the only thing that will work. Stay strong and back off. The hardest thing to do is do nothing.
they are dating and sleeping with someone else that's why
yea or they simply dont like you.
Haha damn
Exactly right! They’re doing the dirtiest filthiest banging one could ever imagine possible
🤣🤣🤣🤣
True!
I’m actually that person that fights themselves so hard I actually get over the person and move on Everytime never realized I had been doing that since childhood due to repeated losses.... that’s just how I learned to cope/ heal my pain I give myself pep talks and examples of where I was hurt worse and still survived I do that day by day next thing I know I look up and it been a year or more later.
Thanks, Coach Lee. I’m four weeks in no contact as of today. I want to throw in the towel, so this video came right on time!
Same here sis
Been there! Stay strong sister.
He Will come back
Iam sure mine wonteven cime bavk, iam kinda so angry he hurt me but still want him to contact me.
Four weeks????? BFD. Try TWO (2 ) years. Wishing you the best though....
So i will share my personal breakup experience..So i am in no contact with my ex for 2 years now and she hasn’t come back and she won’t come back and to be real i don’t even care no more if she comes back..No contact healed my hurting soul it gave me time to forget about this person and move on.. The time i was in nc i focused on my self improvement i became selfish and i started to love my self.. I gained muscle mass now currently 180lb from 130 that i was back then i did tattoos i bought nice cloths my bank account is better i have high confidence and the funny part is that i attract much much hotter girls now that i don’t even care if they motherfucker ever comes back... Stick to no contact improve your self be on your grind and way better days will come
and you hearing this from me believing my ex was my entire life...
Too early? Ive been in 10 years of no contact with my first ex and 9 months with my second ex. I doubt i will ever hear from them again.
Corvus corax 10 years? I am on the same boat. There is no return or get together for me as I’ve moved on, but I just want to hear and be friend again.
It’s been three weeks for me. I’m hanging in there. From what I hear my ex has never had a woman go “silent” on him. He doesn’t know what hit him. He won’t even tell his family and friends exactly what went down to cause the sudden break up. He’s embarrassed. He’s even too embarrassed to reach out to me. I’m just here paying attention to my daughters (they deserve the attention), working, doing the things I neglected to do for myself. Occasionally I post on Instagram about things I’m doing with my life and my daughters. Not necessarily for him to see the posts. However I know it still affects him. I’m hoping he’s ok as he’s a recovering addict. So this is a bit tricky. I refuse to reach out as he has a sponsor and family support. I’m here listening snd abiding to Coach Lee’s advice. It’s giving me peace. Thank you Coach Lee. I’ll give updates
update?
@@iGoist I have a new boyfriend. 😀
He's not coming back, we had passion and love but, i was stubborn it was never enough.. but i didn't realise it was that intense I didn't realise how draining I was. What has worked is that, i have woken up and i have realised all these things about me and i can fix them, but i feel like he is totally done. He is someone incredibly mature he doesn't have any social media, he does what he says, and means what he says, so when he said "I still love you, but we don't work", i truely believe that. But I'm 99.9% he's compleatly gone.
Did you came back together?!!
It's been 10 months since the breakup, and 6 since I started no contact. She found a new BF right after I started no contact and moved back home due to covid. Not too sure no contact is going to work in my case, but it has helped me learn more about myself and focus on my own issues instead of spending every day worrying about her. Sometimes she pops up into my mind but not nearly as often as before.
How are you coping?
Sorry you went through that. Comment made me cry.
If they left you for someone else let them leave
I feel so hopeless. I realized all the mistakes I made now and honestly I don't blame her for leaving me. She was very sweet and was insanely in love with me but I was an alcoholic asshole that had legal problems. At this point I just feel like I'm in denial and these videos are the only thing that keep me from having a panic attack.
I know how you feel dude. My problem was that I was a mental wreck at times (not her words) was struggling to deal with some decisions and I guess it pushed her away. We tried to make effort with friendship, but 2 months after break up she wanted to close that chapter of her life completely...mainly because she was in another relationship a month after break up. It tore me apart and all I could really do is focus on myself. It's been like 75 days since no contact started, but in that time you'll not only find yourself, but also discover new interests and re-invent yourself.
It's hard dude. But you WILL get there! Stay strong and don't let anyone get in the way of your dreams
One month of no contact . And i just reached out. She just broke down and came running to me😇
What did you say?
Details?
Tomorrow is supposed to be the date of our monthsary at the same time the date we split for a month already. But i break the rules of no contact. I reach out to him today..but im no longer expecting any response from him. From now on I'll stand firm to do the no contact rule. I'll just watch more videos of u coach lee. To help me get more motivated and probably forget and move on..
No contact really really works! He came back after 2 weeks. I had gone into no contact immediately. We had just had a bad argument prior. I know no contact can be really hard. But it gets easier with time. :)
He blocked me in everywhere after 11 years.. NO IDEA WHAT HAPPENED, I JUST TRY ONES TO FOLLOWED HIM IN INSTAGRAM, I WAS BLOCKED TOO.. SO, I'M FORCED TO STAY NO CONTACT ANYWAY.. NOW IS BEEN 4 MONTHS.. AND YES I'M DEVASTATED.. THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO ANYWAY MY FRIEND..
Its been 2 months, and i actually moved on like 90% i found a new guy ☺️ we are dating slowly i think is time to move on. He is trying to keep in touch w my cousin ( she hates him and was confused aswell i was ). But he did not contact me. I really liked to have a closure like why he cheated on the first place so i could actually move on. But my current boyfriend makes me feel so loved and so special the confidence i gain from his behavior towards me makes me feel i dont need a closure from my ex. So to my ex i was mad and hated him but we spent 3 years together from up and downs and i really wish him to be happy he deserves it. Probably i needed that relationship to find someone better. To all who are waiting for cheating exes to come back dont. 😌
obsessed with you, have been binge watching your videos they help me to get through it all!
I don’t really agree that sometimes it’s okay to reach out to someone that dumped you. I’d rather keep my dignity
It’s been a month since she left me. You’ve helped me a lot man thank you.
Today its been 3 months of me in no contact..just don't loose hope and focus on you .
Update?
Struggling so badly . I watch these videos all of the time . They help keep my strength going and to not break contact
I 'm madly in love with my ex. We were legit best friends, we did everything together and I have never had anybody love and care for me the way she has. The only downside is she has severe trust issues from past relationships. Long story short, we have a young son together and she has children from her past relationship and I have a son from mine. Apparently my ex who has stirred trouble in the past was texting her messages saying we were hooking up when I'd go to pick up my son. It ended on a bad now to say the least, and I acted angrily which in retrospect should have tried harder to put her at ease. We are still friendly with each other for the sake of our son. It's now been 7 months and I'm really confused as to what my next move should be. All I know is I'm lost without her and it's eating at my soul. Help!!
..update?
Anything new?
How are you doing now?
Can relate to your situation. What’s the update
@christianlopez1 we got back together not long after this post believe it or not. I thought things had finally fallen into place. Then the jealousy began to play out again. My other ex who I feel nothing for is a trouble maker, knows her insecurities and long story short began to instigate again. When Mandy saw a missed call that I was unaware of she broke it off after almost a year of being back together again. Now we simply co parent. I've come to the realization if we were ever to work out again she would need to get a handle on her trust issues because they have poinsoned an otherwise healthy relationship. What are the details of your situation? I'm sorry to hear you're going through what I am because it can be depressing and frustrating all at once.
My ex fiance made it very clear no way we will get married. Things aren't meant to be or not. December 12th 2020 was the date came and went. Nothing will solve it or anyone. Ive moved forward with my life upsetting yes but its OKAY now I've let go of her and her two girls. But after 4 years together it wasn't meant to be.
@@drpastorpaulenenche2537 thanks but she made it very clear that she was done.
My ex is super stubborn, once she makes a decision she never goes back on it, she has never gotten back together with any of her exes. So my chances are very slim.
My advice to you is simple. Fine someone who will appreciate you and love you unconditionally. usually when you truly move on is when they normally come back. By then you will not care.
@@B1GK1NG That advice does make sense brother thing is i feel guilty cause we broke up over me being a bit jealous. Thats why i want to fix things.
@@USMCGUY2020 that usually a relationship destroyer to be jealous. My advice is to give some time and then try to initiate contact and apologize for your behaviour. Your job is not to convince her to come back to you but to plant the seed by apologizing.
@@B1GK1NG I apologized the day after we broke up and i told her i needed to work on myself and change a few things and i wished her the best she also wished me the best and ive been in no contact for 3 weeks now. Her parents are good friends with mine and they invited us over for christmas do you think its a good idea for me to go and see her there in person and just act casual like everything is fine and im happy and over the break up? Or should i try reaching out via text first?
@@USMCGUY2020 don’t reach out over text. When you see her in person just act casual. Put up your poker face. Don’t let your emotions take overs. You need to maintain your frame and show that you are the better person. Don’t be surprise if she will want to converse with you.
Big thankyou to coach lee. My ex broke up as he felt trauma from.past.we were v happy.. Since I felt unable to cope and kept textin. Feeling better taking tips on no contact but have sent a happy xmas. I ferl more settled but love him so much
It has been 2 years coach. I'm still hurting. Why was it so easy for her to push me away?..Thank you for your videos
Female nature my guy, if you lose your masculine state in a relationship your ex will see you as ‘beta’ which is the horrible truth about hypergamy, depending on how you handled the break up your ex will look for someone that can maintain frame.
You have to invest in loving yourself. Pursuing other women! Rewiring your brain. Women push away if you are too beta. Do the opposite. Heal your wounded masculine
@@marieklopp871 was his name Harry?
I think this advice is great but I do believe you are hurting yourself if you are waiting for them to come back. There is always a chance that they may never come back. That’s the painful truth but it is true that they may never come back. They might. But if there is that chance they could not come back then you have no choice but to try little by little to move forward. And that’s easier said than done for sure like it’s not easy to move on but the goal should be to move on more than getting them back. Because they may never come back and what if 8 months down the line they’re still not here but you’re waiting for them while they’ve moved on? That’s going to crush you. So if they never come back then you have no choice anyway but to move forward so that should be the goal. Don’t think about them coming back. Your goal should be to move forward to the next chapter of your life because like I said you can’t predict the future you don’t know if they’re coming back
He didn't come back, but he called to say he is sorry and I should move on..
Coach Lee, thanks a lot. Cause of u ,I'm strong now. I never begged him, I just let him go. I'm don't think I'll b with him anymore. Cause he let me go after 12 years later. So I don't think need that person anymore . Actually I feel good being myself. Thank u so much.
Shadow, it just goes to show you that NO Contact is for YOU also. It gives YOU time to think and realize what you really want. I'm happy for you. Best wishes ❤️ ♥️ ⚘️
One year of no contact from a 4 year on n off relationship, I’ve considered reaching out didn’t know I loved her this much
@Caine Tajada I can feel your pain. I can imagine what you're going through. Mine is a 10 year relationship, so imagine what I'm going through? But don't give up on God. Have faith and trust. Plus we have 2 kids. So just have patience and work on yourself like I'm trying to do 😁
He ghosted me in feb. pandemic hit. Didn’t hear a word from him. No, how are you or your family.
So never heard from him again. I’m finally in a better place now after months of depression.
But I know he won’t come back. Too much pride and never loved me.
Which I guess is best
After 2 months of NC I lost the interest for him
Dated for 5 yrs pregnant within first month of being with new guy did no contact she reached out to me on day 35 we were talking she was questioning being with him then drops the bomb she’s pregnant
Your a legend had I not come across Life coach Lee, would of kept messaging him. Patience is a virtue. 😊
Almost 3 weeks into no-contact and I was scrolling through snap chat and somehow clicked on my ex's snap chat and started typing gibberish and immediately exited out. However, I noticed after this she unfriended me on snap chat. So she saw me typing. Did I just screw everything up??!!
I appriciate the work of coach lee in terms of soothing people's heart but thats about it..they wont come back and thats a good thing for you..
I'm so happy that I got my ex back ❤❤
How long did you go NC?
We needed no contact. Things got too emotional and it was draining us both to the point it was affecting our mental health. All because we couldn't resolve an issue and the longer it went unresolved the more distressing everything became. It's been 4 months and I still miss her but feel loads better. We probably were not right for each other
Coach Lee. Ego stroke yes, but you didnt mention your famous sentence, ego stroke, a rocket launch boosting the ego :)
I think what couch Lee said about the last reason is true . I broke up with my bf, after a month i beg him and said it was just a mistake out of anger. But he also said he dont want me anymore. Now, i scare to contact him because i feel he dont want me anymore.
This came at the time I needed it the most. I missed him so much today and almost texted him. 6 weeks into no contact. His friend invited me to Vegas and said my ex was going to be there but I declined. Turns out his rebound was there and they broke up on that trip. So hopefully he is getting to miss me 😄
I’ve had it with my three years of a bunch of bullshit. Breaking up going back breaking up going back she has her bunco her church her kids and I come second to everything I’m tired of it. She’s like most women she wants a guy to look like Adonis wants them to be rich wants them to be perfectbut they sure don’t match up in those qualities of what they’re offering.
sometimes not even with the NO CONTACT they just never return. I did the no contact rule on My ex, he never came back. now its been 25 years.
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Ive been married for 16yrs, but separated for the last 4 1/2 yrs, always w the thought we’d reconcile. But, within the last few months apparently my wife started a new relationship and recently told me she now wants a divorce. It feels as though I will never find love again, and that saddens me.
You will. Hey, maybe it's just a rebound. Maybe the love of your life is round the corner
Thank you, Coach Lee. I get excited when I see that notification from your page! Always great advice. I hope everyone here can heal and see the happiness life offers with or without your ex 🥰
Hmmmm-After three years of no eyes on each other & that includes two years this month of no verbal communication. Yeah, man’s got a lot of “baggage” in his orbit. One day we’re planning his moving back in, twelve hours later, lighten struck-nightmare began. I’d say, it t appears he’s not returning. Would be great to see videos on come backs after a year or so….. thank you Coach Lee, your videos definitely great course correcting and next time.
4 months no contact she's been in a rebound for 3 months we dated for a year I dont know if I will hear from her again I've been focusing on me but I miss her vibes alot
she belongs to the streets. follow your purpose and level up. it seems whenever you get a better replacement, they always come back.
Think that might be the first issue "you dated for a year"....it doesn't take that long to decide if you want to make a commitment to someone and make them your girlfriend/boyfriend...I left someone I was "dating" after 3.5 months that couldn't bring himself to call me his girlfriend so I left him and became someone else's girlfriend instead who knew what they wanted...xo
How do you know she’s in a rebound if ur in NC?
my ex is doing the cat and mouse thing right now. he text me like everything is back to normal for a few days. even kept sending me reminiscent pics and jokes, and now he has gone cold. so I am letting him be cold, I am not going to chase. starting no contact all over again lol.
While I appreciate and watch these videos also for the comments, I can't agree about finding someone else. I've been divorced 11 yrs and last relationship was 2018. I got knocked up and have been alone since. I've been told I'd meet someone at the right time with God's help...blah blah blah amd when i finally do things differently snd date someone i wouldn't typically, I fell in love and he too claimed to also. After an incredible whirlwind, he told me the day I was going to meet his mom i was disgusting, I disgusted him how he didn't like Me much less love me and he considered killing himself as a better option than marrying me. I cried and pleaded with him for an answer as to why. I was starting to move had gotten s job interview after he pleaded with me to move to his city...to be Insulted bashed humiliated and beaten down in front of my 12 yr old. This person was someone I waited to meet and didn't rush into anything and after being singled. Years...I thought it was my time and that better person had come along after my sons donor left me at 5 weeks pregnant. I despise my life and am Alive because I have to be not because I want to. Nothing gets better and time hasn't healed all. I've been out of relationships so long that I really thought this was my time to have a partner after being alone so long....
I speak in averages and generalities. I agree, not everyone intends to have someone else.
@@RealCoachLee I know you do. You're very specific that while your methods are effective, it doesn't work with every single person on the planet. I watch your clips because they're informative and have given me some help to my situation. My person isn't something I believe this will work with not because your strategies aren't good but because of the kind of person he is
I am sorry to hear what you have been going through. I am coming from a relationship of 7 years that seemed to be okay for being together for these years at least when I compare to others. At least we still had sex on the regular and weren't fighting very often. But the relationship was loveless in that sense that there was no spiritual connection at all. He wasn't interested at all about what was going on in MY mind, I actually morphed to please him and give him attention and validation which he did not return. So yeah I was not "alone" because I could tell the world, look I have a long term relationship going but I was actually VERY lonely in this relationship and so are many others who feel like they have invested so much into a certain person that they stay with them although deep inside they know it's all make believe. Id rather stay alone than ever maintaining such a fake relationship ever again. I don't want to diminish what coach Lee is providing here but close after my break up of being dumped I binge watched StephanSpeaks videos which from the title sounded appropriate and oh my, what a cold shower of truth and facts. I am so mad at myself for not watching these videos earlier because I knew they were there. They could have spared me from wasting precious years in a cold an lonely relationship although for the outside world we were constantly out and about, on vacation, visiting nice cities, going on concerts and what not. Don't dispair I want to tell you. The people in relationships - it's not what it seems in 80% of the cases. But learn how to detect red flags and what are the signs to look out for in a man that has the potential to make you happy. Stephan will teach you.
P. S.: I too don't think my, ex will come back, because he is a rigid black and white kind of person who told me in the beginning of our relationship that break up is break up and you don't break up if you don't mean it and that's also why you don't need to stay in contact with exes. And he also said having another lover is another no go that puts things to an end. As it was very obvious to me that he came to my house in a sudden rush to probably have me out of the way because he met someone else and he broke up so I guess he will hold himself to his own standards. I'd love to live and see him regret it but I will never take him back, it's over, he is dead for me because if he doesn't ME MYSELF will hold him to his own standards.
I want to be No Contact but unfortunately I'm tied to her via our credit card and various other shared financials, which she watches like a hawk and emails me about constantly. My responses are short and direct. I'd really rather not speak with her at all. Not sure what to do.
Little over a week. She might not come back and that's okay....even though I want her to come back, but I'm aware she might not.
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@@SamanthaSprinkles69 that’s a good start. I can honestly say I’ve never cried over an ex.....it won’t ever happen either. I figure she’s not coming back and that’s fine because I hold much more value than she does.
@@SamanthaSprinkles69 sorry, I thought you were a dude. Keep your head up
Thank you, Coach Lee... Watching your videos always help me control myself in not breaking NC... It also keeps my sanity intact. May God bless you. ❤️☝️
1 month NC, i block him and pretend his dead...he choose to leave me with another girl, so choose my self to improve and love more. Dont want waste my time thinking about him and care what his been up to. 😏
I wish I had known about NC 10 months ago when he walked away from me with no explanation. It’s been almost 2 weeks now of NC and it gets better by the day. I am just waiting for the day when I am completely healed.
What if they numb their feelings?? Is their a hope?
They won’t come back and never will.. They don’t love you and probably already move on with someone else and NC is just a way for you to move up head high with dignity.. If someone really love you nothing can stop them from being with you.. see the reality the way it is.. NC best thing ever keep stick to it to save your self respect.
Right, exes NEVER come back. Ever. Zero times in history. 😐
shalineemvala. I don't know where you're getting your information from, but that is NOT TRUE! You may have been deeply hurt, as many people have been, but ex's DO MAKE UP. To make you feel better, and begin to believe, let me recommend Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you immensely and make you feel better. It's a POWERFUL program. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
My ex contacted me over the weekend. She told me how good I was to her (I know). Then she called me the next day and asked me to receive a code on my phone. I did it but didn't think much of it except wondering why me? It has been 3 months since we broke up. Thank You Coach!
Great channel ,i used the no contact rule on every relation till present , i learned that i should not wish her merry christmas or happy birthday and i had doubts about that .... But most of all i really DONT understand how can after she came to me ,i have to be polite rather then shuv in her face everything she promised me in anger .... I cant get over this ... Oh i should just be " you wanna get back together ,ok sure ".... That.s just weak from me....
Ok, I'm going to see if this NO CONTACT works. I truly am. We've had a terribly volatile relationship for almost 3 years. Up, down, up, down.... Family and friends got involved... Dramas.... Me chasing him over and over... So i wrote him a closure letter and decided to just - disappear. It has been only 7 days now. Of course, he's not contacted me. Let's see what happens after another 7 days... I will actually report back!! 😅
Well it is almost a month now, and i'm pretty certain i want to be with him and no other man. So now i just have to wait it out, i guess...
30 days today, and yesterday almost broke down but managed not to call. It’s really, really hard... I don’t know how others do it. Not a whisper from him though. Absolutely nothing. Zero. I don’t think he really cares, TBH. Maybe that will help me finally move on from him.
@@BambiOnIce19update?
I like the calming and tone of voice... not fast talking. Just right. Thanks coach!!
Because shes a heartless person that replaced me a month later after 7 years together and acted like I never meant anything to her never contacted me or anything.... So yeah she's never coming back I miss her everyday but she never deserved me to throw me away the way she did
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My ex went so cold after the break that she wasn't well. She came back for a night, and then a week later told me she had moved on, I'll admit I sent one too many begging messages, 4 years went down the drain!
Looking on point Lee good Advice proffeser peace ✌
What if I was the one to break up and want him to come back? I didn’t want to leave, but I needed to walk away with self respect. I would love for him to come back a changed man, I wouldn’t take him as he is. We have a history of 4.5 years.
Maybe give him the essential time to change or see you in a better light (idk what’s going on with you two) but people do learn in time away
I stayed in NO CONTACT! I moved on and let my guard down and met someone who treats me so much better than the ex. Someone who loves me back. Way better. Better everything. Im actually happily in love with someone else finally just when I thought love would never come again. So as far as I’m concerned my ex can stay where he is. Should’ve kept me when he had the chance. His lost. Bye.
Bt yet ur on here on a vid about an ex..obviously ur not too happy
How did you meet this new person?