I'm in my sixties. Every time I watch one of Courtney's videos about being your best self, I'm amazed at the wisdom coming from the mouth of someone so young. Listen to her, guys. More important, listen, and then act to follow her advice. Another fantastic video, Courtney.
I started crying when you talked about trusting myself. Although i have accomplished so many great things over the last couple years and things look great from the outside, there are some things from the past like failures that still haunt me even though i am not thinking directly about them. I need to work on this
@@astherphoenix9648 Hugs ❤️ maybe try to shift the way you’re looking at those “past failures” - if you learned from it and have done right moving forward, I think considering it a lesson learned instead can be helpful. In that case, was it really a failure after all? Rooting for you!
@CourtneyRyan appreciate the kind words. The failure was definitely real because I let myself down and I have since learnt from it. But I find it hard to think highly of myself since then. Especially when left to myself and when I have to confront a problem that's new or that requires me to do some tasks that I am not great at
@ That’s unfortunate, but you have to understand nobody is going to come to rescue you. You have to take the necessary steps to make changes in your life. Even if they are incremental, one day at a time, they all add up in a positive direction. Start with a bit of exercise, better health, better mind, positivity when you do that.
Few words to express my gratitude. I remember the first time I randomly picked one of your videos, it was bout helping me to learn the English language. But rapidly I found out a big valuable content and immediately appreciated the way you explain a large variety of different things, especially about relationship. So, let me thank you for these both 2 different skills. And please keep going. Take care
I quite often disagree with Courtney. But on this, she is correct. I grew up believing that perfection was not optional. If you aren't perfect, you aren't good enough. 2nd place is the 1st place failure, and there is NOTHING more disgusting than failure. I believed this would make me strive to be better in everything I did. All it did was burn me out trying to be something I could never achieve, and killed my confidence. Great example, in 2007 I ran my personal best marathon at 3:37:15. Did I celebrate the personal best? NO! Was I even a bit happy with it? Not really. I went home and said "Why wasn't it a 3:30? You didn't train hard enough. It would have been a 3:35 if you had remembered to take enough electrolytes and didn't have that hamstring cramp at mile 24." While it's great to look for ways to improve, don't let it stop you from appreciating what you did. Otherwise, you'll never be confident you can do what you set out to do.
Great advice. I think theres a lot to be said about the point you make. Unfortunately, the culture of 'if you're not first, you're last" is so prevalent that it'll take a lot of shouting before anyone hears an alternative.
Important things: 0:39 First Thing _ Constant Self - Criticism; 2:49 Second Thing _ Avoiding Challenges; 4:10 Third Thing _ Neglecting Your Health & Self - Care; 6:31 Fourth Thing _ Procrastinating; 7:40 Fifth Thing _ The Comparison Game; 8:33 Sixth Thing _ Overthinking & Second Guessing; 9:21 Seventh Thing _ Relying On Other People For Validation; and 10:04 to summarize all the told here. What you have told for men, that can also be applied to women as well, Courtney. The only comparison with have to make to ourselves where we were, and where are we now. What I mean is that we see what we have achieved, and also what we have managed to do. Don't rely on social media to see how some other people live, cause they live their own life, and probably they also have issues of their own, just like we all do have, since we are all human beings. Also it would be wise that you don't judge people cause we all have inside ourselves we have internal wars that we fight and we try to make ourselves win that war. Not an easy task, but it is possible thing to solve. As for second thing (Avoiding Challenges), in psychology, it's called: Postponement. Additional things that can be also told here are these: Eight Thing _ Listening Whole Time People For Their Opinions (partly can be used for seventh thing), Ninth Thing _ Going Back Into The Past And Going Into The Future (partly can be also used in sixth thing); Tenth Thing _ Not Enjoying In Your Present Moments; and perhaps Eleventh Thing _ Judging Too Much About Everybody And Not Taking Action At All (partly can be used for the first thing). For the eight thing I can say that the people may say their opinion (the things they will say are good, or bad), but it's just their opinion, since they aren't aware of our situations that we're in. My point is don't take everything what they say for granted. At ninth thing I meant to say that you don't have to revisit things that you had in past, or that things that you will have in future. Learn from the past, don't be a prisoner of the past, and try that next time to avoid things in the future. As I mentioned the tenth thing, I meant to say that you have to calm your mind and your heart, and just simply go like this: Go with the flow. Mistakes we make, and it's not the first one or neither is the last one. But try to learn something from them, and avoid repeating them (it's not an easy task, but it is a possible thing). When I was listening to you Courtney, I remembered two quotes that I saw couple of years ago: 1. Lao Tze once told this thing: "If you are depressed, then you are looking at the past (going back to past). And if you are in anxiety, then you are looking to the future (going into future)." 2. This one goes like this: "Don't give up on your goals. You have no idea what an inspiration you are for others." 3. This is a lat quote, which goes like this: Mens sana in corpore sano. Translation is: "In healthy body, healthy spirit." Thank you Courtney so much.
Thank you, Courtney. I have thoroughly enjoyed all your videos. As a single 55! year old I spend a lot of time on mind and body; and after long term relationships, a few wonderful and one not so, it’s time for me. You are inspiring!
This is one of your best videos yet. Also, btw, once you suggested your husband's channel in one of your videos. Turns out, I have started loving watches and have watched tons of Teddy's and Kevin O'Leary's watch videos and now I visit match stores a lot and have made a list of my own. So, thanks for that!
Congrats, you fell prey to the shameless grifting they do. It's why they're called "influencers". She talks about how women love watches, mentions her husbands channel, and now look at you. Reality: Women don't give a shit about watches unless you suck so badly that you need "extras" to make you stand out.
@@Swearengen1980 Bro. Women are humans too. Women can and do like anything they want as much as men do. Believe it or not, we are 99.9% the same (I'm not making this up). Also, I love learning about new things. I realized how much I didn't know. I love how great the engineering is behind the automatic watches. I love to dress well and I already have been wearing a Seiko that my uncle gave me when I was in high school. I look good with watches on. So, this just reignited my love for really good looking watches that make me look good and the engineering behind them. I love going to the malls now. Something more fun to do in my life I have now. I hope you find yours as well. As far as influence trend goes, I was never on Facebook or on Instagram. I haven't been influenced by anybody. I'm just learning from everyone. She did a great job in promoting her husband. He seems like a really hardworking, knowledgeable, and humble guy. Plus, seeing him and Kevin buying $300K worth of watches like they're nothing really inspires me. You call it "influence" because you've been stained by Instagram. I call it normal life learning and growth like how it's always been. So, let me live my life and you enjoy yours too! Not much time we have.
Just wanna say thank you, Courtney. I think you're amazing for doing what you do, the world is so full of people trying to make problems worse and so very few trying to solve any. You're fantastic, for the world at whole. For those that listen with open minds, there's much to learn from your channel.
Do The Hard Things I told my, then young, son that anything new he tries he will suck at. He'll be crappy at it. Yet when he devotes time and effort into his quest he will get better and even excellent at it. (Which is why it got dangerous playing catch with him after he exceeded 70 mph when pitching.) He has two engineering degrees now, lifts weights, and is getting past the beginner stage of playing a guitar.
I don't know@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu, but I don't doubt he can if he works at it. (He's naturally gregarious, wavy curly hair that I've seen women really like in him, and 6'4" tall.)
You have great points, Courtney. As for challenges, one needs to start small and increase the level of those challenges. But one has to be realistic about it. If you find a certain challenge is 6 up, constantly attempting to do it will have an opposite effect on your confidence. You, your body, and your mind do have limitations.
Confidence is such an intricate tapestry, and this breakdown reveals just how much of it is woven by our daily choices. One thought to add: while breaking these destructive habits, it’s equally important to replace them with what I’d call ‘anchor habits’-simple rituals that ground you in self-respect. For instance, something as small as keeping a tidy space or sticking to a morning routine can act as a daily reminder that you value yourself. It’s fascinating how much power lies in seemingly small decisions. Building confidence isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about creating a life where you constantly tell yourself, ‘I matter, and my efforts matter.’ Over time, this quiet self-respect turns into the unshakable confidence we all admire.
Thank you Courtney. All 7 were useful and at one point I suffered from all 7 habits. I've come a long way. The comfort zone and procrastinating have been my biggest two. Stepping boldly into the unknown and trying something new always energizes me and boosts my confidence. As far as procrastinating I focus on completing one task at a time. I notice completion is infectious. It spreads to other tasks. I'm proud of myself whenever I complete something I start. This whole video is some of the best constructive advice i've seen online.
Happy Sunday, Courtney! Believe it or not, I'm going on my first date in over two and a half years this afternoon! I'm feeling confident, and I'm ready to enjoy the moment and maybe learn a thing or two!
Thank you for this video, Courtney. It brings things in perspective. Sometimes we are not aware that we undermine ourselves by doing these in the moment. Love the end, true confidence is quiet and resilient and rooted in self respect. Very powerful.
Thank you for making this video. Really enjoyed your insights into the topics you discussed. unfortunately, i can see myself in some of those though this year i have been trying to change who i am a bit by first taking a course to refresh myself and back into the workforce. Obviously, it is stil a work in progress but a goal i look forward to achieve and succeeding at!
I strive to keep out of situations where I have to apologize. Think before you say anything, and know who your speaking too. Some people male or female. I’m not a nice guy! I’m a gentleman with empathy and kindness but don’t push
I do all of these, but I have been talking to a therapist for the past few years to slowly work through those things, especially the procrastination, comparison and negative self talk. I still have a ways to go, but I did get good advice
You missed the irony there didn't you? You're taking a "few years" to work on things like procrastination. 😂 Surely you know there are more bad therapists than good? If you haven't resolved your issues in a few years, something is wrong with the therapist, you, or both. Look at how much you pay the therapist, how often you go, and ask yourself if you're getting your money's worth. I died, painfully, and remember every second of it. I can still feel it on occasion. Panic attacks, PTSD, 15 years of alcoholism after it....even my F'd up self ended therapy at 3 years. It should not be taking you multiple years for negativity (to the degree that you can/will change).
Hi Courtney. Being easily swayed and setting too high boundaries for myself are my current big flaws. From consistent mind changing to getting down on myself over very minor things, I’m sure this damages my confidence and it’s my 2025 goal to work on being more independently minded and not so easily downed.
*Negative self-talk and procrastination are silent killers of confidence. Replacing them with small daily wins and affirmations can rebuild self-belief one step at a time.*
An oddly timely video for me. Been struggling with this a lot over the last 18 months and yesterday I managed to put a finger on a few important things. Then, behold, I see this in my subscription feed.
Delayed gratification is truly the best way to START building self-confidence because it starts with self-control, and if you can master yourself, you will UNLOCK your other chains that WEIGH YOU DOWN!
I think, your channel was given by AI two or three days ago. So I learn little by little, day by day watching your episodes. I didn't heard most of the ideas that you have described here.. Amazing personality..simple but gorgeous appearance...today I can say one thing. one day I will be your top 1 fan.
Thanks for the content. Your videos have helped confirm some of my existing habits and highlight areas that can benefit from work and improvement. I really enjoy your channel and am also a fan of your partners channel too 😂
I like when Courtney start saying “welcome to my channel” her channel, her content, her decisions… none of us is here by force. Why some men think “well this is wrong I have to say this and that”? 🤔
I would say it's better to be self-critical than complacent or delusional. I think people gassing themselves up is a way bigger problem than having an ability to acknowledge one's own shortcomings. But yes, there's a fine line between nitpicking vs genuine critique. Most people's immediate reflex is to gravitate towards what's easiest because human beings are inherently lazy. We all want quick solutions to complex problems without having to do any of the legwork. It's part and parcel of our psychological orientation, unfortunately. Life is unpredictable at times, so you can't necessarily blame the person for neglecting themselves depending on their unique circumstances. There are moments where we're forced to sacrifice our routine to meet a deadline or to attend to an unexpected emergency. But I do agree in principle. However, I loathe the term "self-esteem." To me, this is just an undeserved ego boost. Procrastination is more so linked to the lack of discipline than it is to confidence. If you're unable to override your urge to stray from the task at hand, you aren't unconfident but undisciplined. Modernity has caused people to lose the ability to practice gratitude and to constantly compare themselves to others. Life has become so easy, and we live in such abundance that we're now fixating on other people's lives rather than focusing on building our own. We tend to overthink our decisions because of the paradox of choice. There's so many different options to choose from and so many different avenues we can take that we no longer feel satisfied about whether we made the right choice. It's actually more of a luxury than a problem. Man is a social animal. I would say don't invest solely in the opinions of others, but don't shut them out entirely either. We have an innate craving of acceptance by our peers because we evolved as tribal creatures. If you only rely on yourself to validate your accomplishments, that can also be a gateway to narcissism.
Honestly, Courtney here nailed it because I do some of these and at the same time trying darnedest to improve the same habits I'm doing. Still like she stated it's a process.
Confidence is very key when it comes to women. Areas, like overthinking, are based out of fear (not being good enough, impostor syndrome, etc), but you can make a conscious effort to change those. It’s amazing what some effort to change mentality can snowball into for positive changes in your life.
Hi there. Been watching your content for quite some time but I wish you could make videos regarding approaching women in 2 scenarios: 1) if the woman doesn't speak the same language as you, 2) if the woman is on the phone or listening something on the headphones
I been working out like a demon straight out of hell and I got abs! I got a new suit, a grand seiko watch and a solid gold chain to wear under it all. It feels soooo good and I'm 38! I got 18 years to go to get to Hugh Jackman's body!
That was a really great video Courtney, now to be completely honest with you I have all seven of these things I take Lithium carbonate and Sertraline everyday as I have bipolar and anxiety, I also really hate myself a lot and I have really bad Perfectionism and OCD too, I'm 37 on disability (nothing too serious) I'm just not as smart as normal people that's all, had a really bad seizure when I was three that almost killed me and it really missed me up (fried half my brain) and I had to learn to do everything all over again, I can't get a job because they said that if I were to make more then 20 dollars a month they would cut off my health insurance and I definitely don't want that to happen, I have no car but I know how to drive though, I've never had any friends, never been in a relationship, live with my family in a double wide trailer and I'm 37, I don't think things well ever get better Courtney but I love watching your videos so please do not stop making them and again this one was really good, anyway you have a wonderful day alright.
Eh, it could be really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really worse. Don't worry about it. At least you have a pot to piss in, I think.
@@jez49647 Wow thank you friend I really appreciate your message a lot and yes hopefully things will get better for us in the future, you try to stay positive and I'll try to do the same okay 😉
A lot of ppl are avoiding these altogether regardless of circumstances which I would claim is just as bad or perhaps even worse! Everything in moderation as a old wisdom says.
Managing self-care can be a challenge in itself, especially when you have autism or other conditions with executive-functioning issues. For example, I find that even maintaining a level of exercise and activity that I routinely managed just a few years ago now gets compromised by battles with fatigue and time constraints. Which part of it is "self-care"? Is it the rest, or the activity?
I struggle a lot with self doubt. I just feel I am never good enough. I always look at my faults which far outway the the good points. Many people also frequently reminds me of my past mishaps and faults. So I am not in a good space at the moment. No women would want someone like me anyway.
You know you watch too much men's content on youtube when you have developed and absolutely flawless instinct for when the tiege hanley ad is coming lol.
I agree its a bad sign if a guy is putting himself down all the time. But a bit of self deprecating humor is a sign that he is not an ego maniac, and he accepts the fallout of his actions. Inflated egos always blame shift and will never make a joke about thier failures. Ladies, you should avoid men that are full of themselves. Women frequently mistake arrogance for confidence. Excessive confidence is actually a sign that he has few real skills and he's trying to hide it.
There are a lot of men who are emotionally, physically, and financially healthy that can't get a relationship or dates. What advice can you give to these men?
i am a little late in realising Courtney uploaded today.😅 Courtney please make a video reaction to jcube girl in red Would make a great video!😮 Question and answer 2024 version by end of this month. Everyone looks forward to seeing these :)
Sorry, I can never finish any of these videos. I have perfectionism rooted in my brain too deeply. I don't think that I could ever hold the facade of meeting any of these self improvement ideas. To anyone who reads this or watches this video. I pray you have better luck than me.
#5 It's not that we men necessarily compare ourselves against other men consciously, it's that women use said men against us LEADING us to do the former like a Pavlovian response.
Confidence is appreciated if you are Chad or Tyrone. There is a reason why 6 feet tall, wealthy men have their way with women. Now we can't all be 6 feet tall, but we can put forth the effort to make as much money as possible. This is what women truly want. It sounds harsh but it is true.
My self worth comes from Christ and Him alone! Nothing in this world can compare to the worth I have in Christ. Nothing can fill the void like Christ does. Praise Him! :)
I have a job, about to get my finance degree in a couple of months, train MMA every day, lift weights. None of this gives me confidence with women because it doesn't do anything. If you're average you have little to no options regardless of what you do. I got a lot going on but that doesn't mean women are goign to be physically attracted to me.
Went through 3 decades of being told by just about everyone in my life to family to classmates to co-workers how horrible I was. (I'm painfully awkward and never get on the right foot with anyone.) So much so that I've long since given up. Nobody ever once laughed with me, they laughed AT me. I've long since given up on there being good people, certainly not in my city. Never bring someone you don't know into the group through humor, it just looks like you're bullying that person. Cue the slurs...
Courtney. Your 7 deadly sins may be viewed as followed : That's confidence to me..., you're self aware and accepting, you know you're limitations and you don't sugar-coat your lack of abilities. These are your strengths, NOT WEAKNESSES. You are a confident person, why do you think otherwise?🤔 I can build from these facets, these aspects, enrich, enhance and evolve.
This Tuesday, November 19, is International Men's Day. Please make a note of it and do something kind to the man in your life to make him feel loved and appreciated. Have a great day!
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Lol once again giving men bullshit to shill products. You have no shame
@@SnookisInfant-gt8xu Chill... it's only a skincare lotion
1. Constant self-criticism 0:40
2. Avoiding challenges 2:48
3. Neglecting health & self-care 4:10
4. Procrastinating 6:31
5. The comparison game 7:40
6. Overthinking & second guessing 8:35
7. Relying on others for validation 9:23
Oh wow I got all 7 ... go me.
Thanks broski. The time stamper folks save me time
Well I'm screwed I guess. 😅
I‘m done, I guess. Doing all 7 🙈
You could condense all of the points into one:
1. Being human
I'm in my sixties. Every time I watch one of Courtney's videos about being your best self, I'm amazed at the wisdom coming from the mouth of someone so young. Listen to her, guys. More important, listen, and then act to follow her advice. Another fantastic video, Courtney.
I started crying when you talked about trusting myself. Although i have accomplished so many great things over the last couple years and things look great from the outside, there are some things from the past like failures that still haunt me even though i am not thinking directly about them. I need to work on this
@@astherphoenix9648 Hugs ❤️ maybe try to shift the way you’re looking at those “past failures” - if you learned from it and have done right moving forward, I think considering it a lesson learned instead can be helpful. In that case, was it really a failure after all? Rooting for you!
@CourtneyRyan appreciate the kind words. The failure was definitely real because I let myself down and I have since learnt from it. But I find it hard to think highly of myself since then. Especially when left to myself and when I have to confront a problem that's new or that requires me to do some tasks that I am not great at
@@astherphoenix9648 crybaby
The past is a place of reference, not of residence. I remind myself this frequently.
The moment I left my home and start living alone, I started becoming more confident in myself.
You left your home? Do you live in the forest and make a living out of nature?
@LowerTheBoom Yep. Made a treehouse by the river. Even befriended rabbits, squirrels, grizzly bears and water moccasins, 😉.
@@asdax8311nice. Lol
That’s awesome ❤️
@ That’s unfortunate, but you have to understand nobody is going to come to rescue you.
You have to take the necessary steps to make changes in your life. Even if they are incremental, one day at a time, they all add up in a positive direction.
Start with a bit of exercise, better health, better mind, positivity when you do that.
Few words to express my gratitude.
I remember the first time I randomly picked one of your videos, it was bout helping me to learn the English language.
But rapidly I found out a big valuable content and immediately appreciated the way you explain a large variety of different things, especially about relationship.
So, let me thank you for these both 2 different skills.
And please keep going.
Take care
It's nice to watch a positive and informative video. This channel is a light in all the darkness. 🙏🏽
Muhammad Ali: "I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion'."
I quite often disagree with Courtney. But on this, she is correct. I grew up believing that perfection was not optional. If you aren't perfect, you aren't good enough. 2nd place is the 1st place failure, and there is NOTHING more disgusting than failure. I believed this would make me strive to be better in everything I did. All it did was burn me out trying to be something I could never achieve, and killed my confidence.
Great example, in 2007 I ran my personal best marathon at 3:37:15. Did I celebrate the personal best? NO! Was I even a bit happy with it? Not really. I went home and said "Why wasn't it a 3:30? You didn't train hard enough. It would have been a 3:35 if you had remembered to take enough electrolytes and didn't have that hamstring cramp at mile 24."
While it's great to look for ways to improve, don't let it stop you from appreciating what you did. Otherwise, you'll never be confident you can do what you set out to do.
Great advice. I think theres a lot to be said about the point you make. Unfortunately, the culture of 'if you're not first, you're last" is so prevalent that it'll take a lot of shouting before anyone hears an alternative.
Important things: 0:39 First Thing _ Constant Self - Criticism; 2:49 Second Thing _ Avoiding Challenges; 4:10 Third Thing _ Neglecting Your Health & Self - Care; 6:31 Fourth Thing _ Procrastinating; 7:40 Fifth Thing _ The Comparison Game; 8:33 Sixth Thing _ Overthinking & Second Guessing; 9:21 Seventh Thing _ Relying On Other People For Validation; and 10:04 to summarize all the told here.
What you have told for men, that can also be applied to women as well, Courtney.
The only comparison with have to make to ourselves where we were, and where are we now. What I mean is that we see what we have achieved, and also what we have managed to do. Don't rely on social media to see how some other people live, cause they live their own life, and probably they also have issues of their own, just like we all do have, since we are all human beings. Also it would be wise that you don't judge people cause we all have inside ourselves we have internal wars that we fight and we try to make ourselves win that war. Not an easy task, but it is possible thing to solve. As for second thing (Avoiding Challenges), in psychology, it's called: Postponement.
Additional things that can be also told here are these: Eight Thing _ Listening Whole Time People For Their Opinions (partly can be used for seventh thing), Ninth Thing _ Going Back Into The Past And Going Into The Future (partly can be also used in sixth thing); Tenth Thing _ Not Enjoying In Your Present Moments; and perhaps Eleventh Thing _ Judging Too Much About Everybody And Not Taking Action At All (partly can be used for the first thing).
For the eight thing I can say that the people may say their opinion (the things they will say are good, or bad), but it's just their opinion, since they aren't aware of our situations that we're in. My point is don't take everything what they say for granted. At ninth thing I meant to say that you don't have to revisit things that you had in past, or that things that you will have in future. Learn from the past, don't be a prisoner of the past, and try that next time to avoid things in the future. As I mentioned the tenth thing, I meant to say that you have to calm your mind and your heart, and just simply go like this: Go with the flow. Mistakes we make, and it's not the first one or neither is the last one. But try to learn something from them, and avoid repeating them (it's not an easy task, but it is a possible thing).
When I was listening to you Courtney, I remembered two quotes that I saw couple of years ago:
1. Lao Tze once told this thing: "If you are depressed, then you are looking at the past (going back to past). And if you are in anxiety, then you are looking to the future (going into future)."
2. This one goes like this: "Don't give up on your goals. You have no idea what an inspiration you are for others."
3. This is a lat quote, which goes like this: Mens sana in corpore sano. Translation is: "In healthy body, healthy spirit."
Thank you Courtney so much.
Thank you, Courtney. I have thoroughly enjoyed all your videos. As a single 55! year old I spend a lot of time on mind and body; and after long term relationships, a few wonderful and one not so, it’s time for me. You are inspiring!
This is one of your best videos yet. Also, btw, once you suggested your husband's channel in one of your videos. Turns out, I have started loving watches and have watched tons of Teddy's and Kevin O'Leary's watch videos and now I visit match stores a lot and have made a list of my own. So, thanks for that!
Congrats, you fell prey to the shameless grifting they do. It's why they're called "influencers". She talks about how women love watches, mentions her husbands channel, and now look at you. Reality: Women don't give a shit about watches unless you suck so badly that you need "extras" to make you stand out.
@@Swearengen1980 Bro. Women are humans too. Women can and do like anything they want as much as men do. Believe it or not, we are 99.9% the same (I'm not making this up). Also, I love learning about new things. I realized how much I didn't know. I love how great the engineering is behind the automatic watches. I love to dress well and I already have been wearing a Seiko that my uncle gave me when I was in high school. I look good with watches on. So, this just reignited my love for really good looking watches that make me look good and the engineering behind them. I love going to the malls now. Something more fun to do in my life I have now. I hope you find yours as well.
As far as influence trend goes, I was never on Facebook or on Instagram. I haven't been influenced by anybody. I'm just learning from everyone. She did a great job in promoting her husband. He seems like a really hardworking, knowledgeable, and humble guy. Plus, seeing him and Kevin buying $300K worth of watches like they're nothing really inspires me. You call it "influence" because you've been stained by Instagram. I call it normal life learning and growth like how it's always been.
So, let me live my life and you enjoy yours too! Not much time we have.
Just wanna say thank you, Courtney. I think you're amazing for doing what you do, the world is so full of people trying to make problems worse and so very few trying to solve any. You're fantastic, for the world at whole. For those that listen with open minds, there's much to learn from your channel.
You hit the nail on the head. Those with open minds and willing to learn, makes the world a much much better place.
You’re so kind. Thank you 🥹
Great video. One things I know I need to work on is to not second guess myself. I feel that I had good intuition but don't trust it enough
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The saying goes, "Comparison is the thief of joy."
100% too much of it this world
It’s absolutely necessary though, in order validate perspective
I only do 5 of these. Watch out ladies!!
Super important!! I love this simple advice reminding us what underpins success❤
Do The Hard Things
I told my, then young, son that anything new he tries he will suck at. He'll be crappy at it. Yet when he devotes time and effort into his quest he will get better and even excellent at it.
(Which is why it got dangerous playing catch with him after he exceeded 70 mph when pitching.) He has two engineering degrees now, lifts weights, and is getting past the beginner stage of playing a guitar.
Does he get same-day lays
I don't know@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu, but I don't doubt he can if he works at it. (He's naturally gregarious, wavy curly hair that I've seen women really like in him, and 6'4" tall.)
You have great points, Courtney. As for challenges, one needs to start small and increase the level of those challenges. But one has to be realistic about it. If you find a certain challenge is 6 up, constantly attempting to do it will have an opposite effect on your confidence. You, your body, and your mind do have limitations.
This is one of your best video Courtney . Winning over these can change life completely ,I am currently trying to work on all these aspects.
Confidence is such an intricate tapestry, and this breakdown reveals just how much of it is woven by our daily choices. One thought to add: while breaking these destructive habits, it’s equally important to replace them with what I’d call ‘anchor habits’-simple rituals that ground you in self-respect. For instance, something as small as keeping a tidy space or sticking to a morning routine can act as a daily reminder that you value yourself.
It’s fascinating how much power lies in seemingly small decisions. Building confidence isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about creating a life where you constantly tell yourself, ‘I matter, and my efforts matter.’ Over time, this quiet self-respect turns into the unshakable confidence we all admire.
Thank you Courtney. All 7 were useful and at one point I suffered from all 7 habits. I've come a long way. The comfort zone and procrastinating have been my biggest two. Stepping boldly into the unknown and trying something new always energizes me and boosts my confidence. As far as procrastinating I focus on completing one task at a time. I notice completion is infectious. It spreads to other tasks. I'm proud of myself whenever I complete something I start. This whole video is some of the best constructive advice i've seen online.
Happy Sunday, Courtney! Believe it or not, I'm going on my first date in over two and a half years this afternoon! I'm feeling confident, and I'm ready to enjoy the moment and maybe learn a thing or two!
I don’t believe it.
Jk. Lol. Enjoy yourself. Hope it’s a great one
@@ReubenZeigler Thank you!
Thanks for confidence reminders❤❤❤!!
Have a good time bud!!!
Aww hope it goes so well! Hugs! 🥰
Thank you Courtney for the informative advice.❤
It’s my pleasure! Thanks for being here 🥰
Thank you for this video, Courtney. It brings things in perspective. Sometimes we are not aware that we undermine ourselves by doing these in the moment. Love the end, true confidence is quiet and resilient and rooted in self respect. Very powerful.
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Thank you for making this video. Really enjoyed your insights into the topics you discussed. unfortunately, i can see myself in some of those though this year i have been trying to change who i am a bit by first taking a course to refresh myself and back into the workforce. Obviously, it is stil a work in progress but a goal i look forward to achieve and succeeding at!
I strive to keep out of situations where I have to apologize. Think before you say anything, and know who your speaking too. Some people male or female. I’m not a nice guy! I’m a gentleman with empathy and kindness but don’t push
Exercise & working out builds my confidence.
I do all of these, but I have been talking to a therapist for the past few years to slowly work through those things, especially the procrastination, comparison and negative self talk. I still have a ways to go, but I did get good advice
100%. Just know it isn’t hereditary, you can make those changes for a healthy mindset. It’s worth it.
You could have read Ancient Stoic text, for free. More knowledge than what a therapist possesses.
You missed the irony there didn't you? You're taking a "few years" to work on things like procrastination. 😂 Surely you know there are more bad therapists than good? If you haven't resolved your issues in a few years, something is wrong with the therapist, you, or both. Look at how much you pay the therapist, how often you go, and ask yourself if you're getting your money's worth. I died, painfully, and remember every second of it. I can still feel it on occasion. Panic attacks, PTSD, 15 years of alcoholism after it....even my F'd up self ended therapy at 3 years. It should not be taking you multiple years for negativity (to the degree that you can/will change).
Confidence is such a mindset, no matter how good you have it in life.
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Speaking of, Yesterday I took my weekly shower. I used dog shampoo by accident. Now I smell like a good boy
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Good boy!
Lmao
That's a good start, go with baby steps or puppy steps to build your confidence.
Hi Courtney. Being easily swayed and setting too high boundaries for myself are my current big flaws. From consistent mind changing to getting down on myself over very minor things, I’m sure this damages my confidence and it’s my 2025 goal to work on being more independently minded and not so easily downed.
Great stuff. 💯🎯 KEEP GROWING!!
*Negative self-talk and procrastination are silent killers of confidence. Replacing them with small daily wins and affirmations can rebuild self-belief one step at a time.*
Say yes when it’s beneficial. Pleasure is more than sacrifice and struggle. Men aren’t taught to pamper themselves
An oddly timely video for me. Been struggling with this a lot over the last 18 months and yesterday I managed to put a finger on a few important things. Then, behold, I see this in my subscription feed.
Thank you, I found your videos really helpful 😊
Delayed gratification is truly the best way to START building self-confidence because it starts with self-control, and if you can master yourself, you will UNLOCK your other chains that WEIGH YOU DOWN!
I think, your channel was given by AI two or three days ago. So I learn little by little, day by day watching your episodes. I didn't heard most of the ideas that you have described here.. Amazing personality..simple but gorgeous appearance...today I can say one thing. one day I will be your top 1 fan.
Thanks for the content. Your videos have helped confirm some of my existing habits and highlight areas that can benefit from work and improvement. I really enjoy your channel and am also a fan of your partners channel too 😂
Hello, Courtney!
Thank you for good useful information.
Thank you💛I'm really trying.
Even though I'm a introvert I still try but when I get nothing back in return it's hard to keep trying and continuing. I have confidence.
Such good stuff here, I wish someone had told me years ago. But I probably wouldn't have listened.
Courtney back guys ❤
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Public comment. Great message to humanity ❤. God bless you ms Courtney ❤❤❤
I like when Courtney start saying “welcome to my channel” her channel, her content, her decisions… none of us is here by force. Why some men think “well this is wrong I have to say this and that”? 🤔
I would say it's better to be self-critical than complacent or delusional. I think people gassing themselves up is a way bigger problem than having an ability to acknowledge one's own shortcomings. But yes, there's a fine line between nitpicking vs genuine critique.
Most people's immediate reflex is to gravitate towards what's easiest because human beings are inherently lazy. We all want quick solutions to complex problems without having to do any of the legwork. It's part and parcel of our psychological orientation, unfortunately.
Life is unpredictable at times, so you can't necessarily blame the person for neglecting themselves depending on their unique circumstances. There are moments where we're forced to sacrifice our routine to meet a deadline or to attend to an unexpected emergency. But I do agree in principle. However, I loathe the term "self-esteem." To me, this is just an undeserved ego boost.
Procrastination is more so linked to the lack of discipline than it is to confidence. If you're unable to override your urge to stray from the task at hand, you aren't unconfident but undisciplined.
Modernity has caused people to lose the ability to practice gratitude and to constantly compare themselves to others. Life has become so easy, and we live in such abundance that we're now fixating on other people's lives rather than focusing on building our own.
We tend to overthink our decisions because of the paradox of choice. There's so many different options to choose from and so many different avenues we can take that we no longer feel satisfied about whether we made the right choice. It's actually more of a luxury than a problem.
Man is a social animal. I would say don't invest solely in the opinions of others, but don't shut them out entirely either. We have an innate craving of acceptance by our peers because we evolved as tribal creatures. If you only rely on yourself to validate your accomplishments, that can also be a gateway to narcissism.
Honestly, Courtney here nailed it because I do some of these and at the same time trying darnedest to improve the same habits I'm doing. Still like she stated it's a process.
Confidence is very key when it comes to women. Areas, like overthinking, are based out of fear (not being good enough, impostor syndrome, etc), but you can make a conscious effort to change those. It’s amazing what some effort to change mentality can snowball into for positive changes in your life.
Rooting for you!!!
@@ElevateMyRelationships Well said.
@@CourtneyRyan Thanks. I got this.
You can validate yourself by becoming the best version of yourself...
Hi there. Been watching your content for quite some time but I wish you could make videos regarding approaching women in 2 scenarios: 1) if the woman doesn't speak the same language as you, 2) if the woman is on the phone or listening something on the headphones
Unveiling Your Hidden Potential by Bruce Thornwood (thank me later)
This video is sooo good. Thanks a lot, Courtney, for what you are doing❤. I miss your two colors sweaters 😊:))).
Go Courtney Ryan I love every video always Good my confidence had gone up
Aww I’m so glad!!!
Thank you for your help!!!
My pleasure! 🥰
Greetings from Nigeria
Been with you for a long time
Thanks for the opinion
I been working out like a demon straight out of hell and I got abs! I got a new suit, a grand seiko watch and a solid gold chain to wear under it all. It feels soooo good and I'm 38! I got 18 years to go to get to Hugh Jackman's body!
Thanks for confidence reminders!!!
Hi Courtney, Ryan happy Sunday ❤👋😘🥰
You too! ❤️
That was a really great video Courtney, now to be completely honest with you I have all seven of these things I take Lithium carbonate and Sertraline everyday as I have bipolar and anxiety, I also really hate myself a lot and I have really bad Perfectionism and OCD too, I'm 37 on disability (nothing too serious) I'm just not as smart as normal people that's all, had a really bad seizure when I was three that almost killed me and it really missed me up (fried half my brain) and I had to learn to do everything all over again, I can't get a job because they said that if I were to make more then 20 dollars a month they would cut off my health insurance and I definitely don't want that to happen, I have no car but I know how to drive though, I've never had any friends, never been in a relationship, live with my family in a double wide trailer and I'm 37, I don't think things well ever get better Courtney but I love watching your videos so please do not stop making them and again this one was really good, anyway you have a wonderful day alright.
Eh, it could be really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really worse. Don't worry about it. At least you have a pot to piss in, I think.
@@jez49647 Wow thank you friend I really appreciate your message a lot and yes hopefully things will get better for us in the future, you try to stay positive and I'll try to do the same okay 😉
I've heard it said" nothing changes until you change, nothing gets better until you get better"
Many of us weren't taught to express ourselves, your family is sometimes like your boot camp
I'm only just recently realizing I don't trust myself. Learning to do so seems a herculean task, and it's adding to the overwhelm.
Greetings yet again Lady Ryan .. 🤗
A lot of ppl are avoiding these altogether regardless of circumstances which I would claim is just as bad or perhaps even worse! Everything in moderation as a old wisdom says.
Managing self-care can be a challenge in itself, especially when you have autism or other conditions with executive-functioning issues. For example, I find that even maintaining a level of exercise and activity that I routinely managed just a few years ago now gets compromised by battles with fatigue and time constraints. Which part of it is "self-care"? Is it the rest, or the activity?
great content thanks
I struggle a lot with self doubt. I just feel I am never good enough. I always look at my faults which far outway the the good points. Many people also frequently reminds me of my past mishaps and faults. So I am not in a good space at the moment. No women would want someone like me anyway.
Great advice!
You know you watch too much men's content on youtube when you have developed and absolutely flawless instinct for when the tiege hanley ad is coming lol.
I agree its a bad sign if a guy is putting himself down all the time. But a bit of self deprecating humor is a sign that he is not an ego maniac, and he accepts the fallout of his actions. Inflated egos always blame shift and will never make a joke about thier failures.
Ladies, you should avoid men that are full of themselves. Women frequently mistake arrogance for confidence. Excessive confidence is actually a sign that he has few real skills and he's trying to hide it.
There are a lot of men who are emotionally, physically, and financially healthy that can't get a relationship or dates. What advice can you give to these men?
To stay healthy in all of those departments one must stay single. And he lived happily ever after. The end.
Just keep asking women. Billions exist; at least one will find you attractive.
Try traveling and date overseas. American women is so entitled.
this video is important. i am ticking too many on this list
i am a little late in realising Courtney uploaded today.😅
Courtney please make a video reaction to jcube girl in red
Would make a great video!😮
Question and answer 2024 version by end of this month.
Everyone looks forward to seeing these :)
"I am the thinker of the thoughts, not the thoughts themselves"
Sorry, I can never finish any of these videos. I have perfectionism rooted in my brain too deeply. I don't think that I could ever hold the facade of meeting any of these self improvement ideas. To anyone who reads this or watches this video. I pray you have better luck than me.
We all have strengths and wacknesses
#5 It's not that we men necessarily compare ourselves against other men consciously, it's that women use said men against us LEADING us to do the former like a Pavlovian response.
You are the only one whos responsible for letting it get to you..
Confidence is appreciated if you are Chad or Tyrone. There is a reason why 6 feet tall, wealthy men have their way with women. Now we can't all be 6 feet tall, but we can put forth the effort to make as much money as possible. This is what women truly want. It sounds harsh but it is true.
That`s a good video. Thx!
Agreed strongly agree
Wonderful.
Yes yes and yes ✅
I'm all of the things that you mentioned in your video I feel ugly because I have been told I'm ugly and not attractive to a woman
My self worth comes from Christ and Him alone! Nothing in this world can compare to the worth I have in Christ. Nothing can fill the void like Christ does. Praise Him! :)
My therapist gave me a mantra which is stop breathe think and choose and it’s helped me have better dates.
1% better becomes 100% better
I’m the king of negative self talk and comparison.
Does Courtney make anymore videos on her courtney christine ryan youtube channel?
I have a job, about to get my finance degree in a couple of months, train MMA every day, lift weights. None of this gives me confidence with women because it doesn't do anything. If you're average you have little to no options regardless of what you do. I got a lot going on but that doesn't mean women are goign to be physically attracted to me.
Oh, I'm sorry. I stopped listening when you started talking about yourself. What was it that you were saying?
Hey Courtney would be great to see you do some reaction vids to Orion Taraban’s stuff…
Went through 3 decades of being told by just about everyone in my life to family to classmates to co-workers how horrible I was. (I'm painfully awkward and never get on the right foot with anyone.) So much so that I've long since given up. Nobody ever once laughed with me, they laughed AT me. I've long since given up on there being good people, certainly not in my city.
Never bring someone you don't know into the group through humor, it just looks like you're bullying that person.
Cue the slurs...
Can't critic this video. All true. 👍
I pretty much do everyone of them and put no effort into anything. I have made some effort in a few things but the results are always the same.
I considered this a check list and some of these things dont even apply to me and i handle the rest with grace so i must be doing great lol go me
Courtney. Your 7 deadly sins may be viewed as followed : That's confidence to me..., you're self aware and accepting, you know you're limitations and you don't sugar-coat your lack of abilities. These are your strengths, NOT WEAKNESSES. You are a confident person, why do you think otherwise?🤔 I can build from these facets, these aspects, enrich, enhance and evolve.
0:40 is my biggest issue. I dont know how to stop it.
This Tuesday, November 19, is International Men's Day. Please make a note of it and do something kind to the man in your life to make him feel loved and appreciated.
Have a great day!
I’m guilty of 1 and 3-6
Confidence= tall, attractive, and wealthy
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