I may seem like an insignificant 1 view on a youtube statistics; but you've gotta know that you've completely changed my life; to an extent that I cannot descrive. Thank you Sir from the depths of my heart
I thought it was just me. Being on edge 24/7, haven’t had a full nights sleep in five years and the way this is expected is actually genius. Never being safe and being abused and abandoned as a child you can’t resolve it. Thats why we continue to feel it now. Mind blown 🤯
After listening to this great video from Tim, I wonder if there is someone in this world not suffering from wrongly managed anxiety. Thanks Tim for your generous sharing. ❤
You have described my life in 50 minutes, and I'm close to becoming 38, I have never parented myself, always procrastinating, now it is difficult as I found myself too self-reliant and simultaneously isolated by the trauma.
Wow! This just finally put the puzzle pieces together for me in understanding my anxiety, shame, and struggle to put myself out there in the world authentically and bravely. Thank you!
It nice to know that I'm in a healing circle now (43 years old and in therapy for most of my life). My anxiety is indeed getting stronger, but I know I'm growing and taking important steps. But....man it's a hard process. Love for everyone recognizing themselves in what Tim is saying. We're all growing and learning. Be gentle with yourself, because it takes time ❤❤❤
I am anxious child...well now an adult. thank you for making all these videos. I am an ACOA, 55 years old and always wondered what was wrong with me. I am no longer in that environment. I knew I was from an alcoholic home but had no clue the extent of harm it had on my life until I found out about complex PTSD.
For whatever it’s worth, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing that you are an ACOA. I had never heard of that term before your comment and a quick google search sent me to their website where I learned about this amazing association.
So with you! I was in ACA and it helped me…I did some therapy at a time in the 90’s but there was all this stuff inside that I knew was not explained. These videos FINALLY explain it all.
@@StarBitt97 ACA has helped that it confirmed what alcoholism does to a family, but it was the CPSTD that explained why no matter what I did, the brain was a big part with the subconscious. I would always question why am I so anxious and everything is ok around me? Recovery is very hard to change all of this, but I keep going and do what I can to try and heal.
Thank you for helping me to see myself more clearly. It is comforting to know that others are on this journey with me that understand what the struggle is like.
I can’t thank you enough for sharing your wisdom so freely and so well put together. Tim, you are a gift. I needed this content as this topic is exactly what I’ve been thinking about lately.
You know your with a narc , when they Shame you for anxiety.. “pull yourself together” Like mad 😡 disgusted with you , like how dare you look for comfort . It’s terrifying That’s a good empathy test
Yes when id tell my mom I was extremely depressed before I realized she was the cause she would say "A grateful heart is a happy one" like it was my fault.
This perfectly describes me and my son. Thank you for this, I’m so sad I’ve passed this on to him but he’s 11 so hopefully I can help him get out of it
I truly hope so 🙏 I had it as young as 10 and 40 yrs later it took some work to get better. There is help now and this is a good video. GAD and alcoholism diagnosis...almost 10 years sober but it took some doing. Godspeed
@@linajiao9211 no it’s actually not…My son has come along way and is an amazing healthy person and we have come along way since I wrote this comment and much healing has been done and I really want to give all glory to God. It is never too late 🙏🏽
Me too dude. That’s why I’m in recovery. And don’t nothin stop the anxiety 😅 at least not til now. Tim’s videos give me hope. I feel like I had to understand what was happening in my brain for my experience to be real enough to do something about. Sorry result of CPTSD is believing your trauma is all made up. Makes it hard to act upon, so I was numbing it instead. Now if I can just unlearn bad habits and get back out of my limbic brain… there’s hope
Another remarkable Tim Fletcher session! I fail to see how someone can come up with such an accurate, astute, detailed, exhaustive and multi-faceted analysis series (and doing it consistently for years on end), unless they are working on disentangling these issues in their personal life and are battling complex trauma themselves.
Wow ive done alot of anxiety research but this is absolutely amazing im gob smacked at how complex this has been explained . Thankyou for the knowledge
You know, I don’t remember feeling overtly anxious as a child, but I sure do feel it now. I guess I didn’t know as a child that I had CPTSD and now I do. 😂 I do totally get triggered into anxiety when my adult daughter gets anxious. I want to fix everything for her and keep her from the pain and stress I grew up with, and am well aware that’s not possible or helpful for her.
Find (properly vet, of course) them mentors and peers they can trust in lieu of their bio parents... It'll work wonders, to not gaslight them into thinking that they can or should have to trust their bio parents. (A bit aggressive, I apologize, but the point still stands).
@@pennythorne I did neurofeedback for about 12 sessions (it's costly but worth it). I was also lucky with the facilitator (great man). I recommend doing it alongside therapy with someone you click with. PROCEED *ONLY* IF YOU'RE SAFE (home, work, relationships etc.). Otherwise, you risk retraumatization. I also did other modalities like yoga for trauma and that helped a little.
I may seem like an insignificant 1 view on a youtube statistics; but you've gotta know that you've completely changed my life; to an extent that I cannot descrive.
Thank you Sir from the depths of my heart
For those of us about to take this journey can you elaborate, please? Any info from personal perspective and experience is greatly appreciated 💖
I thought it was just me. Being on edge 24/7, haven’t had a full nights sleep in five years and the way this is expected is actually genius. Never being safe and being abused and abandoned as a child you can’t resolve it. Thats why we continue to feel it now. Mind blown 🤯
After listening to this great video from Tim, I wonder if there is someone in this world not suffering from wrongly managed anxiety. Thanks Tim for your generous sharing. ❤
The word anxiety, makes me anxious.
Thank you for exposing me, and teaching me how to heal.
Me too! We can heal
Mr. Fletcher,
Thank you for the videos. I stream them alot and it’s helped me heal. God bless you sir.
You have described my life in 50 minutes, and I'm close to becoming 38, I have never parented myself, always procrastinating, now it is difficult as I found myself too self-reliant and simultaneously isolated by the trauma.
I feel like i should give you a hug. I am the exact same way and i am 35
This content is invaluable.
Wow! This just finally put the puzzle pieces together for me in understanding my anxiety, shame, and struggle to put myself out there in the world authentically and bravely. Thank you!
It nice to know that I'm in a healing circle now (43 years old and in therapy for most of my life). My anxiety is indeed getting stronger, but I know I'm growing and taking important steps. But....man it's a hard process. Love for everyone recognizing themselves in what Tim is saying. We're all growing and learning. Be gentle with yourself, because it takes time ❤❤❤
I am anxious child...well now an adult. thank you for making all these videos. I am an ACOA, 55 years old and always wondered what was wrong with me. I am no longer in that environment. I knew I was from an alcoholic home but had no clue the extent of harm it had on my life until I found out about complex PTSD.
I feel you❤
For whatever it’s worth, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing that you are an ACOA. I had never heard of that term before your comment and a quick google search sent me to their website where I learned about this amazing association.
Did he experience the alcoholism of your parent as a child? And did that anxiety then imprint into adulthood
So with you! I was in ACA and it helped me…I did some therapy at a time in the 90’s but there was all this stuff inside that I knew was not explained. These videos FINALLY explain it all.
@@StarBitt97 ACA has helped that it confirmed what alcoholism does to a family, but it was the CPSTD that explained why no matter what I did, the brain was a big part with the subconscious. I would always question why am I so anxious and everything is ok around me? Recovery is very hard to change all of this, but I keep going and do what I can to try and heal.
Real help that is informative, compassionate and really practical. Thank you for not revictimizing. Good bless you.
My Mum was always frustrated that I bit my nails. I still do it but not as much when I am anxious. I guess it's a sign that I'm healing. Praise God 🙏
I think alot of this is deeply rooted in childhood developmental brain trauma
Yep i think the research has barely touched the extent of the problem. Abuse and neglect literally impact brain development, impair it
Thank you for helping me to see myself more clearly. It is comforting to know that others are on this journey with me that understand what the struggle is like.
The struggle is insanly real!!! Prayers
I can’t thank you enough for sharing your wisdom so freely and so well put together. Tim, you are a gift. I needed this content as this topic is exactly what I’ve been thinking about lately.
Thank you for these videos. It has helped me learn so much about myself and also about the people I work with
You know your with a narc , when they Shame you for anxiety.. “pull yourself together”
Like mad 😡 disgusted with you , like how dare you look for comfort . It’s terrifying
That’s a good empathy test
Have u left the narc yet?
Yes when id tell my mom I was extremely depressed before I realized she was the cause she would say "A grateful heart is a happy one" like it was my fault.
This was so great! The part about how to do the parenting is so helpful!
Validate them in a compassionate way
This perfectly describes me and my son. Thank you for this, I’m so sad I’ve passed this on to him but he’s 11 so hopefully I can help him get out of it
Aww praying for your and your precious son ....🙏♥️♥️
Teach your son breath work, teach him about emotions, find an emotional wheel, on line.
I truly hope so 🙏 I had it as young as 10 and 40 yrs later it took some work to get better. There is help now and this is a good video. GAD and alcoholism diagnosis...almost 10 years sober but it took some doing. Godspeed
Too late
@@linajiao9211 no it’s actually not…My son has come along way and is an amazing healthy person and we have come along way since I wrote this comment and much healing has been done and I really want to give all glory to God. It is never too late 🙏🏽
Excellent job. Very informative teaching at the end!👍💜🙏
Lived my whole life like this getting drunk was the only thing which seemed to stop the anxiety
How's it going?
My dad did the same. I’m now trying to break the generational curse. RIP DAD ❤️❤️❤️
My way is weed and isolation 😔
Me too dude. That’s why I’m in recovery. And don’t nothin stop the anxiety 😅 at least not til now. Tim’s videos give me hope. I feel like I had to understand what was happening in my brain for my experience to be real enough to do something about. Sorry result of CPTSD is believing your trauma is all made up. Makes it hard to act upon, so I was numbing it instead. Now if I can just unlearn bad habits and get back out of my limbic brain… there’s hope
Me too I quit drinking and now I have anxiety.
floating helps a lot with anxiety, floating in sensory deprivation tanks...
Oh my, this just describes me perfectly.
Thanks!
Another remarkable Tim Fletcher session!
I fail to see how someone can come up with such an accurate, astute, detailed, exhaustive and multi-faceted analysis series (and doing it consistently for years on end), unless they are working on disentangling these issues in their personal life and are battling complex trauma themselves.
Thank you for helping me❤❤
thank you for what you do
32:25 this is what I desire would have happened to me as a child, instead I got abused by all family members
I am so sorry that you had to experience this. I was also my childhood, I send you some much healing ❤️🩹
@@MissiJade hug if ok
Just perfectly described me. It's like you're talking about me.
Wow ive done alot of anxiety research but this is absolutely amazing im gob smacked at how complex this has been explained . Thankyou for the knowledge
Shits gonna happen, leave it alone until it does, then deal with it! New motto.
Shah, I’ve got debilitating anxiety, innit. Me’s just now getting to know meself an am learnin that fear is me only true enemy, not a part of meself.
That is how i kind of feel. I feel like I need help and there is nobody.
You know, I don’t remember feeling overtly anxious as a child, but I sure do feel it now. I guess I didn’t know as a child that I had CPTSD and now I do. 😂
I do totally get triggered into anxiety when my adult daughter gets anxious. I want to fix everything for her and keep her from the pain and stress I grew up with, and am well aware that’s not possible or helpful for her.
I got told that any event that your younger self could not process (as a young child )can be imprinted as anxiety into your entire lifetime
Find (properly vet, of course) them mentors and peers they can trust in lieu of their bio parents... It'll work wonders, to not gaslight them into thinking that they can or should have to trust their bio parents. (A bit aggressive, I apologize, but the point still stands).
Followup: It takes a village to raise a (CT) child.
Thank you 🙏🏽
Awesome!
Ty for all your good work sir
Awesome!❤❤❤❤❤
Neurofeedback helped me drive down anxiety.
I’d love to know more about your experience with the neurofeedback - how long did you do it? Have you tried other methods, therapy?
@@pennythorne I did neurofeedback for about 12 sessions (it's costly but worth it). I was also lucky with the facilitator (great man). I recommend doing it alongside therapy with someone you click with. PROCEED *ONLY* IF YOU'RE SAFE (home, work, relationships etc.). Otherwise, you risk retraumatization. I also did other modalities like yoga for trauma and that helped a little.
Too good to be true.....now come the ads
The best ... oh my god
What about present stuff going on. Recent stuff. Recent experiences
22:17
Me too
Anxiety: It is not always related to childhood. In my case it began during adolescence when I joined a residential University.😢