How is Trauma REALLY Released?
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- Опубліковано 21 лис 2024
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Trauma is not in the event. It’s in the physiology. And healing involves releasing that trapped traumatic stress to restore regulation back to the autonomic nervous system. How exactly? That’s what I’ll cover in this lecture. Hint: Those fancy breathing, shaking, and tapping techniques aren’t going to cut it.
Resources Irene mentions in this Vlog:
► SmartBody SmartMind
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► The Polyvagal Theory. Explained
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► All THINGS Polyvagal. Plus Q&A with Irene.
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► HOW TO DE-STRESS IN 7-STEPS
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► HEALING TRAUMA
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► 4 STEPS TO BEAT YOUR INNER RESISTANCE
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► Dr. Bruce Perry
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► Functional Freeze Explained
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It's actually a relief to hear you say that some people with severe abuse may never be functional members of society despite healing. I'm coming to understand that my 22 years of intense psychological abuse before I escaped will probably strongly define the rest of my life. I spent most of the first couple decades in adulthood trying to prove that I wasn't affected by my childhood. But learning self compassion and learning to parent myself the way I never received is more important than becoming superhuman.
Beautiful comment. Can really relate and am appreciating your words as those of a role model. Thank you.
@@gridspir so lovely, thank you!
Your comment really really resonates for my self as well. It's a compassionate idea to accept possible limitations instead of placing unreachable goals upon our shoulders. One step at a time.
Thankyou for sharing. It's heart-warming to know we are definitely not alone in our journeys. 👍
@fatherburning358 yes, we've been burdened with unreachable goals our whole lives. Great observation!
@@elvnprince aww geez. Just dropped a tear. 🥹
00:02 Trauma is not just the event, but what happens in the physiology.
02:37 Trauma is a physiological issue in the nervous system, not just an event.
07:37 The autonomic nervous system is responsible for our body's automatic functions and responses.
10:20 Trauma is not necessarily in the event, but how it gets embedded in the system.
15:40 Unprocessed trauma gets trapped inside us, leading to chronic activation.
18:10 Trauma release involves processing and working with our physiology to release trapped emotions, words, or movement patterns.
23:03 Animals have an automatic response to reset muscle tone by stretching.
25:25 Traumatic stress affects the body's ability to heal and recover.
30:01 Trauma creates a constant state of disconnection and hyperarousal in our bodies.
32:08 Learning to follow our impulses and tracking our physiology is key in releasing trapped traumatic stress.
37:02 Cookie cutter approaches to trauma release may provide temporary relief but do not impact the core wiring.
39:18 Learning to take care of our bodies and listen to them is key to healing trauma.
43:38 When we are disconnected from our system, our capacity to feel our organic processes is stunted.
45:42 Listening to and feeling the intensity of trauma is crucial for release.
50:00 Connecting to the outside world becomes more alive with multitasking of awareness and internal regeneration.
52:10 Body work can guide the body on how to release trauma, but it depends on the person and the practitioner.
56:27 Body work can help release trauma temporarily, but it may not address the root of the problem.
58:37 Trauma can cause a procedural memory response in the body, which can be released through shaking.
1:03:09 Building up resources and capacity for neuroplastic healing
1:05:21 To release trauma, we need to feel and fully experience the frozen body parts.
1:09:54 Trapped survival stress in childhood can lead to bipolar and other mental illnesses.
1:12:19 Functional shutdown can coexist with high functioning
This should be universal knowledge for everyone. This is absolute gold
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much!!🫶🏼
@@user-g3froni Glad i could help! :)
Takeaways:
1. Work with the hurt in the moment by pausing for 30-60 seconds. Sense, feel, and connect to the pain or the disruption to the system when it happens so it doesn’t keep around. Integrating it can look like feeling and screaming, crying, shaking, release tension by stretching etc. whatever feels good.
15:43 *unless you have very young kids, you feel it when they are not around.
2. Education into stress in our nervous system.
3. Listen to your body and increase your capacity. You need to tune into your body by listening to when you’re hungry, thirsty, when you need to go to the bathroom, when you need to release gas, etc. to know to recognize and to tune into your body in order to begin to heal and release trauma. This is mundane work and it takes time and patience.
• Trauma can be called Survival stress
• Sometimes we change our terrain/environment and allow our bodies to begin to heal
• Our higher brain is so smart that it can disconnect us from our bodies.
• Homeostasis of keeping our nervous systems in stress can work to against us to make us want to go back to high stress
• If our primary caregiver doesn’t know how to tune into their own nervous system, then they can’t understand us and can’t help us co-regulate and we get faulty information on our nervous system.
TY
Thanks 👍
thnak you my dear, this is is a mega time saver
Thank you for this so much
And whilst its kind of true, its also completely "barking up the wrong tree"
"Your letting your imagination run away with itself"
"your as thick as 2 short planks"
"you have a short Fuse"
"some people cant see past the end of thier nose"
"Goosey Goosey , Gander, where shall you wander, upstairs downstairs wither may I go, sitting in the chambermaids parlor i saw an old man who would not say his prayers, so i took him by the left leg and threw him down the stairs"
"your a scardy cat"
"driven around the bend"
"no one in thier right mind"
"away with the fairies"
"as above as below, as below as above"
is it not funny that we obviously knew everything once and seem to have lost everything after the Roman Slavers
Healing is not a destination, it's a lifestyle. 💫
It's a hel of a journey to 🥴
Amen 🙏 ❤
Wow. That's good. I'm going to hold on that saying.
Recovery is a process not an event
Or a vocation.
As someone who has 'been there', and a doc myself, I believe TRAUMA is not as she states but the EMOTIONS we suppress. Why? Because no one ever screams out and wails at funerals, or cries in public, or expresses EMOTIONS when traumas happen because we are taught as kids NOT to show emotions. Watch a funeral from India or Iran and folks wail and scream and cry--letting out the grief. We Americans/Westerners keep in IN and it destroys our health both physically and mentally. Get the emotions OUT of you and heal. SCREAM it out somewhere you can; underwater in waist deep water with a partner lock arms back to back and SCREAM your guts out. Stretching? come on. Try primal screaming. Drugs? come on. Get it out of you! We all have it buried and I worked with severely abused teens to develop the underwater techniques and they'd cuss me out util ONE scream got out--then they'd go for it til exhausted. It worked! Talk is USELESS until the emotional charges buried in there are surfaced. Wail on a punching bag, scream, and once you start? Everything UNDER it comes out too. When that's done? THEN you can 'talk' about it and release it FOREVER. And please do NOT think you will never be a functioning member of society! come ON! Take YOUR power back! abusers, traumas, and, dwelling on it takes it, grief takes it--GET YOUR POWER BACK.
Gonna try this for my love first. Such a long list of trauma,.. there is no word to begin… lots of anger there though… it may be the only way through for those that really were too traumatized… it’s trauma in this case. She just holds it in. Won’t let go.
I'm half Polish, I remember at my Polish grandparents funerals the Polish people cried out loud and wailed so. I remember it felt right, and comforting in a way, a real outwarding of what it felt like inside.
@@lollylula6399That sounds so healthy to me. When I was 11, my 19-year old brother died after two months in a coma after a motorcycle accident. At his funeral I started crying, fairly loudly, and couldn’t stop until the end. I could sense that the others there weren’t at all comfortable with my crying, but I couldn’t stop it, even though I did try. (Yes, I live in the U.S., and we’re “supposed to” suppress our emotions, at least we were in those years). It’s strange, but, even years later, it seemed that everyone else thought his death shouldn’t have bothered me much since I was only 11, and maybe because there were 8 years between us, but, damn! he was my brother, and was there in the same house every day of my life. It’s not like I was still so young that I wouldn’t have had any awareness of him, like a baby. How could it not affect me? Thank you for your comment.
This makes sense! Thank you so much for sharing!
Even more simply, you can see this behavior exemplified very well in dogs. Two dogs can meet, stare one another down, and they often then "shake out" their bodies. Why? To release all that pent up tension and energy. Humans are exactly the same. Except, when we experience intense emotion, intense energy in motion, we do nothing to remove it after the event is over. It just stays trapped in the body, and isn't able to release itself. Also why dogs are so loving - because they get rid of that energy. (Obviously there's always some cases where that's not 100% accurate, but is a general rule of thumb.)
My husband died in my arms on Xmas eve from a sudden major heart attack. My daughter, son in law and grandchildren were present. For years I couldn't talk about it and 4.6 years later I began having seizures 15 to 30 a day for 8 months. After multiple er visits and test I was sent to see a psychiatrist who said I had PTSD. With meditation the seizures stopped in a couple of months. He said it was because I couldn't talk about my husband's death. He died in 2006 and I still have trouble talking about it.
I’m so so sorry love that hurts me for you🥹🥲 Sending you much love xx♥️♥️♥️
I would strongly suggest you to find an emdr therapist . I am sorry for your loss and I wish you the best.
This is a lot. I am so sorry you went through this! Blessings to you and your family!
Sending you compassion and best wishes. I am so sorry for your loss.
So sad to hear your story. Sending love and light ❤
We only create drama when we are around abusers. I have been stable for 34 years with great partner. Changed jobs entered a coercive toxic environment then wtf it's my mom and dad here on steroids. We need to be in healthy environments.
Very true
I understand and unfortunately, really a blessing in disguise, I needed to get on disability because survival mode was toast.
So very true! The bad workplaces beat up on good people. And it is terrifying that healthcare is corporate ...nobody wins.
Please don't say "we".
Truth
I'm a trauma-informed breathwork practitioner and I always start with awareness of the nervous system's response to a client's environment. Interoception is the first tool followed by compassionate awareness. I take a slow, relationship-focused approach when working with clients and yes, breath is my primary modality, but not exclusive. Compassionate community, safety, co-regulation -- this is the foundation upon which victorious embodiment and presence (wholeness) is built. I appreciate your contribution!
I am a therapist and have suffered sever childhood trauma while currently dealing with some suppressed memories. I believe you can heal the brain damage that was done, by choosing to radically change the way you store memories going forward. Instead of me perceiving current situations in a negative way, I find a way to store it differently. For example, today, if I perceive someone is hating me, I don’t allow it to mean I should not exist (as I use to), instead I take my power back and say that is their problem and they will learn to love me with time. I also, choose the healthiest choice I can make for the day. For example, if I struggle with energy and getting out of bed, I push myself to do something healthy and I will walk or exert any energy to change my brain to make the healthiest choice I can make for the day. We have to be strong, if we want to change. I also, write to my younger self daily to heal and witness my wounds. I like to remind my younger self that she is good and loved. We know how to care for our younger selves better than anyone else. Personally, God and his word help me to have hope, feel true love, and stay strong. The key is to heal your brain. We heal the brain by caring for our well being, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. May you all be healed!
Thank you this is so helpful. ❤
Another person will learn to love you with time? Who cares if someone chooses to love you or not? It is their decision. I don't try to make people love me. I try to go where people are more accepting of me, and supportive of me. In that way, less time and energy is wasted, and life feels better than hanging around where you're not wanted. Some people are incapable of seeing my goodness. Leave and spread the love seeds in fertile soil, and keep nurturing yourself. This is self-care that is essential to well-being, imo.
Thank you so much for this. I needed this
That was helpful… you’re articulate and very wise.
I'm learning what you have so eloquently described.
Learning to let the hurt go if someone doesn't like you. I used to want to know what was wrong with me. I now can now release that and look to see what is wrong with them instead of me. Or rather I no longer need to make my defense heard. It's just not important anymore. I know who I am and what I am. I lost that, knowing who I am, what I like.
I originally started out on the path to enlightenment because I had this deep sense of lack that seemingly nothing could satisfy. Now, 2 years later and I managed to claw myself out of the prison of the mind, but oh boy what a rude awakening that was. I did not realize that I was in functional freeze almost my entire life and this process of meditation has started melting the stored trauma in the body-mind. Stuff that I was absolutely unaware of is coming up, and I understand now that this seeking was in reality just trying to find a way to make the pain stop. But all the numbing in the world cannot do this, it must be felt completely and burned in the fire of awareness. And burning I am right now. Thankfully the system seems to know how much it can handle, cause I feel I would die if it was all released at once.
Godspeed and goodluck to all fellow beings on this healing path.
Did you ever read the Bible? Start with the New Testament...
After all, we are indeed survivors🙏🏼
Yep, you can't release all traumas at once
How do you meditate, could you give some pointers please
Depends what you want really. Focusing on the breath is good for concentration. Body scanning is good for developing sensory awareness. You need to try different techniques until you find one that fits you. Then when you find a change in your experience from practicing that technique, you can start sinking into it by focusing all of your attention on it, bathing in it and letting yourself get pulled in.
@@santageina697
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
I just returned from a weeklong therapeutic psilocybin retreat in Jamaica. I took three doses: 3-1/2 grams, 7 grams, and 8 grams. The mushrooms and the group “integration” sessions on the days after each dose were more impactful than all the different therapy and anti-depressants I’ve had over the last 25 years by a long shot. I also witnessed the transformational impact the mushrooms and integration work had on the other 10 participants.
Is it legal to do that? I see people trying to sell them in micro doses for anxiety, headaches etc…
THIS IS AWESOME ❤
So Awesome! Thank you for sharing !!!! my husband and Son did it in a ceremony both got rid of addiction!
Gods healing plant ❤
Darn my country calls that illegal :(
They want you filled up and numb with pharma pills- just bc profits! Even if there IS proof shrooms can heal - taken the right way that is...
Psychedelics are powerful medicine to treat trauma. 🍄🧘🏾♀️🙏🏾
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🎯 *Understanding Trauma and the Nervous System*
- Trauma is not just about the event itself; it's how the body responds and processes the event.
- Trauma is not confined to the event; it resides within the physiological and nervous systems.
10:13 🧠 *The Autonomic Nervous System*
- The autonomic nervous system consists of two main parts: the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems.
- The sympathetic system activates fight or flight responses, while the parasympathetic system is associated with rest and digestion.
- The polyvagal theory explains how the nervous system responds hierarchically based on the stress and situation at hand.
15:09 🚸 *Processing Trauma Depending on Age*
- Depending on a child's age and ability to self-regulate, parents may need to process their trauma later to avoid causing stress to the child.
19:11 💡 *Releasing Trauma Is Unique to Each Individual*
- Releasing trauma is not a one-size-fits-all process; it varies for each person based on their history and capacity.
22:14 🐾 *Embracing Animal Physiology and Impulses*
- Understanding and following impulses in the body, akin to how animals instinctively reset their systems, can help in releasing stored trauma.
25:12 🧠 *The Role of the Higher Brain in Disconnecting*
- The higher brain can disconnect from the body's physiological responses, which can be helpful during severe abuse but may hinder trauma release once the event has passed.
25:39 🧠 *Understanding the Impact of Stress on Healing*
- Chronic stress can impede the body's healing processes.
- Trauma and stress can hinder autonomic healing and repair mechanisms.
- A toxic environment and past trauma can slow down the healing of physical injuries.
27:42 🐟 *The Concept of Changing the Environment*
- Analogizes trauma healing to improving the environment for a sick fish.
- Suggests that changing the "terrain" can support healing.
- Emphasizes the importance of creating a healthier internal and external environment.
29:29 🚶♂️ *Recognizing Trauma and Survival Stress*
- Discusses the symptoms of trauma, including dissociation and hyperarousal.
- Highlights how people with trauma tendencies may create drama to perpetuate old patterns.
- Explains how chronic stress impacts autonomic healing and repair mechanisms.
32:00 🧭 *Steps for Healing Trauma*
- Emphasizes the importance of education and self-awareness in trauma healing.
- Encourages listening to one's physiological responses, including impulses and sensations.
- Advocates for learning how to connect with the environment and orient to the present moment.
35:09 🧒 *Addressing Early Developmental Trauma*
- Explores trauma that originates from early developmental experiences.
- Discusses how inadequate attunement from caregivers can lead to self-regulation challenges.
- Highlights the importance of reparenting oneself and nurturing self-care practices.
37:09 🌱 *Capacity Building and Healing Trauma*
- Stresses the significance of building capacity to feel and sense the body's responses.
- Explains that capacity building allows for the organic processing of old traumas.
- Underlines the value of recognizing and listening to basic autonomic functions in the body.
45:02 🩺 *Addressing Anxiety and Panic as Trauma Responses*
- Links anxiety and panic to the reactivation of the sympathetic nervous system.
- Emphasizes that feeling heightened physiological responses can be a sign of trauma resurfacing.
- Encourages individuals to feel and listen to the intensity in their bodies as part of the healing process.
50:15 🌱 *Understanding trauma's impact on human connection*
- The core issue in humanity is the disconnection from the natural human system's biodiversity and environment.
- The importance of nurturing, protecting, and teaching self-regulation through co-regulation as the primary parenting approach.
- The tendency to seek quick fixes and external methods for healing trauma, such as neurofeedback and biofeedback.
52:21 🤔 *Can bodywork release trauma or guide its release?*
- The effectiveness of bodywork in releasing trauma depends on both the person receiving the bodywork and the practitioner.
- The significance of the practitioner's ability to attune to the client's physiological responses during bodywork.
- The importance of the client's ability to track internal sensations and emotions during bodywork.
56:03 ❄️ *Addressing frozen body parts and unfreezing them*
- Discussion on how certain body parts can become "frozen" due to trauma, and how this can affect overall well-being.
- The need to work holistically with the entire system to unfreeze specific body parts.
- The role of developing the capacity to track internal sensations and emotions in this process.
01:08:03 🧩 *Healing trauma and its potential impact on conditions like bipolar and personality disorders*
- Trauma can play a significant role in conditions like bipolar and personality disorders.
- The potential for healing and resolving these conditions by addressing underlying traumatic stress.
- The importance of reconnecting with the present moment and tracking one's physiological responses in the healing process.
01:12:33 🚀 *Functioning in a state of shutdown and its relation to productivity*
- Many individuals in modern society function in a state of shutdown while maintaining high productivity.
- The impact of societal expectations and structures on our ability to rest and honor our body's needs.
- The significance of allowing the body to rest and listen to its impulses for overall well-being.
“Not a one side fit all” is synonymous to “there is no treatment”
@abubaytnighan6480 - you may be looking for a CURE instead of a treatment. I don't presume there is a cure to make one whole. That is to say, you never are truly actually as you were prior to whatever traumatized you. You have to adapt and survive. Treatments only alleviate the pain ...
Hello, Sophia from Team Lyon here. The phrase means that one solution that might work for one person might not work for another and that is actually consistent with the fact that we are all unique with different needs.
Thank you baby❤
@@paideiaproductionsmediades6037 this is the reason for people with ptsd resorting to suiçide
when I was born, my sister, the eldest, aged 12, then two brothers, 9 and 6... led by my sister, screamed at Dad to 'get rid of it'... she made me the scape goat from day one... she tried to kill me, turned the family and others against me... I was having anxiety attacks for years... no one knew anything about anything back then... one day at nearly 30 I realized I was having anxiety attacks... then after lots of emotional psychological mental abuse, I had to look after my dying mother, my three siblings were too busy... then I looked after my uncle and then later my father... I grew up on a farm and lost so many pets... but never got a word of comfort physically or emotionally from anyone in the family... I lost friends to suicide, I was totally alone except for animals. Addictions, thankfully nothing serious, but still used as an emotional crutch as well as anti depressants were just a clean band aid on an infected wound that needed healing... I live my life, things don't work out for me, because I was constantly told they wouldn't... then my siblings took my family home/farm from me and my inheritance... I didn't speak to my siblings for a decade. I had one long term relationship, things were okay but both of us had our issues... then recently... I lost my partner, all my pets, our possessions and money and my health and was nearly homeless... I've culled all my 'friends' that were never friends/relatives/family etc... because I realized if they wouldn't help me in my greatest time of need, then what is the point of knowing them... anyway... to get to the point about releasing I saw something on yt about how for example, zebras in africa react after a lion kills one of their family members... they noticed that the zebras would all shake and quiver and they said it was to release the trauma of seeing their pack mate attacked/killed... then I thought back to when I was young... and I would lie in bed and I could feel 'something' start in my stomach and eventually it took over all my body... my body was shaking and my teeth chattering... in summer... I didn't feel sick or anxious, it didn't hurt... but after hearing how animals react to release trauma... obviously that was what I was experiencing... it happened several times... it may have released some physical trauma, but the trauma and damage from the emotional etc abuse still developed into an illness several decades later and many physical problems and back problems... the old theory of no emotional support in life equals a bad back and lots of pain... very true... I haven't watched this video yet... but that's how I think I released 'some trauma' from my body... I seem to be the scape goat for people and yes Jesus Christ is my Lord and Saviour... God Jesus Holy Ghost have put me in a safe spot for now and are allowing me to heal... but I am 'alone'... which is very scary... and the rent has gone up again... Blessings to us all amen.
Sending u a big love n my prayers ❤️💖
@@linzigordon612 blessings...
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I absolutely appreciate that people are actually devoting themselves to studying this! I really really appreciate the minds that are open enough to see this! I feel I have been handicapped by this undiagnosed condition.
Wow! This was soooooo good Irene. ❤I have had fibromyalgia for over 30 years with very little treatment whatsoever. The doctors in my area kept saying “Oh, it’s a new disease, there are so my theories,etc. etc. etc. I have been so sick for so long. your lecture just explained so many things to me. I have read Dr. Ginerva’s book on how fibro patients are stuck in fight or flight mode. Now your lecture today just opened things up even more for me. I understand more and the different methods of helping myself heal. I am going to listen to more of your videos Th Kyoto so much. 👏🏻👏🏻❤️🇨🇦
@@Milky-Way65 thank you for your reply. I have never heard of Dr. Paul St. Armand. You give me a lot of encouragement because I am afraid that I might have permanent damage in my body after having it for so long without any help. So you give me hope. Blessings from Canada. I I’ll look Dr. Armand up
Probably parasites!
Look into Dr. Gabor Maté.
He has some interesting insight.
Good Luck on your journey!
Could you please elaborate. @@BillyBob-fh5he
I was diagnosed with fibro. I haven't had symptoms it since I quit gluten & got serious about intermittent fasting with a healthy diet.
Gosh, your video is just loaded with amazing information! I have to stop and let it settle. I've had chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia and doctors were lost on how to help me. It came to the point when I knew I'd probably die with all of my chronic health issues or take it into my own hands to find healing. It's been a hard and long journey, and you confirm a lot of things that I've learned over these past years. For example, the role of my mom, how she treated me in my early childhood years. She unknowingly put all of her trauma into me. One of the hardest things was to forgive her so I could move on into my own healing. Thank you for your work and putting this information out there!
How did you forgive your mom ?
I understand that she did the best she could. She suffered too and she didn’t had any tools to do it differently. This is mine. I forgot her because I want to heal. I deserve to heal and not yo hold this in my body.
I, too, have fibromyalgia chronic fatigue syndrome, and the worst one is Interstitial Cystitis
It's burning in my bladder and feels like you have to urinate, but nothing comes out and the burning is constant!!
It's torture. 40 years of this!
I only get band aids no cure.
I ignored it as much as possible.
I have some relief but it's still there.
I see ac doctor weekly to numb the pain.
My immune system is overactive abs in have terrible allergies that are getting worse each year!!
It's my pelvic area, and there's urgency, so I don't sleep .. it's erratic but never goes totally away
The numbing weekly treatments help abs 2 implants in my low back to help my urinary pain...
If I didn't have these things I would be dead. It's like I constantly have pain burning so bad but there's no infection! I have ulcers in my bladder... my immune system is trying to kill me
I experienced trauma and domestic violence, and neglect for most of my childhood
Step dad beat my mother after he drank alcohol. She died from alcoholism. I took care of her and wanted to be with her a much as possible as I was not with her from ages 3 to 6 and foster care was lonely. I always remembered her. Step dad caused so much stress on all of us. Angry masageanic narcissist who married my mom with 5 kids.
He beat her every time they drank.
Bam! Slap punching slamming doors at 3am we were woke up by them fighting. I was SO SCARED
I KNOW THIS AFFECTED ME.
I am worried BC allergies fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue abs Interstitial cystitis are getting much worse. I need to do something and hope you can help me.
@@kathleennabordenten6271Have you ever tried relaxing exercises for the pelvic floor/ pelvic floor therapy?
I herniated my disc because of the tension in that area + also have the feeling I need to go with nothing to discard & do that type of therapy now (but lots of exercises are on YT too). Maybe it can give some relief ❤️🩹
Following the hunger and toilet queues really connected me with my body along with orienting introduced us to each other, it's like having a best friend looking out for you in a cartoon type way by listening to it. Even meal times, choosing music, tv programs and such as like tells you what it wants and needs at that time if that makes sense. I love this, thanks Irene and crew 🙏
OMG ❤ Thank you!!!! I've been on a healing spiritual journey for the past year and 1/2..
And I keep hearing about trauma being stored in the body yet until now I wasn't able to find any resources or any information on how to actually release stored trauma or stress patterns..This is the most powerful informative video that describes clear cut techniques on how to do this process..truly a life changer thank you!!!
Reiki is a wonderful way to release trauma. I saw a Hawaiian healer who has serious electromagnetic abilities that put Reiki healers to shame. She pulled so much negative energy out of my body that I felt it as if it was a waterfall of energy pouring through my arms and out my hands. Accompanied by rivers of tears. After that, I felt light and even now, 3 years later, could care less about so many things that would trigger me.
Hi Cyndi, can you drop the name of the Hawaiian healer you mentioned?
@@NYgiants694 her name is Haybe Tan, and she lives in Pahoa on the big Island.
Serous lightbulb moment for me from this video. Irene, when you explained about how the body will begin to process horrendous traumas after groundwork, once it feels safe to bring it up, that explained so much for me. It brought tears to my eyes. It explains so much in regard to why talking and even writing about the traumas doesn't help at best and can even make things worse. This information just released me from fighting myself in regard to writing out all detail about every trauma I can remember. Thank you!
That's what I've been doing the entire summer. Writing extensively about the traumas and sometimes making audio recordings about them.
It was not all in vain I think. It helped me somehow delineate the scope of what happened and I got a few good ideas from it.
I just appreciate your clear explanation of the nervous system and emotions, just a clear explanation of what’s going on is sometimes enough to calm my nerves. Understanding is powerful, thanks for your work 🙏🏾
Hello, Sophia from Team Lyon here. Please take a look at Irene's free resources, as they will give you some explanations and answers to various questions: irenelyon.com/free-resources-2/
I appreciate her comparison with babies… how they don’t “think” they feel it. I care for infants at a day care… and this even helps me be better with them as well as understand myself
Good stuff. My husband abused me the worst when I was pregnant. Part of his strategy was to not allow me time to process, to keep me in the stress response for prolonged periods.
This was extremely informative and helpful. I was raised by parents who loved me and did what they could for me, but they both had very horrible childhoods. They also did things to me, such as shaming & physical punishment, that they never did to my younger sisters. That has caused difficulties in them relating to me because they had a totally different childhood than I did. My parents also unknowingly pitted them against me by favoring them. Now, as adults, these dynamics have been long set in stone. None of them have changed. I'm glad to know they can heal & I hope they do. I'm grateful for people like you, who have come into my life through videos like this that have helped me (and I'm sure countless others) tremendously along my healing journey 🙏
This is what is happeneing when doctors can never find anything wrong. Taking test after test looking for diseases and nothing coming back positive. But they are failing to mention this. As someone that has been living in flight or fight for 20 years not understanding what needs to be done. My body developing tremors consistent irregular heat rate, and a constant reliving of the NS response that was generated the first time due to a fear. And 20 years later the overload started affecting my gut and cardiovascular fucnctions on a daily. Grateful to begin this healing process. Thanks for making this easily digestible video for the non scienecy brains lol
There's so much mis/uniformed information out there. Thank God for Irene. She's absolutely right about education. I've been on this nervous system healing journey for about a year and a half. I am having success healing my CFS. I don't think I'd be having this success without Irene's teachings. This is such new "work" and it's very complex. One really needs to be informed and understand what's happening/what to expect in order to be successful AND not do harm.
Hello, Sophia from Team Lyon here. Thank you for sharing. This is so important!
Irene you're an angel. This talk was brilliant. I sparked so much in my mind. I'm recovering from PCOS, Endometriosis and Adenomyosis which I feel are all linked to maternal and matrilineal abuse I received as a child. Both my Mother and Grandmother were abusive. I'm gathering the courage to stop being in fawn mode whenever I talk with her and this talk has been rocket fuel up my ar*e. Thank you
I hope you don't talk to her too much. Sounds awful and painful 😢
@@carmagurl317 Unfortunately I speak to her much more than I'd like. I've spoken to a lot of therapists but still have trouble breaking away from her overbearing clutches.
@@lovehannington I understand, it's very scary to overcome the attachment even when it causes us harm. You will get there when it feels right for you and you're ready. No matter what happens, I will be cheering you on 💛
@@carmagurl317 Thank you so much 🫶
You are so special in this cold world irene, thankyou for sharing your knowledge n helping us learn such a complex thing that's controlled my life since I was 12. 20 yrs of continued varied abuse n no protection n 20 yrs of scratching my skin uncontrollably in constant state of pain shakin n everythin u say from sexual trauma physicsl mental verbal from a parent under mental health facility. I feel like uv been sent to me from god, sendin u a big hug from the UK ❤️ evem when u say from a small baby my dad told me I turned blue in a supermarket with him n he was frantic not knowing what to do runnin around n some1 in the shop told him to take blanket of me I was suffocated in. Its so strange its like ur tellin me my life n ur so special to me educating me on these things that hav controlled me for so long. Love u so much ur so wise and beautiful u have the best personality ur funny n sweet n pure, when I look at u I see a mother figure 💗 that I will always remember n preach to ppl about u because ur amazing in every way. Iv been searching for answers for 20yrs thinkin y can't I stop scratchin y am I so scared constantly on edge like almost eliminating abuse like it hasn't happened even tho it has n its never fully calmed down its like im blaming it on jus me jus the way I was born but every lil thing u r sayin makes so much sense to me heart 💜
There is so much goodness here that I can only take it in a bit at a time and savor it, mull it over, appropriate it. Twenty years off and on of conventional therapy, and this is the best info so far. Thank you!
This is beautiful , I’ve been inutuitivvely doing this on my own not realizing that this is the most clear explaination of the unexplainable
I'm literally SCREAMING I thought I was the only one!!!! We were RIGHT, the WHOLE TIME. Now we have confirmation and holy shit I feel so validated and seen/recognized/acknowledged etc 😭🥹❤️🩹
Thankyou for this Irene, its so clear and easy to listen to .. I have shared it with my group...The women I work with are Childless not by Choice, this kind of grief and trauma is not addressed enough ... we work to help support the physical mental and emotional through group Chanting ..Self care is lifelong practice...
Love your insights, thank you! I definitely know what you mean about holding in our emotions from a hurt, injury etc until an appropriate time to let it out privately.
I was rushing to an interview for the student newspaper I was working at when I was attending college in NYC many years ago. I was running up the subway steps, tripped and fell onto my left knee.
It was like I fell with my whole weight onto that knee into the steel plate that was made onto the cement steps!!! I picked myself up quickly only to see an actor coming down the steps whose show I used to watch!!! 😳🤯😮
I saw quite a few celebrities when I lived there, but I digress. I went and did my interview with no problem but was in pain that I pushed through.
But after I left their office, the full pain seemed to flood my body and I began to silence cry. I probably was shaking a little too from the pain as I waited for the elevator to come.
No one was in the elevator fortunately and when I got down to the ground floor I hurried out the exit and busted out into tears big time. I tried to make my way to the bus but it took forever to show up.
So I started hobbling home crying like a baby on the streets of NYC. 🤦🏾♀️ I don't even remember if I was able to get the bus at a later point or if I hobbled the whole 27 streets home to my dorm.
It was crazy, that happened in 2007! To this day I call that injury my New York knee because it still causes issues for me to kneel down and it pops a lot too after physical therapy and exercise.
Edit: the person I was interviewing became a well known Sci Fi novelist many years later. I was interviewing them at the very beginning of their journey, it turned out!!! I think that was pretty cool. All these years later, I still have the article I wrote based on our interview!😅😊🎉
Thank you so much for this video. It gives an complete overview in traumarelease. And for me as a not native English speaker, I understood everything because of your great quiet pace in speaking. Hope to see you in Europe, Netherlands once.
Thank you so much for this. I need to go back and listen to it several more times, I'm sure. I've been chasing down "treatments" and causes of Fibromyalgia for 25 years and only recently have shifted focus to healing stored trauma and a disregulated central nervous system.
So many people are recovering fully from CFS/ME, fibro, and Long Covid using brain rewiring, calming the nervous system, and facing and releasing old trauma, grief, and trapped emotions. I healed by 80% despite having MEFM for 54 years!
The hard thing about trauma is that it tends to be something that we deeply feel like we can never let go
Deep
Or that it won't let go of us
On the part about kids not being allowed to rest enough because needing to get up for school. As a kid, I was always the first one up in the house on weekends and holidays. I would be dressed and out the door to play outside quite early in the morning. But on school days, my father was waking me up with a 'rise and shine' and I hated it. I dreaded school and throughout my childhood (until my sophomore year in high school) I never had an easy time waking up on school days.
yeah why do parents do that? They make the place where you should feel rested a now stressful environment. and whats worse is you can see most times they get so much joy out of bringing you this distress. the other times they yell and shout GET UP. like calm down, mom, its only 7:30am and my body says NO.
well thats just my experience anyway
My expertise of school as a whole was not positive. I hated school.
Great to hear someone who can bring some facts around the pain so many of us who feel the pain of disregulaton etc.We need this
A lot of my trauma came from my mum not really wanting "another child".i.e "me" and forever reminding me so. She went on to have my younger sister then starting pushing me away ..i was 3 yrs old 😢.
Now at 62 i have forgiven her realising that her father, my grandfather was an absolute control freak as mum was their only daughter...I can remember how my nana his wife was also terrified of him....and so the story goes...cruel treatment towards these two lovely ladies through no fault of their own and I ended up suffering too... Much much love to my mum and nana in heaven you didnt deserve any of this...THE BUCK STOPS HERE
Also grandfather may have had tormented childhood
I'm sorry you were treated so poorly as a child. Some children don't deserve their parents, that's for sure. 😢
I thought that I had written this comment and had to look at your name to see that another person went through almost the same thing that I did.
Now, at 77, I am realizing that the lack of my mother's love since before birth has created a loneliness at my heart that nothing can cure. I am always sad.
Chances are, your grandfather probably dealt with his own wounds he developed those cruel adaptations from. Real sad, and it’s really impossible to blame just one person when it seems like an endless cycle of people hurting others because they are hurt themselves. Oldest story in the world, and all the research is starting to verify the mechanisms why. It’s an incredible time we live in.
Generational cycle of trauma. It's common.
Very interesting what you said about passing gas- when I was very small (2 or 3) my parents would make lots of shaming sounds around it "eeeeeww Jay Farted!!! Disgusting!!!" I internalised that at such a young age that I'd learned to push down that basic need. It's only really recently during an Ayahuasca ceremony that I realised how much shame I took on board from such a seemingly simple experience.
Just fart it out as loud as u want my friend 🎉
I was traveling and spent a couple days with my brother .his daughter about 3yrs old sat next to me..
I said was that you..for such a little girl..I laughed and she said..
I Fluffed!!! We both laughed..
I can only call it that since..
No judgement..
When I was child, I had gas trapped. Thought it was a heart attack.
I had the opposite experience in early childhood. My parents would pass gas and laugh about it with no problem, but I just naturally felt embarrassment so I wouldn't do it in front of anyone and they thought I was strange for becoming like that on my own, as nobody taught me to be embarrassed. I was born with a hyperactive brain, likely aspbergers type autistic, neurotic, anally retentive, easily startled, so I went into fight/flight constantly. I wouldn't display emotions around others and I remember being ashamed of practically everything. When I became a teenager I started displaying all the criteria for bpd, like all the emotions came flooding out in excess in self destructive ways. I was exposed to a level of emotional abuse and neglect that was particularly brutal to me, because of me being naturally so hypersensitive anyway.
Sounds like your parents were extremely emotionally inmature.
This is good. Ironically, ive been trying to do this on my own lately. To tune into my breath better, i put earplugs or earbuds into my ears (first clean with some tea tree oil mixed with coconut oil 1:20. Your ears love it. not too deep). This is another level of breath attunement, for me. From there, in more silence, I plan to ask my body to escort me around to the important places and tell me what i need to know (which will likely be mostly, 'dont interfere. find the flow. join in. your job is to eat, sleep, play, learn, grow, create').
There’s trauma just being born! There’s screaming, mom is hysterical, pain and squeezing - we are all messed up and some of us more than others due to further traumas in life. My daughter says everyone should have some sort of therapy and that’s what friends are for.
I had my son adjusted by a chiropractor when he was a couple of months old. It was a traumatic delivery on both of us. He was struggling with colic and that’s when my husband wanted him to be seen. The chiropractor said he believes every infant should be adjusted because of the trauma coming into this world. The babies body has to maneuver.
Then I thought what about what they sense in womb
I don’t go to chiropractors but my ex husband swears by them.
I believe in holistic medicine though
@@shining_one chiropractors who are well educated are good and better than a MD when it comes to “health” care … my MD said I’d be in a wheel chair in 12 years because of a broken back that healed incorrectly and I was having neurological issues and losing all feeling in my legs, pins and needles up my shoulders across the top of my head like an electrical shock .. ..my girlfriend kept saying “chiropractor” so I finally went and after he showed me what was wrong he said “sorry there’s nothing I can do to help you” … years later my balance was getting worse I looked drunk and couldn’t even walk a straight line, my legs would collapse from time to time while walking, then I couldn’t close my mouth ..short of it found a chiropractor in Florida who said he can help..with 3 days a week for 2 weeks I could close my mouth and after a few months my balance was coming back and after 6 months I could ride a bike again which I hadn’t done in years because of balance issues and I haven’t fallen down since and it’s now been 10 years. My spinal cord was being pinched the way the broken back healed and they way my body compensated to fix the curve … I will have to see a chiropractor the rest of my life if I want to stay out of a wheelchair. I’ve surpassed the 12 year mark doctors said I’d be in a wheel chair about 8 years ago … my chiropractor showed them and me because I was very skeptical until one guy said “I can help”. .. and my girlfriend says, “see” with that all knowing look on her face. 😂 I’m glad I put my pride aside.
I agree w/you, coming into the world with bright lights AND touch for the first time!
I believe in Science and Medicine and Medical Care, I believe massage is healing, by experienced, I trust it, not Chiropractic. People get conspiracies in their head about this and that, AND don't trust Drs or meds, they die. Drs do make errors, are dismissive, one had to use 100% common sense, don't trust blindly.
cranio sacral treatment does wonders for this. my son of one year old just relaxed in just one session. his arms and legs just fell flat on the table while just before they were dangling to the sides.. it was good to see. the tensions on the spine through birth can still be there at 40 years of age ...
I believe this, my 3 siblings and I are all planned csection babies, and we are all constantly told in adulthood how calm and soothing we are to others
Edit: and we haven't had a trauma free life at all after that
My mother said something to me at the age of 5 that broke my little 5 year old heart. I don’t know what she said, I only know it made me feel badly about myself. She also didn’t show me love. That’s just one circumstance. I did not know how to deal emotionally with emotional abuse from two other circumstances and my adrenal system just broke in 2012. I’ve dealt with what western drs call fibromyalgia. I believe that’s just a garbage can diagnosis. Since western medicine can only help with symptoms, after several years I sought alternative healing therapies. I have been able to heal somewhat through hypnosis and working through the emotional trauma at the age of 5. I feel my mind compartmentalized the emotional trauma from living with an alcoholic / addict. I don’t think it’s normal to get on a treadmill and jog, which I did every day, after finding my husband locked in an outside storage smoking crack. I do not have my full health back. I believe it was synchronicity that I found you without looking. I am following you now! I thank you for this video! I will listen to the other videos you mentioned. Thank you and much love to you🙏🏻❤️🕊
I am not going to criticize West Medicine when Duke Hospital saved my life.
Have you checked about somatic exercises?
I understand that feeling. At age 7 I was told point blank that neither of my parents love me and that the only reason my mother wanted a child was to make the child a maid.
You truly are a light in the darkness. Thank you for courageously going deeper on your journey to help humanity. God bless you.
i have been educating myself for so many years about our internal world and how to heal and let go trauma, indeed i have found many people talking about listening to our body thus i believe that your information is giving us the right order and tools on to how positively approach our emotions and needs. I am so glad to find you in this ultimate synchronistic moment of my journey..Thank you so much !!! I am so looking forward to watch the rest of your content 💯
This was so educational! You've given me a better understanding of why some of the modalities I've been using for years weren't getting to the core of the problem. It makes me wonder whether I actually cured my PTSD in the past, or just knocked back the symptoms enough that I didn't notice it so much....
" I never got used to it, i just learnt to turn it off"
@@gratefulkm hey that it self is progress that you can turn it off something worked for you and thats good!
@@kinstar No , I disagree, the turn it off, is ignoring reality and creating delusions that break
Welp, I've been on an intense healing journey (I know how new-agey and silly that sounds) for the last three years since experiencing a pretty major car accident. Before that even, I got sober 18 years ago, then got into therapy about 13 years ago. I even married a therapist, because I cannot get enough therapy - LOL. Basically, I've been trying to "get better" for the last 18 years, with varying programs and degrees of intensity. There isn't a spiritual practice that I haven't at least looked into, and there aren't many therapies I haven't tried. I've probably listened to 600 + hours of podcasts and videos on neuroscience and psychology. I'm currently doing inner child work, breath work, and neuro cycling (from Dr. Caroline Leaf), and I just wanted to say that this REALLY RESONATED WITH ME. Boring and mundane maintenance of the nervous system is the goal. I'm grateful to you Irene, for this resource, and will be looking heavily into your content.
Thank you. This is shimmering silver. I’ve been trying to become myself again for a long time. You may be the missing treasure. Kat
I’m so thankful for your dedication and willingness to share your expertise and knowledge on this subject. There are so many, including myself suffering from past traumas and do not have any idea what to do to heal. I thought I had healed from my childhood but after my mom passed away and I became a mother myself. I began having nightmares of my childhood experiences. I grew up w a bunch of domestic violence and alcoholism. My nightmares I’m constantly yelling at everyone in my family. Especially, my mom and nobody would listen to me and they just kept ignoring me. Besides the nightmares, I battle w not allowing resentments to engulf me. Every time I try to accomplish something as simple as cleaning my house I hear my family members criticizing anything I tried to accomplish as a child. I think the yelling in my dreams and nobody listening comes from when I was really young I’d be in the car w one of my parents and they would be drunk. I would be shaking and scared to death they would run off the road or they would be fighting while driving and I was so scared they’d wreck into another car. There was always something very dangerous going on while they were drinking and I’d be crying my eyes out begging them to stop because i didn’t want to get hurt or die. My father would hit my mom in the nose and blood stains all over carpet and couches. I know many out there have been through much worse and I pray we all can find peaceful living!! God bless you!!
I am so grateful for this additional education on internal understanding and acknowledgement. This truly was fantastic!
With constant movement.. the healing period is not a walk in the park but its so so rewarding going through tge stages and coming in to ypur own... elevating higher and higher into the head.. Awareness and senses sky rocket ❤❤❤
I am 62 and have been seeing a somatic therapist, but I am feeling stuck.When you just mentioned the scenario of being 16 and physically molested, I began to do full body shudders, like I was crying, but with not a lot of tears. I do that a lot-where I cry, but no tears come out. It was like you were describing an attack I had at that age and speaking directly to me. I was raped in my bedroom by a guy while my grandmother was downstairs. I was too afraid to scream to her for help. For years I couldn't remember his name and one day a mutual friend mentioned his name and I began to cry hysterically.It's like deep in my brain I recalled his name only when she said it. She told me that he had been murdered during a drug deal gone wrong, so karma found him, but why do I still feel it in my body all of these years later? I have had MANY experiences like that and was sexually abused by my stepfather while growing up.Can people ever get better from these things? I feel like I am just not getting better and have been doing therapy for years. I survived a heart attack this past summer from hypertensive crisis and I get blood pressure in the 200's from stress. I am afraid I am going to die if I don't get a handle on this.
I don't want to sound trite, but have you tried Jesus? He has helped me so much in being healed. It is a process, no doubt. When I look back, I'm amazed at how far He's brought me.
I did not experience sexual abuse. I experienced devastating gas lighting and aggressive bullying by my mother and some other people in my family. I have twenty years of therapy behind me. Maybe this will help. It's a quote I found today on another video. A person named @SimplyJustice1177 said it. "As long as you have something to believe in, there will always be someone out there trying to break you down." You must have some pretty amazing stuff in you, because people tried to break it down. Awful people. I hope you can find some comfort in that. You had something to believe in, and it was your own discovery of who you are in this big, wide world. And their evil wanted it broken. I hope you heal. I really hope you start to find what was lost to those horrible creatures. I really want you to win this fight.
@@velvetbees
Your comment is spot on, concerning myself ! Yes, I've always had something to believe in, and apparently radiated enormous empathy and kindness, also lots of light, only to be abused and badly treated from so many people. Who are very sick inside. Very ill mentally. They just take it out on people who are truely kind, and free loving, without any nastiness in them. I've come to a point though now, where I really can't take any form of nastiness, nor stupidity. When I'm around those type of behaviours, I utter my dislike very vividly. And say stop. That's not appreciated, but it's my only way not to be bullied. Or, I also just stay alone most of the time. I love my own company. When I'm with others it often disrupts or even harms me in one way or the other. Unless there are kind or helpful people, or so, which isn't frequent, depending on the venue. This earth is a place where souls in human form come to confront themselves to each other. That doesn't interest me at all !! Never has !!
I didn't come here for that reason. But, to bring light and hope into people's lives! I have learned to mesure what and where I do, or go to, how long I stay, etc.. That way I get less emptied, and I feel much better. 🙏
Hi, sorry to hear you are feeling stuck. This is hard work and it takes a long time especially when the trauma you have experienced is extreme, which yours is. Feeling stuck, is, to me, your body’s cry for help where it is, right now. Sit with those stuck feelings, tell that younger self you are here, present, and will do whatever it takes to keep it safe. There is no rush to move on, be something else, or someone else. You are where you are. The more you can honour that, the happier your body and mind will be. Hope this helps. Much love to you.
My heart aches for you, and I hope you are able to find some release. The body really does store and hold onto traumatic experiences like this, and coming back into healing/ regulation can take a long time. Do you have a faith practice? this doesn't have to look like being part of the christian church or finding Jesus, but just means connecting with a higher power and asking for help with this. Asking for assistance clearing this. You might also find some relief after having a clearing of your womb space. Our sexual energy centers are also our life force energy centers, and having your life force used against you from a young age can make it hard to connect to our own energy without feeling the trauma again. I have personally benefitted from working with a trusted reiki master to help release past trauma from assault. If you are still alive on earth you are still able to heal. sending you hope for a better life
Thank you I have severe complex ptsd.this is really helpful to me
Irene, you are such a Beautiful, Amazing being. I can't even express how grateful I am to have fallen on your videos, thank you so much. It truly helps, much love to you. I hope you are living all your dreams in a very happy/amazing life xo
So glad to find you. Thank you for all your efforts to help the human condition after nightmarish events.❤🙏🦋
Amazing, love the content, thank you! This is helpful for my healing journey, can't recommend this video enough. I've recognized many of these points of healing have helped me as well and Irene put words and brought together things in a perspective and overview that gave me lightbulb moments. I can feel my own and others' emotions and mental state move around in my own body, which sounds far out there to others, but I know it's just the mirroring empathy in my nervous system that has been out of wack since birth. I've done a lot of mental and emotional work, and some body work. I'm currently learning to express myself vocally and make sounds and sing as I often have issues with my voice and throat tensing up. This video was an important key on my journey on how to work more on movement, getting even more into my body which has taken all my life. I'm finally in a place with good routines of helping myself regulate and be in more flow, which I struggle to balance still. I'm working on becoming more assertive with boundaries in the social dynamics, rest, income, play, and workout vs time to assess my health and inner journey. It sounds simple but life is complex in the details when one isn't in tune with our body in a world where everything wants your attention. This comes from me as someone who got an ADHD diagnosis too amongst others. I know stress is detrimental to our health so I have fallen in love with the simple life near nature, with fewer modern stressors, as an introvert, I don't mind at all.
I wish you all good health on your journey!
OMG YESSS. WITH ADHD. YES NATURE AND ANIMALS ARE MY BEST FRIENDS INCLUDING ALWAYS HAVING A DOG WE SHARE HEALING OXYTOCIN ITS AWESOME
Thank you! It's nice to have a more practical explanation of what happens and the systems in our body!! ❤
an interesting observation of a discussion where my mother was angry with me when I was 4. It was like I saw nerve lines coming from her as she got angry. Later, I meditated on this and found that all that nervous energy "blaming" me, was a sort of psychic projection or channeling of other peoples parents through my mother. I was their competition. You can see it in cancer patients, a little girl I taught got the luekemia blotchy legs after her father told her off. What I saw, not being medical, was the sort of nervous energy being aimed at this child as her parent told her off. I observed the role she had set for her in her family. There is no medical speciality in the nervous system, whcih should be developed. Our nervous system also creates and sends messages to others, which we can be 'affected' by. Sensitive or traumatized people can be more likely to take on a 'role' in someone elses movie. Some of that trauma response is the traumatized person recognizing the domination games around another person they are dealing with. Sadly, the medical profession often retrigger and some psychological training words can retraumatize, are used to damage traumatized people more. BECAUSE it helps a psychologist earn more money, keeps them in control. As some use their roles as power based dynamics. The really great Trauma Counsellors or psychologists, know their stuff and work with patients brilliantly, not damaging others.
The Vegus Nerve AND Sympathetic
Have you read Barbara Ann Brennan's work on Human Energy Fields? Auras, cords, chakras etc and more.
Energy cords. Psychic attack.
exactly. Power games, and other kinds of trauma responses. Been on the receiving end of those and co-dependent in the mix. I get shaky thinking of my vulnerability.
Talk therapy doesn't work, I think going there we keep traumatizing ourselves
Love this~! No mono crop of practices; instead, a diversity of self-care practices at the base level of simple things to follow one's impulses.
I’ve never made a comment on UA-cam video before, but I could not walk away from this without sharing my appreciation for your work in not only studying and synthesising the subject that you do but also your effort in sharing it so openly. I think the impact of this information could be even more significant if you could also share some of the research papers and\or studies that are used as the basis of your research for people like me who might be trying to learn more! Thank you :)
Thank you so much, you have a great talent for teaching in such an informative but very understandable way. I've been on a very dark healing journey for well over a year now. These kind of topics are something that I recently discovered but by far has been the most eye-opening and helpful education. Thank you so much your insights that you are sharing are beyond appreciated. 🖤
I had a nervous breakdown at 17yrs old where I couldn’t even sit down, eat, or shower etc. it was a constant anxiety attack that never left me. I was finally diagnosed and put on medication from my family doctor. I felt like I was going crazy and I developed cancer (that’s gone now)as a result. Long story short, I’m twice that age and I am grateful for medication. Medication saved my life. I was extremely depressed and suicidal. But medication alone is not helpful, I found that therapy helps and also understanding the trauma and exercising new ways to cope and deal with it and being able to talk about it all in counseling has helped me dramatically in my life. Thanks for sharing with us, I’m continuously eager to learn whatever I can so that I can break the cycle inside myself as well as within my family.
You changed my day. Perhaps my life.
God bless you. 🙏🏼❤️
Im so glad i found you. This is exactly the healing I need.❤So many times I have reactions and personality traits that I have no idea what or why I am feeling the way I do. I cant wait to dive into this and get healed. ❤❤❤
Hi Irene! Very interesting to listen to you. As a parallel to your knowledge on the subject; I share my story very very briefly. I suffered for 40 years from stuttering (severely) and I had eczema almost all over my body. After all, I found my great love in a woman and wished that I could "be cured" of my ailments. I found the help of a man who practiced liberating breathing on me, also called "rebirthing". As said; my story here is very very short so of course I could write pages up and pages down about this - but I got 100% healthy and have now been completely healthy for almost 17 years. I had trauma inside (blockages) but not actually what I could identify originating from my own life. But it wasn't important either, so what dissolved did just that, dissolved. And I became religious at the coup. A fantastic trip I made, I can promise. Now I can (jokingly) talk someone to death instead :-)
Thank you so, so much for this knowledge that leads me through my healing process. I feel like I have a map to navigate it much more consciously - not just jumping into one or another technique without connecting with myself and actual understanding how my nervous system works, what it needs, how to take care of it. And a great, simple understanding came - that it's a process of reconecting and I'm laying that foundations through that work. That lectrure was so precious and helpfull for me. Thank you. I think and feel that without this knowledge my process could have been even violent for me.
Watching this video gives me some hope that I have been searching for for some time. 4 years ago as I was approaching my 50th birthday, my life began unraveling which resulted in a mental health breakdown, spending time in the hospital, the loss of my very high paying job, and my marriage. I had survived by suppressing my trauma from my childhood which included drinking heavily until it nearly killed me. Over the past few years I have tried everything to heal including lots of therapy, yoga, bodywork, meditation, breath work, acupuncture, and even psychedelics but my body has broken down to the point of being in intense pain almost every day and having dreams and nightmares almost every night. Some days I’m barely functional but I somehow get through them though I don’t know how as it has become that painful. I’ve had times where I started vomiting uncontrollably and most nights I’m so exhausted I go to bed shortly after I get home from work but no matter how many hours of sleep I get, I never feel rested and am always in pain.
You touched on so many things here that hit home for me that I could almost feel tension leaving my body as I listened to your video. I can’t wait to watch the 3 part series and to go about doing the work you describe even if it is mundane. While you say the medical community and mental health community isn’t to blame, I disagree because I’ve been through it and rarely do they focus on the physiological side of trauma nor do they acknowledge emotion often follows. Instead they prescribe medications and force people to relive their trauma and often make them feel as though it’s their fault for not being able to overcome it. Dr. Gabor Mate talks a lot about this but you put it in very practical terms … I’ve said over and over to people that the physical effects of trauma are far worse than the mental side but nobody seems to listen and few practitioners seem to even understand it. I am grateful to have found your video and hope to start the journey of learning more and applying it. This time of my life has been hell but in this moment I can finally see a light at the end of the tunnel and am eternally grateful for that.
I am so sorry for your pain. In my darkest time I cried out to God and was delivered. Sometimes the attacks are spiritual and Jesus is a powerful light in the datk. ❤
A girl from England walked up to me at my university and at the end of our 5 mi Ute chat she said, “ONLY JESUS CHRIST CAN HEAL.” Then she left and I never saw her again. I do believe this to be true.
Turn to God if your a Christian. Alcohol is Strong hold in my family, one night after crying out to God to please save me after a night of binge drinking and I couldn’t even get drunk. That night something appeared on the side of my bed with a bottle of liquor whispering to me to take a sip. That’s when I knew. Many have died in my family because of that. Since I started to pray I have been much better. Take it from the foundation. All the best and stay blessed ☀️
Trauma work can be very powerful. Peter Levine's books and videos, ditto with James S. Gordon, and the somatic experiencing and somatic tracking videos are helping people calm their nervous systems and release old trauma and trapped energies in new ways. Many people are recovering fully from physical AND mental illnesses. Brain rewiring helps you change your brain's habitual responses - that began to help you get through the trauma, but remain on "stuck" with the crocodile brain becoming overprotective. I too have been through hell, prescribed medication that disabled me instead of helping for CFS/ME and fibromyalgia. Once I quit, I began listening to my body and healed 80%! With somatic work, I hope to recover completely - even after having this for 54 years! Best of luck.
7 steps to destress ebook please . Im elated to FINALLY has someone explain all this, wow! So needed in our Society today! Thank you again, greatly appreciate your Knowledge, expertise & Educational back ground!
Thank you
I definitely have something that fits what I have been listening to about trauma response. I really think this is the best information I have heard about what I go through. The lack of this information in modern culture is alarming. I think I have been watching so many suffering from trauma that are not aware. But honestly I really think looking at my patterns through this lens makes a lot of sense.
Thank you for explaining "shaking". I experience this a lot when I'm doing visualization to change/remove trauma & information located inside a neuron. I'd be sitting still in meditation pose and as I'm visually working in the issue my body will start to shake violently until it stops, the issue will disappear when the shaking stops. I was starting to think this might be a neurological issues, since I'd never heard is associated with the release of trauma, but now I understand.
Thank you for your great work 👍❤
"Functional Freeze." If we were honest with ourselves that would be 99% of humanity. Great term for a horrible situation.
My functional freeze has led to my bowels being paralyzed and my osphagus. I'm in liquid food now. I've been told it's my response to trauma. Now my heart is slowing to the extent I need a pacemaker. All down to trauma freeze
Enjoy hearing your in-depth knowledge on trauma, and the releasing of it through mind and body. Looking forward to finishing this session . Thank you
I'm part of a group where people do a lot of work on themselves, and we notice that when someone experience something big come up from their past they often get sick after with what looks like a common cold, so I wonder if having a cold, can be how some people experience release or like you said how some people integrate.
Interesting observation. I can see truth in that.
I love your words and thoughts. Going to now tune in to your channel. So glad I found you. People do not understand what I've been trying to say for decades.
just thank you...giving words to what a lot of us have known for years. I am so intensely nervous about being engaged and getting married to the love of my life due to trauma and it is unexplainable to most... im doing reiki and breathing
Lifetime unmarried and childless. I couldn't even think of getting married - feels like a trap. Would never, ever have wanted to project my trauma onto kids - which would have totally happened.
Just managing to survive by self-isolation and healing modalities. 😕
Thank you so much for addressing the question about personality disorders ! And sharing your perspective of hope and encouragement! 🎉
Excellent teachings ! I am so grateful ❤
Thinking, my body from birth knew how to regulate, and it did though possibly dysfunctional and distorted. I believe it can do it again like riding a bicycle except this is for me a rebirth and the Universe will be the Source. Irene can do but so much. I'm, my body in co-operation with intent will transmutate. Now I'm learning to ride!
The highlight of my day! I am bald. Installing a light bulb over the range, I bumped my head on the corner of the cabinet. Holy Moly! It hurt... and I was able to pause. For seconds, I saw myself reaching to rub it out. I didn't. I waited, being somewhat present and observed my soma. I could feel the pain intensify and I was able to detach, if you will... from, the desire to what? It happened, then it passed. Capacity?
Nothing is impossible when you believe.
Thank you Irene for this video and valuable content. 🙏
So interesting, one time i was laying in front of a gong for a sound bath , at a party, i didnt pay for it, didnt know what to expect, and most people who did it were soothed and relaxed but when it was my turn it made me shake involuntarily and i started humming with the frequency so i could even stand it, and ehen it was over i cried for 30 minutes, it was a huge release, and quite unexpected!
The best most coherent explanation I've ever heard on this topic.
I want so much to learn from these, but I find it hard to retain as much from you in longer videos as you are very verbose. I realize this may be a very personal perspective but thought others might be similar. Thanks for the knowledge, Irene. 🙏
Same! I’ve got adhd so I like when creators put time/theme points on a video’s *timeline*. That’s why I come to the comments section for *summaries* as well. Thank goodness someone posted one!
I know. As soon as I see a video is over 15 minutes I also just go to the comments!
I'm glad I stumbled onto this! The attunement piece was especially interesting because my parents are deaf. I feel like I raised myself. I think my 3 other siblings feel the same. I'm the only one that has addressed any trauma. Let's see if I can turn some things around using your practices. Thank you for your channel!!
This was a very informative message. Thank you!
You spoke a bit our DNA and trauma in utero and our parents. I've recently discovered that there are DNA tests we can take that tell us our methylation mutations. The results are very closely related to our personailty and how we handle life.
Wow, thank you for sharing your expertise. 🌻
Yes! Thank you so much. I’m 51 and have done a lot of different healing modalities which has help but nothing has quite hit the sweet spot and I feel this might be it. I definitely need to learn more about this work.
Hello, Sophia from Team Lyon here. If you wish to learn more about this work you can start here irenelyon.com/new-here/
Thank you Sophia.
I’m crying like a baby
I know it started as a baby…
I’m crying that I found you and the amount of help you offer is beyond belief
I wish psychiatrists and therapist were more versed in this.
Thank you so much
Blessings a longer your journey
Wishing you the very best✨🔆💛
I hope everyone sprinkles the wisdom around and leads everyone home
I am a new subscriber and I love your channel. Rencently, I found out I was adopted at 6 months old. My birthmother had me and from her womb I was placed in a Greek orphanage. I never bonded to friends or people. I had learning difficulties and lots of pscyhomatic illnesses. I would really love to study your work and I am so happy to have found your channel..All these new age holotropic breathing did nothing...I still do slow breathing as I do enjoy it. I will download you ebooks and anything U have.
Hello, Sophia with Team Lyon here. Thank you for sharing what is going on for you, we appreciate you sharing. We're glad you're here. Keep working on your nervous system and feel free to reach out to our support inbox if you have any questions.
I feel I’m one of the ones that saw my parents not be tuned to my needs. I was conceived shortly after they both lost their first parent. One very tragically. I’ve tried everything. The more I improve and the more I try to stabilize my skeleton and ease my muscle tension, the more pain I feel. I’ve been tuned in for a while. I’ve been learning this. I just don’t know what it is I need to do anymore to release this. I’m tired of going to be alone to cry and scream, I’m overwhelmed by all the tools I have. I haven’t experienced much success that relieves my physical body pain. I’m too sensitive. Anyone with ideas I’m open, but I’m pretty sure I’ve tried it all.
In the same boat…. Sorry ur goin through this 😢 praying it gets better for us both 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Fascia gets stuck, it causes all sorts of muscle, even organ damage. Be willingly to unstuck I w/Neuro myofascial massage.
@hardware9876 I've tried craniosacral. It always puts me to sleep. Definitely going the rewiring through changing my thoughts and feelings route. I would give craniosacral a try again now that things are different. I'm currently hitting Advanced Biostructural Corrections hard right now. I'm going to move somewhere that has a practitioner closer to me. Amazing work to reset your skeletal system. My structure/spine has been twisted up for over 2 decades. Scoliosis, etc. It's massive work. Gotta rip up the scar tissue along the meninges (meningeal adhesion release). Thanks for the reminder about craniosacral! I was a little doom and gloom the day I posted lol. I broke through a barrier when I decided to present a pitch for my nonprofit idea. Just gotta keep being and doing 🙂
I experienced the same type of situation and more. Have had widespread extreme muscle tension & joint injury with chronic pain starting in my twenties.
The ONLY thing that ever helped me is distancing myself from the dysfunctional family unit & then coming to know Jesus Christ on a deep level.
I never could have been normal mentally or have the life I have today without knowing Him very closely & communing with Him daily through prayer & the eating of the Word of God.
People were brought into my life who helped me & cared about me that I love to this very day.
They taught me how to know Jesus Christ, our Healer.
Nothing else ever worked for me, but I still have tension & some pain, however it is much better & my life is healthy, happy, & safe. I was able to have my own child & I raise her in a loving happy environment.
Only the ways of the Lord worked for me. I never could have forgiven people without Him enabling me to do so … no possible way to do it…it is supernatural.
TRUST YOUR GUT BE KIND TO YOURSELF EA DAY EA HOUR GIVE SELF GIFT OF TIME. YOU HAVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IF YOU CHOSE
Irene, this is great information. Thank you very much. I would love to know more about how to solve the inability to rest. If any task is assigned to me, I can't sleep. My body thinks its too dangerous. I'm aware of where this reaction comes from, but I just can't convince my body that it's safer to sleep. It's been a burden on me all my life.
I'm impressed how this video made my mind more clear and see that I still have chance to live a normal life. Thank you very much just this video helped me a lot I'm 21 yo and lived years with this trapped condition but never looked for a professional in the area.
Thank you so much for this excellent video. So so helpful. I’ve been learning about and working with my trauma and mental health actively for over a decade, and this is tying all the bits together.
I would like to ask, the person who assaulted me and I ended up in a weird relationship with, I percieve that their "mania" partly related to their fear of being held accountable for their bad behaviour. Because they had a diagnosis, they would go into a psychiatric ward and sort of emmesh themselves in other patients "stuff". This made them 'sick' rather than teaching accountablity. They did have trauma triggers. Oddly, I would say these came more from the interaction with the psychiatric system and their family. Thus, perpetrators, who are running away from accountability can play victim, because they are in fight and flight too etc etc. Thus victims can be confused and targeted as their symptoms can be misread - and their perpetrators work to make it look that way. I may not have explained this well, but you might understand. If you have any comments on this or advice, please let me know.
❤ I'm so happy I just found you I have gone from flight or flight for many years, now in freeze\shutdown. I broke my foot last summer, took everything I had to survive emotionally and physically. I have had chronic fatigue syndrome my entire life.
Thank you for this information.
Dr Matt Walker, the sleep scientist at UC Berkeley, indicates that insufficient or poor sleep can impact the ability of the brain to process trauma.
When the memory of the traumatic event is stored during sleep, the emotion is cleansed beforehand under optimal conditions.
Under suboptimal sleep conditions, the emotion is stored with memory of the event.
Have you heard of this?
Fascinating! So try everything to get good sleep hey
Nightmares are a bi***. It takes meds and routines and darkness and and and. I'm hypervigilant even as I sleep. I live alone and have a twin bed for my peace of mind.
Build up stress got me into a fight state. Luckily some passive Psoas release exercises got me into a calm state again. Incredibly grateful things are now turning around for the better. Learned a lot from this, definitely had my lesson. Boring is a good thing 😊
My body at 63 is breaking down fast. Years of talk therapy, misdiagnosed. and I am tired of trying to get healed
Did you tried to pray the rosary? It helped me a lot
Wow! Not to be listened to while driving! So much information packed here. Will have to listen to it all perhaps several times, I was thinking. As someone who has pursued "personal growth" on and off, for almost 50 years, I was surprised that you brought up some very estute and useful angles I had never heard. I knew about the mind, body, emotion connection but you explain it in a way that takes on a whole new light. Thanks for this. 🙏💥
Amazing knowledge, amazing experience and amazing hair!
39:00 this reminds me of when my baby was new born I went home and was so lost, a big mess inside, I looked at my baby whi was rolling and screaming for me to carry her while I was looking at her, crying and wishing I was dead. I was totally broken down, I did not know what I want, how I felt, why I couldnt just look after my baby, why I couldn't just go to her and cuddle her. looking back, I wish I was told earlier before having my own children that trauma doesnt have to be a big physical accident which happend to you but could also be the absence of a father who escaped war, the depressed mother who didnt know what the future is holding for her and if she is ever going to reunite with her husband, the culture that taught us to put ourselves last and not address our pain when we need to, the shame that we felt everytime we did something different to what the others expected of us.... You then get married to a person who has been through a much worse childhood than you, but because you are so dissociated, so confused, you start to give excuses to his confusing personality thinking: "nah we still newly married,, he is perfect, Im sure Im the one who is messed up here not him..." then you face problems where you both cant solve them, no flight or fight mode but we both end up in freeze mode resulting in more dissociation, more confusion, more depression, then leading to blaming each other for not being a good husband or a good wife or rather a good parent. Then you notice the damage in your children💔💔💔. 😢 Im fully aware and am educating myself. Ive come very far accepting my flaws, forgiving myself and my past, Im working on myself. Its been a tough journey, not easy at all. We are so destroyed that I will not be able to help everyone alone, especially because they all (husband and children) see the problem from a different perspective; blame/defence perspective. My biggest tip is to seek help early on. Dont wait. A professional psychologist might not fully heal you but if they just point out your type of trauma, that alone will connect the dots and help you understand your struggles so much and reduce your confusion.
I'm SO tired of being asked if I've tried breath work!! (Yes, I did, and it stressed out my system)
Me too!!
Do you hear that question as meaning "Don't bother me or anyone. Do your deep breathing so you aren't so needy." I unfortunately always experience that kind of advice as how to self soothe so nobody has to share my pain. I'm gradually getting more attached so that I'm NOT so needy. But still a certain amount of neediness is healthy.
What I like about breathwork is it gets me out of my head and stay in the moment rather than battle all pf these thoughts from the past or anxieties of the future.
@@smithcook1 Good point!!
@@smithcook1Do you really believe that neediness, in an adult, is healthy? My childhood traumas left me somewhat detached, fiercely independent, with no tolerance for nonsense or drama. In my life there were a couple of friends, and a boyfriend, who were needy, clingy, insecure and hyper-sensitive. I felt revulsion and disgust that grown people would try to glom onto me, even get whiney. Now I can't stand to be around needy people, at all. Funny how our experiences shape us differently.
Finally! You touched all the points that I sensed but couldn't verbalize.
I feel as if healing is really possible now.
Thank you for this clear explanation. My question is about labour and giving birth (and being born). I was born with the use of forceps and then put into an incubator for 3 days. My child was born the same way (minus the incubator). I'm wondering if when I gave birth somehow I doubled down on my own birth trauma. Is that thought too far-fetched? Thanks again.
I listened to a podcast recently that talked about this, how our own trauma imprints effect how we birth our children. The lady is called Jane Hardwicke Collings and it was a podcast with the reconnected and it was fascinating. She founded the School of shamanic womancraft.
@@katiegreenwood8738 thank you so much for the info! I’ll search it up.