Being alone and having an immense lack of connection has been my lifelong trigger. (I was adopted.) It has taken me many YEARS to learn how to heal that and establish a connection. It only takes ONE GOOD PERSON to be a friend to help alleviate that. In my case she also lead me to a belief in God and helped me find my tribe of people who are (mostly) safe and loving people.
@@sonyavail1585 You need to get OUT and join a group. If you are a believer or even simply an agnostic - go to your neighbourhood church. There is a lot of value to be found there. If you meet someone there who is too straight-laced or judgemental just say thank you kindly and go on to the next person. You can meet other friends if you are persistent and friendly. Don’t give up❣️
My need to connect desperately made me take terrible financial decisions in order to be close to people that don't even really care about me, nearly strangers. But to my brain it felt like I was connecting at least s little bit, do I went ahead and bought a place way above my means, just on the off chance to be "connected" when in fact it was a mirage. They are not family or friends, just people that smiled at me and made my brain think I was wanted.
♥💕You can still find them! Is church an option? Or any specific interests or clubs you could join? Or volunteer to help those in need? Love and comfort to you💗!
I didn’t want to watch this video. The title made me think it was going to be too religious. But it gave me a new vocabulary word to describe what is going on inside my traumatized psyche. Dark forces. I just had a day full of them due to exhaustion. I spoke to myself, in my head since I was at work, as a parent would to a child. And I even said “it’s gonna be ok buddy, after this tough day we can get some pizza from domino’s.” It was delicious! The adult in me soothed that frantic, triggered, hurting child. I can usually deal with a couple triggers, but I had allllll kinds of triggers going on yesterday and just told myself that it’s ok to feel shitty and that we’ll get through it. I’m still here, had a super happy day today. I love you all. It’s an honor to heal with you guys.
That's beautiful! I have just learned in this last year how to show up for my inner child. It was so foreign, yet so healing, to do. I tune in and reassure, and try to do the healthiest, most loving thing for myself. I had never considered that before. I have children that I would show up in ways for, that I wouldn't for myself. My therapist suggested I show up for myself that way, and wow! It's amazing that we can have that self agency, have our own back. It means that we will start to attract others who will do that too! We can only attract those who reflect where we are inside. The more we hold space for ourselves, our difficult emotions, tough experiences, it gets better...and it provides the opportunity for others to show up for us that way too. If we so chose. Empowering! I haven't watched the video yet, because I too wanted to read the comments to see if it was too religious...😬 I'll watch it now :) Tim happens to be very good at presenting spiritual things in a way I can handle. I have been pleasantly surprised. Had a lot of negative religious experiences, so I tend to be very skeptical and protective. Hope your day is a good one, that you have connection and peace 💫
@@Alphacentauri819 I was in a cult so religion is a little tough for me as well. There is something divine about this realm but I don’t think anyone really knows. I try to learn from religious folks without getting sucked into the dogma. Philosophy and psychology have been more approachable and very helpful.
@@DonTwanX I too love philosophy, psychology, to help explain, understand as well. I'm really into neuroscience too. Used to work in critical care, and have seen birth and death...and have had a "spiritual" experience, but it was removed from anything religious. I had a crises, and on the other side, I had a deep love for all, felt connected to everything, had no fear or anxiety...it was incredible. That lasted for about a week. I hadn't been praying, or anything, just had been listening to things on mindfulness, and how our minds can be a huge cause of suffering. Unfortunately, my gerbil wheel mind started up again 😬 and I got sucked out of that ultimate peace state. A cult would turn a person off to religion, dogma, for sure. That's great you are out, and finding your own path :)
Don't know if you ever watch The Crappy Childhood fairy, or The Personal Development School? With Tim Fletcher's videos, they have been life changing. I realized that I have fearful avoidant attachment style and that was so revolutionary, validating, instead of just not knowing why some things seem so hard...relationships...and how to heal. I've been reprogramming the conditioning form childhood, addressing my core wounds (I'm unworthy, not good enough, defective, and so on), and showing up for myself in the ways that didn't happen for me. Some of it is baby steps, and some times I go sideways, or backwards...but, I feel more capable, more aware, fine tuning my "red flag meter", and more. Once I have time, space, for connection with others, I'll be able to evaluate more clearly, communicate my needs and boundaries, in an empowered way, not outsource to fix my anxiety, but show up fully/authentically, and build my "tribe". I'm more hopeful than I have been in a long time. I've also healed much of my codependent ways. It's been incredible. It's nice to meet others on the healing journey, who are doing the work!!
best description of how evil operates in the life of trauma survivors. Also kind of a description of a flashback and what it is like to be in the middle of one.
Thank you very much from this. Thank you that your informative material is logic, clear and free from payements. May God bless you. 🕊 Im a victim of both complex trauma and narcissistic abuse. I find these helpful. Thanks for giving a larger insight for a phenomenons not only from a psychological point of wiew but also spiritual. This all makes sense more than just other point of wiew alone.
I’m a survivor of both as well. The darkness has been like an abyss, a valley in the shadow of death. Took my entire life falling apart to find out the true problem. Now I’m healing, slowly. I had a very tough day yesterday but I cling to some of the good advice I’ve received from Tim and others and it wasn’t as bad as it would have been for the less healed version of me. Feels amazing to get through these tough times, to survive and keep hope that I might thrive someday and help others.
Was never told about soul murder until Tim's video. Having a name for it is empowering. Mediction is how 35:00 drs. Profit while killing( Sweeping under the rug )these undesirable evidence contrary to what is considered acceptable .
Being alone is not necessarily an invitation to "dark forces" but it's a tricky one. Being connected to others who are living and loyal to the "dark force" (which I call unconsciousness) is way more dangerous.
I’m so glad this episode is here. Without someone to explain how to get out of the dark forces in Hinduism they portrayed this as dharma. The problem is for anyone with a PD there is no way to survive having zero needs met.
I so appreciate you views on Christianity ✝️. All I can say is after 30 years I have turned my life over to God after being a self proclaimed witch I just realized it was the lack of control in my life I found control on spells , but I now know it wasn’t control it was fear
In Hinduism we believe that when there is a recarnation our nature we have today our inner selves remains the same even if die. Coz they are imprinted on the soul and soul never dies and one birth after the other we keep doing to same things untill we release that it’s doing more bad than good. So re parenting, learning all is very important for ourselves to leave all this crap behind. We got into this situation (bad family dynamics)because of our previous karma so we need to break this cycle not only for our upcoming generations but also for our soul. Long story short what goes around comes around, these ppl are going to keep coming back to keep is in the loop of dark forces untill we LEAVE and walk away for good. It’s hard as hell but realizing this and making changes is the first step, coz that is also registering into our soul.
29:18 Imo philosophically speaking, "religion," per se is ideology, groupthink, dogma, and even collective agenda. This is not at all the same as anything which arises out of a centered, truly spiritual place.
hi Tim I am aware of my dark forces I know what it is but it's so beautiful I can't stop I have no friends family relatives kids brothers or sisters not good neighbours so I've no one safe to talk to at all and also my soulmate died so yeah Ime on my own this magnetic type person if they come over approachable and sexy on the internet can that affect the viewer or is it just me
Do you think the Apostle Paul was abusive in 1 Corinthians 5:9-13? The information you provide seems reasonable in understanding ways we may have gotten further off track in unhealthy families, but I wonder how you view the Bible; inerrant, authoritative, effectual, sufficient? Looking forward to your comments.
As a black man, the concept of "dark forces" has always been laden with racial & colorism connotations and so I naturally feel uncomfortable with the association of dark/black things to bad things. So I mentally substitute it with 'wicket' or 'evil' forces. The use of dark/black in such contexts is still triggering though and that people use such language so nonchalantly and are tone-deaf to the obvious connotations.
Being alone and having an immense lack of connection has been my lifelong trigger. (I was adopted.) It has taken me many YEARS to learn how to heal that and establish a connection. It only takes ONE GOOD PERSON to be a friend to help alleviate that. In my case she also lead me to a belief in God and helped me find my tribe of people who are (mostly) safe and loving people.
I’m happy for you. You are loved and important 🙏🏽❤️
@@SpiritualStuntman Thank you.
I am all alone now and I keep saying that loneliness is a silent killer…. I need people in my life 😢
@@sonyavail1585 You need to get OUT and join a group. If you are a believer or even simply an agnostic - go to your neighbourhood church. There is a lot of value to be found there. If you meet someone there who is too straight-laced or judgemental just say thank you kindly and go on to the next person. You can meet other friends if you are persistent and friendly. Don’t give up❣️
I feel the same i am also adopted
Recovery really feels like learning to grow up and be a healthy adult more than anything. I’m 38 and still feel like this is the goal.
Spot on
Exactly, I'm 1 year older than you. I've recently started raising that little boy that was abandoned at 8 years old.
33 and same! Let's keep it up, there's too much at stake
I'm 44, and I'm dealing with the 12 year old little girl that was left behind in 1992... 😔
Life long learning, because each stage in life brings more awareness.
Dark forces, I’m glad to know it’s normal. Thank you.
Amen
My need to connect desperately made me take terrible financial decisions in order to be close to people that don't even really care about me, nearly strangers. But to my brain it felt like I was connecting at least s little bit, do I went ahead and bought a place way above my means, just on the off chance to be "connected" when in fact it was a mirage.
They are not family or friends, just people that smiled at me and made my brain think I was wanted.
♥💕You can still find them! Is church an option? Or any specific interests or clubs you could join? Or volunteer to help those in need? Love and comfort to you💗!
@@jmvwegnerpriest thank you for the nice words!
@@jmvwegnerpriest what a pure soul you are! Peace and love to you, friend! 🙂💕
What a blessing to have found Tim and this channel, 🙏❤
Absolutely!!!
Tim may not be absolutely "perfect" in all he's saying and teaching-
But he is certainly a force for Good. And Truth.
I didn’t want to watch this video. The title made me think it was going to be too religious. But it gave me a new vocabulary word to describe what is going on inside my traumatized psyche. Dark forces. I just had a day full of them due to exhaustion. I spoke to myself, in my head since I was at work, as a parent would to a child. And I even said “it’s gonna be ok buddy, after this tough day we can get some pizza from domino’s.” It was delicious! The adult in me soothed that frantic, triggered, hurting child. I can usually deal with a couple triggers, but I had allllll kinds of triggers going on yesterday and just told myself that it’s ok to feel shitty and that we’ll get through it. I’m still here, had a super happy day today. I love you all. It’s an honor to heal with you guys.
Ugh those days are so tough. Very tough lol
That's beautiful! I have just learned in this last year how to show up for my inner child. It was so foreign, yet so healing, to do. I tune in and reassure, and try to do the healthiest, most loving thing for myself. I had never considered that before. I have children that I would show up in ways for, that I wouldn't for myself. My therapist suggested I show up for myself that way, and wow! It's amazing that we can have that self agency, have our own back. It means that we will start to attract others who will do that too! We can only attract those who reflect where we are inside. The more we hold space for ourselves, our difficult emotions, tough experiences, it gets better...and it provides the opportunity for others to show up for us that way too. If we so chose. Empowering!
I haven't watched the video yet, because I too wanted to read the comments to see if it was too religious...😬
I'll watch it now :)
Tim happens to be very good at presenting spiritual things in a way I can handle. I have been pleasantly surprised. Had a lot of negative religious experiences, so I tend to be very skeptical and protective.
Hope your day is a good one, that you have connection and peace 💫
@@Alphacentauri819 I was in a cult so religion is a little tough for me as well. There is something divine about this realm but I don’t think anyone really knows. I try to learn from religious folks without getting sucked into the dogma. Philosophy and psychology have been more approachable and very helpful.
@@DonTwanX I too love philosophy, psychology, to help explain, understand as well. I'm really into neuroscience too. Used to work in critical care, and have seen birth and death...and have had a "spiritual" experience, but it was removed from anything religious. I had a crises, and on the other side, I had a deep love for all, felt connected to everything, had no fear or anxiety...it was incredible. That lasted for about a week. I hadn't been praying, or anything, just had been listening to things on mindfulness, and how our minds can be a huge cause of suffering.
Unfortunately, my gerbil wheel mind started up again 😬 and I got sucked out of that ultimate peace state.
A cult would turn a person off to religion, dogma, for sure. That's great you are out, and finding your own path :)
Don't know if you ever watch The Crappy Childhood fairy, or The Personal Development School?
With Tim Fletcher's videos, they have been life changing. I realized that I have fearful avoidant attachment style and that was so revolutionary, validating, instead of just not knowing why some things seem so hard...relationships...and how to heal.
I've been reprogramming the conditioning form childhood, addressing my core wounds (I'm unworthy, not good enough, defective, and so on), and showing up for myself in the ways that didn't happen for me.
Some of it is baby steps, and some times I go sideways, or backwards...but, I feel more capable, more aware, fine tuning my "red flag meter", and more.
Once I have time, space, for connection with others, I'll be able to evaluate more clearly, communicate my needs and boundaries, in an empowered way, not outsource to fix my anxiety, but show up fully/authentically, and build my "tribe". I'm more hopeful than I have been in a long time. I've also healed much of my codependent ways. It's been incredible.
It's nice to meet others on the healing journey, who are doing the work!!
best description of how evil operates in the life of trauma survivors. Also kind of a description of a flashback and what it is like to be in the middle of one.
The topic is extremely important and not very known Thankyou bless you all
Thank you very much from this. Thank you that your informative material is logic, clear and free from payements. May God bless you. 🕊 Im a victim of both complex trauma and narcissistic abuse. I find these helpful. Thanks for giving a larger insight for a phenomenons not only from a psychological point of wiew but also spiritual. This all makes sense more than just other point of wiew alone.
I’m a survivor of both as well. The darkness has been like an abyss, a valley in the shadow of death. Took my entire life falling apart to find out the true problem. Now I’m healing, slowly. I had a very tough day yesterday but I cling to some of the good advice I’ve received from Tim and others and it wasn’t as bad as it would have been for the less healed version of me. Feels amazing to get through these tough times, to survive and keep hope that I might thrive someday and help others.
Wow..very helpful
Love this session
Thank you soo much T. Fletcher
Blessings...
Was never told about soul murder until Tim's video. Having a name for it is empowering. Mediction is how 35:00 drs. Profit while killing( Sweeping under the rug )these undesirable evidence contrary to what is considered acceptable .
Being alone is not necessarily an invitation to "dark forces" but it's a tricky one. Being connected to others who are living and loyal to the "dark force" (which I call unconsciousness) is way more dangerous.
Yes. Much better to be alone than to be in bad company.
This is excellent content. Thanks so much Tim for sharing.
Thank you, so much easier to identify when you break it down like that
Thank you for saving my life❤😢.
Thank you very much for all these open talks available... they are saving my confused and desperate life. Gratitude
Amazing information, thank you so much 😊
Thanks
I’m so glad this episode is here. Without someone to explain how to get out of the dark forces in Hinduism they portrayed this as dharma. The problem is for anyone with a PD there is no way to survive having zero needs met.
Thank you so much for this video
This is great! Thank you! 💖🤗
💯🎯!!!! Revolutionizing the healing journey on SPEED!!!🏁🏎️
because can't get them off my mind but yet when I feel stressed out they calm me down
I so appreciate you views on Christianity ✝️. All I can say is after 30 years I have turned my life over to God after being a self proclaimed witch I just realized it was the lack of control in my life I found control on spells , but I now know it wasn’t control it was fear
Thank you
thank you so much for this
In Hinduism we believe that when there is a recarnation our nature we have today our inner selves remains the same even if die. Coz they are imprinted on the soul and soul never dies and one birth after the other we keep doing to same things untill we release that it’s doing more bad than good. So re parenting, learning all is very important for ourselves to leave all this crap behind.
We got into this situation (bad family dynamics)because of our previous karma so we need to break this cycle not only for our upcoming generations but also for our soul. Long story short what goes around comes around, these ppl are going to keep coming back to keep is in the loop of dark forces untill we LEAVE and walk away for good.
It’s hard as hell but realizing this and making changes is the first step, coz that is also registering into our soul.
Thank you 🙏🏽
I’m only 6 minutes in, but I’m curious to see if it gets addressed. What’s the difference between doing shadow work and giving in to the dark forces?
Powerful
I wish more people could understand the effect of loneliness on a person. If Tim gets it, how come most people don't?
They never paid attention to it, that's all.
29:18 Imo philosophically speaking, "religion," per se is ideology, groupthink, dogma, and even collective agenda. This is not at all the same as anything which arises out of a centered, truly spiritual place.
Felt like an alien for years😢😢😢
8:49 forgot taxes. 😂 I kid....
hi Tim I am aware of my dark forces I know what it is but it's so beautiful I can't stop I have no friends family relatives kids brothers or sisters not good neighbours so I've no one safe to talk to at all and also my soulmate died so yeah Ime on my own this magnetic type person if they come over approachable and sexy on the internet can that affect the viewer or is it just me
Do you think the Apostle Paul was abusive in 1 Corinthians 5:9-13?
The information you provide seems reasonable in understanding ways we may have gotten further off track in unhealthy families, but I wonder how you view the Bible; inerrant, authoritative, effectual, sufficient?
Looking forward to your comments.
As a black man, the concept of "dark forces" has always been laden with racial & colorism connotations and so I naturally feel uncomfortable with the association of dark/black things to bad things. So I mentally substitute it with 'wicket' or 'evil' forces.
The use of dark/black in such contexts is still triggering though and that people use such language so nonchalantly and are tone-deaf to the obvious connotations.
Your feelings are valid. Can you focus more on what's admirable about people of color?
Does anyone always constantly obsesse over death the end of the world world wars and more diseases.
Sounds like demonic oppression. The enemy causes the wounds then "sets up shop" in those wounds, so to speak.
COVID; "The First Lockdown" (Movie title)