Well excuse the hell out of me….you just described something I live with every day & struggle to put in words… perfectly said. I have been going to therapy now going on three-years , and I’m in school now to become a mental health counselor for reasons just like this… to let people know they’re not alone, to signify the importance of understanding mental health. Thank you.
Unfortunately schools are the trauma inducing environments! People do not realize how unhealthy schools are. Find what John Taylor Gatto or Alfie Khan have to say about schooling, you'll be mind blown!
@@saskiasia Totally agree. I liked learning, but school was a nightmare. The cruelty of the students, the indifference of the staff. Even the nurse and guidance counselor were fairly useless in making it any sort of suitable environment for a students mental health.
Many here are talking about growing up with narcissits. Please look into Emotionally Immature parents/people. Im serious, its been a massive breakthrough for me. Its destroyed my life and my body. There needs to be more awareness about Emotionally Immature parents and their impact on your mental and physical health. Ive been releasing trauma, panic attacks, sobbing endlessly. I cant sleep anymore, im developing insulin resistance, inflammation in the body, constsnt tension, hypervigilance, and currently a constant state of burnout on and off for nearly my whole life. Now my burnout is permanent and im currently still living with parents for financial reasons. The trauma keeps being applied every day. I feel healing isnt possible but im only at the beginning of my journey. This video really has restored some hope that healing is possible, that life isnt over. Much love to everyone, dont give up❤
Yep due to trauma from childhood. My disease was arrested I was doing great then after 10 yrs of a good sober life I was hit by one trauma another trauma another trauma so many traumas that I couldn't recover I just existed now I have horrible anxiety and I shake . Started 8 years ago.
I'm 63 years old and just now realizing that I've lived my entire life like this without a solution. I've been through multiple burnouts and never knew why, until now. Better late than never. Thank you.
64 here....This is literally me. Every couple minutes, I'm palming my forehead. He's describing my life almost verbatim. The dysfunctions he's talking about, those are my "normal". Only one nagging question: Now that I have all this wonderful information, what am I supposed to DO with it? I suppose just having a better grasp of why I am like I am will have to do. There's not enough time left on my clock to go and try to CHANGE anything. 😬
Yup. 61 here. Tim Fletcher is a gifted teacher. I pray we will all be able to process this information and patiently, lovingly apply it to ourselves on a daily basis and hopefully have positive effects on the people around us too.
I can't even count the number of traumas I have endured. I am now realizing that I have been freezing most of my life. I get the fear impulse, then I go frozen. It has been a battle to live any kind of life. I have been saying for about 15 years, the problem is the nervous system. I have been complaining of fatigue since my 20's and now I 59 and it is quite debilitating. I am so happy that we are learning more.
B12 shots, liver 2x week helps. We burn more B12 when stressed, process less. Without sufficient B12, we don't produce enough hemoglobin, become anemic. Not enough hemoglobin means we don't pick up enough oxygen. Not enough oxygen tissues slowly break down - all tissues, including brain.
Thanks so much. Blood levels are always reasonable. A little while back I got startled and the process to calm had changed. I remember thinking the nervous system is completely fried. @@AG-yj1jv
I started learning about this in my late 20s (now 30) going to EMDR next week. Raised by two Malignant Narcissists. I now know what I must do to heal. I'm glad I found this out early rather than later.
My husband had intense trauma as a child. I was not aware if his addictions. Listening to this makes so much sense. He thrive in the emotional highs of life. Was always on the go and then he would crash. He was physically abusive so I had to leave 4 yrs ago. Recently he took his life. I told our child looking back I think your dad was never not in pain.
@happyher19 thank you. Thank God I have forgiven him. There's lot's of hurt and anger but I have forgiven him. Only by the grace of God I can say I have. But now my babies and I have to heal. These videos are truly helping. They are listening to the videos with me. Blessings
Honestly..... tim's body of work should be part of school curriculum for all therapeutic professionals across all the various health . I happen to be Christian in my faith so it's not problematic to me that this comes from a religious based source. However, given our current state of "tolerance" for the intolerable..... if say there should be an opening to the quality and caliber of this content and less to the potentially religious association that might stop some people from hearing this. Thank you❤
I'm not christian but I agree. I'm even of a demographic that a lot of christians and other abrahamic religions seem to hate and target. Yet I can tell that Tim is not one of those and he uses only the good stuff from those books. He comes from a good place. He is also not one of those dubious "famous" psychologists or psychotherapists who churn outquestionable content for clicks or who may actually be narcissists themselves (am I the only one who wonders this about certain content producers lol...). He just genuinely seems like he wants to help instead of self-promote. I'm sure he's no angel, no one is, but at least he seems genuine and authentic and just....very kind.
I agree. I try to never listen to his teachings unless I am able give it my full attention. You know how we sometimes listen to things while we’re doing other things. His body of work helped me really acknowledge how the soul and body overlap and is affected by all forms of trauma. There’s no way to make it out alive and on the way to healing without these tools. Man!!! That hyper vigilance! I know it well!
Wellness Weavers, Inc will willingly host Zoom events for 60-minute sessions of the “Everyone Counts Game Show”. Every state in the USA have had statewide tax-funded technology, public schools, public libraries, county-state funded health & human services. The mental health & physical health systems have insurance reimbursement and nonprofits acting as a way for philanthropists of all socioeconomic levels. What do you think the reason is that the mental health system is kept piecemeal?
I got to the end and thought: we are so screwed. I find it ironic that our cities are bigger than ever, and paradoxically, people have never been lonelier
@@VixinafulCheck for vitamin D and Vitamin B12 levels. Chronic stress or abuse leads to depletion of these vitamins. Not joking at all but I am at least 70 percent recovered from stress and anxiety after supplementing with B12 and vitamin D as per doctor's advice.....so please get it checked , start your treatment , and see the results in a couple of months... . Also normal range for B12 in the blood is from 300 to 900, but usually consider above 350 to 600 as appropriate and D levels should be from 50 to 90 although 30 to 100 is a standard set up wolrdwide but between 50 to 90 or upto 65 is absolutely good for the body.....so get your blood work done for these vitamins and get your life back again...thanks
Having fibromyalgia for about 20 years now, I feel that our society requires people to constantly work, take care of family, ect. There is no way to fully recover. We have to work to survive. We can talk all we want but it's not possible to completely heal and take it easy. So we're stuck in this mode.
Hi I’d just like to chime in with my experience. I have it too. I got it about 5 years ago almost overnight, after being an active gym goer 4-5 times a week (haven’t been able to go since). I got so bad at one point I couldn’t walk my dog down the road without my whole body going into unbelievable exhaustion (like I’d just ran 10 marathons and then run over by a bus) for the next 2 days. I’ve tried many medications, diet changes - everything. You name it, I’ve most likely tried it. Now I’d gradually got slightly better - enough to where I could do house chores and walk my dog - nothing too physically demanding like lifting weights. Well about a month ago I had a highly stressful experience and I plummeted - all life force drained from me. Well I had an epiphany. What if it wasn’t physical (I know it feels very much physical). What if it was some crossed wires in the brain. What if telling myself that I’m sick so much that my body is believing it. Well I thought f**k it. This is my last chance (I can’t handle a life of being bed bound. I wouldn’t endure that). And I’ve been trying my HARDEST to maintain positive thoughts. I’ve been telling myself every day, all day, that I am NOT sick. It’s just some silly miscommunication in my brain. The mind is an EXTREMELY POWERFUL thing. Fast forward now. Im doing 15 pushups every other day, walking my dog twice a dog, going a little further each time. All while telling myself I’m NOT sick. I AM getting better and I WILL have my life back. I honestly cannot believe the progress I’ve made. Im exercising more than I have in 5 years all while going through the worst time in my life (that stressful event is ongoing, unfortunately). Sorry for the essay, but if this helps at least 1 person, then I’ll be ecstatic; I know how torturous this condition is. I’ve almost ended it a couple times. So glad I stumbled on this video - the algorithm is working for me because I’ve seen a couple others lately that supports everything I’ve said!!!! PLEASE try it. And please BELIEVE IT. It is true. But you have to KNOW it is.
@@BeforeThisNovemberwere you in the constant fight flight freeze and burn out when you started getting up and doing small things? Are you working ? I can't work as burnt out and no life at all.
@@BeforeThisNovember Im happy for your progress! Do you watch Dan's PainFreeYou channel on YT? Im asking because he teaches the stuff you talk about in your comment in his daily videos. You are absolutely right, you have to KNOW you are okay. Most chronic pain/symptoms are driven by fear. I recommend checking him out if you havent. He also posts interviews of success stories. I use his videos as a tool since i have chronic pain myself (PDP-percieved danger pain)
@@Julie-iw3mh no I haven’t been able to do a 9 to 5 since, I get burn out easily including if I have to socialise more than an hour or 2. Not sure what you mean by fight flight freeze, do you mean anxiety? Yes it gives me anxiety sometimes. I find if I haven’t slept very good (most nights) it make it worst. Yes while I’ve been more active it take it out of me but I’ve gradually been able to do a little bit more each time and I’m night and day to where I was just 4 weeks ago (and so much better than the last 5 years) Please try it and believe it. I promise it’ll improve.
This is so fantastic to read I'm so happy to hear the power of positive thinking is helping someone so tremendously. Changing your mindset is a key part of healing the body. I have a true power of belief story to add hopefully it helps the op also. My mum in her late 30s had cervical cancer. She beat that. In her mid 40s breast cancer. Beat that. Then in her late 50s bowl cancer. Beat that. Early 60s they found a tumour on her liver and gave her mere weeks to live. The doctor looked my dad square in the face infront of my mum and said "she is going to die, this cancer is incurable and its something you need to come to terms with" my mum was so mad that she had spoken about her to him like that, she left the doctors office and said f that when I go back in 3 weeks I'm going to be cancer free. They went to a air bnb in the middle of nowhere to switch off from the world, she point blank refused to believe it was the end and when she went back for her scan they could not find any cancer anywhere. Interested to hear what you think about the water experiment they did where they had two different groups of ppl sit in different rooms surrounding a glass of water. One group was told to think only positive thoughts, the other only negative. They then froze the water and put it underneath a microscope. The positive crystals were beautiful the negative broken and ugly. Knowing the fact that humans are made up of a high percentage of water I wonder what negative thoughts does to the water in our body! Congratulations on your success, long may it continue. @BeforeThisNovember
This is by far one of the most comprehensive, simple to understand and deeply revealing wells of information for anyone who has been unknowingly operating in this manner such as myself and many I can think of. I can not sufficiently give my appropriation for this amazing body of work Mr. Tim Fletcher. You absolutely and single handedly helped me to put the puzzle pieces together like never before.
Depression is the body’s way of coping with the need to address an overactive sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system stepping in to control the flow of energy. I never thought of that but it makes perfect sense‼️ 😮
I agree...when i completely surrendered to God...pursue Him daily through His word and prayer...i am transformed and a work in progress...ive been clean 35 yrs!✝️
This is an outstanding channel; thank you for all the great work you do! I can totally relate to this vid. I have childhood PTSD. Had a very abusive dad, mom had health issues. I pretty much had to be the parent to my mother when I was a child. Because of the way I was raised, I became a perfectionist and people pleaser. I was always an outstanding employee and felt that I had to do everything perfectly or I would be punished. Now that I'm retired, I am finally able to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. I am an extreme introvert and love being alone. I think I'm making up for all those years where I did everything for others and neglected my own needs.
Yes,, your story is mine n add , 5 siblings I mothered as my Mom laid there broken from my Dads abuse.. he abused us kids severely.n I felt if I was nice to him n cook his meals he wouldn’t beat us . I was 7 yrs old with this theory. It worked sometimes for a while. I over mothered my daughter, thank God we survived me doin that n she loves n forgives me, My spouse I am of course codependent with but it’s off balance n has been toxic. All the things you describe with a few different spices sprinkled in.. many come from similar starts. At 55 all that fatigue was discovered to be a rare cancer , stage 4 head neck cancer, never smoked or drank. Miss goody two shoes. She never spoke up for herself.. so I lost parts of my mouth in the cancer , and I’ve been fighting recovery n new health issues from Chemo n radiation. I’m 62 now .. I’m tiny but a fighter., I should have been gone 10 times in last 5 years. I won’t leave my daughter n my 11yr old dog. Lol. This is great video.. so informative! I will pray for us all ,
My home was run with a similar outlook on love and ultra-service. Us kids were dropped for most anything else the church community needed. My mom was a great cook and baker. We'd ask her, "Who's this for?", when she'd make a beautiful dish or dessert. We knew the one she made with care wasn't for us. For decades, I felt I was lazy if I had much energy before bedtime. Now, in burn out, I struggle with shame and frustration. This really helped me in ways I've been searching for. I appreciate this channel and the wonderful group of fellow healing path travelers. ❤️🔥
I feel you. My parents gave all to the church and community before their 6 children. Like, why have children if you’re just going to ignore them and make them feel guilty for taking up space and resources? It really is what they learned as how to be good people.
Jesus fucking Christ I relate to this so much im glad as we got older it stopped about being the church, but it was still narcissism that allowed mom to keep up appearances for the greater community. Like she never turned it around and invested in her children, spoke our language, made it work in a career... Like her baggage was enormous and I think eventually she drove every man away from home we are all men in this house
51 years old and just now realizing all I’ve been through: came from a stressful childhood; married a man with his own issues who has stressed me out daily for 30 years; became a part of leadership in a high-stress ministry for 12 years; had 2 children who were diagnosed with on-going major medical issues. And I’ve been blaming myself and saying I’m just not good enough/smart enough/tough enough/organized enough to handle it all. Thank God for His mercy and grace covering me all these years.🙌🏻 But I don’t mind telling you…I’M TIRED!!
Finding this video, having someone describe my exact cycle and inform me that I am not alone is heartbreaking yet wonderful to know that I am not alone in this battle. I just want to heal.
He just perfectly described most of my life. Having bipolar disorder for most of my life makes a lot of sense as well. I was a pretty good student and was an avid athlete. I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop and my mom to scream at me for irrational reasons. My parents are classic boomers focused on themselves and not my brother and I. So, he turned to drugs and alcohol and ruined his life. I stuck with work and pushing myself harder and harder until I fell apart physically and emotionally. Now I am 57 and am struggling financially because my family and I have too much debt and I can’t put in the long hours anymore.
@@judylyoness2290 no empirical, unbiased way to test for it, it like all other dsm diagnosis' are just made up by a committee based on bad research and vibes. Any ole braindead c student of a therapist can stick you with that label in your medical history if they happen to not like you. It's not real, it's made up to sell drugs and control people
Every single video of his I watch brings another level of understanding of my own self and the realization that my childhood has followed me into adulthood. It's maddening people asking why you do the things you do when you wish you knew the answer yourself.
Completely agree.. People ask me why I do the things I do and I have no answer and feel a lot of shame that I am so different. At 66 can't stay in one place Can't keep a relationship or a job. Oh my God what happened to my life.?
I have complex trauma from child sexual abuse, neglect, bullying to name a few. I am dependent on drugs to cope with life. I am about to go into rehab tomorrow and follow up with trauma counselling. I am constantly in survival mode, I have major depression. This information is food for my soul. Thank you. 🙏
My nervous system went out of balance being married to a raging narcissist for 13 years. He would literally swing from one mood to the next and fly into rages and become very threatening. I became ill and couldn’t get diagnosed until 7 years later. They thought I had lupus but thank GOD it wasn’t full blown and I was diagnosed with symptoms of autoimmune disease. His mood swings was sending my nervous system into confusion and it was like it was short circuiting. I realized I grew up walking on egg shells from my father’s rages as well. I also suffered sibling abuse from a narcissistic older sister so it was all I knew. I’m healthy now, I’m divorced, my father passed (although I don’t hold anything against him. He was a black man dealing with racism and other oppression and back then, therapy was not an option). My sister has decided to estrange herself from me and my other 2 sisters and I’m ok with that although I do have unsettling dreams about her often.
I've done years of psychotherapy, doctors, etc.. I really appreciate competent people. Thank you. 💫 This really synthesized the last 40 years in this skin suit. Mad respect! Blessed be. 💫
Problem is there aren't enough healthy people left in this world (or at least in my area) to connect to, so many are damaged and broken, trust issues, etc etc., and so many refuse or are unable to seek help to fix these things. Then we latch onto unhealthy people that are even WORSE for us, just in an attempt to find/keep that connection and become reliant on them for these needs and they just take our efforts, kindness, love for granted sooner or later and it all breaks down, then the cycle coninues. I have almost ALL the signs of an imbalanced nervous system identified here even though I rest too much nowadays, and this video helps SO much to explain the what and why. Thank you so much for helping so many people Tim, you're truly sent by God.
There’s a new layer when the stress is coming from living with a psychopath. My son has PTSD and I had anxiety and depression. I went to the hospital twice. Once I figured out who I was married to I figured out where all my friends and family went. So I had some symptoms mentioned but the psychopath was amazing. Nothing bothered him and aside from being unable to laugh, cry. His body was so regular and he could fall asleep on a dime. I laid awake unable to relax; because I was worried when the next crisis would come
Also, what a beautiful pace and tone of voice. Not once patronising (as some in the medical profession) but careful and confident in your delivery. A natural communicator. 🙏
My wife of 20 years has been diagnosed with BPD and is now getting help. The stress of dealing with her behaviour for years has had a major impact on my nervous system.
I am so so so extremely grateful for this wonderful human. I have been in severe burnout for five years from my partner passing in front of me and the walls came down from severe childhood abuse and abandonment and am now on disability. I still can’t rest. I have also been sober for this five year period. Not a single drink. I am now not sure how I can stop from not sitting still . Due to discovering these videos and Mr Fletcher,s teaching I am learning how to deal with my diagnosis of CPTSD. My gratitude is enormous. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️ I am bawling my eyes out as I write this because I have felt so alone the majority of my life because when you are on your own from age 15, you don’t learn how to deal with anything so you isolate and don’t let anyone in. When I realised that so many people go through this, first my heart broke, and now all I wanna do is help others because I’m an artist and I want to teach people that painting is so healing.
I knew intuitively that I was cycling through burnouts and now I recognize the emotional and physical signs of my living in my activated sympathetic nervous system. I’ve been praying for the Lord to help me understand the real problem, because I didn’t believe I was really going crazy, and I remembered this video. I am like Tim; I love to be in my sympathetic nervous system, and it takes me hours to come down. I’m so glad to have terms and some understanding of what’s happening to me. Thank you, Tim. May Christ bless you and fill you and give you joy as you help so many of us!
Wow I feel like you just hit me over the head with what I am going through. I had the same parents as you did in their work ethics, however they were also both alcoholics and the rules were always changing. My life has always been a Rollercoaster of strong work ethic then collapse. I am 61 and have been off work for over 3 years and so frustrated with myself. I eat healthy and feel like I am doing things right but my body keeps shutting down. Doctors only want to medicate but I refuse due to all the side effects. I don't smoke or drink and no drugs. From the outside I look like I have everything together and yet I always feel like the shoe is about to drop and everything will explode. Thank you for this video
Oh my god! I am so grateful that I found this today I've been trying to work through this same type of situation for years and while it has helped to keep me from going over the edge this is my salvation. 🦋❤️THANK YOU!
This is such a valuable set of knowledge, I have been suffering from this level of existence my whole adult life and only at 37 is it becoming more and more understandable how I got myself into the situation that I am in. Personally I have dealt with abandonment issues my whole life, first it was growing up where my parents thought I was deaf until I was about 4 when the doctor told them I was probably mimicking their absent behavior and ignoring them. They were always putting me in day cares, even on the weekend I got put in branch of islam's childrens care in the government projects where every kid there was either an orphan or was abandoned by their parents while they were there, and when I went to ask why my friends would disapear I always got shhhed. Growing up in my house I learned to be alone and quiet, because anything I presented to my father got dejected, and I was ignored a lot, and my mother would always threaten to send me to boarding school, or say things like "if the world ever runs out of food you'll be the first to die". This level of trauma as a kid caused me to make friends with other kids in similar non-parental oversight lives, we had a trauma bond, and the slipper slope started when the first self deleted was my friend's dad, and the way it was introduced to me was being invited over the day it happened but not told until we arrived back at his house from wandering the streets all day, after that I never saw him. Then through highschool and after all but one of my close friends self deleted themselves, and a girl I was friends with since middleschool, and was highschool sweethearts with broke up with me the day after we lost our virginity together, after being toghether for almost 3 years. Also I flunked highschool because my highschool counselor was a gay man who purposefully told my parents to ignore me and let me figure life out by myself, and was trying to groom me into coming to his property, something I dealt with long after I left highschool, as he had also done the same and was successful with a few other guys in my class. Not only that but my favorite middleschool teacher is in prison for the same reason, so all of my male rolemodels have been predators. Also I became a professional paintball player as a kid, where adrenaline and high performance workouts were something I was addicted to, to the point that I barely felt the effects of adrenaline, and kept becoming more and more extreme in my performance to achieve it. This is about the only therapy I get, writing comments to myself as a way of processing the impacts of what I've been through after learning new knowledge about how my body was implicated and caused me to make the decisions I have made. These days I've been farming for most of my adult life, which has been therapeutically great because being in tune with the cycles of seasons and crops, watching nothing turn into food that I sell to people who look forward to my hard work, has been addicting, as I've been doing it by myself for over a decade, and throughout my 20s I was essentially working 14-16 hours a week with no days off until I would burn out every year, then I would suffer massive depression all winter and by spring be overwhelmingly excited to start again. I've climbed as high as I can in my pursuit, I can grow anything from cantaloupe to mushrooms, to salad, and I perform at such high quality I have existed on million dollar horse farms owned by chinese hotel moguls, or tech business CEO's who want the best quality food for their kids. But at 37 I can no longer go nonstop, and have to relearn how to take time for myself, because the formula doesn't work anymore, and I don't make enough money to afford stability, so am stuck working for people who don't value my knowledge or technique and quality, but I also got a job managing dentist servers and IT support, but I know if I leave farm life I will become severely depressed because money can buy stability, but it cant afford the quality of variety of life I'm accustomed to. Thanks for posting the talk, I learned a lot about it, things I wish I knew when I was a kid.
Everything you are saying fits me to a tee 😭😭😭. I’m 76 and trying to heal rom complex trauma. This lecture is worth soooo much 😰 I’m not crazy after all and I’m worth saving. I just came across your post and I’m so grateful 🙏🏼. I subscribed to your channel. Thank you so very much 🙏🏼😰😭
I believe you just saved my life. Good Lord! All of the issues I have been living with thinking that there was no etiology that any doctor could explain or understand! Hmm. This is the first time I see what is happening and what has happened to me. I can not thank you enough, Mr. Fletcher. ❤
GASP! LIGHT BULB Moment!! I was in Sympathetic and BOOM I had 2 back to back traumatic accidents that have changed my life. WOW! An interesting factor in all of this.
crap, I was raised the same way. I come from a family who all have that solid work ethic. They were the folks who literally built this country and they were darn proud of it and passed it down a few generations. So here I am living 60+ years in my parasympathetic system. Now that I've identified it I can bring about an adjustment. I must say that I am uncomfortable doing nothing - too much guilt involved. Looking to move forward. Thanks so much for this vid.
I'm 44. You've described the last 30 years + of my life. It took a couple meltdowns, constant self sabotage events, dad dying, and more...without any therapy...to get where I'm at. These days, I am so grateful to have been able to push myself and see a light at the end of all of that. To anyone listening, it's all worth the struggle., and it is possible.
Fantastic video. So very helpful to understand how people with relatively happy childhoods can present with complex PTSD. It helps me understand people so much better. Thank you for all your amazing videos.
@@SmearCampaignsAreEvil Complex issue lmao I'm glad your parents made you feel safe. What I'm learning is, rich spoiled children get ptsd because mom bought them the red bike instead the blue one you wanted lol
I see you. I havesame problem. You should be referred to trauma coping group therapy. If there is one where you live. And it will probably take a long time to relearn the brain. But it is possible. I always felt like it is only me, i have no hope of getting better etc. Good luck. God loves you.
Tim is excellent. At 63 I'm still in burnout and recovering has no lapse of memory. I process thousands of abuse, trauma, neglect, betrayal which has been the Trust is pain. I have the Divine Mercy Jesus, I trust in you, which has saved my mind, body and soul. Boundaries have eliminated any social life even new encounters are not love. I found no contact sucks with my family, they were my life even through working and professional career. They are all oblivious to my extreme CPTSD seeing they caused the final outcome of disability coping with triggers. Thank God I found healing and I still suffer new abuse and trauma regularly unless I am in adoration with Jesus
This makes every bit of sense to me. I have long covid. But after a lifetime of complex trauma. No wonder my nervous system couldn’t cope. I wish the doctors at the long covid clinic would watch this. The therapists who have been helping me most are not doctors but psychologist, osteopath and occupational therapist and nutritionist who completely understand the nervous system and the damage undid to mine with past relationships, stresses, personality, coping mechanisms and cptsd. It’s a long road to healing. Slowing down has been the hardest but most critical part of it for me. I’m still working on fully accepting it, and gannet managed to get past the rollercoaster of feeling better then crashing…but this video renews my faith that it’s possible. The visibly you gave of the two systems working is really helpful for me.
Long covid is actually vaccine injury. They are lying to cover this Truth. Vaccines create spikes and don't turn off. Dr John Campbell has been diligently reporting bringing us the horror of these gene therapies.
@@hannahpricekarlsson sorry you have long covid. CPTSD often translates into over achievement in the workforce too…basically never saying no…leading to burnout….i had those characteristics too even before covid. It’s like every cell of your being is just crying out constantly to be accepted and loved by everyone or anyone. I get exhausted just thinking about it. Sometimes I try to imagine what it would be like to be ‘normal’…to have lived a normal childhood, without constant fear and threat and with protection and tenderness. Just a different world. I don’t think those scars ever leave us..I think it’s deeply imbedded in our DNA. Long covid is very much associated also with neurodiversity, again hand in hand with the over achievers and CPTSD. I e never been diagnosed or assessed for neurodiversity, but some of the techniques I use to calm my nervous system are the same as those used for people with ADHD and autism to help cope in over stimulating environments. I think it’s all rooted in our nervous system. Vagal theory is very interesting, and explains a lot of this too. Good luck with your long covid. I hope they find a cure for us soon.
Last year I found myself on a plane to visit my best friend in a foreign country for a month. It was either that or unalive myself because of how miserable I was. Thanks to these videos from you and others I'm starting to realize how I got into that state. Mom was a depressed alcoholic (she died from cancer 2 yrs ago) and dad is a narcissist. Mom would yell at me all day, then switch to dad when he got home. Sometimes he got so mad he hit her. Sometimes in the morning I'd find her blood on the floor. Despite all this I convinced myself they weren't bad parents because they never hit me and I never went hungry or homeless. It didn't help both of them made everyone think we had this amazing affluent life so they would hit me with harsh criticism when I didn't line up with this idealized image. With each year I found myself increasingly tired and depressed/anxious to the point that not even eating a nice meal made me feel better. Like even food I KNEW tasted good was flavorless to me. Any bit of drama or bad news would mess me up with panic attacks for days. That's why I decided to see my friend because if I was going to take myself out I wanted to see her in person at least once. Something about being on the other side of the world from all of that drama gave me the best sleep I've ever had. I was passing out the instant I laid down. Few times I woke up with a dead phone in one hand and the charging cable in the other because I fell asleep before I could even plug it in. Realized I felt safe and free for the first time surrounded by happy normal people. I didn't worry about dad calling me up to yell or give orders or complain about how he's tired of working (because he bought an airplane and sportscar instead of putting money into his retirement but blames his kids for his lack of wealth) It gave me hope because I realized it was possible for me to be normal. I started making changes in life, and hopefully the big one will put me 3000 miles away from my controlling narcissistic dad. A lot of the plan hinges on luck but I'm trying my best to keep my hopes up about it.
The end of this video frustrates me because those of us with toxic family members do not experience connection and it's not that easy. When we have low energy ect to make new relationships. That's where I'm at I feel so completely alone and fighting daily mentally and physically and it's not getting better because I have no community I have no help I'm always alone. 😢
The only way out is through. Go back and listen to the prior videos in order again and work on building up the routines and connections to others. Nobody says this is easy.
You aren't alone, Breanna. I feel the same; I think many do. I don't have many connections but I can build in moments in every day where I can choose to not be stressed and i use that time to breathe and enjoy sitting and feeling the day around me. It's beautiful! I bet you can do it! Go easy on yourself, Breanna - you are awesome.
Don't give up on yourself, beloved! Change is hard, but it can be done. Jesus has helped me tremendously. He's helped me heal and be more conscious about connections to others (and withdraw from those that hurt me over and over again). It's tough and I still need a lot of alone time (prayer!), but "normalcy" is a choice you can make every day! 🧡
You’re actually saving my life through teaching me why I am the way I am and how I should be going about things differently. Seriously, thank you so much for having this free information and putting the effort in sharing
This is the best explanation i have heard of how trauma has affected me for most of my life (for the ladt 50yrs). I had all (& still have some) of the symptoms & sensations mentioned (without the drugs), & doctors over the years have not known what on earth is wrong sith me &have treatwd me like a parriah, even throwing me off their books - one telling me i was too ill for him to treat (& this from one who 'had a special interest' in trauma - which, by definition, surely means he had at least sone expertise in the field). I am thankful that i now have much more understanding of what is happening to my body & brain, & have some idea od how best to proceed with my healing journey, albeit late in the day. Also, most of those who caused all the stress & trauma have now passed away so i am no longer constantly in it. Thank you for sharing your knowledge & expertise with us - i, too, believe this sort of thing should be on the educational curriculum, & all those training in the medical profession should have this as part of their training, regardless of what field they choose in which to qualify. Thankbyou again.
Oooh!! And this reminds me of how cooling down after a high activity workout helps calm your body and gives you that nervous system rebound. That's a golden key right there. ❤
I have a Garmin sports watch that tells me the state of my autonomic nervous system. I've been using breathing exercises and resting to get into the parasympathetic system. It works.
Thank you for sharing that information. I will look into getting one. You may have helped a lot of people by taking the time to comment that. Much appreciation.
I grew up in a nice suburban house. I had all my physical needs taken care of - food, shelter, toys, etc. I’m 34 years old now and have been in therapy for almost 2 years now with debilitating anxiety / panic attacks. Little T has a big impact on your nervous system. I was neglected and my parents were functioning alcoholics but I witnessed the self destructive behaviour. My baseline of operation for decades was suppression and hyper vigilance. I’ve done a lot of healing in the last two years but it’s a long journey because of the toll on my body. Much love everyone!
Dozens times dozens of podcasts I’ve watched…why haven’t I heard this & why isn’t this taught to all, Takes a mighty lot to impress me. Starting with kids by the age of 13 yrs as a & prioritised school subject. 🤙
"Connection" is important for our vagus nerve. And thats what they cut off in the "pandemic" for all people and we continue with our lifestyle. Thank you for the video. I´m doing the boxbreathing to train my psns and implementing routines.
Yes, that súper imposed awareness at all times is very tiring, I’m guilty of it. I sometimes have to do breathing exercises in order to relax and take anxiety away before I go to sleep.
You are truly God sent. Thank you for all your videos. You have provided me with the reasons why I am the way I am and now I can begin my healing journey. I can’t thank you enough. God bless you!
Thanks for being the professional you are. This is very helpful for me. Having experienced many traumatic events, sometimes I feel paralyzed due to my sympathetic and parallel sympathetic nervous system is at war.
You just described me. I started getting sick at 27. Took Drs over 3 years to find out what was going on with me. I’ve had Fibromyalgia for 27 years now. I have osteoarthritis, Fatigue IBS, Diverticulitis, PTSD. severe insomnia due to so much pain and sickness. Also ai have other illnesses. I also have the Fear thing all the time. I went 2 weeks not sleeping a few times and that’s the scariest things ever because I have lost my mind. I’m 55 now and all these sicknesses get worse with age. I struggle so bad anymore. Since I got sick in the late 90s I was put through hell that Drs would say it’s all in your head and there was no such thing as Fibromyalgia. I even had an older Dr in her 60s that told me there’s no such thing as Fibromyalgia and she told me to go work in my garden and I would feel better. I was very pissed at adrs by the time I went to her. So now I was done with Drs. I went out bought me a computer and started my own Fibromyalgia research and I stopped going to Drs for Fibromyalgia. I helped myself and to this day I have a lot of knowledge to help myself the best still. Drs should never do what they did to me to anyone because we are already at our lowest trying to find relief of all the pain and sickness. We are seriously depressed because we no longer can work and struggle so hard to do anything. I’ve been on disability for 24 years now. I was 30 an got disability. No body wants this kind of life ever especially at my age. I got more depressed back then because I had 2 girls to support and now I could no longer work. Now living in chronic pain in my entire body for 27 years has made me use to it. I no longer allow it to control my life and I do what I can. If I can’t do much one day that’s perfectly ok. It may not be the life I wanted but it’s the life I was dealt with so I choose to be happy. Life is too short to allow chronic pain from illnesses to take your life away. So happy there is more knowledge about these illnesses.
Hi I’d just like to chime in with my fibromyalgia / chronic fatigue / ME experience. I have it too. I got it about 5 years ago almost overnight, after being an active gym goer 4-5 times a week (haven’t been able to go since). I got so bad at one point I couldn’t walk my dog down the road without my whole body going into unbelievable exhaustion (like I’d just ran 10 marathons and then run over by a bus) for the next 2 days. I’ve tried many medications, diet changes - everything. You name it, I’ve most likely tried it. Now I’d gradually got slightly better - enough to where I could do house chores and walk my dog - nothing too physically demanding like lifting weights. Well about a month ago I had a highly stressful experience and I plummeted - all life force drained from me. Well I had an epiphany. What if it wasn’t physical (I know it feels very much physical). What if it was some crossed wires in the brain. What if telling myself that I’m sick so much that my body is believing it. Well I thought f**k it. This is my last chance (I can’t handle a life of being bed bound. I wouldn’t endure that). And I’ve been trying my HARDEST to maintain positive thoughts. I’ve been telling myself every day, all day, that I am NOT sick. It’s just some silly miscommunication in my brain. The mind is an EXTREMELY POWERFUL thing. Fast forward now. Im doing 15 pushups every other day, walking my dog twice a day, going a little further each time. All while telling myself I’m NOT sick. I AM getting better and I WILL have my life back. I honestly cannot believe the progress I’ve made. Im exercising more than I have in 5 years all while going through the worst time in my life (that stressful event is ongoing, unfortunately). Sorry for the essay, but if this helps at least 1 person, then I’ll be ecstatic; I know how torturous this condition is. I’ve almost ended it a couple times. So glad I stumbled on this video - the algorithm is working for me because I’ve seen a couple others lately that supports everything I’ve said!!!! PLEASE try it. And please BELIEVE IT. It is true. But you have to KNOW it is.
The mind is a powerful thing. I get overwhelmed with depressive thoughts. Recently, I had a new development where the depression hit me so hard that my body hurt and I felt complete exhaustion. My mind tends to obsess and circle with negative thoughts so I have to distract myself. That particular night, I turned on the tv and watched a Christian comedian I had seen before named Tim Hawkins. I laughed so hard I couldn’t breathe. My body stopped hurting and the exhaustion left my body.
You literally just helped me, I can not thank you enough!! 🙌🏾🙏❤️❤️. I just realized I talk so negatively to myself, no wonder I’m having such harsh physical symptoms. Thank you so much for sharing your story❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.
@@shakirasmith6454 that’s amazing I’m so happy it’s helped you. Our thoughts really are so powerful. May you continue to improve until full recovery, I know you will 🙏🤍
For all those for who this video resonates, may I recommend looking into breathwork. The way we breath after trauma changes and has an effect on our whole body, this is often without even realising how we are have picked up the habit of breathing incorrectly. Getting a better breathing pattern and using breathing practice can make a lot of difference to the nervous system.
Wow this explanation is best of I’ve heard about the cycle I’ve been on and my addiction to work/success and productivity and the recurring depression and anxiety. I’m following and will study this entire catalog to help myself make the necessary changes. The feeling of boredom when not being on the go is well explained and makes sense to me now. I am ready to live healthy. Thank you!
This is so amazing! After giving birth to my daughter alone in the hospital I never been the same again! From then on I become very workaholic after pregnancy! Because I need my daughter and me to survive! I work for hours and hours! After I lost my job I lost my body as well I suddenly get sick and have no energy to even get out of the bed my mind total shutdown! I realize i was not able to face my emotions during that time I brushed it off and just work now my body is overwhelmed with stress and fear! Im on the way to recovery and meditation helps a lot
This is exactly my situation. After having my daughter I was always working to provide stability and finally could afford a mortgage. Then disaster struck and I lost my job. Sunk into depression and old traumas resurfaced. I've quit my e-cig, and really listened to how other things might trigger me. If I don't do it now I'll go to that dark place again. Good luck with your health and wishing you a happy, and calmer future ❤
This is such impactful teachings! I do see in our church the reverence for people who serve/give selflessly without boundaries and it can be quite discouraging for someone like me coming to understand complex trauma and its impact in my life.
This dialogue relays my upbring and general personality to a letter, I thought I had self regulated free of any substances to “ cope” , have introduced a lot of prayer into my life, probably to the same affect of meditation. But will try ur methods to see if I improve my “darker” times. I am grateful to have found this video, and am grateful for you shedding light on possible answers to questions, that I didn’t know to ask. Thank you.
I greatly appreciate you sharing what I had yet to hear from a medical doctor, psychiatrist and therapist. I have mostly felt shame because many of the recommended treatments did not relieve the chronic symptoms. Unfortunately, my body is not recovering. It baffles me how some people recover and some people don't.
I remember reading an article in Psychology Today titled "Beyond Serotonin" which said that children exposed to trauma had changes in their nervous system, specifically the myelin sheath of the nerves which dissolved.
This is one of the best videos that speaks truth. It reigns in on my life so accurately. The beginning was actually a trigger as I’ve been dealing with this for about 8 years now. He gives great detail because he lived through it. Excellent awesome video. Thank you so much for God’s good grace and your family that got you through this to create such incredible insight and healing. Love you brother! Amen
Well excuse the hell out of me….you just described something I live with every day & struggle to put in words… perfectly said.
I have been going to therapy now going on three-years , and I’m in school now to become a mental health counselor for reasons just like this… to let people know they’re not alone, to signify the importance of understanding mental health.
Thank you.
This should be taught in schools, instead of some subjects we never use. This is so important. 🌍✌️
Unfortunately schools are the trauma inducing environments! People do not realize how unhealthy schools are. Find what John Taylor Gatto or Alfie Khan have to say about schooling, you'll be mind blown!
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@@saskiasia...💯🎯
Well said!!!
@@saskiasia Totally agree. I liked learning, but school was a nightmare. The cruelty of the students, the indifference of the staff. Even the nurse and guidance counselor were fairly useless in making it any sort of suitable environment for a students mental health.
Many here are talking about growing up with narcissits. Please look into Emotionally Immature parents/people. Im serious, its been a massive breakthrough for me.
Its destroyed my life and my body. There needs to be more awareness about Emotionally Immature parents and their impact on your mental and physical health.
Ive been releasing trauma, panic attacks, sobbing endlessly.
I cant sleep anymore, im developing insulin resistance, inflammation in the body, constsnt tension, hypervigilance, and currently a constant state of burnout on and off for nearly my whole life. Now my burnout is permanent and im currently still living with parents for financial reasons. The trauma keeps being applied every day.
I feel healing isnt possible but im only at the beginning of my journey. This video really has restored some hope that healing is possible, that life isnt over.
Much love to everyone, dont give up❤
Father God please heal your child in Jesus mighty name
Most emotionally immature parents had emotionally immature Parents also it’s generational
Go outside, ground, breathe, smile to self recreate yourself it's possible. If not working start with work from home. You are blessed.
Yep due to trauma from childhood. My disease was arrested I was doing great then after 10 yrs of a good sober life I was hit by one trauma another trauma another trauma so many traumas that I couldn't recover I just existed now I have horrible anxiety and I shake . Started 8 years ago.
Me too. My mum was immature and did not cope with much, especially me.
Let me know too!
No touch, or chat. Sad.
I'm 63 years old and just now realizing that I've lived my entire life like this without a solution. I've been through multiple burnouts and never knew why, until now. Better late than never. Thank you.
Same here I'm 43
60yrs old for me.
64 here....This is literally me. Every couple minutes, I'm palming my forehead. He's describing my life almost verbatim. The dysfunctions he's talking about, those are my "normal". Only one nagging question: Now that I have all this wonderful information, what am I supposed to DO with it? I suppose just having a better grasp of why I am like I am will have to do. There's not enough time left on my clock to go and try to CHANGE anything. 😬
@sinequanon5586 one day at a time.
Yup. 61 here. Tim Fletcher is a gifted teacher. I pray we will all be able to process this information and patiently, lovingly apply it to ourselves on a daily basis and hopefully have positive effects on the people around us too.
I can't even count the number of traumas I have endured. I am now realizing that I have been freezing most of my life. I get the fear impulse, then I go frozen. It has been a battle to live any kind of life. I have been saying for about 15 years, the problem is the nervous system. I have been complaining of fatigue since my 20's and now I 59 and it is quite debilitating. I am so happy that we are learning more.
thanks pal same here im 54 and just starting to understand this nightmare ty
B12 shots, liver 2x week helps. We burn more B12 when stressed, process less. Without sufficient B12, we don't produce enough hemoglobin, become anemic. Not enough hemoglobin means we don't pick up enough oxygen. Not enough oxygen tissues slowly break down - all tissues, including brain.
Thanks so much. Blood levels are always reasonable. A little while back I got startled and the process to calm had changed. I remember thinking the nervous system is completely fried. @@AG-yj1jv
I totally relate to all you said. I'm 62. Hope you're gaining on it, clearing, healing & feeling well 🙂
I started learning about this in my late 20s (now 30) going to EMDR next week. Raised by two Malignant Narcissists. I now know what I must do to heal. I'm glad I found this out early rather than later.
My husband had intense trauma as a child. I was not aware if his addictions. Listening to this makes so much sense. He thrive in the emotional highs of life. Was always on the go and then he would crash. He was physically abusive so I had to leave 4 yrs ago. Recently he took his life. I told our child looking back I think your dad was never not in pain.
3:40 Im sorry about your loss .I h
ope you can forgive him.
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@happyher19 thank you. Thank God I have forgiven him. There's lot's of hurt and anger but I have forgiven him. Only by the grace of God I can say I have. But now my babies and I have to heal. These videos are truly helping. They are listening to the videos with me. Blessings
Im so sorry for you all 🤍 I believe he’s in peace now, watching over you guys 🤍
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Tim's reference to Gabor Mate' really solidified his credibility.
Gabor Mate' should be on EVERYONES bookshelf!
I love Gabor Mate
Honestly..... tim's body of work should be part of school curriculum for all therapeutic professionals across all the various health . I happen to be Christian in my faith so it's not problematic to me that this comes from a religious based source. However, given our current state of "tolerance" for the intolerable..... if say there should be an opening to the quality and caliber of this content and less to the potentially religious association that might stop some people from hearing this. Thank you❤
I'm not christian but I agree. I'm even of a demographic that a lot of christians and other abrahamic religions seem to hate and target. Yet I can tell that Tim is not one of those and he uses only the good stuff from those books. He comes from a good place. He is also not one of those dubious "famous" psychologists or psychotherapists who churn outquestionable content for clicks or who may actually be narcissists themselves (am I the only one who wonders this about certain content producers lol...). He just genuinely seems like he wants to help instead of self-promote. I'm sure he's no angel, no one is, but at least he seems genuine and authentic and just....very kind.
I agree. I try to never listen to his teachings unless I am able give it my full attention. You know how we sometimes listen to things while we’re doing other things. His body of work helped me really acknowledge how the soul and body overlap and is affected by all forms of trauma. There’s no way to make it out alive and on the way to healing without these tools. Man!!! That hyper vigilance! I know it well!
The DEVIL WORSHIPPERS AGENDA ❤IS TO HAVE EVERY ONE BREAK DOWN , HOWEVER SHORT CIRCUITES BEL0NGS TO THEM🎬❤️💯A REFLECTION OF WHAT IS HAPPENING
I Agree Health Class that Makes Sense 💞 Hopeful
Wellness Weavers, Inc will willingly host Zoom events for 60-minute sessions of the “Everyone Counts Game Show”.
Every state in the USA have had statewide tax-funded technology, public schools, public libraries, county-state funded health & human services. The mental health & physical health systems have insurance reimbursement and nonprofits acting as a way for philanthropists of all socioeconomic levels.
What do you think the reason is that the mental health system is kept piecemeal?
I felt like crying watching this.
I got to the end and thought:
we are so screwed.
I find it ironic that our cities are bigger than ever,
and paradoxically, people have never been lonelier
Me too. I finally have some answers
Yes it is very very sad
Decades of abuse and extreme stress has left me with all types of pain.
I hear ya
Same. In my joints. Wheres your pain?
@@VixinafulCheck for vitamin D and Vitamin B12 levels. Chronic stress or abuse leads to depletion of these vitamins. Not joking at all but I am at least 70 percent recovered from stress and anxiety after supplementing with B12 and vitamin D as per doctor's advice.....so please get it checked , start your treatment , and see the results in a couple of months... .
Also normal range for B12 in the blood is from 300 to 900, but usually consider above 350 to 600 as appropriate and D levels should be from 50 to 90 although 30 to 100 is a standard set up wolrdwide but between 50 to 90 or upto 65 is absolutely good for the body.....so get your blood work done for these vitamins and get your life back again...thanks
@Vixinaful me too. All my health issues came to a head 4 years ago. Back, endometriosis, cracked heels, high cortisol etc. Now my ankles are swelling.
@@kattalady8114 Hmm..does it fit with rheumatoid arthritis?
Having fibromyalgia for about 20 years now, I feel that our society requires people to constantly work, take care of family, ect. There is no way to fully recover. We have to work to survive. We can talk all we want but it's not possible to completely heal and take it easy. So we're stuck in this mode.
Hi I’d just like to chime in with my experience.
I have it too. I got it about 5 years ago almost overnight, after being an active gym goer 4-5 times a week (haven’t been able to go since). I got so bad at one point I couldn’t walk my dog down the road without my whole body going into unbelievable exhaustion (like I’d just ran 10 marathons and then run over by a bus) for the next 2 days.
I’ve tried many medications, diet changes - everything. You name it, I’ve most likely tried it.
Now I’d gradually got slightly better - enough to where I could do house chores and walk my dog - nothing too physically demanding like lifting weights.
Well about a month ago I had a highly stressful experience and I plummeted - all life force drained from me.
Well I had an epiphany. What if it wasn’t physical (I know it feels very much physical). What if it was some crossed wires in the brain. What if telling myself that I’m sick so much that my body is believing it.
Well I thought f**k it. This is my last chance (I can’t handle a life of being bed bound. I wouldn’t endure that). And I’ve been trying my HARDEST to maintain positive thoughts. I’ve been telling myself every day, all day, that I am NOT sick. It’s just some silly miscommunication in my brain. The mind is an EXTREMELY POWERFUL thing.
Fast forward now. Im doing 15 pushups every other day, walking my dog twice a dog, going a little further each time. All while telling myself I’m NOT sick. I AM getting better and I WILL have my life back.
I honestly cannot believe the progress I’ve made. Im exercising more than I have in 5 years all while going through the worst time in my life (that stressful event is ongoing, unfortunately).
Sorry for the essay, but if this helps at least 1 person, then I’ll be ecstatic; I know how torturous this condition is. I’ve almost ended it a couple times.
So glad I stumbled on this video - the algorithm is working for me because I’ve seen a couple others lately that supports everything I’ve said!!!!
PLEASE try it. And please BELIEVE IT. It is true. But you have to KNOW it is.
@@BeforeThisNovemberwere you in the constant fight flight freeze and burn out when you started getting up and doing small things? Are you working ? I can't work as burnt out and no life at all.
@@BeforeThisNovember Im happy for your progress! Do you watch Dan's PainFreeYou channel on YT? Im asking because he teaches the stuff you talk about in your comment in his daily videos. You are absolutely right, you have to KNOW you are okay. Most chronic pain/symptoms are driven by fear. I recommend checking him out if you havent. He also posts interviews of success stories. I use his videos as a tool since i have chronic pain myself (PDP-percieved danger pain)
@@Julie-iw3mh no I haven’t been able to do a 9 to 5 since, I get burn out easily including if I have to socialise more than an hour or 2.
Not sure what you mean by fight flight freeze, do you mean anxiety? Yes it gives me anxiety sometimes. I find if I haven’t slept very good (most nights) it make it worst.
Yes while I’ve been more active it take it out of me but I’ve gradually been able to do a little bit more each time and I’m night and day to where I was just 4 weeks ago (and so much better than the last 5 years)
Please try it and believe it. I promise it’ll improve.
This is so fantastic to read I'm so happy to hear the power of positive thinking is helping someone so tremendously. Changing your mindset is a key part of healing the body.
I have a true power of belief story to add hopefully it helps the op also.
My mum in her late 30s had cervical cancer. She beat that. In her mid 40s breast cancer. Beat that. Then in her late 50s bowl cancer. Beat that. Early 60s they found a tumour on her liver and gave her mere weeks to live. The doctor looked my dad square in the face infront of my mum and said "she is going to die, this cancer is incurable and its something you need to come to terms with" my mum was so mad that she had spoken about her to him like that, she left the doctors office and said f that when I go back in 3 weeks I'm going to be cancer free. They went to a air bnb in the middle of nowhere to switch off from the world, she point blank refused to believe it was the end and when she went back for her scan they could not find any cancer anywhere.
Interested to hear what you think about the water experiment they did where they had two different groups of ppl sit in different rooms surrounding a glass of water. One group was told to think only positive thoughts, the other only negative. They then froze the water and put it underneath a microscope. The positive crystals were beautiful the negative broken and ugly. Knowing the fact that humans are made up of a high percentage of water I wonder what negative thoughts does to the water in our body!
Congratulations on your success, long may it continue.
@BeforeThisNovember
This is gold. Pure gold.
This is by far one of the most comprehensive, simple to understand and deeply revealing wells of information for anyone who has been unknowingly operating in this manner such as myself and many I can think of.
I can not sufficiently give my appropriation for this amazing body of work Mr. Tim Fletcher. You absolutely and single handedly helped me to put the puzzle pieces together like never before.
Depression is the body’s way of coping with the need to address an overactive sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system stepping in to control the flow of energy.
I never thought of that but it makes perfect sense‼️ 😮
Having both and it makes sence
I agree...when i completely surrendered to God...pursue Him daily through His word and prayer...i am transformed and a work in progress...ive been clean 35 yrs!✝️
This is an outstanding channel; thank you for all the great work you do!
I can totally relate to this vid. I have childhood PTSD. Had a very abusive dad, mom had health issues. I pretty much had to be the parent to my mother when I was a child. Because of the way I was raised, I became a perfectionist and people pleaser. I was always an outstanding employee and felt that I had to do everything perfectly or I would be punished. Now that I'm retired, I am finally able to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. I am an extreme introvert and love being alone. I think I'm making up for all those years where I did everything for others and neglected my own needs.
This resonates!!! WOW!!! Sending you love & light, my friend. We aren’t alone. ♥️❤️♥️
Sending love your way. ❤
Ditto....and Amen 🙏 I'm only 50 and I'm just starting to live my life...sad.
Yes,, your story is mine n add , 5 siblings I mothered as my Mom laid there broken from my Dads abuse.. he abused us kids severely.n I felt if I was nice to him n cook his meals he wouldn’t beat us . I was 7 yrs old with this theory. It worked sometimes for a while. I over mothered my daughter, thank God we survived me doin that n she loves n forgives me, My spouse I am of course codependent with but it’s off balance n has been toxic. All the things you describe with a few different spices sprinkled in.. many come from similar starts. At 55 all that fatigue was discovered to be a rare cancer , stage 4 head neck cancer, never smoked or drank. Miss goody two shoes. She never spoke up for herself.. so I lost parts of my mouth in the cancer , and I’ve been fighting recovery n new health issues from Chemo n radiation. I’m 62 now .. I’m tiny but a fighter., I should have been gone 10 times in last 5 years. I won’t leave my daughter n my 11yr old dog. Lol. This is great video.. so informative! I will pray for us all ,
@@SuntoSet77we are all born fighters from our birth, and stay that way until our last breath
My home was run with a similar outlook on love and ultra-service. Us kids were dropped for most anything else the church community needed.
My mom was a great cook and baker. We'd ask her, "Who's this for?", when she'd make a beautiful dish or dessert. We knew the one she made with care wasn't for us.
For decades, I felt I was lazy if I had much energy before bedtime.
Now, in burn out, I struggle with shame and frustration.
This really helped me in ways I've been searching for.
I appreciate this channel and the wonderful group of fellow healing path travelers. ❤️🔥
The social hive mind, more important that family. Wrong
@@krisangel7080You're absolutely right, It's very wrong to put the social hive mind above family.
I feel you. My parents gave all to the church and community before their 6 children.
Like, why have children if you’re just going to ignore them and make them feel guilty for taking up space and resources?
It really is what they learned as how to be good people.
@@maryfarrell9439 💙
Jesus fucking Christ I relate to this so much im glad as we got older it stopped about being the church, but it was still narcissism that allowed mom to keep up appearances for the greater community. Like she never turned it around and invested in her children, spoke our language, made it work in a career... Like her baggage was enormous and I think eventually she drove every man away from home we are all men in this house
51 years old and just now realizing all I’ve been through: came from a stressful childhood; married a man with his own issues who has stressed me out daily for 30 years; became a part of leadership in a high-stress ministry for 12 years; had 2 children who were diagnosed with on-going major medical issues. And I’ve been blaming myself and saying I’m just not good enough/smart enough/tough enough/organized enough to handle it all. Thank God for His mercy and grace covering me all these years.🙌🏻 But I don’t mind telling you…I’M TIRED!!
I hear ya....we are not superman or Jesus. We take on too much. I am praying for wisdom and remember to please God not man
I hear ya ...we are not superman or Jesus...We take on too much. Pray to God for wisdom and remember we are to please God not man
31 years sober and 20 years of therapy and you just pulled it all together. You literally told my story better than I could.
Finding this video, having someone describe my exact cycle and inform me that I am not alone is heartbreaking yet wonderful to know that I am not alone in this battle. I just want to heal.
Tim you are phenomenal. Thank you for all you do.
He just perfectly described most of my life. Having bipolar disorder for most of my life makes a lot of sense as well. I was a pretty good student and was an avid athlete. I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop and my mom to scream at me for irrational reasons. My parents are classic boomers focused on themselves and not my brother and I. So, he turned to drugs and alcohol and ruined his life. I stuck with work and pushing myself harder and harder until I fell apart physically and emotionally. Now I am 57 and am struggling financially because my family and I have too much debt and I can’t put in the long hours anymore.
Sorry this happens to you , hope you are okay now. Focus on your healing it will also positively impact your financial life.
There's no such thing as bipolar
@@davidcrawford9026 not helpful
@@davidcrawford9026 Can you tell us why you believe bipolar is not a real condition?
@@judylyoness2290 no empirical, unbiased way to test for it, it like all other dsm diagnosis' are just made up by a committee based on bad research and vibes. Any ole braindead c student of a therapist can stick you with that label in your medical history if they happen to not like you. It's not real, it's made up to sell drugs and control people
Every single video of his I watch brings another level of understanding of my own self and the realization that my childhood has followed me into adulthood. It's maddening people asking why you do the things you do when you wish you knew the answer yourself.
Completely agree..
People ask me why I do the things I do and I have no answer and feel a lot of shame that I am so different.
At 66 can't stay in one place
Can't keep a relationship or a job.
Oh my God what happened to my life.?
I have complex trauma from child sexual abuse, neglect, bullying to name a few. I am dependent on drugs to cope with life. I am about to go into rehab tomorrow and follow up with trauma counselling. I am constantly in survival mode, I have major depression. This information is food for my soul. Thank you. 🙏
All the best ❤️💕 to you .Same here .
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My nervous system went out of balance being married to a raging narcissist for 13 years. He would literally swing from one mood to the next and fly into rages and become very threatening. I became ill and couldn’t get diagnosed until 7 years later. They thought I had lupus but thank GOD it wasn’t full blown and I was diagnosed with symptoms of autoimmune disease. His mood swings was sending my nervous system into confusion and it was like it was short circuiting. I realized I grew up walking on egg shells from my father’s rages as well. I also suffered sibling abuse from a narcissistic older sister so it was all I knew. I’m healthy now, I’m divorced, my father passed (although I don’t hold anything against him. He was a black man dealing with racism and other oppression and back then, therapy was not an option). My sister has decided to estrange herself from me and my other 2 sisters and I’m ok with that although I do have unsettling dreams about her often.
Omg
I’m in tears
I understand you so soooo much
I fled my husband. I’m a wreck and not even human
Lots of hugs
@@AbuseFree23Thanks for your reply. I’m doing very well now and I pray you are getting better as well 🙏🏽💕
I'm so glad you healed. God bless you.
@@bv459Thank you! GOD BLESS YOU as well! 🤗🙏🏽
❤ Put Yourself First 😇 ❤
I’m a mother of 5, my husband is always working and I have no family or help. This describes how I feel exactly. WOW.
I've done years of psychotherapy, doctors, etc.. I really appreciate competent people. Thank you. 💫 This really synthesized the last 40 years in this skin suit. Mad respect! Blessed be. 💫
Problem is there aren't enough healthy people left in this world (or at least in my area) to connect to, so many are damaged and broken, trust issues, etc etc., and so many refuse or are unable to seek help to fix these things. Then we latch onto unhealthy people that are even WORSE for us, just in an attempt to find/keep that connection and become reliant on them for these needs and they just take our efforts, kindness, love for granted sooner or later and it all breaks down, then the cycle coninues. I have almost ALL the signs of an imbalanced nervous system identified here even though I rest too much nowadays, and this video helps SO much to explain the what and why. Thank you so much for helping so many people Tim, you're truly sent by God.
There’s a new layer when the stress is coming from living with a psychopath. My son has PTSD and I had anxiety and depression. I went to the hospital twice. Once I figured out who I was married to I figured out where all my friends and family went. So I had some symptoms mentioned but the psychopath was amazing. Nothing bothered him and aside from being unable to laugh, cry. His body was so regular and he could fall asleep on a dime. I laid awake unable to relax; because I was worried when the next crisis would come
Wow this was my life too!!
Thanks so much for putting this series online for free. I've learned so much.
Your hard work and your love of humanity, in order to help so many, is appreciated deeply!
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This explains a lot. I know them well: anxiety, depression, fear, panic, and burnout
This video is such a tremendous resource! Thank you for putting it out there for those of us who desperately need it 🤗
My life is healing now…. Because of you …thank you…
Also, what a beautiful pace and tone of voice. Not once patronising (as some in the medical profession) but careful and confident in your delivery. A natural communicator. 🙏
My wife of 20 years has been diagnosed with BPD and is now getting help. The stress of dealing with her behaviour for years has had a major impact on my nervous system.
I am so so so extremely grateful for this wonderful human. I have been in severe burnout for five years from my partner passing in front of me and the walls came down from severe childhood abuse and abandonment and am now on disability. I still can’t rest. I have also been sober for this five year period. Not a single drink. I am now not sure how I can stop from not sitting still
. Due to discovering these videos and Mr Fletcher,s teaching I am learning how to deal with my diagnosis of CPTSD. My gratitude is enormous. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️ I am bawling my eyes out as I write this because I have felt so alone the majority of my life because when you are on your own from age 15, you don’t learn how to deal with anything so you isolate and don’t let anyone in. When I realised that so many people go through this, first my heart broke, and now all I wanna do is help others because I’m an artist and I want to teach people that painting is so healing.
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Amazing description of trauma and what happens to our nervous system.
How can we thank you for helping many of us Mr. Tim Fletcher ? Please accept my deepest and warmest thanks !
It took me all morning to watch this ❤
Walking, breathing, stretching daily is helping me feel more in my body, calm and safe.
I knew intuitively that I was cycling through burnouts and now I recognize the emotional and physical signs of my living in my activated sympathetic nervous system. I’ve been praying for the Lord to help me understand the real problem, because I didn’t believe I was really going crazy, and I remembered this video. I am like Tim; I love to be in my sympathetic nervous system, and it takes me hours to come down. I’m so glad to have terms and some understanding of what’s happening to me. Thank you, Tim.
May Christ bless you and fill you and give you joy as you help so many of us!
Mind blowing ! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼Thank you so much So grateful ! No wonder im so completely exhausted and depleted and can never sit stil !!! Revelation 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Wow I feel like you just hit me over the head with what I am going through. I had the same parents as you did in their work ethics, however they were also both alcoholics and the rules were always changing. My life has always been a Rollercoaster of strong work ethic then collapse. I am 61 and have been off work for over 3 years and so frustrated with myself. I eat healthy and feel like I am doing things right but my body keeps shutting down. Doctors only want to medicate but I refuse due to all the side effects. I don't smoke or drink and no drugs. From the outside I look like I have everything together and yet I always feel like the shoe is about to drop and everything will explode. Thank you for this video
Bro, smoke weed, it will help big time.
Oh my god! I am so grateful that I found this today I've been trying to work through this same type of situation for years and while it has helped to keep me from going over the edge this is my salvation. 🦋❤️THANK YOU!
This is such a valuable set of knowledge, I have been suffering from this level of existence my whole adult life and only at 37 is it becoming more and more understandable how I got myself into the situation that I am in. Personally I have dealt with abandonment issues my whole life, first it was growing up where my parents thought I was deaf until I was about 4 when the doctor told them I was probably mimicking their absent behavior and ignoring them. They were always putting me in day cares, even on the weekend I got put in branch of islam's childrens care in the government projects where every kid there was either an orphan or was abandoned by their parents while they were there, and when I went to ask why my friends would disapear I always got shhhed. Growing up in my house I learned to be alone and quiet, because anything I presented to my father got dejected, and I was ignored a lot, and my mother would always threaten to send me to boarding school, or say things like "if the world ever runs out of food you'll be the first to die". This level of trauma as a kid caused me to make friends with other kids in similar non-parental oversight lives, we had a trauma bond, and the slipper slope started when the first self deleted was my friend's dad, and the way it was introduced to me was being invited over the day it happened but not told until we arrived back at his house from wandering the streets all day, after that I never saw him. Then through highschool and after all but one of my close friends self deleted themselves, and a girl I was friends with since middleschool, and was highschool sweethearts with broke up with me the day after we lost our virginity together, after being toghether for almost 3 years. Also I flunked highschool because my highschool counselor was a gay man who purposefully told my parents to ignore me and let me figure life out by myself, and was trying to groom me into coming to his property, something I dealt with long after I left highschool, as he had also done the same and was successful with a few other guys in my class. Not only that but my favorite middleschool teacher is in prison for the same reason, so all of my male rolemodels have been predators. Also I became a professional paintball player as a kid, where adrenaline and high performance workouts were something I was addicted to, to the point that I barely felt the effects of adrenaline, and kept becoming more and more extreme in my performance to achieve it.
This is about the only therapy I get, writing comments to myself as a way of processing the impacts of what I've been through after learning new knowledge about how my body was implicated and caused me to make the decisions I have made. These days I've been farming for most of my adult life, which has been therapeutically great because being in tune with the cycles of seasons and crops, watching nothing turn into food that I sell to people who look forward to my hard work, has been addicting, as I've been doing it by myself for over a decade, and throughout my 20s I was essentially working 14-16 hours a week with no days off until I would burn out every year, then I would suffer massive depression all winter and by spring be overwhelmingly excited to start again. I've climbed as high as I can in my pursuit, I can grow anything from cantaloupe to mushrooms, to salad, and I perform at such high quality I have existed on million dollar horse farms owned by chinese hotel moguls, or tech business CEO's who want the best quality food for their kids. But at 37 I can no longer go nonstop, and have to relearn how to take time for myself, because the formula doesn't work anymore, and I don't make enough money to afford stability, so am stuck working for people who don't value my knowledge or technique and quality, but I also got a job managing dentist servers and IT support, but I know if I leave farm life I will become severely depressed because money can buy stability, but it cant afford the quality of variety of life I'm accustomed to.
Thanks for posting the talk, I learned a lot about it, things I wish I knew when I was a kid.
Everything you are saying fits me to a tee 😭😭😭. I’m 76 and trying to heal rom complex trauma. This lecture is worth soooo much 😰 I’m not crazy after all and I’m worth saving. I just came across your post and I’m so grateful 🙏🏼. I subscribed to your channel. Thank you so very much 🙏🏼😰😭
I believe you just saved my life. Good Lord! All of the issues I have been living with thinking that there was no etiology that any doctor could explain or understand! Hmm. This is the first time I see what is happening and what has happened to me. I can not thank you enough, Mr. Fletcher. ❤
GASP! LIGHT BULB Moment!! I was in Sympathetic and BOOM I had 2 back to back traumatic accidents that have changed my life. WOW! An interesting factor in all of this.
My god 13min in and my life has never been so accurately described 😭
That's what I said
I hear so much of myself in this. Painfully so.
crap, I was raised the same way. I come from a family who all have that solid work ethic. They were the folks who literally built this country and they were darn proud of it and passed it down a few generations. So here I am living 60+ years in my parasympathetic system. Now that I've identified it I can bring about an adjustment. I must say that I am uncomfortable doing nothing - too much guilt involved. Looking to move forward. Thanks so much for this vid.
I'm 44. You've described the last 30 years + of my life. It took a couple meltdowns, constant self sabotage events, dad dying, and more...without any therapy...to get where I'm at. These days, I am so grateful to have been able to push myself and see a light at the end of all of that. To anyone listening, it's all worth the struggle., and it is possible.
Thank you. You are saving lives. You are a blessing for me. I know what is going on with me
Fantastic video. So very helpful to understand how people with relatively happy childhoods can present with complex PTSD. It helps me understand people so much better. Thank you for all your amazing videos.
@@SmearCampaignsAreEvil Uh , lmao 🤣
@@SmearCampaignsAreEvil Complex issue lmao I'm glad your parents made you feel safe. What I'm learning is, rich spoiled children get ptsd because mom bought them the red bike instead the blue one you wanted lol
@DontLetHateWin Your welcome, and you are lying, thanks for proving my point that Americans are liars.
@DontLetHateWin So did you get EVERY gaming console you asked for every Xmas from Santa?
@@seanguzy9601Where did you get rich and spoiled from his comment? You're kinda nuts.
14:16 the universe has a crazy way of showing me what I need to see when I need to see it. Wow.
I’m sick of burning out. Just wanna relax like a normal human
I see you. I havesame problem. You should be referred to trauma coping group therapy. If there is one where you live. And it will probably take a long time to relearn the brain. But it is possible. I always felt like it is only me, i have no hope of getting better etc. Good luck. God loves you.
Tim is excellent. At 63 I'm still in burnout and recovering has no lapse of memory. I process thousands of abuse, trauma, neglect, betrayal which has been the Trust is pain. I have the Divine Mercy Jesus, I trust in you, which has saved my mind, body and soul. Boundaries have eliminated any social life even new encounters are not love. I found no contact sucks with my family, they were my life even through working and professional career. They are all oblivious to my extreme CPTSD seeing they caused the final outcome of disability coping with triggers. Thank God I found healing and I still suffer new abuse and trauma regularly unless I am in adoration with Jesus
He is describng the human condition for most of us on earth. Live and learn to be the best you, till its over.
You are the best at explaining the cycles that we go through
6:58 I already had my head in my hands by this point lol. Thank you for this service to humanity these are.
This makes every bit of sense to me.
I have long covid. But after a lifetime of complex trauma. No wonder my nervous system couldn’t cope.
I wish the doctors at the long covid clinic would watch this. The therapists who have been helping me most are not doctors but psychologist, osteopath and occupational therapist and nutritionist who completely understand the nervous system and the damage undid to mine with past relationships, stresses, personality, coping mechanisms and cptsd.
It’s a long road to healing. Slowing down has been the hardest but most critical part of it for me. I’m still working on fully accepting it, and gannet managed to get past the rollercoaster of feeling better then crashing…but this video renews my faith that it’s possible. The visibly you gave of the two systems working is really helpful for me.
Long covid is actually vaccine injury. They are lying to cover this Truth. Vaccines create spikes and don't turn off. Dr John Campbell has been diligently reporting bringing us the horror of these gene therapies.
Wow! I have long covid & cptsd also! It hadn’t clicked for me that the two could be related! That actually makes so much sense to me. ❤
@@hannahpricekarlsson sorry you have long covid. CPTSD often translates into over achievement in the workforce too…basically never saying no…leading to burnout….i had those characteristics too even before covid. It’s like every cell of your being is just crying out constantly to be accepted and loved by everyone or anyone. I get exhausted just thinking about it.
Sometimes I try to imagine what it would be like to be ‘normal’…to have lived a normal childhood, without constant fear and threat and with protection and tenderness. Just a different world.
I don’t think those scars ever leave us..I think it’s deeply imbedded in our DNA.
Long covid is very much associated also with neurodiversity, again hand in hand with the over achievers and CPTSD.
I e never been diagnosed or assessed for neurodiversity, but some of the techniques I use to calm my nervous system are the same as those used for people with ADHD and autism to help cope in over stimulating environments.
I think it’s all rooted in our nervous system. Vagal theory is very interesting, and explains a lot of this too.
Good luck with your long covid. I hope they find a cure for us soon.
Is long covid a vaccine injury ?
Diddo! Make sure to add in spike destroying supplement's!! The clotting is real!!
Love listening to these teachings
So illuminating, I'm going to need to watch your whole series!
Last year I found myself on a plane to visit my best friend in a foreign country for a month. It was either that or unalive myself because of how miserable I was. Thanks to these videos from you and others I'm starting to realize how I got into that state. Mom was a depressed alcoholic (she died from cancer 2 yrs ago) and dad is a narcissist. Mom would yell at me all day, then switch to dad when he got home. Sometimes he got so mad he hit her. Sometimes in the morning I'd find her blood on the floor. Despite all this I convinced myself they weren't bad parents because they never hit me and I never went hungry or homeless. It didn't help both of them made everyone think we had this amazing affluent life so they would hit me with harsh criticism when I didn't line up with this idealized image. With each year I found myself increasingly tired and depressed/anxious to the point that not even eating a nice meal made me feel better. Like even food I KNEW tasted good was flavorless to me. Any bit of drama or bad news would mess me up with panic attacks for days. That's why I decided to see my friend because if I was going to take myself out I wanted to see her in person at least once.
Something about being on the other side of the world from all of that drama gave me the best sleep I've ever had. I was passing out the instant I laid down. Few times I woke up with a dead phone in one hand and the charging cable in the other because I fell asleep before I could even plug it in. Realized I felt safe and free for the first time surrounded by happy normal people. I didn't worry about dad calling me up to yell or give orders or complain about how he's tired of working (because he bought an airplane and sportscar instead of putting money into his retirement but blames his kids for his lack of wealth) It gave me hope because I realized it was possible for me to be normal. I started making changes in life, and hopefully the big one will put me 3000 miles away from my controlling narcissistic dad. A lot of the plan hinges on luck but I'm trying my best to keep my hopes up about it.
There seems to be a special grace upon resting in the Sabbath day to get the body back into parasympathetic system. Just rest. ❤
That's right. Everyday belongs to the Lord.
I love this so much. I've never heard my diagnosis broken down in the simplest ways, sequentially relevant to my life. This is precisely my profile.
The end of this video frustrates me because those of us with toxic family members do not experience connection and it's not that easy. When we have low energy ect to make new relationships. That's where I'm at I feel so completely alone and fighting daily mentally and physically and it's not getting better because I have no community I have no help I'm always alone. 😢
The only way out is through. Go back and listen to the prior videos in order again and work on building up the routines and connections to others. Nobody says this is easy.
You aren't alone, Breanna. I feel the same; I think many do. I don't have many connections but I can build in moments in every day where I can choose to not be stressed and i use that time to breathe and enjoy sitting and feeling the day around me. It's beautiful! I bet you can do it!
Go easy on yourself, Breanna - you are awesome.
You’re not alone on this ❤
Don't give up on yourself, beloved! Change is hard, but it can be done. Jesus has helped me tremendously. He's helped me heal and be more conscious about connections to others (and withdraw from those that hurt me over and over again). It's tough and I still need a lot of alone time (prayer!), but "normalcy" is a choice you can make every day! 🧡
You are not alone. We are in this together. Sending you so much love and support ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
You’re actually saving my life through teaching me why I am the way I am and how I should be going about things differently. Seriously, thank you so much for having this free information and putting the effort in sharing
This is the best explanation i have heard of how trauma has affected me for most of my life (for the ladt 50yrs). I had all (& still have some) of the symptoms & sensations mentioned (without the drugs), & doctors over the years have not known what on earth is wrong sith me &have treatwd me like a parriah, even throwing me off their books - one telling me i was too ill for him to treat (& this from one who 'had a special interest' in trauma - which, by definition, surely means he had at least sone expertise in the field). I am thankful that i now have much more understanding of what is happening to my body & brain, & have some idea od how best to proceed with my healing journey, albeit late in the day. Also, most of those who caused all the stress & trauma have now passed away so i am no longer constantly in it. Thank you for sharing your knowledge & expertise with us - i, too, believe this sort of thing should be on the educational curriculum, & all those training in the medical profession should have this as part of their training, regardless of what field they choose in which to qualify. Thankbyou again.
Oooh!! And this reminds me of how cooling down after a high activity workout helps calm your body and gives you that nervous system rebound. That's a golden key right there. ❤
I have a Garmin sports watch that tells me the state of my autonomic nervous system. I've been using breathing exercises and resting to get into the parasympathetic system. It works.
Thank you for sharing that information. I will look into getting one. You may have helped a lot of people by taking the time to comment that. Much appreciation.
This series of talks explains why my life’s journey has been such a crazy ride despite enough counseling to straighten out a Slinky factory.
Haha that made me laugh - straighten out a slinky factory haha I’m 45 nearly n thought I’d heard it all haha
I've never connected to anything more than this video.
I grew up in a nice suburban house. I had all my physical needs taken care of - food, shelter, toys, etc. I’m 34 years old now and have been in therapy for almost 2 years now with debilitating anxiety / panic attacks.
Little T has a big impact on your nervous system. I was neglected and my parents were functioning alcoholics but I witnessed the self destructive behaviour. My baseline of operation for decades was suppression and hyper vigilance.
I’ve done a lot of healing in the last two years but it’s a long journey because of the toll on my body. Much love everyone!
Dozens times dozens of podcasts I’ve watched…why haven’t I heard this & why isn’t this taught to all,
Takes a mighty lot to impress me.
Starting with kids by the age of 13 yrs as a
& prioritised school subject. 🤙
"Connection" is important for our vagus nerve. And thats what they cut off in the "pandemic" for all people and we continue with our lifestyle.
Thank you for the video. I´m doing the boxbreathing to train my psns and implementing routines.
I read the Psalms KJV till relaxation .
Yes, that súper imposed awareness at all times is very tiring, I’m guilty of it. I sometimes have to do breathing exercises in order to relax and take anxiety away before I go to sleep.
I really love Tim's channel. It makes me feel human. 😮
You are truly God sent. Thank you for all your videos. You have provided me with the reasons why I am the way I am and now I can begin my healing journey. I can’t thank you enough. God bless you!
He just compiled the information laid out by those before us. And for that, I thank him.
Oh Tim, this is me for decades... thanks for sharing
Thanks for being the professional you are. This is very helpful for me. Having experienced many traumatic events, sometimes I feel paralyzed due to my sympathetic and parallel sympathetic nervous system is at war.
You just described me. I started getting sick at 27. Took Drs over 3 years to find out what was going on with me. I’ve had Fibromyalgia for 27 years now. I have osteoarthritis, Fatigue IBS, Diverticulitis, PTSD. severe insomnia due to so much pain and sickness. Also ai have other illnesses. I also have the Fear thing all the time. I went 2 weeks not sleeping a few times and that’s the scariest things ever because I have lost my mind. I’m 55 now and all these sicknesses get worse with age. I struggle so bad anymore. Since I got sick in the late 90s I was put through hell that Drs would say it’s all in your head and there was no such thing as Fibromyalgia. I even had an older Dr in her 60s that told me there’s no such thing as Fibromyalgia and she told me to go work in my garden and I would feel better. I was very pissed at adrs by the time I went to her. So now I was done with Drs. I went out bought me a computer and started my own Fibromyalgia research and I stopped going to Drs for Fibromyalgia. I helped myself and to this day I have a lot of knowledge to help myself the best still. Drs should never do what they did to me to anyone because we are already at our lowest trying to find relief of all the pain and sickness. We are seriously depressed because we no longer can work and struggle so hard to do anything. I’ve been on disability for 24 years now. I was 30 an got disability. No body wants this kind of life ever especially at my age. I got more depressed back then because I had 2 girls to support and now I could no longer work. Now living in chronic pain in my entire body for 27 years has made me use to it. I no longer allow it to control my life and I do what I can. If I can’t do much one day that’s perfectly ok. It may not be the life I wanted but it’s the life I was dealt with so I choose to be happy. Life is too short to allow chronic pain from illnesses to take your life away. So happy there is more knowledge about these illnesses.
Hi I’d just like to chime in with my fibromyalgia / chronic fatigue / ME experience.
I have it too. I got it about 5 years ago almost overnight, after being an active gym goer 4-5 times a week (haven’t been able to go since). I got so bad at one point I couldn’t walk my dog down the road without my whole body going into unbelievable exhaustion (like I’d just ran 10 marathons and then run over by a bus) for the next 2 days.
I’ve tried many medications, diet changes - everything. You name it, I’ve most likely tried it.
Now I’d gradually got slightly better - enough to where I could do house chores and walk my dog - nothing too physically demanding like lifting weights.
Well about a month ago I had a highly stressful experience and I plummeted - all life force drained from me.
Well I had an epiphany. What if it wasn’t physical (I know it feels very much physical). What if it was some crossed wires in the brain. What if telling myself that I’m sick so much that my body is believing it.
Well I thought f**k it. This is my last chance (I can’t handle a life of being bed bound. I wouldn’t endure that). And I’ve been trying my HARDEST to maintain positive thoughts. I’ve been telling myself every day, all day, that I am NOT sick. It’s just some silly miscommunication in my brain. The mind is an EXTREMELY POWERFUL thing.
Fast forward now. Im doing 15 pushups every other day, walking my dog twice a day, going a little further each time. All while telling myself I’m NOT sick. I AM getting better and I WILL have my life back.
I honestly cannot believe the progress I’ve made. Im exercising more than I have in 5 years all while going through the worst time in my life (that stressful event is ongoing, unfortunately).
Sorry for the essay, but if this helps at least 1 person, then I’ll be ecstatic; I know how torturous this condition is. I’ve almost ended it a couple times.
So glad I stumbled on this video - the algorithm is working for me because I’ve seen a couple others lately that supports everything I’ve said!!!!
PLEASE try it. And please BELIEVE IT. It is true. But you have to KNOW it is.
You are the placebo, Joe Dispenser
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The mind is a powerful thing. I get overwhelmed with depressive thoughts. Recently, I had a new development where the depression hit me so hard that my body hurt and I felt complete exhaustion. My mind tends to obsess and circle with negative thoughts so I have to distract myself. That particular night, I turned on the tv and watched a Christian comedian I had seen before named Tim Hawkins. I laughed so hard I couldn’t breathe. My body stopped hurting and the exhaustion left my body.
You literally just helped me, I can not thank you enough!! 🙌🏾🙏❤️❤️. I just realized I talk so negatively to myself, no wonder I’m having such harsh physical symptoms. Thank you so much for sharing your story❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.
@@shakirasmith6454 that’s amazing I’m so happy it’s helped you.
Our thoughts really are so powerful. May you continue to improve until full recovery, I know you will 🙏🤍
Thank you !! I really cannot express my gratitude for how you explained my traumatic life with a narcicist!
For all those for who this video resonates, may I recommend looking into breathwork. The way we breath after trauma changes and has an effect on our whole body, this is often without even realising how we are have picked up the habit of breathing incorrectly. Getting a better breathing pattern and using breathing practice can make a lot of difference to the nervous system.
Wow this explanation is best of I’ve heard about the cycle I’ve been on and my addiction to work/success and productivity and the recurring depression and anxiety. I’m following and will study this entire catalog to help myself make the necessary changes. The feeling of boredom when not being on the go is well explained and makes sense to me now. I am ready to live healthy. Thank you!
This is so amazing! After giving birth to my daughter alone in the hospital I never been the same again! From then on I become very workaholic after pregnancy! Because I need my daughter and me to survive! I work for hours and hours! After I lost my job I lost my body as well I suddenly get sick and have no energy to even get out of the bed my mind total shutdown! I realize i was not able to face my emotions during that time I brushed it off and just work now my body is overwhelmed with stress and fear! Im on the way to recovery and meditation helps a lot
I'M sorry 😢
This is exactly my situation. After having my daughter I was always working to provide stability and finally could afford a mortgage. Then disaster struck and I lost my job. Sunk into depression and old traumas resurfaced. I've quit my e-cig, and really listened to how other things might trigger me. If I don't do it now I'll go to that dark place again.
Good luck with your health and wishing you a happy, and calmer future ❤
This is such impactful teachings! I do see in our church the reverence for people who serve/give selflessly without boundaries and it can be quite discouraging for someone like me coming to understand complex trauma and its impact in my life.
This dialogue relays my upbring and general personality to a letter, I thought I had self regulated free of any substances to “ cope” , have introduced a lot of prayer into my life, probably to the same affect of meditation. But will try ur methods to see if I improve my “darker” times. I am grateful to have found this video, and am grateful for you shedding light on possible answers to questions, that I didn’t know to ask. Thank you.
I need this man as my therapist
Thank you so much for this very informative video.
I greatly appreciate you sharing what I had yet to hear from a medical doctor, psychiatrist and therapist. I have mostly felt shame because many of the recommended treatments did not relieve the chronic symptoms. Unfortunately, my body is not recovering. It baffles me how some people recover and some people don't.
What are your symptoms any pain
I understand what this means. Lord do we all need Gods help ❤
I remember reading an article in Psychology Today titled "Beyond Serotonin" which said that children exposed to trauma had changes in their nervous system, specifically the myelin sheath of the nerves which dissolved.
My mum had severe ms I have fybromyalgia surely it would show in mri like ms we both have asperger's which means nervous system us very perfectionist
Thank you so much this was the missing part of my puzzle 🎉🎉🎉
Excellent Excellent Video and very informative 👍
This is one of the best videos that speaks truth. It reigns in on my life so accurately. The beginning was actually a trigger as I’ve been dealing with this for about 8 years now. He gives great detail because he lived through it. Excellent awesome video. Thank you so much for God’s good grace and your family that got you through this to create such incredible insight and healing. Love you brother! Amen
Thank you for this video. It describes my father, myself and my oldest daughter. The insights offered here are like finding a precious jewel!