Re-Parenting - Part 52 - Stress

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  • @jenniferstanley2282
    @jenniferstanley2282 6 місяців тому +8

    Mr. Fletcher, you have done more to help my recovery than anyone, and we never even met. My BF and I love listening to your work together. Thank you for all you do!

  • @TarasTactics
    @TarasTactics 11 місяців тому +58

    Anyone else realize they get immediate comfort upon hearing, "Well, welcome back to another Friday night..." such a relief to know someone out there is explaining something so complex, in such a loving way. That he doesn't force anything on us, because a lifeguard throws out the raft, but we have to choose to take hold of it, so we dont drown. (Its exactly how gently God handles us, when we look for signs of it on our life.) He doesn't force anyone to join the second 1/2, and there is much good fruit in it. Thank you so very much for your time, sacrifice, and love, to choose to walk this path and offer healing to others. What a blessing in our lives and may God bless you. 💖✨️

    • @LOVEISTRUTH300
      @LOVEISTRUTH300 10 місяців тому +1

      💖💖💖

    • @MissiJade
      @MissiJade 6 місяців тому +1

      OMG yes I do. Every single time. It actually calms me down. I can't listen to many people discuss childhood abuse and abandonment because it makes me feel horrible about my childhood. I can listen to Tim for hours on end. Thank you for sharing this post because the comfort is absolutely amazing.
      I wish you well on your healing journey.

    • @agraves561
      @agraves561 2 місяці тому

      What a great comment. I totally agree ❤

  • @lori5946
    @lori5946 8 місяців тому +21

    I lived in flight or flight and freeze my whole life due to CPTSD. I have two autoimmune disorders. I changed my diet which helped some. I still had horrible stress, anxiety and depression. Almost 3 years working on recovery work. EMDR, IFS and DBT therapy has helped me so much. The turning point changing my belief system and recognizing all my parts. My inner critic, protectors and inner child. Reprocessing my traumas. Speaking my truth and know what is fact and not a story. My autoimmune is not as severe. I sleep deeper. I have less triggers. Practice healthy relationships.

    • @your-name-here.
      @your-name-here. 7 місяців тому +3

      EMDR was a game changer for me. ❤

  • @MrBenbenbenbenny
    @MrBenbenbenbenny 2 роки тому +70

    Stress is fascinating. Working with a loved one who has CPTSD I'm amazed at how well they can handle incredibly stressful medical situations woth poise and yet, seemingly smaller, stresses that occur in daily routines can set really deregulate them. I've seen that many people who suffer this trauma in childhood are uniquely gifted at handling these isolated stressful situations that others who are maybe more equiped woth day-to-day stresses can deal in acute situations.

    • @JT0007
      @JT0007 2 роки тому +8

      My CPTSD was an incredible advantage while I served in Afghanistan 🇺🇸

    • @MrBenbenbenbenny
      @MrBenbenbenbenny 2 роки тому +3

      @@JT0007 I can certainly see how. Thank you for your service!

    • @JT0007
      @JT0007 2 роки тому +3

      @@MrBenbenbenbenny I had been through so much worse as a kid. Before kindergarten I was going through things adults can’t handle. So war was easy: work hard, get fed. Nothing more. Simple and awesome. 🇺🇸

    • @mattng4707
      @mattng4707 11 місяців тому +1

      What do you mean ...so you mean like major Chaos but being shamed for somethings stupid at work we go off it

    • @joannelewis3390
      @joannelewis3390 11 місяців тому

      Thank you ❤️

  • @Muna-b8f
    @Muna-b8f Рік тому +30

    I dont think anybody explains it better than him.

  • @siskfamily6856
    @siskfamily6856 2 роки тому +34

    Tim Fletcher. You have changed my life. I understand things I never understood before. I feel like you have been peeking though the windows of my home listening to all your videos. If I had been raised with your version of Christianity I might still be a Christian. Thank you.

    • @jackierios2723
      @jackierios2723 Рік тому +9

      I’ve been away from religion since ‘89 Tim has given me a new understanding , he’s there waiting for us I turned my back on him he never walked away

    • @bv459
      @bv459 11 місяців тому +4

      Come back to Christianity! It's never too late, and Jesus loves you!

  • @crystalreed8971
    @crystalreed8971 9 місяців тому +7

    Yo who are you... why have you been showing up on my time line..
    Dang, had a moment of prayer with the university. And dang this is what i get.
    Universe all i am going to say is wow... and thank you..
    This guy is a gem...❤😊

  • @Ali76564
    @Ali76564 11 місяців тому +6

    God bless you for the efforts 🙏

  • @ishitabhushan9191
    @ishitabhushan9191 7 місяців тому +2

    Sending you much love and respect from India. I have watched almost all of your videos. They are like a balm to my wounded soul

  • @Ali76564
    @Ali76564 11 місяців тому +2

    Ypu are a source of joy and blessing to others.to the man on the video 😊

  • @chelseagiddens6513
    @chelseagiddens6513 9 місяців тому +5

    Watching this stresses me out

    • @MemeJustme-t8y
      @MemeJustme-t8y 7 місяців тому +1

      Facts but still helpful

    • @elanone1
      @elanone1 7 місяців тому +1

      He actually talks about this in a bunch of his videos because you may be triggered just by listening to recovery solutions. There is ways to go about recovery even though you triggered by going through it, some of them call for different methods of approach

  • @rascallyrabbit
    @rascallyrabbit 4 місяці тому +3

    he is wonderful but I just keep realizing how as a kid I received no coping skills, no communication skills, no skills for becoming an adult using my adult brain to make decisions. truly a hollow person with a body. I am so much better than I was 5 years ago, but sometimes I make a decision with my old brain behavior that causes problems. My adult brain deals with it, but I need to spend time slowing down to make better decisions.

  • @Ruby-wise
    @Ruby-wise 4 місяці тому

    Thank you so much Tim. I’m finding this very informative regarding my current health conditions!

  • @stephcarpediem
    @stephcarpediem Місяць тому

    Thank you sooooo much for this

  • @Belmont-d9z
    @Belmont-d9z 7 місяців тому +1

    There is always a Price to Pay with Winning or building one’s Life into a better one

  • @PatchworkFarmette
    @PatchworkFarmette Рік тому +5

    Thank you thank you thank you

  • @ChrisOgunlowo
    @ChrisOgunlowo 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @IndigoCosmic
    @IndigoCosmic 11 місяців тому +18

    Years of therapy and not one therapist told me that my trauma was complex.

    • @RaggedyA
      @RaggedyA 10 місяців тому

      That's because diagnosis is a sketchy declaration, nothing is truly cut and dried.

    • @debrakarr996
      @debrakarr996 10 місяців тому +7

      Unbelievable. I'm grateful that after 53 yrs of living I have found I'm damaged and working on myself for sure. I'm hurt and have no one to turn to now I know why I chose to be a loner Complex Trauma it's safer for sure. It sucks to be in my boat at the moment. Prayers to us all.

    • @raisasoto499
      @raisasoto499 7 місяців тому

      Science is still developing lol especially in mental health

    • @debrakarr996
      @debrakarr996 7 місяців тому +3

      Tim Fletcher is the best. You will learn more from him then all the therapist you have been seeing for years. He is free day or night. Crappy Childhood Fairy can help too. Therapist give you medicine that may not even be needed. Bet your still all messed up just getting better very slowly with the therapist. I have learned Prayers to you on your new journey.

  • @lifeisbeautiful7047
    @lifeisbeautiful7047 6 місяців тому

    Thank you so much

  • @TheBlackCat1337
    @TheBlackCat1337 2 роки тому +6

    I understand this is suppose to help, but I just have sever anxiety attacks from all the flash backs while you are discussing the situations.
    I've been so stressed from the caregivers that Im currently living in a gang controlled building were they torture me and threaten (both lethal) me all the time, and this isnt even as worse as my upbringing from infant-hood to mid 20s.
    How do I seek something a human is used to that I a nonhuman such as myself has never experienced before? How do develop how to see myself as something that should be cared for when all I ever been able to do all my life was care for others?

    • @Arcadius-tr8bm
      @Arcadius-tr8bm Місяць тому +2

      I don't know if any of this will help but as I write how I started working on my feelings of being worthless.
      The first step is to consciously decide that you are a valuable person. I did this by logical inference. Being a believer makes things easier because you can consider yourself valuable because God says so. But from the atheist side, you can consider consciousness/existence itself as something valuable. But for me it was 3 months of writing an hour/two at a time and verifying my beliefs. You won't change your emotions without changing your core beliefs/values. And that's something you have to sit down and work on.

    • @TheBlackCat1337
      @TheBlackCat1337 Місяць тому

      @@Arcadius-tr8bm I'm trying. thanks for the reply

  • @coconvvts
    @coconvvts 2 роки тому +3

    You seem to be in a challenging health state, wish you best

  • @chrleliu
    @chrleliu 11 місяців тому +3

    Makes me stressed watching this

    • @LaurieHeathStudio
      @LaurieHeathStudio 11 місяців тому +2

      I made it all the way to 30:00 before I had to come and say that the info is very helpful but his tone of voice is stressing me greatly

    • @chrleliu
      @chrleliu 11 місяців тому +2

      Yea he’s too serious lol, hope he try speaking and explaining in a more informal way

    • @imbolc8024
      @imbolc8024 9 місяців тому

      yes, i relate since he talks about 'all dangers' so seriously 😢, and i respect him super much, and i'm so so grateful; It's like saying to a person who feels scared or panic 'calm down', what many say at such moments, he is wiser than that. I'm afraid to watch it totally

  • @EmmanuelMoore-zn2il
    @EmmanuelMoore-zn2il Місяць тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @JuliaShalomJordan
    @JuliaShalomJordan 2 роки тому +4

    This is such a powerful teaching. Thank you and God bless u for taking the time to share.🤍

  • @petravazanska5707
    @petravazanska5707 8 місяців тому

    I have been living like this since 2016in terrible stress, because my ex husband promised me destruction since 2016 by taking my children and destroy me financially, he partly managed and now his threat will be fullfilled. My only help is antidepressants, I feel like I have a Shield around me. I only imagine that one day its will be over and I will die of some serious illness and finally find peace..

    • @Usernameblahblahnblah
      @Usernameblahblahnblah 7 місяців тому

      Oh no. I'm so sorry. I pray for God to bring you solutions that will lead to peace so your children can have their momma here with them. Seek Jesus. He has healed me from so much of what Tim talks about and he's still with me.

  • @yamicanada
    @yamicanada Рік тому +2

    ❤❤❤

  • @mattng4707
    @mattng4707 11 місяців тому

    You see my soul ..dam ..I just need a solution now ..

  • @mattng4707
    @mattng4707 11 місяців тому

    So the solution is to be healthy?

    • @Memkiss
      @Memkiss 8 місяців тому

      Listen closely to the part starting from 34:10

  • @gracechapel2464
    @gracechapel2464 Рік тому

    Christmas ads during this are stressing.

  • @JMSsssssss
    @JMSsssssss 2 роки тому +2

    Why is your audio echoing? I love Tim's topics but I just can't stand the echo.

  • @BipityBopityBettyBoop
    @BipityBopityBettyBoop 10 місяців тому +1

    Poor Jesus 😢 This world can really suck.

  • @estudio93
    @estudio93 9 місяців тому

    Excuse me I lost the video where I was talking to you from but there’s something I want to give as a gift back to you, being angry it’s not wrong team previous breaking shit, Being an anarchist is not incorrect being a warrior is fine being an activist it’s amazing you can fight all you want you can rage, But you do it with the armor of god. Being too nice sometimes doesn’t let you see the reality. One thing is being a narcissist and hurting people you love and then after high and cry about it. I actually have done this myself and in that case scenario you are correct. But now Don coming back to who I am and I’m not cast a punk a libertarian. We are libertarians we are the meek and we fight with the armor of god. Violence is nearly a 2 to keep the peace. I love you man and I really am thankful for many lessons but if a theory does not apply to 1st and second- world call traced it’s not true, It’s simply a false statement, For the same very reason that you support Yuridia and that is that the DMS5 is world wide. There’s a Self selfishness that you see in borderline that is just not comparable. And there’s another reason you can’t compare it like you did that is because complex CPTSD is neither a Psych gastric psychiatric nor psychological disease. See PTSD and complex CPTSD needs three stages state stage a or the first stage is always very intense and you would understand the others. Even if you don’t go to therapy or use medicine if you will heal a little, That is why is not recommended to use medicine psychiatric medicine if anyone is trying to heal it is important to recognize this three stages

  • @2012listo
    @2012listo 11 місяців тому +1

    Or, you could just take milkthistle and fix your liver and not feel stress anymore.
    I haven't felt anxiety or fear in any moving way for 17 years now. The herb also made me allergic to alcohol, tobacco and drugs like cocaine, all my friends, street urchin, who cares, and boy could I use a nice cold beer on a hot summer day! But I would reel at the thought, and it took me 15 years to be able to sip a non-alcoholic beer like 0.0 Heineken or a Sam Adam's Just The Haze.

    • @lora4624
      @lora4624 8 місяців тому

      Pls elaborate sir/madam

    • @2012listo
      @2012listo 8 місяців тому

      @@lora4624 ok. There is anecdotal evidence. For example;
      Cowards would run from the battle and catch a mortar or cannonball or trebuchet shot in the back and get splayed over the ground. After the battle when his friends would look to bury the dead they would find a large yellow thing where the liver should have been and exclaim "hey, look! He was LILLY LIVERED! He was a YELLA BELLIED COWARD!" All fear and anxiety comes from the liver.
      An old radio program called "The Great Gildersleeve" had uncle yell at Leroy for no reason at all. Leroy retorted "hey unc, what gives? I didn't do nuthin!" Anduncle Gildy said "I'm sorry my boy, I'm feeling a bit liverish... I think I need some Milkthistle tea."
      We used to know. Now, instead of getting some Milkthistle, we get a divorce. Or a gun.
      So not only am I fear and anxiety free, my liver was also the source of cravings for drugs and alcohol. I tried to drink and drug after taking milkthistle (1k MG each meal, 240 consecutive doses), but the effects were completely different, unpleasant, and painfully allergic feeling. Like a babies liver. Reminded me of sneaking one of grandpa's Pall Malls when I was young.
      The life I live now is free of fear and all vices. I make every decision in faith. I never guess. I'm good with going to hell. Good for the universe. I'm also good with piloting the Marovingian to the cross so I can pay for my sins and leave this insane asylum forever. Either way, Life wins. Good. Godspeed.

  • @KourtneyRichardson-s6w
    @KourtneyRichardson-s6w 4 місяці тому

    White Michael Wilson Carol Wilson Shirley

  • @Ali76564
    @Ali76564 11 місяців тому +4

    The devil tryed to kill me thru people and traumatic events

  • @BenzFarm-o9o
    @BenzFarm-o9o 9 місяців тому

    Funny how none of Gods actual holidays and feast days cause these issues that are caused by a satanic celebration called christmas...

  • @Ali76564
    @Ali76564 11 місяців тому +2

    People are also born into sin with sin nature and the devil takes advantage of people s minds

  • @markrusso8546
    @markrusso8546 9 місяців тому

    Simple observations with no solutions. Oh wait, those will cost you $2500.00. Real good Christian.

    • @juliaoconnor5688
      @juliaoconnor5688 8 місяців тому

      I suppose he does offer free UA-cam videos. It seems only the wealthy can have the tools😮

    • @juliaoconnor5688
      @juliaoconnor5688 8 місяців тому

      Tara brach offers free help

    • @juliaoconnor5688
      @juliaoconnor5688 8 місяців тому

      It is only for the wealthy it seems😮

  • @jenniferstanley2282
    @jenniferstanley2282 6 місяців тому +2

    Mr. Fletcher, you have done more to help my recovery than anyone, and we never even met. My BF and I love listening to your work together. Thank you for all you do!