Healing From Complex Trauma, featuring Tim Fletcher

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  • Complex trauma arises from a history of being deprived of healthy ingredients due to ongoing impositions of unhealthy patterns. Tim is an expert on the topic and brings his decades of experience to us as he explains the origins of this pattern while offering hope for long-term recovery.
    Tim Fletcher is the Founder and President of RE/ACT (Recovery Education for Addictions and Complex Trauma). Originally starting his career as an engineer, Tim later became a pastor, but after experiencing depression and burnout, he transitioned into counseling at addiction treatment centers.
    Through his work, Tim recognized a gap in the tools available to truly help individuals struggling with addiction and complex trauma. He devoted himself to finding and developing practical resources that people could not only understand but also apply in a safe, supportive environment-a skill he’s become well-known for. Tim has a unique ability to take complex psychological concepts and break them down into actionable, easy-to-understand steps.
    In his early career, Tim discovered that 97% of addicts also suffered from Complex Trauma (C-PTSD), aligning with research from Dr. Gabor Maté. His deep dive into C-PTSD revealed that childhood experiences of feeling unsafe or unloved cause lasting mental health challenges and coping mechanisms, including addiction. His research also highlighted the physical differences in brain development between individuals raised in nurturing homes and those who were not, before addiction even took hold.
    Tim developed seminars around his findings, including his "12 Basic Needs" and "60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma," offering critical insights into mental health and trauma recovery. His work is rooted in personal experience as well, as he and his family have all faced various forms of mental illness and addiction. His dedication to service comes from this deeply personal journey of healing and recovery.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 204

  • @shylohmonster
    @shylohmonster 2 місяці тому +143

    How fortunate we are for a dream team like this.

  • @carospereman3537
    @carospereman3537 2 місяці тому +116

    Tim Fletcher - - another awesome Canadian helping others in healing and dealing with mental health. Mr. Fletcher has figured out that trauma is the core problem of these issues.

    • @SurvivingNarcissism
      @SurvivingNarcissism  2 місяці тому +27

      Yes...I really enjoyed meeting him!

    • @user-sg8wf5qo9s
      @user-sg8wf5qo9s 2 місяці тому +7

      What a coincidence it is that so many people from all over the world watch both of the speakers! There's so much love and kindness in this collab! Cheers from Crimea, Russia!

  • @donnag.3611
    @donnag.3611 13 днів тому +2

    WHAT A GREAT INTERVIEW!!! THE LIFT PROGRAM IS WHERE I WAS ABLE TO CONNECT TO OTHERS FOR THE FIRST TIME. THERE'S NOT MANY PEOPLE OUT HERE THAT CAN BE A GOOD CONNECTION FOR RECOVERING PEOPLE!

  • @priyachen
    @priyachen 15 днів тому +2

    I came across tim and started learning his knowledge. He is a great therapist. I learn a lot from him. Its good to look at all sides of the problem especially if you been victim of a narcissist and do not wish to fall into the trap of anger or adopting their trauma as they project it. It helps remaining humble and compassionate, and healing oneself out of the situation without harming anyone else. The problem with violence is it's a circle that keeps growing, unless we grow out of it and stop it. I find that the combination of learning from both sides gives a greater understanding that enables such resolution

  • @carospereman3537
    @carospereman3537 2 місяці тому +64

    Thank you for having Tim Fletcher on your show Dr. C.

  • @Rut-vi7iz
    @Rut-vi7iz 2 місяці тому +46

    I found Tim Fletcher about 8 months ago and can't get enough of his content. I have learned so much about narcissism from so many of you. And then when I found Mr. Fletcher's work, I finally began to understand the "why" from my end of the equation of being in a narcissistic relationship. I also began to delve more deeply into understanding my own "reactive abuse" and had to face the truth that not all of my reactive abuse was caused by the narcissist in front of me, but also because of my upbringing, which was more garden variety toxic than narcissistic. My parents were not alcoholic either. So in the past, I have struggled to accept my own shortcomings, because I didn't understand complex trauma. I have learned that so many things can lead to a person developing complex trauma and going on to get involved with narcissist people, perhaps taking on characteristics themselves.
    Anyway, the mental health world needs to give Mr. Fletcher and his work their immediate and undivided attention. He is unlocking a new path to healing for so many.

    • @JackieFerrell-f6o
      @JackieFerrell-f6o 2 місяці тому +2

      I think your words are just so beautiful and have helped me to have more insight into my own issues.

  • @heathermixson1265
    @heathermixson1265 2 місяці тому +56

    One hell of a dynamic duo right here....thank you both ❤

  • @PappiPlantP
    @PappiPlantP 11 днів тому +2

    My boys on the collabo !! 🔥

  • @michelepascoe6068
    @michelepascoe6068 2 місяці тому +12

    When we fail, "go to compassion and curiosity". Why did I react that way? What would a healthier response have been? Practice that. And be kind to yourself. (Don't beat up the wounded child.) Thanks Tim Fletcher.
    And Dr Carter is doing a fantastic job at meeting our unmet needs by educating us (with love and understanding), and connecting us with others who understand and don't judge us harshly, by inviting us to be part of Team Healthy. Wonderful!

  • @ChildoftheLIGHT
    @ChildoftheLIGHT 2 місяці тому +46

    Thank you for inviting Tim. His thorough series on trauma(available on UA-cam) is excellent. I’ve learned loads from you both, so God bless each of you.🩶

  • @RootBound505
    @RootBound505 2 місяці тому +26

    Top two in the field! Neither uses triggering language or attitudes in their presentations. Love love love!

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Місяць тому

      I have lots of triggers but I realized that they are a map of discovery even from the trauma you can't remember. Triggers point at the wounds we need to heal although they are painful and discouraging.

  • @JackieFerrell-f6o
    @JackieFerrell-f6o 2 місяці тому +21

    Thank-you, Dr. Carter. This has been very helpful. I suffer from complex trauma because of having a narcissistic father and a mother who blamed me for her unhappiness and was also emotionally and physically abusive, too. I became a people pleaser, didn't set good boundaries because I didn't know anything about boundaries. Rather than become a narcissist, I became an empath. To endure my abuse, I created 32-33 different personalities. (I'm down to one now). My ex-husband became a malignant narcissist. What a combination. As an empath, I also suffer with shame all the time, too. Hearing "once the shame heals, the narcissism starts to disappear." Just wow. And explaining healing from the pain - that we need a place that is safe to be able to heal. I also don't have hope. I didn't realize this is what I have been feeling all my life. As I heal from narcissistic abuse, I'm also healing from childhood abuse. It's quite a process. I think this podcast is excellent, Dr. Carter.

  • @susanbennetttellstales7998
    @susanbennetttellstales7998 2 місяці тому +13

    Wow, I can't believe how much I learned in half an hour. Having trauma of both the little t and big T varieties, I sought therapy on three separate occasions but never succeeded in finding help. Released from an unhealthy relatsionship, I lived alone for the first time in my life and then my progress was head spinning. As a somatic experience, the pain and anger I experienced during that time of intense growth couldn't be said to be fun, but I quickly learned that dark nights, when either pain or anger seemed unendurable, gave way to bright mornings, like seeing the world for the first time, and just how beautiful it was. I quit therapy on the last occasion when it became painfully obvious that the therapist was doing me more harm than good. Even when it became apparent I had raging PTSD, she insisted that happy thoughts would lead to happy feelings, rather than attempt to get to the bottom of why I felt that way. I learned to do the opposite of what she ordered to me to do, rejecting that staple of CBT - 'thoughts affect feelings' in favour of understanding that feelings also affect thought, and showing regard for my own feelings. That way led to progress. It felt so good to hear these two fine gentlemen articulate and explain a period of growth I managed for myself but didn't fully understand. And I so appreciate professionals who can disseminate complex concepts in such down to earth terms. Thank you so much.

  • @sophiafara5997
    @sophiafara5997 Місяць тому +2

    Tim helps make complex subjects more digestible. Thank you for this.

  • @HisAmbassador7
    @HisAmbassador7 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you generals. ♥️

  • @GypsyJulie
    @GypsyJulie 2 місяці тому +23

    Both of you have helped me so much! Once I learned I was raised in a narcissist family system it all made sense. I have quit drinking, smoking cigs and pot. Thank you Dr C and Tim!

  • @keariewashburn4680
    @keariewashburn4680 2 місяці тому +20

    Tim Fletcher and Dr Carter are so amazing and help so much! ❤

  • @alexastirling4385
    @alexastirling4385 Місяць тому +2

    This made me cry. I grew up with a narcissist mother, married a narcissist man and I have spent my life beating myself up.

  • @RobertEsparza-zc2ou
    @RobertEsparza-zc2ou 2 місяці тому +15

    I had to say, o my god, thank you two dudes

  • @Charlotte_breathes_fire
    @Charlotte_breathes_fire 2 місяці тому +7

    It's like when superheroes join forces. I get all giddy. Especially these two. OMG❤

  • @KhamsinUntamed
    @KhamsinUntamed Місяць тому +1

    My 2 fav teachers together … for ppl who are actually investing in healing, this is a dream come true!

  • @PennyVlahon
    @PennyVlahon Місяць тому +4

    You both are incredible healers! My whole life has changed FOR THE BETTER after listening to and applying both of your teachings. THANK you both!

  • @JimikaEvans
    @JimikaEvans 2 місяці тому +13

    Always remembering trauma is where my healthcare starts and must remain diligent in putting it first. ❤

  • @ayaabramson
    @ayaabramson Місяць тому +2

    Fabulous interview! 🙏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏Please keep these coming! Everything Tim says is so valuable to so many who are suffering with low self esteem due to childhood trauma and neglect specially veterans who gave everything to their country and our suffering, terribly with war wounds, emotional trauma, and challenging relationship situation to no fault of their own

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Місяць тому

      The beginning of the research for understanding PTSD was because of war veterans although at first they called it shell-shock after WWI.
      Before that, the first psychologists were writers. I guess that's why I have always been fond of Dostoevsky's books. The portraits of the characters of his books are magnificent.

  • @barbpace-lamb
    @barbpace-lamb 20 днів тому +2

    Great guest repeat please….

  • @ecouter3897
    @ecouter3897 Місяць тому +2

    Tim has absolutely changed my life and contributed to my healing in the last year. I’ve been searching for years - and no one has articulated my experience, symptoms, and solution like he has. To say I am deeply grateful for the transformative power of his understanding and ability to communicate CPTSD is an understatement. Sincerely, Emily

    • @anner.413
      @anner.413 Місяць тому

      Quite the discovery, wasn't it? I feel the same. It was Patrick Teahan who caught my eye in the first place. But Tim and Dr C followed soon after. All these people do a stalwart job. I love them so much for it.

  • @wendychavez5348
    @wendychavez5348 Місяць тому +1

    Finally I understand the difference in terminology! I always thought "big T trauma" and "little T trauma" were misnomers, because they're both BIG, and often complex trauma is "bigger" than reactive trauma. The way you explained it makes perfect sense, I see now that most of my trauma is Big T trauma, though it's been a thing since I was an adolescent more than 35 years ago. The people in my life have been amazing, even the narcissist that I dated for 5 years had a positive impact once I figured out how to process his negative influence. The car accident and traumatic brain injury limited my ability to recognize or react to the narcissistic trauma, though my other connections supported me until I was able to wiggle away from him. Thank you, Doctors, for offering your support!

  • @elizabethmansfield3609
    @elizabethmansfield3609 2 місяці тому +6

    Completely brilliant, just about everything I’d want said is here, so I’ll be recommending this one!! Only one small point: there are a range of long term problematic behavioural outcomes with c-ptsd, not just addiction, or taking on the narcissism of a seeming narcissistic parent, or the heartlessness of a (ceo-type) psychopathic parent. There are others, most notably dissociation and social withdrawal.

    • @michelepascoe6068
      @michelepascoe6068 2 місяці тому

      I expect those will be among the 60 characteristic results they mentioned 🙂

  • @theselfwithinus
    @theselfwithinus 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you so much for having Tim Fletcher on your channel! He is THE voice of how to recover from CPTSD. Thousands have healed under his wise guidance and programs.

  • @musicandwellbeing
    @musicandwellbeing Місяць тому +1

    “Developing fake intimacy” this is so insightful !

  • @shylohmonster
    @shylohmonster 2 місяці тому +13

    Thank you so much, fellas.

  • @jenniferjohnson3970
    @jenniferjohnson3970 Місяць тому +1

    Wow. My 2 favorite guys to listen to on one video! Great work both of you! I have learned so much from you both. I am single and happy. So glad you two connected! God bless you both!

  • @writer1986
    @writer1986 2 місяці тому +6

    When I divorced my ex, I took to social media to explain to friends and family that the marriage never worked out bc my ex is emotionally immature but I don't blame him bc of the generational trauma in his family (I'm not explaining this to one person at a time). My ex-FIL asked me what my "motives" were. So glad I left that family because EVERYTHING they did had a motive; nothing was unconditional. I blocked everyone on that side of the family since and only contact my ex about our children.

  • @kathyjudson6754
    @kathyjudson6754 2 місяці тому +5

    The man Tim Fletcher who has changed my life ..As well as Dr.Carter 😊

  • @yvonnebasson8652
    @yvonnebasson8652 2 місяці тому +5

    7 months free from the narcissist, still healing, I have a lot of anger, and when someone is just a little disrespectful I'm immediatly angry, and tell them that they have no respect😢😢

    • @Ishana_Intuitive
      @Ishana_Intuitive Місяць тому +1

      Me too. And I get so angry about the people on the street. They are so disrespectful.

  • @haliec496
    @haliec496 Місяць тому +2

    When I left an abusive relationship, someone called him a narcissist. I'd never heard of the word. I researched it and quickly found out that not only was he one, but my father was too. I was 47 yrs old when I found this out. I literally had a mental break and cptsd for 2 years afterwards. It broke open my world in the most catastrophic way. Thankfully, by listening to these interviews, I don't feel alone, or crazy.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Місяць тому

      You are not alone although people with cptsd isolate ourselves and it reminds me of a sentence about introverts; united introverts, which sounds like an oxímoron.
      We are not crazy, we are wounded and there are a whole bunch of people who are too but they don't know it yet and unfortunately, we can't even help them because it will be triggering for them and they will deny it. For some unknown reason; not everyone has reached rock bottom and we can't even advise them. Luckily, you paid attention to what that person said to you but that doesn't happen for everyone.
      I wish therapists would talk more about what happens when two people with cptsd get together because it can feel like a war zone, no matter how much both of them need the company.

  • @Jayy_Pea
    @Jayy_Pea 2 місяці тому +3

    Tim Fletcher was incredible for me at the beginning of my CPTSD healing journey. Saved me during a 9 month wait for therapy and continues to inform and encourage me to this day. Great stuff from you both, thanks.

  • @TruthandJustice-hz9nv
    @TruthandJustice-hz9nv 2 місяці тому +4

    Thank you so much to the both of you for this, Absolutely tremendous, I've been off alcohol nearly 5years and working on my inner state, Healing is beautiful and I can recognize unhealthy easier now, I'm not letting anyone interfere with my healing journey, Peace, love and respect to you both, Gu's and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory praise and smiles to the most high :-)

    • @sissi8610
      @sissi8610 2 місяці тому

      Congratulations! I wish I could! It's slowly killing me. A young body handles booze a lot easier, but an older body....the toxins aren't so easily handled anymore. I never liked AA, counselling didn't help either. How did you stop? What helped you?

    • @TruthandJustice-hz9nv
      @TruthandJustice-hz9nv 2 місяці тому

      @@sissi8610 Thank you for your kindness, Much appreciated, :-) It was my will power, determination and strength, I wish you well in your healing and recovery journey, Peace, love and respect to you, Have a pleasant day :-)

  • @victoriarosario3338
    @victoriarosario3338 2 місяці тому +3

    Thank you Tim Fletcher and Dr. Carter! This was a wonderful program and I so appreciate how clearly I can understand how CPTSD and Narcissism is explained here. Thank you both!

  • @shemaisrael1258
    @shemaisrael1258 Місяць тому +2

    I love these two men, and Dr Ramani 💝 thank you for all you do and share.

  • @julienatoli8561
    @julienatoli8561 2 місяці тому +5

    Dr Carter I cannot thank you enough for this video!! Your guest Tim Fletcher was extremely informative and helpful!! 🙌🕊️🕊️🕊️

  • @chinavee
    @chinavee Місяць тому +1

    My two favorite OGs, thanks Les & Tim!

  • @well_weathered
    @well_weathered 2 місяці тому +5

    I will be listening to this on repeat! So much here to digest! Thank you both, Dr Carter and Tim Fletcher. ❤️🌹✨️

  • @BemaSeatAcademy
    @BemaSeatAcademy 2 місяці тому +42

    ULTIMATE DREAM TEAM ❤❤❤ MY FAVORITE TWO ❤❤❤ just add dr Ramani and the earth will shake

    • @SurvivingNarcissism
      @SurvivingNarcissism  2 місяці тому +13

      Do a search inside my channel and you find Dr. Ramani on two interviews.

    • @IM8.
      @IM8. 2 місяці тому +3

      @@BemaSeatAcademy You read my mind, exactly my thoughts! 😉❤️

    • @amandaliverpool3374
      @amandaliverpool3374 2 місяці тому +4

      I've seen the Dr. Ramani interviews. They're brilliant 🤗

    • @coach_amy
      @coach_amy 2 місяці тому +4

      Agree, but I'd add Richard Grannon to the duo.

    • @BemaSeatAcademy
      @BemaSeatAcademy 2 місяці тому +4

      @@SurvivingNarcissism love you Doc! I've seen em! I meant as a roundtable! Thank you for all you do, you are helping me survive a devastating discard

  • @SelfLoveExperiment_de
    @SelfLoveExperiment_de Місяць тому +4

    This was so incredibly helpful!! Thank you both for providing helpful, meaningful content on trauma healing!

  • @sarafantaye9591
    @sarafantaye9591 2 місяці тому +2

    Oh My Gosh ... Mr. Tim and Dr. C ....this is so amazing !!! Thank you 🙏 both of you.

  • @Suzanne.574
    @Suzanne.574 2 місяці тому +8

    Good morning, how very helpful!

  • @djlykaen
    @djlykaen 2 місяці тому +4

    Love seeing these two great men collabing, looking forward to seeing Tim this Saturday!

  • @sunrayrosin7181
    @sunrayrosin7181 2 місяці тому +3

    Tim Fletchers work and his react friday nights have become one of the leaders for people in this field. I shared Tim’s work with my own therapist who works with complex trauma and that opened new doorways for the entire group. I’m an adult survivor and complex trauma is part of who I am. However , the react program has been an essential tool for me and others to help us to better understand ourselves and the people all around us better. I know that that re-act Friday nights are about the best series for any recovering person of abuse, neglect, and deep emotional and spiritual trauma. Thank you both for your work. I subscribe to both your channels. Aloha from Hawai’i too.

  • @janicetorto887
    @janicetorto887 Місяць тому +1

    My first trauma was being repeatedly being molested by an older cousin, he tortured small animals, and then not being treated, coupled with not receiving the nurturing I needed,
    That was only the beginning
    Big traumas, I resonate with everything you're saying Tim
    Just been through it with an online scammers, narcissistic romance, and I am shattered

    • @SurvivingNarcissism
      @SurvivingNarcissism  Місяць тому

      You deserved none of that. You deserve DRC...dignity, respect, civility. That's what we stand for here on #TeamHealthy.

  • @susanbennetttellstales7998
    @susanbennetttellstales7998 2 місяці тому +2

    Those definitions of trauma were crystal clear.

  • @musicandwellbeing
    @musicandwellbeing Місяць тому +1

    This is so insightful and feels true. I am observing this unraveling right now in my life.

  • @NumeroUnoYo
    @NumeroUnoYo 2 місяці тому +5

    Wow, 2 of my favorite people coming together for an interview!! Cool

  • @BaraSchmidt
    @BaraSchmidt 2 місяці тому +5

    Healing help from 2 of the most engaged and expertly skilled folks around. So many takeaways and ah has! Many thanks! Healthy Help Helps!

  • @SuperAngela1226
    @SuperAngela1226 Місяць тому +2

    So very helpful

  • @misskhateralove
    @misskhateralove Місяць тому +1

    Thank you Dr. Carter, I love Tim Fletcher and his work. His videos have helped me very much over the years and I really enjoyed this interview!! 💗

  • @jeankipper6954
    @jeankipper6954 2 місяці тому +7

    Two of my favorite teachers on CPTSD. SO appreciated!
    Thank you so much. ❤

  • @karengrafelman9882
    @karengrafelman9882 Місяць тому +1

    2 of my favorite men together! Love it!

  • @familychromebook1852
    @familychromebook1852 Місяць тому +1

    What he's talking about is what happened to me. I have spent my whole life trying to understand some things that happened in my family of origin. This explains a lot and helps me understand both myself and the family I have been so hurt by better. Although they hurt me, I feel such pain in regards to their suffering. I see that they experienced the same things I did. It was passed on and it breaks my heart. This has given me a lot to think about.

  • @jenn_jean_kent_artist
    @jenn_jean_kent_artist Місяць тому +2

    Two of my favorites in one video!!🎉🎉

  • @surlif
    @surlif 2 місяці тому +2

    Two of the most influential men of our era.

  • @martam.4967
    @martam.4967 2 місяці тому +1

    I hit the liked button before even watching the interview! :) I've been watching Dr.C and Tim for the last few years and ....I want to say to both of you ...THANK YOU!!! Putting the videos filled with knowledge and simple, clear approaches helped me beyond the words can express. 3 years of my healing were very productive, thanks to you.

  • @mint_soup9743
    @mint_soup9743 2 місяці тому +4

    What a treat. Thank you two

  • @sfalz6756
    @sfalz6756 Місяць тому +1

    Yess!! Two great teachers, amazing content.

  • @nadianinio4572
    @nadianinio4572 Місяць тому +1

    Great encounter between two wonderful teachers

  • @IamKetra2you
    @IamKetra2you 2 місяці тому +5

    Blessings from Detroit

  • @Cologal60
    @Cologal60 2 місяці тому +6

    My family is from Ontario and Quebec. Hey!!!

  • @Kemano24
    @Kemano24 Місяць тому +1

    I would really like to hear Tim Fletcher's take on parental alienation, or induced attachment dysfunctions in divorced families.

  • @Juamo-tn8we
    @Juamo-tn8we 2 місяці тому +2

    My two favorite men on the internet!

  • @peggyerickson2549
    @peggyerickson2549 2 місяці тому +2

    Thanks to both of u!!!

  • @michellepurcell8703
    @michellepurcell8703 2 місяці тому +5

    Brilliant podcast. Really interesting topic

  • @betsyb.4441
    @betsyb.4441 2 місяці тому +7

    Hello from Kansas City 🌆 Missouri

  • @dmix2263
    @dmix2263 2 місяці тому

    I’m so so excited to hear this episode! Tim Fletcher is amazing! As are you Dr Carter- the two of you together- outstanding! 1:39

  • @A_T_O_M_I_C_Rooster
    @A_T_O_M_I_C_Rooster 2 місяці тому +4

    I really like Mr. Fletcher.

  • @karmatoys
    @karmatoys 2 місяці тому +2

    I hope this will be one of many podcasts with both of you !❤ Great information.❤

  • @TAnderson-s1i
    @TAnderson-s1i 2 місяці тому +3

    Love you into a healthier place ❤❤sounds like a job for God❤

  • @fairygurl9269
    @fairygurl9269 2 дні тому +1

    Much Respect 🙏

  • @Peachy_Pea_007
    @Peachy_Pea_007 2 місяці тому +1

    BRAVO! Love Tim Fletcher & listen to him often. His work, like yours, is EXCELLENT! Thank you, Dr. C!

  • @Rachel-mz8ko
    @Rachel-mz8ko 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you, Dr. C. I actually watched this on the day it was released but haven't had time to comment. Ditto for the other videos released recently. But be sure I'll be circling back and reviewing and checking out Tim Fletcher's website. My husband's insecurities are keeping me very busy right now. Unfortunately, I'm finding that narcs continue to be exhausting even when you're trying to be compassionate. and supportive. I don't sense that he's in a manipulative phase-- just insecure.

  • @nekeploey4156
    @nekeploey4156 2 місяці тому +3

    Thank you for this collab. Super helpful.

  • @Qhht.Illinois
    @Qhht.Illinois День тому +1

    Amazing 🙏❤️💯 thank you both!! Subscriber to both of you has changed my life🙏

  • @anner.413
    @anner.413 Місяць тому +1

    What a dream team ❤

  • @eph2vv89only1way
    @eph2vv89only1way 2 місяці тому +4

    I've had people tell me that I need to give myself the same breaks I give other people

    • @amandaliverpool3374
      @amandaliverpool3374 2 місяці тому +1

      @@eph2vv89only1way Indeed. We don't give ourselves enough pats on the back 🧡

  • @familychromebook1852
    @familychromebook1852 Місяць тому +1

    Such a great interview!

  • @amandaliverpool3374
    @amandaliverpool3374 2 місяці тому +4

    Much food for thought.

    • @caroleminke6116
      @caroleminke6116 2 місяці тому +1

      What a great dialogue from a great duo of love 💔❤️‍🩹♥️

    • @amandaliverpool3374
      @amandaliverpool3374 2 місяці тому

      @@caroleminke6116 Definitely🕊❤️‍🩹✨️

  • @helenenorman3598
    @helenenorman3598 2 місяці тому +4

    Blessings from Sweden 🇸🇪

  • @anner.413
    @anner.413 Місяць тому +1

    Oh, Dr C stands for DRC, dignity respect and civility! Now that is sweet and clever, I wasn't aware of that. 😊

  • @brucefriedman1
    @brucefriedman1 2 місяці тому +4

    The Internet has brought the effect of unresolved pain to our mobile devices. We are literally carrying around the dysfunction of others. Let that sink in.

  • @silviaconjar1184
    @silviaconjar1184 2 місяці тому +1

    amazing conversation, thank you

  • @SashaStreams
    @SashaStreams 2 місяці тому +5

    Already following both of you 🥳

  • @Tassie71
    @Tassie71 2 місяці тому +1

    So well explained, thank you.

  • @anonymouscm7270
    @anonymouscm7270 2 місяці тому +3

    Many thanks🙏🌷🕊💝🤗

  • @mday3821
    @mday3821 2 місяці тому +1

    My mother was Dx with NPD and she died being a NPD. No matter how much pain she had she never looked at herself!
    I have been Dx with Complex-PTSD and blame myself for everything that went wrong in my life.

  • @fanfarestrings8460
    @fanfarestrings8460 2 місяці тому +3

    I say they also cause a person not only simple 'not trust' issues but placing trust in the wrong people.

  • @nannajulies
    @nannajulies Місяць тому +1

    Really interesting thank you

  • @shawnamartin8505
    @shawnamartin8505 2 місяці тому +3

    I am suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome. Im just burnt out, I can't recharge i am feeling sick all day everyday. I have no strength.

  • @amywoodson1623
    @amywoodson1623 2 місяці тому +1

    This was very helpful.

  • @woopiemiddleman8232
    @woopiemiddleman8232 2 місяці тому +3

    The narc will actually ask “what is wrong with me?” Shocking! I thought they will only ask what’s wrong with you? They feel pain and can consciously becoming a reasonable person? How many narcissists have ever turned around by doing any self reflection?

    • @bereal6590
      @bereal6590 2 місяці тому +1

      None that I know of TBF.

  • @PixieCropCircleDuster
    @PixieCropCircleDuster 2 місяці тому +1

    This was so good! Tim made me cry when he talked about bringing a parent a cup of coffee metaphor. Was curious about his addiction recovery program, the name(s) again please and under what terms & conditions can garden variety addicts access it/them? Thanks Guys ❤

  • @Ivan-bf2jx
    @Ivan-bf2jx 2 місяці тому +2

    What a compliment to the Dr.C's teaching.