5 Subconscious Things You Do That Make Others Ignore You
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- Do you constantly feel like whatever you say falls on deaf ears? Are you puzzled why people ignore you all the time? But what if it is due to something you may be doing? It’s a truth universally acknowledged that having good and healthy relationships can make you a relatively happier person when compared to others. An environment where you are constantly getting ignored can have a negative impact on how you think of yourself and others. This is especially true if you are not aware of why they do so. Do you think there might be some habits you might have that cause people to ignore what you say?
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it's really cute :0 💖
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its great as always!
I HATE how the good people always have a hard time with things
True :((
And because of this, they don't even try anymore after a certain period of time, meaning good people can't find each other
@@tavrosnitram1529 💯!!
I'm glad I got my few good people with me...but we are not a group? So they are just my individuals friends, it is tough
@@micaelaclifford2729 Introduce them all and form your group :)
People don't just ignore me, they outright forget I'm even present.
Felt that
Me too
so relatable
Ouch. That was so relatable it actually hurt.
AHH SAME MAN! 🤐
It's difficult to feel positive and confident when people are ignoring you, intentionally or not.
@@azart61what a load of bollocks
@@azart61 nah
I know
Sometimes I can muster some positivity, but it’s never long before some rejection comes to knock me back down
It’s true
Even when u care for everyone you are ignored
When you want to give everyone a chance to speak you are ignored
When you are always positive ,smiling and happy no one is interested in what you are trying to say
Your friends are giving everyone else their attention and you are no longer their priority it hurts.
It hurts even more when you are going through all of this and you are part of a trio ( but remember there is a always a duo in the trio )
I try to bring up the good in me but then i shut because I am always the problem .
Ditto
They get up and leave when I say something...
😢
V.few people are my friends
Sounds like you need to get better friends or better yet ditch the ones you've got and just be by yourself and do your own thing. Ain't nothing wrong with being your own best friend. When they start seeing that you want nothing to do with them they'll come knocking at your door wondering why it is you don't want anything to do with them and just tell them, you people don't want me around so don't talk to me. Go ahead and free yourself. that'll really throw them off guard.
I feel that I think that sometimes constantly keeps happening to me and I was once in a group of five friend but the they mad duos and I was by myself at the end of the day except my one friend. I once got into an argument with one I usually do and all my other “friends” just went to comfort the other one and completely forgot about me and did not care about me except that one friend and one other person
Same
Yes true. I've been alone for almost two years then i found a new friends. Dunno if they'll be the same or not :v
"Your presence doesn't grab attention"
Me: Oh that's just sad
b3 C0nf1D3nt
@@fernandatorga3554 My pride will, it is the most important
so idk how i commented here when i clicked on a post 2 comments up but ok youtube thanks, hi person getting this notif probably confused as hell
so every comment i comment on gets pushed down a comment, i tried to comment on the one above again and it pushed it back down here and i cant delete the message, youtube is so incredibly broken its insane
@@sunnywunny yeah u too
@@sunnywunny bro my brain
I just really hate being the kind of guy that genuinely likes listening to people and how they feel but no one gives a wet shit about what I have to say. Cranks the loneliness to 11.
Same with me😣
Same.
Same bro
Yea
The fact that you used the phrase “no one gives a wet shit” here has already grabbed MY attention and I only want to hear more!
I had a friend in high school who was not only ignored but judged because he was awkward, quiet, and was always failing in school work, like people always thinks of him as a failure negative guy, ya know someone you should not be friends with, but he really wasnt a negative guy, he would always help me and he was really friendly, like really friendly, i really like him as a friend because we would always talk about life or even show our true self to each other with no worries.
You still friends with him?
Keep him he sounds like a rare gem
Shit, that is soo me!
The fact that the viewers feel they're being ignored gives me positivity cause all of them are like me. 😊
Yea!! I hope your doing Okay now, this happened to me today 😢it's just an awful feeling honestly
@@Nini-vj8swI'm so sorry it happened to you 🤍 these people, me, and you deserve better
I get ignored by my friends everyday 😢 someone finally gets the feeling I always have :
I've been ignored my entire life. I'm learning to embrace it and become a loner.
@@chocolateart7069 aww :( don't worry I believe that people who have been alone are strong ones! Your strong I like that :)
"You overthink what you're going to say"
It's hard not to overthink when you dont want to accidentally offend other people and makes yourself look like a total clown :(
Fr! Especially nowadays since people are so sensitive🙄
@@jacky611 sometimes i get offended by people, so maybe that's why i keep overthink because I don't want to do the same thing to others ;-;
@@krustycrab8543 same here
Someone told me once that "I wasn't speaking my mind when talking" so I said to her "I don't think you know me" and that bitch now doesn't let me speak my mind otherwise she gets offended 😫😫 And now she is hanging out a lot with my bestie/soulsister cause I introduced her to her when I didn't know who she truly was. I can't with this anymore...
Yeah, I feel like I kept saying simple/obvious things that make the conversation meaningless. I feel like an idiot.
#6 You're too nice. People mistake it as thirst or desperation, when in fact some people are just good hearted without all the extra BS.
You can be nice, but dont let yourself get walked all over either. There isnt such thing as too nice. Its just that people who are like that tend to get stomped on and dont know how to take it other than to stop being nice, which is sad.
@@zonyae29047 Used to be like that growing up till I realized how much people took me for granted
@@jeffrenjr should learn to say " No ", this will boost your ego and gives strong impressions on others. However, don't over do it, because it may make people hate you. Only in a situation where you find yourself unusually uncomfortable or difficult to compromise yourself.
@@jeffrenjr same
After seeing a therapist they're actually right. I have a narcissistic mom, and my dad was kind of neglectful. Everyone in my life talks about how nice I am, and for a long time I considered myself to simply be a nice and kind hearted person (which not to say I'm not). But there's a limit to how nice a normal person is. I was too nice just like you said, and I was doing this subconsciously so people would like me and give me attention/love-the things my parents failed to give me. Being "too nice" is often a result of trauma/neglect, and normal people think it's weird and desperate because even if we're not desperate, deep down the reason for it is desperate and they can see it while we can't.
There is a limit to how nice a person can be. If you see someone that's sick and you ask them 1-2 times if they're alright/need something then youre a nice person. If you keep asking them the entire night then you're just annoying and I've been on both ends of this. People ignore you because they realize something is wrong with you, even if you don't realize it.
I was like this most of my life - being ignored by others and I had a feeling that nobody cares about my opinions, even tho they were my friends. But after I moved to a different group of people, they were listening and cared about everyones opinions on the topic. So for me, it was a bad enviroment.
Oh i feel so good for you that you found your people who actually value you.. i hope i find mine too
@@captainmingo6047you will bro dont lose hope, if you let depression or loneliness destroy all your motivation to work on yourself and get out there in the world to show yourself as you are, youll never find them, but if u dont u definitely will
Getting ignored?
Problem: less confidence
Solution: increase confidence ☕
Bro if I increase my confidence i become goofy and sometimes make very weird and non funny jokes
@@untoldpossibilities2443same
@@untoldpossibilities2443I can relate to this. Just try to be authentic bro, that way you can improve your charisma
@@untoldpossibilities2443 exactlyyyy...same goes for me lol
@@untoldpossibilities2443 i used to do that too but i learned to stop myself when im about to say something weird or cringy 😭
"You are full of negativity"
Oh everything is making sense now
Hey. One of my teachers in elementary school said to me something really important, she said: "everyone has periods when they behave badly and periods when they behave right, is just part of being a human, we all go through that" Hope this might help you.
Momento mori
Yer being depressed is a double edge sword.
lmao its pain.
I use to be a really negative person but then I started to surround myself with positive people and participate in new things, now I'm usually a really happy person, maybe you should try if you can?
"Better to walk alone in your own path rather than getting lost in the crowd"
Definitely.
True
Facts.
yup
Yeah... No. My problem with that cursed phrase is it's an all out excuse not to contemplate and improve yourself.
"Who cares what anyone says, I'm walking my own path teehee." A subtle way to say "I'm a Narcissist Egomaniac."
I got off social media and because of that, people who I considered friends don't interact with me outside of the platform. It's like they forgot I exist. Out of sight out of mind. There is the fact that I do miss being seen. But I fight that to not rely on social media validation addiction.
Like I said to someone else, to some people a dollar is worth not much at all. Only if they NEED it. To others, it’s the whole world.
You can't discard social media entirely. You need to be realistic. However you and your friends can get an alternative platform which mostly only you use together. So you can interact outside of the crowded spaces, so to say.
Timestamps:
0:00- Introduction
1:12- You Do not Listen to Others
1:57- You Criticize Too Much
2:40- You are Full of Negativity
3:12- Your Presence Does not Grab Attention
3:55- You Overthink What You are Going to Say
4:30- Outro
So does that means that the problem is me ?
Yeah, i do this all the time.. And I've just realized now. How do i not do this???
My presence does not grab attention.... I really must be ugly then. 😥
@@angrykrabs9968I know 😭
Another reason: someone who’s “ignoring you” could be struggling with themselves. They could be depressed and not have the energy to reply to a text.
That’s plausible but I’ve seen people lie on the phone to others using these reasons.
After that I started to distrust people when they say they’re depressed or busy.
ain’t no excuse when it’s in real life and they’re talking to everyone else but you.
Or just busy in general.
@@mizzymsp yeah that’s true.
@@TT-xz5sy yeah. Idk tho I’ve never lied about that. Sorry that happened to you
Some people ignore you because basically they are just rude and the problem is not you !!
Yes, but some people ignore you becuase your talk arent funny or your to negative
People are petty, and they don't really know how to have a conversation ... objectivity of a reality can be hard for others. They also use power tactics. So, "An ignor for an ignor"
there are tons of reasons why! dw guys
Thank you, there is a lot of rudeness and crassness in the world today due to how people were raised growing up and not being taught certain things. Not everyone was raised this way but we must share this planet together! It can very difficult, though.
The topic is when everyone seems to ignore you. Literally, everyone.
This describes an introverted, anxious, most likely, extremely intelligent, deeply feeling person. Investing time into studying Buddhist philosophy on meditation, letting go and self-compassion can alter many of these pessimistic views on the world. I found Pema Chodron’s books and The Buddha’s brain by Rick Hanson extremely helpful. And of course, Loving kindness by Sharon Salzburg. Realizing you are not responsible for all the ills in this world can alleviate some of the performance anxiety and the need for constant unasked for critique, for ourselves and others. Accepting yourself for who you are now will lift a lot of anxiety about your own life and will give deeper understanding of others. Self compassion will unlock insight into what others are feeling and wisdom and compassion allowing to embrace people rather than trying to fix them. The things that make you awkward now are exactly the tools that can give your a deeper understanding of humans and the world and the ability to embrace life in its fullness.
As an extremely introverted Catholic I offer up all my anxieties and frustrations to Our Lord Jesus Christ and align my suffering with His. God makes everything bad good.
What if my problem is obsession and lack of true heartfelt goals and the only reason for my existence is trying to improve the world, but it's much easier to see all the negative things (and try to fix them with patchwork) and it's also hard to improve my own life?
Edit: I feel personally responsible for the entire future of humankind but close to powerless to help
And from the rationalist school of thought, I can't afford to discard the idea entirely either.
Edit: Well *I* can afford it, because I will die before the end of Earth but that's the whole point. We can't afford to think like that as a species, it's not fair to those who come after.
6. Most people today are completely and totally selfish and self absorbed and they ignore anyone and everyone who is not giving them something of value.
It's better to be alone than to fit with the people who don't see your worth.
I will try doing so 😌
Well spoken :D
Not when being alone hurts so much...
Any time I see the words people don’t know my worth I automatically assume they have none and are entitled because those are the words of a THOT!
@@Lapachu being alone is way better than being with people who don’t see your worth
Kind hearted and sincere people are ignored often.
Edit: while running behind people to gain their attention i never realized i had people who actually wanted to be close to me and enjoyed my company. So i stopped and looked back and now i have two most amazing friends in the world and life is way more easy.
They are ignored by idiots and jerks. You don’t need attention from them anyway.
Or used.
Meanwhile being a jerk is a cool thing according to society huh? See how that goes for you when you reach adolescent
Yeah.. this world is so weird. Wtf. If we're kind hearted, were getting bullied, and if we are mean or hide who we really are, we're respected... 🙃😩
But personally, I don't care if I get bullied by jerks or bigots anymore. I just wanna be open and be myself. Especially after hiding and pretending for so many years.
I'm one of those ppl and it true :(
I actually saw a sign today that said: “Beautiful souls recognize beautiful souls. Keep being yourself and your people will find you!"
If you’re an introvert, just try at least a tiny bit more to put yourself in a social situation, maybe one you feel more comfortable with. As someone who used to be 100% an introvert, I became an extrovert for a while in college during my time as an RA, and now I’d say I'm a healthy ambivert. I find farmers markets are great places for introverts to practice because vendors will literally be calling out to you to try something. I’d say MOST of them are super nice too! For all you people-pleasers (like me), it’s also a great way to practice setting boundaries because you learn how to kindly tell them "no" if you don’t want something. I usually just ask a question about the product and follow up by saying, "I might be back!" It works every time! :D
Good luck out there, people! You got dis
That's awesome remember to spread positivity and maybe you can ask them how is their life casually
Yes - - - and also remember to look people in the eye and smile when either you - - or they are speaking.. Above all, let them finish their sentences without jumping in to say your opinion and what happened when you "did that"....!! You give the impression you know more about what they're about to say than they themselves know !! This is extremely common and extremely annoying! (It is the reason I sometimes eventually ignore that person)
The best part of the video: "There is no need to change yourself for people who are not interested in forming a relationship with you. Instead, it's better to redirect that energy into people who are actually interested and care for you."
But what if actually nobody interested and cares😭
@@helena_1193 My life in a nutshell.
People who are actually interested in me? Damned if there's one.
Spot on. You'll feel happier this way and your life will make way more sense.
@@kikujirofromkyoto what do you mean?
I always fee ignored by a friend of mine. She talks a lot and I always listen, no matter how tired I am. But whenever I try to speak, she jumps in and changes the subject. I tolerate it, but lately I've been feeling like nobody ever listens to me. Not just her. I feel like I make an effort to listen to people and get them to speak about their feelings and thoughts, but no one ever listens to me. I feel kinda lonely because of it. I mean I have a friend who seems to listen to me, but I always feel like I'm being a nuisance.
Same, im always queit, i listen to them. Im petty and v v ugly LMFAOAOAOAOAOAO
If this happened with you all the time then you aren't alone sis :(
@@ellehcim.k5449 if that’s your face in the pfp you’re lying to yourself.
I think you should tell her. If she can't understands you, let her go. You deserve so much better than this. Lots of people out there you might like. And they'll like you back. Don't waste your soul with unkind people.
That’s tough, I can see how that’s uncomfortable. Maybe you feel like a nuisance cause your not used to being listened to and to that friend your not as annoying as you think. I think you could try sticking with that friend who does listen to you 💜💜
“Your presence doesn’t attract attention”
Me: “And I took that personally”
The worst feeling is “I wonder how long I can be silent or leave the call before the notice..” I left a call with with friends, they’re really great friends, just not.. great listeners.. it took them 2 hours and 17 minutes until they noticed..
this video is showing people why introverts like me hate human interaction
its a bad cyrcle cause if things dont go well you start to hate interaction and then get proven next time it happens. try instead to work on it step by step. its a long process with an awful beginning but its worth it in the end.
People are cunts and want to cause pain. I hate people!
@@YOYO-ew8mp lol you sound like my brother. He says everyone is a MF
Nah, being an introvert is much better
More free time for me yay!
@@TheCrimeDogBowWow lol, he speaks the truth!
I just wanna know what its like to actually have someone who cares and wanna do things with you.
Hah same I have no friends 😀
For me it’s nice at times but if they begin to want to spend more and more time with me I normally begin to feel suffocated and push them away.
it’s the greatest feeling ever. i was in terrible pain in class one time and a friend of mine passed a note to me asking if im alright. like, someone seriously just noticed my pain?!??
Fr me to..
Feels...
It hits deep when they intentionally ignore u.... 💔
Then ignore them unintentionally and don't even give them the time of intentionally ignoring them 😂 hope that makes sense, you got a lot of important stuff to do. Also maybe you are so important to them that they have to *intentionally* ignore you 😂 poor them having a hard time, show them you don't need them to be happy. God bless you dear😊❤
I've always felt in the wrong group, or outside of a clique. I lived a long time overseas and found the culture, although descended from my own, incredibly difficult and challenging to break into. Just far too strong of a national identity, completely ignoring the ancestry from which they came. It took me a while to figure this out and understand the resulting symptoms I experienced in a social context. I can relate to all the points, but mostly number 5. This is something I really need to work on, however it is difficult since my immediate social group doesn't share many interests and trying to join clubs or groups simply results in the same thing as in this video...
The hardest part is when you confront someone ignoring you, they'll make you feel like it's your fault
same 😢
Then maybe that person ignoring you is a narcissist.
If they're ignoring you .. when they are talking just walk off right in the middle of what they're saying .. give them a taste of what it's like. Then if they say something to you later just be blase and say 'oh I got bored sorry thought that's what you do when it's boring like what you do to me when I'm boring YOU. What can they say after that lol.
Yeah that's one way to know if they are just a shitty person in my opinion
Yeah this video is an example. She starts by gaslighting all the video watchers and insulting them, 3 of the first 5 things are gas lighting. And somehow her video succeeds with 6.7 million views. Meanwhile 95% of my comments and all of my videos are ignored and get no views. Makes my blood boil really, especially hearing her innocuous sounding voice while she narrates the video insulting anybody who's watching.
I also think it’s important to remember sometimes you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong and it’s the other people that are the problem. Sometimes your just hanging with the wrong crowed and they don’t appreciate you.
I honestly needed to hear (or read) this
Yeah just SOMETIMES. That is important.
Sometimes is better then not at all.
This
no capp !
To the person who sees this comment. I hope one day you will find that group of homies who care and love listening to what you're talking and what the others talking and that you'll have a happy long lasting friendship/group 😊
The one you over thinking something that I have a hard time dealing with I try my best to just talk but always worried about after I saying it people just stare at me in silcence. Thank you for this information!
It feels like the new animator has been watching the channel since the beginning...it goes deep.
HAIII
I luv your pfp
@@iamrosalindabb7408 Pupupupupu ;)
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@@ShortHax lol
“Your presence doesn’t grab their attention” well yeah… obviously :(
Sew a button on your cheek and all eyes will be on you 😀
BC what
;-;
It's such a cursed feeling goddamn
Yeah i have the "talent" of seemingly disappearing right in front of people.
I mean I've had housemates who were just talking to me not a minute ago come looking all over for me when i had not moved from the spot i was in.
I've had stuff like that happen super often though i also sometimes let them keep at it just to see how long it takes them to realise they keep walking past me.
So yeah i'm aware i don't have a large presence i also don't like drawing too much attention to myself.
Nice one. And I would suggest that conversational bullies exist in the world, as well as perfectly nice people who are simply very self-centered and don't listen to others.
all the comments and this video helped me a lot 🥲 knowing im not alone makes me feel at ease. i always felt like when me and my friends talking in a big group and i tried to talk they wouldnt just get their head on me. Even a person. I always thought maybe theres something wrong with me, or maybe the people i was with are just talking more loudly and in more interested way. 3 months ago my school had some camping outside the school and because people keep ignoring me meanwhile they have a lot of people to talk with makes me feel alone that i even starts crying atthe night, my whole friends knew and the teacher even asks me what happened, i said that i feel alone and ignored, but i said its because of my family problems too, now i realized its mainly because no one talks to me and i do this negative overthinking so much. I can go on with all problems i have since no one had ever their ears on me but this is the main reason im feeling and im happy to share this enough
its like that sometimes but don’t worry, you’ll find a friend that cares at some point 🥰
As an introvert who hates social interaction, this pandemic helps me a lot to avoid a lot of BULLY AND RUDE people ... I'M JUST ALLERGIC TO THEM...
OMG..people were moaning and crying about not being with friends or not having social contact during the pandemic..I was not at all affected!!
That's the problem with many people. They expect you to socialize go on adventures and all... even thought this is not how you are. You prefer peace and quiet, getting to enjoy yourself.
Even if I'm an introverted and I'm not very fond of social interactions in general neither, I feel like the pandemic killed me a little more on the inside.
I have no one except my family at this point, the one who started to finally become friend with me (who have no real friends anymore) drifted away from me.
And in the process I've locked myself even more in my imaginary bubble to the point that now, I can't even work properly. I feel like I'm crumbling down more and more. I keep tripping over and over but a part of me doesn't want to give up all.
It's absolutely infuriating to me that I lost this strenght to go on, knowing this might lead me failure.
I guess in a way it's because I can't find anyone who can understand me well enough.
To Psycho....I am too. Plus, like many people, I HATE and LOATHE conflict. I will run to the hills if a conflict is happening, mostly because I am afraid of my own reactions and anger. I don’t want to be perceived as a loose cannon, even if I behave like one!
Same this was awesome for me. People now see me and say I look happier.
Social people are suffering in the lockdowns, they worry about their mental health.
But what about the mental health of introverts who are constantly expected to behave and interact in a certain way 🤷
I’m the same way, I’m dreading for things to go back to normal because these people out here are just ruthless and will eat you up alive. People think I’m boring because I disabled all my social media accounts but I’ve never been happier.
“Improve your levels of confidence” is such an easy thing to say, but such a hard thing to do
not that tough
And, naturally, no one ever tells you HOW to fking do it
Just be honest but considerate out loud I’m a really confident person and I wasn’t always like that but you have to accept yourself as a person and think that your just as important as everyone else and sometimes it’s ok to be selfish and sometimes is bad to do that you just have to learn timing which is really hard but extremely important and the best way to learn that is experience
@@Len4ki Idk about others but my way to do it was : Learning to know myself by staying alone a huge amount of time, working out (easiest way to gain confidence imo), be more selfish and caring less about what others people can think of me bc afterall im the only one really knowing myself.
And the hardest but the most rewarding is to get out of your comfort zone, for example talking more in public, cracking jokes ect even if they are lames, talking to the girl that impressionate you ect.
Thats just my own experience and it worked pretty well, still on my journey
These videos help people realize the cause of their problems and presents them a basic solution.
Once you know what the path that leads to your goal is, it is up to you to find it and walk it.
And what you find at the end of that path may not even be your goal. But do you know what the journey brings you closer to? Yourself.
There’s this one girl who fits every single one of those reasons for being ignored. She’s in my friend group and I truly think she’s nice but sometimes, she makes it so hard because of those reasons. She uses other people to include herself in the conversation but doesn’t realize that she’s hurting them in the process
Maybe you should try telling her about it, tell her you care for her and try to make her understand nicely
I feel like this issue is even more painful and complicated when it comes to social media, since it's hard tell why people are ignoring you there.
Especially when you try to be as genuine and polite to people as possible
For those who don’t have time 🙂:
1. You do not listen to others
2. You criticize too much
3. You are full of negativity
4. Your presence doesn’t grab attention
5. You overthink what you’re going to say
Bonus: They might not really be interested in talking with/to you.
Edit: Here’s my advice to all of you, be kind to others but most importantly yourself. Whether you do any of these consciously or subconsciously, just work on becoming the best version of yourself. The people who are meant to be in your life will gravitate to you.
Dang. I can be successful if you change everything about myself.
My issues have to do with anxiety and attention...so my social life is pretty much kneecapped.
Anyone can be a great person but the only thing stopping you is you your life it's yours only only you can make a change
Thanks girl!
Thank you😀
Im 3*, 4* and 5* 😞
These are some other reasons why people ignore each other:
Physical appearance
Financial status
Language barrier
Language barrier is interesting to me because I have some foreign co-wokers and trying to converse with them is often super exhausting. I don't have the mental capacity to guess what they are telling me and acousticly not understanding everything. Most of them are really nice but usually even though I'm not so much into talking with people, I prefer people that can understand me clearly (at least when we're talking about language and not the content of the message). I actually enjoy talking in English (my second language) more than talking in my native tongue because conversations get less personal this way even though I would talk about myself, I can distance myself a bit more.
But also to me it applies to girls I consider pretty. Often I am to afraid to talk to them or get too nervous.
Financial status also applies to me, I'm not talking high class. Even around the normal folks, there are those living the dream like having family, car, house, going on holidays, doing meaningful work, having interesting hobbies, and then there's me, not doing bad but not beeing able to use my full potential at all.
@@SavedByGrace_CitizenEmperor a very interesting perspective. Also, I too am someone who is more comfortable with English rather than my native language. What is your native language?
@@madhumita3293 My natime language is German. 😊 What is yours? By the way: To make things even a bit more complicated, due to the place I live, I often switch between high German and the local dialect, depending on who I'm talking to.
@@SavedByGrace_CitizenEmperor Oh I see. Didn’t know there were different dialects in German. My native language is Tamil but I barely speak it as English is far easier . I even ‘think’ in English. Does that happen to you?
@@madhumita3293 Yeah, it's a common misconception that the people of one country all speak in the same standard version of their language. It might be the case for America. If you're interest, you could look for a video of "different dialects in Germany or France", and you'll hear that they sound different. I am learning French and some regions are so hard to understand, even harder than normal French.
At least since Martin Luther translated the bible 500 years ago or European countries became one country consisiting of several federal states, there is a standard version of the language. Before that, everybody was just talking in his dialect and that made communication super hard.
Sometimes I think in English a bit, when reading or writing. I even can use words or phrases I remembered without really being able to translate them into German or knowing the exact meaning but often I'm sure that they are the right words. Weird. It might be difficult using two languages parallel. You can forget a lot of the words you learned when you don't use a language often.
Andddd Why is the person not being listened to being blamed again?
Nevermind after listening with fresh ears, i noted it.. thank you!!
I got that vibe too.
@Freight_Train honestly, I believe it used to be where people who weren't listened to was loved and had people have compassion for them. It's the complete opposite now.(not trying to preach,) In God, the father the son and the holy spirit is when it is not fallen on deaf ears. Keep hoping (and praying if you have faith) for Good things and it will come. Hope this helps 🙏
@Freight_Train I want to give you notes now that I've heard it with fresh eyes and ears
1.dont talk about self
☆ask others how they feel
2. Criticism is too much (others mistakes)
☆measured criticism I'd important
-compliments encouragement into mix of conversations
3. Full of negativity
☆make sure Glass Is full
×constant complaining
-Reality check (no sorce of negativity for social group)
4. Presense doesn't grab attention
-public presence/confidence level (high level of confidence)
☆body language in conversations
@@Freight_TrainThe ×'s mean not to do
☆means to do
Its the lack of confidence and overthinking for me. Thanks! I'll work on that.
A lot of times, you're not the reason that you're being ignored. It's just that you are in a wrong group. Stay with humble and mature people (rare to find) and you won't ever feel like being ignored
Rare to find
How to gain people’s attention and be liked by everyone in the room: ua-cam.com/video/xbT9fyTc4Io/v-deo.html
Sometimes not humble people, who need help from negativity (if possible)
wwell in my school theyre impossible to find
Not rare, but really hard to find
I remember a year ago my social anxiety was so bad i wouldn’t even talk to a single person and i hated myself, Now i have a large group of friends but i sometimes just get ignored. I have made major progress and i will keep going and stay positive through this challenge. I got this!
Update: 5 months after i posted this i would say by now the old me is fully obliterated.I am now focused on my goals without distractions.I realized that everything on the outside is a reflection of your own thoughts. I am now the one that is the most confident and uplifting in any situation. Once you can master your mind, habits, and emotions you are unstoppable. Remember that those uncomfortable moments are there for a reason. Stay strong fellas.💪
I'm sooo proud of you and happy for you,but REALLY
I so happy for you! Unfortunately for me it’s still the same but I’m kinda just dealing with it.
Wow congratulations!! I’m the same I have a small group of friends but I’m trying to expand my group
How do you do this. Pls I need advice. I don’t talk to people unless I have a close relationship with them but I can’t get a close relationship with anyone.
@@Gracie_Matheson same. I only am extremely chatty with people I know but then if I’m only like that with people I know then I never meet new people.
I can relate to points four and five but that's because socializing with people is pretty hard. I try to avoid most people if I can. I don't like opening up to a lot of people because I've learned many hard lessons in the past that when I try to open up to people I get criticized or judged so I just keep my mouth shut. I do tend to think more negatively as a result of the way people treat me but that's not my fault. my motto is this, if people don't want me then don't talk to me. They can go ahead and free themselves.
There are so many things I can relate with what you just said. First yes don't over share especially if you are not that close to them and it's completely normal and in fact it's the right thing to do to take your time to get to know others but what is not the right thing is, "ignoring people as much as possible" no dear don't do that, I know you are scared to get hurt or be ignored but u get hurt only when you have high expectations, be happy to meet new people and old people, people are interesting and it's fun to listen to, instead of talking about your life ask them questions not like an interview but you can ask open ended questions like how was your day at school or college or work today, or if you know them mention something they had said before, keep thinks casual and don't over share or have over expectations from anyone, if you don't take initiative how do you expect others to. Wait for friendships and relationships to develop slowly over time don't force anything in your life, just let things happen naturally. Communication is not a commitment or a chain that someone needs to free themselves out of, it ought to happen naturally, what you need to remember is be happy to meet someone, spread your positivity to others, the light inside you is meant to be spread that doesn't mean you force someone to it, they will automatically be drawn to it, be happy with yourself and don't try to ignore other. God bless you and take care 😊❤
I just, hate how they forget i exist, i dont talk about myself i just talk with them everytime i try to be perfect for them but they just dont need me, they just grab me and trew me into some pile of trash.
same here bestie hope u found better friends since u commented this :) if not, im here for u lol U SLAYYY (no matter the gender AHAHA)
"Raise your confidence"
Me: haha, well i'm screwed then
just believe in the me, who believes in you. just act like Obi-wan. he has so much swagger.
@@mrwhatcanido4942 lol
@@mrwhatcanido4942 hello There
@@tronpool4666 Good evening general.
i would say practice your confidence with people you dont like that way no matter what you say or how you act, you cant do any actual harm to any real friendships or relationships
"You overthink what you're going to say."
Yeah uhuh. Definitely. Yeah. Heck.
So... How long did it take you to post this comment? :)
@@banana6963 when I pooped (2.12 nanoseconds)
@@banana6963 That's exactly what I was thinking
@@stickanimatorlolb.cheekydr7321 damn thx for telling us the exact time you finished pooping I will use that for my pythagorean theorem studies to prove I can trade angles for the first time in a year and then I will be a little more confident in my ability to be able to play with my own
Your response doesn't sound like it's overthinking, you sound very certain instead of thinking about it.
Watching this channel videos help me to studying about myself, thank you so much ❤ I've been go through the some of these experiences and now I'll try to put my attention to people who really care about me!
I'm having many problems being a teenager and your channel helps me throughout the day! Thank you.
One of the most infuriating things anyone can experience is when there's a group conversation, the person talking finishes their bit, so then you start to talk about something to the group, but then someone else starts talking a full 2-3 seconds after you started, and everyone somehow ignores you and listens to the other person instead.
This happens to me more often than it feels like it should.
Now I should point out I have ADHD and high-functioning autism to a major degree, but I still can't figure out why this still happens.
I KNOW EXACTLY what you mean. i usualy leave go home. im only 5"8 but aparently i intimidate alot of people. sorry about spelling i have brain injury. anyway ive sufferd mental illness maybe my whole life. start with fetal alcohol syndrome. hard to keep rage under control, n self harm seems gettin worse. used to hav bunch friends. hav none now. i would hav listend to you. you had somethin to say, i wud listen. guess i was talkin bout myself alot there. but anyway i think im hiting loss of reality
@@rustynail1020 We can be friends if you want, and I could help you out in anyway possible.
@@rayvaul3539 thanx man. i"ll talk to you again sometime on here
OMG so relatable, I finished to abandon and never talk in a group. Now everyone is like "pikachu faced" asking me "why u don't talk", because I can't...
That happens a lot. I'm better at one on one but even then I get shut down after saying 'I had a really interesting thing happen the other day' The other person just enthusiastically tells me about their day instead, which makes me feel like I must be really boring to listen to cos I hadn't even started.
People ignore people for a myriad of reasons. I was ignored a lot in high school, it definitely CAUSED me to get bitter and cynical, and critical of others. People ignored me, so I just stopped trying... Pretty happy with the outcome to be honest. The people I was trying to connect with, are shallow, pathetic and so obnoxiously self centered people, I totally dodged a bullet.
Felt this
Definitely, being a hermit can be lonely, but the loneliness is tolerable considering the alternative. Never assimilate with fake people.
I tell jokes on my channel, at 9:00 every day. If people laugh, then they have a little bit of free joy. If not, at least I thought it was funny. No pretensions, no scams, no fake friendships. Just a joke, until tomorrow.
I had a similar situation. I was practically a mute throughout middle school and I already have a naturally “evil” atmosphere about me, so I became very careful and pessimistic on who I was friends with. Good news, I have honest friends in highschool now. Bad news is I’m constantly paranoid about losing them because my social skills suck and I don’t understand emotions in a relationship all that well.
@@seraphywang4638 eh no one does . Emotions are vague and abstract, thus unreliable.
This channel just makes me feel like I'm not the only one who is going through such struggles...
Golden advice, hang around people who give you their ears just as how you give them yours, if you dont feel like they are sharing convo with you for solid 30 minutes then you gotta know these people are waste of time for you. also try to get busy with thi ga and focus less about how people feel and think of you it will give you anxiety trust me, have a good day
This is why you need better friends. Everybody has flaws.
Exacly, everyone has flaws, which is why you should aim to improve them
If anything I'd want to be around the people full of negativity to help them or at least be there for them. Everyone experiences negativity. Ignoring those people doesn't fix or solve anything, it just makes them feel more alone.
@@jakeblitzcoffie4859 Love you!!! Thank you!! Need more like you!!!
@@jakeblitzcoffie4859 that's honorable but if you ever been around people for years and all they know is being negative, it will drain you too in the end. Don't forget to take care of yourself too.
@@doremireiko1087 what about people that became negative because of who they hung out and now they’ve changed to be better and you’re still stuck being negative :(
“You’re overthinking.”
Got it! I’ll just say what I’m thinking!
*backfires so hard I go flying*
haha..
💀💀💀
I don't talk much because when i do i say stupid things
Listen how ppl talk and say
U know what is allowed to be said
😂😂
Thanks for the video, I like being alone cause friends just backstab and ignore you 😊
I don’t remember when or how I came across the channel but I subscribed after the first video. I absolutely love your videos; they’ve helped me so much through my journey of learning about and loving myself, while understanding others (for better or worse outcomes). Thank you for making these videos, much love and appreciation.
" your presence doesn't grab attention "
*Everything goes according to plan*
That song is burned into my brain but i forgot the title
@@ivythealiencat I believe it’s “There's a Good Reason These Tables Are Numbered Honey, You Just Haven't Thought of It Yet” by Panic! at the Disco
@@deborahakran2633 oh thx i thought it sounded familiar 😂
I like being ignored
@@oO0yuu0Oo My introverted self can relate. 😌
“Youre presence doesnt grab attention, you need to boost your confidence” easier said than done when you have social fucking anxiety.
The last two point are actually spot on for me.
Right... My anxiety and lack of self worth are a freaking nightmare combo.
Let's just do our best to build our confidence, maybe we'll get there some day🤝🏾
Agree. We really need a big effort to change that attitude and JUST go for it. this is the only solution.
im sorry for yall. if u need to talk im here
@@userm180 this is nice of you to say even to mere strangers on the internet... As someone who's always the listening ear to others, I in turn don't have anyone to turn to, don't wanna overwhelm my younger sibling so I keep to myself. It really sucks not having anyone to talk to, at least truly listen with no other intent but to just be there for you... But you learn to live with it eventually
@@molamola721 i totally understand you tbh. im the same, by choice tho😭i feel like crap every time i try to explain my feelings so i just gave up lol. anyways, i really hope you can find people you can confide in in real life too, but until then, i'm all ears
I was ignored by the person I loved the most. Now am healing myself slowly. Last tip is truly helpful. There is no use in chasing people who hate us, a lot of people love us!
When people actually talk to me, I'm all puzzled and flabbergasted . I think it's my looks and voice .
From personal experience, it's mostly body language... not looks. Secondary it's situational for me.
I'm very open myself.
I may look distant, but I've had a couple of weird people (I mean hobos with a christmas tree on the subway in mid summer) talk to me out of nowhere even though the national social norm is to have a large personal space. I remember those conversations (well, encounters) not because they were weird but because there were some refreshing and out of the ordinary and nice conversations. All it took was someone to be "unhinged" or step outside of the norms, in a well meaning way.
However when people look down or away or look like they want to be elsewhere entirely, I leave them alone because I think that's best for both of us. Just an example
Being ignored is not that new to an introvert, or it's just me...
Its almost every introvert
And also to be like a ghost that everyone is scare of? I mean, you're there, but they don't notice you and then when they realize you're there they say: my goodness, you were there? You scared me :'0
@@unnie_anna854 😂😂
Same have such a weak presence in a social setting. That I can literally just leave and no one will notice. I’m basically invisibility
Not for me. I am an introvert and also very very shy and insecure. I just hang out with the right people and do what I have to when I have to, and say what I have to say when I need to.
A lot of kind and introverted people fall victim to toxic relationships because they are ignored or bullied. It's so sad! 🥺
True 😢😭😢😭
True 😭😭😭
I can tell that i am pretty much introvert but i am happily married, 9 years together, i dont have friends but my husband does
@@sellanovia959 So glad to read this! 😁
I felt that 😡😤😩😣😞
I'm definitely this. I push ppl away cos of pstd low self esteem and I feel so angry when I feel like I don't have a voice. At all. Ppl are captivated by my ma, she has confidence but I have trauma and tho I'm lonely I like to be alone. Thanks again psych2go, another great vid 👍
This was a genuine problem that I had
thank you soo much.
I basically listen to everyone carefully and I rarely criticise. I also may be negative but never spread negativity. However, if I don't have my really good friend by my side I would be left, unnoticed.
How did you just describe me exactly?!
Those two first sentences sound like me
You might feel like you go unnoticed, but the people who really matter in your life will notice you. These people are your people. You matter. I promise.
that sounds like me. which totally made me chose to be alone and socially selective. it's hard to explain things to people who don't want to listen to, especially friends who doesn't understand.
this is so me,i have been complaining inside myself or dragging myself down for not getting attention when i need one,but i do not spread negativity too much for them to ignore me..
People don’t realize that if you choose to ignore someone, it may feed why they are someone you want to ignore. Some people are starving for attention and conversation because they get so little of it.
I'll be an honest soul and say that at times I do crave attention. It's something that's hard to change being how socially awkward I am and trying to socialize with people more is extremely tough. I know I'm going to look weird trying to converse with people but I step out of my comfort zone anyway in hopes of something great.
@@sobervision1049 that’s the truth
This is so true
Tru
Yes! It takes a special soul to connect with these people!
It feels like I’m not ignored at my schools. I’m somehow known for being smart, funny, and kind to my fellow classmates.
The sound is MAGICAL and the drawings r SO CUTE .. I JUST CANT HANDLE THE CUTNESS!! Btw i just subed !! U deserve MORE SUBS😆🥰
I am the quiet kid at school, not shy but I just don’t know what to say to people because I feel they have different things to talk about and I would feel weird, like I’m not supposed to like what I’m talking about just because others don’t have the same opinion. So most of the time I stay quiet and wait for the others to talk to me first.
-EDIT- oh wow, a lot of people relate to this comment and liked it. I have never had this much likes. I just commented what I felt not really expecting to get likes but dang y’all proved me wrong. Thanks :D
honestly same! it's frustrating and i feel so guilty for being different
I do the same. I don't talk much. I do almost all of the things on the list though... I stay quiet when others speak and never interrupt but I accidently talk about myself.. I care about how others feel though. I want to know how they feel, but in messages I often talk about me.
@@caitlynruffin5413 yeah same same
@@lesshuman00 I have tried talking so that I get more comfortable with other people. Hopefully when I’m older, I won’t be so quiet. Making UA-cam videos sometimes helps me get better at talking to people.
Same exept ppl at my school have intresting convos that I eeze drop on out of habit and I rly wanna join in and I end up daydreaming abt talking to them and it satisfied my social drive enough. Plus nobody likes it when I talk
for me, i think, lack of self confidence is the result of being ignored, the same with overthinking
Me too, lack of self confidence:( it sucks
Yea same, a bit tho lol I used to overthink of what I wanted to comment so it took a long ass time :/ but now I still do only a little bit. 🙃
The same too😔
To be in the centre of attention is ho hard, indeed :(
Lack of confidence means someone are bragging about their confidence. Which makes you inferior lol.
Awww, I remember watching this trying to figure out why I had no friends even though I knew the answer was that I kept rejecting myself before anyone else could.. I have friends now though! Someone helped me get the confidence to be with everyone else! I love him so much
The confidence tip is a chicken-or-the-egg sort of thing for me. She recommends exuding more confidence thru body language, etc. I've heard this multiple times before. But maybe your confidence has been diminished out of reaction to your social environment and feeling singled out, either to be bullied or ignored/dismissed. There are some groups that are kind and welcoming. And there are too many others that are deplorable for you, but where most/all others seem to get along just fine. It's always been a challenge for me to differentiate how much is going on in my internal environment versus the external one.
I was often ignored by people for almost 1st 25 years of my life and it took a toll on my confidence.After I entered in the workplace, I suddenly understood,I've become surrounded by the right people.I am now very happy with my life.
How do you know they're the right ppl?the friend's i used to hang out with in middleschool made me feel really good,but now i hang out with these new friends they make me feel left out a lot i really wanna change my friendgroup
@@user-hp9vc6kf8q I rly appreciate all the help and yk i haven't rly cut ties with my old friends cuz then they'll think I'm dramatic or some sh*t but I made new friends so I don't have to stick to the toxic ones only,its good to expand the friend circle right, hanging out with two or three friends (especially toxic ones) is a not always great thanks btw really!
lucky you, im almost 40 and still looking
Happy for you!!
nice
I'm glad I had more extrovert friends than introvert ones in high school. They didn't last, but some of their personality traits rubbed off on me, so later I felt more confident to make the environment or conversation comfortable for other introverts like me. I pay attention to everyone and notice when someone's being ignored or talked over, and I have no problem asking them to repeat what they said, or react when no one else had been listening. It always feels rewarding when I see the relieved/grateful look in their eyes and their bright smile. :)
Awww You're a Sent Angel ♥️❣
changkyun!!!! ang ❤️
i try to do this as much as possible too. i know how much it hurts… i wouldn’t want anyone else to feel that way.
I always try to do the same too! Whenever someone talks but is interrupted, after the other person finishes speaking, I try to tell them to continue and show them that I’m interested in what they’re saying
Facts yo
same
Ya know, this may be old, but, thanks for reminding me here, Psych2Go! That's probably why i keep getting ignored most of the time.
This video helped me realized about all the actions I've done, so thanks for reminding me about this!
Thank you! Spot on!
Please make a video about how to keep yourself from committing to something without thinking it through first! Thanks!
For me it's always this: I'll be friends with two people who don't know each other. They will meet through me, become good friends n leave me out in everything they do. It's not just one or two but a whole bunch of people whom I regarded as good friends (not anymore). They'll cut me out in everything they did together. Or some will invite me n cancel in the last minute. The most common excuse being their grandparents or relatives died. And this is also the reason why I became an introvert.
That happened to me in middle school and high school. I made the mistake of introducing every friend I ever made to this one toxic girl who was the reason I got bullied in middle school. I was dumb and wanted her to like me so even when I found out she would spread rumors and get people to bully me I still forgave her. Anyways, every new person I'd meet I would bring them into our friend group. One by one they all became close friends and pretty much shunned me out of the group by the end of it all.
I have the same problem but at another level: I'm a cupid in spite of myself. When I am with 2 other people they always fall in love, whether or not I'm attracted to one of them... I'm the best candlestick of the History! It's kinda annoying...
In the future don’t introduce your friends to each other. Keep separate groups, so if one group closes you off, you have another to lean on. I learnt that the hard way, just like you.
It is also good to build connections with different kinds of people, but once again makes sure they don’t overlap or they will become friends who will shut you out. People are selfish jerks so you gotta keep tabs on them.
@@Lumosnight Sage insight
@@Lumosnight agree on this. But yeah, every person are a selfish so no problem.
sometime i feel like the more i open myself people will start treating me rudely and bad
true do u want to be friends lol i am like so idk anymore
True and then they'll be like "Are you alright?" "Why aren't you saying anything?"
Sometimes it’s best not to share too much about yourself , especially the deep stuff, get to know them first and it will come automatically. Start off with your hobbies or your favorite movies . Get a grasp on your values and stand up for what you believe in. Just because you’re views differ from others don’t mean a friendship can’t work.
People will always judge for what u say, so be always conscious for what u said expecially negative experience, they will start to think less of u.
Same for me. In 6th grade, I tried to be more open in front of my classmates. Judging by the looks of it, I think it just made them more annoyed of me. But it mostly depends on the people. Now I'm starting to feel like I am better off being a quiet student.
The problem is I'm normally quiet but I'm also scared of talking too much about myself 😭
That's Understandable, you feel like talking about yourself because you want others to know you more and subconsciously expect them to relate to you, to feel heard and seen, that's absolutely normal, but tbh people would feel uncomfortable if they don't know you well and you start talking about your life, don't over share anything about your life to anyone unless they are your best friend and they share about their life to you otherwise if you want to share your life to someone wait to get closer to them, it's okay not to talk much, start by listening more, and when you really listen you might have something to say about what they said, when you spend more time with them you notice a lot of things about them, start by talking about them to them, maybe a compliment but not too much but maybe a genuine one if you don't have anything on your mind you don't have to say anything just give it time the more you listen you are sure to have something to say, don't make it about you but about something they said, then slowly when you make them feel valued and heard they will want to spend more time with you and gradually you can start taking about your life. Remember one thing actions speak louder than words, people usually get a lot of cues about who you are by the way u behave, so even if u say something about yourself that won't have much impact on others as the cues that they get by your behavior, that doesn't mean you stress in your behavior and always think if I am behavior is good enough, be yourself chill out, no one is gonna pay that much attention to you, it is only with time that people realize and understand you, so be yourself, be busy with growing yourself, be happy and satisfied with your own life, people like happy people
I had a friend like this! I couldn't stand him anymore. He is happy being self centered, criticizing, and dominating conversations and being in the phone every time I open my mouth. He can be selfish by himself because I am not spending a minute hanging out with him anymore! How can I care for someone like that? He needs to change!
I'm someone whose lack of confidence, has social anxiety and overthinks what i should say so yeah, i have 2 close friends in my workplace , they're kind, full of sparks and easy going and i'm here feeling that it's just hard to catch up with them in our group convo especially so yeah sometimes i felt being left out and ignored:)
Same :(
Just the same
I feel like I'm a third wheel, they're too cheerful and energetic they live their life to the fullest. And here I'm watching in silence, I'm there with them but not really. They only remember my existence when they are troubled lol. Or if they want to solve any issue that requires more logic...
Maybe I'm a solving machine 🤷♀️
@@ayafarag3125 after reading your comment i was thinking are you talking about me 😳
@@sameeraamir8016 FR! we're in this together
It's good to only have a couple people in your life keep a close circle
Personally I feel like being ignored in a conversation is more embarrassing than anything
When you say something and everyone just ignores you, its a feeling that's hard to shake off, like you said something stupid or awkward and yet its so hard to actually tell because having no response means you got no feedback which means you have no reaction to analyze
I'm OCD So When it happens I feel a need to somehow "Dismiss" What I said when somebody ignores it with something like an "Actually never mind" Or 'Anyway" Etc Etc, and every time it happens I always feel so pathetic when I'm out of the situation
It makes me feel like its not worth talking at all because nothing I say will be heard or acknowledged by anyone.
i know, it's like, you think that your friends doesn't are interesed on you anymore
I have 3 true friends not friends but true friends and thats enough then a lot of friends
I've started going "excuse m - excuse m- EXCUSE ME. Let me finish my damn sentence."
"You're rude, stop interrupting if you want to be heard."
"Yeah, enjoy your circlejerking echo-chamber. I'm out. Do your research".
@@pseudophp hahaha
or when you say something, and someone else literally says the exact same thing you said earlier because they were ignoring you and didn't pay attention to what you said
Thank you so damn much for telling me that everything is my fault and completely ignoring the fact that most people ignore you because they find other people better than you,cooler than you and funnier than you (basically my case).
I’m a good listener,i’m supportive,kind,and still i’m ignored.
thanks for this video, i’ve really needed this video as i think i do all of theese things an i’ve never known i can’t explain how much this will help me out
I'm definitely a massive overthinker to the point of not speaking a lot of times.
Same, and also a lot of time I just can't think of a way to get the words out. I'm known for saying things that people don't like or appreciate, being "too honest" or direct, and misunderstanding what people say or taking everything too seriously... So I overthink and try to find a way to say the things I wanna say in a way people will appreciate, but often can't find that one gold sentence option, so I just say nothing and feel bad and unsatisfied because I left people hanging.
@@corruptedteka I feel you on that too
Totally me, too.
We are in the same boat, I wonder if there are some solutions to this problem?
I can understand
why people are always ignoring me irl. it was like this since forever. when i was still in kindergarten or preschool, i always tried talking to everyone and i wanted to be friends with everyone, but everyone ignored me. i had only one friend. no one else wanted to play with me. maybe i was too annoying? i feel like i did something wrong, because there were some kids that disliked me.
When i went to elementary school, half of my class were the same people i went to kindergarten and preschool with. they all were like 'wow we went to kindergarten together! that's cool let's be friends'. even those who weren't friends back then, become friends. but they are ignored me. everyone was making new friends, but no one wanted to be friends with me.
Few times, when teachers were checking who's absent in class today, kids told my teacher i'm absent ....and they did it when i was in class. But one kid who did that actually apologized and said he actually didn't know that i was in class. uh kinda weird but i guess i'm happy to know someone realised that i exist...
i'm so sorry for this being so long! i just felt like i needed to write about this, i could write about this for hours (and 90% of that time would be picking the right words and trying to make it have sense...) but i don't want to make long comment. If my comment seems confusing or i did mistakes, i'm sorry for it, please correct me. english isn't my native language.
That's tough and all but...that's still no excuse for why you're murdering women and keep their hands Mr. Kira
@@RL-DarkSpark I was wondering how he's still alive
@@jeffrenjr That's a very good question indeed.
Well considering that the ambulance is Truck-kun, he could've been isekaid into our world. But seems like his harem is missing :/
@Kira
Me and 35 other people did not ignore your words my friend!
Welcome to reality brother
That’s why avoid talking to people, this is the way of preventing this!
-i always listen to people
-i barely criticize people
-if people being negative i will be the source of their positivity, but when people being positive sometimes i take turn on being negative
-i hate drawing people attention, but i need attentions sometimes. That's why i'd rather not bother other people with my presence
-Yes, i always overthink what i'm going to say cause i always say bad things if i don't overthink it. I'm afraid to hurt others, that's why i'd rather listen people talk than talking to others
Oh god this is me . Finally someone like me
I also have to overthink otherwise i say something rude which i don't wanna say but its not in my control. I feel like a bad person who can't even say something good like others.
Yep, This is so me
Same
And I barely have friends
Rude like being an asshole or rude because people don't get directly what you mean (that's why you think of wording they understand without analysing?) If so, you are not implicitly rude but you are perceived rude. Maybe you are neurodiverse.
The third one is so me
There are other reasons too, and it’s not always about the speaker. A lot of people don’t listen to very intelligent or insightful people because they can’t keep up, or they don’t want to think that hard. Other people form conclusions early in conversations and assume they know what is going to be said, so they stop listening or jump in with their own views. A lot of people don’t know how to actually listen. The list goes on and on.
What you are saying is very insightful and intelligent. I guess the cure is to find friends who are interested in that.
that reminds me of two friends of mine! they're intelligent. they often talk about math, physics and that kind of stuff, which I've got a harder time to manage! sometimes I feel super dumb around them, but...I still love them and I'm super interested to hear everything they say, although I wouldn't understand 99% of it!
I also feel it can be discouraging to tell someone "people ignore you because they talk too much about themselves" because alot of people with mental health issues can be quite lonely or sometimes isolated due to their condition (whether through their needs to be alone or just anxious about being around others) so that might be their only point of reference for any conversation. Sadly they can't talk about other people they know as they may not know many others or have other things to go on. It's finding people who are willing to keep those things in mind when talking with you that I think helps. Because then you can mediate the conversation. A little about them and alittle about yourself
Exactly...Many people are only skin deep in the conversation...They use a conversation to socially bond or at least pay lip service to the ritual...The deep thinkers (I am one) are off putting because they use conversations to probe ideas and thinking patterns...Most people are in fact unnerved by insight -- though they say otherwise...
And some people don't listen to you because they know your opinions are different to theirs and they are intolerant of opposing views. They stick with their fan club.
Tips
- humble
- confidence
- no overthinking
*( The hardest 3 tips existed till now...)*
Thank you for this video I learned something from this It gains me more confidence now i know why people are ignoring me.