6 Signs You Have Toxic Friends, NOT Real Friends
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2024
- If you had a friend for a while, but feel something is off, chances are your friend might actually be toxic friends. Toxic friendships are actually more common than you think. Toxic friends may end up betraying you when you need them most. If you are wondering if all my friends are toxic, then this video may be for you. However, if none of these signs are there, then maybe, you have a real friend. Real friends are hard to find, so treasure them when you do have them. Real friends will look after your mental health when you need them most.
DISCLAIMER: If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This video was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck."
We also made a video on the differences between good friends and toxic friends: • 4 Differences Between ...
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References:
Schneider, K. (n.d.). 8 Not-So-Obvious Signs You Have Toxic Friends. Jobs, Company Reviews, Career Advice and Community. fairygodboss.com/articles/toxic-friends.
Rane, Z. (2020, August 22). 7 Traits of Subtly Toxic Friends. Medium. medium.com/mind-cafe/7-traits-of-subtly-toxic-friends-b5f02056656c.
Raypole, C. (2020, May 19). Toxic Friendship: 24 Signs, Effects, and Tips. Healthline. www.healthline.com/health/toxic-friendships
Dodgson, L. (2020, May 17). 13 signs your friendship with someone is toxic. Business Insider. www.businessinsider.com/signs-your-friendship-is-toxic-2018-2.
Heitler, S. (2016). 8 Signs of a Toxic Friendship. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201603/8-signs-toxic-friendship.
Navilon, Genefe. “Do You Have Fake Friends? Here Are 11 Signs That Say Yes.” Ideapod, 16 Sept. 2020, ideapod.com/do-you-have-fake-friends-here-are-11-signs-that-say-yes/.
Gordon, Sherri. “An Inside Look at Emotional Bullying and Social Manipulation.” Verywell Family, 2020, www.verywellfamily.com/relational-aggression-bullying-460498.
It's important to recognize who your real friends are. Watch this video next to find out the difference between good and toxic friends: ua-cam.com/video/J0brxU8tg2I/v-deo.html
Mine are real friends
So i haf No friends 😢
Idk why IM gonna say this but i have a friend called abri idk what his full name is but i know his name is abri and also hes like a guardian angel he always steps up when someone bullys me he just steps up and punch the guy and say to me cmon let's run we are still friends to this day
I thought my friend was true…I’ll tell them this…
@@srenchristianhansenI can be your frinde
1. They don't show interest in your life
2. They aren't there for you when you need them
3. They are overly critical of you
4. They aren't genuinely apologetic
5. They keep track of how many times you have wronged them
6. They speak about your insecurities often
Checks out for a friend my brother and I cut off
Istg its the worst specially if you can't let go 🙁💔
@e what
damn i need new friends all my friends are like this
@@beidoumybeloved2409 yes
Who ever animated this deserves an academy award. Seriously, incredible job.
OatsAndToasts Avena they're a new animator 🙂
Thank you!
Yeah, it's cleanly animated.
This was AMAZING!! Like watching a real animated film/show... So many emotions, mannerisms, different behaviours and personalities. Great character design :)
fr it's amazing
So 90% of my friends are fake?….
Yeah
Yeah same
I thought I was the only one having this but I guess we all are the same
Im so sorry for you all, I really hope you all will make/ get good friends soon!💖
that's what i just realised 😢
When you are checking if you have a toxic friend but you end up being the toxic friend 😢
Oof...... stop doing this to save your freindship
@@adiymusammat7159?
I mean some of this occasionally applies to me (I suck) but it also applies to a couple of my friends
Work on yourself and be conscious of your actions and words
I recognize that I do some of the mentioned sometimes, but the difference is I am willing to change but my friend seems doesn't…
And she has many friends who seem like she is of the center attention so it’s a bit hard to open up. With her friend group last year, I observed that they’re a type of just-fun-group and do gossip.
remember this isn't always just about toxic friends, it could be the same with a toxic partner, toxic classmate, a toxic family member or yourself, it doesn't just apply to your friends! :)
Indeed. It's important to know how different people influence our well-being, and of course how we influence theirs - and make choices that lead toward the life we want, the state of mental and emotional health we're aiming for. Find people who are good for you, and be good to them - or if you're especially brave, try changing the pattern with people who struggle to be constructive about relationships, _but_ in the latter case... be prepared to say, at some point, "I tried, and it didn't work. They don't seem interested. Time to move on."
It's not your job to fix anyone else. It's often impossible. We can try to help nudge people in a good direction, but if they're not going with it, it won't work. First and foremost, we can control who we are and how we treat people... then, with a little luck, that can inspire others to follow suit.^^
Exactly why I've had to limit contact with my siblings. I do love them but they are quite toxic (narcissistic, critical, dismissive, etc), so loving them from a distance is very necessary.
Very true.
It’s pretty eye opening to realize your partner wasn’t a even a good friend.
@@The-waveverse Yes. This happened to me, too.😔
Anyone that brings negativity towards a friendship it's time to let them go. The drama arguing fussing fighting and keeping tabs on who did what is exhausting
Yes but we are roommates now and the situation is complicated 🙂
Are they bringing negativity because of your actions or lacc of respect or are they just a negative nancy?
@@KINGDEVON16 The question that needs to be asked.
Yea
@@KINGDEVON16 lack of respect. They always want someone to listen to their problems but dont want to listen when it comes time to.
always hitting me with the "sorry, i guess?" or "geez, sorry."
Or sorry */with a laugh
same
dude, i had a friend who was toxic to me for a while and i didn’t realize it at first, he did almost all the bad and toxic things in the video, and ended up rejecting me bc he found out i was gay, thankfully, i got over it and I’m hanging out with new friends and not letting them walk over me like a carpet anymore.
glad this topic was covered, keep making good content ❤❤
that actually sounds horrible, hope you find true friends bro
@@sam_sam00 thx man
He somehow didn’t know you were gay despite the proto pfp? Lol? Was he retarded?
that sucks, Hope you find genuine friends. Be happy! Good Luck!
I was in a very toxic friendship a few months ago. I didn't realize just how toxic it was because I just wanted some friends. This describes my previous "friends" perfectly. They did all of this. I'm grateful to the three people who pointed this out to me and this video for showing me just how bad it was.
My friend was playing Roblox with my other friend so I feel left out
Same here but it was more than 2 years ago I realize it now as it hits me how naïve I was. I realized i was ghosted when I needed her however I was there for her when she was getting bullied. As I rethink I reliezed this was not real and there were red flags and my gut was saying something to confirm that
I really do not know if I have a fake friend
Same i wrote a whole script about it in the comments 😅
Same dude
I have had a lot of fake friends. It was mostly girls at that. They would uplift me in front of others, but always judged everything I did and even worse. Always protect your energy. Everyone is not your friend, but always be kind to others. 💖
Both guys and gals can be equally toxic friends.
I had fake friends as well, mostly girls, who were only friendly to me when they needed something.
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@@Coryraisa well I'll say girls are more toxic friends if you're a girl becoz they might be jealous of looks and stuff and boys aren't like that...not that boys aren't toxic at all
@@Coryraisa yes they can. I’m just saying that my experience was with girls mostly.
"Friends" are rare! Good friends are even more so!
This video was needed, I was being worried about my relationships, but thankfully, I can now say that my friends are actual friends, one less thing to worry about, thank you
It’s sad. You grow up in a toxic family and you are involved in so many toxic and abusive situations, so you start searching for love in the wrong places and you let people treat you like shit because you start to adapt to it. As a person who was involved in toxic relationships and is now getting out of toxic friendships. Give light to someone who needs it, you never know how bad shi is. And to whoever is reading this comment, im proud of you and I love you. 💛💛
I feel ur pain 😭 ur not alone.
@@filsanmohamed2438 I have no friends and I have trust issues so you’re comment meant the world to me and you’re also not alone ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for speaking up on this, truly some words i've been trying to figure out from my own situation too.. I hope you find a safe place someday where you can freely express yourself, and don't give up as you'll never know when or how good things will come after these years of toxic situations.
@@hanstr9499 thank you sm for this comment and I wish the absolute best for you ❤️🙌🏽
this is literally the definition of my life
Oh man. I've had friends that just didn't care. We were friends because they needed that kind of attention. I woke up and realized that I didn't like them, their behavior, or how I felt after dealing with them in any capacity. Being alone is PEACEFUL ❤ I'm fine having barely any friends.
I'm going through this too I feel you.. Although it's even more irritating for me because I have to see them everyday at university. And the truth is I currently have noone else close to me, so every day life has become quite heavy.. Even so, I prefer this than non genuine people around me. Hope things turn out better for us both ^^
And it usually happens in college🥲 I’ve had a super toxic friend relationship and felt so exhausted and leaving her or “them” was the best choice I’ve ever made
I feel that, dude. Had friends from JHS and up, back during my "class clown" phase of life. I legit let them go like maybe 6 months ago after years of feeling like shit around them. When I was younger, I didn't get a lot of attention at home, so I acted out in school, got a reputation for wild and unpredictable behavior.
That reputation followed me into High School, College and finally adulthood.
It was around early adulthood I really started to notice how different my older "friends" treated me... almost like a sideshow or an interesting oddity than a real friend.
Anytime I expressed a dynamically unique opinion, I was met with silence. They were obsessed with being relevant and politically correct and would often shame me if it meant looking good in front strangers, even.
The pandemic, like with everyone else, really showed me how they regard me and even after, with the vax mandates and that, I felt honestly like they weren't even my friends. I'm not even antivaxx, but the way they treated mutuals and then me for speaking up for them was just too much.
I'm not gonna lie, I'm friendless IRL now. Like you said, though, the reality is that I was alone with people who never really understood me, either. It was hell existing as that quirky friend who was just basically the comic relief for the homies to get laid. I hated that I was always the one traveling to see them, always the one having to adjust my timing and schedule, because their lives were so much more important.
Peace is sweet.
Same
@@techrvl9406 That last paragraph pretty much sums it all up.. I'm at least glad that I could tell someone (even here) that I have noone and didn't criticize me. I understand how you feel.. Wish I could be as elaborate as you, but just thinking of my situation hurts.
I moved to another state almost a year ago and I have been very distant towards other people, except 2 people, who have proven to be real friends, as I completely know because of this video. Thank you for showing me how to find people to be friends with without fear of being humiliated or downplayed.
Keep in mind, many people do these things without realizing that they're being a bad friend. After watching this, I realize I haven't been a very good friend, and I intend to change that.
Truee
Good that you've noticed
Same
The world would be truly beautiful place to live if people thought like you did
I agree I have done this in the past but now that I'm not, I'm feeling like karma has hit me and I have the urge to send this video to people who think they did nothing wrong to me because they have the power of a so what,"Friend," but yet they take that as an advantage to mess with your head, especially when those toxic friends are your only friend :(
0:31 they don't show interest or ask details.
1:03 they're not relaible or there when you need them.
2:06 they're extremely critical of you.
2:44 their apologizes don't sound genuine.
3:21 they keep score of how many times you've wronged them.
4:22 they play on your insecurities and make you feel unhappy.
3:25 they watch jojo.
Thank you!
@@ivanfire4 DIO!
@@ivanfire4 lol
I've felt this from a very long time probably more than 4 years since I've been watching your videos; your voice is the best, the expression the emotions everything is heard, i really can listen to you for hours, o mean all day, hehe ;thankyou! love ya 💗
This channel always has good advice! When I have nobody to talk to, I’m glad this channel is here. I hope everyone listens to this and can apply this to your life to make sure you’re happy 👍
This could've come at a better time. I'm currently deciding if my current friend group is toxic or not, but after watching this video, I can safely say that they're toxic. Thank you to whoever made this video
Sorry bout that buddy :( It's happened to me as well! Hope you get over it soon
OMG same! But I still am not sure, I think I'm just scared to let them go
@@ZoeyNova same
Gurl samee! My friend ( Fake) Has " Apoligised "lots of times when they talked about me behind my back and lies about me. And I'm just scared to say We are not friends anymore. Ughhhh so hard!!!
Same. I’ve been thinking about just letting go of them, but have been held back by the fact they’re my only two friends I have.
It’s either toxic friends, or none.
I've recently been EXTREMELY worried about the fact that some of my friends could be toxic/manipulative without me realizing it, and these videos helped A LOT. They made me realize that one of my friends is toxic, and i mean TOXIC. Thank you.
Same
I couldn't be worried about any of this, I know my friends aren't toxic
Cuz they're non existent 💀💀
@@Kris-lp9is rip 💀💀
Same here my friends who I know for 5 years are toxic to me for get this 2 years I am trying to ask them about it😢
Exactly what I’m going through❤after hanging out more with a friend I notice more and more how he sees the world, he went on a long story about how he tips Starbucks workers so that they will give him a good order but he said that after awhile he noticed they got used to him tipping(idk how he noticed this) and that because of this he started going in at a different time than usual so that they won’t get used to his tipping. He told me one day when he walked in one of the workers said, “your here later than usual”, and he said he responded with “I don’t work here” and he told me he had to remind them they were the workers that way. He sounds like he is full of himself tbh but I need opinions.
I let go of a very dear friend an year ago because they hurt me many times over the year and covid kinda saved me from them, but I've been hit with guilt at random times when I'm missing home or just feeling down. Your video gave me closure and made me realise I did the right thing. Thank you.
Thank you for these . Now I know that my friend is a true friend ❤❤
This seems pretty straightforward if we're dealing with one-on-one situations, but what if that toxic friend is part of a larger group of close friends? Breaking up with that toxic friend could make things in the group rather awkward.
I'd say tell them you don't really want to do one on one hangouts with them anymore as it no longer feels mutually fulfilling, but that you'd still like to be civil in the group hangouts. Maybe something like that?
My toxic ex best friend is still in two of my groups and I handled the two differently. In our close group they were all toxic, and they showed their true colors when I left them, so, better that way. In the other group it's a bit awkward but we just avoid talking directly to each other, I would have thought it's very difficult to handle but it isn't impossible
YES there’s this one friend in my friend group that’s super rude (I won’t go into detail but most points here apply to them) but it’s super awkward trying to let go of a friend in a group
I've been part of a group like this. I had to let go of all of it; seeing the couple of nice people wasn't worth it.
I have one-on-one situation, the problem is that it still doesn't work that easily, like yes maybe it will be less awkward after we break it I just don't know if I would regret it or not and what if she just gossip and say false information about me, I am afraid but I am really stressed out bc of her I can't explain the feeling any more it's just... Exhausting more than upsetting, every time I argue with her she does that circle of not replying to what I said but instead opening another story that's easier for her so she can win the argument, I DON'T CARE ABOUT WHO WINS IT WHY IS SHE ALWAYS JUST CARES ABOUT HER WANTING TO WIN IT, I just want to reach a point with her I don't want some one to lose or win I just want to talk to her but she doesn't care about anything I said she just wants to be satisfied and win the argument :/ Why doesn't she for once reply to me so we can reach a point and end this and finally a video that included "the one that lists your mistakes" bc that's literally her she said many rude stuff to me and when I told her that I think the way she is talking to me is toxic she now in every argument says "well don't talk to me like you are an angel remember that you said I am toxic" and "wow, I am toxic now" l swear I didn't tell her that for the purpose of offense I did it bc I wanted her to be aware of her actions
The friend ship was for 5 years Idk if I want it anymore bc It has been now 4 months of me not caring about her anymore, and the main problem in one to one situation is that I don't have any other friends so Idk what to do
Pls I need help or an advice....
Also be careful about Freinds being too clingy like to the point they become so obsessed they won't give you space to breathe. Had one that would not give me any space and pushed my boundaries until I snapped.
Literally just had to end a relationship with someone who was obsessed but also jealous of me. It was weird and started having bad vibes from her and a mutual friend confirmed I wasn’t crazy and that she was talking about my personal issues to people behind my back
true!
This, I know someone in this class. She wants to be with her even though she was assigned in different task. I thought it’s a bit uncomfortable for me, I hope it’s ok to her.
I feel very sad, after watching this video I have realized that my friends do all of these things, I have had some amazing fun times with them but no matter what it feels like the next day, someone will do something mean, like bringing up past fights and laughing at someone’s insecurities when some one does this it makes anybody else want to do the same to them so it is an infinite cycle of toxic-ness. I have realized I might have been doing these things in response to my friends toxic behavior, this year one of my best friends is moving away, and I want to fix things in my friend group before then. Thank you for helping me realize this, your videos are super helpful❤❤, hopefully now me and my friends might be able to salvage our relationship 😮💨
This is what I feel in my friends for the past months and my academic behavior was badly affected. I’m being firm for days right now and I don’t want to wastw time anymore.
I really needed to hear this. I recently went through three toxic so called friendships and they all ended with fakeness lasting for one year and then they would just vanish leaving me abandoned. This really helped and now I feel someone gets it.
I'm so glad my best friend and I can express the toxic things we've done to each other respectfully and acknowledge these things so that, no only can we improve for each other, but so we can improve for ourselves.
My best friend yells at me and doesn't care abt me 🙂
@@useri201i4p2 Then I don't think that's a best friend, buddy
@@PsyOzoneBurstTakeyami Yeah even my 9ther friends say that he is not a good influence and I notice myself yelling at my family more when they do something to upset me on the days he yells at me a lot.
@@useri201i4p2 same
He deepfaked it. Should have seen that coming well now you don't have any caring friends
I'm sick of feeling like I'm being invited somewhere to hang-out as an afterthought or just because I was there when they were discussing about where to go. I'm done.
At least you're asked they still talk about it and don't invite me. But I guess they knew I couldn't come because of my parents 🙄so maybe it was my parents who are partly to blame
@@mewesquirrel6720 maybe maybe. They're just used to you not going even if you like to go
I remember throughout childhood, I had these "friends" who would never phone me and ask to hang out, it was always me getting in touch or else nothing would happen. So eventually I just stopped phoning. In retrospect, not the type of person I should have been friends with anyway... if I was so far beneath what they considered attention-worthy, why not find someone I get along with better?
Thankfully, now I have several people like that. Heh, I wonder if any of the people from back then have any real friends.^^
Us too! This feeling is never good.
This is gonna help me a lot! And give this animator a trophy. They deserve it!
I'm a very good guy, according to my ex classmates, yet sometimes when i want to start a chat with them they progressively back off, like I'm weird or something and I thought something serious was going on and they wouldn't tell me. After watching this video, I realized how toxic they were, and i feel ashamed of myself for being with fake friends, yet that doesn't mean i don't have friends. I have some who I play football with, and they're really great people, and another group where we talk about anything, without further a do, great video.
I like this video I now know that I should be reaching out to my friends and talking to them more because I barely know them
How did that go? How many friends did you reach out to?
@@Psych2go only 3 of them but I also started going out more after school with them and I feel like we've gotten closer
@@tyra_codii I was wondering how you did so much within 2 hours then I saw that this comment was made a month ago-
But either way, even if it's only 3, you did a great job.. The fact that you're putting effort into making your relationships better is what matters. I wish you luck!
@@tyra_codii Well done for making an effort to go beyond the superficial and actually connecting with your friends. If you can find even a few people you truly feel kinship with, who care about you as you care about them, whom you can open up to and share difficult things and situations with... it will be worth the effort, as they may well remain close and cherished friends for decades. With continuous maintenance of the relationships, of course. =)
Your comment is 1 month old But the video is only 23 hours old
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Can't remember the last time I had real friends. Everyone is bloody fake.
Right?? It’s so lonely at times
“Everyone is bloody fake”
They are, until you push this paranoid-avoidant bullshit out of your “genius” head
We live in a fake world, but we just have to learn how to deal with it...
Sorry about this...
Hey , pls help me 🙏🙏
There is this guy.. we"re chatting yesterday.. firstly, we were just joking n then our conversation got serious. Then he is like block me, block me!!! We were such good friends but when it comes to serious stuff he is like leave it , n he asks if I am disturbing him so I can tell him or block him. he never tries to understand me. Everytime I please him, but he never . Ps: sorry for my English..I'm not able to figure out if he is toxic or not????
@1:10 this is how I treat other people sometimes and I should seriously stop. Thanks for bringing this up. I really have to work on this
This has made me rethink my relationships with lots of people. Thank you.👍❤️
I mean, I remember that I confronted my friend for them not really caring for how she really treated me and all she said was, sorry. Nothing else. Damn this video hit hard.
Mine didn't even say sorry😓
sometimes i have trouble even saying it i just don't want to hurt there feelings !
I have an online friend I met 3 years ago on Ragnarok Online, and that is what a true friendship to me is like. We hang out in games together, laugh and have fun, talk about our problems and rants, be there for eachother, talk about controversial things without judgment or such...to me, she's the best friend I could ever have.
Bro can I be your friend pls🥺💔
👍
@@priyasenthilkumar8508 Can I be your friend, too?
Yes exactly what I mean by true friendships can start online. Anyone telling you that it’s not true just doesn’t know or chooses to ignore this fact. First friendship that actually lasting for over 4 years let alone 3 at a constant basis of communication and conversation trust. Sometimes we make friends in our daily lives (physically) only for convenience. I learned it the hard way. I have been so much happier without the old ex friend that I had no idea what I was doing and really do you really know someone if you have/had no idea what that person was/is doing and what you were/are doing?
my teacher made me watch this for a lesson (i am not american nor english so she comes once a week along with our regular teacher to work on our speaking capabilities) and i have to say your artstyle is so good!!!
Your drawings are super good and I love the life lessons you give people
I have a close friend. She doesn't have any of these symptoms but yet I doubt she's a good friend because, since she got engaged, she stopped messaging me. Just remembering me once per two months or after 3 months. We used to chat daily and I confronted her about it. She didn't Apologize just excuses of not having time...Working bla bla bla, But I discover that she's chatting with her fiancee all the time. Plus, she now talks to me just if she has problems. She never asks how I'm doing since she knows I'm lonely and have so many issues in my life. This is a fake friend who you thought is a loyal one since childhood!
That's complicated
I've had some people or friends who just pretend they appreciate what I do in public just for the sake of appearance and then they go and gossip about me when I'm not around...it hurts, but knowing who your real friends are is touched on so well in the video. Spending your time energy around the right people is so important! Thank you Psych2Go!
Sorry about this... Yes! Know your real buds!
Your UA-cam channel is so nice! I watch these videos whenever I’m down!
It's so easy to get rid of the friends you want to keep but so difficult to get rid of the ones who you don't. Also, I often feel like I'm the bad friend because they all never want to talk to me. I always mess everything up. In my whole life I've never had a friend who stays.
You aren't alone. I'm in the same boat. No one has ever stayed for me either and right now my only friend is my cat.
I've been dealing with friends who have acted a lot like fake friends for years. I've been ignoring the signs and by now,I'm pretty much used to this. Whenever we have our great moment,I appreciate it too much and mostly just ignore these bad signs. I've started doubting our friendships nowadays but I keep holding on due to all our memories.
Set your boundaries, if they will completely ignore that. Then let go.
I know its hard to let go, i had to let go of multiple friends for shaming me in every way possible. I loves them, because I loved our memories and our families are really close. Ive been friends with them for 2-3 years. But everytime I told them, I was uncomfortable. They continued.
So i confronted them, they gave no shit and gave the most shittest apology. I was heartbroken, told them. Im done. They started joking about it, but I had this warm fuzzy feeling that I was free, even with a bit of guilt. I dont regret my decision one bit. I started blocking them on everything.
Ive made better friends now, I hope you let go of your toxic friendship. If not, I hope they change.
@@vivxx Thanks a bunch for the advice! I decided to let go of one of my friends who i've known for like 8 years. It was pretty tough but I felt a lot better afterwards.
I have the same situation, my friends at first acted like a nice friends. But last 2 years they became toxic and mostly like fake friends. And now if they just don't touch me or I'm having a nice time for 1-3 minutes i already feel so happy. I want to let them go, but they're my school friends and I don't know what will happen if i would let them go... Maybe they'll bully me or idk, but i need to hold my feeling until i can move to another school. Because school friends it's just a way to avoid bullying and of you're alone, get ready to get bullied. That's why i can't let my toxic friends go right now...
Same
@POLISN I am in the same position but they're my only friends, I'm worried what will happen if I let go
I really like how the animation represents the beings in the animations as plants because it really signifies how being with genuine people is like a plant being cared for and being with toxic people is one being neglected.
How i can relate to almost every video you have, its so relatableeee
thank you for this video, i was finally able to see that one of my friends was very controlling, and would rarely let me do anything i enjoyed. it would rarely be about me and only about them. he had a lust for arguing and didnt care what his friends or i had to say, there was just a giant sense of ignorance coming from him. today we got into a heated argument where he put the safety of a game over his own friendship. he thought by deleting my game account, he would be able to save everyone else and when i brought it up to him about it, he said it was because it was mainly me and repeatedly said "if it were anyone else it would have been different." he was very critical about what i did and never ever listened to what i said. and today he just let it all down on me that he was being fake to gain something out of it, an ulterior motive. he never cared, he always said that he would stop caring about everything so he was more "free" and it only made more problems for us and him. i had enough and left the friend group. im still gonna be in contact with my other friends, just not him. hes only there when he needs something. thats why im shutting him out.
I've been in a toxic friendship for 6 years and just got out of it about a year ago and it's the most relief I've ever felt
can you give tips? ive been in one for almost 5 years and just the last one or two years she started being toxic and insensitive. We had an argument 2 days ago and i apologized but she only responded "aha" and has been ghosting me and i dont know what to do because she and her cousin are the last and only friends i can rely on
@@trnavskatreska7491 She's doing silent treatment, she must be a narcissist or something like that. if i were you i would stop being her friend. Because narcissist are THE WORST. Their whole goal is to bring you down.
@@mell_yzma4726 thanks i already dropped her like a week ago and ive been happier since even tho im alone
@@trnavskatreska7491 hope the best for you!
@@mell_yzma4726 ❤️
What sucks is that everyone I’ve been close with, has had at least one of these traits listed of them. And I re-watched this to see if I’m like this, and surprisingly I’ve somehow avoided these traits. I always make sure I’m there for my friends as much as their there for me. And I never talk about small problems, it’s not as important as some of the stuff they go through. When I ask questions, I patiently wait to comment and I pay attention best as possible. Some people came to mind during this video because they don’t do these things. Sometimes it feels like they want someone else to come and save them from me. Sometimes they even get mad at me when I’ve done nothing. They talk about me behind my back constantly too. I’m unsure how to fix this yet, but I’ll talk to them.
I’m sorry about that man. I wish you the best
I’m going through the same thing right now it can be tough to deal with pain like this because it hurts more than a breakup and it feels like you can’t really do anything but stay neutral but honestly man you deal with them whenever you feel like dealing with them keep your head up and mindset strong because there’s friends who envied me when I been nothing but loyal to them so sometimes you either gotta rock it out on your own or let your partner/loved one take the spot and be your best friend it works trust me but stay safe brotha 💯
Same I felt the same thing so I'm probably be lonely when I'm older bc I lost 4 friends so I only got 3 friends now😭
I have the same problem so now I dont have any friends
WOW tose Texte are longgg
I discovered this channel 5 years ago and didnt really care much cuz i was in grade 4 or 5 now I really need this thank you
honestly i've been dealing with these 6 things and i always overlooked them honestly thanks!..
this is also a good video to decide if *you're* toxic. me and my friends say rude things to each other, but we normally do this in a jokingly way, my best friend doesn't agree with these as much but still participates occasionally. this video helped me decide if what I say sounds like playful banter, harmful words to my friend and how i should fix it. this video really help me reflect and see if I'm a good friend or not. I really like my friend and I don't try to harm her, I should just make sure, just in in case.
My friends also say rude things about others but no in an abusive way
Late,, but this used to be me. it *used* to be jokingly. we were always happy and drama wasnt too frequent, around april, there was a very large switch that kinda just changed, sometimes i think it was me when it really just was the leader that changed (negatively) and influenced all of his friends. i was included until i realized how flucked up the situation was. when i mentioned it, everything started to become real. they all targeted me, and i started to notice the red flags. the old friend group of mine started putting up offensive jokes, and insulting trauma. i left not long after they tried to blackmail me when trying to stand up for myself. This all spiraled last April 2023, and i anonymously left them in mid october. they wont see me for awhile because i was able to leave when i moved schools. (i blocked them online)
April was when the switch HAPPENED, but it got severe in may, and i left in october. just a timeline check!
Dang that sucks.. I do hope it gets better for you!@@ariust
Friendships are vital but can be hurtful, too. If you don't feel supported or if the relationship drains you, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. If the friendship doesn’t have any positive benefits for you, and your conversation with them hasn’t helped any, it may be time to end it.
True!
e you put me in this situation
A person I considered to be my "best friend" was actually kinda toxic, and made me really insecure to the point where I confessed my feelings in a harsh way. But thankfully, we made amends and we both fixed some negative things, and I'm proud to say that we still remain incredibly close. It helped bring us together and understand each other better
Thank you for showing my relationship with my only friend and I knew she was a fake / toxic friend and as the quiet kid in my class I think. I'm ending soon lonely without friends.🙁💔
I'm happy for yall that still have real friends, god bless you.
I have this one friend in class, she sits next to me. And she always makes fun of me or humiliates me in front of my class. She doesn’t listen to me and I just come home worse then ever. It’s exhausting and tiring. I always feel left out because we are in a trio. She always takes the credit and I realized that she used me to look better
dang, thats messed up.
3:26. I'm sorry but is that a jojo reference??!?!?!
Ended one of those friendships lately, even tho I've done toxic stuff too (like after some time keeping track of wrong doings) I'm glad it ended
Those are fr exhausting
This was actually really helpful wish I paid attention to this before freshman and the 1/2 of sophomore year we’ve experienced
I’m not innocent but I’ve tried to work on it but it seems like only half the effort to make amends is being put in and honestly it’s not worth it
This honestly brought some conviction for me. This video showed me some things I’m doing to people in my friend groups just because everyone else is doing it to them. This video kind of gave me a needed slap in the face about what I’m intentionally or unintentionally doing to my friends.
Sadly I feel the same way… but it feels weird that I do this I haven’t ever done this before.
PEOPLE LIKE U SHOULDNT EXIST NO OFFENCE :/
The same
2:15 anyone else see the Gordon Ramsey reference? 😂
Thank you. This video helped me dispose of a friend that would constantly physically injure me, laugh at me when I say to stop and try to voice my concerns. He would also just pull out a knife at me whenever I say that I'm going to tell the principal. We don't talk anymore. I cut the friendship off at the root after two years of doing nothing about it. He never truly cared about me, so I never cared about him. He fits all of these categories and I'm glad it's over. I'm still constantly paranoid because I still go to school with him.
Yes. The knife thing is true. We are both in 8th grade and in the same homeroom
I have a ‘friend’ who does all of these things to other people, but I’m not really sure what to do, but it was nice to watch this video anyways :).
Thank you so much for making this video, I have a friend who is extremely mean and rude to me, I thought it was just friend humor until she took it to bullying my friends and physically harming me. I thought it was normal because she did it all the time but now I know that I have to end this relationship. Thank you. ❤
i really needed this my “bestfriend” also makes me feel bad about myself and makes me feel ashamed of things that i can’t handed like my pain bc i’m always in the hospital and she said sometimes i wish we weren’t friends and then started talking about herself but i don’t know how to tell her really bc when i bring something up she just brings and all her insecurities and makes me feel bad then i have to say sorry then she talks about herself again
Yeah, it's time for her to go, friend.
I've learned from my experiences that if anyone makes you feel badly about your self, they are simply not a friend. İf you don't know how to shut her out place boundaries on this person. Bc you need to take care of yourself first. You haven't done anything to feel badly about, and you are in and out of hospital . How dare this person put more trauma in your life. İt is draining and you need healing. Big hug to you ❤️🌻
@aesthetic_sunflower
I'm someone like you too. I worry more about hurting the other person whose hurting my feeling more than myself. But it's not okay for your mental health. You'll constantly feel worse until your self-esteem is depleted to the lowest level. My advice if you want it, is that you should do this for the sake of both your physical and mental health. Nothing is more important than THAT! When you want to confront her, don't think about all the things you want to say. Just let everything out from the bottom of your heart! If you have to close your eyes while speaking, (I've heard it works,) do so. Don't let he/she interrupt you because it will definitely disturb your flow. And if you have to put an end to the "friendship", by all means do so.
You'll feel better after
They are not your best friend! I hope you find a real one :) we support you!
@@lilly6986 Thank you so much i really needed to hear this.❤️☺️
Thank you for the vid, I stopped being friends with someone a few months ago and I was starting to doubt it.. But this comfrimed i should have stopped with her way before, I do sometimes question my current relationship but so far almost no mistakes! Because everybody makes mistakes and thats Okay!
Its crazy how every point of this video relates back to one friend i have that now im starting to realise is really toxic like originally i thought it was just the way he is with people but he dosent act that way to anyone else apart from me, discussions need to be made today lol
Thank you so much for this video. This helped me realize that most of my friends are toxic....and I have been as well. Thanks to this I can see what I've done wrong and what I need to work on to be a better friend. Thanks again!
I have been having a very hard time with a friend lately and I'm starting to think our friendship is toxic. Thank you for these videos, they help a lot.
Same I agree
Thanks, Psych. This video helped me a ton.
No problem!
Man I just love your voice its so relaxing
I've said this so many times in certain threads,...
*"You got nothing to lose! You don't lose when you lose fake friends!"- Joan Jett and the Blackhearts .*
I feel so happy that I have a friend who actually care about me, but this video help me realize what's I could improve in myself. ❤️
Thank you for this good information
I ONLY had a toxic relationship because of ONE friend. But me and my friends weren't sure if he was a good friend or not because sometimes he would do nice things, and other times he would do things that we didn't like that he did. But when we found this video, we knew he was a toxic friend because he did almost all of the things in this video. Now, our relationship has become better without him, we had fun times with him, but we were happier and more fun without him. This video really helped us a lot!😊
Wow, thanks for your video. I definitely check boxes 1,2 and 4. I never realized until I thought about it in front of your video how often I did it. I now realize that if I'm not a toxic friend because there were never any bad intentions, I'm still a bad friend. I will do better. This video is important, as for the victim than for the one in error.
Don't forget to be your own best friend and trust your own judgment. You deserve real friends. ❤
I've recently figured out that I'M the bad friend.. I tried to apologise for everything I did and asked if we could start a new page. Now we are way better now and are alot healthier!
I don’t even need to watch the video to say yes. I had a group of friends from high school who I thought I was really close with. We got along so well and I felt like I could call them family. Then the last day of January they removed all communications with me and I was freaking out because I was so confused to what happened. So I asked another one of the friends in the friend group because something similar happened to her, and when that happened to her I was there for her. To show that I would always be there to support her. And then she wasn’t there for me, after she told me that she would always be there for me, she immediately unfriend and blocked me on all types of social media, even in the video game platforms we played on together. When that happened I felt like my heart actually broke. I was so mentally destroyed and cried for hours until the smell of my tears literally made me sleep. And after 3 and a half months, I still have no closure to why they did this to me. I’ve decided, now that I finished my first year of college that I will go to each of their houses and have a “last talk” if they want to reconcile I would be just friends with them. I could never trust them to be best friends again, but if they want nothing to do with me. Then I will completely let go of them and *just* focus on myself.
Edit: sorry I kinda just ranted!
Don't do it. I know what you're going through I've had the same thing happen with both friends and my literal blood siblings (my little brother stole over $1,500 worth of personal items and then just blocked and smeared me to the rest of the family). It literally drove me insane. I spent the past year mentally recovering through bouts of confusion, sadness, rage, etc.
The biggest and most torturous part of it was that I couldn't mentally empathize with the level of emotional coldness, I thought I was mistaken, there had to be a reason something I did wrong, etc. I tried to share it with so many people. My irl "friends" who were already horrible emotional support did what they did best: made everything about their wanna be sitcom lives, I started ignoring them and keeping to myself.
The family not involved either only sympathized to get things out of me or they straight up would express about the same level of apathy as my friends, leaving me on seen, going quiet or even shaming me for "holding onto the situation".
It got to the point where I literally started ruining my own life, nearly went homeless, etc. I decided after my grandmother died recently and that I saw no change to just let it go... Some people aer fucked up but if you go and try and get that "last talk" in? I promise you, you're not gonna get that answer, and you're gonna damage yourself more, by then having to try and fight the urge to prove you're not "crazy".
Leg them go. You can make more friends. They'll be good friends or bad, but they'll be new friends. Don't go back to people who don't want you... that won't change their mind, either.
Thank you for sharing this
This helped me, because i wasn’t sure if i was in a toxic relationship with my bff. I noticed that i do SOME of this stuff to her, but i didn’t mean to be toxic. But she did 5/6 things you said. I waited a bit, but i realized this is truly a toxic and fake friend. Thank tou so much to this.
I used to be a toxic friend when i was a lot younger, like middle school young. I didnt realize it until they pulled me aside and told me in private how it made them feel. I immediately worked on fixing it cause i didnt know what i did was hurting them.
To add: idk how much it affects it, but i have a problem where i dont feel sympathy naturally and had to train myself to feel sympathy and empathy. I also have an emotional processing disorder. I still decided i wanted to learn to do better as a friend, so i think there's no excuses. If you're a decent person who wants to do right by their friends you should always work on yourself.
I am really lucky that I have such friends who understands, me never make me feel insecure about my insecurities and always talk with me deeply.....❤
When my fake friend says sorry she’s just like, “sorrrryyyyyyuhhhhh 😒😒”
I know this was a year ago. But I wanted to say thank you for these types of videos, i realised I was in a toxic relationship and an abusive one. I also realised I was a bit manipulative and to these videos my friends are more grateful that I’m around as I’m not as manipulative. Thank you ❤
Well, after clicking on this video, I am pleased to say that all of my good and best friends are indeed genuine, real friends
I had a 1 year best friend and well she did all these things… made me cry and feel horrible about my self I already told her I don’t wanna be friends with her anymore.. and she never says sorry thank you so much for this!
My so called "best friend" who've I've known since 6th grade (just turned 26 now) has become someone very toxic! I care about him as a friend but after a few failed relationships with some girls, he just gave up on life it seems to me! He gave up working back in 2019, before the pandemic, and refuses to get a job anymore! He's always trying to bum money off friends and family and he gets unemployment pay but he spends his money on weed because he rather be high than to face his problems! I have depression and anxiety too because I come from an abusive household but yet I still do my best to work and actually trying to improve myself! If my friend isn't trying to improve himself then I can't be around someone so negative and who hates everyone and everything!
Sorry about this...
I definitely realized that I’m in a really toxic friendship. Thank you!
I think I have a toxic friend... Now I am just waiting for the moment where we won't be in the same class and/or school... I think I'm just going to wait and don't say anything to stay in peace for now...
Thanks for this vidéo ❤❤❤
Thank you Psych2Go. This really lifted my mood up. I have been in a friendship for over 10 years already. And my friends keeps acting like she is a boss around me. Now since I found this video, I declare that my “best friend” is actually a “best harasser”.
I have an online friend who sometimes disapears for long periods of time without warning and will just show back up like nothing happned.
I know that they are going through a lot, live alone and have very few friends but, the inconsistencies in contact are somewhat bringing me down, I care about them a lot and often worry about having done something wrong.
When they are around they are nice and kind, they seem to be set on playing up this 'uncaring' persona despite occasionally helping with problems and listening to me.
I don't know what to do, I genuinely feel happy and comfortable around them but when they're gone everything feels awful.
Just give it some time. 💕
They might not be used to be having a lot of interactions with their friends. it could also be that they are very cautious with whom they connect. It probably wouldn't hurt to ask them to see, just don't push it too much. There could be multiple reasons why they are acting the way they are and some of those reasons they may not be comfortable with saying them, especially if they're still getting to know you as a person.
Give it time! Time will heal
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I’ve currently been going through some rough patches with my best friend and questioning our friendship. I found you channel and i’ve watched a lot of your videos to help me know if it’s time to move on. Thank you so much for these videos, they help me understand my friendships so much better, and what I’m doing wrong or my friend’s doing wrong. If I am able to fix my friendships, I will owe it all to you. Thank you
All of these signs have been ticked by me. My friend doesn't care about what I say and doesn't like doing things I want. And he only uses me to get what he wants. we have constant arguments and if I don't do what he likes, he just leaves. Thanks for the advice. From now on he is no longer my friend.
Thanks for this info Now you are so helpful so I’m subscribing
I'm so glad I found my best friend in 7th grade. We've been friends for over 4 years. We're both long out of school and doing an apprenticeship but we still talk and hang out. It's so awesome to see someone care as much about me as i do about him. He's also honest with me trying to help me improve. Just all around great guy. Hope you guys find someone like that. Just keep searching and you'll find the right people.
Yay!
I had friends similar to this and I didn’t wake up from it all until I was finally away from them. It’s a long process to accept your feelings and ignore the justifications.
These signs helped me thank you
As someone who grew up with horrendous friends in my teen years who would often hurt me physically and mentally over the years, it still hurts to think about it.
tbh none of them showed up with my friendship, my homie sometimes ain't gonna be beside me, but when i ever feel depressed or insecure, he would comfort me and give me the courage to do stuff.
And I'm truly grateful for it.