6 Signs You Have Toxic Friends, NOT Real Friends

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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  11 місяців тому +512

    It's important to recognize who your real friends are. Watch this video next to find out the difference between good and toxic friends: ua-cam.com/video/J0brxU8tg2I/v-deo.html

    • @IsabellaVega-f8z
      @IsabellaVega-f8z 11 місяців тому +5

      Mine are real friends

    • @srenchristianhansen
      @srenchristianhansen 10 місяців тому +11

      So i haf No friends 😢

    • @tmnarimotakiu9767
      @tmnarimotakiu9767 10 місяців тому +7

      Idk why IM gonna say this but i have a friend called abri idk what his full name is but i know his name is abri and also hes like a guardian angel he always steps up when someone bullys me he just steps up and punch the guy and say to me cmon let's run we are still friends to this day

    • @sarahrahim8415
      @sarahrahim8415 10 місяців тому +4

      I thought my friend was true…I’ll tell them this…

    • @ducky7558
      @ducky7558 9 місяців тому +3

      ​@@srenchristianhansenI can be your frinde

  • @misterlamprey7777
    @misterlamprey7777 2 роки тому +6129

    1. They don't show interest in your life
    2. They aren't there for you when you need them
    3. They are overly critical of you
    4. They aren't genuinely apologetic
    5. They keep track of how many times you have wronged them
    6. They speak about your insecurities often

  • @tow3842
    @tow3842 2 роки тому +7434

    Who ever animated this deserves an academy award. Seriously, incredible job.

    • @elliekopter
      @elliekopter 2 роки тому +287

      OatsAndToasts Avena they're a new animator 🙂

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +953

      Thank you!

    • @christophersmith9237
      @christophersmith9237 2 роки тому +69

      Yeah, it's cleanly animated.

    • @elimo3901
      @elimo3901 2 роки тому +51

      This was AMAZING!! Like watching a real animated film/show... So many emotions, mannerisms, different behaviours and personalities. Great character design :)

    • @chillycicada
      @chillycicada 2 роки тому +15

      fr it's amazing

  • @LonewolfAZ520
    @LonewolfAZ520 2 роки тому +2068

    Anyone that brings negativity towards a friendship it's time to let them go. The drama arguing fussing fighting and keeping tabs on who did what is exhausting

    • @victorvasilev4640
      @victorvasilev4640 2 роки тому +26

      Yes but we are roommates now and the situation is complicated 🙂

    • @KINGDEVON16
      @KINGDEVON16 2 роки тому +31

      Are they bringing negativity because of your actions or lacc of respect or are they just a negative nancy?

    • @Bolshechemty
      @Bolshechemty 2 роки тому +12

      ​@@KINGDEVON16 The question that needs to be asked.

    • @Ch3zzIts
      @Ch3zzIts 2 роки тому +4

      Yea

    • @LonewolfAZ520
      @LonewolfAZ520 2 роки тому +22

      @@KINGDEVON16 lack of respect. They always want someone to listen to their problems but dont want to listen when it comes time to.

  • @robloxfnafdrewgamegirldoga488
    @robloxfnafdrewgamegirldoga488 2 місяці тому +33

    Hello! So last year I’ve been a toxic friend and have not realized it, but after I’ve watched your videos I began to improve every day! Thank you SO much for making me get healthy, and I just want you to know that you changed me and my friendship! Thank you!

  • @emilyx3131
    @emilyx3131 2 роки тому +1469

    remember this isn't always just about toxic friends, it could be the same with a toxic partner, toxic classmate, a toxic family member or yourself, it doesn't just apply to your friends! :)

    • @hazukichanx408
      @hazukichanx408 2 роки тому +17

      Indeed. It's important to know how different people influence our well-being, and of course how we influence theirs - and make choices that lead toward the life we want, the state of mental and emotional health we're aiming for. Find people who are good for you, and be good to them - or if you're especially brave, try changing the pattern with people who struggle to be constructive about relationships, _but_ in the latter case... be prepared to say, at some point, "I tried, and it didn't work. They don't seem interested. Time to move on."
      It's not your job to fix anyone else. It's often impossible. We can try to help nudge people in a good direction, but if they're not going with it, it won't work. First and foremost, we can control who we are and how we treat people... then, with a little luck, that can inspire others to follow suit.^^

    • @singingwindrider9881
      @singingwindrider9881 2 роки тому +12

      Exactly why I've had to limit contact with my siblings. I do love them but they are quite toxic (narcissistic, critical, dismissive, etc), so loving them from a distance is very necessary.

    • @evamarek5205
      @evamarek5205 2 роки тому +3

      Very true.

    • @The-waveverse
      @The-waveverse 2 роки тому +4

      It’s pretty eye opening to realize your partner wasn’t a even a good friend.

    • @evamarek5205
      @evamarek5205 2 роки тому +1

      @@The-waveverse Yes. This happened to me, too.😔

  • @Oreotruth
    @Oreotruth Рік тому +1452

    I was in a very toxic friendship a few months ago. I didn't realize just how toxic it was because I just wanted some friends. This describes my previous "friends" perfectly. They did all of this. I'm grateful to the three people who pointed this out to me and this video for showing me just how bad it was.

    • @i.zumi1
      @i.zumi1 Рік тому +19

      My friend was playing Roblox with my other friend so I feel left out

    • @OceanicPearlz1
      @OceanicPearlz1 Рік тому +18

      Same here but it was more than 2 years ago I realize it now as it hits me how naïve I was. I realized i was ghosted when I needed her however I was there for her when she was getting bullied. As I rethink I reliezed this was not real and there were red flags and my gut was saying something to confirm that

    • @anamoly
      @anamoly Рік тому +7

      I really do not know if I have a fake friend

    • @Stardust375
      @Stardust375 Рік тому +4

      Same i wrote a whole script about it in the comments 😅

    • @mafelbala395
      @mafelbala395 Рік тому +2

      Same dude

  • @queenalex7827
    @queenalex7827 2 роки тому +731

    It’s sad. You grow up in a toxic family and you are involved in so many toxic and abusive situations, so you start searching for love in the wrong places and you let people treat you like shit because you start to adapt to it. As a person who was involved in toxic relationships and is now getting out of toxic friendships. Give light to someone who needs it, you never know how bad shi is. And to whoever is reading this comment, im proud of you and I love you. 💛💛

    • @filsanmohamed2438
      @filsanmohamed2438 2 роки тому +25

      I feel ur pain 😭 ur not alone.

    • @queenalex7827
      @queenalex7827 2 роки тому +20

      @@filsanmohamed2438 I have no friends and I have trust issues so you’re comment meant the world to me and you’re also not alone ❤️❤️❤️

    • @hanstr9499
      @hanstr9499 Рік тому +8

      Thanks for speaking up on this, truly some words i've been trying to figure out from my own situation too.. I hope you find a safe place someday where you can freely express yourself, and don't give up as you'll never know when or how good things will come after these years of toxic situations.

    • @queenalex7827
      @queenalex7827 Рік тому +5

      @@hanstr9499 thank you sm for this comment and I wish the absolute best for you ❤️🙌🏽

    • @Gingerznap69
      @Gingerznap69 Рік тому +3

      this is literally the definition of my life

  • @JessiCat-Leopardtree
    @JessiCat-Leopardtree 2 місяці тому +9

    I ended a 25+ year friendship because of stuff like this. (Before I discovered this channel so it's comforting to know I made the right decision) I look back on so many things that they've done or said. They had so much influence on how I think. Once I finally got past letting them go, I found a new me that I didn't know existed.

  • @katia_gabriella
    @katia_gabriella 2 роки тому +389

    Oh man. I've had friends that just didn't care. We were friends because they needed that kind of attention. I woke up and realized that I didn't like them, their behavior, or how I felt after dealing with them in any capacity. Being alone is PEACEFUL ❤ I'm fine having barely any friends.

    • @Lydia-yt3ud
      @Lydia-yt3ud 2 роки тому +28

      I'm going through this too I feel you.. Although it's even more irritating for me because I have to see them everyday at university. And the truth is I currently have noone else close to me, so every day life has become quite heavy.. Even so, I prefer this than non genuine people around me. Hope things turn out better for us both ^^

    • @Aurora105
      @Aurora105 2 роки тому +17

      And it usually happens in college🥲 I’ve had a super toxic friend relationship and felt so exhausted and leaving her or “them” was the best choice I’ve ever made

    • @techrvl9406
      @techrvl9406 2 роки тому +14

      I feel that, dude. Had friends from JHS and up, back during my "class clown" phase of life. I legit let them go like maybe 6 months ago after years of feeling like shit around them. When I was younger, I didn't get a lot of attention at home, so I acted out in school, got a reputation for wild and unpredictable behavior.
      That reputation followed me into High School, College and finally adulthood.
      It was around early adulthood I really started to notice how different my older "friends" treated me... almost like a sideshow or an interesting oddity than a real friend.
      Anytime I expressed a dynamically unique opinion, I was met with silence. They were obsessed with being relevant and politically correct and would often shame me if it meant looking good in front strangers, even.
      The pandemic, like with everyone else, really showed me how they regard me and even after, with the vax mandates and that, I felt honestly like they weren't even my friends. I'm not even antivaxx, but the way they treated mutuals and then me for speaking up for them was just too much.
      I'm not gonna lie, I'm friendless IRL now. Like you said, though, the reality is that I was alone with people who never really understood me, either. It was hell existing as that quirky friend who was just basically the comic relief for the homies to get laid. I hated that I was always the one traveling to see them, always the one having to adjust my timing and schedule, because their lives were so much more important.
      Peace is sweet.

    • @minigamer4277
      @minigamer4277 2 роки тому +2

      Same

    • @Lydia-yt3ud
      @Lydia-yt3ud 2 роки тому +5

      @@techrvl9406 That last paragraph pretty much sums it all up.. I'm at least glad that I could tell someone (even here) that I have noone and didn't criticize me. I understand how you feel.. Wish I could be as elaborate as you, but just thinking of my situation hurts.

  • @yoursweethoneyyyy
    @yoursweethoneyyyy 2 роки тому +522

    I have had a lot of fake friends. It was mostly girls at that. They would uplift me in front of others, but always judged everything I did and even worse. Always protect your energy. Everyone is not your friend, but always be kind to others. 💖

    • @Coryraisa
      @Coryraisa 2 роки тому +22

      Both guys and gals can be equally toxic friends.

    • @drinasun6984
      @drinasun6984 2 роки тому +1

      I had fake friends as well, mostly girls, who were only friendly to me when they needed something.

    • @adishreechakraborty3975
      @adishreechakraborty3975 2 роки тому

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      ।mmmmbvcx, ললইউর

    • @Belle-md9rf
      @Belle-md9rf 2 роки тому

      @@Coryraisa well I'll say girls are more toxic friends if you're a girl becoz they might be jealous of looks and stuff and boys aren't like that...not that boys aren't toxic at all

    • @yoursweethoneyyyy
      @yoursweethoneyyyy 2 роки тому +5

      @@Coryraisa yes they can. I’m just saying that my experience was with girls mostly.

  • @anais_crazy
    @anais_crazy Рік тому +334

    I've recently been EXTREMELY worried about the fact that some of my friends could be toxic/manipulative without me realizing it, and these videos helped A LOT. They made me realize that one of my friends is toxic, and i mean TOXIC. Thank you.

    • @lukefrench426
      @lukefrench426 Рік тому +4

      Same

    • @Kris-lp9is
      @Kris-lp9is Рік тому +17

      I couldn't be worried about any of this, I know my friends aren't toxic
      Cuz they're non existent 💀💀

    • @anais_crazy
      @anais_crazy Рік тому +7

      @@Kris-lp9is rip 💀💀

    • @lakshmisasony9238
      @lakshmisasony9238 Рік тому +4

      Same here my friends who I know for 5 years are toxic to me for get this 2 years I am trying to ask them about it😢

    • @hnewman2907
      @hnewman2907 Рік тому +4

      Exactly what I’m going through❤after hanging out more with a friend I notice more and more how he sees the world, he went on a long story about how he tips Starbucks workers so that they will give him a good order but he said that after awhile he noticed they got used to him tipping(idk how he noticed this) and that because of this he started going in at a different time than usual so that they won’t get used to his tipping. He told me one day when he walked in one of the workers said, “your here later than usual”, and he said he responded with “I don’t work here” and he told me he had to remind them they were the workers that way. He sounds like he is full of himself tbh but I need opinions.

  • @Sunshine-d4e
    @Sunshine-d4e Місяць тому +1

    Be yourself. And if a “friend” doesn’t like that, let go! I had to let go of a friend who thought I was weird for being positive all the time!

  • @UwUgirlcutie121
    @UwUgirlcutie121 2 роки тому +222

    0:31 they don't show interest or ask details.
    1:03 they're not relaible or there when you need them.
    2:06 they're extremely critical of you.
    2:44 their apologizes don't sound genuine.
    3:21 they keep score of how many times you've wronged them.
    4:22 they play on your insecurities and make you feel unhappy.

  • @aaronthenorm5400
    @aaronthenorm5400 9 місяців тому +119

    "Friends" are rare! Good friends are even more so!

    • @SharkeVR
      @SharkeVR Місяць тому +1

      “True Friends are like diamonds, expensive and rare, False Friends are like autumn leaves, they are everywhere.”

  • @scynthiax1817
    @scynthiax1817 Рік тому +774

    This could've come at a better time. I'm currently deciding if my current friend group is toxic or not, but after watching this video, I can safely say that they're toxic. Thank you to whoever made this video

    • @encryptedatrest
      @encryptedatrest Рік тому +25

      Sorry bout that buddy :( It's happened to me as well! Hope you get over it soon

    • @SHARxxY1
      @SHARxxY1 Рік тому +18

      OMG same! But I still am not sure, I think I'm just scared to let them go

    • @Maryam-939
      @Maryam-939 Рік тому +7

      @@SHARxxY1 same

    • @DDap2-q4p
      @DDap2-q4p Рік тому +8

      Gurl samee! My friend ( Fake) Has " Apoligised "lots of times when they talked about me behind my back and lies about me. And I'm just scared to say We are not friends anymore. Ughhhh so hard!!!

    • @minemasterSAM
      @minemasterSAM Рік тому +10

      Same. I’ve been thinking about just letting go of them, but have been held back by the fact they’re my only two friends I have.
      It’s either toxic friends, or none.

  • @Battoezz
    @Battoezz 2 місяці тому +5

    5 years. we were friends for 5 years. but they all found each other to be more suitable for friendship, i guess.

  • @tugatomskanimation6370
    @tugatomskanimation6370 2 роки тому +294

    This seems pretty straightforward if we're dealing with one-on-one situations, but what if that toxic friend is part of a larger group of close friends? Breaking up with that toxic friend could make things in the group rather awkward.

    • @slimeb0y_
      @slimeb0y_ 2 роки тому +39

      I'd say tell them you don't really want to do one on one hangouts with them anymore as it no longer feels mutually fulfilling, but that you'd still like to be civil in the group hangouts. Maybe something like that?

    • @camilla8129
      @camilla8129 Рік тому +8

      My toxic ex best friend is still in two of my groups and I handled the two differently. In our close group they were all toxic, and they showed their true colors when I left them, so, better that way. In the other group it's a bit awkward but we just avoid talking directly to each other, I would have thought it's very difficult to handle but it isn't impossible

    • @someone-xh9bu
      @someone-xh9bu Рік тому +2

      YES there’s this one friend in my friend group that’s super rude (I won’t go into detail but most points here apply to them) but it’s super awkward trying to let go of a friend in a group

    • @mrs.s2168
      @mrs.s2168 Рік тому +2

      I've been part of a group like this. I had to let go of all of it; seeing the couple of nice people wasn't worth it.

    • @-az-2427
      @-az-2427 Рік тому +1

      I have one-on-one situation, the problem is that it still doesn't work that easily, like yes maybe it will be less awkward after we break it I just don't know if I would regret it or not and what if she just gossip and say false information about me, I am afraid but I am really stressed out bc of her I can't explain the feeling any more it's just... Exhausting more than upsetting, every time I argue with her she does that circle of not replying to what I said but instead opening another story that's easier for her so she can win the argument, I DON'T CARE ABOUT WHO WINS IT WHY IS SHE ALWAYS JUST CARES ABOUT HER WANTING TO WIN IT, I just want to reach a point with her I don't want some one to lose or win I just want to talk to her but she doesn't care about anything I said she just wants to be satisfied and win the argument :/ Why doesn't she for once reply to me so we can reach a point and end this and finally a video that included "the one that lists your mistakes" bc that's literally her she said many rude stuff to me and when I told her that I think the way she is talking to me is toxic she now in every argument says "well don't talk to me like you are an angel remember that you said I am toxic" and "wow, I am toxic now" l swear I didn't tell her that for the purpose of offense I did it bc I wanted her to be aware of her actions
      The friend ship was for 5 years Idk if I want it anymore bc It has been now 4 months of me not caring about her anymore, and the main problem in one to one situation is that I don't have any other friends so Idk what to do
      Pls I need help or an advice....

  • @yanxoxo
    @yanxoxo 11 місяців тому +215

    always hitting me with the "sorry, i guess?" or "geez, sorry."

    • @SamanthaLily1
      @SamanthaLily1 10 місяців тому +8

      Or sorry */with a laugh

    • @urlocalcattt
      @urlocalcattt 8 місяців тому

      same

    • @Alee-r4w
      @Alee-r4w 8 місяців тому

      Wow I’m so aprry

    • @Alee-r4w
      @Alee-r4w 8 місяців тому

      Sorry

    • @Sleepingbackwards
      @Sleepingbackwards 8 місяців тому +1

      Nah dude. Sometimes someone just hate apologizing idk why

  • @AndyJin-f9c
    @AndyJin-f9c Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for this video, one of my friends does the opposite of being a friend. This video should get a Nobel prize of teaching friendship

  • @randoiguess
    @randoiguess 2 роки тому +332

    Keep in mind, many people do these things without realizing that they're being a bad friend. After watching this, I realize I haven't been a very good friend, and I intend to change that.

    • @coolskunk6186
      @coolskunk6186 2 роки тому +7

      Truee

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +58

      Good that you've noticed

    • @sohamnikam4578
      @sohamnikam4578 2 роки тому +5

      Same

    • @aishsheerag3685
      @aishsheerag3685 2 роки тому +25

      The world would be truly beautiful place to live if people thought like you did

    • @seunalade6664
      @seunalade6664 Рік тому +1

      I agree I have done this in the past but now that I'm not, I'm feeling like karma has hit me and I have the urge to send this video to people who think they did nothing wrong to me because they have the power of a so what,"Friend," but yet they take that as an advantage to mess with your head, especially when those toxic friends are your only friend :(

  • @DogeInMinecraft
    @DogeInMinecraft 8 місяців тому +21

    1. nothing
    2.not caring
    3.toxic friend
    4.not saying sorry
    5.toxic fights
    6.toxic interactions.
    thanks for reminding!

  • @lunawolfheart336
    @lunawolfheart336 2 роки тому +110

    Also be careful about Freinds being too clingy like to the point they become so obsessed they won't give you space to breathe. Had one that would not give me any space and pushed my boundaries until I snapped.

    • @lexyred6289
      @lexyred6289 2 роки тому +20

      Literally just had to end a relationship with someone who was obsessed but also jealous of me. It was weird and started having bad vibes from her and a mutual friend confirmed I wasn’t crazy and that she was talking about my personal issues to people behind my back

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +9

      true!

    • @SamanthaLily1
      @SamanthaLily1 10 місяців тому +1

      This, I know someone in this class. She wants to be with her even though she was assigned in different task. I thought it’s a bit uncomfortable for me, I hope it’s ok to her.

    • @aefc843
      @aefc843 3 місяці тому

      this is so true. one of my friends got really angry and accused me of being "abusive" just because I had become friends with other people. she immediately shut up after I stopped buying her stuff for free lol

  • @RayaIvy039
    @RayaIvy039 2 місяці тому

    Thanks for this video so much. Recently my friend had been acting strange and I realized that she had been using me for 2 years now. I was so upset but at least everything is clear now. Thanks.

  • @thereallonestarnowayyy
    @thereallonestarnowayyy 8 місяців тому +70

    I'm so glad that my friends aren't anything included in a toxic friendship. They can joke around sometimes but never try to hurt me and they always say sorry or ask if I'm okay at times. Thanks so much for making this video, Phych2go!

    • @Justevee608
      @Justevee608 5 місяців тому +3

      My friends are actually the other way around

    • @Justevee608
      @Justevee608 5 місяців тому +3

      They are just so ignorant and stubborn

    • @Justevee608
      @Justevee608 5 місяців тому +2

      I hope you have a nice day

    • @thecousincrewedits
      @thecousincrewedits 3 місяці тому

      my fake friend called me fat, now I body shame myself, I can’t stop…

  • @Leandera
    @Leandera Рік тому +283

    When you are checking if you have a toxic friend but you end up being the toxic friend 😢

    • @adiymusammat7159
      @adiymusammat7159 11 місяців тому +27

      Oof...... stop doing this to save your freindship

    • @Sniper_TF2_REAL
      @Sniper_TF2_REAL 11 місяців тому

      @@adiymusammat7159?

    • @Sniper_TF2_REAL
      @Sniper_TF2_REAL 11 місяців тому +18

      I mean some of this occasionally applies to me (I suck) but it also applies to a couple of my friends

    • @lookaroundyou8108
      @lookaroundyou8108 11 місяців тому +17

      Work on yourself and be conscious of your actions and words

    • @SamanthaLily1
      @SamanthaLily1 10 місяців тому +6

      I recognize that I do some of the mentioned sometimes, but the difference is I am willing to change but my friend seems doesn't…
      And she has many friends who seem like she is of the center attention so it’s a bit hard to open up. With her friend group last year, I observed that they’re a type of just-fun-group and do gossip.

  • @PsyOzoneBurstTakeyami
    @PsyOzoneBurstTakeyami Рік тому +190

    I'm so glad my best friend and I can express the toxic things we've done to each other respectfully and acknowledge these things so that, no only can we improve for each other, but so we can improve for ourselves.

    • @useri201i4p2
      @useri201i4p2 Рік тому

      My best friend yells at me and doesn't care abt me 🙂

    • @PsyOzoneBurstTakeyami
      @PsyOzoneBurstTakeyami Рік тому +12

      @@useri201i4p2 Then I don't think that's a best friend, buddy

    • @useri201i4p2
      @useri201i4p2 Рік тому

      @@PsyOzoneBurstTakeyami Yeah even my 9ther friends say that he is not a good influence and I notice myself yelling at my family more when they do something to upset me on the days he yells at me a lot.

    • @jhn-oy9jm
      @jhn-oy9jm Рік тому

      @@useri201i4p2 same

    • @Inactivepaper
      @Inactivepaper Рік тому

      He deepfaked it. Should have seen that coming well now you don't have any caring friends

  • @Jephed63
    @Jephed63 Місяць тому

    Thanks for the insightful list. Happy to say that most of my friends don't show any of these signs, but this entire list sums up my relationship with my dad really well. Too well. I've been trying to avoid letting that relationship go, but I am very tempted to just cut ties soon.

  • @That_1.and_only_diya
    @That_1.and_only_diya 6 місяців тому +102

    I don’t wanna let go. I feel I’m forcing myself to carry on caring and loving them. I have no one else.

    • @Spiralclarity
      @Spiralclarity 5 місяців тому +9

      Same here 😢. I just want a friend 🥺

    • @Maryweather28-fy8jj
      @Maryweather28-fy8jj 4 місяці тому +8

      I'm sorry you guys

    • @LesbianFrogLady
      @LesbianFrogLady 4 місяці тому +9

      Relatable. I’ve been friends with my best friend for four years, yet she doesn’t really seem to care about me much.. but I can’t let her just leave, she’s the only person I have

    • @sk1ttlesLOLzz
      @sk1ttlesLOLzz 3 місяці тому +3

      Same, I'm afraid of making him feel bad or missing him one day, but he makes me feel very bad:(

    • @fckizi
      @fckizi 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@@LesbianFrogLadyreal.. what are we gonna do? idk 😞

  • @JillofTrades
    @JillofTrades 2 роки тому +69

    I have an online friend I met 3 years ago on Ragnarok Online, and that is what a true friendship to me is like. We hang out in games together, laugh and have fun, talk about our problems and rants, be there for eachother, talk about controversial things without judgment or such...to me, she's the best friend I could ever have.

    • @priyasenthilkumar8508
      @priyasenthilkumar8508 2 роки тому +6

      Bro can I be your friend pls🥺💔

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +6

    • @imibuks-replit
      @imibuks-replit Рік тому

      👍

    • @trina3781
      @trina3781 Рік тому

      ​@@priyasenthilkumar8508 Can I be your friend, too?

    • @OceanicPearlz1
      @OceanicPearlz1 Рік тому

      Yes exactly what I mean by true friendships can start online. Anyone telling you that it’s not true just doesn’t know or chooses to ignore this fact. First friendship that actually lasting for over 4 years let alone 3 at a constant basis of communication and conversation trust. Sometimes we make friends in our daily lives (physically) only for convenience. I learned it the hard way. I have been so much happier without the old ex friend that I had no idea what I was doing and really do you really know someone if you have/had no idea what that person was/is doing and what you were/are doing?

  • @SamWilliam-pw5hi
    @SamWilliam-pw5hi 2 роки тому +32

    I have been having a very hard time with a friend lately and I'm starting to think our friendship is toxic. Thank you for these videos, they help a lot.

  • @tashagarcia4462
    @tashagarcia4462 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much I have finally realized that someone has been using me and I making me feel bad about myself. Once again thank you and you have helped me so much

  • @imgagami
    @imgagami 3 місяці тому +12

    i have an ex-friend exactly like this. she never actually apologized if she said something rude and never was really interested in me. im so glad that i found this channel

    • @nevaehsoutherland
      @nevaehsoutherland Місяць тому

      same they never interested in me

    • @imgagami
      @imgagami Місяць тому

      @@nevaehsoutherland im glad u feel me

  • @V2_from_the_hit_game_Ultrakill
    @V2_from_the_hit_game_Ultrakill Рік тому +42

    This video was needed, I was being worried about my relationships, but thankfully, I can now say that my friends are actual friends, one less thing to worry about, thank you

  • @PapaBear.
    @PapaBear. 9 місяців тому +17

    I let go of a very dear friend an year ago because they hurt me many times over the year and covid kinda saved me from them, but I've been hit with guilt at random times when I'm missing home or just feeling down. Your video gave me closure and made me realise I did the right thing. Thank you.

  • @hachi_beep
    @hachi_beep 2 місяці тому

    As an artist who only does commissions, I've had a horrible dose of Toxic people trying to become my friend. People have tried to be my friend to get free art out of me, someone even tried to DATE ME because they wanted fanart. This specific person was incredibly guilt tripping and emotionally blackmailing me.
    I personally am the person who apologizes way too much.
    A specific toxic friend crossed out almost all of these signs.
    Thank you for making this, it helped me open my eyes to how he was treating me, it gave me the courage to stand up for myself, and boy, did the toxic friend not like that 😅

  • @skyyyylar886
    @skyyyylar886 2 роки тому +46

    I've been in a toxic friendship for 6 years and just got out of it about a year ago and it's the most relief I've ever felt

    • @trnavskatreska7491
      @trnavskatreska7491 Рік тому

      can you give tips? ive been in one for almost 5 years and just the last one or two years she started being toxic and insensitive. We had an argument 2 days ago and i apologized but she only responded "aha" and has been ghosting me and i dont know what to do because she and her cousin are the last and only friends i can rely on

    • @mell_yzma4726
      @mell_yzma4726 Рік тому

      ​@@trnavskatreska7491 She's doing silent treatment, she must be a narcissist or something like that. if i were you i would stop being her friend. Because narcissist are THE WORST. Their whole goal is to bring you down.

    • @trnavskatreska7491
      @trnavskatreska7491 Рік тому

      @@mell_yzma4726 thanks i already dropped her like a week ago and ive been happier since even tho im alone

    • @mell_yzma4726
      @mell_yzma4726 Рік тому +1

      @@trnavskatreska7491 hope the best for you!

    • @trnavskatreska7491
      @trnavskatreska7491 Рік тому

      @@mell_yzma4726 ❤️

  • @oli_2425
    @oli_2425 2 роки тому +80

    I mean, I remember that I confronted my friend for them not really caring for how she really treated me and all she said was, sorry. Nothing else. Damn this video hit hard.

    • @Wompywompwompe
      @Wompywompwompe Рік тому +3

      Mine didn't even say sorry😓

    • @elisa8505
      @elisa8505 Рік тому +3

      sometimes i have trouble even saying it i just don't want to hurt there feelings !

  • @mrtommypickelz3441
    @mrtommypickelz3441 2 роки тому +59

    I've had some people or friends who just pretend they appreciate what I do in public just for the sake of appearance and then they go and gossip about me when I'm not around...it hurts, but knowing who your real friends are is touched on so well in the video. Spending your time energy around the right people is so important! Thank you Psych2Go!

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +4

      Sorry about this... Yes! Know your real buds!

  • @Neybble
    @Neybble 2 місяці тому

    you know the situation is bad when you gotta whatch videos like this to get it.

  • @morningpotato6051
    @morningpotato6051 8 місяців тому +17

    This honestly this helped validate how I have been feeling about some of my old friends. I been upset and been tearing myself apart trying to figure out what was wrong with me. Don't get me wrong- no one is perfect, but these points laid out plain and simple really helped me understand why it didnt work out. I also found something I can work on!
    Y'all dont ignore the signs actually sit down and think whats best for you and if your happy in that friendship. Even though it will hurt its better for you in the long run ❤

    • @RealCBZTron
      @RealCBZTron 8 місяців тому

      This video and comment really stood out and helped me, it’s been hard times lately. Thank you!

  • @austinoblambino
    @austinoblambino Рік тому +118

    This honestly brought some conviction for me. This video showed me some things I’m doing to people in my friend groups just because everyone else is doing it to them. This video kind of gave me a needed slap in the face about what I’m intentionally or unintentionally doing to my friends.

    • @eagleliontrex
      @eagleliontrex Рік тому +2

      Sadly I feel the same way… but it feels weird that I do this I haven’t ever done this before.

    • @24hourdog
      @24hourdog Рік тому

      PEOPLE LIKE U SHOULDNT EXIST NO OFFENCE :/

    • @marisol.fairytales6633
      @marisol.fairytales6633 Рік тому

      The same

  • @keciaburton9522
    @keciaburton9522 11 місяців тому +199

    Ah yes… 7 years of friendship down the drain

  • @Forus_V
    @Forus_V 24 дні тому +1

    Thank you for this video. Cause after breaking up with my best friend (7years). I always thought that is my fault or maybe I'm wrong but Now I understood that breaking up with her was my right decision. Even though ppl may not understand me or they might blame me. But I'm happy

  • @unofficialhanjisung
    @unofficialhanjisung 3 місяці тому +86

    1 year friendship gone.

    • @Hyunjns_wif3
      @Hyunjns_wif3 3 місяці тому

      HAN FOUND

    • @W4t3rF4ll5
      @W4t3rF4ll5 3 місяці тому +4

      @@Hyunjns_wif3…that wasn’t really a good response for this situation, no offense..

    • @ئەنیمێ
      @ئەنیمێ 2 місяці тому

      On the Internet nothing appears as serious due to usually only using two senses to view it. That person would likely care if they saw the person in distress not in a comment section.

    • @ahmednabeel1843
      @ahmednabeel1843 2 місяці тому

      same

    • @islammd7861
      @islammd7861 2 місяці тому +2

      7 YEARS OF FRIENDSHIP GONE! 😭

  • @brownish4614
    @brownish4614 Рік тому +18

    I feel so happy that I have a friend who actually care about me, but this video help me realize what's I could improve in myself. ❤️

  • @Nele_offcial
    @Nele_offcial 2 місяці тому +1

    This is actuallly helpful and good

  • @GetYourLifeBetter
    @GetYourLifeBetter 2 роки тому +22

    Friendships are vital but can be hurtful, too. If you don't feel supported or if the relationship drains you, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. If the friendship doesn’t have any positive benefits for you, and your conversation with them hasn’t helped any, it may be time to end it.

  • @rose_xx677
    @rose_xx677 Рік тому +85

    I've been dealing with friends who have acted a lot like fake friends for years. I've been ignoring the signs and by now,I'm pretty much used to this. Whenever we have our great moment,I appreciate it too much and mostly just ignore these bad signs. I've started doubting our friendships nowadays but I keep holding on due to all our memories.

    • @vivxx
      @vivxx Рік тому +8

      Set your boundaries, if they will completely ignore that. Then let go.
      I know its hard to let go, i had to let go of multiple friends for shaming me in every way possible. I loves them, because I loved our memories and our families are really close. Ive been friends with them for 2-3 years. But everytime I told them, I was uncomfortable. They continued.
      So i confronted them, they gave no shit and gave the most shittest apology. I was heartbroken, told them. Im done. They started joking about it, but I had this warm fuzzy feeling that I was free, even with a bit of guilt. I dont regret my decision one bit. I started blocking them on everything.
      Ive made better friends now, I hope you let go of your toxic friendship. If not, I hope they change.

    • @rose_xx677
      @rose_xx677 Рік тому

      @@vivxx Thanks a bunch for the advice! I decided to let go of one of my friends who i've known for like 8 years. It was pretty tough but I felt a lot better afterwards.

    • @POLISN
      @POLISN Рік тому

      I have the same situation, my friends at first acted like a nice friends. But last 2 years they became toxic and mostly like fake friends. And now if they just don't touch me or I'm having a nice time for 1-3 minutes i already feel so happy. I want to let them go, but they're my school friends and I don't know what will happen if i would let them go... Maybe they'll bully me or idk, but i need to hold my feeling until i can move to another school. Because school friends it's just a way to avoid bullying and of you're alone, get ready to get bullied. That's why i can't let my toxic friends go right now...

    • @onionzpoizonous2504
      @onionzpoizonous2504 10 місяців тому

      Same

    • @onionzpoizonous2504
      @onionzpoizonous2504 10 місяців тому

      ​@POLISN I am in the same position but they're my only friends, I'm worried what will happen if I let go

  • @EpicPotato916
    @EpicPotato916 Рік тому +20

    Thank you so much for making this video, I have a friend who is extremely mean and rude to me, I thought it was just friend humor until she took it to bullying my friends and physically harming me. I thought it was normal because she did it all the time but now I know that I have to end this relationship. Thank you. ❤

  • @nahedmahgoub4884
    @nahedmahgoub4884 2 місяці тому +2

    3 years of friendship gone..

  • @Stinging_Metal
    @Stinging_Metal Рік тому +73

    this is also a good video to decide if *you're* toxic. me and my friends say rude things to each other, but we normally do this in a jokingly way, my best friend doesn't agree with these as much but still participates occasionally. this video helped me decide if what I say sounds like playful banter, harmful words to my friend and how i should fix it. this video really help me reflect and see if I'm a good friend or not. I really like my friend and I don't try to harm her, I should just make sure, just in in case.

    • @Wise_Girl123
      @Wise_Girl123 Рік тому +1

      My friends also say rude things about others but no in an abusive way

    • @REWRITES_HELL
      @REWRITES_HELL Рік тому +2

      Late,, but this used to be me. it *used* to be jokingly. we were always happy and drama wasnt too frequent, around april, there was a very large switch that kinda just changed, sometimes i think it was me when it really just was the leader that changed (negatively) and influenced all of his friends. i was included until i realized how flucked up the situation was. when i mentioned it, everything started to become real. they all targeted me, and i started to notice the red flags. the old friend group of mine started putting up offensive jokes, and insulting trauma. i left not long after they tried to blackmail me when trying to stand up for myself. This all spiraled last April 2023, and i anonymously left them in mid october. they wont see me for awhile because i was able to leave when i moved schools. (i blocked them online)

    • @REWRITES_HELL
      @REWRITES_HELL Рік тому +1

      April was when the switch HAPPENED, but it got severe in may, and i left in october. just a timeline check!

    • @chacha141
      @chacha141 11 місяців тому

      Dang that sucks.. I do hope it gets better for you!@@REWRITES_HELL

  • @Xialoti
    @Xialoti 4 місяці тому +4

    Thanks for this, i know realize one of my friends are toxic. Always hurting me, insulting, pulling my hair, punching me, ignoring me, interrupting me and more, i can’t be more grateful for a video like this.

    • @Snowkuyasu
      @Snowkuyasu 2 місяці тому

      Im pretty sure you could notice that before

  • @wareethai419
    @wareethai419 Рік тому +55

    I really like how the animation represents the beings in the animations as plants because it really signifies how being with genuine people is like a plant being cared for and being with toxic people is one being neglected.

  • @Zakattack285
    @Zakattack285 2 місяці тому

    This gave me a whole new perspective of my friends
    Thanks a lot for making this it really helped ❤

  • @jaguartherainwing1497
    @jaguartherainwing1497 Рік тому +51

    What sucks is that everyone I’ve been close with, has had at least one of these traits listed of them. And I re-watched this to see if I’m like this, and surprisingly I’ve somehow avoided these traits. I always make sure I’m there for my friends as much as their there for me. And I never talk about small problems, it’s not as important as some of the stuff they go through. When I ask questions, I patiently wait to comment and I pay attention best as possible. Some people came to mind during this video because they don’t do these things. Sometimes it feels like they want someone else to come and save them from me. Sometimes they even get mad at me when I’ve done nothing. They talk about me behind my back constantly too. I’m unsure how to fix this yet, but I’ll talk to them.

    • @bella_daze3092
      @bella_daze3092 Рік тому

      I’m sorry about that man. I wish you the best

    • @Kwad.Kev2
      @Kwad.Kev2 Рік тому +1

      I’m going through the same thing right now it can be tough to deal with pain like this because it hurts more than a breakup and it feels like you can’t really do anything but stay neutral but honestly man you deal with them whenever you feel like dealing with them keep your head up and mindset strong because there’s friends who envied me when I been nothing but loyal to them so sometimes you either gotta rock it out on your own or let your partner/loved one take the spot and be your best friend it works trust me but stay safe brotha 💯

    • @rebeccaakana5186
      @rebeccaakana5186 Рік тому

      Same I felt the same thing so I'm probably be lonely when I'm older bc I lost 4 friends so I only got 3 friends now😭

    • @Lixump
      @Lixump Рік тому

      I have the same problem so now I dont have any friends

    • @Cassiedrawz
      @Cassiedrawz Рік тому

      WOW tose Texte are longgg

  • @daiikxi
    @daiikxi Рік тому +24

    Thank you so much for this video. This helped me realize that most of my friends are toxic....and I have been as well. Thanks to this I can see what I've done wrong and what I need to work on to be a better friend. Thanks again!

  • @lorissantarsiero5849
    @lorissantarsiero5849 2 роки тому +16

    I'm so glad I found my best friend in 7th grade. We've been friends for over 4 years. We're both long out of school and doing an apprenticeship but we still talk and hang out. It's so awesome to see someone care as much about me as i do about him. He's also honest with me trying to help me improve. Just all around great guy. Hope you guys find someone like that. Just keep searching and you'll find the right people.

  • @xien_0
    @xien_0 2 місяці тому

    4 year friendship gone, thank you for helping me realize how toxic she was

  • @Nyedav
    @Nyedav 2 роки тому +19

    Don't forget to be your own best friend and trust your own judgment. You deserve real friends. ❤

  • @tyra_codii
    @tyra_codii 2 роки тому +71

    I like this video I now know that I should be reaching out to my friends and talking to them more because I barely know them

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +19

      How did that go? How many friends did you reach out to?

    • @tyra_codii
      @tyra_codii 2 роки тому +8

      @@Psych2go only 3 of them but I also started going out more after school with them and I feel like we've gotten closer

    • @natashamathews6182
      @natashamathews6182 2 роки тому +6

      @@tyra_codii I was wondering how you did so much within 2 hours then I saw that this comment was made a month ago-
      But either way, even if it's only 3, you did a great job.. The fact that you're putting effort into making your relationships better is what matters. I wish you luck!

    • @hazukichanx408
      @hazukichanx408 2 роки тому

      @@tyra_codii Well done for making an effort to go beyond the superficial and actually connecting with your friends. If you can find even a few people you truly feel kinship with, who care about you as you care about them, whom you can open up to and share difficult things and situations with... it will be worth the effort, as they may well remain close and cherished friends for decades. With continuous maintenance of the relationships, of course. =)

    • @Swahili14
      @Swahili14 2 роки тому

      Your comment is 1 month old But the video is only 23 hours old
      🤣🚮

  • @christophersmith9237
    @christophersmith9237 2 роки тому +12

    I've said this so many times in certain threads,...
    *"You got nothing to lose! You don't lose when you lose fake friends!"- Joan Jett and the Blackhearts .*

  • @Theguynamedjumpingjackg
    @Theguynamedjumpingjackg 2 місяці тому

    Thanks for making this. I realized i actually have a few of these things that i do to my friends and thanks to this video i realized it. Thx 😄

  • @jackieyou4760
    @jackieyou4760 2 роки тому +10

    I'm in the process of leaving a toxic friend right now actually, so this is very helpful! I've noticed that they never talk to me until I talk to them, he doesn't seem to care about what I say either. He's extremely critical of me, hates how I speak, shames me, puts me down, and always makes me feel bad about myself. And recently, I've noticed how easy it is for him to just not talk to me at all. It was clear that I'm upset at him, but he goes and acts like nothing is wrong and chats with the rest of his friends without issue :/.

    • @jackieyou4760
      @jackieyou4760 2 роки тому

      I've also noticed every time after a conversation I had with him, I feel very bad... just bad, idk if its shame or embarassment. Just... bad?

  • @idontcare766
    @idontcare766 Рік тому +10

    I had friends similar to this and I didn’t wake up from it all until I was finally away from them. It’s a long process to accept your feelings and ignore the justifications.

  • @lillybryant579
    @lillybryant579 Рік тому +4

    You teached me how real friends should be and now I don't have fake friends anymore. Thank you so much

  • @benju725
    @benju725 Місяць тому +1

    I just realized my friend that I've had ever since 4th grade has all these traits, and I have been feeling unhappy with our friendship ever since it's started. Thanks for confirming this. The reason I kept on being friends with him was because, to put it simply, I have no other friends or any friend group. I was scared I would get made fun of for having no friends.

    • @IamGoodBOYYT
      @IamGoodBOYYT Місяць тому

      Did you cry?

    • @benju725
      @benju725 Місяць тому

      @@IamGoodBOYYT No, this had just confirmed my fears, not shown them to me. Thanks btw

  • @TheMothOnUrWindow
    @TheMothOnUrWindow Рік тому +7

    This helped me, because i wasn’t sure if i was in a toxic relationship with my bff. I noticed that i do SOME of this stuff to her, but i didn’t mean to be toxic. But she did 5/6 things you said. I waited a bit, but i realized this is truly a toxic and fake friend. Thank tou so much to this.

  • @marymacgloan5453
    @marymacgloan5453 2 роки тому +15

    I definitely realized that I’m in a really toxic friendship. Thank you!

  • @Lord_noob1720
    @Lord_noob1720 Рік тому +2726

    So 90% of my friends are fake?….

    • @yuwenjiang4311
      @yuwenjiang4311 9 місяців тому +144

      Yeah

    • @rohiminsayadih439
      @rohiminsayadih439 9 місяців тому +122

      Yeah same

    • @neethiakalyanimanickam2547
      @neethiakalyanimanickam2547 9 місяців тому +114

      I thought I was the only one having this but I guess we all are the same

    • @Golden_dummy22
      @Golden_dummy22 9 місяців тому +79

      Im so sorry for you all, I really hope you all will make/ get good friends soon!💖

    • @Kushal8189
      @Kushal8189 9 місяців тому +29

      that's what i just realised 😢

  • @miroezzeldin9777
    @miroezzeldin9777 2 місяці тому

    Yeah as a person who litterally trusts everyone and always bring up excuses for people who has done me wrong, this video has helped me realize that none of my friends deseeve a singel minute of my precious time

  • @ninjariley6242
    @ninjariley6242 Рік тому +6

    I moved to another state almost a year ago and I have been very distant towards other people, except 2 people, who have proven to be real friends, as I completely know because of this video. Thank you for showing me how to find people to be friends with without fear of being humiliated or downplayed.

  • @cupotea3492
    @cupotea3492 2 роки тому +15

    Piece of advice from someone who’s just had to dump a toxic friend for the first time. You need to realize you absolutely can and need to say no to bullshit, in my case, I always felt like I had to say yes to them, partly because I wanted to be nice. But I soon made lots of other friends, who never made me question my boundaries or acted mean, my affection for them came naturally. I was so used to having one best friend that I thought I had to keep enduring. I was hesitant to cut them off at first, but I opened up with my parents (first time in years) and they made me feel a lot better, insisting that I shouldn’t cry when they won’t, to instead piss them off with my successes and better friendships w/o them. Also, don’t be like me and try to argue before cutting them off, they will definitely not apologize, arguing will only be miserable for you. To cut off a “friend” is to stop conversations altogether.

    • @jolina942
      @jolina942 2 роки тому

      that's great advice. I've gone through something similar. I actually wrote a song about toxic friendships and the feelings you go through when you get let down by a close friend.
      it’s called friend and my name is Jolina if you want to hear it on Spotify (or wherever you listen to music).
      maybe the song can help you heal the way it helped me.

    • @GoQuokka.GoQuokka
      @GoQuokka.GoQuokka Рік тому

      I agree as i am a person who dumped such a friend too. And yes, i didn't realise how toxic she was untill I met some really sweet people, who do joke, do tease but are supportive and have their boundaries. I am so grateful for having the strength to finally cut her off. She was manipulative and kind of wanted to be the site of attention even though she wouldn't give any attention to me or other of her old friends. A lot of my friends warned me about her, i didn't listen then, but now i am happy about letting her go. The peace i have now is worth letting go a toxic friend.

  • @marieguillou8808
    @marieguillou8808 Рік тому +6

    Wow, thanks for your video. I definitely check boxes 1,2 and 4. I never realized until I thought about it in front of your video how often I did it. I now realize that if I'm not a toxic friend because there were never any bad intentions, I'm still a bad friend. I will do better. This video is important, as for the victim than for the one in error.

  • @MariaGr-ws1hz
    @MariaGr-ws1hz 2 місяці тому +1

    Amazing video and animation!!!

  • @etaokha4164
    @etaokha4164 2 роки тому +119

    Can't remember the last time I had real friends. Everyone is bloody fake.

    • @ginniekinz5401
      @ginniekinz5401 2 роки тому +14

      Right?? It’s so lonely at times

    • @Lieutenantfollicle
      @Lieutenantfollicle 2 роки тому

      “Everyone is bloody fake”
      They are, until you push this paranoid-avoidant bullshit out of your “genius” head

    • @mrtommypickelz3441
      @mrtommypickelz3441 2 роки тому +16

      We live in a fake world, but we just have to learn how to deal with it...

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +18

      Sorry about this...

    • @PJP720
      @PJP720 2 роки тому +2

      Hey , pls help me 🙏🙏
      There is this guy.. we"re chatting yesterday.. firstly, we were just joking n then our conversation got serious. Then he is like block me, block me!!! We were such good friends but when it comes to serious stuff he is like leave it , n he asks if I am disturbing him so I can tell him or block him. he never tries to understand me. Everytime I please him, but he never . Ps: sorry for my English..I'm not able to figure out if he is toxic or not????

  • @thiseconomyiscra_y
    @thiseconomyiscra_y 2 роки тому +65

    I'm sick of feeling like I'm being invited somewhere to hang-out as an afterthought or just because I was there when they were discussing about where to go. I'm done.

    • @mewesquirrel6720
      @mewesquirrel6720 2 роки тому +1

      At least you're asked they still talk about it and don't invite me. But I guess they knew I couldn't come because of my parents 🙄so maybe it was my parents who are partly to blame

    • @thiseconomyiscra_y
      @thiseconomyiscra_y 2 роки тому

      @@mewesquirrel6720 maybe maybe. They're just used to you not going even if you like to go

    • @hazukichanx408
      @hazukichanx408 2 роки тому +4

      I remember throughout childhood, I had these "friends" who would never phone me and ask to hang out, it was always me getting in touch or else nothing would happen. So eventually I just stopped phoning. In retrospect, not the type of person I should have been friends with anyway... if I was so far beneath what they considered attention-worthy, why not find someone I get along with better?
      Thankfully, now I have several people like that. Heh, I wonder if any of the people from back then have any real friends.^^

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +4

      Us too! This feeling is never good.

  • @uniqueh5203
    @uniqueh5203 2 роки тому +14

    I have a close friend. She doesn't have any of these symptoms but yet I doubt she's a good friend because, since she got engaged, she stopped messaging me. Just remembering me once per two months or after 3 months. We used to chat daily and I confronted her about it. She didn't Apologize just excuses of not having time...Working bla bla bla, But I discover that she's chatting with her fiancee all the time. Plus, she now talks to me just if she has problems. She never asks how I'm doing since she knows I'm lonely and have so many issues in my life. This is a fake friend who you thought is a loyal one since childhood!

  • @matthewsandoval1308
    @matthewsandoval1308 2 місяці тому

    My bro kicks my ass when i said hi. What a good friend man

  • @KatzSadiaLol
    @KatzSadiaLol 2 роки тому +22

    I have this one friend in class, she sits next to me. And she always makes fun of me or humiliates me in front of my class. She doesn’t listen to me and I just come home worse then ever. It’s exhausting and tiring. I always feel left out because we are in a trio. She always takes the credit and I realized that she used me to look better

    • @tre_4
      @tre_4 Рік тому +4

      dang, thats messed up.

  • @caitlin.elizabeth17
    @caitlin.elizabeth17 Рік тому +68

    I’ve currently been going through some rough patches with my best friend and questioning our friendship. I found you channel and i’ve watched a lot of your videos to help me know if it’s time to move on. Thank you so much for these videos, they help me understand my friendships so much better, and what I’m doing wrong or my friend’s doing wrong. If I am able to fix my friendships, I will owe it all to you. Thank you

  • @peppermintcookie5531
    @peppermintcookie5531 2 роки тому +55

    I had a toxic friend before. Her name's Hazel and I remember her yelling threats that she would cut ties with me just because I was chatting with people I met online. She told me that what she did was out of "love and concern," then accused me of sending inappropriate photos to someone I met.

    • @slimeb0y_
      @slimeb0y_ 2 роки тому +5

      That sounds more like a scorned ex than a friend

    • @peppermintcookie5531
      @peppermintcookie5531 2 роки тому +2

      @@slimeb0y_ something like that. She even ranted that people I met online are bad😒

    • @slimeb0y_
      @slimeb0y_ 2 роки тому

      @@peppermintcookie5531 jeez, insecure and jealous much? glad you're done with that trash

    • @hazukichanx408
      @hazukichanx408 2 роки тому +3

      @@peppermintcookie5531 It's sensible to be a bit cautious of people you meet on the internet, but at the same time, almost everyone is on the internet and not all of them are dangerous lunatics. I can say this with confidence, as I am a dangerous lunatic.. err, I mean, a random internet person.^^;
      And yeah, yelling threats is not a good way to convince someone of anything...

    • @peppermintcookie5531
      @peppermintcookie5531 2 роки тому +1

      @@hazukichanx408 yeah. I'm being cautious with who I meet online. And my other friend Nikolai knew the red flag of Hazel. Ironically, Hazel is also manipulative and controlling just so she could fit us into her shitty narrative

  • @KaydeeHanley
    @KaydeeHanley 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for making this video ❤😊

  • @AidenVaugg-ug8ss
    @AidenVaugg-ug8ss Рік тому +14

    It sucks even more when it comes to online friends because they have a higher chance of being toxic. It sucks because it is the only way I can feel safe talking without being judged.

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  • @ReptilesRule16
    @ReptilesRule16 Рік тому +7

    It's so easy to get rid of the friends you want to keep but so difficult to get rid of the ones who you don't. Also, I often feel like I'm the bad friend because they all never want to talk to me. I always mess everything up. In my whole life I've never had a friend who stays.

  • @11..whoisava..11
    @11..whoisava..11 Рік тому +6

    I know this was a year ago. But I wanted to say thank you for these types of videos, i realised I was in a toxic relationship and an abusive one. I also realised I was a bit manipulative and to these videos my friends are more grateful that I’m around as I’m not as manipulative. Thank you ❤

  • @salute_deekay
    @salute_deekay 2 місяці тому +1

    Few months ago I felt like the friendship between me and some of my friends have ended. After I passed an exam with higher grades than them, I felt they are ignoring me and talk on my back. Without a word I distanced myself from them. Even my so called best friend for almost 7 years was among them. I feel so bad because all of them were the people whom I beleived as friends for more than 11 years. It's better to be alone rather than being in toxic friendships.

  • @DaCatsCrazyQuintet
    @DaCatsCrazyQuintet Рік тому +6

    I feel very sad, after watching this video I have realized that my friends do all of these things, I have had some amazing fun times with them but no matter what it feels like the next day, someone will do something mean, like bringing up past fights and laughing at someone’s insecurities when some one does this it makes anybody else want to do the same to them so it is an infinite cycle of toxic-ness. I have realized I might have been doing these things in response to my friends toxic behavior, this year one of my best friends is moving away, and I want to fix things in my friend group before then. Thank you for helping me realize this, your videos are super helpful❤❤, hopefully now me and my friends might be able to salvage our relationship 😮‍💨

    • @SamanthaLily1
      @SamanthaLily1 10 місяців тому

      This is what I feel in my friends for the past months and my academic behavior was badly affected. I’m being firm for days right now and I don’t want to wastw time anymore.

  • @StarlitSunLight
    @StarlitSunLight 2 роки тому +15

    I don’t even need to watch the video to say yes. I had a group of friends from high school who I thought I was really close with. We got along so well and I felt like I could call them family. Then the last day of January they removed all communications with me and I was freaking out because I was so confused to what happened. So I asked another one of the friends in the friend group because something similar happened to her, and when that happened to her I was there for her. To show that I would always be there to support her. And then she wasn’t there for me, after she told me that she would always be there for me, she immediately unfriend and blocked me on all types of social media, even in the video game platforms we played on together. When that happened I felt like my heart actually broke. I was so mentally destroyed and cried for hours until the smell of my tears literally made me sleep. And after 3 and a half months, I still have no closure to why they did this to me. I’ve decided, now that I finished my first year of college that I will go to each of their houses and have a “last talk” if they want to reconcile I would be just friends with them. I could never trust them to be best friends again, but if they want nothing to do with me. Then I will completely let go of them and *just* focus on myself.
    Edit: sorry I kinda just ranted!

    • @techrvl9406
      @techrvl9406 2 роки тому +4

      Don't do it. I know what you're going through I've had the same thing happen with both friends and my literal blood siblings (my little brother stole over $1,500 worth of personal items and then just blocked and smeared me to the rest of the family). It literally drove me insane. I spent the past year mentally recovering through bouts of confusion, sadness, rage, etc.
      The biggest and most torturous part of it was that I couldn't mentally empathize with the level of emotional coldness, I thought I was mistaken, there had to be a reason something I did wrong, etc. I tried to share it with so many people. My irl "friends" who were already horrible emotional support did what they did best: made everything about their wanna be sitcom lives, I started ignoring them and keeping to myself.
      The family not involved either only sympathized to get things out of me or they straight up would express about the same level of apathy as my friends, leaving me on seen, going quiet or even shaming me for "holding onto the situation".
      It got to the point where I literally started ruining my own life, nearly went homeless, etc. I decided after my grandmother died recently and that I saw no change to just let it go... Some people aer fucked up but if you go and try and get that "last talk" in? I promise you, you're not gonna get that answer, and you're gonna damage yourself more, by then having to try and fight the urge to prove you're not "crazy".
      Leg them go. You can make more friends. They'll be good friends or bad, but they'll be new friends. Don't go back to people who don't want you... that won't change their mind, either.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for sharing this

  • @Greg2ThEMAX
    @Greg2ThEMAX 9 місяців тому +4

    This channel always has good advice! When I have nobody to talk to, I’m glad this channel is here. I hope everyone listens to this and can apply this to your life to make sure you’re happy 👍

  • @Hamyto41664
    @Hamyto41664 2 місяці тому +1

    I actually need to learn to be a friend. Bro why in the world am I so toxic with my bestie? Noice vid btw.

  • @BhaaBhaaa-yt5vv
    @BhaaBhaaa-yt5vv 11 місяців тому +6

    I've had friends who weren't very good freinds . then one day a person came into my life and that person, is the most goofy, fun, caring and happy friend I ever had and now I feel unstoppable when Im around them.

  • @creamy_moon302
    @creamy_moon302 Рік тому +5

    Thank you for these . Now I know that my friend is a true friend ❤❤

  • @leviolivia3219
    @leviolivia3219 2 роки тому +34

    i really needed this my “bestfriend” also makes me feel bad about myself and makes me feel ashamed of things that i can’t handed like my pain bc i’m always in the hospital and she said sometimes i wish we weren’t friends and then started talking about herself but i don’t know how to tell her really bc when i bring something up she just brings and all her insecurities and makes me feel bad then i have to say sorry then she talks about herself again

    • @SuperBullet78
      @SuperBullet78 2 роки тому +9

      Yeah, it's time for her to go, friend.

    • @lilly6986
      @lilly6986 2 роки тому +10

      I've learned from my experiences that if anyone makes you feel badly about your self, they are simply not a friend. İf you don't know how to shut her out place boundaries on this person. Bc you need to take care of yourself first. You haven't done anything to feel badly about, and you are in and out of hospital . How dare this person put more trauma in your life. İt is draining and you need healing. Big hug to you ❤️🌻

    • @Tomisinshalewa
      @Tomisinshalewa 2 роки тому +5

      @aesthetic_sunflower
      I'm someone like you too. I worry more about hurting the other person whose hurting my feeling more than myself. But it's not okay for your mental health. You'll constantly feel worse until your self-esteem is depleted to the lowest level. My advice if you want it, is that you should do this for the sake of both your physical and mental health. Nothing is more important than THAT! When you want to confront her, don't think about all the things you want to say. Just let everything out from the bottom of your heart! If you have to close your eyes while speaking, (I've heard it works,) do so. Don't let he/she interrupt you because it will definitely disturb your flow. And if you have to put an end to the "friendship", by all means do so.
      You'll feel better after

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  2 роки тому +5

      They are not your best friend! I hope you find a real one :) we support you!

    • @leviolivia3219
      @leviolivia3219 2 роки тому +1

      @@lilly6986 Thank you so much i really needed to hear this.❤️☺️

  • @GamingGalaxy346
    @GamingGalaxy346 2 місяці тому

    Thanks for this… I have had so many fake friends… I needed this so much… I’ve even been doxxed and harassed… I even had to change my real name… so again thanks for this so much…

  • @Zangorwarrior
    @Zangorwarrior 2 роки тому +13

    So, I really like this girl who i met after streaming on Twitch and we grew to like each other and eventually, love each other. However, she wasn't really sure until she met me in person. I encourage her to start up her own discord server and return to streaming so I could watch her every day and luckily, she did. That was when I discovered her best friend. Her best friend would constantly insult me, put me down and is an overwhelming to talk to all because I'm associated with her, like I'm stealing her away. I put on a mask to disguise the fact that none of what her best friend says is hurting me but, secretly, it does. Yesterday, enough was enough and I left her discord server and had a little cry to myself. Hoping to recover to focus more on myself and this relationship I've built up for a year now is on a verge all because of a really and obsessively attached individual.

  • @traditional-g8h
    @traditional-g8h Рік тому +16

    I had a friend in high school that was really toxic and talked about me behind my back. I decided to let them go by not talking to them or really care about them. It's tough, especially when you still meet them in high school and they're one of the few you've got, but it's necessary for ourselves.
    I hope we can all get out of toxic friendships no matter what. We are worth it.

  • @Placeholder276
    @Placeholder276 Рік тому +43

    Few of these were in a friendship I had a few months back, thankfully I realized (with some help of my family :D) that it may have been a toxic friendship, and it was constant wait for me to pass my class and school so that friendship could end, and now realizing that it indeed could have been a toxic friendship make's me realize how bad I spent my whole elementary school in a possible relationship while I could've spent it with a friend that actually cared a bit for me. Right now my friendship in highchool is probably one of the healthiest in the whole class :D

    • @artisthic1323
      @artisthic1323 Рік тому +2

      Thats good to hear that now you're happy:)♡

  • @Kang_no_eul-guard11
    @Kang_no_eul-guard11 2 місяці тому

    "keep your friends close but your enemies closer"

  • @hailey857
    @hailey857 2 роки тому +14

    Just recently found out that my friend group who I cared a lot about, made me send photos of me and then decided to share that to the group chat I’m not in and made fun of me and many other people. I already knew that they were pretty much boy crazy and mean, but I never knew they’d go that low lmao. Thank you for the video! I watched this before hand and cut them out now. I’m just sick and tired bc they’re in my school and I can’t stand the sight of them anymore.🤮

    • @geraghtyrc5610
      @geraghtyrc5610 Рік тому

      They are definitely not your true friends. I hope you are ok now.

    • @csgamersquad8502
      @csgamersquad8502 Рік тому

      this has happened to me to and i know it's very hurting and it's very hard to trust anyone else again. i hope you got out of that feeling n i hope your fine, there a lot of people who is way better than those toxic friends and there are a lot of people over here for you dont worry