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Idk why IM gonna say this but i have a friend called abri idk what his full name is but i know his name is abri and also hes like a guardian angel he always steps up when someone bullys me he just steps up and punch the guy and say to me cmon let's run we are still friends to this day
1. They don't show interest in your life 2. They aren't there for you when you need them 3. They are overly critical of you 4. They aren't genuinely apologetic 5. They keep track of how many times you have wronged them 6. They speak about your insecurities often
This was AMAZING!! Like watching a real animated film/show... So many emotions, mannerisms, different behaviours and personalities. Great character design :)
Anyone that brings negativity towards a friendship it's time to let them go. The drama arguing fussing fighting and keeping tabs on who did what is exhausting
i have an ex-friend exactly like this. she never actually apologized if she said something rude and never was really interested in me. im so glad that i found this channel
remember this isn't always just about toxic friends, it could be the same with a toxic partner, toxic classmate, a toxic family member or yourself, it doesn't just apply to your friends! :)
Indeed. It's important to know how different people influence our well-being, and of course how we influence theirs - and make choices that lead toward the life we want, the state of mental and emotional health we're aiming for. Find people who are good for you, and be good to them - or if you're especially brave, try changing the pattern with people who struggle to be constructive about relationships, _but_ in the latter case... be prepared to say, at some point, "I tried, and it didn't work. They don't seem interested. Time to move on." It's not your job to fix anyone else. It's often impossible. We can try to help nudge people in a good direction, but if they're not going with it, it won't work. First and foremost, we can control who we are and how we treat people... then, with a little luck, that can inspire others to follow suit.^^
Exactly why I've had to limit contact with my siblings. I do love them but they are quite toxic (narcissistic, critical, dismissive, etc), so loving them from a distance is very necessary.
I was in a very toxic friendship a few months ago. I didn't realize just how toxic it was because I just wanted some friends. This describes my previous "friends" perfectly. They did all of this. I'm grateful to the three people who pointed this out to me and this video for showing me just how bad it was.
Same here but it was more than 2 years ago I realize it now as it hits me how naïve I was. I realized i was ghosted when I needed her however I was there for her when she was getting bullied. As I rethink I reliezed this was not real and there were red flags and my gut was saying something to confirm that
0:31 they don't show interest or ask details. 1:03 they're not relaible or there when you need them. 2:06 they're extremely critical of you. 2:44 their apologizes don't sound genuine. 3:21 they keep score of how many times you've wronged them. 4:22 they play on your insecurities and make you feel unhappy.
Hello! So last year I’ve been a toxic friend and have not realized it, but after I’ve watched your videos I began to improve every day! Thank you SO much for making me get healthy, and I just want you to know that you changed me and my friendship! Thank you!
It’s sad. You grow up in a toxic family and you are involved in so many toxic and abusive situations, so you start searching for love in the wrong places and you let people treat you like shit because you start to adapt to it. As a person who was involved in toxic relationships and is now getting out of toxic friendships. Give light to someone who needs it, you never know how bad shi is. And to whoever is reading this comment, im proud of you and I love you. 💛💛
Thanks for speaking up on this, truly some words i've been trying to figure out from my own situation too.. I hope you find a safe place someday where you can freely express yourself, and don't give up as you'll never know when or how good things will come after these years of toxic situations.
Oh man. I've had friends that just didn't care. We were friends because they needed that kind of attention. I woke up and realized that I didn't like them, their behavior, or how I felt after dealing with them in any capacity. Being alone is PEACEFUL ❤ I'm fine having barely any friends.
I'm going through this too I feel you.. Although it's even more irritating for me because I have to see them everyday at university. And the truth is I currently have noone else close to me, so every day life has become quite heavy.. Even so, I prefer this than non genuine people around me. Hope things turn out better for us both ^^
And it usually happens in college🥲 I’ve had a super toxic friend relationship and felt so exhausted and leaving her or “them” was the best choice I’ve ever made
I feel that, dude. Had friends from JHS and up, back during my "class clown" phase of life. I legit let them go like maybe 6 months ago after years of feeling like shit around them. When I was younger, I didn't get a lot of attention at home, so I acted out in school, got a reputation for wild and unpredictable behavior. That reputation followed me into High School, College and finally adulthood. It was around early adulthood I really started to notice how different my older "friends" treated me... almost like a sideshow or an interesting oddity than a real friend. Anytime I expressed a dynamically unique opinion, I was met with silence. They were obsessed with being relevant and politically correct and would often shame me if it meant looking good in front strangers, even. The pandemic, like with everyone else, really showed me how they regard me and even after, with the vax mandates and that, I felt honestly like they weren't even my friends. I'm not even antivaxx, but the way they treated mutuals and then me for speaking up for them was just too much. I'm not gonna lie, I'm friendless IRL now. Like you said, though, the reality is that I was alone with people who never really understood me, either. It was hell existing as that quirky friend who was just basically the comic relief for the homies to get laid. I hated that I was always the one traveling to see them, always the one having to adjust my timing and schedule, because their lives were so much more important. Peace is sweet.
@@techrvl9406 That last paragraph pretty much sums it all up.. I'm at least glad that I could tell someone (even here) that I have noone and didn't criticize me. I understand how you feel.. Wish I could be as elaborate as you, but just thinking of my situation hurts.
I ended a 25+ year friendship because of stuff like this. (Before I discovered this channel so it's comforting to know I made the right decision) I look back on so many things that they've done or said. They had so much influence on how I think. Once I finally got past letting them go, I found a new me that I didn't know existed.
I've recently been EXTREMELY worried about the fact that some of my friends could be toxic/manipulative without me realizing it, and these videos helped A LOT. They made me realize that one of my friends is toxic, and i mean TOXIC. Thank you.
Exactly what I’m going through❤after hanging out more with a friend I notice more and more how he sees the world, he went on a long story about how he tips Starbucks workers so that they will give him a good order but he said that after awhile he noticed they got used to him tipping(idk how he noticed this) and that because of this he started going in at a different time than usual so that they won’t get used to his tipping. He told me one day when he walked in one of the workers said, “your here later than usual”, and he said he responded with “I don’t work here” and he told me he had to remind them they were the workers that way. He sounds like he is full of himself tbh but I need opinions.
I have had a lot of fake friends. It was mostly girls at that. They would uplift me in front of others, but always judged everything I did and even worse. Always protect your energy. Everyone is not your friend, but always be kind to others. 💖
@@Coryraisa well I'll say girls are more toxic friends if you're a girl becoz they might be jealous of looks and stuff and boys aren't like that...not that boys aren't toxic at all
I recognize that I do some of the mentioned sometimes, but the difference is I am willing to change but my friend seems doesn't… And she has many friends who seem like she is of the center attention so it’s a bit hard to open up. With her friend group last year, I observed that they’re a type of just-fun-group and do gossip.
Keep in mind, many people do these things without realizing that they're being a bad friend. After watching this, I realize I haven't been a very good friend, and I intend to change that.
I agree I have done this in the past but now that I'm not, I'm feeling like karma has hit me and I have the urge to send this video to people who think they did nothing wrong to me because they have the power of a so what,"Friend," but yet they take that as an advantage to mess with your head, especially when those toxic friends are your only friend :(
I just realized my friend that I've had ever since 4th grade has all these traits, and I have been feeling unhappy with our friendship ever since it's started. Thanks for confirming this. The reason I kept on being friends with him was because, to put it simply, I have no other friends or any friend group. I was scared I would get made fun of for having no friends.
This seems pretty straightforward if we're dealing with one-on-one situations, but what if that toxic friend is part of a larger group of close friends? Breaking up with that toxic friend could make things in the group rather awkward.
I'd say tell them you don't really want to do one on one hangouts with them anymore as it no longer feels mutually fulfilling, but that you'd still like to be civil in the group hangouts. Maybe something like that?
My toxic ex best friend is still in two of my groups and I handled the two differently. In our close group they were all toxic, and they showed their true colors when I left them, so, better that way. In the other group it's a bit awkward but we just avoid talking directly to each other, I would have thought it's very difficult to handle but it isn't impossible
YES there’s this one friend in my friend group that’s super rude (I won’t go into detail but most points here apply to them) but it’s super awkward trying to let go of a friend in a group
I have one-on-one situation, the problem is that it still doesn't work that easily, like yes maybe it will be less awkward after we break it I just don't know if I would regret it or not and what if she just gossip and say false information about me, I am afraid but I am really stressed out bc of her I can't explain the feeling any more it's just... Exhausting more than upsetting, every time I argue with her she does that circle of not replying to what I said but instead opening another story that's easier for her so she can win the argument, I DON'T CARE ABOUT WHO WINS IT WHY IS SHE ALWAYS JUST CARES ABOUT HER WANTING TO WIN IT, I just want to reach a point with her I don't want some one to lose or win I just want to talk to her but she doesn't care about anything I said she just wants to be satisfied and win the argument :/ Why doesn't she for once reply to me so we can reach a point and end this and finally a video that included "the one that lists your mistakes" bc that's literally her she said many rude stuff to me and when I told her that I think the way she is talking to me is toxic she now in every argument says "well don't talk to me like you are an angel remember that you said I am toxic" and "wow, I am toxic now" l swear I didn't tell her that for the purpose of offense I did it bc I wanted her to be aware of her actions The friend ship was for 5 years Idk if I want it anymore bc It has been now 4 months of me not caring about her anymore, and the main problem in one to one situation is that I don't have any other friends so Idk what to do Pls I need help or an advice....
Also be careful about Freinds being too clingy like to the point they become so obsessed they won't give you space to breathe. Had one that would not give me any space and pushed my boundaries until I snapped.
Literally just had to end a relationship with someone who was obsessed but also jealous of me. It was weird and started having bad vibes from her and a mutual friend confirmed I wasn’t crazy and that she was talking about my personal issues to people behind my back
This, I know someone in this class. She wants to be with her even though she was assigned in different task. I thought it’s a bit uncomfortable for me, I hope it’s ok to her.
this is so true. one of my friends got really angry and accused me of being "abusive" just because I had become friends with other people. she immediately shut up after I stopped buying her stuff for free lol
This could've come at a better time. I'm currently deciding if my current friend group is toxic or not, but after watching this video, I can safely say that they're toxic. Thank you to whoever made this video
Gurl samee! My friend ( Fake) Has " Apoligised "lots of times when they talked about me behind my back and lies about me. And I'm just scared to say We are not friends anymore. Ughhhh so hard!!!
Same. I’ve been thinking about just letting go of them, but have been held back by the fact they’re my only two friends I have. It’s either toxic friends, or none.
I'm so glad that my friends aren't anything included in a toxic friendship. They can joke around sometimes but never try to hurt me and they always say sorry or ask if I'm okay at times. Thanks so much for making this video, Phych2go!
Few months ago I felt like the friendship between me and some of my friends have ended. After I passed an exam with higher grades than them, I felt they are ignoring me and talk on my back. Without a word I distanced myself from them. Even my so called best friend for almost 7 years was among them. I feel so bad because all of them were the people whom I beleived as friends for more than 11 years. It's better to be alone rather than being in toxic friendships.
Relatable. I’ve been friends with my best friend for four years, yet she doesn’t really seem to care about me much.. but I can’t let her just leave, she’s the only person I have
I'm so glad my best friend and I can express the toxic things we've done to each other respectfully and acknowledge these things so that, no only can we improve for each other, but so we can improve for ourselves.
@@PsyOzoneBurstTakeyami Yeah even my 9ther friends say that he is not a good influence and I notice myself yelling at my family more when they do something to upset me on the days he yells at me a lot.
I have an online friend I met 3 years ago on Ragnarok Online, and that is what a true friendship to me is like. We hang out in games together, laugh and have fun, talk about our problems and rants, be there for eachother, talk about controversial things without judgment or such...to me, she's the best friend I could ever have.
Yes exactly what I mean by true friendships can start online. Anyone telling you that it’s not true just doesn’t know or chooses to ignore this fact. First friendship that actually lasting for over 4 years let alone 3 at a constant basis of communication and conversation trust. Sometimes we make friends in our daily lives (physically) only for convenience. I learned it the hard way. I have been so much happier without the old ex friend that I had no idea what I was doing and really do you really know someone if you have/had no idea what that person was/is doing and what you were/are doing?
I let go of a very dear friend an year ago because they hurt me many times over the year and covid kinda saved me from them, but I've been hit with guilt at random times when I'm missing home or just feeling down. Your video gave me closure and made me realise I did the right thing. Thank you.
Like it's been 22 days since my close family member died and both my bestfriends didn't even bothered to call or check up on me The point when I needed them the most they vanished When i tried to reach out they just showed me aside and had absolutely no remorse or sympathy In the most difficult phase of my life I was all alone and suffering While they were there enjoying festivals with their family
I mean, I remember that I confronted my friend for them not really caring for how she really treated me and all she said was, sorry. Nothing else. Damn this video hit hard.
I have been having a very hard time with a friend lately and I'm starting to think our friendship is toxic. Thank you for these videos, they help a lot.
On the Internet nothing appears as serious due to usually only using two senses to view it. That person would likely care if they saw the person in distress not in a comment section.
Yeah as a person who litterally trusts everyone and always bring up excuses for people who has done me wrong, this video has helped me realize that none of my friends deseeve a singel minute of my precious time
can you give tips? ive been in one for almost 5 years and just the last one or two years she started being toxic and insensitive. We had an argument 2 days ago and i apologized but she only responded "aha" and has been ghosting me and i dont know what to do because she and her cousin are the last and only friends i can rely on
@@trnavskatreska7491 She's doing silent treatment, she must be a narcissist or something like that. if i were you i would stop being her friend. Because narcissist are THE WORST. Their whole goal is to bring you down.
Friendships are vital but can be hurtful, too. If you don't feel supported or if the relationship drains you, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. If the friendship doesn’t have any positive benefits for you, and your conversation with them hasn’t helped any, it may be time to end it.
What sucks is that everyone I’ve been close with, has had at least one of these traits listed of them. And I re-watched this to see if I’m like this, and surprisingly I’ve somehow avoided these traits. I always make sure I’m there for my friends as much as their there for me. And I never talk about small problems, it’s not as important as some of the stuff they go through. When I ask questions, I patiently wait to comment and I pay attention best as possible. Some people came to mind during this video because they don’t do these things. Sometimes it feels like they want someone else to come and save them from me. Sometimes they even get mad at me when I’ve done nothing. They talk about me behind my back constantly too. I’m unsure how to fix this yet, but I’ll talk to them.
I’m going through the same thing right now it can be tough to deal with pain like this because it hurts more than a breakup and it feels like you can’t really do anything but stay neutral but honestly man you deal with them whenever you feel like dealing with them keep your head up and mindset strong because there’s friends who envied me when I been nothing but loyal to them so sometimes you either gotta rock it out on your own or let your partner/loved one take the spot and be your best friend it works trust me but stay safe brotha 💯
I apologized to my friend and have been trying to give him peace for a month now yet he acts as if im a the bad friend yet gossiping about me and doing more meanful stuff about me. Every time I look at him now I just cry because well hes not excepting my peace I gave him.
I have this one friend in class, she sits next to me. And she always makes fun of me or humiliates me in front of my class. She doesn’t listen to me and I just come home worse then ever. It’s exhausting and tiring. I always feel left out because we are in a trio. She always takes the credit and I realized that she used me to look better
This video was needed, I was being worried about my relationships, but thankfully, I can now say that my friends are actual friends, one less thing to worry about, thank you
I've been dealing with friends who have acted a lot like fake friends for years. I've been ignoring the signs and by now,I'm pretty much used to this. Whenever we have our great moment,I appreciate it too much and mostly just ignore these bad signs. I've started doubting our friendships nowadays but I keep holding on due to all our memories.
Set your boundaries, if they will completely ignore that. Then let go. I know its hard to let go, i had to let go of multiple friends for shaming me in every way possible. I loves them, because I loved our memories and our families are really close. Ive been friends with them for 2-3 years. But everytime I told them, I was uncomfortable. They continued. So i confronted them, they gave no shit and gave the most shittest apology. I was heartbroken, told them. Im done. They started joking about it, but I had this warm fuzzy feeling that I was free, even with a bit of guilt. I dont regret my decision one bit. I started blocking them on everything. Ive made better friends now, I hope you let go of your toxic friendship. If not, I hope they change.
@@vivxx Thanks a bunch for the advice! I decided to let go of one of my friends who i've known for like 8 years. It was pretty tough but I felt a lot better afterwards.
I have the same situation, my friends at first acted like a nice friends. But last 2 years they became toxic and mostly like fake friends. And now if they just don't touch me or I'm having a nice time for 1-3 minutes i already feel so happy. I want to let them go, but they're my school friends and I don't know what will happen if i would let them go... Maybe they'll bully me or idk, but i need to hold my feeling until i can move to another school. Because school friends it's just a way to avoid bullying and of you're alone, get ready to get bullied. That's why i can't let my toxic friends go right now...
As an artist who only does commissions, I've had a horrible dose of Toxic people trying to become my friend. People have tried to be my friend to get free art out of me, someone even tried to DATE ME because they wanted fanart. This specific person was incredibly guilt tripping and emotionally blackmailing me. I personally am the person who apologizes way too much. A specific toxic friend crossed out almost all of these signs. Thank you for making this, it helped me open my eyes to how he was treating me, it gave me the courage to stand up for myself, and boy, did the toxic friend not like that 😅
I have a close friend. She doesn't have any of these symptoms but yet I doubt she's a good friend because, since she got engaged, she stopped messaging me. Just remembering me once per two months or after 3 months. We used to chat daily and I confronted her about it. She didn't Apologize just excuses of not having time...Working bla bla bla, But I discover that she's chatting with her fiancee all the time. Plus, she now talks to me just if she has problems. She never asks how I'm doing since she knows I'm lonely and have so many issues in my life. This is a fake friend who you thought is a loyal one since childhood!
I've said this so many times in certain threads,... *"You got nothing to lose! You don't lose when you lose fake friends!"- Joan Jett and the Blackhearts .*
I've had some people or friends who just pretend they appreciate what I do in public just for the sake of appearance and then they go and gossip about me when I'm not around...it hurts, but knowing who your real friends are is touched on so well in the video. Spending your time energy around the right people is so important! Thank you Psych2Go!
Thanks for the insightful list. Happy to say that most of my friends don't show any of these signs, but this entire list sums up my relationship with my dad really well. Too well. I've been trying to avoid letting that relationship go, but I am very tempted to just cut ties soon.
I'm so glad I found my best friend in 7th grade. We've been friends for over 4 years. We're both long out of school and doing an apprenticeship but we still talk and hang out. It's so awesome to see someone care as much about me as i do about him. He's also honest with me trying to help me improve. Just all around great guy. Hope you guys find someone like that. Just keep searching and you'll find the right people.
I really like how the animation represents the beings in the animations as plants because it really signifies how being with genuine people is like a plant being cared for and being with toxic people is one being neglected.
It's so easy to get rid of the friends you want to keep but so difficult to get rid of the ones who you don't. Also, I often feel like I'm the bad friend because they all never want to talk to me. I always mess everything up. In my whole life I've never had a friend who stays.
I have a friend at school who I’ve been ‘ best friends ‘ with since the first day I came to my new school which was last year. I don’t know why she said we were best friends since I came and it doesn’t make sense because that’s not how it works, she was nice at the start she let me play with whoever I want and she didn’t care what I did I was free for like 4 weeks. When we came back from holidays, she started to get clingy like she would be with me everywhere I went, the only way I could escape her was to go to the gym and play dodge ball but she would be there. I had other friends but she didn’t want me to play with them and only wanted to play with me and only me. She one time made me and a boy have a fake wedding at recess and it was bad and she was in charge. She also did stuff that were uncomfortable to me but I’m to shy to say it and sometimes she would fake cry in front of someone she doesn’t like because they want to take me away from them and she is rude to her. People thought that me and her were lesbian because we well mostly she was acting strange with me like sit on me in a weird way, comment on stuff about me that were inappropriate and putting her legs on my shoulders and doing the monkey bars on them. This year a boy started playing with me and her because he didn’t want to play with his old friends and we started playing with other girls who are my friends and now she really doesn’t care what I do and where I go. But she still does weird thing to be and the boy who I usually play with
Thanks for this, i know realize one of my friends are toxic. Always hurting me, insulting, pulling my hair, punching me, ignoring me, interrupting me and more, i can’t be more grateful for a video like this.
I'm in the process of leaving a toxic friend right now actually, so this is very helpful! I've noticed that they never talk to me until I talk to them, he doesn't seem to care about what I say either. He's extremely critical of me, hates how I speak, shames me, puts me down, and always makes me feel bad about myself. And recently, I've noticed how easy it is for him to just not talk to me at all. It was clear that I'm upset at him, but he goes and acts like nothing is wrong and chats with the rest of his friends without issue :/.
Hey , pls help me 🙏🙏 There is this guy.. we"re chatting yesterday.. firstly, we were just joking n then our conversation got serious. Then he is like block me, block me!!! We were such good friends but when it comes to serious stuff he is like leave it , n he asks if I am disturbing him so I can tell him or block him. he never tries to understand me. Everytime I please him, but he never . Ps: sorry for my English..I'm not able to figure out if he is toxic or not????
Wow my daughter’s ex friend was a crappy person. Thank god that the person claimed that my daughter who they had been friends with for 5 years had accused her of being toxic when she was toxic the whole time!
I'm sick of feeling like I'm being invited somewhere to hang-out as an afterthought or just because I was there when they were discussing about where to go. I'm done.
At least you're asked they still talk about it and don't invite me. But I guess they knew I couldn't come because of my parents 🙄so maybe it was my parents who are partly to blame
I remember throughout childhood, I had these "friends" who would never phone me and ask to hang out, it was always me getting in touch or else nothing would happen. So eventually I just stopped phoning. In retrospect, not the type of person I should have been friends with anyway... if I was so far beneath what they considered attention-worthy, why not find someone I get along with better? Thankfully, now I have several people like that. Heh, I wonder if any of the people from back then have any real friends.^^
I had friends similar to this and I didn’t wake up from it all until I was finally away from them. It’s a long process to accept your feelings and ignore the justifications.
dude, i had a friend who was toxic to me for a while and i didn’t realize it at first, he did almost all the bad and toxic things in the video, and ended up rejecting me bc he found out i was gay, thankfully, i got over it and I’m hanging out with new friends and not letting them walk over me like a carpet anymore. glad this topic was covered, keep making good content ❤❤
This helped me, because i wasn’t sure if i was in a toxic relationship with my bff. I noticed that i do SOME of this stuff to her, but i didn’t mean to be toxic. But she did 5/6 things you said. I waited a bit, but i realized this is truly a toxic and fake friend. Thank tou so much to this.
I don’t even need to watch the video to say yes. I had a group of friends from high school who I thought I was really close with. We got along so well and I felt like I could call them family. Then the last day of January they removed all communications with me and I was freaking out because I was so confused to what happened. So I asked another one of the friends in the friend group because something similar happened to her, and when that happened to her I was there for her. To show that I would always be there to support her. And then she wasn’t there for me, after she told me that she would always be there for me, she immediately unfriend and blocked me on all types of social media, even in the video game platforms we played on together. When that happened I felt like my heart actually broke. I was so mentally destroyed and cried for hours until the smell of my tears literally made me sleep. And after 3 and a half months, I still have no closure to why they did this to me. I’ve decided, now that I finished my first year of college that I will go to each of their houses and have a “last talk” if they want to reconcile I would be just friends with them. I could never trust them to be best friends again, but if they want nothing to do with me. Then I will completely let go of them and *just* focus on myself. Edit: sorry I kinda just ranted!
Don't do it. I know what you're going through I've had the same thing happen with both friends and my literal blood siblings (my little brother stole over $1,500 worth of personal items and then just blocked and smeared me to the rest of the family). It literally drove me insane. I spent the past year mentally recovering through bouts of confusion, sadness, rage, etc. The biggest and most torturous part of it was that I couldn't mentally empathize with the level of emotional coldness, I thought I was mistaken, there had to be a reason something I did wrong, etc. I tried to share it with so many people. My irl "friends" who were already horrible emotional support did what they did best: made everything about their wanna be sitcom lives, I started ignoring them and keeping to myself. The family not involved either only sympathized to get things out of me or they straight up would express about the same level of apathy as my friends, leaving me on seen, going quiet or even shaming me for "holding onto the situation". It got to the point where I literally started ruining my own life, nearly went homeless, etc. I decided after my grandmother died recently and that I saw no change to just let it go... Some people aer fucked up but if you go and try and get that "last talk" in? I promise you, you're not gonna get that answer, and you're gonna damage yourself more, by then having to try and fight the urge to prove you're not "crazy". Leg them go. You can make more friends. They'll be good friends or bad, but they'll be new friends. Don't go back to people who don't want you... that won't change their mind, either.
Thank you so much I have finally realized that someone has been using me and I making me feel bad about myself. Once again thank you and you have helped me so much
This honestly this helped validate how I have been feeling about some of my old friends. I been upset and been tearing myself apart trying to figure out what was wrong with me. Don't get me wrong- no one is perfect, but these points laid out plain and simple really helped me understand why it didnt work out. I also found something I can work on! Y'all dont ignore the signs actually sit down and think whats best for you and if your happy in that friendship. Even though it will hurt its better for you in the long run ❤
It sucks even more when it comes to online friends because they have a higher chance of being toxic. It sucks because it is the only way I can feel safe talking without being judged.
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My so called "best friend" who've I've known since 6th grade (just turned 26 now) has become someone very toxic! I care about him as a friend but after a few failed relationships with some girls, he just gave up on life it seems to me! He gave up working back in 2019, before the pandemic, and refuses to get a job anymore! He's always trying to bum money off friends and family and he gets unemployment pay but he spends his money on weed because he rather be high than to face his problems! I have depression and anxiety too because I come from an abusive household but yet I still do my best to work and actually trying to improve myself! If my friend isn't trying to improve himself then I can't be around someone so negative and who hates everyone and everything!
I just recently realized that one of my "friends" was spreading horrible lies about me behind my back, and even making my other friends stay away from me, and honestly the only reason I had been her friend for months (even though she was doing lots of stuff that made me uncomfortable) was because I felt like I invested too much into out friendship. She claimed that she really wanted this character design but only had half the money, so I paid for the other half and agreed on sharing ownership of the character, but thinking back I really shouldn't have forced myself to speak with a dirty liar just so the stupid 20 dollars didn't "go to waste"
@@tyra_codii I was wondering how you did so much within 2 hours then I saw that this comment was made a month ago- But either way, even if it's only 3, you did a great job.. The fact that you're putting effort into making your relationships better is what matters. I wish you luck!
@@tyra_codii Well done for making an effort to go beyond the superficial and actually connecting with your friends. If you can find even a few people you truly feel kinship with, who care about you as you care about them, whom you can open up to and share difficult things and situations with... it will be worth the effort, as they may well remain close and cherished friends for decades. With continuous maintenance of the relationships, of course. =)
Piece of advice from someone who’s just had to dump a toxic friend for the first time. You need to realize you absolutely can and need to say no to bullshit, in my case, I always felt like I had to say yes to them, partly because I wanted to be nice. But I soon made lots of other friends, who never made me question my boundaries or acted mean, my affection for them came naturally. I was so used to having one best friend that I thought I had to keep enduring. I was hesitant to cut them off at first, but I opened up with my parents (first time in years) and they made me feel a lot better, insisting that I shouldn’t cry when they won’t, to instead piss them off with my successes and better friendships w/o them. Also, don’t be like me and try to argue before cutting them off, they will definitely not apologize, arguing will only be miserable for you. To cut off a “friend” is to stop conversations altogether.
that's great advice. I've gone through something similar. I actually wrote a song about toxic friendships and the feelings you go through when you get let down by a close friend. it’s called friend and my name is Jolina if you want to hear it on Spotify (or wherever you listen to music). maybe the song can help you heal the way it helped me.
I agree as i am a person who dumped such a friend too. And yes, i didn't realise how toxic she was untill I met some really sweet people, who do joke, do tease but are supportive and have their boundaries. I am so grateful for having the strength to finally cut her off. She was manipulative and kind of wanted to be the site of attention even though she wouldn't give any attention to me or other of her old friends. A lot of my friends warned me about her, i didn't listen then, but now i am happy about letting her go. The peace i have now is worth letting go a toxic friend.
someone who i considered a best friend of mine has called me useless. honestly, that was my last straw. i couldnt just communicate with them normally anymore. :[ but yet i feel so guilty to leave them, im usually the ones doing favors for most of my friends, never getting the favor back. it just feels rough
The last one I can relate to so much. My friend, the one I am questioning being a “fake friend”, will constantly joke about my insecurities. She also sometimes hurts me on accident and doesn’t even say sorry, even when I say “Ow. That hurt” the only thing she really says when that happens is, “Oh your fine! Stop being dramatic!”. Going back to the insecurities thing, I have a insecurity about being weak (The “friend” in question knows about this) and one time she told me “I will always be stronger than you.” I don’t think she meant to make me feel small, but even when I tried to tell her that she hurt my feelings she just shrugged it off. Do you guys think she’s a fake friend? 😕😕
I moved to another state almost a year ago and I have been very distant towards other people, except 2 people, who have proven to be real friends, as I completely know because of this video. Thank you for showing me how to find people to be friends with without fear of being humiliated or downplayed.
This honestly brought some conviction for me. This video showed me some things I’m doing to people in my friend groups just because everyone else is doing it to them. This video kind of gave me a needed slap in the face about what I’m intentionally or unintentionally doing to my friends.
Thank you so much for making this video, I have a friend who is extremely mean and rude to me, I thought it was just friend humor until she took it to bullying my friends and physically harming me. I thought it was normal because she did it all the time but now I know that I have to end this relationship. Thank you. ❤
Thanks for this video so much. Recently my friend had been acting strange and I realized that she had been using me for 2 years now. I was so upset but at least everything is clear now. Thanks.
I've had friends who weren't very good freinds . then one day a person came into my life and that person, is the most goofy, fun, caring and happy friend I ever had and now I feel unstoppable when Im around them.
Ok ok, my friend does this, and when I tell him, he says " dude, I'm just kidding" or "I was joking don't be dramatic" like dude, you never treat me with respect, only your "girlfriend" and others😢
I have an online friend who sometimes disapears for long periods of time without warning and will just show back up like nothing happned. I know that they are going through a lot, live alone and have very few friends but, the inconsistencies in contact are somewhat bringing me down, I care about them a lot and often worry about having done something wrong. When they are around they are nice and kind, they seem to be set on playing up this 'uncaring' persona despite occasionally helping with problems and listening to me. I don't know what to do, I genuinely feel happy and comfortable around them but when they're gone everything feels awful.
They might not be used to be having a lot of interactions with their friends. it could also be that they are very cautious with whom they connect. It probably wouldn't hurt to ask them to see, just don't push it too much. There could be multiple reasons why they are acting the way they are and some of those reasons they may not be comfortable with saying them, especially if they're still getting to know you as a person.
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Thank you so much for this video. This helped me realize that most of my friends are toxic....and I have been as well. Thanks to this I can see what I've done wrong and what I need to work on to be a better friend. Thanks again!
i really needed this my “bestfriend” also makes me feel bad about myself and makes me feel ashamed of things that i can’t handed like my pain bc i’m always in the hospital and she said sometimes i wish we weren’t friends and then started talking about herself but i don’t know how to tell her really bc when i bring something up she just brings and all her insecurities and makes me feel bad then i have to say sorry then she talks about herself again
I've learned from my experiences that if anyone makes you feel badly about your self, they are simply not a friend. İf you don't know how to shut her out place boundaries on this person. Bc you need to take care of yourself first. You haven't done anything to feel badly about, and you are in and out of hospital . How dare this person put more trauma in your life. İt is draining and you need healing. Big hug to you ❤️🌻
@aesthetic_sunflower I'm someone like you too. I worry more about hurting the other person whose hurting my feeling more than myself. But it's not okay for your mental health. You'll constantly feel worse until your self-esteem is depleted to the lowest level. My advice if you want it, is that you should do this for the sake of both your physical and mental health. Nothing is more important than THAT! When you want to confront her, don't think about all the things you want to say. Just let everything out from the bottom of your heart! If you have to close your eyes while speaking, (I've heard it works,) do so. Don't let he/she interrupt you because it will definitely disturb your flow. And if you have to put an end to the "friendship", by all means do so. You'll feel better after
this is also a good video to decide if *you're* toxic. me and my friends say rude things to each other, but we normally do this in a jokingly way, my best friend doesn't agree with these as much but still participates occasionally. this video helped me decide if what I say sounds like playful banter, harmful words to my friend and how i should fix it. this video really help me reflect and see if I'm a good friend or not. I really like my friend and I don't try to harm her, I should just make sure, just in in case.
Late,, but this used to be me. it *used* to be jokingly. we were always happy and drama wasnt too frequent, around april, there was a very large switch that kinda just changed, sometimes i think it was me when it really just was the leader that changed (negatively) and influenced all of his friends. i was included until i realized how flucked up the situation was. when i mentioned it, everything started to become real. they all targeted me, and i started to notice the red flags. the old friend group of mine started putting up offensive jokes, and insulting trauma. i left not long after they tried to blackmail me when trying to stand up for myself. This all spiraled last April 2023, and i anonymously left them in mid october. they wont see me for awhile because i was able to leave when i moved schools. (i blocked them online)
So, I really like this girl who i met after streaming on Twitch and we grew to like each other and eventually, love each other. However, she wasn't really sure until she met me in person. I encourage her to start up her own discord server and return to streaming so I could watch her every day and luckily, she did. That was when I discovered her best friend. Her best friend would constantly insult me, put me down and is an overwhelming to talk to all because I'm associated with her, like I'm stealing her away. I put on a mask to disguise the fact that none of what her best friend says is hurting me but, secretly, it does. Yesterday, enough was enough and I left her discord server and had a little cry to myself. Hoping to recover to focus more on myself and this relationship I've built up for a year now is on a verge all because of a really and obsessively attached individual.
I had a toxic friend before. Her name's Hazel and I remember her yelling threats that she would cut ties with me just because I was chatting with people I met online. She told me that what she did was out of "love and concern," then accused me of sending inappropriate photos to someone I met.
@@peppermintcookie5531 It's sensible to be a bit cautious of people you meet on the internet, but at the same time, almost everyone is on the internet and not all of them are dangerous lunatics. I can say this with confidence, as I am a dangerous lunatic.. err, I mean, a random internet person.^^; And yeah, yelling threats is not a good way to convince someone of anything...
@@hazukichanx408 yeah. I'm being cautious with who I meet online. And my other friend Nikolai knew the red flag of Hazel. Ironically, Hazel is also manipulative and controlling just so she could fit us into her shitty narrative
Thanks for this… I have had so many fake friends… I needed this so much… I’ve even been doxxed and harassed… I even had to change my real name… so again thanks for this so much…
All of these happen with My youngest friend. She's really rude. Not only that she put all the blame on me for leaving the friend group. More importantly everyone always gets mad at ME even if I'm not the one who did something wrong. She just gets on my nerves. She's done pretty much all of these examples too me and she just seems like she hates me. Honestly I want to cut off so many friendships rn but don't know how bc either way they'll just complain and be in denial
@@Psych2go it's fine now. We're going to different schools next year so I won't have to deal with her. Pretty psyched about that. She wasn't the worst person but honestly I got tired of her so-
I feel very sad, after watching this video I have realized that my friends do all of these things, I have had some amazing fun times with them but no matter what it feels like the next day, someone will do something mean, like bringing up past fights and laughing at someone’s insecurities when some one does this it makes anybody else want to do the same to them so it is an infinite cycle of toxic-ness. I have realized I might have been doing these things in response to my friends toxic behavior, this year one of my best friends is moving away, and I want to fix things in my friend group before then. Thank you for helping me realize this, your videos are super helpful❤❤, hopefully now me and my friends might be able to salvage our relationship 😮💨
This is what I feel in my friends for the past months and my academic behavior was badly affected. I’m being firm for days right now and I don’t want to wastw time anymore.
I can say I've lost all of my "friends" at this point. I'd rather be alone than having a bunch of fakes. I had one friend left, supposedly my "bestie", but as soon as I got in a romantic relationship, she started to act overly critical about every decision I was taking, and instead of it being constructive it felt more like she wanted me to feel insecure and stupid when there was absolutely no need. Her words and ways to say things felt just... With all the intention of being hurtfull. I decided to ignore all the times she did that, but the last straw... She was gonna get married, and wanted me to be one of her bridesmaids. I understand the situation with covid and such, and that she was stressed and that just a certain number of people were being invited, but she was trying to force me to go completely alone to her party, not even my boyfriend going with me or anyone else in general. Sadly, in my city (or country in general) it is reeeeeally dangerous to go out alone as a woman, especially at late hours at night as it can literally cost your life, so I told her I was afraid to go alone, I didn't want to risk myself like that. I thought my reason was obvious, but wanna know what she replied? That I should grow up and separate from my mom's side and a whole speech of 10 minutes about moving away from my home and many other things. What does that have to do with me fearing for my life???? This really surprised me Spoiler, I didn't go to her party, sorry but I wanted to live, I'm pretty sure she only wanted me there to be just another ornament on her pictures, and would not care if I return home or never make it back. All this had me thinking about everything and made me open my eyes, so now I'm trying to fade away from her life.
I had a male friend during 7th grade and I’m pretty really upset that he show these signs towards me.I asked him why does he do this to me and he said that it was just a joke or he just wanna mess with me. There was also that time where he took a photo of me smiling and raised his hand,showing it to all students who was in the school shuttle.He was laughing a lot and some kids were whispering about it.I felt really embarrassed about it. I finally had enough of him and decided not to talk to him anymore. We didn’t talk for months until now and I’m really glad that I wasn’t being bothered anymore.I finally had real friends who cared about me and whoever also went through this,I hope you are feeling alright now.❤️
At this point I can read them on social media, like when they scroll through my IG stories or when I make a poll they don’t even answer (same with my family followers) it just messes with our minds and make us question them. It’s the small things that matter the most but society will NEVER understand. Friends are not really your friends nowadays.
My friend used to always used to pick on me or just be mean to me and she used to say” Sorry ig?” But she was nice to everyone else and she used to say stuff about me.Once she threw away my stuff and I started crying in class.She made everyone feel bad when she was in a bad mood and I just hated that :(
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Mine are real friends
So i haf No friends 😢
Idk why IM gonna say this but i have a friend called abri idk what his full name is but i know his name is abri and also hes like a guardian angel he always steps up when someone bullys me he just steps up and punch the guy and say to me cmon let's run we are still friends to this day
I thought my friend was true…I’ll tell them this…
@@srenchristianhansenI can be your frinde
1. They don't show interest in your life
2. They aren't there for you when you need them
3. They are overly critical of you
4. They aren't genuinely apologetic
5. They keep track of how many times you have wronged them
6. They speak about your insecurities often
Checks out for a friend my brother and I cut off
Istg its the worst specially if you can't let go 🙁💔
@e what
damn i need new friends all my friends are like this
@@beidoumybeloved2409 yes
Who ever animated this deserves an academy award. Seriously, incredible job.
OatsAndToasts Avena they're a new animator 🙂
Thank you!
Yeah, it's cleanly animated.
This was AMAZING!! Like watching a real animated film/show... So many emotions, mannerisms, different behaviours and personalities. Great character design :)
fr it's amazing
Anyone that brings negativity towards a friendship it's time to let them go. The drama arguing fussing fighting and keeping tabs on who did what is exhausting
Yes but we are roommates now and the situation is complicated 🙂
Are they bringing negativity because of your actions or lacc of respect or are they just a negative nancy?
@@KINGDEVON16 The question that needs to be asked.
Yea
@@KINGDEVON16 lack of respect. They always want someone to listen to their problems but dont want to listen when it comes time to.
i have an ex-friend exactly like this. she never actually apologized if she said something rude and never was really interested in me. im so glad that i found this channel
same they never interested in me
@@nevaehsoutherland im glad u feel me
remember this isn't always just about toxic friends, it could be the same with a toxic partner, toxic classmate, a toxic family member or yourself, it doesn't just apply to your friends! :)
Indeed. It's important to know how different people influence our well-being, and of course how we influence theirs - and make choices that lead toward the life we want, the state of mental and emotional health we're aiming for. Find people who are good for you, and be good to them - or if you're especially brave, try changing the pattern with people who struggle to be constructive about relationships, _but_ in the latter case... be prepared to say, at some point, "I tried, and it didn't work. They don't seem interested. Time to move on."
It's not your job to fix anyone else. It's often impossible. We can try to help nudge people in a good direction, but if they're not going with it, it won't work. First and foremost, we can control who we are and how we treat people... then, with a little luck, that can inspire others to follow suit.^^
Exactly why I've had to limit contact with my siblings. I do love them but they are quite toxic (narcissistic, critical, dismissive, etc), so loving them from a distance is very necessary.
Very true.
It’s pretty eye opening to realize your partner wasn’t a even a good friend.
@@The-waveverse Yes. This happened to me, too.😔
I was in a very toxic friendship a few months ago. I didn't realize just how toxic it was because I just wanted some friends. This describes my previous "friends" perfectly. They did all of this. I'm grateful to the three people who pointed this out to me and this video for showing me just how bad it was.
My friend was playing Roblox with my other friend so I feel left out
Same here but it was more than 2 years ago I realize it now as it hits me how naïve I was. I realized i was ghosted when I needed her however I was there for her when she was getting bullied. As I rethink I reliezed this was not real and there were red flags and my gut was saying something to confirm that
I really do not know if I have a fake friend
Same i wrote a whole script about it in the comments 😅
Same dude
0:31 they don't show interest or ask details.
1:03 they're not relaible or there when you need them.
2:06 they're extremely critical of you.
2:44 their apologizes don't sound genuine.
3:21 they keep score of how many times you've wronged them.
4:22 they play on your insecurities and make you feel unhappy.
3:25 they watch jojo.
Thank you!
@@ivanfire4 DIO!
@@ivanfire4 lol
Hello! So last year I’ve been a toxic friend and have not realized it, but after I’ve watched your videos I began to improve every day! Thank you SO much for making me get healthy, and I just want you to know that you changed me and my friendship! Thank you!
"Friends" are rare! Good friends are even more so!
“True Friends are like diamonds, expensive and rare, False Friends are like autumn leaves, they are everywhere.”
It’s sad. You grow up in a toxic family and you are involved in so many toxic and abusive situations, so you start searching for love in the wrong places and you let people treat you like shit because you start to adapt to it. As a person who was involved in toxic relationships and is now getting out of toxic friendships. Give light to someone who needs it, you never know how bad shi is. And to whoever is reading this comment, im proud of you and I love you. 💛💛
I feel ur pain 😭 ur not alone.
@@filsanmohamed2438 I have no friends and I have trust issues so you’re comment meant the world to me and you’re also not alone ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for speaking up on this, truly some words i've been trying to figure out from my own situation too.. I hope you find a safe place someday where you can freely express yourself, and don't give up as you'll never know when or how good things will come after these years of toxic situations.
@@hanstr9499 thank you sm for this comment and I wish the absolute best for you ❤️🙌🏽
this is literally the definition of my life
Oh man. I've had friends that just didn't care. We were friends because they needed that kind of attention. I woke up and realized that I didn't like them, their behavior, or how I felt after dealing with them in any capacity. Being alone is PEACEFUL ❤ I'm fine having barely any friends.
I'm going through this too I feel you.. Although it's even more irritating for me because I have to see them everyday at university. And the truth is I currently have noone else close to me, so every day life has become quite heavy.. Even so, I prefer this than non genuine people around me. Hope things turn out better for us both ^^
And it usually happens in college🥲 I’ve had a super toxic friend relationship and felt so exhausted and leaving her or “them” was the best choice I’ve ever made
I feel that, dude. Had friends from JHS and up, back during my "class clown" phase of life. I legit let them go like maybe 6 months ago after years of feeling like shit around them. When I was younger, I didn't get a lot of attention at home, so I acted out in school, got a reputation for wild and unpredictable behavior.
That reputation followed me into High School, College and finally adulthood.
It was around early adulthood I really started to notice how different my older "friends" treated me... almost like a sideshow or an interesting oddity than a real friend.
Anytime I expressed a dynamically unique opinion, I was met with silence. They were obsessed with being relevant and politically correct and would often shame me if it meant looking good in front strangers, even.
The pandemic, like with everyone else, really showed me how they regard me and even after, with the vax mandates and that, I felt honestly like they weren't even my friends. I'm not even antivaxx, but the way they treated mutuals and then me for speaking up for them was just too much.
I'm not gonna lie, I'm friendless IRL now. Like you said, though, the reality is that I was alone with people who never really understood me, either. It was hell existing as that quirky friend who was just basically the comic relief for the homies to get laid. I hated that I was always the one traveling to see them, always the one having to adjust my timing and schedule, because their lives were so much more important.
Peace is sweet.
Same
@@techrvl9406 That last paragraph pretty much sums it all up.. I'm at least glad that I could tell someone (even here) that I have noone and didn't criticize me. I understand how you feel.. Wish I could be as elaborate as you, but just thinking of my situation hurts.
I ended a 25+ year friendship because of stuff like this. (Before I discovered this channel so it's comforting to know I made the right decision) I look back on so many things that they've done or said. They had so much influence on how I think. Once I finally got past letting them go, I found a new me that I didn't know existed.
I've recently been EXTREMELY worried about the fact that some of my friends could be toxic/manipulative without me realizing it, and these videos helped A LOT. They made me realize that one of my friends is toxic, and i mean TOXIC. Thank you.
Same
I couldn't be worried about any of this, I know my friends aren't toxic
Cuz they're non existent 💀💀
@@Kris-lp9is rip 💀💀
Same here my friends who I know for 5 years are toxic to me for get this 2 years I am trying to ask them about it😢
Exactly what I’m going through❤after hanging out more with a friend I notice more and more how he sees the world, he went on a long story about how he tips Starbucks workers so that they will give him a good order but he said that after awhile he noticed they got used to him tipping(idk how he noticed this) and that because of this he started going in at a different time than usual so that they won’t get used to his tipping. He told me one day when he walked in one of the workers said, “your here later than usual”, and he said he responded with “I don’t work here” and he told me he had to remind them they were the workers that way. He sounds like he is full of himself tbh but I need opinions.
I have had a lot of fake friends. It was mostly girls at that. They would uplift me in front of others, but always judged everything I did and even worse. Always protect your energy. Everyone is not your friend, but always be kind to others. 💖
Both guys and gals can be equally toxic friends.
I had fake friends as well, mostly girls, who were only friendly to me when they needed something.
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@@Coryraisa well I'll say girls are more toxic friends if you're a girl becoz they might be jealous of looks and stuff and boys aren't like that...not that boys aren't toxic at all
@@Coryraisa yes they can. I’m just saying that my experience was with girls mostly.
always hitting me with the "sorry, i guess?" or "geez, sorry."
Or sorry */with a laugh
same
Wow I’m so aprry
Sorry
Nah dude. Sometimes someone just hate apologizing idk why
5 years. we were friends for 5 years. but they all found each other to be more suitable for friendship, i guess.
1. nothing
2.not caring
3.toxic friend
4.not saying sorry
5.toxic fights
6.toxic interactions.
thanks for reminding!
mines fighting for fun!
When you are checking if you have a toxic friend but you end up being the toxic friend 😢
Oof...... stop doing this to save your freindship
@@adiymusammat7159?
I mean some of this occasionally applies to me (I suck) but it also applies to a couple of my friends
Work on yourself and be conscious of your actions and words
I recognize that I do some of the mentioned sometimes, but the difference is I am willing to change but my friend seems doesn't…
And she has many friends who seem like she is of the center attention so it’s a bit hard to open up. With her friend group last year, I observed that they’re a type of just-fun-group and do gossip.
Keep in mind, many people do these things without realizing that they're being a bad friend. After watching this, I realize I haven't been a very good friend, and I intend to change that.
Truee
Good that you've noticed
Same
The world would be truly beautiful place to live if people thought like you did
I agree I have done this in the past but now that I'm not, I'm feeling like karma has hit me and I have the urge to send this video to people who think they did nothing wrong to me because they have the power of a so what,"Friend," but yet they take that as an advantage to mess with your head, especially when those toxic friends are your only friend :(
I just realized my friend that I've had ever since 4th grade has all these traits, and I have been feeling unhappy with our friendship ever since it's started. Thanks for confirming this. The reason I kept on being friends with him was because, to put it simply, I have no other friends or any friend group. I was scared I would get made fun of for having no friends.
Did you cry?
@@IamGoodBOYYT No, this had just confirmed my fears, not shown them to me. Thanks btw
This seems pretty straightforward if we're dealing with one-on-one situations, but what if that toxic friend is part of a larger group of close friends? Breaking up with that toxic friend could make things in the group rather awkward.
I'd say tell them you don't really want to do one on one hangouts with them anymore as it no longer feels mutually fulfilling, but that you'd still like to be civil in the group hangouts. Maybe something like that?
My toxic ex best friend is still in two of my groups and I handled the two differently. In our close group they were all toxic, and they showed their true colors when I left them, so, better that way. In the other group it's a bit awkward but we just avoid talking directly to each other, I would have thought it's very difficult to handle but it isn't impossible
YES there’s this one friend in my friend group that’s super rude (I won’t go into detail but most points here apply to them) but it’s super awkward trying to let go of a friend in a group
I've been part of a group like this. I had to let go of all of it; seeing the couple of nice people wasn't worth it.
I have one-on-one situation, the problem is that it still doesn't work that easily, like yes maybe it will be less awkward after we break it I just don't know if I would regret it or not and what if she just gossip and say false information about me, I am afraid but I am really stressed out bc of her I can't explain the feeling any more it's just... Exhausting more than upsetting, every time I argue with her she does that circle of not replying to what I said but instead opening another story that's easier for her so she can win the argument, I DON'T CARE ABOUT WHO WINS IT WHY IS SHE ALWAYS JUST CARES ABOUT HER WANTING TO WIN IT, I just want to reach a point with her I don't want some one to lose or win I just want to talk to her but she doesn't care about anything I said she just wants to be satisfied and win the argument :/ Why doesn't she for once reply to me so we can reach a point and end this and finally a video that included "the one that lists your mistakes" bc that's literally her she said many rude stuff to me and when I told her that I think the way she is talking to me is toxic she now in every argument says "well don't talk to me like you are an angel remember that you said I am toxic" and "wow, I am toxic now" l swear I didn't tell her that for the purpose of offense I did it bc I wanted her to be aware of her actions
The friend ship was for 5 years Idk if I want it anymore bc It has been now 4 months of me not caring about her anymore, and the main problem in one to one situation is that I don't have any other friends so Idk what to do
Pls I need help or an advice....
Also be careful about Freinds being too clingy like to the point they become so obsessed they won't give you space to breathe. Had one that would not give me any space and pushed my boundaries until I snapped.
Literally just had to end a relationship with someone who was obsessed but also jealous of me. It was weird and started having bad vibes from her and a mutual friend confirmed I wasn’t crazy and that she was talking about my personal issues to people behind my back
true!
This, I know someone in this class. She wants to be with her even though she was assigned in different task. I thought it’s a bit uncomfortable for me, I hope it’s ok to her.
this is so true. one of my friends got really angry and accused me of being "abusive" just because I had become friends with other people. she immediately shut up after I stopped buying her stuff for free lol
This could've come at a better time. I'm currently deciding if my current friend group is toxic or not, but after watching this video, I can safely say that they're toxic. Thank you to whoever made this video
Sorry bout that buddy :( It's happened to me as well! Hope you get over it soon
OMG same! But I still am not sure, I think I'm just scared to let them go
@@SHARxxY1 same
Gurl samee! My friend ( Fake) Has " Apoligised "lots of times when they talked about me behind my back and lies about me. And I'm just scared to say We are not friends anymore. Ughhhh so hard!!!
Same. I’ve been thinking about just letting go of them, but have been held back by the fact they’re my only two friends I have.
It’s either toxic friends, or none.
3:24 HELP I KNOW THIS IS SERIOUS BUT WHAT IS THIS
IDK, IT SHOWS JOJO REFERENCE- :,)
@@misdialbanjari6372omg that is so accurate
LMAOOO
JOJO REFERENCE ‼️😼
So 90% of my friends are fake?….
Yeah
Yeah same
I thought I was the only one having this but I guess we all are the same
Im so sorry for you all, I really hope you all will make/ get good friends soon!💖
that's what i just realised 😢
Ah yes… 7 years of friendship down the drain
SAME
I understand you…😕😕
I feel you, tried everything to fix the issues.. lost a great deal of friends just for one toxic friendship
Yes
Nah that’s the excact same for me!
I'm so glad that my friends aren't anything included in a toxic friendship. They can joke around sometimes but never try to hurt me and they always say sorry or ask if I'm okay at times. Thanks so much for making this video, Phych2go!
My friends are actually the other way around
They are just so ignorant and stubborn
I hope you have a nice day
my fake friend called me fat, now I body shame myself, I can’t stop…
Few months ago I felt like the friendship between me and some of my friends have ended. After I passed an exam with higher grades than them, I felt they are ignoring me and talk on my back. Without a word I distanced myself from them. Even my so called best friend for almost 7 years was among them. I feel so bad because all of them were the people whom I beleived as friends for more than 11 years. It's better to be alone rather than being in toxic friendships.
I don’t wanna let go. I feel I’m forcing myself to carry on caring and loving them. I have no one else.
Same here 😢. I just want a friend 🥺
I'm sorry you guys
Relatable. I’ve been friends with my best friend for four years, yet she doesn’t really seem to care about me much.. but I can’t let her just leave, she’s the only person I have
Same, I'm afraid of making him feel bad or missing him one day, but he makes me feel very bad:(
@@LesbianFrogLadyreal.. what are we gonna do? idk 😞
I'm so glad my best friend and I can express the toxic things we've done to each other respectfully and acknowledge these things so that, no only can we improve for each other, but so we can improve for ourselves.
My best friend yells at me and doesn't care abt me 🙂
@@useri201i4p2 Then I don't think that's a best friend, buddy
@@PsyOzoneBurstTakeyami Yeah even my 9ther friends say that he is not a good influence and I notice myself yelling at my family more when they do something to upset me on the days he yells at me a lot.
@@useri201i4p2 same
He deepfaked it. Should have seen that coming well now you don't have any caring friends
Be yourself. And if a “friend” doesn’t like that, let go! I had to let go of a friend who thought I was weird for being positive all the time!
I have an online friend I met 3 years ago on Ragnarok Online, and that is what a true friendship to me is like. We hang out in games together, laugh and have fun, talk about our problems and rants, be there for eachother, talk about controversial things without judgment or such...to me, she's the best friend I could ever have.
Bro can I be your friend pls🥺💔
👍
@@priyasenthilkumar8508 Can I be your friend, too?
Yes exactly what I mean by true friendships can start online. Anyone telling you that it’s not true just doesn’t know or chooses to ignore this fact. First friendship that actually lasting for over 4 years let alone 3 at a constant basis of communication and conversation trust. Sometimes we make friends in our daily lives (physically) only for convenience. I learned it the hard way. I have been so much happier without the old ex friend that I had no idea what I was doing and really do you really know someone if you have/had no idea what that person was/is doing and what you were/are doing?
I let go of a very dear friend an year ago because they hurt me many times over the year and covid kinda saved me from them, but I've been hit with guilt at random times when I'm missing home or just feeling down. Your video gave me closure and made me realise I did the right thing. Thank you.
Don't forget to be your own best friend and trust your own judgment. You deserve real friends. ❤
Like it's been 22 days since my close family member died and both my bestfriends didn't even bothered to call or check up on me
The point when I needed them the most they vanished
When i tried to reach out they just showed me aside and had absolutely no remorse or sympathy
In the most difficult phase of my life I was all alone and suffering
While they were there enjoying festivals with their family
I mean, I remember that I confronted my friend for them not really caring for how she really treated me and all she said was, sorry. Nothing else. Damn this video hit hard.
Mine didn't even say sorry😓
sometimes i have trouble even saying it i just don't want to hurt there feelings !
I have been having a very hard time with a friend lately and I'm starting to think our friendship is toxic. Thank you for these videos, they help a lot.
Same I agree
1 year friendship gone.
HAN FOUND
@@Hyunjns_wif3…that wasn’t really a good response for this situation, no offense..
On the Internet nothing appears as serious due to usually only using two senses to view it. That person would likely care if they saw the person in distress not in a comment section.
same
7 YEARS OF FRIENDSHIP GONE! 😭
Yeah as a person who litterally trusts everyone and always bring up excuses for people who has done me wrong, this video has helped me realize that none of my friends deseeve a singel minute of my precious time
I've been in a toxic friendship for 6 years and just got out of it about a year ago and it's the most relief I've ever felt
can you give tips? ive been in one for almost 5 years and just the last one or two years she started being toxic and insensitive. We had an argument 2 days ago and i apologized but she only responded "aha" and has been ghosting me and i dont know what to do because she and her cousin are the last and only friends i can rely on
@@trnavskatreska7491 She's doing silent treatment, she must be a narcissist or something like that. if i were you i would stop being her friend. Because narcissist are THE WORST. Their whole goal is to bring you down.
@@mell_yzma4726 thanks i already dropped her like a week ago and ive been happier since even tho im alone
@@trnavskatreska7491 hope the best for you!
@@mell_yzma4726 ❤️
Friendships are vital but can be hurtful, too. If you don't feel supported or if the relationship drains you, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. If the friendship doesn’t have any positive benefits for you, and your conversation with them hasn’t helped any, it may be time to end it.
True!
e you put me in this situation
What sucks is that everyone I’ve been close with, has had at least one of these traits listed of them. And I re-watched this to see if I’m like this, and surprisingly I’ve somehow avoided these traits. I always make sure I’m there for my friends as much as their there for me. And I never talk about small problems, it’s not as important as some of the stuff they go through. When I ask questions, I patiently wait to comment and I pay attention best as possible. Some people came to mind during this video because they don’t do these things. Sometimes it feels like they want someone else to come and save them from me. Sometimes they even get mad at me when I’ve done nothing. They talk about me behind my back constantly too. I’m unsure how to fix this yet, but I’ll talk to them.
I’m sorry about that man. I wish you the best
I’m going through the same thing right now it can be tough to deal with pain like this because it hurts more than a breakup and it feels like you can’t really do anything but stay neutral but honestly man you deal with them whenever you feel like dealing with them keep your head up and mindset strong because there’s friends who envied me when I been nothing but loyal to them so sometimes you either gotta rock it out on your own or let your partner/loved one take the spot and be your best friend it works trust me but stay safe brotha 💯
Same I felt the same thing so I'm probably be lonely when I'm older bc I lost 4 friends so I only got 3 friends now😭
I have the same problem so now I dont have any friends
WOW tose Texte are longgg
I apologized to my friend and have been trying to give him peace for a month now yet he acts as if im a the bad friend yet gossiping about me and doing more meanful stuff about me. Every time I look at him now I just cry because well hes not excepting my peace I gave him.
Why you cry
I have this one friend in class, she sits next to me. And she always makes fun of me or humiliates me in front of my class. She doesn’t listen to me and I just come home worse then ever. It’s exhausting and tiring. I always feel left out because we are in a trio. She always takes the credit and I realized that she used me to look better
dang, thats messed up.
This video was needed, I was being worried about my relationships, but thankfully, I can now say that my friends are actual friends, one less thing to worry about, thank you
I've been dealing with friends who have acted a lot like fake friends for years. I've been ignoring the signs and by now,I'm pretty much used to this. Whenever we have our great moment,I appreciate it too much and mostly just ignore these bad signs. I've started doubting our friendships nowadays but I keep holding on due to all our memories.
Set your boundaries, if they will completely ignore that. Then let go.
I know its hard to let go, i had to let go of multiple friends for shaming me in every way possible. I loves them, because I loved our memories and our families are really close. Ive been friends with them for 2-3 years. But everytime I told them, I was uncomfortable. They continued.
So i confronted them, they gave no shit and gave the most shittest apology. I was heartbroken, told them. Im done. They started joking about it, but I had this warm fuzzy feeling that I was free, even with a bit of guilt. I dont regret my decision one bit. I started blocking them on everything.
Ive made better friends now, I hope you let go of your toxic friendship. If not, I hope they change.
@@vivxx Thanks a bunch for the advice! I decided to let go of one of my friends who i've known for like 8 years. It was pretty tough but I felt a lot better afterwards.
I have the same situation, my friends at first acted like a nice friends. But last 2 years they became toxic and mostly like fake friends. And now if they just don't touch me or I'm having a nice time for 1-3 minutes i already feel so happy. I want to let them go, but they're my school friends and I don't know what will happen if i would let them go... Maybe they'll bully me or idk, but i need to hold my feeling until i can move to another school. Because school friends it's just a way to avoid bullying and of you're alone, get ready to get bullied. That's why i can't let my toxic friends go right now...
Same
@POLISN I am in the same position but they're my only friends, I'm worried what will happen if I let go
As an artist who only does commissions, I've had a horrible dose of Toxic people trying to become my friend. People have tried to be my friend to get free art out of me, someone even tried to DATE ME because they wanted fanart. This specific person was incredibly guilt tripping and emotionally blackmailing me.
I personally am the person who apologizes way too much.
A specific toxic friend crossed out almost all of these signs.
Thank you for making this, it helped me open my eyes to how he was treating me, it gave me the courage to stand up for myself, and boy, did the toxic friend not like that 😅
I have a close friend. She doesn't have any of these symptoms but yet I doubt she's a good friend because, since she got engaged, she stopped messaging me. Just remembering me once per two months or after 3 months. We used to chat daily and I confronted her about it. She didn't Apologize just excuses of not having time...Working bla bla bla, But I discover that she's chatting with her fiancee all the time. Plus, she now talks to me just if she has problems. She never asks how I'm doing since she knows I'm lonely and have so many issues in my life. This is a fake friend who you thought is a loyal one since childhood!
That's complicated
Omg, are you me? We're in the same boat :(
I've said this so many times in certain threads,...
*"You got nothing to lose! You don't lose when you lose fake friends!"- Joan Jett and the Blackhearts .*
I've had some people or friends who just pretend they appreciate what I do in public just for the sake of appearance and then they go and gossip about me when I'm not around...it hurts, but knowing who your real friends are is touched on so well in the video. Spending your time energy around the right people is so important! Thank you Psych2Go!
Sorry about this... Yes! Know your real buds!
Thanks for the insightful list. Happy to say that most of my friends don't show any of these signs, but this entire list sums up my relationship with my dad really well. Too well. I've been trying to avoid letting that relationship go, but I am very tempted to just cut ties soon.
I'm so glad I found my best friend in 7th grade. We've been friends for over 4 years. We're both long out of school and doing an apprenticeship but we still talk and hang out. It's so awesome to see someone care as much about me as i do about him. He's also honest with me trying to help me improve. Just all around great guy. Hope you guys find someone like that. Just keep searching and you'll find the right people.
Yay!
I really like how the animation represents the beings in the animations as plants because it really signifies how being with genuine people is like a plant being cared for and being with toxic people is one being neglected.
It's so easy to get rid of the friends you want to keep but so difficult to get rid of the ones who you don't. Also, I often feel like I'm the bad friend because they all never want to talk to me. I always mess everything up. In my whole life I've never had a friend who stays.
I have a friend at school who I’ve been ‘ best friends ‘ with since the first day I came to my new school which was last year. I don’t know why she said we were best friends since I came and it doesn’t make sense because that’s not how it works, she was nice at the start she let me play with whoever I want and she didn’t care what I did I was free for like 4 weeks. When we came back from holidays, she started to get clingy like she would be with me everywhere I went, the only way I could escape her was to go to the gym and play dodge ball but she would be there. I had other friends but she didn’t want me to play with them and only wanted to play with me and only me. She one time made me and a boy have a fake wedding at recess and it was bad and she was in charge. She also did stuff that were uncomfortable to me but I’m to shy to say it and sometimes she would fake cry in front of someone she doesn’t like because they want to take me away from them and she is rude to her. People thought that me and her were lesbian because we well mostly she was acting strange with me like sit on me in a weird way, comment on stuff about me that were inappropriate and putting her legs on my shoulders and doing the monkey bars on them. This year a boy started playing with me and her because he didn’t want to play with his old friends and we started playing with other girls who are my friends and now she really doesn’t care what I do and where I go. But she still does weird thing to be and the boy who I usually play with
Thanks for this, i know realize one of my friends are toxic. Always hurting me, insulting, pulling my hair, punching me, ignoring me, interrupting me and more, i can’t be more grateful for a video like this.
Im pretty sure you could notice that before
I'm in the process of leaving a toxic friend right now actually, so this is very helpful! I've noticed that they never talk to me until I talk to them, he doesn't seem to care about what I say either. He's extremely critical of me, hates how I speak, shames me, puts me down, and always makes me feel bad about myself. And recently, I've noticed how easy it is for him to just not talk to me at all. It was clear that I'm upset at him, but he goes and acts like nothing is wrong and chats with the rest of his friends without issue :/.
I've also noticed every time after a conversation I had with him, I feel very bad... just bad, idk if its shame or embarassment. Just... bad?
Can't remember the last time I had real friends. Everyone is bloody fake.
Right?? It’s so lonely at times
“Everyone is bloody fake”
They are, until you push this paranoid-avoidant bullshit out of your “genius” head
We live in a fake world, but we just have to learn how to deal with it...
Sorry about this...
Hey , pls help me 🙏🙏
There is this guy.. we"re chatting yesterday.. firstly, we were just joking n then our conversation got serious. Then he is like block me, block me!!! We were such good friends but when it comes to serious stuff he is like leave it , n he asks if I am disturbing him so I can tell him or block him. he never tries to understand me. Everytime I please him, but he never . Ps: sorry for my English..I'm not able to figure out if he is toxic or not????
Wow my daughter’s ex friend was a crappy person. Thank god that the person claimed that my daughter who they had been friends with for 5 years had accused her of being toxic when she was toxic the whole time!
I'm sick of feeling like I'm being invited somewhere to hang-out as an afterthought or just because I was there when they were discussing about where to go. I'm done.
At least you're asked they still talk about it and don't invite me. But I guess they knew I couldn't come because of my parents 🙄so maybe it was my parents who are partly to blame
@@mewesquirrel6720 maybe maybe. They're just used to you not going even if you like to go
I remember throughout childhood, I had these "friends" who would never phone me and ask to hang out, it was always me getting in touch or else nothing would happen. So eventually I just stopped phoning. In retrospect, not the type of person I should have been friends with anyway... if I was so far beneath what they considered attention-worthy, why not find someone I get along with better?
Thankfully, now I have several people like that. Heh, I wonder if any of the people from back then have any real friends.^^
Us too! This feeling is never good.
I had friends similar to this and I didn’t wake up from it all until I was finally away from them. It’s a long process to accept your feelings and ignore the justifications.
dude, i had a friend who was toxic to me for a while and i didn’t realize it at first, he did almost all the bad and toxic things in the video, and ended up rejecting me bc he found out i was gay, thankfully, i got over it and I’m hanging out with new friends and not letting them walk over me like a carpet anymore.
glad this topic was covered, keep making good content ❤❤
that actually sounds horrible, hope you find true friends bro
@@hollowsama_X thx man
He somehow didn’t know you were gay despite the proto pfp? Lol? Was he retarded?
that sucks, Hope you find genuine friends. Be happy! Good Luck!
i can relate
4 year friendship gone, thank you for helping me realize how toxic she was
This helped me, because i wasn’t sure if i was in a toxic relationship with my bff. I noticed that i do SOME of this stuff to her, but i didn’t mean to be toxic. But she did 5/6 things you said. I waited a bit, but i realized this is truly a toxic and fake friend. Thank tou so much to this.
I don’t even need to watch the video to say yes. I had a group of friends from high school who I thought I was really close with. We got along so well and I felt like I could call them family. Then the last day of January they removed all communications with me and I was freaking out because I was so confused to what happened. So I asked another one of the friends in the friend group because something similar happened to her, and when that happened to her I was there for her. To show that I would always be there to support her. And then she wasn’t there for me, after she told me that she would always be there for me, she immediately unfriend and blocked me on all types of social media, even in the video game platforms we played on together. When that happened I felt like my heart actually broke. I was so mentally destroyed and cried for hours until the smell of my tears literally made me sleep. And after 3 and a half months, I still have no closure to why they did this to me. I’ve decided, now that I finished my first year of college that I will go to each of their houses and have a “last talk” if they want to reconcile I would be just friends with them. I could never trust them to be best friends again, but if they want nothing to do with me. Then I will completely let go of them and *just* focus on myself.
Edit: sorry I kinda just ranted!
Don't do it. I know what you're going through I've had the same thing happen with both friends and my literal blood siblings (my little brother stole over $1,500 worth of personal items and then just blocked and smeared me to the rest of the family). It literally drove me insane. I spent the past year mentally recovering through bouts of confusion, sadness, rage, etc.
The biggest and most torturous part of it was that I couldn't mentally empathize with the level of emotional coldness, I thought I was mistaken, there had to be a reason something I did wrong, etc. I tried to share it with so many people. My irl "friends" who were already horrible emotional support did what they did best: made everything about their wanna be sitcom lives, I started ignoring them and keeping to myself.
The family not involved either only sympathized to get things out of me or they straight up would express about the same level of apathy as my friends, leaving me on seen, going quiet or even shaming me for "holding onto the situation".
It got to the point where I literally started ruining my own life, nearly went homeless, etc. I decided after my grandmother died recently and that I saw no change to just let it go... Some people aer fucked up but if you go and try and get that "last talk" in? I promise you, you're not gonna get that answer, and you're gonna damage yourself more, by then having to try and fight the urge to prove you're not "crazy".
Leg them go. You can make more friends. They'll be good friends or bad, but they'll be new friends. Don't go back to people who don't want you... that won't change their mind, either.
Thank you for sharing this
I feel so happy that I have a friend who actually care about me, but this video help me realize what's I could improve in myself. ❤️
Thank you so much I have finally realized that someone has been using me and I making me feel bad about myself. Once again thank you and you have helped me so much
This honestly this helped validate how I have been feeling about some of my old friends. I been upset and been tearing myself apart trying to figure out what was wrong with me. Don't get me wrong- no one is perfect, but these points laid out plain and simple really helped me understand why it didnt work out. I also found something I can work on!
Y'all dont ignore the signs actually sit down and think whats best for you and if your happy in that friendship. Even though it will hurt its better for you in the long run ❤
This video and comment really stood out and helped me, it’s been hard times lately. Thank you!
It sucks even more when it comes to online friends because they have a higher chance of being toxic. It sucks because it is the only way I can feel safe talking without being judged.
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My so called "best friend" who've I've known since 6th grade (just turned 26 now) has become someone very toxic! I care about him as a friend but after a few failed relationships with some girls, he just gave up on life it seems to me! He gave up working back in 2019, before the pandemic, and refuses to get a job anymore! He's always trying to bum money off friends and family and he gets unemployment pay but he spends his money on weed because he rather be high than to face his problems! I have depression and anxiety too because I come from an abusive household but yet I still do my best to work and actually trying to improve myself! If my friend isn't trying to improve himself then I can't be around someone so negative and who hates everyone and everything!
Sorry about this...
I just recently realized that one of my "friends" was spreading horrible lies about me behind my back, and even making my other friends stay away from me, and honestly the only reason I had been her friend for months (even though she was doing lots of stuff that made me uncomfortable) was because I felt like I invested too much into out friendship. She claimed that she really wanted this character design but only had half the money, so I paid for the other half and agreed on sharing ownership of the character, but thinking back I really shouldn't have forced myself to speak with a dirty liar just so the stupid 20 dollars didn't "go to waste"
I like this video I now know that I should be reaching out to my friends and talking to them more because I barely know them
How did that go? How many friends did you reach out to?
@@Psych2go only 3 of them but I also started going out more after school with them and I feel like we've gotten closer
@@tyra_codii I was wondering how you did so much within 2 hours then I saw that this comment was made a month ago-
But either way, even if it's only 3, you did a great job.. The fact that you're putting effort into making your relationships better is what matters. I wish you luck!
@@tyra_codii Well done for making an effort to go beyond the superficial and actually connecting with your friends. If you can find even a few people you truly feel kinship with, who care about you as you care about them, whom you can open up to and share difficult things and situations with... it will be worth the effort, as they may well remain close and cherished friends for decades. With continuous maintenance of the relationships, of course. =)
Your comment is 1 month old But the video is only 23 hours old
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Piece of advice from someone who’s just had to dump a toxic friend for the first time. You need to realize you absolutely can and need to say no to bullshit, in my case, I always felt like I had to say yes to them, partly because I wanted to be nice. But I soon made lots of other friends, who never made me question my boundaries or acted mean, my affection for them came naturally. I was so used to having one best friend that I thought I had to keep enduring. I was hesitant to cut them off at first, but I opened up with my parents (first time in years) and they made me feel a lot better, insisting that I shouldn’t cry when they won’t, to instead piss them off with my successes and better friendships w/o them. Also, don’t be like me and try to argue before cutting them off, they will definitely not apologize, arguing will only be miserable for you. To cut off a “friend” is to stop conversations altogether.
that's great advice. I've gone through something similar. I actually wrote a song about toxic friendships and the feelings you go through when you get let down by a close friend.
it’s called friend and my name is Jolina if you want to hear it on Spotify (or wherever you listen to music).
maybe the song can help you heal the way it helped me.
I agree as i am a person who dumped such a friend too. And yes, i didn't realise how toxic she was untill I met some really sweet people, who do joke, do tease but are supportive and have their boundaries. I am so grateful for having the strength to finally cut her off. She was manipulative and kind of wanted to be the site of attention even though she wouldn't give any attention to me or other of her old friends. A lot of my friends warned me about her, i didn't listen then, but now i am happy about letting her go. The peace i have now is worth letting go a toxic friend.
someone who i considered a best friend of mine has called me useless. honestly, that was my last straw. i couldnt just communicate with them normally anymore. :[ but yet i feel so guilty to leave them, im usually the ones doing favors for most of my friends, never getting the favor back. it just feels rough
New friends to come!
The last one I can relate to so much. My friend, the one I am questioning being a “fake friend”, will constantly joke about my insecurities. She also sometimes hurts me on accident and doesn’t even say sorry, even when I say “Ow. That hurt” the only thing she really says when that happens is, “Oh your fine! Stop being dramatic!”. Going back to the insecurities thing, I have a insecurity about being weak (The “friend” in question knows about this) and one time she told me “I will always be stronger than you.” I don’t think she meant to make me feel small, but even when I tried to tell her that she hurt my feelings she just shrugged it off. Do you guys think she’s a fake friend? 😕😕
I moved to another state almost a year ago and I have been very distant towards other people, except 2 people, who have proven to be real friends, as I completely know because of this video. Thank you for showing me how to find people to be friends with without fear of being humiliated or downplayed.
This honestly brought some conviction for me. This video showed me some things I’m doing to people in my friend groups just because everyone else is doing it to them. This video kind of gave me a needed slap in the face about what I’m intentionally or unintentionally doing to my friends.
Sadly I feel the same way… but it feels weird that I do this I haven’t ever done this before.
PEOPLE LIKE U SHOULDNT EXIST NO OFFENCE :/
The same
Thank you so much for making this video, I have a friend who is extremely mean and rude to me, I thought it was just friend humor until she took it to bullying my friends and physically harming me. I thought it was normal because she did it all the time but now I know that I have to end this relationship. Thank you. ❤
Thanks for this video so much. Recently my friend had been acting strange and I realized that she had been using me for 2 years now. I was so upset but at least everything is clear now. Thanks.
I definitely realized that I’m in a really toxic friendship. Thank you!
You teached me how real friends should be and now I don't have fake friends anymore. Thank you so much
I've had friends who weren't very good freinds . then one day a person came into my life and that person, is the most goofy, fun, caring and happy friend I ever had and now I feel unstoppable when Im around them.
Ok ok, my friend does this, and when I tell him, he says " dude, I'm just kidding" or "I was joking don't be dramatic" like dude, you never treat me with respect, only your "girlfriend" and others😢
I have an online friend who sometimes disapears for long periods of time without warning and will just show back up like nothing happned.
I know that they are going through a lot, live alone and have very few friends but, the inconsistencies in contact are somewhat bringing me down, I care about them a lot and often worry about having done something wrong.
When they are around they are nice and kind, they seem to be set on playing up this 'uncaring' persona despite occasionally helping with problems and listening to me.
I don't know what to do, I genuinely feel happy and comfortable around them but when they're gone everything feels awful.
Just give it some time. 💕
They might not be used to be having a lot of interactions with their friends. it could also be that they are very cautious with whom they connect. It probably wouldn't hurt to ask them to see, just don't push it too much. There could be multiple reasons why they are acting the way they are and some of those reasons they may not be comfortable with saying them, especially if they're still getting to know you as a person.
Give it time! Time will heal
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Thank you so much for this video. This helped me realize that most of my friends are toxic....and I have been as well. Thanks to this I can see what I've done wrong and what I need to work on to be a better friend. Thanks again!
i really needed this my “bestfriend” also makes me feel bad about myself and makes me feel ashamed of things that i can’t handed like my pain bc i’m always in the hospital and she said sometimes i wish we weren’t friends and then started talking about herself but i don’t know how to tell her really bc when i bring something up she just brings and all her insecurities and makes me feel bad then i have to say sorry then she talks about herself again
Yeah, it's time for her to go, friend.
I've learned from my experiences that if anyone makes you feel badly about your self, they are simply not a friend. İf you don't know how to shut her out place boundaries on this person. Bc you need to take care of yourself first. You haven't done anything to feel badly about, and you are in and out of hospital . How dare this person put more trauma in your life. İt is draining and you need healing. Big hug to you ❤️🌻
@aesthetic_sunflower
I'm someone like you too. I worry more about hurting the other person whose hurting my feeling more than myself. But it's not okay for your mental health. You'll constantly feel worse until your self-esteem is depleted to the lowest level. My advice if you want it, is that you should do this for the sake of both your physical and mental health. Nothing is more important than THAT! When you want to confront her, don't think about all the things you want to say. Just let everything out from the bottom of your heart! If you have to close your eyes while speaking, (I've heard it works,) do so. Don't let he/she interrupt you because it will definitely disturb your flow. And if you have to put an end to the "friendship", by all means do so.
You'll feel better after
They are not your best friend! I hope you find a real one :) we support you!
@@lilly6986 Thank you so much i really needed to hear this.❤️☺️
I left a toxic friend group. It was hurt at first and I was so confused, but then I realized it was the best decision I made
this is also a good video to decide if *you're* toxic. me and my friends say rude things to each other, but we normally do this in a jokingly way, my best friend doesn't agree with these as much but still participates occasionally. this video helped me decide if what I say sounds like playful banter, harmful words to my friend and how i should fix it. this video really help me reflect and see if I'm a good friend or not. I really like my friend and I don't try to harm her, I should just make sure, just in in case.
My friends also say rude things about others but no in an abusive way
Late,, but this used to be me. it *used* to be jokingly. we were always happy and drama wasnt too frequent, around april, there was a very large switch that kinda just changed, sometimes i think it was me when it really just was the leader that changed (negatively) and influenced all of his friends. i was included until i realized how flucked up the situation was. when i mentioned it, everything started to become real. they all targeted me, and i started to notice the red flags. the old friend group of mine started putting up offensive jokes, and insulting trauma. i left not long after they tried to blackmail me when trying to stand up for myself. This all spiraled last April 2023, and i anonymously left them in mid october. they wont see me for awhile because i was able to leave when i moved schools. (i blocked them online)
April was when the switch HAPPENED, but it got severe in may, and i left in october. just a timeline check!
Dang that sucks.. I do hope it gets better for you!@@arexicc
So, I really like this girl who i met after streaming on Twitch and we grew to like each other and eventually, love each other. However, she wasn't really sure until she met me in person. I encourage her to start up her own discord server and return to streaming so I could watch her every day and luckily, she did. That was when I discovered her best friend. Her best friend would constantly insult me, put me down and is an overwhelming to talk to all because I'm associated with her, like I'm stealing her away. I put on a mask to disguise the fact that none of what her best friend says is hurting me but, secretly, it does. Yesterday, enough was enough and I left her discord server and had a little cry to myself. Hoping to recover to focus more on myself and this relationship I've built up for a year now is on a verge all because of a really and obsessively attached individual.
I had a toxic friend before. Her name's Hazel and I remember her yelling threats that she would cut ties with me just because I was chatting with people I met online. She told me that what she did was out of "love and concern," then accused me of sending inappropriate photos to someone I met.
That sounds more like a scorned ex than a friend
@@slimeb0y_ something like that. She even ranted that people I met online are bad😒
@@peppermintcookie5531 jeez, insecure and jealous much? glad you're done with that trash
@@peppermintcookie5531 It's sensible to be a bit cautious of people you meet on the internet, but at the same time, almost everyone is on the internet and not all of them are dangerous lunatics. I can say this with confidence, as I am a dangerous lunatic.. err, I mean, a random internet person.^^;
And yeah, yelling threats is not a good way to convince someone of anything...
@@hazukichanx408 yeah. I'm being cautious with who I meet online. And my other friend Nikolai knew the red flag of Hazel. Ironically, Hazel is also manipulative and controlling just so she could fit us into her shitty narrative
Thanks for this… I have had so many fake friends… I needed this so much… I’ve even been doxxed and harassed… I even had to change my real name… so again thanks for this so much…
All of these happen with My youngest friend. She's really rude. Not only that she put all the blame on me for leaving the friend group. More importantly everyone always gets mad at ME even if I'm not the one who did something wrong. She just gets on my nerves. She's done pretty much all of these examples too me and she just seems like she hates me. Honestly I want to cut off so many friendships rn but don't know how bc either way they'll just complain and be in denial
It can be hard to set that boundary but once you do it really helps. Good luck
Sorry about this!
@@Psych2go it's fine now. We're going to different schools next year so I won't have to deal with her. Pretty psyched about that. She wasn't the worst person but honestly I got tired of her so-
I feel very sad, after watching this video I have realized that my friends do all of these things, I have had some amazing fun times with them but no matter what it feels like the next day, someone will do something mean, like bringing up past fights and laughing at someone’s insecurities when some one does this it makes anybody else want to do the same to them so it is an infinite cycle of toxic-ness. I have realized I might have been doing these things in response to my friends toxic behavior, this year one of my best friends is moving away, and I want to fix things in my friend group before then. Thank you for helping me realize this, your videos are super helpful❤❤, hopefully now me and my friends might be able to salvage our relationship 😮💨
This is what I feel in my friends for the past months and my academic behavior was badly affected. I’m being firm for days right now and I don’t want to wastw time anymore.
I can say I've lost all of my "friends" at this point. I'd rather be alone than having a bunch of fakes.
I had one friend left, supposedly my "bestie", but as soon as I got in a romantic relationship, she started to act overly critical about every decision I was taking, and instead of it being constructive it felt more like she wanted me to feel insecure and stupid when there was absolutely no need. Her words and ways to say things felt just... With all the intention of being hurtfull.
I decided to ignore all the times she did that, but the last straw... She was gonna get married, and wanted me to be one of her bridesmaids. I understand the situation with covid and such, and that she was stressed and that just a certain number of people were being invited, but she was trying to force me to go completely alone to her party, not even my boyfriend going with me or anyone else in general. Sadly, in my city (or country in general) it is reeeeeally dangerous to go out alone as a woman, especially at late hours at night as it can literally cost your life, so I told her I was afraid to go alone, I didn't want to risk myself like that. I thought my reason was obvious, but wanna know what she replied? That I should grow up and separate from my mom's side and a whole speech of 10 minutes about moving away from my home and many other things. What does that have to do with me fearing for my life???? This really surprised me
Spoiler, I didn't go to her party, sorry but I wanted to live, I'm pretty sure she only wanted me there to be just another ornament on her pictures, and would not care if I return home or never make it back. All this had me thinking about everything and made me open my eyes, so now I'm trying to fade away from her life.
thank you for telling me these signs! .... but... this means i have many fake friends...
I had a male friend during 7th grade and I’m pretty really upset that he show these signs towards me.I asked him why does he do this to me and he said that it was just a joke or he just wanna mess with me. There was also that time where he took a photo of me smiling and raised his hand,showing it to all students who was in the school shuttle.He was laughing a lot and some kids were whispering about it.I felt really embarrassed about it.
I finally had enough of him and decided not to talk to him anymore. We didn’t talk for months until now and I’m really glad that I wasn’t being bothered anymore.I finally had real friends who cared about me and whoever also went through this,I hope you are feeling alright now.❤️
At this point I can read them on social media, like when they scroll through my IG stories or when I make a poll they don’t even answer (same with my family followers) it just messes with our minds and make us question them. It’s the small things that matter the most but society will NEVER understand. Friends are not really your friends nowadays.
My friend used to always used to pick on me or just be mean to me and she used to say” Sorry ig?” But she was nice to everyone else and she used to say stuff about me.Once she threw away my stuff and I started crying in class.She made everyone feel bad when she was in a bad mood and I just hated that :(
I got one friend that isn’t that interested in my life anymore..
but if I don’t wanna be friends with him then I have no one 🥺😢