9 Habits That Are Destroying Your Confidence

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  • Опубліковано 21 лис 2024
  • Some people are born with an innate streak of confidence whilst others take time to develop confidence as they develop from children into adults. But there will be times when your confidence takes a knock, right? It is common to feel like you wish your confidence was better. Whilst other things that are out of control may impact your confidence such as other people, it is important to know which things you are in control of and how you can prevent yourself from destroying your own confidence.
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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  3 роки тому +1134

    Thanks for voting on this topic from community tab! If you enjoyed this video, check out 7 Signs You Lack Confidence ua-cam.com/video/8JiFrGa2f98/v-deo.html to find out if you are lacking self confidence. A lack of self confidence can be pretty tricky to tame, especially if you’re not paying attention to the ways it affects your everyday behavior.

    • @hyunjinsamericanhoe1078
      @hyunjinsamericanhoe1078 3 роки тому +20

      hi! i would just like to thank you so much for helping me with these type of videos!! never stop💖

    • @h.amster1314
      @h.amster1314 3 роки тому +5

      Hii!!

    • @thewea3042
      @thewea3042 3 роки тому +3

      This topic is so out of topic 😅

    • @Asgretalos
      @Asgretalos 3 роки тому +2

      Hello! 🤍

    • @X3na0nPaw2
      @X3na0nPaw2 3 роки тому +4

      H e l l o okay- you have been teaching me that I am gonna have a mental breakdown and- that I do in fact have depression:) but I’m a big fan :)

  • @Borzah
    @Borzah 3 роки тому +7028

    You will face many defeats in life, but never let yourself be defeated

    • @sleep1ngstar
      @sleep1ngstar 3 роки тому +61

      bro i see u everywhere

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 3 роки тому +26

      Never seen you before 🤭

    • @johnbrock4974
      @johnbrock4974 3 роки тому +75

      This guy is the embodiment of positiveness

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 3 роки тому +20

      @@johnbrock4974 if you say so

    • @vixveee
      @vixveee 3 роки тому +13

      I didn’t expect to ser you here

  • @mmarimarimari
    @mmarimarimari 3 роки тому +3498

    I literally just voted for this in the community tab...Psych2Go really said "your wish is my command"

    • @GiftedShield
      @GiftedShield 3 роки тому +54

      Same lol

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 роки тому +451

      LOL exactly. It magically released today - Cindy

    • @Jay-rm7kb
      @Jay-rm7kb 3 роки тому +15

      Psych2Go hello 💛👋

    • @cronicas_imemoriais
      @cronicas_imemoriais 3 роки тому +11

      They probably have like 20 videos ready to post

    • @jordanbrown6253
      @jordanbrown6253 3 роки тому +4

      Me too! Gotta love this channel

  • @kreamtaeng
    @kreamtaeng 3 роки тому +2162

    Negative thinking is sooo hard to overcome when you've been at it for almost your whole life. Also we set the bar low for ourselves so that we won't get dissapointed once we didn't meet our expectations

    • @wellbornthrower596
      @wellbornthrower596 2 роки тому +26

      God, rumination I tend to do this from time to time nowadays 😓😑😞

    • @sobiaperez4484
      @sobiaperez4484 2 роки тому +15

      I know no other way 😞
      I hate being this way

    • @antonyle2789
      @antonyle2789 2 роки тому +6

      @@sobiaperez4484 Well, if you keep viewing it like that, It won’t get better. Watch reason 2 in the video and you’ll see why. You become what you think.

    • @maitemoreno5543
      @maitemoreno5543 2 роки тому +13

      how do you get rid of it??? it's destroying me

    • @inaaaasal
      @inaaaasal 2 роки тому +12

      True, sometimes I find that setting the bar low helps me loosen up a little. I tend to break easily under pressure. Especially when you're a performer, it's a really tense feeling when you're chasing perfection all the time, and the nerves end up melting you. You have no idea how liberating it can be sometimes to hit the stage with an "I dont care" attitude. Haha it brings out the best in you.

  • @nahsomebody3665
    @nahsomebody3665 Рік тому +424

    0:48 1, Care too much abt what people think
    1:18 2, Negative thinking
    2:03 3, Social media living
    2:38 4 , Self-deprecating talks
    3:09 5, 'Blame game" is ur fav sport
    3:46 6, Set the bar low 4 urself
    4:14 7, Think that u dont have anything to contribute to a discussion
    4:54 8, Dismiss compliments
    5:24 9, Ruminating

  • @Sam-h3x9u
    @Sam-h3x9u Рік тому +292

    this video actually made me wanna cry, i used to be a confident person before but ever since the pandemic, my self esteem and confidence have taken a huge hit and i'm really struggling to gain it back

    • @I.dont.know135
      @I.dont.know135 Рік тому +5

      I feel you

    • @serene3175
      @serene3175 Рік тому +3

      stay strong 💕

    • @elisa-hn2jc
      @elisa-hn2jc Рік тому +27

      Same here, and it’s so hard for me now to communicate with people. Before the pandemic, I was so open and talkative and now it just feels like I’m kinda stuck and can’t get back to the person I once was

    • @daryldcollamar8419
      @daryldcollamar8419 Рік тому +8

      Same here I used to be confident person, when pandemic came I lost my confidence 😢

    • @dinamita2870
      @dinamita2870 Рік тому +2

      Same here

  • @rosyxoxo5145
    @rosyxoxo5145 3 роки тому +3515

    Habits that are destroying your confidence:
    1. You care too much about what other people think (0:46)
    2. Negative thinking (1:17)
    3. Social media living (2:02)
    4. Self-deprecating talk (2:37)
    5. The blame game is your favorite sport (3:09)
    6. You set the bar low for yourself (3:46)
    7. Thinking that you don't have anything to add (4:14)
    8. You dismiss compliments (4:53)
    9. Ruminating (5:25)
    I have all of them, especially 1, 2, 7 and 8 :(
    But I also was worse in many of them, and I'm happy I could make a progress :)

    • @niyati1218
      @niyati1218 3 роки тому +16

      Thank you buddy❤❤😊😊

    • @CompleX_Music
      @CompleX_Music 3 роки тому +54

      Yes, I have all of these too I’m am basically completely invisible in my friend group.
      Update even though no one cares: I have a new friend group and they’re much better (and they’re on my UA-cam channel lmao)

    • @hikk1pilled
      @hikk1pilled 3 роки тому +2

      Me too

    • @SaraJulia1
      @SaraJulia1 3 роки тому +5

      Hey buddy it's ok, you are amazing, brilliant and you deserve the best, YOU are the best ❤ I relate to all these signs too, less 2 but i hope i can get out off too :)

    • @garlicbreadp9738
      @garlicbreadp9738 3 роки тому +1

      @@CompleX_Music same lmao I don't even know If I have a friend group

  • @Qwerzxcv954
    @Qwerzxcv954 3 роки тому +660

    "Humility is not thinking less of yourself. But it's thinking of yourself less."
    I really needed a quote like this, since I confuse humility with self-deprecation...

    • @IshaSharma11
      @IshaSharma11 3 роки тому +8

      Well said

    • @gracegeronimo6727
      @gracegeronimo6727 2 роки тому +7

      I still don't actually get what the quote means. 😅 Can anybody elaborate on this even more? Whoever you'll be , thank you very much in advance. 😁🥰

    • @Qwerzxcv954
      @Qwerzxcv954 2 роки тому +12

      @@gracegeronimo6727 "Thinking less of yourself" means that you have impostor syndrome.
      "Thinking of yourself less" means that you don't see yourself as a superior being who has the right to despise others.

    • @gracegeronimo6727
      @gracegeronimo6727 2 роки тому +2

      @@Qwerzxcv954 Oh thank you 😊😊

    • @Qwerzxcv954
      @Qwerzxcv954 2 роки тому

      @@gracegeronimo6727 You're welcome ;)

  • @nayaland9115
    @nayaland9115 3 роки тому +3155

    "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but it's thinking of yourself less."
    To the 1% that are reading this
    have a nice day or night 💖💖

  • @kandabatata978
    @kandabatata978 2 роки тому +19

    I stuggle with ALL of these. But i really want to feel as awesome as I ACTUALLY am. so I'm gonna work hard towards building my confidence. Thanks, Psych2go

  • @ohiesi3666
    @ohiesi3666 2 роки тому +114

    its easy to be confident if you're not ugly, racially judged or having un-supportive people around you... since i go through this, i've decided to start to gain confidence slowly, not for anyone, but for me. so to anyone reading this, it doesnt matter if you're ugly or have bad people around you, just know to keep up ur confidence, and you will shine one day.

    • @dinamita2870
      @dinamita2870 Рік тому +1

      I'm sorry you have to go through this. By un-suportive you mean your "friends" or family? How are you doing now?

    • @tanyasehrawat890
      @tanyasehrawat890 Рік тому +9

      My mother have always demotivated me and have been a negative thinker . This thing effects me lot . seriously a lot . I am practising my ways of thinking positive and gaining the confidence back . She body shames me , never appreciates me. Haah it's so exhausting. All the very best to me and everyone out there. We all shine ⭐

  • @nicoleonfeels
    @nicoleonfeels 3 роки тому +4260

    If you’re reading this, you are so so worthy 💗

  • @allytrevino6
    @allytrevino6 3 роки тому +617

    the little cartoon voice saying “mhmm...” and “uh-oh” is honestly such a cute and sweet add on 😊

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 роки тому +77

      Aww thank you so much

    • @allytrevino6
      @allytrevino6 3 роки тому +15

      @@Psych2go ofc :>

    • @Cube_Box
      @Cube_Box 2 роки тому +6

      found the voice annoying tbh

    • @viktorkigyos3839
      @viktorkigyos3839 Рік тому +1

      If you thininkg what's other people say you don't see what's They really think... 🥴😕 'Cuz maybe It's even more positive than you think😊

  • @rainferno1
    @rainferno1 3 роки тому +794

    "why dont you tend to get involved in conversations at work or social events?"
    *BECAUSE THEY ALWAYS IGNORES ME-*

    • @katakana1268
      @katakana1268 3 роки тому +93

      Yeah people find me boring😑 😂😂

    • @clauartea1296
      @clauartea1296 3 роки тому +33

      Jajajaj hasta que me di cuenta que hablaba bajito y no me escuchaban cuando hablaba :(

    • @whizz_0711
      @whizz_0711 3 роки тому +83

      I think it’s cause you’re not speaking to them first or maybe you seem too awkward and the atmosphere would get awkward if you talk to them

    • @rainferno1
      @rainferno1 3 роки тому +33

      @@whizz_0711 well you're not wrong there :')

    • @JP-ve7or
      @JP-ve7or 3 роки тому +100

      Coworker: Why don't you ever talk?
      Me: (starts to say something)
      Coworker: (interrupts every time)

  • @Noname-1695
    @Noname-1695 2 роки тому +187

    To be honest, your videos are the answers for my silent inquisitions. I can't get the confidence since I ruminate the bad things in the past, that I'll not be able to change even if I struggle hard.
    And this video helps me to just realize what I should be doing. You guys are just blessings in disguise to me! 🙂

    • @dinamita2870
      @dinamita2870 Рік тому +3

      Yes, ruminating can be hard to stop sometimes but one thing that helps me is that we all fail sometimes and we have to accept that and learn from it and move on. Everyone has weaknesses

    • @EmbraceTheStruggle24
      @EmbraceTheStruggle24 Рік тому +1

      🙏🙏🙏❤

  • @necko7028
    @necko7028 2 роки тому +138

    Anxiety is a real thing. Ive been comparing myself to others too much recently and it's had a real tough impact on my mental health. If anything, I would advise people to start meditation because it's certainly helped me

    • @dinamita2870
      @dinamita2870 Рік тому +1

      Heeey same heree

    • @anacorn8824
      @anacorn8824 Рік тому +2

      I fully agree whenever I get to anxious about something I like to meditate and only be totally present while focusing on where I am and the sounds around me. It usually calms me down almost instantly. If anyone has never given it a try I highly recommend it

    • @EmbraceTheStruggle24
      @EmbraceTheStruggle24 Рік тому +1

      💯

  • @efranciscolau
    @efranciscolau 3 роки тому +162

    TL;DW
    1. You care too much about what other people think
    2. Negative thinking: creates self-fulfilling prophecy
    3. Social Media Living aka comparing yourself to others portrayed “realities”
    4. Self-deprecating thoughts:
    5. Blame Game: finding excuses for your situation instead of being proactive about it. Taking ownership
    6. Setting the bar low for yourself:
    7. Thinking you don’t have anything to say or contribute to the conversation
    8. Dismissing compliments
    9. Ruminating: focusing on poor decisions or the problem
    Edit: thank you for pointing out that I missed the last one! I hope everyone has a great day!

  • @ashleythehooman
    @ashleythehooman 3 роки тому +370

    ✨ Summary ✨
    0:46 You care too much for what other people think
    1:16 Negative thinking
    2:02 Social Media living
    2:38 Self deprecating talk
    3:09 'Blame Game' is your favourite sport
    4:13 Thinking you don't have anything to say
    4:52 You dismiss compliments
    5:25 Ruminating
    Hope this helps💙
    Everyone hope you have a good day/night💖

  • @harrietcraig7817
    @harrietcraig7817 3 роки тому +385

    I’ve always had confidence but I’ve also felt extremely tired my entire life. Confidence doesn’t get you anywhere if you don’t have the energy to act on anything.

  • @foker9980
    @foker9980 2 роки тому +93

    I’ve struggled with low self esteem for so long, but since I made the choice that I had to change that. My perspective about myself had been better. I love who I have become, and watching this video made me realize how much I changed. That’s a victory for me

    • @EmbraceTheStruggle24
      @EmbraceTheStruggle24 Рік тому

      It's exactly what I've been trying to work on very recently but it's been a challenge for me... not gonna lie.

    • @theblackknightist
      @theblackknightist 6 місяців тому

      Good job self confidence isn't easy but never stop working on it 💪 you might regress but don't stop.

    • @simonsays7687
      @simonsays7687 6 місяців тому

      Did the advice from video help or anything else?

  • @Arti57876
    @Arti57876 8 місяців тому +3

    I also have lack of confidence . But one week ago in school teacher gave speacking activity to all first tern is mine i feared so much . But i gave well . Teacher said you speak well and next time be loud . When this activity over my friends apperciate me because mostly student forgot their lines but i didnt . I was very happy . It boost my confirnce . My voice is still low . So i came to this video

  • @jennyneon
    @jennyneon 3 роки тому +923

    1 habit that is very addictive is staying on the phone because you can't let go.

  • @cocoqueen5910
    @cocoqueen5910 3 роки тому +62

    I been struggling with depression and anxiety and I lost a really close love one and now I am like struggling even more so I told my mom I need help so now I getting help

    • @rohan5431
      @rohan5431 3 роки тому +8

      Best of luck Always remember you are much stronger than your problems and God bless you

    • @nakshatramusic21
      @nakshatramusic21 3 роки тому +3

      Best of luck bro 💪

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 роки тому +28

      Beauty. Thank you for speaking up for yourself and asking help when you need it! I hope everything will go well for you. It will require a lot of time and effort. We believe you can do it! - Cindy

    • @cocoqueen5910
      @cocoqueen5910 3 роки тому +1

      @@rohan5431 thank you so much

    • @cocoqueen5910
      @cocoqueen5910 3 роки тому

      @@nakshatramusic21 thank u

  • @GustavoSilva-ny8jc
    @GustavoSilva-ny8jc 3 місяці тому +3

    1:26 AAAAWNN THE 2ND VOICE IS SO CUUUUUTE!!!!!!

  • @_whoknowswho_3705
    @_whoknowswho_3705 2 роки тому +5

    Videos of this channel do help me overcome my bad moods, negative thoughts and lack of energy to take control over my mind. I often struggle with lack of confidence, overthinking and anxiety, so when I hear this comforting voice which says me that everything is changeable and can be improved it really warms me up. Thank you a lot💛 You saved me💫💕

  • @ninaa9061
    @ninaa9061 3 роки тому +75

    Natalia’s voice is so soft 🥰

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 роки тому +37

      Amanda? xD

    • @Name-nx6ef
      @Name-nx6ef 3 роки тому +7

      It's amanda's voice. Lmao😆

    • @emilym7069
      @emilym7069 3 роки тому +1

      her name is Amanda

  • @thechuckleshow2470
    @thechuckleshow2470 3 роки тому +206

    That cartoon and his voice which was coming again and again has better confidence than me lol

  • @ethancainabel5453
    @ethancainabel5453 3 роки тому +570

    You can’t lose what you never had...

  • @alaina520
    @alaina520 2 роки тому +13

    Thank you for this video, I have a volleyball tournament this Saturday and normally I play on my school’s B team but for the tournament I will be playing on A team. I wasn’t feeling very confident in my skills but this video helped me confront my negative thinking and self-doubt. Thank you, and to whoever is reading this, ily ❤

  • @halahal-hussien4781
    @halahal-hussien4781 Рік тому +1

    Unfortunately I do them all.. and all the time. and my confidence is zero . Thank u for lighting up my mind and path. YOU ARE MY FAVORITE CHANNEL!

  • @leah8894
    @leah8894 3 роки тому +279

    For me, my low confidence is kind of a coping mechanism. By setting the bar low for myself, I don’t disappoint myself too much.

    • @oo8962
      @oo8962 2 роки тому +29

      Me too. Whenever something isn't going my way I'm like "What did I expect? Of course it would turned out like this"

    • @sami_lynn
      @sami_lynn Рік тому +8

      Same although I can’t imagine this is very healthy either 😅

    • @leehuff2330
      @leehuff2330 Рік тому +5

      And the few times I DO manage to do something right, that's a pleasant surprise.

    • @EmbraceTheStruggle24
      @EmbraceTheStruggle24 Рік тому +1

      I know what this feels like... 😶🙄🙃

    • @CyberpunkEdgerunner513
      @CyberpunkEdgerunner513 Рік тому +2

      Good always set your goals low and bar low because that’s who you are a low self pitying self you have it correct low set your goals and bar low so you’ll akways be low

  • @qis.h5217
    @qis.h5217 3 роки тому +168

    Psychtogo, you've been comforting me when I feel down and helped me alot in life. Thank you so much !!! ♥️♥️♥️

    • @nakshatramusic21
      @nakshatramusic21 3 роки тому +10

      Me too! Psych2Go has always helped everyone.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 роки тому +23

      You're very welcome! - Cindy

    • @deadlockshadow8998
      @deadlockshadow8998 3 роки тому +4

      Luv the Tamaki pfp🙂

    • @ranroon273
      @ranroon273 2 роки тому

      So true.. My life is so better now after psych2go ❤

    • @ur_cute_lil_vampire
      @ur_cute_lil_vampire 2 роки тому

      none of my friends ever cared about me as much as i feel psychgo does...

  • @6xmaaaa
    @6xmaaaa 3 роки тому +190

    I used to be so loud and confident in school but lockdown caused me social anxiety this sucks.

    • @apollo6519
      @apollo6519 3 роки тому +23

      I know how you feel same 😥

    • @IshaSharma11
      @IshaSharma11 3 роки тому +15

      Same

    • @6xmaaaa
      @6xmaaaa 3 роки тому +10

      I over came my anxiety omg I don’t have it anymore.😛

    • @apollo6519
      @apollo6519 3 роки тому +6

      @@6xmaaaa love that for you i still have it but it got better too

    • @6xmaaaa
      @6xmaaaa 3 роки тому +5

      @@apollo6519 hope ur doing ok at the moment.

  • @nsp74
    @nsp74 2 місяці тому +1

    you are a blessing to so many people around the world

  • @samuricexful
    @samuricexful 3 роки тому +3

    I used to suffer all these things. I’ve eliminated a few from my life, still working on some, and a few still control me. I won’t stop until I’ve conquered them all!

  • @Piesix6
    @Piesix6 3 роки тому +29

    I came for my daily therapy because I’ve been feeling down alot lately, thank you :)

    • @Piesix6
      @Piesix6 3 роки тому

      Just finished watching the video and I can relate to quite a few points sadly 😅 I’m gonna try and take it on board but I have bad memory and have school so .,.

    • @angelfi
      @angelfi 3 роки тому

      @@Piesix6 So write down the most important stuff. ;) :)

  • @forgottendoors2442
    @forgottendoors2442 3 роки тому +22

    Hi everyone I'm Diana.
    I started writing about myself in comments and alot of people replied with similar stories and great advice🧡
    Now I'm out of my abusive relationship.. I'm finally free. I don't feel attached and I'm not scared anymore. I'm slowly gaining back my confidence and fixing my health. I'm grateful for all the support I got even though it was through strangers. #feelingblessed😇

    • @wholesomezack
      @wholesomezack 2 роки тому +1

      Can we talk pls ? I need some help

    • @cookiecrumble7801
      @cookiecrumble7801 2 роки тому +1

      @@wholesomezack I’m not her but of course I’d love to help what’s up?
      Ik this comment is really late but if you have anything to say I’m here this is a safe space ❤️

    • @wholesomezack
      @wholesomezack 2 роки тому +1

      @@cookiecrumble7801 I'm kinda doin better but i would like to give me ur ig or smthn

  • @Aishwariyajena
    @Aishwariyajena 3 роки тому +144

    Everything said in this video is what I exactly do. No matter how hard I try to be positive I end up being stressed even more! 😣

    • @jemma9851
      @jemma9851 Рік тому +5

      SAMEEE, Now im such an introvert...

    • @Naturepaintings
      @Naturepaintings Рік тому +4

      It's been 2 years, I hope you are now, stay positive and happy in your life dear❤❤

    • @naitewaite3713
      @naitewaite3713 Рік тому +2

      @@Naturepaintings that’s such nice thing to say ik it wasn’t directed at me but I hope for same to you🌸💫

    • @JinuJv-yn9kz
      @JinuJv-yn9kz Рік тому +3

      But this is the admiring thing that you even tried to improve yourself😇

  • @EmanNagi
    @EmanNagi 3 роки тому +16

    The most important thing I got out of this video is that the phase I'm going through doesn't necessarily mean that I'm weak because even strong people can face a challenge when having these type of thoughts.

  • @studyholic758
    @studyholic758 2 роки тому +2

    This video really helped me in realizing how social media was destroying my confident.

  • @13._.1
    @13._.1 3 роки тому +23

    My depression and anxiety: Write that down, WRITE THAT DOWN
    *WRITE IT DOWN*

  • @archanadash2605
    @archanadash2605 3 роки тому +7

    The voice is so cute. Instantly felt , ' Aww. don't worry, you are great'

  • @easybakeoven15
    @easybakeoven15 3 роки тому +190

    i’ve always been told that i seem super confident, and this always surprises me because i always thought i came off as very insecure and unconfident (which is how i feel). so think about this: sometimes, even if you think that you’re not confident and no one looks up to you, remember that someone, or many people, probably think you come off as a confident person. even if this isn’t the case, you’re still perfect just like you are ❤️

  • @Iamdoublegun
    @Iamdoublegun 2 роки тому +5

    I relate to the 9 habits, i feel it..my self confidence has dropped drastically and now i see why

  • @weeba9601
    @weeba9601 2 роки тому +5

    I literally relate to all of these points, not lying. This just shows me how and why my confidence is so low at this point. I'll try to better myself for sure.

  • @kimtombing5000
    @kimtombing5000 3 роки тому +48

    omg the cute things with plants have a voice now!!! CuT3!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @Sweet_Pxtatx
    @Sweet_Pxtatx 3 роки тому +4

    It's so satisfying to know that everyone else is going through the same stuff , when everyone around is pretending to be ok.

  • @cartoonfangirl_1136
    @cartoonfangirl_1136 3 роки тому +48

    This made me confident thank you so much for this

  • @coffeemug42
    @coffeemug42 Рік тому +9

    i feel especially called out, this vid described me so perfectly. and honestly letting go of these traits is so hard I've been trying but it's really challenging. I hope i can overcome these challenges though, to become a better version of me

  • @qusaipen102
    @qusaipen102 7 місяців тому

    I just now realised that receiving compliments do make me feel uncomfortable/embarrassed and how common that is. This takes my understanding of my social anxiety to the next level! Thanx a lot😊😊

  • @PikRabbit
    @PikRabbit 3 роки тому +59

    i personally find it helped a lot when I told myself that I was decent instead of not good enough
    I slowly had a more neutral mindset and then when I focused on positive aspects, being optimistic was easier and it felt natural instead of going from 0 to 100 lol

  • @graceebow
    @graceebow 3 роки тому +47

    tell the person who drew this there talent is amazing! also its a lil confidence boost for them
    edit: OMG this is my most likes i have ever got!!

  • @offrails
    @offrails 3 роки тому +6

    I don't tend to blame other as much as I tend to blame myself - I think I have 20/20 hindsight. Also, I tend to be quiet in conversations because 1 - I don't have much to say, 2 - nobody is listening, and 3 - whenever I try to get a few words out, someone cuts me off.
    Accepting compliments is something I never learned to do, though criticism usually leaves me devastated.

  • @lifeisbeautifulfr
    @lifeisbeautifulfr Рік тому +2

    This video described me so well
    These days, i really lose my confidence sooo much... i think too much about what others might say or think about me.. which actually things i couldn't control T^T
    I hope i could shine again with my own unique personality..
    To those who is struggling like me, fighting, you're not alone & you're worthy.. ♡

  • @imarandomgirl.
    @imarandomgirl. 2 роки тому +1

    Im so happy, i got my first compliment by a stranger, he said that i had nice hair! Im bubbling just thinking about it! YAY!

  • @heehoo47
    @heehoo47 3 роки тому +439

    *Starts to struggle in something*
    Psych2Go: _That's our cue._

  • @crysta1z953
    @crysta1z953 3 роки тому +67

    Read this if you have ever felt alone, depressed, suicidal, lost, scared, worthless, abandoned, or anything of that nature, this is for you
    You Are Beautiful.
    You Are Wanted.
    You Are Wonderful.
    Don't quit on yourself. Don't hurt yourself. You are worth the world and nobody wants to see you suffering. This is not the end. The way you feel right now will pass. Peoples minds will change. Things WILL get better.
    We love you and are always here for you. Do NOT do something permanent over something temporary.
    You're better than that.
    All stars need to see darkness before the light.
    And always remember, Don't change so people will like you. Be yourself & the right people will find and love the real you.
    Your
    own
    unique
    Mindset
    always
    trys
    to
    engage in the
    right ways
    Now read the first letter of every word
    You Matter! no matter what other people may say. Always know this is true. It helps. You are worth my time to write this. I do care.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 роки тому +9

      What a beautiful message! Thanks for sharing! - Cindy

    • @crysta1z953
      @crysta1z953 3 роки тому

      @@Psych2go omg thank you very much!!! trying to make people happy :D

    • @jrush5080
      @jrush5080 3 роки тому

      @@0toNaN ❤️

  • @Asgretalos
    @Asgretalos 3 роки тому +15

    My Confidence has been broken and just given up trying
    But thx to my subscribers in my video, They rebuilt it!
    I guess I gotta try again

  • @lovebirdwillingten
    @lovebirdwillingten Рік тому +1

    the comment section is so wholesome, I'm gonna cry 🥹🤧

  • @michaelhans777
    @michaelhans777 3 дні тому

    This video is just came in my recommendation just in SUCH PERFECT moment where my self-esteem is at my lowest point. Thank you so much for sharing this video! I've never realized I did all of them that ruined my confidence.

  • @henrywenn
    @henrywenn 3 роки тому +35

    1. 0:48 You care too much what other people think
    2. 1:17 Negative thinking
    3. 2:03 Social media living
    4. 2:37 Self-deprecating talk
    5. 3:08 “Blame game” is your favorite sport
    6. 3:44 You set the bar low for yourself
    7. 4:13 Thinking you don’t have anything to say or contribute to a conversation
    8. 4:51 You dismiss compliments
    9. 5:24 Ruminating
    This took a while... but I hope it was worth it😊

  • @bloodblade6775
    @bloodblade6775 3 роки тому +11

    1) 0:43 You care too much about what other people think
    2) 1:18 Negative thinking
    3) 2:04 Social media living
    4) 2:40 Self deprecating talk
    5) 3: 10 Blame game is you fav sport
    6) 3:46 You set the bar low for yourself
    7) 4:15 Thinking that you don't have anything to say or to contribute to a discussion
    8) 4:53 You dismiss complements
    9) 5:26 Ruminating

  • @sophiea831
    @sophiea831 3 роки тому +48

    If you forget about what other people think you’ll find so much freedom in life:)

  • @murfiqahaqilah2213
    @murfiqahaqilah2213 2 роки тому +1

    Out of the points that you have mentioned... I have done at least 8 of them😭 that's why I'm indecisive

  • @Munci_StudiosOFFICIAL
    @Munci_StudiosOFFICIAL Рік тому +2

    I 've always had negative-thinking but every time I said to myself '' I can't do this'' ''what if I fail I'm not good enough for this'' I'II always try to make myself happy with watching cat videos and that helps so much

  • @ikasugami
    @ikasugami 3 роки тому +5

    I have found that recognizing the things you are not good at and being OK with that makes a huge difference. Because that does 2 things: accepting yourself for what you are not good at (rather than beating yourself up for not being good at everything), and recognizing the things you ARE good at and feeling better about being good at those things.

  • @lovefancy
    @lovefancy 3 роки тому +5

    “Humility is not thinking less about yourself, but thinking about yourself less.”
    I’ll take it..

  • @rexeno
    @rexeno 3 роки тому +4

    Also, the not involving myself in conversations cuz I'm afraid of being judged is from experience, not what I tell myself. Every single time I try to involve myself in a conversation, I always get made fun of or ignored.

  • @the80sfanatic13
    @the80sfanatic13 2 роки тому +1

    I have all of those except for number 3. I don't do social media. I'm a very private person. I only go on UA-cam. To listen to music and watching these videos. It's better than being around toxic people.

  • @SharpBalisong
    @SharpBalisong 2 роки тому

    I finally know the name of the VO artist. She has such a sweet, comforting, and encouraging voice. I hope she takes this compliment graciously.

  • @wham1984
    @wham1984 3 роки тому +4

    I’ve been needing this! 🙏thank you

  • @aartikannaujiya5115
    @aartikannaujiya5115 Рік тому +7

    Honestly, each and every point mentioned in the video is relatable. From now on I'll work on myself to build confidence. Thank you for making wonderful videos on such topics

  • @saradm991
    @saradm991 2 роки тому +3

    I can relate to number 8. Sometimes I just feel like I don't deserve it and that they just say it to make me feel better. My biggest fear is getting something I don't deserve.

    • @engineeraccidentally110
      @engineeraccidentally110 2 роки тому

      Don't show these signs to look confident
      ua-cam.com/video/8-bOrxZfqYY/v-deo.html

  • @kakyoinmoment9778
    @kakyoinmoment9778 Рік тому +1

    I was having a terrible day and I was told by my family to work more on my self confidence and try to find videos on UA-cam. This is what came up and it spoke to me perfectly. I do almost all of these things and I chalked it up to just basic anxiety. Thank you for this video it was very helpful

  • @saas4987
    @saas4987 2 роки тому +1

    number 6 hit me hard. i am a perfectionist so i used to get really good grades at school but it was really tiring and stressful for me to the point i started to watch videos to get rid of perfectionism. then i get this idea that i shouldn’t be hard on myself, so i set my goals low and even non existent sometimes. “If you expect disappointment you’ll never get disappointed” philosophy. But then my success started to drop down and now i feel useless and stupid sometimes.
    I don’t know how to get rid of perfectionism and at the same time setting high goals and having strong confidence..

  • @CaptainManaFruit
    @CaptainManaFruit 3 роки тому +13

    This might not be seen, but I would love to see a video on the topic of confidence and ADHD. Not beingconfidence when you are neurodivergent (and have spent your childhood undiagnosed) can feel different than this list. For example, people with ADHD tend to talk a lot about what they like, and can't read social cues until someone tells them to stop, which often leads to rejection sensitivity. Also, when you are overthinking what you did or didn't do with ADHD, it can come with hyperfixating on it and when you know you are, you can't stop because this is what the brain is focused on.

  • @forgeddragon4617
    @forgeddragon4617 3 роки тому +20

    I absolutely love how informative and calming these videos are. I'm not usually interested in learning stuff mostly, but these are interesting topics that I enjoy learning about. I also really like the animations.

  • @quinnblacklivesmatter
    @quinnblacklivesmatter 3 роки тому +34

    Wow I do all these things... dang. Its hard to change, especially when a lot of this is due to trauma. Keep trying, everyone. Keep the hope in your heart, and keep trying. Your life and experiences matter. You matter.
    Thank you for all you do, and all you will do. I'm so proud of you, we got this.

  • @magdoh
    @magdoh 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you for talking about the subject and leaving little open solution to every part of the video. I relate a lot with the content of this video and it gives me courage to work on myself. So thank you for that 🌻

  • @nayomigunasekara2405
    @nayomigunasekara2405 7 місяців тому +2

    1. Care too much about wt other people think
    2. Negative thoughts
    3. Social media living
    4. Self deprecating talk
    5. "Blame game" is your favorite thing
    6. You set the bar low for urself
    7. Thinking you have nothing meaningful to add to a discussion
    8. You dismiss complements
    9. Ruminating (Focussing on the problems/issues, rather than solutions)

  • @bobbybarnes6888
    @bobbybarnes6888 2 роки тому +1

    On number 9 about ruminating, I had a tough story where aI had a panic attack cause my dad told me that my opportunity on communicating with random female peers is right there! I dressed pretty well during my back-to school shopping, but it sucks that I missed the opportunity and replayed the negative things and saying "I've should've done this, she's not worth my time", "I'm a loser! Wahhh!" etc. It only took me anout a few minutes to understand that it's not a big deal and I should be proud of my missed opportunity because it's never too late to miss your opportunity! And this video helped me a lot on understanding that that the most confident people we know today xan be put down easily. And now I understand that I'm a human being and I'm still growing up and I got a long life ahead of me! So please ya'll if u feel the same way, don't end up to a trap that I set up.

  • @magnaajeyam9994
    @magnaajeyam9994 3 роки тому +30

    Can we just talk abt tat cartoon who's talking in between.....is toooo cute😭....I cant-....gsjabskajak

  • @earthquaxe
    @earthquaxe 3 роки тому +11

    well the habits are still so difficult to stop

    • @kimberlybogert7031
      @kimberlybogert7031 3 роки тому +3

      Yeah..they are😓

    • @yankeedoodle7509
      @yankeedoodle7509 3 роки тому +1

      Look at the bright side. You went to this video because you recognized something is up with your confidence. Sometimes the realization is what gets you up the first step. It might be hard, but if you work at each one and improve you might be pleasantly surprised.

  • @footylad6468
    @footylad6468 3 роки тому +36

    I used to be so confident but through lockdown i developed social anxiety

    • @salty547
      @salty547 3 роки тому +8

      Me too, can’t even speak to my good friends normally anymore

  • @DarkRose0523
    @DarkRose0523 3 місяці тому

    As an artist, lack of confidence has lead to many art blocks, and I’ve been trying to get out of that mindset ❤

  • @mckenzieeliza
    @mckenzieeliza 2 роки тому +1

    I struggle with confidence. I used to love being creative, but I've been finding it harder and harder to create to the point that I'm now not even creating anything good, just like the self-fulfilling prophecies you mentioned in this video. I'm so worried about perfectionism that I actually can't do things anymore. I really want to change this. I hope I can.

  • @isaniity
    @isaniity 3 роки тому +21

    As an introvert with social anxiety this is all so hard 😭

  • @alyatalitha3717
    @alyatalitha3717 3 роки тому +6

    I am guilty of ruminating. Did it a whole lot more than i can count. It's even worse when i'm going to bed to the point where i can't sleep without my phone as a distraction or else i'll cry my eyes out to sleep. It's exhausting.

    • @sagenosnibor9173
      @sagenosnibor9173 3 роки тому +1

      Sending you a virtual hug ❤. So sorry you're going thru.

    • @AleXia-wv5iw
      @AleXia-wv5iw 2 роки тому

      RUminating the whole shit was the most waste of time i have extreme shyness at school and i have introvert personality at college i hate it i want to end mylife either

  • @akshayaelango663
    @akshayaelango663 3 роки тому +27

    As if the presenter's voice is not sweet enough, that cartoon character's voice is...

  • @RS-xo7rd
    @RS-xo7rd 8 місяців тому

    Blimey, this video sums up 90% of my life. I have put myself down for many years and find it hard to stop. I'm poor at social conversation and lack confidence in party-type situations; I always feel I have nothing to say. Unsurprisingly, I'm single and likely to remain so.

  • @MrArcadia2009
    @MrArcadia2009 8 місяців тому

    I came to watch this, as I didn't have a lot of confidence in myself, but it reminded me of a video that I'm gonna watch, and I know it will help. A lot of this, is me to a T. I'm not happy with myself. And I'm trying my best to work on it. If anyone reads this, and you're not confident in your abilities. Read this, and take it to your heart, if u want to. Give yourself some credit for once. Believe me, I have trouble with this, too. I was playing a game earlier, and a person who helps you out on your journey asks "Are you certain I'm the man for the job, sir?" And I always think, "Yes, you're uniquely qualified," and so are you! Positivity IS THE KEY to the lock that is called Mental illness. REMEMBER THAT, above all else! Being in a positive mindset really helps out, sometimes.

  • @charalisseensomo5226
    @charalisseensomo5226 3 роки тому +5

    Never really have confidence myself. When ever I look in a mirror I say to myself " wow I'm beautiful" but then " oh wait no I'm not I'm so ugly". So my confidence are very very low

    • @sonyamonroe9216
      @sonyamonroe9216 3 роки тому +1

      I've never looked in the mirror and felt beautiful

  • @wut6307
    @wut6307 2 роки тому +3

    I don’t think of Fail As F.A.I.L I think of it as…First Attempt In Learning😎🦋

  • @Evanxbdlt
    @Evanxbdlt 3 роки тому +146

    When you realize there's no time travellers: *visible confusion*

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 роки тому +43

      haha right?

    • @virginiagamez6299
      @virginiagamez6299 3 роки тому +1

      @@Psych2go How do you do that?

    • @lucaspeng5063
      @lucaspeng5063 3 роки тому +3

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    • @lucaspeng5063
      @lucaspeng5063 3 роки тому +2

      @@virginiagamez6299 join their youtube subscription thing and u get access to it

    • @lucaspeng5063
      @lucaspeng5063 3 роки тому

      @SpaceCadet StarWoman no problem

  • @michaelnelson2857
    @michaelnelson2857 3 роки тому +1

    Your voice makes this a whole lot easier I genuinely appreciate you 💛

  • @stvrlight_xP
    @stvrlight_xP 7 місяців тому

    I remember in grade 5 i was so confident and i had a high self esteem and i never cared what others thought of me. Now in 6th grade i moved to a new country with a new language and i don't understand anything in school, I have completely lost my self confidence and i am scared of getting judged all the time. I am ALWAYS stressed and anxious, but now im trying really hard to regain my confidence

  • @yavikaritu33
    @yavikaritu33 3 роки тому +6

    This was really helpful❤️ I would appreciate it if you guys could make a video on how we can be more respectful to ourselves in front of people, through our words. Thanks for all you do☺️

  • @juls7582
    @juls7582 3 роки тому +4

    I needed to hear this. I have more than a few bad habits I need to break. Thank you ♥️

  • @megandimaggio726
    @megandimaggio726 Рік тому +3

    This is a tip that took lots of practice. Breathe in, and pretend that and is taking in all the negative vibes, negative thoughts, and anxiety. Breath out and focus on your breathe. Do it one more time to clear out all the other stuff, and remind yourself that
    1. You are a human being
    2. You deserve so much
    3. You are worthy of so many things
    4. We all have our good days and bad days
    5. Feeling are always temporary, but they will always come back
    6. I can't do EVERYTHING, but I can do so much
    ❤hope this helps❤

  • @hiddenname9809
    @hiddenname9809 2 роки тому

    I think this is easier said than done. There's more underlying stuff going on in a person with low self-confidence. It doesn't help that we live in a society where the goodlooking, the rich, the talented, the ones with connections are most valued and prized, which contributes to the problem. You can virtue-signal all you want, but that's the real truth.