Doesn’t want a relationship but still wants to be friends? You’re not the only one, get rid. He wants you to chase him because modern men are losers that need women to chase and validate. Get rid.
With public freedom of speech comes public responses so I'm not saying this to be disrespectful in any way. Chances are the guy you want is the same guy hundreds of other women want. You would never give the guy who wants a relationship a chance. So since you all want guys from a small percentage of men those guys have all of you going crazy chasing them. Remember, most men won't give a crap about relationships or marriage if they can get many women. The guys who don't have those options want a "girlfriend" or "wife." And these guys don't need validation. Stop thinking men are wired like women.
@@mosesruperto7128 also that the small percent that we want and don't care about men like yourself 5hank you,move along and keep being toxic for those who care.
Not exactly you Can be Friends and laugh enjoy as Real Friends and find a lover why i have to git red of him if u are self confident u dont Care that anybody chase u
Got another one like that...just wants the milk for free...I told him I like him but I am looking for a husband and commitment and I already have enough friends...plus I don't want a bunch of male friends to make my future husband insecure...I don't have time to settle for anything less than what I want in life. Thank you. The time and energy I would be wasting on entertaining such a "friend" could be the time I could be investing into finding someone who is ready for a commitment. Gotta keep stepping over these jokers who just want to play around.
I have a similar situation. Currently, without hesitation, I told him if he wants to be with me he must initiate the date, pick me up, and if we decide on sex, I walk away with $$$ and prizes In my pocket or it ain't happening!!! Kitty Kat ain't free if you don't want to give me what I want. I feel I have ALL THE POWER NOW ...
After months of dating, he said that he doesn't want a relationship because he just sees me as a friend. And he has so much to do at work and just isn't mature enough for a relationship. (He is 30) I told him that i have feelings and that's why I don't want to meet anymore. I don't why but he almost cried when I told him that. I didn't want to see him cry that's why I said to him: " I want to make this easy for you." So I kissed him as a goodye and said; " Thanks for everything. I had a really good time. I will miss you. Bye." After this, I went home and just left him there.
A guy wanted to friend zone me, but I told him I wanted us to stop meeting or talking completely. After a week we went back stronger than ever, however, this time I gave him a taste of his own medicine and dumped him after 2 dates after we went back.... A lesson that girls are not toys
Hello ladies out there. I will tell you my story and i hope it will empower you all. It was not easy but i did it and now feel super precious. I was seeing a guy and we even slept several times. He asked me date him 7-8 times but i was not sure. Then weeks later i said ok im ready boy, lets be exclusive. Then he started making excuses and asked me to be friends for now. Then i said no. This is so childish, you dont know what you want and i dont like this gray zone. I stopped talking to him. He did not write since then either. But it shows that he was obviously not really into me while i was wasting my time and energy with him. Deleted his number and moved on. I feel great!! Do the same ladies, they should beg for you!!
I'm tired of difficult relationships.. sometimes peace is just letting things be what they are, be yourself and give the love that you feel .. we think challenging the other one but we're only challenging our feelings..
My mindset is that I'm a Ferrari and if a man isn't able to maintain me like a Ferrari then they aren't up to my standards. I have learned that all men want a Ferrari but want to take car of it like a 1967 Honda Civic. We all know if you start putting the cheap gas in a Ferrari then the car will break down and soon wont run at all. Ladies always think of yourself as a Ferrari and never settle to be treated as less.
I continued with him after he said he could not commit because he was healing. He's been giving attitude when I've been getting at 11. Time to stop. He's not meeting my emotional needs. He's taking me for granted.
*Communication and understanding play a key role in any relationship, even in friendships. Let's create a space where both parties feel comfortable and respected.*
Absolutely! I love what I’m becoming. I’ve done so much work on myself this last year to get here. A high value feminine woman with a badass attitude… Thank you Alex for your motivation… exactly the reminders I need on a daily basis to remind me that I am a goddess on a pedestal.💗🥂
I see. This is true. He told me that he is not ready to commit but still wants to see me. Some days later he said he knows that I want to get married to him. I didn't even say that, but I guess this was what he understood from me because I loved him so much. I felt stupid when he said that, like an orphan child who is waiting for a parent to choose him. I always tried to show him that I am independent but he obviously understood that it was just a Fassade. Finally I met someone else who is the opposite, he wants a commitment. But I am definitely a challenge to him because I am not that attracted to him as I was to my ex. So I distanced myself from both of them them. 😆 And I am happy that now I am dating a guy who is attractive AND caring, and I listen to your advices to not screw it up again
Guys nowadays mostly just want open relationships… This has caused social disruption. Clearly they are immature, soulless and no integrity. I have pity towards this generation. The more you have sex with other people for the pleasure of it, there will be no joy and inner peace in your life. As we devalued ourself and confusing our memories, body and soul.
@Darl H I agree 100% And they do not get any better when they get older. My fiance is 53..he gave me a ring this past Christmas, and broke up with me April 1. I was afraid of moving in together and because I did not think we were ready . We had to resolve alot of issues. It's been 3 months but I have been doing all of the no no things the ex back experts said you should not do pleading , texting and going to his place...I decided to go to no contact 4 days ago. Hope it works🤷🏽♀️
Yup my ex kissed me , told me he would see me the next day and left that night to be paid for side boy in an unattractive open marriage, drink etc no commitment needed there. He even rejected an open relationship with me wth. I'm over it doing NC day 4 thanks to these vids....he can go have his fun I am going to focus on my goals and "glow up" lol while he remains the same and acts like he did in his 20s.
Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
Not all cases are the same at all. I’ve dated with the end motivation to have a relationship but the guy I’m dating hasn’t qualified in my mind as the one I want a relationship with yet. Before I had made my mind up about him he decides to tell me he doesn’t want a relationship which it fine as I was never 100% sure about him anyway and he has just confirmed what I already half knew. 3 weeks later he wants to meet for coffee. I have zero interest in being his girl now but have zero problems meeting him for coffee. It will be a pleasure show up looking great with happy vibration and wish him well. He lost out here, not me and the regret on his face will be rewarding. I don’t give second chances ñ, life is too short and we are too old for this game.
Watching your video at this time, I regret that I did not discover you a year ago. I feel frustrated because I lost my partner being too confident that he will accept and understand my deep feelings that unfortunately made me look "needy" in his eyes. But first we make mistakes and then we realize and learn. It's very true. The man must really feel that he wants to be with us .... Otherwise we will always lose points in front of him. Thank you Alex for the objective advice and for waking us all to reality!💯👍
We’re not even sleeping together! He doesn’t get any bf privileges and he still wants to just stay friends! Like what do you WANT from me!? Leave me alone then!
My ex wanted to be just friends. I refused. I don't call, text nothing. This is what he does to all his ex's....yeah not me. They become FWB and he "thought" I was like those other desperate women. I'll be a friend from a far. Bye 🙋♀️
Yessssss typical narcissist behavior!! I told him the same thing! I won't be another women in the harem garage! Lol I'm not a pick Miesha you can't treat me right, you won't have me any type of way!
Today I will become a challenge and I will never make this guy feel confident to tell me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship. It's not his choice it's my choice.... Thank you Alex for all the love, support and advice.
Me too sis. And it hurts so bad to see someone you truly like treats you like piece of garbage 🥺. He takes many hours or days to respond to my message. He reach out to me the next day like nothing happened. He is really so proud I am chasing after him but yes no more after seeing I am not the only one in this condition. I will write him tonight and then block him forever.
Thank you so much. I have done a lot of self development of self and dating ...I was very accommodating in my past relationships, accepting disrespect, on and off wishy wishy guy. But now I know better. He is just there to feel controlling over me he can't commit. Am done. Let him look elsewhere
Alex is such a beautiful man. Inside and out. Grateful for him. My hot and cold man doesn't even come to mind when I watch ur videos Alex lol thanks so much! 😊
Thank you. It's great advice. back in the day, id fix this a different way. Id say "just friends? That's cool. I have my eye on someone else, and now i don't have to worry about hurting your feelings" and tomorrow id go on a date with his best friend, or his brother. Be a total lady, no hanky panky.... and watch his head spin in circles. When he approaches (and he will with the quickness) be kind of non comittal. Be like, oh you didn't want me? But now you do because I'm going out with so and so? Laugh and look at him like he has lost his mind. Don't be mean. Just act like maybe he really has lost his mind. And you aren't really interested anymore.
we started talking 10 months ago, and only at the beginning we were intimate for a few times. i'm living pretty far feom him, diff town. but ever since we talk, also on phone. he's so sweet but sabotaging every occasion we could see each other. he says he needs to stay focused on his career in this period, even though he would like to give me all i want. yesterday i told him im not okey like this and csn't do it anymore, yet he's still texting me..how? why is he talking to me for hours, and asking me about my day, hes sweet and all, calls me, etc but he doesn't want relationship now, and hes also afraid he will fall in love if we keep seeing each other. he admits this is why he is avoidant when it comes to see me in person :(
Yes that's true. That's what I started doing. Until I saw your video in which you talked about how to deal with an indecisive man, you suggested to accept friendship and eliminate love language with him. So I changed and I accepted friendship. Then become distant, also I'm doing that.
Thank you for this video. I have seen many of your videos and all are helpful. I must say that you are the best coach for me as not only the content you are delivering but the tone you are using has a persuasive impact on me that I cannot but follow your instructions. Regards from Serbia♥️
(chatbox) i asked him "what are we?" He said we are friends. Ok we are friends i said...then he asked me if he upsets me. He knows deep inside that it will make me upset but no.. it broke my heart into pieces. Then i told him... I think you need to find a new friend. Said bye and unfriend him.
This is what he told me "Ik you make time, an .it’s not like that . I honestly don’t have time with this new job An me up and moving cross country . We will always be friends and stay in touch".
We met for a month during internship and part of a friend circle. He knew places, foods and stuffs and I wanted to explore them so whatever I ask him to do he planned and executed so well. We got really close in our last two days of the internship because I wanted to shop things before leaving the place. He accompanied me and he was a complete gentleman with me. I liked his gestures all throughout. Just before the day of leaving we went to Temple together, prayed together and I prayed about him and the same night he confessed that he has some feelings for me, he says thank you for all the experience I gave him and it's okay if I don't have any response but he'll know how it feels. The look on his face all throughout was so genuine I can't even describe. I was excited because that's what I prayed for but I asked him some questions like when did it happen? He told me that he was about to tell me but he didn't want to ruin my internship. He also gifted me bangles and earrings and mentioned that don't think I'm gifting this because I wanted something from you. To be mentioned, for him I got to visit one of my dream religious places. That night I was so happy, seemed everything was falling in place and I asked him to meet me tomorrow. I can't even look at his face, it was so pale and dull. I gave him some gifts because we're gifting everyone from the friend circle. After I asked him if my response from yesterday was yes, do you still wanna be friends with me. He says please be friends with me. I just replied that I don't be friends with people like you. But I was dying inside. Later he texted me a long message and ask me to message him whenever I feel like I need someone to talk to. I just told him that I want to talk to you everyday. Do you? He said yes and then we met in person and asked me if I'm going to talk to him. I was gloomy because I didn't know what's heading to. It's been several weeks we talk everyday through call and texts. I don't bring up anything regarding that because he feels uncomfortable and says that please forget the mistake. We just chat and talk. He asks me questions, we're creative about chatting and he's mindful that I'm not hurted by his words, he also teases me but importantly he never bring up anything like being physical ever in conversation. He mentions that it's his first time everything but Idk about the future. I think I'll bring the things after few months of the getting to know each other process and everything is upto God.
You’re the best Alex… so grateful for you I’ve been watching and learning from you for years now and happy to see you growing, you deserve all the success in the world! ♥️
This is so great, thank you! I wish I’d known this several years ago; it would’ve saved me a lot of time and heartache… And honestly, it’s messed up that men sometimes string women along like this; where is their conscience? I would never string along someone I’m not interested in. What baloney!
Alex u just talked my story. I just ended such a connection and told him I dont do casual sex anymore. I felt guilty after it all the time and thought maybe if I gave him time he would commit to me....but now I know that it wasnt me...I was right. Thank you🥲🥲
He’s been push pull to the extreme, We’ve been knowing each other for almost 1 year. No relationship only hooks ups but after 4 months apart he came back and said he loves me and when I set the boundaries that I can’t be with him especially since he isn’t monogamous he pushed me away for a month! Now he’s back saying he wants to be friends. Called me the other night. Talked for two hours. He is using the art of Seduction advice please!!!
Don’t do it girl. He’s using the friend thing to keep his foot in the door and keep an eye on you. He wants the benefit of being with you but not the commitment. ❤️
Her satelliting me was driving me insane. It tore me apart. So I finally told her, I don't want this and she is not welcome under this circumstances. Stopped any contact, havent heard from her either. Now I still miss her, but not worse than before! On the other hand I am living my best life, travel, started a new hobby. My life has changed for the better definately.
He was my friend for 10 years- I loved him and confessed and did lot of things to make it happen and he always said that we are friends. Now wen am married and moved on happily, he confessed his love on me! Now he is constantly blaming me for changing after wedding!!
Thank you soooo much bro ❤......I told her that we can't be friends anymore but we will be in touch.....it worked really😱....she took 2 days to decide about it....lots of love from India
If a man tells you " I am not looking for anything serious : BELIEVE HIM! I am a Black woman out her dating at 57 met a nice White guy , 64. And right from the jump he told me that he was not looking for anything serious. So OK I thought I would "one and done" him for sex (which I did/very disappointed in that too). So immediately told him that I met someone else and I would have to cease all contact with him. He was just using me for companionship and wonderful dates with a fine Black sister. Experience has taught me this folks: NEVER LET A MAN TELL YOU TWICE THAT HE DOES NOT WANT YOU!!!!!!!!!
Something similar happened with a white guy I talked to as well, though we got on well, and I was very hurt when he told me he didn't want more. We are able to be friendly, but it kind of bothers me when he talks to me about other women. I would cut him off, but we work together.
Thank You very much,I told him we need to talk and not gonna hound him bout it,but I'm not also going to let him think I'm not serious about talking either,but now I have a great piece of advice from u just what to say and handle it,Again Thank You,I'm 46 and u would think I would have figured this out by now,lol, 😊
Omg first one to comment!!! I needed this so bad today…Alex you are a Saint and a hero to me, you help me do much thank you for being so amazing ♥️♥️♥️
It took me 2 goes. I accepted friendship again then lost my temper by telling him I see through his bs. Told him he can have a friendship with someone else who is confused. I am capable of doing more coz I know myself. He is to call me when he wants lover. I warned him Id pull away. I feel like I am at peace. The other gentleman that wants commitment is making excuses to not send photos.. I told him to deliver what he promised. Until one of these situations change, I am just fine by myself enjoying mental peace..!!!
This was the best and empowering video I’ve heard in a long time. I feel much more confident and stronger after listening to this. Alex please do more videos like this! 🤍
Hi Alex, thank you so much for this. I am Pika from Indonesia. I just had this kinda guy, he don't wanna be committed but still wants to have the luxury of a relationship, the worst of all we met online, we never met and it's long distance. I finally blocked him lol...
Why did I watch this video today? Not before ( he said exactly that he wants to stay friends - and I said yes , that is the best solution. And I was sincere. I never been easy for him and he always saw me surrounded by many guys . But what do I do now ? Is there a strategy for those who already said : ok?
I needed this , I’m going through this right now and I’m struggling to cut him off … he text me every week to “ check on me “ .. even though he said he wanted to be just friends..yea he’s getting cut off .. TODAY ..
3rd try 15 later, after 7 months he says we can hang but hes not ready to commit or have any responsibility w me😢one Friday i just woke up and was do e just done😢
hi Alex I saw this video and think you are talking about me and my boyfriends he says he loves me but he is not ready to get married yet and I am tired of him now and would like to give up and move on with my life thanks for your advice and support more video like this thanks 👍👍👍
A man who truly likes you could never just have you as a friend
@BeautyQueen2023X True but women are more shy and conservative. She might just get jealous and walk away.
@@rachelthedogmum Nah women just dont wanna get rejected because of their ego thats why they dont wanna make the first move
Doesn’t want a relationship but still wants to be friends?
You’re not the only one, get rid.
He wants you to chase him because modern men are losers that need women to chase and validate.
Get rid.
With public freedom of speech comes public responses so I'm not saying this to be disrespectful in any way. Chances are the guy you want is the same guy hundreds of other women want. You would never give the guy who wants a relationship a chance. So since you all want guys from a small percentage of men those guys have all of you going crazy chasing them. Remember, most men won't give a crap about relationships or marriage if they can get many women. The guys who don't have those options want a "girlfriend" or "wife." And these guys don't need validation. Stop thinking men are wired like women.
@@mosesruperto7128 LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL just cause your'e easy man do not means that all guys are like you.
@@mosesruperto7128 also that the small percent that we want and don't care about men like yourself 5hank you,move along and keep being toxic for those who care.
This comment woke me up. Thank you ❤
Not exactly you Can be Friends and laugh enjoy as Real Friends and find a lover why i have to git red of him if u are self confident u dont Care that anybody chase u
Got another one like that...just wants the milk for free...I told him I like him but I am looking for a husband and commitment and I already have enough friends...plus I don't want a bunch of male friends to make my future husband insecure...I don't have time to settle for anything less than what I want in life. Thank you. The time and energy I would be wasting on entertaining such a "friend" could be the time I could be investing into finding someone who is ready for a commitment. Gotta keep stepping over these jokers who just want to play around.
Thx beautiful 😘i like your reasoning capacity. Keep up
I have a similar situation. Currently, without hesitation, I told him if he wants to be with me he must initiate the date, pick me up, and if we decide on sex, I walk away with $$$ and prizes In my pocket or it ain't happening!!! Kitty Kat ain't free if you don't want to give me what I want. I feel I have ALL THE POWER NOW ...
Well said
Thanks
I’m sick of being taken for granted and used by men .. I’m better off staying single .. trying to find love is a joke !!
any updates
I’ve convinced myself that everyone is going to hurt you so don’t give away all your trust
After months of dating, he said that he doesn't want a relationship because he just sees me as a friend. And he has so much to do at work and just isn't mature enough for a relationship. (He is 30) I told him that i have feelings and that's why I don't want to meet anymore. I don't why but he almost cried when I told him that. I didn't want to see him cry that's why I said to him: " I want to make this easy for you." So I kissed him as a goodye and said; " Thanks for everything. I had a really good time. I will miss you. Bye." After this, I went home and just left him there.
What happened after that ? Did he reach out ? I’m litterally in the same situation..
You did the right thing and I’m proud of you 👏
any updates
A guy wanted to friend zone me, but I told him I wanted us to stop meeting or talking completely. After a week we went back stronger than ever, however, this time I gave him a taste of his own medicine and dumped him after 2 dates after we went back.... A lesson that girls are not toys
Well done! So proud of you.
Girl 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️good for u!!!!!
Love it !!! Go Girl
Sisterhood is proud of you girlllll!!
Woaaahhhh
This is a wake up call. Thank you for this video, my time is too valuable now, no more wasting times. A girl doesn't need anyone who doesn't need her.
Hello ladies out there. I will tell you my story and i hope it will empower you all. It was not easy but i did it and now feel super precious. I was seeing a guy and we even slept several times. He asked me date him 7-8 times but i was not sure. Then weeks later i said ok im ready boy, lets be exclusive. Then he started making excuses and asked me to be friends for now. Then i said no. This is so childish, you dont know what you want and i dont like this gray zone. I stopped talking to him. He did not write since then either. But it shows that he was obviously not really into me while i was wasting my time and energy with him. Deleted his number and moved on. I feel great!! Do the same ladies, they should beg for you!!
Love is not about control. If there's no love, walk away to find love.
I'm tired of difficult relationships.. sometimes peace is just letting things be what they are, be yourself and give the love that you feel .. we think challenging the other one but we're only challenging our feelings..
I told him I want a relationship but he never said anything, he knows I love him
This is so true omg
You can't convince someone to be with you. They either want to or don't. Be wise enough to know the difference.
Muy bien dicho.
Thank you! After he told me that , I dropped him like a bad habit. I have ignored his messages and texts. I’m not doing that, I deserve better.
any updates
Keeping you on the side is only a stepping stone for his self -confidence. No!! NOT acceptable.
He's rejecting you. Get rid of him.
I agree
My mindset is that I'm a Ferrari and if a man isn't able to maintain me like a Ferrari then they aren't up to my standards. I have learned that all men want a Ferrari but want to take car of it like a 1967 Honda Civic. We all know if you start putting the cheap gas in a Ferrari then the car will break down and soon wont run at all. Ladies always think of yourself as a Ferrari and never settle to be treated as less.
I continued with him after he said he could not commit because he was healing. He's been giving attitude when I've been getting at 11. Time to stop. He's not meeting my emotional needs. He's taking me for granted.
*Communication and understanding play a key role in any relationship, even in friendships. Let's create a space where both parties feel comfortable and respected.*
Absolutely! I love what I’m becoming. I’ve done so much work on myself this last year to get here. A high value feminine woman with a badass attitude… Thank you Alex for your motivation… exactly the reminders I need on a daily basis to remind me that I am a goddess on a pedestal.💗🥂
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I see. This is true. He told me that he is not ready to commit but still wants to see me. Some days later he said he knows that I want to get married to him. I didn't even say that, but I guess this was what he understood from me because I loved him so much. I felt stupid when he said that, like an orphan child who is waiting for a parent to choose him.
I always tried to show him that I am independent but he obviously understood that it was just a Fassade.
Finally I met someone else who is the opposite, he wants a commitment. But I am definitely a challenge to him because I am not that attracted to him as I was to my ex. So I distanced myself from both of them them. 😆 And I am happy that now I am dating a guy who is attractive AND caring, and I listen to your advices to not screw it up again
👏👏👏🙏💝💝💝
I was in that situation, giving him a power to manipulate me, but couple days ago I told him we are done, I need to find my own path
Guys nowadays mostly just want open relationships… This has caused social disruption. Clearly they are immature, soulless and no integrity. I have pity towards this generation. The more you have sex with other people for the pleasure of it, there will be no joy and inner peace in your life. As we devalued ourself and confusing our memories, body and soul.
@Darl H I agree 100% And they do not get any better when they get older. My fiance is 53..he gave me a ring this past Christmas, and broke up with me April 1. I was afraid of moving in together and because I did not think we were ready . We had to resolve alot of issues. It's been 3 months but I have been doing all of the no no things the ex back experts said you should not do pleading , texting and going to his place...I decided to go to no contact 4 days ago. Hope it works🤷🏽♀️
Yup my ex kissed me , told me he would see me the next day and left that night to be paid for side boy in an unattractive open marriage, drink etc no commitment needed there. He even rejected an open relationship with me wth. I'm over it doing NC day 4 thanks to these vids....he can go have his fun I am going to focus on my goals and "glow up" lol while he remains the same and acts like he did in his 20s.
any update s
Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
I'm so sorry to hear about this. I know how painful this can be but you can get through this❤️ we're here for you.
Not all cases are the same at all. I’ve dated with the end motivation to have a relationship but the guy I’m dating hasn’t qualified in my mind as the one I want a relationship with yet. Before I had made my mind up about him he decides to tell me he doesn’t want a relationship which it fine as I was never 100% sure about him anyway and he has just confirmed what I already half knew. 3 weeks later he wants to meet for coffee. I have zero interest in being his girl now but have zero problems meeting him for coffee. It will be a pleasure show up looking great with happy vibration and wish him well. He lost out here, not me and the regret on his face will be rewarding. I don’t give second chances ñ, life is too short and we are too old for this game.
Watching your video at this time, I regret that I did not discover you a year ago. I feel frustrated because I lost my partner being too confident that he will accept and understand my deep feelings that unfortunately made me look "needy" in his eyes. But first we make mistakes and then we realize and learn. It's very true. The man must really feel that he wants to be with us .... Otherwise we will always lose points in front of him. Thank you Alex for the objective advice and for waking us all to reality!💯👍
This video has made me emotional. Thank you for making me reach my moment of epiphany ♡
We’re not even sleeping together! He doesn’t get any bf privileges and he still wants to just stay friends! Like what do you WANT from me!? Leave me alone then!
Exactly 💯
Maybe you have money or maybe you boost his self confidence 😏
any update s
He just wants the ego boost
My ex wanted to be just friends. I refused. I don't call, text nothing. This is what he does to all his ex's....yeah not me. They become FWB and he "thought" I was like those other desperate women.
I'll be a friend from a far. Bye 🙋♀️
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Old saying goes....staying friends with your ex is like keeping in touch with your Kidnappers!!!!
Wow- this sounds like the dude I’m dealing with except he took the sex part away from me- smh..
Yessssss typical narcissist behavior!! I told him the same thing! I won't be another women in the harem garage! Lol I'm not a pick Miesha you can't treat me right, you won't have me any type of way!
And even when he wants to be friends it's still on a downhill trajectory , he doesn't want to be loved 🥰
You are our BEST FRIEND
You are the most honest about men to us 👍👏
any updates
I like that your advice is giving the freedom to do exactly what we want for ourselves despite any man we like or are attracted to.
Today I will become a challenge and I will never make this guy feel confident to tell me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship. It's not his choice it's my choice.... Thank you Alex for all the love, support and advice.
Thats rright we choose
Me too sis. And it hurts so bad to see someone you truly like treats you like piece of garbage 🥺.
He takes many hours or days to respond to my message. He reach out to me the next day like nothing happened. He is really so proud I am chasing after him but yes no more after seeing I am not the only one in this condition.
I will write him tonight and then block him forever.
Thank you so much. I have done a lot of self development of self and dating ...I was very accommodating in my past relationships, accepting disrespect, on and off wishy wishy guy. But now I know better. He is just there to feel controlling over me he can't commit. Am done. Let him look elsewhere
I know how hard this can be and I'm sorry you had to go through this!
I told him no-go!! No 'friends'! Boy did he get MAD!😮
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Alex is such a beautiful man. Inside and out. Grateful for him. My hot and cold man doesn't even come to mind when I watch ur videos Alex lol thanks so much! 😊
@8:47 I FEEL AMAZING!!!! THANK U ALEX!!!! I FEEL BEAUTIFUL! FULL OF LIGHT ENERGY AND POWER! U R ANOINTED FOR THIS WORK GOOD SIR! 😊💯
@10:44 😲HOW DID U KNOW!?!? MY SITUATION EXACTLY! 🙆♀️
Need to be a challenge and be different, try to control the storm? I am the storm. Anything is possible. ❤
He told me he did not want to fall in love. After many months I walked away.
Thank you. It's great advice. back in the day, id fix this a different way. Id say "just friends? That's cool. I have my eye on someone else, and now i don't have to worry about hurting your feelings" and tomorrow id go on a date with his best friend, or his brother. Be a total lady, no hanky panky.... and watch his head spin in circles. When he approaches (and he will with the quickness) be kind of non comittal. Be like, oh you didn't want me? But now you do because I'm going out with so and so? Laugh and look at him like he has lost his mind. Don't be mean. Just act like maybe he really has lost his mind. And you aren't really interested anymore.
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I’m a guy and I needed this. Thank you!
Thank you for watching Thomas!
we started talking 10 months ago, and only at the beginning we were intimate for a few times. i'm living pretty far feom him, diff town. but ever since we talk, also on phone. he's so sweet but sabotaging every occasion we could see each other. he says he needs to stay focused on his career in this period, even though he would like to give me all i want. yesterday i told him im not okey like this and csn't do it anymore, yet he's still texting me..how? why is he talking to me for hours, and asking me about my day, hes sweet and all, calls me, etc but he doesn't want relationship now, and hes also afraid he will fall in love if we keep seeing each other. he admits this is why he is avoidant when it comes to see me in person :(
I should watch this video during the next month twice daily 😅
The right video at the right time , thank you 🙏
Yes that's true. That's what I started doing. Until I saw your video in which you talked about how to deal with an indecisive man, you suggested to accept friendship and eliminate love language with him. So I changed and I accepted friendship.
Then become distant, also I'm doing that.
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Thank you for this video. I have seen many of your videos and all are helpful. I must say that you are the best coach for me as not only the content you are delivering but the tone you are using has a persuasive impact on me that I cannot but follow your instructions. Regards from Serbia♥️
(chatbox) i asked him "what are we?" He said we are friends. Ok we are friends i said...then he asked me if he upsets me. He knows deep inside that it will make me upset but no.. it broke my heart into pieces. Then i told him... I think you need to find a new friend. Said bye and unfriend him.
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Good for you.
This is what he told me "Ik you make time, an .it’s not like that . I honestly don’t have time with this new job An me up and moving cross country . We will always be friends and stay in touch".
We met for a month during internship and part of a friend circle. He knew places, foods and stuffs and I wanted to explore them so whatever I ask him to do he planned and executed so well. We got really close in our last two days of the internship because I wanted to shop things before leaving the place. He accompanied me and he was a complete gentleman with me. I liked his gestures all throughout. Just before the day of leaving we went to Temple together, prayed together and I prayed about him and the same night he confessed that he has some feelings for me, he says thank you for all the experience I gave him and it's okay if I don't have any response but he'll know how it feels. The look on his face all throughout was so genuine I can't even describe. I was excited because that's what I prayed for but I asked him some questions like when did it happen? He told me that he was about to tell me but he didn't want to ruin my internship. He also gifted me bangles and earrings and mentioned that don't think I'm gifting this because I wanted something from you. To be mentioned, for him I got to visit one of my dream religious places. That night I was so happy, seemed everything was falling in place and I asked him to meet me tomorrow. I can't even look at his face, it was so pale and dull. I gave him some gifts because we're gifting everyone from the friend circle. After I asked him if my response from yesterday was yes, do you still wanna be friends with me. He says please be friends with me. I just replied that I don't be friends with people like you. But I was dying inside. Later he texted me a long message and ask me to message him whenever I feel like I need someone to talk to. I just told him that I want to talk to you everyday. Do you? He said yes and then we met in person and asked me if I'm going to talk to him. I was gloomy because I didn't know what's heading to. It's been several weeks we talk everyday through call and texts. I don't bring up anything regarding that because he feels uncomfortable and says that please forget the mistake. We just chat and talk. He asks me questions, we're creative about chatting and he's mindful that I'm not hurted by his words, he also teases me but importantly he never bring up anything like being physical ever in conversation. He mentions that it's his first time everything but Idk about the future. I think I'll bring the things after few months of the getting to know each other process and everything is upto God.
I'm here for that french accent 👋 💛
You’re the best Alex… so grateful for you I’ve been watching and learning from you for years now and happy to see you growing, you deserve all the success in the world! ♥️
This is so great, thank you! I wish I’d known this several years ago; it would’ve saved me a lot of time and heartache… And honestly, it’s messed up that men sometimes string women along like this; where is their conscience? I would never string along someone I’m not interested in. What baloney!
Alex u just talked my story. I just ended such a connection and told him I dont do casual sex anymore. I felt guilty after it all the time and thought maybe if I gave him time he would commit to me....but now I know that it wasnt me...I was right. Thank you🥲🥲
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He’s been push pull to the extreme,
We’ve been knowing each other for almost 1 year. No relationship only hooks ups but after 4 months apart he came back and said he loves me and when I set the boundaries that I can’t be with him especially since he isn’t monogamous he pushed me away for a month! Now he’s back saying he wants to be friends. Called me the other night. Talked for two hours.
He is using the art of Seduction advice please!!!
Don’t do it girl. He’s using the friend thing to keep his foot in the door and keep an eye on you. He wants the benefit of being with you but not the commitment. ❤️
Girl let that man go he doesn’t want you. 2 hour conversation for what ? He knows your desperate
Every woman is her own beautiful!!
Her satelliting me was driving me insane. It tore me apart.
So I finally told her, I don't want this and she is not welcome under this circumstances.
Stopped any contact, havent heard from her either.
Now I still miss her, but not worse than before!
On the other hand I am living my best life, travel, started a new hobby. My life has changed for the better definately.
Karla, Continue to stay focused on what makes you happy and everything else will come your way!
A friend for longtime and we both are finally single now he isnt ready for relationship and now feels like im not good enough and he used me.
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He was my friend for 10 years- I loved him and confessed and did lot of things to make it happen and he always said that we are friends. Now wen am married and moved on happily, he confessed his love on me! Now he is constantly blaming me for changing after wedding!!
Let him regret
wow !!!!!
Am i seeing this right?? 1.6k views less than 200 likes?!? i know y’all listen to this guy he’s amazing deserves at least a like🙏🏽🧿💙🔪🔌💅🏽
❤️ Alex we want to see your wife! And your children and family ☺
Yes i wonder whose the woman who won him, who put herself on a pedestal 😆
I went through exactly same situation and not out of it completely
I'm so sorry to hear about this!
He ask my Friendship after the first day I say ok why not as he respect my boundries as friend he is welcome 😊
Be careful, people can test to regain control sometimes...
But by still being in contact is still being friends!
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Thank you soooo much bro ❤......I told her that we can't be friends anymore but we will be in touch.....it worked really😱....she took 2 days to decide about it....lots of love from India
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If a man tells you " I am not looking for anything serious : BELIEVE HIM! I am a Black woman out her dating at 57 met a nice White guy , 64. And right from the jump he told me that he was not looking for anything serious. So OK I thought I would "one and done" him for sex (which I did/very disappointed in that too). So immediately told him that I met someone else and I would have to cease all contact with him. He was just using me for companionship and wonderful dates with a fine Black sister. Experience has taught me this folks: NEVER LET A MAN TELL YOU TWICE THAT HE DOES NOT WANT YOU!!!!!!!!!
Something similar happened with a white guy I talked to as well, though we got on well, and I was very hurt when he told me he didn't want more. We are able to be friendly, but it kind of bothers me when he talks to me about other women. I would cut him off, but we work together.
I did this and TRUST me it works❤ thanks Alex
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He said he wants to be friends but hes been distant, he also stated he's into no rush
Run...your worth more for the right man that give you want you want!
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Exactly what is happening to me. Would always say we are close friends.
Did anything come of it? I'm in same position
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He said he is always there for me. But he wants only friends...what to do? I really love him😢
Amen! We are ALL so beautiful and we are ALL unique ❤
Im so glad you have posted this!! Iv been putting up with this for two years in hope, being let down, thinking it was me!!
It was you because you accepted his attention when it wasn’t fulfilling anything.
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For some reason..and ive seen so many videos but this snapped me out a little bit
I be like cool but I’ll date others guys seriously until i start ghosting him or canceling him and forget him all together.
Ur great consultant. Tqsm. Mostly woman suffering d most esp compassioate ladies.🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much for your support!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Much welcome. Ur our ladies saviour.
Thank You very much,I told him we need to talk and not gonna hound him bout it,but I'm not also going to let him think I'm not serious about talking either,but now I have a great piece of advice from u just what to say and handle it,Again Thank You,I'm 46 and u would think I would have figured this out by now,lol, 😊
I'm so happy this video helped! Thank you so much for watching April.
www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
Thank you I am in this position , I am 50 he is 38 he never married or had any one
Omg first one to comment!!! I needed this so bad today…Alex you are a Saint and a hero to me, you help me do much thank you for being so amazing ♥️♥️♥️
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Love how you said “I want to empower you!” 😂💜
Thank you so much for watching!
It took me 2 goes. I accepted friendship again then lost my temper by telling him I see through his bs. Told him he can have a friendship with someone else who is confused. I am capable of doing more coz I know myself. He is to call me when he wants lover. I warned him Id pull away.
I feel like I am at peace.
The other gentleman that wants commitment is making excuses to not send photos.. I told him to deliver what he promised.
Until one of these situations change, I am just fine by myself enjoying mental peace..!!!
This was the best and empowering video I’ve heard in a long time. I feel much more confident and stronger after listening to this. Alex please do more videos like this! 🤍
You are so welcome
Thank you god for today guiding me
You are always welcome Fely!
I have been loving the last couple of videos! I appreciate you, and your head coach. 🥰
I’m a challenge thank you so much Alex
You are so right
Thank you so much for watching!
Hi Alex, thank you so much for this. I am Pika from Indonesia. I just had this kinda guy, he don't wanna be committed but still wants to have the luxury of a relationship, the worst of all we met online, we never met and it's long distance. I finally blocked him lol...
Why did I watch this video today? Not before ( he said exactly that he wants to stay friends - and I said yes , that is the best solution. And I was sincere. I never been easy for him and he always saw me surrounded by many guys . But what do I do now ? Is there a strategy for those who already said : ok?
I find the advice from Alex very good
Thx for this, I am becoming a challenge! 🥰
I needed this , I’m going through this right now and I’m struggling to cut him off … he text me every week to “ check on me “ .. even though he said he wanted to be just friends..yea he’s getting cut off .. TODAY ..
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Thank you. I felt this but i didn't know how to put it in words.
3rd try 15 later, after 7 months he says we can hang but hes not ready to commit or have any responsibility w me😢one Friday i just woke up and was do e just done😢
This is great advice. I just started listening to your videos these last few days
Wow!! Such a good and straightforward video.
hi Alex I saw this video and think you are talking about me and my boyfriends he says he loves me but he is not ready to get married yet and I am tired of him now and would like to give up and move on with my life thanks for your advice and support more video like this thanks 👍👍👍
Thank you for your support, more videos like this coming.
Here at the right moment
I just recommended this video to my friend with similar situation. Thanks for sharing
This is SPOT ON!!!!!
You are correct, thank you.
Im this situation..
I will lestine to this ❤
Thank you so much for this beautiful. You are such a beautiful soul. God bless you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you Alex from Japan! this is such a good video....I always love your content
My pleasure!
❤😊thank u Alex ❤😊
Thank you so much for watching and for your comment!
Good morning Alex
From America (USA). Thank you for this video