You took the words right out of my mouth. I went around about way saying "I respect your request all the way." But read in between the lines, sir. No rights. No privileges. No favors. No feeling, touching, kissing or smoozing next to me. Nothing. And if I hug you, it will be a "side hug" like I do with some of those men in the church.
Facts! A guy I cared about said that to me, and claimed it had nothing to do with me. I told him, you don't want me. Their actions let you know they mean the "with you" part. Some of them say other excuses or sugar coat it. But it all boils down to, they don't want a relationship "with you". They hurt lots of women in the process. I learned the hard way.
Respect your self and walk away. Most importantly, keep your legs close. And get to know him . Lastly, if he walks away during this time ... he wasn't the one for you. The one for you will see you for more than sex. A woman can go a long time without sex than a man.
@@jackierumph6963 I've been celibate for quite some time so I'm good. I have never met a male who has sexual self control. They act like they will literally die if they don't get it. They can get it from someone else. There are way too many narcissists in the world, both genders. I have had more than my share of that too. Just tired of ppl in general. Had to fire so called friends for being narcs too. The world is a dark, ugly place and there seems to be very limited space for those of us who are not predators.
REJECTION is protection. If they don't want to be a part of your life, it simply means life is trying to protect you from this person. Let life happen by letting them walk away. Nobody can stop you from being a loving person even if they don't want you.
Shin true. But I do think if woman were more self aware and understood that they do the exact same thing they wouldn’t take it so personally. We all pass up on good things. That personal simply wasn’t where they needed to be in life to see that you were a good thing. But I hear you.
If he's not ready for a relationship ladies move on! Don't let him waste your valuable time. And he definitely don't need any cookies if you know what I mean. Keep loving you and a good man will come alone. You're beautiful 😍🤩
@@CherrellMishelle Absolutely! I agree with you totally. I've been there before and it's very frustrating when you have gained feelings for him. So now that I'm older and I experience this before it made me much wiser. But keep in mind love you're the prize and his loss!🥰
@Paul Hogue I've never said that all a man want is sex. In this video I was under the impression that he was talking about men not being ready for a relationship. I'm saying don't let him waste your time and reap benefits that people do in committed relationships. If he's not ready and she is then why is he even wasting her time?
You such a Class act. Most ladies giving testimonies about how they wasted their time is because most of you ladies like to be lied to.I know this might sound off but I once asked my female friends if they would appreciate a man who walks up to them and Tells them They liked them and would love to have sex with them and no relationship than a man who plays goodie goose and still ends up doing what the Former suggested. You will be shocked with the responses I got. Bottom line as a grown up man I have learned to say what I feel and not please a lady just because I don't wanna hurt her
@@coachobispersonalworkoutti2223 Met someone with your mindset years ago and consider him honorable.Few people give options and so few appreciate honesty.If one can choice to either play or walk can't get more honorable than that.
Stephanie Oreo I actually Kinda agree with you I’d rather neither one approach me. But sometimes let’s say it’s someone you know or y’all seen each other a few times or on social media. And y’all both feelings each other in that case I’d rather the guy tell me he just wants to have sex so I’ll know to not look his way anymore 😂
I’m just tired of attracting this same situation over and over again. It’s always the same thing, “ I’m not ready for a relationship” how do I attract someone that is !!!
I totally agree. Use this time to build and work on you. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen. Go to school x start a business, write a book, mediate, get closer to God during this time.
An ex came back into my life a few months ago. We were 100% behaving like we were in a relationship BUT, like he told me 15 years ago and again now in 2020 he does not want a relationship. I realized I’d hate myself a year from now if I let it carry on. Stung like crazy to let him go (again) but I heard him. I believed him. We haven’t spoken since. Let. Him. Go!
Im in a similar situation...he left n came back now with a child...its crazy...it hurt me even more... im not tolerating that at all.. He had his chance,,thats it for me.
I actually cannot believe the timing of this video in my life.... I already knew everything you said in the video myself but to have you upload this now and hear your words I feel like is a sign from God telling me to let go
Gods timing is perfect...not always what we want or when we want it...But HE knows and sees what we don't!! Listen to the song by Riley Clemmons ...YOU WILL NEVER STOP FIGHTING FOR ME... This song says it all, much love to u all ♥️🙏👑
The truth hurts but it is what it is. You rather hurt now for a sec vs. later on when you've invested more time and emotions. We can lie to ourselves trying to make something out of nothing. Believe what he says and LET IT GO!!!😊 We have to value ourselves more, self love is key, don't settle. We don't settle on shoes, clothes, car, house etc. So don't settle for the sake of having a man.
Sheelah A oooh well said, I never settle with anything else in life but for a toxic man I somehow become so weak. Not anymore. It’s been five days since I walked away and I hope to have the strength to NEVER look back!
Yup! After being in a 6 month relationship, where in the beginning she wanted the relationship, then she pulled away and then said, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now. You deserve better". My only response was, "thank you for your honesty, I do deserve better, and thank you for realizing that that isn't you"... and i walked!
He asked me to focus on his actions. I did. In the end, I broke it off after he said again that he is not into relationship. His parting words, I'm going to miss you terribly.
I called if quick. He was a good guy, the commutation was great. But I felt something was hold him back. So I was honest with him and and told him I felt like he was holding back. He explained he’s only 4 yrs divorced and did not want a relationship. I told him he still had some healing to do, and let him know I wasn’t interested in anything casual. We parted friends, and I truly hope he can heal and find his happiness one day.
ive been dealing withe this "im not ready for a relationship" for the past 9 months.. yet we act as if we are together... vacations, trips, meeting family, traveling... I've already fell for him after 6 months of dating.. the 5 times i brought up the topic of wanting to build and have a relationship, it leads to an argument 🙄 im so fed up with excuses of him saying he left his 6 year relationship a year ago .. im seriously done with waiting... thanks to this advice i think its time to let him go
@@adavlora3801 i continued to talk with him.. its been over a year and its the same thing. he not ready.. just yesterday i broke it down and told him ima start dating others and he should take the time to figure out what he wants to do and hopefully if he figures it out, ill still be available.. but until then we need to distance ourselves... he seemed very upset and shocked
@@ddanielle9182 sadly he was messing around with another person while we were *talking* I did find out.. nd cut him off.. he was extremely apologetic because he realized what he lost...he decided to show me that he's trustworthy and ready for a relationship.. We've been together since August last year.. everything is amazing.. we live together and we are working on a future together ❤️
@bigjayking24 that so true i been hurt by this guy tell he dont want relationship he going true some issues with is self and he say can get over is pass and trust issues
As soon as the words I’m not ready for a relationship leaves his mouth make a run for it ladies! Not worth the heartbreak, confusion , pain and depletion of self esteem which is what will happen if you decide to stick around
He said to me,"You will make a great wife or girlfriend for another man one day"!.....Those were his exact words......Crushed my soul because in that your saying I'm just not good enough for you......Thank You Stephen. This has really broken me.. I have had some failed relationships and I always give my heart away to those who are so undeserving of it... I have decided to remove myself from the dating world. Put my guard back up. Practice Celibacy and heal....I really have some healing to do....
That second part, and "YOU still gotta leave his ass alone!" yup. The friends shit doesn't work. It's a trap. Don't do it. Just move on, block his ass, so he doesn't play with your heart strings. He will call you private, email you or show up at your door when he is ready. If that day never comes, at least you moved on. "Either way, leave him alone" !!!
He told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship then a few months later he said he was thinking of moving things forward with me...his words changed but his actions never did. I think he’s bread crumbing me 😔☹️
Time to exit i was in the same situation and when i finally said i had enough he really said oh youre not going to wait i said hell no im not waiting nor trying to convince any one to be in a relationship with me then he tried to spin it as im giving him an ultimatum smh i said walking away isnt an ultimatum its an ending and i havent looked back nor regretted doing so
This video is GOLD and came at the right timing. Just decided to walk away from a guy who said he didn’t want a relationship right now. His response was “ okay, sounds good” If he really wanted me he wouldn’t have let me go.
You are 100%!! stop dealing with him. Shut it down. Cut off contact of needed so you can heal. It doesn't matter why he is not ready.. the point is he is not for you.
Is this equivalent to “lets take things slow” but doing everything like yall in relationship .ex( calling everyday, seeing multiple times a week, wants to be around your child but your against it unless yall are committed” he was dating me for 4 months and I learned long ago men know quickly. He wanted the bond but didn’t want to provide the title. I said to him from the beginning what my deal breakers were and being uncommitted in month 5 or 6 was a no go. He was still stalling but said he was exculsive to me. Um no sir this is not a situationship. You gone give me both the bond and title and not one with out the other. I bounced in month four and he is now blocked. I been through too much men will not waste my time. If you not ready by month 4 of dating 4-5 times and its like we in a relationship just without the title you are wasting my time and you need to move out the way so the man for me can find me. You either put a title or I move on no ifs anda or buts
Yes been there done that. Means the exact same thing “why you trying to rush things”, “let’s just go with the flow and see what happens”, “ I just got out of a 10 year relationship”, “I mean I don’t like to share, so if you sleep with someone else I’m done”, “I just can’t be the man you need me to be right now”, “I just want to be selfish right now”, “ I love you, I’m just not in love with you”;...........need anymore lines?!? Anything that sounds even REMOTELY close to any of those DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME!!!!! I’m just warning you baby girl because no one ever warned me. I even waited to give him the cookie and still wasted a year of my life I can NEVER get back. If he’s not convicted or consistent with what he says. His words or actions don’t match, it’s a red flag to just leave him alone. You will find your lifetime partner, just be patient🥰🥰
Yeahhh.. I learned this the hard way. I’m just glad he respected me enough to let me go, instead of keeping me there and being toxic. Doesn’t make it any easier tho.
I have been watching these kinds of videos since I was in high school. Word of advice: If you are 25 and under girl just relax. Let go and let flow. Live your life to make you happy not spending time trying to get things you want outta people (i.e commitment). People (not just a man) will gravitate towards you for that. Some of you are so unhappy because you’re not watching these with the intention to weed out what you don’t want. You’re stuck on trying to manipulate and make a square peg fit into a round hole. He’s not ready? Believe him. Now either relax and enjoy it for what it is or leave.
I was believing that this person wanted a relationship with me I was falling for it giving him all the passion he wanted...I asked him what he wanted he told me he didn't want a relationship so I had to let him go I really loved him but if he didn't want a relationship with me and all he wanted was my passion I didn't want a any kind of relationship with him either.
I just recently got a divorce from my high school sweetheart of ten years. We grew apart and i am now navigating the dating scene. I use the “I’m not ready for a relationship” line. Even though I am not lying what Stephen said is %100 correct. If a woman is looking for a relationship and your not just leave them alone fellas. There are some women who are just looking for a good time.
This happened to me today. A guy chased me for two years and when i finally gave him my number , we talked and he started saying shit like “ how i was gonna cook for him and etc “ i asked him what exactly did he want from me . This fool said Just a vibe . I vibe right off the phone lol
Who else is single and listening to him preach???? After watching all your videos I think it’s safe to say I know what I want from my future relationship/marriage. Thank you!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Yes Stephan you could not have said it any better ,this message is confirmation for a current situation I was dealing with a week ago . Ladies we must move on and get back to Magnifying God ,loving self and building character ❗️
Fellas just be single until you know she is the one. When shes the one then make that ONE time commitment. Don't over commit before you get married. That's a double commitment. Just find the ONE to do it ONCE.
Wow! Thank you for sharing this. I had to make the decision to walk away from a guy who told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship very recently. I truly believe he just wasn’t ready, but I still decided to end all ties with him. I really liked him but I didn’t want to waste my time.
I was told that last year where I made the mistake of falling for a coworker. I've known him for three years. I express my feelings and he said he wasn't looking for a relationship. I told him fine I'll find someone else sorry for wasting yours and my time. Haven't talked since and he's mad that I moved on and don't give him the time of day. Oh well
I am glad i realised while we are still friends that he doesn't love me like that. Now he just tries to get back into my life and i dont have time for him. I cried too much. I can't make a guy love me.
Sir thank you for always keeping it so real with us. LADIES you gotta listen to him when it comes to relationship advice *no truer words have ever been spoken* How do I know? Everything he said I’ve experienced verbatim in this video recently. It’s a hard pill to swallow but please ladies you cannot take it personal. Look at it this way “A mans rejection is God’s protection” because it very well might be. You haven’t been rejected, *you’ve been rescued!*
I am crying. This is exactly what i am going througt at this moment. I really loved him, but as he said he is not really for a relationship i felt soo bad and asked me if something is wrong with me. Thank you very much Stephan for your words🙏❤👍
Hi Stephan, thank you for your videos. I recently went "no contact" with a friend I was dating (situationship, thanks for your videos on that). I did it because 9 months had passed between our respectful dissociation (he had a new job move out of state, was not in the position to be in a serious relationship /not with me atleast) and I am still attracted to him. I don't want to be friends with him in this state for fear of manipulating him or for being vulnerable because I am soft towards him while our friendship continues on. We never had more than a month of not communicating since then, we would "check in" every now and then. A month and a half ago, he messaged me on my former best friends birthday, she is the one who introduced us many years ago. I felt salty about it because I "assumed" he saw it was her birthday and thought of me to check in. Totally unconfirmed assumption. Anyway, I that day I decided hey I will go no contact for three months to heal from this friend's with benefits dating situationship and move on.. In the past six weeks he has contacted me several times and called once to check in. Like I said we ended respectfully and there are no hard feelings, I knew he was just out of a serious relationship and moving cross country and still decided to date him, I even visited him in his new town as I was figuring out how to get a job out there as well for my own reasons. That is where we ended things, I wanted more, he was emotionally lacking, I was emotionally needy and over compensating with sex, though I felt empty because I felt like he was consumed with his job. I'm asking, why is this acquaintance turned date turned back to friend still contacting me? We live far apart and there is no reason to be in contact anymore, we weren't close friends, but we knew each other for a decade. I can say I was very lustful toward him and attracted to his intelligence. The other issues I was not content with therefore our reason to end things logically made sense - we are physically distant and not ready for a relationship. The "no contact" rule hasn't really changed anything on my end, I still feel friendly toward him, now I'm just looking at his text and not replying. I don't have a strong urge to contact him but I do have an urge to resolve what it is about this person I can't let go of. Why stay friends with an ex? My past several hookups have been situationships for several years since my last and only seriously relationship. I am glad to realize that I have been serial situation-dating and I wish to stop that all together and gain the confidence to know my boundaries and declare when I am attracted to someone, something I'm always been afraid of. Thanks for your time. Blessings.
This exactly what I’m going through now. I recently was dating this guy i knew from years ago and he came back showing me so much better . We were so connected . It’s many times I felt like how do I know he not going to do the same thing. We were bickering about his past and friendships that’s no good for him. I gave him respect and he just couldn’t see how I just wanted the best for him. I noticed that he lied to me about stuff and I broke it off but I really thought like I love him he’s been around family I can move past this . I know in the past I had trust issues but I thought really love him I can move past this. He basically told me that he wasn’t ready bc he needed to heal. Of course I’m broken bc I fell for him but the first part and the second part of this video really helped me a lot. He apologized and told me it wasn’t me and like he owed me the respect to face me but I was too heart broken to face him . I still was hurt because I know some stuff just was typical male behavior and Where I messed up at was I been knew he wasn’t ready based of his past . I really should’ve trusted myself and not allowed myself to get this deep knowing deep down in my heart he wasn’t ready for the woman I am. I really appreciate this video because it’s helping me get through this pain I’m feeling. Definitely Great Advice
Bro I love love love ur work...u've taken me away from a dark place and would love to thank u for that...so powerful and tru..thank you...👊🏿👊🏿..please keep up the good work...we need it..
@@keepthechange1 a lot of things I was over looking in healing myself. I hated love and hated the feeling of falling back into love. Felt vulnerable an weak. He broke it down to me in a way where i understand that the person was the one that hurt me not love...love don't hurt people do...and from then I understood...
carlyle bigby Bless your heart. I totally understand. Once we learn and accept how Love truly works, and that Love is action, it’s smooth sailing. Prayerfully, you will not allow anyone to cheat you out of the Love that was designed especially for you. It’s out here, and waiting to make your acquaintance. I promise. ☺️ God bless you. 🙏🏽❤️
‘Do not get caught up trying to play the middle ground because your only going to play yourself’ realest shit ever. I know this now... if only I would have known this 3 years ago.
Well if a man says that just let him go. I mean when a man says he’s not ready that’s exactly what it is he’s not ready. There is no trying to change his mindset or else. It’s a waist of time you’ll spend more time proving that you’re worth a change of mind than actually being in a relationship with him...just let him go...
So after prayer this morning and pouring out to God, I came back to this message again and again. I then decided to completely plagiarize almost verbatim what was said. It has only been two months in, with phone conversations only, due to it being LD. I had to be completely honest with myself with the way things are. You are correct on so many fronts. There is no way we can say, it's just going to be a friendship and not get emotionally invested. So before it gets there, I'm out. Thank you for allowing me to use your words to communicate mine.
I meet someone 3 months ago from the start he new i wanted a relationship and he told me he didnt want one with any woman...he said he does not want boundaries ect....we spent so much time together...he was treating me like in his girlfriend. Its so hard as we have a special bound and a connection we get on so well.... But the last month he has been distant....just switched up on me i really like him... He saying that he wants me in his life....its all confusing to where ive had to cut him off as it was too drain full now im just working on me....but i feel so hurt by it as he is a lovely guy...but im glad i watch this video thank you just what i needed to hear...
GOD sent you right in time to bless my life BRO! i've been following you on instagram and listening and reading your messages for a couple of months , and I've been so amazed! thank you with all my heart for living your purpose STEPHAN !!! GOD BLESS you and your beloved ones infinitely!
Yes, this just happened to me. I finally just ended it. He would always say, he not ready for a relationship; but his actions would show differently. I told him “no more” and I meant it. Now, I’m just praying that whenever he calls; I will have the strength to not even respond. Right now I’m strong, but in two weeks and beyond; I’m hoping this strength will still be here.
Men know what they want & if he isn't committing to you or making you his gf or wife then you're not the one! We have to pay attention and focus on what's in front of us. Time to level up ladies ✨
I wish I would’ve found this video 4 months ago! I put myself in the middle ground like “yeah we can be friends” & that’s where I messed up and got emotionally attached! I’ve definitely learned my lesson!
It took me a long time to figure out the difference between attraction and love. As simple as that may sound sometimes people are just attracted to one another and nothing more.
This is absolutely spot on. As someone who's been in the middle ground several times I understand exactly how this works. I'm glad to hear my instincts being backed up this time with what I knew was true.
Thank you Stephan!!! I am recovering from being a serial situationship dater. I wish to be clean from this habit. Thank you for your videos and helping your audience grow through positive, encouraging messages. Blessings.
"You still have to leave his Ass alone"!! Thank you for what you do, you are so down-to-earth, and we can feel that you really want to help people. Thank you!!
I love this ♥️...this is exactly what I had to do...He didnt know if he wanted me after 4 months...I forgave him for his behaviour and moved on...God is good !!!
Dodged a bullet just now with an old friend. 🤦🏾♀️Whew Chile! If you let someone talk long enough they will tell you all that you need to know about them! 🤷🏾♀️😂
omgggg thank you so much. this was SO helpful and you addressed some of the nuance i was really struggling with ie. he’s saying he doesn’t want a relationship/doesn’t know what he wants but tells me i’m special and treats me like a queen. so confusing! i ended things because i recognized there was no way i could do a middle ground and this is confirming i did the right thing. thank you! 😘
Some of us are just not ready and we healing from a past relationship, so we saving you from out internal issues we dealing with and it's out of respect to not waste your time.
@@studyingeducation8438that's understandable if the man keeps the distance from the start, but if you are the one keeping the distance, saying the obvious (your divorce is too recent, you're not ready yet), asking to keep things platonic and not flirt, and the man still goes after you for 5 months, flirts heavily, jokes about marriage, to finally say "I'm not ready for a relationship yet" once you start letting your guard down (we never got physical, not even a kiss), then it just seems mean. He even seemed sad that I don't believe that he really likes me but simply isn't ready (his words), and I simply believe he doesn't like me enough. Either way it doesn't matter.
So glad I came across this message confirming that I made the right decision in walking away from a man who, after nearly four years of showing him what I offer, tells me he's not ready for a relationship but wants to continue having sex. It took a little while because I had gotten so emotionally wadded up in his misleading behavior and the sex that I believed he was lying when he told me that. I eventually did wise up and walk away from him and have been laser-focused on my own personal growth & spiritual development. I couldn't be happier.
I watch this over and over ..needed this ...Most men I meet just can’t see themselves being responsible..I don’t judge when they say they stay with their mother or grandmother ..but I’m starting to see a pattern with the irresponsible behavior....ty
I probably watched this video 10 times. Everything you said, hurt me so bad, but I needed to feel the pain deeply in order to finally move on. Thank you!
Great advice! Women should keep their options open without attaching themselves to men. If men are serious, they will put in the work and seal the deal
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Please hw do I get to talk to you I really need ur help
Thank you for this message I really needed to hear this 🫶🙏
Walk away when he say he doesn't want a relationship.
No benefits! no nothing!
Walk away!
Yess
Yup - no contact from the day he told me
You took the words right out of my mouth. I went around about way saying "I respect your request all the way."
But read in between the lines, sir. No rights. No privileges. No favors. No feeling, touching, kissing or smoozing next to me.
Nothing. And if I hug you, it will be a "side hug" like I do with some of those men in the church.
And no friendship either!! 🙌🏻
@@annemarie7203 that too.
Whenever i hear a man saying they aren’t ready for a relationship the “with you” is silent.
so good!!!👏👏👏👏👏👏
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Powerfully said .
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 girl fucking PREACH!!!! They never tell the WHOLE TRUTH🙄
Facts! A guy I cared about said that to me, and claimed it had nothing to do with me. I told him, you don't want me. Their actions let you know they mean the "with you" part. Some of them say other excuses or sugar coat it. But it all boils down to, they don't want a relationship "with you". They hurt lots of women in the process. I learned the hard way.
He's not ready for a relationship but ALWAYS ready to pull his pants down.
That's why we have to walk away
Lol they always ready for that
Respect your self and walk away. Most importantly, keep your legs close. And get to know him . Lastly, if he walks away during this time ... he wasn't the one for you. The one for you will see you for more than sex. A woman can go a long time without sex than a man.
@@jackierumph6963 I've been celibate for quite some time so I'm good. I have never met a male who has sexual self control. They act like they will literally die if they don't get it. They can get it from someone else.
There are way too many narcissists in the world, both genders. I have had more than my share of that too. Just tired of ppl in general. Had to fire so called friends for being narcs too. The world is a dark, ugly place and there seems to be very limited space for those of us who are not predators.
big time.
REJECTION is protection. If they don't want to be a part of your life, it simply means life is trying to protect you from this person. Let life happen by letting them walk away. Nobody can stop you from being a loving person even if they don't want you.
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Thank you for your words of enlightenment.
AMEN! AMEN! AMEN!
Thank you. I needed this.
These guys out here often have a good thing in front of them but always come back when it’s too late.
Oh woman do the same. Trust.
I had to take a look at myself and run from these serial baby daddy who have nothing to offer me. Value yourself.
@@D878D5g7 yes of course but this video is for women, so of course shes gonna speak about the woman's perspective.
Shin
true. But I do think if woman were more self aware and understood that they do the exact same thing they wouldn’t take it so personally. We all pass up on good things. That personal simply wasn’t where they needed to be in life to see that you were a good thing. But I hear you.
They come back when they’re not even on your mind anymore and by that time you’re already moved on and doing something totally different in your life
Ladies move on once he tells you this. Men will keep you as a place holder if you allow it. They will reap the benefits without a commitment.
THIS IS THE ONE!
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Yep!!!
He told me he wasn't ready for a relationship and the next thing I found out, he has another relationship, lmao
Ugh it always happens like that.
So hurtful...they should just be honest
He hella friendzoned me a year after being in love and getting all the benefits. Now we're in an awkward friendship 💀
Yup that part
Same thing happened to me and I'm really trying honestly to deal with this
If he's not ready for a relationship ladies move on! Don't let him waste your valuable time. And he definitely don't need any cookies if you know what I mean. Keep loving you and a good man will come alone. You're beautiful 😍🤩
@@CherrellMishelle Absolutely! I agree with you totally. I've been there before and it's very frustrating when you have gained feelings for him. So now that I'm older and I experience this before it made me much wiser. But keep in mind love you're the prize and his loss!🥰
Love Pink yes I need to remember that I deserve better
Vice versus for men
@Paul Hogue I've never said that all a man want is sex. In this video I was under the impression that he was talking about men not being ready for a relationship. I'm saying don't let him waste your time and reap benefits that people do in committed relationships. If he's not ready and she is then why is he even wasting her time?
@@Lily59265 absolutely!
He doesn’t want a relationship with you. Most times it’s a blessing that allows you to be free.
If he's not ready to give you what you need, then you don't need to be giving him what he wants.....man that hit hard.
Put on your track shoes and keep moving Ladies.....you are not the one for him.
RUN
Cruel.
When he says he doesn't want a relationship, believe him! U can't change a man.
This is why I keep my legs closed until consistency is shown over a few months
@EnJoy Life And Smile 🤣😥
That doesn't always work bc they can act right for months until you give it up and change.
@@SR77736 No, cause most men who just after that one thing; will fall off eventually. Women give it up like it going out of syle now
Consistensy can be broken. Ask my ex. He was all in, especially in the beginning, until poof, things changed for one dumb reason or another.
I’d rather the men who say that than the men who say they’re ready for a relationship and really aren’t
You such a Class act.
Most ladies giving testimonies about how they wasted their time is because most of you ladies like to be lied to.I know this might sound off but I once asked my female friends if they would appreciate a man who walks up to them and Tells them They liked them and would love to have sex with them and no relationship than a man who plays goodie goose and still ends up doing what the Former suggested. You will be shocked with the responses I got.
Bottom line as a grown up man I have learned to say what I feel and not please a lady just because I don't wanna hurt her
@@coachobispersonalworkoutti2223 Met someone with your mindset years ago and consider him honorable.Few people give options and so few appreciate honesty.If one can choice to either play or walk can't get more honorable than that.
At OBI's Gym maybe I’m a little different because I would prefer for both examples to just not even approach me at all.
Stephanie Oreo I actually Kinda agree with you I’d rather neither one approach me. But sometimes let’s say it’s someone you know or y’all seen each other a few times or on social media. And y’all both feelings each other in that case I’d rather the guy tell me he just wants to have sex so I’ll know to not look his way anymore 😂
It means that he’s just not that into you. Period
Even if he tells you u are beautiful, and loves your personality lol.. oh and gets you flowers snd wants to hang out with you 😂 are people crazy
I’m just tired of attracting this same situation over and over again. It’s always the same thing, “ I’m not ready for a relationship” how do I attract someone that is !!!
Feels!
Great question!
same I'm over it..I am fully mentally ready, grown, healed but I keep attracting nonemotionally guys, or I am not ready guys I am tired it's not fair
@@Non_Anya yes i feel you girl !
Most men aren’t, and the few that do have no choice but to only pick one lol
I totally agree. Use this time to build and work on you. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen. Go to school x start a business, write a book, mediate, get closer to God during this time.
Thank you my Friend. I was just told this last week. I’m gonna get my mind busy working on myself. Thank You ♥️. I joined a church group also
..... and besides building on yourself, be open to dating other men (do NOT still wait for him to cone back. Let him go).
An ex came back into my life a few months ago. We were 100% behaving like we were in a relationship BUT, like he told me 15 years ago and again now in 2020 he does not want a relationship.
I realized I’d hate myself a year from now if I let it carry on. Stung like crazy to let him go (again) but I heard him. I believed him. We haven’t spoken since.
Let. Him. Go!
You didn’t let him go. You never had anything with him. All of this seems much too simple.
Im in a similar situation...he left n came back now with a child...its crazy...it hurt me even more... im not tolerating that at all..
He had his chance,,thats it for me.
Keep The Change
Touché
Gurl you did your thing
Why did he leave then come back 😭
If he's not ready to give you what you need then stop giving him what he wants. Ufff Stephan!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
“Let’s see where this goes “ is a sign , most men from the start know what they want with the woman they are dealing with
I actually cannot believe the timing of this video in my life.... I already knew everything you said in the video myself but to have you upload this now and hear your words I feel like is a sign from God telling me to let go
Same situation ☺️🙌🏾.. God is definitely always on time
Ditto! 🙏🏽❤️
Same wow
I agree. It came when I needed it the most
Gods timing is perfect...not always what we want or when we want it...But HE knows and sees what we don't!! Listen to the song by Riley Clemmons ...YOU WILL NEVER STOP FIGHTING FOR ME... This song says it all, much love to u all ♥️🙏👑
The truth hurts but it is what it is. You rather hurt now for a sec vs. later on when you've invested more time and emotions. We can lie to ourselves trying to make something out of nothing. Believe what he says and LET IT GO!!!😊 We have to value ourselves more, self love is key, don't settle. We don't settle on shoes, clothes, car, house etc. So don't settle for the sake of having a man.
Sheelah A oooh well said, I never settle with anything else in life but for a toxic man I somehow become so weak. Not anymore. It’s been five days since I walked away and I hope to have the strength to NEVER look back!
@@BeautiDefined Good for you. You can do it. God has more in store for you😊
Yup! After being in a 6 month relationship, where in the beginning she wanted the relationship, then she pulled away and then said, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now. You deserve better". My only response was, "thank you for your honesty, I do deserve better, and thank you for realizing that that isn't you"... and i walked!
Wow, reverse that and that was MY situation 😡 sorry you dealt with a non-committed asshole.
This was God speaking to me through this video
I agree! He sent this video at the right time.
Amen!
Same for meeee 😉👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
He asked me to focus on his actions. I did. In the end, I broke it off after he said again that he is not into relationship. His parting words, I'm going to miss you terribly.
I called if quick. He was a good guy, the commutation was great. But I felt something was hold him back. So I was honest with him and and told him I felt like he was holding back. He explained he’s only 4 yrs divorced and did not want a relationship. I told him he still had some healing to do, and let him know I wasn’t interested in anything casual. We parted friends, and I truly hope he can heal and find his happiness one day.
Yes the friend zone is a trap. That’s why I cut ✂️ them off cold turkey 🦃
ive been dealing withe this "im not ready for a relationship" for the past 9 months.. yet we act as if we are together... vacations, trips, meeting family, traveling... I've already fell for him after 6 months of dating.. the 5 times i brought up the topic of wanting to build and have a relationship, it leads to an argument 🙄 im so fed up with excuses of him saying he left his 6 year relationship a year ago .. im seriously done with waiting... thanks to this advice i think its time to let him go
Any updates? Lol sry for being nosy
@@adavlora3801 i continued to talk with him.. its been over a year and its the same thing. he not ready.. just yesterday i broke it down and told him ima start dating others and he should take the time to figure out what he wants to do and hopefully if he figures it out, ill still be available.. but until then we need to distance ourselves... he seemed very upset and shocked
@@blusapphire660 he seemed shocked because he wouldn't have full access to you alone no more and you realized your worth👏🏽👏🏽
@@blusapphire660 any updates ?
@@ddanielle9182 sadly he was messing around with another person while we were *talking* I did find out.. nd cut him off.. he was extremely apologetic because he realized what he lost...he decided to show me that he's trustworthy and ready for a relationship.. We've been together since August last year.. everything is amazing.. we live together and we are working on a future together ❤️
The purple shirt looks very nice on you!!!
Stephan Speaks your welcome!!
@bigjayking24 that so true i been hurt by this guy tell he dont want relationship he going true some issues with is self and he say can get over is pass and trust issues
If they aren't 'ready' he shouldn't be dating or getting with women period.
Right !!!!
So a woman can date casually but, a man can't? You sound dumb.
@@richardharper2348 different strokes for different folks bro. And they scream that equality crap like gospel.
Exactly! And man, do I know this.
@@richardharper2348 tbh in society standards, tell me society treats women in their 30s the same as men in their 30s.
As soon as the words I’m not ready for a relationship leaves his mouth make a run for it ladies! Not worth the heartbreak, confusion , pain and depletion of self esteem which is what will happen if you decide to stick around
He said to me,"You will make a great wife or girlfriend for another man one day"!.....Those were his exact words......Crushed my soul because in that your saying I'm just not good enough for you......Thank You Stephen. This has really broken me.. I have had some failed relationships and I always give my heart away to those who are so undeserving of it... I have decided to remove myself from the dating world. Put my guard back up. Practice Celibacy and heal....I really have some healing to do....
My current situation I’m mentally exhausted given too much and got nothing in return
It still hurts, But with maturity, and prayers, we can move on. You will be fine, and there is your purpose out there.
That second part, and "YOU still gotta leave his ass alone!" yup. The friends shit doesn't work. It's a trap. Don't do it. Just move on, block his ass, so he doesn't play with your heart strings. He will call you private, email you or show up at your door when he is ready. If that day never comes, at least you moved on.
"Either way, leave him alone" !!!
He told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship then a few months later he said he was thinking of moving things forward with me...his words changed but his actions never did. I think he’s bread crumbing me 😔☹️
Time to exit i was in the same situation and when i finally said i had enough he really said oh youre not going to wait i said hell no im not waiting nor trying to convince any one to be in a relationship with me then he tried to spin it as im giving him an ultimatum smh i said walking away isnt an ultimatum its an ending and i havent looked back nor regretted doing so
Letrice Lynch I like that “ walking away isn’t an ultimatum, it’s an ending” I needed to hear that. Thanks
Let him go babygirl. Make peace with the red flags.
I’d tell him “fuckboy, you’re yesterday’s trash. I’ve moved on up Next!” 😂
I think he's lying. Period. Crumbs or no crumbs. Crumbs are for bums. You're not a bum. Let him keep the crumbs. Bars! Lol!
This video is GOLD and came at the right timing. Just decided to walk away from a guy who said he didn’t want a relationship right now. His response was “ okay, sounds good” If he really wanted me he wouldn’t have let me go.
This is from 3 years ago but it was recommended to me today, in the very hour I was needing it the most. What an answered prayer.
Unfortunately, I learned this the hard way but I'm glad I walked away. Thanks Stephen. 🙏🏾❤
You’re not alone with that😩
The same thing happened to me.move on..
Me too 😫
Wait he said “ you still have to leave his ass alone” 🤣🤣 I wasn’t expecting that....good one🤣🤣
Lol that took me out. I wasn't expecting that either he made sure and said that quickly.
You are 100%!! stop dealing with him. Shut it down. Cut off contact of needed so you can heal. It doesn't matter why he is not ready.. the point is he is not for you.
A man or woman will tell you what they really want if you just listen, pray and pay attention.
Peaches N creme yup
True dat
It's just that simple
Yep and make sure to pay attention to the inconsistency between actions and words.
Home truth
Is this equivalent to “lets take things slow” but doing everything like yall in relationship .ex( calling everyday, seeing multiple times a week, wants to be around your child but your against it unless yall are committed” he was dating me for 4 months and I learned long ago men know quickly. He wanted the bond but didn’t want to provide the title. I said to him from the beginning what my deal breakers were and being uncommitted in month 5 or 6 was a no go. He was still stalling but said he was exculsive to me. Um no sir this is not a situationship. You gone give me both the bond and title and not one with out the other. I bounced in month four and he is now blocked. I been through too much men will not waste my time. If you not ready by month 4 of dating 4-5 times and its like we in a relationship just without the title you are wasting my time and you need to move out the way so the man for me can find me. You either put a title or I move on no ifs anda or buts
Yes been there done that. Means the exact same thing “why you trying to rush things”, “let’s just go with the flow and see what happens”, “ I just got out of a 10 year relationship”, “I mean I don’t like to share, so if you sleep with someone else I’m done”, “I just can’t be the man you need me to be right now”, “I just want to be selfish right now”, “ I love you, I’m just not in love with you”;...........need anymore lines?!? Anything that sounds even REMOTELY close to any of those DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME!!!!! I’m just warning you baby girl because no one ever warned me. I even waited to give him the cookie and still wasted a year of my life I can NEVER get back. If he’s not convicted or consistent with what he says. His words or actions don’t match, it’s a red flag to just leave him alone. You will find your lifetime partner, just be patient🥰🥰
Yes queen 🙌🏾
I wish I could walk away it’s hard
Yeahhh.. I learned this the hard way. I’m just glad he respected me enough to let me go, instead of keeping me there and being toxic. Doesn’t make it any easier tho.
I have been watching these kinds of videos since I was in high school. Word of advice: If you are 25 and under girl just relax. Let go and let flow. Live your life to make you happy not spending time trying to get things you want outta people (i.e commitment). People (not just a man) will gravitate towards you for that. Some of you are so unhappy because you’re not watching these with the intention to weed out what you don’t want. You’re stuck on trying to manipulate and make a square peg fit into a round hole. He’s not ready? Believe him. Now either relax and enjoy it for what it is or leave.
I was believing that this person wanted a relationship with me I was falling for it giving him all the passion he wanted...I asked him what he wanted he told me he didn't want a relationship so I had to let him go I really loved him but if he didn't want a relationship with me and all he wanted was my passion I didn't want a any kind of relationship with him either.
I just recently got a divorce from my high school sweetheart of ten years. We grew apart and i am now navigating the dating scene. I use the “I’m not ready for a relationship” line. Even though I am not lying what Stephen said is %100 correct. If a woman is looking for a relationship and your not just leave them alone fellas. There are some women who are just looking for a good time.
This happened to me today. A guy chased me for two years and when i finally gave him my number , we talked and he started saying shit like “ how i was gonna cook for him and etc “ i asked him what exactly did he want from me . This fool said Just a vibe . I vibe right off the phone lol
“A vibe right off the phone” 🤣🤣
I’m DEATH here 😹😹😹 good move sis
Who else is single and listening to him preach???? After watching all your videos I think it’s safe to say I know what I want from my future relationship/marriage. Thank you!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Amen
True 💯 don’t hang around waiting for him to change his mind...
DUDE THIS IS THE BEST VIDEO FOR SINGLE PEOPLE DATING!!! OMG I NEED TO SAVE THIS VIDEO!!💜💜💜 SUCH WISDOM!
Yes Stephan you could not have said it any better ,this message is confirmation for a current situation I was dealing with a week ago . Ladies we must move on and get back to Magnifying God ,loving self and building character ❗️
Dealing with this right now! All happy in a relationship then out the blue I don’t know what I want, like WHAT??? He’s not the one for me!
After years in this relationship it goes from love, then the next week he doesn't want a relationship....Hurting
Fellas just be single until you know she is the one. When shes the one then make that ONE time commitment. Don't over commit before you get married. That's a double commitment. Just find the ONE to do it ONCE.
Agree to
Wow! Thank you for sharing this. I had to make the decision to walk away from a guy who told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship very recently. I truly believe he just wasn’t ready, but I still decided to end all ties with him. I really liked him but I didn’t want to waste my time.
I was told that last year where I made the mistake of falling for a coworker. I've known him for three years. I express my feelings and he said he wasn't looking for a relationship. I told him fine I'll find someone else sorry for wasting yours and my time. Haven't talked since and he's mad that I moved on and don't give him the time of day. Oh well
Yep! He done told us ladies.. we who have ears let us hear!
I am glad i realised while we are still friends that he doesn't love me like that. Now he just tries to get back into my life and i dont have time for him. I cried too much. I can't make a guy love me.
Sir thank you for always keeping it so real with us. LADIES you gotta listen to him when it comes to relationship advice *no truer words have ever been spoken* How do I know? Everything he said I’ve experienced verbatim in this video recently. It’s a hard pill to swallow but please ladies you cannot take it personal. Look at it this way “A mans rejection is God’s protection” because it very well might be. You haven’t been rejected, *you’ve been rescued!*
I am crying. This is exactly what i am going througt at this moment. I really loved him, but as he said he is not really for a relationship i felt soo bad and asked me if something is wrong with me. Thank you very much Stephan for your words🙏❤👍
I had a guy tell me he NEVER wants a relationship, so I turned around and walked off. He came after me saying “well, maybe”. LOL……no thanks!
Hi Stephan, thank you for your videos. I recently went "no contact" with a friend I was dating (situationship, thanks for your videos on that). I did it because 9 months had passed between our respectful dissociation (he had a new job move out of state, was not in the position to be in a serious relationship /not with me atleast) and I am still attracted to him. I don't want to be friends with him in this state for fear of manipulating him or for being vulnerable because I am soft towards him while our friendship continues on. We never had more than a month of not communicating since then, we would "check in" every now and then. A month and a half ago, he messaged me on my former best friends birthday, she is the one who introduced us many years ago. I felt salty about it because I "assumed" he saw it was her birthday and thought of me to check in. Totally unconfirmed assumption. Anyway, I that day I decided hey I will go no contact for three months to heal from this friend's with benefits dating situationship and move on.. In the past six weeks he has contacted me several times and called once to check in. Like I said we ended respectfully and there are no hard feelings, I knew he was just out of a serious relationship and moving cross country and still decided to date him, I even visited him in his new town as I was figuring out how to get a job out there as well for my own reasons. That is where we ended things, I wanted more, he was emotionally lacking, I was emotionally needy and over compensating with sex, though I felt empty because I felt like he was consumed with his job. I'm asking, why is this acquaintance turned date turned back to friend still contacting me? We live far apart and there is no reason to be in contact anymore, we weren't close friends, but we knew each other for a decade. I can say I was very lustful toward him and attracted to his intelligence. The other issues I was not content with therefore our reason to end things logically made sense - we are physically distant and not ready for a relationship. The "no contact" rule hasn't really changed anything on my end, I still feel friendly toward him, now I'm just looking at his text and not replying. I don't have a strong urge to contact him but I do have an urge to resolve what it is about this person I can't let go of. Why stay friends with an ex? My past several hookups have been situationships for several years since my last and only seriously relationship. I am glad to realize that I have been serial situation-dating and I wish to stop that all together and gain the confidence to know my boundaries and declare when I am attracted to someone, something I'm always been afraid of. Thanks for your time. Blessings.
Yeah this all sounded very toxic
This exactly what I’m going through now. I recently was dating this guy i knew from years ago and he came back showing me so much better . We were so connected . It’s many times I felt like how do I know he not going to do the same thing. We were bickering about his past and friendships that’s no good for him. I gave him respect and he just couldn’t see how I just wanted the best for him. I noticed that he lied to me about stuff and I broke it off but I really thought like I love him he’s been around family I can move past this . I know in the past I had trust issues but I thought really love him I can move past this. He basically told me that he wasn’t ready bc he needed to heal. Of course I’m broken bc I fell for him but the first part and the second part of this video really helped me a lot. He apologized and told me it wasn’t me and like he owed me the respect to face me but I was too heart broken to face him . I still was hurt because I know some stuff just was typical male behavior and Where I messed up at was I been knew he wasn’t ready based of his past . I really should’ve trusted myself and not allowed myself to get this deep knowing deep down in my heart he wasn’t ready for the woman I am. I really appreciate this video because it’s helping me get through this pain I’m feeling. Definitely Great Advice
Bro I love love love ur work...u've taken me away from a dark place and would love to thank u for that...so powerful and tru..thank you...👊🏿👊🏿..please keep up the good work...we need it..
@@MeetStephanSpeaks in a very big way....
What is it that you LOVE about his work? I’m curious. 🤷🏽♀️
@@keepthechange1 a lot of things I was over looking in healing myself. I hated love and hated the feeling of falling back into love. Felt vulnerable an weak. He broke it down to me in a way where i understand that the person was the one that hurt me not love...love don't hurt people do...and from then I understood...
carlyle bigby Bless your heart. I totally understand. Once we learn and accept how Love truly works, and that Love is action, it’s smooth sailing. Prayerfully, you will not allow anyone to cheat you out of the Love that was designed especially for you. It’s out here, and waiting to make your acquaintance. I promise. ☺️
God bless you. 🙏🏽❤️
@@keepthechange1 thnx. I know
‘Do not get caught up trying to play the middle ground because your only going to play yourself’ realest shit ever. I know this now... if only I would have known this 3 years ago.
Well if a man says that just let him go. I mean when a man says he’s not ready that’s exactly what it is he’s not ready. There is no trying to change his mindset or else. It’s a waist of time you’ll spend more time proving that you’re worth a change of mind than actually being in a relationship with him...just let him go...
This is confirmation for me I had to let someone go who I truly loved cause he said the same thing I know my worth thank you stephan
Cmon somebody!!! This was MORE than a word!!!!
So after prayer this morning and pouring out to God, I came back to this message again and again. I then decided to completely plagiarize almost verbatim what was said. It has only been two months in, with phone conversations only, due to it being LD. I had to be completely honest with myself with the way things are. You are correct on so many fronts. There is no way we can say, it's just going to be a friendship and not get emotionally invested. So before it gets there, I'm out. Thank you for allowing me to use your words to communicate mine.
Currently experiencing this and the truth hurts but I had to let go! 🙌🏽 Thank you 🙏🏽
How I do it I’m trying it’s hard I feel so sad n depressed
@@sabrinalar3111 me too it is so hard to walk away ):
I meet someone 3 months ago from the start he new i wanted a relationship and he told me he didnt want one with any woman...he said he does not want boundaries ect....we spent so much time together...he was treating me like in his girlfriend. Its so hard as we have a special bound and a connection we get on so well....
But the last month he has been distant....just switched up on me i really like him...
He saying that he wants me in his life....its all confusing to where ive had to cut him off as it was too drain full now im just working on me....but i feel so hurt by it as he is a lovely guy...but im glad i watch this video thank you just what i needed to hear...
GOD sent you right in time to bless my life BRO! i've been following you on instagram and listening and reading your messages for a couple of months , and I've been so amazed! thank you with all my heart for living your purpose STEPHAN !!! GOD BLESS you and your beloved ones infinitely!
This is the one of the best video I have seen, letting go is the most peaceful thing ever. Not just physically but mentality accepting it and move on.
Yes, this just happened to me. I finally just ended it. He would always say, he not ready for a relationship; but his actions would show differently. I told him “no more” and I meant it. Now, I’m just praying that whenever he calls; I will have the strength to not even respond. Right now I’m strong, but in two weeks and beyond; I’m hoping this strength will still be here.
What happened?!? Updates?
@@BrooklynBaby100 Girl! He’s blocked, I never looked back. It’s all about your self worth at the end of the day 💚
Yes after me ignoring the red flags I was hurt. He wasn't ready, I was stupid. I learned this time for sure!!👍🏽🙋🏽♀️
Thanks I needed to hear this today..
Men know what they want & if he isn't committing to you or making you his gf or wife then you're not the one! We have to pay attention and focus on what's in front of us. Time to level up ladies ✨
I wish I would’ve found this video 4 months ago! I put myself in the middle ground like “yeah we can be friends” & that’s where I messed up and got emotionally attached! I’ve definitely learned my lesson!
He said that because he is part of playing games with my situation. No don't do anything.
It took me a long time to figure out the difference between attraction and love. As simple as that may sound sometimes people are just attracted to one another and nothing more.
This is absolutely spot on. As someone who's been in the middle ground several times I understand exactly how this works. I'm glad to hear my instincts being backed up this time with what I knew was true.
Thank you Stephan!!! I am recovering from being a serial situationship dater. I wish to be clean from this habit. Thank you for your videos and helping your audience grow through positive, encouraging messages. Blessings.
"You still have to leave his Ass alone"!! Thank you for what you do, you are so down-to-earth, and we can feel that you really want to help people. Thank you!!
I love this ♥️...this is exactly what I had to do...He didnt know if he wanted me after 4 months...I forgave him for his behaviour and moved on...God is good !!!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
Thank you Stephan!! We got to stop fooling ourselves....walk away completely...
Dodged a bullet just now with an old friend. 🤦🏾♀️Whew Chile! If you let someone talk long enough they will tell you all that you need to know about them! 🤷🏾♀️😂
omgggg thank you so much. this was SO helpful and you addressed some of the nuance i was really struggling with ie. he’s saying he doesn’t want a relationship/doesn’t know what he wants but tells me i’m special and treats me like a queen. so confusing! i ended things because i recognized there was no way i could do a middle ground and this is confirming i did the right thing. thank you! 😘
A man doesn't lie when he says that he isn't ready for you.. It means he isn't mature enough and wants to behave like a kid or a loser.. Let it go
Some of us are just not ready and we healing from a past relationship, so we saving you from out internal issues we dealing with and it's out of respect to not waste your time.
@@studyingeducation8438that's understandable if the man keeps the distance from the start, but if you are the one keeping the distance, saying the obvious (your divorce is too recent, you're not ready yet), asking to keep things platonic and not flirt, and the man still goes after you for 5 months, flirts heavily, jokes about marriage, to finally say "I'm not ready for a relationship yet" once you start letting your guard down (we never got physical, not even a kiss), then it just seems mean. He even seemed sad that I don't believe that he really likes me but simply isn't ready (his words), and I simply believe he doesn't like me enough. Either way it doesn't matter.
So glad I came across this message confirming that I made the right decision in walking away from a man who, after nearly four years of showing him what I offer, tells me he's not ready for a relationship but wants to continue having sex. It took a little while because I had gotten so emotionally wadded up in his misleading behavior and the sex that I believed he was lying when he told me that. I eventually did wise up and walk away from him and have been laser-focused on my own personal growth & spiritual development. I couldn't be happier.
I needed this today, right now at this moment! Thank you, I believe in what's meant to be in divine timing❤
I watch this over and over ..needed this ...Most men I meet just can’t see themselves being responsible..I don’t judge when they say they stay with their mother or grandmother ..but I’m starting to see a pattern with the irresponsible behavior....ty
Wow. That is a hard pill to swallow. But its so true. Thank u for this msg. Took me 6 yrs to realize it. Wish i heard this msg sooner. Lol 😅
I probably watched this video 10 times. Everything you said, hurt me so bad, but I needed to feel the pain deeply in order to finally move on. Thank you!
Whew you just talked me off the ledge... I was in my head for a second 😩
I needed this message today. I got the “not ready to be in a relationship” text last night
Great advice! Women should keep their options open without attaching themselves to men. If men are serious, they will put in the work and seal the deal
He told me this literally everything you said he told me he's is very honest and I respect that
He not ready ladies love yourself respect your self you deserve better rejection is God's protection 💦🤔
Amen
Lastnight I spoke to God about this exact subject and here you are ! This is exactly what I needed to hear !!
Thank you Stephen, for your words of wisdom.