REBOUND RELATIONSHIPS! (The Love Chat)
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
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Hang in there guys, We are the prize!
RORY I used to be in a dark place it’s been a couple years since I’ve felt the need to binge ur videos. But if I see it pop on my feed I like. Ur the best homie.
God bless my man
Could you talk about situationships? I was in one for over a year and while I knew it would end I’m still having trouble dealing with the loss. There was love expressed by both of us but he left me for someone else. While he says it wasn’t really cheating because our relationship was casual and was always going to end It still felt like a betrayal and a year later I’m still dealing with the hurt. He’s also a neighbor that I have to see every day with this girl so a few tips on how to deal with that would also be helpful 😁
This is part of love addiction. Those that have it never find true love.
They're running from themselves. And the more they run, the farther they have to run, the faster they have to run. I used to be a love addict. But I took a stand by facing myself.
@@MidnhtCrzrwhat do you mean the faster they have to run ?
The thing with rebounds is that it’s not the real thing. It’s not real, natural attraction. It’s based on false hope and build on sand.
My ex told me 2,5 months later that she’s happy with someone new. I was devastated because we actually got closer and got along better again. Then she blocked me and 1 week later she dumped him. So as you can see, rebounds are just being used for them to get over the pain and then they break it off. Rebounds are build on nothing. Don’t worry!
Did she come back to you/unblock you?
Did she just use the rebound to "get over" you easier and start dating other people? Or after she dumped the rebound, did she actually came back?
I know someone who a few weeks after getting into his current Long Distance Rebound, started complaining about the time and distance to her house (she lives over an hour away one way in another state), along with how she complains about being here in the states. He also discovered that she has a hair-trigger temper and has embarrassed him in public. Right before the holidays he got into a physical confrontation with HER ex- which resulted in him walking away and creating distance from her because he no longer felt safe at her house, then started hooking up with someone who lives closer to him (*When you get into an altercation with someone over someone, that is NOT the someone for you no matter what side you're on in the fight*). Chances are everyone in his close circle of friends all know and can see that he's rebounding hard and fast and he's most likely not happy with the decision he made to involve himself in this LDR which is fading fast in front of his eyes. He also knows he made a bad decision however his EGO won't allow him to acknowledge this and end it even though his guilty conscious is telling him otherwise which is why he's currently conflicted and confused.
My ex rebounded on me after 4 yr relationship and was dating in the same week with a low value low hanging fruit family friend. She has been dating him for 4 months. She had reached out to me 2 times in 4 months. Recently saying she is moving fast with her new guy and then told me missed me and loved me and was sad talking to me. But then told me 3-4 times how happy she was now. Like she was trying to convince herself she was. And if you are moving on then why call me and spend an hour on the phone? Also Ive been in no contact the entire time outside of speaking to her dad on occasion which i have now stopped doing.
Really well said and informative. Like to check up on this channel every once in a while to motivate myself.
I mean she jumped into a relationship 2 weeks later and they've been together 6 months now so I doubt its a rebound at this point.
Rebounds last up to a year. After a 1yr it’s not a rebound. Look into Thais Gibson attachment styles
@@dillonshuffle I mean whatever I gotta just move on. I'm no second option.
Thais Gibson talks about it I believe it’s the fearful avoidant in the rebound. Some people don’t want to go through another breakup so they may try harder to keep the rebound going.
Your ex does think about you.
I was in a rebound relationship that lasted for 8 years. Our marriage was a disaster. They always fail.
@@jckrabbitslimmm I wouldn’t say that’s rebound. Look into Limerence.
Monkey branching is when someone looks for another partner while in a relationship. Rebound is a relationship that happens soon after the breakup.
I don’t know if this channel talks about limerence but definitely google it and watch other coaches talk about it. Limerence can last for years…
No Rory, her rebound did work, she din't behave in the way normal people do, i did try coaching with you, did everything by the books and nothing came my way!... I am still here.
I just keep loosing loved ones... I am not there, in the breakup, nor in the funerals. I am not the same. But I certainly feel... lost, cheated and bitter by seeing how the person that gave up on me in my darkest days, is happy after and by the action that put me down... while I keep struggling, and fighting every single f*cking day, alone.
Sorry everyone, I'm not hating... Idk I guess this time my venting was through a comment in youtube, eventhough I sound like a victim, god I hate being it. Keep the great content Rory, you were the only one there with me in my heartbreak, and i really appreciate that
YOU are the goal. NOT THEM.
any updates?
@@luiggiibanez Oh boy, yes there are. It has been two years and five months since my breakup, and I certainly don't feel the same way I did in the beginning. The last thing on Earth I would want is to be back with my ex. Anyway, this year I went back to university (I had taken a break), and guess who is in one of my classes? My ex's new partner. Oh boy, was I pissed. I have to believe that God is great because I don't know where I got the strength to not ruin my life right there (we are not even in the same career). To keep the story short, it did take a mental toll on me. Rejoining in-person classes, going hard at the gym, and constantly seeing my ex happy with someone else while completely ignoring my existence (I obviously tried to avoid her) made me feel like I was going through mud... It knocked me down... a lot... hard.
But you know what? I have found out that I will keep coming back. Realistically, what option do I have? Stay on the ground weeping? I certainly don't think so. I have failed so many goddamn times in achieving who I want to be or where I want to be, that I lost count. I still hate a lot of things about myself, and I certainly have so many demons I have not defeated. But I am accepting who I am today and where I am right now. However, I will NEVER accept that who I am and where I am is what I am doomed to be. I now acknowledge that I am full of shit, that right now this is my reality (I have found power in owning my shit and nurturing in this accpetance), but I will never accept that I will always be that way. I am working so that it's not.
So, the update is that even though she seems to be doing awesome since the breakup (yes, that makes me feel like I was the problem), even though I am still struggling, even though, despite my best efforts, I still feel very stuck, I will keep getting up, despite them. I am committed to making this change or die trying. I have to believe that one day she will pay for what she did and that I will get were i am supposed to be. I have to believe that there is a reason I am still crossing my own personal hell while they seem to be in heaven. I embrace being in hell alone and knowing that my fight is still not over. The only thing no one can thake from me, is my will to change.
Thanks for asking btw. You gave me an opportunity to vent and I feel appreciated. Wish you the best.
@@eloinpugahope u doing better each day
Rory...how do you work with major depression after a breakup? I can't seem to find to inspiration to work or wake up. 8 years of a relationship is over....going NC is very difficult. Thank you for your videos and inspiration.
My ex in her rebound now 1 year and now she's angry to me. I don't know why. She cheated at me but angry at me. She don't want to see me because we have the same company. She rather resign than to see me everyday. Why is that?
Her anger is a cover for her guilt. A female colleague of mine not long ago said to me when women lose attraction, they become irritated by the presence of their boyfriends. This happens when there is a replacement in place whom they perceived has higher sexual market value and on the process of establishing sexual connection with them. Dating is a skill and we master skill by repetition. Learn the subtle signs of women's behavior associated to loss of sexual interest so you will be able to dodge the bullet on your next relationship. This is why surrounding yourself with other women, whether they are colleagues, classmates,friends and what not will always keep them at bay of their devious plans of abandoning you
Me and my ex pretty much broke up because of intimacy issues it was the forefront of our arguments 2 months into our breakup and she's slept with a handful of randoms on tinder including her sons biological father who hasn't bothered for 4 years and is now back in the scene this couldn't have gone anyway worse for me at all , because only a few weeks back we chatted and was ready to try again and on the same night she cancelled on me (we was meant to go out for the night) she went out for a drink with another guy I feel sick I was so close! She's now blocked this woman is poison, within an hour of me leaving her house she's on snapchat asking if anyone's free because she's child free like what the fuck
She's 31 years old like messing around should have gone by now especially being a mother, I would have wished her all the best but not now I hope she attracts nothing but assholes into her life and realises she had a decent future with me
I just found out I was a rebound and it was excruciating. I always knew deep down I was once I found out how recently he had broken up with the old girl. It was pretty obvious since she wouldn’t go away and was very active in his life still. I’m very hurt and angry because I’m more impressive than the old girlfriend in every conceivable way so I find it incredibly insulting that I would be a rebound from her.
Same way I feel
Okay but can we talk about the poor rebound girl? there’s almost ZERO coach discussing abt this 😂
I'm having a hard time getting him out of my energy field. What can I do to remove him. Cutting cords don't seem to work. We do not communicate so what is going on. He is with his ex again. He wants me than she chased him till he gave in . Or he is more into money than love I guess. I'm wanting him out of my energy. Thank you. Any advice??💕💕
Go no contact. Trust me. Take your anger out at the gym. Stay busy. After a month + , you'll think differently. It's not easy but love yourself first.
When they are in a relationship but they contact me to be friends. Why?
It really depends on the particular situation and context. Can you give more info? If you're looking for more support we have opened our Discord Community. Here is the link: discord.gg/KUCeXX3uzS
Or being promiscuous
At the break up me and my ex agreed, that I will reach out when Im ready to maybe talk again/be friends. I never did. He texted few days after breaking up about something random, I told him he should not reach out since Im healing and was pretty cold. its one month after the break up and I don't think he's going to contact me because of those things... what would you do?
update?
@@fer08510 we talked again, even kissed...we see each other occasionally because we study at the same university, but he never showed enough interest to be in a relationship again and to be honest our first one wasn't that great looking back. 6 months after and I can say Im over it and realized there a many other people how can give me a much much more fulfilling relationship if I would like to be in one again. But I guess he's nosy like most people and most of the exes will have enough interest to at least stalk you online or want to get an update on your life - especially if your life is going onwards and upward :))
Hes having sex with his new girl 2 weeks after we broke up(: