If People Ever Hassle You About Your Dating Standards
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- Опубліковано 31 лип 2017
- Don't apologize for them. Don't feel the need to defend them. It's your life so if you know what you desire - stick to it!
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Our youth minister showed us this thing, we were having a 3 parter about sex and he showed us this thing that said "A woman's heart should be so wrapped up in Jesus that a man has to seek Him to find her." And I think that's correct and beautiful
Yea! I heard its like a triange, as you both draw closer to God, you will draw closer to each other.
The best polite response I've found to people who constantly say things like you're too picky/you need someone to compare with in order to know what you want/there's plenty of fish in the sea, etc is---"YEAH THERE'S PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA BUT I DON'T FISH IN UNSAVED WATERS." Makes a point and paints a picture😂🐠🌊
Best comeback ever! :D
I'm 17 and I experience this almost every week, especially when I'm in school. People always ask why I don't have a boyfriend and why my standards are so high. I personally don't think a boyfriend is a priority in the first place at 17 years old, but I am one of the only people in my school and around me that want to date to marry. If I am going to invest my time and my emotions into a relationship, I am going to make sure it is for a good reason. I'm not looking for another Jesus, and that's for sure. I'm simply looking for a guy that is going to love Jesus before me and will keep Jesus at the center of our relationship. I don't care about height, musical abilities, looks, whatever. Certainly those things help:) I've never been in a relationship simply because I haven't found that good, Christian person that I am looking for. Everyone around me is so interested in "living life," but not the life I strive to live. This is exactly the video that I needed. I needed to know that I'm not the only one that people "judge" for being single and looking for a good, Christian guy. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one that wants this and will stay strong and not settle.
Laci McElveen I recently turned 18, and I have a very similar experience to yours. I'm single and have been all my life and honestly I'm good with that I know I still have more falling in love with Jesus to do and if it is in God's plan for my life to marry, then I know he's got a guy and a time and place. I've had experiences where I've had to reject a potential relationship because I just know that God wants me all to himself at this point in my life (he's got a lot to teach me haha)
Glad to know I'm far from alone in this. It's not always easy but I know I will be a better women of God because of it.
God bless you Laci :)
Laci McElveen Girl, just be yourself and remember: the people from school will never be the part of your relationship and solve your problems if you choose the wrong guy. So, they have no right to make comments about your priorities and wishes when it comes to relationships.
Laci McElveen you're wise for your age. At 18 I wanted a boyfriend to boost my self esteem and that's a no no
I was looking for a real catholic guy. I told my friends and they said I will never find that someone because being into faith is old school. Almost 2 years ago I found the guy. And he goes to church every Sunday. Yes it was not easy to find but good real religion men still exist ladies.
As a young black female in college alot of males who I have found attractive/have found me attractive (usually of african-american descent) smoke weed. I was at a point where I started negotiating with myself saying 'oh it's not that bad' or 'at least it's nothing harder'. Well someone who doesn't smoke or do drugs was a very important MUST in my dating life for multiple different reasons. Please do not settle because you are lonely. And if you are lonely, do not fill that void with a man. Fill it with God and things you love (activities and hobbies etc.) So now I am 19, and have never dated anyone, but I am starting my fist job as a dance instructor in less than 2 weeks! And I made it a point that this year I am going to enjoy myself anf tbe company of my friends and family. I am doing just fine and so will you. No need to settle and no need to explain your standards to anyone if you don't want to! Love you all and God bless. I hope this help somone 😁
Taylor Sanders omg i sooo needed to read this! As another 19 year old African Caribbean girl who's never dated I am absolutely frustrated! I blame my singleness so much on my race, I know I wouldn't be single if I were white and blonde like emily. I am holding on to my faith by a string, but I have just enough fair left to hope that God is working in the heart of a man who loves him and lives his life in a Christ like way and will love me for who I am, and I pray the same for you as well
***** Hi Olivia, I just want you to know that you do not need to be white and have blonde hair to be attractive. Yes, I am black AND I am beautiful. I'm proud of my melanin and embrace it as such. Do not base your worth on wether or not a man finds you atrractive bc the Lord God made you in His image, which means you are beautiful. I can guarantee you that. I can tell you there was a brief period where I based my beauty on how many likes I got on instagram, or how many people snapchatted me telling me I was pretty (this was not even a week ago tbh), but there was always a void in me, like I was missing something. I was missing God. He was begging me to turn to Him, but instead I turned to the validation of boys. That will NEVER satisfy you. Just focus on God, sweetie (Im southern so I call everyone sweetie haha). Then focus on family, friends, education, and bettering yourself, and I promise you will he so busy living life and loving the Lord that these boys won't even be on your mind. 😄 I hoped this heloed you in some way. God bless 💛
"I held no judgment for men who did not share in my faith or who didn't care about their faith at all. I just knew that they were not the man for me." Beautifully said! Thank you, Emily!
Also, I have to ask, what is Daniël's opinion on peanut butter M&Ms? :)
I thank my friend for linking me to this video. I recently had a man badger me for not wanting to have sex before marriage. Why? I explained that I personally wanted to wait until I was married, and it was fine if he didn't want the same thing but that meant we wouldn't work. He insulted my values, saying I was being unrealistic and probably wouldn't find anyone. Clearly he wasn't cream of the crop based on his reaction, but it bothers me that I was clear about what I wanted, didn't lead him on, and that upset him and gave him permission to dismiss my intelligence. There are plenty of women who would be willing to make that a part of a dating relationship as it's the cultural norm now. I agree with your friend who said "I'd rather be single than settle." God is ultimately the only One who can fully satisfy my heart. That doesn't mean an "I don't need a man!" attitude, but it means I am eternally loved, so I'm not going to compromise what I believe He's calling me to do for someone who is finite and who cannot satisfy my heart.
Such a relatable video. I hate being told that my standards are too high, unrealistic, or that I'm just living a fantasy. However, I know that someday that "fantasy" will be fulfilled with a God glorifying relationship. Whereas, all the people saying it's unattainable will be settling for less and unhappy..
My ex-boyfriend (who I settled/lowered my standards for at the time) told me after we broke up that if I keep my standards as high as I aim to then I'm never going to find anyone... I'm glad that God told me to walk away though and that I had my parents reminding me of my standards and of the good things God has for me if I wait
Omg this is so great. My own father has playfully told me I am picky. I know he doesn't really mean it but it still gives me doubts like maybe I am too picky! Thank you for reaffirming the vitality of keeping my standards! #NOSETTLING
Same with abstinence and a long-distance relationship!!! People always say that it's "too hard" and "unrealistic" and that we "wouldn't last." Thank you for letting me know that what my heart desires is truly fulfilling and that I should always listen to its standards, no matter what anyone else thinks. GOD BLESS GUYS❤️❤️❤️
A good Catholic gentleman is my non-negotiable. A negotiable is liking Marvel over DC, being on Team Cap, liking Lord of the Rings, and a guy being older than me and taller than me.
Dear Em, Thanks always for your videos! All your hard work is so appreciated, and needed!
I am quite familiar with the conversations you described. One of my college (non-practicing Christian/secular) friends suggested that the reason I wasn't being asked out on dates, or finding men I liked to spend time with, was because my standards were so high. She even went so far as to say that the way I dressed modestly was communicating too high/unreachable standards *subconsciously* so that it appeared that I was "closed off" to dating.
What great joy I now have! The truth of these situations is that sticking to non-negotiable (and REALISTIC, ladies) standards will bring such happiness and peace. Lowering one's standards will not bring this. I am SO grateful that I did not lower my standards, or change for anyone (even when it seemed like it might be the faster, "better" way).
P.s. I have been in a fantastic holy relationship for a few months now, and cannot stress how grateful I am for sticking to my standards. :)
Anyone reading: Keep praying for your future spouses, and keep those bars high; I'm praying for you!
i needed this, been single for 2 weeks after breaking up with someone who wasn't sharing my love for Jesus let alone living out their faith (they have none). people keep telling me i should just give people a chance! ah!
oh man now you got me craving some peanut butter m&m's 😂
I'm happy to share mine :)
Amen! I completely agree with "I'd rather be single" because in all truth I would. People tell me I have impossible standards, but I know what I want and I know the type of man I want in my future.
It is soooo crazy that so many woman who say they want a man who is Catholic and cares about his faith are being told that they are too picky and they're going to be forever alone. Like that makes me sooo mad. These words come out only from the people who have extremely LOW standards and who don't understand how important choosing a life partner is, so they want to discourage us. Well, if they don't care about the rest of their lives, they shouldn't tell me what to do and what type of partner to pick!
I actually had this happen to me today... again. I get so frustrated when people say I am "too picky" or "narrow minded" because I want a man that loves God. I love this video, and I am so thankful you decided to make it. It is nice to know that someone else understands.
Preach it! I think it's so great that young women have you as a resource. I wish so badly there was a man who spoke on saving yourself for marriage, relationships, etc. From the Christians perspective here on youtube. There are women who do it, but I would love to find a resource to share with my brother in law who is 13. He has gone to private Christian school his whole life, and loves the Lord and knows the word, but he feels like nobody waits to date anymore and is in a rush to do so because his little friends (mostly from his neighborhood and not his school) have "girlfriends". I don't know how seriously he would take a woman's perspective compared to a man's, but I hope he waits to find the right girl!
Michelle J Jason Evert would be great to share with your brother in law
I struggled with this so much in high school. I knew what I wanted but people would tell me I needed to be more open. And when I broke up with my first boyfriend people thought I was such a bitch and he didn't deserve what I did but really I just wasn't happy and he wasn't what I wanted. I definitely have a better understanding of what I want and I'm willing to wait
It's tough in the dating world today.... I sometimes feel like I am the only single girl because I am waiting for the right Catholic guy who is sooooo in love with Jesus. People make fun of me all the time because of this, but I try to not let this bother me. I need to remember that it is God's timing and not mine... :)
Yess I have had many people tell me that my standards are too high but I have also told myself the same thing. Thanks for the reminder! Definitely a great video and wise advice!
PREACH GIRL!! I just found your channel and I have been watching all of your videos!! I have been looking for a Catholic UA-cam Channel and I'm so glad I found yours! Its so comforting to see someone living out their faith online and giving advice! I love your channel!
Really enjoy your videos on this channel , and stuebenville too . So happy that you share real life examples .
Thank you so much! You are such a beautiful soul!! 💓💓
I'm so glad I found your channel today, thanks for the encouraging videos!
Yes girl! You said it perfectly! So relatable
Awesome video! Like your friend I'm at the point where I'd rather be single than settle. I'm asked questions and hear comments and suggestions all the time. It's so encouraging to watch this and hear some solid mentor advice!
This is so helpful and so true! I have several friends who do not share in my beliefs of what dating should be, having high standards, and not just being with a guy because he's cute or he likes you. This is so refreshing and I find it so encouraging to know that there are other young women out there who hold tight to their standards like me. ❤️ It is so frustrating to explain how I feel about dating to people who think it's silly. But thank you, this is great ☺️
dear emily,
ever since I have returned from Steubenville NYC I have felt so incredibly excited about my faith. I started watching your videos and was amazed that they are so relatable and valuable to my life as a young teenager. Many of your videos talk about relationships and how to center God around them, which I love. You have inspired me to keep my standards high at a time when I was going to settle for less. Thank you so much.
Amen! I'm 20 years old and have definitely had my fair share of negative remarks about my choices in dating and in relationships. As someone who wears a purity ring and wants to wait until marriage, I've had people tell me 'I'm missing out' or that 'I'm being a prude' but honestly, it's something I feel very strongly about and know is the right choice for me. Your videos always help me realize this and help to reinforce these decisions. 💕
I get told this all the time, especially because I'm a fundamental independent baptist and my family is agnostic. Even my Christian friends tell me I'm too picky sometimes. I'm like do you understand how serious marriage is?! Who you marry is going to make you happy or miserable for the rest of your life, so I'm going to marry a man who will lead me closer to Jesus each and every day. I ain't about to marry some boy.
I highly appreciate these videos. When I settled I was extremely unhappy. Now that I have gotten closer in my faith, the right friendships have stayed around. These standards are based on values I hold near and dear to me. Thank you for this reminder.
I love your bluntness!! Your videos make so much sense and always make my day!
I love your videos so much! I'm not a christian, but i feel like i can apply your advices to other situations, like this video about settling.
WOW! So glad you posted this video before back to school season. AMAZING advice. I get often get questions about this type of thing... by now I'm fine with explaining but I remember a time when I left conversations crying because people made me feel like i thought I was too good for certain guys, or like I was going to stay single forever if I didn't lower my standards. Now I agree with the statement of "I'd" rather be single than settle". No guy is worth putting a barrier on your relationship with Jesus!
This is so true. In one of your videos, you've said how the people that comment on your choices in a negative way won't be standing at your wedding telling you you're wrong. My sister is one of these people. She tells me time and time again how I'm being 'unrealistic' and that I'm never going to get a man to marry me with these expectations. It's so nice to come online and have someone encouraging and supporting me. Thanks Emily :)
Thank you for the wonderful videos you make! Such an incouraging thought that I'm not the only one who thinks like this! Gea
I'm 32 and I still get these "you're too picky"/"you'll never find someone with those high standards" comments... even from my own family members. I have a similar attitude to your friend's: I'd rather stay single than settle. I don't understand what the rush is to get us married asap as soon as we reach the age of 25. I don't think people think that perhaps God has other plans for some of us. For me, personally, I feel like God is working in my heart to undo a lot of selfishness I acquired when I was away from the Church (from my teens through early 20s). And, as I tell people, I have to work on my relationship with God because I cannot build a family on a faulty foundation.
Anyway, thank you, Emily, for this video. I am perhaps not your core demographic but I love watching these videos because sometimes we gals need to hear it... at any and all ages. God bless!
I've recently found your channel & I am really glad I did! Keep it up ♡
I love your channel. So much.
Definitely identify with this! I don't understand why people don't understand this. Being Christian influences everything in my life. And it's so much bigger than just a hobby. I do find it very frustrating to find another Christian to date, though. Those that I have dated that claimed to share my faith weren't true followers of Christ. It's particularly hard to find a man willing to save himself for marriage. That is one of the biggest reasons my relationships with nonbelievers haven't worked out--because these men either aren't satisfied without sex or they are just waiting for me to give in. It's very difficult, especially when I fall for non believers, knowing that the person I may be in love with is not the one for me. I want my children to be raised to follow Jesus and I want my husband to encourage that and to encourage me in my walk with Christ. Excellent video Emily.
PREACH GIRLLLLL thank you.
This literally touched my heart now hearing it through a video ❤ I saw & shared your post on Instagram and I totally fell in love with it; thank you Emily ☺
I seriously can't be in a commitment that ain't encouraging me to grow spiritually ...not anymore . thankyou for this I now know im totally not crazy.....u are God sent
I found your channel recently and I just think it's really cool how honest you are, there aren't a lot of people on UA-cam who openly talk about good Christian stuff like this (and great video btw)
My friend sent me the link to this page bc this is something I talk about a lot and sometimes think maybe my standards are too high but thank you for this video bc it's not so insane to want a Catholic guy who loves Jesus and lives his faith So thank you so much
Your videos are always so eye opening and inspiring to me ❤️ keep doing what you do!
I love your advice it's so helpful even though I am not ready to date yet it's really nice to get this advice
Yup, has happened to me a lot. 33 and still single. I even got asked by my dad (on my 26th birthday) if I was attracted to women! "No, well, you're just super picky...". I confess I did compromise my standards a bit in my last relationship but the Lord has been so SO merciful in pulling me out of it, there are no words to express my gratitude! I was miserable and it wouldn't have gone any better with time, just worse. Don't settle, Christian sisters, it's really not worth the heartache!
Thanks for sharing 💕
Everyone around me are getting boyfriends, but I don't care because I know that I need to find fulfilment in myself and God rather than someone else you won't love unconditionally like him. Also I know the standards I have set out some may find unrealistic but I know there's someone out there who is all of this of the above and I just know that eventually I will find him and God will bring us together xxxx
Thank you 🙌🏻
You're awesome, girl!!
Thank you!!!!
so about a year ago i ended a relationship that i was clearly settling for. since then ive grown more in my faith and understanding of myself. during that year, i became closer with a couple at my church, and he has shown me what a Godly mad looks like. she has shown me what it looks like to be a secure woman walking with Christ. they recently got engaged =)!! i just wanted to share that with you guys!
I love my non-Christian friends sooooo much, but they can't understand why I wouldn't even consider dating a man who doesn't love Jesus. They however accepted it and now they try to set me up with Christian guus only, lol. Your message in this video is so true and so encouraging. Thank you!
What a great video. Also, peanut butter m&m's are the BEST.
I know I'm late seeing this video, but it really caught my attention. I myself use to deal with people, and still deal with people pressuring me about my standards. I don't think my standards are crazy, and unrealistic. I believe it's just right for me. I've always been driven to music from a young girl... it's like apart of me, so I would love to be with someone who's into music also or at least really love it. I think I'm an amazing person, and it took me while to believe that, but now that I see it... I want someone who's just as special as me, and I'm not taking anything mediocre. I'm just got sick of people forcing men on me just because they liked them, or because that person is a Christian. Don't get me wrong I want a Christian man, but relationships call for much more then that.... I want someone that's just right for me.
i love this!
Love your videos...they have helped me in some rough situations recently. 💔❤ God is so magnificent!
So relatable 🙌🏼
I need this for so long, i recently start a big relation with God and this makes me so happy that makes me realize how big my standards are. I dated someone who love Jesus but something went wrong and i decide to finish that part and people around me say me that im such a crazy girl bc Im never satisfied with boys... now i realize that God wants me happy and he's going to send me what a I need in the perfect time:) this videos makes so so happy!!
Oh my word this happens to me all the time haha ! My friend always tells people i'm picky because of the standards i've set.
Good Afternoon Emily,
I needed this talk you won't imagine i recently transition from a long distance friendship to relationship long distance and have been getting questioned for it since he isn't of the catholic faith , he took it upon himself after we started working on the barriers we had that created problems for us to want to wear a purity ring knowing I have had mine by God's will since the time we meet while he studied here . That to me means so much and i am so grateful that if it is part of God's plan we may one day marry.
thank you for letting me vent
Preach.
the only things on my "checklist":
1. must love God (and everything else surrounding that point of course)
2. make each other laugh
3. looks at me the way hugh grant looks at andie macdowell in four weddings and a funeral
that is all. he could be short, tall, skinny, chubby, red hair, black hair, blond or brown haired and i couldn't care less. even if all i got was the first point, i wouldn't need anything else.
oh my word hold on: "i'd rather be single than settle."
that hit me in the gut. i needed to hear that. thank you.
I can relate to this sooo much. It's so hard, but I want Jesus so much and a good catholic boy (but Jesus first!) and will be willing to wait for a boy who will share my beliefs, will pray with me and will see me as a daughter of God. Please pray for me!
Hi Emily, what do I say to people who make comments about how I am single? I'm 19 and haven't had my first kiss, but people make comments that I'm overqualified, intimidating because I'm smart, blah blah blah. I know they're trying to compliment me but it still hurts to be reminded that I still haven't found someone yet. Thanks :)
Play match maker please! Lol just kidding but not really 😂❤️ love your videos!
Hi Emily, a huge thank you for this video !! I hope for a man who loves Jesus and want to spend our lives loving Him. It is not that difficult, right ? :)
I have a question for you : what do you think about activities that "challenge lives" like parachute jumping, bungee jumping, etc. ?
Is it necessary to put our lives at risk? Or do you see it as an activity that just makes us feel we are alive?
I would love to have your point of vue, as a young catholic woman
God is great, you are a radiant daugther of God
I tell my friends about my standards and they judge me hardcore. I tell that that optimally, I would like to seriously date only one guy and they tell me that that is never ever going to happen but I feel like if I pray for my future husband and I pray that it could happen, then it should be able to.
Can you please make a video about how you spend your quiet time? I'm Anglican so I'm not sure if Catholics do this as well but would like to know :) I just get so distracted easily.
Amen!
Your videos are amazing ❤️❤️I have 2 questions... 1) what's the farthest you should go (kissing wise) in a godly relationship?
2) how can a guy and I be friends and maintain a friendship before dating? cause sometimes when ppl like each other, they can skip the "friendship phase". Thank you sooooo much and I'd mean soo so so so much if you answered these cause you have the most realistic outlook on these types of situations😂😘thank you!!! 🤙🏼
My best friend is not a christian and ive been trying to bring him closer to God but ended up falling for him. He asked me to be his girlfriend a few days ago. We dont share the same views so i said no. Of course im very very upset right now but i have faith that God's plan for me is greater than what i have missed out on.
This is totally me ! I not only want to strive to be a saint but I want my husband to strive for God’s will as well. I get so many comments made towards me that that will never happen. But I trust whatever God’s plan is for my life that it will be so good no matter what vocation He calls me to :)
PREACH
love love love! #woof
could you make a video about being ignored by a certain person you care for and dealing with that insecurity?
Amen! This is so true. I would much rather not get married or be in a relationship than settle and be miserable. Jesus has got to be #1 and if he isn't for your significant other, then it's time to say buh bye!
"I'd rather be single than settle". I love this. Thank you thank you!
What do I do if the guy I'm am feeling called towards is still discerning his vocation? I know I'm being called to married life, but he is still unsure where God is calling him. Do I step back and let him pray and discern or do I leave it up to him?
I think it would be better to find someone who doesn't share your favorite foods so you don't fight over the last piece of anything.
So I've been in this situation a lot of times... Been challenged throughout my teens for not dating because I wanted to date a christian guy... And as an adult I'm judged by individuals that my choice to date a christian guy is limiting and unloving to guys who are not of that faith but are actually amazing guys... I have friends of different faiths and ethnicities but when it comes to dating I am obviously flexible about ethnicity but not about faith... I view dating as a journey hopefully leading to marriage... I can't spend the rest of my life with someone who has contrasting views, hopes, believes, worships a different God etc.
A relationship that glorifies God will be blessed. Seek the Lord & he will give you the desires if your heart. I hope to find a woman who loves God as I do. Dont let others discourage you, take care.
I actually went through this too. While I love Christians (of other denominations) too, I REALLY want to find a guy who is ON FIRE WITH LOVE FOR JESUS - including the Eucharist (Which is Jesus), Mary, the Rosary, etc. I want an on fire Catholic man. Many people say that you can't find one in high school. Or just because they don't have faith now doesn't mean they won't later. That's fine, but I will wait. And I won't settle for a guy who says he might convert later. I want a man who loves Jesus n-o-w. They aren't an extinct species! There are probably plenty of guys who think the same thing about girls. And, this will make it only sweeter when I meet the man God wants for me. The one who is on fire with LOVE for Jesus. I'll wait.💖Carmen
In this generation my standards are to high because I want a guy to take me out on a date and actually get to know that rather than want Netflix and chill. People can be in relationships they just choose NOT to take you seriously.😒
Yes! Where's the "love" button! (I want to hear other opinions on my specific issue) I get this a lot as a 28 year old, from my mom mostly. She wants me to have high standards as long as she agrees with them. The big one she gets mad at me for, is not a faith issue (she totally agrees with that), but a matter of common goals and vision. She says I should give up whatever I feel God is calling me to in life, for marriage. I just don't think so. Am I wrong? Is this actually a negotiable instead of a non-negotiable?
HAHA YES EXACTLY. Even some of my Christian family doesn't understand why my standards are so high..🙄
My question now is does daniel love peanut butter m&ms?
i'm struggling with this:/
Hi Emily, I really like you, but can you talk about other life issues apart from dating? I simply can't relate to any of them at all.
Hi! I have 45+ videos that have nothing to do with dating. Feel free to check them out!
I know. I've watched mist of your videos but I just want you to make more.
I agree with what you are saying but how do I make Jesus the center of my relationships? How do I stay strong and not settle?
Hey Emily,
I couldn't find an email account to message you at, so hopefully you get this question that I have had for a while. Growing up my parents always told me that the time to get married is when I am ready to have a family. Recently, however, I have been seeing young Christian couples getting married, who still want to wait to have kids for many years. I know that you are married, and I am not sure if you have had children yet, or want children anytime soon. I told my mom about a twenty year old couple getting married, and my mom said, " oh they are just getting married because they want to have sex." I am sure with the couples I have seen and yourself, being deeply involved in the Christian faith, aren't wrong, and aren't getting married for the wrong reasons. I guess my question is, is it okay to get married and still wait a long time to have kids? I also was wondering why you decided it was time to marry Daniel the time you did, and not wait until you want children. If you don't want to share that with me though then it is perfectly fine. (: Thank you for your time, and I hope to hear from you!
-Maria A. Osorio
I am a Christian vlogger so I would love to have some advice from you guys on my channel and meet other christian girls!!!
A lot of Christians, including myself, are judged for wanting someone equally yoked. They usually say something like, "why are you being so picky? What if God brings you someone who believes in something different than you? You're going to reject them just because they don't believe the same things? That's stupid!"
Those comments are so frustrating, and blatantly misinformed. Clearly, they do not understand this truth: God uses Paul to tell people not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Cor. 6:14-18). So, if God is telling us NOT to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever, He would not send us a mate who is an unbeliever. He would be contradicting Himself. He would not do that. That would be like if He told me, "hey, don't cheat on your husband," then tell me later on, "see that guy over there who is not your husband, go head and have an affair with him." Like, no, He's not going to do that.