What Makes An Ex Come Back?
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- Опубліковано 21 лип 2024
- There are several elements that would make an ex come back and become re-attracted to you. In this video, we talk about what causes an ex to reconsider the relationship and tips on recapturing their desire.
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LISTEN to Craig people! Both he and Margaret are actually QUALIFIED therapists with a combined experience between them longer than most of us have been alive. DO NOT pay attention to other channels such as Chris Seiter who recommends IGNORING your ex when they reach out (why ignore them when they are actively coming forward?!) and advocates a 30-60 day no contact rule as if something magically happens after 30 days. If you ex truly wants you they will contact YOU you certainly don’t need to “remind” them on day 30 you exist. Listen to Craig this is genuinely the best channel because it’s about self improvement and making relationships better and understanding why you muck them up not just snake oil and tricks to manipulate like other lesser quality channels.
I actually begin to understand that these life coaches are not qualified to give relationship advises. I was used to watching tony gaskins and found myself having a very bad and angry mindset about men in general. I trust scientific topics like all the attachment styles and people like Craig Kenneth who really give amazing advice and help you to improve yourself instead of pointing fingers!
Completely agree that the ignoring your ex rule is ridiculous! I mean you aren’t showing yourself in a good light if you are going to ignore them and will come across as petty. I know people are afraid of falling into the friend zone if an ex reaches out, myself included but I don’t think ignoring them if they contact you Is the right response
Craig and Margaret are wonderful pioneers. They are filled with incredible wisdom and enlightenment. Chris Seiter, Luccia, Clay Andrew, Love Advice TV, Brad Browning are all obtuse and oblivious. Stay away
@@psychicmatchmaker9204 they are terrible, I listened to clay Andrew’s to try and build a connection with my ex but me be reaching out even though he was responsive etc, it’s best to let your ex come to you and respond when they reach out, regardless as to how casual it is
@@MrCjchamp to be honest I am properly moving on now as for the last three to four months in the breakup I felt like I was being strung along as he kept in contact and I thought he wanted to rekindle things but I was wrong so I cut it off as he only wanted to be friends and I’m trying to properly move on now, thank you though!
When they realize the grass isn't greener on the other side. That's normally what makes them come back.
Well that’s part of it
@@CoachCraigKenneth What happened to the video, ''Finding a secure Partner''? That video was wonderful but came to an untimely end. And this video like the many others are awesome.
@@tommyduhaney5226 that's exactly what I've been wondering, I asked that same question just not too long ago 😒🤷🏻♂️ maybe we have to go no contact.
@@tommyduhaney5226 We had a technical issue with that video and will follow up with it. Margaret is incredible so stay tuned!
@@coachvictoria6405 thank you for the update and I personally want to welcome you to the team and I also wanna thank all of you because now, psychology has become my passion which I'll pursue at the tertiary level. You guys have thought me a lot and I conclude so many things which you guys made videos backing, so that only gives me more confidence that I'm on the right track and that my inner compass is awesome. Thanks again and stay safe 💜
If they don't come around after a few months and you have been working on yourself they obviously don't care. Move on, keep working on yourself and find someone else that can appreciate you. Many dumpers are too quick to give up on people or not even give them a second chance. Ask yourself...do I really want someone who gives up so easily? You are better than that!!
1 month of no contact she came back, I gave it another shot until I found out she was talking to someone behind my back. I’m working on me snd don’t need her, I know my worth and how good I was to her. It’s her loss, not mine. I’m on my own path now. Thanks coaches for all the vids
I can't tell you how important working on the issues during the NC time, is.
I did NC during the first split. Just kind of moped around and didn't take action on the issues (how to avoid us being in a long distance relationship). She eventually reached back out to me, we talked for about another 6 months, but nothing had changed. And here we are back in no contact. This time I'm coming up with a plan (to fix the long distance situation), that if she does reach out at some point, at least I've taken action and have considered the issues that caused the split the first place.
Sometimes exes just give up and that’s on them nothing to do with us. So stay strong and know that you have what you did when you did and don’t blame yourself.
8 months later, no contact etc. And I feel at peace, I’ve realised my failure in the relationship and I’m okay with me. I’ve done the work and I don’t want my ex back. It’s a journey but y’all keep at it! You’ll come to a realisation one way or another over one thing or another x
Go check my IG and see my recent posts. People come back after years
My ex is an avoidant, hopefully she sees I am her best option. I put in so much work to improve my toxic behavior, not for her, but for myself. I am proud of myself.
Actually they’ll come back and it’s happen in mine. Keep focusing on ourselves peeps. 🙏🏻
Guys, almost nine months after breakup I can totally support Vicky's words: work on yourself slowly and step by step. For me it was about keeping moving forward with my work, my personal goal and life responsibilities. This moving was through pain and sadness. Step by step repeating Margaret's affirmation: I am proud of myself for getting through this day. I am fine now and actually very proud of what has been done during this time. For myself and for people who choose to be in my life.
From my experience, exes come back if you both have a base together which is a real friendship. If u were his / her best friend , they would come back .
besides if u both felt that the sex is different than other relations u had before, he/she will come back. Those two elements are most important in my opinion.
That's not true. My ex and I was together for almost 4 years. She was my best friend, lover, ole lady and the mother to our two year old son. I shared everything with her and when I'd come In from work she would gossip to me and tell me everything about her. Our sex was absolutely amazing and numerous times over 4 years she would tell me during sex that I was "made and fit" for her so perfectly. She and I both shared a connection that neither of us had ever felt. I'm 33 and she will be 40 this month. She also said after breaking my heart that she knew I loved her and loved her more than anyone else she had ever been with. I hit a rough spot In my life and became depressed and that's when she decided she had enough. She kicked me out the day after Christmas and hasn't looked back since. I really wish what you said was true but It's not unfortunately. At first I wanted her and our family back but I just can't be with someone who let me sleep In my car freezing my nuts off while she slept comfortably In her home and bed. I am confident when I say this though... Every guy In her life from birth until we met I can say that only two men ever really loved and cared about her. Myself and her grandfather. Everyone else just used her, beat her and abused her. I am her best option. I have absolutely no doubt at all about that. I just lost my way a little In the relationship. As the saying goes... I know what I bring to the table and I'm not afraid to eat alone. I worked and let her stay at home for 3 years while she was pregnant and to be a stay at home Mom and I was proud and happy to do that. I truly believe she and I where soulmates though. My heart still feels connected to hers even after a little over two months and something Inside of me keeps saying "It's not over and she'll be back". No matter what I tell myself that voice keeps popping up.
@@XxJustinxx88 I hope you're coping well. Just give this some time and work on improving yourself, especially on your depression. I do believe that if you both shared something amazing together, then it's very likely that they will not forget you that easily and will want to return, granted that you seem like a changed person. I think the "grass is greener" syndrome will most likely bring your ex back to you, because chances are it will be very hard to her to find someone to replace you. But the key is to be patient, don't think about her and just focus on working on yourself. Wish you all the best.
@@yihaw149 Thank you so much for your very kind words. I bought the workbooks and have been working on them when I get off of work every morning. My heart still aches and longs for her and my son. I have to go to her house to see my son twice a week. Coincidentally last month she picked Valentine's Day as a day for me to come and then Friday Is her birthday and that's also the day she picked for me to come and see my son. It's weird. I've asked to work things out and she brings up things I said out of anger like 3 years ago. She tries to act like she doesn't care but last week I stopped by the store and this really pretty woman started talking to me. Apparently my ex rode by and seen It. The next day I went to see my son and she cooked for me. That's the first time since we split. She made my plate and brought It to me and then said she had seen me talking to a woman at the store. She acted mad. When I call and talk to my son on the phone sometimes she gets the phone and talks about what's going on etc. Still has our pictures on her FB and I'm still blocked. I have decided to move on and whatever happens just happens. Thank you.
@@XxJustinxx88 damn any updates?
@@alannajm Yeah she tried coming back about 3 weeks ago but I declined. I had purchased the workbooks worked my way through them and realized that over the entire relationship she had made everything my fault. I've decided to throw myself Into my career and knock off a few bucket list Items before my next relationship. Funny how they go from certainly over you to let's give this another shot.
2 months no contact. Apart from noticing an unblocking from my ex on Instagram though my profile was hidden originally. Now she can see whatever. I've taken more time to focus on myself to learn. To look back at my issues. My childhood. Buying books. Doing therapy. Even these videos have been a massive help!
The point Vicky said about her ex boyfriend being musicians, and he seemed to have took off on his own was quite inspiring. My ex knew I wanted to learn to fly. This has been a thing for years for me. Since a child, but more recent years and last year I said I was gonna do it asap.
Though not with my ex, I start in April this year. I'm absolutely excited and proud to say I'm taking a big step for myself and the stones to even do such thing. But I certainly hope that it inspires her that I am a guy true to my word!
Craig & Crew are the absolute best....
No one else compares!
Thank u
I swear Craig, you alway hit the video at just the right time 🤯
It's the disturbance in the force
Craig foresee our situation that we're going through I guess
I am at one with the force 🌟
He’s watching you
Victoria is so great and complimentary to the vibe of the videos. She fits in so well & speaks to the soul. She speaks as if shes in my exact same position ♥️
🙏 Thank you for your encouragement ❤️
The three of you make an excellent team, complementing each other very well. Margaret is, of course, a star, albeit one momentarily out of view. Your faith in the persistence of connection is heartening, as is your encouragement to establish a healthy axis through work and self-improvement.
Officially hit 6 months of no contact. I definitely feel better than I did the first month or so. But some days are easier than others. Sometimes I don’t even think about him at all but then other times he’s constantly on my mind...
Wow I'm around 1 year now and I'm still not sure if I have spent a single day without her crawling into my thoughts. In the past two months I had someone distract me of her, but I think I still thought about her at least 5 minutes per day. Especially when trying to sleep. That's the worst time of day. So if you've had times you didn't even think of your ex at the 6th month, you're doing great!
It's happen to me as well.
@@andrasziegenham6766 one year is a lot of time. It's over
Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean
I can connect you to someone who helped me attract my ex partner back to me after separation
Coach Victoria is getting better and better! 😄
Hearing all these things reminds me the first time I saw Coach Craig, heartbroken and looking for some guide.
Thank you! 🙏 Keep up the good work!
@@coachvictoria6405 Great music story! What instrument's do you play btw?
Oh I love this topic. ❤😊
Thanks coach Craig and coach Victoria.
GOD bless!
You guys are like my Jeannie's without the bottle! It's amazing how you listen and study and relive the childhood memories and learn about yourself and then boom, it happens! The indirect direct approach. 5 years Coach, I FINALLY left him alone, focused on myself, started moving on, well did move on, and then here it came. "The" one, the one email I've waited 5 years to see. I didn't think it would happen but it did. So much satisfaction in knowing you could take him or leave him at this point and know you're going to be okay either way. I cannot if I spent the rest of my life trying, thank you guys enough. Happy Easter as well.
Happy Easter
Wow thays Incredible!!
“Doing the same things over and over again...[expecting different results]”. I think this is what you were going for
Hi Coach Craig! Just a request, maybe in future would you like to discuss about the psychology of short term relationships?
I believe it would be insightful, as those of us with short term relationship has less to hang on to when trying to get an ex back. Hopefully you can discuss and guide us on short term relationship break ups🙏🏻
Great suggestion!
Been 6 months and iv reached out in December. Got nothing back but a big bag of silence. I’m struggling to let go and I have a voice in my head telling me just to reach out again. And how much I love her. But I have to stay strong it’s her move this time. 💪🏼
Sounds like you’re working pretty hard. Remember to do those workbooks 30 minutes a day
Great to see you two and this great video! At the same time, I miss Margaret in the video.
Margaret isn’t going anywhere. But we are able to put out additional videos now that we have Victoria
@@CoachCraigKenneth Lovely! Cannot wait to see your upcoming videos! Thanks so much for your invaluable content!
So, it's been roughly 9 months now, not a peep, nothing, still blocked checked for the first time in months. I'm so happy for everyone who've got a second chance with their ex's but for me there is zero chance and I'm reaching the point when I'm ready to let go of having one. I'm continuing to do the work but I can't keep feeling like this anymore. Only I would find the one girl I wanted to marry and lose her and never get a second chance. I've begun dating again reluctantly. Wishing you all the best, maybe I'll have a success story. But for now I'm just doing the work.
I've been broken up with my ex for 3 years now, and I think about giving up every day..so I'm right there with you. Best thing I've done is pick a goal that's obtainable develop not just a habit of achieving that goals but deeper than that. 2 Keyword words tunnel vision.
Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean
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Listening to Coach Victoria totally tames my anxiety!
I'm with you on this one
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I swear you never age craig🙌🏻 mine is returned months ago.. our breakup was just 3 wks..were talking marriage now 2 yrs togther..Ill be seeing him in 2 weeks. I still love to watch your videos . Always great information 🙏🏻👑 best coaches on youtube .
I’m not interested in aging 😉 and I’m glad to hear that things are going great for you❤️
@@CoachCraigKenneth thank you one day at a time.. either way your channel helps so much.. I know my worth🤸🏻♀️🙌🏻🤗
If you want my help personally just sign up for a coaching
@@CoachCraigKenneth I would like your help, Coach, but the time difference makes it difficult to reach out during weekdays due to my work. Will there be plans to do Saturdays at least? I know you guys are busy and have your own lives.
I've recently started the workbooks, gotten into sewing and skateboarding again. Also been doing commissions for my illustration career :^)
How do u like the workbooks? Do them 30 minutes a day!
@@CoachCraigKenneth theyre great so far! I think I'm starting to understand that things ended because of my anxiety. Hopefully he will open up to the idea of contacting me so I can truly see if I've changed for the better. Its only been about 4 months so who knows haha
Why does it take a break up for us to get back to our hobbies or things of interest??? I’m getting into running events and reading. Things I’ve always wanted to do but never cared for! Its a positive step regardless. All the best to you and your career.
Exes do come back guys. You have to allow time with no contact for them to come back. Let the room clear. It literally just happened to me. I'm getting out of a recent relationship, and my ex from 2 years ago, pops up with a text apologizing to me from things that happened during the period of time we were together.
Always appreciative of a new video!!!
Thank u for letting us know
It took him 4 full years to notice the grass isn't greener and to slowly start coming back around... while I just found a new partner I'm serious with.. I'm now feeling very torn between these two, but knowing which of them is the better pick when the feelings for both are so strong
If u got dumped and it took a person 4 years to come back, choose your new partner. If someone really cares it would not take them that long to even wonder about you. Choose the one that is going to stick with you when times get hard. And that's clearly not your former partner.
@@jahleelx9270 Well, I'm on and off with the new partner since October, so I start doubting he's the right one :)
I've been fighting for the other ex back for years and it's sad that it's only working now!
@@lenaschaef6714 it's only working now because he sees that the grass isn't greener and doesn't want u to move on to something better. If he came back a year later I would consider it but four years later, that's too long of a time and shows he doesn't actually care about you.
My ex took a little over 3 years of no contact to reach out and try to get back with me... I was with another woman at that time, so I had to turn her down.
@@The_Darrell are you back together now? ❤️
I needed this video. We got back together for 5 months and he left after 1 fight. I'm focusing on me now. I love him but I'm not waiting for him.
Its been 11 months since the breakup, Im starting to believe she wasnt even that attached to begin with. We lasted for like what, 9 months? Lol. I'm at peace but these videos sometimes do make me push forward more and more. Thanks Craig, for everything
Such great advice, thank you!
You’re welcome
Always Mr. Clutch. Craig is the 🐐. Perfect timing .
Life is about choices so be careful what you choose dumpers lol 😂 grass ain't always greener on the other side .
We will get through this guys. 1 day at a time .
thats the spirit bro!!!their loss not ours!
This is the biggest mistake that people make they think the grass is greener on the other side....the truth is yours can also be greener if you water n take care of it
My wife and I have been married over 8yrs but she left last July and I have not seen her since. She dealt with a death in the family and we have had very little contact. BUT I have been the one to reach out and send occasional emails etc. now after 8 months I know I just have to leave it be and go full no contact. I regret I didn’t do more of it earlier.
I agree with comments below that you can’t put a timeframe on it. I am quite sure she is done with me as her conduct before we split spoke volumes. I can attest to the fact that it has ruined my emotional state reaching out to her, she says she wants to meet but doesn’t follow through. While I won’t ignore her if she reaches out. I am done doing the reaching and hurting myself while being ignored by her. Onwards and upwards!!
My ex has NEVER taken responsibility for her actions, NEVER!
Like always great video!
I could only be my authentic self and she loved me for who I was, but she recognized her need to deal with her own struggles with her ex husband. All I can do is pray for her and strengthen myself for if she does come back. I don’t know if she’ll come back, but I do know that she’ll know what we had and the good thing she walked away from.
4 weeks of no contract and 2 months of not physically seeing each other... It hurts but I am day 22 of jogging and looking after myself. Its hard as he lives in the next road and right opposite my friend so 1 day ill see him and it will be then that will show me how strong I can be.. Thank you for your videos this has helped 🙏🙏
We love to see it! Keep up that self-care! ❤️
Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean
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I needed this one. It will be 3 months of NC. I have made a LOT of changes since. Got a better job, went back to school, working out more often, doing the workbooks, etc. I stopped bargaining and accept it had to happen this way because I honestly wasn't happy with where my life was and quit doing the work while me and my ex were together. I see his issues and his attachment style also (avoidant) and quit blaming myself for everything falling apart. But I'm in the acceptance stage. I want to believe I will hear from him again. We only dated a few months, though, so I'm not so sure. Sadly, it was one of the healthier relationships I've had so I feel it makes getting over him much more difficult.
What makes me laugh is I had 2 other exes reach out since the breakup, however, one after 7 years since we spoke. It's a start.
Sounds like you’re doing awesome, keep up the good work 💪
My ex pretty much just told me that we need to split up because I was never around for her despite numerous times I've asked and asked if she'd want to do something together and she'd just rather go to work
Victoria is emerging as a excellent therapist
Now i don't care if she come back or not. I just want her to want to come back-so at least she can feel the way i felt🤣😜
That’s the wrong way Holmes. don’t be all vindictive n shii. Be understanding and mature
Any updates?
Oh wow I haven't checked your channel in a while and I am definately back to watching your videos 😍🙏 thanks for helping us all so much!!
He is indeed problem solver
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im currently on 13 days no contact, this is our second break up so i highly doubt he'll come back. i dont know, time will tell but i hope in a few months i can look back and be like wow i didnt break no contact im doing well and im happy.
im just honestly excited about meeting new friends, graduating and travelling. thats all i want in the future.
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How'd things turn out?
How and why are you so on point and know exactly how we are feeling!!!! 😩
I read your mind Jen
Even if you work on the issues, it's still very easy to fall back to old habits and patterns with an ex so I personally don't see the point to go back. I rather break the habits and patterns and be with someone else.
Agree. It’s exciting at the prospect of who you can meet next and leave the negativity of the ex behind. I met up with an ex a few times after a mini break and it didn’t take much to slip back into feeling stressed and anxious. Not worth it. Move on!!! Good luck to you.
My Ex (Avoidant), who broke up with me in the end of March 21 by phone, just called on day 138 of no contact. Not exactly direct, but asking if we could get back in contact...I''m just not sure what he wants now...still waiting until he makes it more clear. I told him when he broke it off back in march, i didn't want to be friends...so I hope that is not all he can do.
I really wish I had listened to these videos earlier!!! Ughh! I listened to another coach about ‘building a connection with your ex’.. and when my ex clearly said he needs some time, I started being there as ‘a friend’. It seemed good at first, but then he started pulling away as he started feeling like me being around was a reminder he needs to make a decision, and he told me that he thought it through and he doesn’t feel it, and doesn’t wanna hurt me anymore. So I stepped back by sending a letter. A month later I find out during the time I sent the letter he started talking to another girl.... I now realise I pressurised and pushed him into the stage he is in now. And seeing him with this other girl has gotten me back to square 1 😞
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I seriously seriously SERIOUSLY doubt my ex is feeling bad or sad about it! Just putting that out there. If I’m feeling blah about it after 2 months I swear he is too! 😒.
I unfriended him. He got mad. But I find it easier to not see his feed at all.
Coach Craig, would you consider doing one on breaking up after an argument that came unexpectedly when both people had a bad day with work family issues & took it out on each other when otherwise a goof relationship Thanks
*good relationship
Andy, we had a very good relationship & friendship, not every break up is because of issues in a relationship, there can & were outside things that gave us both a very stressful day & unfortunately we ended up with a silly argument
I’ve written about when some of us that have been in LDR’s
And the Covid Non travel situation
How do we cope with this ?
I really think this would be a great video!
Great suggestion as it is affecting many!
He never had any complaints he said I was alright the way I am. He still ended it out of the blue with no explanation. It was not on me and I do not take this personally. He’s work to do and we will probably never see each other again. He never let me into his life, no social media, no personal objects left in his house, no friends in common.
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@@alwayslove6607 the man also helped me we've got that in common. Lol
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8 weeks after my breakup and I just had a relapse. Woke up from a nap and had a small dream about me and my ex girlfriend making out. I still get scared that she won’t reach out in the future
The difference is, I am the one who is crying, did nothing wrong, then get blamed how I am to react to their mistakes, and I am not to feel anything?! When I'm always the one left behind. So I only speak out to get those emotions out at them or to the recent breakup to get out what I am feeling what she had caused the pain on me.
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My ex walked away from me and he didnt even tell me he wasnt coming back. He didnt even tell me that he didnt love me or want to be with me anymore... no explaination, nothing. So i ended up going for divorce
Can you make a video to explain why an ex can be flirting intensely with you in person. Then blocks you out of no where when you hang here messaged them or bothered them at all?
My ex and I had a wonderful week the week before last. And we’ve been progressing over three months. Then he went on vacation this past week. Half way in he blocked me. It does not make sense because I didn’t bother him. I was just minding my own business living my own life. He does have a girlfriend but I feel like he must not be happy if he’s carrying on with me in the ways that he does. Even our coworkers have started intervening because we’re having a hard time making something happen. He comes back tonight and I’m so upset and don’t know if I should act like I don’t care?
I have done massive work on myself the two and a half years since we broke up and I know that’s what has caused him to start coming back toward me .
You know what's more stronger than love and attachment, parental/family control... 😒 Not trying to be a mood killer. Buuuuuuuuuuttttttt like you said "secret loyalties"
its been 3 monts after the break up..she wants to stay friends...i want friends with benefitts...we been 1 year together...i miss her..but i know its toxic...i think i hit dead end....
He really had his claws into me and refused to divorce me until i told him that i cancelled my life insurance, then i got dropped like a hot brick, we're now divorced and iv blocked him on social media, theres no contact at all
Oh wow. I would consider doing a Skype call with Margaret for that situation
I was an awful partner, so I'm sure she won't miss me. But this is still very good advice for relationships in general
Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean
I can connect you to someone who helped me attract my ex partner back to me after separation
+ 2348119132200
Its seems like they are more happy without you in social Media. Posting trips, having fun, positive quotes like they are having the perfect time without you( it could be true)
Things aren’t always as they appear. Don’t let that fool you. It’s easy to paint a picture perfect life on Facebook or insta
Question... At what point do we have nothing to lose by reaching out? I'm 30 days into no contact (relationship ended 2 months ago). I recently learned about attachment styles, and through doing so, I feel I now understand why she did (and didn't do) certain things during our relationship. Do you see any harm in sending a pre-recorded video message at about day 50 or 60 of no contact, that demonstrates 1) I'm happy and accept the breakup and 2) I have a new understanding/perspective of things now and I wish her well...
The relationship she had before me was abusive, and when we got close, I didn't understand why she was pushing me away. Learning that she is a fearful avoidant, I now get it.
I would recommend watching his other videos. No contact means no contact unless she reaches out to you. However, it's great that you have educated yourself ! i really wouldn't recommend a video from a woman's perspective it could be interpreted badly.
No!!!
How will she see my changes through no contact if i dont use social media...
Thank you. You've helped alot.
It would be interesting if you could talk about when the dumper tells themselves "its better like this so i dont hurt them like ive been hurt, they deserve someone beter, im not meant to be with anyone, i dont eant to bring them down with me" this is how my ex ended things and i wish i could understand more about why they feel this way and if theres a chance they ever change their mind and reach out even though they believe that the breakup was better for the dumpee.
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Hey Craig can you still work on yourself and make your ex comeback after your second breakup with them?
What if an ex's mentality is "an ex is an ex for a reason and never go back"?...I would like to change her mentality as I still love her.I am broken without her or her sons in my life.But I am blocked everywhere and she has not reached out...6 months since she dumped me and over 6 year relationship gone to waste :( she has dated two people since...the first one failed as the grass was not greener...the second one she has been seeing about a month...it hurts :(
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Years ago a boyfriend tossed me aside because his "mommy" interfered but after she passed away he wanted to get together again and I told him it was more likely to snow in hell.....and I've never regretted it.
the only thing that makes an ex come back is if they havent found anyone else who cares for them like u do.
What do you mean?
so true...
No one else will feel for them like we do
That’s not true at all
My ex went back to her ex after being with me for 5 years. Blocked me even though i didnt push. Basically threw me in the trash.
He recently seperated from his wife, they are still married. He makes half what i do and has 2 kids. Cherry on top is she left him 5 years ago because he cheated on her. And that damaged her badly, trust me i saw the deep wound and insecurity it gave her durring our 5 years together.
On paper i was better for her in almost every way.
Ive really just given up at this point. No matter whatyou do for someone or how much effort you put in they would rather go back to garbage. Makes me feel like i was the worst boyfriend ever somehow. That really makes me not want to ever put that energy into someone again.
Hey Brandon, don’t beat yourself up. Sometimes people have this unhealthy perception of love and they are constantly attracted to that. Somehow being with that type of love is how they feel most comfortable. Unfortunately for you this might be the case.
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Please can you do more LDR splits?
It's very hard for me right now. After 5 weeks n.c. we spoke last week, 30 min nice light hearted phone call and he said before we rung off "ring or text me whenever you like".....I havent, but in 5 days he's not text me soooo, no idea where or what to do from here?.......
what about when they are active on your social media? liking, commenting, their friends are still talking to you? i just passed the 30 days nc
Do not react to it. When they are ready to really contact you, they'll do it directly by texting or better: by calling you.
Never go back to an ex. It's time better spent cultivating a new relationship than going back to something that didn't work. Also, it's OK to be alone. You don't need that other person to validate you or bring happiness.
There’s nothing wrong with trying to repair a relationship with somebody you love.
That’s where I am stuck at! Being in a relationship with her made me feel validated, but at the same time I love her like crazy
Appreciate and respect your comments.
We were connecting and chatting and having a good time over text last month, then, suddenly, in the middle of the conversation, he just... ghosted. I reached out again a week later to ask if everything was ok? He read it and never responded. Sooo confused. The convo was fun, light, we were having a good time and reminiscing, then suddenly I think he deleted me. Not sure why?
We recently put out a great video on ghosting. But if you want to talk to us about it we’re here to help
Hey Craig, loved this video! Can you do a video about my ex ending things because he got a job in another state and isn't willing to do long distance. I will appreciate it 🙏
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My ex(for 2 years) broke up with me one week ago. She`ve broken up with me 3 times before, but we got back together since i begged and pleaded. I didn`t do much work on myself and went back into the old patterns of critizicing her for every bad choices she made, got overcontrolling and protective against her to prevent all the cognitive dissonance. She has quit her job that stole almost all our time together, thrown out her brother(finally) who was living there with narcotic problems which I have warned her about for 2 years about having him living there, cause she has a daughter underage and so on because of the most likely coming consequences which she ignored. It finally happened that the childservices got to know this. I got so angry at her when she told me this(which I had predicted all the way) that I had to come support her for this that I had trying to avoid happen for so long, and I refused to show up because of those principles(I warned you, you didn`t listen). I`ve been waiting and looking forward for this for 2 years to happen, that her brother finally moved out so that I could move in and we could start our life together. But NOT the way it happened now. So I told her that I was NOT coming to support her that weekend cause I was so angry at her and this shitty situation that occured. She immediately got pissed and wished me a "Good weekend", where I answered that it most likely wouldn`t be a nice weekend. Hours later she sent me a message; "I don`t think you should terminate your tenancy where you live!"
As I was still angry and upset I just agreed to it and went no contact for 4 days. I then reached out and tried to explain why I acted like I did and couldn`t come and support her, but she didn`t want to discuss it and only said I was justifying things and my own actions and said she didn`t like the person that she had become and thought it was for the best that we broke up, cause she meant we tore each other down and dissapointed each other all the way. I then "gave her" the breakup and told her that it was very sad and heavy to accept, but I accepted. Then she told me; "Not to make things worse, but I love you and hope you are doing fine
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My ex wife and I have been apart for 20 years, but we’ve started to reconnect. We’ve spent a lot of time together, even spent the night together several times (no sex), just sleeping together. I still love her, but not sure how she feels, although she said she’s not where I am yet. She remarried and had two kids, but has been separated for a few years. I’m really confused.
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It's been 10 months nearly, he reached out 4/5 months ago, but nothing came of it / just by phone / is there any chance that he still is grieving and I just have to keep calm?
4 weeks of no contact, going strong and working on myself everyday, the urge is always there to text her but as each day goes along the easier it does get ill tell you that, I hope she reaches out in easter break
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Hi Craig & other youtubers. My ex keeps posting in her fb story that she was "begging for the bare minimum and if a man likes you, he will text you and make time for you". But I gave her everything and I always have time for her. I am confident that I did my best and she knows it.
Is this a breadcrumb or a trick to make me break no contact?? I am so triggered right now like she is inverting the story of our relationship.
@Rolling On Tens. So thats a bummer from her right? I mean. She left me, the one who gave her everything for another one thats not giving her attention?
@Rolling On Tens. Yeah I really dont know if this is for me. I also avoid posting anything on social media regarding relationships.
After a month and a half of no contact I went back on social media and she was looking at all of my posts. I made one telling people to add my Instagram (so I could disappear off snap without looking obvious) and she sent a follow request. I deleted it and then she sent another one which I also deleted. A couple days later I sent her a text explaining that why I didn’t accept it is because I don’t want to pretend like she’s just another acquaintance when in reality we’re so close. How I feel like that would be dishonest and unhealthy, and that if she wants to be a part of my life, she can call me and we can try to talk it out. She never responded. How bad did I mess up? If at all.
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An important factor that makes an ex come back... is accepting the break up graciously.
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Going on 90 days NC and starting to doubt at this point…
Hows it going for you now?
How long does it take for them to feel separation anxiety? It’s been 9 months since the breakup and 5 months NC😞 some days are harder than others.. hate feeling this way!
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What if she has already taken back her ex from 9 years ago? I had boundaries, she kept violating them. Cheated on everyone before me, also went to her exes house a couple months before we broke up. "They are doing well, he's really a great guy" even tho she cheated on him back then. Dodged a bullet? She's not isolated. Jumper from one bed to the next on he's than a week.
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Hey coach what if she’s 12 weeks pregnant. I’m doing no contact I made the common mistake of begging and pleading. Now only contact about the baby and working on myself.
That could get complicated. Have you considered doing a coaching with one of us
hey coach, could you make a video on why would a ex keep pictures and other close friends on social media but deleted me, and my 2 best friends. she doesn't have "single" on there and has every single picture we've posted up still and it has been about a month since we split. we dated for just over a year.
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I’m in a similar situation except that I unfriended him on FB and IG. Then he blocked me on IG two months into NC although I could not see any of his posts.. very weird and confusing!
They won't know you have changed if they don want t you to contact them So you should do it for yourself and not plan on them coming back. I feel back in the same patterns. How do you stay in a secure attachment? I might be sabotaging by trying tp convincing him to call me and spend more time with me. Every time I called he never answered the phone, when I asked him why he would get defensive and say he was doing dishes!!! LOL! if I only had a dollar for every time he did he was doing dishes!!!
We have videos on that
I’ve been NC since March 6. I broke up with him Feb 8th. He always called and ghosted and called again. Since the breakup, he is in a whole relationship with someone else. I’m heartbroken but I was tired of being lied to. How can he get into a relationship so fast. We were living together for 2.5 years and not even a month after breakup he’s already moved on...
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My ex claimed he could easily forget about me. I didn't reply to that. I am not imposing myself at all on him. I doubt he feels any sense of responsibility. I am still great friends with his son. Not because I am hoping ex will change but son is a wonderful person.
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Will they go through the grief process if they are on antidepressants?
Valid question lol
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Please do a video on why an Ex wont return personal items ?
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Got left for another man back in October. I was her first boyfriend of four years. Distance tore us apart once she moved to Arkansas for college. Thoughts?
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Hey Craig, you talk a lot about attachment. Could you please do a video on how to tell if they are/were actually attached?
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