But it's not about "being middle class". It's about being a failure. Although personal standards vary, very few people want to live as a failure. Some middle class folks self-delete rather than going to live in poverty. Some poor folks do this because they refuse to become homeless and live on the streets. Other people cling to life, no matter what their failures are or what their situation becomes. Apparently, some people don't mind failing at life.
I doubt he actually struggled in school. The dude was intelligent. He was just oblivious to the fact that his dreams wouldn't be smooth sailing like his academics were. Real life is a B.
His daughter was an exceptionally bright and talented young woman. Had so much going for her and was planning on doing some great things when she finished collage. She had a boyfriend that she really loved and he loved her. I bet, given the choice, she would have loved to have continued living even if that meant living in a modest apartment somewhere. How dare her father take away her life and dreams like this. Inconceivable
I wish he had let her live as well. I never understand why people feel the need to take their entire family with them. If they are unhappy, go, but please leave the children, give them a chance to live their own lives and fulfill their dreams.
@ThisAmericanStreamI took it as sarcasm. I don't view you as lesser. If I employed you to make my yard look great should I take up your time bragging about how wonderful I am? Bragging isn't how I speak to others who I respect.
It could be she was also power hungry. Let me explain. It's not far fetched to assume this man was an arrogant a**. By association he spread his misery when he came home about what he felt was suitable. It's clear They overextended themselves, leaving little for something as small as pocket money. However, with her just like him, its the con. The power that you have in convincing people you fit the role.
Just a narcissist that couldn't let his family and everyone else know the truth about him which would hurt his ego so he did the unthinkable, just a reminder that I'm just some random guy on the internet. So silly to have a mansion that size, live within your means people.
@Wimmig43at339 Exactly, nobody would know that I was rich by looking at me if I had the money. I never liked material possessions, I mainly would travel a lot if I had the money to throw away though and eat good food.
@Wimmig43at339 Warren Buffet lives in a (modest by comparison) 5 bedroom 2.5 bath house. The kind of house attainable by any upper middle class person. An attached 1 bed/bath villa or in-law suite to chuck parents when they come visiting might be the only thing I might want beyond that. What on earth does one do with 11 bedrooms and you only have one kid? (Buffet has 3) I mean, mc mansions in the past when kings and queens ruled might have that many rooms. When everyone is travelling by horse drawn carriage, you have to be the hotel to host guests after a hard night drinking and dancing. But why does anyone want to be that in the modern age?
@Wimmig43at339yup! Currently living in my own home, at 2600 sf it is my own personal mansion. Which compared to our first home is HUGE. But then we have a large 11 person family, so it’s not really very excessive.❤
From Rick's name he is Indian. Sadly in our culture keeping up appearances, how society sees us and saving face is an obsession... rather pathetic really.
Wrong! If anything Indian Americans almost always live way beyond their means. But I agree that Indians are extemely sensitive about how they and their family are concieved. (Honor, achievement, money etc)
Incredibly vain people need these kinds of things to try to feel powerful and important. It’s why expensive designer clothing puts their labels on the outside for all to see
Thank you Dr Grande for the gentle reminder to appreciate what we have, I grew up in a large family, and they mean more to me. than a huge house & tons of money ever could.
‘Rick was always trying to impress people with how wealthy and important he was…’ This is the root of too many of these problems. A lot of troubled celebrities are acute examples of this. Live YOUR life as best you can, and don’t get caught-up with trying to impress people who don’t even care about your existence.
@@kingcosworth2643I am an Indian man and I can relate to the feeling of not being an individual but a part of a family unit where my success reflects on everyone and my failure brings shame and misery. Indian society is too toxic when it comes to these things.
Guy had it backward. I live my life so that my children and wife can be happier and healthier despite whatever failures or disappointment I have. To me, that should be the goal anyone with a family aspires to. Forget yourself and make the world better for your loved ones.
Have you ever watched Scamfish? Husbands leave their wife off very well after they pass and then the wife sends it all to some "boyfriend" who is unfortunately stuck on an oil rig etc etc and needs every penny of that inheritance. We humans are pretty strange sometimes.
You are a real, loving, and healthy-minded man. Unfortunately, we live in a time where quite-a-few men don’t live by your analogy. Many are too selfish today.
How could the wife have not known? I feel particularly sad for the daughter. They should have sent her out for the day with her boyfriend or similar and let her live.
She already had all her university paid for. She was going to start it soon. So sad. She could have had a future, even without her parents. The dad couldn't endure the image of her daughter or wife thinking of him as a loser. These kinds of crimes are so incredibly selfish. The guy's ego was definitively more important for him than anything else in the world, including his own family.
@@geminisundonetake a look at the manosphere and compare that to feminists conversations. You'll find you're wrong. Maybe there are some women like that, but it's not our nature.
@@lutomson3496In many states, children CAN choose parents. My mother facilitated “dispossessions”, all the time. The daughter dug the big house, too, obviously.
I heard about this 3 weeks ago. Their spending habits make no sense...He lost his job and then wanted to buy mansions...Reminds me of the Murdock case where there was greed...but a lot of destruction. .
You covered an incident like this last week, after reading the title I thought it was a repost…it’s crazy how much greed and pride motivates envy, the second of which can become lethal in a weak mind.
A lot of women are kept in the dark about their finances but in this case, I think she was aware. When a woman is buying furniture she has to know the spending limit. They just winged it together, magical thinking, no clear career concepts. Excellent analysis, Dr Grande, hit all the points. Isolated, enmeshed family dynamic - all function together, nobody getting off the plane - brilliant!
I have been in several homes of people who put on an 'outside' show of being wealthy, i.e., designer clothes and jewelry and purses, expensive cars and lavish restaurant visits. But, when I went into their homes, they were extremely sparse of home furnishings and furniture. Sometimes to the point of having rooms that were completely empty. They didn't have any money to decorate their expensive house. Often the house with what I would call filthy, at the least extremely messy. It was like what they presented to outsiders was being rich but deep inside, they were bankrupt.
Absolutely insane to buy a house that expensive for only 3 people. I’m Sure his Harvard job paid well but nowhere near enough to afford a 4m mortgage payment. I can’t image it would be fun to be living in a mansion and being flat broke. Why not just get something more modest they could afford ?
He wanted people to think he could afford the mansion. Living modestly would not satisfy his ego-in fact it would degrade it. He had to look wealthy. He was living his fantasy. Now he is not living.
Was that the guy who made MILLIONS from some foam used on spacecrafts? And after visiting friends for dinner, he did away with his wife and daughter, set fire to the barn WITH THE HORSES still in it, and then the house with all of their bodies?
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for.
I feel your pain mate, as a fellow retiree, I'd suggest you look into passive index fund investing and learn some more. For me, I had my share of ups and downs when I first started looking for a consistent passive income so I hired an expert advisor for aid, and following her advice, I poured $30k in value stocks and digital assets, Up to 200k so far and pretty sure I'm ready for whatever comes.
In the 50's my Dad worked a modest job, Mom stayed at home and raised the kids, and they lived a nice middle class lifestyle including owning a home. Nowadays both I and my partner works and can barely afford to make ends meet. Soon the kids and family dog will need to work to keep this household going. It's the destruction of the American dream right before our eyes.
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Maybe they want to brag their friends & relatives' ears off. Karen Carpenter's abusive husband Thomas James Burris did the same thing. He bought a Rolls-Royce & yacht with Karen's money.
Including medical care. Agreeing to care you cannot afford to pay and then declaring bankruptcy so that other people end up paying your medical bills is an incredibly selfish thing to do.
When the parents kill their children it is so unbelievable to me. To hide shame?! Your kids will love you with all your faults. They might be the ONLY ones that will be there for you. The are your programed allies. I just dont get it. 💔💜
My holy heavens, this describes one of my grandchildren. Ego so inflated…that every job abstained goes by the wayside after a few weeks…then, has the skill to get another one, in short order! 💔
It is very common in some communities, specifically Indians and Pakistanis..some of them always want to shows they're successful in American..expensive clothes, cars, house, gone to Ivy or tier top university, etc..even though they don't have at the moment the income to those expenses
@GheyR : they get that handed to them for free here in the Bay Area (prestige, money, land, power & CITIZENSHIP WHEN HAVING CHILDREN IN OUR COUNTRY), while all the citizens born & raised here are left homeless, jobless, penniless & starving, while Indians are given first priority. When I grew up here, all nationalities & religious backgrounds lived peacefully & equally together in wonderful communities. This included whites, blacks, Hispanics, Asians & Indians, but now that's not so. All of California's been handed over to Indians only & it sucks because their's no room for anyone else.
@@lisaisgrig7636nothing is handed to Indian Americans. Don’t let your envy cloud your judgement. Indian community in US works very hard and hence they are successful.
This is heartbreaking. Why couldn't he just be content with what he had? It doesn't sound to me like he thought himself special - quite the opposite. It sounds like he thought he wasn't special and was trying hard to make himself special.
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Sad, I am Brazilian and my husband American. I had some friends from Colombia, Venezuela, Paraguai… everything they did was to compete who has the larger home even if inside nothing was beautiful. After a while I stop seeing them because it was crazy. Later one I was told that 2 of them Lost their jobs, one got cancer, the other divorce..it’s amazing how people in this Country are obsessed with these big homes that many of them are very bad take care as lack of clean, paint, nice furniture, nice decor, disorganization etc
I have a good friend who does have plenty of money. He has a nice home but the furnishings & decor are probably 25-30 yrs old. He drove a 2001 infinity until about 6 months ago when his son decided to sell his wives 2 yr old Volvo suv. My friend bought it from his son. Some people are simply cheap & don't care
We inherited 4bedroom house, before that I lived in apartment my entire life. It’s been few years and I still struggle with all the work that comes with house. It’s wonderful for my kids but I won’t be able to keep it up when I get old. Big houses, big problems.
It seems like every time I watch the news, another family has been annihilated over financial issues. It’s better to live and work at Taco Bell than to be dead in a box, but a narcissist can’t see that. It’s pathetic.
I also blame our society for giving these material things so much importance. They have nothing to do with who a person is in their heart, mind and behavior.
At 19000 sq feet, 10 families could fit , especially with all the outdoor space in addition to…… Pride. Zero humility. Zero spiritual life. Keep up appearances.
The “owners”of Rick’s home most likely was whoever issued the home loan for Rick. In other words, once he stopped paying for his home the holder of the deed enforced eviction. Rick like many thought he owned a home while having a mortgage but the fact is until the mortgage is paid off you don’t own the home. Technically, full ownership of a property only happens when the loan is paid off. People forget all this and get over extended on properties that cannot really afford as we found out in the mortgage crisis of 2008.
Lots of potential, but preferred the appearance of success thru fraud, over actual success thru hard work and intelligent choices. For what? The final choice of live with the shame, or death?? What a colossal waste all around! Too sad. Poor daughter😢
You could say that as well about any con man or criminal. They'd rather live large for a few years, even though the likely outcome is ending their lives in prison where conditions are squalid, loud, violent, and primitive.
So when they were a couple they lived in a five bed house. Then once they had a child, they lived in an 11 bedroom/11.5 bathroom home😮 Why all that space?!?
Who wants to live on a lake for that much. Give me a shack on the beach in Hawaii or anything in the Caribbean. Swimming in 90 degree crystal clear water is priceless. 4 sticks, a tarp for a roof and I’m good. Highs of 84 and lows of 74… a few solar cells and some batteries would be all the electricity you needed. Tennessee is beautiful but the water is dark and cold like the winters.
That's what I'm talking about! My twist on that- give me a studio apartment with a man that's loves me and I love him, a few patio lights, and I'm good!
My son lived in Hawaii played guitater in a rock band...he said he couldnt date Hawaiian girls necaise he was White. He lived pretty much hand to mouth pften doimg kitchen work at the nars where he llayed when not working. He told me aboutmone place he loved so humod the mold was lile haor grpwing on the walls and everything covee with it. Hawaii is apparently a very expensive place to live. At 40 he wanted a family and returned to New England snowy winters...the shine was off Hawaii...he was tired of being a poor musician too.
Dr. Grande, i just wanted to say how much i enjoy your podcast. Also, i thoroughly enjoyed your Christmas podcast with your lovely wife. She is so sweet.❤
Thank you Dr. Grande. If everyone watched your videos the knowledge of human nature would increase the likelihood that these scam artist types are less successful at constant escalation
What a sad man Rick was, emotionally stunted and devoid of true joy, peace and contentment. How tragic that the daughter lost her life due to her parents whose top goal in life seemed to be gaining admiration from others for wealth. Possessing wealth has no relation to the owners morals and character.
I bet he records a few/day. But releases daily. He has a very smart wife too. They are a great team. And he needs to generate as much output/cintent as he can now while his health is allowing. Dr. shared a bit re. his situation in the thank-you video for 600K subscribers. I hope to see him at 5mil before he slows down ❤🙏✨ This election season should be the catalyst.
@distributorovkvlt-points5481 did you know that "Every five days, according to an analysis by the Indianapolis Star, a person murders his family" in the USA. Google it. I was very surprised when I saw this statistics.
That's interesting. That's a multi level disaster You know his wife had syphilis from a former partner and she pretty much had lost her mind. That didn't square with his strict Lutheran background.
it's always fascinating to me how certain rich people would rather be dead than middle class
Right? Beware the riff raff people of middle class. Lol!!!
@@lmiller1413 LOL
Yes, imagine that... lol
Because they wholeheartedly subscribe to the rapper 50 cents' philosophy: Get rich or die trying. 🤣🤣🤣
But it's not about "being middle class". It's about being a failure. Although personal standards vary, very few people want to live as a failure. Some middle class folks self-delete rather than going to live in poverty. Some poor folks do this because they refuse to become homeless and live on the streets. Other people cling to life, no matter what their failures are or what their situation becomes. Apparently, some people don't mind failing at life.
Why on earth would a family of three need a 19,000 sq ft, 11 bedroom, 11 bathroom home??? That is absolutely baffling to me.
you expect someone to shit on the same toilet seat 2 days in a row?
@@rodeleon2875 lol new toilets like new clothes 🤣🤣
Status
I would feel positively insecure and uncomfortable rattling around in something that big with so few people.
He needed narcissistic supply
How sad that he couldn’t be happy with the house they did have, a less expensive car and most of all, a healthy family.
greed
The LOVE of money is the ROOT OF ALL EVIL!
Poor daughter. Thinking she had this lovely family, only to be murdered by dad 🤮
He was losing the "small" house, too. Remember?
People like this are never happy. He knew he reached his happy ceiling so be was done for good. Sad.
I bet that if you looked at his educational records, his school work, and his employment applications, you would find a huge amount of fraud.
That would be interesting to review
That's why he had to wear the expensive suit. Signal success 🤡
In my professional life I have also observed people with excellent academic record acting as con artists.
But he was a Study Skills expert!
I doubt he actually struggled in school. The dude was intelligent. He was just oblivious to the fact that his dreams wouldn't be smooth sailing like his academics were. Real life is a B.
His daughter was an exceptionally bright and talented young woman. Had so much going for her and was planning on doing some great things when she finished collage. She had a boyfriend that she really loved and he loved her. I bet, given the choice, she would have loved to have continued living even if that meant living in a modest apartment somewhere. How dare her father take away her life and dreams like this. Inconceivable
He could have spared his daughter…. She had a full happy life ahead. So sad.
I wish he had let her live as well. I never understand why people feel the need to take their entire family with them. If they are unhappy, go, but please leave the children, give them a chance to live their own lives and fulfill their dreams.
@@millana100 he killed her because she knew Daddy was a fraud
Both his wife and daughter live
He sounds lik a control freak!
So they bought the home using a 2-year balloon mortgage without a plan in flipping it for a profit within that timeframe? Pure insanity.
Somebody should have told him you dont actually have to buy the house to take pictures of it for social nedia 😂
How to borrow $3.8M for a $4M house? Even renting requires 1 or 2 months of security.
@@prime2955 I think he said something like that he secured it with his mother's house?
I am sure that they did this because it was the cheapest possible path over the "short" period. Or else, why do it?
BALLON MORTGAGES 😢😢😢😢😢
You know someone’s confident when they feel the need to brag to their landscaper.
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agreed
@ThisAmericanStreamI don't think it's the landscaper role, it's about bragging to anyone you employ.
@ThisAmericanStreamI took it as sarcasm. I don't view you as lesser. If I employed you to make my yard look great should I take up your time bragging about how wonderful I am? Bragging isn't how I speak to others who I respect.
"Rick didn't want to climb Mt Everest. He merely wanted to stand on top of it."
And he forgot that OXYGEN SUPPLY is required to stand on Everest.
Rick wasn't very bright.
This is what happens to Delusional People , with an Insatiable Lust for Money. Good Riddance .
Immediately Raygun came to mind.
@@ver251209 she is the number 1 ranked breakdancer in the world as of right now LOL
"For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?" Mark 8:36
Thank you for the reminder….i work so much…I need to spend more time with family
I believe the wife knew. If you were ridiculously wealthy, why would you steal HOA fees 🤷♀️
It could be she was also power hungry. Let me explain. It's not far fetched to assume this man was an arrogant a**. By association he spread his misery when he came home about what he felt was suitable. It's clear They overextended themselves, leaving little for something as small as pocket money. However, with her just like him, its the con. The power that you have in convincing people you fit the role.
I think she definitely knew more than what she was telling.
@@mepulley7913 that’s a really good point. Two narcissists doing everyone dirty.
Just a narcissist that couldn't let his family and everyone else know the truth about him which would hurt his ego so he did the unthinkable, just a reminder that I'm just some random guy on the internet. So silly to have a mansion that size, live within your means people.
Hahaha you made a point random guy.
@Wimmig43at339 Exactly, nobody would know that I was rich by looking at me if I had the money. I never liked material possessions, I mainly would travel a lot if I had the money to throw away though and eat good food.
@Wimmig43at339 Warren Buffet lives in a (modest by comparison) 5 bedroom 2.5 bath house. The kind of house attainable by any upper middle class person. An attached 1 bed/bath villa or in-law suite to chuck parents when they come visiting might be the only thing I might want beyond that. What on earth does one do with 11 bedrooms and you only have one kid? (Buffet has 3)
I mean, mc mansions in the past when kings and queens ruled might have that many rooms. When everyone is travelling by horse drawn carriage, you have to be the hotel to host guests after a hard night drinking and dancing. But why does anyone want to be that in the modern age?
Too many people spend money on things they can't afford to impress people they don't know.
@Wimmig43at339yup! Currently living in my own home, at 2600 sf it is my own personal mansion. Which compared to our first home is HUGE. But then we have a large 11 person family, so it’s not really very excessive.❤
Some people are never satisfied no matter what they have.
The eyes of man are never satisfied. (proverbs)
A narcissist
From Rick's name he is Indian. Sadly in our culture keeping up appearances, how society sees us and saving face is an obsession... rather pathetic really.
It's like living in a prison. It's so sad.
@@lmiller1413 totally correct. I find attitudes like this insufferable.
Wrong! If anything Indian Americans almost always live way beyond their means. But I agree that Indians are extemely sensitive about how they and their family are concieved. (Honor, achievement, money etc)
No just Indians. Middle Eastern and Pakistanis as well.
I have seen it, they drive a new Mercedes while they can't afford quality food.....
Who the hell needs a house that big for 3 people?
Perhaps Rick believed that COVID would be returning with a vengeance & he would have to self-isolate if his wife or daughter tested positive.
Incredibly vain people need these kinds of things to try to feel powerful and important. It’s why expensive designer clothing puts their labels on the outside for all to see
Jlo
Vanity!
@barnabusdoyle4930
Hey, what's wrong with designer labels?
I love my designer labels!
They say CARHARRT !!
Thank you Dr Grande for the gentle reminder to appreciate what we have, I grew up in a large family, and they mean more to me. than a huge house & tons of money ever could.
‘Rick was always trying to impress people with how wealthy and important he was…’
This is the root of too many of these problems. A lot of troubled celebrities are acute examples of this. Live YOUR life as best you can, and don’t get caught-up with trying to impress people who don’t even care about your existence.
The mansion was supposed to make up for his inadequacies.
He was trying to signal a big 🍆😂
Pretty selfish to make the daughter pay for his/her failures.
Family annihilators are an odd breed, in their head they think the family can't make it without them, they are, by definition, insane.
@@kingcosworth2643I am an Indian man and I can relate to the feeling of not being an individual but a part of a family unit where my success reflects on everyone and my failure brings shame and misery. Indian society is too toxic when it comes to these things.
@@channelchen Except that in Indian culture, they don't. People are obsessed with gossip, especially when they can shame another person.
Fucked up!
Guy had it backward. I live my life so that my children and wife can be happier and healthier despite whatever failures or disappointment I have. To me, that should be the goal anyone with a family aspires to. Forget yourself and make the world better for your loved ones.
Have you ever watched Scamfish? Husbands leave their wife off very well after they pass and then the wife sends it all to some "boyfriend" who is unfortunately stuck on an oil rig etc etc and needs every penny of that inheritance. We humans are pretty strange sometimes.
Amen❤
Yes but balance is obviously key and taking care of oneself is helpful to others as well.
Take care!
You are a real, loving, and healthy-minded man. Unfortunately, we live in a time where quite-a-few men don’t live by your analogy. Many are too selfish today.
Yes but narcs usually only care for themselves
How could the wife have not known? I feel particularly sad for the daughter. They should have sent her out for the day with her boyfriend or similar and let her live.
She already had all her university paid for. She was going to start it soon. So sad. She could have had a future, even without her parents.
The dad couldn't endure the image of her daughter or wife thinking of him as a loser.
These kinds of crimes are so incredibly selfish.
The guy's ego was definitively more important for him than anything else in the world, including his own family.
Felt the same about the daughter.
The things that egotistical men will do to avoid having an awkward conversation which includes the truth
Goes for vast amounts of women too.
@@geminisundonetake a look at the manosphere and compare that to feminists conversations. You'll find you're wrong. Maybe there are some women like that, but it's not our nature.
@@geminisundoneNo, women are not murdering their families. Don't boys think before they type?
@@chaoswitch1974 Does anyone who calls herself a witch represent the normal nature of women?
@@ohsweetmystery Witches aren't real. Women are.
I’m not convinced that the wife was completely in the dark.
Lets not blame the victim even if they were complicit in the financial stupidity, being stupid is not murder.
She was very likely a lot like him.
they both sound the same feel sorry for the daughter though, there is a saying that we cant choose our parents..
Whether she was in the dark, it was lights out, anyway.
@@lutomson3496In many states, children CAN choose parents. My mother facilitated “dispossessions”, all the time. The daughter dug the big house, too, obviously.
I heard about this 3 weeks ago. Their spending habits make no sense...He lost his job and then wanted to buy mansions...Reminds me of the Murdock case where there was greed...but a lot of destruction.
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You covered an incident like this last week, after reading the title I thought it was a repost…it’s crazy how much greed and pride motivates envy, the second of which can become lethal in a weak mind.
1 family anhiliation every 5 days in the USA. Google it.
Same, I thought it was a repost. The fact that people are taking lives just to maintain a facade is incredible.
Was that the one with the instagram wife? Very similar.
A lot of women are kept in the dark about their finances but in this case, I think she was aware. When a woman is buying furniture she has to know the spending limit. They just winged it together, magical thinking, no clear career concepts. Excellent analysis, Dr Grande, hit all the points. Isolated, enmeshed family dynamic - all function together, nobody getting off the plane - brilliant!
I have been in several homes of people who put on an 'outside' show of being wealthy, i.e., designer clothes and jewelry and purses, expensive cars and lavish restaurant visits. But, when I went into their homes, they were extremely sparse of home furnishings and furniture. Sometimes to the point of having rooms that were completely empty. They didn't have any money to decorate their expensive house. Often the house with what I would call filthy, at the least extremely messy. It was like what they presented to outsiders was being rich but deep inside, they were bankrupt.
Yes, I've been in houses like that as well! Those people have a lot of nervous energy, lying a lot, always worried they're going to be "found out."
Absolutely insane to buy a house that expensive for only 3 people. I’m
Sure his Harvard job paid well but nowhere near enough to afford a 4m mortgage payment. I can’t image it would be fun to be living in a mansion and being flat broke. Why not just get something more modest they could afford ?
It is a living nightmare.
A 2 room bungalow would have been sufficient.
It's all about keeping up the appearance of a successful stockbroker.
He wanted people to think he could afford the mansion. Living modestly would not satisfy his ego-in fact it would degrade it. He had to look wealthy. He was living his fantasy. Now he is not living.
Dr Grande is tearing it up right now with all these good submissions. He's unstoppable!
There was a bloke in UK called foster who killed his family and animals because he didn't want to pay tax. No one does, but your own flesh and blood?
Was that the guy who made MILLIONS from some foam used on spacecrafts? And after visiting friends for dinner, he did away with his wife and daughter, set fire to the barn WITH THE HORSES still in it, and then the house with all of their bodies?
He set fire to the barn with animals in it??!! He's a cruel, control extremist psycho!!
@@LeftAlone-s2iYes, Christopher Foster. He invented insulation used in oil rigs. He shot his family and the animals before setting the fires.
I immediately thought of that case when I saw this video. The guy had paid £70,000 for a shotgun to show off to his shooting friends.
Absolute tosser he was!
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for.
I feel your pain mate, as a fellow retiree, I'd suggest you look into passive index fund investing and learn some more. For me, I had my share of ups and downs when I first started looking for a consistent passive income so I hired an expert advisor for aid, and following her advice, I poured $30k in value stocks and digital assets, Up to 200k so far and pretty sure I'm ready for whatever comes.
In the 50's my Dad worked a modest job, Mom stayed at home and raised the kids, and they lived a nice middle class lifestyle including owning a home. Nowadays both I and my partner works and can barely afford to make ends meet. Soon the kids and family dog will need to work to keep this household going. It's the destruction of the American dream right before our eyes.
If you are not in the financial market space right now, you are making a huge mistake. I understand that it could be due to ignorance, but if you want to make your money work for you...prevent inflation
I feel Investors should exercise caution with their exposure and.exercise caution when considering new investments, particularly during periods of inflation. It is advisable to seek guidance from a professional or a licensed expert in order to navigate this recession and achieve potential high yields
Tracy Britt Cool Consulting was my hope during the 'bear summer' last year. I made so many mistakes but also learned so much from it, and of course from Tracy.
Good to know that Harvard I.T. education was in good hands like Ricks'.
it was business school online, not IT.
Bingo 😂 College is at best 65% a scam. Ie volleyball for 2 semesters in engineering, but we all got A's. My GPA needed it.
@@cmaylo I.T. is used to facilitate that online educational infrastructure btw and that's what Rick worked in.
My heart grieves for the daughter, she was probably clueless in what her parents were up to, thinking she had wealthy stable parents
That TN house is so incredibly hideous. McMansion Hell would like a word with the architect.
Amen.
“Cash without class.” But in the case of these people, they had neither.
I was thinking that at best it maybe could be made into some kind of weird theme hotel....like a Tim Burton Experience hotel...?
Funny how so many wealthy people don't realize how tacky their mansions are.
Even the outside is UGLY!
Meanwhile I am struggling to buy a 1 bed, 1 bath condo
And you and your family are still alive and he and his isn't. You're the rich one now.
*I’ll never understand people buy things they can’t afford…* 🙄
Maybe they want to brag their friends & relatives' ears off. Karen Carpenter's abusive husband Thomas James Burris did the same thing. He bought a Rolls-Royce & yacht with Karen's money.
Optics over reality
@@schawnettarobinson8584 true…
I once treated myself to a pair of trainers that were out of my budget and put it on clear pay……. I felt bad for it and never did it again lol
Including medical care. Agreeing to care you cannot afford to pay and then declaring bankruptcy so that other people end up paying your medical bills is an incredibly selfish thing to do.
Fake it till you make it rarely works.
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I think that is synonymous with going into something with a positive attitude. Doesn't guarantee success.
It works but only on a small scale when failures aren't devastating, and you need to eventually learn the skills
When the parents kill their children it is so unbelievable to me. To hide shame?! Your kids will love you with all your faults. They might be the ONLY ones that will be there for you. The are your programed allies. I just dont get it. 💔💜
My holy heavens, this describes one of my grandchildren. Ego so inflated…that every job abstained goes by the wayside after a few weeks…then, has the skill to get another one, in short order! 💔
The fact that the super insipid "Edu-nova" was the best name the guy could come up with tells you all you need to know.
I believe the phrase "big hat, no cattle" applies here.
Fur coat, no knickers.
In the UK we say” all fur coat and no knickers”.
It is very common in some communities, specifically Indians and Pakistanis..some of them always want to shows they're successful in American..expensive clothes, cars, house, gone to Ivy or tier top university, etc..even though they don't have at the moment the income to those expenses
@GheyR : they get that handed to them for free here in the Bay Area (prestige, money, land, power & CITIZENSHIP WHEN HAVING CHILDREN IN OUR COUNTRY), while all the citizens born & raised here are left homeless, jobless, penniless & starving, while Indians are given first priority.
When I grew up here, all nationalities & religious backgrounds lived peacefully & equally together in wonderful communities. This included whites, blacks, Hispanics, Asians & Indians, but now that's not so. All of California's been handed over to Indians only & it sucks because their's no room for anyone else.
@@lisaisgrig7636We've found the racist.
@@lisaisgrig7636nothing is handed to Indian Americans. Don’t let your envy cloud your judgement. Indian community in US works very hard and hence they are successful.
This is common to Americans as a whole. Not just Indians.
In Canada too
Dr. Grande, that purple shirt looks really good on you.
It reminds me of Charlie sheen in two and a half Men 😂 but I do love his and his wife's style.
If he had completed the deal, I’m pretty sure it would’ve been the highest price NOT paid for a house in Chattanooga.
This is heartbreaking. Why couldn't he just be content with what he had? It doesn't sound to me like he thought himself special - quite the opposite. It sounds like he thought he wasn't special and was trying hard to make himself special.
You are one of only two UA-cam creators to whom I have joined their Patron accounts. I also purchased your book.
I am continually fascinated by your case analysis. You are not only erudite but also smooth as silk in your delivery. No histrionics for you.
Thank you for carefully constructing each presentation and inserting your low-key humor when the opportunity presents itself.
I look forward to many more videos from you.
Rick must have believed the bigger the mansion he had, the BIGGER THAT MADE HIM FEEL!!
Bigger mansions in Hollywood...
Kind of like Viagra in the housing market effect.
@@gold707786 Lol
He was a narcissist on speed.
Hello Dr. Grande! Have a great day everyone ❤
You are very kind
@@McGeeification Thank you😊
Thank you. Have a nice evening!. 😊 ✌️
@@watermelonwishes4193 thank you
I never understand living beyond your means this badly when you can live comfortably and sanely
Wow! He set his standards real high! I am content to live in a 800 square foot home
Sad, I am Brazilian and my husband American. I had some friends from Colombia, Venezuela, Paraguai… everything they did was to compete who has the larger home even if inside nothing was beautiful. After a while I stop seeing them because it was crazy. Later one I was told that 2 of them
Lost their jobs, one got cancer, the other divorce..it’s amazing how people in this Country are obsessed with these big homes that many of them are very bad take care as lack of clean, paint, nice furniture, nice decor, disorganization etc
I have a good friend who does have plenty of money. He has a nice home but the furnishings & decor are probably 25-30 yrs old. He drove a 2001 infinity until about 6 months ago when his son decided to sell his wives 2 yr old Volvo suv. My friend bought it from his son. Some people are simply cheap & don't care
We inherited 4bedroom house, before that I lived in apartment my entire life. It’s been few years and I still struggle with all the work that comes with house. It’s wonderful for my kids but I won’t be able to keep it up when I get old. Big houses, big problems.
“people in this Country”… which country? You live in Brazil (which state) or the US? 🤔
@@b1ueocean”my husband American”
Im from Brazil as well and I agree with you. The keep up with the joneses is a huge thing here in the USA 😂
3 people in a 20 thousand sqft home is insane . I can't imagine hearing and cooling that place let alone property taxes.
Thank you for your analysis on this case, Dr. Grande!
Sad for their daughter, she was the only innocent person in this whole thing.
Dr. Grande, I learn and enjory a lot by listening to you. Best wishes.
It seems like every time I watch the news, another family has been annihilated over financial issues. It’s better to live and work at Taco Bell than to be dead in a box, but a narcissist can’t see that. It’s pathetic.
Those types of jobs stress you for Low pay. Your work all day and STILL broke. So unless you live with your parents, that's not an issue either.
The calm, monotonal delivery and dry humor 🏅
😢 OMG .... those poor women....girls life was just starting.
The wife, Tina, was shady, too. However, nobody should have died.
Such a selfish act, what a loser
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Materialism is a form of mental illness. Not caring about material things or what people think of me are two of the best things I ever did for myself.
I don't understand. The parents are both very intelligent people. Why this huge house? What is it for?? I don't understand.
Image, it's a projection to create jealously, it's quite common.
Review the list of adjectives that Dr Grande assigned to the guy. Kamal was likely a grandiose narcissist with psychopathic tendencies
Perhaps for when his large Indian extended family visits.
Who would want to clean a 19k sq ft house??
Someone with live in Indian housekeepers
@@Heywood.Jablomejealousy is a cruel mistress. Plenty of Americans buy mansions.
Dr. Grande, love your humor. This is sad all around, three lives gone.
I also blame our society for giving these material things so much importance. They have nothing to do with who a person is in their heart, mind and behavior.
Isn't that the reason 'reality' shows like Kardashians have been successful? I mean, who are those people anyways?
Rick wanted the trappings of business achievement but not actual business achievement.
Well to be fair, creating a billion dollar business isn't the easiest of achievements
@@kingcosworth2643 That's true, and pretending to have done so doesn't make the goal any closer.
Another narcissist who ruined himself/others. Funny quips & a great analysis of a new case to me. Happy Sunday🌸 Thanks Dr G😊💜💜
I mean I didn’t know half the people on my street had kids/dogs because they never come outside. Ever.
Me too, until school opened. Now I'm wondering where did all these children come from, as they get off the bus.
"The mansion was 'a little big' for three people." Lol. That mansion could fit three full families.
At 19000 sq feet, 10
families could fit , especially with all the outdoor space in addition to……
Pride. Zero humility. Zero spiritual life.
Keep up appearances.
Remember kids, we're all just a few missed mortgage payments away from disaster! (an irreverent rock guitar plays wildly in the background)
Hahahaha. The comments on this channel are as good as the content. The good doctor attracts witty people (and half witties like me)
@@psjasker I'm def in the half witties group! Welcome, brother!
The “owners”of Rick’s home most likely was whoever issued the home loan for Rick. In other words, once he stopped paying for his home the holder of the deed enforced eviction. Rick like many thought he owned a home while having a mortgage but the fact is until the mortgage is paid off you don’t own the home. Technically, full ownership of a property only happens when the loan is paid off. People forget all this and get over extended on properties that cannot really afford as we found out in the mortgage crisis of 2008.
Rick was basically a teacher. How did he think he could afford all of this. The man was out of touch.
Surely he should have used his brain to become an investment banker 😮
His wife, Tina, was also a problem.
Right
Peas in a pod, there was obviously something that drew them together
Do you know her personally ?
Wife was just as bad as the husband. Daughter is the only victim.
I just hope I never end up on a Dr. Grande Video topic.
why is Dr. Grande so sarcastic, acting like he's very serious? He kills me every day🤣
Lots of potential, but preferred the appearance of success thru fraud, over actual success thru hard work and intelligent choices. For what? The final choice of live with the shame, or death?? What a colossal waste all around! Too sad. Poor daughter😢
You could say that as well about any con man or criminal. They'd rather live large for a few years, even though the likely outcome is ending their lives in prison where conditions are squalid, loud, violent, and primitive.
Why would three people need 11 bedrooms and bathrooms. Just ridiculous in any scenario
A simple life can be a good life because life is more precious than anything else in life.
Hi Dr. Grande - you always do such a great job with these videos and your perspective is always interesting - thank you
Dr. Grande, you always get a like before I even start the video. 😊 Have a great Sunday!
EGO is a terrible burden.
So when they were a couple they lived in a five bed house. Then once they had a child, they lived in an 11 bedroom/11.5 bathroom home😮
Why all that space?!?
Thank you, Dr.Grande. This happened close to us. Great information, as always!❤
Who wants to live on a lake for that much.
Give me a shack on the beach in Hawaii or anything in the Caribbean.
Swimming in 90 degree crystal clear water is priceless.
4 sticks, a tarp for a roof and I’m good. Highs of 84 and lows of 74… a few solar cells and some batteries would be all the electricity you needed.
Tennessee is beautiful but the water is dark and cold like the winters.
That's what I'm talking about! My twist on that- give me a studio apartment with a man that's loves me and I love him, a few patio lights, and I'm good!
Chattanooga isn't really cold and dark in the winters. We rarely get snow and have 4 cold snaps from February to April.
Mosquitos too
My son lived in Hawaii played guitater in a rock band...he said he couldnt date Hawaiian girls necaise he was White. He lived pretty much hand to mouth pften doimg kitchen work at the nars where he llayed when not working. He told me aboutmone place he loved so humod the mold was lile haor grpwing on the walls and everything covee with it. Hawaii is apparently a very expensive place to live. At 40 he wanted a family and returned to New England snowy winters...the shine was off Hawaii...he was tired of being a poor musician too.
Dr. Grande, i just wanted to say how much i enjoy your podcast. Also, i thoroughly enjoyed your Christmas podcast with your lovely wife. She is so sweet.❤
Who needs a 19000 sq ft house? The answer is no one.
Nick Cannon does. He’s got a lot of kids.
@@michaelperez9966LOL
@@michaelperez9966 So do Bonnie Hunt & Steve Martin. They have 12 kids.
No mansion in this world is big enough to accommodate the murderer's huge ego.
@@kyleboulanger170oh damn lol, 12??? I had no idea
Fantastic as always Dr grande! I've been waiting for you to cover this case!❤❤❤❤
Dr Grande sporting the Purrple 💜 Best color on you so far!
He does look good in purple. I prefer the flowered shirts though.
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I wait every day for my show. Thanks for all you do for us. DR.G🌟🌹🌟👍
Sleeping well at night in a small cabin that is within your means beats living in a 100,000 sf mansion that you can't afford any minute of the year!
I love your humor! cramped conditions :)
Here in Aus. This drops 5am Monday. Love to start the week speculating about what could be happening in a situation like this!
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Thank you Dr. Grande.
If everyone watched your videos the knowledge of human nature would increase the likelihood that these scam artist types are less successful at constant escalation
What a sad man Rick was, emotionally stunted and devoid of true joy, peace and contentment.
How tragic that the daughter lost her life due to her parents whose top goal in life seemed to be gaining admiration from others for wealth. Possessing wealth has no relation to the owners morals and character.
Mr Grande. My favorite counselor.
Keeping up with people who couldn't care less, or at the least, are bad mouthing you behind your back.
Thank you for posting. I sure hope you and your family take a vacation sometime!
I bet he records a few/day. But releases daily. He has a very smart wife too. They are a great team. And he needs to generate as much output/cintent as he can now while his health is allowing. Dr. shared a bit re. his situation in the thank-you video for 600K subscribers. I hope to see him at 5mil before he slows down ❤🙏✨
This election season should be the catalyst.
I feel bad for the daughter.
always
how can you buy a 4 million luxury house with only 200k avalaible?
By taking it from your successful spouse like Thomas James Burris did to buy his Rolls-Royce & yacht.
That's 5% down, pretty standard for mortgages up until the rate hike
Rick might be John List's long-lost son. John murdered his entire family (including his elderly mother) after being fired from his job.
You called it, I too was also thinking of the List case from 71'.
@distributorovkvlt-points5481 did you know that "Every five days, according to an analysis by the Indianapolis Star, a person murders his family" in the USA. Google it.
I was very surprised when I saw this statistics.
Was thinking the same. And that Todt guy
Only difference is List and Todt decided to keep themselves alive.
That's interesting. That's a multi level disaster
You know his wife had syphilis from a former partner and she pretty much had lost her mind. That didn't square with his strict Lutheran background.
Still think it's shady how the brother (with the life insurance) was there that morning 🧐
Can you cover the case of Joseph DeLucia Jr. who murdered his family members after he found out he was left out of his mother’s will
Rick pulled a big trick.. didn't end too slick. Makes me absolutely SICK 🤮🤑