I have a friend who works 2 jobs and watches their kids so his wife can prance about on Instagram in new dresses and making videos at restaurants. He's got to be working 80 hours a week average for her to make about 10 minutes worth of videos a week. She only has 20000 followers, mostly middle aged men telling her how beautiful she is. Its absolute insanity.
To be fair, this dude also lived an extravagant lifestyle. He also had his expensive cars and boat. He also lived in the crazy expensive home with the furniture that was hundreds of thousands of dollars. She just posted about it. She was encouraged to go on her trips and didn’t know about their financial troubles.
How does he work 2 jobs and watch his kids at the same time? Maybe try minding your business. People make very good money being influencers so maybe not speak on things you know nothing about as she is probably contributing financially.
@@superbwater78 He's a programmer and works from home. She isn't making anything with 20k followers and doesn't work. I prefer to help friends than 'mind my own business'. If someone wants to be an influencer, best of luck to them. These ones faking it with mummy and daddy's money or abusing a spouse need to be called out. Maybe think your comments through before defending people you know nothing about from comments made by people who know them personally, just a thought.
It's stories like this than make me grateful for my average looks, modest home filled with bargain furnishings, a closet full of colorful tee shirts and comfortable running shoes, one 20 year old car, a boring social life, no loans or debts and a loving family with no secrets. That's all I've ever needed.
I used to have a second job as a tax preparer. A client came in driving a high-end SUV, perfect hair and nails, the epitome of “high maintenance.” Income over six figures. Three mortgages. Two teenage kids with no college funds. They had withdrawn a huge sum from their 401k and owed $3,500 to the IRS. Of course she had been expecting a refund. She started crying, “Where will I get $3,500?” I thought, wow, I’m a single mother of three and in a pinch I could come up with that. Moral of the story: outward appearances are just that. Appearances.
You could come up with $3,500 in a pinch???? Thats privilidge right there. Im a working single parent of three myself. I couldnt even come up with $500 in a pinch. I live week to week. No savings.
@Him_He_Me that's what I was about to say. I could come up with $3,500 in a pinch sounds like someone who is not living paycheck to paycheck. I could barely come up with $300 but $2,000 is the average rent where I live.
1 man , 1 woman, and 2 children. How many houses do they need. How many rooms can you live in at once? How many cars can you drive at once. Live with less and be happier Edit: Thank you for 5K likes. I wish y’all all the happiness you deserve
@@twalker8020 Regular working people can keep pumping out as many children as they please… just realize each generation will continue getting poorer than the last
A very sad story. The only positive in this is that Brandon did not murder his wife and kids. Many others have chose to end the lives of innocent spouses and children.
Everyone is looking at this story and seeing the numbers and extravagant lifestyle and failing to realize the same thing can happen to them on a smaller scale. How many people do you know that are making similar mistakes to this guy in their own life? A too big home that stretches your budget, a new car you really didn't need, a vacation you cannot afford, trying to keep up with people you can't afford to keep up with and a failure to admit this to yourself and scale down. They lie to themselves, and their family and it leads to the miserable life and dark feelings this guy struggled with.
@@jamiemiller6156 ppl are willing to be in debt just to live a fancy life lol my favorite quote when I walk around the mall with wife and kids is "you know we can't afford that" lol or when my kids say their friend's dad bought a new Benz they say "he's rich" and correct them by saying "no he's got a lot of debt, you need to understand the difference between money and debt and he has an $80 thousand dollar debt! come on kids time to go out in our 2007 Honda fully paid 😏" 😅
Didn’t have good business sense for sure. If he sold his $9 million property and rent it one at a reasonable amount and in an inexpensive part of town or outside of New York City then he could’ve started paying on his debts in a step-by-step way
@@ZenZen5en these people suffer from an addiction to extravagant materialistic lifestyles. To the point where they’ve been desensitized to feel any joy in anything else
My partner used to believe he had to have all the material things and tried to buy my love. He worked himself to the bone and wouldn’t listen to me when I told him I don’t care about having a flash car and all the flash things, all I wanted was more time with him for me and our children. His business fell on hard times and we ended up losing everything. It was the best thing that ever happened to us. We now live the most simple life imaginable but he has time for our kids and has discovered there is so much more to life than financial success. We are wealthy beyond measure
Most wives think like this. But since men 9lace so much importance on money, they think we are like them. When women leave when a man loses money it's not because of the lifestyle. It's because they become horrendous and abusive dumping all their insecurities on his poor wife. Candace likely would have stayed. It's too bad he just assumed...as men love to do.
I gave up a 6 figure income to stay in another country with my boyfriend. He wouldn't give me time because he sold himself to tourists for $20 a day. He felt like a king because before meeting me he only made $10 a day.
5:46 $180,000 AND $12,000 PER MONTH for FURNITURE?!?!?! Was it made entirely of solid gold or something? That is INSANE!!! Just buy some couches and a table, good GOD
Not even normal since he was still worth millions. He could still live a rich life but, not as rich as he wants. Renting homes for 50k and furnishing it with almost 200k furniture rental. Just ridiculous.
By then he probably knew he was gonna die he just wanted to have a nice time before that. But his father was successful, couldn't he teach his son some tricks to keep him afloat in case of trouble when he was younger?
@@mingiinimene3335 from the story it seemed like the dad got wealthy by being shady and whatever the son inherited, a lot of it was used up already for lawsuits, but there were still several million dollars left which any responsible person could make last a lifetime just living on the interest. Even if he never worked another day in his life and just coasted on interest dividends he could have had a very comfortable upper middle class, six figure salary for his family. But of course he just had to waste his money on real estate schemes and living like a very rich someone with a hundred million dollars in the bank instead of a pretty rich someone with a couple million in the bank. Thing is, his kids would love him even if he had only a couple hundred in the bank and worked at Starbucks but was alive and there for them. If his wife was so fake she'd dump him if he were an average Joe then eff her.
@@mingiinimene3335 or a last ditch effort to mingle with the ultra rich and be able to strike a deal or even just borrow more money. At that point everyone probably already knew he was very broke and in a lot of debt so they all don’t want anything to do with him.
@@mingiinimene3335 Probably not. What worked for his dad probably won't work for him. Every decade seems like a different system entirely, disregarding basic building block stuff like dividends. I mean, cryptocurrency and the AI Investment Bubble didn't even exist at the level it is now 10 years ago, for instance. Plus, the Yen Carry Trade looks like it won't be a thing going forward, and that's just what I know as a normie.
I have known several individuals like this in my lifetime, one died at 45 years of age, the others are older and alive but with a drastic change in their lifestyle and live with the pain daily. Live BELOW your means because no mansion, no fancy vehicle, no fancy yacht can match the beauty and serenity of living withing your means!
This is the definition of Vanity Fair. I am a bankruptcy attorney and I have noticed that my clients, rich or poor, always say that if their incomes were just 10% higher, they would be fine. Vanity of Vanities.
I use pray to win the lottery. I reasoned what I would do to help my family and friends. Then I realized any lottery was not going to be enough, I amend my prayer more money. After sussing out how and what I would do I needed to greatly expand the amount and my prayer. Hopefully you, like me have determined there just isn't enough money in the world to take care of my expanded philanthropic reasoning. Like the commenter I had to learn to live with what I have. As my financial situation change, I need to change with it and be happy with that, that "money can't buy me..."
Like he wasn’t also self centered and self important? Sure she had a social media account. But he had luxury cars and a speedboat named millertime for gods sake. I’m sorry but he was just a frivolous and extravagant as she was
But they make a little income if they continue to provide content. Many wealthy You Tubers get a check every month, even though their content is basically contributing nothing to society. She obviously wasn't earning enough from Instagram to cover the expenses of her lavish lifestyle and relied on her husband to maintain her.
Most people who develop an extravagant lifestyle find it nearly impossible to downgrade to a middle-class lifestyle. I work in Logistics & have a modest income but would never think to live beyond my means.
It's so sad. He could have invested that 9 million and safely been generating around half a million dollars every year, in perpetuity, which would have enabled a fantastic lifestyle, free of worry, never having to work again, and could have afforded a multi-million dollar home anywhere in the world, from New York City to Hawaii, San Diego to San Francisco, from Florida to a chateau in France, to a villa in Italy. They could have lived a wonderful, happy life together. They could have been living the American dream with more affluence than 99.9% of the world will ever know. But sadly, it wasn't enough.
Tbf, he may have had mortgages on the property & taxes take a HUGE chunk of that, plus considering his financial status, other debts would have easily absorbed what was left
There was a very similar recent case in Dover, Massachusetts but tragically the Father also took the life of his family. Unfortunately, some people will prefer death over losing the image of weath.
It reminds me of the third Nolan Batman movie where Bruce Wayne loses all his money and the next day they have repossessed his car and all his furniture. Seriously, rich guys; just buy that stuff.
At this point it’s pretty safe to assume that all influencers’ lives are a total narcissistic sham. ETA: For the people saying I’m basing my opinion only on one case: Ruby Franke, Chris & Shanann Watts, Courtney Clenney, Kat Torres, to name just a few, plus the dozens upon dozens of influencers who regularly make an appearance on police bodycam video channels for committing DUIs, leaving their children home alone so they can go off and party, and DV cases beating up their bfs.
@@sallybrite1530 Honestly, it's not that hard to believe since it happens all the time even with far less wealthy couples. One spouse is in debt up to their eyeballs, while the other spouse has no idea because they don't manage the finances and don't think to ask.
You’d be surprised how strong the patriarchy still is in wealthy western countries. They marry ‘trophy’ wives often who they expect to rarely ask about business if ever. They handle kids and social events and never discuss business as that stays with the men
Any time you are disconnected from the realities of people living real life you lose perspective. Probably human nature. Many lifelong politicians couldn't tell you whether their utilities are $300, $1300, or $3000 a month.
Used to work in Chicago at a hotel. The hotel down the street from us had a guy jump from the roof. They did an interview with one of the jumpers friends. The market had tanked. The guy was worth 30 million one day. And the next he was worth 10 million due to the market. The news did an interview with the jumper’s boyfriend. His boyfriend said he just couldn’t live at this level. This was 2008. The Great Recession. I had changed careers. Went from making $40/hr back down to $10. Was in the process of losing 2 houses , a car, … everything. And this guy jumped off a roof because he was down to his last 10 million dollars. It was something that stuck with me.
@@eadweard. Hey The comment said he worked at a hotel and the hotel down the street is where the guy jumped and they interviewed the guys boyfriend... That led me to believe he knew fm being in the same area and working in the same industry in the same area and then he learned some stuff fm the local news when they covered why a man is diving off of a hotel building. 🤷🏼♀️💜
During that period I was working on Wall Street in the tech sector. One evening, a colleague and I went to a nearby bar and this guy who was obviously chain drinking for over an hour randomly started drunkenly talking to us and covering our drinks on his tab. He, too, had a Long Island home and Manhattan apartment. Turned out that he went from making $2 million the previous year to "only" $500,000 that year and it was clearly taking a toll on him.
Dude,.. your content is dark, but real. It makes me appreciate what I have. Sometimes it's good to just be normal.. or as normal as can be. Cheers and thanks for the great content.
Vanity is common all around the world, not just the US. For example, it's common for female office workers in East Asian countries to own multiple high end hand bags because owning a high end bag makes them look "rich", even if they can't actually afford the bag.
Regular hard working Americans don't act like this. Most of us are just trying to get by. Could care less what others think of me or my status. This is social media problem. Not just USA.
My father always told me. Live like a peasant but think like a millionaire. You will be happy as long as you live a humble life even you have millions of dollars in the bank.
I am off all social media’s outside of UA-cam. People are obsessively living off likes from others & the portrayal of FAKE lifestyles. It’s pretty sad. I want no parts of it. Unfortunate story Doc.
I wish that I could stress this to the extent that all would deeply understand it: There is no freedom like not giving a damn what other people think of you. In fact almost no one is thinking about you anyway. They’re thinking about themselves and what others are thinking about them. I’ve always known this intellectually. But it took decades before I came around to genuinely, in the very narrow of my bones, not trying to impress anyone. It’s a tremendous relief. I wish everyone could have this.
Couldn’t agree more. I remember years ago telling my husband I couldn’t wear a T-shirt (still clean) on a dog walk because I wore it yesterday and what would the regular dog walkers think. He said “they won’t even notice. They’ll be too busy with their own thoughts/problems.” When we met the first regular dog walker I tried to remember what she had on yesterday, couldn’t. Iris.A.
My husband & I have been Realtors for 30 years. Typically, the higher priced the property is for sale, the more broke the owners are! Barely can cover repairs etc.
I noticed that too. One of the Sag Harbor house owner who has Audi RSQ8 for $150K, bargained with me reagarding my service for $50. It was so pathetic.
The moral of the story is: don’t believe everything you see on social media, especially from couples who constantly post about their private lives, showing how “cute and happy” they are because they supposedly have the best love and most success in the world. They likely feel the need to prove something to others. Truly happy, fulfilled, accomplished, and intelligent people have nothing to prove, so they keep their lives more private.
When your clothes become nothing more than designer labels, that's pathetic. They renewed their vows and then he turns around and kills himself , leaving her a widow drowning in debt and the children with no father. Living in NYC for years, this story is not unusual. Lots of wealthy people flung themselves out of highrises over financial debt. Me, I prefer a simple life, give me a Sabrett Hot Dog off a street cart, let me go ice skating in Central Park, take in the Art Festival in the Village and I'm a happy camper and so is my husband of 40 years. I envy people with artistic talent, not people that own 99 homes 50 cars, etc. and live their entire lives impressing other people. They die not knowing the true meaning of life and judge life by material possessions.
I love the quote ‘live below your means’ you never know when you will have unexpected expenses. So don’t overspend just to have luxuries that are meaningless, you don’t need to own a lot to be happy.
Living in NYC, I can tell you that him coming clean about his finances likely meant losing his family. It’s just how it is in those circles and he knew it.
truly, my family of 3 live on 1 salary where 60% goes to rent, yet we still have everything we need and more, we go on vacation abroad every summer too. we also buy clothes on sale, shop at discount markets, we don’t pay for nail and eyelash appointments, we drive an oldish car. but we live totally fine
I think it’s part of a process. Once you have some material goods you see how worthless most stuff is. I had to go through a process to fully understand this.
I read an article that said Candace had no knowledge of Brandon's business. How do you spend so much of your husband's money without knowing any details? I feel for Brandon- he felt haunted by his father's sudden passing, tried to live up to his father's name, and was in way too deep. He saw no way out. He felt shame.
What was her background? Did her mother spend whatever she wanted because her dad could provide at that level? Was she taught that finances are the husband's job only? You'd think by now that most women would at least want to be informed about finances, if not the one actually paying the bills and handling things like taxes. Now she gets to be the trad widow of yesteryear, whose husband dies and leaves her to sort out a mess she has no idea how to manage.
@@nancyayotte2297 I don't think she is to blame necessarily. She was given a strong impression that the money for the lifestyle was there, even after she confronted her husband about it. And what she does with her life is not for us to judge, she lived a lavish life because she thought they could afford it. She may have behaved differently had she known the reality of the situation
His wife was culpable as well. So glad I didn't grow up in the era of social media and don't use it. When someone feels the need to broadcast the image of a perfect life, they are in reality "outing" deep rooted insecurities.
That’s what I say. I can afford to replace a watch that costs X, but I’m not going to replace a watch that costs XYZ. 😂 If I’m not comfortable buying 2 of something then I’m not comfortable buying it. 😊
Absolutely zero sympathy for these people, wife included. At some point, she knew that they were drowning yet she’s booking trips to Spain & getting weekly $400 facials. This was completely avoidable by downsizing and their version of downsizing would have still been a normal person’s dream life. They should have sold all but one of their properties, keeping the most modest one, bought furniture from a regular store that still could have been beautiful, and gotten rid of ALL of their debt. Completely lived their lives for Instagram. Beyond sad & pathetic honestly. What a horrific example to set for their children, poor kids.
Did you watch the part where she confronted him and he reassured her and got their lawyer to reassure her too ? That was his opportunity to be honest with her , as he’s the one who handled the finances. He continued lying to her. Not sure how that’s on her 🤔
See, that's not the real question; if there are people that will buy it, **anything** can be that expensive, including furniture. The real question is why that stuff gets rented.
@@sssinfullyyours for events and especially in real estate it makes sense. A lot of super high end homes get staged with beautiful pieces. But renting residential furniture for those prices is a different bowl of nuts entirely.
He kept digging a deeper hole. He had an opportunity to correct matters when he sold that multi-million dollar residence but decided to rent a residence and furniture at an exorbitant monthly rate. He had no more sense than a person working between paychecks at a minimum-wage job with no savings!
Shame on him. He took the cowardly way out and scarred his children for life instead of just selling all assets or declaring bankruptcy and then leading a normal life.
@@OikPoinFiveHe is not in hell. His dead in the ground until Resurrection Day, after which time he’ll have another chance to find god when the 144k inhabit the land with Jesus.
💯. And it comes to mind, that he had lived a life of privilege within a certain type of lifestyle all his life, which makes me wonder if it even occurred to him that he could find a way to make ends meet among the “less affluent”. if the idea did occur to him, it was probably very foggy and unclear and at best a horror show best avoided at all costs. How profoundly sad
THIS! She wanted to make sure all the poors knew how filthy rich they were. He probably correctly assumed she would be out the door the second the gold castle started to collapse around them.
You mustn't be too hard on her. Men and women are equal but we must also treat women more delicately. Men and women are equal but we need to pretend she was aloof to her husbands dealings. Men and women are equal but we mustn't place any blame on her for pressuring her husband. Men and women are equal but the rules dictate he's at fault and she was just sweet and naive. Don't get angry at me - I'm just telling you the rules in 2024
There was a rich man, last name Kamal, who murdered his wife and daughter, and then killed himself, all because of money problems. The two stories have a similar cause.
As someone who lost my husband to suicide when our kids were 8 and 3, this was a horrific choice on his part. He has no idea how he has scarred them and changed the course of their lives FOREVER.
All for stuff that doesn’t even matter. These people sounded ridiculous and way over the top. It’s sad he took his own life, his life was worth way more to his daughters. Man!
If he was poor, or average he would still have found a reason to exit life. That's how low self worth and depression work. These people just get drawn to the dark side of life😢
8/12/24 Rather take his life than come clean and tell his Wife, couldn’t afford lifestyle anymore (test of real love) or face people who knew him! I’m sure she’ll be fine other than vanity.! 43 is too young. Debt vs Truth
@@tooboukou8ball702 it's probably to prevent people from getting a huge life insurance policy to immediately self delete to give their family a big payout
It’s crazy. As a wife why the hell would u want ur husband going dead broke and stressed out over maintaining ur obscene lifestyle? I would understand if he has the means to do so but for him to be doing all that and u not coming in and being understanding to stop this madness is Crazy work!
Proverbs 12:9 says, “Better to be a nobody and yet have a servant than pretend to be somebody and have no food.” This proverb teaches the value of humility and living within one’s means. It is better to live modestly and have your needs met (like having a servant to help) than to put on a show of wealth or importance while struggling to meet basic needs. It warns against the dangers of pride and pretending to be something you’re not, suggesting that it’s wiser to live a humble, stable life than to seek status and end up in hardship. Stay humble seek the truth ✝️
Candice: Do a bankruptcy STAT. Rent a nice two bedroom apartment for yourself and the girls, go and get a certification for a decent job to bring in $5-6K per month gross, send the kids to a good public school and state universities after graduation. And VOILA, you will be free to have a very good life. Rich people seem unable to do this though.
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for.
Brian Humphery Services was my hope during the 'bear summer' last year. I made so many mistakes but also learned so much from it, and of course from Brian.
@@AdamVest same. I have zero balance and have been saving everything I can for investments/retirement. I’m literally trying to calculate how poorly I can live if I wanna quit working, backpack and fish and live solely off investments.
And you are. I grew up on the other side of the tracks from Hollywood . We often saw so-called stars completely homeless and doing unthinkable things for small change 😮.
Same here. I make $10,000 per month passively. With no debt and I have all the time in the world to spend with my kids. I don’t own no home but I live in Dominican Republic in my $500 per month for 3 bedrooms apartment. No fancy car, no expensive cloths. Just modest and fun life. I feel rich
His wife was not completely vacuous. She was a housewife and thought everything was okay. My husband isn't rich but I am a housewife and if my husband was in debt I wouldn't know. I don't look at his stuff.
@@LilyFlowers-hh3sc You should know what the family finances are, just to be on the safe side. All of us are mortal and anything can happen. Forewarned is forearmed.
"But such is human life. Here today and gone tomorrow. A dream -- a shadow -- a ripple on the water -- a thing for invisible gods to sport with for a season and then toss idly by -- idly by. It is rough. - Mark Twain
At least this guy didn't put insurance on his wife & children, and then commit M to try to break even. Others take their family out as they take themselves out. As flawed as he was, he valued their lives above his own.
Reminds me of a boss I had. Everyone in his life, including his wife thought he was wealthy and successful. He was buying new toys, cars, equipment, all on credit. Meanwhile I had to constantly fight off bill collectors until we were eventually cut off and the business went under. Keeping up with the image was more important than anything and it just made me sick to watch behind the scenes.
I had a boss like this too. Ladyboss, married into money, tried her hand into running a company. I hated picking up phones at that time bc supplier would call up asking for payment. She'd ask her assistant to cook up the books to make her account look OK for investors. Sometimes her assistants would go down to the pawnshop with her jewellery bc she was too embarassed to do so. The last straw was how she withheld pay for everyone (up to 1 week) until she can borrow cash from her rich friends. I heard one dude showed up with a gun asking for his pay. He was the armed guard for the company so ppl were shitting bricks.
Did you miss the part where she ask him about theyre financial situation and he lied to her saying everything was fine and even encouraging her to live life like everything was normal
@@katval5250 There is no way she did not know. They rented on Park Ave instead of buying? Any wife would realize that is not right, and rented furniture? Who rents furniture?
@@Bernard_Ralph_The_Realtor the only reason I know people rents furniture is when they are between a move or transitioning to a different location while waiting for their container of goods. We did this when we moved to Asia as expats and it took the container 2 months to arrive. We had to move into our empty home as they already covered the rent. But as NORMAL, BUDGET sane people usually do, we only rented for a couple of months not INFINITE LOL!
So many of them move to Florida, stink up the place and don't contribute to the economy in any real way. It's been going on since the 70s at least. Parasitism.
Candice Miller narcissism and blissful ignorance along with a weak husband trying to fulfill all of the unbelievable expectations drove him to suicide. You gotta say no sometimes.
Facts she could have contributed to his demise due to the pressure put on him. Has she said babe it’s ok let’s move to North Carolina he would still be here today.
As I got wealthier from being in poverty where my 1st job was on Wall st as one of the only women in my company, I realized, most of these clowns with huge homes & fancy cars are all living above their means. If u think about ur own bills & multiply it by 10k, that’s what they need a month to maintain it. They’re living like billionaires.
I've been called a 'pocket watcher' when I ask simple questions about so called influencers and people who like to show off their rich lifestyles because in my experience real wealth is very quiet
Money talks, but wealth whispers is so true. My grandfather amassed a multimillion dollar company and had multiple beautiful properties, but he and his wife would never pass up a deal at the grocery store.
A wife too busy luxuriating in self-indulgent vacations, high-fashion clothing, and image-enhancing acquisitions, and who therefore doesn't realize that her relationship with her husband is so shallow that he can't be real with her, and so narrow that the two of them can't have the kinds of down-to-earth conversations that bring uncomfortable issues to the fore, is herself utterly shallow. I'm finding it very hard feeling sorry for her (beyond the obvious -- fact that she has lost her husband, which is always a profound tragedy). Brandon may have kept the truth from her, as Dr. Todd says, but I also think Candice didn't want to see the truth. And Brandon was terrified of spoiling the illusion for her because she wasn't going to have any of it. The couple essentially rented a bubble to keep up appearances (including $12,000 a month for rented furniture), and eventually the bubble burst.
Yep, it's a major reason why people should marry someone they genuinely love rather than for money. Money can come and go, and both people need to be honest about that.
Woah, that’s a messed up bunch of assumptions you just made. Suicidal people are not easily explained as having felt lonely or like “they couldnt talk to anyone”. As someone who knows 2 families who had sons who committed suicide, they were incredibly loving and supportive families and had NO idea their kids ever had intentions of this because they intentionally hid it from them. Both boys appeared happy to everyone around them, they hid their struggles. The suicidal person often chooses to hide all of their dark ideations, quickly blaming their grieving relatives, especially a now single mother with 17 million in debt while knowing nothing about their relationship is not a good look. Suicide is often due to mental illness or internal struggles as a balanced healthy person will never choose death over embarrassment or debt or anything else, he simply needed mental help
The saying goes that the first generation builds the family fortune by hard work, dedication and sacrifice; the third generation that inherits the fortune squanders it by throwing it all away with both hands.
I think Candice turned a blind eye rather than simply “being unaware”. And the idea that Brandon’s shame was motivated in large part by not wanting to disappoint Candice minimizes the fact that it starts with Brandon. He had his own issues with his self esteem desparately needing to be wealthy.
I concur, women are natural born investigators. I find it very hard to believe she didn’t know,if anything I believe she probably pushed him to “figure “it out.
@@nadiamokaeya5178 she knew what was going on, women are up their man's @ss big time. Most women cannot be trusted and they think their man is the same.
Thing is, it may be a bit embarrassing to their "uppity" crowd (b/c taking big hits financially can do that), he still could have handled it in such a way to make his, and his family's life still manageable. smh
@@lisasaims3007 "Honest poverty is a gem that even a King might be proud to call his own, but I wish to sell out. I have sported that kind of jewelry long enough." - Mark Twain
I believe he was a golden child who has grown up with a narcissitic parent, learning that his whole purpose is to serve and appease and that love is conditional on success etc and relies on this for self validation. This people pleasing, conditional love dynamic is then transposed to his relationships as an adult which is why he would rather die than face the shame
I went debt-free when I turned fifty and people were horrified that I didn’t have a credit card. They told me that I would have no credit and wouldn’t be able to buy anything. Well, if you have cash, you can buy anything. Credit is overrated and is only a means to extort more money from you. I can afford what I can afford, and what I can’t afford,I don’t need.
Same - I use a debit card. Can't afford a car - it stinks, but, I'd rather not buy a used car, then after a few years, spend money on enormous car repairs...
None of the financials make sense. He could have just not rented an additional apartment, not rented furniture, sold the boat and saved on slip fees. It’s insane that he was so spoiled he had 0 financial abilities
It sounds like he had a complete lack of ability or willingness to tell his wife they couldn't afford something. It's hard to tell how much blame she shares, it doesn't seem like she knew but who knows
@@haloimplant7678 Women like her divorce whenever they see financial dificulties. She would've left him and take as much as she could the moment she saw any restrain on money expending
Yes but the thing is to do business in those circles, optics is everything. You cannot be doing multi million dollar Manhattan deals unless you are in that circle of Uber wealth, can’t show up in a Corolla wearing Ross Dress for Less … so he had to fake it and keep up the appearances, go to the polo match and pray that he could put a Hail Mary deal together
My cousing for over ten years worked for a company that went into homes after the owners foreclosed or abandoned payments, to prepare the homes for the next buyer. He said most of the homes he prepared were in well-to do neghborhoods.
I don't understand why anyone would choose to flaunt a lifestyle of excess and greed in the first place, as did Candice Miller. In my opinion, this is a harbinger of doom. I feel for the children.
Nothing really wrong with having a big party or anniversary celebration or wedding if you can really afford it. They also also treated whoever came to those parties to the dinner and music for free. I’m sure. Now it’s different if you have to borrow money from your friends and not pay it back and make them your enemies and borrow money on the mortgage on your house twice and not pay that back plus the other money
@@enjoystraveling they definitely didn't treat anyone to anything for free lol those events are usually ticketed and at the very least you're expected to leave the host a tip
I had a dream where the world was destroyed. People were walking in droves over the rubble. Each one of them had as many material items as they could carry. Examples were name brand items and purses. Some were wearing Louboutin heels. The disturbing part in addition to that was that they were like robots. When looking into their eyes, I saw nothing. They were absent. Like walking zombies
It could have been worse. There was a guy in Massachusetts who also had major financial problems and he killed his wife and daughter in addition to himself. At least this guy didn't go that far.
Yes in the UK a man killed his children and wife, his horses and his dogs because he lost his wealth. This man at least felt his death would leave his family in good position and only removed himself. Sad story though. Very!
You don't have to be super wealthy to have this kind of thing happen to you. My stepfather was a lawyer and had to bail out several doctors and lawyers in our circle who had financial problems that they hid from spouses. In one case, the sheriff was at the door and the wife had no idea they were about to lose the house. I know many people think married couples should share all assets, and I understand that on one level. On another, I still think you should have some of your own money - especially if your spouse controls the the income or has a cash business that he says you "wouldn't understand." Even stay at home parents should put away 10% of what they get to manage the house like they are tithing to the church. You never know what might happen.
Reminded my of my uncle who passed away this year due to heart attack , he used to be the provider for his family and he died left a lot of debt behind him . The wife was enjoying her life never asked about her husbands issues just selfish one who just want’s extravagant lifestyle.
This reminds me of a quote and it hits deeply.
" we buy things we do not need, from money we do not have to impress people who do not care."
But, but, she had an Instagram page! (Still did as of yesterday). At least the stuff my family has is paid for.
Dave Ramsey
The wisdom of Papa Dave.
its not even about people, most of the time its dopamine rush
Good one
I have a friend who works 2 jobs and watches their kids so his wife can prance about on Instagram in new dresses and making videos at restaurants. He's got to be working 80 hours a week average for her to make about 10 minutes worth of videos a week. She only has 20000 followers, mostly middle aged men telling her how beautiful she is. Its absolute insanity.
Absolutely shameful
To be fair, this dude also lived an extravagant lifestyle. He also had his expensive cars and boat. He also lived in the crazy expensive home with the furniture that was hundreds of thousands of dollars. She just posted about it. She was encouraged to go on her trips and didn’t know about their financial troubles.
How does he work 2 jobs and watch his kids at the same time? Maybe try minding your business. People make very good money being influencers so maybe not speak on things you know nothing about as she is probably contributing financially.
@@itsmeliveexactly
@@superbwater78 He's a programmer and works from home. She isn't making anything with 20k followers and doesn't work. I prefer to help friends than 'mind my own business'.
If someone wants to be an influencer, best of luck to them. These ones faking it with mummy and daddy's money or abusing a spouse need to be called out.
Maybe think your comments through before defending people you know nothing about from comments made by people who know them personally, just a thought.
It's stories like this than make me grateful for my average looks, modest home filled with bargain furnishings, a closet full of colorful tee shirts and comfortable running shoes, one 20 year old car, a boring social life, no loans or debts and a loving family with no secrets. That's all I've ever needed.
Love your comment! Your life sounds just like mine.
You’re a rich man my friend !
That's the secret to a good life! Me too on all these points:)
Me, except I rent 😂
Life without trouble requires work ethics, constant self assessment and polishing. Well done sir.
Be humble. Live simply. Freedom is the real asset...
Best comment! 🙂💖💎🏆💐
Freedom is expensive. Simplicity is an irrelevant variable.
Humble means you think you are low value though
Yes!!! Freedom ❤
@@503ashkatchem4no no humility (being humble) doesn’t mean you think less of yourself it means you think of yourself less.
I used to have a second job as a tax preparer. A client came in driving a high-end SUV, perfect hair and nails, the epitome of “high maintenance.” Income over six figures. Three mortgages. Two teenage kids with no college funds. They had withdrawn a huge sum from their 401k and owed $3,500 to the IRS. Of course she had been expecting a refund. She started crying, “Where will I get $3,500?” I thought, wow, I’m a single mother of three and in a pinch I could come up with that.
Moral of the story: outward appearances are just that. Appearances.
I heard once when people are extremely dysfunctional the only thing that's left is the image. They will do everything to maintain it.
Yeah, that's why one shouldn't envy anyone over anything because you usually have no idea over what the heck you are envying. 😬
You could come up with $3,500 in a pinch???? Thats privilidge right there. Im a working single parent of three myself. I couldnt even come up with $500 in a pinch. I live week to week. No savings.
@Him_He_Me that's what I was about to say. I could come up with $3,500 in a pinch sounds like someone who is not living paycheck to paycheck. I could barely come up with $300 but $2,000 is the average rent where I live.
@@Bedheadboredom My rent is $450 per week. Thats three quarters of my pay. No one can live like this? Let alone with 3 dependents.
1 man , 1 woman, and 2 children. How many houses do they need. How many rooms can you live in at once? How many cars can you drive at once. Live with less and be happier
Edit: Thank you for 5K likes. I wish y’all all the happiness you deserve
There's a mantra I like. That your belongings only weigh you down.
Shhhh.... 🤫😊We're supposed to be overpopulated.
@@twalker8020 Regular working people can keep pumping out as many children as they please… just realize each generation will continue getting poorer than the last
The ego attempts to satisfy, through material channels, the soul's constant insatiable longing for God.
@@twalker8020 Regular folks can have as many kids as they please… just realize each generation will continue getting poorer than the last
A very sad story. The only positive in this is that Brandon did not murder his wife and kids. Many others have chose to end the lives of innocent spouses and children.
This is true, depressed men can be a risk to their loved ones.
That horrific logic of "Losing me to suicide will screw them up, and I'm leaving them financially destitute .. maybe I should save them from that"
"Innocent spouse" LOL!! This whole thing was clearly about trying to keep that wife happy even though nothing was ever going to be enough for her.
@@Jeremy-ql1or a person-pleaser who kills themselves .. you're blaming the people he pathologically tried to please?
Ri
The secret to happiness is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less. - Socrates
Everyone is looking at this story and seeing the numbers and extravagant lifestyle and failing to realize the same thing can happen to them on a smaller scale. How many people do you know that are making similar mistakes to this guy in their own life? A too big home that stretches your budget, a new car you really didn't need, a vacation you cannot afford, trying to keep up with people you can't afford to keep up with and a failure to admit this to yourself and scale down. They lie to themselves, and their family and it leads to the miserable life and dark feelings this guy struggled with.
@@jamiemiller6156 ppl are willing to be in debt just to live a fancy life lol
my favorite quote when I walk around the mall with wife and kids is "you know we can't afford that" lol or when my kids say their friend's dad bought a new Benz they say "he's rich" and correct them by saying "no he's got a lot of debt, you need to understand the difference between money and debt and he has an $80 thousand dollar debt! come on kids time to go out in our 2007 Honda fully paid 😏" 😅
A person who worked for a cable company once told me they did more disconnects in elite neighborhoods than in poor ones. Pride comes before the fall.
Really? Cable. You would think they could afford ten times that
Poor people can't afford those cable packages to begin with.
@@NOCDIB Ever think they might be poor because they make poor choices? Same applies to health. Unhealthy people make Unhealthy choices.
@@Eli-tq8fjPeople live beyond their means, it happens in every neighborhood.
Nowadays that doesn’t say much, many people have cut out cable and the dish companies.
Sells a 9M dollar property - rents one at 50k/mth as well as thousands per month for rented furniture. Make it make sense.
It can’t make sense to regular people such as myself!!!
@@pauguste6559 Imagine the life they could have had together still if he'd have just been content in a 500k house and sold the boat lol
Didn’t have good business sense for sure. If he sold his $9 million property and rent it one at a reasonable amount and in an inexpensive part of town or outside of New York City then he could’ve started paying on his debts in a step-by-step way
He should have called Dave Ramsey LOL
@@ZenZen5en these people suffer from an addiction to extravagant materialistic lifestyles. To the point where they’ve been desensitized to feel any joy in anything else
My partner used to believe he had to have all the material things and tried to buy my love. He worked himself to the bone and wouldn’t listen to me when I told him I don’t care about having a flash car and all the flash things, all I wanted was more time with him for me and our children. His business fell on hard times and we ended up losing everything. It was the best thing that ever happened to us. We now live the most simple life imaginable but he has time for our kids and has discovered there is so much more to life than financial success. We are wealthy beyond measure
Most wives think like this. But since men 9lace so much importance on money, they think we are like them. When women leave when a man loses money it's not because of the lifestyle. It's because they become horrendous and abusive dumping all their insecurities on his poor wife. Candace likely would have stayed. It's too bad he just assumed...as men love to do.
You sound like a good wife. The issue is would other average wives just leave and find someone else?
what money can buy can be easily lost. what money can't buy is what people should focus on.
Well said. You can't buy love, health or happiness.
I gave up a 6 figure income to stay in another country with my boyfriend. He wouldn't give me time because he sold himself to tourists for $20 a day. He felt like a king because before meeting me he only made $10 a day.
5:46 $180,000 AND $12,000 PER MONTH for FURNITURE?!?!?! Was it made entirely of solid gold or something? That is INSANE!!! Just buy some couches and a table, good GOD
A craftsman can spend 200 hours on a cabinet. At $40/h rate that’s $8,000 on labor alone. Furniture can be a work of art and justifiably expensive
@@MMAMonke indeed, but he did not need to lease pillows 7:59 😅
Rather die than downgrade to a normal life…. What a world we live in lmao
Not even normal since he was still worth millions. He could still live a rich life but, not as rich as he wants. Renting homes for 50k and furnishing it with almost 200k furniture rental. Just ridiculous.
“What does it profit a man, to gain the whole world but lose his soul?”
He just knew something you didn’t that’s all. Did himself and everybody around him a favor.
@@johnjeffrey3660 Some people are so poor all they have is money
@@RLPGRIM so true.
Borrowing 1k to go to a polo match said it all
By then he probably knew he was gonna die he just wanted to have a nice time before that. But his father was successful, couldn't he teach his son some tricks to keep him afloat in case of trouble when he was younger?
@@mingiinimene3335 from the story it seemed like the dad got wealthy by being shady and whatever the son inherited, a lot of it was used up already for lawsuits, but there were still several million dollars left which any responsible person could make last a lifetime just living on the interest. Even if he never worked another day in his life and just coasted on interest dividends he could have had a very comfortable upper middle class, six figure salary for his family. But of course he just had to waste his money on real estate schemes and living like a very rich someone with a hundred million dollars in the bank instead of a pretty rich someone with a couple million in the bank. Thing is, his kids would love him even if he had only a couple hundred in the bank and worked at Starbucks but was alive and there for them. If his wife was so fake she'd dump him if he were an average Joe then eff her.
@@mingiinimene3335these days it seems a lot of successful people fail to teach their kids how to deal with adversity
@@mingiinimene3335 or a last ditch effort to mingle with the ultra rich and be able to strike a deal or even just borrow more money. At that point everyone probably already knew he was very broke and in a lot of debt so they all don’t want anything to do with him.
@@mingiinimene3335 Probably not. What worked for his dad probably won't work for him. Every decade seems like a different system entirely, disregarding basic building block stuff like dividends.
I mean, cryptocurrency and the AI Investment Bubble didn't even exist at the level it is now 10 years ago, for instance. Plus, the Yen Carry Trade looks like it won't be a thing going forward, and that's just what I know as a normie.
That's why never envy other people - you never know what is going on behind the scenes and how these people will end up
Young people try so hard to be impressive.
Why never?
@@Flamsterettethey already explained why, can’t you read?
@@ABrowning-l9s He did not explain why he missed a word in his original comment.
It's why I don't trust social media such as Facebook. Happy shiny families, but ya never know what goes on behind closed doors 👀
I have known several individuals like this in my lifetime, one died at 45 years of age, the others are older and alive but with a drastic change in their lifestyle and live with the pain daily.
Live BELOW your means because no mansion, no fancy vehicle, no fancy yacht can match the beauty and serenity of living withing your means!
This is the definition of Vanity Fair. I am a bankruptcy attorney and I have noticed that my clients, rich or poor, always say that if their incomes were just 10% higher, they would be fine. Vanity of Vanities.
None of them think "If I cut expenses by 10% things will be fine" ?
People making Minimum Wage would NOT be “vain” wishing for a 10%raise!
Words of the preacher
Sound like gambling addicts, if I just got one more win, I would be fine ... it is never enough
I make a sort of middle class living. I'm happy with that. I don't understand how people can just never seem to get rich enough.
He went from $74 million WEALTH to asking a friend for a $1000….WOW!!
But the wealth was on paper.
His father had the 74 mil
I use pray to win the lottery. I reasoned what I would do to help my family and friends. Then I realized any lottery was not going to be enough, I amend my prayer more money. After sussing out how and what I would do I needed to greatly expand the amount and my prayer. Hopefully you, like me have determined there just isn't enough money in the world to take care of my expanded philanthropic reasoning. Like the commenter I had to learn to live with what I have. As my financial situation change, I need to change with it and be happy with that, that "money can't buy me..."
@@boydprince1870Secret of being rich. Have passive income
@@dwhite6213yea how one blows that much money in a life time (half of it anyway) is beyond me
She 100% knew & she 100% didn’t care
Agreed
Agree… these women are not that sheltered
The Dr. Said she was in the 🌑 dark .... nope she knew ....
How would she know if he was actively lying to her about it?
One weak man, one gold digger narcissistic woman. And then attention desperation in social media. Thats a disaster waiting to happen
Like he wasn’t also self centered and self important? Sure she had a social media account. But he had luxury cars and a speedboat named millertime for gods sake. I’m sorry but he was just a frivolous and extravagant as she was
Influencers contribute nothing of substance to society's maintenance, development or future.
NOTHING who are they influencing?? Dummies
They contribute with “rot” and stupid lifestyles
That's the truth. Nothing good come from influencers.
But they make a little income if they continue to provide content. Many wealthy You Tubers get a check every month, even though their content is basically contributing nothing to society. She obviously wasn't earning enough from Instagram to cover the expenses of her lavish lifestyle and relied on her husband to maintain her.
But they love that phrase, "I'm a business owner and entrepreneur." Lol!
He chose to die rather than downgrade to a "normal" lifestyle... wow.
And left his wife to deal with the mess he made by herself smh
Most people who develop an extravagant lifestyle find it nearly impossible to downgrade to a middle-class lifestyle. I work in Logistics & have a modest income but would never think to live beyond my means.
@@clarissa8477 Anyone who is friends with you because you're successful & have money is not your friend at all.
Yeah…people are stupid.
Life insurance doesn’t pay if it’s suicide.
Imagine selling a property for 9 million dollars and still being financially fubar.
That’s what hit me. He sold that and was still drowning. But I guess he wasted it renting an apartment when they owned home. Ugh so foolish 😭
It's so sad. He could have invested that 9 million and safely been generating around half a million dollars every year, in perpetuity, which would have enabled a fantastic lifestyle, free of worry, never having to work again, and could have afforded a multi-million dollar home anywhere in the world, from New York City to Hawaii, San Diego to San Francisco, from Florida to a chateau in France, to a villa in Italy. They could have lived a wonderful, happy life together. They could have been living the American dream with more affluence than 99.9% of the world will ever know. But sadly, it wasn't enough.
should have got rid of freaking "Miller Time" way way earlier, that was 1 mil.And also save the 50k in storage fees
Yeah. I can only imagine the monthly expenses for that household
Money can go quick. Even "millions".
Tbf, he may have had mortgages on the property & taxes take a HUGE chunk of that, plus considering his financial status, other debts would have easily absorbed what was left
There was a very similar recent case in Dover, Massachusetts but tragically the Father also took the life of his family. Unfortunately, some people will prefer death over losing the image of weath.
Yes, just read about it. It is a very sad case. He killed his wife and teenage daughter the day they were to evicted.
Stay humble everyone… your life can always change in a short period of time
🕊️🫶🏿👈🏿👌🏿👍🏿🕊️
FACTS#
Yes and life is unpredictable.
That's why you gotta party hard! You only have one life why make it boring?
Yes. Mine did. It is horrible.
Imagine living in a gigantic house where NONE of the furniture is even technically yours. Very bizarre and sad way to live.
I just can't imagine watching this and think about furniture
The poor guy could only afford some really old used cars too. Sad.
It would feel odd and cold to me
It reminds me of the third Nolan Batman movie where Bruce Wayne loses all his money and the next day they have repossessed his car and all his furniture. Seriously, rich guys; just buy that stuff.
Mind blowing. $12,000 a month just to rent furniture you aren't even using 🤯 It's just to be looked at and admired. Candace is a wilful idiot.
At this point it’s pretty safe to assume that all influencers’ lives are a total narcissistic sham.
ETA: For the people saying I’m basing my opinion only on one case: Ruby Franke, Chris & Shanann Watts, Courtney Clenney, Kat Torres, to name just a few, plus the dozens upon dozens of influencers who regularly make an appearance on police bodycam video channels for committing DUIs, leaving their children home alone so they can go off and party, and DV cases beating up their bfs.
Blanket statements can be proclaimed about every subset of people.
I'm not buying the "wife was unaware" version. They were both a fake-it-till-you-make it act. Poor kids.
@@sallybrite1530 Honestly, it's not that hard to believe since it happens all the time even with far less wealthy couples. One spouse is in debt up to their eyeballs, while the other spouse has no idea because they don't manage the finances and don't think to ask.
@@TiffyAlwaysBlissy but with influencers its pretty true
Always have been since day one....... :/
I find it hard to believe his wife was so naive
She knew in part
How many wives know the ins and outs of their husbands entire business? He was lying to her on purpose bc he couldn’t face what he viewed as failure
You’d be surprised how strong the patriarchy still is in wealthy western countries. They marry ‘trophy’ wives often who they expect to rarely ask about business if ever. They handle kids and social events and never discuss business as that stays with the men
Being rich make a lot of people extremely delusional about the reality of real life.
Any time you are disconnected from the realities of people living real life you lose perspective. Probably human nature. Many lifelong politicians couldn't tell you whether their utilities are $300, $1300, or $3000 a month.
Must be nice to have such a problem.
No, that’s not. They believe they are truly better. I live with mega rich people all around me.
So sad when people let money or their lack of it to happiness.
I think being born into it would be more difficult than building wealth from nothing. They have no idea how to live poor.
Used to work in Chicago at a hotel. The hotel down the street from us had a guy jump from the roof.
They did an interview with one of the jumpers friends.
The market had tanked. The guy was worth 30 million one day. And the next he was worth 10 million due to the market.
The news did an interview with the jumper’s boyfriend. His boyfriend said he just couldn’t live at this level.
This was 2008. The Great Recession. I had changed careers. Went from making $40/hr back down to $10. Was in the process of losing 2 houses , a car, … everything.
And this guy jumped off a roof because he was down to his last 10 million dollars.
It was something that stuck with me.
Where did you learn this?
@@eadweard. Hey The comment said he worked at a hotel and the hotel down the street is where the guy jumped and they interviewed the guys boyfriend... That led me to believe he knew fm being in the same area and working in the same industry in the same area and then he learned some stuff fm the local news when they covered why a man is diving off of a hotel building. 🤷🏼♀️💜
During that period I was working on Wall Street in the tech sector. One evening, a colleague and I went to a nearby bar and this guy who was obviously chain drinking for over an hour randomly started drunkenly talking to us and covering our drinks on his tab. He, too, had a Long Island home and Manhattan apartment. Turned out that he went from making $2 million the previous year to "only" $500,000 that year and it was clearly taking a toll on him.
@@ht3261 Well that's an interesting theory, but really I was asking the OP where they learnt it. Ideally I'd like to validate that source.
wow unbelievable
Sad story. What is so awful about coming clean and just saying "we can't afford that"? No one has unlimited resources.
Nah Bill Gates does..and the other faceless 1% of the world.
Not sad at all. Scummy people.
I just don’t think he’d ever heard of that concept before, very sad indeed.
It's not really that sad. He did it himself and lived way beyond his means.
@nealkelly9757 I'm sad for his kids. I'm not sad for him.
Dude,.. your content is dark, but real. It makes me appreciate what I have. Sometimes it's good to just be normal.. or as normal as can be. Cheers and thanks for the great content.
The whole "look at me" culture in the US is absurd.
Yeah, it’s pretty bad.
This isn’t just the US. This is on social media world wide. Horrible either way
It's disgusting
Vanity is common all around the world, not just the US. For example, it's common for female office workers in East Asian countries to own multiple high end hand bags because owning a high end bag makes them look "rich", even if they can't actually afford the bag.
Regular hard working Americans don't act like this. Most of us are just trying to get by. Could care less what others think of me or my status. This is social media problem. Not just USA.
My father always told me. Live like a peasant but think like a millionaire. You will be happy as long as you live a humble life even you have millions of dollars in the bank.
Remember always that a wise man walks with his head bowed; humble like the dust. -Master Kan
My dad is a multi millionaire and we wears his old overalls every day
@@ariaessaCan you miss some of your money? 😂
I’d rather have Bitcoin. 😊
@@ariaessayou wear his undies ?
I am off all social media’s outside of UA-cam. People are obsessively living off likes from others & the portrayal of FAKE lifestyles. It’s pretty sad. I want no parts of it. Unfortunate story Doc.
I agree I have my mortgage and taxes current. The bills current and that's about it. There is no debt or luxury lifestyle I am ok with that.
And how horrible for young people to believe anything online is real!!!
Hey! Same! Isn't it great‽
Same here 🤗
It’s so refreshing to see young women and men, not living this fake social media life!
Rich is loud wealth is quiet & whispers
I wish that I could stress this to the extent that all would deeply understand it: There is no freedom like not giving a damn what other people think of you.
In fact almost no one is thinking about you anyway. They’re thinking about themselves and what others are thinking about them.
I’ve always known this intellectually. But it took decades before I came around to genuinely, in the very narrow of my bones, not trying to impress anyone. It’s a tremendous relief. I wish everyone could have this.
That comes with age, friend. Your give-a-shitter wears out.
@@tomsanders5584 yep
"We chase phantoms half the days of our lives. It is well if we learn wisdom even then, and save the other half."
- Mark Twain
Couldn’t agree more. I remember years ago telling my husband I couldn’t wear a T-shirt (still clean) on a dog walk because I wore it yesterday and what would the regular dog walkers think. He said “they won’t even notice. They’ll be too busy with their own thoughts/problems.” When we met the first regular dog walker I tried to remember what she had on yesterday, couldn’t. Iris.A.
"you wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do"
I used to work in the Hamptons and it’s alarming how many of them are nearly broke or actually broke.
how do they get money then?
My husband & I have been Realtors for 30 years. Typically, the higher priced the property is for sale, the more broke the owners are! Barely can cover repairs etc.
Really? Care to share more? I’m not being sarcastic or anything. I honestly would like to know.
I noticed that too. One of the Sag Harbor house owner who has Audi RSQ8 for $150K, bargained with me reagarding my service for $50. It was so pathetic.
@@angelicamargaret9096
begging, bitching, bargaining, bribing
An $800 facial??? Every wrinkle, pimple and age spot better not exist after that appointment!!
😂😂Fr
and a poreless complexion.
and its weekly too 😮😮😢
For $800 a pop...I need to look like Raquel Welch🤣
So out of touch with reality. There is not a world where I would pay near $1k for a facial!
How sad that money like that is linked to your self esteem.
You know you have a problem when you ask someone about the money they owe you and they start to cry 😂
Works for me all the time! 👍
😂😂😂😂😂
Lord forgive me for laughing as hard as I did but that is hilarious 🤣
I do this with women, and then I beg. It never works.
The moral of the story is: don’t believe everything you see on social media, especially from couples who constantly post about their private lives, showing how “cute and happy” they are because they supposedly have the best love and most success in the world. They likely feel the need to prove something to others. Truly happy, fulfilled, accomplished, and intelligent people have nothing to prove, so they keep their lives more private.
This comment should be pinned and have more likes.
Moral of the story could also be, don’t be afraid to seek help when you know you need it most.
Yep
When your clothes become nothing more than designer labels, that's pathetic. They renewed their vows and then he turns around and kills himself , leaving her a widow drowning in debt and the children with no father. Living in NYC for years, this story is not unusual. Lots of wealthy people flung themselves out of highrises over financial debt. Me, I prefer a simple life, give me a Sabrett Hot Dog off a street cart, let me go ice skating in Central Park, take in the Art Festival in the Village and I'm a happy camper and so is my husband of 40 years. I envy people with artistic talent, not people that own 99 homes 50 cars, etc. and live their entire lives impressing other people. They die not knowing the true meaning of life and judge life by material possessions.
@@lisab.1595good to know, are you interested in crochet items. I handmade them 😊
As a retired debt collector who has seen many bankruptcies... This is a tale as old as time!
I love the quote ‘live below your means’ you never know when you will have unexpected expenses. So don’t overspend just to have luxuries that are meaningless, you don’t need to own a lot to be happy.
Living in NYC, I can tell you that him coming clean about his finances likely meant losing his family. It’s just how it is in those circles and he knew it.
I can see this. He’d probably have lost most of his friends too.
@BetaBuxDelux his fri3nds were trying to help him. This was astonishing to me. He seemed like he had people who actually liked him.
I agree.
So on point. There were also rumors that Candice was considering a divorce.
He would have become a pariah to everyone that he ever knew.
The dad was a crook, the son was an idiot. What could possibly go wrong?
Sound like trump and his kids…
@@gabygaby5701and Biden and Hunter
@@gabygaby5701 Sounds more like foggy Joe and his porn making crack smoking son Hunter.
son had no idea of how to make money while his wife kept spending money and he was to weak to say no
@@gabygaby5701 🎯
It’s not about the resources, it’s about how resourceful you are
truly, my family of 3 live on 1 salary where 60% goes to rent, yet we still have everything we need and more, we go on vacation abroad every summer too. we also buy clothes on sale, shop at discount markets, we don’t pay for nail and eyelash appointments, we drive an oldish car. but we live totally fine
It’s about respecting people too.
He didn't know how to tell her "NO!, NO!, NO!"
She got worried and he got his people involved to lie to her! He insisted she go on the last trip! He was a liar.
People chasing material goods usually wind up depressed and empty.
Trying to fix things on the inside with things on the outside.
I think it’s part of a process. Once you have some material goods you see how worthless most stuff is. I had to go through a process to fully understand this.
Do you have any statistics for that or is it more like you made it up?
@@BetaBuxDelux what was that process, lobotomy?
@@godfreyofbouillon966 Keep working and making your boss wealthy little soldier.
I read an article that said Candace had no knowledge of Brandon's business. How do you spend so much of your husband's money without knowing any details?
I feel for Brandon- he felt haunted by his father's sudden passing, tried to live up to his father's name, and was in way too deep. He saw no way out. He felt shame.
I really don't think she wanted to know. She's to blame too. Influencer. That's ridiculous. So self involved.
What was her background? Did her mother spend whatever she wanted because her dad could provide at that level? Was she taught that finances are the husband's job only? You'd think by now that most women would at least want to be informed about finances, if not the one actually paying the bills and handling things like taxes. Now she gets to be the trad widow of yesteryear, whose husband dies and leaves her to sort out a mess she has no idea how to manage.
@@nancyayotte2297 I don't think she is to blame necessarily. She was given a strong impression that the money for the lifestyle was there, even after she confronted her husband about it.
And what she does with her life is not for us to judge, she lived a lavish life because she thought they could afford it. She may have behaved differently had she known the reality of the situation
It's the same as being a mob wife. Happy to spend the money, not caring where it come from. As long as it keeps coming.
$800 facial, unbeleivable/fake lifestyle!
His wife was culpable as well. So glad I didn't grow up in the era of social media and don't use it. When someone feels the need to broadcast the image of a perfect life, they are in reality "outing" deep rooted insecurities.
At time it seems like some lives and marriages would fall apart if there was no social media for them to display their "happiness".
I don’t think many people do it for that it’s just sharing their joy.
Yea their joy comes from feeling better than the others 🙄
Watching this is the middle of the night is perfect for my insomnia... This guy's voice is sleepingly soothing 🛏️
I agree
Always live below your means. It doesn't matter how rich you are. "If you can't buy it twice, you can't afford it."
So if someone specifically saved up 25k for a car, they shouldn't buy it because "they can't buy it twice" ridiculous.
Not ridiculous at all actually
@@Vale0x3if all you have to your name is $25k then yes spending all of that on one purchase is ridiculous.
That’s what I say. I can afford to replace a watch that costs X, but I’m not going to replace a watch that costs XYZ. 😂
If I’m not comfortable buying 2 of something then I’m not comfortable buying it. 😊
@@Vale0x3 keep saving, soldier.
Absolutely zero sympathy for these people, wife included. At some point, she knew that they were drowning yet she’s booking trips to Spain & getting weekly $400 facials. This was completely avoidable by downsizing and their version of downsizing would have still been a normal person’s dream life. They should have sold all but one of their properties, keeping the most modest one, bought furniture from a regular store that still could have been beautiful, and gotten rid of ALL of their debt. Completely lived their lives for Instagram. Beyond sad & pathetic honestly. What a horrific example to set for their children, poor kids.
I feel sorry for their kids. What horrible parents.
$800 facials
The kids are poor now
And the boat
Did you watch the part where she confronted him and he reassured her and got their lawyer to reassure her too ? That was his opportunity to be honest with her , as he’s the one who handled the finances. He continued lying to her. Not sure how that’s on her 🤔
Where does one even find furniture that expensive? That’s freakin ridiculous 😂
See, that's not the real question; if there are people that will buy it, **anything** can be that expensive, including furniture. The real question is why that stuff gets rented.
It's a racket. Rending overly priced large furniture. Like leasing a car.
People RENT furniture?
@@sssinfullyyours for events and especially in real estate it makes sense. A lot of super high end homes get staged with beautiful pieces.
But renting residential furniture for those prices is a different bowl of nuts entirely.
@@sssinfullyyours
Sure, and at a variety of price points!
He kept digging a deeper hole. He had an opportunity to correct matters when he sold that multi-million dollar residence but decided to rent a residence and furniture at an exorbitant monthly rate. He had no more sense than a person working between paychecks at a minimum-wage job with no savings!
Shame on him. He took the cowardly way out and scarred his children for life instead of just selling all assets or declaring bankruptcy and then leading a normal life.
Sell the stupid boat
@@OikPoinFive Hell doesn't exist, at least not in the way you're imagining it. Hell = The Grave...dead forever, no fire.
@@OikPoinFiveHe is not in hell. His dead in the ground until Resurrection Day, after which time he’ll have another chance to find god when the 144k inhabit the land with Jesus.
💯. And it comes to mind, that he had lived a life of privilege within a certain type of lifestyle all his life, which makes me wonder if it even occurred to him that he could find a way to make ends meet among the “less affluent”. if the idea did occur to him, it was probably very foggy and unclear and at best a horror show best avoided at all costs.
How profoundly sad
@@thegirlwhoatepearls you sound nutty af lol
Dr G: "Candace wanted to share her experiences and insights..."
Translation: "She wanted to show off her luxurious lifestyle and become famous."
I can't imagine getting anything of value from a vapid, spoiled, materialistic princess.
THIS! She wanted to make sure all the poors knew how filthy rich they were. He probably correctly assumed she would be out the door the second the gold castle started to collapse around them.
@@Leidyloveslibros 💯
Absolutely. Who the hell wants to have someone else's opulent lifestyle rammed down their throats.
You mustn't be too hard on her. Men and women are equal but we must also treat women more delicately. Men and women are equal but we need to pretend she was aloof to her husbands dealings. Men and women are equal but we mustn't place any blame on her for pressuring her husband. Men and women are equal but the rules dictate he's at fault and she was just sweet and naive. Don't get angry at me - I'm just telling you the rules in 2024
How sad is it he would rather die than take his family and move into a modest apartment??
For such people (esp. narcissistic) it it literally more preferable than facing failure and public humiliation
Exactly.
Like she would stick around for that. 😂
His ineptitude caught up with him after he burned through all the money given to him.
@@hydrostatic8048too true
There was a rich man, last name Kamal, who murdered his wife and daughter, and then killed himself, all because of money problems. The two stories have a similar cause.
As someone who lost my husband to suicide when our kids were 8 and 3, this was a horrific choice on his part. He has no idea how he has scarred them and changed the course of their lives FOREVER.
I’m so sorry for your loss 😢💔💔
@@martin-fc4kkhow could you say that to a complete stranger 😢🤦🏼♀️
@@Brookiecookiesmacarons i can np
Q@@Brookiecookiesmacarons
Sorry for you and your daughters loss 😔
All for stuff that doesn’t even matter. These people sounded ridiculous and way over the top. It’s sad he took his own life, his life was worth way more to his daughters. Man!
If he was poor, or average he would still have found a reason to exit life. That's how low self worth and depression work. These people just get drawn to the dark side of life😢
Not his life his reputation why he took his own life. This man is selfish to his kids period.
8/12/24 Rather take his life than come clean and tell his Wife, couldn’t afford lifestyle anymore (test of real love) or face people who knew him! I’m sure she’ll be fine other than vanity.! 43 is too young. Debt vs Truth
It’s really sad
What shocked me was he thought suicide and life insurance would help his family. Most policies won’t pay out if there is suicide.
So once the policy is in effect for 2 years, it's fine.
@@samanthagaboo5610that seems like it should not be a thing
It paid out, but the debt was higher than the policy.
@@tooboukou8ball702 it's probably to prevent people from getting a huge life insurance policy to immediately self delete to give their family a big payout
@@JustMe99999i thought it was a $18m policy and $17m debt. BUT that $1m won't go far with mortgages on the house in the hamptons. Ouch!
It’s crazy. As a wife why the hell would u want ur husband going dead broke and stressed out over maintaining ur obscene lifestyle? I would understand if he has the means to do so but for him to be doing all that and u not coming in and being understanding to stop this madness is Crazy work!
"How unfortunate and how narrowing a thing it is for a man to have wealth who makes a god of it instead of a servant."
- Mark Twain
I love Twain quotes, we sure could use someone like him around today.
@@lisasmith767We have Tim Dillon and Jordan Peterson, actually not a bad combination.
@@paulfroelich1024.Jordan Peterson is mark twain wow GTFOH with tht nonsense
@@soorajsingh303 Sorry I meant Charles Barkley and Logan Paul.
@@paulfroelich1024 what’s next tucker Carlson is Abraham Lincoln?
My wife was mentioning that we havent been on any lavish trips. I asked her if we were in any debt. She said no. I said thats. A form of wealth.
Well said!
a dollar saved
is a dollar made
A real head of household man 👏 Glad there’s still some of y’all breathing
🤨
you don't spoil you're wife is sad this is why woman don't waste their youth on men that cannot provide
Proverbs 12:9 says, “Better to be a nobody and yet have a servant than pretend to be somebody and have no food.”
This proverb teaches the value of humility and living within one’s means. It is better to live modestly and have your needs met (like having a servant to help) than to put on a show of wealth or importance while struggling to meet basic needs. It warns against the dangers of pride and pretending to be something you’re not, suggesting that it’s wiser to live a humble, stable life than to seek status and end up in hardship. Stay humble seek the truth ✝️
Candice: Do a bankruptcy STAT. Rent a nice two bedroom apartment for yourself and the girls, go and get a certification for a decent job to bring in $5-6K per month gross, send the kids to a good public school and state universities after graduation. And VOILA, you will be free to have a very good life. Rich people seem unable to do this though.
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for.
Digital Asset"? What is that? Does it have some intrinsic value or is it a made up ledger of imaginary ones and zeros?
That's actually quite impressive, I could use some Info on your FA, I am looking to make a change on my finances this year as well
Brian Humphery Services was my hope during the 'bear summer' last year. I made so many mistakes but also learned so much from it, and of course from Brian.
He is really a good investment advisor. Was privileged to attend some of his seminars.that's how I started my own crypto investment
How can I reach him?
My paid off house in the boonies, my paid off Jeep and my paid off jon boat make me feel like a rich man just now 😂👍
@@AdamVest same. I have zero balance and have been saving everything I can for investments/retirement. I’m literally trying to calculate how poorly I can live if I wanna quit working, backpack and fish and live solely off investments.
And you are. I grew up on the other side of the tracks from Hollywood . We often saw so-called stars completely homeless and doing unthinkable things for small change 😮.
Same here. I make $10,000 per month passively. With no debt and I have all the time in the world to spend with my kids. I don’t own no home but I live in Dominican Republic in my $500 per month for 3 bedrooms apartment. No fancy car, no expensive cloths. Just modest and fun life. I feel rich
Likewise: My one bedroom city apartment, no debt, and a paid off Jeep, a job with Los Angeles County makes me feel amazing!
That’s true wealth friend
An addiction to money and decadence! I doubt if this family ever gave a thought to the true meaning of life. What a waste!
His wife was not completely vacuous. She was a housewife and thought everything was okay. My husband isn't rich but I am a housewife and if my husband was in debt I wouldn't know. I don't look at his stuff.
@@LilyFlowers-hh3sc You should know what the family finances are, just to be on the safe side. All of us are mortal and anything can happen. Forewarned is forearmed.
@@LilyFlowers-hh3sc you're going to find out how much he has been cheating
@@LilyFlowers-hh3sc It's your husband and your household, you probably should KNOW...
"But such is human life. Here today and gone tomorrow. A dream -- a shadow -- a ripple on the water -- a thing for invisible gods to sport with for a season and then toss idly by -- idly by. It is rough.
- Mark Twain
At least this guy didn't put insurance on his wife & children, and then commit M to try to break even. Others take their family out as they take themselves out. As flawed as he was, he valued their lives above his own.
Reminds me of a boss I had. Everyone in his life, including his wife thought he was wealthy and successful. He was buying new toys, cars, equipment, all on credit. Meanwhile I had to constantly fight off bill collectors until we were eventually cut off and the business went under. Keeping up with the image was more important than anything and it just made me sick to watch behind the scenes.
Name?
Very very common ... They file bankrupt and start it all again 😂😂
I had a boss like this too. Ladyboss, married into money, tried her hand into running a company. I hated picking up phones at that time bc supplier would call up asking for payment. She'd ask her assistant to cook up the books to make her account look OK for investors. Sometimes her assistants would go down to the pawnshop with her jewellery bc she was too embarassed to do so. The last straw was how she withheld pay for everyone (up to 1 week) until she can borrow cash from her rich friends. I heard one dude showed up with a gun asking for his pay. He was the armed guard for the company so ppl were shitting bricks.
If she knew that furniture was rented then she knew they were broke.
And renting an apartment on Park Avenue and NOT buying, come on, wives are way more award of the funds in the household.
Did you miss the part where she ask him about theyre financial situation and he lied to her saying everything was fine and even encouraging her to live life like everything was normal
@@katval5250 There is no way she did not know. They rented on Park Ave instead of buying? Any wife would realize that is not right, and rented furniture? Who rents furniture?
She basically did nothing to generate any income.. just a spoiled woman
@@Bernard_Ralph_The_Realtor the only reason I know people rents furniture is when they are between a move or transitioning to a different location while waiting for their container of goods. We did this when we moved to Asia as expats and it took the container 2 months to arrive. We had to move into our empty home as they already covered the rent. But as NORMAL, BUDGET sane people usually do, we only rented for a couple of months not INFINITE LOL!
12,000 a month for rented furniture is wild to me…
Rent of $47,000/mo is also mind boggling!
He spent millions renting his wife so compared with that the furniture was a bargain
Just saw recently she moved into a 10 million dollar condo in Miami because she was “over” NYC.
So many of them move to Florida, stink up the place and don't contribute to the economy in any real way. It's been going on since the 70s at least. Parasitism.
who ?
Candice Miller narcissism and blissful ignorance along with a weak husband trying to fulfill all of the unbelievable expectations drove him to suicide. You gotta say no sometimes.
Candice will spend the $15M insurance money in no time😂
@@dorothyobuya2318they can deny the claim since they can claim he offed himself
@@dorothyobuya2318She isn't getting a single cent. The insurance didn't cover the debts.
@@wormalismyep! She’s actually going to owe a couple million
@@dorothyobuya2318 Life insurance does not pay out for suicides
She absolutely knew but she didn't care whatever it took.
Exactly
FACTS
Be careful who you choose to marry.
Gold digger.
Facts she could have contributed to his demise due to the pressure put on him. Has she said babe it’s ok let’s move to North Carolina he would still be here today.
He was the same age as me. I own 1 car, have zero kids, 1 girlfriend, I earn $1500 a week, not Rich, but I live beneath my means.❤
Get married. You’re way too old to be talking about girlfriends.
Get married. You’re way too old to be talking about girlfriends.
Below.
@@carpediem4512 But that sounds very boring.
1500 a week is amazing.
As I got wealthier from being in poverty where my 1st job was on Wall st as one of the only women in my company, I realized, most of these clowns with huge homes & fancy cars are all living above their means. If u think about ur own bills & multiply it by 10k, that’s what they need a month to maintain it. They’re living like billionaires.
I've been called a 'pocket watcher' when I ask simple questions about so called influencers and people who like to show off their rich lifestyles because in my experience real wealth is very quiet
Money talks, but wealth whispers is so true. My grandfather amassed a multimillion dollar company and had multiple beautiful properties, but he and his wife would never pass up a deal at the grocery store.
A wife too busy luxuriating in self-indulgent vacations, high-fashion clothing, and image-enhancing acquisitions, and who therefore doesn't realize that her relationship with her husband is so shallow that he can't be real with her, and so narrow that the two of them can't have the kinds of down-to-earth conversations that bring uncomfortable issues to the fore, is herself utterly shallow. I'm finding it very hard feeling sorry for her (beyond the obvious -- fact that she has lost her husband, which is always a profound tragedy).
Brandon may have kept the truth from her, as Dr. Todd says, but I also think Candice didn't want to see the truth. And Brandon was terrified of spoiling the illusion for her because she wasn't going to have any of it. The couple essentially rented a bubble to keep up appearances (including $12,000 a month for rented furniture), and eventually the bubble burst.
Agreed
Yeah I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what happened as a woman I can tell you he did not want to tell her about all of that
Yep, it's a major reason why people should marry someone they genuinely love rather than for money. Money can come and go, and both people need to be honest about that.
Woah, that’s a messed up bunch of assumptions you just made. Suicidal people are not easily explained as having felt lonely or like “they couldnt talk to anyone”. As someone who knows 2 families who had sons who committed suicide, they were incredibly loving and supportive families and had NO idea their kids ever had intentions of this because they intentionally hid it from them. Both boys appeared happy to everyone around them, they hid their struggles. The suicidal person often chooses to hide all of their dark ideations, quickly blaming their grieving relatives, especially a now single mother with 17 million in debt while knowing nothing about their relationship is not a good look. Suicide is often due to mental illness or internal struggles as a balanced healthy person will never choose death over embarrassment or debt or anything else, he simply needed mental help
Agreed. She didn't want to know. Maybe she could have gotten a real job.
It amazes me how someone that runs a multi-million dollar corporation always manage to destroy their own personal finances.
My friend was an electronics wizard. He knew everything about TVs but his home had broken TV for ages.
The difference is discipline and the willingness to say no to people in the business.
The saying goes that the first generation builds the family fortune by hard work, dedication and sacrifice; the third generation that inherits the fortune squanders it by throwing it all away with both hands.
He started going down when his father died. The second generation always mess up the money.
@@Talkwithtina808 His father was having the same problems.
Peace of mind is priceless
I think Candice turned a blind eye rather than simply “being unaware”. And the idea that Brandon’s shame was motivated in large part by not wanting to disappoint Candice minimizes the fact that it starts with Brandon. He had his own issues with his self esteem desparately needing to be wealthy.
I concur, women are natural born investigators. I find it very hard to believe she didn’t know,if anything I believe she probably pushed him to “figure “it out.
@@nadiamokaeya5178 she knew what was going on, women are up their man's @ss big time. Most women cannot be trusted and they think their man is the same.
Reminds me of Bernie Madoff's wife.
She also grew up in an affluent community. This was probably her norm and that’s why she didn’t think anything of it.
I hope the girls learned that their Father was all that they really ever needed.
Rich people would rather be dead than poor.
Than "Poor"...
Thing is, it may be a bit embarrassing to their "uppity" crowd (b/c taking big hits financially can do that), he still could have handled it in such a way to make his, and his family's life still manageable. smh
They just don’t know what they’re missing, do they? Being poor, which I’d rather be!
@@lisasaims3007
"Honest poverty is a gem that even a King might be proud to call his own, but I wish to sell out. I have sported that kind of jewelry long enough."
- Mark Twain
@@septembersurprise5178 Brilliant! (I’m a September surprise!) So true! Everything is real! ❤️🌹
I believe he was a golden child who has grown up with a narcissitic parent, learning that his whole purpose is to serve and appease and that love is conditional on success etc and relies on this for self validation. This people pleasing, conditional love dynamic is then transposed to his relationships as an adult which is why he would rather die than face the shame
Narcissistic injury
I think you are absolutely right.
Without more information, we have no idea, but your theory could very well be true.
Gosh, that makes me deeply sad for him and also thankful that my parents didn’t f me up in that way. Their love has always been unconditional.
I think he learned his financial schemes from his father.
I was skeptical seeing a 14 minute count video, but your well edited video made every minute count. Good work.
When money becomes your god, no amount of it is ever enough.
I went debt-free when I turned fifty and people were horrified that I didn’t have a credit card. They told me that I would have no credit and wouldn’t be able to buy anything. Well, if you have cash, you can buy anything. Credit is overrated and is only a means to extort more money from you. I can afford what I can afford, and what I can’t afford,I don’t need.
People really value that credit score.
It’s like a piece of identity.
Same - I use a debit card. Can't afford a car - it stinks, but, I'd rather not buy a used car, then after a few years, spend money on enormous car repairs...
same thinking as you. I rarely use credit card. If I cannot afford it then I don't buy. Simple as that.
@@meredithheath5272you are smart.
I'm 47 and never had a credit card and never wanted one.
I absolutely hate being in debt to anyone.
None of the financials make sense. He could have just not rented an additional apartment, not rented furniture, sold the boat and saved on slip fees. It’s insane that he was so spoiled he had 0 financial abilities
It sounds like he had a complete lack of ability or willingness to tell his wife they couldn't afford something. It's hard to tell how much blame she shares, it doesn't seem like she knew but who knows
@@haloimplant7678 Women like her divorce whenever they see financial dificulties. She would've left him and take as much as she could the moment she saw any restrain on money expending
Millions of dollars and no “cents”.
Yes but the thing is to do business in those circles, optics is everything. You cannot be doing multi million dollar Manhattan deals unless you are in that circle of Uber wealth, can’t show up in a Corolla wearing Ross Dress for Less … so he had to fake it and keep up the appearances, go to the polo match and pray that he could put a Hail Mary deal together
My cousing for over ten years worked for a company that went into homes after the owners foreclosed or abandoned payments, to prepare the homes for the next buyer. He said most of the homes he prepared were in well-to do neghborhoods.
I don't understand why anyone would choose to flaunt a lifestyle of excess and greed in the first place, as did Candice Miller. In my opinion, this is a harbinger of doom. I feel for the children.
Nothing really wrong with having a big party or anniversary celebration or wedding if you can really afford it. They also also treated whoever came to those parties to the dinner and music for free. I’m sure.
Now it’s different if you have to borrow money from your friends and not pay it back and make them your enemies and borrow money on the mortgage on your house twice and not pay that back plus the other money
@@enjoystraveling they definitely didn't treat anyone to anything for free lol those events are usually ticketed and at the very least you're expected to leave the host a tip
its called living amongst rich people..
It is easy to understand. It is a story as old as humanity. "Vanity, thy name is woman".
HIS OPRIDE WAS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANYTHING OR ANYONE ELSE.
What Brandon really needed wasn’t money, it was psychiatric help.
or a financial adviser
And a different wife
@ Yes!
Never envy the appearance of those flaunting a glamours lifestyle. You never know what's really going on under the surface.
I had a dream where the world was destroyed. People were walking in droves over the rubble. Each one of them had as many material items as they could carry. Examples were name brand items and purses. Some were wearing Louboutin heels. The disturbing part in addition to that was that they were like robots. When looking into their eyes, I saw nothing. They were absent. Like walking zombies
Inheriting a family business has a way of exposing nepo babies with no skills, competence, and displine.
It could have been worse. There was a guy in Massachusetts who also had major financial problems and he killed his wife and daughter in addition to himself. At least this guy didn't go that far.
thats f.. .p
That's right! That Indian American guy.
he probably ****ed them.because in his mind they would be suffering had they lived...
Yes in the UK a man killed his children and wife, his horses and his dogs because he lost his wealth. This man at least felt his death would leave his family in good position and only removed himself. Sad story though. Very!
@@YayRaven
"Leave the family in a good position"? He was $17M in debt!!
You don't have to be super wealthy to have this kind of thing happen to you. My stepfather was a lawyer and had to bail out several doctors and lawyers in our circle who had financial problems that they hid from spouses. In one case, the sheriff was at the door and the wife had no idea they were about to lose the house. I know many people think married couples should share all assets, and I understand that on one level. On another, I still think you should have some of your own money - especially if your spouse controls the the income or has a cash business that he says you "wouldn't understand." Even stay at home parents should put away 10% of what they get to manage the house like they are tithing to the church. You never know what might happen.
If she did have some money just 10% wouldn’t that just go for paying his debts since he didn’t?
Reminded my of my uncle who passed away this year due to heart attack , he used to be the provider for his family and he died left a lot of debt behind him . The wife was enjoying her life never asked about her husbands issues just selfish one who just want’s extravagant lifestyle.