I was diagnosed with ADHD last week. I'm 67 years old. 900 jobs and a string of failed relationships, no wife, no children. But I'm not depressed, going to make the best of the time I have left. Life is a journey.
Therapy does help and learning about ADHD, which is not who you are but what you have,,, have you ever questioned yourself why in your life time you have had so many jobs and a string of failed relationships, check in, check it out, Sounds like ADHD has run your life, a typical ADHD expression of life is a journey, yours is a journey with ADHD, all the best in your endeavours 🙂
This!! Add autism to the mix for me as well. I'm now 42 and still have a hard time with adulting on occasion, but learning about ways to cope with attention deficit and executive dysfunction has made a huge difference.. so has doing meditation, doing breathwork, and learning tips and tricks to mentally work myself up to doing things I would normally not want to do or thing I would normally put off.. it takes time, but if you work at it things DO get better. You have to break yourself out of the cycles until doing the opposite of what you'd normally do just becomes habit. Sorry for the info dump lol
I resonate with this, SO MUCH. I was the quiet, shy, daydreamer in school. I was also very smart, so it masked my problems even more. Good grades early on, then progressively worse as things got harder. Spiraled out of control in adulthood - binge drinking, impulse spending, poor money management in general, losing jobs because of being late. I self-diagnosed my ADHD at 37. Talked to my psychiatrist, who had been treating me for anxiety and depression since I was 21, mind you. He agreed that ADHD was likely, and started me on adderall. It was night and day... just amazing. First dose I took, I still remember the feeling of only having one thought at a time, instead of the jumbled mess of thoughts that were usually running through my mind at a million miles an hour. It's sad how many of us get misdiagnosed, or just written off as a "mess", or undisciplined, or lazy.
Wow I can relate, getting my insurance in order to go see a doctor, my life is a mess, I'm no where, where I should be in this stage of my life, 44 at an end dead Job divorce, and living with relatives, with so many great projects and Ideas that only live in my head, because I can't get my self started or just been consistan and focus to get shit done. Much love man, I hope everything goes well in your life.
hey, thanks for sharing your message! I want to ask you how much medication has helped you and if you are still taking it. I have an appointment with the doctors on Monday about getting diagnosed which im 100% i am but i am a bit scared taking medication thats why im asking thanks again
Lol i always copied off someone else after class to get the assignment if it wasn't up on the whiteboard. I just didn't bother asking, too embarrassing.
I remember few years back after my husband died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 8 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Does anyone else when they’re watching UA-cam on their phone close out of the app and go onto different apps in the middle of the video and then come back to it 20 minutes later watch 2 more minutes of the video and do the same thing
They really need to re-evaluate the school systems so that kids with different learning abilities don’t feel bad about themselves like this. It’s sad to think so many kids experience the same instances.
It is, all my friends, and I mean all, tell me that they miss school and I am here like naaaaah I hated it, hate it now and I dont miss it, I have had the same problems, and no one ever wanted to be my friend, so I agree with you
tianna kook if it’s any consolidation, I am studying primary school teaching in Australia. We are trained and taught to teach students of all diverse capabilities, to now make lessons open-ended and life-relatable, and most importantly hands-on so students can create their own meanings/understandings of things. I think things are slowly changing.
68 years old. Watched a documentary called The Disruptors. Daughter made me watch it. I cried through it realizing it was about me. No-one ever told me I was ADHD, but it all made sense now. Very upsetting going through my first 67 years thinking I was simply not part of the "regular" people. Thought it was depression, or simply had mental problems to live with. Was always alone. No friends ever. Have been on Adderall now for a week. That with the knowledge of what the problem is has completely changed my life. Just a shame that in the 50's and 60's they simply gave me Lithium and stuck me in the corner to be quiet. Feel like I wasted my whole life. But......wife of 35 years, 2 daughters, granddaughter all good now. The first day I was prescribed Adderall, I felt like a completely different person. Miraculous.
Same here! Late to the party, but I'm so glad I finally found a doctor who 'got it'. I now have a window of 2 or 3 hours that actually allow some focus. I still make prioritized lists of projects, but have a tough time sticking to them.
I'm 49. Late to the game, as well. Going through the "change" has turned my coping skills upside down. Doc seemed dismissive. So, I've been researching on my own. I think it's time to make another Dr. appointment.
@@quicktoreason2722 a psychiatrist is not always the best option, however ensuring that you're consulting a competent, well trained in ADHD and good-fit-for-you therapist is essential. If any of those things is out, therapy won't go anywhere.
@@Camila-qm1vu Not everyone with a disorder will have the same symptoms. Maybe the books you read are on topics/in genres that really interest you, making it easier to focus? Dunno just guessing here.
I found out last year, aged 36. It explains 99 % of every single thing that has ever been a challenge to me. Understanding other people, why I can be both so sensitive or emotionally stunted, how I handled relationships, how I never ever could find motivation for the things that are not interesting to me, how my brain just cramps up if I have to focus on something boring for more than 3 minutes and 30 seconds, how I can sit for 14 hours straight on a project I find captivating while forgetting to eat and sleep and everything else... I recommend trying methylphenidate if you haven't. Works amazing for me. I experienced actual nothingness and calm, effortlessly, for the first time in my life. And no, I didn't cry, shut up!
@Troels Berg That is sounds really good. I have a question. Do you find that the medication helps you do those things that you want to do but procrastinate at? Also what should be expected for emotions after discovering medication works? I have been diagnosed a few days ago and have felt like a wreck trying to absorb it all, but have not yet met with a doctor for medication.
Nothing wrong with crying. Yes, even as a guy - toxic masculinity destroys mental health. More guys need to know it's a perfectly normal human reaction to cry sometimes. Good that you got diagnosed, meds and some help with life 👍🏻
Yep that's to be expected, although hopefully not because you found it boring! This is why nowadays I always try keep my videos under 10 minutes. 5 to ten minutes.
@@ADHDMastery I didn't find the video boring, I actually found it to be very helpful, because I'm currently trying to learn about ADHD to see if I have it, because I have a lot of the symptoms
@@whyaretherehandlesnow if you're trying to find out if you have it, make a Dr appointment. Even if you don't have it, the Doc is going to try to help you sort out what ever it is. Just take the step. There is no way getting answers isn't going to make you feel better. I promise.
@@aamantium1 Don't worry I've already done that, and the doctors say it's most likely ADHD, and considering a few of my family members have it or are suspected of having it I'm not really surprised, but thank u for trying to help, I really appreciate it 🙏❤️
@bennet alex not all kids and even teenagers present with this hyperactive symptom or it comes out in different ways one reason a lot of kids slipped through the cracks with being diagnosed with because of that lack of understanding and it's only in the last 10 to 15 years this has improved and most kids get diagnosed now. People who get diagnosed in their 20s 30s and 40s really pay a high price for late diagnosing most struggle to keep jobs, they get fired for standing up for themselves because they have no or little emotional control, they fail in school not because they are dumb but because they cannot focus their mind properly to learn. The amount of people I know who have been diagnosed later on in life and before were diagnosed as having depression or bi polar 2 or when young were expelled from school because they were told they were just bad kids. It's disgusting and I know because I was a child who was treated in this way and had to do things the hard way because these people didn't realise you don't need to be throwing chairs at teachers to have adhd. I am so glad kids today don't have this issue standing in their way. This guy is lucky he never lost a job or was suspended or expelled from school. Most adhd kids are not so lucky.
I was told by my kids psychiatrist that there were two types. One she described as the space cadet, the other as the super ball. I am/was the space cadet, as is one of my sons, the other was the super ball. I was only diagnosed through my son getting seen.
That's why girls rarely get diagnosed. I actually was a hyper kid, but still unlike the stereotype, so I only got the diagnosis now in my 20's after having first seen some incompetent people, of course.
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 13, and I’ve been taking medication for it since then. I’m now in my late-20’s, and hearing stories like this really makes me think about how much differently my life could have played out, had I not gotten the help I needed at such a young age. I feel very grateful that I didn’t have to experience a lot of these same struggles when first starting my adult life.
I envy you, I was diagnosed at 12 but my mother didnt want to give me medications because she feared the side effects. It bothered me that despite knowing my condition she expected more than I could give. I convince her to get me medicated at 17, unfortunely the Lockdowns strike and I spent two years at home taking classes of collage there and still havent developed the skills I should have develop in my teens.
I started crying watching this because this is me and I never knew what was wrong with me, but maybe it's this. Edit: For anyone seeing this... It's 2 years later. Little update on my life. I got an ADHD diagnosis today. I thought of this comment. It's been a long and hard journey. When this all started, I was obsessed with getting a diagnosis. I was so sure it would fix everything. A huge part of the work I've been doing since then is realizing why I need diagnosis so much back when I wrote this comment. Truthfully, I needed something to be "wrong" with me, something to blame all my dysfunction on that wasn't about me as a person. I was holding so much guilt and pain. While I do most likely have ADHD (according to my doctor, even after a test battery, it's difficult to tell for sure), the primary cause of my distress this entire time was depression and anxiety due to trauma. All of it compounding together. In fact, when my doctor talked to me about the trauma in my life, it was so much more relieving that even hearing she thought I had ADHD... imagine my surprise. I don't feel much different now with the diagnosis. I guess I have the last 2 years of processing, my therapist, and my doctor to thank for that. I'm happy I have it now at age 24 than later. I wish I got it before I struggled through school my entire life. But there's no time like the present to start healing. I'm happy to have a little more clarity today than I had yesterday, it has made my days immensely easier. Best of luck friends. I hope you all find what brings you peace
maybe its this, maybe its that ...perhaps its the other. Best let a professional decide. Someone who went to University for 6 years, with many years experience in the working field of psychiatry. 👍
If you haven't already, go to a Dr and explain why you feel like you've come to this realization. If you're anything like me, you've already procrastinated it and decided not to deal with it. Took me 35 years for someone (me) to make that appt. Just knowing that I'm dealing with the multiple years of frustration is crazy comforting. But, whether you have ADHD or not, YOU HAVE TO TAKE THAT FIRST STEP! Pick up the phone and make that appt.
For me, it feels good to know you’re not alone, but it also feels bad to know others suffer through the same thing. The symptoms of ADHD are things you wouldn’t wish upon anyone, even your worst enemy. For me, my pre-kindergarten teacher noticed something beginning as early as age 4. In 2010, my family took me to the Marcus Center in Atlanta, Georgia. For all my life, I’d always get scolded for the things that were beyond my control. I was told by my own special Ed teacher that I’d “be in the 5th grade until I was 21” and got constantly scolded for my inattentiveness. I always knew something was clearly different with me, but I couldn’t put it into words. And I’d always zine out as a child, too. Now, I feel so much better knowing that the thing I couldn’t explain actually exists, and it is researched by medical science. And yes, the American School System is uneducated about ADHD and other conditions. They need to go through proper, advanced training.
@@dafukisdat9200 🤔 oooh i dunno, i miight wish at least some of this on my worst enemy. at least fot a while so they become more understanding and stop bring my worst enemy right? but i zone out n go thinking about random interesting topics in my head all the time and it is HORrible. takes me forever to do the responsible things in life like tidying a room, typing bills for work, sometimes even getting out of my car to go inside at the end of the day cause i got sidetracked looking something up on my phone.
@@bagofchips8813 Well, it’s incredibly difficult when your own parents don’t believe you, and they claim you’re lazy, don’t care, and manipulative. My sister always says it’s manipulative behavior, and when I do my hyperactivity, she always says “You don’t have Tourette’s.” Like seriously, who the fuck does she think she is to tell me what is the problem with me, when one: she’s never seen it, and two: she doesn’t have to deal with it. I swear, people are just unwilling to be accepting or educate themselves on ADHD. It’s irritating as all hell, and you get so pissed at yourself because you try your hardest to control it, but they still pass it off as if it’s nothing. Also, I got yelled at by teachers all my life, and almost always got notes home from school. I’m telling you, this shit is HARD. But it hurts even more when nobody else understands you.
@@dafukisdat9200 You said it, man. It´s incredibly scarring and discouraging to be called any of those things. I´ve been told by countless teachers that I am never gonna get anywhere in life, that I am lazy and unwilling to learn. My teachers had bullied me for the entirety of primary and secondary school. I used to be horrified of teachers to the point, that I would throw wild tantrums so that I wouldn´t have to go to school. My family would always scream at me, get instantly frustrated by me, which I get, but it was also not my fault. I recently got diagnosed and my family still tells me all kinds of insulting and scarring shit. They generally don´t consider ADHD as a real issue. It´s incredible how ignorant and careless can the people closest to you be. ADHD and ADD community has helped me immensely, I joined all kinds of groups and I finally feel less alone. Recommend the same to everyone who's struggling.
@@tizfizzrizz My parents also believe I’m faking it, and they also say that they don’t like to be told how to parent. But you see, my father had to provide for his family since an early age, his late teens to be exact, because his biological father left him when he was 17 (1988). So he’d be so strict on me, which all I want is for them to understand. In fact, I thought my father would be the one to understand me. I still want him to, it’s just if there’s anyone I feel closer with, it’s my own father. My mother just screams at me, and tells me to get the fuck out of her house if I think anyone else can do a better job of caring for me. What’s even worse is that my sister is 20, she has her own car, and she can move out. Trying to be a disciplinarian? Ha, that’s too good of a fucking joke. For all I care, she could move out and I could honestly give less of a shit where she moved. She just takes it as I’m the bad kid. Hell, she doesn’t even know half of it. I just want somebody to help me, and I can’t have an official neuropsychologist appointment until this upcoming January. All I want y’all to know, is that I’m sorry all of y’all have to go through these struggles. You don’t deserve to go through this, and I wish you be the best of luck.
I may not have an official diagnosis, but listening to you talk about it, makes me feel at peace knowing that not being normal is relatable. And that's what makes us human. Thank you for talking out loud about it.
I was savaged over being late. But looking back now I see I was using it as a deadline to motivate my brain. Did anyone understand this? No and they still don't. A-holes.
@Faisal Yousuf Osman Wow...I am so glad you didn't do that either. The beating to our self-esteem is hard to convey to others. That it can be so bad but we have heard criticisms 10,000 times by the time we are 18. I hope meds have worked for you. Life changer for me.
Being unable to get up in time or do anything on time caused a lot of stress and strain between me and my family and it's something I got chewed over about a lot during school. Like, I know I'm not going to get my dignity or whatever back, but I'm so fucking mad that I won't ever get anything like an apology.
@Faisal Yousuf 036 that's how I been feeling my whole life I keep thinking it's just laziness or I am dumb? which I hate cause I don't feel dumb when it comes to showing it I fail and it frustrates me but the whole suicide I would never.
I am 66 years old and have only now come to this realization through my grown daughter's recent self-diagnosis (she just earned her degree as a licensed mental health therapist). Back in the 1960's no one was even thinking about helping this disengaged, underachieving young girl. I feel like someone just explained the story of my life...
54, nobody could explain what the hell was wrong with me until I was 54. I weep if I think of all the things I might have been able to do if I'd just known.
Thank you for sharing this.🤔🙂 I was diagnosed December 2020, 52 years old. We have finally found what I have been searching for all our lives🙂 This may be our Holygrail, and our job is to spread the Word.
Just diagnosed at 58 here. I'm trying not to think about what could have been. I figure, what's the point of letting my mind go down that road...chasing something that doesn't exist! I'm trying to focus on understanding more about ADHD, and healing my brain
I'm 52 and highly suspect it. I'll be getting an official diagnosis soon. While I don't regret my life so far, I think there were times I could have defended myself better against criticisms and approached problems differently had I known what I was struggling against.
Is it a symptom if you feel like you find yourself very often “negotiating “ with your body? Like: “Come on dude, you know you have to get this thing done, come one, just do 5 minutes” but your body is like: “nah”, clicks on another youtube video and I can’t do anything to stop it. This applies to me for waking up early, practice my instrument, trying not to eat junk food, doing homework, and the list goes on. It has to be something very urgent so my body accepts to cooperate with me. Tomorrow I will start my tests for ADHD with a neuropsychologist. If I find out that I have it, it would be a great relief. But if I don’t, then that also will be great because I can work on those weaknesses with some help
I relate to this a ton. Honestly it's just like an internal argument. Do I take the easy way out or work towards the hard way. The instant gratification monkey in my head picks the former and wins every time. If it isn't urgent, I can't do it. God knows how I made it thru uni. I'll be looking to get diagnosed soon.
How did it go? If you were diagnosed with ADHD, congrats and I hope you’re getting the help you need now. If you weren’t, also congrats, and what steps are you taking/what support are you getting now to help you work on those weaknesses? Because I’m in the exact same boat.
I'm 74 now, and was diagnosed only about 3 years ago. It was an epiphany. It explains SO much of my life. I also had a tough time in school - my report cards often reflected my lack of focus in classes. I flunked out of college - even though I would read the assignments, I tested badly because I remembered so little of what I read. In later years, I have probably heard the phrase, "Yeah - remember? I told you..." more than any other, except maybe, "You should keep a notebook." Right. But where did I put it? And on and on.
I always thought I was just forever lazy and unmotivated but its procrastinating. And having an overactive mind creates immediate exhaustion. I am too tired to do things most times
You're lucky that you have been diagnosed at an age where you're young and mature at the same time. I only found out last year..not even properly diagnosed yet. I was diagnosed for dyslexia before and thought that was bad...
Yep. Same. Was talking to my dad who told me I don’t work as hard as I could- luckily I had been through therapy already (so I didn’t take that personally) and also got diagnosed with adhd in 2019 and I’m almost 40 now. Another way to look at my failures in earning potential is by comparing my salary to his at the same age with an inflation calculator!! Boomers don’t seem to understand inflation! Lol! My dad taught me that hard work pays off and it did for him- so I believed that until I looked at the math and saw that I was not doing well mentally or physically, and didn’t have a savings account or a single asset to show for it. If a person is broke but has a house with a mortgage they got before the bubble- they are doing better than renters who now pay over half their monthly wage in rent and utilities even if they have roommates. I do blame adhd for my failures to fit in with coworkers and to connect with bosses- thereby no matter how hard I worked, I was never going to get promoted.
“Failing at adulthood” and I never knew why, since I had so much potential, since I’m often described by friends as the smartest person they know. At 48, still spontaneously climbing something or instantaneously flying off the handle for 60 seconds, have yet to get something done without seconds to spare, or being on time for once in my life, I only recently realized I have severe ADHD, both types. I’ve made numerous doctors appointments, only to forget about them or I’m so late I missed them completely. I’ll contact them again…tomorrow. 😉
Ooh, I relate to that last point. It took 5 reschedules for an optometrist appointment, and for the last one, a case worker at the homeless refuge I was staying at had to come with me to make sure I got there on time. (1 in 4 people with ADHD end up homeless at some point, usually those in that ~25% are undiagnosed). That same case worker also said "your executive dysfunction could just be caused by your depression," and "I have a son that's autistic and has ADHD. You don't act like him, bouncing off the walls and all that,". I told him "the bouncing is happening in my head,".
"accidentally in trouble" This defines my entire school life. I was diagnosed at 20 after my 3rd attempt to study at Uni. I had the same penny drop moment like it all made sense, everything from my childhood is so similar to what you explain. I think the best part of the diagnosis was learning that I wasnt just "dumb". I remember the tipping point was when I left a lecture and got in the car and started bawling my eyes out because for the life of me I couldnt remember what the lecture had just covered, and I knew I had so much work to do but it just felt impossible to retain information/hold focus on anything important. I experience hyperfocus like once ever 3 months for school work which usually doesnt happen until 2 weeks or so after the assignment is due lmao. itd be a good 6 weeks of doing nothing productive and then BAM all in one night ive decided im going to learn and submit an entire semesters worth of work.
My former boss just loved these moments. There was no rush and I was only doing reactive network management work which was totally fine. And then, boom, I go into 2 week long "inspiration mode" and code a whole new project or feature from scratch.
ADHD was the bane of my college years. Late assignments, incomplete assignments, no urgency to study, almost non-existent memory retention/retrieval, easily flustered by assignments etc. Miraculously I managed to stave off academic probation and came out of that shit show with a B average. If I do go back to university it'll be under the auspices of adhd medication. You only get one GPA, once you fuck it up academic opportunities as well as future job prospects dwindle. Good luck.
I quit University like 4 times now.. finally thinking about distance education.. I’m just like all of you here.. for the life of me I could not finish assignments and can’t recall a god damn thing in or after lectures.. I ending up wasting 1000s of dollars to be honest and got nowhere. Today the lack of a degree means it’s like a big red light that says incompetence in some parts of the world .. I’m about three times smarter than everyone in my field and earn wages of a junior ... with medication and right therapy I hope I’ll be able to complete my degree ... I think I quit University mostly cos it reminded me of the screwed up school life I had
Yup, my experience is very similar to yours, and to that of many of the commenters. I was diagnosed last year at the age of 45. I've always struggled in life, but I managed to get a master's degree in engineering. My problem is that I'm just clever/cunning enough to hide my ADHD. Nobody believes me when I say I have literally never read a textbook, but it's true. I only ever revised at 2 in the morning the night before my exams and I often figured things out during exams. Luckily I scraped through by the skin of my teeth. Currently I am struggling trying to understand and explain 'executive dysfunction.' There are things that I want to do AND can do AND must do, so there's absolutely no reason for me not to do them. I completely, logically understand how to do them and that they need to be done and that they are fun to do and that they will bring rewards if I do them. And yet, inexplicably, I just...don't. My wife cannot possibly understand why. It's not laziness, it's just a complete disconnect between thinking and doing. It's the bloody bane of my life. After discovering ADHD on reddit and youtube, hearing so many other people's experience like this, seeing doctors explain symptoms that I have struggled with, that feeling of it all finally making sense had me in tears. That's me, that's me, yup, that's totally me...Over and over again.
You sound like my (undiagnosed) partner of 23 years. When we first met (he’s 50) he had just started grad school. He earned a dual degree (MBA/MPH) and graduated with honors from Berkeley, yet I swear he never cracked a textbook the entire time. He’s brilliant. But he’s also not been able to hold a job for more than two years, among, of course, many other problems,. Thanks for sharing your experience!
Disconnect between doing and thinking summarizes it so well. I'm very good at thinking but doing things is a completely different matter. I feel almost physical pain when I have to do something that is not interesting, tedious.
I have just turned 60 and discovered 2 days ago. I have had ADHD all my life, wow, looking back everything makes sense now. I was watching a video of Gabor Mate talking about his discovery in his later years, and how much it changed and improved his life. So many things he said about his condition rang a bell with me, and then I looked further into it, and boom it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am not severely affected by it, but enough to make life constantly challenging and unable to achieve my life goals.
'feeling of being fundamentally incompetent' - EXACTLY how I felt for the longest time. That was never really addressed until I was diagnosed and medicated that everything made sense.
2 weeks before my 33rd birthday. I was always a good student but very messy, forgetful, disorganized, and the ultimate procrastinator. Eventually started taking a toll on my life and I got tested (largely due to information available on UA-cam and TikTok!) Truly a “eureka moment” where everything made sense 🙌🏼
I relate to this so much!! That insecure, incompetent, and now a 32 year old women feeling left out of "adult" conversations. It sucked ... I just went yesterday and finally got diagnosed although I've known for years I felt so relieved for it to come out of the doctors mouth. I'm excited to see my life improve.
This!!! Im 31 and I feel like other adults doesn't see me as an adult. That's why if there's kids around for any family gathering, I kinda just sweep away after dinner to "go check on the kids and see if they need anything, brb". But I'm never gonna brb, cause I would much rather join the princess tea party that's going on in the living room. I always get the "Aww you're so sweet to look after the kids, you're so good with them! Please just let us know if they're bothering you sweetie!." In reality it's the adults thats bothering me with their weird questions and vibe.
@@rayanstoyboxreviews2022 it's not the same for everyone, but for me personally and for the 4 other people in my inner circle who also got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (all between the ages 25-34), it's been pretty much the same: - Right after the diagnosis, they test your blood pressure, take a blood sample and check that your heart is as it should be. This is to make sure you don't have any blood pressure or heart rate issues, as taking ADHD medications while having any issues like this could be very dangerous. - If everything is as it should be, they ask you if you prefer to stay away from medication and instead want cognitive tools through talks with an therapist, or if you would like to try out if meds could be any help for you. - Everyone I know, myself included, chose to try out medication. - Now comes a period where you and your therapist will figure out which type of meds and dosis suits you best. - (This part may not be the same in every country, so please check your local healthcare website for specifict info). There were 3 types of medication available to me: 1. Methylphenidate 2. Lisdexamfethamin 3. Non-stimulants. First they tried the non-stimulanting kinds as they are very mild and doesn't have any dangers of addiction attached to it. This didn't work for me at all. - We then spend almost a year testing out over 16 different medications, combos and dosis. The one that ultimately worked for me was something called Concerta (4x 18mg a day) + 1x 10mg Methylphenidate a day. Concerta is slow released to it stays with you longer, but the methylphenidate is instant release and will give you a "kick" but won't stay for long. - They basically will have to figure out if your brain works in one of two ways and medicate accordingly: 1. Your brain is a castle in the middle of a lake, with a bridge going from land to castle. Your brain soldiers can freely pass this bridge but they travel a bit slow. The meds will help your soldiers go faster over the bridge. Or 2. Your brain is a castle in a lake, but the bridge is always closed. The meds will help lowering the bridge and help the soldiers cross faster. - Depending if you have trouble jumpstarting your day or not, you will need to have your meds tailored specifically for your "brain bridge". - When you are happy with the meds, your psychiatrist will monitor you for a few months to make sure it keeps working. After this, your doctor will take over. - Important!! In most countries it is required that you collect your meds every 30 days. You cannot be given meds for more than 30 days at a time, without your doctor seeing you and prescriping your meds. It's a very tough system and it will seem very unfair as it is meds you need, but it doesn't seem like this type of prescription method is going to change anytime soon. I hope this answers your question! Let me know if there's anything else I can do!
I was initially diagnosed with depression in my late teens and it’s recently occurred to my therapist and I that the depression was a symptom of my ADHD. Everything makes so much more sense! Thank you for sharing your story with us!
Hi, I’m wondering if you could share what the specific factors were that made you and your therapist think that your depression was due to ADHD? I was thinking I was the same (depression + anxiety) but recently had an assessment where they told me it was just depression and anxiety. Those were complete strangers that I just went to see for the assessment though, and I’m not 100% sure they’re right or wrong, so just wondering.
@@piggyofoz same thing happened w my therapist she j said I had depression and anxiety but I didnt stick w her long enough so idek if she wouldve noticed anything but I’ve got an appointment w my GP next week so hopefully I’ll find out what it really is cuz uts really frustrating not knowing whats wrong since u cant really treat it if u dont know the exact problem lol but yeah I’d suggest maybe going to a different doctor? One that specializes in ADHD? I’m planning to get a referral from my GP to see someone who spesifically specilizes in it if my GP also thinks I might have it but yeah I think u rlly think u might have it I think u should get a second opinion as not all doctors are good at their job.
Your story is nearly identical to mine. I was seeing a therapist for depression, and she quickly recognized that I had a lot of classic ADD symptoms. My psychiatrist agreed, and I started taking ADD medication that same day. It's been a game changer! I'm slowly reducing the anti-depressants now.
I was Diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD at 3 years old. now I'm nearly 19 and I gotta say, it really influences you every second of your life. whether it is daydreaming, body language, imagination, random thoughts throughout the day and thoughts about your own life that you try to get in order but somehow can't.
I strongly relate.... currently 17 so could you help me with tips to CONVINCE my family that I really have ADHD inattentive type? They think I'm just lazy, and careless :(
@@businessisboomin7252 Sorry for my late reply. well usually ADHD can get diagnosed. You should let yourself get diagnosed with ADHD. also there is medicine that helps you against it, and that doesn't make you lazy or careless
I was diagnosed at 39 (2 weeks ago) and the more I learn the more I'm realizing that "who I am" is a complex web of ADHD symptoms and work arounds.... I'm having a lot of feelings about it.
@@englandbengal So much has changed for me in the month since diagnosis, with support (therapy, meds (if you want), and informed changes to habits), you will see amazing changes in the weeks ahead. Good luck!!
I'm gonna have to get tested, there is something different about me and if it's not ADHD I don't know where to turn. I've always had trouble with losing things and being forgetful. I've always struggled with my emotions and my mood can change in seconds. I have always had diffuclty with work, remembering what I need to do, how to do things, and just the general bordom of it. I've also had freakouts/breakdowns at work because I couldn't control my emotions or I made silly mistakes. I still lose things regularly, coats are definitely the worst. I can't focus on any task that I don't find interesting, to the point where I feel sick trying to make simple decisions or doing simple things. I can't hold down relationships because I get bored within the first week. I am extremely creative but cannot see projects through and start/try too many different things. I find things are always more interesting in my head than in real life. Feel free to disagree/agree. This guy seems really chill, thankyou for the video dude, hope you are well.
Carlossalfailure wow that is literally me. Idk if it’s ADHD but I do know it’s all of what you described. The one thing I can do exceptionally well and follow through on is writing.
Very well put. Everything is more interesting in my head and I feel sick as well when I have to do something I don’t want to do. I have adhd, I was diagnosed at 41, I lost my job around that same time. Don’t wait. I have a son who has struggled his entire school career he is 17 and has just take. His last part of his psych testing and I feel this is kinda late at least as far as schooling is concerned. His results are pending.
A big part of my diagnosis was ruling out other possibilities. Asit turns out, I also had a minor dose of depression. The Doc that diagnosed me, said that the depression may have been brought on by not being able to cope with the ADHD on my own and beginning to feel hopeless because things only got worse as I got older. Both depression and ADD/ADHD were unacceptable concepts for men in my family, but I finally said "F___ it" and made an appointment. Feels pretty empowering knowing that you're actively doing something to make yourself feel better. I can't stress this enough, Make a damn appt with a Pro! Close your UA-cam tab, call your Dr. Get yourself right my friends!
I’m not a doctor so idk but personally I relate to a lot of this and I have a bad mix of ADHD (usually closer to ADD) and panic disorder (also GAD), I especially relate to the relationship stuff. Find a doctor or someone you are comfortable to open up to, sometimes a stranger is better.
Just from what I have read, it sounds like it could be ADHD. A lot of it is indecisiveness, impulse issues, lack of self control or commitment and patience, mood swings irritability etc etc I would seek a diagnosis!!!
I SWEAR TO GOD, I was a cashier once and always paying attention but then the manager told me there were more than 100 dollars lost on my shifts (I was shocked, asked them to check some receipts but no one could say if it was my fault or some customer's fault) - and now that u said that....considering all my other symptoms I DO need to get diagnosed asap
I was also diagnosed as an adult and I realized I had it my whole life. It was hard to catch because I always did well in school so the fact that I was talkative and always distracted never registered as a problem because I did well in classes. Symptoms tend to show differently in women as well
Yes! I was quiet in school and always got decent grades, despite rarely turning in work on time. When I told my family I have ADHD, no one believed me.
Same I was also diagnosed as an adult, when I realized looking back at childhood when I used to be in Special Ed classes, at that time I didn't know anything about ADHD or other disorders, I used to zone out at times, forget to do my homework, come to class late etc, still persisted in Middle and High School, graduated late a year later from my actual graduation year, when I began my first job which I'm still in, work in yard labor/tree work, I noticed on the third day of work, I lacked work performance, lacked thinking, co workers complained to the boss about me and I nearly got fired, (that's how I discovered I had ADHD from looking back at childhood and did research about it)
I was diagnosed finally at age 51, just 7 years ago. I am also ADHD Innatentive type. The last straw was I was a bank teller, and kept underperforming and losing checks, not remembering how things got where they were, etc. Story of my life. I never got fired from jobs because they always liked me. Likeability and honesty were my strengths that got me through.
This is me. I am mismanaged at work. But that is not purposeful mismanagement. Rather, I put very much effort. And that is what people notice and so I get the pass
I'm 42. It tookmy wife pointing it out in the last few months to even begin to start to comprehend it. I always did OK in school, until I got to post grad, where you study nothing but one damn thing all day long. I've always been prone to anxiety, depression, and anxiety. I've drifted from one job to another, unable to seem to thrive anywhere. I just get bored with it. Later, I developed some substance abuse issues. Those are resolved, but not without doing substantial damage. I've somehow made it through 2 years of medical school, now starting third, but still am having difficulty finding a provider who takes this seriously, even though I tick off more than enough boxes in the DSM-5. I'm super disappointed that no one, including myself, ever saw that this was my diagnosis a long time ago. It explains so, so much.
Yes I have adhd as well and as an adult I can say that CHORES definitely pile up and are extremely overwhelming. I usually clean when things become urgent. Trust me I can relate to everything your saying
That's pretty incredibly. It's like you're reading a diary I wrote without even knowing it. I've got my diagnosis at 29 and started therapy at 30. I'm 31 now. I've actually joked as a child that I must have ADD, since everyone basically told me all the time that I need to focus... It's funny in a tragic way how it all really came together when I got my diagnosis, answered the questions and began reading about this stuff. And the horrible thing is, that I really felt like I'm the biggest failure out there (and often still feel this way), being given so much ("gifted" my ass...) but not being able to do anything with it. I really do hate myself some days, no matter that I know that it's not a choice I'm making, being as I am, but it still feels like I'm just weak willed. But hearing your story and other similar stories, it really makes me feel... lighter? Like someone helps me to carry that backpack full of bricks. Not a lot, but enoigh so I can still keep moving forward. So, thank you for that, kind strangers.
Got diagnosed during covid at the age of 30. I also was the inattentive type with classic symptoms of teachers constantly telling my parents "he is so smart and good at the subject but he doesn't do his work, if only he would be more disciplined". like you, i learned the word procrastination very early. Procrastination, Lazy and Discipline are the three words that are constantly directed towards me along with distracted, creative, and random. Its honestly so hard to explain to employers when they ask things like "why are you so inconsistent, you can barely show up on time let alone predictably" yet i never miss work and always work later than the require 8 hrs work time (always being sure to account for any time loss i create being late). The way society is structured makes us feel broken that is for sure. Its asking is to have a feature that we essentially lack while also thriving off our ability to break the molds and fix problems in ways the typical person often struggles to do consistently apparently.
I just got diagnosed 3 days ago. I'm almost 22, in my junior year of college. One thing I have been told by multiple professionals by people who get diagnosed later in life is, they reach a breaking point where they cannot handle it anymore, as new responsibilities start piling on. College was that breaking point for me, but instead I was mistreated for anxiety and depression for the last year. At my diagnostic test, I took 2 cognitive tests before and during a Ritalin test dose, the results were staggering. I'm still processing the fact that I have ADHD, but I'm very excited that I can finally start receiving the right treatment for me.
Hence why I'm not gonna go for my IQ battery till I'm medicated. I'm also 22 (you're probably nearly 23 or had your B'day by now), and can imagine that your life pre and post meds is drastically different and post is life changing (perhaps even life saving). Been taking old class antidepressants (tried sertraline, made my ADHD worse, anger through the roof, s*uicidality dramatically increased, as it typical for young, undiagnosed ADHDers). It somewhat helps with sleep, my current meds, but I can imagine once I'm on the correct med regimen, I'll have the drive to tire myself out, instead of procrastinate going to the gym.
I just got diagnosed at 28. I'm female and inattentive-type so it was very much missed, despite me displaying blatantly obvious textbook symptoms my whole life. I figured out that I had ADD/ADHD in my early 20s, and it has taken me at least 5 years of relentlessly trying to get a diagnosis or get tested for ADHD to actually get assessed by an ADHD specialist.
I’ve been fighting for my daughter for 6 years. She now 15 and they keep diagnosing her with anxiety. I believe the anxiety is coming from add! Who diagnosed you?!
I always knew there was something off about me. I actually felt like I was dumb and had a learning disability because it always takes me longer to do things than “normal” people. I leave glasses everywhere as well. I’m in my 30s now and I was diagnosed about a month ago. Everything makes sense now. I too wasn’t a hyperactive child. I was shy but I always did poorly in school. 50-60% from middle school up to when I graduated. I couldn’t retain any information when reading books. I wish I was diagnosed earlier...but better late than never. Thanks for the video!
Hi Melissa, a lot of people also feel that I have a learning disability but I'm not sure whether to get diagnosed although I could relate to a lot of ADD symptoms. When I mentioned it to people I know, they just think I'm trying to find and excuse for being slow and always confused, or it's just that I'm a visual learner and cannot process things like everyone else.
@@nic7333 same is happening with me right now. If I mention sth about what I've been facing, they be like "I feel that too", you are just overthinking or you are just too lazy.
I'm crying while watching it. I feel you. I'm the same. I lost my job because of concentration and focusing problems and I'm down. It's So hard to get the diagnosis as an adult. I only have the suspected diagnosid.
Hope both of you will find a good doctor or therapist for the diagnosis. I had an appointment this week. And it is really clear for the therapist that I have adhd.
@@MiyaviTheKing how is your journey with ADHD going. Shelly and Kavishka if you are in America even your family doctor can treat you for ADHD. If it works you know.
@@learntothrivewithadhd I got the diagnosis and tried different medication but I guess I need really less because I reacted really sensitive. I don't know what I can do else besides therapy which is on hiatus because of my health Insurence (germany)
I’ve HEARD that it’s more overlooked in females and I definitely didn’t get the correct guidance. I knew my teachers knew something was wrong but I never had an answer. It was always just, “you have to try harder” or “I believe in you just believe in yourself” but in music and art I excelled years beyond my peers. Nothing else interested me at all and it was really hard to get into it. I was also quite shy yet blurty around peers with what I said. And extremely forgetful to this day. I have other signs mostly all that was described in this video to be honest. But I didn’t get a diagnoses that was correct until I was 24. I’m 25 almost 26 now and I often feel very behind yet I can’t help the fact that I am how I am so I have made it a joke and act like it doesn’t bother me. But my boss had told me the other day that she thinks I actively don’t listen to her fully. I just told her I was sorry and moved on with it as I’ve been told that my whole life.
I'm 25, turning 26 in November here, but man, a lot of what you said is what I've dealt with throughout my life as well. I'm very forgetful as well to the point where I force myself to always put things in the same spot and even if I've picked up the object, I'll feel around in my pocket, for say, my keys or wallet to make sure they're still there, and I'll end up doing this constantly for many things throughout the day. I was also pretty quiet growing up and would have those moments of sudden boisterousness or alertness, especially if I was interested in something being talked about, like Lord of the Rings or Star Wars. I feel I also don't really have the ability to listen fully to instruction, and it made school a living hell, and was often treated as if I was an idiot. It was so damn frustrating to be treated like that, plus with being really socially anxious, it just made the college setting especially hostile for me. I really like art as well and have been trying to get back into it more recently. Sadly though, I was heavily discouraged from pursuing art because my parents did not see me making a living from it so I was steered away and did what they told me to. I deeply regret not doing what I wanted to do, and still have the emotional scars in a way, as I spent around 5 years in college trying to find what the hell I wanted to do and could not find an answer and even with that time, I only walked out with an associate gen eds and an art degree. It was literal hell for me, and being forced to take classes in subjects that I often dread (especially math) and honestly just kinda gave up on life. I'm hoping to rekindle some passion, but I'm feeling like I'm too late in some ways.
@@VargusDread it ain't late. I'm 30 and I'm in online classes. I'm doing one class at a time since I have a full time job. That's all I can manage for now. Take your time.
Ugh i relate so much as a girl. They just always used y parents divorce as an excuse. It’s been 20 years since i don’t think it’s their divorce lol. I’m finally diagnosed.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, BPD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
I got diagnosed with ADHD recently (in my 20s). I realized that I had to get a diagnosis after starting the University when everything became harder and responsibilities were real. I feel a lot better now that things are explained and I can finally get some help on how to co-op with ADHD.
@Wish You The Best yes he does. He started on Vyvanse at the beginning of this year and he got As and Bs for the first time and he is even enjoying school! His Paediatrician has been great - it’s been life changing to be honest.
@Wish You The Best it’s a stimulant drug used for ADHD but it does have other limited uses I believe. In Australia you need a specialist prescription following a diagnosis, so a GP can’t just give you a script for it. Go talk to your doctor for other possibilities to help you.
I was diagnosed at 23 but I always knew something wasn’t quite right especially in classroom settings.. my parents just assumed because mine wasn’t hyperactive like my brother that I didn’t have it... it’s been a tough road and I tried coping without medication and treatment programs and it has wreaked havoc on my life for 5 years now..thanks for sharing your story it has motivated me to start up treatment again
@Ben Grimm According to ADDitude Magazine, a magazine for ADD people, "Concerta is a popular stimulant medication primarily used to treat ADHD symptoms in adults and children ages 6 and up". I can't find any reference online for it being prescribed as an anti-psychotic. You might be thinking of something else.
@@shailkhanna89 Concerta is methylphenidate (the same as Ritalin) but generally extended release. I was on it for a couple weeks but was losing weight and it interacted badly with alcohol so i stopped it. I tried dexamphetamine and although it gave me super sharp focus it made my tourettes worse. Turns out 1/2 people with tourette sydnrome have ADHD. So now im on Strattera (atomoxetine) which is a non-stim med and the antihypertensive (basically an antipsychotic) catapres (clonidine) to manage both disorders together. And Modafinil as required to boost alertness and productivity.
I‘m 30 and just got diagnosed a couple of weeks ago. It feels like a huge relief to know that everything I wasn't able to manage in the past was caused by this condition. There is nothing wrong with me, I just need a little help and I can enjoy the special and bright side of this. I live in Paraguay, nobody is trained to recognized ADHD signs in school kids so everybody thought I was just an inattentive kid, I‘ve been struggling for so many years and now I feel so much hope about my future!
Got diagnosed at 27. Have yet to be medicated but the relief and clarity I have gained from the diagnosis is incredible. So much of my life makes sense now and I don't feel as lost. Hoping I can also get into CBT with medication and really hone in this super power.
@@prodigy8868 so much better now! Like you was in my own bubble as a child! I actually appreciate my brain now! And I accept my differences and actually like myself! Started bullet journaling three years ago to help organise my days! Calm myself by doing yoga breathing !! Look after yourself!
I’m 40 years old, just got diagnosed in April. Everything you describe in this video describes me to perfection. I’m mostly struggling with the obsession of my diagnosis right now. I’m hoping that the medication will eventually help once I start. Thanks for sharing
I know you made this video about yourself, but you made it about me too. I'm 33 and I'm currently on a waiting list to see a mental health professional to discuss my suspicion that I have ADHD. Discovering videos like yours has really helped me piece together my life and understand myself in the same way that your revelation helped you. You're lucky you never lost a job, by the way. I've been "released" from multiple jobs for attention-related issues and it's shattering to the ego.
I was listening to a podcast from ADDitide mag, and apparently the rise in Oestrogen around puberty for cis girls is when the symptoms of ADHD can really get going. This totally makes sense for me. I was very lucky to have friends in primary school, and my best friend is the person who got me thinking about the possibility of me having ADHD, because she is pretty sure she does too. What are the odds. What a gift to grow up with someone who truly understands how your brain works. For me, it was the sleep deprivation of having a newborn baby that made me realise I am not okay. Post natal OCD, PTSD, anxiety and depression is a lot to go through and the medical system in Australia is broken for mental health.
I had teachers who picked on me for my spacing out, etc. In the 90s. Once did a report on Bethlehem the country when the assignment was on towns in PA.... I was diagnosed around age 23.
I was diagnosed when I was 5 years old with ADHD, my brother was 4 years older than me and got diagnosed with ADD. Knowing this, my mother chose not to have us medicated, and we learned mostly how to cope with all kinds of different mechanisms. More recently though, I've had to explain to my 60+ year old mother that she has been struggling with ADHD her whole life, and very possibly so was her mother.
@@sunnysealz3546 honestly a bit depressed. its hard not to- because what are you supposed to do with this information that late in life? not like you can easily start a new career, make friends etc so its kind of an answer to a lot of questions, but also annoyed that all of her life she never knew things could have been better
@@randygerson I know I'm very late I just saw your reply. I can only imagine how she feels as I wrestle with being diagnosed in my 30s and realizing things could have been completely different
I am 47 and just diagnosed. Your channel has helped me so much in understanding ADHD. I wish I knew I had it a long time ago. But now that I do all of my life’s issues make so much sense! ❤Thank you! Thank you!
I found out 2 months ago at the start of this pandemic...Finally had time to get screened and diagnosed. I am 33 years old and it was extremely eye-opening and explains a lot of pain and suffering I have gone through over the decades... Thanks.
Our 9 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD recently. You describing your childhood is him totally. It helps to hear your story and know what we might expect as he gets older. My hope is for us to continue to educate ourselves so we can help him navigate his struggles.
Great work. I'm 26, been diagnosed couple of months ago and i'm starting to realize many many things, it's like the first time i ever feel i have the chance to really understand myself deeply enough as to relate and make sense of who I am and why I made such terrible decisions, it has led me to a lot of suffering, substance abuse problems, family, social,personal, academic, sentimental troubles- disorders. I'm also the inattentive type and been coping with most of what you are saying, so great to hear something I can identify with as this is something that barely happens , so thank you
Your story is so much like my experience throughout my life. After a 3rd career change as a special education teacher, I saw many similarities between me and the students I supported when I was their age, which prompted me to get diagnosed. I was diagnosed with ADHD - Innattentive disorder and it all finally made sense. Thank you for sharing.
Diagnosed in my teens, but nothing was done about it until my last year in college. I'm 30 now. Definitely explains a lot and I'm glad I had gone through therapy treatment to gain better insight on my diagnosis. Agreed on practicing self-awareness. Now in grad school in hopes of becoming a licensed therapist in the near future. Changed my life
I’ve tried my hardest to tell my mom I believe I have ADD but all she says is “go the church go pray” “stop saying that you don’t have it” it’s really hard for me to wake up day to day and do what I need to do. I have no one to talk to.
@@finity9316That's so terribly disrespectful of his/her mother, I hope he/she ignored you. The fifth commandment is "Honor your father and mother," not "treat them as if they're incompetent beings you can walk all over."
I've been wondering my whole life why everyone seems to be able to do anything at all without an herculean effort or some trick to fool their brain. Turns out they don't have to most of the time, cause their starter engine is working. I always felt fundamentally inadequate, cause I knew what I had to do, just couldn't bruteforce it with willpower all the time. Everything in this video is familiar to me and it feels wonderful that I'm not alone anymore.
You just described me. I feel like I'm in a coma most of my day. But finally, once it gets in gear, I have about a 3-4 hour window that I can get something accomplished. But it takes an act of God to do it. Then it's time to stop and make dinner, or I'm having dinner at nine o'clock at night. I just wish that engine would start earlier.🙄
I had the blessing of having a mother that spotted these symptoms in me when I was in middle school. I had no idea what all the implications were I just knew I had something up with me. I was always shy, never loud, respectful, never got into trouble. That's why everyone overlooked me. It's when I would sit in class for half an hour and be mentally woken up by the bell realizing I had just spaced through an entire lesson and had no idea what the homework or project was. That's was tipped my mother off. Got tested. ADD it was. I am now in college and it's shown itself in all facets of my adult life. Cant manage time, money, relationship, addictions, nothing clicks naturally. I have to force myself to do every single action every day otherwise It simply won't get done. It just gets added to the pile ... But there is hope, this video gave it to me. Thank you man, God bless and stay strong
My struggle with ADD is almost identical to this. Everything you've said I can relate to. I'm 26 and have recently realised I have ADD and am beginning the process of getting diagnosed. Subscribed. 👍🏻
This is probably because you were a child previous to 2013. Until then, by the DMS-4 the signs of ADD needed to be noticed before the age of 7, otherwise, it couldn't be a case of ADD. Since 2013 (DSM-5) the signs must appear between 5 - 17 yrs old
You described very succinctly how I feel with ADHD. I'm so glad to know that I'm not alone. I was diagnosed more than a decade later than you in life, but it gave me the permission to have compassion for how much I've struggled and not feel like it's a personal failing. I always asked myself why everything was so hard and why I felt like a child, and now I know why.
I’m 49 and seeking diagnosis. What you say about feeling incompetent is exactly how I’ve felt most of my life. I had supportive but bewildered teachers. I was obviously intelligent but my chaos and incomplete written work held me back. When I was 14 one teacher thought I was dyslexic. I was tested and diagnosed - the first dyslexic in my school! That same teacher wrote in one of my reports years late during A-level “we’ve obviously not got to the bottom of her difficulties”. Another teacher wrote “she has excellent ideas she just needs to find a way to get them down on paper” - that teacher also told me if I only I could do verbal exams and a verbal degree as then I could do Oxbridge but as it was she wasn’t sure if Id be able to manage university - she was frustrated for me that I couldn’t excell in the system despite (in her opinion) being more intelligent than pupils who got better grades than me. My time blindness, my fear and avoidance of writing, my general disorder has got me in trouble with every employer I’ve ever had.
As a kid my teacher was drawing on the board and all I could think was: “oh ok mandarin grammar, looks like a leaf, no a space ship, imagine if there were space fish, i had many fish in my old home, in my old home my old school had green walls, and my teacher drew on the green board with a chalk” and I couldn’t let go of the chalk thing and told my teacher about it and she went :”you did not pay attention. You’re disrespectful to me and your classmates” she made me apologize in front of the class and called me my mom. I didn’t talk to anyone for almost 3 years and had no friends because I was scared of talking to anyone after that. I was scared that whatever I said was actually bad like the chalk thing and I would be wrong. I could hardly socialize with anyone without feeling anxious and on the verge of tears. This is ONE of the HUNDREDS of examples of my ADD moments in my life and after diagnosis, this stuff clicked. Everything clicked and I understood how to learn, and socialize, and care, and love, in a way that was appropriate to my ADD brain.
This broke my heart so so much.. I have had a lot of similar experiences to that as well. I am afraid to speak to my therapist about it because I am afraid of being invalidated. I am generally shy and reserved so I don’t act like the stereotype that most people think you have to fit in order to be adhd. But I relate so much to nearly all of the symptoms, and it’s affected my life so much and I just want to get help :(. I am just so sorry that you or anyone else had to go through what you described. People are strange and I wish more people had better understandings of certain things, and had a bigger heart, too.
This made me tear up. I related to every single one of his experiences growing up till today. I'm 24 and while I don't have an official diagnosis yet, channels like ADHD Mastery, rachel anita, How to ADHD really helped me realise and accept the fact that I have ADHD. Recently I was beginning to think that I made all the symptoms up and was really just lazy, but then this video popped up on my feed and I am so grateful it did...
Im 22 and same here...no official diagnosis but I'm 99% sure that i have adhd....i came across this term a long time ago but due to the steyotypes i thought maybe not...but now I'm so sure...i hope we get better soon😊👍
@@nj_9053 I know the stereotypes are *so* damaging. I am worried that even if I get an official diagnosis I can't tell many people about it because of the bias people might have against me because of those stupid stereotypes.
It was like listening to someone describe my childhood. Regarding when I was diagnosed, I was diagnosed in my 40's after getting married. I got tired of my wife always being mad at me. I thought i was normal, but as I studied more and read blogs on marriages with an ADHD spouse - the stress it created for the non ADD spouse. I came to realize I needed to manage my ADD.
I got diagnosed October 2021 at the age of 57 !! I've been asking about my lack of focus for 30+ years. I finally found a therapist that looked deeper and made the diagnosis.
Thank you so much for this. In all honesty I feel left out from most adhd conversations due to the fact that I just don't relate as much to the hyperactivity part and hearing someone with the inattentive type makes me realize the differences of it so I don't have to feel completely different
I have never related to another human being more. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 21 so I was left for years wondering why I felt different mentally from other people. I had a hard time making friends because of it as I felt like I didn’t relate or connect to people very easily, and I still do. Now that I’ve been diagnosed it all makes sense. I still have a lot to learn about my adhd and I’m still trying to figure things out, but I love your channel because you have a way of putting into words exactly what it is I’m experiencing, which actually helped me to articulate my experience when I got tested and as I continue therapy. On behalf of everyone watching, thank you 🙌 you have no idea how much it helps to hear someone is struggling the same way you are and that you’re not alone
My struggles with who I am amidst the doubts I can be are the normal thoughts of how the creation of self begins. That alone with nothing creates a world from your ability to live within a world you can’t in a world you can within your understanding. You don’t relate,because you revised what you couldn’t with what you could,instead of adapting to a world that didn’t recognize you. It’s not an ADHD story or a mental illness hold you back,it’s the masterfulness on you finding a way to remain believing in yourself in comparison to anything thing else that doesn’t. I can bring you three or four life changing inspirational moments within moments of each other and walk away in another with what they made me think possible now. I don’t prove what is,I live in the understanding as it grows in what I can. Any explanation after the fact is an excuse for what you now knowing ,didn’t at the time. Which couldn’t of brought to your understanding of yourself now from then. One can when removed from the doubt that disables you.
I was diagnosed around 5th grade (2003-04) and was first prescribed Strattera for a few years, then Adderall until about a decade ago. Didn't realize until recently how big of a mistake it was to stop taking something. The inattentiveness I can manage and the general eccentricities I'm in no hurry to "mend", but the goddamn procrastinating crippled me all throughout my 20s. Dropped out of college after one year because fuck it and spent the remainder of the decade watching my friends and family surpass me in every way that matters. Finally gave a name to my pain, executive dysfunction, which as it turns out is a symptom of that old affliction I had all but forgotten about. I just started back up on Strattera a few days ago, forgoing a stimulant due to chronic insomnia, and while it generally takes a few weeks to reach maximum effectiveness, I can already feel my motivation returning bit by bit. I feel like this is where I can finally start my damn life already and make up for lost time. My 20s were a complete waste. I just turned 30 and this will be where I start living again.
I have a very strong feeling that I might be undiagnosed ADHD, and have been misdiagnosed as and treated as, having depression and anxiety, including PTSD. You mentioned so many traits and characteristics I had as a child at primary school. My reported always said ‘Tends to daydream often’ or ‘Coasts along while working’. I was quiet and shy. I often completely lost track of things and time and would be chastised for it. Or for not paying attention to what I was told. I felt such bouts of frustration and annoyance if people didn’t understand me, while I was trying to explain myself. I also have always had issues with noise. Large gatherings, having to speak publicly. *New Subscriber!
I didn't realize until my late 40s that I might have ADHD, when my son was diagnosed with a mild case of it. After I heard what the symptoms were, I knew right away it was likely. I have yet to be diagnosed - I'll work on that soon, but I'm pretty positive I'm of the inattentive variety. For years I've endured a lot of disappointments and failures, and figured it was just who I was as a person, and I had to soldier on. I'm happy to finally find out that there are things I might be able to do to improve my distractibility and other issues.
33 and finally diagnosed! I feel like everything makes sense now, I have been yelled at my whole life for the same issues you raised, it has caused me to get fired, failed relationships and get into debt. it's nice to know there are other people with the same struggles!
You just described my life. I'm 22 and recently diagnosed with adhd inattentive type. Same symptoms as a teenager and an adult as yours. Medication and self-awareness though is helping me lot.
For so many years I thought I was crazy, I hated that I just couldnt function. I wanted to be a part of everyone else. I just found out a few days ago that I have ADHD, I'm so happy. I am actually not insane, I am perfectly normal. I can finally get help, I can finally be me for once... I've been so close to ending it... I am just so happy! Thanks for sharing your story man.
I am not currently diagnosed but I totally feel the same way as you. Whole life feeling lazy/stupid etc. One day I had a mental breakdown, and through googling I found that contrary to my prior belief, ADHD seems to completely fit the bill for me. I started reading a book about it, and within half an hour of starting the book I started crying tears of joy because it finally felt like there could be a reason for why I've felt this way my whole life and that there are other people who feel just like me. Did you experience any self conflict in seeking evaluation? In my case, I can have 6 horrible, wasted days, but as soon as I have ONE good day, that turns into my reason to say "Oh, no, I'm completely fine if I can be productive like this!" I guess the major fear keeping me from seeking out my doctor is that I'm worried that there IS nothing "wrong" with me and that I AM just a lazy idiot. Am really curious if some other people have felt the same way.
@@JeremyCoolDude Yes, when you get that one good day or week and everything is fine is very familiar to me. In my teens, everytime I went to see a professional I somehow was in that "I'm actually ok" moment every appointment. I assume it was my shame of not being "normal" that pressured me into forming this mask of protection. And the constant, maybe I am faking it for attention thoughts that wont stop floating around in my head. Second guessing everything.... endless cycle. It is very hard for some to seek help, I was very lucky and had a close friend that really pressured me to get help. My pride in that I was "normal" and that I dont need no help was the main problem. Sometimes we need help and that's okay. I just need to get used to it. Just try and be honest to yourself first and foremost, if you really feel like this is valid you should get it checked. Mental health is number one. The absolute hardest part for me was seeking the help and getting there, but it will be okay.
@@lolipoplol100 Thanks so much for the reply, I appreciate it! It's good to know that I'm not alone in feeling that way. I just checked my old report cards and sure enough, all of my problems date back to kindergarten through high school and everything. I'll be keeping you in mind and wishing you luck in dealing with this in your future endeavours :)
I keep watching a lot of videos lately on ADHD and I’m more and more convinced I do suffer with it. But I am scared of paying for a private test for it to come back negative. I’ve always struggled with my attention span from a young age. I could never study or revise in school, I’d zone out in class, stare out of the window and I never had any friends. I remember saying to my mum when I was a teenager that I think there’s ‘something wrong’ with me and I thought I may be autistic. Then I’ve kind of just got on with life but the older I’ve got and the more I’m trying to hold my job down and a stable relationship I’m just finding myself really struggling in my adult life. I watched a video by somebody else yesterday that was saying school is a struggle, then you’ll typically fly through a-levels easily and then crash in university. Which sums me right up. I crashed terribly in my final year of university. I blamed a failed relationship and the passing of my grandad but in reality I think it could have been that plus ADHD..😩
Damn, this video summarizes my experience. I feel like I'm not going to find myself. I was diagonosed with severe depression and GAD years ago and have been able to manage them just okay but I always struggle with the experience that we share that you talked about in this video.
I have never seen a video of yours until now. I’m 24 and I’ve struggled with adhd my whole life and was diagnosed when I was young. I have an aversion to drugs to fix my problem. I am very encouraged to see someone who is farther in life than me speaking on the difficulties you have learned to overcome and that people like us can mature to the same level as others.
I was diagnosed with ADHD last week. I'm 67 years old. 900 jobs and a string of failed relationships, no wife, no children. But I'm not depressed, going to make the best of the time I have left. Life is a journey.
What are you up to now, what does life look like for you post-diagnosis?
Therapy does help and learning about ADHD, which is not who you are but what you have,,, have you ever questioned yourself why in your life time you have had so many jobs and a string of failed relationships, check in, check it out, Sounds like ADHD has run your life, a typical ADHD expression of life is a journey, yours is a journey with ADHD, all the best in your endeavours 🙂
I'm 31 and about to graduate with my masters degree. I got my diagnosis last month. Its been a serious struggle, but I'm getting there.
I just want you to know that I’m very proud of you
I’m so proud of you! :)
"Im a little boy inside." This is exactly how i feel all the time. A little girl who has to put up with the life of grown woman.
This!! Add autism to the mix for me as well. I'm now 42 and still have a hard time with adulting on occasion, but learning about ways to cope with attention deficit and executive dysfunction has made a huge difference.. so has doing meditation, doing breathwork, and learning tips and tricks to mentally work myself up to doing things I would normally not want to do or thing I would normally put off.. it takes time, but if you work at it things DO get better.
You have to break yourself out of the cycles until doing the opposite of what you'd normally do just becomes habit.
Sorry for the info dump lol
Yes! Exactly. And add motherhood. Scary.
@@SeraSophia646 what have been the most helpful tips for improving executive function? I’m really struggling rn
So relatable! I am a school teacher but I feel like my students are my age sometimes 😅
I’m nearly 30 and I’ve never felt like an adult.
I resonate with this, SO MUCH. I was the quiet, shy, daydreamer in school. I was also very smart, so it masked my problems even more. Good grades early on, then progressively worse as things got harder. Spiraled out of control in adulthood - binge drinking, impulse spending, poor money management in general, losing jobs because of being late. I self-diagnosed my ADHD at 37. Talked to my psychiatrist, who had been treating me for anxiety and depression since I was 21, mind you. He agreed that ADHD was likely, and started me on adderall. It was night and day... just amazing. First dose I took, I still remember the feeling of only having one thought at a time, instead of the jumbled mess of thoughts that were usually running through my mind at a million miles an hour. It's sad how many of us get misdiagnosed, or just written off as a "mess", or undisciplined, or lazy.
Wow I can relate, getting my insurance in order to go see a doctor, my life is a mess, I'm no where, where I should be in this stage of my life, 44 at an end dead Job divorce, and living with relatives, with so many great projects and Ideas that only live in my head, because I can't get my self started or just been consistan and focus to get shit done.
Much love man, I hope everything goes well in your life.
hey, thanks for sharing your message! I want to ask you how much medication has helped you and if you are still taking it. I have an appointment with the doctors on Monday about getting diagnosed which im 100% i am but i am a bit scared taking medication thats why im asking thanks again
I’m 16 and I feel like I have ADHD
If it’s true then…
All those years…
😅
😅
"what's the homework and when's it due?"
"she literally just said, ugh pay attention"
^my entire life
Me every day
Absolutely hated homework. Exams were fine. But not homework.
That's was me when instructions were explained to me and don't even get me started about remembering people's names. 😂
Lol i always copied off someone else after class to get the assignment if it wasn't up on the whiteboard. I just didn't bother asking, too embarrassing.
Every. Single. Time.
You had me at “feeling fundamentally incompetent” -story of my life
Same man
Move to Netherlands n adopt dutch culture its adhd and aspie heaven
Exactly the same here.
This.
@@adrianaadnan7704 how?
I remember few years back after my husband died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 8 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
Does anyone else when they’re watching UA-cam on their phone close out of the app and go onto different apps in the middle of the video and then come back to it 20 minutes later watch 2 more minutes of the video and do the same thing
I just did this rn
does anyone read the comments while watching the video???
Yes! Sucks when my phone decides to refresh everything so I lose the video 😞
All the time.
I did that here
They really need to re-evaluate the school systems so that kids with different learning abilities don’t feel bad about themselves like this. It’s sad to think so many kids experience the same instances.
Cud’nt agree with u more
It is, all my friends, and I mean all, tell me that they miss school and I am here like naaaaah I hated it, hate it now and I dont miss it, I have had the same problems, and no one ever wanted to be my friend, so I agree with you
How can the school system remain the same over a hundred years ,yet the world and technology changed completely 🤔
tianna kook if it’s any consolidation, I am studying primary school teaching in Australia. We are trained and taught to teach students of all diverse capabilities, to now make lessons open-ended and life-relatable, and most importantly hands-on so students can create their own meanings/understandings of things. I think things are slowly changing.
Larissa Dana Hey from I’m South Africa,do they encourage medication for the littlies as well?(think parents feel pressured into it by the system)
68 years old. Watched a documentary called The Disruptors. Daughter made me watch it. I cried through it realizing it was about me. No-one ever told me I was ADHD, but it all made sense now. Very upsetting going through my first 67 years thinking I was simply not part of the "regular" people. Thought it was depression, or simply had mental problems to live with. Was always alone. No friends ever. Have been on Adderall now for a week. That with the knowledge of what the problem is has completely changed my life. Just a shame that in the 50's and 60's they simply gave me Lithium and stuck me in the corner to be quiet. Feel like I wasted my whole life. But......wife of 35 years, 2 daughters, granddaughter all good now. The first day I was prescribed Adderall, I felt like a completely different person. Miraculous.
Same here! Late to the party, but I'm so glad I finally found a doctor who 'got it'. I now have a window of 2 or 3 hours that actually allow some focus. I still make prioritized lists of projects, but have a tough time sticking to them.
I'm 49. Late to the game, as well. Going through the "change" has turned my coping skills upside down. Doc seemed dismissive. So, I've been researching on my own. I think it's time to make another Dr. appointment.
My heart goes out to you. I hope to get a diagnosis soon myself . I'm 53 years old.
what was your profession?
And how is it after a year?
Dude, you helped me more than 5 therapists in the past 10 years. You’re life has a purpose
Thanks so much! Peace.
*your*
i feel you so much, i was misdiagnosed over and over again for almost a decade too
@@quicktoreason2722 a psychiatrist is not always the best option, however ensuring that you're consulting a competent, well trained in ADHD and good-fit-for-you therapist is essential.
If any of those things is out, therapy won't go anywhere.
@@ADHDMastery i can totally relate to you too
When a seemingly mundane, simple assignment seems like a Mt. Everest of a task. A pain I know all too well.
Some people love reading books. Me, I find the idea of climbing Mt Everest more doable than reading 30 pages.
Im pretty sure i have adhd, but i love reading books.
@@Camila-qm1vu Not everyone with a disorder will have the same symptoms. Maybe the books you read are on topics/in genres that really interest you, making it easier to focus? Dunno just guessing here.
All us ADHD people know that.
Bro high school was hell, college is being hell. I find it very hard to do what I am supposed to do.
I found out last year, aged 36. It explains 99 % of every single thing that has ever been a challenge to me. Understanding other people, why I can be both so sensitive or emotionally stunted, how I handled relationships, how I never ever could find motivation for the things that are not interesting to me, how my brain just cramps up if I have to focus on something boring for more than 3 minutes and 30 seconds, how I can sit for 14 hours straight on a project I find captivating while forgetting to eat and sleep and everything else...
I recommend trying methylphenidate if you haven't. Works amazing for me. I experienced actual nothingness and calm, effortlessly, for the first time in my life. And no, I didn't cry, shut up!
How long have you been using methylphenidate? I am apprehensive about using drugs or being dependent on them.
@Troels Berg That is sounds really good. I have a question. Do you find that the medication helps you do those things that you want to do but procrastinate at? Also what should be expected for emotions after discovering medication works? I have been diagnosed a few days ago and have felt like a wreck trying to absorb it all, but have not yet met with a doctor for medication.
It’s ok to cry
I love to read the comments. Sometimes "our" stories make me cry.
Nothing wrong with crying. Yes, even as a guy - toxic masculinity destroys mental health. More guys need to know it's a perfectly normal human reaction to cry sometimes. Good that you got diagnosed, meds and some help with life 👍🏻
I literally just zoned out halfway through the video
Yep that's to be expected, although hopefully not because you found it boring! This is why nowadays I always try keep my videos under 10 minutes. 5 to ten minutes.
@@ADHDMastery I didn't find the video boring, I actually found it to be very helpful, because I'm currently trying to learn about ADHD to see if I have it, because I have a lot of the symptoms
I had to rewind a couple times 😔
@@whyaretherehandlesnow if you're trying to find out if you have it, make a Dr appointment. Even if you don't have it, the Doc is going to try to help you sort out what ever it is. Just take the step. There is no way getting answers isn't going to make you feel better. I promise.
@@aamantium1 Don't worry I've already done that, and the doctors say it's most likely ADHD, and considering a few of my family members have it or are suspected of having it I'm not really surprised, but thank u for trying to help, I really appreciate it 🙏❤️
I was always told as a kid that people with adhd were hyper and loud thats why im confused about it.
isabelle lee it’s stereotypes that people give things, yeah it ruined something like adhd lol
Huge misconception.
The cause a lot of kids didn't get diagnosed and slip through the cracks.
@bennet alex not all kids and even teenagers present with this hyperactive symptom or it comes out in different ways one reason a lot of kids slipped through the cracks with being diagnosed with because of that lack of understanding and it's only in the last 10 to 15 years this has improved and most kids get diagnosed now.
People who get diagnosed in their 20s 30s and 40s really pay a high price for late diagnosing most struggle to keep jobs, they get fired for standing up for themselves because they have no or little emotional control, they fail in school not because they are dumb but because they cannot focus their mind properly to learn.
The amount of people I know who have been diagnosed later on in life and before were diagnosed as having depression or bi polar 2 or when young were expelled from school because they were told they were just bad kids. It's disgusting and I know because I was a child who was treated in this way and had to do things the hard way because these people didn't realise you don't need to be throwing chairs at teachers to have adhd. I am so glad kids today don't have this issue standing in their way. This guy is lucky he never lost a job or was suspended or expelled from school. Most adhd kids are not so lucky.
I was told by my kids psychiatrist that there were two types. One she described as the space cadet, the other as the super ball. I am/was the space cadet, as is one of my sons, the other was the super ball. I was only diagnosed through my son getting seen.
That's why girls rarely get diagnosed.
I actually was a hyper kid, but still unlike the stereotype, so I only got the diagnosis now in my 20's after having first seen some incompetent people, of course.
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 13, and I’ve been taking medication for it since then. I’m now in my late-20’s, and hearing stories like this really makes me think about how much differently my life could have played out, had I not gotten the help I needed at such a young age. I feel very grateful that I didn’t have to experience a lot of these same struggles when first starting my adult life.
You are really lucky... i dont even want to think how much more succesful (education wise) i would have been had i been diagnosed as a kid :/
@@halibutrzeczny72 frrr
What exactly does the medication do ? Do you feel different while taking it ?
@@scottyskittles3349 Yes bro, it's like your mind opens up. The medication though has to be right
I envy you, I was diagnosed at 12 but my mother didnt want to give me medications because she feared the side effects. It bothered me that despite knowing my condition she expected more than I could give. I convince her to get me medicated at 17, unfortunely the Lockdowns strike and I spent two years at home taking classes of collage there and still havent developed the skills I should have develop in my teens.
I started crying watching this because this is me and I never knew what was wrong with me, but maybe it's this.
Edit: For anyone seeing this... It's 2 years later. Little update on my life. I got an ADHD diagnosis today. I thought of this comment. It's been a long and hard journey. When this all started, I was obsessed with getting a diagnosis. I was so sure it would fix everything. A huge part of the work I've been doing since then is realizing why I need diagnosis so much back when I wrote this comment. Truthfully, I needed something to be "wrong" with me, something to blame all my dysfunction on that wasn't about me as a person. I was holding so much guilt and pain. While I do most likely have ADHD (according to my doctor, even after a test battery, it's difficult to tell for sure), the primary cause of my distress this entire time was depression and anxiety due to trauma. All of it compounding together. In fact, when my doctor talked to me about the trauma in my life, it was so much more relieving that even hearing she thought I had ADHD... imagine my surprise. I don't feel much different now with the diagnosis. I guess I have the last 2 years of processing, my therapist, and my doctor to thank for that. I'm happy I have it now at age 24 than later. I wish I got it before I struggled through school my entire life. But there's no time like the present to start healing. I'm happy to have a little more clarity today than I had yesterday, it has made my days immensely easier. Best of luck friends. I hope you all find what brings you peace
Turkey McDuckin literally same !
That's how it was for me. When you know, you know. Everything just clicks. Your whole life starts to make sense.
maybe its this, maybe its that ...perhaps its the other. Best let a professional decide. Someone who went to University for 6 years, with many years experience in the working field of psychiatry. 👍
If you haven't already, go to a Dr and explain why you feel like you've come to this realization. If you're anything like me, you've already procrastinated it and decided not to deal with it. Took me 35 years for someone (me) to make that appt. Just knowing that I'm dealing with the multiple years of frustration is crazy comforting. But, whether you have ADHD or not, YOU HAVE TO TAKE THAT FIRST STEP! Pick up the phone and make that appt.
Same here. my greeting and big hug from Chile. Be stronge and if you want to talk with someone. I'm here 👍
it amazes me how similar everyone with adhd is, not always but most of the time you can relate to the exact same points, feels good to not be alone :)
For me, it feels good to know you’re not alone, but it also feels bad to know others suffer through the same thing. The symptoms of ADHD are things you wouldn’t wish upon anyone, even your worst enemy. For me, my pre-kindergarten teacher noticed something beginning as early as age 4. In 2010, my family took me to the Marcus Center in Atlanta, Georgia. For all my life, I’d always get scolded for the things that were beyond my control. I was told by my own special Ed teacher that I’d “be in the 5th grade until I was 21” and got constantly scolded for my inattentiveness. I always knew something was clearly different with me, but I couldn’t put it into words. And I’d always zine out as a child, too. Now, I feel so much better knowing that the thing I couldn’t explain actually exists, and it is researched by medical science. And yes, the American School System is uneducated about ADHD and other conditions. They need to go through proper, advanced training.
@@dafukisdat9200 🤔 oooh i dunno, i miight wish at least some of this on my worst enemy. at least fot a while so they become more understanding and stop bring my worst enemy right? but i zone out n go thinking about random interesting topics in my head all the time and it is HORrible. takes me forever to do the responsible things in life like tidying a room, typing bills for work, sometimes even getting out of my car to go inside at the end of the day cause i got sidetracked looking something up on my phone.
@@bagofchips8813 Well, it’s incredibly difficult when your own parents don’t believe you, and they claim you’re lazy, don’t care, and manipulative. My sister always says it’s manipulative behavior, and when I do my hyperactivity, she always says “You don’t have Tourette’s.” Like seriously, who the fuck does she think she is to tell me what is the problem with me, when one: she’s never seen it, and two: she doesn’t have to deal with it. I swear, people are just unwilling to be accepting or educate themselves on ADHD. It’s irritating as all hell, and you get so pissed at yourself because you try your hardest to control it, but they still pass it off as if it’s nothing. Also, I got yelled at by teachers all my life, and almost always got notes home from school. I’m telling you, this shit is HARD. But it hurts even more when nobody else understands you.
@@dafukisdat9200 You said it, man. It´s incredibly scarring and discouraging to be called any of those things. I´ve been told by countless teachers that I am never gonna get anywhere in life, that I am lazy and unwilling to learn. My teachers had bullied me for the entirety of primary and secondary school. I used to be horrified of teachers to the point, that I would throw wild tantrums so that I wouldn´t have to go to school. My family would always scream at me, get instantly frustrated by me, which I get, but it was also not my fault. I recently got diagnosed and my family still tells me all kinds of insulting and scarring shit. They generally don´t consider ADHD as a real issue. It´s incredible how ignorant and careless can the people closest to you be. ADHD and ADD community has helped me immensely, I joined all kinds of groups and I finally feel less alone. Recommend the same to everyone who's struggling.
@@tizfizzrizz My parents also believe I’m faking it, and they also say that they don’t like to be told how to parent. But you see, my father had to provide for his family since an early age, his late teens to be exact, because his biological father left him when he was 17 (1988). So he’d be so strict on me, which all I want is for them to understand. In fact, I thought my father would be the one to understand me. I still want him to, it’s just if there’s anyone I feel closer with, it’s my own father. My mother just screams at me, and tells me to get the fuck out of her house if I think anyone else can do a better job of caring for me. What’s even worse is that my sister is 20, she has her own car, and she can move out. Trying to be a disciplinarian? Ha, that’s too good of a fucking joke. For all I care, she could move out and I could honestly give less of a shit where she moved. She just takes it as I’m the bad kid. Hell, she doesn’t even know half of it. I just want somebody to help me, and I can’t have an official neuropsychologist appointment until this upcoming January. All I want y’all to know, is that I’m sorry all of y’all have to go through these struggles. You don’t deserve to go through this, and I wish you be the best of luck.
I may not have an official diagnosis, but listening to you talk about it, makes me feel at peace knowing that not being normal is relatable. And that's what makes us human.
Thank you for talking out loud about it.
DUDE I FEEL THE LATENESS PROBLEM, I HAVE NO URGENCY WHEN IT COMES TO TIME
Same but plus money
wait u reminded me i have a project and the deadline passed :/ welp
@@simonelastname5182 sorry! feel better!
@@simonelastname5182 same :
I know this comment is a year old, but for anyone with ADHD/ADD, look up "ADHD time blindness." It was a shocking revelation for me.
This sounds exactly like my life including being late and being forgetful.
I was savaged over being late. But looking back now I see I was using it as a deadline to motivate my brain. Did anyone understand this? No and they still don't. A-holes.
@Faisal Yousuf Osman Wow...I am so glad you didn't do that either. The beating to our self-esteem is hard to convey to others. That it can be so bad but we have heard criticisms 10,000 times by the time we are 18. I hope meds have worked for you. Life changer for me.
Being unable to get up in time or do anything on time caused a lot of stress and strain between me and my family and it's something I got chewed over about a lot during school. Like, I know I'm not going to get my dignity or whatever back, but I'm so fucking mad that I won't ever get anything like an apology.
@Faisal Yousuf 036 that's how I been feeling my whole life I keep thinking it's just laziness or I am dumb? which I hate cause I don't feel dumb when it comes to showing it I fail and it frustrates me but the whole suicide I would never.
Did you have anxiety back then? It kinda makes you fear a lot of the consequences
I am 66 years old and have only now come to this realization through my grown daughter's recent self-diagnosis (she just earned her degree as a licensed mental health therapist). Back in the 1960's no one was even thinking about helping this disengaged, underachieving young girl. I feel like someone just explained the story of my life...
I'm glad to see we have improved as society (at least in some aspects).
I also wish I had been diagnosed as a kid.
54, nobody could explain what the hell was wrong with me until I was 54. I weep if I think of all the things I might have been able to do if I'd just known.
Thank you for sharing this.🤔🙂
I was diagnosed December 2020, 52 years old.
We have finally found what I have been searching for all our lives🙂
This may be our Holygrail, and our job is to spread the Word.
Just diagnosed at 58 here. I'm trying not to think about what could have been. I figure, what's the point of letting my mind go down that road...chasing something that doesn't exist! I'm trying to focus on understanding more about ADHD, and healing my brain
What would you have done differently?
I'm 52 and highly suspect it. I'll be getting an official diagnosis soon. While I don't regret my life so far, I think there were times I could have defended myself better against criticisms and approached problems differently had I known what I was struggling against.
55. The unify Ed explanation of everything, all to play for 👍.
Perhaps experiential learning is the way for me 👌.
Is it a symptom if you feel like you find yourself very often “negotiating “ with your body? Like: “Come on dude, you know you have to get this thing done, come one, just do 5 minutes” but your body is like: “nah”, clicks on another youtube video and I can’t do anything to stop it. This applies to me for waking up early, practice my instrument, trying not to eat junk food, doing homework, and the list goes on. It has to be something very urgent so my body accepts to cooperate with me.
Tomorrow I will start my tests for ADHD with a neuropsychologist. If I find out that I have it, it would be a great relief. But if I don’t, then that also will be great because I can work on those weaknesses with some help
Sure, Procrastination anxiety can be debilitating for your motivation.
how did those tests go?
I relate to this a ton. Honestly it's just like an internal argument. Do I take the easy way out or work towards the hard way. The instant gratification monkey in my head picks the former and wins every time.
If it isn't urgent, I can't do it.
God knows how I made it thru uni.
I'll be looking to get diagnosed soon.
No lie…this is literally me at this exact moment
How did it go? If you were diagnosed with ADHD, congrats and I hope you’re getting the help you need now. If you weren’t, also congrats, and what steps are you taking/what support are you getting now to help you work on those weaknesses? Because I’m in the exact same boat.
I'm 74 now, and was diagnosed only about 3 years ago. It was an epiphany. It explains SO much of my life. I also had a tough time in school - my report cards often reflected my lack of focus in classes. I flunked out of college - even though I would read the assignments, I tested badly because I remembered so little of what I read. In later years, I have probably heard the phrase, "Yeah - remember? I told you..." more than any other, except maybe, "You should keep a notebook." Right. But where did I put it? And on and on.
I’m 70 and have been rejected from being tested but I’m like you. I’m going to try again.
i only own 2 of each cup, fork dishes ect... so i CANT not wash them or i starve lol
I've had to do the very same thing.
Me too
I HAVE LITERALLY HAD TO DO THIS HAHA oh man
I always thought I was just forever lazy and unmotivated but its procrastinating. And having an overactive mind creates immediate exhaustion. I am too tired to do things most times
I use paper utensils and plates
Diagnosed at ADD at 32. Only last week. Damn , so much of my life has just been me being upset at myself. Dreamed hard, Failed harder.
I feel you 😔
You got your whole life ahead of you. Adjust! 🙏👍
You're lucky that you have been diagnosed at an age where you're young and mature at the same time. I only found out last year..not even properly diagnosed yet. I was diagnosed for dyslexia before and thought that was bad...
Yep. Same. Was talking to my dad who told me I don’t work as hard as I could- luckily I had been through therapy already (so I didn’t take that personally) and also got diagnosed with adhd in 2019 and I’m almost 40 now. Another way to look at my failures in earning potential is by comparing my salary to his at the same age with an inflation calculator!! Boomers don’t seem to understand inflation! Lol! My dad taught me that hard work pays off and it did for him- so I believed that until I looked at the math and saw that I was not doing well mentally or physically, and didn’t have a savings account or a single asset to show for it. If a person is broke but has a house with a mortgage they got before the bubble- they are doing better than renters who now pay over half their monthly wage in rent and utilities even if they have roommates.
I do blame adhd for my failures to fit in with coworkers and to connect with bosses- thereby no matter how hard I worked, I was never going to get promoted.
I'm 33 and I really felt this comment.
“Failing at adulthood” and I never knew why, since I had so much potential, since I’m often described by friends as the smartest person they know. At 48, still spontaneously climbing something or instantaneously flying off the handle for 60 seconds, have yet to get something done without seconds to spare, or being on time for once in my life, I only recently realized I have severe ADHD, both types. I’ve made numerous doctors appointments, only to forget about them or I’m so late I missed them completely.
I’ll contact them again…tomorrow. 😉
Ooh, I relate to that last point. It took 5 reschedules for an optometrist appointment, and for the last one, a case worker at the homeless refuge I was staying at had to come with me to make sure I got there on time. (1 in 4 people with ADHD end up homeless at some point, usually those in that ~25% are undiagnosed). That same case worker also said "your executive dysfunction could just be caused by your depression," and "I have a son that's autistic and has ADHD. You don't act like him, bouncing off the walls and all that,". I told him "the bouncing is happening in my head,".
Imagine being a child with ADHD back in the 1960s, when no one had a clue about it. Yeah, that was me.
I was a child in the 1970s and no one knew because ... female.
Rip to da both of ya
@@COKTilYouDrop I just found out because I thought it was about a child who can't sit still and has a lot of energy not this. it explains so much..
As a female child in the 90s I went un-diagnosed.
You were just the weird hyper kid
"accidentally in trouble" This defines my entire school life. I was diagnosed at 20 after my 3rd attempt to study at Uni. I had the same penny drop moment like it all made sense, everything from my childhood is so similar to what you explain. I think the best part of the diagnosis was learning that I wasnt just "dumb". I remember the tipping point was when I left a lecture and got in the car and started bawling my eyes out because for the life of me I couldnt remember what the lecture had just covered, and I knew I had so much work to do but it just felt impossible to retain information/hold focus on anything important. I experience hyperfocus like once ever 3 months for school work which usually doesnt happen until 2 weeks or so after the assignment is due lmao. itd be a good 6 weeks of doing nothing productive and then BAM all in one night ive decided im going to learn and submit an entire semesters worth of work.
My former boss just loved these moments. There was no rush and I was only doing reactive network management work which was totally fine. And then, boom, I go into 2 week long "inspiration mode" and code a whole new project or feature from scratch.
Well if you havent just described me omg
ADHD was the bane of my college years. Late assignments, incomplete assignments, no urgency to study, almost non-existent memory retention/retrieval, easily flustered by assignments etc. Miraculously I managed to stave off academic probation and came out of that shit show with a B average. If I do go back to university it'll be under the auspices of adhd medication. You only get one GPA, once you fuck it up academic opportunities as well as future job prospects dwindle. Good luck.
I quit University like 4 times now.. finally thinking about distance education.. I’m just like all of you here.. for the life of me I could not finish assignments and can’t recall a god damn thing in or after lectures.. I ending up wasting 1000s of dollars to be honest and got nowhere. Today the lack of a degree means it’s like a big red light that says incompetence in some parts of the world .. I’m about three times smarter than everyone in my field and earn wages of a junior ... with medication and right therapy I hope I’ll be able to complete my degree ... I think I quit University mostly cos it reminded me of the screwed up school life I had
It took me 9 years and 3 different majors to finally be able to finish college. Fuck ADHD
Yup, my experience is very similar to yours, and to that of many of the commenters. I was diagnosed last year at the age of 45. I've always struggled in life, but I managed to get a master's degree in engineering. My problem is that I'm just clever/cunning enough to hide my ADHD. Nobody believes me when I say I have literally never read a textbook, but it's true. I only ever revised at 2 in the morning the night before my exams and I often figured things out during exams. Luckily I scraped through by the skin of my teeth. Currently I am struggling trying to understand and explain 'executive dysfunction.' There are things that I want to do AND can do AND must do, so there's absolutely no reason for me not to do them. I completely, logically understand how to do them and that they need to be done and that they are fun to do and that they will bring rewards if I do them. And yet, inexplicably, I just...don't. My wife cannot possibly understand why. It's not laziness, it's just a complete disconnect between thinking and doing. It's the bloody bane of my life.
After discovering ADHD on reddit and youtube, hearing so many other people's experience like this, seeing doctors explain symptoms that I have struggled with, that feeling of it all finally making sense had me in tears. That's me, that's me, yup, that's totally me...Over and over again.
You sound like my (undiagnosed) partner of 23 years. When we first met (he’s 50) he had just started grad school. He earned a dual degree (MBA/MPH) and graduated with honors from Berkeley, yet I swear he never cracked a textbook the entire time. He’s brilliant. But he’s also not been able to hold a job for more than two years, among, of course, many other problems,.
Thanks for sharing your experience!
Disconnect between doing and thinking summarizes it so well. I'm very good at thinking but doing things is a completely different matter. I feel almost physical pain when I have to do something that is not interesting, tedious.
I have just turned 60 and discovered 2 days ago. I have had ADHD all my life, wow, looking back everything makes sense now. I was watching a video of Gabor Mate talking about his discovery in his later years, and how much it changed and improved his life. So many things he said about his condition rang a bell with me, and then I looked further into it, and boom it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am not severely affected by it, but enough to make life constantly challenging and unable to achieve my life goals.
On the other hand, I probably am severely affected by it, but i just cope, as this has been "normal" for me all my life.
thanks for sharing man .
@@kobalt77 Love Gabor Maté. I've learned so much from him.
Mate Gabor has so many helpful videos and books I almost read all of them.
Me too. I’ll have to check out Gabor Mate
'feeling of being fundamentally incompetent' - EXACTLY how I felt for the longest time. That was never really addressed until I was diagnosed and medicated that everything made sense.
2 weeks before my 33rd birthday. I was always a good student but very messy, forgetful, disorganized, and the ultimate procrastinator. Eventually started taking a toll on my life and I got tested (largely due to information available on UA-cam and TikTok!)
Truly a “eureka moment” where everything made sense 🙌🏼
I relate to this so much!! That insecure, incompetent, and now a 32 year old women feeling left out of "adult" conversations. It sucked ... I just went yesterday and finally got diagnosed although I've known for years I felt so relieved for it to come out of the doctors mouth. I'm excited to see my life improve.
This!!! Im 31 and I feel like other adults doesn't see me as an adult. That's why if there's kids around for any family gathering, I kinda just sweep away after dinner to "go check on the kids and see if they need anything, brb". But I'm never gonna brb, cause I would much rather join the princess tea party that's going on in the living room. I always get the "Aww you're so sweet to look after the kids, you're so good with them! Please just let us know if they're bothering you sweetie!."
In reality it's the adults thats bothering me with their weird questions and vibe.
@@notsarahatall3164 same here, 32 and got diagnosed several weeks ago after months of therapy. My lifes history makes sense finally. What a relief.
Would you mind telling me the name of the professional you saw?
Hello I was just wondering after a diagnosis how do they treat it as an adult?
@@rayanstoyboxreviews2022 it's not the same for everyone, but for me personally and for the 4 other people in my inner circle who also got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (all between the ages 25-34), it's been pretty much the same:
- Right after the diagnosis, they test your blood pressure, take a blood sample and check that your heart is as it should be. This is to make sure you don't have any blood pressure or heart rate issues, as taking ADHD medications while having any issues like this could be very dangerous.
- If everything is as it should be, they ask you if you prefer to stay away from medication and instead want cognitive tools through talks with an therapist, or if you would like to try out if meds could be any help for you.
- Everyone I know, myself included, chose to try out medication.
- Now comes a period where you and your therapist will figure out which type of meds and dosis suits you best.
- (This part may not be the same in every country, so please check your local healthcare website for specifict info). There were 3 types of medication available to me: 1. Methylphenidate 2. Lisdexamfethamin 3. Non-stimulants.
First they tried the non-stimulanting kinds as they are very mild and doesn't have any dangers of addiction attached to it. This didn't work for me at all.
- We then spend almost a year testing out over 16 different medications, combos and dosis. The one that ultimately worked for me was something called Concerta (4x 18mg a day) + 1x 10mg Methylphenidate a day. Concerta is slow released to it stays with you longer, but the methylphenidate is instant release and will give you a "kick" but won't stay for long.
- They basically will have to figure out if your brain works in one of two ways and medicate accordingly: 1. Your brain is a castle in the middle of a lake, with a bridge going from land to castle. Your brain soldiers can freely pass this bridge but they travel a bit slow. The meds will help your soldiers go faster over the bridge. Or 2. Your brain is a castle in a lake, but the bridge is always closed. The meds will help lowering the bridge and help the soldiers cross faster.
- Depending if you have trouble jumpstarting your day or not, you will need to have your meds tailored specifically for your "brain bridge".
- When you are happy with the meds, your psychiatrist will monitor you for a few months to make sure it keeps working. After this, your doctor will take over.
- Important!! In most countries it is required that you collect your meds every 30 days. You cannot be given meds for more than 30 days at a time, without your doctor seeing you and prescriping your meds. It's a very tough system and it will seem very unfair as it is meds you need, but it doesn't seem like this type of prescription method is going to change anytime soon.
I hope this answers your question! Let me know if there's anything else I can do!
I was initially diagnosed with depression in my late teens and it’s recently occurred to my therapist and I that the depression was a symptom of my ADHD. Everything makes so much more sense! Thank you for sharing your story with us!
Hi, I’m wondering if you could share what the specific factors were that made you and your therapist think that your depression was due to ADHD? I was thinking I was the same (depression + anxiety) but recently had an assessment where they told me it was just depression and anxiety. Those were complete strangers that I just went to see for the assessment though, and I’m not 100% sure they’re right or wrong, so just wondering.
@@piggyofoz same thing happened w my therapist she j said I had depression and anxiety but I didnt stick w her long enough so idek if she wouldve noticed anything but I’ve got an appointment w my GP next week so hopefully I’ll find out what it really is cuz uts really frustrating not knowing whats wrong since u cant really treat it if u dont know the exact problem lol but yeah I’d suggest maybe going to a different doctor? One that specializes in ADHD? I’m planning to get a referral from my GP to see someone who spesifically specilizes in it if my GP also thinks I might have it but yeah I think u rlly think u might have it I think u should get a second opinion as not all doctors are good at their job.
Your story is nearly identical to mine. I was seeing a therapist for depression, and she quickly recognized that I had a lot of classic ADD symptoms. My psychiatrist agreed, and I started taking ADD medication that same day. It's been a game changer! I'm slowly reducing the anti-depressants now.
@@tedpreston4155 same!!!!
@@rockapartie fuck you have a great sense of humor. I’m sorry though :’(
I was Diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD at 3 years old. now I'm nearly 19 and I gotta say, it really influences you every second of your life. whether it is daydreaming, body language, imagination, random thoughts throughout the day and thoughts about your own life that you try to get in order but somehow can't.
I strongly relate.... currently 17 so could you help me with tips to CONVINCE my family that I really have ADHD inattentive type? They think I'm just lazy, and careless :(
@@businessisboomin7252 Sorry for my late reply. well usually ADHD can get diagnosed. You should let yourself get diagnosed with ADHD. also there is medicine that helps you against it, and that doesn't make you lazy or careless
@@elgabel411 thx
Diagnosed at 3 years old!? What the fuck mate how can you be diagnosed at that ages that is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard
@@Lsi581 it showed through my behaviour. I get distracted easily and it probably shows a lot when you're a little kid
I was diagnosed at 39 (2 weeks ago) and the more I learn the more I'm realizing that "who I am" is a complex web of ADHD symptoms and work arounds.... I'm having a lot of feelings about it.
I’ll be 45 next month. Just diagnosed. I’ve lost so much in my life. Finally the light at the end of the tunnel.
@@englandbengal So much has changed for me in the month since diagnosis, with support (therapy, meds (if you want), and informed changes to habits), you will see amazing changes in the weeks ahead. Good luck!!
@@englandbengal of course ... you feel so much relief knowing what you are dealing with is a great advantage
It really is. I feel l like everyday I learn something else about me is either a symptom of or coping mechanism for adhd or trauma.
Same
I'm gonna have to get tested, there is something different about me and if it's not ADHD I don't know where to turn. I've always had trouble with losing things and being forgetful. I've always struggled with my emotions and my mood can change in seconds. I have always had diffuclty with work, remembering what I need to do, how to do things, and just the general bordom of it. I've also had freakouts/breakdowns at work because I couldn't control my emotions or I made silly mistakes. I still lose things regularly, coats are definitely the worst. I can't focus on any task that I don't find interesting, to the point where I feel sick trying to make simple decisions or doing simple things. I can't hold down relationships because I get bored within the first week. I am extremely creative but cannot see projects through and start/try too many different things. I find things are always more interesting in my head than in real life. Feel free to disagree/agree.
This guy seems really chill, thankyou for the video dude, hope you are well.
Carlossalfailure wow that is literally me. Idk if it’s ADHD but I do know it’s all of what you described. The one thing I can do exceptionally well and follow through on is writing.
Very well put. Everything is more interesting in my head and I feel sick as well when I have to do something I don’t want to do. I have adhd, I was diagnosed at 41, I lost my job around that same time. Don’t wait. I have a son who has struggled his entire school career he is 17 and has just take. His last part of his psych testing and I feel this is kinda late at least as far as schooling is concerned. His results are pending.
A big part of my diagnosis was ruling out other possibilities. Asit turns out, I also had a minor dose of depression. The Doc that diagnosed me, said that the depression may have been brought on by not being able to cope with the ADHD on my own and beginning to feel hopeless because things only got worse as I got older. Both depression and ADD/ADHD were unacceptable concepts for men in my family, but I finally said "F___ it" and made an appointment. Feels pretty empowering knowing that you're actively doing something to make yourself feel better. I can't stress this enough, Make a damn appt with a Pro! Close your UA-cam tab, call your Dr. Get yourself right my friends!
I’m not a doctor so idk but personally I relate to a lot of this and I have a bad mix of ADHD (usually closer to ADD) and panic disorder (also GAD), I especially relate to the relationship stuff. Find a doctor or someone you are comfortable to open up to, sometimes a stranger is better.
Just from what I have read, it sounds like it could be ADHD. A lot of it is indecisiveness, impulse issues, lack of self control or commitment and patience, mood swings irritability etc etc I would seek a diagnosis!!!
I SWEAR TO GOD, I was a cashier once and always paying attention but then the manager told me there were more than 100 dollars lost on my shifts (I was shocked, asked them to check some receipts but no one could say if it was my fault or some customer's fault) - and now that u said that....considering all my other symptoms I DO need to get diagnosed asap
I was also diagnosed as an adult and I realized I had it my whole life. It was hard to catch because I always did well in school so the fact that I was talkative and always distracted never registered as a problem because I did well in classes. Symptoms tend to show differently in women as well
same exactly !!!
Yes!
Yes! I was quiet in school and always got decent grades, despite rarely turning in work on time. When I told my family I have ADHD, no one believed me.
Same I was also diagnosed as an adult, when I realized looking back at childhood when I used to be in Special Ed classes, at that time I didn't know anything about ADHD or other disorders, I used to zone out at times, forget to do my homework, come to class late etc, still persisted in Middle and High School, graduated late a year later from my actual graduation year, when I began my first job which I'm still in, work in yard labor/tree work, I noticed on the third day of work, I lacked work performance, lacked thinking, co workers complained to the boss about me and I nearly got fired, (that's how I discovered I had ADHD from looking back at childhood and did research about it)
Same here
I was diagnosed finally at age 51, just 7 years ago. I am also ADHD Innatentive type. The last straw was I was a bank teller, and kept underperforming and losing checks, not remembering how things got where they were, etc. Story of my life. I never got fired from jobs because they always liked me. Likeability and honesty were my strengths that got me through.
I know this is late but ur words really make me look forward in the future😊 so thank you for sharing ur experiences
This is me. I am mismanaged at work. But that is not purposeful mismanagement. Rather, I put very much effort. And that is what people notice and so I get the pass
I'm 42. It tookmy wife pointing it out in the last few months to even begin to start to comprehend it. I always did OK in school, until I got to post grad, where you study nothing but one damn thing all day long. I've always been prone to anxiety, depression, and anxiety. I've drifted from one job to another, unable to seem to thrive anywhere. I just get bored with it. Later, I developed some substance abuse issues. Those are resolved, but not without doing substantial damage. I've somehow made it through 2 years of medical school, now starting third, but still am having difficulty finding a provider who takes this seriously, even though I tick off more than enough boxes in the DSM-5. I'm super disappointed that no one, including myself, ever saw that this was my diagnosis a long time ago. It explains so, so much.
Yes I have adhd as well and as an adult I can say that CHORES definitely pile up and are extremely overwhelming. I usually clean when things become urgent. Trust me I can relate to everything your saying
That's pretty incredibly. It's like you're reading a diary I wrote without even knowing it.
I've got my diagnosis at 29 and started therapy at 30. I'm 31 now.
I've actually joked as a child that I must have ADD, since everyone basically told me all the time that I need to focus...
It's funny in a tragic way how it all really came together when I got my diagnosis, answered the questions and began reading about this stuff.
And the horrible thing is, that I really felt like I'm the biggest failure out there (and often still feel this way), being given so much ("gifted" my ass...) but not being able to do anything with it. I really do hate myself some days, no matter that I know that it's not a choice I'm making, being as I am, but it still feels like I'm just weak willed.
But hearing your story and other similar stories, it really makes me feel... lighter? Like someone helps me to carry that backpack full of bricks. Not a lot, but enoigh so I can still keep moving forward.
So, thank you for that, kind strangers.
Best wishes to you man
@@francisbegbie3326 Thanks, I appreciate it :)
“The feeling of being fundamentally incompetent.” Fuck yes this.
Got diagnosed during covid at the age of 30. I also was the inattentive type with classic symptoms of teachers constantly telling my parents "he is so smart and good at the subject but he doesn't do his work, if only he would be more disciplined". like you, i learned the word procrastination very early. Procrastination, Lazy and Discipline are the three words that are constantly directed towards me along with distracted, creative, and random.
Its honestly so hard to explain to employers when they ask things like "why are you so inconsistent, you can barely show up on time let alone predictably" yet i never miss work and always work later than the require 8 hrs work time (always being sure to account for any time loss i create being late).
The way society is structured makes us feel broken that is for sure. Its asking is to have a feature that we essentially lack while also thriving off our ability to break the molds and fix problems in ways the typical person often struggles to do consistently apparently.
I just got diagnosed 3 days ago. I'm almost 22, in my junior year of college. One thing I have been told by multiple professionals by people who get diagnosed later in life is, they reach a breaking point where they cannot handle it anymore, as new responsibilities start piling on. College was that breaking point for me, but instead I was mistreated for anxiety and depression for the last year. At my diagnostic test, I took 2 cognitive tests before and during a Ritalin test dose, the results were staggering. I'm still processing the fact that I have ADHD, but I'm very excited that I can finally start receiving the right treatment for me.
How do u get to take the cognitive test?
Hence why I'm not gonna go for my IQ battery till I'm medicated. I'm also 22 (you're probably nearly 23 or had your B'day by now), and can imagine that your life pre and post meds is drastically different and post is life changing (perhaps even life saving). Been taking old class antidepressants (tried sertraline, made my ADHD worse, anger through the roof, s*uicidality dramatically increased, as it typical for young, undiagnosed ADHDers). It somewhat helps with sleep, my current meds, but I can imagine once I'm on the correct med regimen, I'll have the drive to tire myself out, instead of procrastinate going to the gym.
I just got diagnosed at 28. I'm female and inattentive-type so it was very much missed, despite me displaying blatantly obvious textbook symptoms my whole life. I figured out that I had ADD/ADHD in my early 20s, and it has taken me at least 5 years of relentlessly trying to get a diagnosis or get tested for ADHD to actually get assessed by an ADHD specialist.
Hey im also a woman only 27. How do u get an adhd specialist? Can we link up somewhere. Id love to hear ur experience with add
I’ve been fighting for my daughter for 6 years. She now 15 and they keep diagnosing her with anxiety. I believe the anxiety is coming from add! Who diagnosed you?!
I always knew there was something off about me. I actually felt like I was dumb and had a learning disability because it always takes me longer to do things than “normal” people. I leave glasses everywhere as well.
I’m in my 30s now and I was diagnosed about a month ago. Everything makes sense now. I too wasn’t a hyperactive child. I was shy but I always did poorly in school. 50-60% from middle school up to when I graduated. I couldn’t retain any information when reading books. I wish I was diagnosed earlier...but better late than never. Thanks for the video!
Hi Melissa, a lot of people also feel that I have a learning disability but I'm not sure whether to get diagnosed although I could relate to a lot of ADD symptoms. When I mentioned it to people I know, they just think I'm trying to find and excuse for being slow and always confused, or it's just that I'm a visual learner and cannot process things like everyone else.
How are you doing now Melissa ?
@@nic7333 same is happening with me right now. If I mention sth about what I've been facing, they be like "I feel that too", you are just overthinking or you are just too lazy.
I’m a mom of three kids and now in my 30s ... just realized I might have adhd. Feel like all theses writings are mine! It’s not you, it’s me! 😭
I'm crying while watching it. I feel you. I'm the same. I lost my job because of concentration and focusing problems and I'm down. It's So hard to get the diagnosis as an adult. I only have the suspected diagnosid.
Me too
Me too. In America it’s almost impossible to get evaluated. I’ve been trying for months...
Hope both of you will find a good doctor or therapist for the diagnosis. I had an appointment this week. And it is really clear for the therapist that I have adhd.
@@MiyaviTheKing how is your journey with ADHD going. Shelly and Kavishka if you are in America even your family doctor can treat you for ADHD. If it works you know.
@@learntothrivewithadhd
I got the diagnosis and
tried different medication but I guess I need really less because I reacted really sensitive.
I don't know what I can do else besides therapy which is on hiatus because of my health Insurence (germany)
just been diagnosed and I'm 63. It explains my whole life.
I’ve HEARD that it’s more overlooked in females and I definitely didn’t get the correct guidance. I knew my teachers knew something was wrong but I never had an answer. It was always just, “you have to try harder” or “I believe in you just believe in yourself” but in music and art I excelled years beyond my peers. Nothing else interested me at all and it was really hard to get into it. I was also quite shy yet blurty around peers with what I said. And extremely forgetful to this day. I have other signs mostly all that was described in this video to be honest. But I didn’t get a diagnoses that was correct until I was 24. I’m 25 almost 26 now and I often feel very behind yet I can’t help the fact that I am how I am so I have made it a joke and act like it doesn’t bother me. But my boss had told me the other day that she thinks I actively don’t listen to her fully. I just told her I was sorry and moved on with it as I’ve been told that my whole life.
I'm 25, turning 26 in November here, but man, a lot of what you said is what I've dealt with throughout my life as well. I'm very forgetful as well to the point where I force myself to always put things in the same spot and even if I've picked up the object, I'll feel around in my pocket, for say, my keys or wallet to make sure they're still there, and I'll end up doing this constantly for many things throughout the day. I was also pretty quiet growing up and would have those moments of sudden boisterousness or alertness, especially if I was interested in something being talked about, like Lord of the Rings or Star Wars. I feel I also don't really have the ability to listen fully to instruction, and it made school a living hell, and was often treated as if I was an idiot. It was so damn frustrating to be treated like that, plus with being really socially anxious, it just made the college setting especially hostile for me. I really like art as well and have been trying to get back into it more recently. Sadly though, I was heavily discouraged from pursuing art because my parents did not see me making a living from it so I was steered away and did what they told me to. I deeply regret not doing what I wanted to do, and still have the emotional scars in a way, as I spent around 5 years in college trying to find what the hell I wanted to do and could not find an answer and even with that time, I only walked out with an associate gen eds and an art degree. It was literal hell for me, and being forced to take classes in subjects that I often dread (especially math) and honestly just kinda gave up on life. I'm hoping to rekindle some passion, but I'm feeling like I'm too late in some ways.
I feel like that right now. I kill myself at work and I’m always blamed for everything.
@@VargusDread it ain't late. I'm 30 and I'm in online classes. I'm doing one class at a time since I have a full time job. That's all I can manage for now. Take your time.
Ugh i relate so much as a girl. They just always used y parents divorce as an excuse. It’s been 20 years since i don’t think it’s their divorce lol. I’m finally diagnosed.
I also was happy my parents got divorced bc of their own adhd making them toxic to each other
Feeling "fundamentally incompetent". I can relate! Even though I am actually reasonably competent at everything.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, BPD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
I got diagnosed with ADHD recently (in my 20s). I realized that I had to get a diagnosis after starting the University when everything became harder and responsibilities were real. I feel a lot better now that things are explained and I can finally get some help on how to co-op with ADHD.
my undiagnosed adhd was the reason i dropped out of college, now that i understand myself i have so much less guilt and shame
@@IPH-1212 proud of you. I am sure you have other supertalents
@@nataliaviolari950 Yes music is the only thing i've ever been good it, just sucks that i was never able to pursue it in school, although i am now :)
I think I’ve just found out why my 12 yo son struggles so much at school. Thank you for this video - I’m going to get him tested.
@Wish You The Best yes he does. He started on Vyvanse at the beginning of this year and he got As and Bs for the first time and he is even enjoying school! His Paediatrician has been great - it’s been life changing to be honest.
@Wish You The Best it’s a stimulant drug used for ADHD but it does have other limited uses I believe. In Australia you need a specialist prescription following a diagnosis, so a GP can’t just give you a script for it. Go talk to your doctor for other possibilities to help you.
I was diagnosed at 23 but I always knew something wasn’t quite right especially in classroom settings.. my parents just assumed because mine wasn’t hyperactive like my brother that I didn’t have it... it’s been a tough road and I tried coping without medication and treatment programs and it has wreaked havoc on my life for 5 years now..thanks for sharing your story it has motivated me to start up treatment again
I feel you, went to a psychiatrist at age 29, got myself Concerta and my life has improved since then! Good videos man!
ADHD Patrick : Hi, what is Concerta?
Is it a medicine for : Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder predominantly inattentive?
Thats amazing Patrick
have you taken anything other Concerta?
@Ben Grimm According to ADDitude Magazine, a magazine for ADD people, "Concerta is a popular stimulant medication primarily used to treat ADHD symptoms in adults and children ages 6 and up". I can't find any reference online for it being prescribed as an anti-psychotic. You might be thinking of something else.
@@shailkhanna89 Concerta is methylphenidate (the same as Ritalin) but generally extended release. I was on it for a couple weeks but was losing weight and it interacted badly with alcohol so i stopped it. I tried dexamphetamine and although it gave me super sharp focus it made my tourettes worse. Turns out 1/2 people with tourette sydnrome have ADHD. So now im on Strattera (atomoxetine) which is a non-stim med and the antihypertensive (basically an antipsychotic) catapres (clonidine) to manage both disorders together. And Modafinil as required to boost alertness and productivity.
I‘m 30 and just got diagnosed a couple of weeks ago. It feels like a huge relief to know that everything I wasn't able to manage in the past was caused by this condition. There is nothing wrong with me, I just need a little help and I can enjoy the special and bright side of this. I live in Paraguay, nobody is trained to recognized ADHD signs in school kids so everybody thought I was just an inattentive kid, I‘ve been struggling for so many years and now I feel so much hope about my future!
Got diagnosed at 27. Have yet to be medicated but the relief and clarity I have gained from the diagnosis is incredible. So much of my life makes sense now and I don't feel as lost. Hoping I can also get into CBT with medication and really hone in this super power.
I was just diagnosed 2 weeks ago and I’m 28! After the diagnosis, everything started making so much more sense.
And I like the making sense part of it😍
Found out at last why I was so different from everyone else when I was 71 years old! Such a relief!
Wow, FairPlay! How are you doing these days now that you’re aware of it ?
@@prodigy8868 so much better now! Like you was in my own bubble as a child! I actually appreciate my brain now! And I accept my differences and actually like myself! Started bullet journaling three years ago to help organise my days! Calm myself by doing yoga breathing !! Look after yourself!
Hey, do you have any tips? It’s getting really difficult right now
amazing:)
I’m 40 years old, just got diagnosed in April. Everything you describe in this video describes me to perfection. I’m mostly struggling with the obsession of my diagnosis right now. I’m hoping that the medication will eventually help once I start. Thanks for sharing
I know you made this video about yourself, but you made it about me too. I'm 33 and I'm currently on a waiting list to see a mental health professional to discuss my suspicion that I have ADHD. Discovering videos like yours has really helped me piece together my life and understand myself in the same way that your revelation helped you.
You're lucky you never lost a job, by the way. I've been "released" from multiple jobs for attention-related issues and it's shattering to the ego.
I was listening to a podcast from ADDitide mag, and apparently the rise in Oestrogen around puberty for cis girls is when the symptoms of ADHD can really get going. This totally makes sense for me. I was very lucky to have friends in primary school, and my best friend is the person who got me thinking about the possibility of me having ADHD, because she is pretty sure she does too. What are the odds. What a gift to grow up with someone who truly understands how your brain works. For me, it was the sleep deprivation of having a newborn baby that made me realise I am not okay. Post natal OCD, PTSD, anxiety and depression is a lot to go through and the medical system in Australia is broken for mental health.
I had teachers who picked on me for my spacing out, etc. In the 90s. Once did a report on Bethlehem the country when the assignment was on towns in PA.... I was diagnosed around age 23.
And I was very shy as well.
Diagnosed at 24, I’m now 25. Thank you for this. It’s been one heck of a year trying to navigate life with this new discovery
I was diagnosed when I was 5 years old with ADHD, my brother was 4 years older than me and got diagnosed with ADD. Knowing this, my mother chose not to have us medicated, and we learned mostly how to cope with all kinds of different mechanisms. More recently though, I've had to explain to my 60+ year old mother that she has been struggling with ADHD her whole life, and very possibly so was her mother.
How did she respond??
@@sunnysealz3546 honestly a bit depressed. its hard not to- because what are you supposed to do with this information that late in life? not like you can easily start a new career, make friends etc
so its kind of an answer to a lot of questions, but also annoyed that all of her life she never knew things could have been better
@@randygerson I know I'm very late I just saw your reply. I can only imagine how she feels as I wrestle with being diagnosed in my 30s and realizing things could have been completely different
I am 47 and just diagnosed. Your channel has helped me so much in understanding ADHD. I wish I knew I had it a long time ago. But now that I do all of my life’s issues make so much sense! ❤Thank you! Thank you!
I found out 2 months ago at the start of this pandemic...Finally had time to get screened and diagnosed. I am 33 years old and it was extremely eye-opening and explains a lot of pain and suffering I have gone through over the decades... Thanks.
ohhhhhhhh my god the muggs the mugggs all the kitchen mugg are in my room then i forgot they here... thank you for sharing with us
Hannah Ali omg if you saw my nightstand....
I have a cupboard with a heap of mugs stacked in it in the kitchen.
I don't have ADHD.
Holy crap! My husband gets pissed off at me for always having so many mugs and cups on the go!! Lol
i still need to grab the hoover and clean my floor.. i just keep forgetting about it completely..
Holy crap just as i read the word mug I remembered i left my mug unwashed downstairs shit
Our 9 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD recently. You describing your childhood is him totally. It helps to hear your story and know what we might expect as he gets older. My hope is for us to continue to educate ourselves so we can help him navigate his struggles.
Great work. I'm 26, been diagnosed couple of months ago and i'm starting to realize many many things, it's like the first time i ever feel i have the chance to really understand myself deeply enough as to relate and make sense of who I am and why I made such terrible decisions, it has led me to a lot of suffering, substance abuse problems, family, social,personal, academic, sentimental troubles- disorders. I'm also the inattentive type and been coping with most of what you are saying, so great to hear something I can identify with as this is something that barely happens , so thank you
Your story is so much like my experience throughout my life. After a 3rd career change as a special education teacher, I saw many similarities between me and the students I supported when I was their age, which prompted me to get diagnosed. I was diagnosed with ADHD - Innattentive disorder and it all finally made sense. Thank you for sharing.
Diagnosed in my teens, but nothing was done about it until my last year in college. I'm 30 now. Definitely explains a lot and I'm glad I had gone through therapy treatment to gain better insight on my diagnosis. Agreed on practicing self-awareness. Now in grad school in hopes of becoming a licensed therapist in the near future. Changed my life
I’ve tried my hardest to tell my mom I believe I have ADD but all she says is “go the church go pray” “stop saying that you don’t have it” it’s really hard for me to wake up day to day and do what I need to do. I have no one to talk to.
Tell her to pray do not get older and see if it works
@@finity9316That's so terribly disrespectful of his/her mother, I hope he/she ignored you. The fifth commandment is "Honor your father and mother," not "treat them as if they're incompetent beings you can walk all over."
I've been wondering my whole life why everyone seems to be able to do anything at all without an herculean effort or some trick to fool their brain. Turns out they don't have to most of the time, cause their starter engine is working. I always felt fundamentally inadequate, cause I knew what I had to do, just couldn't bruteforce it with willpower all the time.
Everything in this video is familiar to me and it feels wonderful that I'm not alone anymore.
You just described me. I feel like I'm in a coma most of my day. But finally, once it gets in gear, I have about a 3-4 hour window that I can get something accomplished. But it takes an act of God to do it. Then it's time to stop and make dinner, or I'm having dinner at nine o'clock at night. I just wish that engine would start earlier.🙄
@@daisy1022Most people would cure ADHD with zero medication by not acting on impulses
I had the blessing of having a mother that spotted these symptoms in me when I was in middle school. I had no idea what all the implications were I just knew I had something up with me. I was always shy, never loud, respectful, never got into trouble. That's why everyone overlooked me. It's when I would sit in class for half an hour and be mentally woken up by the bell realizing I had just spaced through an entire lesson and had no idea what the homework or project was. That's was tipped my mother off. Got tested. ADD it was. I am now in college and it's shown itself in all facets of my adult life. Cant manage time, money, relationship, addictions, nothing clicks naturally. I have to force myself to do every single action every day otherwise It simply won't get done. It just gets added to the pile ...
But there is hope, this video gave it to me. Thank you man, God bless and stay strong
Do meds really help
My struggle with ADD is almost identical to this. Everything you've said I can relate to. I'm 26 and have recently realised I have ADD and am beginning the process of getting diagnosed. Subscribed. 👍🏻
This is probably because you were a child previous to 2013. Until then, by the DMS-4 the signs of ADD needed to be noticed before the age of 7, otherwise, it couldn't be a case of ADD. Since 2013 (DSM-5) the signs must appear between 5 - 17 yrs old
i like how you articulate yourself, you're wise. we all need more of that
You described very succinctly how I feel with ADHD. I'm so glad to know that I'm not alone. I was diagnosed more than a decade later than you in life, but it gave me the permission to have compassion for how much I've struggled and not feel like it's a personal failing. I always asked myself why everything was so hard and why I felt like a child, and now I know why.
I’m 49 and seeking diagnosis. What you say about feeling incompetent is exactly how I’ve felt most of my life.
I had supportive but bewildered teachers. I was obviously intelligent but my chaos and incomplete written work held me back.
When I was 14 one teacher thought I was dyslexic. I was tested and diagnosed - the first dyslexic in my school! That same teacher wrote in one of my reports years late during A-level “we’ve obviously not got to the bottom of her difficulties”. Another teacher wrote “she has excellent ideas she just needs to find a way to get them down on paper” - that teacher also told me if I only I could do verbal exams and a verbal degree as then I could do Oxbridge but as it was she wasn’t sure if Id be able to manage university - she was frustrated for me that I couldn’t excell in the system despite (in her opinion) being more intelligent than pupils who got better grades than me.
My time blindness, my fear and avoidance of writing, my general disorder has got me in trouble with every employer I’ve ever had.
As a kid my teacher was drawing on the board and all I could think was: “oh ok mandarin grammar, looks like a leaf, no a space ship, imagine if there were space fish, i had many fish in my old home, in my old home my old school had green walls, and my teacher drew on the green board with a chalk” and I couldn’t let go of the chalk thing and told my teacher about it and she went :”you did not pay attention. You’re disrespectful to me and your classmates” she made me apologize in front of the class and called me my mom. I didn’t talk to anyone for almost 3 years and had no friends because I was scared of talking to anyone after that. I was scared that whatever I said was actually bad like the chalk thing and I would be wrong. I could hardly socialize with anyone without feeling anxious and on the verge of tears. This is ONE of the HUNDREDS of examples of my ADD moments in my life and after diagnosis, this stuff clicked. Everything clicked and I understood how to learn, and socialize, and care, and love, in a way that was appropriate to my ADD brain.
This broke my heart so so much.. I have had a lot of similar experiences to that as well. I am afraid to speak to my therapist about it because I am afraid of being invalidated. I am generally shy and reserved so I don’t act like the stereotype that most people think you have to fit in order to be adhd. But I relate so much to nearly all of the symptoms, and it’s affected my life so much and I just want to get help :(. I am just so sorry that you or anyone else had to go through what you described. People are strange and I wish more people had better understandings of certain things, and had a bigger heart, too.
It felt really honest. Thumbs up for that
This made me tear up. I related to every single one of his experiences growing up till today. I'm 24 and while I don't have an official diagnosis yet, channels like ADHD Mastery, rachel anita, How to ADHD really helped me realise and accept the fact that I have ADHD. Recently I was beginning to think that I made all the symptoms up and was really just lazy, but then this video popped up on my feed and I am so grateful it did...
Im 22 and same here...no official diagnosis but I'm 99% sure that i have adhd....i came across this term a long time ago but due to the steyotypes i thought maybe not...but now I'm so sure...i hope we get better soon😊👍
@@nj_9053 I know the stereotypes are *so* damaging. I am worried that even if I get an official diagnosis I can't tell many people about it because of the bias people might have against me because of those stupid stereotypes.
@@sapnanayak1453 yea, but don't let it get in the way of a diagnosis😇
And where i live i don't think people even know about adhd...but its ok...👍
It was like listening to someone describe my childhood. Regarding when I was diagnosed, I was diagnosed in my 40's after getting married. I got tired of my wife always being mad at me. I thought i was normal, but as I studied more and read blogs on marriages with an ADHD spouse - the stress it created for the non ADD spouse. I came to realize I needed to manage my ADD.
So true.. had the same experience....
I got diagnosed October 2021 at the age of 57 !! I've been asking about my lack of focus for 30+ years. I finally found a therapist that looked deeper and made the diagnosis.
Thank you so much for this. In all honesty I feel left out from most adhd conversations due to the fact that I just don't relate as much to the hyperactivity part and hearing someone with the inattentive type makes me realize the differences of it so I don't have to feel completely different
I have never related to another human being more. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 21 so I was left for years wondering why I felt different mentally from other people. I had a hard time making friends because of it as I felt like I didn’t relate or connect to people very easily, and I still do. Now that I’ve been diagnosed it all makes sense. I still have a lot to learn about my adhd and I’m still trying to figure things out, but I love your channel because you have a way of putting into words exactly what it is I’m experiencing, which actually helped me to articulate my experience when I got tested and as I continue therapy. On behalf of everyone watching, thank you 🙌 you have no idea how much it helps to hear someone is struggling the same way you are and that you’re not alone
My struggles with who I am amidst the doubts I can be are the normal thoughts of how the creation of self begins. That alone with nothing creates a world from your ability to live within a world you can’t in a world you can within your understanding. You don’t relate,because you revised what you couldn’t with what you could,instead of adapting to a world that didn’t recognize you. It’s not an ADHD story or a mental illness hold you back,it’s the masterfulness on you finding a way to remain believing in yourself in comparison to anything thing else that doesn’t. I can bring you three or four life changing inspirational moments within moments of each other and walk away in another with what they made me think possible now. I don’t prove what is,I live in the understanding as it grows in what I can. Any explanation after the fact is an excuse for what you now knowing ,didn’t at the time. Which couldn’t of brought to your understanding of yourself now from then. One can when removed from the doubt that disables you.
I was diagnosed around 5th grade (2003-04) and was first prescribed Strattera for a few years, then Adderall until about a decade ago. Didn't realize until recently how big of a mistake it was to stop taking something. The inattentiveness I can manage and the general eccentricities I'm in no hurry to "mend", but the goddamn procrastinating crippled me all throughout my 20s. Dropped out of college after one year because fuck it and spent the remainder of the decade watching my friends and family surpass me in every way that matters. Finally gave a name to my pain, executive dysfunction, which as it turns out is a symptom of that old affliction I had all but forgotten about. I just started back up on Strattera a few days ago, forgoing a stimulant due to chronic insomnia, and while it generally takes a few weeks to reach maximum effectiveness, I can already feel my motivation returning bit by bit. I feel like this is where I can finally start my damn life already and make up for lost time.
My 20s were a complete waste. I just turned 30 and this will be where I start living again.
I have a very strong feeling that I might be undiagnosed ADHD, and have been misdiagnosed as and treated as, having depression and anxiety, including PTSD.
You mentioned so many traits and characteristics I had as a child at primary school. My reported always said ‘Tends to daydream often’ or ‘Coasts along while working’. I was quiet and shy.
I often completely lost track of things and time and would be chastised for it. Or for not paying attention to what I was told.
I felt such bouts of frustration and annoyance if people didn’t understand me, while I was trying to explain myself.
I also have always had issues with noise. Large gatherings, having to speak publicly.
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I didn't realize until my late 40s that I might have ADHD, when my son was diagnosed with a mild case of it. After I heard what the symptoms were, I knew right away it was likely. I have yet to be diagnosed - I'll work on that soon, but I'm pretty positive I'm of the inattentive variety. For years I've endured a lot of disappointments and failures, and figured it was just who I was as a person, and I had to soldier on. I'm happy to finally find out that there are things I might be able to do to improve my distractibility and other issues.
33 and finally diagnosed! I feel like everything makes sense now, I have been yelled at my whole life for the same issues you raised, it has caused me to get fired, failed relationships and get into debt. it's nice to know there are other people with the same struggles!
I finally got diagnosed with adhd at 21 years of age. I've always been described as being "somewhere else" mentally.
You just described my life. I'm 22 and recently diagnosed with adhd inattentive type. Same symptoms as a teenager and an adult as yours. Medication and self-awareness though is helping me lot.
For so many years I thought I was crazy, I hated that I just couldnt function. I wanted to be a part of everyone else.
I just found out a few days ago that I have ADHD, I'm so happy. I am actually not insane, I am perfectly normal. I can finally get help, I can finally be me for once... I've been so close to ending it... I am just so happy!
Thanks for sharing your story man.
I am not currently diagnosed but I totally feel the same way as you. Whole life feeling lazy/stupid etc. One day I had a mental breakdown, and through googling I found that contrary to my prior belief, ADHD seems to completely fit the bill for me. I started reading a book about it, and within half an hour of starting the book I started crying tears of joy because it finally felt like there could be a reason for why I've felt this way my whole life and that there are other people who feel just like me.
Did you experience any self conflict in seeking evaluation? In my case, I can have 6 horrible, wasted days, but as soon as I have ONE good day, that turns into my reason to say "Oh, no, I'm completely fine if I can be productive like this!"
I guess the major fear keeping me from seeking out my doctor is that I'm worried that there IS nothing "wrong" with me and that I AM just a lazy idiot. Am really curious if some other people have felt the same way.
@@JeremyCoolDude Yes, when you get that one good day or week and everything is fine is very familiar to me.
In my teens, everytime I went to see a professional I somehow was in that "I'm actually ok" moment every appointment. I assume it was my shame of not being "normal" that pressured me into forming this mask of protection.
And the constant, maybe I am faking it for attention thoughts that wont stop floating around in my head. Second guessing everything.... endless cycle.
It is very hard for some to seek help, I was very lucky and had a close friend that really pressured me to get help.
My pride in that I was "normal" and that I dont need no help was the main problem.
Sometimes we need help and that's okay.
I just need to get used to it.
Just try and be honest to yourself first and foremost, if you really feel like this is valid you should get it checked. Mental health is number one.
The absolute hardest part for me was seeking the help and getting there, but it will be okay.
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Thanks so much for the reply, I appreciate it! It's good to know that I'm not alone in feeling that way. I just checked my old report cards and sure enough, all of my problems date back to kindergarten through high school and everything. I'll be keeping you in mind and wishing you luck in dealing with this in your future endeavours :)
I keep watching a lot of videos lately on ADHD and I’m more and more convinced I do suffer with it. But I am scared of paying for a private test for it to come back negative.
I’ve always struggled with my attention span from a young age. I could never study or revise in school, I’d zone out in class, stare out of the window and I never had any friends. I remember saying to my mum when I was a teenager that I think there’s ‘something wrong’ with me and I thought I may be autistic.
Then I’ve kind of just got on with life but the older I’ve got and the more I’m trying to hold my job down and a stable relationship I’m just finding myself really struggling in my adult life.
I watched a video by somebody else yesterday that was saying school is a struggle, then you’ll typically fly through a-levels easily and then crash in university. Which sums me right up. I crashed terribly in my final year of university. I blamed a failed relationship and the passing of my grandad but in reality I think it could have been that plus ADHD..😩
So did you do the test or still not
The “Beast” never goes away but, you learn to control it , and live with it.
Damn, this video summarizes my experience. I feel like I'm not going to find myself. I was diagonosed with severe depression and GAD years ago and have been able to manage them just okay but I always struggle with the experience that we share that you talked about in this video.
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I have never seen a video of yours until now. I’m 24 and I’ve struggled with adhd my whole life and was diagnosed when I was young. I have an aversion to drugs to fix my problem. I am very encouraged to see someone who is farther in life than me speaking on the difficulties you have learned to overcome and that people like us can mature to the same level as others.
Would you tell a diabetic they don't need insulin? Why deny yourself a medication that may well be a life saver?