Me too! I never thought this was an adhd thing until now. Its like, I go blank and for the life of me I cannot remember and my husband has to help jog my memory.
Not a slow learner. Everybody always said I was really smart. Just could never get my work done. Also did really poorly on standardized tests because they were timed.
ME TOOO OMG, I remember I was in class having to write an essay about which cereal was better than the other (Cheerios/Trix) and I struggled a lot trying to decide between those cereals. I did alright on the essay but at least I got to decide. I chose Cheerios because they’re good for your heart and anyone can eat them, not like Trix cuz they’re just for kids.
i did great on the tests, but i never did the work. i couldn’t handle having to get work and getting it done in 15 minutes. or having to do a whole bunch of homework.
Listening to a stranger on the internet describe your entire life is really surreal. Never even considered the possibility of me having ADHD until recently, I was always told that people with ADHD were always rambunctious and couldn't sit still. I was nothing like that, I was always mellow and daydreaming. I tried to get treated for different anxiety disorders, it never worked out. It was so frustrating knowing something was wrong but nobody could figure it out, teachers, parents, counselors, hell even doctors. Thanks for making this video, I'm gonna bring this newly discovered info to my doctor to get evaluated, I think I may have found out whats actually wrong with me. I wish more people knew about this stuff
This seems pretty bang-on for me as well. The only thing I am afraid of, is that I feel I fall in between 2 categories. Not completely IADHD, not completely normal. Or something. I might have to stand up for myself on this one some times, and harder, without trying to force the diagnosis to fit in 'that' box. What did it do for you? I don't think of it as wrong, but as different.
@@Jejking I think it helps to remember ADHD is a spectrum! Some have more extreme symptoms and some have more mild symptoms, also if you are an adult, chances are you are used to masking your symptoms. Diagnosis+therapy(!) doesn't have to squeeze you in a box, for me it was more like getting a map so I wouldn't always feel completely lost in life😅
All these year's until now. This video is a lifesaver. It took a Stanger to tell me my life story 😢 everything I've been struggling with all my life 😢 I will definitely take this up with my doctor. Very well put together video that saved my life 🙏🏼
Me too, I've never been hyperactive even when I was little so I never thought I could have ADHD but I had never heard of ADD or Inattentive type, now that one I can relate to and it explains so much of what I've been feeling, it all makes sense now and I'm glad to have the reason why my brain isn't normal
@@webbedshadow2601 ADD is a former name for Inattentive ADHD, it is not used anymore. There are three types of ADHD: hyperactive, inattentive and the most frequent one (~67%), combined. And, just like ASD, ADHD is a spectrum. Also thoroughly research ASD, just in case.
How many of you spaced out, started the video again and started to read the comments below and started the video again? Yip I played the video more than 3 times and paused it a few times. I watched the video though.
I'm so sorry! But at least you get some peace knowing why the things happened the way it happened I'm 20, I'm going to talk with my doctor tomorrow because is highly likely I have ADD since I was very, very young. Many behaviours that my anxiety (i was diagnosed generalized anxiety) could not explain all, and I always thought it just was because I was stupid But from some time around, I have the highly suspicion that what I have is ADD. My forgetfulness is too extreme to just being normal, I can't focus at all in any kind of aspect, having a lot of trouble speaking with people because I cannot recall what they were saying... And even when I know it's an important thing (like doctors appointment) that I have to remember, I forget as soon as I walk through the door. Among many many other things, every single thing in this video as well, have been my behaviour since I have memory... Which actually I can only remember from 7 and up
I can't imagine living so many years not knowing, wondering what's up with you. I got diagnosed at 27 and even I grieve for the time I spent thinking I was broken.
YES about the instructions!! My boss could tell me 10 times how to do something but I find myself just nodding along. I CANNOT remember how to do something unless I actually do it! If it’s written down, at least I can refer back to it but I still struggle
Yes! I need instructions to be written down and then I also need the time to analyze the instructions which takes me quite some time. When I finally understand what to do I tend to do a good job. But getting to the point where I am actually understanding what is needed is very difficult especially is there are multiple steps involved.
Learn by doing - absolutely resonates with me. Also phone numbers and pins. I remember only the pattern on the keypad. If someone asked me to quote digits, I wouldn't be able to most of the time. I also have a theory of the critical brain connection between handwriting, processing, and memory. Since the introduction of keyboards and screens, my ability to absorb anything that way has been very ineffective. I need paper and pens, and the tactile experience if I'm doing serious work. After that, it can be transcribed to a screen. I don't know if that's an exclusively ADHD thing, but when I've ever mentioned it I'm often given a puzzled look.
I will never forget the day I googled “daydreaming disorders”. I didn’t know about adhd and I started to think all the other symptoms were just a part of my personality so it never occurred to me that it could be that. but the daydreaming part was weird so I spent hours researching causes for constant daydreaming and I also thought I had Alzheimer’s. Self diagnosing is a dangerous game lol. Whole time I had adhd
I am 41 yrs old and only recently been diagnosed. It makes me sad because my whole life I knew there was something wrong but did not know what it was. It has affected my life greatly. It is so nice to hear you talk about all these signs that I have and know that I am not alone. I also was the shy daydreaming zoned out mid conversation child/teen. It affected my job and my self-esteem, and if I had been diagnosed earlier, I think I would be in a very different place in life now. Anyway thank you so much for posting this and I hope you are doing well
Not only that, but as you said, I was treated for anxiety and depression and I felt that the Dr's were getting frustrated with me because none of the medications they gave me worked and they woukd say we have tried you on everything. I felt like they thought I was pretending. Looking for attention but once I got on adhd medications, my depression became almost insignificant.
Me to 😢 Iam diagnosed with add because my child is tested with it and they told me mostly is genetic, so i tested and Iam now diagnosed with add.. My life and childhood went away with depressions shyness , failure's and so on 😢
A diagnosis later in life is a difficult thing to hear, but it can also be very freeing. Like a great weight being lifted. Knowing makes it possible to recognize what's going on. Like if you find yourself in a negative thought spiral. It becomes a little easier to pull yourself out of it. I've found it's best to work towards what could be rather than dwell what could have been. The woulda, coulda, shoulda will almost always lead to a spiral for me. So I'm trying concentrate on this step of my journey and the next steps to come.
I remember in school I would say to myself that “I’m going to concentrate this lesson” start listening to the teacher when all of a sudden I come to and realise I’m staring at the wall and everyone round me is doing work. So I have to lean into the guy next to me and ask “what are we doing?” Every day.
Def increased boredom as well as not enough mentally challenging at least at first so mind wondered off which is how I first ended up reading everything 5 times because the teacher insisted I couldn’t be done and then continued reading just to do anything rather than just sit there alt just spaced out if not interesting enough book.
Its stigma too because everyone claims to have ADHD even when they do not and the people who actually have it don't talk about it because we try to not use it as an excuse even though it may be the primary cause of a lot of issues.
And even if ... "Don't only children have that?" "That disorder's just made up to sell even more pills!" yeah as if I act like a scatterbrain voluntarily.
Very true. People get distracted for a second and say “OMG I’m SO ADD” but they’re not the ones staying late at work 3 hours because they can’t accomplish their job tasks in a timely manner.
Shadow Mystery to be honest, I was diagnosed as a kid and I’m a little sceptical. Not that brains function differently but calling it a “disorder” seems a little strange to me. Given the right environment people with adhd can excel. They just don’t fit into the standard “order”.
Thank you for this. I always felt I had a mild case of ADD, not ADHD. There's tons out there on the hyperactive part, but that was never me. I'm low energy actually, mostly driven by the depression. This really helps to explain a lot.
A lot of us were undiagnosed as kids which is really hard. My mother came down on me so so hard for struggling with getting schoolwork done. She was frequently abusive and my school difficulties were usually what set her off. At one point my grandmother told her that she thought I was struggling with focusing, but my mother dismissed it and insisted that I was doing it on purpose or something. I really wish someone would have caught on to what was wrong, but in the early 90s it just wasn't a thing that was commonly looked into. My mother took me to a primary doctor, told them I had an attitude problem, and without even talking to me they stuck me on antidepressants, and that was that.
Sorry man that must have been hard...I also struggle with ADD and I'm in my second year of university...Paying attention in class and getting work done is hell...Medication does help but the symptoms will always be there...The sad thing is that many people still don't understand us to this day even with all the countless studies on the internet...My father even told me that my ADD wasn't real and that I should be more responsible and focus...Can you believe it?? My parents never really bother to try and understand what ADD is like for me...But love and be good to yourself because people without ADD will never understand...
I'm so sorry. As a mom of an adult kid who wasn't diagnosed until adulthood, I really related to this message. I thought my kid was been lazy and not focusing on school work. The doctor also put my kid on anti-depressions in early 2000. I feel so bad now. I've apologized to my kid as an adult(numerous times). If I only knew then what I know now. I don't know if your mom ever apologized but I want to say to you, I'm sorry that the medical community and society let you down. I hope you are doing better now. May God bless you.
Conversations for me are difficult because usually I miss quick snippets vs long drawn out moments. It's like my mind is in and out really quickly, so I can't follow key parts of peoples stories. Like... "Wait, who did you go to dinner with?" "Lori" "Oh.....where again??" "arby's." and then like 5 minutes later it's like... "you said that or she did?" A lot of times I feel really bad about this, and I will hide it. It's like, I can kinda follow the stories, but miss key details. I didn't know a co-worker's husband's name for SO LONG, because I dip in and out of stories so quickly.
Carah Amelie I’m laughing so hard at this! I’m a hairdresser & I do this with my clients! It’s like if there’s too many characters in a story I lose track of who did what & who said what!
my sister likes to tell me her dreams and i hate it because i cannot visualize it, its literal nonsense that my ADHD cannot grasp onto, and i lose all the details so i just end up saying "well... what does your dream mean to you?"
This is the story of my life: Time blindness Following instructions Spacing out Low stress tolerance Emotional imbalance Avoiding tasks, Being bored quickly And most of the others. I take medication for my Adhd.
The ones you stated are most of my symptoms, I have low attention spans, get bored very quickly if something isn't satisfying my dopamine craving, procrastinate on things that aren't immediately enjoyable in favor for more less boring things, very bipolar, im naturally a fast thinker, even for somebody with a normal brain i might say answers faster than them but that means I could have been even faster. Often day dream during boring situations and then half an hour passes and then struggle to go back to what I was day dreaming until I forget it. Getting frustrated very easily is the worst symptom I have because I quit very easily and lash out on the smallest things like somebody asking, hello? When I dont answer for a long time
I was just diagnosed with it at the age of 28. I started noticing signs she I was around 15 or 16. When I told my mom she said “but you did well in school.” I had to tell her that it doesn’t determine intelligence. I have a masters degree. I always drift off into daydreaming but I always somehow managed to do well in school.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder, Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Yes sure of Predroshrooms..Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
This made me feel so sad, especially when you’re talking about the feeling of uselessness I realised I was feeling like complete shit on high school, I thought I’m dumb and I hated myself. I stopped talking to everyone and I was just thinking about killing myself everynight. Last year I started taking medication for anxiety and it helped me a lot, but I realised there was still something else going on with me and a few weeks ago I found out I have add. Thanks for this video so much, it helps to see someone like you talk about what I’m going through.
I felt the same way in hs. I dropped out and have felt more and more now that highschool is a waste of time if you arent trying to go to uni or some shit. Community college doesnt seem to give a shit what my gpa was or how many extracurriculars I did.
I was in the same situation a while back. Severe depression in highschool. Couldn't understand what was wrong with me amoung other things going on at that time. I'm really upset that this is happening with other people. No one should feel like this.
I was diagnosed with ADD at the end of my grade 12 year. A random teacher noticed while he was talking to me in a meeting that I was looking at him as he spoke, but he saw me focused on something else. He asked me, did you hear what I said? And I did hear him as he spoke but I completed lost all the information by his question. The interruption made me lose the entire content because ADD effects short term memory. There is a severance in executive function of the brain. So we learn by being shown something repeatedly in steps to be able to covert it to long term information and recall. But once I’ve been shown this way I never forget it and do not make mistakes or have to ask for help. The best advice I can give to parents are if you see your child struggling to follow spoken or written instructions. Understand they do have the intelligence, the confusion comes from not understanding the order in which to do them. Because you over analyze. You second guess and question your ability to understand the question. So you then panic and with memory issues you feel bad asking again. So having someone sit down and do the steps with you provides that confidence needed to follow through
This comment is spot on. I learn best by being shown several times and then having the other walk through it with me. If information is simply relayed to me over speach or even text I have no idea wtf I'm doing and end up just winging it which either works out brilliantly despite tonnes of stress involved, or a complete disaster.
This video is probably the most accurate depiction of my symptoms I’ve seen, especially as a kid. Part of me is still skeptical though, because I did pretty well in school. I was always seen as weird, really strange, and socially inept for the most part, though. However, I was always that kid who would scribble their homework 5 minutes before class and cram-studied for tests, and I would always still end up with As and Bs. In High School I was basically seen as a smart-yet-lazy slacker who *somehow* got better grades than my friends who remembered to do their homework or study in advance. So... I dunno.
aurora.the.borealis I have a asd/ adhd or more likely add and I’m just very intelligent 143 in IQ so what I’ve been told is that my intelligence has masked my symptoms though done nothing as to exhaustion to all the extra compensation necessary thus easily overextended.
I've read and seen videos that for sure say ADD/ADHD does NOT affect Intelligence very interesting because that would mean that even some of the best scientists to ever live might've even had this condition (einstein?)
Me too i was very good at school yet done my homework 5 mins before And in high school i did nothing actually but yet managed my self out of it It was hard to study without zoning out actually.. idk maybe its ADD I'm skeptical bc its hard to diagnose.. The resl problem here is that there is no psychologist in my city Not a single one
You're doing such an amazing thing! For years I thought I knew what ADHD is, but I only knew stereotypes... Thought I was just melancholic or chronically depressed, or just an alien for years. Now I'm down the ADHD rabbit hole, considering getting tested. You're the first person talking about being slow. Thank you.
I had a sixth-grade teacher who diagnosed me with ADD, but he thought I was already so reserved and didn't want to exacerbate that more with the stigma of "special ed". So they held me back a year, instead of doing anything directly about it. At 68 I do have experience of things I know I've heard, but as you say, my brain didn't quite absorb it, and it's almost as if I wasn't aware. Thanx. You've reminded me of tendencies I still have because of ADD. There's advantages to be had in the challenges, for instance, slow thinkers are deeper thinkers.
This has been me my entire life. Im unemployed and so afraid to start working again because I know Id perform so poorly and my managers would think I was an idiot.
In America adhd is covered under the disability act employers have to provide accommodations for you... bet if your in the uk could ask for some accommodations too.
Haha sometimes i forget the names of my friends, like friends i have known for a while. Makes for awkward conversation, "Hey there ... uh um errr.. friend?"
I forget my own children's names daily ... I often say to my partner "what's that one called again?" 🤦🏽 as I'm going through all 6 of my kids names in my head and getting confused 😅😅
This resonates so much.. I was diagnosed nearly 14 years ago and it’s not something I think about much anymore, but so much of this list hits home. Especially the memory issues; struggling to remember names, struggling to recall what I did when somebody asks how my day was, losing focus really easily watching a movie/listening to a podcast (and having to rewind loads). Also misplacing stuff and being serially late/disorganised generally. All stuff that’s pointed out, by co-workers, by my girlfriend etc. but I forget that it’s pretty typical stuff for someone with ADD/ADHD. I think it can be easy to look past as an adult partly because the negatives stand out ten fold when you’re a kid/a teenager and still in school. If you’re lucky, you come into adulthood and find your place a little bit more. Really nice to hear you talk about it and to be able to relate!
A lot of what you said seems to resonate with me, im not diagnosed with any mental illness but have struggled mentally a lot for most my life. This video has helped me decide to get a screening
I do that and I also have a Playlist of videos that I watched halfway but got too distracted to actually finish but still wanna finish them I'll just get around to it eventually lol.
fr and i only remembered how often i say that when he said it my memory is so shit everyone points it out and my friends point out how dumb i am and how i never followed instructions
Recently I discovered I had ADHD. At first I questioned it a lot, but then at one point I decided to take a bunch of difficult courses this year and it has really made me realize that you can't just power through ADHD. There are a LOT of things you can't do like normal people. I thought if I fixed everything and gave myself structure and just tried harder I'd somehow be able to fix it, but boy was I wrong. I grew up feeling this way too; I was extremely disorganized, but no matter what I did I just couldn't seem to stay focused the same way other kids could and it... Honestly made me incredibly self-conscious. Now I actively avoid situations in which I can be singled out (I stopped microwaving my ramen at school because one of the cafeteria ladies called me "noodle girl" once.) I'd also fixate a LOT on reading books. So much so that I was constantly told off for reading in class. I used to be a pretty good student, and I still feel like I could be, but I have so many things in my life now and I don't understand how some people can just juggle those things. I dunno. Feels like I'm constantly banging my head against a wall. It sucks.
That dreadful feeling of knowing and being aware that you are very smart, you comprehend easily most of things and the year course doesn't look too stressful as others see it... but then, you can't even do the easiest things: focus, and not get so bored easily. Such a shame. Had a 9,2/10 last year and felt like I could've done better, such as not studying the night before the exam day and organising better, even tho I knew everything was incredibly easy.
I passed a calculus course in first year of university without even looking at every chapter. It was one of the first courses in year one. After a couple months go by, I missed so much information from courses that I couldn't get myself to do even little amounts of homework for, that I ended up failing too many courses to pass my first year. I dropped out of uni and am now starting to face the same problems in second year of college. I really should start catching up with some things before it's too late. My grandfather would be so disappointed if I fail this too.
My personnal technique in uni : -Make coffee and biscuits -Go to class -Offer coffee and biscuits to my best friend so that she writes good notes and pays attention in my stead -Have ger explain the course to me a few days before -Learn from her notes -Pass the exam Never got the best grades but still managed to pass, so well
I’ve recently been diagnosed and in my late 40s - it’s been quite empowering to be honest as it’s helped draw a line under a lot of negative experiences like school, previous jobs, relationships and I kind of feel vindicated now. It’s helped me discover and play to my strengths and pick my battles and a result I feel so much happier in my own skin. I advise anyone who has even the slightest inkling to go get help - it might just change your life 👍
Your video just described me perfectly. I'm 55 and believe I have inattentive adhd. Have only been diagnosed with long term (6 years or more at a time) low grade depression, which I always thought was not the whole story
I was diagnosed a few weeks ago, and a little worried that they might have made a mistake... This group session with people that were also recently diagnosed for AD(H)D gave me doubts because I couldn’t relate to some of their symptoms, like being impulsive which I later found is an ADHD symptom and not ADD. Or being distracted because of your surroundings, most of the time I didn’t really notice what was happening around me because I was in my own thoughts. I could however relate to everything in this video and it made me feel a lot better about my diagnoses
I'm so confused, i was diagnosed with bpd, GAD & MDD about 6 years ago. Now we're not sure about the bpd, cause some of the symptoms i have fit perfectly into bpd but other things just don't line up. Then my therapist suspected that i could have been misdiagnosed and that i may actually be on the autism spectrum (apparently autism and bpd get mixed up a lot because they share lots symptoms and some behavioural patterns). We then ruled out autism for several reasons and i then went on to think it might be cptsd??? But nah.. didn't really make sense either. I've looked into adhd for a while now and now that seems to be making more and more sense to aswell. GEEZ. It's so confusing because it feels like i've got a bit of everything, but nothing really adds up to 100% and nothing seems to really put the finger on it. So many mental disorders have very all similar, but different symptoms at the same time. It's so hard to tell which is which. Also my symptoms constantly change over time, so i feel like i never really now what's actually going on. Then again, i feel like a fraud and think i'm just overly dramatic and am actually completely fine. Maybe i'm just a little retarded (i don't mean this to be offensive i have actually thought about that aswell). I have no idea what is wrong with me
@@mo0dijudy415 same diagnoses and I can relate 🤔 I don’t know how I would feel if I found out it’s something else because I’ve already accepted having BPD 😭 I’m getting tested for AD(H)D just in case. Idk what’s wrong with me either 😂
I was recently diagnosed with inattentive ADHD after 6 months of research. This video is partly where it started and made me so convinced I had to reach out to my Doctor. Now my mom and my siblings are gonna get help as well. Thank you for sharing information about this "hidden" ADHD-subtype.
Sometimes, when people are talking to me, it goes in one ear, and my brain doesn't catch it as it floats out the other ear. I'm not even thinking about anything else. I just miss what people say.
Spent entire childhood daydreaming, very sensitive child, introverted, always finally get things months after everyone else...I pretty much check all the boxes.
ADD isn’t a term anymore it’s been combined with adhd. The response time isn’t always true, especially if you have a combination of the two hyperactive and inattentive which I do. Meanwhile, if there’s something you EXTREMELY enjoy or find interesting, I find that I can take in complicated information a lot easier, quit easily actually. But with normal things it’s really hard, it’s kind of sad sometimes because I don’t think people quite understand the degree of these things and they just assume you’re just lazy or actually stupid. It can really hurt, like a lot.
I’ve been recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 46 after my daughter was! I was missed at school as i wasn’t naughty the same as you and I always struggled exactly the same as you with every everything you have detailed
I’m not gonna lie, watching this video made me want to cry because everything you mentioned I have and I know I have it, and this really made me feel like not alone with this problem
I don't know, nor need to, how old you are, but I've known for 60 of my 68 years that I was different from everyone else around me. I was always looked on by other adults (my parents' peers) as "that weird little XXX kid." Other kids weren't better about it than adults; they'd get so annoyed when I'd just want to go off and sit under a tree and read, not play "Army" with them, or "Cops and Robbers," or "Cowboys and Indians" (this was back in the 1950s and early 60s). To this day, I still hate violence in any form whatsoever. There were thousands of other things over the decades, and when I retired in 2016, it really helped, because there were no more coworkers ragging and nagging at me to get things done on THEIR time schedule, and no reason to go anywhere if I didn't/don't want to (and there are many, many times when I don't want to go out the door!) I find noisy, crowded situations unbearable, so again, since I don't have to go places, mostly, I tend to stay home in my quiet, sweet little apartment.
same i thought i had adhd for ages but only related to some of them now i watched this and i relate so hard to all of them my whole family told me i dont have it well fuck them
That feeling when you're undiagnosed and every single sign is something you struggle with. It's so weird explaining to people how even watching a 10 minute long video on UA-cam requires me to pause 3 times. This is also one of the reasons why I won't ever get TikTok, it feels like the even shorter than UA-cam format would feed into my instant gratification/boredom cycle and make my attention span gradually even worse.
I'm 28 and been living with it my whole life and never knew! I always felt different and couldn't retain info like you said and had to cheat some to get by in school and I'm hyper sensitive to music and all the other stuff you've pointed out. I need to see a doctor bad but can't afford it and my parents were on drugs all my childhood and never tested for these things back then. Smh
I’m showing this to my therapist. You explained my symptoms better than I could have ever imagined. I just today started add meds and have realized how profoundly different my outlook on life is just because I feel I can live up to my own expectations.
I wasn’t diagnosed until my late 20s, though I started to suspect I had inattentive-type ADHD when I spent a couple years teaching and had a few students who were diagnosed. It wasn’t until I started struggling at work that I sought help. And it’s easy to see why it was missed. My mom’s one of those who doesn’t really believe ADHD exists (probably because she has a lot of signs of ADHD as well and thinks it’s “normal”). I wasn’t behind socially (though a bit introverted) and did well in school. But my teachers constantly complained about me being distracted and daydreaming. I’d either spend triple the time required on assignments or wait until the night before to write them in a flurry of motivated panic. Being late for everything was (is) practically a personality trait. I’d start and change hobbies like changing clothes, because I’d get bored or frustrated. And I had so much trouble staying organized... my mom had to actively teach me organizational skills so that I’d remember assignments and not lose things (skills like color-coding my course notebooks, religiously filing things, keeping a day planner starting in 3rd grade, assigning important items like shoes and backpacks to a location where they always were so I didn’t have to look for them, and so on). The problem is, my Mom kept such an iron fist over my life that when I was suddenly on my own in college, I crashed and burned. And then I figured out how to get by... only to crash and burn again in my first career. And again after my first semester of law school. And again at my first legal job. Each time, I’d be fine for a couple of months, finally get overwhelmed by my lack of organization, attention to detail, and time management skills, burn out, struggle for months, then figure out a new system to make it work. Finally the pattern was enough that I started seeking help. Though it was the anxiety and panic and depression that drove me to the therapist at first. Still struggling though. Finding a good ADHD therapist as an adult is rough. My coping mechanisms are better now, but I still feel like I’m hurling myself from one precarious position to another... waiting for my inattentiveness to overwhelm me again. And I’m just... so... slow. Everything takes me so much time. I hate it.
“One precarious position to another.” Yep. I can sustain them longer as I get older, but the CV is a laundry list of “new”-new titles, new industries, propelled along by drama and cataclysmic changes.
@@Reagan._.04 but you have the NEED to finish it bc it is quiet interesting even tho your ADHD doesn't say so. So you end up reading the whole thing but literally understand nothing.
Actually as a person diagnosed with ADD I never found being late a problem inside of school and it always seemed like I had to do things early and get places faster
Me too. My brain would much prefer me to panic for a day before hand and do nothing EXCEPT ruminate about the fact I have an appointment at 10am the next morning. I'd be awake all night and absolutely knackered. I'd be so done by about 8am that I would simply go and wait there for two hours for the appointment to come round. Due to this phenomenon, I am rarely ever late.
The more I research the experiences of people that are adhd and from what specialists say about the symptoms of adhd make me feel like I have always had this as well. Wow I’m 48 and wonder if I had been properly diagnosed as a child how I might have avoided so much suffering. Appreciate these videos thank you.
I've been diagnosed with depression at 17 and with ADD at 35. I'm 42 now and i've Been on antidepressants since i was 18 and stopped taking them last year. Just recently discovered, or accepted, how much ADD has been the cause of a lot of my problems. I always thought of it as something i learned to live with and kind of swept it un der the carpet, the depression was what made me suffer so i focused on that. But it was because of the ADD that was wearing me out. Overthinking everything, low stress tolerance, troubles keeping a job or finishing a study or a relationship etc.... i recently found help and knowing how my brain works made me more relaxed and made me proud of myself when i used to look at myself as a failure. The one thing to remember is we have to work harder but it's usually unnoticed by people so i hope everybody gives themselfes the credits for their hard work💪Greets from the Netherlands!
I first discovered I relate to people with ADHD when someone talked about their experience on Twitter. Then I did some research and reached out to the ADHD community and I think there is a chance I might have ADD myself, but in all honesty, I can't help but feel like maybe I'm over-exaggarating and looking for excuses for laziness and incompetence and immaturity. I'd like to reach out for help, but I'm scared I'm making it all up and this is just the way I am and I should just suck it up and work harder lol
I feel the exact same. I keep going through phases were I do think I have it and don't. I relate so much sometimes and others times don't as much. I have some symptoms weaker than it should be or stronger than should be. I'm pretty confused but there's no harm in checking with a professional I guess...
For the people with imposter syndrome and the feeling of faking: calculate your adhd-tax, how much does it cost you? i had 200€ late fees in my local library alone - pushing exams and prolonging my studies costs me another year of living expenses each time. i like when someone said: lazy people want it easier, while my way makes everything harder. sometimes i invest hours and days to motivate myself to do a 5 minute task
Its such a battle of being like no i can do it and then everything starts falling in place, Then next thing everything just crumbles for no reason Im exhuasted from it
I was diagnosed at 21. My concentration issues had never been much of an issue until my last years of high school where the workload was incredibly intense, as my high IQ apparently allowed me to compensate prior to that. At the same time I struggled really badly with anxiety, depression and BPD so my concentration difficulties were just blamed on those, until 4 years after my initial diagnoses where my mental health had improved incredibly, but my concentration and organisational abilities were still fucked. Finally got diagnosed, explains so much of my life of struggling with recall and memory all the time, how I can never concentrate when I'm bored - and even still when I'm neutral...how forgetful and late I am, list goes on endlessly!
Not sure how I stumbled across your videos but I tick so many of these boxes, I have worried for years that I have early onset of dementia but now I know, I'm going to seek professional help in order to have peace of mind. Such a relief, thank you!
Hey to anyone who has to rewatch the video try reading the comments while you watch it and you’ll get some of it coming through and you know what’s going on still :)
For years, I thought that something was wrong with me because I could never focus, I always forgot what I was doing a second ago, and I’d have to ask people to repeat what they said all the time. I was a pretty chill kid growing up, so I’m assuming that teachers didn’t care enough about that kid who was probably just lazy and they turned their focus to classmates who were actually impairing the ability of other students to learn. I’ve tried so hard to hide my symptoms, so a lot of people assume that I’ve got everything together and that I’m one of the smarter people in my grade. I’ve been told by some of my classmates that I’m “one of the only people who knows what they’re doing” in my history class, and whenever they say something like that, I’m overrun with an intense feeling of guilt and shame, because while I generally do alright on tests, it takes countless alarms on my phone and general precautions in order to force myself to stay focused on homework, and even then, it’s not a guarantee that I’ll actually do it. I’ve also tried to hide the fact that I can’t remember things that people have literally just said, which usually causes me to just laugh it off and make it seem like I totally know what they just said. This sometimes backfires, but it’s a strategy that I’ve refined over time. For example, if my mom told me to go ######## ## ####, I’ll walk halfway up the stairs, then sit on the steps and try to remember what ######## ## #### was. I think the one benefit from this is that I consider myself a lover of making up stories in my head. Whenever I’d space out, I’d be imagining fairies coming to my desk and befriending me, or some prince bursting into my classroom to save me from Algebra, and this love of stories has translated to a love of writing. Even if I can’t focus long enough to get myself sitting to read or write for a prolonged period of time (something I frequently shame myself for), I still value those made up adventures in my head. I somewhat resent my mother throughout this soul searching process, because she noticed symptoms and knew about genetic factors on both sides of family that would make it possible for me to have ADD, but she only told me two years ago in casual conversation that I’m “a little ADD”, and didn’t expect me to be completely bamboozled by the fact that it literally explains all of my biggest insecurities that I’ve been experiencing for as long as I can remember. I just told her a few days ago how upset it makes me that I feel like I’m dumber or lazier than the rest of my peers during a heated argument, and now that I’ve brought up the situation with the therapist I see for issues related to anxiety, she’s going to have me take a simple checklist, and if I score high, she’ll have me screened and I could get a diagnosis and proper treatment. It’s been pretty emotional, because even though it’s technically a self-diagnosis at this stage, I’ve been so messed up in this way for so long that I really want to finally learn that it’s not my fault that my brain is a crow loose in a jewelry store
30 years after my daughter was tested I found out that I too had ADD and that she got it from me. Needless to say it was a lot to take in. On the one hand I finally found out why I was the way I was and then I 'passed it on' to my child! It took everything within me to not completely break down crying in the doctor's office. However, the one positive thing is that because of what I went through and the many lessons and tips I learnt over the years I can now help my little girl NOT to go through what I went through as a child- it wasn't good at all. I'm glad I found your channel. Keep up the good work!
Hi guys I have a lot of these symptoms and I'm really sensitive to stress but am in my element under pressure, is that something you guys can relate to thanks!
Yesterday I walked into college holding a cup of coffee, put it down to sanitise my hands, went to go to do the thing I went to college for, and then 5 min later I was like ‘hey wasn’t I holding coffee? Where did it go?’
I remember back in school when the teacher is teaching I have to listen and almost write whatever I can about what he is saying or else I begin to space out and day dream.
I love how your video is just long enough to provide enough interesting information, but also not too long to fit in the short attention span of the possible ADD people watching this !
I relate to ALL of them. I didn’t even have “ADHD” in my radar until last year. I finally have an ADHD Assessment appt next month and looking forward to get some answers. Regardless of whether I do have it or not.
"Number 6. Timing and deadlines....." Me: Oh that's interesting, I wonder if that has something to do with the way I...." Me: suddenly realize I was so engrossed in my thoughts on number 6 that I missed Number 7 entirely and have to back up to hear what it was. Facepalm
Didn’t know the sensitivity to stimuli was even an adhd symptom. But just being diagnosed earlier this week, it makes sense. When I go to a loud concert or party of some sort, and I get close to the music, it is as if I can literally feel my ears being deafened from the sheer force of the music.
Man, I really wish I discovered this channel sooner. It would have helped me out so much with my life struggles. I spent years and years wondering what was wrong with me but when I finally watched an ADHD video that randomly popped up on UA-cam, suddenly everything made sense. I found this channel and even though I’m a woman, this channel has been the most relatable channel in terms of being relatable so far. It’s crazy to think now how many of my quirks that I thought were just “me” things were due to ADHD. Thank you for your work, it has helped me understand myself better and I’m working on treating myself.
Sorry, what was that? I zoned out and missed the video. On the plus side it gave me chance to decide what I’m having for dinner tonight and what I’m going to watch on Netflix 👍
I've been learning about ADHD these days, and I think I fit most of the symptoms. Everything makes much more sense. I've always wondered why I am like this, and always felt that something was wrong with me. I think it is time for me to visit a psychiatrist.
Wow. I related to every sign except time management. I’m obsessed about being on time. But that could be my upbringing. Thank you for this video. I’m 29 and just now looking into ADD being a possibility for me.
Thank you so much for this! Most people talk about ADHD and I always thought: “this feels only KINDA right”. But THIS makes much more sense to me. Now I finally know where to look for information ^^ thank you, you are my official hero of the day! 💛💛
I got diagnosed about a month ago, I am 22, I thought I had it back when I was 15, but forgot about it and never got checked out until recently.xD I joined support groups.. and I now know... there are a bunch of people just like me! I always felt so alone, like I’m weird.. well, I found my group of weird.xD I took meds for the first time... and for the first time in my life, I felt calm and still, my mind was quiet, which was new and weird.. I didn’t feel the need to move around. It was all so nice, before I felt and acted like I was on crack.xD
Mohamed Adan from my experience, it would’ve helped tremendously.. in school I lacked attention and motivation, I spent my time writing and drawing rather than working. After taking them, I was able to focus.. and oddly made me miss homework. xD which comes down to, I wish I was diagnosed sooner! Things would’ve been so different.. again, this is for me, it could be different for others!
I'm just coming to the end of my 2.5yr long assessment (well, hopefully) so I'm about to find out if I definitely have ADHD or not, the more I learn about the symptoms the more sure I am that I have it. Almost all of the things you mentioned I can relate to, when you talked about slower reflexes I nearly cried! I worked for a company for years as a costume maker, my work was impeccable... but I was much slower than everyone else, something my manager told me multiple times. I worked as fast as I physically could, but the faster I worked the more mistakes I made (some pretty big ones). It's something I've never been able to change regardless of the job, costume/admin/office work, and every boss has complained about how slow I am compared to other people. It's both comforting and frustrating to learn that ADHD could be the reason for this.
I'm 46, was diagnosed last year. I feel angry at myself and frustrated that I didn't realize earlier in my life what was going on. The healing starts now.
Didn’t find out before I was 33. Which is very recently! This year actually. It was complicated because when I was a teen they gave me the ADD diagnosis, then suddenly out of nowhere they retracted it and replaced it with aspergers. I’ve lived a huge portion of my life in confusion and heavy depression because being around people cost me a lot of energy. And I take in absolutely every small little thing after social interactions, causing me to even use more energy, I overthink it, analyze the hell out of it. Too sensitive to everything. So I closed myself away. I knew my passion and limited interests, yet, I couldn’t do them! I couldn’t sit down and draw because I couldn’t focus, I couldn’t enjoy it. I didn’t understand. I’ve been what I call an “observer” most of my life, because I couldn’t live and interact, I could only observe and exist. Back when they diagnosed me they apparently believed Aspergers and ADD couldn’t co-exist. And as a result I suffered! Almost, killed me, literally. So earlier this year I got myself re-diagnosed for both. I was so close to killing myself that I had to do something before it was too late. The medicine saved me, but at the same time, I’m thinking, I’m 33 years old and I haven’t been allowed to grow and live, I feel like I’ve started life at 33 and I have barely over half of my life left. I learn more in a month now, than what I did over a year without the medicine. Who’s fault is it? The “professionals” that diagnosed me as a kid? Or simply nobody? Personally I feel they took away my life by making such a huge obvious error! That error had enormous consequences, it almost took my life.
Dude. Every one of your videos is spot on. Like me - you’re a man with the inattentive type ADHD, and, as you said, that’s less common than the hyperactive form. Hearing your perspective is a clear reminder that I’m not alone. It’s also a good way to learn about how others like me treat their ADHD. With the many options and philosophies out there about how treatment is best done it’s been useful hearing your perspective. Thanks
Thanks for posting this video I can relate to everything you're saying. Always put my struggles down to dyslexia and since finding out about ADHD really made a lot of sense. Am nervously awaiting results from my assessment tomorrow!😬
I’m a few years late but I’m glad I’m not alone. Struggled with this all my life! I’m approaching 30 y/o now and it has been such a nuisance to drudge through. I’ve always been less social than the average person because I know it takes more effort and embarrassment to fight through ADD to connect with people. Work has been hard as well since I know underperformance is inevitable and I hate disappointing others. It’s comforting to know other people face these things!
Thank you for making this video. I'm sending this to my husband. I've tried to explain what my ADHD is like and I seem to fail at finding the words. This is so helpful.
This was 99% spot on for me apart from auditory hypersensitivity. My hypersensitivity has always related more to temperature and how my clothes feel. I couldn’t stand it when my Mum would put me in these itchy jumpers 😖.
Yep, I just can NOT retain names xD and my time blindness has always been a major struggle! I can pay attention in class, but only because I learned how to trick myself into hyper focusing on the lecture. Unfortunately, that doesn't seem to work as well in conversations or on the job. My emotions and senses are definitely a lot more sensitive too.
It 's good to have a video of signs , small details that although they are present in ADHD not many people mention them or talk about them in popular videos
Thank you for these excellent videos! You are so good at communicating this and you do it with a loving, non-judgmental voice. That makes a huge difference... Doug
I think I have the in attentive type of ADHD. It is so painful for me to sit down and begin the notes I need to write for work and this has caused me a lot of pain. Any suggestions welcome
I really alternate between slow and fast thinking, and sometimes I find it hard to think altogether. Also I didn’t realise listening to instructions was part of this?! God forbid the pe teacher asked me to demonstrate a drill. They’ve always been angry w me bc I do really well in school, so they are confused that I can’t do it. My secret for good grades: have anxiety also that shames you into working
Might be a good strategy for grades, but I would recommend against it in the long run. Being under stress over a long time, when you deal worse with stress than neurotypical people, makes it more likely to develop co-morbidities such as anxieties and depression, but also conditions like CFS/ME. I was at a recreational center where there was a CFS/ME group of 12 people. 8 of them were women who had ADHD and not a single one of them had taken medication for it. I doubt this was random. These women all agreed they had pushed themselves too hard in stressful environments right before they developed CFS/ME. I think it affects women more because women push themselves harder due to being more sensitive to social pressure. Take care of yourself first. What good are those grades if you end up with a chronic condition that makes it impossible to do any form of work. Edit: and also you say your anxiety has pushed you into working hard, but could it not also be that working hard and pushing yourself have given you anxieties?
Ah it feels so hard to diagnose. I'm sure a lot of these symptoms are common in people separately, but together, it's very damning. I'm struggling immensely with finding a diagnosis right now because so many of these symptoms overlap with other disorders like anxiety and depression. I meet the criteria for every single thing you listed (and for most adult ADHD screens I take) but it seems like most professionals won't diagnose it until they can rule out everything else. That's certainly happened in my case. I don't want to assume I have ADHD when I've been told otherwise but honestly... when I hear the list of ADHD symptoms, it feels like lock and key.
ADHD was suggested to me by a psychologist who I was talking to about anxiety & cPTSD issues. I am 52 yrs old & this new insight into myself pretty well answers any questions I had. It feels like a very important part of who I am has been hidden from me. My whole family could win an award for acting normal & it's not something I am proud of at all. Appearing normal is my family of origin's primary goal in life & let's face it, society demands we appear normal & hide our inner turmoil.
Sorry about the music - I can't change it now.
ADHD Management thanks for. knowing i wouldn’t pay attention until then
Signs of what?
@@bobross3080 of ADHD! 😂
thanks
Mvp
OMG. Ppl at work was always like "How was your weekend?" & I could NOT recall to save my life. Just like well shit . what did I do this weekend.
Me too! I never thought this was an adhd thing until now. Its like, I go blank and for the life of me I cannot remember and my husband has to help jog my memory.
Omg. I can totally relate. While my friends tell me what all they ate during weekend I couldn’t even remember what I had for breakfast that day.
This just happened to me today. It happens every time someone asks me that.
Kingdomgirl 3333 it happened to me today too 😂 !
And as your just about to go to sleep you’ll remember and just think “oh yeah”
Daydreaming was always more exciting than school.
Me to. I always day dream out the window sitting in class when I was in school. I hated school. Thought it was useless
I would look at the board and daydream and then somebody points out that the teacher moved to the other side of the room and to pay attention
More engaging too
True lol
Yeah same
Not a slow learner. Everybody always said I was really smart. Just could never get my work done. Also did really poorly on standardized tests because they were timed.
ME TOOO OMG, I remember I was in class having to write an essay about which cereal was better than the other (Cheerios/Trix) and I struggled a lot trying to decide between those cereals. I did alright on the essay but at least I got to decide. I chose Cheerios because they’re good for your heart and anyone can eat them, not like Trix cuz they’re just for kids.
Big same
I do good on timed test, mostly because I rush but I still average A's on em because I'm a fast thinker
i did great on the tests, but i never did the work. i couldn’t handle having to get work and getting it done in 15 minutes. or having to do a whole bunch of homework.
Yeah I have been medically diagnosed with adhd that's usually how it went
Listening to a stranger on the internet describe your entire life is really surreal. Never even considered the possibility of me having ADHD until recently, I was always told that people with ADHD were always rambunctious and couldn't sit still. I was nothing like that, I was always mellow and daydreaming. I tried to get treated for different anxiety disorders, it never worked out. It was so frustrating knowing something was wrong but nobody could figure it out, teachers, parents, counselors, hell even doctors. Thanks for making this video, I'm gonna bring this newly discovered info to my doctor to get evaluated, I think I may have found out whats actually wrong with me. I wish more people knew about this stuff
This seems pretty bang-on for me as well. The only thing I am afraid of, is that I feel I fall in between 2 categories. Not completely IADHD, not completely normal. Or something. I might have to stand up for myself on this one some times, and harder, without trying to force the diagnosis to fit in 'that' box. What did it do for you? I don't think of it as wrong, but as different.
@@Jejking I think it helps to remember ADHD is a spectrum! Some have more extreme symptoms and some have more mild symptoms, also if you are an adult, chances are you are used to masking your symptoms.
Diagnosis+therapy(!) doesn't have to squeeze you in a box, for me it was more like getting a map so I wouldn't always feel completely lost in life😅
All these year's until now. This video is a lifesaver. It took a Stanger to tell me my life story 😢 everything I've been struggling with all my life 😢 I will definitely take this up with my doctor. Very well put together video that saved my life 🙏🏼
Me too, I've never been hyperactive even when I was little so I never thought I could have ADHD but I had never heard of ADD or Inattentive type, now that one I can relate to and it explains so much of what I've been feeling, it all makes sense now and I'm glad to have the reason why my brain isn't normal
@@webbedshadow2601 ADD is a former name for Inattentive ADHD, it is not used anymore. There are three types of ADHD: hyperactive, inattentive and the most frequent one (~67%), combined. And, just like ASD, ADHD is a spectrum. Also thoroughly research ASD, just in case.
3:12 1. Frequent daydreaming
3:34 2. Appearing spaced-out
3:44 3. stimulus hypersensitivity
4:21 3. (Again?) slower thinking processes
5:02 4. slower response time
5:27 5. working memory impairment
5:59 6. time blindness
6:16 7. Zoning out
6:50 8. trouble with instructions
7:12 9. low stress tolerance
7:40 10. Can't cope with complicated stuff
8:19 Bonus: Co-morbid depression
Thank you
I have all of this and my mom said she's not gonna get me checked by the doctor 🤡🤡🤡
@@Nana-rv5uc ask someone else to get you there then 😋
Okay so what's the difference between somebody with ADHD and somebody who simply has a low IQ? All the symptoms seem identical.
@@switchlaserflip9243 not sure specifically but Bill Gates has adhd so I know there isn’t a real correlation there.
How many of you spaced out, started the video again and started to read the comments below and started the video again? Yip I played the video more than 3 times and paused it a few times. I watched the video though.
already doing it
Apped with friends, scrolled, went to another website, had to replay lots of times :D
When I read a book I will read two pages then realized I had spaced out and have to go back and read it again.
.... Isn't that just normal 🥺
Yeah, but then again I do that with almost every video.
I was just finally diagnosed with ADD...at 70 years old. That explains all that happened and didn’t happen in my life.
I'm so sorry! But at least you get some peace knowing why the things happened the way it happened
I'm 20, I'm going to talk with my doctor tomorrow because is highly likely I have ADD since I was very, very young. Many behaviours that my anxiety (i was diagnosed generalized anxiety) could not explain all, and I always thought it just was because I was stupid
But from some time around, I have the highly suspicion that what I have is ADD. My forgetfulness is too extreme to just being normal, I can't focus at all in any kind of aspect, having a lot of trouble speaking with people because I cannot recall what they were saying... And even when I know it's an important thing (like doctors appointment) that I have to remember, I forget as soon as I walk through the door. Among many many other things, every single thing in this video as well, have been my behaviour since I have memory... Which actually I can only remember from 7 and up
Arthur, I'm so sorry. Been very down because I'm 39 this year and I have spent so many years not knowing why my life wasn't amounting to anything.
Congratulations on your diagnosis, and I'm sorry it took that long
Hi I'm 58. I'm on medikinet. Been married twice. I'm quicker than a teenager. We will allways be young. We are the chosen ones. Ppl are boring
I can't imagine living so many years not knowing, wondering what's up with you. I got diagnosed at 27 and even I grieve for the time I spent thinking I was broken.
YES about the instructions!! My boss could tell me 10 times how to do something but I find myself just nodding along. I CANNOT remember how to do something unless I actually do it! If it’s written down, at least I can refer back to it but I still struggle
Yes! I need instructions to be written down and then I also need the time to analyze the instructions which takes me quite some time. When I finally understand what to do I tend to do a good job. But getting to the point where I am actually understanding what is needed is very difficult especially is there are multiple steps involved.
Always bring a notepad every time you talk to the boss
@@maleem4421you just described my situation with work. I taught I was the only person who had this problem.
I ALWAYS have to have a list/written instructions to refer back to several times because it just doesn’t stick..
Learn by doing - absolutely resonates with me. Also phone numbers and pins. I remember only the pattern on the keypad. If someone asked me to quote digits, I wouldn't be able to most of the time. I also have a theory of the critical brain connection between handwriting, processing, and memory. Since the introduction of keyboards and screens, my ability to absorb anything that way has been very ineffective. I need paper and pens, and the tactile experience if I'm doing serious work. After that, it can be transcribed to a screen. I don't know if that's an exclusively ADHD thing, but when I've ever mentioned it I'm often given a puzzled look.
I will never forget the day I googled “daydreaming disorders”. I didn’t know about adhd and I started to think all the other symptoms were just a part of my personality so it never occurred to me that it could be that. but the daydreaming part was weird so I spent hours researching causes for constant daydreaming and I also thought I had Alzheimer’s. Self diagnosing is a dangerous game lol. Whole time I had adhd
JJAJJAJAJAJAJ that's quite funny tho
Same here, i even thought i have an INFP personality type
After more research iknew the difference
@@nilenninju4709 well it's a personality type not a disorder
Is the treatment helping?
I found maladaptive daydreaming by researching this lol
I am 41 yrs old and only recently been diagnosed. It makes me sad because my whole life I knew there was something wrong but did not know what it was. It has affected my life greatly. It is so nice to hear you talk about all these signs that I have and know that I am not alone. I also was the shy daydreaming zoned out mid conversation child/teen. It affected my job and my self-esteem, and if I had been diagnosed earlier, I think I would be in a very different place in life now. Anyway thank you so much for posting this and I hope you are doing well
Not only that, but as you said, I was treated for anxiety and depression and I felt that the Dr's were getting frustrated with me because none of the medications they gave me worked and they woukd say we have tried you on everything. I felt like they thought I was pretending. Looking for attention but once I got on adhd medications, my depression became almost insignificant.
Me to 😢 Iam diagnosed with add because my child is tested with it and they told me mostly is genetic, so i tested and Iam now diagnosed with add.. My life and childhood went away with depressions shyness , failure's and so on 😢
me too at 37 years old. but are are still very young and can do many great things in life
A diagnosis later in life is a difficult thing to hear, but it can also be very freeing. Like a great weight being lifted. Knowing makes it possible to recognize what's going on. Like if you find yourself in a negative thought spiral. It becomes a little easier to pull yourself out of it.
I've found it's best to work towards what could be rather than dwell what could have been. The woulda, coulda, shoulda will almost always lead to a spiral for me. So I'm trying concentrate on this step of my journey and the next steps to come.
I tick every box lol. Not been tested
“You’re always daydreaming” Me, slowly zoning out and snapping back: w-what?
Same
SAME
SAME
Ikr😑
Yup!!
I remember in school I would say to myself that “I’m going to concentrate this lesson” start listening to the teacher when all of a sudden I come to and realise I’m staring at the wall and everyone round me is doing work. So I have to lean into the guy next to me and ask “what are we doing?” Every day.
Funny thing for me is the guy next to me would be zoned out too😂🤣
Jupp!
SAME
I hate being the "what are we doing" person, but I've never been able to break the cycle.
Def increased boredom as well as not enough mentally challenging at least at first so mind wondered off which is how I first ended up reading everything 5 times because the teacher insisted I couldn’t be done and then continued reading just to do anything rather than just sit there alt just spaced out if not interesting enough book.
I literally have a bachelors degree from asking the guy next to me what we are doing
Its stigma too because everyone claims to have ADHD even when they do not and the people who actually have it don't talk about it because we try to not use it as an excuse even though it may be the primary cause of a lot of issues.
And even if ... "Don't only children have that?" "That disorder's just made up to sell even more pills!" yeah as if I act like a scatterbrain voluntarily.
Very true. People get distracted for a second and say “OMG I’m SO ADD” but they’re not the ones staying late at work 3 hours because they can’t accomplish their job tasks in a timely manner.
exactly, I have diagnosed adhd
Shadow Mystery to be honest, I was diagnosed as a kid and I’m a little sceptical. Not that brains function differently but calling it a “disorder” seems a little strange to me. Given the right environment people with adhd can excel. They just don’t fit into the standard “order”.
Me literally today hyper focused like a mofo.
Thank you for this. I always felt I had a mild case of ADD, not ADHD. There's tons out there on the hyperactive part, but that was never me. I'm low energy actually, mostly driven by the depression. This really helps to explain a lot.
Remember that hyperactivity can be internal and not always external
A lot of us were undiagnosed as kids which is really hard. My mother came down on me so so hard for struggling with getting schoolwork done. She was frequently abusive and my school difficulties were usually what set her off. At one point my grandmother told her that she thought I was struggling with focusing, but my mother dismissed it and insisted that I was doing it on purpose or something. I really wish someone would have caught on to what was wrong, but in the early 90s it just wasn't a thing that was commonly looked into. My mother took me to a primary doctor, told them I had an attitude problem, and without even talking to me they stuck me on antidepressants, and that was that.
Sorry man that must have been hard...I also struggle with ADD and I'm in my second year of university...Paying attention in class and getting work done is hell...Medication does help but the symptoms will always be there...The sad thing is that many people still don't understand us to this day even with all the countless studies on the internet...My father even told me that my ADD wasn't real and that I should be more responsible and focus...Can you believe it?? My parents never really bother to try and understand what ADD is like for me...But love and be good to yourself because people without ADD will never understand...
Damn, that doctor should lose his job for dishing out medication in this unprofessional manner
I'm so sorry. As a mom of an adult kid who wasn't diagnosed until adulthood, I really related to this message. I thought my kid was been lazy and not focusing on school work. The doctor also put my kid on anti-depressions in early 2000. I feel so bad now. I've apologized to my kid as an adult(numerous times). If I only knew then what I know now. I don't know if your mom ever apologized but I want to say to you, I'm sorry that the medical community and society let you down. I hope you are doing better now. May God bless you.
"Learning the mulltiplication tables with dad" *hits* (often quite literally) different with adhd
My parents sent me to a psychiatrist when I was a kid who told them that I just didn't like being told what to do and I needed discipline.
Conversations for me are difficult because usually I miss quick snippets vs long drawn out moments. It's like my mind is in and out really quickly, so I can't follow key parts of peoples stories. Like... "Wait, who did you go to dinner with?" "Lori" "Oh.....where again??" "arby's." and then like 5 minutes later it's like... "you said that or she did?" A lot of times I feel really bad about this, and I will hide it. It's like, I can kinda follow the stories, but miss key details. I didn't know a co-worker's husband's name for SO LONG, because I dip in and out of stories so quickly.
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I’m laughing so hard at this! I’m a hairdresser & I do this with my clients! It’s like if there’s too many characters in a story I lose track of who did what & who said what!
@@GreatMindsSeekTruth Im a hairstylist too... and I have been known to write down things we talked about on their client cards....
Damn! This is like someone describing me in conversation a lot of times.
Do you have trouble going to sleep?
my sister likes to tell me her dreams and i hate it because i cannot visualize it, its literal nonsense that my ADHD cannot grasp onto, and i lose all the details so i just end up saying "well... what does your dream mean to you?"
I can't remember names really well, but I can always remember faces.
Thats normal, its because its easier to identify faces rather than names so the brain values remembering faces, not names
Same
I can’t remember either 😂
Me too! So that means I have ADH... What?
I’ve always been that way... I can recognize people instantly but their names take a while (unless they’re more unique, then it’s a little easier)
This is the story of my life:
Time blindness
Following instructions
Spacing out
Low stress tolerance
Emotional imbalance
Avoiding tasks,
Being bored quickly
And most of the others.
I take medication for my Adhd.
How do u feel on it
The ones you stated are most of my symptoms, I have low attention spans, get bored very quickly if something isn't satisfying my dopamine craving, procrastinate on things that aren't immediately enjoyable in favor for more less boring things, very bipolar, im naturally a fast thinker, even for somebody with a normal brain i might say answers faster than them but that means I could have been even faster. Often day dream during boring situations and then half an hour passes and then struggle to go back to what I was day dreaming until I forget it. Getting frustrated very easily is the worst symptom I have because I quit very easily and lash out on the smallest things like somebody asking, hello? When I dont answer for a long time
This sounds so much like me..... But i was diagnosed with bpd... Still not sure what it really is
yesssss holy shit. I have that so bad as well. Its ruined relationships.
I don't take meds 👍
I was just diagnosed with it at the age of 28. I started noticing signs she I was around 15 or 16. When I told my mom she said “but you did well in school.” I had to tell her that it doesn’t determine intelligence. I have a masters degree. I always drift off into daydreaming but I always somehow managed to do well in school.
Same here, I got diagnosed in my 30s and the Doctor said if I did a master I shouldn’t take stimulant meds, but I got non stimulant.
I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder, Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Hey! Yes Predroshrooms
Yes sure of Predroshrooms..Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
This made me feel so sad, especially when you’re talking about the feeling of uselessness I realised I was feeling like complete shit on high school, I thought I’m dumb and I hated myself. I stopped talking to everyone and I was just thinking about killing myself everynight. Last year I started taking medication for anxiety and it helped me a lot, but I realised there was still something else going on with me and a few weeks ago I found out I have add. Thanks for this video so much, it helps to see someone like you talk about what I’m going through.
I felt the same way in hs. I dropped out and have felt more and more now that highschool is a waste of time if you arent trying to go to uni or some shit. Community college doesnt seem to give a shit what my gpa was or how many extracurriculars I did.
I was in the same situation a while back. Severe depression in highschool. Couldn't understand what was wrong with me amoung other things going on at that time. I'm really upset that this is happening with other people. No one should feel like this.
@@heyyou1911 Oh, on that I think you are incorrect. Try getting Pell grants with a very low GPA. That will matter moving to a 4 year school, too. :)
Same with me
I was diagnosed with ADD at the end of my grade 12 year. A random teacher noticed while he was talking to me in a meeting that I was looking at him as he spoke, but he saw me focused on something else. He asked me, did you hear what I said? And I did hear him as he spoke but I completed lost all the information by his question. The interruption made me lose the entire content because ADD effects short term memory. There is a severance in executive function of the brain. So we learn by being shown something repeatedly in steps to be able to covert it to long term information and recall. But once I’ve been shown this way I never forget it and do not make mistakes or have to ask for help. The best advice I can give to parents are if you see your child struggling to follow spoken or written instructions. Understand they do have the intelligence, the confusion comes from not understanding the order in which to do them. Because you over analyze. You second guess and question your ability to understand the question. So you then panic and with memory issues you feel bad asking again. So having someone sit down and do the steps with you provides that confidence needed to follow through
This comment is spot on. I learn best by being shown several times and then having the other walk through it with me. If information is simply relayed to me over speach or even text I have no idea wtf I'm doing and end up just winging it which either works out brilliantly despite tonnes of stress involved, or a complete disaster.
this literally summed me up
No wonder I've always been attracted to visualizations.
Spot on
This video is probably the most accurate depiction of my symptoms I’ve seen, especially as a kid. Part of me is still skeptical though, because I did pretty well in school. I was always seen as weird, really strange, and socially inept for the most part, though. However, I was always that kid who would scribble their homework 5 minutes before class and cram-studied for tests, and I would always still end up with As and Bs. In High School I was basically seen as a smart-yet-lazy slacker who *somehow* got better grades than my friends who remembered to do their homework or study in advance. So... I dunno.
aurora.the.borealis I have a asd/ adhd or more likely add and I’m just very intelligent 143 in IQ so what I’ve been told is that my intelligence has masked my symptoms though done nothing as to exhaustion to all the extra compensation necessary thus easily overextended.
I've read and seen videos that for sure say ADD/ADHD does NOT affect Intelligence very interesting because that would mean that even some of the best scientists to ever live might've even had this condition (einstein?)
Me too i was very good at school yet done my homework 5 mins before
And in high school i did nothing actually but yet managed my self out of it
It was hard to study without zoning out actually.. idk maybe its ADD
I'm skeptical bc its hard to diagnose..
The resl problem here is that there is no psychologist in my city
Not a single one
Well personally know one of the 5 best mathematicians in the World right now and he has both asd AND adhd so def a possibility.
Story of my life!
You're doing such an amazing thing! For years I thought I knew what ADHD is, but I only knew stereotypes... Thought I was just melancholic or chronically depressed, or just an alien for years. Now I'm down the ADHD rabbit hole, considering getting tested. You're the first person talking about being slow. Thank you.
I had a sixth-grade teacher who diagnosed me with ADD, but he thought I was already so reserved and didn't want to exacerbate that more with the stigma of "special ed". So they held me back a year, instead of doing anything directly about it. At 68 I do have experience of things I know I've heard, but as you say, my brain didn't quite absorb it, and it's almost as if I wasn't aware. Thanx. You've reminded me of tendencies I still have because of ADD. There's advantages to be had in the challenges, for instance, slow thinkers are deeper thinkers.
Loud environments definitely give me anxiety. I carry a good pair of earplugs with me at all times. They can be a lifesaver.
This. Without headphones in loud or crowded environments I'd go crazy.
Especially if you've worked in loud work environments. I learned to filter it out after a while and focus on my tasks.
Literally cried at work because I couldn’t remember my managers instructions and she was getting irritated that I had to ask how to do it each time 🙁
Hang in there sweet heart. We're all on this thing together
Take notes while they walk you through it. Pull the disability card if need be :) I wouldn't hesitate on that. Tell them to talk slow.
I literally have to write stuff down and keep paper on me, my boss has just gotten used to that
This has been me my entire life. Im unemployed and so afraid to start working again because I know Id perform so poorly and my managers would think I was an idiot.
In America adhd is covered under the disability act employers have to provide accommodations for you... bet if your in the uk could ask for some accommodations too.
Haha sometimes i forget the names of my friends, like friends i have known for a while. Makes for awkward conversation, "Hey there ... uh um errr.. friend?"
Yup and their children's names
Me too! Especially when introducing friends. I just make people introduce themselves 🤦🏼♀️
I forget my own children's names daily ... I often say to my partner "what's that one called again?" 🤦🏽 as I'm going through all 6 of my kids names in my head and getting confused 😅😅
this is part of the reason i refer to almost everyone as "dude"
@@bogmanhimself4656 same here! Everybody is dude, bro, mate, etc. It makes me sound like an idiot
This resonates so much.. I was diagnosed nearly 14 years ago and it’s not something I think about much anymore, but so much of this list hits home. Especially the memory issues; struggling to remember names, struggling to recall what I did when somebody asks how my day was, losing focus really easily watching a movie/listening to a podcast (and having to rewind loads). Also misplacing stuff and being serially late/disorganised generally. All stuff that’s pointed out, by co-workers, by my girlfriend etc. but I forget that it’s pretty typical stuff for someone with ADD/ADHD. I think it can be easy to look past as an adult partly because the negatives stand out ten fold when you’re a kid/a teenager and still in school. If you’re lucky, you come into adulthood and find your place a little bit more. Really nice to hear you talk about it and to be able to relate!
A lot of what you said seems to resonate with me, im not diagnosed with any mental illness but have struggled mentally a lot for most my life. This video has helped me decide to get a screening
Sign number 11: you watch all UA-cam videos on 2x speed b/c normal isn't fast enough XD
TheCommentBandit I do this with school videos otherwise I won’t be able to do my assignment... or I skip through videos to certain parts 😭
Teach me your ways oh great wise one!! How do you speed up videos?
Chantelle S click the 3 dots that should be in the top right of the video player and then do playback speed! Usually 1.5x is the trick
@@chantelles3641 You click the little cogwheel that's on the bottom right of the video, and then change the playback speed from 'normal' to '2x'
I do that and I also have a Playlist of videos that I watched halfway but got too distracted to actually finish but still wanna finish them I'll just get around to it eventually lol.
6:27
them: *explain 5 min life story*
me: *didnt hear shit* “dam thats crazy”
fr and i only remembered how often i say that when he said it my memory is so shit everyone points it out and my friends point out how dumb i am and how i never followed instructions
Recently I discovered I had ADHD. At first I questioned it a lot, but then at one point I decided to take a bunch of difficult courses this year and it has really made me realize that you can't just power through ADHD. There are a LOT of things you can't do like normal people. I thought if I fixed everything and gave myself structure and just tried harder I'd somehow be able to fix it, but boy was I wrong.
I grew up feeling this way too; I was extremely disorganized, but no matter what I did I just couldn't seem to stay focused the same way other kids could and it... Honestly made me incredibly self-conscious. Now I actively avoid situations in which I can be singled out (I stopped microwaving my ramen at school because one of the cafeteria ladies called me "noodle girl" once.) I'd also fixate a LOT on reading books. So much so that I was constantly told off for reading in class. I used to be a pretty good student, and I still feel like I could be, but I have so many things in my life now and I don't understand how some people can just juggle those things.
I dunno. Feels like I'm constantly banging my head against a wall. It sucks.
That dreadful feeling of knowing and being aware that you are very smart, you comprehend easily most of things and the year course doesn't look too stressful as others see it... but then, you can't even do the easiest things: focus, and not get so bored easily. Such a shame. Had a 9,2/10 last year and felt like I could've done better, such as not studying the night before the exam day and organising better, even tho I knew everything was incredibly easy.
I passed a calculus course in first year of university without even looking at every chapter. It was one of the first courses in year one. After a couple months go by, I missed so much information from courses that I couldn't get myself to do even little amounts of homework for, that I ended up failing too many courses to pass my first year. I dropped out of uni and am now starting to face the same problems in second year of college. I really should start catching up with some things before it's too late. My grandfather would be so disappointed if I fail this too.
this sounds oddly familiar
My personnal technique in uni :
-Make coffee and biscuits
-Go to class
-Offer coffee and biscuits to my best friend so that she writes good notes and pays attention in my stead
-Have ger explain the course to me a few days before
-Learn from her notes
-Pass the exam
Never got the best grades but still managed to pass, so well
@@lizziemallow wholesome :D
I’ve recently been diagnosed and in my late 40s - it’s been quite empowering to be honest as it’s helped draw a line under a lot of negative experiences like school, previous jobs, relationships and I kind of feel vindicated now. It’s helped me discover and play to my strengths and pick my battles and a result I feel so much happier in my own skin. I advise anyone who has even the slightest inkling to go get help - it might just change your life 👍
Your video just described me perfectly. I'm 55 and believe I have inattentive adhd. Have only been diagnosed with long term (6 years or more at a time) low grade depression, which I always thought was not the whole story
I've recently begun to wonder if my issues are ADD. This is the first video I watched where I answered YES to everything.
Congratulations - you probably have inattentive-type ADHD! Welcome to the tribe!
I was diagnosed a few weeks ago, and a little worried that they might have made a mistake... This group session with people that were also recently diagnosed for AD(H)D gave me doubts because I couldn’t relate to some of their symptoms, like being impulsive which I later found is an ADHD symptom and not ADD. Or being distracted because of your surroundings, most of the time I didn’t really notice what was happening around me because I was in my own thoughts. I could however relate to everything in this video and it made me feel a lot better about my diagnoses
I'm so confused, i was diagnosed with bpd, GAD & MDD about 6 years ago. Now we're not sure about the bpd, cause some of the symptoms i have fit perfectly into bpd but other things just don't line up. Then my therapist suspected that i could have been misdiagnosed and that i may actually be on the autism spectrum (apparently autism and bpd get mixed up a lot because they share lots symptoms and some behavioural patterns). We then ruled out autism for several reasons and i then went on to think it might be cptsd??? But nah.. didn't really make sense either.
I've looked into adhd for a while now and now that seems to be making more and more sense to aswell. GEEZ.
It's so confusing because it feels like i've got a bit of everything, but nothing really adds up to 100% and nothing seems to really put the finger on it. So many mental disorders have very all similar, but different symptoms at the same time. It's so hard to tell which is which. Also my symptoms constantly change over time, so i feel like i never really now what's actually going on. Then again, i feel like a fraud and think i'm just overly dramatic and am actually completely fine. Maybe i'm just a little retarded (i don't mean this to be offensive i have actually thought about that aswell). I have no idea what is wrong with me
@@mo0dijudy415 same diagnoses and I can relate 🤔 I don’t know how I would feel if I found out it’s something else because I’ve already accepted having BPD 😭 I’m getting tested for AD(H)D just in case. Idk what’s wrong with me either 😂
I feel like you’re describing me exactly thank u for this video
I was recently diagnosed with inattentive ADHD after 6 months of research. This video is partly where it started and made me so convinced I had to reach out to my Doctor. Now my mom and my siblings are gonna get help as well. Thank you for sharing information about this "hidden" ADHD-subtype.
Sometimes, when people are talking to me, it goes in one ear, and my brain doesn't catch it as it floats out the other ear. I'm not even thinking about anything else. I just miss what people say.
I recently got diagnosed with inattentive ADHD and it honestly made me feel a lot better to know there was a reason for all of this.
here is a man talking about my whole life....
Sign 0.5: you're scrolling through the comment section before you've watched the first sign.
Oof I feel called out... I was just about to go back to the first couple of signs
how did you know 0.o
Guilty
Scroll through comments, dont make eye contact 🤣
I was like yes I'm gonna listen then started scrolling down and then having a different train of thought
Spent entire childhood daydreaming, very sensitive child, introverted, always finally get things months after everyone else...I pretty much check all the boxes.
ADD isn’t a term anymore it’s been combined with adhd. The response time isn’t always true, especially if you have a combination of the two hyperactive and inattentive which I do. Meanwhile, if there’s something you EXTREMELY enjoy or find interesting, I find that I can take in complicated information a lot easier, quit easily actually. But with normal things it’s really hard, it’s kind of sad sometimes because I don’t think people quite understand the degree of these things and they just assume you’re just lazy or actually stupid. It can really hurt, like a lot.
This is exactly how I am.
Add is the term for inattentive adhd its still a term it just removes the hyperactive part
I’ve been recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 46 after my daughter was! I was missed at school as i wasn’t naughty the same as you and I always struggled exactly the same as you with every everything you have detailed
I remember when I was younger I always had more imaginary friends than I did real friends.
Same! 🤣
My 6 year old if the same. I just lived in imaginary worlds with all kinds for imaginary rules, and pets.
I had so few real friends, I gave myself imaginary enemies instead.
Shoot! Is that a symptom? 🙈lovely so I’m ADHD inattentive and pure OCD
Same but my one was basically my evil self and also basically the movie inside out
I’m not gonna lie, watching this video made me want to cry because everything you mentioned I have and I know I have it, and this really made me feel like not alone with this problem
I don't know, nor need to, how old you are, but I've known for 60 of my 68 years that I was different from everyone else around me. I was always looked on by other adults (my parents' peers) as "that weird little XXX kid."
Other kids weren't better about it than adults; they'd get so annoyed when I'd just want to go off and sit under a tree and read, not play "Army" with them, or "Cops and Robbers," or "Cowboys and Indians" (this was back in the 1950s and early 60s). To this day, I still hate violence in any form whatsoever.
There were thousands of other things over the decades, and when I retired in 2016, it really helped, because there were no more coworkers ragging and nagging at me to get things done on THEIR time schedule, and no reason to go anywhere if I didn't/don't want to (and there are many, many times when I don't want to go out the door!)
I find noisy, crowded situations unbearable, so again, since I don't have to go places, mostly, I tend to stay home in my quiet, sweet little apartment.
same i thought i had adhd for ages but only related to some of them now i watched this and i relate so hard to all of them my whole family told me i dont have it well fuck them
Yeah when you realize it’s kind of a lot to take in lol
I almost cried too
Was gonna say at least it’s not hyperactivity…….but add isn’t any better personally mine is fucking horrible
That feeling when you're undiagnosed and every single sign is something you struggle with.
It's so weird explaining to people how even watching a 10 minute long video on UA-cam requires me to pause 3 times. This is also one of the reasons why I won't ever get TikTok, it feels like the even shorter than UA-cam format would feed into my instant gratification/boredom cycle and make my attention span gradually even worse.
I feel you. To this day I haven't downloaded tik tok for the same reason.
I have noticed it did ruin my attention span… :(
Ahhh you are much smarter than me😂
I'm 28 and been living with it my whole life and never knew! I always felt different and couldn't retain info like you said and had to cheat some to get by in school and I'm hyper sensitive to music and all the other stuff you've pointed out. I need to see a doctor bad but can't afford it and my parents were on drugs all my childhood and never tested for these things back then. Smh
I’m showing this to my therapist. You explained my symptoms better than I could have ever imagined. I just today started add meds and have realized how profoundly different my outlook on life is just because I feel I can live up to my own expectations.
What meds did u start and are they working ?
I wasn’t diagnosed until my late 20s, though I started to suspect I had inattentive-type ADHD when I spent a couple years teaching and had a few students who were diagnosed. It wasn’t until I started struggling at work that I sought help.
And it’s easy to see why it was missed. My mom’s one of those who doesn’t really believe ADHD exists (probably because she has a lot of signs of ADHD as well and thinks it’s “normal”). I wasn’t behind socially (though a bit introverted) and did well in school. But my teachers constantly complained about me being distracted and daydreaming. I’d either spend triple the time required on assignments or wait until the night before to write them in a flurry of motivated panic. Being late for everything was (is) practically a personality trait. I’d start and change hobbies like changing clothes, because I’d get bored or frustrated. And I had so much trouble staying organized... my mom had to actively teach me organizational skills so that I’d remember assignments and not lose things (skills like color-coding my course notebooks, religiously filing things, keeping a day planner starting in 3rd grade, assigning important items like shoes and backpacks to a location where they always were so I didn’t have to look for them, and so on).
The problem is, my Mom kept such an iron fist over my life that when I was suddenly on my own in college, I crashed and burned. And then I figured out how to get by... only to crash and burn again in my first career. And again after my first semester of law school. And again at my first legal job.
Each time, I’d be fine for a couple of months, finally get overwhelmed by my lack of organization, attention to detail, and time management skills, burn out, struggle for months, then figure out a new system to make it work. Finally the pattern was enough that I started seeking help. Though it was the anxiety and panic and depression that drove me to the therapist at first.
Still struggling though. Finding a good ADHD therapist as an adult is rough. My coping mechanisms are better now, but I still feel like I’m hurling myself from one precarious position to another... waiting for my inattentiveness to overwhelm me again. And I’m just... so... slow. Everything takes me so much time. I hate it.
“One precarious position to another.” Yep. I can sustain them longer as I get older, but the CV is a laundry list of “new”-new titles, new industries, propelled along by drama and cataclysmic changes.
Tl Dr
@@tinad8561 my God, you hit the nail on the head! I start our super strong and by the end It’s a train wreck…..
Me: starts reading it
Also me: *presses more*
The comment:here’s 20 more paragraphs have fun
Me with add: nope this ain’t gonna work
@@Reagan._.04 but you have the NEED to finish it bc it is quiet interesting even tho your ADHD doesn't say so. So you end up reading the whole thing but literally understand nothing.
Actually as a person diagnosed with ADD I never found being late a problem inside of school and it always seemed like I had to do things early and get places faster
When you have ringing bells or parents telling you when to get going it's much easier to manage time
Me too. My brain would much prefer me to panic for a day before hand and do nothing EXCEPT ruminate about the fact I have an appointment at 10am the next morning. I'd be awake all night and absolutely knackered. I'd be so done by about 8am that I would simply go and wait there for two hours for the appointment to come round.
Due to this phenomenon, I am rarely ever late.
The more I research the experiences of people that are adhd and from what specialists say about the symptoms of adhd make me feel like I have always had this as well. Wow I’m 48 and wonder if I had been properly diagnosed as a child how I might have avoided so much suffering. Appreciate these videos thank you.
I've been diagnosed with depression at 17 and with ADD at 35. I'm 42 now and i've Been on antidepressants since i was 18 and stopped taking them last year. Just recently discovered, or accepted, how much ADD has been the cause of a lot of my problems. I always thought of it as something i learned to live with and kind of swept it un der the carpet, the depression was what made me suffer so i focused on that. But it was because of the ADD that was wearing me out. Overthinking everything, low stress tolerance, troubles keeping a job or finishing a study or a relationship etc.... i recently found help and knowing how my brain works made me more relaxed and made me proud of myself when i used to look at myself as a failure. The one thing to remember is we have to work harder but it's usually unnoticed by people so i hope everybody gives themselfes the credits for their hard work💪Greets from the Netherlands!
I have ADHD combined type and I would definitely space out in class but then in recess I'd be a gigantic ball of energy running around
Me too!!!!
Sometimes I'd be heavily depressed at recess, sometimes I would be the loudest kid
I first discovered I relate to people with ADHD when someone talked about their experience on Twitter. Then I did some research and reached out to the ADHD community and I think there is a chance I might have ADD myself, but in all honesty, I can't help but feel like maybe I'm over-exaggarating and looking for excuses for laziness and incompetence and immaturity. I'd like to reach out for help, but I'm scared I'm making it all up and this is just the way I am and I should just suck it up and work harder lol
I feel the exact same. I keep going through phases were I do think I have it and don't. I relate so much sometimes and others times don't as much. I have some symptoms weaker than it should be or stronger than should be. I'm pretty confused but there's no harm in checking with a professional I guess...
Feel the same lol. Apparently imposter syndrome is also a common symptom of ad(h)d
For the people with imposter syndrome and the feeling of faking: calculate your adhd-tax, how much does it cost you? i had 200€ late fees in my local library alone - pushing exams and prolonging my studies costs me another year of living expenses each time. i like when someone said: lazy people want it easier, while my way makes everything harder. sometimes i invest hours and days to motivate myself to do a 5 minute task
me too!!!
Its such a battle of being like no i can do it and then everything starts falling in place,
Then next thing everything just crumbles for no reason
Im exhuasted from it
I was diagnosed at 21. My concentration issues had never been much of an issue until my last years of high school where the workload was incredibly intense, as my high IQ apparently allowed me to compensate prior to that. At the same time I struggled really badly with anxiety, depression and BPD so my concentration difficulties were just blamed on those, until 4 years after my initial diagnoses where my mental health had improved incredibly, but my concentration and organisational abilities were still fucked. Finally got diagnosed, explains so much of my life of struggling with recall and memory all the time, how I can never concentrate when I'm bored - and even still when I'm neutral...how forgetful and late I am, list goes on endlessly!
Not sure how I stumbled across your videos but I tick so many of these boxes, I have worried for years that I have early onset of dementia but now I know, I'm going to seek professional help in order to have peace of mind. Such a relief, thank you!
I cant believe how open & truthful you are. Thank you
Hey to anyone who has to rewatch the video try reading the comments while you watch it and you’ll get some of it coming through and you know what’s going on still :)
That's me all the way 👍
Do this allll the time
I zoned out and then zoned back in right when he was talking about zoning out 😂
For years, I thought that something was wrong with me because I could never focus, I always forgot what I was doing a second ago, and I’d have to ask people to repeat what they said all the time. I was a pretty chill kid growing up, so I’m assuming that teachers didn’t care enough about that kid who was probably just lazy and they turned their focus to classmates who were actually impairing the ability of other students to learn.
I’ve tried so hard to hide my symptoms, so a lot of people assume that I’ve got everything together and that I’m one of the smarter people in my grade. I’ve been told by some of my classmates that I’m “one of the only people who knows what they’re doing” in my history class, and whenever they say something like that, I’m overrun with an intense feeling of guilt and shame, because while I generally do alright on tests, it takes countless alarms on my phone and general precautions in order to force myself to stay focused on homework, and even then, it’s not a guarantee that I’ll actually do it. I’ve also tried to hide the fact that I can’t remember things that people have literally just said, which usually causes me to just laugh it off and make it seem like I totally know what they just said. This sometimes backfires, but it’s a strategy that I’ve refined over time. For example, if my mom told me to go ######## ## ####, I’ll walk halfway up the stairs, then sit on the steps and try to remember what ######## ## #### was.
I think the one benefit from this is that I consider myself a lover of making up stories in my head. Whenever I’d space out, I’d be imagining fairies coming to my desk and befriending me, or some prince bursting into my classroom to save me from Algebra, and this love of stories has translated to a love of writing. Even if I can’t focus long enough to get myself sitting to read or write for a prolonged period of time (something I frequently shame myself for), I still value those made up adventures in my head.
I somewhat resent my mother throughout this soul searching process, because she noticed symptoms and knew about genetic factors on both sides of family that would make it possible for me to have ADD, but she only told me two years ago in casual conversation that I’m “a little ADD”, and didn’t expect me to be completely bamboozled by the fact that it literally explains all of my biggest insecurities that I’ve been experiencing for as long as I can remember. I just told her a few days ago how upset it makes me that I feel like I’m dumber or lazier than the rest of my peers during a heated argument, and now that I’ve brought up the situation with the therapist I see for issues related to anxiety, she’s going to have me take a simple checklist, and if I score high, she’ll have me screened and I could get a diagnosis and proper treatment. It’s been pretty emotional, because even though it’s technically a self-diagnosis at this stage, I’ve been so messed up in this way for so long that I really want to finally learn that it’s not my fault that my brain is a crow loose in a jewelry store
As a child in the 80's, I was told I was lazy and unfocused for daydreaming and being awful at taking tests.
Same.. "if you weren't daydreaming all day, you would have finished your assignments/tasks by now"
30 years after my daughter was tested I found out that I too had ADD and that she got it from me. Needless to say it was a lot to take in. On the one hand I finally found out why I was the way I was and then I 'passed it on' to my child! It took everything within me to not completely break down crying in the doctor's office. However, the one positive thing is that because of what I went through and the many lessons and tips I learnt over the years I can now help my little girl NOT to go through what I went through as a child- it wasn't good at all. I'm glad I found your channel. Keep up the good work!
I can't handle stress, I freak out and I get physical symptoms as well
I break out into hives, and get allergy like symptoms
I cry and then do nothing about it
wait what the fuck??? thats a stress/anxiety thing??? oh.
Look into HSP (highly sensitive person). That's what I am and I have gotten sick from stress too like rashes, stomach problems etc.
i have panic attacks quite a bit and get stressed over the stupidest shit
Hi guys I have a lot of these symptoms and I'm really sensitive to stress but am in my element under pressure, is that something you guys can relate to thanks!
Yesterday I walked into college holding a cup of coffee, put it down to sanitise my hands, went to go to do the thing I went to college for, and then 5 min later I was like ‘hey wasn’t I holding coffee? Where did it go?’
i do this but with my phone
I misplace things around my house and walk multiple times back and forth each time questioning what I was there after
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I remember back in school when the teacher is teaching I have to listen and almost write whatever I can about what he is saying or else I begin to space out and day dream.
I love how your video is just long enough to provide enough interesting information, but also not too long to fit in the short attention span of the possible ADD people watching this !
I relate to ALL of them. I didn’t even have “ADHD” in my radar until last year. I finally have an ADHD Assessment appt next month and looking forward to get some answers. Regardless of whether I do have it or not.
When you started talking about the depression part I teared up. I love you man, this is helping me a lot right now.
"Number 6. Timing and deadlines....."
Me: Oh that's interesting, I wonder if that has something to do with the way I...."
Me: suddenly realize I was so engrossed in my thoughts on number 6 that I missed Number 7 entirely and have to back up to hear what it was.
Facepalm
I’ve been diagnosed inattentive type adhd last week 😂😂😂
Great video! You pretty much nailed what it’s like to have ADHD inattentive type.
Didn’t know the sensitivity to stimuli was even an adhd symptom. But just being diagnosed earlier this week, it makes sense. When I go to a loud concert or party of some sort, and I get close to the music, it is as if I can literally feel my ears being deafened from the sheer force of the music.
Man, I really wish I discovered this channel sooner. It would have helped me out so much with my life struggles.
I spent years and years wondering what was wrong with me but when I finally watched an ADHD video that randomly popped up on UA-cam, suddenly everything made sense.
I found this channel and even though I’m a woman, this channel has been the most relatable channel in terms of being relatable so far.
It’s crazy to think now how many of my quirks that I thought were just “me” things were due to
ADHD.
Thank you for your work, it has helped me understand myself better and I’m working on treating myself.
Sorry, what was that? I zoned out and missed the video. On the plus side it gave me chance to decide what I’m having for dinner tonight and what I’m going to watch on Netflix 👍
I couldn't get to the end of this video, the background music was too present for my mind :-/
Paul Sojo bahahahahahaha I called it porn music! Couldn’t get through it either time I tried.
Tip: turn on closed captions and turn off the volume. It helps
Emily Anne LoL. Tanks. Makes sense if I really want to understand eh
I've been learning about ADHD these days, and I think I fit most of the symptoms. Everything makes much more sense. I've always wondered why I am like this, and always felt that something was wrong with me. I think it is time for me to visit a psychiatrist.
Wow. I related to every sign except time management. I’m obsessed about being on time. But that could be my upbringing. Thank you for this video. I’m 29 and just now looking into ADD being a possibility for me.
had to rewatch this as i day dreamt through most of it lol. thanks for sharing this.
Thank you so much for this! Most people talk about ADHD and I always thought: “this feels only KINDA right”. But THIS makes much more sense to me. Now I finally know where to look for information ^^ thank you, you are my official hero of the day! 💛💛
I was diagnosed when I was younger, and everyone said I’d grow out of it. I like to watch these videos just to feel like at least someone understands
I got diagnosed about a month ago, I am 22, I thought I had it back when I was 15, but forgot about it and never got checked out until recently.xD I joined support groups.. and I now know... there are a bunch of people just like me! I always felt so alone, like I’m weird.. well, I found my group of weird.xD
I took meds for the first time... and for the first time in my life, I felt calm and still, my mind was quiet, which was new and weird.. I didn’t feel the need to move around. It was all so nice, before I felt and acted like I was on crack.xD
how do youfind support groups
Raijin Li you can find them on facebook! Just look it up, there are loads of them!
would you say the meds help improve your school work? if your still a student that is lol
Mohamed Adan from my experience, it would’ve helped tremendously.. in school I lacked attention and motivation, I spent my time writing and drawing rather than working. After taking them, I was able to focus.. and oddly made me miss homework. xD which comes down to, I wish I was diagnosed sooner! Things would’ve been so different.. again, this is for me, it could be different for others!
I'm just coming to the end of my 2.5yr long assessment (well, hopefully) so I'm about to find out if I definitely have ADHD or not, the more I learn about the symptoms the more sure I am that I have it. Almost all of the things you mentioned I can relate to, when you talked about slower reflexes I nearly cried! I worked for a company for years as a costume maker, my work was impeccable... but I was much slower than everyone else, something my manager told me multiple times. I worked as fast as I physically could, but the faster I worked the more mistakes I made (some pretty big ones). It's something I've never been able to change regardless of the job, costume/admin/office work, and every boss has complained about how slow I am compared to other people. It's both comforting and frustrating to learn that ADHD could be the reason for this.
You just described me 100%. Everything makes sense now. Every example you gave, I have been through it. Thank you for this video.
I'm 46, was diagnosed last year. I feel angry at myself and frustrated that I didn't realize earlier in my life what was going on. The healing starts now.
Didn’t find out before I was 33. Which is very recently! This year actually.
It was complicated because when I was a teen they gave me the ADD diagnosis, then suddenly out of nowhere they retracted it and replaced it with aspergers. I’ve lived a huge portion of my life in confusion and heavy depression because being around people cost me a lot of energy. And I take in absolutely every small little thing after social interactions, causing me to even use more energy, I overthink it, analyze the hell out of it. Too sensitive to everything. So I closed myself away.
I knew my passion and limited interests, yet, I couldn’t do them! I couldn’t sit down and draw because I couldn’t focus, I couldn’t enjoy it. I didn’t understand. I’ve been what I call an “observer” most of my life, because I couldn’t live and interact, I could only observe and exist. Back when they diagnosed me they apparently believed Aspergers and ADD couldn’t co-exist. And as a result I suffered! Almost, killed me, literally. So earlier this year I got myself re-diagnosed for both. I was so close to killing myself that I had to do something before it was too late. The medicine saved me, but at the same time, I’m thinking, I’m 33 years old and I haven’t been allowed to grow and live, I feel like I’ve started life at 33 and I have barely over half of my life left. I learn more in a month now, than what I did over a year without the medicine.
Who’s fault is it? The “professionals” that diagnosed me as a kid? Or simply nobody? Personally I feel they took away my life by making such a huge obvious error! That error had enormous consequences, it almost took my life.
Dude. Every one of your videos is spot on. Like me - you’re a man with the inattentive type ADHD, and, as you said, that’s less common than the hyperactive form. Hearing your perspective is a clear reminder that I’m not alone. It’s also a good way to learn about how others like me treat their ADHD. With the many options and philosophies out there about how treatment is best done it’s been useful hearing your perspective. Thanks
Thanks for posting this video I can relate to everything you're saying. Always put my struggles down to dyslexia and since finding out about ADHD really made a lot of sense. Am nervously awaiting results from my assessment tomorrow!😬
I’m a few years late but I’m glad I’m not alone. Struggled with this all my life! I’m approaching 30 y/o now and it has been such a nuisance to drudge through. I’ve always been less social than the average person because I know it takes more effort and embarrassment to fight through ADD to connect with people. Work has been hard as well since I know underperformance is inevitable and I hate disappointing others. It’s comforting to know other people face these things!
Thank you for making this video. I'm sending this to my husband. I've tried to explain what my ADHD is like and I seem to fail at finding the words. This is so helpful.
This was 99% spot on for me apart from auditory hypersensitivity. My hypersensitivity has always related more to temperature and how my clothes feel. I couldn’t stand it when my Mum would put me in these itchy jumpers 😖.
This is all ASD stuff too.......ASD and ADD part of the same family................Bless..................
Yep, I just can NOT retain names xD and my time blindness has always been a major struggle! I can pay attention in class, but only because I learned how to trick myself into hyper focusing on the lecture. Unfortunately, that doesn't seem to work as well in conversations or on the job.
My emotions and senses are definitely a lot more sensitive too.
It 's good to have a video of signs , small details that although they are present in ADHD not many people mention them or talk about them in popular videos
Thank you for these excellent videos! You are so good at communicating this and you do it with a loving, non-judgmental voice. That makes a huge difference...
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I think I have the in attentive type of ADHD. It is so painful for me to sit down and begin the notes I need to write for work and this has caused me a lot of pain. Any suggestions welcome
“the frontal regions of the brain are 3 to 5 percent smaller than a neural typical” yeah thanks a lot 💀
thats brutal hahahah
I really alternate between slow and fast thinking, and sometimes I find it hard to think altogether. Also I didn’t realise listening to instructions was part of this?! God forbid the pe teacher asked me to demonstrate a drill. They’ve always been angry w me bc I do really well in school, so they are confused that I can’t do it. My secret for good grades: have anxiety also that shames you into working
Might be a good strategy for grades, but I would recommend against it in the long run.
Being under stress over a long time, when you deal worse with stress than neurotypical people, makes it more likely to develop co-morbidities such as anxieties and depression, but also conditions like CFS/ME.
I was at a recreational center where there was a CFS/ME group of 12 people. 8 of them were women who had ADHD and not a single one of them had taken medication for it. I doubt this was random. These women all agreed they had pushed themselves too hard in stressful environments right before they developed CFS/ME.
I think it affects women more because women push themselves harder due to being more sensitive to social pressure. Take care of yourself first.
What good are those grades if you end up with a chronic condition that makes it impossible to do any form of work.
Edit: and also you say your anxiety has pushed you into working hard, but could it not also be that working hard and pushing yourself have given you anxieties?
Ah it feels so hard to diagnose. I'm sure a lot of these symptoms are common in people separately, but together, it's very damning. I'm struggling immensely with finding a diagnosis right now because so many of these symptoms overlap with other disorders like anxiety and depression. I meet the criteria for every single thing you listed (and for most adult ADHD screens I take) but it seems like most professionals won't diagnose it until they can rule out everything else. That's certainly happened in my case. I don't want to assume I have ADHD when I've been told otherwise but honestly... when I hear the list of ADHD symptoms, it feels like lock and key.
ADHD was suggested to me by a psychologist who I was talking to about anxiety & cPTSD issues.
I am 52 yrs old & this new insight into myself pretty well answers any questions I had. It feels like a very important part of who I am has been hidden from me. My whole family could win an award for acting normal & it's not something I am proud of at all. Appearing normal is my family of origin's primary goal in life & let's face it, society demands we appear normal & hide our inner turmoil.
Thank you so much for this video, it brings a bigger awareness about myself and my newly diagnosed ADD as an adult woman.