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They seem to feel superior. I have to be silent and humble around them. They are religious but they say I am judgmental for sharing the experiences I face. I hear about all their parties and am not invited as because I have a low income right now I'm an embarrassment to them. They are unavailable to me and I have supported their causes and work. They are reluctant to support my causes. I'm not asking for anything personal.
fr. i had an argument with my friend because i’m “too aggressive” and i have to step on eggshells now whenever i talk to her because of that. i try and not act aggressive, but i just get like that when i’m excited or happy. i don’t feel myself and i don’t feel happy anymore whenever i talk to her
@@nelloed Sounds like a terrible relationship. I had to let a lot of toxic girlfriends go. I couldn't do anything right or be myself. I'm too aggressive and blunt and it hurts their feelings. Anything I say is like Russian Roulette - can't talk about science, the weather, even how their family may be offensive. SMH I pray they can have peace and heal their inner wounds as the world is a rough place with different opinions they will have to learn to handle.
Ohhh yea The friendship of my friend for 9 years went to the trash mainly for leaving her in, seen why I do not insist on talking to her so much and I think it is more than obvious that I no longer wanted her friendship for how controlling it was made. baii
Had a friend like that, use to be a good friend until he changed. Felt stressed out when hanging out, decided that enough is enough, the last day I said bye to him, he looked at me strangely because my farewell was different from my normal farewell. Next day he texted me, I didn't reply, I totally cut off from him. He kept trying to contact me but I was firm in my decision. I felt happier and more confident in myself immediately after, I think it was the right decision. We were friend for 10 yrs.
Sum: 1. You hesitate to share good news with them 0:41 2. You aren't comfortable around them 1:20 3. Being around them stresses you out 1:54 4. Your self-esteem is declining 2:21 5. You can't get a word in 2:52 6. You feel drained 3:24 7. You feel used 3:51 There you go
Toxicity is insidious. It’s no good to physically distance yourself from someone in your life, if you’re just gonna let them live in your mind. You need to completely cut them out physically, emotionally and mentally.
@@thebutterscotchkid2481 It requires disposition, you have to be determined about what you really want in your life, I think it begins with the decision not to relate to that person anymore..
it feels like it's been a while since you have been yourself and happy as if you have never been this happy before, especially if it's a friendship that has lasted so long.
My friend and I got in an argument recently, and she told me she hesitates to share her successes to me, which confused me because I have always been her biggest supporter. She said that she was afraid to tell me since I wasn't doing anything with my life. I realized I was becoming toxic, so I laid off with going on and on about how my life sucks and am taking steps to realize my own dream.
Wow, good for you! It's awesome that you actually took what she said to heart and went back to self-awareness. That's a huge step. I hope your life is going well!
@@fnwytcI'm here watching this video because because recently happened to me last week still fresh in my mind and I was friends with him for a few years. And then he accused me behind my back saying I'm using him for money when I wasn't 💯 at all it hurt 😢 made me cry the reason how I found out he was talking behind my back it's cuz I heard the news from someone else instead of that friend. And that friend is in his 60s . I didn't know he was doing that behind my back. He's the one who started it not me. I met him in the mall few years ago. I still feel he's going around spreading rumors about me that are not true. I confronted him blocked him off my Facebook. Also a few times last year he wasn't that nice to me either he was swearing at me in the mall calling me on my phone calling me a 3 year old for hiding from him. 😢 Yeah a couple times he's hurt my feelings and made me cry a guy in his 60s and I'm only 27 year old.
Being in a “toxic friendship” is so hard especially if it changes from healthy to toxic but you need to take care of yourself and stop the friendship and contact as hard as it may be it will be worth it in the end. There are so many genuine people out there in the world so don’t give up hope you will have your own group of friends one day who are happy for your successes and are supportive and healthy in general. Don’t label everyone the same just because you experienced on toxic friendship for the good is yet to come ✨💛
Friends who constantly plays the victim card or guilt trip you to get you to do what they want or make you feel bad for making a choice they dont agree with is toxic.
I actually had an amazing friendship when it first started but lately, I realized my friend changed; she'd always talk about herself and change the subject back to them when I tried to talk. Thanks to you and your incredible content it made me realize that I was getting hurt more then getting happy from the friendship. So, again, thanks a lot!
This happened to me too, only my friend is a guy instead of a girl. He acts how you described yours. He used to be my friend before, but he’s really changed. He would turn the convo around back to himself and acts mean around other people, and it makes me look bad. I’m proud of you for getting out of that toxicity, though not sure of how to end mine. Congrats! 🎉
My best friend left me today, so i came to this video to see if our friendship was worth giving another chance, and this is exactly how i felt around her for two years. I also felt like i had to change my entire personality JUST for her to appreciate me. Thank you for making this, it really helped!
Yes i did had a friend like that, she impacted my life in a very negative way for a long time and still does to this day. But I’m happy that she isn’t my friend any more 😄
My long time childhood best friend is like this and I dont know why he became like this. But I guess people change and I just outgrown him I guess. Maybe it's for the better?
Hi there! I've been through the same recently. Long story... But I can tell you that you should listen to your gut feeling and head out of the situation elegantly. I had this feeling too about a friend and thought that I was exaggerating but I paid for it leaving him in my life. He was having an affair with my crush for weeks or months and kept it secret while having a good time with me, knowing that I liked her very much. Now I asked myself why I didn't cut him out of my life earlier and feel very hurt and disgusted about him. Also there are much more toxic things about him, it's a long and complicated story... I hope I helped you with this one a little bit.
@@sprechendemulltonne5051 You did actually. Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it. I want to talk to him and resolve these conflicts. But I want him to acknowledge it and approach me. Knowing him it's a long shot. It's a shame tbh I thought he was my brother from another mother but it doesn't look like that anymore.
@@onlinefool9931 Perhaps it's my fault as well. I expect him to treat me the same way like I treat him but I guess my expectations was to high. That's life. You live and you learn
@@vernontaningco6252 you're welcome! Always interesting hearing other people's stories about this topic. I actually had a talk with him after a friend of mine pushed me to talk to him to resolve the problematic situation (I told him to leave me alone for now on, after I found out about him and my crush). Yeah... That was indeed a hell of a talk. We took a long walk together and I told him everything I thought about him honestly without holding back. I think both sides were holding back tears (we are both heading towards 30 years of age) and shaking hands after the talk. Now long story short: Month after that and previous similar situations with other people I can tell you, when there has been a crack in the friendship, it might never turn back to the old situation. Both sides are more reserved talking to each other now and cautious to not trigger the other one. It's practically all an act and both sides know it deep down. So after trying to spend time together again and heal the friendship, we don't contact each other anymore, because we are not feeling good together. So basically after trying, we have distanced each other silently now. But each situation is different. Let it come to you, the situation will solve itself naturally, just don't force anything that isn't meant to be. I thought knowing each other for 23 years must be worth something, it is somehow... But there a coming new people into your life caring for you better when you close an old door and open a new one. Just don't punch each other in the face or insulting each other.
One sign possibly being that your friend literally said she wanted nothing to do with you for no reason and then wanted to be friends with you again with the same day. 🙃🙃
Yep. I already suspected, but this proves it to me. I never thought people with anxiety and depression could be toxic, but she must be an exception. Glad I see that now.
I really hope my friend group doesn’t see this: Recently I haven’t been feeling uncomfortable in my own friend group. They’ve been getting into arguments with others and pulling mean pranks on others. They drag me into it, and I feel pressured to be a part of it. I know they aren’t, but I feel like they are trying to make me feel trapped. If they are, it’s certainly working. I’m don’t want to hang out with them. They sometimes laugh at me when I draw something bad or miss a note when I’m singing. They push and pull me around to suite their needs. I sometimes feel like I can’t be me when I’m around them. One day I’ll end it. One day I will say to them that I don’t wanna be under their control anymore.
Sounds like my group man one of my friends I knew sense 2018 changed and became an ass out of nowhere and manipulated everyone against me and just hates on me for no reason keep strong man
This video was just what I needed! My friend and I used to see each other everyday because of school, but quarantine made me realize how toxic our friendship is I already told her I need some distance from her and I don't feel comfortable via messages, but she wants to talk irl and i don't have excuses, i just don't know how to confront her ✨If you are reading this I wish you health and happiness✨
Mhm and people who say real and true friendships are only possible if you see them at school everyday is Completely INACCURATE. Anything is possible through God. I believe in miracles and fate. You too May Well-being and Healthy Life Be brought to you all
Two hits too hard. I was in a group of friends and felt that way around them all the time. It was awful and the worst part is my family is like that too. I made a real best friend and we can talk about anything without any drama popping up. I look at the friendship I have with her and after watching these videos, I value her even more. I'm so happy she's my friend.
All of these were me in my youth. Although I treated my classmates nicely, they eventually started to take advantage of my good nature and ask too much of me, ranging from wanting to copy my work to buying things for them. It caused me to resent and walk on eggshells around them.
At least they also try to help the toxic people, but it's too bad most of them refuse to change. For the few who do decide they need to make a change, kudos to you!
@@vanessadiviak1404 yeah dear you are totally right👍 It is helping people to find whether they are being toxic. But you cant change someones behavior its upon them whether they want to change or remain toxic. And thanks for expressing your views about my comment i really appreciate that 😊
This sort of helps me. I think my relationship with a friend has become toxic. I’m very sad about it. Worst part is having the courage to cut ties with them. 😢
This is my exact situation for like almost a year now. My whole friend group is like this, every time they’re only nice to me when I try to leave and I’m planning on leaving them soon. Thank you so much!!
The majority of my life has been toxic narcissistic 'best friends'. I didn't see the pattern til 2 months ago. It's never too late to have a life altering epiphany on multiple levels and decide that you deserve better. Love this channel! 💖🌟
I felt that. The last time I went out with that person, we met some new people and, while I was trying to socialize with them and say things about me and my life, she kept interrupting me and talked about herself...
This channel has helped me a lot lately with my social life. After following some of your advices everything became better and now I'm finally more carefree so thank you! :)
That last one, especially with the therapist role...I feel all of these either to a degree or completely. I don't want to leave them though because of their depression and insecurities. But I am feeling so drained and it is harder to do things some days. I've had to take breaks from social media but leaving outright no longer feels like an option. I need a vreak but leaving them just doesn't seem like something I should do. :(
I feel you. I’m at a point where I‘m just done with her, feeling like she just used me to let her pain out and that’s it. But there’s still that part of me asking „what if she actually still cares about you and by leaving her you’re making her situation much worse? You don’t want to be the reason she kills herself“ The thing is, she’s driving me insane. To a point where I’m thinking about cutting myself again, destroying things and physically hurt others. So this time, I‘m putting myself first before I give in to the demons inside my frozen heart and end up in the psych ward (and I mean the one that’s for the really damaged ones)
I’m finding these friendship videos are so helpful but at the same time terrifying. I’m terrified I’m making too many mistakes because of my mental health issues. I am either too scared to talk or too chatty with my closest friends and bordering on needy/draining >~
I have a toxic friend that I need to remove from my life. Long story short, we were friends that started dating. He started to become very possessive and controlling and I told him we are better off as friends. Nearly 10 years later, he’s still constantly asking me about what went wrong when we were dating. My patience ran out. If he doesn’t understand the first 1000 times I’ve explained it to him, he’s not going to understand time number 1,001. Just to be clear he is not a horrible person. He’s just someone who can’t handle a friendship with me.
A reminder: friendships that turn toxic because the people you spend time with are showing their true colors. They never wanted to be your friend; they only wanted to use you for their selfish desires. Toxic relationships are the result of evil people.
Two toxic signs, that I think should have been listed, for me was the guilt trip and gaslighting. They would always have a list of favors they did for me and highlighted how much they would do in the friendship. I didn't make a list of the favors I did because I didn't expect anything in return. Later down the road I found out they would throw it back in my face. According to them, since a lot of the favors were shared with my other friends, then it wasn't really directed towards them...that should've been enough for me to walk away but I didn't... They also lied and made me feel uncomfortable for feeling cautious and on guard with them. They never thought the impact their actions had on me and made me feel crazy for being emotional... 8 years down the road I finally had enough after a super toxic conversation where they gaslighted me after 3 hours of arguing...Their final words after a 3 hour argument was, "What's wrong with you? What's really going on?" I almost burst into tears because I knew I was being gaslighted. They knew what was upsetting me. They were just trying to convince me it was someone or something else in my life. I'm so much happier now. Still healing, it was almost ten years of my life after all. But I know I'll get there.
everything that was mentioned on this video describes me and my “friends” relationship, i constantly want to get away from this relationship, but my mom doesn’t support me in doing that, only because we have known eachother for so long, i am constantly listening to her problems and acting almost as her therapist! i am a person with anxiety, i always have had anxiety, ever since ive been more open about that with her, magically she has it too, like this one time we went to a park, and she saw a dying mouse and turned to look at me and said, “omg i think im having an anxiety attack!” with a huge smile on her face, i have anxiety attacks sort of often and just because your heart is racing does NOT mean you have anxiety, i understand its diffrent for everyone but its quite clear that thats not anxiety. i am so sick and tired of mental health getting watered down and being considered “quirky”, it makes me sick! she complains about having, multiple personalities, depression, an eating desorder, anxiety, adhd, and when i tell her if you are really conserned, see a doctor! and she just brushes it off! its so draining to be around her and i genuinely dont enjoy being around someone that constantly complains about their problems. its just so annoying how she thinks she’s superior to everyone else, we were walking down a street and she said “ew look how fat and ugly that girl is!” and i said how horrible that is to say that to someone and she just laughed, ps im very sure that girl heard her, and then complains about her being so fat! the amount of times shes commented on MY weight saying im “pudgy” makes me angry, then makes me conform shes not fat. i could go on for hours naming more things, but i probably shouldnt. so sorry to anyone who read this, i just needed to vent.
You are brave. Value yourself dear soul and know that you are worthy. Set boundaries for yourself because you deserve it. This toxicity is not good for you and by the way, this person is not your friend. At the end of the day, it's either you or this "friend." Choose yourself. No means no in every language.
Get involved in other group activities that will help you to make new friends (e.g. sports, band, clubs, rotc/pathfinders/scouts, choir, etc.) Do this right away.
I can relate. I have a toxic friend at school too who belittles me and my other friends at times. Even though I’m scared to do this, I’d advise you to cut them off completely and hope for the best. I hope that she begins to leave you alone soon. Nobody should have to go through having someone toxic in their lives.
this video helped me a lot, but i feel bad if I leave my toxic friend because he will be all alone and will probably commit suicide. But being with him stresses me out so much already, i don't know what to do :(
I have a best friend and her name is Nicola. Our friendship has been going on for 17 years but 3 years ago, she got into a relationship and forgot about me and wants to spend time with me when it fits her! I believe that it's time to end the friendship. Knowing that these videos are here on UA-cam, really helps! Thank you!❤
Thank you so much for this video, because of this I realized that one of my really long friendships has been really toxic. We almost never talk anymore, and she always talks about her looks and all that, I’m totally fine with people talking about how they look, but not when they begin to bring me into it. She’s almost never around me and mostly ignores me and she has said a lot of mean things to me. One time I told her about a boy that made me really uncomfortable bc he said that he wanted a threesome with me and she said “you would probably do it if he was taller and hotter” and laughed at it, I also once told her about a (pretty traumatic) thing that happened where I got lost in the rain with no battery in a place I didn’t knew and when I told her I began to cry she called me a crybaby and that I was embarrassing and sounded like a 6 year old boy, ever since I was little I have always been very sensitive and gets sad abt almost everything and she know that so that really hurts my feelings. I just don’t know how I can get out of the toxic relationship because I have nobody else at school that I can be with so I always come back to her.
It took me a long time to realize my relationship with my best friend was toxic. I always felt belittled and less than. It wasn't until I was getting married that I realized how bad it was. I'm a lesbian and my "friend" is a very anti-gay Christian. I didn't want that anywhere near my wedding. I also got told by my sister and my wife for years how much they didn't like the way my friend was treating me. My advice is if people around you are telling you something's wrong, take a good hard look at the situation. No matter how hard it is, let them GO! You are much better off!
I have been trying to end a friendship that has turned very toxic, my friend had become very manipulative and for a Long time I didn't even realise it. I thought this is fine. Whilst being gaslighted. Only when she tried to turn me against my partner, claiming made up things I finally saw the huge Red flags in our "friendship". I still tried to work Out a compromise being the people pleaser, and being very naive. I know she is struggling with her own mental health as she never forgets an opportunity to tell me how depressed she is, and I tried. I really tried to Help her and to be a good friend but I can't Take it anymore! 😢 I am so drained from this conflict and sought to reconsile her but the only Option she agrees on is for me to Go against the person I love most for a Claim of her that is Not true. I don't know If anyone reads this but If you do: thank you for taking your time to Listen to my crying. I feel very lost but maybe this is a learning experience? I don't know...
Thanks for making this video, My best friend recently hasn't been really a friend to me latley, He only comes round to my house to go on my computer then leaves. The moment i Tell him he hogs the computer and that's all he does, He just whines when i tell him to do something that isn't just downloading FNF Mods on my computer.. And He always talks about himself and whenever we're in a conversation and/or argument, he always Inturrupts me mid-sentence. It just feels like he comes round to my house to take something from me like a candy bar, or use my computer, or some other thing. He only ever just goes on his phone and whenever he doesn't get what he wants he acts all whiny and starts to even cry sometimes. And whenever there's a party going around he only ever comes out of his room to just hog snacks all day, and the moment he doesn't get what he wants, He starts So much Unnecessary Drama For no reason. Thanks for making this video so i could learn.
I ended 4 last year, don´t miss them. But feel alone sometimes. I helps talking to the guy or woman at the busstop or in the park. After a short conversation I don´t feel alone:)
This is what I'm feeling right now. Thank you Psych2Go for making it clear for me. I suggest for the next video what to do after learning that your friendship becomes toxic.
This happened to me. She was everything to me. I was, in fact actually in love. But in the end they broke a promise and so much more happened that just wasn’t healthy.
idk what to do... :( he said he'd never replace me and he'd always be my best friend, yet here we are, he ghosts me and puts someone else above me when i need him most :( i hate the fact that, even if it's pretty toxic rn, i'd still come crawling back to him... :(
Hey i can understand everyone has been through this situation where they are around fake people but dont lose hope you will find true people. Very soon 😊
Same...I just ended one yesterday and it's like a weight has been lifted off of me, but at the same time, the pain I carry is heavy because so much time and care was invested and then wasted...this friend of mine has now found a new group of friends and it's clear that I am excluded. It hurts, but it's life. I'll heal and hopefully find healthy friends next year.
Worst part for me is, these toxic relationships are with my own sisters. I had to cut them out of my life in order to have peace of mind. Felt like a huge chunk of weight was lifted off my shoulders. It's sad that it has to be this way, but my mental and over all health was at stake.
1. YOU HESITATE TO SHARE GOOD NEWS WITH THEM 0:43 2. YOU AREN'T COMFORTABLE AROUND THEM 1:22 3. BEING AROUND THEM STRESSES YOU OUT 1:54 4. YOUR SELF-ESTEEM IS DECLINING 2:22 5. YOU CAN'T GET A WORD IN 2:54 6. YOU FEEL DRAINED 3:26 7. YOU FEEL USED 3:53
Thank you for making friendship related videos. I’m not what you call the best friend, I always cancelled plans suddenly, always do what others find it uncomfortable and is often felt left out. But because of your videos, I am able to be a better friend to my new friends. I sometimes overthink and doubt my friendship when honestly it is because of my way of thinking when I have the best friends ever. Your videos are really helpful, I just wanted you to know that.
I used to have a friend and we got along REALLY well but things started to get weird. I don't know why I was becoming this toxic, jealous and passive-aggressive person everytime I talked to him. I know I'm completely at fault here..I didn't treat him nicely :( We parted ways because things got really bad. I just want to change who I've become. I regret everything :/
True. Those ppl that are jealous of you, they'll just try to bring you down instead of improving themselves. They blames you for their insecurities and lack of confidence. This just made me hesitant to share something good to them
I'm watching all these video about friendship for that one friend. She would never even know how badly I wanted to fix things. But whatever, it's just ended now. Hope it works this way.
@@OceanicPearlz1 She tried to contact me once or twice , but she just wanna dump the fact that she was wrong. I couldn't handle thus gaslighting so.... I cut off all ties with her. I'm fine now. No more toxic friends.
I used to have a fake friend and it kind of gave me low self esteem, but my mom also kept giving me low self esteem....but I met a friend who helped me feel better and they were also suffering...and we helped each other...thank u for this video!
After all these years i was having a fake friends >:( He always used me when need something and i never talk to him but he was the one who always talk. Then now i know why he left from school >:(
I have a toxic friend who just recently unfriended me in Facebook. And I have never been the most confortable and happier in my life, since I never felt that first-hand guilt of letting go of our friendship. If you are reading this, thank you for letting me realize a lot of things.
1 thing I am going through right now that I feel like my long time friendship has come to a point where I can't say " hey what you r doing is wrong" anymore.. I cannot chill and not do everything perfectly all the time anymore. If I don't agree on a thing with her or regarding a person I am automatically wrong... Unfortunately I am feeling like it's choking me and draining my sanity😌
I lost all my friends that were close to me this year and honestly, I used to be the type that would bend over backwards for them and thought they were my world? It took ages for me to realize that I was better off without the negativity that they brought me. It's nice to not walk on eggshells anymore.
i have two toxic friends, they're siblings, but my mom knows them. i don't want to tell her they're toxic. and she'll wonder why they haven't talked to me if i break them off.
I like that this video has in the title "friendship", instead of "friend". It's very normal for people to, when not getting along with someone, stop seeing them as a person or like it's their fault. Sometimes it's nobody's fault.
My best friend and I haven't really had any contact for the past month. She recently got a girlfriend and she's spending all of her time with her. I understand that they want to spend as much time as possible together but I can't help but feel ignored.
oh, im going through the same thing! but honestly, i just deal with it because i feel that i may do the same if i get a significant other. but if it gets out of hand, maybe you should talk to her?
oh i definitely found myself hiding any good news about myself to a previous friends. They would suddenly become super competitive if I told them about my own accomplishment. It was awful having to tiptoe around them and then I started diminishing my own achievements. SO SO TOXIC
Glad I broke my relationship with her and I'm glad that I know our relationship become toxic. I feel a lot more happier now :D Even tho I don't have any friends again, i have myself.
Does it still count as toxic if we continuously throw hard-hitting insults at each other, but the next time we meet we literally become like brothers, chill, talk about things, and we both enjoy it.
Yes but not exactly because there's a difference between honesty n criticism. Cuz if u feel that ur not comfortable with the person even if y'all act like bro's then it's better if u cut them out.
@@cyrene3414 We're both honest with ourselves, we criticize each other we tell each other our flaws, our bad habits, and if I develop a new bad flaw, my friend won't hesitate and I do it to him too. We are very comfortable with each other, slept at another close friend's house once, we were talking shit about each other, we laughed together, we talked, and we slept like little babies.
Watching these vidoes really shoves the fact into my face, I've been in denial for such a long time because he was my best friend but I'm just so uncomfortable around him I physically can't. He always finds ways to pick on me as a joke and called me a slut for being able to miss a test because I was ill, he didn't even know that I was ill because my mental health had declined so quickly. I'm glad that I managed to open up to someone else in my friend group who also feels left out the group and that it has been really hard to loose a friend but in the process I'm growing and meeting new people.
This is a really good timing! I have been left wondering what happened to me and my old best friend and me and it made me anxious. My old befriend was starting to become more and more toxic and i thought that it was all my fault. Luckily I do have a lifelong friendship with a friend i truly appreciate. All the best for you guys xoxox
I had a friend like this and she never saw herself and how bad she became. I felt guilty and horrible like I did stm wrong and was called manipulative for feeling sad but afterwards I kinda just wanna punch her now. _.
I had a very toxic friend and not only did they do all of these things they also got things I loved and tried to make me insecure and well- it worked.. but that relationship is over and I’m much better of now. I really suggest to either inform them of their attitude to make them stop or maybe the more likely option you’ll choose. To break it off. But anyway don’t let people who are supposed to support you bring you down!
3 months ago I ended with a toxic relationship, I didn't know why I was feeling uncomfortable with that person, but I knew how I was feeling, lastly I was missing him, but I didn't want feel it, cause inside me, i hated him, but i see this video I finally knew what was wrong, everything said here was exactly what it happened, especially my self esteem, with that person was poorly bad
I just don't know how to end it. If I end my friendship with her everyone in my friend circle with end their friendship with me and I'll be alone again
glad I don't have a toxic friend yet. Even when I'm an introvert and have social anxiety and life is hard atleast i still have them. Even when i always keep my problems to my self, I have people who can still make me laugh and that's enough cause i always work with my problems on my own and just getting good vibes with them is enough
This really feels like my friend…a friend of mine is acting really different then when we met, I give them advice and comfort, and compliments all the time, but they don’t really seem to ever do something for me, and the last time they did, they gave me an I-tunes gift card, and when I told them it wouldn’t let me use it, they went on about how they could have just used it themself, or given it to someone else, and when I apologized and tried calming them down, they said that I am very sensitive and it is annoying. I also recently came out to them as pan-gender, and all they said was “well that’s good for you”, and I just feel like they don’t really care about me, and that our relationship is more like “elementary school classmates” then “best friends forever”.
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I feel that
My same same situation and I am so sick of it
They seem to feel superior. I have to be silent and humble around them. They are religious but they say I am judgmental for sharing the experiences I face. I hear about all their parties and am not invited as because I have a low income right now I'm an embarrassment to them. They are unavailable to me and I have supported their causes and work. They are reluctant to support my causes. I'm not asking for anything personal.
fr. i had an argument with my friend because i’m “too aggressive” and i have to step on eggshells now whenever i talk to her because of that. i try and not act aggressive, but i just get like that when i’m excited or happy. i don’t feel myself and i don’t feel
happy anymore whenever i talk to her
@@nelloed Sounds like a terrible relationship. I had to let a lot of toxic girlfriends go. I couldn't do anything right or be myself. I'm too aggressive and blunt and it hurts their feelings. Anything I say is like Russian Roulette - can't talk about science, the weather, even how their family may be offensive. SMH I pray they can have peace and heal their inner wounds as the world is a rough place with different opinions they will have to learn to handle.
They’re controlling and make you feel bad for creating boundaries
I am dealing with this right now
It's sad 2 realize tht the person who was our friend once, is now a toxic person and our friendship has become toxic.
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Ohhh yea The friendship of my friend for 9 years went to the trash mainly for leaving her in, seen why I do not insist on talking to her so much and I think it is more than obvious that I no longer wanted her friendship for how controlling it was made. baii
Had a friend like that, use to be a good friend until he changed. Felt stressed out when hanging out, decided that enough is enough, the last day I said bye to him, he looked at me strangely because my farewell was different from my normal farewell. Next day he texted me, I didn't reply, I totally cut off from him. He kept trying to contact me but I was firm in my decision. I felt happier and more confident in myself immediately after, I think it was the right decision. We were friend for 10 yrs.
yep it is sad but iz ok, iz life
Sum:
1. You hesitate to share good news with them 0:41
2. You aren't comfortable around them 1:20
3. Being around them stresses you out 1:54
4. Your self-esteem is declining 2:21
5. You can't get a word in 2:52
6. You feel drained 3:24
7. You feel used 3:51
There you go
4- Your self-esteem is declining 2:21
you missed number 4 :/
I added number 4 thanks for mentioning!
@@treznopresto4878 No problem
YES YES YES IM SO HAPPY I FINALLY CUT HER OFF WOOHOOOOOOOOO
I literally just ended a toxic friendship and then I see this, wow-
How
Me too xd
Yup life is full of wonders...
Same.
Sameeeeeee
Toxicity is insidious. It’s no good to physically distance yourself from someone in your life, if you’re just gonna let them live in your mind. You need to completely cut them out physically, emotionally and mentally.
Word!
how, though?
@@thebutterscotchkid2481 It requires disposition, you have to be determined about what you really want in your life, I think it begins with the decision not to relate to that person anymore..
@@kooslv hmm...Thank you
Hard to do that when it's your dad 😔
It honestly feels nice to have the toxic people out of your life. Definitely a lot more stress free :D
@Luna 4733 lmao
You see what im seeing
it feels like it's been a while since you have been yourself and happy as if you have never been this happy before, especially if it's a friendship that has lasted so long.
Well l don't have anyone else so l guess l will stay white hear
hes a member boys, that or hes god.
My friend and I got in an argument recently, and she told me she hesitates to share her successes to me, which confused me because I have always been her biggest supporter. She said that she was afraid to tell me since I wasn't doing anything with my life. I realized I was becoming toxic, so I laid off with going on and on about how my life sucks and am taking steps to realize my own dream.
Relization is a good sign you have guilt and want to change your ways I been there too
Wow, good for you! It's awesome that you actually took what she said to heart and went back to self-awareness. That's a huge step. I hope your life is going well!
@@fnwytcI'm here watching this video because because recently happened to me last week still fresh in my mind and I was friends with him for a few years. And then he accused me behind my back saying I'm using him for money when I wasn't 💯 at all it hurt 😢 made me cry the reason how I found out he was talking behind my back it's cuz I heard the news from someone else instead of that friend. And that friend is in his 60s . I didn't know he was doing that behind my back. He's the one who started it not me. I met him in the mall few years ago. I still feel he's going around spreading rumors about me that are not true. I confronted him blocked him off my Facebook. Also a few times last year he wasn't that nice to me either he was swearing at me in the mall calling me on my phone calling me a 3 year old for hiding from him. 😢 Yeah a couple times he's hurt my feelings and made me cry a guy in his 60s and I'm only 27 year old.
Being in a “toxic friendship” is so hard especially if it changes from healthy to toxic but you need to take care of yourself and stop the friendship and contact as hard as it may be it will be worth it in the end. There are so many genuine people out there in the world so don’t give up hope you will have your own group of friends one day who are happy for your successes and are supportive and healthy in general. Don’t label everyone the same just because you experienced on toxic friendship for the good is yet to come ✨💛
"When you feel used." idk if I'm overthinking but this hurts.
Being alone is more predictable than being with the wrong friend. Choose being alone.
And it gives you more time to meet a genuine friend 💖
Friends who constantly plays the victim card or guilt trip you to get you to do what they want or make you feel bad for making a choice they dont agree with is toxic.
I actually had an amazing friendship when it first started but lately, I realized my friend changed; she'd always talk about herself and change the subject back to them when I tried to talk. Thanks to you and your incredible content it made me realize that I was getting hurt more then getting happy from the friendship. So, again, thanks a lot!
how do u end it tho?
This happened to me too, only my friend is a guy instead of a girl. He acts how you described yours. He used to be my friend before, but he’s really changed. He would turn the convo around back to himself and acts mean around other people, and it makes me look bad. I’m proud of you for getting out of that toxicity, though not sure of how to end mine. Congrats! 🎉
My best friend left me today, so i came to this video to see if our friendship was worth giving another chance, and this is exactly how i felt around her for two years. I also felt like i had to change my entire personality JUST for her to appreciate me. Thank you for making this, it really helped!
Yes i did had a friend like that, she impacted my life in a very negative way for a long time and still does to this day.
But I’m happy that she isn’t my friend any more 😄
@@HoneyBrent I agree, that way now I chose my friends carefully
Same . I just ended a fienship of 12 years.
My long time childhood best friend is like this and I dont know why he became like this. But I guess people change and I just outgrown him I guess. Maybe it's for the better?
Hi there! I've been through the same recently. Long story... But I can tell you that you should listen to your gut feeling and head out of the situation elegantly.
I had this feeling too about a friend and thought that I was exaggerating but I paid for it leaving him in my life.
He was having an affair with my crush for weeks or months and kept it secret while having a good time with me, knowing that I liked her very much.
Now I asked myself why I didn't cut him out of my life earlier and feel very hurt and disgusted about him. Also there are much more toxic things about him, it's a long and complicated story...
I hope I helped you with this one a little bit.
@@sprechendemulltonne5051 You did actually. Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it. I want to talk to him and resolve these conflicts. But I want him to acknowledge it and approach me. Knowing him it's a long shot. It's a shame tbh I thought he was my brother from another mother but it doesn't look like that anymore.
same ive had one like that but one friend didnt turn like him just life
@@onlinefool9931 Perhaps it's my fault as well. I expect him to treat me the same way like I treat him but I guess my expectations was to high. That's life. You live and you learn
@@vernontaningco6252 you're welcome! Always interesting hearing other people's stories about this topic.
I actually had a talk with him after a friend of mine pushed me to talk to him to resolve the problematic situation (I told him to leave me alone for now on, after I found out about him and my crush).
Yeah... That was indeed a hell of a talk. We took a long walk together and I told him everything I thought about him honestly without holding back. I think both sides were holding back tears (we are both heading towards 30 years of age) and shaking hands after the talk.
Now long story short: Month after that and previous similar situations with other people I can tell you, when there has been a crack in the friendship, it might never turn back to the old situation. Both sides are more reserved talking to each other now and cautious to not trigger the other one. It's practically all an act and both sides know it deep down. So after trying to spend time together again and heal the friendship, we don't contact each other anymore, because we are not feeling good together. So basically after trying, we have distanced each other silently now.
But each situation is different. Let it come to you, the situation will solve itself naturally, just don't force anything that isn't meant to be.
I thought knowing each other for 23 years must be worth something, it is somehow... But there a coming new people into your life caring for you better when you close an old door and open a new one. Just don't punch each other in the face or insulting each other.
the worst part is that it hasn't 'turned' toxic. it's BEEN toxic from the beginning. 4 entire years and I'm oh so very done.
One sign possibly being that your friend literally said she wanted nothing to do with you for no reason and then wanted to be friends with you again with the same day. 🙃🙃
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Some people are just.. X(
I need a therapist....
Yepp
@@U.R.coolkid contact him if you have a problem
Yep. I already suspected, but this proves it to me.
I never thought people with anxiety and depression could be toxic, but she must be an exception.
Glad I see that now.
Not friends not enemies just strangers with memories
I really hope my friend group doesn’t see this:
Recently I haven’t been feeling uncomfortable in my own friend group. They’ve been getting into arguments with others and pulling mean pranks on others. They drag me into it, and I feel pressured to be a part of it. I know they aren’t, but I feel like they are trying to make me feel trapped. If they are, it’s certainly working. I’m don’t want to hang out with them. They sometimes laugh at me when I draw something bad or miss a note when I’m singing. They push and pull me around to suite their needs. I sometimes feel like I can’t be me when I’m around them. One day I’ll end it. One day I will say to them that I don’t wanna be under their control anymore.
Yes you should definitely do that! I hope it already ended ! You deserve better, those don't look like friends
You deserve people your not being hesitant to be yourself at all times which you deserve better. Hope your doing better now
I WILL HELP YOU CHEER UP! BE BETTER ❤
Sounds like my group man one of my friends I knew sense 2018 changed and became an ass out of nowhere and manipulated everyone against me and just hates on me for no reason keep strong man
This video was just what I needed!
My friend and I used to see each other everyday because of school, but quarantine made me realize how toxic our friendship is
I already told her I need some distance from her and I don't feel comfortable via messages, but she wants to talk irl and i don't have excuses, i just don't know how to confront her
✨If you are reading this I wish you health and happiness✨
Mhm and people who say real and true friendships are only possible if you see them at school everyday is Completely INACCURATE. Anything is possible through God. I believe in miracles and fate. You too May Well-being and Healthy Life Be brought to you all
I used to have a friend like that, but I stopped being friends a long time ago.
I WAS in a toxic situation with my “friend” so glad I kicked them out of my life ^^
We should learn to be friend with our ownselves, so we won't need to depend on other , success will follow us all the time 😉 if we can do so.
Two hits too hard. I was in a group of friends and felt that way around them all the time. It was awful and the worst part is my family is like that too. I made a real best friend and we can talk about anything without any drama popping up. I look at the friendship I have with her and after watching these videos, I value her even more. I'm so happy she's my friend.
Glad to hear that I found mine too and yes these videos have helped me learn more about this
wishing y'all genuine, beautiful and healthy friendships✨💜
- just a time traveller who longs for true friends😔
All of these were me in my youth. Although I treated my classmates nicely, they eventually started to take advantage of my good nature and ask too much of me, ranging from wanting to copy my work to buying things for them. It caused me to resent and walk on eggshells around them.
Dislikes are done by toxic people 😂 because pysch2go is helping us finding toxic people.
True
At least they also try to help the toxic people, but it's too bad most of them refuse to change. For the few who do decide they need to make a change, kudos to you!
@@vanessadiviak1404 yeah dear you are totally right👍 It is helping people to find whether they are being toxic. But you cant change someones behavior its upon them whether they want to change or remain toxic. And thanks for expressing your views about my comment i really appreciate that 😊
@Z.B B yes
It me. Didn't dislike tho
This sort of helps me. I think my relationship with a friend has become toxic. I’m very sad about it. Worst part is having the courage to cut ties with them. 😢
This is my exact situation for like almost a year now. My whole friend group is like this, every time they’re only nice to me when I try to leave and I’m planning on leaving them soon.
Thank you so much!!
Fake friends are the ones who you find on the internet or new places,when you find real friends it's like finding treasure
You can tell me where there is a treasure map to find one or you will tell me that my map is my life.
Priya Dharasini . Ur saying absolutely right. I'm agree with your words .
@@Muffinz06ya your map is life
@@priyadharasini1102 Another beautiful words from you.
It's very difficult.
Guess luck matters too.
I resonated with, “self-confidence” and the “them always thinking they are better” and finding fault in one’s personality instead of looking past it
The majority of my life has been toxic narcissistic 'best friends'. I didn't see the pattern til 2 months ago. It's never too late to have a life altering epiphany on multiple levels and decide that you deserve better. Love this channel! 💖🌟
I feel you
I felt that. The last time I went out with that person, we met some new people and, while I was trying to socialize with them and say things about me and my life, she kept interrupting me and talked about herself...
This channel has helped me a lot lately with my social life. After following some of your advices everything became better and now I'm finally more carefree so thank you! :)
That last one, especially with the therapist role...I feel all of these either to a degree or completely. I don't want to leave them though because of their depression and insecurities. But I am feeling so drained and it is harder to do things some days. I've had to take breaks from social media but leaving outright no longer feels like an option. I need a vreak but leaving them just doesn't seem like something I should do. :(
I feel you. I’m at a point where I‘m just done with her, feeling like she just used me to let her pain out and that’s it. But there’s still that part of me asking „what if she actually still cares about you and by leaving her you’re making her situation much worse? You don’t want to be the reason she kills herself“
The thing is, she’s driving me insane. To a point where I’m thinking about cutting myself again, destroying things and physically hurt others. So this time, I‘m putting myself first before I give in to the demons inside my frozen heart and end up in the psych ward (and I mean the one that’s for the really damaged ones)
I’m finding these friendship videos are so helpful but at the same time terrifying. I’m terrified I’m making too many mistakes because of my mental health issues. I am either too scared to talk or too chatty with my closest friends and bordering on needy/draining >~
I'm afraid I'm the one who is being toxic without realizing it. Thanks for giving us clues about toxic friends so we can avoid being toxic ourselves.
“Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.” ✨
Thank you for this video, bc I have now realized a lot of toxic friends. The pink one was basically all my fake friends!
I have a toxic friend that I need to remove from my life. Long story short, we were friends that started dating. He started to become very possessive and controlling and I told him we are better off as friends. Nearly 10 years later, he’s still constantly asking me about what went wrong when we were dating. My patience ran out. If he doesn’t understand the first 1000 times I’ve explained it to him, he’s not going to understand time number 1,001.
Just to be clear he is not a horrible person. He’s just someone who can’t handle a friendship with me.
A reminder: friendships that turn toxic because the people you spend time with are showing their true colors. They never wanted to be your friend; they only wanted to use you for their selfish desires. Toxic relationships are the result of evil people.
Indeed. And manipulative friendships too
Two toxic signs, that I think should have been listed, for me was the guilt trip and gaslighting.
They would always have a list of favors they did for me and highlighted how much they would do in the friendship. I didn't make a list of the favors I did because I didn't expect anything in return. Later down the road I found out they would throw it back in my face. According to them, since a lot of the favors were shared with my other friends, then it wasn't really directed towards them...that should've been enough for me to walk away but I didn't...
They also lied and made me feel uncomfortable for feeling cautious and on guard with them. They never thought the impact their actions had on me and made me feel crazy for being emotional...
8 years down the road I finally had enough after a super toxic conversation where they gaslighted me after 3 hours of arguing...Their final words after a 3 hour argument was, "What's wrong with you? What's really going on?"
I almost burst into tears because I knew I was being gaslighted. They knew what was upsetting me. They were just trying to convince me it was someone or something else in my life.
I'm so much happier now. Still healing, it was almost ten years of my life after all. But I know I'll get there.
Me and my ex friend from 7th grade she an aries. But zodiac sign doesn’t matter. My true bff is also same sign and me different sign
everything that was mentioned on this video describes me and my “friends” relationship, i constantly want to get away from this relationship, but my mom doesn’t support me in doing that, only because we have known eachother for so long, i am constantly listening to her problems and acting almost as her therapist! i am a person with anxiety, i always have had anxiety, ever since ive been more open about that with her, magically she has it too, like this one time we went to a park, and she saw a dying mouse and turned to look at me and said, “omg i think im having an anxiety attack!” with a huge smile on her face, i have anxiety attacks sort of often and just because your heart is racing does NOT mean you have anxiety, i understand its diffrent for everyone but its quite clear that thats not anxiety. i am so sick and tired of mental health getting watered down and being considered “quirky”, it makes me sick! she complains about having, multiple personalities, depression, an eating desorder, anxiety, adhd, and when i tell her if you are really conserned, see a doctor! and she just brushes it off! its so draining to be around her and i genuinely dont enjoy being around someone that constantly complains about their problems. its just so annoying how she thinks she’s superior to everyone else, we were walking down a street and she said “ew look how fat and ugly that girl is!” and i said how horrible that is to say that to someone and she just laughed, ps im very sure that girl heard her, and then complains about her being so fat! the amount of times shes commented on MY weight saying im “pudgy” makes me angry, then makes me conform shes not fat. i could go on for hours naming more things, but i probably shouldnt.
so sorry to anyone who read this, i just needed to vent.
My friend has ALWAYS been like this and I wasn't able to say no to her and now everyday in school i feel stuck please help
You are brave. Value yourself dear soul and know that you are worthy. Set boundaries for yourself because you deserve it. This toxicity is not good for you and by the way, this person is not your friend. At the end of the day, it's either you or this "friend." Choose yourself. No means no in every language.
It’s okay to say no. If she is angry that you say no, tell her it’s YOUR choice and it’s okay for you to say no.
Get involved in other group activities that will help you to make new friends (e.g. sports, band, clubs, rotc/pathfinders/scouts, choir, etc.) Do this right away.
Cut her off. The process is hard, difficult and scary but the outcome is so so worth it. Make sure you have people to fall back onto.
I can relate. I have a toxic friend at school too who belittles me and my other friends at times. Even though I’m scared to do this, I’d advise you to cut them off completely and hope for the best.
I hope that she begins to leave you alone soon. Nobody should have to go through having someone toxic in their lives.
this video helped me a lot, but i feel bad if I leave my toxic friend because he will be all alone and will probably commit suicide. But being with him stresses me out so much already, i don't know what to do :(
Do something today that your future self will thank you for
-Shazistic
I have a best friend and her name is Nicola. Our friendship has been going on for 17 years but 3 years ago, she got into a relationship and forgot about me and wants to spend time with me when it fits her! I believe that it's time to end the friendship. Knowing that these videos are here on UA-cam, really helps! Thank you!❤
Thank you so much for this video, because of this I realized that one of my really long friendships has been really toxic. We almost never talk anymore, and she always talks about her looks and all that, I’m totally fine with people talking about how they look, but not when they begin to bring me into it. She’s almost never around me and mostly ignores me and she has said a lot of mean things to me. One time I told her about a boy that made me really uncomfortable bc he said that he wanted a threesome with me and she said “you would probably do it if he was taller and hotter” and laughed at it, I also once told her about a (pretty traumatic) thing that happened where I got lost in the rain with no battery in a place I didn’t knew and when I told her I began to cry she called me a crybaby and that I was embarrassing and sounded like a 6 year old boy, ever since I was little I have always been very sensitive and gets sad abt almost everything and she know that so that really hurts my feelings. I just don’t know how I can get out of the toxic relationship because I have nobody else at school that I can be with so I always come back to her.
It took me a long time to realize my relationship with my best friend was toxic. I always felt belittled and less than.
It wasn't until I was getting married that I realized how bad it was. I'm a lesbian and my "friend" is a very anti-gay Christian. I didn't want that anywhere near my wedding.
I also got told by my sister and my wife for years how much they didn't like the way my friend was treating me. My advice is if people around you are telling you something's wrong, take a good hard look at the situation. No matter how hard it is, let them GO! You are much better off!
I have been trying to end a friendship that has turned very toxic, my friend had become very manipulative and for a Long time I didn't even realise it. I thought this is fine. Whilst being gaslighted. Only when she tried to turn me against my partner, claiming made up things I finally saw the huge Red flags in our "friendship". I still tried to work Out a compromise being the people pleaser, and being very naive. I know she is struggling with her own mental health as she never forgets an opportunity to tell me how depressed she is, and I tried. I really tried to Help her and to be a good friend but I can't Take it anymore! 😢 I am so drained from this conflict and sought to reconsile her but the only Option she agrees on is for me to Go against the person I love most for a Claim of her that is Not true.
I don't know If anyone reads this but If you do: thank you for taking your time to Listen to my crying. I feel very lost but maybe this is a learning experience?
I don't know...
Thanks for making this video, My best friend recently hasn't been really a friend to me latley, He only comes round to my house to go on my computer then leaves. The moment i Tell him he hogs the computer and that's all he does, He just whines when i tell him to do something that isn't just downloading FNF Mods on my computer.. And He always talks about himself and whenever we're in a conversation and/or argument, he always Inturrupts me mid-sentence. It just feels like he comes round to my house to take something from me like a candy bar, or use my computer, or some other thing. He only ever just goes on his phone and whenever he doesn't get what he wants he acts all whiny and starts to even cry sometimes. And whenever there's a party going around he only ever comes out of his room to just hog snacks all day, and the moment he doesn't get what he wants, He starts So much Unnecessary Drama For no reason. Thanks for making this video so i could learn.
I ended 4 last year, don´t miss them. But feel alone sometimes. I helps talking to the guy or woman at the busstop or in the park. After a short conversation I don´t feel alone:)
This is what I'm feeling right now. Thank you Psych2Go for making it clear for me. I suggest for the next video what to do after learning that your friendship becomes toxic.
This happened to me. She was everything to me. I was, in fact actually in love. But in the end they broke a promise and so much more happened that just wasn’t healthy.
oh gee you just described my situation right now, ahAAAh, *deaaaar god.*
idk what to do... :(
he said he'd never replace me and he'd always be my best friend, yet here we are, he ghosts me and puts someone else above me when i need him most :(
i hate the fact that, even if it's pretty toxic rn, i'd still come crawling back to him... :(
Its really fine to not have friends, besides you can live without them
Hey i can understand everyone has been through this situation where they are around fake people but dont lose hope you will find true people. Very soon 😊
for everyone struggling, i love you, sending much positive energy, you are not alone.
I swear this is what i was going thru, do they stalk us? How did they know that i needed this?
Same...I just ended one yesterday and it's like a weight has been lifted off of me, but at the same time, the pain I carry is heavy because so much time and care was invested and then wasted...this friend of mine has now found a new group of friends and it's clear that I am excluded. It hurts, but it's life. I'll heal and hopefully find healthy friends next year.
Worst part for me is, these toxic relationships are with my own sisters. I had to cut them out of my life in order to have peace of mind. Felt like a huge chunk of weight was lifted off my shoulders. It's sad that it has to be this way, but my mental and over all health was at stake.
Those who have no future, will always blame you for their failure.
1. YOU HESITATE TO SHARE GOOD NEWS WITH THEM
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2. YOU AREN'T COMFORTABLE AROUND THEM
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3. BEING AROUND THEM STRESSES YOU OUT
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4. YOUR SELF-ESTEEM IS DECLINING
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5. YOU CAN'T GET A WORD IN
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6. YOU FEEL DRAINED
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7. YOU FEEL USED
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please don't yell you're in a library
@@100mvvari6 sorry......
@@100mvvari6
IS THIS LOUD ENOUGHHHH?!?
Thank you for making friendship related videos. I’m not what you call the best friend, I always cancelled plans suddenly, always do what others find it uncomfortable and is often felt left out. But because of your videos, I am able to be a better friend to my new friends. I sometimes overthink and doubt my friendship when honestly it is because of my way of thinking when I have the best friends ever. Your videos are really helpful, I just wanted you to know that.
Toxic friends have to be remove from our life.
Friendship always becomes toxic when efforts are not equal from any side.
I used to have a friend and we got along REALLY well but things started to get weird. I don't know why I was becoming this toxic, jealous and passive-aggressive person everytime I talked to him. I know I'm completely at fault here..I didn't treat him nicely :(
We parted ways because things got really bad. I just want to change who I've become. I regret everything :/
I had to let a friendship go because every-time I left I would ask myself “why do I bother being her friend? “I don’t bother anymore ☺️
I’m such a moron, because I joined a running team with a toxic friend that I forgot was toxic, and sucking the energy out of me.
True. Those ppl that are jealous of you, they'll just try to bring you down instead of improving themselves. They blames you for their insecurities and lack of confidence. This just made me hesitant to share something good to them
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I'm watching all these video about friendship for that one friend. She would never even know how badly I wanted to fix things. But whatever, it's just ended now. Hope it works this way.
Well if they gave no effort then they probably didn’t care. If you guys still had some sort of contact
@@OceanicPearlz1 She tried to contact me once or twice , but she just wanna dump the fact that she was wrong. I couldn't handle thus gaslighting so.... I cut off all ties with her. I'm fine now. No more toxic friends.
I used to have a fake friend and it kind of gave me low self esteem, but my mom also kept giving me low self esteem....but I met a friend who helped me feel better and they were also suffering...and we helped each other...thank u for this video!
After all these years i was having a fake friends >:(
He always used me when need something and i never talk to him but he was the one who always talk. Then now i know why he left from school >:(
I have a toxic friend who just recently unfriended me in Facebook. And I have never been the most confortable and happier in my life, since I never felt that first-hand guilt of letting go of our friendship. If you are reading this, thank you for letting me realize a lot of things.
1 thing I am going through right now that I feel like my long time friendship has come to a point where I can't say " hey what you r doing is wrong" anymore..
I cannot chill and not do everything perfectly all the time anymore.
If I don't agree on a thing with her or regarding a person I am automatically wrong...
Unfortunately I am feeling like it's choking me and draining my sanity😌
You’re not alone
Drop them.
I lost all my friends that were close to me this year and honestly, I used to be the type that would bend over backwards for them and thought they were my world? It took ages for me to realize that I was better off without the negativity that they brought me. It's nice to not walk on eggshells anymore.
i have two toxic friends, they're siblings, but my mom knows them. i don't want to tell her they're toxic. and she'll wonder why they haven't talked to me if i break them off.
I‘ve had a friend whose presence *stressed* me out! I’m glad I let go of her.
It turns out 75% of my friends are ‘friends’
I like that this video has in the title "friendship", instead of "friend". It's very normal for people to, when not getting along with someone, stop seeing them as a person or like it's their fault. Sometimes it's nobody's fault.
My best friend and I haven't really had any contact for the past month. She recently got a girlfriend and she's spending all of her time with her. I understand that they want to spend as much time as possible together but I can't help but feel ignored.
oh, im going through the same thing! but honestly, i just deal with it because i feel that i may do the same if i get a significant other. but if it gets out of hand, maybe you should talk to her?
oh i definitely found myself hiding any good news about myself to a previous friends. They would suddenly become super competitive if I told them about my own accomplishment. It was awful having to tiptoe around them and then I started diminishing my own achievements. SO SO TOXIC
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Glad I broke my relationship with her and I'm glad that I know our relationship become toxic.
I feel a lot more happier now :D
Even tho I don't have any friends again, i have myself.
I am in a toxic relationship with myself, apparently...
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the thing is, i’m not even sure if it’s toxic or just changed friendship. idk i just want things to go back to what they were
Does it still count as toxic if we continuously throw hard-hitting insults at each other, but the next time we meet we literally become like brothers, chill, talk about things, and we both enjoy it.
Yes but not exactly because there's a difference between honesty n criticism. Cuz if u feel that ur not comfortable with the person even if y'all act like bro's then it's better if u cut them out.
@@cyrene3414 We're both honest with ourselves, we criticize each other we tell each other our flaws, our bad habits, and if I develop a new bad flaw, my friend won't hesitate and I do it to him too. We are very comfortable with each other, slept at another close friend's house once, we were talking shit about each other, we laughed together, we talked, and we slept like little babies.
No it is just horsing around
@@APXSTUDIO I mean if shouting out my insecurities is horsing around then yeah.
Watching this video and only comparing it to people you’re friends with, and not yourself, is is sign you might be you know what.
Thats why im like to be alone than have a friendship
Me too. It makes for a easier life.
That' s sad.
Watching these vidoes really shoves the fact into my face, I've been in denial for such a long time because he was my best friend but I'm just so uncomfortable around him I physically can't. He always finds ways to pick on me as a joke and called me a slut for being able to miss a test because I was ill, he didn't even know that I was ill because my mental health had declined so quickly. I'm glad that I managed to open up to someone else in my friend group who also feels left out the group and that it has been really hard to loose a friend but in the process I'm growing and meeting new people.
The fact that this is me and my longtime friend now😳
This is a really good timing! I have been left wondering what happened to me and my old best friend and me and it made me anxious. My old befriend was starting to become more and more toxic and i thought that it was all my fault. Luckily I do have a lifelong friendship with a friend i truly appreciate. All the best for you guys xoxox
I had a friend like this and she never saw herself and how bad she became. I felt guilty and horrible like I did stm wrong and was called manipulative for feeling sad but afterwards I kinda just wanna punch her now. _.
I had a very toxic friend and not only did they do all of these things they also got things I loved and tried to make me insecure and well- it worked.. but that relationship is over and I’m much better of now. I really suggest to either inform them of their attitude to make them stop or maybe the more likely option you’ll choose. To break it off. But anyway don’t let people who are supposed to support you bring you down!
I just want to know what it’s like to have a friend
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@@francescodegregori8100 Im sorry but what?
@The Random N7 contact him if you have a problem
@@galaxy_mooncat779 I saw that guy replying to another comment saying the exact same things. They might be a bot
3 months ago I ended with a toxic relationship, I didn't know why I was feeling uncomfortable with that person, but I knew how I was feeling, lastly I was missing him, but I didn't want feel it, cause inside me, i hated him, but i see this video I finally knew what was wrong, everything said here was exactly what it happened, especially my self esteem, with that person was poorly bad
I just don't know how to end it. If I end my friendship with her everyone in my friend circle with end their friendship with me and I'll be alone again
glad I don't have a toxic friend yet. Even when I'm an introvert and have social anxiety and life is hard atleast i still have them. Even when i always keep my problems to my self, I have people who can still make me laugh and that's enough cause i always work with my problems on my own and just getting good vibes with them is enough
Wait hold up smthing is not right.. it says December 2020, 10 seconds ago but the comment is 3 months ago..?
They pay for a channel subscription :-)
time travelers
jk, they pay for a channel membership and get to see videos early
I am assuming it's early access membership
@@mellowcullens6091 ohh ok, i thought that my laptop was broken or smthing-
This really feels like my friend…a friend of mine is acting really different then when we met, I give them advice and comfort, and compliments all the time, but they don’t really seem to ever do something for me, and the last time they did, they gave me an I-tunes gift card, and when I told them it wouldn’t let me use it, they went on about how they could have just used it themself, or given it to someone else, and when I apologized and tried calming them down, they said that I am very sensitive and it is annoying. I also recently came out to them as pan-gender, and all they said was “well that’s good for you”, and I just feel like they don’t really care about me, and that our relationship is more like “elementary school classmates” then “best friends forever”.