6 Signs It's Time to Let Go of a Best Friend Version 2
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- Опубліковано 6 чер 2024
- This video is the second version with a different animation same script of the 6 Signs To Let Go of Your Best Friend video: • 6 Signs That it's Time...
We made two just for you. :)
Credits
Writer: Michelle Gaston & Chloe Avanasa
Script Editor: Denise Ding & Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: AwesomeKick
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Johnson, A. J., Wittenberg, E., Haigh, M., Wigley, S., Becker, J., Brown, K., & Craig, E. (2004). The Process of Relationship Development and Deterioration: Turning Points in Friendships That Have Terminated. Communication Quarterly, 52 (1), 54-67.
Oswald, D. L., & Clark, E. M. (2003). Best Friends Forever?: High School Best Friendships and the Transition to College. Personal Relationships, 10 (20), 187-196.
Collins, A., & van Dulmen, M. (2006). Friendships and Romance in Emerging Adulthood: Assessing the Distinctiveness in Close Relationships. Journal of Social Psychology, 24 (12), 205-216.
Finchum, T., & Weber, J. A. (2000). Applying Continuity Theory to Older Adult Friendships. The Psychology of Aging and Identity, 5 (3), 159-168.
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This video is the second version with a different animation same script of the 6 Signs To Let Go of Your Best Friend video: ua-cam.com/video/nNgIi4eJduY/v-deo.html
We were careless and ended up assigning the project to two animators, but hope you enjoy if you haven't seen it!
Psych2Go
Your videos are always marvelous
You know, if any of you scrolled down and saw my comment, I wish you guys can ask me whatever I should do as my UA-cam content so you guys can heal depression!
I don't have best friends, btw.
Thank you for making this video! I really needed it since me and my friend always fight over little things, I don't know who is wrong from us but I've started to question our friendship. It will be hard to let go but that's life and we should all accept it even if it seems unfair. Again, thank you for your videos, they've helped me out a lot and I couldn't be more thankful. ❤️❤️
Umm why is it like the same with the first one?
@@aebg4069 because we made a mistake and assigned the same topic to two animators
I swear Psych2Go always knows what's going on in my life right now
YasminYasi same!
They're obviously stalking us!!
Same
Wait is that psych's eyes I see out my window
Ikr
Unpopular opinion:
Losing a BFF is more painful than breakups
Dat do be tru doe
It is true, I literally lost my bff today...I had to end our friendship because I realized it had become toxic :(
Edit: we’re friends again, we’re not as close as before tho :\
Edit 2: We stopped talking after we made up, but then after like a month or something, she just texted me out of nowhere, so I replied, and we talked, and I recommended her my favorite mobile game (Sky children of the light), and now we play it everyday and we’re just as close as before, this game literally fixed our broken friendship-
That is so true
D A R K I T T Y my god the exact same thing happened to be when I was in fourth grade and it got so bad afterwards my doctor told me to visit a counselor. But my mom didn’t take me she just laughed
D A R K I T T Y
Sorry bout that :(
The hardest break up isn't in love...it is in friendship!
ARMYYYYY
I have neither so i don't fla worry
I’m going through heartbreak rite now and it’s not love it’s friendship that caused it 😔🥺
@@cassiegreen7042 you are not alone🙂💜❤️
Nah its when it's a combo of both tbh
I’m thinking of ending things with my best friend. The relationship is just draining. Not because they’re toxic or anything it’s just it’s hard to act like everything is the same when it’s clearly not. We’re definitely growing apart and are becoming different people. I still cared about them but I can’t be their best friend anymore. I want them in my life and but I just can’t be there for them as before. I really hope that everything turns out okay. I’m having trouble deciding when to tell them but I just can’t pretend we’re still close when we barely even talk to one another.
I have the exact same problem..its really sad
Ik
It's really hard, isn't it?
I think you should be honest with her/him and tell them how you feel, that's when you will understand if it's best to leave or to stay by the way she speaks to you.
Maybe your best friend is going through something, that’s why they don’t talk to you as much anymore?
Sometimes it just takes a long time to discover that they were never a good friend to begin with.
This is kinda where i am, although not 100%. They have been reliable and supportive in a lot of ways...but they are very phoney and gossip and talk bad about their friends behind their back. They're very superficial and judgemental and I cant take it anymore
@@mzhotniz86 Sounds like you talking about a Earth Sun sign person lol. Yet on a serious note I'm in a similar boat just can't take or overlook the bs anymore especially not. With this current Pandemic & shutdown situation. That literally forces you to sit it down. And analyze almost everything with special emphasis on yourself or strengths and weaknesses as well as improvement areas of growth. And the Ppl around you. So if I notice that you are a negative energy person or the bad energy outweighs the good energy within you & your actions. It's simply time to whip out the cut off scissors. After I point these things out to you. And you refuse to take heed to them. No time to be suffering or taking L's behind. Somebody else's bad energy or refusal to grow. They going to have to reap the awards & consequences of that crap without me in the picture simple & plain. Bc if this Covid (Serious Reality check) crap don't wake them up. Then I most likely don't stand a chance either which is only a sign of what seriously needs to be done rather I personally like it or not.
Exactly
That's so true
@@mzhotniz86 yeah like I kind of want to leave them but I don’t know how to do it without them making a big deal and guilt tripping me so I’m kind of stuck
who else is seeing these signs right now?
It's just like everyone is drifting apart
I felt that
This. This really hits the spot...
Yes. It is. Everyone is so distant.
These signs have been happening since 3rd grade I'm in 5th grade now
Me
I'm done overthinking, crying, and simply giving more to her than she gives to me. I feel drained, I feel like Im changing, and Im tired. A friendship is simply too much work. life is too much work, and I cannot help but think, I need to end all of this.
Same, I don’t know, I’m drained, We wanna make a movie, she’s saved 200 dollars but I’m the only one holding on, she wants us to be actors and move in together, but I don’t want any of that, I miss old times, she gets mad at me and makes mean “jokes” all the time. I don’t even know anymore. I’m drained, I’m literally scared to hang with other friends cause of her.
@@yourfellowstranger4726 I'm truly sorry, and I feel your pain. May each of us find what can bring us happiness
@Sofia Beltran yes. We should all be able to, I’ll dump her when the movies done, but from then on, I’ll ignore her, I’ve found friends who actually care and ever since I’ve ignored her it’s been like a life style. It’s amazing. But everything I think bad she’s still my “best friend”
@@yourfellowstranger4726 Im glad you were able to find new friends, and yes, of course it hurts, these types of relationships don't just go away, you actually blended your heart into this, but I hope you may gain strength as you grow, thank you for letting me know :)
@Sofia Beltran I DID IT OMG I ENDED IT I FEEL ABSOLUTELY AMAZING OMG. I LITERALLY FEEL INCREDIBLE. THANK U FOR GIVING ME THE INSPIRATION AND I CAN NEVER THANK U ENOUGH
These are very true but I still haven't found any better friends yet, so I still don't know what to do rn
It’s covid so it’s a lot harder too, but are you part of any online groups?
@@Psych2go I don't have any group of some sort
covid is more likely making things difficult to have people around online
Maybe reconnect with someone you have met at another point in your life. Who knows if you have changed you might find them enjoyable today. Or maybe someone you didn't talk to much but wished that you get to know better.
I hope this helps-:)
same, but im a month late hope you've found some new friends by now!
Be your own best friend
If a friend seems like they don’t want to hang out with you around certain people, then that’s a sign that they’re *fake*
Damn I see you every where
Just Some Guy without a Mustache look at me I’m a guy with a mustache
Just Some Guy without a Mustache sounds so simple, but letting it sink it hurts as all hell
Oh oof-
I have a friend who seems to love me over text, since she texts me everyday multiple times a day, yet in person she’s always pushing me away. It sucks. She won’t y’all to me in person for more than like 3 minutes anymore :(
Can't let go best friend when you don't have any friend 😌
Life hacks
Yorha Lolibot stonks 📈
Friends are simply more hassle than they are worth.
Bitch me too, the fuck *drinks Arizona*
@the unearthly Hooman once you get better at english
Trust takes years to build...
Seconds to break...
Forever to rebuild....
Misha-
Unpopular opinion: loosing a close friend is extremely painful more than a break up
Hope this helps someone:
1- you’re second guessing your friendship
2- you don’t communicate anymore
3- you want different things
4- you’ve found other friends
5- they’ve broken your trust
6- you’re the only one holding on
Oof =3= T^T
5
1,2,6😑
1,2,3,5,6 :(
Sophia Grace Same
I have a best friend whom I really love, but I can feel it in my heart, that she has already left me a while ago.
@Glxxmy._ .Sunshine ^…^
Im so sorry for you, i hope you feel better soon... ;-;
Mee tooo
Idk y but I kinda feel the same way....
Same!
I'm not crying, you're crying.. 😢 yes I'm literally crying...
welp...bye “best friend forever”,and its not that shes changed its just that she replaced me with someone else🥺💔.
She didn't deserve you, love. Believe me, people who replace other usually go thru the same thing!
I'm sorry. You deserve better.
This hurts
An important thing is to remember that people come and go from our lives because they have purpose and when that purpose is carried out your paths will be divided. The only thing left is to cherish the memories and wisdom. No hard feelings.
Best opinion!!!
Easier said than done. It's usually not that simple. There are a lot more other aspects to it other than purpose. Human emotions are complicated and not so easily tamed.
@@ashishmagar3407 I agree and life is not meant to be easy
This made my day!... 😭😞🙂
I agree. You have to know when the friendship has run its course and that the best is now behind you. It’s hard to accept, but once you do you can finally move on and start the path ahead
Summary:
6 signs to let go of a best friend
1. You're second guessing your friendship
2. You don't communicate anymore
3. You want different things
4. You found other friends
5. They've broken your trust
6. You're the only one holding on
Rhee Smythe very sad but that's life
I cutt dat bitch off.
haiss , im watching this when my best friend broke the friendship .. bcoz' of my attitude and my trust issues .. its literally my fault bcoz' i express my feelings towards her , i told her that im hurt when she does this and that .. i really have been holding the friendship but she said that i was "different" than her other friends .. im so broken when she said that .. telling me that she won't tell me her prombles anymore .. making me feel that i broke the trust between her ..
@@qqxla I watched this because it looks interesting, but don't worry, you'll find a meaningful friend one day. Don't rush the process. For me, I observed my friends over the course of years and they are good people.
It is time to get out! Especially if they are broken your trust. Run is over😪
has anyone else realized when your bestie started to drift away and become more closer to other people before you even had time to mourn the loss of the friendship you get very jealous of those friends and always try to tell yourself that it's ok that they moved on and found people and even if you haven't and have no one close in your life at the moment. it's something I'm trying to work on and actively trying to find someone that is nice and would be a good friend. but its hard cause all you think about is how great that person was and no one is ever going to be just like them.
I think me and my best friend have definitely changed but, I think the biggest difference is whether your willing to get to know the new person that they are , or leave the person you use to know.
If your watching this and its relatable , remember everything is gonna get better soon,
You are going to have happy times soon 💜
This really means a lot ♥️
I start to question what is a real best friend after this
So do i...
Good luck everyone, glad i'm not alone
@@rafyramadhan8711 your NEVER alone.. don't ever worry about that..
1st sign : This video is in your recommendation.
How’d u know
Lol
Dang it 😂
I have no friends
I finally realized that after 20 years of being best friends, I invested too much time, energy, and money into this friendship. I’m sick of having a one-sided friendship where she benefits from me but I don’t receive anything in return. This is why over the years, she has been demoted to being an associate and I rarely call her. I choose to be happy and she is not a part of it💕💕💕
I just ended a friendship with my bsf and felt so guilty. This helps. Every single one checks out.
I'm a recovering codependent. I've started to cut-out toxic and one-sided relationships out of my life. And, some of those relationships did contain best friends status, at one-time.
You're doing a great job, keep it up 💪🏻
Well my bff am I have been friends for 11 mounth now and it is almost December where it would be a year we are bff but she has moved on to a new bff I fell heart broken 💔 it clearly feels am being replaced my mom ordered a charm bracelet for her and her fav pillow now my mom has to callcel the oder and she only got back half of her money [̲̅$̲̅(̲̅ιοο̲̅)̲̅$̲̅ I fell bad for her. But I will take out toci ppl in my life and start fresh
@@hirxrii__. Sister Sophie New best friends. JoMurry
Amy wiillmas Replaced 💔
@@hirxrii__. Sister Sophie. Amy wiillmas friendship it’s over. 💔
@@hirxrii__. Sister Sophie. betrayal. Amy wiillmas. upset 😭 with her was so mad 😡
My best friend of 12 years cut ties with me, all through text. No specifics and not willing to talk it out in person with me. I didn't see it coming at all and never did she ever bring it to my attention either. I think that's the most painful part, becoming so close to someone, knowing everything about each other's lives and always keeping each other in check... But then one day they just end it like that, as if you never mattered to them or that you never existed. Just pretty much, "We're not friends anymore. Have a nice life. Bye." Honestly one of the most painful things I've ever gone through. It still hurts, not knowing what went wrong. In hindsight I can see where I went wrong at times, but I can also see where she went wrong as well. I was in tears for days and it spiraled me into a deep depression. I'm in therapy now sorting out my emotions and its helping a bit, but it still hurts like hell. If you want to break up with someone, whether it be a best friend or a romantic partner, do it in person or at least over phone call... NEVER through text 😢
Yes, and if text is necessary, then at least provide closure. It is so utterly callous of a person to just suddenly end a long-term, deeply close relationship with NO explanation. Though I think that says a lot about how much they ever cared, and maybe it’s better they’re out of our lives and we’re no longer expending energy on them. :(
Listen, I have similar situation here. We were bff for 2 and a half years, I admit, It's not long but we hang out a lot. She was my closest friend and she knows me better than some people I know for my whole life. But yeah, she told me the SAME thing through text "I can't be friends with you anymore , have a nice life, bye". Her reason was the fact that we became toxic but I didn't want to accept it.. That happend a month ago and I'm still watching videos and reading things online about toxic relationships and I'm trying to find our situation in some text or video but I just can't.. Maybe I should just stop thinking about this person. We are not friends anymore and we don't have any contact but I still cry every night. How to stop thinking about her? She broke my heart. We had plans to go to study abroad together, to travel, to live together.. I just need to let go but don't know how.
I also went to therapy a couple of times but I stopped because it didn't help me. We were just talking and nothing else. I want some practical method to stop thinking and just feel better, but how? I tried everything ( hang out with other people, danced, studied different languages etc) what else can I do? She is constantly in my head.
@@milicacuturilo7662 I think maybe that since you were or are doing research on your situation, means that your ex best friend didn't give you enough of a valid reason for the friendship to end. And since you need this vaild reason to understand, you won't be able to let go. All I can say is that it's not worth thinking about someone that didn't even provide you with an explanation, reasons to why the relationship was toxic.... it is what it is. Its time for you to move on and just live your life for YOU. With you and only you.
Oh my god my best friend of 11 years abandoned me cause I was suicidal. I told her about my case I reached and hoped for help but she didn't spoke a single word. I remember calling her to talk to me again but she said "we will see" and it's been months she never called 🙂
Y’all don’t understand how hard it is being the friend. I’m about to cut mine off and I think sending a message as to why is a good idea but ik it’s gonna be painful. I’ll update you guys later.
Unpopular opinion:
I’m the one wanting to end it. She’s holding on😐
@@libruh4524 I've been trying to take a break but she wont let it happen
Just text her saying that you want different things and then ghost her, explain it to her instead of suddenly just blocking her
Same I'm going through this I've tried to end it, but she won't let me and I don't even like hanging out with her I cancel all the time, and she always texts me first I don't know how she isn't realizing I'm doing this on purpose. I love her but I just don't want to be friends anymore.
@@palomavonwood3423 why do you not want to be friends with someone who wants to be your friend?
@@falischika6221 ikrr?
Well... here's my story:
- Became best friends really quickly. Even the teachers used to call our names together and gave us punishments together as if we were a team, yes we were.
- Three years pass, and there is a Class Section reshuffling, we're still in the same class.
- He made some new, but somewhat toxic friends(who used to bully me).
- Next year, my own Class Section gets changed, and he finds a new best friend.
- The next year, I regroup with him, but his best friend from the previous grade has got a different section.
- Eventually starts hanging out with the old toxic friends more.
- Pandemic year begins, and he stops calling all of a sudden in July-August due to personal problems.
- I call him every day, many times, but no one answers, not even his parents. I send him texts daily, but he isn't even online. He no longer shows up during the classes.
- He randomly calls me to say that everything's fine, and some other stuff.
- Year almost comes to an end. We start changing. I become a bit serious, and more inclined to studies, but he has grown the opposite.
- 2021 begins, and he has stopped calling me now.
- I still try calling him on a regular basis as I did not want to give up on yet another best friend.
- He tells me one day that we do not have much in common anymore.
- Starts making up lies and excuses.
- I call him almost every day only to be told rubbish by him. "Don't you have other friends(yes, I have always had a small but a good friend circle, but even it has almost come to an end)? I seriously have no interest in taking your phone calls anymore. It is hard to even make my mind to pick up your call. I mean, you don't even know what to speak about other than studies, and some other stuff."
- I find a new friend from a distant city during our online classes.
- I eventually stop contacting him and sending many messages on the Friends group as I used to.
- One month passes by, I get no response.
- One day he calls me thinking that I had called him. It was not a healthy call.
- I convince everyone for a group video call after about 7 months since our last one. He joins, jokingly ignores, and insults me. He shares the link with his other friends(different from the toxic ones. I do not know them, to be honest), and starts talking with his other best friend(my friend, also in the video call). I turn off my video because I didn't know his other friends, and it doesn't bother him. I join with another device acting as if it is one of his friends, but my main device gets disconnected due to a network error. He notices it, and they end the call after a while.
- I've stopped contacting him, and it's been about a month since our last call, which was a call, last initiated by me.
- To this day, I cry myself to sleep every day wishing that I could go back in the past and fix any errors that I had made, and also... imagining myself with a new friend because now I have none.
I just wish that I had a true best friend.
you have yourself. Take care of yourself. Don't depend so much on others, especially not ones who ignore and or intentionally hurt you.
I’m sorry for what you went thru, I you have to let go and it’s tough, I’m facing the same dilemma with my friend, who straight up insulted me in front of my classmate who I don’t even know that well to appear cool and like minded like him, he didn’t like it I assume. And she called me up expecting no consequences for her actions.
You have to let go of such people even if it hurts.
You might consider not calling so much for one thing. If you get the feeling someone doesn't want to talk to you...they don't..
i also wish i had a true best friend
I’m really sorry bro
I wish I had one too 😢
Sign 1: they go out when the country is quarantined
(My bff took some days to understand that here in Italy we play no games)
O.O
Heila Italiani !!
@@cliors200 shut up nihal
alpha zac bro wtf
YES MY BEST FRIEND IS FLYING FROM OREGON TO CALIFORNIA THIS WEEKEND TO GET ACRYLIC NAILS. LIKE ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? REALLY??? NOW OF ALL TIMES??? kids the days smh.
The last one can be incredibly painful to have to come to terms with, as it can feel can make you feel dejected when realising you're the only one trying to hold onto the friendship.
Practical Inspiration This was me and I didn’t realize it until after the friendship was over. We were best friends for 8 years. The signs were there and I ignored them because I couldn’t let go, until they broke up with me. It was extremely hard for me
The fact that most of us are thinking about someone watching this video 😪
I'm supposed to feel better with this video but all I can think about is how many friends will I lose in my life, I'm so scared of being boring or annoying to the point they just want to leave
So I had this "friend". She was a new student and came in 3rd grade. I was quite lonely a the time and well somehow she became my "friend". We had a lot in common and I really thought I found a true friend until 6t grade. That's where she became distant she didn't let me have an opinion and thought she was always right. She was really annoying and she also started running after some other girls that clearly didn't want her in their group. And now I'm in 7th grade she completely ignored and acts like nothing happened. I thought I would never find a friend if she left me but I was wrong I feel so much better without her. She's a really selfish and toxic and manipulative person and thinks having bipolar a'd thinks that having Mental disorder is qurky and cool. I'd be okay if she told me the reason why she didn't want to be my friend anymore. If you have a friend like this please just stop being friends with them there are much better people out there that will like you the way you are❤️
i feel you man it was just a month ago i was friend with someone like that had to go through a lot of self esteem problem because of her i am glad she left if not i would've never had a chance to develop my confidence
@@cienfleurr my ex friend's ego is bigger than my forehead
Same :(
I have a friend that I call her "the snake" I've been friends with this girl, she's a Senior and I'm a freshman, and we became since I started high school. When it got to November or December I can feel it that my friend ship with her didn't last long... And I realized she was body shame me and the stupid other friend so let's call her "dilemma". Dilemma was a girl who skips schools. I was lunch and she came up to me and said " What Jenny said? " And I said "she didn't say nothing" And she said again and I gave up and said "she's in class ok! " And for no reason she got and started talk sh__ to the snake. And hours later I got a call from the snake she said "DID YOU TOLD THAT I TALK SH__ TO HER?! " She got the power, I'm the weak one! Omg, I HATED MY FRIEND 😫 THAT'S WHY I HAVE ANGER ISSUES AND THAT'S MY GEMINI♊
@@Joe_mama19 English?
It sucks sometimes... My bestie, she’s been in a relationship with someone else for a while and ever since then she’s slowly been talking to me less and not trying to make too much of an effort. She always comes back and says that she’s trying but I don’t always see it. She’s helped me so much, but I don’t want to leave her...
I'm sorry you're dealing with that. It's the other way around for me. My best friend and I have been friends for over 3 years, and now I feel like things are so different than it used to be since I'm in a relationship now. I care about both of them a lot, but it feels kinda weird now since they're both guys and are wary of each other. I'm worried I have to chose which person I want to keep in my life in the future. Your friend may feel a similar way, try talking her about how you feel.
adenova That situation sounds a lot like what I’m in actually. I know there’s a way to keep both of them in your life, and if both of them are nice enough I’m sure they’ll understand that you still wanna have both of them in your life. Making connections with others is one of life’s most precious things and so it’s always best to keep others around.
I was going to tell her about it but I wanted to do it in person so that I can make sure everything comes out clear and isn’t taken the wrong way but quarantine kinda killed that chance. Still, I’m planning on doing it and hopefully things get better. And I really wish the best for you too. I know it’ll work out well.
(Sorry for writing a lot)
@@RockManSSB Nah you're fine man, I hope things turn out well for you too! I'm sure she'll be willing to hear you out and make amends.
Happens... When one is just a year or so in a relationship it is actually required for the newly bud pair to spend a lot of time with each other. This can inturn hurt the best friends...
To me its kinda same to me but its my onlinr bestfriend and i lost my every online bestfriend :D
i've had the feeling our friendship wasn't meant to last almost from the beginning. at first I stayed because she convinced me I was the only thing keeping her alive, and after that I stayed because I didn't know how to leave. don't get me wrong, she's a great person, but we are clearly not meant for each other.
I can relate to this so much.
Thank you for helping me at this time in my life. The last couple of months have been challenging to let go of what i thought was a best friend. I'm a co-dependent person in recovery. Now I see my patterns and I'm much more confident in my self, my boundaries, my values.
sad that I’m exactly in this situation rn
me too, bro
I hope I gets better I already went though it
same
:( me too y’all
*6 Signs its time to let Let Go of a Best Friend:*
1. When you're a Toy and your best friend is going to College
2. When you're a Toy and your Best Friend is going to Infinity and Beyond
I see you everywhere and now you changed your pfp lmao
*When you found a lover from your past and your new owner doesn't play with you*
The Toy Story movies
I was crying while watching this video cause I realized all these signs were so relatable, as much as I don’t want to stop being best friends with the person I met in kindergarten. And she knows me like no one else I think the time has come to say goodbye 😖😕
Even though this is almost a year old, this showed up in my recommend at the right time.
I can heavily relate to some of these examples
I actually permanently lost 2 of them and I'm going through the grieving stage as we speak, but I'm just trying to forget they even existed in my life.
Me: *Realizing I have to let my friend go*
Psych2Go: Can you relate to this video?
Me while crying: no
Losing a best friend has been harder than breaking up with any ex
Is really hurtfull...
exspecially if you had a crush on them and they dont feel the same way and they are always busy i never had a official relationship but this hurts me more than i could think
@@nozomi9995 this happened to me today and I'm sad
Yeah definitely, I cried my ass off trying not to think about it but I landed here.
Losing a guy best friend :( one of the hardest things ever, even more hard, because I wasn't the one who rejected him :(
unpopular opinion:
it hurts more letting go with a good best friend than fake ones
My best friend and I used to think of each other as soulmates because of the bond we had. We were always honest with each other, and helping building each other up. We had meaningful and insightful conversations about life. I always thought that she was one of the truest, most selfless people that I've met, and I still think so to this day. At some point, I felt her drifting off and everything she said or did upset me, because I was second guessing our friendship. I didn't understand her anymore. So I confronted her about it and told her how I felt. Her reply crushed me: "I don't know what to tell you". I asked her what we were and she said she didn't know anymore. That shattered me. That night a lost a friend, a sister, someone who I thought belonged in my life forever. I know it's not her fault she felt this way, she probably found a group of friends who she felt belonged to more. In the end, if she found people she felt more comfortable with, I am really happy she did, I just hope for me to make peace with it soon.
My best friends are the best!
They're too goofy for their own good. But they never once betrayed me in any way.
How long you have been friends?
@@ajaygocher4685 6 years
@@akirax8323 you are the luckiest lucky person damnn hope your friendship lasts forever :D
You are Lucky
@@akirax8323wow that's good 😀
I hope your friends forever with you
I’m having trouble with friends and watching this video made my heart burst. I’m realizing how friendship can be fragile.
I came here immediately after telling my frnd a good bye! I met her online...but we were so connected and together...I loved her a lot...but a small misunderstanding caused a permanent break! She told she wanted peace...and that I agreed to let go of her and promised her that I will never face her again!!! Ik what I did was for my best frnd's happiness...if she is not with me, she will be happy! My brain knows that but my heart will take forever to understand that!! I already left one other frnd for her happiness!! I hope both of them finds peace n happiness!! I just wish they should be strong enough to handle things happening around them!! And thanks for this video! Thanks for reading my story!!
it must've been hurtssssssss, anyway i hope you found a new friend soon.
@@itamarseptika I know I'm replying you after several months...I am alright now, thanks for replying me earlier🙂
It might be time for me to let go of my best friend... We’ve known each other for 4 years, but nothing lasts forever.
I’m feeling this really strongly right now. Who I thought was my best friend has constantly let me down and isn’t really there for me. Never really checks in and only shows concern when it’s convenient but any minor issue for them deserves the utmost attention. The biggest issue is that we were planning to go to a concert together but they ended up getting last minute tickets from the venue and told me when it was too late and went to the concert without me. When I told him how much it hurt me, he totally dismissed it and said he got me a poster. This would have been my first time going to see Coldplay and it especially hurt seeing him post a bunch of pics and videos from last minute floor tickets all over social media. I feel like I’ve been holding on since then but never really recovered from this.
Number 5 of broken trust and constant arguing hits home. Sometimes you have to realize that you're best friend can be your most toxic. We argued almost all the time and we hung out almost every day. It got to a point that I got so exhausted and stressed every day. I chose to distance myself recently giving myself some time and space. We all deserve happiness but, sometimes not it's with the same people you were with 5 or 10 years ago. It's been hard but I truly am freer and happier than I've been it ages. It was the right thing to do.
I have known him since he was 9 months old and at 37 I had to let the friendship go 😔
Oh no. I'm sorry to hear that. You will get to a place of peace after moving on even if it takes awhile.
I had a best friend for over 16 years. I had to end it (gradually) because she became abusive. I wish you the best in life and hope your making new friends.
@@krisluvsutube2684 thank you!🥀
Is it normal that I am still resenting him and get angry in my head. The story behind the separation is: when we were little a family friend was m🤬 me when my friend yelled out his name out loud to let me go and stop touching me. The effer didn't think my friend would understand what was going on since we were around 6ish...then he ran away😤 (we never mentioned this event to any adult)
Now as an adult, (him living in Quebec, me in MA) my childhood friend would brought up the even nonchalantly, carelessly over the phone by starting "do you remember such and such and that day?" And as usual I would get triggered and go off talking, crying and tripping afterwards.
After doing this so many times, I realized that he wasn't dealing with the memory his own way but he would purposely bring the event up to brush his ego and his hero complex as I would thank him for that day.
After a while,I had to cut him off forever especially after getting married and didn't even bother to tell me 😔
Well, life goes on right!
Thank you for your kind words
@@kaybee1025 Your welcome.
"Stay happy, safe and secure" THAT LINE HURTS
Edit: this whole video hurts
Thank you so much for the advice, these videos are making my decision a lot easier. Things have not been going well with me and one of my friends of 5 years. Maintaining a lost distance friendship is hard enough, especially when you and your friends live 1000 miles away from each other, but with some things that have been going on behind the scenes for the past year with him that I honestly rather not go public about, I feel like it is time for me to move on. This friendship has been causing me extreme stress and I feel like things will never get better between us. This was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make in my life, and it does hurt me as much as it will hurt him. :(
This covers the basics but it if often a lot deeper and more complex than this. I think it comes down to how much you value the friendship and whether it’s based on you genuinely wanting to see you friends do well in life and be happy and this reciprocating within the friendship.
*Stop doing this to me. I was just about to cry because I miss my best-friend so much, he left me for his girlfriend because she hates me and now you guys upload a video about moving on from your bestfriends, this has happened twice in a row with your channel now. Do you guys read minds or sum-*
(3/28/20) Update: he came back and started texting me like nothing happened a few days ago. It was a roller coaster of emotions. He would send me random videos or memes or just talk about the most random stuff. I tried confronting him about him making no sense a few days ago but he wouldn’t answer properly.
Me too
Same thing happened last year with my best friend, he left me for his girlfriend that he knew for 4 months, and we knew each other for 4 years
xxWingedGachaxx omg same is going to block him in everything
I recently ended things with a friend too. He saw me less as a friend and more like a potential “friend with benefits”. :/ He also said he didn’t find me attractive enough to date yet he was okay with just “having fun”. Even when we were close he made jabs about my physical appearance and interests. He saw nothing special about me too.
yeah same here...
I’m in a situation where I need to leave a toxic friend relationship, but it’s the only close or accessible one I have 😬
Same here
Same 😔
same also
Honestly though, it hurts more because we'd both been through so much and supported each other through the 6-7 years of friendship, that I still feel guilty about the way I ended things.
4:25 "If they don't want you in their life anymore, spare yourself the indignity and leave."
I cannot underscore that statement enough. It needs to be emblazoned on a billboard; one so large it's visible from friggin' space.
There's absolutely no shame in walking away from somebody who doesn't give a flying eff about you, regardless of how great things used to be. Want to know the easiest way to tell if that's the case? The line delivered right after the above one, at 4:30 ... "Asking for answers to get closure is an option..." If the person is unwilling to give you answers, it's time to stop asking questions.
Omg why is this coming up now this is so scary. I just ended a friendship with some guy yesterday. And I’m laying in bad all day crying
Kinda the same here, i am currently in a situation wherei dont know how long my friendsship with a guy will last and it is painful to think about that we might stop contach
Same here 😓
Grieving that is perfectly O.K., dear.
Jess , I ended my friendship with my friend , he was my friend for 4 whole years , in this yrs we spooked all the day , they were the best yrs of my life ! I didint cried all the day , i criend only when we broked out the friendship , if you cry nothing will happen , try to do thing as you usually do
I had this friend growing up. His grandparents lived next door to me. We had been friends since the early 90's. After 2007, things started to change. Yeah sure they told me that they would come visit me. I was thinking that I would always be friends with this friend. But as I got older, I realize that he really didn't have a reason to come visit anymore. I am grateful for the childhood friendship that I once had. But as in the video we have to mover on. That to me was very hard at first. Then the years went by and then I said that friendship is over. He will always be in my memories and heart and thats what matters.
ummm ok ☺
I watched this video ten times and it gave me courage to let go of someone who betrayed me. I don't feel alone in this while reading comments from other people who have experienced a bad friendship before, and this video really helped me to move on.
Thank you for making this video, it helped me SO much.
Sign 1: They don't play Minecraft anymore
Yes
YES! I get that.
Lol what's next?! I always like your comments because all the jokes is about Minecraft
You'd lose a friend because of that yeh ok lol
Lol
Why am i watching this when I never had a best friend lmao
TimeFliesAway same here
I do have a best friend which I know since we were just 1 year old. We did everything together. We live in the same street and sure have the possibility to see eachother. But we went to different middle schools and things changed a lot since then. We do speak sometimes and come to eachothers house, but having a conversation is becoming slightly more difficult. I dont think I should let this friendship go, because, we don't see eachother a lot because of school. But during holidays, we being back good old days and do things together again like we always did.
I do have another comment about what my current state is with my other Friends... But it's a long story. You want to hear it?
FunPlayer 05 sure
Lucky...
Ngl idk what’s happening with me and my bffs friendship rn she’s not really answering my texts and when she dose it’s with a “ yeah” or a “ ok” or “ cool” and somtimes It feels like we have nothing to talk about. And we are drifting apart.
cut that shit. she doesnt gaf abt the effort you're putting in.
You guys have given me so much good Imformation thank you so much!❤️
Who has no friends and still watching.....
feels bad man :(
Me too
Well let's start an internet friends club. Sometimes it works even better. I've made friends through youtube that are much more rewarding than people I see daily. 🙋🙋🙋🙋🙋🙋💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️🤗🤗🤗🤗
Let's be friends
@@erwinpp1382 yes let's 🤗
@@ickidierlam7364 how
My only issue with a best friend is that she's always at least 30 minutes late when meeting up and she's never late for work so I wonder how much she even respects me
Maybe she's just really bad at time management. I can relate ._.
maybe she feels less pressured and sees you as the understanding type?
If u can't except her lil quirks n flaws n focus too much on what she could do more of them maybe she doesn't need u as a friend becuz im sure. U have things about u thats annoying n flawed if u know shell be late n its her normal then get there 15 20 min b4 she does stop expecting n just be you n let her be her ..
@@kristinariley4642 she still deserves respect
@@kristinariley4642 if you’re gonna defend people who others on this video I clearly wondering about, why are you on this video?
Ive been going through the same thing with a old friend of mine, but I know it the best because my happiness is more important to me than just holding on to the past.
I love your animation, it is so cute and suitable for me. And that best-friend-topic is quite interesting and currently important to me personally. I would love to see more videos on that. :3
this came to me in a time i needed it most wow
Glad to help! < 3 -MT
My bestfriend recently blocked me when I needed her the most due to my father passing away. It sucks because our friendship was so special and she brought out such a beautiful fun wild side to me that no one else ever could.
@SimplyMoon it’s ok. I should’ve just let the friendship go but we became best friends again and she was subtly flirting with my boyfriend and threw a drink at me at a bar when I confronted her 😭
I can relate to that....its really painful, I'm still trying to get over it
@@listentocrows. lost best friends. JoMurry not answer phone 📱
not answer text message. mum told. Amy wiillmas give up on. JoMurry in tears 😭💔.
I can relate to this a lot. Especially the last 2 hits home for me. It's hard to let go and feeling like the only one hanging on. I have to keep coming too terms with some I've been friends a long time with. We're not best friends but it still the same for me. I finally let them both go because we keep disagreeing to the point not working out or repeated pattern.
I'm glad you're talking this because I think it can be tough for anyone whose going through this too. Thanks again for sharing! :)
this is so timely, ive been having a hard time deciding whether I should let go of that 9 year friendship or give her more time to grow
But what if you feel like you can’t let go, even if you feel closer to other people and live far apart? Because even if this person is my complete opposite, I still feel like we are inseparable. We have been friends since birth
Sorry to break it to you, but that doesn't mean anything
It doesn't work that way at some point you have to let go things. You have to move on
Truly. I have lost many friends even best friends but the problem is, I'm just 13. My heart is broken due to that and now the girl I love rejected me. Anyways thanks to you now I feel better.
@@Julia-yb3gt Idk what to say but I don't think I'd call this a fun memory. Anyways thanks
“The girl I love” dude, you’re 13 YEARS OLD. You know nothing about love, go play a video game or something lol
I just ruined a friendship and I'm giving them space atm.
I feel like such a horrible person bc I said so many super hurtful things and I'm going to therapy to relearn how to behave and think.
I feel so empty inside.
Your voice is so aesthetic and so relaxing!!
Straight away I could relate to the first two..and after watching the whole video I finally understand that it is time to let go. Thankyou so much for making this video so I can finally open my eyes and realize that the friendship is going/gone. Walking onwards and upwards, here's to self peace ✨
This video came in a very important moment.
I won't write about it in respect of my old "friend", but I just want you to know that your video helped me a lot and was very eye opening.
Thank you for the message, it was much needed.
Sending you all lots of positivity 💛
thanks for making this video made me cry watching this and i might let go my friend as well and move on every word you mention i feel exact same way and i love youre talent animation looks cute and very special
Things with my best friend have never been better, but I have gradually lost many good friends over the years. Mostly because of either me or them moving. It's like you continue to stay in touch at first and you still go out your way to see each other when you have the time, but then it just fades out eventually
Lost both of my best friends this year, realizing how toxic our friendship were, thank you for that video 🙏🏻
Great timing! I'm just experiencing this only a few days ago, it helped me realized so many things, Thank you.
This helped me so much. Ty! 🥰
This helped so much! Thank you!
Thank you for making this video psych2go! This really ensured me that it's ok that my best friend left me. They stopped communicating me and didnt talk to me for the entire summer and they always said they are busy the entire time. Now I've got a better person and hopefully our friendship will last for long.
Soo...how is the new friendship going
After watching, I was able to say yes to all six points in regards to my former best friend. He has changed so much, as have I, now we have nothing in common (or lifestyle choices as well) I wish him the best but I clearly see that my friendship with him is long gone and will never be what it was.
My best friend of seven years ended our friendship. It hurt a lot. But ive put myself out there and have realised how different we are. I truly wish them the best and it was fun while it lasted. If you are struggling if youve lost a best friend, just remember- others have been through it too. You arent alone, and you can make new friends, life moves on and so, unfortunately, do people. Stay strong guys i believe in you!!! ❤
Thank you sooo much for this vdo ♥️♥️🌸🌸☮️✨
*2nd version got uploaded
Me: I thought I'm over with this
The hardest heartache I’ve had in a long time
I relate to 1, 2, 3, 4 and 6. I think it's about time I end the friendship-
Thank you so much for the video.
I can't let go of her, we had so much unforgettable precious memories, but now... 💔💔💔😭😭😭😭😭😭
100% agree on this video, I'm going through with this as we speak. I just know by now, it's better to go different ways, even if it does hurt us both, or even one of us. But I have faith everything will work out in the future!
I once was faced with a brutal breakup with a friend. Definitely one of the most painful experiences in my life. Though I didn't want it to hold me back from doing the things I love, and/ or to let it destroy personal interests. As much as it hurt, I wanted to move on as soon as possible.
It still hurts sometimes, but for the most part, I'm over it. I can also see that it was definitely time to split with that person.
I just hope they were able to move on too.
Thank you for this video