"Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as friends." Don't let loneliness make you connect with toxic people. Even when we're thirsty, we shouldn't drink poison. Stay strong!
Yea... gotta search for water... huff... puff... you`re really right... I can totally relate... huff... puff... I noticed toxic behaviors... quite quickly... in most people I tried to... befriend... huff... so yea drinking poison sucks... more...puff... than... being thirsty... cuz you are... still alive... puff... to drink water... huff.... oh boi I`m thirsty...
I'm still trying to let go of a toxic friend, he just keeps coming back. I've known him for years now and it's so hard to let go of something I felt was so special. But I know I will never be as special to him as he is to me, and I need to let it go
sadly i can relate,we have known eachother for a year and a half they used me only to vent and gaslighted me alot they still messages me sometimes to this day,but it doesnt feel the same anymore if you want to talk,i can give my discord,i know its really tough for you and its fine if you wanna talk about it with me
Block them, I know it's hard and can feel kinda childish sometimes but really it helps A LOT it puts you in control and shows a boundary they have to respect
I once had a "friend" that constantly made me feel inferior and often gaslighted me into believing I was a narcissist. Only to find out a while later that they were not only the one who was the true narcissist, but was also a compulsive liar.
The friend who drags you down is the worst type of friend you can ever have. The person who knows they can get you to do drugs/get blackout, makes you so uncomfortable/shameful things and hinders your own progress, because they are too weak to fix them. Run like hell!
I really need help from y'all So there's this friend that I love sooo much (platonically) but most of the time I start the convo and when I do I carry it most of the time bringing up interesting things to talk about I asked her to prom not to long ago and she excitedly said yes although she never want to be the person to reach out first Should I let her go or should I keep her as a friend?😢
@@Needforasphalt-77 well if she excitedly said yes, you should start assuming she likes you, it sounds like you like her and she likes you. So, I would be alittle more clear in your intentions and go from there.
An ennemie can't betray you because you aren't friends, you don't have a relationship... to have been betrayed is necessary a relationship with someone. And that hurts more when the love is intense.
#6 the gossiper: If they spend time talking to you about their other “friends” then you better believe they’re talking about you to them. There’s an old southern saying “Bring a bone, carry a bone”.
Another thing that I found a toxic trait is when they constantly manipulate you. I had a ‘friend’ who took away my other friends, then, she came to me and it was like she was my last hope. I was constantly pushed around and she changed me completely, even giving me trust issues. Then, she would say ‘I think we’re only friends because we like the same things’ which made me think that everything that she did I would have to do. Luckily, she is now out of my life and I have reconnected with my old friends (who were taken away). Yes, they can rarely brag. But everyone does and they care about me too. Please be careful who you trust and stay healthy and happy ❤ Remember, happiness is key. 😊
This is from someone who has never had problem making friends - don’t expect anything - don’t do anything unless you want to - do things you enjoy together Be appreciative of anything else a friend decides to do with you and once again remember you are owed nothing but never allow the other person to treat you disrespectfully playfully bat any bs back immediately . Don’t give away any money unless you are totally ok knowing that you may never get it back.
Disagree with the "Don't do anything unless you want to" I believe that a friendship, like most things, requires effort, if you're never the one planning stuff, never the one messaging first, never the one doing kind favors for your friends and it's always the other way around, then you're not really a good friend
Friendships evolve. Its ok to let go of someone even if they are not toxic because people grow into different versions of themselves and that version may no longer be fullfilling or may no longer contribute to the current relationship.
1. The friend who only needs something 2. The friend who gas-lights you(manipulating you) 3. The friend who never reaches out to you 4. The friend who only talks about themselves 5. The friend who only talks down on you
During these times, I feel more and more people just don't care about maintaining a possible good friendship. Feeling like you're the only one keeping it glued together is very draining on your mental health.
This exactly. I wonder when and why everything changed? Perhaps the shift to being online all the time? Just very sad that no one seems particularly interested anymore in creating - and most importantly, maintaining! - an authentic friendship...
I feel the same as you, I have a few friends where I’m the only one who bother to keep in touch. I love them and we have great time together yet it’s draining that initiating contact only coming from myself. I feel like just not contacting them ever unless they change but it’s so hard also as we’ve been so close. Maybe we should make a group of people who actually cares about their friends ;)
@@imchlI used to have friends like that but having enough of that, i decided to leave them. Yet, one of them still had the audacity to say that they were the one who kicked me out of our friend group when i had left it by myself. In a nutshell, even after i stopped befriending them, they still try to find a way to bring me down. So i was disappointed for a while but i let it go knowing that, I didn't lost them, they lost me. And maybe all of us who had experienced toxic friends do need to have some sort of group made, to share our experiences and lessons together, the long term goal is to avoid toxic friends and find genuine ones out there😂
my best friend always use to make me feel so small and dumb next to her. she used to always talk about her things and when i do something she makes it look like i am wrong. she always argues with me and told bad things about me to me and maybe (not sure) even others. now i have a good best friend who actually cares for me now.
I walked away from a toxic friend 2 years ago and it ended very traumatically after I was honest with them about how they make me feel. I’m still struggling to this day to get over it, I sometimes feel alone and it makes me miss them and feel guilty for walking away, even though I know they weren’t healthy for me. The most toxic thing is someone having that emotional hold over you even after you walked away
Stay strong please. If u feel like it was toxic or you wornt enjoying it like a freindship your valid. I know someone that just keeps coming back to the person and they are still in the relationship sadly. U got this broski
i had a friend she always was like: oh gimme money, oh teach me how to do this, oh i did this today, oh im so sad imma just die i eventually left her and she STILL acts lile we're friends i think shes slightly delusional bc one second she's kind, and the next second she's snarking at me and making a rude comment i left but i still have to deal with someone who goes out of their way to find me
It's okay! It might be hard right now, but time heals, and you'll look back on your decision and be proud of yourself for being brave and standing up for yourself !!
A “friend” that is never truly honest, lies and thinks you don’t know reality. Also the “friend” that tries to one up you with literally everything/is in secret competition with you. Or the “friend” that still wants your opinion or you to do things yet gets easily triggered by you, things you say and do and blames you/ throws jabs/ starts unnecessary drama instead of managing their insecurities, toxic past, and triggers. So glad I’ve gone through my season of dropping bad, dead, draining, leaching, poisonous, leaves and have now made room for beautiful people inside and out
I had a friend who always tried to bring me down. Whenever I started to talk about my hobbies she was always judging me. She was the one that made me feel like an asocial person. I gave her a last chance and she still did the same thing so now we are not talking anymore and i feel so much better now.
It's very hard to be friends with someone who doesn't respect boundaries. People have tried to contact me at work or if I'm out and about when I explain my schedule numerous times. They get mad or upset when I don't answer, and I explain once again I'm actually busy. I'm not sure where this falls, but it's an exhausting process.
Keep in mind: when it comes to 3 and 4, it can get a bit tricky when it comes to people with neurodivergencies! For 3, people with ADHD, ASD, depression, anxiety and more can tend to flake (not always). It's usually nothing against the other person. There are a number of reasons. For instance people with ADHD have an issue with maintaining relationships, people with depression may lack the energy and people with anxiety may be too afraid you are mad at them for not talking to you for so long that they're afraid to reach out at all. Keep in mind anyone with neurodivergency has the potential to become exhausted from or at the thought of social interaction, irregardless of whether they want to interact or not. For number 4: people with neurodivergencies tend to console and relate to others in a different way. 9 times out of 10 they are not trying to make it about themselves. They respond with a similar story to show that they were listening and can relate. It's a way of saying "hey, you're not alone in this. Ive been through something similar, so I know you're struggling". Sometimes within the stories they may even talk about how they dealt with it. Again, this is not to belittle you. It may in fact be them trying to give you ideas. Also, if they do this for a happy occasion, they are usually not trying to 1 up you, but share in your joy. If you feel bothered by any of these, it's important to communicate. During communication it is also important not to belittle them or their struggles. I won't lie and say there aren't jerks with neurodivergencies out there, but most of the time it's just how our brain works and there's not much we can do to help it. (Also keep in mind that just because someone doesn't seem like they're neurodivergent doesn't mean they aren't).
Ah! Well said! This is a side to the equation that deserves a serious look This is why communication is everything in a friendship. So many of these relationship problems and doubts arise when you cannot confirm what the other parties feelings are, including their feelings toward you. The better you can understand their pov, the better you can gauge whether it is healthier to leave them or not imo!
Recently I ended a 7 year friendship because I started to notice that this friend would talk nonstop about themselves and their problems and I would always try to give advice, but when I wanted to talk about me she was almost always like “idk what to say” or just tried to ignore it in some type of way. The last thing I couldn’t bear was her justification of people who leak your intimate photos (I was one of victims) just because she fell in love with one of those people. She knew how hard it was for me, how much I cried and how it triggers me to this day, but still chose him. And in the end she looks only happier now that I’m gone from her life and I don’t have any best friends anymore. For whatever reason it makes me feel guilty and lonely, even though I know she’s wrong in this situation. :(
Keep reminding yourself that you're better without her, and eventually you will have another best friend. Like the other person that left a comment here, I can be your friend too! :)
That’s a terrible friend that you have to stop paying attention to, don’t worry if she’s happier now just move on. There are a lot of people out there who are much much better and you’ll meet them some day and then realize how easy it is to forget the bad ones who were in your life.
I can totally relate to u I also broke it with my 2 years BFF because she started becoming toxic She also made me think that it's always my fault always made me feel lonely She started becoming jealous of my other friends which she called 'possessiveness' It happened recently ND I still feel sad I know I did the right thing
Yeah I have a friend who always switches the topic to her own problems. Even if I’m just talking about something not depressing she totally changes the focus back on herself and it really bothers me
I think number 4 is an overlooked toixc trait, like, if you start to notice that the conversation is not only about them but only about what they like and what interests them and then when you bring up something you its like they almost ignore you what your saying and only minerly validate your intrests till they end back up at there interslts and then only then they care about the conversation. Thank you for posting these videos, these really help me and lots of others put our relationships into perspective, thank you agian and keep posting👍💜
I have a friend who only reaches out to me when it's convenient like if it's for class/schoolwork, to vent about her relationship problems or anything pertaining to her. As long as it's last minute, she'll ask for my attention but any other time when I try there's always an excuse. I've been sick & tired of it for so long, but if I run into her, I already know I'll act like nothing's wrong. I'm so bad at confrontation, I don't know how to break it to her that I don't want to be strung along anymore... I hate feeling bitter about it because I've slowly been cutting off so many friendships since graduating hs but I feel like my mental health has been so stumped lately. Thanks for this video though! If definitely helped a little bit :)
Perhaps if you can’t confront her, write her a letter instead. People that make you feel burdened to be around are not good friends. I’ve had my share and even have family members who do this to me. I’ve distanced myself from people and family like this.
Lots of comments about the label "those who never reach out " - as someone whose closest friends became these, it is when you can just tell that they really don't care about you anymore.
I’ve been friends with all these people… another one is that “friend” who’s around until life gets better for you & then they disappear or make you feel like a burden. Got a new job, was able to take care of myself a little better…they asked repeatedly “how much do you make?” Then right after I answered..every conversation is like pulling teeth, talking to a wall or far & few between. It hurts & it’s hard but in our minds, we know we have to let it go.
@@warriormanmaxx8991 Yeah same, i know someone who just wants to make much as money as they can and are clinging on another person who is a director level, so he's friends with him but no longer friends with me because in his words "we're at different stage our lives and we have different mindset". He never acknowledges that I have grown etc. Since then I have not reached out him.
I honestly think not every "friend that never reaches out" is toxic.. Speaking from personal experience I also often don't reach out for longer periods of time.. I let my friends know though and also tell them that if something is the matter I am tjere for them It's not possible for some people, including me, to just open up and talk about problems. Sometimes we need space to sort things out or to prevent hurting our friends unintentionally. It's always about how you communicate. Even when, at the moment, you aren't able to express that you need time alone.. At least let your friends know when you feel better so that they know.. Also don't forget that the video stated that this type of toxic friends also makes you feel like they did you a favor.. Which people who isolate themselves to protect themselves or their friends or just to deal with their problems don't do. But keep in mind that some of us are trying our best to reach out but aren't able to bc of different reasons and not because we are toxic or don't care about you. Trust me, we do appreciate you and your support greatly but sometimes we just need that space. Sometimes we are too overwhelmed to reach out.
Not gonna lie, I feel like letting go of a friendship along with a relationship is one of the most hardest things to do, I remember my friend getting a job and me having to let go of him because he was so busy and I couldn’t see him anymore, it’s very hard to let go of something that feels so special to you, but in the end, it could wind up being a good thing even though it doesn’t feel like it, because in a way, u are letting go of all the sadness of missing them, and opening up the chance to make new friends, I’m still friends with him regardless but, i find it really helpful when you make more friends to hang out with when the other can’t. It made it easier to let go and move on, he’s still my bestie but he is just been very distant and I needed to move on and meet other people. Like someone once said, you can’t only have ONE best friend.
Ive definetely had friends who i had to reach out to almost everytime just to see them. They were my only friends at the time and i was afraid of being alone. What i noticed these friends do that i dont think the video mentioned is that the few times they do reach out to you, it will be for small things as a way for them to not feel bad about not reaching you, and when you call them out on it, theyll just be like “but we did invite you here that one time”. I stopped reaching out to these friends and only hangout with them when they reached out. Ive seen them like 3 times in the last 4 years. I explained this to my therapist recently and her exact words were “they were never your friends. They just didnt know how to unfriend you without looking like the bad guys”.
Sadly I’ve had to deal with a gaslighter and condescending friend who turned on me recently. It’s hard having to let go of people you thought you were close with for years but it has to be done
I'm so happy that at least I did one thing right - found a bunch of a friends who are always there for me, and who cares about me. I got really bad food poisoning last weekend, and two of my friends were having shifts at my place, and a third one, who was in another city, was constantly worried, and texted me 5 times per day. I love them so much
I feel like another thing to be said are people who aren’t honest with you. Just feel betrayed/ taken advantaged of at the end, regardless of their reasons. Also when reaching out to them, but they don’t seem as interested
This is everyone I know. Time to do some cutting. Every point rang so true it was scary. No wonder I feel like I’m a burden when I reach out. I’m always the one driving conversations or meetups. When I stop, they go silent (until they want to vent / have a problem). Now I see it’s not just happening to me. Great video.
I think this is a good video, but I think an important thing to also remember is communication. If a friend is making you feel badly by something they are doing or saying, you should tell them how their actions are making you feel because they may not realize they are hurting you. If they continue their behavior knowing it hurts you then it’s time to get rid of them. Best of luck to everyone out there reevaluating their relationships! ❤
I’ve had friends like these, who didn’t start out like this. Sometimes people can change, and not for the better. Or, you see them for what they are but didn’t notice at first.
@@ay-tj7pj Speak for yourself. You don’t know the first thing about me. These sort of friends are the ones who fail to appreciate others, not the other way around. You sound just like them.
1:10 my 6th bff 1:59 my 3rd bff 2:38 my 5th bff 3:07 my 4th bff 3:57 my 2nd bff My 1st bff is the person i rant to, i talk to everyday, and the person i ask for things, yet i never cared a bit about them :( True friend (or im just a fake friend lol)
Sometimes they eavesdrop me, teased me, bullied me, and even annoyance. they went it too far for me to suffer and lower my grades. My life became like darkness inside me, I just can't live a friend who dosen't listen to me or interrupt me, and even a fake laugh. so if you are one of this situations, you should not talk to them and just ignore them, they will feel like they are not attached to you anymore.
I’ve been slowly growing with the changes and noticing more and more of it in my life time. The older I’ve gotten the easier it’s become to distinguish the good friend from the bad friends
The third guy looks like someone who I know and was supposedly friends with. The description given was also very accurate in comparison to how he was. Seeing this gives me a little bit of confidence in the choice I made leaving him behind and moving on. It still kind of hurts to look at him sometimes but I made the right decision.
keypoints!~ 1. The friend who always needs something. 2. The friend who gaslights you. 3. The friend that never reaches out to you. 4. The friend who always talks about themselves. 5. The friend who always talks down on you.
My ‘bestie’ is always trying to act cool in front of my sister,(pulling me shoving me saying mean things mimicking me and pulling my hair out) and only talks to me when there’s nobody else around and constantly is being mean to me and doesn’t even notice and always calles me ‘hey pookie’ or ‘hey BESTIE’ and whenever I am with someone else she’s like, ‘come back why are you not with my ‘ and always talks about herself and I’m STUCK in the friendship….😢
Here is my list of people who I don't befriend with: 1: The friend that never returns the favor 2: The friend that never takes responsibility for their own actions and blames other people for it 3: The friend that can't keep a secret 4: The friend that can't take a joke and takes things too seriously 5: The friend that makes irresponsible desisions 6: The friend that wants to start unnecessary drama 7: The friend that doesn't stand up for you 8: The friend that doesn't make the effort to check up on you 9: The friend that is never fully honest and makes up lies 10: The friend that is completely selfish and inconsiderate to society
Hi ! Your right on most but I do think that the number 8 is a little too much because sometimes people are just busy with their own live and it doesn't mean their are bad friends or that theire not willing to help you if you ask them. I am telling you this because I used to think something like that and I cut contact with some people that where overall good friends.
I agree on most of those except for number 1, 8, and 9 to a certain degree. For 1, if you do favors for someone every once in a while and they don't ever reciprocate any of that kindness, than yeah not great. But if you do favors for them regularly than it could make them not like you because you are constantly making them feel indebted to you. Even if its from the goodness of ones heart, it's not always healthy for friendships and relationships. It is even a common strategy for manipulative people, as it makes it easier for them to get others to do what they want. Ofc, this is only at the extreme level of doing favors for someone. For 8, I think that depends on you. I think for me, having all of my friends regularly check up on me to see if I'm okay and what I'm doing would, for one, be exhausting cuz I'm not someone who always wants or needs to openly talk with others. But two, it would also make me feel like they expect me to not be doing well at any moment and that I'm not allowed to just deal with certain issues on my own. They got their own lives and I've got mine. I like checkups or mini convos every once in a while from my closer friends and I do like meeting with them, but I don't expect check-ups like weekly or even monthly. What I would see as a bad friendship is if I ask them for help and they can't/won't make the time without good reason. For 9, it's a bit tough. There have been times where a friend was being dishonest with me and it could even be for a period of weeks or months, but it was genuinely for my own good. In the end we were both glad that I didn't get involved when I was wanting to know what was wrong. I've done it too and gradually come to fix my issues on my own. Ofc you don't want to be with fake people, but I don't think its always a rule set in stone that lies = bad.
It's not all abt these. Sometimes 'toxic' friends arent toxic at all. Just growing out of your comfort zone. Time to meet new people. Or just be alone. Whatever suits you
Your videos are so good for the public! Explaining and talking about all these mental disorders etc really help people understand and notice when others arent feeling very well mentally
I will admit, I am rather insecure about whether or not I'm being a good friend. And it's often difficult to accept my own mistakes. I do eventually, but it often hits hard at first. Honestly, I find it a little hard to tell the difference between truly caring and just being insecure. I almost always mean well, but I can't always identify whether or not it was a good thing to do.
Thank you for stating this clearly and unjudgementally. I think I'm dealing with someone gaslighting me and making me feel inferior. I was already thinking I should end the "friendship," but this video provided me more clarity to make a bold decision. Thank you ❤
I had a friend from kindergarden who would always force me to do things that I didn't like she would use my time as it doesn't matter one day I had an important lecture to attend and she called me bc there was an emergency in our squad but when I went there she told me that she justed wanted to talk with me,when I would be angry on her or start scolding she used to blackmail me and when we patched up She used me for notes and things that I bought new...then 1 day with the support of my cousin I started to yell at her that she was being to much toxic but then she fake cried and went to my mom my mom started scolding me but I was too much angry I told my mom how she treated me how she wasted my time and how she would boos me around and my mom supported me and that's how I got rid of that toxic friend....I swear I suffered for 7 continuous years of my childhood bc of that friend
I have found all types of them and unfriended them all Being a sensitive person taught me how to love myself and started to change but sometimes its good to be alone without t0xic friends ✌🏻 😉 If you are going through something I hope you get through it
I've never really noticed how toxic my "friends" really are They NEVER reach out unless they need help with something and their like i could of asked someone else but im asking you then when we meet its only about them Those were the friends that i helped when they were depressed and stayed awake and cried with them at 3 am but things changed i guess Last thing i noticed that my closest friends were the most toxic and the ones that im not really attatched to were the best
Almost all my close friends are like this... One is one sided and always put me down, liek every single chance she gets. one is only reaching when she needs help. one is only talking bout herself :( but thank god i have this one friend who is very nice and not toxic like them. I stopped being friends with those people already. It's true, 1 loyal friend is worth 10 thousand relatives.
These always make me self-conscious about how I am with my friends; and if I follow these traits. Though looking back, I do not believe so. At least, I really hope not.
I will add two more types of fake friends. 6. The one that always causes useless drama 7. The one that cuts you off from your other friends Number seven is extremely bad because when they cut you off from other friends, you feel like you have nobody else but them, so don't let it happen. It's better to be alone then in bad company.
im lowkey the type 7.I never had true friends in my life and once i got one i became possessive unconsciously. Whenever my friend tries to get close to their other friends or someone else tries to get close to them,i get jealous and hurt. It feel like im being replaced when i know im not. At first i thought it was "what if they start caring about me less" but it's "what if they start caring about someone else more" im currently taking a break from all that becuz it has drained all my energy, i dont wanna get hurt anymore and dont wanna hurt. So i want to improve for them and hopefully ill change
recently I’ve been having problems with a friend. And she’s almost everything in this video. 1. She keeps on asking for money and gives it back after like forever. 2. I always get scared of making her angry. 3. Whenever I talk she doesn’t really care and starts her story. 4. She always makes me feel a little bit useless cuz she’s too good. But we’ve been friends for an year and she’s in my friend group. (And she’s the only one toxic but the one with the most power)😢
I’m so sorry. I’ve been dealing with a friendship with someone in my friend group too. I suggest talking to everyone else in the group alone about your experience with this friend. If they don’t understand, or if they are rude to you about it, find new friends. Or just set clear boundaries with that one friend. I hope this gets better ❤
I recently "broke up" with a friend type four (3:04) which was especially difficult because she was special ed and didnt realize the harm she was doing. She was really nice otherwise but i did what had to be done and I'm ultimately glad i didn't end up ghosting like some friends suggested. i just believe that ghosting is never the answer and in the real world, it's almost impossible to find someone who is truly evil or bad.
I think I'm the toxic friend honestly. Rarely do I reach out to my friends first, I could go weeks without talking to anyone and I would be perfectly happy. It doesn't make sense, but I get lonely but at the same time I want to be alone. My mental health is so shit that I have like no normal friendships or relationships in general man
A friend has many capabilities and one of the most important is listening to their friend's problems.. People who somehow shift the conversation and start talking only about their own problems don't actually care about the other person.. In other words they are not your friend
Just got out of a toxic friendship 👏👏👏👏 Now I'm with a much better freind group ! I'm feeling much better physically and mentally! My old friends are still threatening me...but doing better now! I'm looking at you Alexis Clay.
Being a alone is the best thing for you. You don't need friends, family, or even a lover in your life. Just be alone, people will switch up. It's human nature for them. Trust me, it's for the best 👌.
But im alone because of my social anxiety and It starts to feel lonely after sometime because I feel I'm wasting my teen years and see other people with Friends + I wanna be able to talk about stuff I like and hang out with people without feeling Anxiety
What if you get physically hurt or get sick. You're definitely gonna need someone. Maybe one good friend wouldn't hurt, just can difficult to find that one friend that'll have your back.
The third one really hit hard on me.... I always felt that I'm the one trying to save a friendship that the person couldn't care less about.... And I know if i don't send a text or say hi....then they'd do nothing-
@@Dustrylite like you try so hard to fix a friendship the other person isn't willing to fix.And the thing is when I tried to end the friendship, they'd say *well, I never said the friendship was over but have it your way* and that'd just make me feel worse
The best friend that I know is someone who run away from you whenever they have a hard time, so they won't bother you. It's your responsibility to chase them and help them with everything you can. And someone who come to you whenever they achieve something great in their life. It's your responsibility to congratulate them for they tried to share their happiness with you. And someone who tried to find any possible ways to agree with your arguments and If you're completely wrong then they will show you the truth. It's your responsibility to accept the truth. I heard this saying somewhere.. I don't know if it from Jesus. Maybe. "Anything that hurt you, it hurts others". Or something similar, I don't remember.
My friend kept talking about rather negative things for almost 3 years. She complained almost all of her friends, and complained about her failure in love all the time. 90% conversations are totally about herself and I know her well but she never really know who I am. I kept comforting and supporting her for almost 2 or 3 years. This totally drain me out of energy and I feel exhausted in this one side friendship. I finally cut this unhealthy friendship in a gentle way, and guess what. She posted in social media that "don't torture yourself for soneone don't care about you, just pass them they aren't the right person"
"The friend who never reaches out" may just be an introvert or socially anxious. Speaking as an introvert I don't often reach out at all and tire socially quickly, and I do not like crowds.
Right, but if you see those intros hanging out many times with others and you are than sad, because you got no invitation...well yea. But you are right, introverts WANT to be invited and asked out. I do and I love it. :-) Which Mbti Type are you? Are you also at #typewithfj?
Either way, if you don't care about that other person you don't care about that other person. Dude(ette), the unexamined life is not worth living and if you have to make excuses, pretty sure you're not examining your own life. Sorry, not sorry.
@@marcwemtrust1480There are only four letters in Myers-briggs. I'm not saying that I think Myers-Briggs is worthwhile, just that your # thing is nothing to do with Myers-Briggs. Damn comma I think everybody needs to be themselves and not the typical person in the world wants them to be, but if you make excuses for being a bad friend, then you need to understand there is something wrong with you. I don't have any friends and I think it's because I'm not a good friend, but still. Jesus Christ.
Sometimes, the "friend who always talks about themselves", doesn't do it because it wants to, he or she can be going through some mental health issues and accidentally ends up talking about their problems because they have no one to listen to them. However this is not always the case, some people is just like that because they, well, are like that. Good night people!
I'm today totally absolutely SICK and SAD about "people who never reach you". My 3 closest friends, who are in couple, despite the excellent time we spent together, NEVER reach me. We know each other since years ago, I had several conversations with them and it's always the " Very busy by work sorry absolutely no time ". This really makes me sad. I feel so alone and depressed. I'm a happy person who like activities, deep talks, take a drink, eat at the restaurant or whatever, but I never find someone with my energy. Sometimes I really want to kill myself to be free from this unfair nightmare.
Tbh ur best friend could have all these traits but its only for once in a while, if its in a long term then might reconsider if they're your best friend
I'm just too nervous to text people and it takes a while to build up confidence, I dont know if people know how shy I am but I hope they dont take it personally
I am a last year middle year schooler and finding toxic people is way easier than finding good ones...it hurts to be betrayed by people you once trusted a lot...I have a lot of toxic people too in my life and I am currently facing issues getting them out! This helped💙
The real mvps post lists, not 'first' 1. 0:45 The friend who only contacts you when they need something. 2. 1:52 The friend that gaslights you. 3. 2:28 The friend that never reaches out to you. 4. 3:07 The friend that always talks about themselves. 5. 3:48 The friend who always talks down to you.
The best piece of advice I ever got. Become your own best friend as uncomfortable as it might me. People will be disappointing you out of a lack of self awareness and their own struggles. It’s really now about you. 😊 It’s not for you to help them.
I have the friend where she only talks to me when she needs something, and almost never returns the favor. I’m thinking of just stop being friends with her because of that. She also spends her time with her other friends and completely leaves me out
I have an immensely hard time reaching out to even my closest friends to hang out or even just have a conversation. I'm basically that one friend who's part of the group and is involved that way. So technically I am one of these things but they all understand I WANT to be closer to them, it's just anxiety. (Also no, I don't consider this "making excuses" because I'm not hurting anyone, my friends know I love and appreciate them and the time we spend together, I just have to show it in a different way.)
If you find yourself questioning whether you're in a toxic relationship chances are that you are and the only solution I can think of is to cut them off Toxic people weigh heavily on their victims mental health so if you know someone who is in a toxic relationship(be it an acquaintance ship,family relationship or friendship)please help them *psych2go also has a video on that* Lots of love And Peace
Number 6: the friend that leaves you in the dust when they get a significant other It’s hard to be friends with someone that doesn’t pay any attention to you now that all of their attention is directed at someone else
feelin alot like that third one,, i have a hard time talking to people in general and while i sit more comfortably with friends, i still get very anxious to text them. what if they are currently texting somebody else? I would accidentally be an intrusion on the conversation I find it hard to ask them to do things with me because i feel like I am wasting their time, so i wait for them to text me and ask me what they would like to do so i dont feel like i am pressuring them into doing what i would like. and when the later months of the year come around, I kinda get a seasonal depression??? It makes it way harder to normally interact with people, I feel 10x more uneasy around both strangers and friends, and I feel like I often need a break. i feel like theres def a difference between someone who just dont give a sht about you, and then being friends with someone who overthinks alot.
yo self reflection is a beautiful thing. i am scared i do some of these things but i know i act out of good intention so maybe just having the awareness that there are other perspectives of what constitutes a bad friend can make you a better friend! don’t be so hard on yourself just always try to do better (i’m taking this advice myself)!
I'm the friend that doesn't reach out much...bit when I'm in the company of my friend/friends I treat them with love, respect, and dignity! We have and always create memories. It's just hard for me to stay connected when all of my friends are long distance...I feel and have felt lonely and isolated from so many people that I've just adopted being by myself. I never talk on the phone and my wonderful children are my company. I'm ok with that...❤️
"1 loyal friend is worth 10 thousand relatives" - Alfred Pennyworth
*Mega incest incestifies*
I thought you said “Alfred Pennywise”…
@Burger Cat your comment translated into united kingdom's english is fury
True.. I got relatives who only know us when they need something and never really cared about our problems.
I’m watching Gotham rn and this video 😂🙌
"Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as friends." Don't let loneliness make you connect with toxic people. Even when we're thirsty, we shouldn't drink poison. Stay strong!
Thank you! I needed this.
Yea... gotta search for water... huff... puff... you`re really right... I can totally relate... huff... puff... I noticed toxic behaviors... quite quickly... in most people I tried to... befriend... huff... so yea drinking poison sucks... more...puff... than... being thirsty... cuz you are... still alive... puff... to drink water... huff.... oh boi I`m thirsty...
@@pkmntrainerred4247 the heck-
You just put 23 "..." and 1 "...."
so many dots o-o
To TEA For MIND . facts
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I'm still trying to let go of a toxic friend, he just keeps coming back. I've known him for years now and it's so hard to let go of something I felt was so special. But I know I will never be as special to him as he is to me, and I need to let it go
Listen to music it helps.It gives me motivation so I can move on.I listen to metal and more.
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sadly i can relate,we have known eachother for a year and a half
they used me only to vent and gaslighted me alot
they still messages me sometimes to this day,but it doesnt feel the same anymore
if you want to talk,i can give my discord,i know its really tough for you and its fine if you wanna talk about it with me
It can be hard letting go, but you can do this! 💞
Block them, I know it's hard and can feel kinda childish sometimes but really it helps A LOT it puts you in control and shows a boundary they have to respect
I once had a "friend" that constantly made me feel inferior and often gaslighted me into believing I was a narcissist. Only to find out a while later that they were not only the one who was the true narcissist, but was also a compulsive liar.
Same, they would ask me for stuff and whenever I refused they would throw hissy fits.
The friend who drags you down is the worst type of friend you can ever have. The person who knows they can get you to do drugs/get blackout, makes you so uncomfortable/shameful things and hinders your own progress, because they are too weak to fix them. Run like hell!
Real
I really need help from y'all
So there's this friend that I love sooo much (platonically) but most of the time I start the convo and when I do I carry it most of the time bringing up interesting things to talk about I asked her to prom not to long ago and she excitedly said yes although she never want to be the person to reach out first
Should I let her go or should I keep her as a friend?😢
@@Needforasphalt-77 well if she excitedly said yes, you should start assuming she likes you, it sounds like you like her and she likes you. So, I would be alittle more clear in your intentions and go from there.
@@Vishfeast go from there as in level the friendship?
Sadly that's my best friend idk what to do
“ The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.”
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An ennemie can't betray you because you aren't friends, you don't have a relationship... to have been betrayed is necessary a relationship with someone. And that hurts more when the love is intense.
My family members and fellow greenlandics did the worst things on me.
So i can attest on that.
#6 the gossiper: If they spend time talking to you about their other “friends” then you better believe they’re talking about you to them. There’s an old southern saying “Bring a bone, carry a bone”.
Thanks for the insight and quote!
Yup! It was crucial to cut these friends out of my life ☝🏾 ua-cam.com/video/W5nlDlPzsT0/v-deo.html
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@@obinamk6500, rather figure out how to manifest it myself
Sometimes being a loner is the best and only option to avoid having toxic friends.
But people will make fun of you
Yea, sometimes it feels like the only kinds of friends you end up with are the hella toxic ones
me
@@sweetpotatoes9882 eh i dont get made fun of, maybe you think that cuz youre the one making fun of them..
@@ranpan0801 ya same
Another thing that I found a toxic trait is when they constantly manipulate you. I had a ‘friend’ who took away my other friends, then, she came to me and it was like she was my last hope. I was constantly pushed around and she changed me completely, even giving me trust issues. Then, she would say ‘I think we’re only friends because we like the same things’ which made me think that everything that she did I would have to do. Luckily, she is now out of my life and I have reconnected with my old friends (who were taken away). Yes, they can rarely brag. But everyone does and they care about me too. Please be careful who you trust and stay healthy and happy ❤
Remember, happiness is key. 😊
This is from someone who has never had problem making friends
- don’t expect anything
- don’t do anything unless you want to
- do things you enjoy together
Be appreciative of anything else a friend decides to do with you and once again remember you are owed nothing but never allow the other person to treat you disrespectfully playfully bat any bs back immediately . Don’t give away any money unless you are totally ok knowing that you may never get it back.
Ps never fart, smell of BO , bad breadth or do anything disgusting infront of them. Just out of respect.
Disagree with the "Don't do anything unless you want to" I believe that a friendship, like most things, requires effort, if you're never the one planning stuff, never the one messaging first, never the one doing kind favors for your friends and it's always the other way around, then you're not really a good friend
Friendships evolve. Its ok to let go of someone even if they are not toxic because people grow into different versions of themselves and that version may no longer be fullfilling or may no longer contribute to the current relationship.
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You've got a point
@@oigbochiejohnson1425 Like voodoo?
1. The friend who only needs something
2. The friend who gas-lights you(manipulating you)
3. The friend who never reaches out to you
4. The friend who only talks about themselves
5. The friend who only talks down on you
Thank you 😊
Thank you
Thank you
Number 3 might mean that the friend doesn't want to be friends anymore and it's time to leave them alone.
During these times, I feel more and more people just don't care about maintaining a possible good friendship. Feeling like you're the only one keeping it glued together is very draining on your mental health.
This exactly. I wonder when and why everything changed? Perhaps the shift to being online all the time? Just very sad that no one seems particularly interested anymore in creating - and most importantly, maintaining! - an authentic friendship...
Yes I can totally relate to this!
I feel the same as you, I have a few friends where I’m the only one who bother to keep in touch. I love them and we have great time together yet it’s draining that initiating contact only coming from myself. I feel like just not contacting them ever unless they change but it’s so hard also as we’ve been so close.
Maybe we should make a group of people who actually cares about their friends ;)
bro i don't even care if i'm mentally stable anymore
my life is worth nothin', i'm mostly just a people-pleaser.@@alexandrialeonora6542
@@imchlI used to have friends like that but having enough of that, i decided to leave them. Yet, one of them still had the audacity to say that they were the one who kicked me out of our friend group when i had left it by myself. In a nutshell, even after i stopped befriending them, they still try to find a way to bring me down. So i was disappointed for a while but i let it go knowing that, I didn't lost them, they lost me. And maybe all of us who had experienced toxic friends do need to have some sort of group made, to share our experiences and lessons together, the long term goal is to avoid toxic friends and find genuine ones out there😂
my best friend always use to make me feel so small and dumb next to her. she used to always talk about her things and when i do something she makes it look like i am wrong. she always argues with me and told bad things about me to me and maybe (not sure) even others. now i have a good best friend who actually cares for me now.
I’m so happy for you ❤ stay strong
Well good for you
Carry on❤🤞
I walked away from a toxic friend 2 years ago and it ended very traumatically after I was honest with them about how they make me feel. I’m still struggling to this day to get over it, I sometimes feel alone and it makes me miss them and feel guilty for walking away, even though I know they weren’t healthy for me. The most toxic thing is someone having that emotional hold over you even after you walked away
Stay strong please. If u feel like it was toxic or you wornt enjoying it like a freindship your valid. I know someone that just keeps coming back to the person and they are still in the relationship sadly. U got this broski
i had a friend
she always was like: oh gimme money, oh teach me how to do this, oh i did this today, oh im so sad imma just die
i eventually left her
and she STILL acts lile we're friends
i think shes slightly delusional bc one second she's kind, and the next second she's snarking at me and making a rude comment
i left but i still have to deal with someone who goes out of their way to find me
i walked away from a popular server that banned me and accused me of being a child yk, i think they keep gossiping about me now
It's okay! It might be hard right now, but time heals, and you'll look back on your decision and be proud of yourself for being brave and standing up for yourself !!
"I don't need friends, they disappoint me"
got the reference 👀
Yeah, friends really sucks...
fax tho
Cousins are wayyyy better
@@elclassico6388 not if their a Toxic one
A “friend” that is never truly honest, lies and thinks you don’t know reality. Also the “friend” that tries to one up you with literally everything/is in secret competition with you. Or the “friend” that still wants your opinion or you to do things yet gets easily triggered by you, things you say and do and blames you/ throws jabs/ starts unnecessary drama instead of managing their insecurities, toxic past, and triggers. So glad I’ve gone through my season of dropping bad, dead, draining, leaching, poisonous, leaves and have now made room for beautiful people inside and out
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Being alone is more meaningful than stay with the wrong individuals. everyone arrives when they need or want something from you....
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I had a friend who always tried to bring me down. Whenever I started to talk about my hobbies she was always judging me. She was the one that made me feel like an asocial person. I gave her a last chance and she still did the same thing so now we are not talking anymore and i feel so much better now.
It's very hard to be friends with someone who doesn't respect boundaries. People have tried to contact me at work or if I'm out and about when I explain my schedule numerous times. They get mad or upset when I don't answer, and I explain once again I'm actually busy. I'm not sure where this falls, but it's an exhausting process.
It's amazing how you don't get depressed when you no longer spend time with toxic people.
The animation is GORGEOUS and her song choices are always stellar.
Thank you!
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Keep in mind: when it comes to 3 and 4, it can get a bit tricky when it comes to people with neurodivergencies! For 3, people with ADHD, ASD, depression, anxiety and more can tend to flake (not always). It's usually nothing against the other person. There are a number of reasons. For instance people with ADHD have an issue with maintaining relationships, people with depression may lack the energy and people with anxiety may be too afraid you are mad at them for not talking to you for so long that they're afraid to reach out at all. Keep in mind anyone with neurodivergency has the potential to become exhausted from or at the thought of social interaction, irregardless of whether they want to interact or not.
For number 4: people with neurodivergencies tend to console and relate to others in a different way. 9 times out of 10 they are not trying to make it about themselves. They respond with a similar story to show that they were listening and can relate. It's a way of saying "hey, you're not alone in this. Ive been through something similar, so I know you're struggling".
Sometimes within the stories they may even talk about how they dealt with it. Again, this is not to belittle you. It may in fact be them trying to give you ideas. Also, if they do this for a happy occasion, they are usually not trying to 1 up you, but share in your joy.
If you feel bothered by any of these, it's important to communicate. During communication it is also important not to belittle them or their struggles. I won't lie and say there aren't jerks with neurodivergencies out there, but most of the time it's just how our brain works and there's not much we can do to help it. (Also keep in mind that just because someone doesn't seem like they're neurodivergent doesn't mean they aren't).
Ah! Well said! This is a side to the equation that deserves a serious look
This is why communication is everything in a friendship.
So many of these relationship problems and doubts arise when you cannot confirm what the other parties feelings are, including their feelings toward you.
The better you can understand their pov, the better you can gauge whether it is healthier to leave them or not
imo!
omg my anxiety was stopping me from writing this! 😅 thank you for sticking up for the ND’s, i feel seen!
Bravo! Thank you for pointing this out!
Facts and facts
Well said.
Recently I ended a 7 year friendship because I started to notice that this friend would talk nonstop about themselves and their problems and I would always try to give advice, but when I wanted to talk about me she was almost always like “idk what to say” or just tried to ignore it in some type of way. The last thing I couldn’t bear was her justification of people who leak your intimate photos (I was one of victims) just because she fell in love with one of those people. She knew how hard it was for me, how much I cried and how it triggers me to this day, but still chose him. And in the end she looks only happier now that I’m gone from her life and I don’t have any best friends anymore. For whatever reason it makes me feel guilty and lonely, even though I know she’s wrong in this situation. :(
Don't be sad, you deserve better, if you wish let's be friends 😺
Keep reminding yourself that you're better without her, and eventually you will have another best friend. Like the other person that left a comment here, I can be your friend too! :)
@@yurei1x577 yea, you're right and now I am you're friend too 😊
That’s a terrible friend that you have to stop paying attention to, don’t worry if she’s happier now just move on. There are a lot of people out there who are much much better and you’ll meet them some day and then realize how easy it is to forget the bad ones who were in your life.
I can totally relate to u
I also broke it with my 2 years BFF because she started becoming toxic
She also made me think that it's always my fault always made me feel lonely
She started becoming jealous of my other friends which she called 'possessiveness'
It happened recently ND I still feel sad I know I did the right thing
Yeah I have a friend who always switches the topic to her own problems. Even if I’m just talking about something not depressing she totally changes the focus back on herself and it really bothers me
I think number 4 is an overlooked toixc trait, like, if you start to notice that the conversation is not only about them but only about what they like and what interests them and then when you bring up something you its like they almost ignore you what your saying and only minerly validate your intrests till they end back up at there interslts and then only then they care about the conversation. Thank you for posting these videos, these really help me and lots of others put our relationships into perspective, thank you agian and keep posting👍💜
The 5 is literally physically and psychologically my "friend"
Dead Leaves cut them off.
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I have a friend who only reaches out to me when it's convenient like if it's for class/schoolwork, to vent about her relationship problems or anything pertaining to her. As long as it's last minute, she'll ask for my attention but any other time when I try there's always an excuse. I've been sick & tired of it for so long, but if I run into her, I already know I'll act like nothing's wrong. I'm so bad at confrontation, I don't know how to break it to her that I don't want to be strung along anymore...
I hate feeling bitter about it because I've slowly been cutting off so many friendships since graduating hs but I feel like my mental health has been so stumped lately. Thanks for this video though! If definitely helped a little bit :)
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She may be a narcissist
Perhaps if you can’t confront her, write her a letter instead. People that make you feel burdened to be around are not good friends. I’ve had my share and even have family members who do this to me. I’ve distanced myself from people and family like this.
Staying away from gaslighters is a good call! i've known people like this and they can leave you feeling emotionally exhausted and mentally drained
Agree - take care of your mental health!
personally its most hard when these 'friends' are too close to cut ties with, namely family
Lots of comments about the label "those who never reach out " - as someone whose closest friends became these, it is when you can just tell that they really don't care about you anymore.
I’ve been friends with all these people… another one is that “friend” who’s around until life gets better for you & then they disappear or make you feel like a burden. Got a new job, was able to take care of myself a little better…they asked repeatedly “how much do you make?” Then right after I answered..every conversation is like pulling teeth, talking to a wall or far & few between. It hurts & it’s hard but in our minds, we know we have to let it go.
How disgusting when someone asks, "How much do you make?" or ... "How much did that cost?" (NONE of their business!!)
@@warriormanmaxx8991 Yeah same, i know someone who just wants to make much as money as they can and are clinging on another person who is a director level, so he's friends with him but no longer friends with me because in his words "we're at different stage our lives and we have different mindset". He never acknowledges that I have grown etc. Since then I have not reached out him.
I honestly think not every "friend that never reaches out" is toxic.. Speaking from personal experience I also often don't reach out for longer periods of time.. I let my friends know though and also tell them that if something is the matter I am tjere for them
It's not possible for some people, including me, to just open up and talk about problems. Sometimes we need space to sort things out or to prevent hurting our friends unintentionally.
It's always about how you communicate. Even when, at the moment, you aren't able to express that you need time alone.. At least let your friends know when you feel better so that they know..
Also don't forget that the video stated that this type of toxic friends also makes you feel like they did you a favor.. Which people who isolate themselves to protect themselves or their friends or just to deal with their problems don't do.
But keep in mind that some of us are trying our best to reach out but aren't able to bc of different reasons and not because we are toxic or don't care about you. Trust me, we do appreciate you and your support greatly but sometimes we just need that space. Sometimes we are too overwhelmed to reach out.
my friends didnt really reach me since like a few years ago.
yea the friend always oversharing is a little worse and them taking zero steps to solve the problem
Not gonna lie, I feel like letting go of a friendship along with a relationship is one of the most hardest things to do, I remember my friend getting a job and me having to let go of him because he was so busy and I couldn’t see him anymore, it’s very hard to let go of something that feels so special to you, but in the end, it could wind up being a good thing even though it doesn’t feel like it, because in a way, u are letting go of all the sadness of missing them, and opening up the chance to make new friends, I’m still friends with him regardless but, i find it really helpful when you make more friends to hang out with when the other can’t. It made it easier to let go and move on, he’s still my bestie but he is just been very distant and I needed to move on and meet other people. Like someone once said, you can’t only have ONE best friend.
Letting go is difficult but not impossible. We fear to take that step but once we do it, there is no pain, no hurt
@@Cosmos12550 exactly, it’s very hard but not impossible, sometimes things may seem impossible but it can be done
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@@obinamk6500 cool
Ive definetely had friends who i had to reach out to almost everytime just to see them. They were my only friends at the time and i was afraid of being alone. What i noticed these friends do that i dont think the video mentioned is that the few times they do reach out to you, it will be for small things as a way for them to not feel bad about not reaching you, and when you call them out on it, theyll just be like “but we did invite you here that one time”. I stopped reaching out to these friends and only hangout with them when they reached out. Ive seen them like 3 times in the last 4 years. I explained this to my therapist recently and her exact words were “they were never your friends. They just didnt know how to unfriend you without looking like the bad guys”.
Sadly I’ve had to deal with a gaslighter and condescending friend who turned on me recently. It’s hard having to let go of people you thought you were close with for years but it has to be done
I'm so happy that at least I did one thing right - found a bunch of a friends who are always there for me, and who cares about me. I got really bad food poisoning last weekend, and two of my friends were having shifts at my place, and a third one, who was in another city, was constantly worried, and texted me 5 times per day. I love them so much
I feel like another thing to be said are people who aren’t honest with you.
Just feel betrayed/ taken advantaged of at the end, regardless of their reasons.
Also when reaching out to them, but they don’t seem as interested
This is everyone I know. Time to do some cutting. Every point rang so true it was scary. No wonder I feel like I’m a burden when I reach out.
I’m always the one driving conversations or meetups. When I stop, they go silent (until they want to vent / have a problem). Now I see it’s not just happening to me.
Great video.
Ya I hope not everyone is like this
try online friends they're the best
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I think this is a good video, but I think an important thing to also remember is communication. If a friend is making you feel badly by something they are doing or saying, you should tell them how their actions are making you feel because they may not realize they are hurting you. If they continue their behavior knowing it hurts you then it’s time to get rid of them. Best of luck to everyone out there reevaluating their relationships! ❤
This is like “if a friend hangs out with someone else and does not care about you it mean they are not a friend”🙁😕
Its good that psych2go puts a disclaimer because some ppl don't when they talk about something
i was friends with a lot of these types of person and since i've left them behind i feel way better. my mind is clearer and i'm happier.
I’ve had friends like these, who didn’t start out like this. Sometimes people can change, and not for the better. Or, you see them for what they are but didn’t notice at first.
People change...they will become uninterested to be your friend when not appreciated. Sometimes it's not them, it's you.
@@ay-tj7pj I didn’t fail to appreciate them. If anything they failed to appreciate me.
@@ay-tj7pj Speak for yourself. You don’t know the first thing about me. These sort of friends are the ones who fail to appreciate others, not the other way around. You sound just like them.
1:10 my 6th bff
1:59 my 3rd bff
2:38 my 5th bff
3:07 my 4th bff
3:57 my 2nd bff
My 1st bff is the person i rant to, i talk to everyday, and the person i ask for things, yet i never cared a bit about them
:(
True friend (or im just a fake friend lol)
Sometimes they eavesdrop me, teased me, bullied me, and even annoyance. they went it too far for me to suffer and lower my grades. My life became like darkness inside me, I just can't live a friend who dosen't listen to me or interrupt me, and even a fake laugh. so if you are one of this situations, you should not talk to them and just ignore them, they will feel like they are not attached to you anymore.
I’ve been slowly growing with the changes and noticing more and more of it in my life time. The older I’ve gotten the easier it’s become to distinguish the good friend from the bad friends
It's better to mine deeper to find the most precious gem than get fake ones above
The third guy looks like someone who I know and was supposedly friends with. The description given was also very accurate in comparison to how he was. Seeing this gives me a little bit of confidence in the choice I made leaving him behind and moving on. It still kind of hurts to look at him sometimes but I made the right decision.
Yeah, following through to cut someone off is so difficult 😞 ua-cam.com/video/W5nlDlPzsT0/v-deo.html
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He was the one who helped me restore back ex 3 days ago without delay
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1. The friend who always needs something.
2. The friend who gaslights you.
3. The friend that never reaches out to you.
4. The friend who always talks about themselves.
5. The friend who always talks down on you.
My ‘bestie’ is always trying to act cool in front of my sister,(pulling me shoving me saying mean things mimicking me and pulling my hair out) and only talks to me when there’s nobody else around and constantly is being mean to me and doesn’t even notice and always calles me ‘hey pookie’ or ‘hey BESTIE’ and whenever I am with someone else she’s like, ‘come back why are you not with my ‘ and always talks about herself and I’m STUCK in the friendship….😢
Try to tell her what she did and if she doesn't change then the friendship and ask for help from someone you trust to help you
Here is my list of people who I don't befriend with:
1: The friend that never returns the favor
2: The friend that never takes responsibility for their own actions and blames other people for it
3: The friend that can't keep a secret
4: The friend that can't take a joke and takes things too seriously
5: The friend that makes irresponsible desisions
6: The friend that wants to start unnecessary drama
7: The friend that doesn't stand up for you
8: The friend that doesn't make the effort to check up on you
9: The friend that is never fully honest and makes up lies
10: The friend that is completely selfish and inconsiderate to society
Hi ! Your right on most but I do think that the number 8 is a little too much because sometimes people are just busy with their own live and it doesn't mean their are bad friends or that theire not willing to help you if you ask them. I am telling you this because I used to think something like that and I cut contact with some people that where overall good friends.
I agree on most of those except for number 1, 8, and 9 to a certain degree.
For 1, if you do favors for someone every once in a while and they don't ever reciprocate any of that kindness, than yeah not great. But if you do favors for them regularly than it could make them not like you because you are constantly making them feel indebted to you. Even if its from the goodness of ones heart, it's not always healthy for friendships and relationships. It is even a common strategy for manipulative people, as it makes it easier for them to get others to do what they want. Ofc, this is only at the extreme level of doing favors for someone.
For 8, I think that depends on you. I think for me, having all of my friends regularly check up on me to see if I'm okay and what I'm doing would, for one, be exhausting cuz I'm not someone who always wants or needs to openly talk with others. But two, it would also make me feel like they expect me to not be doing well at any moment and that I'm not allowed to just deal with certain issues on my own. They got their own lives and I've got mine. I like checkups or mini convos every once in a while from my closer friends and I do like meeting with them, but I don't expect check-ups like weekly or even monthly. What I would see as a bad friendship is if I ask them for help and they can't/won't make the time without good reason.
For 9, it's a bit tough. There have been times where a friend was being dishonest with me and it could even be for a period of weeks or months, but it was genuinely for my own good. In the end we were both glad that I didn't get involved when I was wanting to know what was wrong. I've done it too and gradually come to fix my issues on my own. Ofc you don't want to be with fake people, but I don't think its always a rule set in stone that lies = bad.
POV: When most of the statements mentioned are real with your past "friends" 👁️👄👁️
@@lalisaranawaywithjksbanana4846 IKR literally ALL of these points were the main characteristics of my college "friends" a few years back 😔
You’ll hate me lol
It's not all abt these. Sometimes 'toxic' friends arent toxic at all. Just growing out of your comfort zone. Time to meet new people. Or just be alone. Whatever suits you
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Valid!
Your videos are so good for the public! Explaining and talking about all these mental disorders etc really help people understand and notice when others arent feeling very well mentally
I will admit, I am rather insecure about whether or not I'm being a good friend. And it's often difficult to accept my own mistakes. I do eventually, but it often hits hard at first.
Honestly, I find it a little hard to tell the difference between truly caring and just being insecure. I almost always mean well, but I can't always identify whether or not it was a good thing to do.
Thank you for stating this clearly and unjudgementally. I think I'm dealing with someone gaslighting me and making me feel inferior. I was already thinking I should end the "friendship," but this video provided me more clarity to make a bold decision. Thank you ❤
What if you don’t have friends
Why would you watch the video then?
That means get friends
I feel for u bro :)
Now you know who not to make friends with.
Me
I had a friend from kindergarden who would always force me to do things that I didn't like she would use my time as it doesn't matter one day I had an important lecture to attend and she called me bc there was an emergency in our squad but when I went there she told me that she justed wanted to talk with me,when I would be angry on her or start scolding she used to blackmail me and when we patched up She used me for notes and things that I bought new...then 1 day with the support of my cousin I started to yell at her that she was being to much toxic but then she fake cried and went to my mom my mom started scolding me but I was too much angry I told my mom how she treated me how she wasted my time and how she would boos me around and my mom supported me and that's how I got rid of that toxic friend....I swear I suffered for 7 continuous years of my childhood bc of that friend
Thank God you left that mf
I have found all types of them and unfriended them all
Being a sensitive person taught me how to love myself and started to change but sometimes its good to be alone without t0xic friends ✌🏻 😉
If you are going through something I hope you get through it
I've never really noticed how toxic my "friends" really are
They NEVER reach out unless they need help with something and their like i could of asked someone else but im asking you then when we meet its only about them
Those were the friends that i helped when they were depressed and stayed awake and cried with them at 3 am but things changed i guess
Last thing i noticed that my closest friends were the most toxic and the ones that im not really attatched to were the best
Almost all my close friends are like this... One is one sided and always put me down, liek every single chance she gets. one is only reaching when she needs help. one is only talking bout herself :( but thank god i have this one friend who is very nice and not toxic like them. I stopped being friends with those people already. It's true, 1 loyal friend is worth 10 thousand relatives.
These always make me self-conscious about how I am with my friends; and if I follow these traits. Though looking back, I do not believe so. At least, I really hope not.
I will add two more types of fake friends.
6. The one that always causes useless drama
7. The one that cuts you off from your other friends
Number seven is extremely bad because when they cut you off from other friends, you feel like you have nobody else but them, so don't let it happen. It's better to be alone then in bad company.
im lowkey the type 7.I never had true friends in my life and once i got one i became possessive unconsciously. Whenever my friend tries to get close to their other friends or someone else tries to get close to them,i get jealous and hurt. It feel like im being replaced when i know im not. At first i thought it was "what if they start caring about me less" but it's "what if they start caring about someone else more" im currently taking a break from all that becuz it has drained all my energy, i dont wanna get hurt anymore and dont wanna hurt. So i want to improve for them and hopefully ill change
The animation is so cute and good!
recently I’ve been having problems with a friend.
And she’s almost everything in this video.
1. She keeps on asking for money and gives it back after like forever.
2. I always get scared of making her angry.
3. Whenever I talk she doesn’t really care and starts her story.
4. She always makes me feel a little bit useless cuz she’s too good.
But we’ve been friends for an year and she’s in my friend group.
(And she’s the only one toxic but the one with the most power)😢
I’m so sorry. I’ve been dealing with a friendship with someone in my friend group too. I suggest talking to everyone else in the group alone about your experience with this friend. If they don’t understand, or if they are rude to you about it, find new friends. Or just set clear boundaries with that one friend. I hope this gets better ❤
I recently "broke up" with a friend type four (3:04) which was especially difficult because she was special ed and didnt realize the harm she was doing. She was really nice otherwise but i did what had to be done and I'm ultimately glad i didn't end up ghosting like some friends suggested.
i just believe that ghosting is never the answer and in the real world, it's almost impossible to find someone who is truly evil or bad.
I think I'm the toxic friend honestly. Rarely do I reach out to my friends first, I could go weeks without talking to anyone and I would be perfectly happy. It doesn't make sense, but I get lonely but at the same time I want to be alone. My mental health is so shit that I have like no normal friendships or relationships in general man
A friend has many capabilities and one of the most important is listening to their friend's problems..
People who somehow shift the conversation and start talking only about their own problems don't actually care about the other person..
In other words they are not your friend
Simple and to the point. Well said!
I love these videos, they are so helpful and have helped me throughout my rough times:)))
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I know of a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you wanna manifest within two day
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Just got out of a toxic friendship 👏👏👏👏 Now I'm with a much better freind group ! I'm feeling much better physically and mentally! My old friends are still threatening me...but doing better now! I'm looking at you Alexis Clay.
The worst one is when you can never act like yourself with the person.
And everything you do or say is wrong apparently
Being a alone is the best thing for you. You don't need friends, family, or even a lover in your life. Just be alone, people will switch up. It's human nature for them. Trust me, it's for the best 👌.
But im alone because of my social anxiety and It starts to feel lonely after sometime because I feel I'm wasting my teen years and see other people with Friends + I wanna be able to talk about stuff I like and hang out with people without feeling Anxiety
@@yo.hi.. how you now?
What if you get physically hurt or get sick. You're definitely gonna need someone. Maybe one good friend wouldn't hurt, just can difficult to find that one friend that'll have your back.
The third one really hit hard on me....
I always felt that I'm the one trying to save a friendship that the person couldn't care less about....
And I know if i don't send a text or say hi....then they'd do nothing-
@@Dustrylite like you try so hard to fix a friendship the other person isn't willing to fix.And the thing is when I tried to end the friendship, they'd say *well, I never said the friendship was over but have it your way* and that'd just make me feel worse
The best friend that I know is someone who run away from you whenever they have a hard time, so they won't bother you. It's your responsibility to chase them and help them with everything you can.
And someone who come to you whenever they achieve something great in their life.
It's your responsibility to congratulate them for they tried to share their happiness with you.
And someone who tried to find any possible ways to agree with your arguments and If you're completely wrong then they will show you the truth. It's your responsibility to accept the truth.
I heard this saying somewhere.. I don't know if it from Jesus. Maybe.
"Anything that hurt you, it hurts others".
Or something similar, I don't remember.
My friend kept talking about rather negative things for almost 3 years. She complained almost all of her friends, and complained about her failure in love all the time. 90% conversations are totally about herself and I know her well but she never really know who I am. I kept comforting and supporting her for almost 2 or 3 years. This totally drain me out of energy and I feel exhausted in this one side friendship. I finally cut this unhealthy friendship in a gentle way, and guess what. She posted in social media that "don't torture yourself for soneone don't care about you, just pass them they aren't the right person"
And he makes me feel negative because hes always sad.
The animation and the soundtrack is so so comfortable , you are my fav mantal health etc channel
"The friend who never reaches out" may just be an introvert or socially anxious. Speaking as an introvert I don't often reach out at all and tire socially quickly, and I do not like crowds.
Right, but if you see those intros hanging out many times with others and you are than sad, because you got no invitation...well yea. But you are right, introverts WANT to be invited and asked out. I do and I love it. :-) Which Mbti Type are you? Are you also at #typewithfj?
Either way, if you don't care about that other person you don't care about that other person. Dude(ette), the unexamined life is not worth living and if you have to make excuses, pretty sure you're not examining your own life. Sorry, not sorry.
@@marcwemtrust1480There are only four letters in Myers-briggs. I'm not saying that I think Myers-Briggs is worthwhile, just that your # thing is nothing to do with Myers-Briggs. Damn comma I think everybody needs to be themselves and not the typical person in the world wants them to be, but if you make excuses for being a bad friend, then you need to understand there is something wrong with you. I don't have any friends and I think it's because I'm not a good friend, but still. Jesus Christ.
E or I, N or S, F or T, J or P. Seriously. It's not rocket science.
It's okay, when I unfriended you it made a lot of sense for you and me
Sometimes, the "friend who always talks about themselves", doesn't do it because it wants to, he or she can be going through some mental health issues and accidentally ends up talking about their problems because they have no one to listen to them. However this is not always the case, some people is just like that because they, well, are like that. Good night people!
Sometimes leaving someone is hard, even if they are bad or toxic, idk why ;-;
I'm today totally absolutely SICK and SAD about "people who never reach you". My 3 closest friends, who are in couple, despite the excellent time we spent together, NEVER reach me. We know each other since years ago, I had several conversations with them and it's always the " Very busy by work sorry absolutely no time ". This really makes me sad. I feel so alone and depressed. I'm a happy person who like activities, deep talks, take a drink, eat at the restaurant or whatever, but I never find someone with my energy. Sometimes I really want to kill myself to be free from this unfair nightmare.
Tbh ur best friend could have all these traits but its only for once in a while, if its in a long term then might reconsider if they're your best friend
I'm just too nervous to text people and it takes a while to build up confidence, I dont know if people know how shy I am but I hope they dont take it personally
I am a last year middle year schooler and finding toxic people is way easier than finding good ones...it hurts to be betrayed by people you once trusted a lot...I have a lot of toxic people too in my life and I am currently facing issues getting them out! This helped💙
Good luck!
You know they don't deserve you.
I'm currently dealing with the same situation.
The real mvps post lists, not 'first'
1. 0:45 The friend who only contacts you when they need something.
2. 1:52 The friend that gaslights you.
3. 2:28 The friend that never reaches out to you.
4. 3:07 The friend that always talks about themselves.
5. 3:48 The friend who always talks down to you.
The best piece of advice I ever got. Become your own best friend as uncomfortable as it might me. People will be disappointing you out of a lack of self awareness and their own struggles. It’s really now about you. 😊 It’s not for you to help them.
I have the friend where she only talks to me when she needs something, and almost never returns the favor. I’m thinking of just stop being friends with her because of that. She also spends her time with her other friends and completely leaves me out
I have an immensely hard time reaching out to even my closest friends to hang out or even just have a conversation. I'm basically that one friend who's part of the group and is involved that way. So technically I am one of these things but they all understand I WANT to be closer to them, it's just anxiety.
(Also no, I don't consider this "making excuses" because I'm not hurting anyone, my friends know I love and appreciate them and the time we spend together, I just have to show it in a different way.)
Well,thx for spreading awareness about such important things:]
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What’s this!? Smooth animation instead of jitter frames!? I actually like this look tbh.
Her voice is so sweet❤️
If you find yourself questioning whether you're in a toxic relationship chances are that you are and the only solution I can think of is to cut them off
Toxic people weigh heavily on their victims mental health so if you know someone who is in a toxic relationship(be it an acquaintance ship,family relationship or friendship)please help them
*psych2go also has a video on that*
Lots of love
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Peace
Especially if you want companionship and they are geared towards sex. It's just not okay.
Number 6: the friend that leaves you in the dust when they get a significant other
It’s hard to be friends with someone that doesn’t pay any attention to you now that all of their attention is directed at someone else
I'm going through this right now.
What I've learned is that the best friends you'll ever have feel more like family. I love my family, for all their problems.
"With friends like that, who needs enemies?"
feelin alot like that third one,, i have a hard time talking to people in general and while i sit more comfortably with friends, i still get very anxious to text them.
what if they are currently texting somebody else? I would accidentally be an intrusion on the conversation
I find it hard to ask them to do things with me because i feel like I am wasting their time, so i wait for them to text me and ask me what they would like to do so i dont feel like i am pressuring them into doing what i would like.
and when the later months of the year come around, I kinda get a seasonal depression??? It makes it way harder to normally interact with people, I feel 10x more uneasy around both strangers and friends, and I feel like I often need a break.
i feel like theres def a difference between someone who just dont give a sht about you, and then being friends with someone who overthinks alot.
The animation and voice is so calming♡
Loved it Psych2Go❤
why do i feel like i inherit all of these toxic traits and should be the one cutting ties with my friends for their own good
yo self reflection is a beautiful thing. i am scared i do some of these things but i know i act out of good intention so maybe just having the awareness that there are other perspectives of what constitutes a bad friend can make you a better friend! don’t be so hard on yourself just always try to do better (i’m taking this advice myself)!
My best friend literally randomly texted me after like 20 months and that's how we became friends again... I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HIM AT ALL LIKE WHA???
I'm the friend that doesn't reach out much...bit when I'm in the company of my friend/friends I treat them with love, respect, and dignity! We have and always create memories. It's just hard for me to stay connected when all of my friends are long distance...I feel and have felt lonely and isolated from so many people that I've just adopted being by myself. I never talk on the phone and my wonderful children are my company. I'm ok with that...❤️