I need to order the book. Just watched couple of your videos, falled in love with you and your topics, this is something i need in my life, i have been struggled with how to talk, deliver my message, end up i have choosed not to say anything. looks like the book will be reday next march, I will wait
Hi Jefferson I listened to this podcast and loved the phrases you advised for this type of conversation. Then I saw how it could help my best friend with her boyfriend and my husband with his mother so have shared in the hopes they will use it. Thanks a million. Hope you have a great day Lorraine.
The problem with most strong personalities (yes, there are a few with an admirable moral compass) in my experience is they have a few aspects in the way they communicate: -they state things as an absolute and the only truth, thus creating almost no room for other ideas or perspectives. -they are bad listeners: they take a lot of room in the ‘conversation’ leaving the other one little space; they interrupt you when they can; and are cherry picking you on your words trying to undermine you. -they are fast thinkers and good with words. -their tone of voice is dominant and can even be intimidating, making you feel overwhelmed. It would be great if you’d do a topic about how to effectively counteract those traits.
You can cue them that they sound too intimidating, by saying: 1. "Is this something we have to agree on?" 2. "Do we need to agree on this now?" 3. "Do you need me to agree with you on this?"
@@klyons217 thnx. I prefer the 3rd one, because it emphasizes on making them aware of their own need. Then you can follow up with something like: “What makes that you need me to agree with you ?” or: “….. that agreement is important for you ?”
“What do they need?” That question is 𝙨𝙤𝙤𝙤 key. 🔥👏🏼👍🏼 I can’t tell you how many times I’ve realized mid debate that it was 𝙣𝙤𝙩 about me, but more about their insecurities.
I love the " Do we need to agree about this?" and I will definitely use the "I'm going to walk away from this conversation and ...let's have a great day" etc. Love the incredible words of advise I can use immediately.
I used "you are next to talk" to the person that constantly cutting me off 2 times in a min. He was quiet after that. I wish I have all these frases memorized
You are SO SPECIAL! You show what an authentic, bright, caring MAN can be. Most people don't even have an image of a strong man who's not a self-absorbed narcissist! Thank you. Keep these talks coming! I send them to my students. Miriam, A therapist in Jerusalem
My sister in law married for 15 years to my oldest brother's strong grumpy personality . At times I don't know how she managed her emotions. Finally she read The Four Agreements and learned to not take it personally
Where were you 20 years ago 😂 I have a very strong personality- I'm military - and lived with a large family you needed to stand strong to be heard. Thank you for explaining to myself and others things to look out for and words to move the conversation on without hurt feelings. ❤
Deep appreciation for the 1. practical strategies and 2. absence of name-calling. It helps me to stay regulated in the face of emotional turbulence. When I am emotionally tangoing with the strong characters in my life, these videos make me feel like someone has my back. Thank you for providing this content for free!
Thanks Jefferson “ Blessed are the peacemakers; they will be called the children of God.” Thank you for giving us words that bring peace, especially those who have had their voice silenced.🙏😊
I always end up backing down and out because I know that this is not a conversation - but an effort to overpower me. But I have paid a price for that and even lost relationships because I couldn’t take it anymore. This is helpful. Thank you, Jefferson.
I try to teach people to think in terms as a third party to the situation. Disconnect self from the tone, verbal attack, provocation or enticement. Pause. Assess. Study the subject. Wait. One technique I use, a softer voice to counter the other’s loudness. It forces them to concentrate. In turn it slows down their adrenaline. My facial expression remains neutral. Patient. Understanding. I hear their side without engaging or agreeing . Too many vomit words without really addressing the underlying problem. Thanks Jefferson!
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Tunde Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
I like this strategy, too. If we’re dealing with a rational, reasonable person, it would take a bit of the wind out of their sails. If it’s an idiot-well-we shouldn’t be arguing with them anyway, right?🤷🏽♀️😂
@@jrs2024true, not sure of best response. Walking away or changing the subject however my personality would find it hard to not say something back to them.
I love that the strategies don't assume the person is trying to be pushy. Big personalities can mean a big heart! The strategies are effective but don't rise to the pushy level the other person is dishing out. I'm actually a big personality myself 😆 so it's great to respond to another big personality person in a way that doesn't push back and escalate the situation. Great stuff Jefferson!! Love it!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you. I struggle mightily in my relationship with aging Mom. To keep our conversations from breaking down, I am (trying glto) use some of the strategies you share. I still lose my cool sometimes, but they have absolutely helped!
What works good for me is .... "oh, wait, hang onto that thought" and I will walk inside and prepare my coffee, go to bathroom, put up clothes. Then i will come back to the door about 45 minutes later, and ask him a question about what he wants for dinner, changing the subject, and he totally forgets about it. That's what works best for me. I think the issue is when i ask to delay, he perceives it as he didn't have control of the conversation. When I ask him to ' hang onto that thought' because i have to go inside and take care of something , it gives him the control of 'hanging onto it' and he forgot by then. My gosh, it really works for me.
this WORKS for my situation, user. I deal with the same issue of the person perceiving they lost control - and it gets nasty. But your method worked this morning....thank you.
I live with a narcissist, who is extremely pushy and will discuss difficult issues with me as I am about to get into bed, to sit down to relax, he knows exactly what to say in order to upset me, I follow your podcasts and would love to get your book but I see that it is not yet available in South Africa I will certainly look out for it! Thank you, as always very insightful. Linda Bird-Duxbury
That is so hard. I know saying "this is not the time" almost feels like a challenge to them. But choosing to not engage gives you back your power. I am done words may have them ratchet up but eventually they are boxing with their own shadow.
I have a strong personality, and as a Christian, I'm constantly trying to soften myself. It's incredibly hard, and in the end I'm just constantly apologizing, even with tears when a person takes offense. I don't know about others, but this was how I was raised, as I can see that this is very much how my family communicated in serious conversations when I was young. But as it says in the scriptures, what is impossible for man is possible for God, and so I just keep praying for Him to help me.
Praying for you! I have the opposite problem - living according to verses like ‘as far as it depends on you, be at peace with everyone’ and ‘let your gentleness be evident to all’ and ‘a gentle and quiet spirit’ seems to come easy to me, and robust conversation or standing strong feels like conflict. May He help us both be more like Him.
Sometimes, the strong personality is the one who misuses their power to push not communicating, not understanding, not connecting, not compromising. My mother uses her strength to shut me down, so any attempt to be heard is insane, aggressive et cetera. But I know I probably come across as a strong personality because i'm upset by not being heard when it matters. I don't think what other people think about a lot of things.
Last summer one of my daughters got married. Her dad , my ex husband had “a talk” with her. One thing he told her was that I “let him walk all over me.” In my defense he used “the spirit told him” a lot but that’s another story. But about me, I think he had at least a point. Almost 20 years since our divorce, I’m not the push over he was married to. But I still struggle to be assertive, especially with strong personalities. I appreciate your take. I feel like most life advice on UA-cam has been more confrontational and inflammatory . Jefferson, I very much appreciate your advice.
every reel, podcast and video I watch of yours...are simply AMAZING and very HELPFUL. I have recommended you to co-workers, peers and subordinates. LOVE that you are helping us all with better communicating how we feel and/or how we can get our point across in a better way to facilitate better communication.
What's defined as a "strong personality"? Do you mean someone who's loud? Oh I loved the book _Don't Sweat the Small Stuff_ . It really made me think about living in the moment and not missing life itself.
I see it as somebody who is completely rigid and that rigidity can be in their refusal to listen. That's the type of strong personality I struggle with. If people talk about things, you get somewhere.
Strong personalities have strong egos and their behavior is narcissistic. My siblings are both so I keep my distance with them.Love Jefferson and his wisdom!
I don't know if this is exactly what he means but since I can relate, maybe this will help. My fiancé and I are both big personalities, especially when we are together. (I'm an extroverted introvert so mostly for me it's when we're out together.) I think it means people who are bold, confident, with a big presence. The type of person who always has an opinion (not always a bad one) and people are drawn to. Life of the party (maybe that's a good thing, but for some people maybe not so much). In one word: Confident. Maybe confident APPEARING, but having an air of confidence. For some that's an arrogance but for others it's charisma. I know this is long, but that's how I'd describe big personalities. I hope this helps. 🕊️🫶🏼🫧
Looking forward to the book. Hoping you could put together a workbook with practice scenarios for people like me who need a lot of practice before confidently using the strategy. Thanks!
Working on something like that. In the meantime you can download my PDF book bonuses after pre-ordering my book. Just visit www.thenextconversation.com for instructions.
Hi, is my first time listening to your podcast and I admit you came at right time. My daughter was listening to your podcast while I was visiting her. I started listening to what you were saying. I’ve been married to a person with very strong personality, and must of the time I feel kind of disarmed and powerless on how to answer, so I walk away and retrieve. I don’t like confrontation, and I admit I also have trust issues. I want to thank you for kind of opening a door to my situation. This will be the start of helping my relationship, thank you again
I just preordered your book. I cannot wait to read it. I have 5 lovely daughters and I struggle with communicating with them. I generally keep my mouth shut. I love your channel, and appreciate your content. It makes me think. I’ve read a lot of other stuff but your content is so appropriate for the conversations. Wish it was coming out earlier. 😊 thank you again
Jefferson for your consistently valuable communication techniques a big thank you. Gosh, I wish I could remember all the amazing cues when I need to use them. Congratulations on your book. I wish you every success with it.
This is first "non-short" video of yours I have watched and, wow. I'm blown away. So practical, so informative, so powerful! Thank you for you! Can't wait to watch more!
Jefferson, your podcast was such an eye opener. I have a strong personality, and this not only gave me an insight into my "unbearable moments", but also a way of peaceful being with another strong personality, without this turning into a power battle. Can't wait for your book to come out - wishing you a well deserved success, and thank you. Ivy checked in my UK's Amazon - March 25 🙏😊
Oh, Jefferson! This is brilliant advice. Do I need to agree with you/do we need to agree on this? Another way to maintain our calm and cool, stay behind our boundary, and not contribute to a potentially escalated situation. Thanks!
It’s such an interesting ideas u gave us in that episode! How significant to be able to handle Strong personality because they always try to control the conversation… “Do we need to agree about this ?” “ I’m going to walk away…” thanks a bunch for being there to help us ❤
Sunny & happy greetings from Kuala Lumpur Malaysia . Congratulations on yr new book Jefferson 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 . Added on to my wish list in audible n can’t wait for it to be released . Wishing u and loved ones joy , peace n love .
I work on an adult inpatient psych unit.I am an RN and work with other psych nurses, Mental Health Technicians and Psychiatrists. Despite the fact that we are mental health professionals, our staff relationships can be so toxic, including with the experienced psychiatrist. Many days staff behavior is worse than pts. I wish you could come and teach our staff lol
This is FABULOUS because sometimes it can seem strong personalities are very similar to narricistic people, but your videos to respond to them are very different. I really appreciate your take on both of these and all your other videos ❤ TY for helping the 🌎 world.
Great topic, Strong personalities. I have a sister who always wants to push her opinion on me about how I should be living my life. I have tried saying "thank you for your opinion. I will take it in consideration." It seems that this calmed her down just a bit. Thanks for your advice Jefferson.
Thank you , I needed to hear this today. You are a strong person kind and encourage me. Again thank you I love your channel and I want to purchase your book
Very good advise when you mention not to engage in every battle. So much wasted energy when we do that. Have your book on pre-order. So excited! Thanks for the content!
If you are familiar with the DISC assessment, strong personalities are typically a “D”. D’s are direct and natural leaders, but they are often insensitive in their delivery. At a conference, they said the phrase D’s need to acquire, is “I’m sorry”. Every personality type has strengths and weaknesses.
PLEASE DO ONE ON HOW TO DIFFUSE A SITUATION! when 2 other people are getting in anrgument or getting very aggressive with you. best way to calm them down
I have a strong willed father-in-law they like to interrupt and likes agreement and railroads the conversation so this is very helpful along with your podcast of interruptions so I appreciate all your tips.
Where I have been? I wish I found you and your video hundred years ago. Your topic and teaching is what I need to learn, i have neen struggled, I have not found a teacher like you.
You can pre-order my book, The Next Conversation, today :) www.thenextconversation.com
@@jeffersonfisher DONE
Ditto! Can't wait till next spring when it is published.
I need to order the book. Just watched couple of your videos, falled in love with you and your topics, this is something i need in my life, i have been struggled with how to talk, deliver my message, end up i have choosed not to say anything. looks like the book will be reday next march, I will wait
Just placed my order via amazon, also subscribed your channel. Thank you for making videos Jeff.
Hi Jefferson I listened to this podcast and loved the phrases you advised for this type of conversation. Then I saw how it could help my best friend with her boyfriend and my husband with his mother so have shared in the hopes they will use it. Thanks a million. Hope you have a great day Lorraine.
The problem with most strong personalities (yes, there are a few with an admirable moral compass) in my experience is they have a few aspects in the way they communicate:
-they state things as an absolute and the only truth, thus creating almost no room for other ideas or perspectives.
-they are bad listeners: they take a lot of room in the ‘conversation’ leaving the other one little space; they interrupt you when they can; and are cherry picking you on your words trying to undermine you.
-they are fast thinkers and good with words.
-their tone of voice is dominant and can even be intimidating, making you feel overwhelmed.
It would be great if you’d do a topic about how to effectively counteract those traits.
Yes!!
People are just too radical but I get it
You can cue them that they sound too intimidating, by saying:
1. "Is this something we have to agree on?"
2. "Do we need to agree on this now?"
3. "Do you need me to agree with you on this?"
@@klyons217 thnx. I prefer the 3rd one, because it emphasizes on making them aware of their own need.
Then you can follow up with something like: “What makes that you need me to agree with you ?” or: “….. that agreement is important for you ?”
Spot on..
“What do they need?” That question is 𝙨𝙤𝙤𝙤 key. 🔥👏🏼👍🏼 I can’t tell you how many times I’ve realized mid debate that it was 𝙣𝙤𝙩 about me, but more about their insecurities.
Yes, I totally agree!
I love the " Do we need to agree about this?" and I will definitely use the "I'm going to walk away from this conversation and ...let's have a great day" etc. Love the incredible words of advise I can use immediately.
I will be using that as well❤
I used "you are next to talk" to the person that constantly cutting me off
2 times in a min. He was quiet after that.
I wish I have all these frases memorized
You are SO SPECIAL! You show what an authentic, bright, caring MAN can be. Most people don't even have an image of a strong man who's not a self-absorbed narcissist! Thank you. Keep these talks coming! I send them to my students. Miriam, A therapist in Jerusalem
My sister in law married for 15 years to my oldest brother's strong grumpy personality . At times I don't know how she managed her emotions. Finally she read The Four Agreements and learned to not take it personally
I love that you follow up with examples, saying thing like "and this is what it sounds like...."
Where were you 20 years ago 😂
I have a very strong personality- I'm military - and lived with a large family you needed to stand strong to be heard. Thank you for explaining to myself and others things to look out for and words to move the conversation on without hurt feelings. ❤
Thank you for saying big personalities are not inherently bad, they actually can be good! I needed to hear that ❤
Big personalities can be a wonderful thing :)
It's been used against me for years. I don't march in step with others..most of the time😊.
I like the phrase “I want to walk away from this conversation feeling…(fill in the positive). I believe most people want a positive outcome.
Deep appreciation for the 1. practical strategies and 2. absence of name-calling. It helps me to stay regulated in the face of emotional turbulence. When I am emotionally tangoing with the strong characters in my life, these videos make me feel like someone has my back. Thank you for providing this content for free!
Thanks Jefferson “ Blessed are the peacemakers; they will be called the children of God.” Thank you for giving us words that bring peace, especially those who have had their voice silenced.🙏😊
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I always end up backing down and out because I know that this is not a conversation - but an effort to overpower me. But I have paid a price for that and even lost relationships because I couldn’t take it anymore. This is helpful. Thank you, Jefferson.
You are a strong personality with a gentle spirit!
I try to teach people to think in terms as a third party to the situation. Disconnect self from the tone, verbal attack, provocation or enticement. Pause. Assess. Study the subject. Wait. One technique I use, a softer voice to counter the other’s loudness. It forces them to concentrate. In turn it slows down their adrenaline. My facial expression remains neutral. Patient. Understanding. I hear their side without engaging or agreeing . Too many vomit words without really addressing the underlying problem. Thanks Jefferson!
Pick your battles. Thank you Jefferson.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Tunde Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father tunde akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Tunde Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
I like asking the other person "Is this something we need to agree on? VS. stating "We aren't going to agree..."
What if they say YES, when I know they’re wrong & I clearly disagree? I guess just walk away…. 😊
I like this strategy, too. If we’re dealing with a rational, reasonable person, it would take a bit of the wind out of their sails. If it’s an idiot-well-we shouldn’t be arguing with them anyway, right?🤷🏽♀️😂
@@jrs2024true, not sure of best response. Walking away or changing the subject however my personality would find it hard to not say something back to them.
@@jrs2024 You can say "Hah, you need me to agree with you. I don't agree with you." before walking away.
I think I’ll try ‘I’m glad you agree with yourself’ Coming from my own strong personality. 😂
You are helping me so much. I've been a doormat for bullies. But I'm learning so much and it's helping my self esteem. ❤
Yeah , you’re right .Everyone wants to have a peace of mind. What a wonderful topic you've given today , it helps me a lot .Thank you ,Jeff. ❤
I love that the strategies don't assume the person is trying to be pushy. Big personalities can mean a big heart! The strategies are effective but don't rise to the pushy level the other person is dishing out. I'm actually a big personality myself 😆 so it's great to respond to another big personality person in a way that doesn't push back and escalate the situation. Great stuff Jefferson!! Love it!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Big personalities can be a positive force!
Thank you. I struggle mightily in my relationship with aging Mom. To keep our conversations from breaking down, I am (trying glto) use some of the strategies you share. I still lose my cool sometimes, but they have absolutely helped!
Wow, same here. I agree, Jefferson’s advice is helpful. New day, aiming for peace & laughter! ✌️🏼
What works good for me is .... "oh, wait, hang onto that thought" and I will walk inside and prepare my coffee, go to bathroom, put up clothes. Then i will come back to the door about 45 minutes later, and ask him a question about what he wants for dinner, changing the subject, and he totally forgets about it. That's what works best for me. I think the issue is when i ask to delay, he perceives it as he didn't have control of the conversation. When I ask him to ' hang onto that thought' because i have to go inside and take care of something , it gives him the control of 'hanging onto it' and he forgot by then. My gosh, it really works for me.
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Omg that’s genius! I will do that 👍🏼
this WORKS for my situation, user. I deal with the same issue of the person perceiving they lost control - and it gets nasty. But your method worked this morning....thank you.
I’m going to use this next time!
Creative! Useful, too. Thanks.
I live with a narcissist, who is extremely pushy and will discuss difficult issues with me as I am about to get into bed, to sit down to relax, he knows exactly what to say in order to upset me, I follow your podcasts and would love to get your book but I see that it is not yet available in South Africa I will certainly look out for it! Thank you, as always very insightful. Linda Bird-Duxbury
That is so hard. I know saying "this is not the time" almost feels like a challenge to them. But choosing to not engage gives you back your power. I am done words may have them ratchet up but eventually they are boxing with their own shadow.
I always come away from your podcast learning something even when the topic isn’t specific to me. Thanks Jefferson.
I have a strong personality, and as a Christian, I'm constantly trying to soften myself. It's incredibly hard, and in the end I'm just constantly apologizing, even with tears when a person takes offense. I don't know about others, but this was how I was raised, as I can see that this is very much how my family communicated in serious conversations when I was young. But as it says in the scriptures, what is impossible for man is possible for God, and so I just keep praying for Him to help me.
Praying for you! I have the opposite problem - living according to verses like ‘as far as it depends on you, be at peace with everyone’ and ‘let your gentleness be evident to all’ and ‘a gentle and quiet spirit’ seems to come easy to me, and robust conversation or standing strong feels like conflict. May He help us both be more like Him.
Simple, stop trying to take other people’s rights away, leave it in the hands of your all powerful god.
You're a gifted communicater.. I look forward to reading your book. 😊
Congratulations on your book Jefferson! Thank you for concise and practical communication advise. Much appreciated.
Thank you kindly!
Sometimes, the strong personality is the one who misuses their power to push not communicating, not understanding, not connecting, not compromising. My mother uses her strength to shut me down, so any attempt to be heard is insane, aggressive et cetera. But I know I probably come across as a strong personality because i'm upset by not being heard when it matters. I don't think what other people think about a lot of things.
Last summer one of my daughters got married. Her dad , my ex husband had “a talk” with her. One thing he told her was that I “let him walk all over me.” In my defense he used “the spirit told him” a lot but that’s another story. But about me, I think he had at least a point. Almost 20 years since our divorce, I’m not the push over he was married to. But I still struggle to be assertive, especially with strong personalities. I appreciate your take. I feel like most life advice on UA-cam has been more confrontational and inflammatory . Jefferson, I very much appreciate your advice.
every reel, podcast and video I watch of yours...are simply AMAZING and very HELPFUL. I have recommended you to co-workers, peers and subordinates. LOVE that you are helping us all with better communicating how we feel and/or how we can get our point across in a better way to facilitate better communication.
Wow, thank you!
Oh so simple, effective and KIND ….if the way we all could communicate all the stress could disappear…
Such a reasonable and down to earth conversation about conflict and communication. I enjoy Jefferson’s explanations and his advice.
Excellent podcast! Very helpful! Especially when you want a good relationship with those who have strong personalities
Jefferson, once again, this is really helpful and clear.
Your relaxed manner and the way you share with us makes it easy to take it in. Thank you
What's defined as a "strong personality"? Do you mean someone who's loud? Oh I loved the book _Don't Sweat the Small Stuff_ . It really made me think about living in the moment and not missing life itself.
I see it as somebody who is completely rigid and that rigidity can be in their refusal to listen. That's the type of strong personality I struggle with. If people talk about things, you get somewhere.
Strong personalities have strong egos and their behavior is narcissistic. My siblings are both so I keep my distance with them.Love Jefferson and his wisdom!
I don't know if this is exactly what he means but since I can relate, maybe this will help. My fiancé and I are both big personalities, especially when we are together. (I'm an extroverted introvert so mostly for me it's when we're out together.) I think it means people who are bold, confident, with a big presence. The type of person who always has an opinion (not always a bad one) and people are drawn to. Life of the party (maybe that's a good thing, but for some people maybe not so much). In one word: Confident. Maybe confident APPEARING, but having an air of confidence. For some that's an arrogance but for others it's charisma. I know this is long, but that's how I'd describe big personalities. I hope this helps.
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Looking forward to the book. Hoping you could put together a workbook with practice scenarios for people like me who need a lot of practice before confidently using the strategy. Thanks!
Working on something like that. In the meantime you can download my PDF book bonuses after pre-ordering my book. Just visit www.thenextconversation.com for instructions.
Me too!!
Glad you decided against the microphone in the frame. Good choice! Great tips, as always.
Such good advice Jefferson,always such a joy to listen and watch,have helped me so much with difficult conversations thank you
You are very welcome
Hi, is my first time listening to your podcast and I admit you came at right time. My daughter was listening to your podcast while I was visiting her. I started listening to what you were saying. I’ve been married to a person with very strong personality, and must of the time I feel kind of disarmed and powerless on how to answer, so I walk away and retrieve. I don’t like confrontation, and I admit I also have trust issues. I want to thank you for kind of opening a door to my situation. This will be the start of helping my relationship, thank you again
I just preordered your book. I cannot wait to read it. I have 5 lovely daughters and I struggle with communicating with them. I generally keep my mouth shut. I love your channel, and appreciate your content. It makes me think. I’ve read a lot of other stuff but your content is so appropriate for the conversations. Wish it was coming out earlier. 😊 thank you again
Very interesting and useful, as usual. Thank you very much Jefferson.
Jefferson for your consistently valuable communication techniques a big thank you. Gosh, I wish I could remember all the amazing cues when I need to use them. Congratulations on your book. I wish you every success with it.
Wow, thank you
Always love your content. Great advice for sure! Keep up the good work.
I appreciate that!
This is first "non-short" video of yours I have watched and, wow. I'm blown away. So practical, so informative, so powerful! Thank you for you! Can't wait to watch more!
Jefferson, your podcast was such an eye opener. I have a strong personality, and this not only gave me an insight into my "unbearable moments", but also a way of peaceful being with another strong personality, without this turning into a power battle. Can't wait for your book to come out - wishing you a well deserved success, and thank you. Ivy checked in my UK's Amazon - March 25 🙏😊
I'm SO EXCITED you have a book coming out! I'm on it! Thank you for all your fantastic ideas!
Thank you so much for your videos. I work with the public and your advice is a game changer!!!! Thank you!
Happy to help!
Openness to both conversations a good thing.
Oh, Jefferson! This is brilliant advice. Do I need to agree with you/do we need to agree on this? Another way to maintain our calm and cool, stay behind our boundary, and not contribute to a potentially escalated situation. Thanks!
Your words and advise are very helpful to me. Thank you so much. 🇬🇧
Favourite childhood memory , I haven’t got one .
Me, too
Loved your interview with Mel, which introduced me to your content. Appreciate the concise advise on communication.
Thank you sooo much Jefferson, these videos, your tips are SO helpful.
Thank you so much. This is helpful and practical advice 👏🏻
It’s such an interesting ideas u gave us in that episode! How significant to be able to handle Strong personality because they always try to control the conversation… “Do we need to agree about this ?” “ I’m going to walk away…” thanks a bunch for being there to help us ❤
Sunny & happy greetings from Kuala Lumpur Malaysia . Congratulations on yr new book Jefferson 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 . Added on to my wish list in audible n can’t wait for it to be released . Wishing u and loved ones joy , peace n love .
I work on an adult inpatient psych unit.I am an RN and work with other psych nurses, Mental Health Technicians and Psychiatrists. Despite the fact that we are mental health professionals, our staff relationships can be so toxic, including with the experienced psychiatrist. Many days staff behavior is worse than pts. I wish you could come and teach our staff lol
That has to be frustrating! Hoping things get better for you & all the others too!
Thank youuuu so helpful
Headed out to book club tonight…taking notes on my phone of how to respond 😊
Do I need to agreed with you - Yes! This week I had to say can we agree to disagree - Thank you 🙏🏻
Hi Jefferson, thank you for doing this! I have learned so much from you! I already put your book on my wishlist!
I love your advice! So much of your content applies to areas in my life I feel the need to improve on. I really appriciate you.
Hi Jefferson. I'm so glad that you're doing these podcasts. I've learnt so much from you. Thank you. 3:11
Love your short concise and very helpful content!!
so great. to have you as a leader in restoring good communication
This is FABULOUS because sometimes it can seem strong personalities are very similar to narricistic people, but your videos to respond to them are very different. I really appreciate your take on both of these and all your other videos ❤ TY for helping the 🌎 world.
The information and knowledge that you haré is so valuable that it is actually improoving many areas of My life. Thank you very much Jefferson!
I want to end this conversation or this topic on a good note .. let's keep a peaceful ease between us... very good advice 👌... thank you, Jefferson!
You're welcome :)
Jefferson Fisher, you are my hero.
Thanks for the book, just preordered. Thank you for the solid help on improving ourselves. Jamie
Wonderful advice Jefferson - Thank you for sharing. Looking forward to reading your book!
Thank you for speaking in a manner that is simple to understand and can be applied in your next conversation!!!
Great topic, Strong personalities. I have a sister who always wants to push her opinion on me about how I should be living my life. I have tried saying "thank you for your opinion. I will take it in consideration." It seems that this calmed her down just a bit. Thanks for your advice Jefferson.
I really took a lot away from this podcast. I enjoy your presentation. Thank you.
Thank you , I needed to hear this today. You are a strong person kind and encourage me. Again thank you I love your channel and I want to purchase your book
Very good advise when you mention not to engage in every battle. So much wasted energy when we do that. Have your book on pre-order. So excited! Thanks for the content!
What also can work is asking:
“What makes that you are so absolute about this ?”
Great advice as always
❤thank you so much Jefferson!!!! I need this. More about strong personalities please ❤
If you are familiar with the DISC assessment, strong personalities are typically a “D”. D’s are direct and natural leaders, but they are often insensitive in their delivery. At a conference, they said the phrase D’s need to acquire, is “I’m sorry”. Every personality type has strengths and weaknesses.
I must look into this, it sounds like my husband. And he never, ever says he's sorry!
I just saw I'm "S" steadiness... totally opposite to D!
Ah….thats me….
I like your personality so much ❤
Your videos are extremely helpful. Thank you.
Honestly, your content is the best information ever! So helpful 🙏🏻
I’m learning a lot by listening to you. Thanks
Thank you Jefferson 💯 These video are helping me one conversation at a time. Appreciate your end goal is to connect not retaliate or win argument. 🎉💕
You’re welcome. You got this!
PLEASE DO ONE ON HOW TO DIFFUSE A SITUATION! when 2 other people are getting in anrgument or getting very aggressive with you. best way to calm them down
Thank you for these helpful tips! You're making the world a better place for so many people!
I hope so!
I always enjoy listening and learning from you. Thanks Jeff!
I love your personailty and you hints are so simple and not offtensive
Thanks Carmen
Thank you very much! Really enjoy your podcasts and looking forward to your book. Already pre-ordered :)
I have a strong willed father-in-law they like to interrupt and likes agreement and railroads the conversation so this is very helpful along with your podcast of interruptions so I appreciate all your tips.
But what if they don't agree and they don't move on?
Try the Carl conversation that he mentioned near the end of the video.
Love the podcasts! Very helpful! ❤️❤️❤️
Great job, as always, Jefferson!!
I love your videos.
Great interpersonal communication teacher.
Where I have been? I wish I found you and your video hundred years ago. Your topic and teaching is what I need to learn, i have neen struggled, I have not found a teacher like you.
Thank you for sharing.
You have helped me tremendously on how to deal with my ex husband who is a narcissist
God bless you. Thank you for your guidance. ❤