How to Stand Up for Yourself and Speak with Confidence
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- You want to advocate for yourself more.
But you’re not sure how to do that.
You know you deserve to be heard, but finding the right words-and the confidence to say them-can be tough.
In this episode, I’ll show you 3 simple strategies to stand up for yourself.
Plus, I’ll reveal how to choose your battles wisely, the power of dropping disclaimers, and how to say “no” without feeling the need to justify it.
These strategies will help you assert your worth, set clear boundaries, and navigate difficult conversations with confidence.
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"Just because they spew out garbage does not mean you are in the business of picking up trash." Wise and beautifully well spoken.
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agreed, this is a great saying I am going to try remember.
❤ this sentence. Although I am not sure how cleaning person can use it since they pickup the garbage literally and deal with rude employers sometimes. 🇨🇦
Love ur wise, subtle replies to awkward situations. I am grateful 🙏 that u r sharing it to the world. May our Heavenly Father bless u in all that u do❤
‘Stop attending every argument you’re invited to’. Yes!!
true , you don't have to play the games of another.
Love this ❤ I am working hard on this and I still fail sometimes
Exactly. I’ll tape that on my mirror “stop attending every argument you’re invited to”. Such a simple statement yet so poignant.
This entire thing is like showing a person how to box. I can show you how to throw, or dodge a punch...but, it's all situational, and contextual. When, and how you use it, makes all the difference in the world.
My sister always counters many things I say in conversation. "I like ice cream". "I hate ice cream. It's gross". What should I say here? Just change the subject abruptly, or say "no"? Here's is what I say: "I understand why you see it that way, however, I see it differently".
So, you need various "tools" in your toolbox, to use them at various times, and to use them appropriately to get the conversation moving.
The word "no" is very powerful. Know when to use it, and when not to.
And FFS, please never say, "no no no no nah nah nah no". Why do people do this? So, irritating.
At 64 , I realize that I’ve fallen into a place where I’m covered in peoples trash a lot. Thank you for pointing this out. Your help is very appreciated!
Thank you. Excellent points
It happens to me. As a child we have not grown up with the confidence to value ourselves.
God won't judge us for this. Knowing your truth is everything . 11:53
Healthy Boundaries 💪🏼
TOUCHE ME TOO SURROUNDED BY IT👌🥳🤗💗
Happy Beatles Birthday! ❤
"No, because it's not what's best for me right now." - Perfect! Thank you.
I’m trying to imagine myself saying that to my super passive-aggressive covert narcissistic mother! I can already see her going through the roof!! 😮
Doesn’t work for me
Some solutions are not for everyone.
5 star podcast, Jefferson👍🏻 what gets my goat is remembering to count to 4 as you have suggested - BEFORE opening my mouth to respond.
@@breakthroughmoment1647Have a Neutral witness, record it, & follow professional advice. She explodes because you've challenged her pattern of abusive behaviour. Make that a first step in changing your life for the better, your mental & physical health deserves it.
When my dad died recently, I decided to be a better steward of my time and money. Saying "no" to invites from friends always results in a high pitched "why?" This podcast has given me courage and I am excited about living the remainder of my life (I am in my 70th year!) for the Lord. Not everything is beneficial for me! I now feel free from those who tried to control me. I have subscribed to your channel. Thank you so much for this.
So sorry for your loss .😢 I completely relate to your situation as my 95 yr old dad passed 11/22/24. I feel myself allowing others to monopolize my newly found time and efforts. When Dad was in the equation it was easy to say No because he was my priority and nobody questioned it. It was my "easy out" excuse. Jefferson's podcast is straight up transforming my outlook and empowering me to put MY needs and desires FIRST for a change. It is a truly liberating feeling. I can get used to this!😊
I love that statement about not attending every argument. Perfect.
Oooo! I like the “It’s not what’s best for me right now.” 🤯👏🏻
You are kind and gentle, and a great teacher and role model.Being kind does not make you a doormat. Truly assertive without anger, aggressiveness.. perfect
Amen to that❤
Jefferson, you’re incredible in the very best way. So many people are raised with the mindset that their role is to please others. I certainly was. Saying no is a right. Thank you for reinforcing that.
"Letting the pitch go by" is a great way to take the energy down from a narcissist.
@@NanaWilson-px9ij That's a good way of expressing it. "Ball one!"
You get the 5 star satisfaction award for cutting to the chase, using normal language and above all, telling us what we can literally DO in a present moment to change a trajectory, rather than getting mired in too much of the psychology behind it as if that understanding was enough.
When my kids were smaller and they'd repeated ask me for something - a toy, candy, whatever, and they started to get a little pushy, I would turn around, look at them at eye-level and say lovingly, "You asked me that, and I answered you. Let's move forward."
Excellent parenting! I love it! I am going to use it with my grandson, if this situation arises…
I appreciate how you give me actual words to use in difficult situations
I've been the
" Disclaimer Queen" all my life & at 57, I'm finally done. Not only does it make me look weak, but it's so emotionally draining!
I really appreciate all your videos! Thank you
I love the No is a complete sentence. That phrase also works to shut down the why.
My dear daughter has me believe I’m not a nice person duh? I’m a people pleaser who loathes arguments and I care deeply. I will now learn to be me. Thank you young man love your direction. ❤
Dear Jefferson, you are an invaluable resource and a very special person. You make a difference. Thank you.
I am provoked everyday at work by gang of toxic co workers and I don't respond to them. This makes them crazy 😅 and I love it
Wow, that takes a lot of patience but you do that every day, awesome
Hey God bless you mate but if u ask me get out of the place with toxic co workers its not simply worth it its really not I had a toxic work env for four months and after two years I am still suffering from the mental damage of it ... its not only me you can also see the write of best seller book of 48 laws of power says the same and Robrt Green is a wise man so if you can change where you work
I too am in an office of toxic people I’m now taking anti anxiety medication it’s been difficult I am
Looking for another job
I was a manager at one time and had an employee come to me that felt targeted by co-workers. I advised her to ignore them, but to engage in an uplifting conversation or even laughter with someone else during their gossip, or even listen to music. As she began to engage with others with laughter, the toxic gossipers began to feel left out and it improved over the years. Guess it was similar to an act of shaming, an act of this will not be tolerated, but in a positive arena. Your ignoring your co-workers and not responding will hopefully make them realize they aren't worthy of being tolerated. Hope you are not feeling provoked any more.
@@MR-pr8tpThat would just leave the "toxic gossiper" to change target onto someone else. They need a formal reprimand, & noted in their work performance record. If they persist, even with another target, then they need sacking. That kind of behaviour causes low morale, lower productivity, & suggests they aren't concentrating on their own job. Here, the Employer is Legally liable for 'Workplace Bullying", if they don't respond effectively to complaints of bullying. They must have, & engage a Workplace Bullying protocol, it's part of their OHS responsibility.
I loved this , I was a people pleaser for most of my life .then i realized i wasn't living my Life . Just started saying "NO " without adding an explanation. feel very proud of myself and truly free. thank you Jefferson
It took me months to gather the courage, and I said no to a request to take on someone else's tasks at work...WHEW!
I feel you .. I am rooting for you 🎉
This sounds like such a simple thing and yet is so hard for many of us to do! Great job and be proud that you held your boundary.
Congratulations😀 🎊
So proud of you
It will get easier! Way to go!
This is off topic but I have A D D . I’m 66 and am finding that I can learn great stuff from the younger generation. Maybe we have done our jobs in a more spiritual term rather than material. This is what the new THE AMERICAN DREAM looks like.
What good is owning your own home if you don’t have friends and family to fill it? Thank goodness they (our children) are better than us. MY LIFE WOULD HAVE BEEN SO DIFFERENT IF I COULD HAVE COMMUNICATED my boundaries without having to wait until the moment of implosion. I love my peeps but I don’t want to be walked on and didn’t get the tools growing up. So I’ll keep liking you, and you keep teaching ME how to be BETTER for the next generation. Thank you for the hard work.
I am 67; lots of similar neurolgical challenges ...and I really believe the thing about...some of what is available now, was not part of the consciousness back then!! I worked in education and counseling and childcare; thought I knew some things, haha. But there are so many different and continually emerging ways of working with children and people; ways of saying things; ways of looking at things; we know SO MUCH more. So that is why, I think, that yes I did ok; but wow...what wouldn't I give to have had some of this information, and a LOT more information on effects on (my) and other children; of my OWN upbringing..and how what I experienced would effect so much how I reacted and worked and played with them. I WOULD HAVE PLAYED a lot more with them, did my best :-)).
Here's a topic suggestion : How to deal with someone (close) who talks too much, all the time, about his own interests, so someone who is not really making an effort to create a real conversation or connection. Thanks a lot for your great content 🙂👍👍
AMEN! I would love some advice on that! I have a family member that is right up THAT street! A whole evening becomes all about them and they never stop talking about themself! No one else in the room even exists!
Me too! Help please 🙏
Yes!
Yes hands up for that. I can be guilty of this too when I am passionate about something and want to also know tips for reining oneself in 🙏🏻🥰 xx thanks
Yes please. My partner won't stop talking. It drives me crazy
Where were you when I needed this advice fifty years ago ?
He wasn't born yet
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He was a ✨twinkle✨ in his parent’s eyes, while creating his soul’s plan of how he could help the most people in the best way possible! 😇
you are never too old to Learn . We all are here to learn when we are open to the oppurtunity and be grateful for the wisdom in this moment.
“Stop justifying the no”… such valuable advice! 🇳🇿
“It’s not what’s best for me right now.”
I will definitely adopt this phrase. Thank you! 😊
You got this!
KNOW YOUR WORTH 🕊️✨
This is now in my top 10 favorite podcasts. I’ve been choked up and spit out, my words get snuffed, and I get walked all over. I don’t know how to stand up for myself, and all of these videos are so great for me. I’ll watch one everyday!
Thank you !
@@chrissyhudkins I’m glad to hear that you’re gaining your strength and learning to reclaim your personal power back! We get stronger together!
@@lasv69 absolutely. I was not raised in an environment where the people I was around practiced communication in a respectful manner, and as a result I am only just learning how to appropriately respond to certain things. I find myself in heated conflict being belittled and essentially “ run over” by the person I’m speaking with. I’ve not been confident in my self worth, my knowledge, or my words. I easily lose the words I want to say as a response and I don’t recover them until later. I’ve been getting bullied in this way my entire life!
@@chrissyhudkins I’m with you there with all that you said. I guess that’s why we’re here working on it. You’re in good company! Let’s all get stronger together! Thanks for sharing too by the way. I think these dialogues help us all. 🙏🏼
@@chrissyhudkinsAwareness is the First Step, Knowledge is the Second (knowledge is power), practice the scenarios you've suffered with strong replies, until it's the automatic response. You'll Floor them!
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*"Just because they spew out garbage doesn't mean we are in the business of picking up trash, you can politely tell them where it goes"* ❤
As a Christian I like to say "no" in this way; "God is not leading me to do that." If they ask why I just repeat myself. God gave me this answer many years ago. People ask "why" because they want to argue that we are making the wrong decision, but they cannot argue with me when God is making my decisions. Also, one time someone pressured me and mocked me that I didn't hear from God, so I said; "if you don't want to accept my answer then go and argue with God, He's the One Who gave me my marching orders."
Love this!!!
I just learned that lately.
@gwendolynwehage n.t. says let your yes be yes and your no be no. Stop putting your responsibility on god. Stand up for yourself.
@@stevevernon5038 God speaks often of not fighting fools, and allowing Him to avenge us. There is no faith required when we just "fight back" without trusting in God. I was raised with narcissists and they all love it when their target becomes unhinged, they want us to fight, they see it as having power over us when they can cause anger and rage in us. The wise thing to do is to not feed the beast and walk away when we discover someone is like this. Bullies don't stop becoming bullies because we beat them up, they double down and we end up looking like the foolish one.
Many people are not of your "Christian" beliefs. Assuming everyone else is of the same religion, same beliefs might not have the positive effect on others as you want to believe.
Jefferson, thank you for starting a mighty revolution of civility.
“That is not what is best for me right now, it’s outside of my focus, I need to make another choice.” I will memorize these wonderful sentences and use them when needed. Since I’m “older“ than most of your viewers I still want to be graceful but firm with my decisions. The dynamics change with a persons age, but I’m still my own advocate. I will continue to enjoy your podcast. Thank you .
I’ve been bullied so, I’m trying to stand tall, shoulders back and head up high… but still need reinforcements like your great pod casts
I can listen to Jefferson all day
Agreement 💯 percent! There are times when people are trying to set you up for whatever reason; think and pause before you speak.
They are trying to stir your emotions which turn into situations.
So, just ignore it for the best part.
My opinion.
My roommate/sister in law is like that with me. drives me crazy.. After listening to Jefferson more and more, I'm learning how to handle her.
Happens with a new supervisor at work. I feel like he’s on a power trip.
Great topic! I taught my daughter to say 'thank you for thinking of me, but this doesn't work for me. I'm sure you will be able to find someone that it will work for'. Short and simple ❤
I agree with everything you said on this podcast. I have had no choice but to stand up for myself since my husband never has. The more I do stand up for myself the easier it gets and I feel more empowered when I do. 🌹
Protect your Peace in all ways. Beautiful Sentient Being🙏❤️❤️
Wish I'd known this years ago. I'm a people-pleaser, but am working to undo it! "No is a complete sentence." I love that!! I love all your podcasts. So very helpful, thank you!!
You are always so bang on - the only thing I have to complain about is when one of these situations arise….I can never remember what you said!!
It is great to get these tips. I've spent my life trying to be nice and realizing I'm angry with others because I've given too much and can't balance because of fear of being mean. To realize it's kindness to set boundaries is empowering
Jefferson, your podcast are filled w/ timeless advice and value. Never worry about "Just rolling with it" because each episode only gets better when you do. You have no idea how helpful you have been. Thank you! ❤
I’m guilty of letting people talk down to me, but I’m getting better. Age helps, you just don’t care anymore.
I woman I know through a club I'm in wanted me to volunteer on a certain date and I told her no, well she started hounding me and asking why not, I told her it was the 1st anniversary of my father death and she was not giving up. I had to walk away from her. Let me tell you she was a nightmare she made sure no one talked to me at the club, I was shunned! I eventually stopped going after that. It hurt a great deal that people are so easy to believe one persons baloney and never even bother to talk to you. Thanks so much for all your videos.
This podcast is brilliant and so useful to me 🥰🫶. I need to listen to it regularly again and again to reprogram my brain that has not been setup to have those reflexes ! And as a woman, this feels even better to hear a man say such things because I find my struggle is often more with men disregarding my sensitivity and I love to see that younger generations of men are finally getting things right! This is also empowering for women as still often we are less considered and lack more self confidence (and yet I’m privileged to live in Europe, where it’s far less bad as in most of the world for women 😬) so thank you so much! You have no idea how your podcasts are changing my world at this time ❤
I'm a mother to a child with special needs and the amount of specific language required to navigate that world is immense--school district, providers, insurance.... Your coaching is amazing and supporting my child and our family! How's that for some feedback!?!?!? LOL. You're my hero.
I fell on the floor laughing when I heard you say these. I love you Jefferson! It's not on my radar right now. It's outside of my focus. It's not what's best for me right now. I need to make a different choice.
Say no, and just stop talking. Any question they ask, you just say, “Why do you ask?” That is a conversation killer. They have been rude, and now they feel it. ❤
I had a relative who couldn't take such a subtle hint. She just replied because I want to know. It's funny now, after 10 or so years.
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@@maryjacobs7046I'm not your doormat, that's why!
There is wisdom in conserving your energy and protecting your peace.
I have learned how to block family members because I am worth standing up for and becoming stronger than their negativity!
I will remain Positive and my stress and emotional peace have been such a sweet retreat away from them.
Breathing easy is the best air!
Thank you and I am loving all I am learning in my old age!
Same here. Family members can be the hardest people to stand up to because they use guilt, shame, and blame.
At my age (59) I've learned to simply not give a f**k. 😊
after years of suppression with narc criticisms and narc behavior, it gets worse the gaslighting and antagonizing with narc sil and bully mil. No contact, no longer putting up with bad behaviour
These tips for saying no are very helpful (say it directly, don't water it down, keep it short and sweet etc.). Your comments about responding to people who ask why you are saying "no" have also caused me to react more respectfully to others who say "no" to me!
"Just because Someone spews garbage ... You don't have to pick up trash " .... Wow ... simply wow ..
Just wrote it on my board . I really needed to hear this !!!
Appreciate this video so much . Incredible.
Great communication advice! Thanks, Jefferson, for encouraging us to be clear, concise and respectful.
Thanks. You know it when you need to respond and stand up for yourself. It's healthy to do so in these situations. Be calm but direct and blunt when you need to. Agree. No!
Know your worth! Fabulous. I used to say sorry...I don't do that anymore. I also don't allow myself to be guilted into things anymore. It is completely OK to say no.
There aren't words to express how helpful your podcasts are! What a brilliant, compassionate being you are! Excellent teacher as well. So much gratitude for you and your content!
“Trashing” other people’s garbage has brought me dignity peace and ability to disconnect from others issues
Totally agree, stop attending every argument you're invited to! Love this.
Thank you, thank you thank you!! I too often apologize for my NO’S. Perfect Advice 5:49!!!
"That's not what's best for me" spoke to me, and I see myself using it in the future.
Ever since I saw this , I have tried to do that but I fail every day. I will try more hard tomorrow until I can finally stand up for myself. Thank you.
Man this channel is a direct answer to prayer!! I've been feeling so bad about myself. My self confidence is totally shot like it never has been before. Just due to one person and one comment that I should have thrown in the trash instead of trying to explain to everyone in the whole damn office why that comment was ridiculous. There was me, broom and dustpan in hand, bending over in front of everyone sweeping the floor like a damn fool. Liked and subscribed. Thank you brother.
I am 70 years old. I have hated myself so many times for doing things that I didn't want to do because I just couldn't say no. I've recently found your channel and I enjoy your simple responses to everyday unappreciated comments. Thank you.
I love "it's not what's best for me right now." Or even without the "right now, " depending on the situation.
It’s funny. I know these things but it feels so good to hear them. Even when I do them and know it has to be done, it often doesn’t feel good. Your words are a quiet round of applause.
Carli brings up a good point. Women are expected to be compliant, so we're always questioned when we say no
This is also true for all juniors.
I love how you show people how to recover or create personal power. It's something that's not addressed enough in advice today,
J you are one of the person whom i stumbled up on and never looked back. I moved to US in late 2021. Culture, language and nuances are different then where I come from. I am multilingual. English is my 2nd language and even though I am proficient at work environment ( superficially) I actually struggle coordinating my thoughts ( I do lot of code switching) also I am trauma survivor and suffer from anxiety.
You have helped me develop my language and confidence. It do feel empowered. I make notes of your statements and practice it in real world and come back to board ( what worked and what does not)
I loved your respons in this podcast about why not.' Its not best for me right now' and 'I need to make a different choice' it was like wooaahh 😮 thank you for what you do. If you think i can help you in anyway it would be my honor. Appreciate you so much! ❤
I love your advice! Thank you!
Jefferson, I am one of your students. I learn so much for you. I can't wait for the book ... thank you so much!
Thanks ! I struggle with getting too many invites and find myself exhausted ….rehearsing your lines to help me focus more on self care …
I'm learning so much from these! Asserting myself and saying no without a back up explanation really helps. That stops others from challenging my explanation which intern is challenging my answer of no. Thanks Jefferson!
You are AMAZING 👏😂👏👏👏🏃♀️🤸♂️. Thank you so much for your authenticity and charm.
God Bless you Jefferson 🙏
Thank you… again for encouraging me. I was raised to be a people pleaser and at age 66 I find myself slipping back into that. With my husband as my biggest supporter I’ve come a long way. With you teaching me whether thru my inbox or podcast, I feel like I can just say “No”. Period. Can’t wait for your book
Me too!
Agreed!
"Because it's not what's best for me right now"..... Love it!
Thank you for this podcast.So far I used to justify my NO.
Now I know I don't have to .I have to say NO unapologetically.
Omg, it works, i was invited to a party ( last minute) but the ppl know me, and know I'm up for a party and last minute is never a judgment on my part, i said no, followed by i appreciate the invite, ty, end of it. The conversion continued as smoothly as my answer, normally i would have explained the reasons why i couldn't .
Thank you Jefferson! You are gifted! So appreciate your wisdom!
I was just strolling through UA-cam this morning and found you while I was waiting for the Sun to come up and the news to come on what you’re saying is so correct and I actually didn’t know about you before this morning but I have a narcissistic stepmother who I described as having a 10th° black belt in narcissism because she’s that strong with it. She’s also born-again Christian which means that you’re never right only she is but I heard a couple of months ago that somebody said that when somebody says something that belittles you, ask them “what did you say?” Well, she did a double take and backpedaled. I Immediately thought wow that works. I also save quotes and sayings from Pintrest. I liked the one that I saved several years ago.” no response is a response. And it’s a powerful one. Remember that.” I appreciate the words that you give me and other people the courage to get that target off our back because every time that target weighs more and more and more and I felt it and today I don’t have that target on my back anymore so keep doing what you’re doing. It helps a lot.
Watching from Afghanistan
Thank you Mr.Fisher ✌🏼🙂
You are truly a genius, Jefferson. Your priceless knowledge is exactly what a silenced Eastern woman like me, living in the Western world, needs. Thank you so much for your brilliant content!
I was wondering if you could share advice on how to handle a bossy person. I have a colleague who constantly asks me to do tasks so they can avoid doing them. One day, I confronted them and firmly said, "You're not my boss, so stop bossing me around. I've had enough of this." I was upset and raised my voice, and they walked away before I could finish.
Now, they’re still bossy, but in more polite ways. How can I set clear boundaries so they stop giving me orders and focus on their own responsibilities?
I love all your tips - so simple and direct. Many of us always say Sorry first, and always offer excuses. When you do that, they counter the excuse, so I stopped doing that. I remember when I was a little girl and would ask my dad a question he didn't want to answer, or if I asked Why?, he'd respond, "You writing a book?" I find that to be a lighthearted response, meaning "none of your business." And I knew he wasn't going to give me an answer.
Ha! I've been asked ... "writing a book or part-time cop"? 😅
Bless your heart, Hon
Many times when I say No, I add, Thank you for thinking of me though. No excuses needed!
I do this too.
This is good
GLAD YOU ARE HERE JEFFERSON, THANKS FOR THE TOOLS❤ MUCH NEEDED, BLESS YOU!💜🔥🙏💕
We do not have to respond to every enticement nor say yes to everything. It takes discernment. Love God. Love Others. Love yourself. Therein is the answer. God bless.
No is a complete sentence! 😀❤and Not worth getting out of my chair for and the trash can! ❤❤❤ Thank you!
Appreciate you giving actual real tools to approach difficult conversations. They need to be had!
Recovering people pleaser thanks to childhood conditioning, re-learning how not to set myself on my fire to keep others warm. Thank you for helping me figure out what a normal conversation looks like.
I just wanna say thank you for this channel.
You are the Best. I need all the wisdom I can gleam from you I somehow missed how to stand up for myself. I was taught how to be a doormat however and I’m pretty good at it.
This one hits home for me as it's something I struggle with. Thanks for making it so simple to say what's best for ME - wow! What a concept! Thanks, Jefferson!
When we discover our value and what it is that is important to us, we find it easier to say no to other people’s needs, wants, and desires for our lives.
Absolutely love this advice, especially "just say no". I find I justify because I want to be considerate, some people/situations i feel deserve more reason (for example if someone is counting on me and I have say no for complicated reasons, but care about their needs as well), or I'm worried that they will be upset. Or, it may even be because I don't get emotional support from them and I want them to see me and care about how I'm feeling when they seem selfish (for example, that I'm tired, overwhelmed, sad etc and their emotional or social demands are exhausting me). Surely some of those are more "weak" and entangled than others. Definitely some wonderful food for thought 😊
Hi Jefferson ! I can appreciate what you shared with Karlie on how to respond to the “why not” question . That why not comes up so often in one’s everyday conversation . Thank you for sharing your knowledge on how to have healthier conversations which helps me personally with initiating my boundaries in my conversations .
Earned a sub today ! I’m 43 and have been working on people pleasing tendencies for 20 years and counting
Thanks for the new and fresh insights
Wow, I sure can use this. I have a tendency to get worked up if someone is questioning me further on a subject, then I get angry, this will definitely help. I like the take out the trash too! So often I feel you have to make a response but with these answers, it makes it so much simpler. I really love your podcasts. Such useful information. We should teach this in school, from first grade! Especially girls, they need to learn how to stand up for themselves.
My self esteem has fluctuated over time. NICE TO HAVE THIS AS A REMINDER ❤
Thank you! Always enjoy your videos and learn from you, you're helping me growth and heal. Be good Jeff
Jefferson, I can't even describe how valuable what you say is. I wish someone would teach me that when I was at school. This is just priceless and It is helping me so much! Thank you for what you do!💙
This is really helpful. I find that when I say no and attempt to walk away, the offensive person continues to follow me and won’t stop. It can be exhausting.
Me too
Replay “what did I say when you asked”
Say... "I said, No."
If they continue. Say... "Stop."
I am very happy to hear your views. I'm 68 and have learned from you. Also, I understand many of your responses are calming to remember. Thanks