I’ve also learnt that too much talking is a coping mechanism to build a wall of words to not let people get too close to you even though you want people to get close to you
@@independentballerina well I can only speak for myself here but I am sure others will say it happens to them too.. people seem to leave the room when I need them most to help me get past the small talk, I can kinda laugh about it because I am happy that I am finally seeing it. For me I have really hard adhd so sometimes I’m just thinking out loud and people think I am sharing, there’s a lot going on!
Hmm I didn't realise this. Interesting and probably it's unconscious because we try to achieve deeper connection through sharing serious experiences and feelings. Paradox
It becomes a problem when balance is gone I overshared in job interviews 😢 Some appreciate transparency, others will be scared off..i try not to judge myself and I am aware at least.
Thank you; I needed this. Bringing up the shame and abandonment is so important and validating. You gave such a thorough, complete response. thank you 🙏
Childhood Trauma made some of us this way .its hard to stop the oversharing.I’m aware that I do it but it’s just my way of trying to relate to people .I’m trying to stop it .
I was always like this and partially it's a skill of good explanation of any topic but in some settings or with wolves in sheepclothing it can be risky. People will use vulnerabilities against us in some cases. Or to hurt us even more
That is very true, it is our responsability to heal and once we do we are able to manage these situations in a better light. We are vulnerable because that same vulnerability is rooted in a strong sense of self and self-esteem, which will bounce back if used against us but it is always hard to manage relationships. What is most important is the relationship that you have with yourself :) and that you always validate and honour what you feel and are able to be there for yourself :) 💌
@@susanaamaralsilva Agreed and what you said in this video, we are afraid of rejection because deep down we are afraid that image of someone's judgment is true ( whether it's false or genuine feedback from others) Thank you for clarifying this process and reminder to not shame myself. I can allow myself to try, stumble and get back up.
What a powerful and articulate video. You managed to distill a huge subject and deep observations into a short space of time. Thank you so much for your insights and your ability to get straight to the point.
Never! We overshare because we feel lonely and we genuinely want to create happy connections - usually a sign that we have so much to give. And that is something to be proud of 🤍 (but it's still our responsability to heal!)
Thank you so much 🥹 It means everything to me, knowing that these videos can reduce someone's pain, even if for just a bit. You thinking of them, wanting to help them, is such an act of service 🤍 That person is loved.
This video was insightful, healing and helpful.Can you do a video on examples of how to be there for yourself? Thank you for being willing to be open about your life. You are brave🎉
Amazing, thank you so much for sharing Susana, how true. Much love and success to you, the universe loves you and rooting for you to live your happiest life every moment xo
Thank you so much 🥺🤍 Reading this fulfils me with so much happiness and gratitude. Thank you. I truly appreciate you and I am so happy I could help somehow ❤❤
Dang this video hurts to hear, Currently questioning my entire life, I want to explain everything and confront my family, But I can't even talk with them since My cousin is moving into the apartment above from me this week that my Aunt said I was to move into, it was guartneed I've been needing my own space for too long, but her and my uncle conspired against me without me having a say and said I struggle too much and "wouldn't want anything tragic to happen" without me saying a word, My dad killed himself so they think the same for me I guess, I haven't spoken to my uncle in over 5 years he doesn't know anything about my personal life, This is my childhood home I've wanted the upstairs apartment for over 15 years and I'm going crazy living with my mom nearly being 30 I feel so rejected and unworthy, I had so many plans. Am I being prideful? I'm just hurt and want to give up on dating, friends, any alone time. I now get very anxious and angry even hearing or seeing anyone around me. I am usually loving and outgoing but now I don't care. I do this too information dump and then closed loved ones use to the set me up attack me and kick me when I'm down and I guess gossip too since It cost me an apartment now. I'm sorry.
James I am so so sorry you are going through so much. The most important thing now is for you to validate what you feel, those feelings, the pain... journal if it helps!!! Write it all down, talk to someone who understands this (a safe space, coaching, etc.),... you are worthy of soooo much!!! I promise things will get better 💟💫 If you were guided to find this video is also because you are destined to heal and thrive!!! I believe in you 😁😁🥰
Holy Tolledo. This was the best talk I’ve heard in over sharing. It should be at the top of UA-cam with way more views and likes. Thank you!
This makes me so happy you have no idea 🥹💖 thank you for being kind to me ❤ I appreciate you so much
@@susanaamaralsilvayou’re my best friend I really like you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@susanaamaralsilvayou’re very pretty
I’ve also learnt that too much talking is a coping mechanism to build a wall of words to not let people get too close to you even though you want people to get close to you
It’s true .
How ‘talking too much’ prevent people get too close to us? Can you explain? ????
@@independentballerina well I can only speak for myself here but I am sure others will say it happens to them too.. people seem to leave the room when I need them most to help me get past the small talk, I can kinda laugh about it because I am happy that I am finally seeing it. For me I have really hard adhd so sometimes I’m just thinking out loud and people think I am sharing, there’s a lot going on!
Hmm I didn't realise this.
Interesting and probably it's unconscious because we try to achieve deeper connection through sharing serious experiences and feelings. Paradox
It becomes a problem when balance is gone
I overshared in job interviews 😢
Some appreciate transparency, others will be scared off..i try not to judge myself and I am aware at least.
Thank you; I needed this. Bringing up the shame and abandonment is so important and validating. You gave such a thorough, complete response. thank you 🙏
Thank you so so much 🥺🤍 I appreciate you
Childhood Trauma made some of us this way .its hard to stop the oversharing.I’m aware that I do it but it’s just my way of trying to relate to people .I’m trying to stop it .
Great explanation, thank you.
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Thank you for saying the kind words at the end ❤
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Thank you ✨🌼Angel✨🌼 for sharing with us your insightful thoughts; it’s appreciated by me💛
Thank you so so much for this beautiful comment 🥰 I appreciate you 🙏🧚
Thanks for the info ❤
@@Ladykng ❤️
I came to watch this again… and again… and again… ❤😢
@@pinchebruha405 You’re not alone!! 💖💖
Everything you are saying resonates so deeply. Thank you for connecting the dots between over sharing, people pleasing and over explaining.
This makes me truly happy. Thank you so much for your kind words and support, I appreciate you 🌟✨
My bf mum shared things with him she should not have. Now he overshares my personal info not just with her but any woman he can find
I was always like this and partially it's a skill of good explanation of any topic but in some settings or with wolves in sheepclothing it can be risky.
People will use vulnerabilities against us in some cases. Or to hurt us even more
That is very true, it is our responsability to heal and once we do we are able to manage these situations in a better light. We are vulnerable because that same vulnerability is rooted in a strong sense of self and self-esteem, which will bounce back if used against us but it is always hard to manage relationships. What is most important is the relationship that you have with yourself :) and that you always validate and honour what you feel and are able to be there for yourself :) 💌
@@susanaamaralsilva Agreed and what you said in this video, we are afraid of rejection because deep down we are afraid that image of someone's judgment is true ( whether it's false or genuine feedback from others)
Thank you for clarifying this process and reminder to not shame myself.
I can allow myself to try, stumble and get back up.
Profound insight! And articulate analyses of outcomes and behaviours.
Thank you.
Thank you so much! 😊 I truly appreciate it
What a powerful and articulate video. You managed to distill a huge subject and deep observations into a short space of time. Thank you so much for your insights and your ability to get straight to the point.
Thank you so so much, that is so kind of you to say, you just made my day!! 💫🤍🤍
Thank you for saying I shouldn't feel ashamed❤
Never! We overshare because we feel lonely and we genuinely want to create happy connections - usually a sign that we have so much to give. And that is something to be proud of 🤍 (but it's still our responsability to heal!)
Beautifully said. Thank you ❤
Thank you so much Alex ☺💫💌💌
Powerful! Thank you so much for sharing. Someone very dear to me needs to see this.
Thank you so much 🥹 It means everything to me, knowing that these videos can reduce someone's pain, even if for just a bit. You thinking of them, wanting to help them, is such an act of service 🤍 That person is loved.
This is an excellent video. Thanks.
Thank you so much ☺🤍
Thank you so much for this video, it was very insightful and helpful. Also you are gorgeous (T--T)
omg thank you so much!! 🥹🥹 you just made my day 🤍 I appreciate you and I am so happy to help 🥰💌
This video was insightful, healing and helpful.Can you do a video on examples of how to be there for yourself?
Thank you for being willing to be open about your life. You are brave🎉
Thank you so much!! 🥹 You are so kind 🌟 I will keep that in mind 🤍
Thank you. Sharing is so important!
Thank you 🥰🤍
Me ha encantado el vídeo 👌👌
Gracias Sofia ☺💖
This is very well explained. Thank you so much
Thank you so so much ☺ I appreciate you
Amazing, thank you so much for sharing Susana, how true. Much love and success to you, the universe loves you and rooting for you to live your happiest life every moment xo
🥹🥹 Thank you SO much for this beautiful comment ❤💌 You just made my day 💘
Very powerful. Thank you❤
Thank you so much 😊🤗
Wonderful.....Helped me a lot!
This makes me so happy!! Thank you 🤍
THANK YOU so much. This was so beautifully and empathically explained. I appreciate it so much. Thank You. Sending love on your journey x
Thank you so much 🥺🤍 Reading this fulfils me with so much happiness and gratitude. Thank you. I truly appreciate you and I am so happy I could help somehow ❤❤
Thank you.
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Wow this is such powerful information. Thank you for sharing 💛
Thank you so so much ☺🤍
Another reason I stay isolated
That's going too far the opposite way.
Dang this video hurts to hear, Currently questioning my entire life, I want to explain everything and confront my family, But I can't even talk with them since My cousin is moving into the apartment above from me this week that my Aunt said I was to move into, it was guartneed I've been needing my own space for too long, but her and my uncle conspired against me without me having a say and said I struggle too much and "wouldn't want anything tragic to happen" without me saying a word, My dad killed himself so they think the same for me I guess, I haven't spoken to my uncle in over 5 years he doesn't know anything about my personal life, This is my childhood home I've wanted the upstairs apartment for over 15 years and I'm going crazy living with my mom nearly being 30 I feel so rejected and unworthy, I had so many plans. Am I being prideful? I'm just hurt and want to give up on dating, friends, any alone time. I now get very anxious and angry even hearing or seeing anyone around me. I am usually loving and outgoing but now I don't care. I do this too information dump and then closed loved ones use to the set me up attack me and kick me when I'm down and I guess gossip too since It cost me an apartment now. I'm sorry.
James I am so so sorry you are going through so much. The most important thing now is for you to validate what you feel, those feelings, the pain... journal if it helps!!! Write it all down, talk to someone who understands this (a safe space, coaching, etc.),... you are worthy of soooo much!!! I promise things will get better 💟💫 If you were guided to find this video is also because you are destined to heal and thrive!!! I believe in you 😁😁🥰