Hey lovely peeps, I normally don't comment. But I was reading all the comments and thought maybe I can help some of you. For the people who don't know how to hold a conversation: the very best tip I can give you is be actually interested in the person you are talking to. That's it! Be actually interested in who this person is, what he/she likes, why they do what they do, how do they feel about that, what is their actual dream if they were really honest and why, etc... Believe me, everybody can talk about themselves for a whole night when they feel like the other one is actually interested. Just be interested in who this person is without judging beforehand. And if you have a commonality, bond on that part tell your own story about it. And then after just go back to asking them about their life, their childhood, favorite holiday spot (and why). If someone says I love spain -> ask why etc.. This also will make you less scared to have a conversation because you don't have to worry about having an interesting personality (which is the main reason people are scared when talking to people). Just try it out, it will change your lives, hopefully😅
Use your everyday opportunities to get better at talking. One of the easiest ways I got over my shyness was strinking up convos with people in line, be store, restaurant, whatever. Cashiers... every opportunity to practice
Working in retail as a teenager was an education on how to interact with various personalities. But it’s something that you constantly learn and develop over your lifetime.
I once came across these great tips that really helped me become more likeable and social: 1. Make eye contact and appear interested in what theyre saying 2. Ask them at least 3 open ended questions so that they talk more about themselves 3. Find at least one thing in common with the person 4. Say their name back to them at least once and before you leave 5. Give them at least one compliment
I just learned to talk to people how I talk to a close friend instead of putting them on a pedestal and trying to prove my worth to them. Did the trick for me
A lot of people have social anxiety after Covid including me lol my job was closed down for over a year and I felt like I had to learn how to talk to customers again 😮
Haha I've been there before. The best way I have found to be comfortable around them and to get them comfortable around you is to IMMEDIATELY introduce yourself when you meet them and to try your best to jump into conversation instead of sitting there quietly
@@Avidcommentor32 well you are trying to insert yourself into them. In the scenario the original comment is talking about you are there because you have a friend in the group so you are meant to be there. If they are talking you shouldn’t feel worried about hopping in the conversation
Same here I used to be the quiet kid in the back of the class and played video games by himself Now after working frontend retail for a year I've already made insane progress
the problem with me is my self awareness and awareness in general. I catch the micro expressions when people give that "why is this guy here (or still here or why is this guy here at all)" look but i try to ignore things like that and not let it get to me. I know most of this stuff is "in your head" but sometimes its really how it is.
So what if that is what they actually think? The people who react negatively will react that way no matter what. You don't need validation from people who don't appreciate you. Get it from people who actually do appreciate you for being you.
talked about my desire to be more open and less worried about people's judgements with my therapist today, and here comes this video of a neat trick to achieve just that. our phones do be listening lol
No joke the exact same thing just happened to me. Not even an hour ago I was telling my fiancé how I feel like I have no friends since moving and don’t know how to talk to people lol
That’s old news. Phones can read your mind now. I’ve had random thoughts that I have never spoke or searched on the internet pop up as an ad immediately after. This has happened multiple times and it’s not a coincidence
This is so true, particularly if you're trying to attract and flirt with a girl you like. If you don't practice with other people you're not attracted to then you're less likely to pull it off with that girl you like.
It’s moments like these- when I’m scrolling on UA-cam and come across a smaller channel - it reminds me that there are good people out there still , just waiting to be found and have their art appreciated. In this case it’s you and your advice videos. I hope no matter how many subs you get one of these days, that it doesn’t change the types of genuine messages you wanna give. Thanks for such a deep and powerful video. Would love to see even more on the subject of social anxiety/ insecurities that hold people back from just living their life
One of the best comments I've gotten. I am grateful you took the time to leave it. I plan to keep posting videos like this and I hope it doesn't change from that as well. I am sure they will change with time, but the overall structure and intent I plan to keep the same! I have a good bit of other videos on insecurity in a playlist called "Confidence and Mindsets" and social skills videos in one called "Social Skills" if you want to check some out.
@@devmaurello sounds like I’ll be a regular viewer every week 🤟🏻 I’ve seen a few others of your videos on the subject of confidence , and you really do have every video mean something to you. It’s something you can feel through the screen- that you aren’t being fake and really wanna help people. Keep it going, not everyone has that selflessness
I always say I'm not scared to do this "flirt with the world" tactic but as soon as the moment strikes, and I actually have a plan of what I want to say, part of me just says "naaaaahh". I think the positives far outweigh the negatives, so I'm not gonna let those thoughts get in the way. Thanks man, subbed!
That's part of the process. It can be pretty intimidating at first so your brain tries to convince you not to. Do it 2-3 times and it'll be like nothing for you! Hope you try it.
i think an important part you mentioned is how it makes other peoples day better when you “flirt with the world” or engage with them. often i’d feel uncomfortable like a nuisance but in reality you’re often doing good for others and yourself. Almost owe it to the world to make other peoples days just a little bit better. Flirting to me is really just showing interest and putting out feelers to see if they like you back. Flirting is zero risk because worst case they show no interest and you can let them be. In my opinion this is much better than being super direct and asking for a number or asking someone to be a friend without easing into it. Great video, i like how you showed a real example of you putting it into practice in a little way!
as a person who worked behind the counter at a gas station, I have been in that same interaction 50+ times. Reality is they hear the same shit all day and they just want a quick interaction unless you actually come in drunk and give them a laugh. Motivational though, big ups!
yep this is all so damn true. Great vid. Talking is a brain a muscle that you need to train so you should practise on everyone at all times, even the easy targets like 80 plus year olds. You can learn so much from them as you're levelling up. Win win.
As a teen in high school at the minute with minimum friends, as well as not being able to make any new friends or conversations, I have found this video very motivating to try harder and relax more, so thank you bro
Big ups, Devin. I've always been someone who's good with talking, but bad with starting the conversation. What you've said is incredibly valuable, thank you.
one of my problems is not being able to come up with something to say that'd be playful like how you did with the cashier. I think I can come up with some random general questions but there’d be no “flirtatiousness” to them
I’d say it’s more about how you say it than what you say. I said something playful because being playful is a big part of my personality, but as you do it more often you come up with things to say easier. It doesn’t necessarily have to be flirtatious, the main thing here is that you are actually having a social interaction when you usually wouldn’t. As you do it more just say whatever comes to mind and be experimental with it.
My coworker always ended his phone calls with "Did anyone tell you you're doing a great job today?" they'd say no and he'd say "Well you're doing a great job." and it always put a smile on my face. Crazy positivity. Maybe a good line for when someone is serving you at a gas station or restaurant
i firmly believe that being self conscious about your conversation skills will always make u awkward. Just act naturally and joke whenever a joke pops up in your head.
Just start talking to people. You get better as time goes on. I got a job recently where I’m on the phone a lot and it has helped me exponentially. You can’t think your way out of an overthinking problem. Take action.
the gas station interaction was so wholesome omg.. flirt with the world.. great advice I find myself fearing that people will get the wrong impression if i'm too "flirty" ??
Hmm I could see that. If that happens just let them know they took it the wrong way. But flirty doesn’t necessarily have to be in that sense, it’s really just being playful and lighthearted and being yourself. Bring a positive energy basically
When I worked as a cashier I was definitely a bit more social. But when I left retail I became quiet again lol. So yeah consistency and practice is def key
Like you said, it’s tough to not let it affect you and not take it personally if sometimes the other person isn’t vibing or giving you anything back but it’s important to keep doing it. Need to keep in mind people are gonna be having a bad day, or just not on your wavelength, and of course plenty of people are shy just like you are! When you get those good interactions it massively outweighs the bad ones.
Energy is in everything, everywhere. Energy is a part of nature, and we are nature. I feel like you shouldn’t have to force yourself, but just be aware of how your energy is and how might the other individual might feel.
That’s like exactly what I do I literally flirt with everyone and seeing it through that lens helps me so much. I love seeing someone that gets it, and knowing that someone is carrying the purpose to inspire others 🤘subscribeeeed
working as a cashier actually helped me talk to people more freely and not feel shy i do feel it sometimes but its not as much as in the past, id say challenge yourself take small steps
One of the most attractive things to people is confidence. That’s why dickhead/douchebags are able to attract women. Look at them. Not all of them are really physically attractive to society’s standards.
Be flirtatious with the world. Man you just made me discover fire. Man you can have my kids, hollly shitt have you just gave me a reason to keep going. This video needs more traction and i hope my girl don't see this, she'd leave me in a heartbeat. JK she already left :( Just wanna wish you luck Devin, you're not what i wanted but you are what I needed. Love you man...
Hey man I liked the video a lot. It kinda felt like I was getting custom tailored advice even though it’s just a UA-cam video. The whole flirting with the world thing seems like a really good idea and I’ve been trying it out a bit since watching. That part where you ask the guy “you ever tried these before” and tell him “I’ll blame you if I don’t like them” and he laughs really appealed to me and made me want to get better at talking to people. I have a few questions I wanted to ask you though. One thing I wanted to know is how do you come up with these things to talk about? That was just small talk, but it seemed a million times better than “enjoying the weather?” I never really know what to say when I try to approach people, but that conversation seemed perfect and like it just came to you naturally. Another thing I wanted to ask is how to control the tone of your voice better. I could relate to you when you mentioned that you barely ever spoke in school and you lost your social skills a bit. I wondered if you ended up with the same problem as me where you start to lose control over the tone of your voice and it ends up being monotone all the time. For that reason every time I try to joke around with people or etc. they just kinda go “what?” or “huh?” like I was making a statement or asking a question or something.
Those are some good questions. I'll probably make a video soon on the first question you asked about how I know what to talk about. In short, I guess I'd say to just be in the moment and don't sit there and overthink what to say. Just say whatever comes to mind. If you sound dumb, then oh well, it's not like you aren't about to leave anyway lol. Talking to people is just like any other skill. The more you do it the better you will get at it, so if you keep practicing the whole flirting with the world thing, eventually things to say will just come to you like it did to me in the video. Me saying, "I'll blame you if I don't like them" was me just being me. I am a very playful person and tease my friends a lot, so even though he was a stranger I still acted like myself and teased him, that's one of the biggest pieces of advice I can give you is to be yourself and let your personality shine even if it's a stranger. As for the tone of voice thing, I actually did struggle with that a good bit. I didn't have a problem with it around my friends, but when I was talking to people I didn't know I was very monotone. Honestly the only way to fix that is by being consciously aware of it when you are talking to people and forcing yourself to change tone while you are speaking. Eventually it will become a habit and you won't have to think about it. Also, it's pretty hard to be monotone when you are smiling so don't be afraid to show emotion in your face when you are talking.
I'm a bit older than you, and I'll tell you how I do it. It's very simple and doesn't require anything. In fact, it requires you to lose something. Basically, just stop thinking. That's all you need to do-stop thinking and just let your mouth do the talking. Your brain will come up with things on its own. So, stop thinking, and turn off your brain.
I can relate to this and I’ve been using the same strategy for a few years now without even realising it and how I talk to people in public has improved a lot, not everyone is out there to get you people are actually quite nice haha
Why am I just seeing this after a firework show I went to alone with a bunch of people near me who I didn’t say a thing to lmao. Walked up confident and just stood like a weirdo waiting for fireworks to start. I gotta watch this everyday to remind myself to try to interact more
Yes just be more playful when talking, doesn't mean you need to be so weird but just however you can talk and be okay with laughing and just have a good time and don't worry about rejection
As a late diagnosed autistic guy that learnt socializing. Its hard as fuck. I learnt that alot of people just dont like me and learing and accepting that helps me socializing.
because of my shyness, when I go out I wear a very closed and cold face like a shield. I though every one guess "that guy is inconfortable" but people think "he has a bad day, he has no time, he is angry" And this face is like a closed door. You have no interaction with it. But if someone do a little joke or start small talk with a little humor, all disapear ^^ those social skills... hard to work on it at the beginning. Thanks for the motivation.
i feel pathetic because i dont have alot of homies to hang out with. i have alot of girl friends and i cant just brush them off, their chill people. but i just wanna do dude things and be a dude with dudes. shit i find myself being scared to even ask “hows your day” after someone even asks me. ill say “im good” then ill go on. im also horrible at roasting people back, so i chuckle and tell them to shut up in a funny way. what do we think gang, am i cooked for life? edit: shit thanks for the advice guys, im late but thanks dev
You're not cooked bro don't worry lol. You pretty much gave yourself the answer to your problem. You said you find yourself being scared to even ask someone how their day is. All you need to do is push yourself out of your comfort zone and overcome that fear. Go about your day with the intent of talking to some guys that you feel like you'd want to be cool with and just say whatever comes to mind. I meet most of my new friends at the gym and I will walk up to guys I have never even seen before and be like "Damn bro, your arms are massive" and boom, basically friends now. Talk to them every time I see them.
I'm in the exact same situation, but with genders reversed. All my mates are dudes (because we have a lot of common interests) and I just really need feminine energy in my life. It can be saddening.
Nah bro you’re in a good position. For most dudes it’s way harder to talk to girls than guys. Just ask a dude about sports or video games straight up and you’ll find friends. Literally ask someone to play your favorite game with them online and boom u probably got a friend lol.
I am a man and i always struggled talking to people. i really like the idea of flirting with the world so from now on i will flirt with every man I meet. I am going to make so many boyfriends.
I use to have social anxiety and was really quiet. Drinking Alcohol 🥃 changed that 😂 when I drink social anxiety is scared of me. I will talk to anyone and anybody!!
Tried microdosing on shrooms, honestly brooo. They're easy to grow. Give it a month with daily doses of the same amount and you'll be an immovable object hahaha
I used to afraid to talk to people, With many thing l been through. And now l not afraid to talk . Sometimes l talking a lot sometimes l don’t. I just don’t care what other people think !
i have social anxiety, i feel like i’m not interesting enough to talk with people & honestly scared of someone being mean if i ever tried to talk first with them
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I dont think you are really getting to the root of the change (not for everyone I mean). You basically just said "do it". And "do it in little steps". But for some there are key underlying reasons why they have trouble talking to people. They may not have developed their social skills muscle much either, but many people simply have a way of seeing reality that makes other people out to be hostile, stupid, unlike oneself, etc. In such cases it is the persons feelings about themselves and others and ultimately life itself. This could turn around by having meaningful social interactions but unless that thrusts itself upon us we have to desire to connect with others and embrace that desire; that joy that comes from participation in life and being apart of the whole instead of an isolated misfit who people wont understand.
@@olabodowabolothethird7980 I don't mean to imply the video is unhelpful. It is true what is being said. So much is just because people aren't used to social situations and have negative expectations from past hurts. This can be untrained. It's true. And I commend him for talking about this
I see where you're coming from. One time whn I was working wwe had a fire alarm and everyone in the shopping center (mall) had to go outside for about 30mins. After finishing work I to a card shop. I saw cute lady at the cahsier and I asked her "Can I ask you a question" she said "sure" and I responded "Do you like fire alarms as much as I do?" and she ended up laughing. It's just being playful and talking about the situation, like the candy bar in your example.
Hey lovely peeps, I normally don't comment. But I was reading all the comments and thought maybe I can help some of you.
For the people who don't know how to hold a conversation: the very best tip I can give you is be actually interested in the person you are talking to. That's it! Be actually interested in who this person is, what he/she likes, why they do what they do, how do they feel about that, what is their actual dream if they were really honest and why, etc... Believe me, everybody can talk about themselves for a whole night when they feel like the other one is actually interested. Just be interested in who this person is without judging beforehand. And if you have a commonality, bond on that part tell your own story about it. And then after just go back to asking them about their life, their childhood, favorite holiday spot (and why). If someone says I love spain -> ask why etc..
This also will make you less scared to have a conversation because you don't have to worry about having an interesting personality (which is the main reason people are scared when talking to people). Just try it out, it will change your lives, hopefully😅
it really makes senses, thank you
Then they didnt even ask me, they just answered the question, it made me feel boring
*what they like, not “he/she”.
realll
@@20000dinoit’s he/she that’s it, what else is there?
Its the tiny ass channels that feel like the real hidden gems
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@@gravelor78 😂😂
True, I've had the same realization
@@gravelor78😭😭😭
Facts
Try and talk to people like you’ve known them for years. Don’t be too afraid of what they’ll think of you
That’s what I do
This is great advice. Thank you
@@coltonc8894To an EXTENT. But be authentic, because then it makes life easier in the long run.
That’s a great advice, you should make your own channel 😂.
@@nanayawamankwahowusu5681 I’ve thought about that. But I like spreading info in the comments. My video making skills are not exactly sharp
“Flirting” with the world is being joyful and trying to bring that joy out of others.
Use your everyday opportunities to get better at talking. One of the easiest ways I got over my shyness was strinking up convos with people in line, be store, restaurant, whatever. Cashiers... every opportunity to practice
Love this
Working in retail as a teenager was an education on how to interact with various personalities. But it’s something that you constantly learn and develop over your lifetime.
Working in retail made me not want to deal with people at all lol
@manzer41 lol gave me the skills but took away the desire
@@manzer41 tbh I didn't care abt talking to customers, most of the time if I was on the register I just tried to get them out as fast as possible.
Same but if it’s a bad day or im feeling bad all those skills just go out the window, esp on those days that im not working or going out somewhere😭😭
Working in fast food wasn’t that bad honestly people were really nice more often than not
lol you got that man blushing 🥰😂😂😂
LOL he's the homie now. I've gone back and talked to him a couple of times haha
@@devmaurelloyou should go on a date.
If he made me pay 4$ for a protein bar imagine how much I’d be spending on a date ☹️
@@devmaurellothat’s fine.. it doesn’t have to be fancy date..😁
@@devmaurelloI will pay if are the date😂❤
Idc what you say man you got that gas station worker blushing, giggling and kicking his feet 🤣
😂
I once came across these great tips that really helped me become more likeable and social:
1. Make eye contact and appear interested in what theyre saying
2. Ask them at least 3 open ended questions so that they talk more about themselves
3. Find at least one thing in common with the person
4. Say their name back to them at least once and before you leave
5. Give them at least one compliment
I just learned to talk to people how I talk to a close friend instead of putting them on a pedestal and trying to prove my worth to them. Did the trick for me
No one:
Literally, No one:
Me: "have you went to krispy kreme? is it krispy?"
😂 good question tbh
is it kreamy?
@@Kontaras987 and a bit salty.
We’re so cooked if we have to have youtube tutorials on how to talk to people 💀
A lot of people have social anxiety after Covid including me lol my job was closed down for over a year and I felt like I had to learn how to talk to customers again 😮
Always feel awkward being the 1 guy of a friend then being introduced to all his people that know each other for years
Haha I've been there before. The best way I have found to be comfortable around them and to get them comfortable around you is to IMMEDIATELY introduce yourself when you meet them and to try your best to jump into conversation instead of sitting there quietly
@@devmaurello I have had similar problems jumping into convos. I'm worried it'll look like I'm trying to insert myself into them.
@@Avidcommentor32 well you are trying to insert yourself into them. In the scenario the original comment is talking about you are there because you have a friend in the group so you are meant to be there. If they are talking you shouldn’t feel worried about hopping in the conversation
all you need to do is work in retail, as much as I hated it, I'm able to talk to people very easily now
worked in retail for 3+ years and still have this guys exact problem lol but i’m working on it as well and making progress thankfully
@@michaeltawadrous1862 well what position were you working at? i worked as a bagger and a cashier which consists of talking to people all day
Same here I used to be the quiet kid in the back of the class and played video games by himself
Now after working frontend retail for a year I've already made insane progress
What cured my shyness was just trying new things and improving my life like working out making changes like that.
the problem with me is my self awareness and awareness in general. I catch the micro expressions when people give that "why is this guy here (or still here or why is this guy here at all)" look but i try to ignore things like that and not let it get to me. I know most of this stuff is "in your head" but sometimes its really how it is.
That's insecurity caused when brain is rotted, mostly due to consuming porn.
But if we continue with what Devin’s saying that’s cuz you’re far with 100. Once charismatic, less and less will respond that way
real
So what if that is what they actually think? The people who react negatively will react that way no matter what. You don't need validation from people who don't appreciate you. Get it from people who actually do appreciate you for being you.
The key is it doesn't matter what people think , do whatever you want , say what ever you want
talked about my desire to be more open and less worried about people's judgements with my therapist today, and here comes this video of a neat trick to achieve just that. our phones do be listening lol
I’m about to start getting ads for a therapist now
No joke the exact same thing just happened to me. Not even an hour ago I was telling my fiancé how I feel like I have no friends since moving and don’t know how to talk to people lol
That’s old news. Phones can read your mind now. I’ve had random thoughts that I have never spoke or searched on the internet pop up as an ad immediately after. This has happened multiple times and it’s not a coincidence
This is so true, particularly if you're trying to attract and flirt with a girl you like. If you don't practice with other people you're not attracted to then you're less likely to pull it off with that girl you like.
It’s moments like these- when I’m scrolling on UA-cam and come across a smaller channel - it reminds me that there are good people out there still , just waiting to be found and have their art appreciated. In this case it’s you and your advice videos. I hope no matter how many subs you get one of these days, that it doesn’t change the types of genuine messages you wanna give. Thanks for such a deep and powerful video. Would love to see even more on the subject of social anxiety/ insecurities that hold people back from just living their life
One of the best comments I've gotten. I am grateful you took the time to leave it. I plan to keep posting videos like this and I hope it doesn't change from that as well. I am sure they will change with time, but the overall structure and intent I plan to keep the same! I have a good bit of other videos on insecurity in a playlist called "Confidence and Mindsets" and social skills videos in one called "Social Skills" if you want to check some out.
@@devmaurello sounds like I’ll be a regular viewer every week 🤟🏻 I’ve seen a few others of your videos on the subject of confidence , and you really do have every video mean something to you. It’s something you can feel through the screen- that you aren’t being fake and really wanna help people. Keep it going, not everyone has that selflessness
I love small UA-cam channels like this. There’s such great people out there making solid content
Be flirty and playful with the world... good wisdom bro!
I always say I'm not scared to do this "flirt with the world" tactic but as soon as the moment strikes, and I actually have a plan of what I want to say, part of me just says "naaaaahh". I think the positives far outweigh the negatives, so I'm not gonna let those thoughts get in the way. Thanks man, subbed!
That's part of the process. It can be pretty intimidating at first so your brain tries to convince you not to. Do it 2-3 times and it'll be like nothing for you! Hope you try it.
i think an important part you mentioned is how it makes other peoples day better when you “flirt with the world” or engage with them. often i’d feel uncomfortable like a nuisance but in reality you’re often doing good for others and yourself. Almost owe it to the world to make other peoples days just a little bit better. Flirting to me is really just showing interest and putting out feelers to see if they like you back. Flirting is zero risk because worst case they show no interest and you can let them be. In my opinion this is much better than being super direct and asking for a number or asking someone to be a friend without easing into it. Great video, i like how you showed a real example of you putting it into practice in a little way!
as a person who worked behind the counter at a gas station, I have been in that same interaction 50+ times. Reality is they hear the same shit all day and they just want a quick interaction unless you actually come in drunk and give them a laugh. Motivational though, big ups!
yep this is all so damn true. Great vid. Talking is a brain a muscle that you need to train so you should practise on everyone at all times, even the easy targets like 80 plus year olds. You can learn so much from them as you're levelling up. Win win.
As a teen in high school at the minute with minimum friends, as well as not being able to make any new friends or conversations, I have found this video very motivating to try harder and relax more, so thank you bro
This is a good habit to be in, i also like making observations, "well you seem in good spirits today" etc. people love opening up
I'm obsessed with the influx of channels giving life-changing advice
Big ups, Devin. I've always been someone who's good with talking, but bad with starting the conversation. What you've said is incredibly valuable, thank you.
one of my problems is not being able to come up with something to say that'd be playful like how you did with the cashier. I think I can come up with some random general questions but there’d be no “flirtatiousness” to them
I’d say it’s more about how you say it than what you say. I said something playful because being playful is a big part of my personality, but as you do it more often you come up with things to say easier. It doesn’t necessarily have to be flirtatious, the main thing here is that you are actually having a social interaction when you usually wouldn’t. As you do it more just say whatever comes to mind and be experimental with it.
@@devmaurello Alright thank you Devin, much appreciated!
keep doing it non stop, you're gonna start getting creative trust me
My coworker always ended his phone calls with "Did anyone tell you you're doing a great job today?" they'd say no and he'd say "Well you're doing a great job." and it always put a smile on my face. Crazy positivity. Maybe a good line for when someone is serving you at a gas station or restaurant
@yesteryearr i'll def be using that one. Thanks for sharing!
i will walk by faith and not by sight
i firmly believe that being self conscious about your conversation skills will always make u awkward. Just act naturally and joke whenever a joke pops up in your head.
Just start talking to people. You get better as time goes on. I got a job recently where I’m on the phone a lot and it has helped me exponentially. You can’t think your way out of an overthinking problem. Take action.
the gas station interaction was so wholesome omg.. flirt with the world.. great advice
I find myself fearing that people will get the wrong impression if i'm too "flirty" ??
Hmm I could see that. If that happens just let them know they took it the wrong way. But flirty doesn’t necessarily have to be in that sense, it’s really just being playful and lighthearted and being yourself. Bring a positive energy basically
When I worked as a cashier I was definitely a bit more social. But when I left retail I became quiet again lol. So yeah consistency and practice is def key
The way u got that guy all flustered n shit like...😁🙄😏 he was low key in to it 😂
Like you said, it’s tough to not let it affect you and not take it personally if sometimes the other person isn’t vibing or giving you anything back but it’s important to keep doing it. Need to keep in mind people are gonna be having a bad day, or just not on your wavelength, and of course plenty of people are shy just like you are! When you get those good interactions it massively outweighs the bad ones.
I certainly don't have a problem with socializing I just realized that some people are very picky with who they conversate with.
Energy is in everything, everywhere. Energy is a part of nature, and we are nature. I feel like you shouldn’t have to force yourself, but just be aware of how your energy is and how might the other individual might feel.
And you create your own reality
Most important point.
And then you can twerk for mission accomplishment
Either live other peoples reality or live in your own its your choice… follower or leader?
Im going to start doing this tomorrow, thanks for the info bro.
Talk about the universe sending me exactly what was needed when needed. Thank you for this bro. ❤😁
Fr bro a day later but seriously
Floating with the world.
Damn. Thanks buddy, I'd definitely try this out soon
he said flirting
I don't know why this video appeared in my recommended feed, but maan, I really needed it. Thanks, sir!
My problem is I’m not good at small talk. I never know what to say so then I feel like it’s just awkward silence
Same
Listen to other people talk/small talk, it helps so so much. It gives you ideas on how to respond(:
This is great if you want ppl to talk to you. I don't so I will stick to please and thank you, have a good day.
That’s like exactly what I do I literally flirt with everyone and seeing it through that lens helps me so much. I love seeing someone that gets it, and knowing that someone is carrying the purpose to inspire others 🤘subscribeeeed
How do you start?
working as a cashier actually helped me talk to people more freely and not feel shy i do feel it sometimes but its not as much as in the past, id say challenge yourself take small steps
One important point is that you are very good looking dude and people don't assume you're awkward. Try being ugly lol.
You only think you’re ugly.
You are beautiful no matter what you look like ❤
One of the most attractive things to people is confidence. That’s why dickhead/douchebags are able to attract women. Look at them. Not all of them are really physically attractive to society’s standards.
Be flirtatious with the world. Man you just made me discover fire. Man you can have my kids, hollly shitt have you just gave me a reason to keep going.
This video needs more traction and i hope my girl don't see this, she'd leave me in a heartbeat. JK she already left :(
Just wanna wish you luck Devin, you're not what i wanted but you are what I needed. Love you man...
Stay strong brother lol
Hey man I liked the video a lot. It kinda felt like I was getting custom tailored advice even though it’s just a UA-cam video. The whole flirting with the world thing seems like a really good idea and I’ve been trying it out a bit since watching. That part where you ask the guy “you ever tried these before” and tell him “I’ll blame you if I don’t like them” and he laughs really appealed to me and made me want to get better at talking to people.
I have a few questions I wanted to ask you though. One thing I wanted to know is how do you come up with these things to talk about? That was just small talk, but it seemed a million times better than “enjoying the weather?” I never really know what to say when I try to approach people, but that conversation seemed perfect and like it just came to you naturally.
Another thing I wanted to ask is how to control the tone of your voice better. I could relate to you when you mentioned that you barely ever spoke in school and you lost your social skills a bit. I wondered if you ended up with the same problem as me where you start to lose control over the tone of your voice and it ends up being monotone all the time. For that reason every time I try to joke around with people or etc. they just kinda go “what?” or “huh?” like I was making a statement or asking a question or something.
Those are some good questions. I'll probably make a video soon on the first question you asked about how I know what to talk about. In short, I guess I'd say to just be in the moment and don't sit there and overthink what to say. Just say whatever comes to mind. If you sound dumb, then oh well, it's not like you aren't about to leave anyway lol. Talking to people is just like any other skill. The more you do it the better you will get at it, so if you keep practicing the whole flirting with the world thing, eventually things to say will just come to you like it did to me in the video. Me saying, "I'll blame you if I don't like them" was me just being me. I am a very playful person and tease my friends a lot, so even though he was a stranger I still acted like myself and teased him, that's one of the biggest pieces of advice I can give you is to be yourself and let your personality shine even if it's a stranger.
As for the tone of voice thing, I actually did struggle with that a good bit. I didn't have a problem with it around my friends, but when I was talking to people I didn't know I was very monotone. Honestly the only way to fix that is by being consciously aware of it when you are talking to people and forcing yourself to change tone while you are speaking. Eventually it will become a habit and you won't have to think about it. Also, it's pretty hard to be monotone when you are smiling so don't be afraid to show emotion in your face when you are talking.
I'm a bit older than you, and I'll tell you how I do it. It's very simple and doesn't require anything. In fact, it requires you to lose something. Basically, just stop thinking. That's all you need to do-stop thinking and just let your mouth do the talking. Your brain will come up with things on its own. So, stop thinking, and turn off your brain.
Wise words
I can relate to this and I’ve been using the same strategy for a few years now without even realising it and how I talk to people in public has improved a lot, not everyone is out there to get you people are actually quite nice haha
i wish I knew more guys open this about shyness
Why am I just seeing this after a firework show I went to alone with a bunch of people near me who I didn’t say a thing to lmao. Walked up confident and just stood like a weirdo waiting for fireworks to start.
I gotta watch this everyday to remind myself to try to interact more
Thank you I needed this.
Gonna try this thank u
Yes just be more playful when talking, doesn't mean you need to be so weird but just however you can talk and be okay with laughing and just have a good time and don't worry about rejection
I can relate and love that rule too. It makes interactions and life in general so much more fun. Still an ongoing process for me but a worthwhile one
this was a lovely video to come across, well said and actually trusty good info from a good place
As a late diagnosed autistic guy that learnt socializing. Its hard as fuck. I learnt that alot of people just dont like me and learing and accepting that helps me socializing.
because of my shyness, when I go out I wear a very closed and cold face like a shield.
I though every one guess "that guy is inconfortable" but people think "he has a bad day, he has no time, he is angry"
And this face is like a closed door. You have no interaction with it.
But if someone do a little joke or start small talk with a little humor, all disapear ^^
those social skills... hard to work on it at the beginning. Thanks for the motivation.
I started going to techno and now I am fucking great at talking
Doing a good thing big dawg💯
i feel pathetic because i dont have alot of homies to hang out with. i have alot of girl friends and i cant just brush them off, their chill people. but i just wanna do dude things and be a dude with dudes. shit i find myself being scared to even ask “hows your day” after someone even asks me. ill say “im good” then ill go on. im also horrible at roasting people back, so i chuckle and tell them to shut up in a funny way. what do we think gang, am i cooked for life?
edit: shit thanks for the advice guys, im late but thanks dev
You're not cooked bro don't worry lol. You pretty much gave yourself the answer to your problem. You said you find yourself being scared to even ask someone how their day is. All you need to do is push yourself out of your comfort zone and overcome that fear. Go about your day with the intent of talking to some guys that you feel like you'd want to be cool with and just say whatever comes to mind. I meet most of my new friends at the gym and I will walk up to guys I have never even seen before and be like "Damn bro, your arms are massive" and boom, basically friends now. Talk to them every time I see them.
You’re probably a chad 😂 with females orbiting around you waiting for their chance to date you bro.
I'm in the exact same situation, but with genders reversed. All my mates are dudes (because we have a lot of common interests) and I just really need feminine energy in my life. It can be saddening.
@@raineyday6908there are no other girls that have those same common interests where you are?
Nah bro you’re in a good position. For most dudes it’s way harder to talk to girls than guys. Just ask a dude about sports or video games straight up and you’ll find friends. Literally ask someone to play your favorite game with them online and boom u probably got a friend lol.
I am a man and i always struggled talking to people. i really like the idea of flirting with the world so from now on i will flirt with every man I meet. I am going to make so many boyfriends.
Subscribed, I have antisocial tendencies but I understood all these answers to my problems. Literally
Ok so true about the zero to a hundred thing. Thanks for this video!!
I use to have social anxiety and was really quiet. Drinking Alcohol 🥃 changed that 😂 when I drink social anxiety is scared of me. I will talk to anyone and anybody!!
You’re not lying, maybe I should have thrown that in the video ahahaha. But this is more for day to day life when you AREN’T drinking lol
Tried microdosing on shrooms, honestly brooo. They're easy to grow. Give it a month with daily doses of the same amount and you'll be an immovable object hahaha
But then it becomes a crutch like you always wanna use it to get over the nerves or awkwardness of talking to people
Slippery slope
@@DivineLightPaladin Honestly a small price to pay. People take medication ever single day to live right. So, why can't you.
Thank you for this video and advice! I appreciate your honesty and transparency!
hahaha that was a god interaction man, I also went until 25 not ever starting a convo with a stranger. Great idea, I'll start implementing it.
Saw the video, started practicing it an hour later and I’m having a lot of fun with my day flirting with life 😁
Do it until it become a natural thing, which it should be. Social media has sucked the real human interactions out of us.
Well thanks for breaking through your challenges with communication because your voice is like soft butter being spread on something delicious!!!!
I used to afraid to talk to people, With many thing l been through. And now l not afraid to talk . Sometimes l talking a lot sometimes l don’t. I just don’t care what other people think !
It’s good advise, I have social anxiety bad
i appreciate this advice!
Great advice, I will try this
Great video! I'm trying to up my social skills in general and become a more charismatic and sociable person, thanks brother!!
You look like someone who's lived in new Jersey
I like this concept a lot I’ll be trying it out thanks man
Thank you Devin this helped a lot
I'm not bad at talking I just have a tough time being comfortable enough with new people so I can be myself and let the words flow. How do I fix this
You got that gas station clerk half chub lol
Awesome content mate. Hope you grow a lot :)
Such a good video very underrated plz keep it up
great video!
And then you have the jerks that act like they don’t know you when they see you smh
good stuff bro thank you
Appreciate this video boss 💯
Just be born 8/10 bro it's easy
Thanks man this helped a lot make more vids about this topic
Great tips, thank you
Read the book how to win friends and influence people dale carnagoe
Thanks man.
100% me and oddly enough I'm in sales. Great video man. Do you have a link to the video that they were talking about this? I like the idea.
i have social anxiety, i feel like i’m not interesting enough to talk with people & honestly scared of someone being mean if i ever tried to talk first with them
How old are you ?
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I dont think you are really getting to the root of the change (not for everyone I mean). You basically just said "do it". And "do it in little steps". But for some there are key underlying reasons why they have trouble talking to people. They may not have developed their social skills muscle much either, but many people simply have a way of seeing reality that makes other people out to be hostile, stupid, unlike oneself, etc. In such cases it is the persons feelings about themselves and others and ultimately life itself. This could turn around by having meaningful social interactions but unless that thrusts itself upon us we have to desire to connect with others and embrace that desire; that joy that comes from participation in life and being apart of the whole instead of an isolated misfit who people wont understand.
I agree, the video is defo helpful but this could have been mentioned.
@@olabodowabolothethird7980 I don't mean to imply the video is unhelpful. It is true what is being said. So much is just because people aren't used to social situations and have negative expectations from past hurts. This can be untrained. It's true. And I commend him for talking about this
I see where you're coming from. One time whn I was working wwe had a fire alarm and everyone in the shopping center (mall) had to go outside for about 30mins. After finishing work I to a card shop. I saw cute lady at the cahsier and I asked her "Can I ask you a question" she said "sure" and I responded "Do you like fire alarms as much as I do?" and she ended up laughing. It's just being playful and talking about the situation, like the candy bar in your example.
Nice video bro 💯
man gets hourly worker to fake chuckle at his weird comment, wow he is so social!