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Two Ways to Become Dangerously Confident
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The Cheat Code to Stop Being Afraid of Approaching Girls
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The Secret to Reinventing Yourself
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Why People Don’t Enjoy Talking to You (And How to Fix It)
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Finding Purpose
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Your Ancestors Would be Disappointed in Your Effort
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Be grateful for where you are
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Get Rid of Gym Anxiety in 3 Simple Steps
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NO MORE EXCUSES! JUST DO IT
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NO MORE EXCUSES! JUST DO IT
Stop worrying about being criticized
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Why You Still Feel Uncomfortable Around People
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How to accomplish multiple goals at once
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Why are you scared of hardship?
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If you think you can't, you are right
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You’re only as good as your effort
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You’re only as good as your effort
You don't need to be successful
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You don't need to be successful
How to get over feeling nervous
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How to get over feeling nervous
4 Tips to Skyrocket Your Confidence
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4 Tips to Skyrocket Your Confidence
Whatever you resist persists
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Whatever you resist persists
Afraid to Start? You’re Missing This
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Afraid to Start? You’re Missing This
If you were sick you'd only want one thing
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If you were sick you'd only want one thing
Why do you want their approval?
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Why do you want their approval?
Be Selfish: Why Aren't You Already Prioritizing Yourself
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Be Selfish: Why Aren't You Already Prioritizing Yourself
You don't even know why you feel like sh*t
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You don't even know why you feel like sh*t
You waste your time like you're going to live forever
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You waste your time like you're going to live forever
WE Did 50 Push Ups EVERY Day For 365 Days
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WE Did 50 Push Ups EVERY Day For 365 Days
All you need is one day to change your life
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All you need is one day to change your life
The only way to improve is experience
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The only way to improve is experience
You are slowly ruining your life
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You are slowly ruining your life
Making real friendships is a skill
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Making real friendships is a skill

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  • @realsandro
    @realsandro 40 хвилин тому

  • @Dragonmoon1598
    @Dragonmoon1598 Годину тому

    I agree and you are right. I know for me personally the issue with confidence (in the context of dating) we are wired to belive three things: Looks, money, sexual prowess. Regardless of gender or sexual Orientation. So while confidence, emotional maturity, relationship maturity (a new thing I've recently learned), responsibilities, communication, etc . . . The fact remains, you have to be attractive, successful, and measure up/competent in the bedroom. Ironically, everyone who states otherwise . . . Are attractive, successful, and assumptivly meet bedroom exspectations. Because Regardless of liking yourself, being content with yourself, confidence, self-acceptance, etc . . . You still have to meet someone who finds you desirable, accepts you, and feels a spark (chemistry). Obviously there's a lot more to relationships than that. But, initially the thing that grabs someone's attention is looks. Heck, some people aren't even interested in getting to know someone until after they sleep with them. So, again, you are right. But, I feel social confidence through work and friends, is far different than romantic. PS Glad you're feeling better. Unrelated, but I wanted to say thank you. You pushed me to go to a gym and try a PT program. It's only been a couple of months, but my results are amazing. What I've been able to accomplish in these two months compared to a year and a half at home is just astounding (granted my at home workout dedication probably has played a small role). Regardless, while I know I put in the work, you inspired me to step out of my shell and give it a chance. So, again, thank you. You are a good person.

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello Годину тому

      I 100% agree social confidence and romantic confidence are extremely different and I’d say this would be more catered towards social confidence but it definitely has an effect romantically. I don’t tend to talk much about romantics on here because I don’t feel I have good enough knowledge/experience to speak on it yet, but I do genuinely believe the things you mentioned aren’t all a requirement for a successful romantic relationship. As for the last bit you said, you have no idea how much that means to me. I had the biggest smile on my face reading that haha. Glad I was able to push you to get out of your comfort zone and inspire some change!

  • @cozyspot_relaxnrewind
    @cozyspot_relaxnrewind 3 години тому

    I have a doubt, people say to find your uniqueness, but I dont really find anything unique about me as someone else would do it. Can you tell me whats unique about you and what makes you, you?

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello Годину тому

      I’ll make a video on this tomorrow. The short answer I’ll give is there’s no single thing that makes us unique. It’s the combination of all of our individual life experiences because no person has lived the same things as you and all of those experiences have made you have the personality you have. If I were to give a single thing about myself I guess I’d say it’s how playful I am, but I’m not the only person who is playful so that’s not very unique right? I’ll try to explain it well in tomorrows video.

  • @lorenzofernandez7488
    @lorenzofernandez7488 3 години тому

    HOOOOOOOOOWWWWW how can I change my monotone way of being???? I realy hate being so un-expresive but it's just my honest reaction to things happening Any recomendation?

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 3 години тому

      I used to be super monotone in high school, for me it happened naturally as I started actually taking interest in things and just overall becoming better at socializing, but consciously being aware of your tone when you speak will help a lot. Just try to throw in some tonality changes here and there. Being monotone isn't a make or break thing no need to take it super serious bro!

  • @Trancer006
    @Trancer006 11 годин тому

    It's easier than you think, when your that good looking

  • @zhanasia4095
    @zhanasia4095 День тому

    thank you

  • @tropicalboy9803
    @tropicalboy9803 2 дні тому

    thanks devin

  • @Dulcibona
    @Dulcibona 2 дні тому

    Thank you devin

  • @getitdone0010
    @getitdone0010 2 дні тому

    Wow wow wowwwww Wait for mondayyyyy Imma talk to everyyyy single class fellow

  • @Simon-im2zn
    @Simon-im2zn 3 дні тому

    Funny I should come across this I had a heated discussion where I suddenly blurted out that I shouldn't speak until I am spoken to, maybe it's a part of my growing up. It does not bother me as I think it's better for me to be insular and not social.

  • @dudpktz
    @dudpktz 3 дні тому

    hi everyone, I started commenting on vids since today lol. This kind of videos make me feel empowered, I feel like I can do it. The thing is that I live in a small town and everyone knows everything about every person of the city and I feel scared about going out and about. anyway thanks Devin for sharing this content, you have a new subscriber!

  • @javangreen1626
    @javangreen1626 4 дні тому

    These videos hit way better in .75x ngl 😭😭, appreciate the advice fr tho

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 3 дні тому

      Hahaha believe it or not that’s me trying to talk slower too

  • @Therezumee92
    @Therezumee92 4 дні тому

    This just summed up 'Quiet'', the book I'm reading right now. The world just can't stand introverts and let them be. You have to mold your personality, train yourself, put on a mask etc., just to ''fit in''. Advice itself is very well worded and definitely works, but I'm kind of over this narrative that I have to chase this social approval, that I'm not allowed to mind my own business without being viewed as ''a weirdo'''.

  • @Omar_Dorrah
    @Omar_Dorrah 5 днів тому

    I am an introvert who turned into and sociable person and all he said is right. Even if some people reject you it doesn't mean everyone does that because from my experience most people like to socialise whenever they get the chance and only few people are the ones who hate talking to people. one incident was when I was in a sports shop and a woman came with her son buying swimming goggles and as I had some experience I told her of a certain type which I tried and was good but she replied "who asked for your opinion?". My younger self would have thought that I'm awkward and been scared from taking to people for a whole year after that incident but my new self knew that that woman was rude and the problem wasn't that I was awkward, and literally less than 2 minutes later I befriended a foreign guy in the exact same shop.

  • @Omar_Dorrah
    @Omar_Dorrah 5 днів тому

    Another point is that whenever you talk to someone and it feels a bit awkward try adding some humour (or better to start the whole conversation with a bit of humour). Like he did in the gas station he made a small joke and made that guy laugh. If someone laughs and talks back he is probably interested in taking so you may keep going if you would like but if they are not they might fake a smile or even joke a bit but not talk. That's when you know you should stop.

  • @joc2567
    @joc2567 5 днів тому

    Don't know why this popped in my UA-cam world but I'm glad it did. It's a great short on very important advice. I flirt with the world naturally and have done since I could speak but realise some people find it hard. I think my 16 year old son could use this as a great tool. My family always say I'm extra(too much info and interaction ) but I love making people smile and it's definitely made life easier in difficult times. It helps me in my job of working with children because communication is absolutely essential and I love building rapport with them and seeing them communicate their opinions and feelings especially the ones who initially find that hard. Thank you from England.

  • @akhisunnah1
    @akhisunnah1 5 днів тому

    I agree with your point that you need to be selective when choosing your close friends as you're either gonna influence or be influenced by them. I used to have problems making friends back then which I don't anymore but my current issue right now is that I get attached too easily with strangers that I find comfortable talking to like neighbours for examples expecting them to consider me as their friends which is not the case even though I do consider them as one. I already try to be very real and open with them like sharing my job, my workplace, and even my salary or my life issues. Any advice that you could give for me? Thanks.

  • @tonymoreno5724
    @tonymoreno5724 7 днів тому

    Well this is great advice man. Btw I like your beard it looks good on you. It probably works for the ladies in your life .

  • @HellohuyLee
    @HellohuyLee 7 днів тому

    i have no rizz sadly

  • @Aarron656
    @Aarron656 7 днів тому

    I do this for my friends all the time and it definitely does work. Its crazy how the smallest tips workout the best 🤣

  • @FanGirl9463
    @FanGirl9463 8 днів тому

    Devin thanks for what you doing man I appreciate it for real.

  • @vizionski6385
    @vizionski6385 8 днів тому

    I started watching “how I met your mother” 5 mins after watching this video and in the first episode two friends used the exact same phrase “have you met Ted”. What a coincidence!

  • @shantyclips6358
    @shantyclips6358 8 днів тому

    Best tip: Drink 3 beers. 😌

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 8 днів тому

      This was supposed to remain a secret bro

  • @vsboy2577
    @vsboy2577 8 днів тому

    I just flex my biceps to hot chicks and they all desire me

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 8 днів тому

      I’ll have to try this out 😎

  • @Dragonmoon1598
    @Dragonmoon1598 8 днів тому

    You're not wrong, but wouldn't it be advisable for the wingman (or woman, it's 2024) to have a bit of lead? Not the overselling BS you see in movies or TV shows. An actual lead like, "Hi, this is my friend Devin . . . He mentioned how pretty you were. I bet him $10 bucks he wouldn't say hello to you and I want to lose some money. He wanted to buy your next drink and get to know you better. These are probably not the best examples, but you get the idea, Just, "Have you met my friend . . ." Ya it could work. Or the girl could just be like, "No," and walk off. I feel like you would want to give an incentive for them to stick around or pique their curiosity. Another random guy walking up to them and interrupting their evening is something that probably happens to them regularly.

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 8 днів тому

      That’s a fair point, but the only reason I say not to do that is because then your friend is doing the talking for you. This could be good in the overall pick up scenario, but the point is to help get over that fear and throwing you in and having to do the conversation by yourself.

    • @Dragonmoon1598
      @Dragonmoon1598 8 днів тому

      @@devmaurello Agreed and I can definetly see that. I guess my question is, with going in blind, what is the best approch to get the conversation going and getting them to engage with you? Obviously, let them talk about themselves, be a good listiner, inject a point here and there. That's all pretty standared once things get going. But, how do you get the ball rolling yourself? Perhaps, if you haven't already, do a video elaborating on your approch or techniquie you've learned that works with getting them to open up.

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 7 днів тому

      @@Dragonmoon1598 I don't really have any specific technique I feel like going in with something beforehand kinda leaves you with a "now what?" when you finish saying it. I try to just be in the moment and say whatever comes to mind or use the environment to come up with something

    • @Dragonmoon1598
      @Dragonmoon1598 7 днів тому

      @devmaurello Agreed, and I've heard similar advice. Was just wondering if you had a different approach. But, you for sure want to avoid pigeonholing yourself in. Thanks.

  • @enaaa1427
    @enaaa1427 8 днів тому

    your words really stick to me, thank you so much for these advices🙏

  • @DriippyOfficial
    @DriippyOfficial 9 днів тому

    Such videos be helping us a lot. hope y'all realize this

  • @vsboy2577
    @vsboy2577 10 днів тому

    My dad always told me , he will not tolerate a weak son so it was my duty to take pride in masculinity. Either be a man or be left behind.

  • @Mauricio6acc
    @Mauricio6acc 10 днів тому

    It's basically you creating your reality according to what you would like, I'm doing this and at first it's difficult because it feels like there's an anchor pulling you towards your old "SELF" the one that society, family and friends created but little by little you can create your reality

  • @Dragonstorm7823
    @Dragonstorm7823 10 днів тому

    Humans are very capable of adapting to their environment. In this case, a social one. We adopt many different "personalities" one for work, one for family, and one for friends (even within different friend groups). There is surface level and our core. Adapting usually just involves surface level. As you said, many influences impact our core self. As such, we tend to confuse or apply external factors to who we are as a person. Our hobbies, career, sexual orientation, sports, government affiliation, etc . . . But, the fact is, things we do or like have nothing to do with who we are as a person. What makes up our core is our morals, our ideals, and our perception of the world around us. So circling back to what you're saying, yes, we can change. We can change our personalities on a dime. Intentionally (like with acting) or unintentionally (like with intense emotions of fear or anger). The point is to realize what things you want to change about yourself and why. So many people (myself included) make a choice or life decision based on perceived expectations. If I change X, then Y will occur. If I learn skill X, then Y will occur. If I act like X, then Y will occur. Doesn't actually work out the way most of the time, though, does it? Why? Because people know when you aren't being your authentic self. So, by all means, change, grow, learn, improve. Become the best version . . . Of yourself. And the way you do that is one of two ways. Number one, try on different hats until you find one that fits. Or two, actually taking the time to figure yourself out and getting to know who you are. Just because we can be whoever we want. That doesn't mean we become who we were meant to be. True power isn't achieved through manipulation or misrepresentation. Anyone can accomplish that. Just look at social media and the number of people whose lives imploded when the truth about them came out. No, power, true power is being your authentic self. Unapologetic and radiating acceptance and confidence.

  • @mediocredew
    @mediocredew 10 днів тому

    I need topics or things to say when there's like radio silence..

  • @shantyclips6358
    @shantyclips6358 11 днів тому

    Life sucks.

  • @fulloflifedavid
    @fulloflifedavid 11 днів тому

    im forever alone bye (jk)

  • @coreyyin1517
    @coreyyin1517 11 днів тому

    Be yourself. Being introverted isn’t bad or good, neither is being extroverted.

  • @alexisgildore444
    @alexisgildore444 12 днів тому

    Love this

  • @ED_92
    @ED_92 13 днів тому

    ❤❤

  • @firedaisi
    @firedaisi 14 днів тому

    the fact that im watching this

  • @cozyspot_relaxnrewind
    @cozyspot_relaxnrewind 14 днів тому

    yo dev when i make facial expressions around my friends (im not that close with) and i try to not sound monotone, i feel fake asf because around my family i am naturally enthusiastic and high energy. Please tell me how to stop feeling like a fake when i change.

    • @cozyspot_relaxnrewind
      @cozyspot_relaxnrewind 14 днів тому

      and i struggle with talking loudly so thats also a turn off for many people. Now when i try to keep stress on my vocal cords, it kinda feels like its strainging(i dont talk much). Is this normal? im 15

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 14 днів тому

      You are going to be basically a new person every year (especially at your age) so you shouldn’t feel fake from change. You are able to make as much change to yourself as you want, that’s why you are you. And what you are saying about talking louder putting stress on your vocal chords, I’ve never had that problem before, but it’s probably just cause they are being used more so it’s pretty harsh on them. Think of it like how your muscles get sore when you workout.

    • @cozyspot_relaxnrewind
      @cozyspot_relaxnrewind 14 днів тому

      @@devmaurello kk dude tysm! So you are saying that change is normally specially in this age right , so I shouldn't be worrying about being "fake" or "inauthentic" yeah? And when I try to change my pitch around people i don't really know it's really difficult I'm not able to do it.

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 13 днів тому

      @@cozyspot_relaxnrewind change is good no matter the age. It’s a sign of personal growth and development. You definitely shouldn’t be worried about it.

  • @Dragonmoon1598
    @Dragonmoon1598 15 днів тому

    You're not wrong. But, I would point out the obvious that it does depend on the majority of the group. For example, a more quiet docile group would find someone who's more enthusiastic to be loud and disruptive. The point is that we often adopt a certain personality and expect the world to adapt to us. Which isn't an unhealthy perspective. But, generally speaking, most people tend to adapt to the environment and people around them. So when we find ourselves in a new situation, we are more easily able to blend in and amalgamate with the majority. So, while in general, I agree that more people tend to be more receptive to higher energy. Just like you find monotone people emotionally draining. There's a good chance they feel the same about you.😁

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 15 днів тому

      Thanks for the new perspective and that’s a fair point. I guess high energy wouldn’t necessarily be the correct way to word what I was trying to say, but more so just putting in effort rather than speaking like a robot because I definitely agree that people who are always high energy are emotionally draining. That still doesn’t fully take away what you said, but just to clarify what I meant.

    • @Dragonmoon1598
      @Dragonmoon1598 15 днів тому

      @@devmaurello Oh, understood. I get what you meant. Strive to put effort and passion into the conversation and what you are talking about so that people are more open to engaging with you (like I said, you were right with what you were trying to say, 100%). I was just taking it to the next level by considering different personality types and why some people seem more reserved than others.

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 15 днів тому

      @@Dragonmoon1598 Ahh I gotcha that does make sense. Some people who do come off as reserved can still have a strong presence despite that, so I’d say it’s dependent on the person for sure.

  • @_spartan11796
    @_spartan11796 15 днів тому

    👋

  • @Occlipsers0928
    @Occlipsers0928 15 днів тому

    Dude now you got me re-examining how I talk to people lol. I'm thinking like, am I monotone or am I boring to talk too? Gonna have this on my mind while I'm out and about tomorrow...

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 15 днів тому

      Haha don’t overthink about it just fruit for thought. The title is more clickbait than actuality. It’s not a make or break type of thing.

  • @joebond545
    @joebond545 15 днів тому

    From what ive learned with practicing to be better at socialising is that nobody truly cares about you, they care about themselves, so ur only objective is to ask them questions and act genuinely interested in them even if ur not. They dont want to know about you, unless they notice somethjng of value such as big muscles they might be interested in how u attained that but its still from a selfish perspective because they only want to know so they can use the advice for themselves. Nobody cares about you. Which is good because most of us are boring af and if we had to talk about ourselves we'd be socially screwed. So just ask questions and let the extroverts talk away

  • @thelambsaves
    @thelambsaves 15 днів тому

    Are you going to heaven? Are your sins forgiven? All else is vanity. 1. Admit you’re a sinner “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God” Romans 3:23 2. You deserve to go to hell, but Christ died for you! “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” Romans 6:23 3. You need to repent which means a change of heart from; Lord you’re right and I’m wrong. I need you in my life. “Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out” Acts 3:19 4. He promised to save you if you ask Him! “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” Romans 10:13 Pray a simple prayer like this, there is no magic words, God is looking at your heart. If you can say this and mean it, He will forgive you: Dear Lord Jesus, I know that I’m a sinner, I have broken your laws. I’m sorry, please forgive me. Please apply your blood to my account, forgive my sins and take me to heaven. In Jesus, name. Amen.

  • @MosesOrtiz
    @MosesOrtiz 15 днів тому

    wow, what a great message brother this was such an eye-opening message. Thanks for sharing all of your advice I've been struggling with being more social. I will definitely try your tips to talking to someone new each day.

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 15 днів тому

      Keep it up bro. As long as you try you'll get it.

  • @cherrysIushie
    @cherrysIushie 15 днів тому

    I’m 23 with low self esteem social anxiety all that bs and im sick of it. Thanks for this

  • @biggooba6706
    @biggooba6706 15 днів тому

    yeah I think about bjj all day and nowadays im good asf so its good

    • @devmaurello
      @devmaurello 15 днів тому

      I am the same way except I still suck haha

  • @ulysesbavi6692
    @ulysesbavi6692 15 днів тому

    why would i take advice from a hot guy (my type) like u? like the audacity is crazy (hit me up)