Im in Pattaya at the moment Trevor is correct some girls have got bigger but to be honest i rather like having the more European figure . If you want the GF experience out here than i hope you've brought plenty of cash i would estimate £200-£300 per day based on 41 baht to 1 pound including the bar-fines etc etc you will burn through your money easily with food and going out . DON'T DO IT . stay single go short time .
I am put off Pattaya at the moment with these reports. Lack if hot girls and too expensive. Might as well have a top class escort over in Europe. British. Polish. Ukrainian. Latvian. Far hotter 🔥. No crazy air fare.
Exactly all you will do is throw cash at a girl, I never see any girl overnight, I just pop into massage shop, have my massage and then go about my business, never take a girl back to my hotel that’s my sanctuary for relaxing. So many guys think they have a girlfriend, they like to live believe the fantasy.
Thank you for the update, great reminder of the reality of a Thai girlfriend experience. You must hear some amazing stories from guys who meet a Thai lady on holiday and say they are "different to the rest" and you don't really understand the amazing friendship/relationship we have. Often they end up sponsoring them thinking it is the real deal. I have a family member who went through exactly that, married his sweetheart in Thailand who he had met in Pattaya (yes we heard the statement "we are in love and she isn't like the rest"), he moved her to Australia where he worked, they had two children but she missed the Thai lifestyle so much she left the kids and moved back to Pattaya. Now divorced. Again thanks for the reminders of what can come with the girlfriend experience. Cheers
Some other tips. YOU have the advantage here, YOU have the leverage. Never forget that you always have to keep women under your thumb at all time, no matter how "sweet" and nice she is to you. Women respect dominance, this does not mean being an "a--hole". Be nice to her, but don't be an ATM. When my girl asked for an allowance after about a week of dating I said no, "I pay for everything when we go out and never ask you for money, so I already pay enough." followed by "There are 100,000 thai girls here I could be with, don't push it or I will replace you." I also said "Your family isn't my problem any more than my family isn't your problem. I am not sending money to your mom, dad, brother, sister, aunt, uncle or kids. YOU work for them, not for me!" This works 99% of the time. If you think I am being a jack ass then YOU will fail here. Be nice, know your place in the pecking order, and women will respect that, they are designed to do so.
@@JohnDoe-iv7yu yeah I went on n a second date with my friend’s girlfriend sister. I thought cool she’s trustworthy because we have common links, like a “referral “ if you will. Nope!!! On that date she heads for the high-end cosmetics counter, picks up a $65 Chanel perfume and with a sad 😔 face says “Buy this for me”. Damn. My heart just dropped because I knew she’s not for me. Geez I hate that about some of these Thai women. Do I look like I have “sucker” written on my forehead? 🙄
Some very wise words Trev. I stopped telling my friends that advice as I would spend too long explaining it so they switched off. I will bookmark this Vlog. Good work mate.
Love your channel! I’ve been coming to Thailand a lot over the years. It’s so much fun listening to you articulate all of these situations we all run into. Absolutely 100% spot on
I have been visiting Thailand for over 20 years I have found out the best way to enjoy company with these lovely ladies is the keep them for the night and take them for lunch or dinner and in the Morning say bye bye baby. This prevents maximum headaches and hassles. If she wants a drink or beer I ask her and get it from 7-11, most of the girls naturally dont really care to drink outside, they want to either get back or relax. Great video
Met my wife by being introduced to her by her sister, living two streets away from me in England. She was not involved in the bar scene but was a cleaner in a hotel. Her family have not made much in the way of demands on me. Also, through living with me in England for eight years before we moved to Thailand permanently, she understands better about our money and knows we're not All millionaires. She has stuck with me when I've been flush and also when I was staring bankruptcy in the face. I'm very lucky, I got a good one
@@tomharvey2040 Yes even in Pattaya but... if she has no tatoos, no smoker, no drinker. I think after one week toguether you can check her head is ok (sadly some of them are not very well in the head). Finaly know a little about her family..
@@franciscoquevedo8240 so what you are saying basically is; if she has no tattoos, doesnt smoke or drink (big chance), spend a week together with her. If she does not show signs of being mentally ill and you have chemistry - go for it! Did i get u rite?
Thanks for the video. Have only been to Thailand 7 times, so limited experience with this. But anyway; My best experience was getting to know someone who worked in a bar (behind the counter). We became friends during the 3 weeks I was there and she wasn't too keen on me spending so much money on her. I paid for food etc. and we were both happy. It was a plus that she spoke good English. John, Norway.
Five Types of Women You'll Find in Thailand (based off my Thai mum and my experience with Thai girls as friends 😂) When Thai women are mentioned, it's fair to say that most people immediately think of two different types; the 'bar girls' and the 'normal girls'. In our experience, there are actually five different types of Thai women that you'll find in the country. If you want to date a woman in Thailand, we think it's important to understand the differences between them. With this in mind, allow us to break them down below! 1. Bar Girls Since bar girls seem to get the most attention, allow us to explain these women first. If you've been on a few nights out in Thailand, we can almost guarantee that you've bumped into a few bar girls. In Pattaya, Bangkok, and other big cities, you're likely to come across bar girls often. Raised in poor families, normally in Isaan (northeast Thailand), they see their work in clubs and bars as a serious job. Whenever they earn money, some go towards their education and lifestyle while the rest tends to go home to their family. Unfortunately, their poor reputation comes from their desire to earn money. Since they earn more on this scene than they ever could in a day job, they're very rarely willing to forgo this lifestyle for a Western man. If you fall for a bar girl, make sure she is genuine with her intent, learn more about her, and assess whether or not she will change her profession for you. Bar girls have broken many a Western heart, so don't give everything away so easily. 2. Traditional Girls On the other hand, people normally think about traditional Thai girls as 'regular' or 'normal'. Many work long hours in their day job, they don't socialize in clubs and bars all too much, and the majority haven't yet dated a foreign guy. Unlike what you may have experienced at home, Thai women don't like casual dating. If you're a few dates in, they will probably see you as their boyfriend already. Traditional Thai women, take marriage and love very seriously; they believe in giving their all to their man. Additionally, they have strong values for: Traditional beliefs Meeting your/her family Children Religion Most Western men, find themselves in conversations about marriage within a year. If you aren't interested and aren't serious, we highly recommend breaking up before breaking her heart later down the line. As you may know, traditional Thai women are shy and conservative in nature. They rarely have tattoos and piercings, they don't wear too much makeup, and only an emergency will see them ask for money. In fact, most traditional Thai women prefer to save money, and this will help you find cheap hotels, food,salons, shopping malls, etc. This all sounds great, but we should inform you of one drawback; their ability with the English language. If you find a girl that doesn't speak much English, you can be certain that she's trying to learn. As long as you're both making an effort to communicate, love will conquer everything. 3. Thai Gold Diggers We mentioned the way that bar girls like to earn money, but this is nothing compared to the gold diggers of Thailand. That's right, some women will go to clubs every night dressed up in expensive clothing with expensive gadgets, handbags, and shoes, and they could even have tattoos. Either way, they look for rich men who will buy them gifts and supplement their expensive lifestyle. While some are happy to stick with one sugar daddy, others will seek multiple sugar daddies, so be careful (we assume you want to avoid this type of woman!). Many Thai gold diggers, they're happy to keep partying until the sun comes up. Most of the time, they don't care if you're talking with other girls because they're doing exactly the same. If you choose a gold digger, they will be demanding, they will ask for gifts, and they will prefer material things over your time. Since they're independent in nature, they will pay for their own drinks on a night out and may actually be against the traditional Western chivalrous approach (only if you take it too far; everybody loves a gentleman with good manners!). Here are some tips for recognizing a gold digger: She's always asking for material items and for youto spend money. She always seems to prefer fancy restaurants and experiences (rather than just a night in together) She's direct in asking for money Of course, we aren't saying that any girl asking for money is a gold digger. But there's a difference between running into money problems (and feeling awkward asking for help) and simply asking for you to fund their life. 4. Liberated Thai Girls For us, a liberated Thai girl is a traditional Thai girl who has been able to break free from shyness. They're accustomed to Western attitudes and men, they like adventure, and they're generally very good fun. Unlike the gold diggers, liberated Thai girls are independent and they won't be looking for a man with money. Instead, they're genuinely interested in finding somebody to love. Good with the English language, these women will have careers and huge aspirations for the future. Before settling down with a family, they will have goals. Thanks to their middle-class families, most have been to a big university and are now. While one is conservative, respectful, and extremely loyal, the other is independent, fun, well-traveled, and/or educated! Take care and God bless.
Rock Hard in Phuket used to have tee shirts listing what a Thai girl said and what they are really saying. Was hilarious. I will wait for you to return. Means: until the next paying customer comes along.
don't forget you can also just get a normal gf in bkk (or pattaya, KK, UT, Krabi, etc anywhere) and she will split expenses with you and even pay for your dates sometimes. my experience
I Like your videos I could sit and watch them for ages ime coming back to pattaya soon after a four year break .your videos are really very helpfull thank you 😀😀
Or a better option might be to meet a Filipina girl , totally different experience, very genuine girls , very very loyal and they can speak great English. I met mine 8 years ago and she's never asked me for any money to send for her family.( we send a box over every Xmas (£80) and fill it full of hand me down clothes and toiletries. Fortunately i found a gem and as a result she's now my wife.
Great summary Trev. Probably should mention some girls also have a GIK also known as a bit of side fun with Thai guys. Some girls also have a permanent Thai boyfriend who may be in Pattaya or back in their village.
Normal Thai ladies have a job and not bar or massage.Normal Thai ladies are the best and not like what he's talking about. I have been here 6 years and never took a bargirl as gf.
Man, I love this stuff. Highly recommend you listen to all these. I was recently in Pattaya and met a friend at the bar nothing romantically. BUT that still doesn’t save you, she suggested we go to a bar with live music, I went and every time we ordered a drink she would hand something off to the waiter and moments later the waiter would return. I suspected it was a commissions card but didn’t make much of it. It’s awesome to have my suspicious proven right 😂
ive been to pattaya 3 times will be there february 2023 for 5 weeks never ever have been stung, but after watching this video i think i have hahaha lol, i never knew the lady i had got a percentage from other bars brilliant video we are never too old to learn thank you
Having a Thai girlfriend in Pattaya is a big financial risk! I am a longtime visitor in Thailand. You can meet serious girls in Thailand for relationship but with all the respect I have for the girls, Gogo & bar girls are just for fun but definitely not for serious relationship!
I met my Thai GF, and later wife, in my home country where she was a grad student. We were both students at the time back well before there were mobile phones, the internet, etc. Her family never asked me for money. Probably because they were a lot richer than my family 555! There are a lot of lovely Thai women out there that are not involved in the bar business.
It made me smile when you mentioned visiting family, we went to a nice Thai restaurant and my girl said do I have enough money! There were 10 of us! To my suprise the feast cost just over 1000 thb. The 5 days in Korat were great but I must of spent more there than 2 days in Pattaya!
hahaha, i love you dude. i'm chinese, before covid pandemic i met my first "long term thai girlfriend" at skyfall in pattaya, you certainly know skyfall, right? she's super gorgeous , i went skyfall five nights in a straight for her and took her out, we had a great time . but at the sixth night, she had a day off, so i went to another agogo bar and took another girl, and next night when i went to skyfall and took her to my hotel again, she checked her phone and asked me if it's true that her friend saw me and another girl last night, i said yes i was with another girl last night , she was very angary and said "what do you think i am? a bar girl？ " . i was confused and answered " i met you in a bar, so what should i expect? " she became mad and leave my hotel room, didn't even ask the money for the last date. i asked her back via wechat, but she said she don't want to see me again and don't want my money. i was shocked, you know. in china, working girls are working girls, they give services and get money, tbh i'd say chinese working girl give a better service than thai girl, but they don't play such emotional drama . i understand she was working in bar for money though, she was still trying to keep her dignity. i'm asian too so i can understand her feeling of losing face. but in china that's a very old school thing, we chinese understand it but we don't really care about it nowadays. i didn't expect that thai girls still think this way. i want to say sorry to her if i had a chance. after that i had a few more "thai girlfriends", some of them are working girl as well. sometimes i know they were playing tricks to get more money from me, but i don't really care, what they ask are very little compare to chinese girls. so i always fullfill them with respect, as long as it's not out of my budget. dude, you were born in britain, that means you are luckier than at least 95% people of the world. i was born in the rich part of china, i think i'm lucky too.but not all people are as lucky as us. you know how tough the normal life in SEA countries is. in my opinion, those thai working girls are most very good people , they might be cunning sometimes, but they have to do that for their life. i'm lucky about money, they don't, that's the only difference. so i don't ever be stingy to them. they share happiness with me, and i share my lucky money with them, that a fair deal. i don't know if my thoughts right or not, but anyways, i love thailand ,and i love your video. hope you all good and have fun~~ i'm gonna visit pattaya again next month~
Hi mate and wow what a story hahah. What do you think I am a bar girl and you met her in a bar 555555 When ya come over please come say hello mate in Buzzin Lounge be great to grab a beer, this story is brilliant. Safe travels mate
Wow. Can you give any advice or suggestion on meeting working girls in China? This is not something we get much information on. We hear of scams where western men are lured by attractive young women. But, how can a man actually meet a girl for a clean and honest transaction if that's possible?
Love this channel👍 I had a bandage on my leg one day walking past a traditional massage shop. She asked what had happened to my leg. Obviously a smart quick thinking girl. After a brief chat decided to have a massage. Definitely not a happy ending shop as most are. Arranged a date and after a few days got in her knickers. Respectable lady. Another time I just picked one up in a scoping centre. Another massage lady I had from a knocking shop massage let me in on a secret. They use motorbike taxi drivers to do the tracking. Even pre smart phones they know every move you make. It’s really unbelievable they know EVERYTHING.
She wanted you to believe that "they know EVERYTHING". In fact, it was just a simple manipulation: she wanted to insure that you spend your time and money on her, not on a dozen of different women 😉 Just think, how they could possibly track your actions when there are hundreds of motorbike taxi drivers in Pattaya? Make all of them report on the daily basis about each and every farang they saw during the day? And remember which woman is tracking which farang? Sounds like a hell of a work for me 🥵
Enjoy you vids and tips....pleased that my missus is anchored in a Government job in Surin....when we go out to dinner Patty often picks up the tab.....it's called sharing....cheers young fella
@@Buzzinpattaya what I like about you mate.....you always reply to comments.....unlike some U tubers who think their shit don't stink.....I'd have a beer with ya anytime....cheers mate
Met my first Thai girlfriend online, l'm 60+ she was 40+. Her best friend owned an Aussie style bar in Udon Thani, we would go there about once a week. l deliberately tried to choose a quiet night, so we would arrive, spend a bit of money and cheer them all up. The girls were great, friendly and attentive, would buy them all a drink, order food and share with all the girls. I treated them with respect and got to know them as human beings and they treated me like family. Not all bars are meat markets looking to rip you off, you just have to choose wisely......🙂
If you look at a relationship from a pure economical perspective, having a Thai girlfriend costs peanuts in comparison to a Western European one. No matter how many times the buffalo gets sick.
@@davejackson1270 Exactly, even IF the Thai girlfriend is just in it for the business, when spending money on her, she is grateful for it, while western women think they are entitled to getting anything and everything just cause they are the woman.
Real cost of a Thai Pattaya girlfriend - 1) Your dignity, 2) your wider family, 3) Your self confidence 4) Your self-worth 5) your wealth 6) your health - Enjoy your life and don't destroy your life. If you went to Spain you wouldn't take the sand home would you? Enjoy and forget
As a tourist I had very pleasant experiences. Nothing creepy ! I got close to 1 bar girl and 1 Freelancer. #1 Bar-girl from Isaan, she announced to leave the Bar couple of days while I left but never asked for money, like EVER ! I was waiting for Sick buffalo, never happened! #2 Freelancer, stayed with me 3 days LT, asked for money 1st date then she said she had feelings for me and SURPRISINGLY stopped asking LT payment !!! Of course I payed meals and drinks but no extras. Now both of them keep contact long-distance but never ask for money. I guess I was lucky.
@@kasperle20260 Most of girls I met were freelancers met on ThaiFriendly . All very nice attitude and conversation. Just treat them like a gentleman, and they return it tenfold. I basically met girls over 30s as they are more mature and less demanding.
@@bobbruce4135 10 to 20 years difference. I avoid girls under 30s. Best experience with 30 to 40 years old. The Bar girl was 36 old, very attractive, beautiful body and face. Still in contact and never asked money.
Just finished my 4th bar girl relationship. “Although this one was unique, honest, unspoiled, loved me with her heart etc.” Gonna enjoy my income for myself.
This was really interesting Trev. I met my girlfriend on Thai Cupid, almost two years ago. I've been to see ger 3 times in Thailand for month each time. I avoided responses to younger women as I was initially looking fir someone just to show me around. Never thought it would end up ad a relation. She has her own business, bottles water with a small factory near her home. We've had some great times travelling together and I've met most of her family. Perhaps i was just lucky but I was looking for companionship more than anything and I think I've found it. Back for another month in February before I make the move permanently.
Howard, It is unfortunate that all Thai girls get painted with the same bad brush, it’s just ignorant. Two weeks into my 3-day rule I got luckily hooked with a stunning Showgirl who besides being a bundle of joy spent the evening having genuine conversations laughs and ended up well and truly drunk, if it had ended there that would have been pleasure enough. In the time I spent with her she brought everything to the table, it was mostly me that was holding back in forming any relationship and I was probably boring as someone wrongly said Thais were. She wasn’t fazed when I went out with the guys and gleefully joined us on occasions even thou she knew no one else in the group. One night's pub crawl with the guys she said she was going shopping, and I presumed to see her mates, I returned after two in the morning where she got out of bed to cook a big sea-bass dinner with full Thai trimmings that she had bought for our dinner, no candles but full-on romantic. When we went shopping she would insist on paying for her own things and always ensured I wasn’t ripped off by any retailer. She was insatiable with sex to the point I had to lock the door to have some privacy using the bathroom, a time she lay on the sofa her legs across mine whilst I was engrossed with the soccer on TV, playing with herself to get my attention, I only noticed with a pause in the soccer and a cushion thrown by her. A boat trip that was organized to promote new girls at one of the bars, she joined us with a friend and wasn’t fussed when I spent most of my time with the bar staff only to lovingly hold me and join me in their conversation whenever I returned. There were many moments the same where her attentiveness and loving were unswerving and I never experienced any of the ‘Thai’ sulks or freezing out, she was the dutiful ‘wife’ and beautiful mistress you wish to meet. Are we still together; no, it was me that coldly ended the relationship before I fell in love. It may have lasted or it may have ended like Trevs but that in itself would still have been good. Have we met since, yes but that’s another shorter story.
I’d read your book, just for fun. I loved the ST way of life, with the wide spectrum of TG's it offered and its limited liability, with costs always under control. Talking in past tense as I haven’t been back yet after the scamdemic.
If she's questioning what you are, or not, paying her, there is no question you should leave. Simply go a few kilometers away from the tourist areas and you will find ladies who will never ask you for money; they're down-to-earth and normal.
A healthy way of seeing thai life as a foreigner. Everything you buy: house, car, motorbike etc is gifted to Thailand until the exception happens. The key word is renting and don´t buy anything you can not afford to give away.
Yes, 100% rigth they have to feel that once you are not there they will loose all the things you have. Otherwise they will kick your ass as soon as they get what they were waiting to get
Oi oi phuket still raining so I be arriving Saturday get that AFC shirt on for next weekend the yids are coming another good video my experience with Thai gf the period last a lot longer ...I leave it at that see you the weekend ...COYS
The vast majority of bar ladies have lots of boyfriends. It only gets complicated for them when two turn up at the same time. If they go with you instead of the other bloke it's only because you are giving them more money. It's only business to them, nothing to do with anything else.
I shared the story a long time ago about a girl I met in a bar who was very kind to me as I was getting further involved with her she stopped me in my tracks and showed me four sponsors that she had. She told me what each one sent her and that she was going to marry the fourth guy. We have stayed friends over the last 10 years and she did exactly what she told me and is now living in Germany and has been for the last 5 years married with one child.
@@Buzzinpattaya Yeh I know a lady a mate went with about 12 years ago. I saw her in July and she had just got married and was moving to Sweden. The same mate married a Thai about 6 years ago and she moved to England. As soon as she got her British nationality she blew him out and took half his money, he can't even afford a holiday now.
‘My friend ‘ I’m meeting next week after chatting for 10 months , I met on Thai friendly. Not a bat girl , works in office , lives with sister .. non drinker , no tattoos lol 😆 .. We shall see how it pans out .. wish me luck 😅..
I have a guy at work here in sweden that married a Thai woman, he sees her twice a year and sends her 22 000 baht a month for her expenses, I think that's a truly terrible deal.
Not a bad job...borderline brilliant. More interesting than most, quite accurate and detailed. Chocolate Man in Thailand (an example of what not to do unless you have too much money) is off the rails but he has great eye candy...plenty of subscribers so I guess he can afford it. I plan on going to the local University and teach a little English to a few select students and teachers.
Without sounding rude or arrogant I don't watch other UA-camrs simply because I don't want to see someone's content if especially I was going to produce the same content from my own view. But whatever he does as long as he's happy I guess that's all that really matters at the end of the day.
@@Buzzinpattaya , this is the 4th or 5th video I have seen on Thai GF’s in the past 2 months, so it is not working. The funniest videos are the ones where the you tubers are all traveling together and making the same videos. Real original. As I was always told, ‘you can make a whore out of a wife, but you can not make a wife out of a white’ . It is great advice.
Learned it from my friends in Singapore: “Fire & Forget”.. although I am a very hard learner! it cost me almost an average local salary with subsequently one Romanian, and 4 Viet girls. All beauties and sweet.. no regrets, don’t focus on the money you could have saved, many good moments.
One of the best .... she was 35 met in food court little bit of flerting but seemed nice got the food from a street vendor and we sat on the beach Didn't like me talking to other girls tho But the day's had were the best .... shame i only had 3 day's with her before i went home
She also knew about your discord site ... and told me a lot of the girls in the bar's watch what's going on ... she seemed very honest even said she worked in a bar for 5 year's. But as she was getting old that not for her want normal life. Am going back in January and can't wait 🤗
@@chrislecouteur2360 Something similar happened to me too. But when I came to Pattaya again after 7 months she "was in Bangkok" - as I understand it is a common way to postpone a meeting while she is being busy with another "boyfriend". I really hope that it will not happen to you my friend. For me it was like a cold shower. I had travelled half the world to see her again. We spent some time together in the end, yes, and it was really good. But the illusion was shattered, I was reminded that she was just another sex worker whatever she tells me.
Some real things to remember here Trev. It brings some valid points home to me. I have been coming to Pattaya a while now and met some new friends in August, it is so easy to get caught in a trap and you need to have your wits about you. My friend is different!! 😂😂😂😂. Keep up the good work mate 👍🏻
Indeed my friend and yes I know who you are talking about and it's very hard to distance yourself particularly when there are emotions involved. Just tried to remain calm keep a clear head and make balanced decisions
I'm either fortunate or wiser than most. I've lived in Pattaya for 3 years and my GF's don't cost me anything but occasional nights night for dinner or bar hopping once a month or so. Why pay for risky bargirls when there are so many normal girls who are wide open to dating and or marrying foreigners.
I dated a Thai lady for 3 years she came almost every night to my place I mostly paid the bigger percentage of the bills sometimes paid the whole bill but it wasn't expensive restaurants we didn't go out much just occasionally coffee shop or get kfc ect . Usually we ate at home and sometimes she would bring something with to eat . She also paid sometimes and sometimes I went to her house to eat she would cook for me I probably spend monthly under 3000 baht more then I would have if I was single , She also bought me sometimes clothing or something for my room. True Lady
Working girls and non working girls are a different world mostly... can't compare them, no matter what country you are in. Of course if you choose to date a prostitute, you have to accept all the strings and headaches potentially. I have had normal Thai partners and it's nothing like this. I have also had working partners and it was exactly like this if not worse... haha. Lesson for me is... use working girls for what they are supposed to be used for to avoid headaches and all the bullshit. Plus it feels better not having a girl that's been creamed by 1000s of others and is probably mentally messed up from it in many ways. Don't turn a hoe into a housewife because most of the time it fails. Yes there is success stories but it's a BIG coin to flip and you could lose everything if you are a fool. Enjoy!
A ho is a ho.... Do not try to reason or think logical. They are broken like a glass mirror. Do not waste money or time trying to repair broken women in society.
Hi trev, I’ve probably lived everything you’ve said over the years and much more, , I’ve learnt my lesson now, but would I do it all again , in a heartbeat 😂🙏
Some girls just want company or companionship. Money isn't an issue to some. Me living up north I care for myself and always pay for myself. When my bf comes to visit from usa. He not pay anything when here. (I may be the rare type of thai 5555).
20 baht is pretty common. Once I went to a good restaurant and tipped 500THB. Everyone was looking at me as we left. I thought it wasn’t a massive tip given the price and quality. Darling said to me that they were looking because it was 500THB and too much.
Excellent Video. I think everyone that has been to Pattaya a few times or many times. Should warn newbies NOT to fall in Love but rather maintain Lust only relationships 3 days at a time with a different Woman each time. Do not seek out a serious exclusive relationship with a Thai girl that will eventually be a Girlfriend then a Fiancee' Then a Prison Guard! Unless You are retired and living in Thailand. Have a Lot of Baht and a Lot of Baht she does not know about!
If UA-cam and the likes of these videos had been available when lots of us first went to Thailand we would have saved a small fortune in gone never to be seen again baht, thanks for posting Trev.
I saw that you walked by a thc smoke shop. Does that mean weed is legal in thailand? or is it hemp flower sprayed with synthetic thc? I would have thought thailand would be very strict on drugs and such. can anyone fill me in on the weed scene in pattaya or thailand?
They have had a 3 month trial Full legalisation.. I think its just ending.. But you you can buy it. You can own it.. But there is a fine if you get caught smoking it.. Medical is 100%legal anyway but practically no thc in it. They keep moving the goal posts so be careful. You can ask 3 people and get 3 different answers. But in short there is plenty available
You can take the girl out the bar...but you can't take the bar out the girl! Was told this many years ago and from what i've seen and heard, it's fairly accurate. However, if you don't buy a ticket, you won't win the raffle!
Again a good chat , regarding go out down say Soi 6 with mates , we used to use code ,ie Soi 6 was “were off down half a dozen or box of eggs” mates still use this method and as far as I know nobody has been captured . Cheers Chris
The real cost of a Thai girlfriend - Your money, your dignity, your self respect and in some cases your life😉😉. Dont forget to observe the 3 day rule. Or if you're properly switched on the 3 hour rule.
Very simple....dont do girlfriends....enjoy holiday, no need bar fine, meet girl in nightclub. Negotiate there if have to...most times no real cost involved if your a cool dude. And smart .
They'll order half the menu and then just leave most of it having spent most of the meal looking at her phone. And then quite likely make deal behind your back to get commission from the waitress from the huge bill you will have to pay for all the uneaten food. Thankfully I gave all this up years ago.
I just got back from PATTAYA, found a WOMAN (not GIRL) my age 56. Started a relationship, talk everyday, planning to return to her in the future. Everything seams good, she works in a massage studio that's how I met her, should I be worried? I have no problem paying her way.... I've been doing that for the last 40 years with every white girl I've dated anyway so what's the difference?
In my personal experience if they remain in the tourist areas they continue with their previous patterns, they just do it in a different way, the only way you will get her to be faithful is if she goes ack to the village and works/hangs out with her family not the working girl friends.
@@davejackson1270 She's not a working girl, she's older and works in Thai massage in Pattaya but not in the tourist area, She's not getting alot of attention since there are so many young girls out there to choose from, that's why I picked her. I only date women my age.
@@kenji4596 Yes you're correct, but I've been giving my money away to every girl I've dated here in Canada 🇨🇦 for the last 40 years anyway at least this one is happy with little money and SHE TREATS ME LIKE A KING, never got that from any Canadian woman.
I think in the immediate term, more costly, at least for people from the UK, is the falling value of the £. A year ago the exchange rate was around 46.1 and now it is around 41.5. that means that an ex-pat on a pension of around £2k a month, is now getting around 9000 Baht less each month than this time last year. A few belts might have to be tightened for a while.
Spot on Trev ! I was lucky coz my 1st thai gf was a hairdresser who i met thru a mate of mine, and my thai wife was a tour operator so i didnt have to mess about with bar fines etc, i compensated them for loss of earnings in the early days coz like u say if they weren't wiv u they'd be earning so its only right and fair. Again i was fortunate as neither treated me like a mobile ATM, and i had no costly suprises waiting for me😎
@@vgshwk Totally depends on her age. If we're talking about a 20 year old stunner, sure. There are plenty of 35+ year olds who are looking to get out of the business and settle down.
Hi Trevor, Have you written your book on excuses yet? If not would you like a few?With over 20 years working in Bangkok I have a nice collection. They include a Mango farm, a dentist,a wooden door and an Issan lass gold medal standard at lying but with a bad memory. Also a a few unbelievable stories. One, being an engineer being kidnapped by a girl who turned out to have been deported from the US. The mysterious case of a girl having 3 ovaries removed and of a girl having plastic breast surgery that were uneven to look at. One was a good 3cm lower than the other.
Alternative option. Go to the gym, smell nice, and meet a nice girl whos not a hooker. I've been to Thailand a dozen times and am retiring there this year (still in my 30s), and have never once paid for a girl. Closest to paying for it is having a Thai girlfriend and you want to go on a trip. Beyond that, this video is ridiculously accurate lol, took a girl out who was like 35 kg and was disturbed at the shocking amount of food she could eat.
Im in Pattaya at the moment Trevor is correct some girls have got bigger but to be honest i rather like having the more European figure . If you want the GF experience out here than i hope you've brought plenty of cash i would estimate £200-£300 per day based on 41 baht to 1 pound including the bar-fines etc etc you will burn through your money easily with food and going out . DON'T DO IT . stay single go short time .
I am put off Pattaya at the moment with these reports. Lack if hot girls and too expensive. Might as well have a top class escort over in Europe. British. Polish. Ukrainian. Latvian. Far hotter 🔥. No crazy air fare.
I’m having a great time but if you want short time you would need at least £130-£180 for a good night out trouble is the exchange rate is so poor . 😢
ST or holiday girlfriend, either way you have to budget minimum $1kusd for a month of "fun"
@@AeroAmateur ……and just about to get a lot worse after today, it’s been smashed
Exactly all you will do is throw cash at a girl, I never see any girl overnight, I just pop into massage shop, have my massage and then go about my business, never take a girl back to my hotel that’s my sanctuary for relaxing. So many guys think they have a girlfriend, they like to live believe the fantasy.
Thank you for the update, great reminder of the reality of a Thai girlfriend experience. You must hear some amazing stories from guys who meet a Thai lady on holiday and say they are "different to the rest" and you don't really understand the amazing friendship/relationship we have. Often they end up sponsoring them thinking it is the real deal. I have a family member who went through exactly that, married his sweetheart in Thailand who he had met in Pattaya (yes we heard the statement "we are in love and she isn't like the rest"), he moved her to Australia where he worked, they had two children but she missed the Thai lifestyle so much she left the kids and moved back to Pattaya. Now divorced. Again thanks for the reminders of what can come with the girlfriend experience. Cheers
Thanks mate much appreciated
I have seen grown men crying on the beach after losing everything to a bar girl! never trust them and sleep with one eye open...
Some other tips. YOU have the advantage here, YOU have the leverage. Never forget that you always have to keep women under your thumb at all time, no matter how "sweet" and nice she is to you. Women respect dominance, this does not mean being an "a--hole". Be nice to her, but don't be an ATM.
When my girl asked for an allowance after about a week of dating I said no, "I pay for everything when we go out and never ask you for money, so I already pay enough." followed by "There are 100,000 thai girls here I could be with, don't push it or I will replace you." I also said "Your family isn't my problem any more than my family isn't your problem. I am not sending money to your mom, dad, brother, sister, aunt, uncle or kids. YOU work for them, not for me!" This works 99% of the time. If you think I am being a jack ass then YOU will fail here. Be nice, know your place in the pecking order, and women will respect that, they are designed to do so.
Well said
Bam !
@@JohnDoe-iv7yu yeah I went on n a second date with my friend’s girlfriend sister. I thought cool she’s trustworthy because we have common links, like a “referral “ if you will. Nope!!! On that date she heads for the high-end cosmetics counter, picks up a $65 Chanel perfume and with a sad 😔 face says “Buy this for me”. Damn. My heart just dropped because I knew she’s not for me. Geez I hate that about some of these Thai women. Do I look like I have “sucker” written on my forehead? 🙄
If you meet a girl in a bar you are a paying customer & that is how she will always view you no matter what
That is so true
Guess so, but it’s a good game to play , and when it’s over if you haven’t been a clown you can play again with no regret 😂😇
Is it ALWAYS true??
@@krukon close enough. Believe it
Some very wise words Trev. I stopped telling my friends that advice as I would spend too long explaining it so they switched off. I will bookmark this Vlog. Good work mate.
Thank you my friend much appreciated
Love your channel! I’ve been coming to Thailand a lot over the years. It’s so much fun listening to you articulate all of these situations we all run into. Absolutely 100% spot on
Haha cheers mate much
I have been visiting Thailand for over 20 years I have found out the best way to enjoy company with these lovely ladies is the keep them for the night and take them for lunch or dinner and in the Morning say bye bye baby. This prevents maximum headaches and hassles. If she wants a drink or beer I ask her and get it from 7-11, most of the girls naturally dont really care to drink outside, they want to either get back or relax. Great video
Thanks for sharing your experience with us mate
That sounds like very Sound Advice.
Met my wife by being introduced to her by her sister, living two streets away from me in England. She was not involved in the bar scene but was a cleaner in a hotel. Her family have not made much in the way of demands on me. Also, through living with me in England for eight years before we moved to Thailand permanently, she understands better about our money and knows we're not All millionaires. She has stuck with me when I've been flush and also when I was staring bankruptcy in the face. I'm very lucky, I got a good one
fantastic mate fair play and wish you all the best
Nice one👍
Yep there are def good decent thai girls about.. even in pattaya, you just have to choose wisely 😊
@@tomharvey2040 Yes even in Pattaya but... if she has no tatoos, no smoker, no drinker. I think after one week toguether you can check her head is ok (sadly some of them are not very well in the head). Finaly know a little about her family..
@@franciscoquevedo8240 so what you are saying basically is; if she has no tattoos, doesnt smoke or drink (big chance), spend a week together with her. If she does not show signs of being mentally ill and you have chemistry - go for it! Did i get u rite?
Thanks for the video. Have only been to Thailand 7 times, so limited experience with this. But anyway; My best experience was getting to know someone who worked in a bar (behind the counter). We became friends during the 3 weeks I was there and she wasn't too keen on me spending so much money on her. I paid for food etc. and we were both happy. It was a plus that she spoke good English. John, Norway.
Nice one mate thank you for sharing your experience with us
Five Types of Women You'll Find in Thailand (based off my Thai mum and my experience with Thai girls as friends 😂)
When Thai women are mentioned, it's fair to say that most people immediately think of two different types; the 'bar girls' and the 'normal girls'. In our experience, there are actually five different types of Thai women that you'll find in the country. If you want to date a woman in Thailand, we think it's important to understand the differences between them. With this in mind, allow us to break them down below!
1. Bar Girls
Since bar girls seem to get the most attention, allow us to explain these women first. If you've been on a few nights out in Thailand, we can almost guarantee that you've bumped into a few bar girls. In Pattaya, Bangkok, and other big cities, you're likely to come across bar girls often.
Raised in poor families, normally in Isaan (northeast Thailand), they see their work in clubs and bars as a serious job. Whenever they earn money, some go towards their education and lifestyle while the rest tends to go home to their family.
Unfortunately, their poor reputation comes from their desire to earn money. Since they earn more on this scene than they ever could in a day job, they're very rarely willing to forgo this lifestyle for a Western man. If you fall for a bar girl, make sure she is genuine with her intent, learn more about her, and assess whether or not she will change her profession for you. Bar girls have broken many a Western heart, so don't give everything away so easily.
2. Traditional Girls
On the other hand, people normally think about traditional Thai girls as 'regular' or 'normal'. Many work long hours in their day job, they don't socialize in clubs and bars all too much, and the majority haven't yet dated a foreign guy. Unlike what you may have experienced at home, Thai women don't like casual dating. If you're a few dates in, they will probably see you as their boyfriend already.
Traditional Thai women, take marriage and love very seriously; they believe in giving their all to their man. Additionally, they have strong values for:
Traditional beliefs Meeting your/her family Children
Religion
Most Western men, find themselves in conversations about marriage within a year. If you aren't interested and aren't serious, we highly recommend breaking up before breaking her heart later down the line.
As you may know, traditional Thai women are shy and conservative in nature. They rarely have tattoos and piercings, they don't wear too much makeup, and only an emergency will see them ask for money. In fact, most traditional Thai women prefer to save money, and this will help you find cheap hotels, food,salons, shopping malls, etc.
This all sounds great, but we should inform you of one drawback; their ability with the English language. If you find a girl that doesn't speak much English, you can be certain that she's trying to learn. As long as you're both making an effort to communicate, love will conquer everything.
3. Thai Gold Diggers
We mentioned the way that bar girls like to earn money, but this is nothing compared to the gold diggers of Thailand. That's right, some women will go to clubs every night dressed up in expensive clothing with expensive gadgets, handbags, and shoes, and they could even have tattoos. Either way, they look for rich men who will buy them gifts and supplement their expensive lifestyle. While some are happy to stick with one sugar daddy, others will seek multiple sugar daddies, so be careful (we assume you want to avoid this type of woman!).
Many Thai gold diggers, they're happy to keep partying until the sun comes up. Most of the time, they don't care if you're talking with other girls because they're doing exactly the same. If you choose a gold digger, they will be demanding, they will ask for gifts, and they will prefer material things over your time.
Since they're independent in nature, they will pay for their own drinks on a night out and may actually be against the traditional Western chivalrous approach (only if you take it too far; everybody loves a gentleman with good manners!).
Here are some tips for recognizing a gold digger:
She's always asking for material items and for youto spend money. She always seems to prefer fancy restaurants and experiences (rather than just a night in together)
She's direct in asking for money
Of course, we aren't saying that any girl asking for money is a gold digger. But there's a difference between running into money problems (and feeling awkward asking for help) and simply asking for you to fund their life.
4. Liberated Thai Girls
For us, a liberated Thai girl is a traditional Thai girl who has been able to break free from shyness. They're accustomed to Western attitudes and men, they like adventure, and they're generally very good fun. Unlike the gold diggers, liberated Thai girls are independent and they won't be looking for a man with money. Instead, they're genuinely interested in finding somebody to love.
Good with the English language, these women will have careers and huge aspirations for the future. Before settling down with a family, they will have goals. Thanks to their middle-class families, most have been to a big university and are now.
While one is conservative, respectful, and extremely loyal, the other is independent, fun, well-traveled, and/or educated! Take care and God bless.
Thanks for sharing
Rock Hard in Phuket used to have tee shirts listing what a Thai girl said and what they are really saying. Was hilarious. I will wait for you to return. Means: until the next paying customer comes along.
Not being critical here, thought it was well written, but you said five types of women, but only noted four.
@@eyezearz_org the last one.....non existent
My cousin met his wife in a bar in Pattaya. 20 years now. She is a surgical nurse in San Diego now. She is a good person too.
Fantastic as I say always look forward never look behind
What??? I'm astounded, but good for them. I've read of a few stories where marriage to a former bar girl works out well.
One in a million …
You can also find a good woman in America js
so admirable
don't forget you can also just get a normal gf in bkk (or pattaya, KK, UT, Krabi, etc anywhere) and she will split expenses with you and even pay for your dates sometimes. my experience
Absolutely mate
I Like your videos I could sit and watch them for ages ime coming back to pattaya soon after a four year break .your videos are really very helpfull thank you 😀😀
Glad you like them mate and am sure you will have a great time on your return
Trev, this vid is SPOT ON brother. Good work.
Cheers mate
How many other guys thought they’d landed the best catch of their lives to find they were wrong. 😮.. great vlogs Trevor Kap
I think a lot more than those who admit it
Great video!! I was thinking about going to Thailand. Kind of still am, but I really dislike the money grabbing schemes
Get out here, have the time.of ya life, don't worry about shit that may never happen to you.....
Or a better option might be to meet a Filipina girl , totally different experience, very genuine girls , very very loyal and they can speak great English. I met mine 8 years ago and she's never asked me for any money to send for her family.( we send a box over every Xmas (£80) and fill it full of hand me down clothes and toiletries. Fortunately i found a gem and as a result she's now my wife.
Many people say this
Hand me down clothes and some toiletries as a Christmas present for her family each year. Sounds about right to me.
Hahaha i got at least 300 pinai girls asking me 4 money.
I ve heard lots of stories.
U r aro lucky keep her
In my experience pinays are very sweet. But i found some thai girls too that are sweet...
Agreed. But keeping your prize in pi isnt doable. .
Pollution is horrible. Noise, burning garbage, crap food.
Thanks a lot for sharing your experiences! Love it even i stayed in Thailand for years.
Thanks mate
I love the honesty about how you referred it to an industry at 14:13.. that sums it up
Cheers mate
Great summary Trev. Probably should mention some girls also have a GIK also known as a bit of side fun with Thai guys. Some girls also have a permanent Thai boyfriend who may be in Pattaya or back in their village.
Yeah good shout that mate
Normal Thai ladies have a job and not bar or massage.Normal Thai ladies are the best and not like what he's talking about.
I have been here 6 years and never took a bargirl as gf.
A gik is a side bf or gf that they indulge in activity with.I have been both gik and bf,usually at the same time,no complaints
@@andrewblondon9197 As long as u get your turn....
sorted 😜
Man, I love this stuff. Highly recommend you listen to all these. I was recently in Pattaya and met a friend at the bar nothing romantically. BUT that still doesn’t save you, she suggested we go to a bar with live music, I went and every time we ordered a drink she would hand something off to the waiter and moments later the waiter would return. I suspected it was a commissions card but didn’t make much of it. It’s awesome to have my suspicious proven right 😂
Absolutely mate they all have commission cards
My wife comes from Chiang Mai and was working in a private school, she is a fantastic Thai.❤
Brilliant mate nice one
Absolutely reasonable choice man, my congratulations!
Another great vid sir !!
just an observation, your audio may be a slight tad low if you are looking for feedback other than ur vids are awesome !!!🤟🤟
Thanks mate much appreciated
As ever Trevor this video is very good and informative. ❤
Glad you think so!
@Buzzinpattaya Trevor you are a class act.
ive been to pattaya 3 times will be there february 2023 for 5 weeks never ever have been stung, but after watching this video i think i have hahaha lol, i never knew the lady i had got a percentage from other bars brilliant video we are never too old to learn thank you
Please come and say hello when you visit next time
Having a Thai girlfriend in Pattaya is a big financial risk! I am a longtime visitor in Thailand. You can meet serious girls in Thailand for relationship but with all the respect I have for the girls, Gogo & bar girls are just for fun but definitely not for serious relationship!
yeah it can be a risk
I met my Thai GF, and later wife, in my home country where she was a grad student. We were both students at the time back well before there were mobile phones, the internet, etc. Her family never asked me for money. Probably because they were a lot richer than my family 555! There are a lot of lovely Thai women out there that are not involved in the bar business.
wow thanks for sharing mate, much appreciated
It made me smile when you mentioned visiting family, we went to a nice Thai restaurant and my girl said do I have enough money! There were 10 of us! To my suprise the feast cost just over 1000 thb. The 5 days in Korat were great but I must of spent more there than 2 days in Pattaya!
That is awesome!
Haven’t followed your vlogs for a while Dave…. Glad to see your new recent material - keep up your good work, mate 👍🏽🔥
Cheers mate
Don't take the whole thing to seriously, be a butterfly and have a great time.
Sabai Sabai
Indeed
Exactly Mate, way to Go. 👍
If your in town for 30 days plus. My advice is to meet Reception desk girls Waitresses an hostesses.
Good shout
I concur! Don't forget the gals working in mall.
no luck there , there is always the maid who comes to clean your room .
@@burtonknows9201 Yep theirs usually rich pickings in there. 👍
hahaha, i love you dude.
i'm chinese, before covid pandemic i met my first "long term thai girlfriend" at skyfall in pattaya, you certainly know skyfall, right? she's super gorgeous , i went skyfall five nights in a straight for her and took her out, we had a great time . but at the sixth night, she had a day off, so i went to another agogo bar and took another girl, and next night when i went to skyfall and took her to my hotel again, she checked her phone and asked me if it's true that her friend saw me and another girl last night, i said yes i was with another girl last night , she was very angary and said "what do you think i am? a bar girl？ " . i was confused and answered " i met you in a bar, so what should i expect? " she became mad and leave my hotel room, didn't even ask the money for the last date. i asked her back via wechat, but she said she don't want to see me again and don't want my money.
i was shocked, you know. in china, working girls are working girls, they give services and get money, tbh i'd say chinese working girl give a better service than thai girl, but they don't play such emotional drama .
i understand she was working in bar for money though, she was still trying to keep her dignity. i'm asian too so i can understand her feeling of losing face. but in china that's a very old school thing, we chinese understand it but we don't really care about it nowadays. i didn't expect that thai girls still think this way. i want to say sorry to her if i had a chance.
after that i had a few more "thai girlfriends", some of them are working girl as well. sometimes i know they were playing tricks to get more money from me, but i don't really care, what they ask are very little compare to chinese girls. so i always fullfill them with respect, as long as it's not out of my budget.
dude, you were born in britain, that means you are luckier than at least 95% people of the world. i was born in the rich part of china, i think i'm lucky too.but not all people are as lucky as us. you know how tough the normal life in SEA countries is.
in my opinion, those thai working girls are most very good people , they might be cunning sometimes, but they have to do that for their life. i'm lucky about money, they don't, that's the only difference. so i don't ever be stingy to them. they share happiness with me, and i share my lucky money with them, that a fair deal.
i don't know if my thoughts right or not, but anyways, i love thailand ,and i love your video. hope you all good and have fun~~
i'm gonna visit pattaya again next month~
Hi mate and wow what a story hahah. What do you think I am a bar girl and you met her in a bar 555555
When ya come over please come say hello mate in Buzzin Lounge be great to grab a beer, this story is brilliant.
Safe travels mate
Wow. Can you give any advice or suggestion on meeting working girls in China? This is not something we get much information on. We hear of scams where western men are lured by attractive young women. But, how can a man actually meet a girl for a clean and honest transaction if that's possible?
Just stick to the 3 day rule. It will be cheaper and you will have more fun.
Well said
Love this channel👍 I had a bandage on my leg one day walking past a traditional massage shop. She asked what had happened to my leg. Obviously a smart quick thinking girl. After a brief chat decided to have a massage. Definitely not a happy ending shop as most are. Arranged a date and after a few days got in her knickers. Respectable lady.
Another time I just picked one up in a scoping centre.
Another massage lady I had from a knocking shop massage let me in on a secret. They use motorbike taxi drivers to do the tracking. Even pre smart phones they know every move you make. It’s really unbelievable they know EVERYTHING.
Lol all good
She wanted you to believe that "they know EVERYTHING".
In fact, it was just a simple manipulation: she wanted to insure that you spend your time and money on her, not on a dozen of different women 😉
Just think, how they could possibly track your actions when there are hundreds of motorbike taxi drivers in Pattaya? Make all of them report on the daily basis about each and every farang they saw during the day? And remember which woman is tracking which farang? Sounds like a hell of a work for me 🥵
Enjoy you vids and tips....pleased that my missus is anchored in a Government job in Surin....when we go out to dinner Patty often picks up the tab.....it's called sharing....cheers young fella
Nice one
@@Buzzinpattaya what I like about you mate.....you always reply to comments.....unlike some U tubers who think their shit don't stink.....I'd have a beer with ya anytime....cheers mate
Met my first Thai girlfriend online, l'm 60+ she was 40+. Her best friend owned an Aussie style bar in Udon Thani, we would go there about once a week. l deliberately tried to choose a quiet night, so we would arrive, spend a bit of money and cheer them all up. The girls were great, friendly and attentive, would buy them all a drink, order food and share with all the girls. I treated them with respect and got to know them as human beings and they treated me like family. Not all bars are meat markets looking to rip you off, you just have to choose wisely......🙂
Great share mate thank you
@@Buzzinpattaya my pleasure...
Udon Thani...wow...brings back some memories...
If you look at a relationship from a pure economical perspective, having a Thai girlfriend costs peanuts in comparison to a Western European one. No matter how many times the buffalo gets sick.
Totally agree
Correct
And alot less Backchat, well most of the time anyway. 😀
yup and the attitude difference is the number 1 for me I dont even look at western women
@@davejackson1270 Exactly, even IF the Thai girlfriend is just in it for the business, when spending money on her, she is grateful for it, while western women think they are entitled to getting anything and everything just cause they are the woman.
Real cost of a Thai Pattaya girlfriend - 1) Your dignity, 2) your wider family, 3) Your self confidence 4) Your self-worth 5) your wealth 6) your health - Enjoy your life and don't destroy your life. If you went to Spain you wouldn't take the sand home would you? Enjoy and forget
Loved reading this thank you for sharing...
Never forget my s.t.'s Ben, take them again and again if they tick all the boxes.
Awesome review thanks for your efforts 👍
Thank you very much
Excellent and very useful information thank you!,
Welcome mate
As a tourist I had very pleasant experiences. Nothing creepy ! I got close to 1 bar girl and 1 Freelancer. #1 Bar-girl from Isaan, she announced to leave the Bar couple of days while I left but never asked for money, like EVER ! I was waiting for Sick buffalo, never happened! #2 Freelancer, stayed with me 3 days LT, asked for money 1st date then she said she had feelings for me and SURPRISINGLY stopped asking LT payment !!! Of course I payed meals and drinks but no extras. Now both of them keep contact long-distance but never ask for money. I guess I was lucky.
Nice one mate
you got the lucky number
@@kasperle20260 Most of girls I met were freelancers met on ThaiFriendly . All very nice attitude and conversation. Just treat them like a gentleman, and they return it tenfold. I basically met girls over 30s as they are more mature and less demanding.
How much age difference? Looks difference? Perhaps that's the key.
@@bobbruce4135 10 to 20 years difference. I avoid girls under 30s. Best experience with 30 to 40 years old. The Bar girl was 36 old, very attractive, beautiful body and face. Still in contact and never asked money.
Just finished my 4th bar girl relationship. “Although this one was unique, honest, unspoiled, loved me with her heart etc.” Gonna enjoy my income for myself.
Fair one
Smart
Love you long time 20,000 baht Na !
@@davothefirst9371 LOL! No, love you short time...
My. Ones different 🤣🤣🤣
This was really interesting Trev. I met my girlfriend on Thai Cupid, almost two years ago. I've been to see ger 3 times in Thailand for month each time.
I avoided responses to younger women as I was initially looking fir someone just to show me around. Never thought it would end up ad a relation. She has her own business, bottles water with a small factory near her home.
We've had some great times travelling together and I've met most of her family.
Perhaps i was just lucky but I was looking for companionship more than anything and I think I've found it.
Back for another month in February before I make the move permanently.
Nice one mate I wish you both all the success in the world
Howard, It is unfortunate that all Thai girls get painted with the same bad brush, it’s just ignorant. Two weeks into my 3-day rule I got luckily hooked with a stunning Showgirl who besides being a bundle of joy spent the evening having genuine conversations laughs and ended up well and truly drunk, if it had ended there that would have been pleasure enough. In the time I spent with her she brought everything to the table, it was mostly me that was holding back in forming any relationship and I was probably boring as someone wrongly said Thais were. She wasn’t fazed when I went out with the guys and gleefully joined us on occasions even thou she knew no one else in the group. One night's pub crawl with the guys she said she was going shopping, and I presumed to see her mates, I returned after two in the morning where she got out of bed to cook a big sea-bass dinner with full Thai trimmings that she had bought for our dinner, no candles but full-on romantic. When we went shopping she would insist on paying for her own things and always ensured I wasn’t ripped off by any retailer. She was insatiable with sex to the point I had to lock the door to have some privacy using the bathroom, a time she lay on the sofa her legs across mine whilst I was engrossed with the soccer on TV, playing with herself to get my attention, I only noticed with a pause in the soccer and a cushion thrown by her. A boat trip that was organized to promote new girls at one of the bars, she joined us with a friend and wasn’t fussed when I spent most of my time with the bar staff only to lovingly hold me and join me in their conversation whenever I returned. There were many moments the same where her attentiveness and loving were unswerving and I never experienced any of the ‘Thai’ sulks or freezing out, she was the dutiful ‘wife’ and beautiful mistress you wish to meet. Are we still together; no, it was me that coldly ended the relationship before I fell in love. It may have lasted or it may have ended like Trevs but that in itself would still have been good. Have we met since, yes but that’s another shorter story.
@@theturist why did you break up with her? Any particular reason? So sad. Sounds like she was genuinely in love with you...
@@alexanders4911 think about it , it was PERFECT .... he knew deep down that wouldn't of lasted . it was not worth the risk
I’m coming in feb . I can’t wait Trev . I was supposed to come last year but couldn’t risk it with the 19 regulations.
I'm sure you'll have a fantastic time
I’d read your book, just for fun. I loved the ST way of life, with the wide spectrum of TG's it offered and its limited liability, with costs always under control. Talking in past tense as I haven’t been back yet after the scamdemic.
Thank you very much
If she's questioning what you are, or not, paying her, there is no question you should leave. Simply go a few kilometers away from the tourist areas and you will find ladies who will never ask you for money; they're down-to-earth and normal.
Gotcha
A healthy way of seeing thai life as a foreigner.
Everything you buy: house, car, motorbike etc is gifted to Thailand until the exception happens.
The key word is renting and don´t buy anything you can not afford to give away.
Gotcha mate
Yes, 100% rigth they have to feel that once you are not there they will loose all the things you have. Otherwise they will kick your ass as soon as they get what they were waiting to get
I goto Thailand a lot and none of these have ever happened to me. But I dont go into long term relationships with what should be short term fun times.
fair one mate
Oi oi phuket still raining so I be arriving Saturday get that AFC shirt on for next weekend the yids are coming another good video my experience with Thai gf the period last a lot longer ...I leave it at that see you the weekend ...COYS
haha cheers mate, hope to meet ya
Starbucks and McDonald's is everywhere. I went to Botswana 6 years ago and was amazed America is everywhere. Even the music and TV shows
Haha cheers mate
The vast majority of bar ladies have lots of boyfriends. It only gets complicated for them when two turn up at the same time. If they go with you instead of the other bloke it's only because you are giving them more money. It's only business to them, nothing to do with anything else.
yes , correct .
I shared the story a long time ago about a girl I met in a bar who was very kind to me as I was getting further involved with her she stopped me in my tracks and showed me four sponsors that she had. She told me what each one sent her and that she was going to marry the fourth guy. We have stayed friends over the last 10 years and she did exactly what she told me and is now living in Germany and has been for the last 5 years married with one child.
@@Buzzinpattaya Yeh I know a lady a mate went with about 12 years ago. I saw her in July and she had just got married and was moving to Sweden. The same mate married a Thai about 6 years ago and she moved to England. As soon as she got her British nationality she blew him out and took half his money, he can't even afford a holiday now.
‘My friend ‘ I’m meeting next week after chatting for 10 months , I met on Thai friendly. Not a bat girl , works in office , lives with sister .. non drinker , no tattoos lol 😆 .. We shall see how it pans out .. wish me luck 😅..
Now this sounds like a good plan. I'd still avoid marriage or any other legal commitment.
It’s a miracle you need by the sounds of it, but all the best.
What's a bat girl?
@@keef6586 it may be ok. Shall see
@@RonDevito taking it as I find it .. open minded
I have a guy at work here in sweden that married a Thai woman, he sees her twice a year and sends her 22 000 baht a month for her expenses, I think that's a truly terrible deal.
Wow
Your friend must be crazy.
Cuckoldus Maximus is his name 😂😂😂
@@Batman-wv5ng I think so too, but to each their own
Who sees her the rest of the year ?
Not a bad job...borderline brilliant. More interesting than most, quite accurate and detailed. Chocolate Man in Thailand (an example of what not to do unless you have too much money) is off the rails but he has great eye candy...plenty of subscribers so I guess he can afford it. I plan on going to the local University and teach a little English to a few select students and teachers.
Outside looking in he's paying well over the eye candys worth
He has NO IDEA what he is doing at all.
“Great eye candy’…….really?
Without sounding rude or arrogant I don't watch other UA-camrs simply because I don't want to see someone's content if especially I was going to produce the same content from my own view. But whatever he does as long as he's happy I guess that's all that really matters at the end of the day.
@@Buzzinpattaya , this is the 4th or 5th video I have seen on Thai GF’s in the past 2 months, so it is not working. The funniest videos are the ones where the you tubers are all traveling together and making the same videos. Real original.
As I was always told, ‘you can make a whore out of a wife, but you can not make a wife out of a white’ . It is great advice.
Thanks Professor Trev! Great info! Moral of the story...Don't fall in love.
Learned it from my friends in Singapore: “Fire & Forget”.. although I am a very hard learner! it cost me almost an average local salary with subsequently one Romanian, and 4 Viet girls. All beauties and sweet.. no regrets, don’t focus on the money you could have saved, many good moments.
haha thanks mate
@@BambinoAmericano As long you had fun brother! As long as you had fun. Live life with NO regrets and happy m8! Cheers!
@@dawgbrooks5706 cheers 🍻
Just remember gents she is not your girlfriend ?, it's just your turn as long as you have money !.
Indeed
Yep u never lose your g/f just your turn 😂😊😀
I can see what kind of men go to Thailand
Stirring the porridge
Same as with any woman anywhere!
One of the best .... she was 35 met in food court little bit of flerting but seemed nice got the food from a street vendor and we sat on the beach Didn't like me talking to other girls tho But the day's had were the best .... shame i only had 3 day's with her before i went home
Thanks for sharing
She also knew about your discord site ... and told me a lot of the girls in the bar's watch what's going on ... she seemed very honest even said she worked in a bar for 5 year's. But as she was getting old that not for her want normal life. Am going back in January and can't wait 🤗
@@chrislecouteur2360 Something similar happened to me too.
But when I came to Pattaya again after 7 months she "was in Bangkok" - as I understand it is a common way to postpone a meeting while she is being busy with another "boyfriend".
I really hope that it will not happen to you my friend.
For me it was like a cold shower.
I had travelled half the world to see her again.
We spent some time together in the end, yes, and it was really good.
But the illusion was shattered, I was reminded that she was just another sex worker whatever she tells me.
Some real things to remember here Trev. It brings some valid points home to me. I have been coming to Pattaya a while now and met some new friends in August, it is so easy to get caught in a trap and you need to have your wits about you. My friend is different!! 😂😂😂😂. Keep up the good work mate 👍🏻
Indeed my friend and yes I know who you are talking about and it's very hard to distance yourself particularly when there are emotions involved. Just tried to remain calm keep a clear head and make balanced decisions
Awesome 😎 wholly accurate and reliable advice,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
Very welcome my friend
I'm either fortunate or wiser than most. I've lived in Pattaya for 3 years and my GF's don't cost me anything but occasional nights night for dinner or bar hopping once a month or so. Why pay for risky bargirls when there are so many normal girls who are wide open to dating and or marrying foreigners.
Nice one mate
Are you noticing LESS pretty thai girls? 🤔
I dated a Thai lady for 3 years she came almost every night to my place I mostly paid the bigger percentage of the bills sometimes paid the whole bill but it wasn't expensive restaurants we didn't go out much just occasionally coffee shop or get kfc ect . Usually we ate at home and sometimes she would bring something with to eat . She also paid sometimes and sometimes I went to her house to eat she would cook for me I probably spend monthly under 3000 baht more then I would have if I was single , She also bought me sometimes clothing or something for my room. True Lady
Fair one mate, it can happen as you have stated, great share
Today I learned unicorns exist and speak Thai.
Why only three years?
Working girls and non working girls are a different world mostly... can't compare them, no matter what country you are in. Of course if you choose to date a prostitute, you have to accept all the strings and headaches potentially. I have had normal Thai partners and it's nothing like this. I have also had working partners and it was exactly like this if not worse... haha.
Lesson for me is... use working girls for what they are supposed to be used for to avoid headaches and all the bullshit. Plus it feels better not having a girl that's been creamed by 1000s of others and is probably mentally messed up from it in many ways.
Don't turn a hoe into a housewife because most of the time it fails. Yes there is success stories but it's a BIG coin to flip and you could lose everything if you are a fool.
Enjoy!
Thanks for sharing mate
A ho is a ho.... Do not try to reason or think logical. They are broken like a glass mirror. Do not waste money or time trying to repair broken women in society.
Great info, Have you ever done a video discussing what went wrong with your ex Thai partner?
I've been off many times so I will do a video on this very soon
Wry informative, thanks!!❤
You're welcome 😊
Short time
Short time hotel
Short time vacation
This is the way.
Haha good man
Hi trev, I’ve probably lived everything you’ve said over the years and much more, , I’ve learnt my lesson now, but would I do it all again , in a heartbeat 😂🙏
Absolutely mate
Life's not a rehearsal mate. Enjoy yourself especially if there's more days behind you than in front of you.
Some girls just want company or companionship. Money isn't an issue to some. Me living up north I care for myself and always pay for myself. When my bf comes to visit from usa. He not pay anything when here. (I may be the rare type of thai 5555).
Good shout
I'll nip up for a couple weeks until Bf Comes back lol
@@pattayamayor8106 5555+
Do you have any sisters ? Lol
@@alanblackford2962 no.
trev, what about tipping? like in the bars and stuff. what's expected
will do a video on this
20 baht is pretty common. Once I went to a good restaurant and tipped 500THB. Everyone was looking at me as we left. I thought it wasn’t a massive tip given the price and quality. Darling said to me that they were looking because it was 500THB and too much.
Good video Trevor! On your own Thai Friendly account, do you tell them you're married or do you leave that out?
I don't have one but if I did I would have it when I was single and would share that
I'm a short time specialist. Too much hassle with long time.
Nice one
Not a question of hassle Dan, it would bore me stiff being with them long time. 👍
Excellent Video.
I think everyone that has been to Pattaya a few times or many times.
Should warn newbies NOT to fall in Love but rather maintain Lust only relationships 3 days at a time with a different Woman each time.
Do not seek out a serious exclusive relationship with a Thai girl that will eventually be a Girlfriend then a Fiancee' Then a Prison Guard! Unless You are retired and living in Thailand. Have a Lot of Baht and a Lot of Baht she does not know about!
Thanks mate much appreciated
How about a video of the benefits and advantages of having a Thai girlfriend 🙏
yeah good shout
Only one!
They can sort out your Thai bills, cook, clean, shag, stops your partying every night.
there aren't any lol , that's why nobody has done a video on that topic .
@@farangutan6773 absolute rubbish
If UA-cam and the likes of these videos had been available when lots of us first went to Thailand we would have saved a small fortune in gone never to be seen again baht, thanks for posting Trev.
If only my friend it would have saved me a fair few Bob as well
I saw that you walked by a thc smoke shop. Does that mean weed is legal in thailand? or is it hemp flower sprayed with synthetic thc? I would have thought thailand would be very strict on drugs and such. can anyone fill me in on the weed scene in pattaya or thailand?
Yes they are now legal here
They have had a 3 month trial
Full legalisation.. I think its just ending.. But you you can buy it. You can own it.. But there is a fine if you get caught smoking it.. Medical is 100%legal anyway but practically no thc in it. They keep moving the goal posts so be careful. You can ask 3 people and get 3 different answers. But in short there is plenty available
Yes some are selling cbd buds but others are selling the proper herb in stalls on the street, really nice green.
Weed for sale everywhere now, it’s not illegal anymore, you can get it delivered like Food Panda 😂
The Real Cost for a Girlfriend: All your assets till nothing's left. The End.
🤣🤣
Lol
Yep Ron they'll take the shirt off your back.
There was a good quote from a US millionaire who said, if it flies, floats or fornicates, always rent it!
Indeed
You can take the girl out the bar...but you can't take the bar out the girl! Was told this many years ago and from what i've seen and heard, it's fairly accurate. However, if you don't buy a ticket, you won't win the raffle!
True mate, it is a risk
oo dear now i know the facts . very interesting indeed
Glad you enjoyed it
Again a good chat , regarding go out down say Soi 6 with mates , we used to use code ,ie Soi 6 was “were off down half a dozen or box of eggs” mates still use this method and as far as I know nobody has been captured . Cheers Chris
Half a dozen is very common LOL
Not so much in the late 90s
The real cost of a Thai girlfriend - Your money, your dignity, your self respect and in some cases your life😉😉. Dont forget to observe the 3 day rule. Or if you're properly switched on the 3 hour rule.
Well said
You can die?
Very simple....dont do girlfriends....enjoy holiday, no need bar fine, meet girl in nightclub. Negotiate there if have to...most times no real cost involved if your a cool dude. And smart .
Thank you for sharing
They'll order half the menu and then just leave most of it having spent most of the meal looking at her phone. And then quite likely make deal behind your back to get commission from the waitress from the huge bill you will have to pay for all the uneaten food. Thankfully I gave all this up years ago.
Man you got that nailed lol
Hey Tre after the 1st off oct. 45 day visa. Can I extend the 45 days?
Coming mid November 🇬🇧
Please would you ask Darren an email him info@keyvisathailand.com as he is the expert in this and I don't want to give you wrong information
Brilliant observations and advice, Trevor. You know how it works...🙏
Indeed my man, even got the T-shirt LOL
Just be polite to the girls, and be nice to them.. The most of the time y,ll have a great time😊
So true
it works well for me they luuuv me 555
I just got back from PATTAYA, found a WOMAN (not GIRL) my age 56. Started a relationship, talk everyday, planning to return to her in the future. Everything seams good, she works in a massage studio that's how I met her, should I be worried? I have no problem paying her way.... I've been doing that for the last 40 years with every white girl I've dated anyway so what's the difference?
Fair play mate
In my personal experience if they remain in the tourist areas they continue with their previous patterns, they just do it in a different way, the only way you will get her to be faithful is if she goes ack to the village and works/hangs out with her family not the working girl friends.
@@davejackson1270 She's not a working girl, she's older and works in Thai massage in Pattaya but not in the tourist area, She's not getting alot of attention since there are so many young girls out there to choose from, that's why I picked her. I only date women my age.
I say go for it! Anything is a go for the thrill but when it comes to mention of big sums of money its a no-go! As simple as that!
@@kenji4596 Yes you're correct, but I've been giving my money away to every girl I've dated here in Canada 🇨🇦 for the last 40 years anyway at least this one is happy with little money and SHE TREATS ME LIKE A KING, never got that from any Canadian woman.
Love the TSHIRT
Cheers
I think in the immediate term, more costly, at least for people from the UK, is the falling value of the £. A year ago the exchange rate was around 46.1 and now it is around 41.5. that means that an ex-pat on a pension of around £2k a month, is now getting around 9000 Baht less each month than this time last year. A few belts might have to be tightened for a while.
I agree the exchange rate is not in their favor
Spot on Trev ! I was lucky coz my 1st thai gf was a hairdresser who i met thru a mate of mine, and my thai wife was a tour operator so i didnt have to mess about with bar fines etc, i compensated them for loss of earnings in the early days coz like u say if they weren't wiv u they'd be earning so its only right and fair. Again i was fortunate as neither treated me like a mobile ATM, and i had no costly suprises waiting for me😎
Thanks for sharing your experience with us
So tell me why have a long term girlfriend?
maybe people want to settle down
@@Buzzinpattaya you might have better odds with a slot machine
@@vgshwk Totally depends on her age. If we're talking about a 20 year old stunner, sure. There are plenty of 35+ year olds who are looking to get out of the business and settle down.
If you live in pattaya if not wise the fuck up 🤣
@@CaptainKremmen once a ho always a ho
great video! well, the easiest thing to pick up a thai woman, and the most fun, thai women are amazing
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Hi Trevor, Have you written your book on excuses yet? If not would you like a few?With over 20 years working in Bangkok I have a nice collection. They include a Mango farm, a dentist,a wooden door and an Issan lass gold medal standard at lying but with a bad memory. Also a a few unbelievable stories. One, being an engineer being kidnapped by a girl who turned out to have been deported from the US. The mysterious case of a girl having 3 ovaries removed
and of a girl having plastic breast surgery that were uneven to look at. One was a good 3cm lower than the other.
Wow lol
Brilliant video Trevor. Online book sounds great 👍
I think an online book would be great fun and easy reading
Nice Trev, I did virtually same video the other dat on my channel. Makes me laugh how we come to conclusions. Mine is RENT BY THE HOUR
haha cheers
Alternative option. Go to the gym, smell nice, and meet a nice girl whos not a hooker. I've been to Thailand a dozen times and am retiring there this year (still in my 30s), and have never once paid for a girl. Closest to paying for it is having a Thai girlfriend and you want to go on a trip. Beyond that, this video is ridiculously accurate lol, took a girl out who was like 35 kg and was disturbed at the shocking amount of food she could eat.
They are eating machines lol
@Buzzin Pattaya 😂 this is also true. Was on a date with a girl who couldn't have been more than 80 lbs and she ate like her body weight.
How can they eat so much?
@@alexanders4911 😂😂😂😂 like the above comment, they are eating machines. No idea where it goes
Never believe what a Thai girl tells you - even the time of day, always double check!
Hahaha true that mate
For every successful bargirl relationship, there are probably 99 that turned into a train wreck. Bargirls are for entertainment, not a relationship.
Sad but true
How much was the figures so cool and helpful tips like always thanks 😊
Glad you enjoyed!
Here's a crazy idea for a video - the best spots to find a "regular" girl if you're in Thailand for an extended period i.e. >6 mos
cheers mate, aim for shopping malls, festivals and nighclubs
The book has already been written.
Money Number 1. And others.
Thank you for sharing one was more of a list of excuses etc and all the other stuff it wasn't meant to be serious