Losing it all to a Pattaya bar girl, it's easier than you think, I did!

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  • Опубліковано 29 вер 2022
  • So easy to lose your heart, mind and bank account to a Pattaya girl, I share my story with you.
    I never expected this but it happens and I had no idea it was coming my way!
    Have you lost much to a relationship over here in Pattaya, Thailand?
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 6 тис.

  • @markdonovan1540
    @markdonovan1540 Рік тому +125

    There were at least two things you did right:
    1. Leave the UK
    2. Get out of that situation alive and live and learn from your experience.
    What a catalogue of errors, with all the signs on the wall that you couldn't see because of wanting, albeit not consciously, to live a fantasy. It all sounds like confessions of a fool with more money than sense, but by sharing this video you might prevent some other blind idiots from falling for the same scam. Divoced men with good financials are the prime target for any "love hook" scam, among other things. This can happen anywhere in the world, part particularly in large cities where many people are driven by money. In a poor country like Thailand, there will be even more people from poor backgrounds that try to find a way out of poverty. The mass tourism, which includes "sex tourism" (I know you didn't go there for that) will attract both types to "the party" - those vulnerable to (sometimes driven by) various desires and those willing to fulfill them for a PRICE and then back out of "the deal", but with all the benefits on their side!
    The bit about her having cancer and then you wait outside while she goes into the hospital, that is clear as day the sign that it was a lie.
    The Internet is plagued by websites to tempt men and women into situations that then go badly wrong. In this case, you managed to do it live and direct while trying to make a new start in life. Fortunately, you seem to have broad shoulders and are now able to reflect on it and put it all behind you. You sound like an overly trusting person, gullible even, so take your time and don't assume others will see things or do things as you would.
    If you've suffered depression, then you should be working on yourself first. Get to the bottom of your issues and transform yourself. Leave the temptations to massage your ego, it will always lead to pain, shame, etc. If you don't really know yourself, or at least be working towards it, then how can you really expect to find love and happiness with another, especially when you don't know anything about them and you're in another country and there are huge language and culture differences. Take your time to get to know a person in real life, not in bars and clubs. Don't fall for the emotional or other "good time" triggers without finding out what's real first. Look at yourself hard, but also give yourself a chance and be positive not needy.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +25

      Thoroughly enjoyed reading your comment and I agree with all you said. I think the moral of this story was that at the time I was vulnerable and despite I didn't come out here looking for a relationship due to the fact that I was shown some attention it cascaded into a windfall of pain. And yes you are right looking at yourself is far more important than looking at what others think.
      But thankfully every cloud has a silver lining and now I'm extremely happily married with a fantastic wife and someone that actually wants to be with me for me rather than for what I can give.
      Thank you again for your comment

    • @markdonovan1540
      @markdonovan1540 Рік тому +15

      @@Buzzinpattaya I edited it a few times, as I felt I was being a bit harsh at first, so hopefully it didn't come across like that in the end. I did see some stupid and negative comments, so that prompted me to write something a bit more balanced.
      I meant to add that being in Thaliand, you have easy access to some very good places where they either teach or practise such things as meditation, Tai Chi and Tai Yoga Massage - any of which, or all for that matter, would be tremendously beneficial to you. If you have the time and money to do such things, then in Thailand you will find very good teachers and schools - obviously there'll be a few charlatans too, so do your due diligence first. Good luck and enjoy wonderful Thaliand, which is one of my places to visit. I actually have a granddaughter whose mother is Thai, so I'm sure I'll go there one day.

    • @americaninthailand8760
      @americaninthailand8760 Рік тому +5

      Great advice and insight.

    • @mall231
      @mall231 Рік тому +2

      Leave the UK are you from there ?

    • @markdonovan1540
      @markdonovan1540 Рік тому +2

      @@mall231 yep, born and bred, as they say

  • @jonathanfoster4243
    @jonathanfoster4243 Рік тому +220

    I remember I went to Phuket with the wife in the early 90s on two weeks holiday, after a week it was changeover day and the lads from Manchester probably early 30s were saying goodbye to their Thai girlfriends there was hugs, kissed, crying, the girls were crying the lads were crying the girls were on their knees pulling at their hair distraught, the lads were promising to keep in touch, come back, send money, it was all very distressing, that was about 5pm, we went out for dinner about 9.30 pm and those girls were in the restaurant with the new arrivals that had come on the plain the Manc lads were going home on, not a care in the world, laughing, kissing, flirting, happy as and I just thought about the Manc lads, on the plain still, all miserable and making plans for their future with the Thai girls......

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +16

      Hahaha brilliant mate

    • @zdd22fixes47
      @zdd22fixes47 Рік тому +11

      Lol, i watch a "so called" mate get caught like this, he put thousands into it too! Multiple times to different whores too lol...

    • @paulwally9007
      @paulwally9007 Рік тому +27

      This story should be written on every visa issued for Thailand.

    • @antoniotula262
      @antoniotula262 Рік тому +6

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I've witnessed that in the DR.

    • @zdd22fixes47
      @zdd22fixes47 Рік тому +2

      @@paulwally9007 no way! It's amusement for the locals an ex-pats... nothing funnier than watching the boys drinking the sugar water!
      Wakey wakey, love is a business in some towns eh

  • @jakeenan
    @jakeenan Рік тому +185

    So many guys who come to live in Pattaya.....who were married, now divorced, with kids now grown up.....think they are gonna be that guy they were before being married.....but that guy is long dead and they revert back to what they know: marriage and kids. And the cycle begins again. Plus, the majority of guys CANNOT live alone. They confuse boredom with loneliness. Big mistake.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +11

      Indeed mate

    • @davidcole1670
      @davidcole1670 Рік тому +15

      That’s a very good observation, well done alone does not mean lonely 👍

    • @tomgodheart4557
      @tomgodheart4557 Рік тому +9

      So fuckin true dude

    • @s3any1977
      @s3any1977 Рік тому +12

      'They confuse boredom with loneliness'. Spot on.

    • @AG-so4gl
      @AG-so4gl Рік тому +26

      It puzzles me why bar girls are even the first thought. It shows the character of the man, no?. Can easily meet professional corporate / government workers in the malls, shops, restaurants. Its called - making an effort.

  • @keegan773
    @keegan773 7 місяців тому +16

    A fool and his money are easily parted.
    An old fool and his money are parted even faster.

  • @striproyale
    @striproyale Рік тому +7

    There are very few 20 minute UA-cam videos that keep my attention. A human story from someone with nothing to prove, but a great deal of valuable experience - thanks for sharing.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому

      Just sharing what happened to me mate, cheers

  • @rogersmith9705
    @rogersmith9705 Рік тому +9

    “A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than you love yourself.” 🐕 Thanks Trevor for sharing your experience. ❤👍

    • @sassasins031
      @sassasins031 Рік тому

      And if you don't feed it then it will leave too.

    • @rogersmith9705
      @rogersmith9705 Рік тому

      @@sassasins031 100% right .. Always remember the 3 ''F'' rule to keep your girl .. F**k, Feed and Finance.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      I love my two dogs

  • @senianns9522
    @senianns9522 Рік тому +7

    I went through all that crap 20 years ago! She moved her family into the house I had bought. She 'disappeared' somewhere with 'her car' ! I took the 2 very young kids with me to a small rental house in town. As I was working I hired a maid. Engaged a lawyer, he was fantastic. I took her to court for divorce and custody of kids, and division of estate. All went well, Thai court were excellent! I paid her out a bit, kept the kids and got the house back after about 1 year! House was 'gutted' all furniture taken by family, but eventually it all came back together! She never contacted the kids for 7 years! Kids are now through University, well educated and working. The days of living on 'Elm Street' are lone gone! So don't worry--over time it all comes good! *I'll never ever get involved again! ** Pay for play and 'walk away'. Good honest report Trevor! Well done!

    • @davothefirst9371
      @davothefirst9371 Рік тому

      Pay for pleasure Na !

    • @shabbos-goy9407
      @shabbos-goy9407 Рік тому

      A sorry story that is not rare.
      They a wired to fk you over.
      Definitely do not marry!!

    • @paulhomer7882
      @paulhomer7882 Рік тому +2

      same here mate never again

  • @stevencarter9318
    @stevencarter9318 Рік тому +4

    Thanks for sharing man loved your honesty

  • @alistairrobinson3865
    @alistairrobinson3865 Рік тому +4

    Massive respect for sharing your story, appreciate hearing it

  • @matthewgreen9062
    @matthewgreen9062 Рік тому +12

    Trev my heart goes out to you mate
    I’ve been battling cancer since I was 30 and now 38 . I’ve had my teeth and tongue removed at such a young age and I can’t believe how someone could lie about such a thing !!! Thai people just love money and it always happens to nice guys . Stay strong mate and can’t wait to visit Thailand 🙏

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +7

      I'm not quite sure how to respond to you other than saying I wish that you make a full and speedy recovery and everything's okay mate..... Stay strong

    • @markjenner7199
      @markjenner7199 Рік тому +1

      So sorry to hear that Iam sixty and by the grace of God have not faced cancer yet it's the one that needs to be defeated sooner than later all the best in the future mate

  • @ingwisingwis8336
    @ingwisingwis8336 Рік тому +9

    Big respect for telling us your story. This is great. Looks like in the end everything went very well for you.

  • @howwwwwyyyyy
    @howwwwwyyyyy 3 місяці тому +7

    Fell for the first woman I met in Thailand!!!!-19 years later we're still together, she's ace & Burmese

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  3 місяці тому +1

      wow nice one mate fair play to you

  • @philrobinson476
    @philrobinson476 Рік тому +2

    wow Trevor, really enjoyed this vid. its a part of life that lots of us experience but never talk about. never thought that i would sit for 20 mins listening to someone just talking. thank you

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому

      Thanks mate, just wanted to show how easy this can happen

  • @wotreeclapton
    @wotreeclapton Рік тому +9

    When I first came, here a good older friend of mine who had been round the block said to me "They are born lying, don't trust or believe anything they say. Pay them to leave the next morning it's the only way."
    That advice has stood me in good stead for 7+ years now.

  • @johnclark7973
    @johnclark7973 Рік тому +7

    Trev, you're one keep it real/ straight shooter! I appreciate you so much. I don't know if you actually realize how much you help us total newbies. It's a lot!
    This video has a lot of views and comments, so it was of interest and of value to many!

  • @kenweber2619
    @kenweber2619 7 місяців тому +3

    I simply love this video. So honest and raw. Cheers my friend. Love all your vids.

  • @VictorLopez-nn8nx
    @VictorLopez-nn8nx Рік тому +2

    Thanks for your story, love the honesty, and keep them coming.

  • @franksu9735
    @franksu9735 Рік тому +8

    Most of people would not talk about their bad experience , i admire your courage .

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      Just thought if nothing else it would show how it happens

  • @TheLegenDacster
    @TheLegenDacster Рік тому +6

    Good on you for making such an excellent effort to explain your honest and heartfelt experiences, in order to help others. Very happy that things turned out so well in your life. All the best.

  • @daveharris2941
    @daveharris2941 Рік тому +4

    Great episode.
    Well spoken, heartfelt and sincere....
    Cudos to you

  • @williambarry70
    @williambarry70 6 місяців тому +3

    Trevor thank you so much for sharing your story your honesty and frankness say a great deal about your kind and positive character .

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  6 місяців тому +1

      No worries mate, just sharing it can happen to us all

  • @juliangilbert5465
    @juliangilbert5465 Рік тому +14

    Good of you to be so honest, telling your story even though it shows you to be naive, but to warn other men. That takes balls. Kudos to you.
    Mind you, I'm not sure this story is exclusive to Thai women. The story could be in any country. 😉

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +4

      Yeah I was dumb but we emotions are involved it's easy to lose reality

    • @stevenfinch9026
      @stevenfinch9026 Рік тому +1

      @@Buzzinpattaya true mt

    • @paulwally9007
      @paulwally9007 Рік тому +1

      It COULD be in any country -if you're unlucky. But in Thailand it's practically an industry.

    • @bammbammsummers6346
      @bammbammsummers6346 Рік тому +1

      Yes it happened to me Thai dr Philippines it’s a sad deal we are only a atm for there family enjoy while it last rent don’t buy they still get a lot for nothing in the end

  • @louistavernia8163
    @louistavernia8163 Рік тому +7

    Wow, what a great story. Very honest and not expected from the usual content. You always seem to be afraid about going out of your comfort zone, but I think you should trust your instincts because that is where your content seems to be your best. Just my opinion. This personal story is much appreciated. Thank you for sharing.

  • @charleshardison7211
    @charleshardison7211 Рік тому +5

    What a very candid heartfelt story; which can really help other fellows avoid similar pitfalls. Respect! God bless.

  • @Mike-we2hb
    @Mike-we2hb Рік тому +3

    You live and learn fella. So pleased to see you still standing!! Keep that chin up keep up the good work, keep the vids coming. And I’m deffo out there in October

  • @jasonjames4254
    @jasonjames4254 Рік тому +6

    You've helped someone, somewhere, from making the same mistake you did. Thank You!

  • @paulmorgan6269
    @paulmorgan6269 Рік тому +6

    You've been through a lot Trev. I really wish you well in the years ahead.
    You deserve it mate. Keep up please with the updates and video's.

  • @RubenMartinez-zo2pj
    @RubenMartinez-zo2pj 8 місяців тому +4

    Thanks for sharing your story!

  • @RR-xu5xk
    @RR-xu5xk Рік тому +2

    This is one of the better stories I have ever watched on youtube. thanks for sharing.

  • @jkay7850
    @jkay7850 Рік тому +7

    Waaaw....A real life experience presented in a way that most reasonable people would understand and appreciate that at the very least "the journey and experiences of life" sometimes take us to places and situations that we never ever imagined. Thanks for sharing. It's stories like this that help make the "road" a bit easier to travel for some of us no matter where we go or find ourselves. Live long, live happy, live healthy and keep doing what you do. Cheers.

  • @user-vt3xf3vm1v
    @user-vt3xf3vm1v 8 місяців тому +5

    The best lessons come from the most painful experiences! And you've learned, grown and matured from those difficult endeavors.. Most importantly, you are resilient and able to bounce back and recover fairly quickly, with minimal damage and a good attitude. We, (you, me and everyone) really lose when we cant trust again or have bitterness, anger or resentment. Good job, great attitude and good luck, sir.

  • @RacerRoss
    @RacerRoss 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for being honest and genuine, it helps guys looking at this from a distance.

  • @jerryclemens1474
    @jerryclemens1474 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for your honesty in all of these presentations!

  • @Ezzynah
    @Ezzynah Рік тому +7

    No mate, you're spot on. It's not as easy as it may sound to just walk away from things like that. But on the bright side, you came out the other side happier and stronger. All the best to you, mate. People like her will get their comeuppance one day.

  • @duncanboard9452
    @duncanboard9452 Рік тому +6

    Well done Trev for sharing a difficult story. Takes a lot of guts and she lost more in the long run

  • @awlonghurst
    @awlonghurst Рік тому +4

    Fair play to you sharing your story and you're so humble and honest about it too. Hopefully it can help someone else avoid being swindled. I'm impressed you're so cheerful and positive, and I wish you all the best for 2023

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      One of life's learning curves

    • @awlonghurst
      @awlonghurst Рік тому

      @@Buzzinpattaya honestly, I think you're stronger than me, if what happened to you had happened to me I'm not sure I'd have coped. So your fortitude impresses me. Been 6 years since I was last in Thailand, now that things are opening up after Covid I'll have to take a trip there again.

  • @alanking5001
    @alanking5001 Рік тому +2

    Thanks for sharing that , sounds like you're in a good place now .
    Love your positive attitude pal thats a great asset to have never lose it .

  • @klaviere1
    @klaviere1 Рік тому +6

    Unfortunately as an Austrian guy I'm not able to follow you in every talk of you because of your quick and special "dialect", but this video was very emotional for me. Its a fact, coming to Thailand it is very easy to fall in love, belonging to me this happens within
    just 2 or 3 days...
    Until now I didn't loose some money, thanks God.
    On the other hand I met a lot of expat married for many years with a Thai lady and they are very happy..
    It can be good or bad everywhere in the world. But many thanks for giving this deep inside in one part of your life and as you mentioned very often, it was also a nice phase of live too....

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +2

      Gotcha mate and yes you can find happiness here for sure, just take it day by day

  • @retthok
    @retthok Рік тому +26

    Men, everywhere in general and especially where you are; nothing more than walking cash registers. I never take anything women tell me seriously.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +2

      indeed

    • @georgebrooks3873
      @georgebrooks3873 Рік тому +2

      @@Buzzinpattaya I know many men here in the US that make much less than their wives. I know one guy who is a contractor who has never made more than $40k a year. His wife is a nurse practitioner that makes $150k a year plus has the health insurance through her employer. He gets drunk everyday. She never stops bitching but won’t leave. It’s not always the man who taken advantage of.

    • @thebign8886
      @thebign8886 Рік тому

      💯

    • @jimmydempsey6857
      @jimmydempsey6857 Рік тому

      @@georgebrooks3873 Yep it can work both ways, men also relieve women of cash. Got to keep an even keel on it 👍

    • @mcpablo8123
      @mcpablo8123 Рік тому

      Good man Trevor

  • @sajitfernando8888
    @sajitfernando8888 8 місяців тому +2

    You are absolutely right. Really appreciate your straightforward talk.

  • @ricksmith7308
    @ricksmith7308 6 місяців тому +2

    Trev,, not boring in the slightest!
    I love how honest you are, your ex, depression etc.
    Respect

  • @darrenjones3118
    @darrenjones3118 Рік тому +7

    Thanks Trev
    Just been through it.
    4 years then the silent treatment overnight.
    Lost so much because it’s not worth trying to fight for it.
    Killed my dream, but hopefully rebuild 🙏

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +3

      Sorry for this mate, stay strong

    • @senianns9522
      @senianns9522 Рік тому +4

      Now you know for sure! Don't look back, turn it into a new life opportunity! Good luck, walk don't run. Cheers!

    • @CrazyClips876
      @CrazyClips876 Рік тому

      Fool me once shame on you fool me twice………….

    • @darrenjones3118
      @darrenjones3118 Рік тому

      @@CrazyClips876 anything you would like to say ?????

    • @CrazyClips876
      @CrazyClips876 Рік тому

      @@darrenjones3118 simply saying you made a mistake and to learn from it and not do it again. Rent everything never buy no matter what a Thai woman tells you or how much she”loves” you.

  • @Baz-ur7wv
    @Baz-ur7wv Рік тому +8

    Respect for telling your story Trevor....I just got away from an Ex Gogo (38 years old) a real expert! ..She was playing the long game, eyeing up all the assets, condo (although it was 100% Foreign Freehold, best move ever)..It's taken a lot of effort to walk away as she was incredibly sexy and fun but dangerous. I had to totally block all contact and never look back, saying nothing . It still hurts ,but I know I did the right thing and consider myself V lucky. I listened to my gut and instinct at the time. I would have lost a lot more if not the lot and then just been replaced eventually, I am 100% sure of that.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      Thank you too for sharing what I can imagine is a very painful experience you're going through and yes it's very hard to walk away when emotions are involved

    • @jimmydempsey6857
      @jimmydempsey6857 Рік тому

      She must have been frustrated Baz that the fish slipped off the hook, lot of time and planning must go into the long con 🥴

  • @ben_dovers
    @ben_dovers 5 місяців тому +2

    2 more days until im there. Can’t wait! See you there!

  • @mrb3483
    @mrb3483 6 місяців тому +4

    I like your honesty, great story 💯👍

  • @milkybar6276
    @milkybar6276 Рік тому +6

    Thanks for sharing your experience. It's easy for people to sit back and judge or make fun, but it could easily happen to anyone.

  • @michaelmallal9101
    @michaelmallal9101 Рік тому +5

    My Filipina wife has taken me down too after 14 years marriage. Nice to hear you're now happy.

  • @dpledoone
    @dpledoone Рік тому +2

    You are a man of the highest integrity and are a role model. Thank you for sharing your story of perseverance.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому

      Just wanted people to see how easy it is to fall into this type of situation

  • @terrycurzon1318
    @terrycurzon1318 7 місяців тому +5

    Thanks for sharing your story, absolutely astonishing….proves the old saying what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Glad you finally found happiness. Best wishes for the future mate 👍

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  7 місяців тому +2

      Cheers mate and yeah look forwards not backwards

  • @kennethbulmer8773
    @kennethbulmer8773 Рік тому +9

    The problem is Im an obese bald headed 65 year old but in my minds eye I am still as handsome as I was in my youth. How on earth could that beautiful 25 year old Thai girl resist me. It is pure narcissism on my part...the most attractive part of me is my bank balance and the fact that should I marry a thai girl she wont have too long to wait to inherit my hard earned

  • @fal7178
    @fal7178 Рік тому +5

    Brave story sounds like you a positive person . Thanks for the advice

  • @beautifulandtoolate
    @beautifulandtoolate 7 місяців тому +4

    Respect for sharing! 🤟

  • @jeffgaboury3157
    @jeffgaboury3157 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. That took a great deal of courage.

  • @terrancekenallen2241
    @terrancekenallen2241 Рік тому +10

    Not your girl, it's just your turn. Even if you really like her, just compliment her and let her go. That's all you can ask for. Just be a slag and get in and out. That's life.

  • @keenedgedesigns
    @keenedgedesigns Рік тому +5

    Thanks for putting yourself out there like that.

  • @rossco171
    @rossco171 Рік тому +2

    Wow what an incredibly honest and thought provoking video this was. Really interesting to hear about your experiences and sorry it didn’t work out but really glad there was a silver lining at the end of it all. You didn’t have to share all of those personal experiences with us but glad you did. Very honest and frank appraisal of what could go wrong.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      No probs mate just wanted to share how easy this can happen, all good

  • @merrills8984
    @merrills8984 Рік тому +4

    I love it the dog saying grab a pair and leave her. You traveled down the hard road to success. Congrats!

  • @chrissmall1246
    @chrissmall1246 Рік тому +7

    Trev, your courage is apparent in your vulnerability. To take responsibility and ownership for your mistakes because you were unaware, uneducated in Thai ways and having a big heart and a generous soul is not a bad personality characteristic...it was a life lesson. I did much research on Thai culture and Thai women before relocating to Thailand. I came looking for love and a long-term relationship. I still made many mistakes, nothing catastrophic but certainly those that created a need for adjustments in my perspective and expectations. I came in search of the simple and natural Thai lady from the farming community in the North. We enjoy both worlds, rural and natural farming but also time in Pattaya golfing and Island hopping. After 18 months in Thailand and learning so much... sitting and enjoying a cold Leo on the beach in the early evening in Koh Samui with my Sweetheart I couldn't help but think and say..."This is the life, this is so nice, what a beautiful place, what a beautiful country....thank you Love." We all create our own destiny via our own choices...there are always mistakes. Don't worry about being right all the time, instead try to be wrong less and be grateful for all you have experienced in this wonderful life. My advice, go slow, a little at a time. It is all one big gift...give more than you take. Cheers!

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      Cheers for sharing your experience, yeah life is all about learning curves and I have had a few lol

    • @JaiDii-Thai-
      @JaiDii-Thai- Рік тому

      @Chris Small, ...wow!! First time I read such a intelligent, and very good understanding, .. i guess your a man with loads of life experience, and a deep understanding and writing it. You must have studied psychology, or are a very talented high EQ person,.... I humbly say,... I love meeting people wise as you,... And only listen. I've nothing even close, to add after reading this.
      I'm not being sarcastic !!! I'm not easy sucking up like this,... But i just needed to react to someone's by coincidence, reading another reply...
      Your amazing!! I'm no idiot, but reading this!...i still have much to learn.
      👍 ✌️

  • @maddogmorgan1
    @maddogmorgan1 Рік тому +11

    If it floats, flies or fucks you are always better off renting.

  • @spaceviking4966
    @spaceviking4966 11 місяців тому +3

    Like your channel man. Good stories and insights.

  • @garethnaylorartist
    @garethnaylorartist 7 місяців тому +3

    Great story. Thanks for sharing. I'm glad you found someone.

  • @mikebrady5747
    @mikebrady5747 Рік тому +5

    Glad that you had the emotional and financial resilience to come through this.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +2

      Thanks mate, was a tough time to be fair but hey ho....

  • @bossdog1480
    @bossdog1480 Рік тому +8

    Thai's plan far ahead.
    I know a Thai lady that came to Australia and married a local guy. She sent his money 'home' for years to build a house in her village.
    She was working in my restaurant and she was telling me that she was just about ready to return to Thailand, and her Thai husband, as the house was now finished. 😁

  • @user-yt5ds5yw9z
    @user-yt5ds5yw9z 7 місяців тому

    So very insightful. Love the program!

  • @mikecurley3849
    @mikecurley3849 Рік тому +3

    Good on you for being candid with us mate. It's always the sign of a fully rounded human being when U can share things that went wrong and have a chuckle about it. I reckon 'Private Dancer' should be mandatory in-flight reading for anyone heading to the LOS...

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому

      Just wanted people to see how it works and can happen

  • @steveferry5629
    @steveferry5629 Рік тому +7

    my thai landlady says 'you can take the lady out of the bar, but you can't take the bar out of the lady'.

  • @ruairijoseph9483
    @ruairijoseph9483 Рік тому +10

    ‘I came to Thailand because I love spicy food’ 😂 yes he did actually say that

  • @northforkrunner
    @northforkrunner Рік тому +5

    Give yourself a lot of credit Trevor!! You know what I'm mean.
    Hard lessons, it's about forgiveness and faith.Your good people and that's priceless

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      Thank you very much and yes I don't bear any grudges I've moved on in my life and I'm happier now with my wife than I ever have been

  • @daddypoker23
    @daddypoker23 7 місяців тому +2

    Appreciate you sharing your story with us.

  • @tonydoherty8056
    @tonydoherty8056 Рік тому +16

    Came to Thailand because I love spicy food🤣🤣🤥Give over mate

  • @brioquery
    @brioquery Рік тому +12

    Apart from the bedroom aerobics, what on earth is a middle aged bloke and a 20-something girl going to have in common?

  • @Slipknot-fm8zl
    @Slipknot-fm8zl Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this story about a part of your past. Great things come from tragedy and you meeting your wife is a perfect example of that

  • @lancemackintosh9205
    @lancemackintosh9205 Рік тому +2

    Thankyou for your bravery. I appreciate you for sharing your personal and private journey to help others. One of the hardest things to do ever in life. Cheers.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +2

      No probs mate just want people to see how easy these situations develop

  • @markgarretson689
    @markgarretson689 Рік тому +7

    Hi Trevor, that cancer lie from your ex filled me up with rage. I lost both my sons aged 23 and 29 to cancer two decades back and I can completely relate how you must have felt. Though you’re laughing it off, losing it all isn’t a big joke. I’m so glad that you’re doing well with your present wife and life in Thailand. May it remain like that forever, best wishes.

    • @shabbos-goy9407
      @shabbos-goy9407 Рік тому +1

      Both boys? That’s heavy.
      I wish that on no one.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      I can't imagine how losing your son's must have been, catastrophic at best....so sorry to read this mate, genuinely sending you my best wishes to you...... Fuck that's so hard to get my head around your loss!!!!!!

    • @reread2549
      @reread2549 Рік тому +1

      Yes I lost my father and my older brother to cancer. The only positive thing that I could take away from it was that neither one of them suffered for long. It was fast and they both passed away at home with family around them. Cancer still sucks. I can’t imagine losing two children.

    • @shabbos-goy9407
      @shabbos-goy9407 Рік тому +1

      @@reread2549
      RIP.

    • @shanefcd4004
      @shanefcd4004 Рік тому

      I am very sorry to hear about your son's 😭 my wife was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer on the 19 August, it's spread to her spine and she is now suffering from a fractured spine. I am taking my darling home to The Phillipines in January

  • @southerndiscomfort2412
    @southerndiscomfort2412 Рік тому +6

    Love is a form of madness and once you are fully consumed in it with a Thai lady...it's bloody difficult to walk away. Thanks for the honest video.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому

      Well said mate spot on

    • @expanserecords1290
      @expanserecords1290 Рік тому

      That`s very true. Love is an form of madness and once you are fully consumed in it (epescially with an beautiful, hot thai lady) it is bloody difficult to walk away. I`ve been in the same situation as well, and i know how it feels.

  • @northforkrunner
    @northforkrunner Рік тому +4

    Thanks Trevor, I totally understand the feeling!

  • @alejandrofelix9477
    @alejandrofelix9477 Рік тому +2

    Thanks for your honesty, it is very refreshing. Hopefully very helpful for a lot of men.

  • @geo525252
    @geo525252 Рік тому +6

    A high percentage of these girls are born into the hustle, know the game, and have no qualms about destroying people for fun and profit.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому

      Indeed mate

    • @enrique383
      @enrique383 Рік тому

      your absolutely right but american and latin women do it to just as bad

  • @Jim-wf6xi
    @Jim-wf6xi Рік тому +7

    Very brave to share your storey Trevor. We all can get drawn into the lies over here. For my part having had 4 failed relationships where I sponsored a girl whilst still working and going backwards and forwards, I was about to give up on Thai women. Thats until I met my wife who was 19 and a gogo dancer. 11 years later we are now fully together and married for 8 years. These relationships do work but you just need to find the right one. By the way I am 35 years older than her.

  • @khoduswadia6653
    @khoduswadia6653 Рік тому +1

    Hello .. i thought it was one of the most honest videos I've ever seen.. your guts...honesty..and bravado....hats off to you. Wishing you and mo the very best. God bless

  • @quinnerefc
    @quinnerefc 10 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for sharing, glad things worked out for you in the end!

  • @hotnom1
    @hotnom1 Рік тому +6

    I suffered the same fate, I don't know if you've seen Dave and Nat on Thailand Bound channel but it's a very must see for anyone coming to Thailand.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      I don't follow other tubers, nothing against them just like to sit in my own little word of YT lol

    • @graemethorne4540
      @graemethorne4540 Рік тому +2

      Yes a great show a must watch definitely

  • @jamesmiles4159
    @jamesmiles4159 Рік тому +8

    You lost the girl but got to keep your dogs, that's a good trade in my opinion. You'll get far more loyalty from a dog than you'll ever get from a woman!

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      100% mate, love my dogs

    • @rene_bla_bla
      @rene_bla_bla Рік тому

      so much drama with women in an relationship. good luck with the dogs.

  • @razorwestham5949
    @razorwestham5949 10 місяців тому +4

    So honest love your honesty trevor and all your shows too. Good luck with mo

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  10 місяців тому

      Thanks mate and yeah Mo is worth all I dealt with before

  • @anthonydowling3356
    @anthonydowling3356 Рік тому +6

    An honest story .I can not point the finger as a similar thing happened to me.The house was not B3.7M but B1.4 M but with improvements and money spent on furniture it probably came to B 2M .We lived there 10 years up in Chiang mai .At least i got 10 years where i was rent free and when we sold she did give me B300k . Met her in Pattaya .She had a hair Salon off Soi Bukhao .The shop was flooded out at the time with 50 cm of water .She lived in the back room and her bed was swimming in water.We hit it off.I felt sorry for her and let her stay with me at my tiny Condo in Jomtien.The rest is history and it did work out and i was happy enough for 9 years at least ,until it went pear shaped mainly due to my lack of money .

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      wow thanks for sharing mate, wish you all the best

  • @ross798
    @ross798 6 місяців тому +9

    Alright, let's just get one thing straight here, in Europe, you can get an "escort", and they are many thousands of dollars a month, after all, it's not common for a guy in his 40''s to have a very beautiful girlfriend in her 20's, so, you GOT that for many months. In the United States, had you married someone, bought a house, bought a car, opened a business and then she says goodbye, well, half that is hers. How many men lost their house and car? MILLIONS.
    So, your story is not uncommon in the male/female relationship world, women cost a LOT OF MONEY, what you paid for the house is less than what some pay for the divorce attorney.
    So, don't look at it like you got ripped off, you paid a young woman for sex for a while.

  • @BlueyChandler
    @BlueyChandler 6 місяців тому +3

    I like the way you turned your situation around. It's good to hear.

  • @markwarburton8700
    @markwarburton8700 10 місяців тому +2

    Respect for sharing mate.

  • @amodog99
    @amodog99 Рік тому +6

    Same thing happened to me dealing with a Thai woman. Bought a house and was planning to retire. Ended up having to walk away from a newly built house. Thai ppl in tourist areas learn very easy to take advantage of foreigners. I was giving this woman money every month and she still insisted on staying in the club. Maintaining her self image in front of other aided in her downfall. Sad part was learning her parents and family whom I helped quite a bit were in on the scam to hide her real intentions. the end, she lost everything b/c she was never taught money management nor how to run a businesses. Great life lesson learned. I regrouped and got back on my feet. In the end I learned foreigners are mostly looked at as check books to Thai women.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому

      Sad mate, hope you are okay

    • @amodog99
      @amodog99 Рік тому +1

      @@BuzzinpattayaThat was a few years ago. Much better now. Any woman you meet in a bar or club is damaged goods.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 Рік тому

      As an expat woman who worked and lived in China, Viet Nam, Thailand, Japan, South Korea, Tanzania, Iraq, and India yes! Foreign poor women look at male expats as ATMs. They think nothing of marrying one and divorcing because to those women it is a BUSINESS transaction. The expat men (I'm talking about regular guys here, not sexpats) are absolutely crushed and blindsided as they were truly in love with the carefully cultivated facade presented by the demon female. Beware expat men!!!!!!

  • @jb6368
    @jb6368 Рік тому +9

    As we say in Ireland,,,,if it's got Tits or tyres it's gonna give you nothing but trouble.

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому +1

      That is a very good and very true saying

  • @pikusmaximus6539
    @pikusmaximus6539 Рік тому +2

    It's good to share your story mate....well done

  • @russellarendt5565
    @russellarendt5565 Рік тому +3

    Fair enough, and well spoken mate. As an Expat American living in Vietnam for the past 10 years, your experiences are ringing true and very similar to my own. You don’t expect to fall in love but when it happens and they break your heart in half it hurts. However, from that disappointment, I have achieved a meaningful, rewarding, loving relationship for the past eight years with a sweet, honest, funny Vietnamese woman that I truly love. Life is too short to be bitter, and sometimes out of the trash heap of one relationship real happiness can be found. Love you brother for sharing your story.☮️

  • @henrydelbosque1989
    @henrydelbosque1989 Рік тому +8

    That happen everywhere in the world with any woman…that said, full respect to you. I married a Thai bar girl 30 years ago. She gave me two lovely children and we all still are so happy in our lives….but that happen everywhere in the world with any woman..That said the guy who enter the tiger cage should know he courbe be eaten…

  • @arisketch9247
    @arisketch9247 11 місяців тому +2

    thank you for sharing your story, congrats on the success of your business, you have a good mind for business - definitely a learning experience.

  • @Frankie433
    @Frankie433 7 місяців тому +2

    You love to set people up and see them succeed 💃 That's why good things keep and will keep coming your way and you'll keep being successful. Thanks for sharing ❤️🍾

  • @Ken_oh545
    @Ken_oh545 7 місяців тому +7

    Silent treatment such a classic. My two experiences with this ...
    1. British wife. She could freeze me out all day then her mobile would ring and the smile would come on and the lively tone of voice! Then back to glum the minute her call ended.
    Such an operator.
    2. A Kenyan g/f, we had a fantastic couple of visits then on the 2nd one we were driving back to the airport and she went silent on me for 3 hours. We got to the airport and as we bid farewell she asked me to leave her with $100, well I gave her a $50 note and told her we will never meet again but that it had all been great until a few hours ago - adding that a woman who does silent treatment even before a ring goes on is simply a no-no. Imagine life 5 years down the line.
    I went into the airport to check in, had a few Tuskers and laughed all the way home about the dodged bullet.

    • @jimstokes7111
      @jimstokes7111 7 місяців тому +4

      I had a similar experience with a Kenyan lady here in the UK. However the silent treatment always lasted 5 days as a minimum.
      Any way we tried to patch things up by selling my Luxury flat and buying a house together and as I had just been made redundant from the Oil Industry but had a fair bit of cash, I paid 60% cash and she took a mortgage in her name for the 40% balance.
      Anyway after 5 years it all went sour and she took my house keys away and made me homeless.
      That was nearly 2 years ago, still fighting using Lawyers, she has the house and I am in a private let, paying someone else,s mortgage

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  7 місяців тому

      Haha cheers for sharing mate much appreciated

    • @derekmay8679
      @derekmay8679 6 місяців тому +1

      Hopefully you didn't get a dose of something to remind you 😉

    • @Ken_oh545
      @Ken_oh545 6 місяців тому +1

      ​@@derekmay8679nothing like that, she was from the non promiscuous side of life

    • @derekmay8679
      @derekmay8679 6 місяців тому +1

      @@Ken_oh545 🙏

  • @Jugggle
    @Jugggle Рік тому +5

    They manipulate men by their heart strings ooo no matter what country ooo obviously U hav a big heart ooo well done for yr honesty n the warning ooo

    • @Buzzinpattaya
      @Buzzinpattaya  Рік тому

      As you said when emotions get involved is very hard

  • @DRNT940
    @DRNT940 3 місяці тому +2

    Lesson learned. Thanks friend.

  • @pooppoop6109
    @pooppoop6109 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for sharing this deeply personal story. My heart goes out to you, but I'm glad that it all worked out in the end though.

  • @Jimmyredcab
    @Jimmyredcab Рік тому +8

    The problem is that every guy thinks that his girl is different to the rest, deluded.